What Is "Trauma" - and How to Cope With It
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- Trauma is the result of our inability to process a distressing experience. It’s much more common than we might imagine...and requires a patient examination of our past to overcome.
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“ A trauma is not merely a terrible event, though it is very much that too. It is a terrible event that has not been adequately processed, understood and unpicked and that has - through neglect - been able to cast a very long and unwarranted shadow over huge areas of experience. Many of our greatest fears have nothing at all to do with actual dangers in the here and now; they are the legacy of traumas that we have lacked the wherewithal to be able to trace back to their origins, localise and neutralise…”
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Her voice is lovely.
Hello the school of life PLEASE check the people who are doing the translation of your title in French, this is completly wrong and ridiculous
@Robin The God - Fake ASMR Is Being Stupid thanks Robin 😄
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Why does it have to be “father” who is abusive? I was in a horrible accident that I had to learn how to walk again My wife at the time of 15 yrs try to take my children away because she found a new guy and said to me this wasn’t the life she wanted anymore. Only person who wanted the relationship to end was her. She put horrible trauma on me and my children. So my point is it’s not always the men. I’m so sick of the stereotype. That the male is the one who cheats. It’s the male who is abusive. When that is so far for being true.
“In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate.”
― Isaac Asimov
I really like this quote
Stupid
What does that even mean
that Nigha it means that if your in a situation with seemingly no way out you have to live through what happens next good or bad. If you know you’re gonna die you gotta live through the death and you can choose to fight. The quote is a solid 7/10
@@evilhivemind8839 haha.... 'a solid 7/10' good call :D
Yeah life is like chess and i don't know how to play chess.
Trauma has such a profound effect on the human brain that we will likely forever avoid comparable situations. It's like touching a hot stove... We only do it once. Best wishes to all of those suffering from it
Yes
Even if you face the past it won't make the victim feel better. Rather it could make him or her feel worse because there's no reason for the trauma to happen in the first place.
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@@pamelatorres156, vipassana meditation is a practical solution.
so u mean 99,9999999 % of the humans today? like evryone is fucked up.... 😅🤣🙏
As a therapist that works with trauma, and had my own, I of course agree with the premise of this... But I felt that this was a bit overly simplistic and directive.
Not every trauma is safe for people to reopen and reprocess at any given moment in life. Sometimes accessing it in less direct ways (i.e. artistic expression, or through meditative visualisations), and/or with a counsellor is necessary.
It is up to every individual to decide how they go about this healing, and when.
That aside, lovely video and good to see this get attention.
Absolutely, all these School of Life videos are meant to be short, simplified, entertaining introductions. But as with most pyschological issues, they vary in complexity and depth and won't all have a one-size-fits-all solution.
Once when I was 9 I was taking a shower and a creepy family friend was in the house while my parents went shopping he pulled me outta my shower and started molesting me after a few minutes I broke free of his grip ran down the halls and grabbed a kitchen knife put it near me then grabbed my dads gun I had shot guns since I was 7 at trees and old bottles. Even though I was traumatized my overly innocent self at the time did not want him to die so I shot him in the leg before shooting him in the other leg. Then I called the police and put some cloths on. I broke down like a baby crying after the police got there. After about a week I started to mentally recover. Then a year later when I was 10 someone broke in the house and threatened me for my family’s money when the robber wasn’t looking I shot at them I was not as afraid as last time they fled and they where arrested shortly thereafter. I wasn’t that traumatized or maybe I was and didn’t know it however after one week of going through hell and back I had mostly recovered and I still was overly happy smiling and just relaxed like nothing had happened after that first week. However once in a while it would all come back to me like in a flashback. The way my brain handled trauma was weird I even would talk about it in school to friends. I never let it bother me except during those flashbacks. My point is every handles trauma different some people get more trauma some less I was lucky to not get as traumatized as most people my age would.
They mention that one needs to be safe and comfortable to make a decision to process it.
I really liked your true point. I recently visited a place where trauma occurred and turned to videos like this to help deal the turmoil I felt. In hindsight it would have been better NOT to visit that place, and I totally agree that some traumas are not meant to be reopened. That said, this video was (although rudimentary, like you said) helpful in ways!
Well one cannot access those experiences directly even if they wanted. That causes too much pain so that's why they have to indirectly access to lessen the aftermath. In general in therapy things will get worse before getting better. How worse ? it depends on individual cases !!!
In case no one has told you today, Keep pushing through the heartache, lack of motivation & self doubt. When you feel lost, that’s the perfect opportunity to find a reroute. There’s so much you’re meant to do in this lifetime, don’t give up on it. Hope our channel helps you on your journey ✌
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Needed that
The narrator has an incredibly soothing voice. Would love to hear her narrate more videos! (Still missing Alain's voice though)
True
Hermione ? Haha
@@K-Rex589 First of all, I did not know she was 15 so thank you for enlightening me. Secondly, of course man, she has a lovely voice and it suits the video well, so yes I would like to listen to her again. Why you gotta bring her age into this? 😂
Kyle is baiting - don’t bite
Why is Alain not doing the voice???
I can see how one or two incidents in childhood may be eventually overcome in adulthood. However, when it’s numerous incidents in childhood, repeatedly, so that one lives in fear on a daily basis, terrified to make a simple mistake, for fear of a beating, or fear to say something that brings mocking and ridicule that goes on for years. I believe these become imprinted on our nervous system, and even though one can find a way to survive, that trauma remains in what Buddhism calls, “store consciousness,” and can arise whenever an association or another traumatic experience comes about.
I agree with you. It sometimes feels a bit Deus ex Machina to think anyone can resolve or eliminate any trauma. Survive and build thought patterns and safe coping mechanisms seem more plausible and valuable. But what do I know, I'm just saying I agree.
Yes it seems the nervous system is programmed to respond a certain way after the trauma. But how to change a physiological pattern that is embedded in the nerves? Ex: anxiety/nervousness, chronic fight/flight responses. Practice? Meditation? CBT? What do you recommend?
I experienced this kind of emotional abuse for years in a row, and my therapist is following the same route to your thinking. You can never just "heal" something so complex, just try to find ways of surviving and adapting.
True. If you are in this case, maybe try EMDR therapy (with an actual therapist trained in this domain). It doesn't seem easy nor perfect, but by now we know it has really good results with trauma processing.
Yes I couldnt agree more things what ever they were repeated are not going away with others reassuring word of how great you really are. the pressure of being expected to get over it is like more trauma. thats why many search but give up what they really need and always will is validation and comfort and no advise advise equals guilt and shame.
After all, when a stone is dropped into a pond, the water continues quivering even after the stone has sunk to the bottom.
Then again some waters quiver from a slight wind blowing in their direction and then claim someone threw a stone at them.
@@ViolosD2I water doesn’t claim a thing. Your analogy is crap. Water quivers and then settles, trauma can be unwrapped, it’s not something permanently thrown at random people like your analogy implies
Wow,deep...
@@maxhooper4319 My analogy implies neither permanence, nor randomness, nor that real water can talk. But thanks.
nice try, but the analofy doesnt work
I am exactly that girl who have been universalising the childhood traumas for years, making so many mistakes on relationships and career without realising what went wrong. Now I know. I hope I can change with this realisation.
I'm sorry to hear that. Wish you the best to overcome your traumas ❤
You can do it!!
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”
― Carl Gustav Jung
Which can only work that way if you actually ever HAVE a choice.
While we can at least try to choose to be better, yes, yes we are SO much of how our environment has affected us, especially during childhood. As adults, we have rationality to help us understand the past, but even that is based on the events of the past.
Check mate to trauma 😂
We always have a choice of who we want to be.
I'm a teenager, though I agree
It's so hard when you think the trauma is over, and then something happens again
It is🥺
Right
I really agree with this.
Damn, now I know why I'm shit-scared of making mistakes
I have always known... and talking to my dad gives me PTSD...
I’ve had trauma from school, so I guess that includes me too…
Thank you! So many people suppress their traumas and carry the burden deep down. It’s important to process these events to eventually liberate yourself from it. Self improvement begins with self awareness.
It will unpack and come to the forefront sooner or later. And then there will be ample shit sandwiches to dish out for everyone! Bon appetit !💩
What does processing involve, and when does the trauma sufferer know when the processing is done? There is so much talk about trauma, but I’ve not found one therapist that can help me. No one that’s able to give practical guidance and steps towards healing.
walking, music, art, nature, following sth, yoga.. breathing
When I was 10 yo I saw my mother suffering a rape by a stranger who entered by force to our house. I didn't understand what happened I thought it was her secret love and they were having sex. I grew up with this idea and when I was 29 yo I realised she was raped. I remember the shame, the silence, the fear. I would like to know how this affected me. For most of my life I have been way too respectful with women for fear of being intrusive and it has been difficult to approach girls, now I am more confident because I do therapy
That's something terrible for a kid to face, you are brave >
Thank you Mai Chi. It helps so much to have a therapist
Well done for being able to confront this!! I recently had therapy for an experience that happened when I was 3. My mother was brutally attacked by a family friend. I didn't realise I had/have PTSD and have been coping for 40 years.. Im grateful that I have been able to soothe and start the unpacking. Keep it up. So brave x
@@AbdulShyllon thank you for sharing your experience. It is painful and very unfortunate what your mother and you had experience. Coping for 40 years sounds it is a very long time. Good luck!
😭😭😭 more love to you, sorry about that
The most traumatizing experiences of my life have not been the most violent ones
Food for thought
The narrator sounds like Emma Watson ... ❤️😮
She really does!
nice observation! can’t unhear it now haha
I’m convinced it is LOL
Literally coming to the comments to type that. Then i saw urs lol
She is
very odd. we have developed a culture of treating emotions as an inconvenience, something of less use.
A culture designed to deny, ignore, destroy our spiritual needs. No machine can examine our complex spiritual needs, in all its various invisible existence. No wonder we suffer and in defeat we call ourselves normal.
Totally agree. So wrong and so dumb of us. It's behind so many of the disasters we've created.
Agree and agree.
@@TheSkystrider excellent way to say it.
"We may not be responsible for the world that created our minds, but we can take responsibility for the mind with which we create our world." ~ Dr Gabor Maté
Childhood is the most vulnerable part of any human beings.
It's not easy as copying somebody's quote and never experience a childhood trauma.
Trauma is very hard to deal.. I think not just the abused physically can get this illness.. even those who's been going through a cycle of repetitive bad memories and circumstances and soroundings.. it steal your joy, your opportunities, your well being it's devastating, especially when no one is around to help you or solve your problem.💔💔 What's worse? Receiving burdens that make you remember it over and over again.💔
I moved back home to my dad for 6 months now in my 30ths, one of the best and the worst thing I have ever done. Feelings I never recognised before showed up. I am in rage and in tears. He is not what I expected him to be. A grumpy old man who sometimes is loving, sometimes very irritated and with ideas and thoughts I don't agree with most of the time. Never positive. I hate it. But wow I learned a lot through this pain and greef. I feel like crying every day.
Can relate
@@ASMRHatov
I've had the same experience! Moved (out of necessity) to live with my mother for a year when I was 29. It was truly an experience I will not forget. I was struggling with so many feelings. Shame for living with her in my adult years, the gratefulness that she took me in but living with her was not always easy and I had to face the feelings I had in my childhood and it was eye-opening and not so easy. Had so much anger for her because living with her made me realize how much she actually neglected me emotionally as a child and how hopeless it made me feel .....
@@july7578 interesting how alien this sounds to me. Not that my parents were not children in adult bodies who were cracked and broken. But, because culturally I was taught to love them and forgive them unconditionally. Moreover, as we always tend to live with our parents in these parts of the world, there was no feeling of shame or regret. Neither was there any special gratitude. They are supposed to do all this just as I am supposed to do all for them.
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'Kintsugi (金継ぎ, "golden joinery"), also known as kintsukuroi (金繕い, "golden repair"), is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery by mending the areas of breakage with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum, a method similar to the maki-e technique.
As a philosophy, it treats breakage and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise.'
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kintsugi
See also “Wabi-Sabi”
It's interesting to know, thanks!
Those japanese have some kind of art for every human problem of the mind
@@CarlosMercadoINIGTDY - Perhaps it was a way to overcome the bombings of Hiroshima & Nagasaki. 😢😢😢
I was just thinking yesterday how I might have some unprocessed trauma that needs tending. If your mind + body is telling you something, you should listen 👂
Give your animator a raise please!
I loved the context, animation and narrative of your video.
I had a friend for many years who had a ton of trauma, and as someone who cares deeply about those in suffering, I made it my mission to make her happy again. Seems like a good idea of paper but in reality I was a 15 year old who had no degree in this sort of thing, dealing with something way, way over my head. This friend became over reliant on me to save her too, and told me tons of terrifying things about her past. I think that caused me a lot of secondary trauma. When I realized I couldn't be friends with her anymore because she didn't want to be saved and all the relationship was doing anymore was sucking the joy out of life, it was hard because she trusted me and I was terrified to break her. When I finally told her I didn't think we should be friends anymore, it went even worse than I could have expected. She told me I was the one good thing in her life and I was abandoning her like everyone else in her life, and now she had nothing left. I wound up spending literally the whole night texting back and forth trying to convince her not to kill herself.
Ever since, I can't get over the fact that I made someone feel that way. I ruined someone so much that they felt no desire to live anymore. I got into another relationship months later, and when I heard she had a traumatic past, the second she started clinging to me, terror came over me and I saw the same thing happening again, destroying someone else like in the past. I couldn't comprehend the possibility so after only a few weeks of knowing each other, I told her we couldn't be a part of each other's lives anymore. She was nice about it but she texted me a week or two later trying to check in on me and I never responded, because I was so afraid of what would happen if I did. Now I'm afraid of getting into relationships because I'm afraid of destroying people. Trauma comes in all kinds of forms.
Thanks to anyone who read this far in my long comment.
I’m from Lebanon and live in Beirut, the first example you gave about the car alarm going off and an explosion....wow. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had dreams reliving that moment. It’s not just when I hear loud noises like lightning, it’s when I am conscious and perceptive of the noises being made that I am stuck in the 2 seconds right before the explosion. This little voice in my brain starts off “ in the next 10 seconds an explosion is going to happen. Brace yourself” and I wait. A person will imagine the most horrific of things in these couple seconds, they are the scariest because you keep on telling yourself “I am going to face death, I will die in a couple of seconds, goodbye world, I am never going to see this life again”. The waiting for your death and knowing that it could have happened so easily is so scary. Unfortunately my trauma is just the tip of the iceberg in what many others have experienced. I hope everyone can be at peace as time passes.
My teacher traumatised me when I was 6, he was a real bully. It is really hard to get over but I am in therapy now and it is improving.
Sorry that happened to you. Ita sad to hear about these stories.
Any tips on how to forgive your parents for what they did to you, and not feeling bitter every time you have to interact with them?
I'm going through that now, back at home, living with my 85-year-old parents. My mom has Alzheimer's. Lots of unresolved issues with my dad. So far the thing that's sort of working is not quite intentional forgiveness (though forgiveness is becoming an inevitable, inadvertent next step), it's contolling my reaction of interpreting the criticisms and generalities my dad makes of me, and remembering that we're both adults now, and his perspective and opinions are no longer more valid than mine. His view of me cannot trump how I feel about and view myself. I guess it's more about letting go of the need for validation than about overt trauma, but that need was always present during a childhood where low-level, continued trauma was a factor. Not one big traumatic event, but many upsetting and confusing episodes with no resolution or emotional debriefing, ever. So forgiving my dad is slowly (emphasis on slow lol) coming about as a byproduct of my disarming the power he's had over me. I'm starting to see him as just another person. The less I let the things he says and does bother me, the easier it is to see that he is also a flawed person using knee-jerk defense mechanisms: for him, it's easier to criticize or belittle me than it is to initiate a calm discussion or occasionally admit that he might be wrong about something. And that's a shortcoming of his, not mine. That makes it _slightly_ easier to feel compassion and forgiveness towards him. It's a slow process.
Hey Chris can we talk
Please
@@camez2345 your post is very inspiring. I get it, it’s a slow process, but sometimes I just wish it was easier.
@@AnkitGupta-zs7mr sure, you don’t have to ask, just talk!
Experiencing the Beirut explosion gave me trauma for sure
Oh hunny, I’m so sorry you had to go through it
Hopefully it gets better for you, Nathalie. Please stay strong throughout this life. You are incredibly strong.
your so strong
“Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.”
― Isaac Asimov
I like your quotes, thanks for posting them! 😊
Oh my God, I have the trauma exactly like the child in your video. It always gets me over defensive to hear criticism. Because of this trauma, I barely have friends and I often quit jobs. I hope I still have a chance to change. Thank you again.
I never was able to find a skilled trauma informed therapist, so I healed alot on my own.
How?
@@eliasshakkour2904 the most helpful was finding other adult survivors, they guided me through healing. Self love n also reparenting my inner child. I believe it was Einstein who said, imagination is intelligence.
You can’t tell me this isn’t Emma Watson narrating, it sounds just like her reading the tale of the three brothers
My first thought as well
Sounds hardly like her it's just a posh English accent
We all have issues.
We are all born with this innate ability to receive and perceive.
What most of us receive during our childhood will most probably stigmatize us for the rest of our lives.
It is these little details in the way our parents treated us that shaped who we are and who we want to be.
And, usually, because our parents are unaware, we end up with psychological issues that affect our evolution and development.
These issues can be real hurdles in our pursuit of personal growth and, for some people, obstacles that can never be overcome.
This is why I want you to pay special attention to this point.
You need to learn how to identify your issues and thereupon try and work hard on them.
The faster you realize your psychological problems and the effect they have on you, the easier it will be to tackle them and even eliminate them.
@A word in Boris Johnson’s ear! ; dude of course it's not easy but livin all your life with trauma it's the worst. I believe we all have the power to confront and to embrace our darkness
**have a nice life everyone
i had a trauma abt sight, i removed it 1 month later, then i had again but different, its about age. then 2 days later i said to myself "dont cry it out it wont make any different, just smile, laugh, and enjoy your life" from this day i still remember that
I honestly believe I was traumatised as a child. I suffer from anxious attachment and every time I’m in a relationship I firmly believe that I am not loved as much as I love.
I have also had a lot of mental health issues that I never addressed as I never went to therapy.
Still, I cannot identify what happened in my childhood that made me so bad.
Being conscious and aware on the ways that you think and how you act in certain situations, I think is the key to getting to know yourself more and deal with those parts that have not been healed yet. It's like when you see your demons they can't hunt you anymore and it works everytime.
Something even the strongest of us require. Thank you for this🙏
This is a nice explanation for single incident traumatic stress. When it comes to long term or complex trauma, coping gets a little more complicated. I would love to see more on CPTSD when you get a chance. Cheers!
I’ve been through a traumatic event and all my “friends” laughed about it and now I’m here alone fighting demons everyday.
you're the true hero of the story
They are not your friends. I ditched those same type of people for the same reasons.
During 10th grade, while at boarding school, I was bullied relentlessly for my Autism. I was called and treated like a “retard” day in and day out, even though I could speak properly. Not to mention I was on the Dean’s List having one of the highest grades. I worked so hard in the hopes I would be accepted as a fellow student, but they continued to mistreat me.
They went so far as so use my Autism as a scapegoat to blame me for things I never did, sins I never committed, even sexually mocked me and stole my holy cross.
I went to the adults for help so many times, but all they did to me was talk. Other than that, they did nothing to improve the situation. In spite of the fact we have group every morning during the weekday, that did nothing, as all the students were acting passive aggressive. A few of the teachers even blamed me for getting into trouble when the bullies lied to them about me.
I was truly alone. I was the only one who actually wanted to explore the town and the woods while the rest wanted to be on their cellphones and sneak drugs into the school all day long. One of them even threatened to kill me if I were to tell he was sneaking marijuana into the school. And another nearly broke down my door to steal my guitar.
I didn’t do too well in wrestling class either, as I was forced to wrestle with an injury that constricted my breathing and movement, or else I’d fail the class. The coach never believed me that I was injured and never bothered to contact a chiropractor, and I never won a single match, which greatly upset me.
I was incredibly suicidal those days, and hated myself so much I wish I was never born.
Thank you for sharing… as I’m learning more about my triggers for anxiety. I’m realizing how the unrealistic expectations placed on me within the military has caused me so much trauma. I’m thankful for my counselor, meditation and prayer 🙏🏽
the worst is when people keep the facts of trauma from you. oh and those same people will trigger you too.
I have had trauma therapy.. I know what traums is and what it can do to an individual and this is by far one of most well made videos on what trauma is and how it affects us in adulthood.
Shed actual tears to this, thank you for amazing content. it really helps.
Are you akay. You can talk wirh me
What happened to that little girl is almost exactly what happened to me, occasionally, in my childhood. Thankfully, I now have kind people around me who almost certainly won’t explode at my mistakes. I’m almost convinced that the world isn’t filled with people carrying unjustifiable rage. Almost.
When your heart beating just like a bomb is going to explode, when you have a short breath just like you are almost drown, when you feel dizzy and nauseated as you have a food poisoning. I know it is trauma yet I dont have any memory on why I have this symptoms. That is difficult.
I take little things way too seriously just like you...
Not comfortable sharing my thoughts here :)
I also have strange traumas
1) i was verbally abused for not having a hobby ,and bcs of that i can,t still find a hobby because of the trauma .
2) Iwas verbally abused for my academic scores during my school days which traumatized me so much that i couldn,t get satisfied with my 7.5 cgpa i. Scored in college.
Exact Reason for both: sibling comparing
i feel you on the hobby part, i felt worthless in my childhood to early teenhood because of how i was either bad or average at anything i tried and my parents would constantly make me feel worthless because of it.
btw, who edited this? this is amazing
Have a look at the credits section in the film description for a full list of the amazing people we collaborated with on this film.
@@theschooloflifetv you didn’t specify on the editor tho
@@younghoodlum5534 it's me :) I edit all my animations
@@mefistogirl felicitări Alexandra!
@@mefistogirl I love your animation
There is help!! don't ever give up. our brain copes with trauma in it's way and there is nothing wrong with you. it's the oppsosite, you feel like you do because your brain is trying to protect you.
This explained what I have been experiencing, just this year I was able to remember and clearly tell what has happened to me. It was liberating, and I am grateful that the healing process has already started.
I needed to see this to remind myself I am not insane. grieving the sudden loss of my mother to covid, a year later and covid is still my trigger. It all takes me back. I wish I could see the positives through the grief and trauma but maybe it’s just going to take more time. As my over reactions to the outside world are filled with intense shame afterwards because I don’t know where they come from. I keep telling myself thoughts are not facts and that seems to be helping. Hope anyone reading this post finds peace if they need it xxx
Im so sorry for your loss, I wish you all the best! Things will get better take your time and take good care of yourself
Never stop uploading please. TSOL has taught me so much about myself and life. I have also recently bought 4 of your books. Can’t wait to read them!
jooo why did you buy 4 books at once?
@@francesfarmer3874 Why not? I read a lot.
Ambitious hehe
@@ayy1820 ah alright then. everytime friends of me told me that they bought a couple of books at once they read 1/2 of one of them
Thank you for talking about this. I’m so grateful for this channel ❤️
the illustration of trauma is such a cool way to visualize the ebbs and flows
I would just like to say thank you so much for making this video! With this, I was able to communicate better with my self and I now know what to work for. That not every person who tries to help me will end up hurt. And to anyone reading this, I want you to know that your actions and the things you do during a moment, that might seem so shitty, do NOT define who you are.
This is so helpful for clarifying what trauma is. I have PTSD and I can’t destroy the enemy I don’t understand. Now that I have a better idea of what it is, I know what I need to do!
While looking up videos on how trauma as an adult affects a person I came upon this video & was compelled to watch jt. The way you described childhood trauma makes everything make sense for me. For that insight alone I'm grateful to whoever wrote this video. I hope you are having a good day wherever & whoever you are
Gosh, you guys have helped me understand so much in myself and others! I don't know how am I going to find the time to watch ALL of your videos I'm interested in, it's like a hydra - after one video I see three another to be checked out immediately!
thats so true, even when things are completely peaceful, I feel the very dark presence of something I can't seem to run away from. I feel on edge, like time is ticking. I often get sad when I find myself not being able to fully appreciate/live in the present moment like I used, but I am trying really hard to fix this. I really appreciate this video. Thank you.
Thank you! With this video I now join that select club of those whose story you inadvertently told, as I’m that 6 year old... and on my birthday! A beautiful present indeed!
How deeply powerful is the need to avoid living the same situation we once did, how we’d do anything, including hurting ourselves further or others just not to feel that exact same feeling ever again, even if we are completely aware of the trauma. But I want to get better School of Life, so I will try my best to follow your advice, which seems worth trying. I see my trauma and it feels like burning, but I want to try. Wish me luck.
Beautifully made! Loved it.❤️
Your script and animation is amazing.. crisp and to the point.. kudos..
A thoroughly excellent short introductory presentation on the subject of trauma.
My boyfriend gifted me the "How to Overcome Your Childhood" book after talking to him about one of my recent therapy sessions and wow...this book hit so many nails on the head- it really opened my eyes to some other components of my behavior and the bridge between my present and the unresolved past that I'm working hard to overcome.. I truly recommend the book- it's short, easy to digest, and really has an amazing perspective (in my opinion)
Good luck to everyone who is facing any obstacle.. big or small, one or many, easy or hard..we're only human at the end of the day and to be fully human is to be fully gentle and understanding to ourselves...
We're very pleased to hear that you enjoyed this book - and send you our good wishes.
Some trauma would be extemely hard to go away and it dragging your emotion for years. Maybe decades. No matter what you do it keeps on coming back. My brother had passed away when I was 14, I am 38 now, and I loathes the troublesome I've become over early years of those incidents... my parents really have real PTSD up till now... presumely coming from that occurence. I have a real age gap problem going on with parents, my little sister luckily escaped the whole drama as I acted for the 'shield' but hell this trauma keeps getting every now and then.
Reminds me of a new channel I stumbled on recently, “Friendly Philosophy”. Excellent content in these videos.
Amazing work, easy to understand
Very difficult to live with..you have to constantly distract yourself..self. awareness is the key. There's only so much a Therapist can do for you.
Could you do an episode on irrational and negative Core Beliefs, what they are and how to overcome them. I believe core beliefs, the unconscious beliefs we hold from childhood trauma, play a huge role in our lives and overcoming false and negative core beliefs can make our lives infinitely better.
"Life as a whole, won't have
to be so terrifying once we understand the bits of it that truly once were!"
🤗
great video. people going through trauma can also try to go for healing. I have personally healed many people from childhood traumas to accident traumas and many more.
Such a deep lesson so concisely delivered. Thank you!
"By properly gripping an original event in the claws of our adult rational mind, and stripping it of its mystery, we will be able to repatriate fearful emotions and render the world less unnerving than it presently seems."
These words, over the graphic of the merkavah in someone's chest, is brilliant!!!!!
I am just now dealing with some past trauma and I have been overwhelmed by it but this was so helpful
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Beautifully put 😭♥️♥️
You are really my school of life.
Wow!!!! Thank you for this insightful information
This video has been saved to my "awesome" playlist.
It gets better. A few years ago I nearly had a panic attack because the keening noise of an unhooked power chair, it seemed so much louder than it really was.
thanks bro helped alot
As someone who used to have someone who would make me think I wasn’t good enough and I needed to change my self. Made everyone hate me and would basically ruin my friendships as I now worry a lot about them.
I can never escape her if she talks to me I have to respond
The last time I talked to her was in January , it’s been a year.
It was so hard not to respond seen as she was my first friend and my only so I had to keep her. It was really really hard
So what do you do if you're aware and understand where it comes from but the different events that cause it still affect you?
Wow this helps me calm down
This video help me a Lot, don't have the words to thank you
I love all your videos!! They have a lot of interesting information and they help me in the discipline of my life!!🤤☺️🥰
Healing with trauma takes time. Be kind to yourself in this journey😇
Great editing, very informative indeed. Can you do a video about childhood trauma🙏
nice explanation, thank you
quality of video is just insane... that editing that voice that animation...
Rly needed this
Realize every moment is completely unique and different and we are constantly being hurled into the unknown you can't compare anything to anything because it may appear similar on the surface but beneath its always completely different than anything you've ever experienced
I had experience of war in young age but I am more traumatised by my first love leaving me for someone else.
I think we also re-direct our attention from dwelling on a past negative experience to a more recent one.
Right, this is a concept many people are not aware of. We aren't all traumatized by the same exact things.
time heals all wounds. it will take time, introspection of ourselves and our thoughts, and love to take care of trauma.
I don't have a lot of truma, but everytime I see funkytown I get
🌠 *chills* 🌠
I was bullied sometime I have no other way to understand other then drawing
thank you so much about this since I think I just had a huge trauma over one British person who told me to stop thinking about getting 1K subs in my channel and it sounded to me as if he didn't want me to keep promoting my channel and ask friends to get me to 1K to a GC where I clearly own. I hope that soon enough, I will be able to get off from that trauma and begin feeling comfortable again in making my videos. :)
I recently finished 7th grade and I got bullied and mocked and blamed for things I didn’t do this year and now I don’t want to go to eighth grade because all of that trauma. I even get anxiety from thinking about school. I can’t get those memories out of my head and I would rather stay away from everything that happened.
In true isolation, you find yourself.
For me, my college exams and the subsequent failures are my trauma. I don't really know how I ended up being like that. May be ADHD, may be depression, might be over pressure from college admin or might be my own bad decisions. I liked your video but I still am clueless about how do I deal with my trauma without knowing what caused it.
Thank you.
very nice choice of words
What a fantastic explanation. 🇦🇺