What Trauma Taught Me About Resilience | Charles Hunt | TEDxCharlotte

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  • čas přidán 17. 11. 2016
  • That resilience is one of the most important traits to have, is critical to their happiness and success, & can be learned.
    Adept at leveraging transparency to inspire and get results, this former College Recruiting, Talent Management, Diversity, and Supply Chain leader left the corporate world to fulfill his vision of building unbreakable spirits and cultivating resiliency for those who, like him, have The Audacity to Succeed. He helps students & young professionals build resilience, believe in bigger and greater for themselves, and create the educational, financial, and professional plans to get there.
    As the founder of The Audacity Firm, LLC, his firm provides professional & personal development programs, coaching, and events to equip clients with financial literacy/education, workforce readiness, professional development, and career planning tips, tools, and strategies to LIVE, DO, and BE BETTER.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Komentáře • 773

  • @ang_ro
    @ang_ro Před 4 lety +693

    Both of my parents were addicts, then I grew up in foster care from age 5 until 18. I also used to visit my mom in jail. By the time I "aged out" of foster care, both my parents were dead. I had no one. Statistically I should have ended up in jail, addicted, homeless, or dead. I am none of those things. I have a Bachelor's Degree in English & am now working on my second college degree to pursue my dream of being a Veterinary Technician. I'm married and have a beautiful home. I'm healthy and work hard every day to become the person nobody thought I'd ever be. Much love to you and all you've overcome. Resilience is definitely one of the keys. Awesome talk. ✌

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +26

      Hey Ang...thanks for watching, and inspiring me with your story. LOVE to see people overcome situations that easily could have destroyed them. Keep thriving, and continued resilience to you as you do!

    • @youheard03
      @youheard03 Před 4 lety +4

      Love this 👏🏾👏🏾 more success to you 🙏🏾

    • @milliemogudala9982
      @milliemogudala9982 Před 4 lety +6

      You are a BADASS congrats on your strides and being unapologetically you

    • @jacquelinewalmsley9010
      @jacquelinewalmsley9010 Před 4 lety +2

      You are brilliant x

    • @Steven-ze2zk
      @Steven-ze2zk Před 3 lety +2

      Ang Ro Actually you were not destined for the streets or the other things due to your childhood. Yes, it was rough and I feel for you, but the addiction and homelessness you speak of is the result of your brain and body reacting to hands on abuse, not because you were placed in care.

  • @levikohler1961
    @levikohler1961 Před 4 lety +551

    This guy is my neighbor! He’s an amazing guy off camera too.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +76

      My man!! Much appreciated. (Daps)

    • @kadengomez1755
      @kadengomez1755 Před 4 lety +4

      @@charleshunt9961 hey dude!

    • @xw6475
      @xw6475 Před 4 lety +5

      I believe that! On and off the camera 💪

    • @xw6475
      @xw6475 Před 4 lety +19

      @@charleshunt9961 Your speech is amazing, I have also childhood trauma which left me broken. Finally I have gathered my strength to see a trauma therapist this week.
      Your story is powerful! You made me believe I can heal my childhood trauma and I can overcome this too. Thank you so much Charles!!

    • @765LT_
      @765LT_ Před 3 lety

      Wowie that's cool :D

  • @christinaroseli6143
    @christinaroseli6143 Před 2 lety +29

    "Don't sacrifice your future for todays pain" - AMAZING perspective

  • @tolaanheart
    @tolaanheart Před 8 měsíci +4

    God is my strength. Every traumatic thing and bad situation i have been through god has always still been there with me in the fire and darkness. I encourage everyone if you havent already try god, talk to him, let him in your life!my strength and resilience comes from GOD not leaving my side.He can do the impossible❤️

  • @myachabely9965
    @myachabely9965 Před rokem +12

    “Life doesn’t adhere to any delivery windows, change comes when it comes.”

  • @mdogg9169
    @mdogg9169 Před 2 lety +85

    I’m 29. I just discovered what mental illness is last night. The connection I had to it. I went on a scizo binge that lead to homelessness about 6 months ago. Little did I know I was subconsciously chasing my own healing. I was willing to loose everything to just sit and meditate and learn to love myself. All the ways mental health is connected to abuse and know one helped me. Im shocked at the ignorance and unsupport of my family. I’ve asked for help so many times in my life and after 29 years I’m the only one helping me. I learned to love myself more than anyone. I want to live, and to love, and feel unshaken and inspire others. I’m proud of you all who are fighting this on your own. Keep doing that. Hurt people hurt people. But healed people heal people. Peace is closer than we think, we are all worthy of purpose

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 Před 2 lety +7

      Mdogg, How are you now ? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Doing public speaking courses will build your confidence. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

    • @jmaurice72
      @jmaurice72 Před 2 dny

      This really helped me man not to give up thank you

  • @ninger4199
    @ninger4199 Před 7 lety +565

    I am at my lowest and I came across this unexpectedly amazing talk. If you could bounce back and rise from the horrible situation you were in, I see no reason why I can't. Thank you for sharing your story, Charles, thank you...

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +54

      You're very welcome...I shared mine for people just like you who are currently going through. There is ABSOLUTELY NO REASON why you can't thrive, and not just in spite of, but precisely BECAUSE of what you've experienced. Blessings and support to you as you keep pressing forward! You CAN and WILL!

    • @Chasiraw
      @Chasiraw Před 6 lety +6

      Ning Er Hi. How are you doing now???

    • @harenrussel
      @harenrussel Před 5 lety +3

      Be strong coz u are 💕❤️💖

    • @Bennybass3
      @Bennybass3 Před 3 lety +2

      your at your lowest ok

    • @Xavier-up6op
      @Xavier-up6op Před 3 lety +3

      I hope you're doing well now!

  • @HIVgirl1
    @HIVgirl1 Před 4 lety +19

    "The worst of life couldn't take out the best of me" - you are one amazing human being, Charles Hunt!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +2

      I'm humbled...thanks a bunch!!

    • @HIVgirl1
      @HIVgirl1 Před 4 lety +3

      @@charleshunt9961 "Life doesn't adhere to any delivery windows" - so true. I believe the dictionary has the wrong definition of resilience.. it talks about snapping back to where you were before. It seems that it takes you to new heights and doesn't take you back. I'm posting your talk wherever I can. thank you!

    • @dreams-bv7tr
      @dreams-bv7tr Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@charleshunt9961 Much love to you, Sir.❤️

  • @conscious_shift
    @conscious_shift Před 5 lety +125

    "Sometimes we need to tell ourselves what to think when our mind starts telling us things that we don't need to hear: that you can and will overcome and succeed, and not just in spite of, but precisely because of. That with the proper perspective and a positive attitude, we have POWER."
    🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety +4

      Thx...glad you found a nugget or two!

    • @annam4660
      @annam4660 Před 3 lety +2

      I saw this right as he said it lol

  • @beanman1068
    @beanman1068 Před 2 lety +7

    They played this to us at a mental hospital, this stuck with me.

  • @perniciousagenda
    @perniciousagenda Před 5 lety +182

    "... without sacrificing the future, for today's pain." Well said my friend. Well said.

  • @uncleblaezr
    @uncleblaezr Před 8 měsíci +4

    ppl say not to compare traumas & all but i hear stuff like this; they’re right we don’t have to compare traumas, but we don’t have to determine ours be the worst of them all n just completely stop from growing. love resilience, love discussing it, love hearing examples of it. we’re stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

  • @gianag8824
    @gianag8824 Před rokem +50

    i just got diagnosed with ACEs recently and scored a 10, and because of my childhood I have depression, anxiety, and PTSD. This video reminds me during my saddest depressive episodes that i’m strong AF, i’ve accomplished a lot despite what i’ve experienced in life, and to keep going cause there’s so much more of life to see. thank you❤️❤️

    • @seanchris7509
      @seanchris7509 Před rokem +1

      I just discovered what ACE was yesterday and have a 10..

    • @holotrout
      @holotrout Před rokem +1

      Godbless you. Never forget that it takes one second to inspire many people, and you have inspired me. Keep it up and don't give up

  • @lechatnoir157
    @lechatnoir157 Před 7 lety +161

    That guy OWNED the stage.

  • @emilygowor
    @emilygowor Před 2 lety +10

    Agree - resilience is essential in life. it's not what happens to us, it's how we respond.

  • @beccaglyn
    @beccaglyn Před rokem +10

    "when I open my eyes... the worst of life couldn't take out the best of me, cuz I'm still standing in front of you" I made some bad decisions a long time ago and will be paying for them - monetarily, physically, emotionally, etc - for a long time. When I was incarcerated I saw people at their worst and did everything I could to try to make them smile. I would sing to them, listen when they needed someone to just hear them, and offer whatever words of wisdom I could. This year I made the decision, after searching for a job for over 4 years and not being able to pass a background check, to make a change. I took a course to become a Certified Recovery Peer Advocate and am taking classes to become a Credentialed Alcohol and Substance Abuse Counselor. Hearing your story and seeing what you had to overcome tells me that I made the right choice in this career and will keep what you said in your talk with me to teach people that they can, and will, overcome. Thank you so much!

  • @Acornzmob
    @Acornzmob Před 7 lety +150

    My Trauma has A Purpose!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +7

      Appreciate the love...WxSxO!

    • @Acornzmob
      @Acornzmob Před 7 lety +5

      Very powerful I must say I'm inspired! Keep it lit FAM!! #Salute

    • @dellawarren6239
      @dellawarren6239 Před 5 lety

      Every word had me until. God was blamed. I stopped watching the talk

    • @rosebud0391
      @rosebud0391 Před 4 lety +5

      No, you give your trauma purpose. Trauma does not happen for a reason but we have the power to utilize that trauma to push us towards our goals. A small but crucial difference. I could have been great if not better without my trauma but given that it has happened I choose to use it as a springboard rather than a weight.

  • @AngelDenya
    @AngelDenya Před rokem +59

    This was nothing but a college psychology assignment link that I almost thought about not watching until I decided to watch it and this is one of the best sources of motivation that I needed to receive especially currently me being 22 years old. Im not going to dive into any of my childhood trauma but the trauma is definitely there and this mans testimony has been the encouragement I needed to hopefully get through the rest of my last year in college as it has been a struggle for me mentally and emotionally. Thank you so much Mister for this video.

    • @skulllyy
      @skulllyy Před 3 měsíci

      damn this vids in college assignments? I have to watch this vid for my class and I'm in grade 12.

  • @dalibofurnell
    @dalibofurnell Před rokem +4

    This dude needs his book out

  • @MjF809
    @MjF809 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Sir, you are amazing! Thank you for healing this world.

  • @sunandsoul24
    @sunandsoul24 Před 7 lety +17

    "The worst of life couldn't take out the best of me."

  • @Gamecockinnc1
    @Gamecockinnc1 Před 7 lety +103

    I was sitting here alone on the anniversary of a major trauma looking for a distraction while my children were at school and I was watching something completely different and this came up in my suggested. Thank god it did. You have a story. You have a voice. You are resilience. Congratulations. And thank you for giving back.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +11

      It's ridiculously gratifying to see God move through something I created. I'm honored that you not only watched and enjoyed it but that it came at the right time. Sending you prayers and best wishes as you recover from your trauma, and thrive BECAUSE of it! Thank you for blessing me with your comment and light.

    • @holotrout
      @holotrout Před rokem +1

      Hope all is well, 5 years later

  • @le_th_
    @le_th_ Před 7 lety +262

    WOW...
    I've listened to a lot of TEDx Talks, and this one is one of the most real, most valuable monologues I've heard. This man doesn't just share, he teaches. He encourages is a realistic way. He tells it like it is, and doesn't make excuses. He empowers others to learn how to overcome by sharing how he overcame, and he forewarns that it will not be easy, that it may be excrutiatingly painful, and that it is ultimately up to us to use positive self-talk even when we don't believe it ourselves. He reminds us that it is ok to reach out and ask for help.
    This is not the happily-ever-after that so many TEDx Talks speakers churn out. This is neither narcissistic, nor "poor me". This is not the extreme bipolar thinking that life's answers are cut and dried, black and white, good and bad. This is about the reality of the shades of gray that lie between the polar extremes. This is real. This is inspiration while remaining grounded in reality. This is encouragement while preparing people to keep in mind that it will not come easy or instantaneously or when you need it to happen.
    We should all be so lucky to have a friend, family member, trusted colleague, mentor or advisor who teaches what it means to be resilient, and that you have to believe regardless of how difficult that might be.
    This is the opposite the instant-gratification advice that so many people seem to believe and be seeking out.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +44

      I'm absolutely humbled at your insightful, thoughtful, and detailed response. Thanks for filling my bucket today and reminding me that my trauma continues to have a purpose in helping others live, do, & be better! Continued blessings to you.

    • @le_th_
      @le_th_ Před 7 lety +15

      Awww...kind of you to respond. I'm so glad that my comments helped to fill your bucket today, as your words certainly fill mine each time I re-watch this video. Many continued blessings to you, as well~

    • @Scarshadow666
      @Scarshadow666 Před 5 lety +3

      le th Definitely agree! 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩

    • @coralscrafts7258
      @coralscrafts7258 Před 5 lety +6

      @@charleshunt9961 You are a phenomenal man, take your place with Maya Angelou and walk that walk. I was so moved by your wonderful inspirational speech. Write that book please, for all of us who are out here. As a man you have so much to say to others who are still struggling to raise their heads after a day a week a life of being down and not having the strength to get up. For all those of us who work in this field this video is one to watch daily.

    • @le_th_
      @le_th_ Před 3 lety +3

      @L C Thank you for your kind words. I'm not a writer. I was very fortunate to be born with a brain that is rather intelligent, learns information easily, and can articulate thoughts and ideas fairly clearly. In addition, I was born with excellent hearing and 20/10 vision in both eyes, so it helped my brain develop better than most.
      I feel very fortunate in this regard.

  • @erinruhl5377
    @erinruhl5377 Před rokem +9

    Indomitable this guy, I wish I could be like him

  • @asialittleboutique8431
    @asialittleboutique8431 Před 2 lety +2

    I let my 14 yr old son watch this and it help him alot

  • @lizortiz9300
    @lizortiz9300 Před 24 dny +1

    Thank you for sharing what occurred in your immediate family. I went through a lot of trauma thank you for helping me. God Bless you and protect you always❤

  • @anitamarton6543
    @anitamarton6543 Před 3 lety +22

    I'm in the depths of trauma, exhausted, completely broken. I listen to this talk and I open my eyes, feel purpose and hope in my heart. Thank You

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 3 lety +4

      Hey Anita...you're very welcome! Your trauma has a purpose, and while hope is what keeps your eyes focused on a better future it's resilience that keeps you on the path towards it. Keep going! Sending you blessings and continued resilience on your path.

  • @talkingthoughts7595
    @talkingthoughts7595 Před 4 lety +10

    You're a great example for all who have faced ceaseless adversity - neglect, abuse, codependency, personal failures, disabilities in two kids, among others. I am 46 and successful but things unraveled for me over the past 5 years. Broke down mentally, lost my marriage plus all that come with that. Siblings seized opportunity to disrespect and abuse me emotionally. I look back and realize that I am stronger than I ever thought of myself. I am strong, I am brave, I am lovable and capable of loving.
    It may have taken over 40 years to be able to assert myself, but I now know the remainder of my journey through life would be better than my past. Thanks Charles. Your presentation reaffirms my resolve. God bless you.
    Ps. I love your description of God as a comedian. 🤣🤣❤❤

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +2

      I'm humbled and honored my trauma could be helpful for you in your journey. Love your self-affirmations too! Continued blessings and resilience on your path.

  • @sashanamaste6692
    @sashanamaste6692 Před 4 lety +9

    RESILIENCE made me the woman I am today! unreal how far we can go!

  • @RagingMonkee
    @RagingMonkee Před rokem +4

    Great talk. So many people out there with very similar stories. Screw what everyone tells you. You are greatness, it is inside each and everyone of us. Get off the path of living up to everyone else's standards. Have some compassion for yourself and know that a better today IS in your control!

  • @larenadarrow8425
    @larenadarrow8425 Před 2 lety +4

    Not gonna lie I'm crying my eyes out. I thank you for giving me affirmation that I can do this. That my trauma will someday help someone else's Truman. Exactly why I'm getting my degree in psychology. Thank you a million times over. Your voice told me everything my head's has been telling me.

  • @elgibson4954
    @elgibson4954 Před 4 lety +50

    Powerful! ‘’Sometimes we need to tell ourselves what to think when our minds tell us things we don’t need to hear.’’

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +3

      Thx a bunch...glad you enjoyed it!

    • @lemostjoyousrenegade
      @lemostjoyousrenegade Před 4 lety +2

      How interesting! ...just as I laid my eyes on your comment, the video was at the timeline of Charles pausing to speak this very line.
      I see THAT as powerful!, too. Powerful synchronicity.
      Happy New Year to you, El!
      May you enjoy a beautiful life, being very resilient during the challenging times, remembering your light and beauty and what you must tell yourself no matter the darkness you encounter on your path - be it real or imagined/feared/anticipated darkness that comes from the sometimes overwhelmed and very weary mind.

    • @lemostjoyousrenegade
      @lemostjoyousrenegade Před 4 lety +1

      @@charleshunt9961 It was excellent and very inspiring, Charles!
      Happy New Year and may you experience many wonderful, meaningful, soul-fulfilling blessings in Life. You have been and are such a blessing to humanity!
      Cheers!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +1

      @@lemostjoyousrenegade Thank you very much! Sending you nothing but the best for this year and beyond, and the resilience to make the best out of whatever life delivers.

    • @talkingthoughts7595
      @talkingthoughts7595 Před 4 lety +5

      @@charleshunt9961 thanks Charles. You're a great example for all who have faced ceaseless adversity - neglect, abuse, codependency, personal failures, disabilities in two kids, among others. I am 46 and successful but things unraveled for me over the past 5 years. Broke down mentally, lost my marriage plus all that come with that. Siblings seized opportunity to disrespect and abuse me emotionally. I look back and realize that I am stronger than I ever thought of myself. I am strong, I am brave, I am lovable and capable of loving.
      It may have taken over 40 years to be able to assert myself, but I now know the remainder of my journey through life would be better than my past.
      Your talk reaffirms this Charles, thank you.

  • @TrevWILL79
    @TrevWILL79 Před 6 lety +58

    Charles Hunt, As a behavior specialist, I've been studying trauma based care for a few months now, but this is the first time within the framework that someone has said use the trauma/experience as a stepping stone. One of my favorite scriptures speaks to what you shared: "For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory,"
    II Corinthians 4:17. T
    Thanks for sharing this in real time and very tangible talk.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 6 lety +6

      Hey Trev...You're very welcome! Hope you found it helpful and thanks for the affirmation!

    • @sharlajared8936
      @sharlajared8936 Před 6 lety +5

      Trev WIlliams 💜love this scripture!!!!! Thank you for the reminder of His Words bc this soooooooooo applies to my present! May God continue to bless you!

    • @mmommo-hx4dx
      @mmommo-hx4dx Před 3 lety +3

      Amen Trev

  • @FreckledAngelz
    @FreckledAngelz Před měsícem

    How is Charles doing 7 years later? Sometimes healing is like dieting, back forward back back back forward. Resilience is key~ Thank you for sharing this is one of my more favorite trauma surviving stories!

  • @robertsfamily7026
    @robertsfamily7026 Před rokem +5

    One of the best Ted talks.

  • @stuart1001
    @stuart1001 Před 4 lety +4

    This guys speach found a way through to me.
    "Tomorrow will be better, as long as it doesn't mess up your future"
    I always kill my pain by a messy night which blocks the struggle the next day but it messes up my future.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +1

      Sending you nothing but the best as you employ your resilience!

  • @jenniferlindsey9013
    @jenniferlindsey9013 Před 2 lety +4

    Wow. No words. My therapist recommended this & honestly, I’m so glad she did.

  • @unbreakable4650
    @unbreakable4650 Před rokem +9

    Darn right. Sooo many unfavorable paths we could've taken but we pushed on despite others opinions and fears. We overcome to show others how to as well‼️🙏✨

  • @luzaguirre2830
    @luzaguirre2830 Před 5 lety +3

    You cannot truly know the human experience if you don't ever come to know its ugliness.. the sooner the better, that way you have that much more time to make it Beautiful ❤
    Like this man I am fortunate..
    Would not have it any other way.

  • @cosmicundergrad538
    @cosmicundergrad538 Před 4 lety +6

    This needs to be taught to every college student! College is hard, but they can overcome the hardships and crush it.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +2

      It's especially difficult for low income, first generation students but you're absolutely correct that we can overcome the challenges. Thanks a bunch for watching/sharing!

  • @kathleenencarnacion3383
    @kathleenencarnacion3383 Před 5 lety +18

    I am at a loss for words. Your ted talk has really made me think and put my own life into perspective. This last year has been the roughest I have ever had to face, however hearing your story I’m realizing each day how strong I am from being where I was, where I am in this present moment and in my future. Thank you for sharing your story and showing that not matter what obstacles or hardships you may come across you’re still standing. Truly commendable!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety

      Hey Kat...I am honored and humbled that my path has helped you affirm your own strength! That is so dope, and truly makes me smile! Thanks for encouraging me, and I'm sending you nothing but love and courage as you continue to be stronger than what life throws at you! All the best.

  • @shaylagoogle3097
    @shaylagoogle3097 Před 4 lety +6

    Its nice to see how people become stronger of things you go through and try not to see yourself as a victim. We all go through things, its good when you can share your story to help others. To all trauma victims your not alone. Keep going even when it gets tough!!!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +2

      Wise words...thanks for watching!

    • @shaylagoogle3097
      @shaylagoogle3097 Před 4 lety +3

      @@charleshunt9961 Thank you, for sharing your story. We all have a story and when you get through the rough parts, it heals and makes you stronger!

  • @Oogiappa
    @Oogiappa Před 5 lety +2

    Just got tired. Just got weak. Yesterday. Today I refuse to be a victim. Never given the opportunity to be nourished and loved, so all I want to do is nourish and love others. Thank you for your words.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety

      LOVE your perseverance, positivity, and willingness to pour into others. Thank YOU for inspiring others and allowing my words to inspire you. All the best!

  • @divinecommerce6760
    @divinecommerce6760 Před 7 lety +16

    Amazing. 2 incarcerated parents and now you're on a TED stage... Thank you for living your purpose!!! 🙏💚

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +3

      Thank you very much...life is much more about how we respond than what happens to us. I appreciate your encouragement.

  • @dawnanderson611
    @dawnanderson611 Před 6 lety +93

    I come from the same type of life as you. I scored a 10 on the ACES test and i work with high risk youth in a group home and i think ill show this to them tonight. Nice work brother no one knows how hard it really is to come back.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 6 lety +9

      And I thought my 7 of 10 ACE's was bad! My heart goes out to you for your experiences as a child, but it also praises you for your resilience and continued hope for a better future! I'm in awe of and happy for you, and even more impressed by your willingness to help others in group homes experiencing childhood trauma. I recognizing you giving your trauma a purpose too. Thanks for sharing my talk with them and lmk how I may be able to assist. Blessings to you!

    • @dawnanderson611
      @dawnanderson611 Před 6 lety +4

      and i jusr got a scholarship to become a welness coach....well partial scholarship. ill beg, steal and borrow the rest!!!!

  • @shaolinf4
    @shaolinf4 Před 6 lety +10

    Love this perspective. Strength through adversity. Empowerment over victimization.

  • @mybigboiphilip6997
    @mybigboiphilip6997 Před 3 lety +2

    just got a job after being unemployed for several months. was in one heck of a rutt what with my own truck load of trauma just crashing through my front door... wish i had seen this sooner, but im thankful i saw it now. that last line was a beautiful. to anyone who needs a pick me up, a hug, or just a "u got this", this is the video for you.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 3 lety

      Big congrats on the new job, and many thanks for the affirmations! Sending you all the best and continued resilience...you've got this!

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 Před 8 měsíci +1

    People have to learn to cope with and work through very challenging life experiences. Resilience is SO important.

  • @Hiroshouse
    @Hiroshouse Před rokem +5

    Was suffering physical anxiety today and this video has helped me to ease up a bit. Damn I wish I could comfort that little boy and take him away from those pains. I was lucky in that I had a ‘safe’ childhood. It’s the adulting that came to smack me in the face. I pray we all find some strength inside and some healing 🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @alexishunt4336
    @alexishunt4336 Před 5 lety +2

    Sometimes we need to tell our mind what we will do instead of listening to what our minds tells us to do. Thank you for that piece of knowledge and life lesson.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety

      You're very welcome sista...glad you found a nugget or two. And dope last name!

  • @elizsantos2000
    @elizsantos2000 Před 4 lety +2

    Mr. Hunt you just found another calling!! Becoming a Motivational Speaker!! Minority young men need to hear from someone just like you!! Amazing!! ring!ring!ring! My grandson is 10 and going through a similar situation, that you went thru...but he’s got me!! 💯Grandma!! I’ve got he’s back!! Imma pull him through!! AMEN 🌈

    • @charleshunt6963
      @charleshunt6963 Před 4 lety

      Elizabeth Santos thank you very much, and you’re a blessing to your grandson (as my grandmother was) for stepping in when necessary. Continued blessings and resilience to you and your family.

  • @charliebaby7065
    @charliebaby7065 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I like.... the from living in the projects to the.... non materialistic comparative state of traveling the world.
    Owning a home or having a mortgage isn't actually living
    Expanding your world and your experiences.....is.
    I really like his use of words

  • @jaydalenblossom
    @jaydalenblossom Před 9 měsíci +1

    “But man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed but not defeated” - The Old Man and the Sea

  • @diatonicjon
    @diatonicjon Před 7 lety +41

    Not in spite of, but because of. Perspective sometimes requires partnership. Sometimes all the strength you need is the strength to ask others for help. Thank you, keep standing in the light of your truth. Ashe.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +7

      I'm honored that you found something of substance to take away...seriously. Thank you for giving my trauma a purpose!

  • @saraschultingkranz.
    @saraschultingkranz. Před 2 lety +3

    A lifetime of trauma + 14:21 that sparked hope in resiliency for thousands, and will continue to do so. Your words are gold. But the real gift is you. Thank you for spreading the message that our traumas don't need to hold us as victims.

  • @NaturallyPrettyBrownK26
    @NaturallyPrettyBrownK26 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I’ve sent this to loved one as I’m boo boo crying god is great ❤

  • @timmytam8286
    @timmytam8286 Před 7 lety +3

    This talk is soo underrated as a seventeen year old who has PTSD from having a psychopath father and being an asylum seeker the only thing that helped was resilience, My heart goes out to you!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +1

      Thank you very much for the encouragement, and thanks for watching! Continued strength and courage to you as you thrive not just in spite of, but because of!

  • @hollyhigginswilcher9149
    @hollyhigginswilcher9149 Před 3 lety +6

    Charles, you are a remarkable and resilient human being! You articulate the trauma that happened to you with such understanding and pain, and yet such healing. And your healing from it is a gift to us so we can learn from you. Thank you for sharing your message with all of us. You plant seeds under trees you may never sit. I hope that you will continue to speak to what protective factors in your life supported your resilience and how important they were and are in your life and in the lives of our children who face significant adversity. And I hope you continue to talk about how your protective factors help ameliorate and mitigate the risk you faced. Your are such a gift to us. Your message is one of the most important we can teach the world.

  • @maireadwhite3661
    @maireadwhite3661 Před 4 lety +6

    I don’t usually comment on social media but I want to acknowledge that I shared this video on my work fb with the following thoughts....
    I like how Charles Hunt acknowledges the different aspects of ourselves we have from different developmental stages and traumas.
    For me, the word ‘victim’ never sat right with me. It can become an identity that we get stuck in, disempowers us.
    I like how Charles Hunt uses a past tense rather than a present tense and the significant difference that can have. I was a victim. It opens up so much possible for who we are now. All the healing as well as the potential selves we may become.
    I also liked his ending.... ‘thank you for giving my trauma a purpose’. The ultimate recovery, healing and empowerment, turn pain to a positive.
    Thank you Charles Hunt

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +1

      Wow! I'm humbled and greatly appreciate not just you watching and sharing but taking time to give such a thoughtful endorsement/review! Continued resilience to you and yours, many thanks.

  • @jigglycommi-5948
    @jigglycommi-5948 Před 5 lety +4

    You are not alone. I suffer PTSD, panic disorder, and MDD from past trauma. Bless you and keep strong, we do have a purpose.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety

      I'm very sorry to hear, but it's heartwarming to see you acknowledge your purpose! Sending you love, light, and healing on your path. Thanks for the encouragement!

  • @markgreen4732
    @markgreen4732 Před 5 lety +2

    Resilience and Transition is my life and work and Charles hits the truth of it from the heart.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety

      Thanks a bunch for watching! Continued success and resiliency to you.

  • @caroltouchton4924
    @caroltouchton4924 Před 5 lety +21

    Great voice & powerful message! I also suffered great loss as a teenager, losing both my parents by age 15. Yet, here I am working at a high school helping at risk youth. Once they tell me their stories and I mention how resilient their are, their whole demeanor changes. They become empowered! My faith saved me, as well as reading Wayne Dyer and others who helped me realize, that while I don't control what happens to me I do control my reactions. Our thoughts are powerful!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety +4

      Thanks a bunch for watching, and for helping our youth tap into their resilience. Do let me know if I may be of assistance!

    • @yvettedean92
      @yvettedean92 Před 3 lety

      Is that a book that you recommend? What’s it called?

  • @Nappylelene
    @Nappylelene Před 5 měsíci +2

    love love this so much. so inspiring

  • @barbaralittle3376
    @barbaralittle3376 Před rokem +8

    Hi Charles, I have shown your amazing video to my freshman nursing students in their "Trauma Informed Care" class as part of their "Healthy Lifestyles" course over the past few years at Temple University. No matter how many times I watch this video, I am still amazed at all you have conquered in your life and I shed a tear. I hope you are doing well and know that others are appreciative of sharing your story! I am positive you have helped so many people with your struggles in this journey called "Life" . Well done!

  • @lizcuero5781
    @lizcuero5781 Před 2 lety +1

    I am so grateful for Key and Peele comedy skits. I think they are life saving. They bring so much healing, laughter and joy.

  • @tparker4458
    @tparker4458 Před 6 lety +3

    I am crying. I haven't experienced half the pain and struggle you went through. God bless you young man and congratulations on your success. Thank you for sharing your story!!!! 💜💜💜💜💜

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety

      I'm humbled, thank you very much for the kind/warm words, and receive those blessings! Wishing you all the best.

  • @Chanesmyname
    @Chanesmyname Před rokem +2

    Thank you for this.

  • @laurenGodfearin05
    @laurenGodfearin05 Před 2 měsíci

    This hit me in such a down time in my life , see I had just lost my dads, I read some of the other comments n I just gots say you are amazing and your life material so crushing yet you persevered and I can honestly say I know the addiction and poverty all to well throughout generations of my family and this plague of “bad luck” or what I call generational curse would tap into my life so badly that I would loose my 21 yr old brother to drug addiction when I was 18, dad to alcoholism and my husband to jail and not to mention all my own problems that were an Easter basket full of a variety of all those issues, but Praise God I , too persevered and became resilient . Thank you so much for sharing & speaking to so many you are a force and helped me so much!! Thank you

  • @ramzee8207
    @ramzee8207 Před rokem +4

    A little late but amazing talk. I’ve always been a strong believer that “everything happens for a reason” but it is extremely tough to pull yourself out of a dark place and it is only up to you to do so

  • @samairagarciaa
    @samairagarciaa Před 2 lety +6

    After watching this video after a few years, on my hardest days I sometimes think about this video. Resilience is one of the key factors to life. Re-watching this made me think how much of others stories can stick to a person even after years so thank you.

  • @nancyblair9862
    @nancyblair9862 Před 7 lety +4

    You indeed prove what I have always told therapists who claim childhood adversity is the cause of my physical problems. You are FANTASTIC!! I send much love and thanx to you for your inspiring story! Keep talking!❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +1

      I am humbled, thanks Nancy! I'm blessed to be a blessing, and so very happy that you found inspiration in the message. We are more than what happens to us! Thanks for encouraging me!

  • @SugahB
    @SugahB Před 2 lety +1

    I don't know what I loved more. That you lived in Acorn (me too) or the pose. I used to have a completely different perspective on resilience (like stop making it so I have to be resilient). I'm keeping this in my pocket for those days when God got jokes..

  • @CherryBerryFashion
    @CherryBerryFashion Před 3 lety +10

    I really felt it

  • @arlinegeorge6967
    @arlinegeorge6967 Před 3 lety +2

    Hats off to you young man.Bless you and your living reality be come inspiration motivation and courageous hope to all who are enduring trauma. Bless you and all your dreams come true.

  • @nywalker1
    @nywalker1 Před 6 lety +43

    Thank you Charles...I am recommending your talk to my college students.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 6 lety +3

      You're very welcome! Lmk if I may be of further assistance, and thanks for the recommendation. All the best!

    • @anaiyasmommy1
      @anaiyasmommy1 Před 3 lety +1

      I’m showing this to my students as well. I’ve watched this three times today.

  • @dianakeplinger4800
    @dianakeplinger4800 Před 5 lety +4

    Straight up honest with the reflection and awareness from the past, and acknowledging the present with life's constant change. Real talk about real life. Thank you.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 5 lety +1

      Thanks a bunch Diana...I appreciate the affirmation and glad you enjoyed it! You're very welcome.

  • @lenoraxoxo1820
    @lenoraxoxo1820 Před 5 lety +18

    It’s so amazing how he could have such a handle on his trauma. That’s powerful and something that everyone should admire. Anything is possible.....

  • @samanthamarusiak4692
    @samanthamarusiak4692 Před 4 lety +2

    You owned it man! Seriously, you're speaking the truth, and if everybody would listen to this talk, then I think each person could improve his or her life. The lesson behind this talk improved my trauma. Thanks a lot.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 4 lety +1

      I'm humbled and grateful for your words! Many thanks for blessing me...continued resilience to you!

    • @samanthamarusiak4692
      @samanthamarusiak4692 Před 4 lety +1

      @@charleshunt9961 No problem! And thanks!

  • @calmchaos658
    @calmchaos658 Před 7 lety +67

    Amazing. I'm still working through my trauma but I hope I reach a level of accepting and thriving.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +13

      Thank you...keep pressing forward. The faster we're able to come to terms with what has hurt us the less power we give it. It's not easy, but it's necessary. Sending you love and support as you move from surviving to thriving!

    • @Chasiraw
      @Chasiraw Před 6 lety +2

      lesismore You will...!!

    • @Klissaura
      @Klissaura Před 6 lety +1

      You will ❤️

    • @estelleliebe1994
      @estelleliebe1994 Před 3 lety

      Klissaura Rodriguez xx x zZz

  • @N2147B
    @N2147B Před 4 lety +2

    One TEDx speaker to another. Incredible! Your bravery and vulnerability are inspiring.

    • @charleshunt6963
      @charleshunt6963 Před 4 lety +1

      Nichole Mullen many thanks, I appreciate the affirmations! Continued resilience to you.

  • @joanneafflygirl6697
    @joanneafflygirl6697 Před 3 lety +2

    I wish my 14 year old son, adopted from China could understand this talk. He's just learning English and isn't at this level yet. He has endured so much trauma and has difficulty with emotions, handled disappointments and consequences, etc. He was never taught to deal with them. they are his 'Goliaths'. He is having trouble slaying those giants. I wish you could talk to him. We would fly down to where you are if it is possible. He is so resilient, but he doesn't think so.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 3 lety

      Hey Joanne...sending love to you and your son as he overcomes the family traumas and cultural challenges he confronts. Continue to focus on strengthening his mind through his beliefs and thoughts as they will have huge implications on how he views his challenges, tells himself about them, and what he ultimately does about them. Continued resilience to you and your family.

    • @joanneafflygirl6697
      @joanneafflygirl6697 Před 3 lety

      @@charleshunt9961 Thank you for responding. It's hard for him to talk about any of this because he thinks it is bad and he's not a good person. It's very hard for him when I talk about his past. He thinks I'm not going to love him or that I might abandon him like his bio parents did. He feels that he has to be perfect to be a good person. China told him that if he didn't behave, I would send him back. If you have any counseling available, I would love to book him an appointment with you. I really fear for his future. He's been attending 3 years of school (all in America) and the district wasted every year. He has so much anxiety that he hasn't learned how to count past 20 and they didn't think he would understand subtraction, so the never started to teach him that. He is 14, thrown in 8th grade and learned nothing. Since covid started, I've got him up to grade 3. He still has trouble reading Braille, but knows the Braille symbols. I know he is smart because I can fly an airplane like a pro.
      I hope you would be able to see him. Thank you

  • @sylvie5894
    @sylvie5894 Před 6 lety +42

    Impressive... down to earth and real, yet classy!

  • @citygirlingraham
    @citygirlingraham Před 3 lety +1

    If I looked in the dictionary under resilience, I would see Charles Hunt. I think he is very smart and his parents where smart too, however, they where addicted, which was stronger than their mind.
    I also am resilient, my life has been different but so hard in other ways. I have overcome them all. They have made me stronger....

  • @dawndid5972
    @dawndid5972 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Charles Hunt is brilliant 👏 eloquent 💥 and breaks down the fierce truth on change. Powerful words, sir!

  • @harenrussel
    @harenrussel Před 5 lety +3

    "Thank you for Giving my trauma a purpose".. Powerful words to one who has lost so much of his personal power through Adverse Childhood Expwriences" chur bro

  • @leahwarrior1734
    @leahwarrior1734 Před 3 lety +7

    Coming from a traumatic childhood myself and I made my own life too and I love 💕 to hear of those who persevere and find the blessings in the lessons! And it teaches you a lot about life and it can either make you or break you. The choice is always in our hands even with the cards we’ve been dealt with!! What an amazing example to the world! Blessings to him!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💜😇😇

  • @laurend8948
    @laurend8948 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you for your TedTalk. I loved the part about saying you were a victim as opposed to saying you are a victim. You're completely right about how important that distinction is. As someone who helps DV victims and who was one herself, I'll always remember that difference.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 3 lety +2

      Hey Lauren...that difference changes everything. We can't do anything about the past but what we tell ourselves about who we are NOW is empowering, so that distinction is critical. Continued resilience to you and thanks for not only your affirmations but your service to others!

  • @itubeutubealltube
    @itubeutubealltube Před 7 lety +59

    You have wonderful stage presence and strength of character. You represent hope and possibility for the foster children I care for. Thank you.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +8

      Thank you very much for the affirmations and the work you do for an extremely vulnerable population! If I may be of service please don't hesitate to reach out (info@audacityfirm.com).

  • @degenlando
    @degenlando Před 7 měsíci +1

    6 years later and I have found this as I am at a point in my life were my past traumatic experiences are crumbling everything I've tried so hard to build...

  • @RashonLane
    @RashonLane Před 7 lety +45

    Thank you for giving voice to how we are resilient despite the trauma we live in and through!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +8

      You're very welcome; thank YOU for the affirmation! All the best!

  • @shellieshimmel9148
    @shellieshimmel9148 Před 4 lety +1

    A great example of the power of positive thinking. The mind and our beliefs are powerful things. My students in juvenile hall are gonna love this dude.

  • @bushrod99
    @bushrod99 Před 7 lety +20

    Proud to call Charles my friend!

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety +3

      Thanks Bruh!

    • @mallorymanning834
      @mallorymanning834 Před 4 lety +1

      Charles Hunt I wish you could talk at my school. I teach kiddos who’ve been through so much trauma

  • @shannonnefra9738
    @shannonnefra9738 Před 2 lety +1

    Through adversity, you rose and thank you for your lesson!

  • @pakouher9686
    @pakouher9686 Před 4 lety +5

    I needed to hear this today to encourage and uplift and give me more clarity about the best future I can see for myself by working on my thoughts about myself today. Thank You Charles Hunt for sharing your story with the world. May God bless all of us who are seeking truth, light, clarity, goodness, and true joy in our lives.

    • @charleshunt6963
      @charleshunt6963 Před 3 lety +1

      I am humbled my words helped light your path! Thanks for your warm, encouraging words. Sending you continued blessings and resilience on your path.

  • @user-yx9lm7vy2g
    @user-yx9lm7vy2g Před 7 měsíci +1

    Your testimony is uplifting and leaves no room for pity.

  • @ncatsu95
    @ncatsu95 Před 2 lety +3

    This touched me! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have encountered some traumas recently. Thank you for the reminder that I am UNBREAKABLE.

  • @chuckbechard3259
    @chuckbechard3259 Před 5 lety +4

    Thank you Charles for sharing. I teach at a Juv. Detention Ctr. and my kids were moved and inspired my your TedxTalk. You are an inspiration and a motivator. Well done sir!

  • @LucidLoveSociety
    @LucidLoveSociety Před 3 měsíci +1

    If anyone is willing to share their story about getting through your trauma, please do not hesitate to reach out. Telling your story isn't just for others to hear, but it can be a part of the healing process. God bless.

  • @prince_o_hyrule2457
    @prince_o_hyrule2457 Před 7 lety +1

    How have only a total of 73 PEOPLE have watched this video. ANY of these videos, in fact. These videos are extremely inspirational, and these videos should be EVERYWHERE on CZcams.

    • @charleshunt9961
      @charleshunt9961 Před 7 lety

      Glad you enjoyed it...please feel free to share it so others can experience it as well!

  • @iampreciousz7081
    @iampreciousz7081 Před 3 lety +2

    Watched this in my cosmetology class today and I just want to say thank you. Definitely a MESSAGE.