I’m an ambulatory wheelchair user & the stares, rude comments and straight harassment for standing or walking 3 steps? It’s so bad it makes me not want to walk or stand even when I can. Being told I’m “faking it”, “should be ashamed of myself” etc. is so maddening. And what advantage do I get by faking that I need this multi-thousand dollar wheelchair? So I can get harassed in public? Argh!!
Last time I got tgat reaction at the grocery store I walked a few steps and yelled "Look! Your judgment has cured me!" She was not amused but the guy in the produce section was lol
If you need to move a wheelchair user. Here’s a step by step guide. Step one: you’ve encountered someone in a wheelchair but you need to get past them Step two: Get their attention a simple “excuse me” Step three: watch as they politely move a bit Step four: SAY THANKYOU step five: go past or get what you needed Step six: Be on with your day Politely.
Probably because that seems the most ridiculous of the rules? Like, who the heck is jumping over people like hurdles on the regular?! @@user-mg4gl4yg6h
Same. Or I'd push the bag off depending on what's inside. If its like, bread and fruit, yes I'd push it off the chair handle, if it was fragile I'd just roll away with it still there too
That pisses me off because it shows some people respect wheelchair users less than a stranger's shopping cart. Would anyone put anything on another person's shopping cart? No. But a wheelchair? Sure, apparently.
I agree with all of this. Every time my sister and I go out there will literally be people that stop what there doing or stop mid-sentence just to stare at us like we’re a part of the circus.
@@trollsneedhugs i get your suggestion and don't disagree, but i don't think it should be on the shoulders of the disabled to make people not treat us like freaks
My mother is heavily disabled, she can't properly use her left side due to a traumatic brain injury, so she's also in a wheelchair. We went to an aquarium in Bretagne, France and PARENTS were encouraging their children to go stand infront of the wheelchair / step over it. We also got weird looks from literal adults. These people need to grow up, it's so immature.
This doesn’t surprise me, I see French families do this to other people constantly at Disneyland paris when I go there (they say the Parisians are the most entitled people in all of France!)
Pat on the head, touch our legs to see if we can feel it, grab our sholders, try to lift our feet with theirs to see if we have control of our legs yep. These are the ones that I have personally experienced because if you can feel your legs you dont need a wheelchair, you are faking it or you are just lazy. I have to use a wheelchair a little under half the time and a walker the rest(sometimes im lucky and for really short walks like into the gas station for a soda during a slow time where i wont have to stand for more than 3-4 minutes I can use a quad cane those are good days) it depends on how my body is that day, if I've recently had a surgery, how long my outing is, what the weather is like and a few other things or a combination of those as to whether I can manage on my feet or need my chair at that time. And being pushed out of the way, having random people put things on my lap or wheelchair handles because im sitting so whats the problem. One time at the mall someone put their bags 3 of them on my handle and I didnt notice and left that store to go to another one I got chased down and accused of stealing by a random stranger becuase they chose to use MY mobility aid as a rack to hang their stuff on.
Many assume if you have any disability you must also be extremely mentally disabled, so they treat us like toddlers. I don't see why anyone who isn't mentally disabled would assume "if your legs don't work that must affect the brain too" though.
@@BankruptMonkeysometimes being physically disabled *can* relate to being mentally disabled... but that's not always the case. I don't think the patting on the head in this video was like that though. It's more like a hug, trying to comfort the random stranger because they're different and disabled. 🤷♀️
im so glad you mentioned ambulatory users as well. As one myself, I’ve been told by multiple people that I was faking my chronic illnesses and at one point I had an older man follow me out of a store and ‘confront’ me and try to take my electric wheelchair. Like yes I understand that some people would really try to stoop that low and pretend to be disabled, but majority if not all of us are just trying to live our lives and use our accommodations accordingly based on our disabilities.
Had an older gentleman ask if I was going on a hike soon (I was using my cane when I should've been using my chair) and laughed? Bit even harder when he went out to his handicapped vehicle.
I'm autistic and sometimes I loose my brain connection to my body and stare randomly at nothing and sometimes it happens that there is people there. One moment is like oh that's an interesting looking whatever(mostly the sky, some product in the supermarket or cool looking people) and the next moment is like what was I doing and actually three minutes have passed. I don't know what happens but it feels like a CZcams video loading because my phone lost the internet connection.
i only talked to my great grandma at knee level because it hurt her neck to look up. The way some people can't comprehend that disabled people are still capable baffles me. It's like when someone discredits my Autism because I "look normal" like wtf
I was in a wheelchair for 2 months due to a car accident, and the amount of times I got asked to do a wheelie, got stared at, and got pushed was insane.
@@Iluvoldmenit is and I imagine there fun to do (I can't do a wheelie in my wheelchair) but it's not something people should really ask unless they know you. Getting asked constantly can be tiring on your mental state and arms.
My sister stairs at wheelchair ppl for 30s, she called me and says "look, that person is in a wheelchair " and when i look, i try to be respectful as much as possible i told her " i don't think it is a good idea to stair at them for to long "😢
Bro frfr some middle schoolers did that to me when I had to get on my knees and fold the chair to get through a narrow passageway They need to get rid of that pole there
I was only in a wheelchair temporarily but I was hit with soooo many purses. If you’re walking past a wheelchair user please be aware of your purse swinging
I’ve had one guy at an airport (a complete stranger) wheel me out of the way so he could talk to my mother as to why I was in the wheelchair because I was so young
I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user and I'm in highschool. I could probably count on 1 hand the amount of times I've had students ask me why I'm pushing around an empty wheelchair. I've only heard them make stupid or ignorant jokes like "Is that for me?" Once or twice. It's ALWAYS the teachers 😐 every time. I go to school twice a week for like 2 hours and I get AT LEAST one every week, and they are ALWAYS adults.... just goes to show the amount of misrepresentation of wheelchair users for so long. Also people will CONSTANTLY try and lean on my handles IT'S NOT A SHOPPING CART 🗣👏 I can in fact feel it when you are touching my wheelchair. I can also feel it when you grab my shoulders or head after I told you the exact reason I need the chair is NERVE PAIN????? STOP GRABBING MY SHOULDERS!??!?!? I am a person 💀
THANK YOU FOR THE “NO TOUCHING”!!! I don’t use a wheelchair but I have seizures that make me fall to the ground involuntarily, and people think they can try and catch me by grabbing me by my shoulders, waist, and even neck and it only makes it much harder.
Im sorry that people touch you. it's very sad to see that people push you out the way I have surgery on my leg, so one part looks like it's dented, and I relate to the staring it's no fun
My best friend used a power chair. She also taught kindergarten, and every year the first time she would stand up from her chair her class would yell 'Miss Jones! You're healed!!' Every single year. She was always incredibly entertained by that.
I know a girl who uses a wheelchair, I've known her since middle school, and she's an ambulatory wheelchair user. Sometimes when she stands up, people look at her like she's faking the need for a wheelchair. But according to her, the worst thing is when people see her walking and make fun of her for 'walking weird'. We actually ended becoming friends because we're both disabled and she heard someone say that about something I did because of my disability, and we just ended up ranting about ableists for hours haha. Its so fucked up how people treat disabled people, and especially people who use wheelchairs. I hope all the wheelchair users out there are having a great day!! Fuck ableists!!!
Id be a lil surprised seeing a wheel chair but i dont gape. I do politely ask if they need help, they say no and i go on abt my day. If i saw someone stand up i might stare a lil longer and then remember oh right some people can still walk and then again shrug and go abt my day. For me tho its most lilely my adhd or autism thatd make me stare wayyyy longer wanting to see if i can figure out wheelchair functions compared to ones ive seen online and then also just in aw of how cool any particular chair might look. (Some are rlly cool! XD) if im caught on tht id just be embarassed and stutter through the fact i think their wheelchairs cool. Or for her wondering for a minute abt her shoe ...stilt... prosthetic? Tho if it eas that id prolly catch myself after a sec and hope they didnt see me and walk off embarassed and anxious And lastly i just tend to stare at anything i find cool, so if they had any cool hair or shirt or something id be starry eyed looking. But for those im most likely to come up and say tht i find said hair or shirt or etc rlly cool xD or just walk away thinking "wow tht guys cool!" (Oh and maybe their dog. Tho i wouldnt come up to bother the dog id prolly stare from far away cooing in my head abt how absolutely CUTE they are. But not wanting to get closer worried abt messing with them or them thinking i want to distract the dog rather then just asking what breed is it or so) Ahahaha just a small note of me and why i might stare or something. The people who GRAB wheelchairs and push or move or climb over or jump them is ASTOUNDUNG unless ur in a spot where thats expected (like ya knw how u climb over people in stadiums or bus/airplane sometimes) thats just unacceptable (lemongrab style). And even then wheelchair users usually have their own space for tht thing if their in the chair so still no reason for it. Just SMH man. Dont jump over people pr grab them without permission. Omg
I had a life changing surgery. It was a bilateral Achilles tendon lengthening surgery. Because of the fact I was born with lesser muscles in my body. Also, I was born with multi-cystic-dysplastic kidney disease. Anyways I had always walked in my toes. Never used my heel. I couldn’t even put it on the ground. It prevented me from doing many things. I was bullied for just walking incorrectly. They decided I needed to have an operation. So after I was put in a wheelchair. I just started middle school. This was the most relatable video ever.❤
@@seganaleqa you can come across as very derogatory, I think, and if you truly feel like they can’t hear, you just raise your voice if you’re not in a loud environment. You don’t have to be on someone’s exact level for them to be able to hear you
@@clairescritters4962 And what if someone has severe neck or back pain where they can’t even remotely look down at the person? Because it’s also considered disrespectful not to make eye contact or at least look in a person’s direction when talking to them. My friend is someone that has to kneel if she’s going to have a conversation with someone that’s sitting or is considerably shorter than her. Her neck is 100% stiff after a serious car accident. Just because she’s not in a chair, doesn’t mean she doesn’t have disabilities of her own.
@@seganaleqathen the person with the back and neck issues can communicate with the person they’re talking to so that they can find a respectful compromise.
Thank you so much for posting this I went through 6 months of my life as a part time wheelchair user because of a condition I have I went through the last 3 months of school being bullied purely because of my wheelchair and I got a lot of discomfort when I was at Disney world and there where lots of people who didn't know what to do with me so I was treated wrongly
Great points! My 6 year old is in a wheelchair and I can’t tell you how many times he’s been pushed out of the way by other students who aren’t trying to be mean, but they just get excited sometimes. I spend 3 days a week at the school with my son so I get to talk to the kids a lot about it, but I wish more parents would teach this.
I've seen people do this! There was a kid that uses a wheelchair when I went to high school, and someone literally just pushed him away, I was so baffled I didn't get the chance to speak, they up and left. To lighten the mood, a funny one: I practice at a play center for disabled people (there's mostly kids there), and I didn't know how to roll the wheelchair (that kid has cerebral palsy and can't roll himself), it just felt so hard for some reason lmao, and I accidentally bumped his wheel into the door, thankfully lightly, and we laughed about it 😂. I love that kid haha.
One thing I learned in the miltary is, if they are telling you not to do it at the end of week safety brief. SOMEONE HAS ALREADY DONE IT. This video has safety brief vibes 🤦🏾♀️ we have to do better as a species.
I can't believe most of this stuff even needs to be clarified... I mean, I had a friend who used a wheelchair, but I never knew it was this bad god damn
@@billybunter3753 Exactly! Treating them like how you would normally, like a person. Being treated with niceness is always a good thing, I'm glad it's taught you well! :]
Thankyou for making this video! As a wheelchair user I understand and have experienced most of these plus a thousand more I bet, people can be so rude and disrespectful, no idea what damage they can cause if are wheelchair tops over and we fall out ect
@@KingBananvryes 😊 I can’t stand for long and some days are worse than others so I can’t stand at all. I get a lot of looks and comments if I’m out in my wheelchair and I stand up to do something!
I went to school with a girl who has cerebral palsy. She was unable to walk. Our gym teacher let me and a few other girls fast walk so she could keep up and be in a group. She was always really nice to everyone. Shes thriving and engaged!
i do like when people get on my level, when im standing i like to get on the level of others to show respect (specially children) and also it helps me understand better what they're saying
I remember being 7 and seeing my first ever disabled person. I was confused and scared but they smiled so i smiled back. My mother was getting her eyes checked and i sat down, later someone came and sat next to me, i hadn't been told what it meant but in the end it was all good. they explained it and ended up braiding my hair after it fell out. i hope that guy is ok
I disagree with the owners comment on people actually looking at someone who's looking at disabled people out of curiosity and then wondering how their life is, because I'm sure this person has stared at "non-disabled" people before no matter the reason. It is probably a pet peeve, but no reason to try and control how someone stares, because unless they're being a pervert and whistling at her or something morally wrong, I don't see how for example what you did curiously staring, was any wrong. Ignore others who say stuff like this🍕, because listening to them won't make your life any easier, stare with innocence like you did as a child, and you're good. ❤😊
@@KalaborXbut why stare with curiosity like it's a special treasure or smt weird out of world? It's not a nice experience to be stared at for a while. I get that you mean it with the more freeing from limits way "do what you want", just not for long enough to make the other person think the person staring will kidnap them 😂 Staring is nice (when it's distinctive) sometimes when you like what you see or just didn't happen to see someone like whtv u saw.
The only strange encounter I had with a wheelchair user was at a pharmacy. I was just about to turn the corner of an aisle as he was coming toward me. I didn't see him & jumped back so as not to fall over him & his chair. He said, "I'm sorry if I scared you." I replied, "You didn't scare me, I just didn't see you." I'm 6' tall & when I'm walking, I look straight ahead. A lot of times I don't see kids either. We laughed at what just happened, talked for a few minutes, & then said our goodbyes.
Lol when I was a kid I used to be confused as to how people tripped on things, because I wasn't tall enough yet to look straight ahead and not see the floor. It was weird realizing later on that I did the same thing when I got a little bit taller. I'm 5'4" now, for context.
Can confirm this story is true bc I'm 5'2 and my brother is 6'2. He's tripped on me at least three times bc he didn't see me. Either that or he was just being an ass, lmfao
I’m blind and several of these apply to me as well. Also, I love wheelies so much. I have some great wheelie friends. Good thing about being blind though, I can’t see them staring at me so I can’t really give a shit
"Don't crouch down to eye level to speak to us....we're not children." Sorry, not sorry. I will continue to crouch down and speak at eye level regardless if you're a child, short person, or wheelchair user. This will be done for my own comfort, not yours. I want to hear you accurately and make sure I'm giving you my full attention, especially when it's important. Since I lose focus easily, this method saves us time because I don't process what people are saying. If I'm just nodding and not asking questions or looking at you, chances are I'm merely giving the polite motions to placate you and waiting to move on (shorter wait span than an argument about me not caring about the topic you're interested in). All the rest, spot on. Just remember that even though it looks like I'm staring, I'm trying to solve my problem without causing you more problems while I contemplate if the item I'm looking for is in your vacinity.
I was a helper in 9th grade summer school for kindergarteners and about 3 kids were in a wheelchair, the kids treated them with so much respect! It was so wholesome 😊
I have a family member who uses a wheelchair because of a hip issue. People can be so rude sometimes to wheelchair users. Thank you for spreading info like this!
i remember when my grandpa got his leg amputated, he was in a wheelchair. we went to Walmart often, but we didn't know how to get the wheelchair in and out of the car. so we relied on those electric baskets. people took them even if they weren't disabled. it was sad because he loved shopping. he died in 2018.
I’m a wheelchair user and I’m realizing how lucky I’ve been with people I’ve encountered. I really haven’t dealt with anything on this list, other than potentially a bit of staring. People have been respectful to me and I’m thankful for that.
Seriously, I’m in wheelchair and people open doors for me constantly and one time I finally was able to open it myself and someone was a few metres away and said in a baby voice “Your such a clever girl!” While bending down to my level and I just felt so disgusted
@@divergentdreameras another non-disabled(that has online disabled friends) a general guide is not helping them until they ask. Or if they r in a position where you'd help a non-disabled person(like if someone fell down and is struggling to get up idd help a non-disabled person with that too) just try to treat them like you would treat a normal person, do u normally hold doors open for people? Also do it for disabled people. If not, don't. Do you normally invite friends or family for activities? Invite the disabled ones too. If they say they cannot go, don't stop asking them to come to these events, unless they ask you to stop asking. Hope this helps:)
I’ve been a wheelchair user all of my life (not ambulatory), and I’ve literally never had any of these things happen to me. Except maybe stares. Which I don’t really notice anymore.
As someone who has a mum that uses a wheelchair, I’m so glade we haven’t had many issues. She can walk but not for long. So she needs it. Wheelchair doesn’t mean paralysed. Wish more people understood that.
Yes... Same with my aunt. She has muscular dystrophy and has the physical ability to stand, but cannot for long, and especially in new, different environments where she doesn't have her surroundings memorized. I'm not saying it's the only one, but muscular dystrophy is way too un-talked about, it's a lifelong disability and has no cure, which is very sad! Especially when you're diagnosed as a young teenager and it's already severe to the point you can't even drive at 18.
It's good that someone talks up about this like I do this to random people aswell as wheelchair users and just go up to them and say I hope you have a good day because everyone deserves to hear it
People have no idea of basic respect. My Brother used a wheelchair. I try to make eye contact if they seem too be open to a smile. Don't ignore the person in a wheelchair.
Some people are saying that there's "no way this actually happened to her", and clearly y'all must have perfect lives lmao. There are absolutely people like that out there. Those are the kind of people that park their shopping carts in the middle of the isle and don't move when they see you coming. Those are the type of people who shove past you or push you aside like you're not even there. Those are the people that grab things out of your shopping cart.
Right??? Like I've seen people do awful and weird shit to able bodied people, hell I've experienced it. And even some of my disabled friends will discuss shit they have to put up with. These people clearly have just not been around enough disabled people or simply haven't experienced rude human beings ever.
Ambulatory user here, the hardest thing for me is that I choose not to get a handicapped placard because I feel others need it more and it's often a crap shoot if I can get handicapped parking anyway.. it sometimes gets annoying when I need to go shopping and I can't get parking closer to the doors and have to walk from several stalls away. It's even more annoying when they cut my boyfriend/driver off and steal the spot, only to see them walking out from their cars perfectly fine. I can't say that I've acted like that when I was well, so I know it's not karma, but the things I've come to realize when I became impaired! I was the people greeter at Walmart who went against policy to ensure my customers had access to the E-carts, it wasn't pleasant, but I felt the need to emphasize to kids and young adults who didn't really need it to consider those that do.
@ganforever5568 no FR I cracked a bone in my left leg, and I was in a wheelchair for a while, and at the hospital I literally was stared at by the many kids there 💀
THANK YOU!! so many people ask why I’m sometimes in a wheelchair if I can walk!! Like - most people just use it to get from place to place- it’s not that rare
Thank you for making this! As an ambulatory wheelchair user I can relate to SO many of these! Never been patted on the head.. But people grabbing my handles is one of the most common issues. I made it abundantly clear how damn rude that was and how I felt about it. The gawking when I stand, or psycho Karen's going "You don't need that chair!" is rare, but has happened.. It's so frustrating how ignorant and rude some folks can be. "DON'T TOUCH US!" - I stand behind this 100000%, randomly being grabbed is unnerving and just.. ugh!
For shits and giggles, obviously XD That's why we're all in wheelchairs, didn't you get the memo? :O It's not our spine, or legs, or brain or anything, nope! @@jessecarlos5665
Same, when I was hospitalized and my leg is weak (Because of tremor and medicine injections), I can only stand up for a bit, sometime when I go around the hospital, I stood up/get off my wheelchair to do some stuffs, like going in the toilet (The toilet for disabled people are in use), when I was using the sink on the hall (The sink's high and I was short at the moment), a person came to me, yelled at me, called me rude words, and took away my wheelchair, after around 30 sec? He was still in the hallway, looking at me, I fell down and my IV got de-attached from my hand, luckily that person got kicked out of the hospital.
I really struggle with picking things up from the ground due to my own physical problems… but never have I EVER considered hanging anything of mine on someone else’s chair what the fuck!?
For the four weeks I was in a wheelchair (anesthesia accident left my right ankle paralyzed, unable to walk for those first four weeks and I later "graduated", as my doctor called it, to a cane for about 2-3 months), I was treated so weirdly. I often had people asking to ride on the back of it and people pushing me out of the way. It was very bizarre. Since then, I've learned to treat all wheelchair users with respect. It's weird when I see others pull this sh!t too. It's so easy to just.. let that person exist??
There was a girl in my lego club in high school who was in a wheelchair. Well, one time one of the other kids parents showed up for...something? But this mom needed to get around her I guess, so she literally, like, grips the top of her head like she's a fucking, I don't even know. Like she's a table top? And then slides her wheelchair forward BY THE TOP OF HER HEAD. While saying some bullshit like "Sorry, just need to get around you real quick." Like Bitch?! You are touching her head! She didn't even just be disrespectful by grabbing her wheelchair and moving her that way, she just grabbed the top of her head to push her forward. It was one of those moments where everyone's eyes just widen but you don't know what to say because it's just so crazy.
Jeez! I hope that girl and/or her family got to yell at that asshole mom or something to get justice. That’s beyond disrespectful, i hope the girl is mentally okay after having to deal with such an absolute nitwit like that 🤦♂️🤦♂️
@@melodystarlight7933 the poster isn’t in this place anymore to my knowledge, also the mom wasn’t the mom of the girl, so cps cant do anything if its some random person being rude to someone they dont know. Cps is for domestic child abuse. 👍
But one thing you can do is ask.. "Do you need any help moving?" If they look like they ACTUALLY need help, I once helped a old wheelchair woman as a female when their husband couldn't go into the bathroom, i felt bad and thought they needed help, and they did! I felt good doing that:D
i haven’t ever thought of, seen, or heard of these things in my nearly 19 years of living and i’m so sorry that this needs to be posted and shared, people need to have more respect.
When they use the baby voice with you.... I usually have friends help me with bathroom doors. The few times ive had other girls in there help, explain just need help with heavy door and they asked if i need help washing my hands....all while speaking to me like Im a kid. 😅
I was in a wheelchair for less than 6 months and I remember people oh-so-comfortably setting their hands on the handles, some actually choosing to move me, and most who wanted to ask questions looked to my mother who was usually walking beside me during that time, like I couldn't communicate.
Not a wheelchair user but ive had a girl walk up to me, pat me on the head, and then steal a marshmellow before leaving and ive had a man walk up behim me, grab my shoulders , and then physically move me out of an aisle before. Like, seriously what do you say in those situations?!
for #3... people have, in fact, grabbed me by the shoulders and shoved me out of the way. it's a genre of old man where I live. like to call it the "world revolves around me" old men.
somebody stepped over me at a museum while i was in line for an interactive portion. his 3 kids followed. i had to wait longer because they ended up getting to the thing before i did... because they stepped over me. great stuff
@@mayrahemmerechts5867 nah, nobody did, and there weren't staff around. i didn't wanna make a fuss, so i just continued on, but i couldn't help but laugh. it was a touch ridiculous!
I actually have an ambulatory wheelchair user at my school. He also has a service dog but won’t tell me or any other kids about his disability and that’s ok! It’s his private information. But one day, some kids were bullying him because he can sometimes walk and get up from his wheelchair to move to his specialized seat. Thank you so much for normalizing this!❤❤
About 10 years ago when I started a new retail job, a big part of our onboarding training was centered around serving people with various kinds of disabilities-- I was SO impressed. While I don't remember the exact training, I DO recall it discussed never assuming that people with disabilities or mobility aids needed help-- how to politely ask if necessary, and of course how to remain respectful and assure every person their individual agency. My mom works in equity, so pretty much all stuff I knew... but I was so happy that this huge corporation was making sure EVERY employee had that education. ❤
I went to ren fair this year in a wheelchair (which was difficult as is cause the ground was all gravel and dirt) and many of the booth owners audibly sighed and rolled their eyes when they saw me entering their booth, and there were already booths I couldn't get into cause there was only stairs as an entrance, or the Isles were too close together so then when I could actually get in a booth that I was excited about and the owner was visibly upset about my existence? It was really frustrating. But there were some super understanding and accommodating people, who were helpful but not in a patronizing way, and they made it worth it
Hard relate! The NM Ren Faire is super accessible, and the board has educated vendors (and chosen not to include vendors who didn't improve). The Raleigh, NC SCA gathering is also really accessible. Unfortunately, shoppers at the Raleigh Costco have the worst depth perception of shoppers I have ever encountered. One man rolled his shopping cart into my service dog and proceeded to justify his behavior because he "thought he could fit"😒 My kid demonstrated they actually pay attention at my workshops, and taught an impromptu consent lesson that left the adult speechless and beet red. I was so proud.
Most wheelchair users or disabled people only became one later in life, they used to walk around normally like everyone else! Even if they were born this way we must remember that they are humans just like everyone else and just want to live and exist. I'm so sorry for your bad experience.
Speaking as someone with Cerebral Palsy who's also an ambulatory wheelchair user, thank you 300 times over for highlighting these issues. I once yelled at a guy for forcefully moving me out of the way in my chair at a Wal-Mart. Thankfully, the clerk who came upon the situation took my side and the guy was asked to leave the store.
@Ezio-ic5vc If that's your opinion, then that's your opinion, no judgement from me. However, in regards to what happened at Wal-Mart that day, I was in the middle of getting something off the low part of the shelf when the guy forcefully moved me out of nowhere.
Valid points on both sides. Yes, some folks are entitled and do overly occupy space when it's not necessary. Even as a handicapped person myself, I find that frustrating. In regards to the incident I mentioned, I would've much preferred that the guy politely asked me to move, as lezaandstuff mentioned, as opposed to being rudely and forcefully pulled away from the shelf, causing a big bag of bagels to go flying all the way across the isle.
Yes! My mom (she has passed now) had a wheelchair and she used it, we were doing a tour for the Niagara Falls and my mom got off of the wheelchair everytime she got on the bus, so my mom was behind a pregnant lady and the woman was asking the bus driver if she could have the wheelchair, something like “hey can I use the wheelchair? I’m pregnant and I think I deserve it more then *her*” So the bus driver said “oh ma’am, that’s a personal wheelchair, it’s not a public one” and the woman was like “😶” and then my mom was like *BoMbAsTiC sIdEeYe* I guess the lady didn’t notice my mom was behind her lmao! Btw the reason my mom used the wheelchair was because she has breast cancer in her bones, so sometimes it’s hard for her to walk.
Wtf 😭 the audacity to even SAY that??? People are so dense sometimes… I genuinely hope that her child that she raises ends up okay and not so ignorant…
I use a wheelchair and this absolutely happens. Have had people leap frog over me, move my chair and pat my head. 😂 Well. One time I got ice cream so I guess the head pat was worth it. But yes this happens. Had a woman climb over me. Let’s say she won’t do that no more. I sent her crashing to the floor. Oops 😂
As somebody who was in a wheelchair due to something that doesnt make it impossible to get up i hate it when people gape at you when ypu get up. I have tendonitis in my left knee and it got so bad at one point that i ended up using crutches at school, i ended up in valley (i behavioral facility mainly for suicide prevention) and they took my crutches away for safety purposes. I also hate how people would take and sit in the wheelchair that was provided for me when i had gotten up because it was a 'good day' as well as they would grab the wheelchair handles and push me around when i told then no and said i was fine on my own.
My mom is currently ambulatory and has been for about 3 years - her doctor only recently found what was keeping her in her chair: turned out she such bad arthritis in her hip that she needs a hip replacement.
Also, don't lean on the back of my chair! I literally had a stranger rest their hand on my chair. It's a power chair so it won't flip but it's still not good for it. My family does this too and it's annoying as hell. Very true about the ambulatory thing too. My condition mainly involves fatigue so I can walk with no visible issue, but only for about 5 minutes. edit: typo
So... treat people with respect? So sad that people need to hear this.
Ikr
1.8k likes and...... 1 comment? Just 1 comment
2.3k likes 2 comments mhm let me change that!!
It actually is sad people need to hear this
@@RikuStarzz_101are u actually kidding me…
The saddest part is that people need to be told these things
😢 so true PS. I liked your comment😊
@@mrsalexandrablahblahwhat is PS
@@Timothy_Lawson postscriptum
Fr in my country every one just gives a death stare for some reason
Bro this is fake
I’m an ambulatory wheelchair user & the stares, rude comments and straight harassment for standing or walking 3 steps? It’s so bad it makes me not want to walk or stand even when I can.
Being told I’m “faking it”, “should be ashamed of myself” etc. is so maddening. And what advantage do I get by faking that I need this multi-thousand dollar wheelchair? So I can get harassed in public? Argh!!
Last time I got tgat reaction at the grocery store I walked a few steps and yelled "Look! Your judgment has cured me!" She was not amused but the guy in the produce section was lol
If you need to move a wheelchair user. Here’s a step by step guide.
Step one: you’ve encountered someone in a wheelchair but you need to get past them
Step two: Get their attention a simple “excuse me”
Step three: watch as they politely move a bit
Step four: SAY THANKYOU
step five: go past or get what you needed
Step six: Be on with your day Politely.
So..like you would a non-wheelchair user? LOL
@@elizabethkidder3535exactly
Congratulations! You've now moved a wheelchair user.
The "pls dont jump over us..-" caught me off gaurd-
How did it get you of guard
Probably because that seems the most ridiculous of the rules? Like, who the heck is jumping over people like hurdles on the regular?! @@user-mg4gl4yg6h
@@user-mg4gl4yg6h DO YOU GET JUMPED OVER EVERYDAY?!
Just on the way with the bags😂
@@user-cr5wt1jp6gBAHAHAHHA
If somebody put their shopping bag on my wheelchair handle I would purposely go away when I notice.
When I was wheelchair bound, I would always do this. I'm a human being, not a shelf.
Same. Or I'd push the bag off depending on what's inside. If its like, bread and fruit, yes I'd push it off the chair handle, if it was fragile I'd just roll away with it still there too
YESSS SWEET REVENGE LOL 😂
@@I-am-invisible exactly
That pisses me off because it shows some people respect wheelchair users less than a stranger's shopping cart. Would anyone put anything on another person's shopping cart? No. But a wheelchair? Sure, apparently.
I agree with all of this. Every time my sister and I go out there will literally be people that stop what there doing or stop mid-sentence just to stare at us like we’re a part of the circus.
Maybe I should learn how to juggle 🤔 at least then I'll fit the part 🤡
What happens if you give a genuine friendly hello and wave? No sarcasm? I find genuine hellos break the tension in various positive ways.
@@trollsneedhugs i get your suggestion and don't disagree, but i don't think it should be on the shoulders of the disabled to make people not treat us like freaks
My mother is heavily disabled, she can't properly use her left side due to a traumatic brain injury, so she's also in a wheelchair.
We went to an aquarium in Bretagne, France and PARENTS were encouraging their children to go stand infront of the wheelchair / step over it. We also got weird looks from literal adults. These people need to grow up, it's so immature.
This doesn’t surprise me, I see French families do this to other people constantly at Disneyland paris when I go there (they say the Parisians are the most entitled people in all of France!)
....I cannot imagine someone thinking it was ok to just pat a stranger on the head because they're in a wheelchair?!?!
Pat on the head, touch our legs to see if we can feel it, grab our sholders, try to lift our feet with theirs to see if we have control of our legs yep. These are the ones that I have personally experienced because if you can feel your legs you dont need a wheelchair, you are faking it or you are just lazy. I have to use a wheelchair a little under half the time and a walker the rest(sometimes im lucky and for really short walks like into the gas station for a soda during a slow time where i wont have to stand for more than 3-4 minutes I can use a quad cane those are good days) it depends on how my body is that day, if I've recently had a surgery, how long my outing is, what the weather is like and a few other things or a combination of those as to whether I can manage on my feet or need my chair at that time. And being pushed out of the way, having random people put things on my lap or wheelchair handles because im sitting so whats the problem. One time at the mall someone put their bags 3 of them on my handle and I didnt notice and left that store to go to another one I got chased down and accused of stealing by a random stranger becuase they chose to use MY mobility aid as a rack to hang their stuff on.
@@briannahudson6329wow people are insane
Many assume if you have any disability you must also be extremely mentally disabled, so they treat us like toddlers. I don't see why anyone who isn't mentally disabled would assume "if your legs don't work that must affect the brain too" though.
it’s really surprising how entitled some people are.
@@BankruptMonkeysometimes being physically disabled *can* relate to being mentally disabled... but that's not always the case. I don't think the patting on the head in this video was like that though. It's more like a hug, trying to comfort the random stranger because they're different and disabled. 🤷♀️
im so glad you mentioned ambulatory users as well. As one myself, I’ve been told by multiple people that I was faking my chronic illnesses and at one point I had an older man follow me out of a store and ‘confront’ me and try to take my electric wheelchair. Like yes I understand that some people would really try to stoop that low and pretend to be disabled, but majority if not all of us are just trying to live our lives and use our accommodations accordingly based on our disabilities.
What the hell?! What did you say to him, that’s absolutely not okay
Wtf hes trying to steal that wheelchair, thats absolutly disgusting :[[[[
why did the man care so much? Jesus, he should have just minded his own business. you didn't deserve to be treated like that!
Had an older gentleman ask if I was going on a hike soon (I was using my cane when I should've been using my chair) and laughed? Bit even harder when he went out to his handicapped vehicle.
I'm sorry if this comes out as rude, as I'm just curious
How do ambulatory wheelchair users work?
Sorry for bad grammar😅
I'm autistic and sometimes I loose my brain connection to my body and stare randomly at nothing and sometimes it happens that there is people there.
One moment is like oh that's an interesting looking whatever(mostly the sky, some product in the supermarket or cool looking people) and the next moment is like what was I doing and actually three minutes have passed.
I don't know what happens but it feels like a CZcams video loading because my phone lost the internet connection.
i only talked to my great grandma at knee level because it hurt her neck to look up. The way some people can't comprehend that disabled people are still capable baffles me. It's like when someone discredits my Autism because I "look normal" like wtf
Conclusion : just act normal
Honestly some people need this lesson but yea I agree just act normal
Words to live by.
Wait so you guys don’t strap rocket engines to peoples wheel chairs?
@@Im_Politically_stupid_and_dumb hmmm that might be a good idea/jk
STOP- @@Im_Politically_stupid_and_dumb
I was in a wheelchair for 2 months due to a car accident, and the amount of times I got asked to do a wheelie, got stared at, and got pushed was insane.
Yeah… it’s a lot more than people would think
No Offenes but that would be pretty sick to see someone do a weely on a wheelchair even if it’s someone who doesn’t need one
Same
@@Iluvoldmenit is and I imagine there fun to do (I can't do a wheelie in my wheelchair) but it's not something people should really ask unless they know you. Getting asked constantly can be tiring on your mental state and arms.
The wheelie comment... so so so many times! So many people think it's so funny but it's so so repetitive
Number ten: dont sing ’’ IM STILL STANDINGGG AFTER ALL THIS TIME ’’
My sister stairs at wheelchair ppl for 30s, she called me and says "look, that person is in a wheelchair " and when i look, i try to be respectful as much as possible i told her " i don't think it is a good idea to stair at them for to long "😢
"You don't think it's a good idea to stare at them "for too long""". A better idea would be NOT to stare at them at all, don't you think.
@@gonegolding yes thanks for the advice 🙏
Bro frfr some middle schoolers did that to me when I had to get on my knees and fold the chair to get through a narrow passageway
They need to get rid of that pole there
Imagine your a wheelchair user and someone RANDOMLY JUMPS OVER YOU LIKE A RABBIT😭😭
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha oh my god BAHAHAHAHAHAH
Omg I would get scared and piss myself-
I'm not a wheelchair user but someone still did this to me🥲
short people can relate (from experience, I am very short), it's frigging terrifying
I did that to 4 people sitting down at sleepaway camp in summer 2019
I was only in a wheelchair temporarily but I was hit with soooo many purses. If you’re walking past a wheelchair user please be aware of your purse swinging
YES!!!! ALL THE TIME!!!! I have a hypersensitive nervous system and it freaking hurts.
I've had several people do this and someone just move me out of the way 🙃
do you have crps? it's like that, hope you have a lpd@@violetskies14
I’ve had one guy at an airport (a complete stranger) wheel me out of the way so he could talk to my mother as to why I was in the wheelchair because I was so young
@@alexcalderon1437bro imagine shoving a little kid away from their mother to talk to the mom that’s so damn stupid😭
I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user and I'm in highschool.
I could probably count on 1 hand the amount of times I've had students ask me why I'm pushing around an empty wheelchair.
I've only heard them make stupid or ignorant jokes like "Is that for me?" Once or twice.
It's ALWAYS the teachers 😐 every time.
I go to school twice a week for like 2 hours and I get AT LEAST one every week, and they are ALWAYS adults.... just goes to show the amount of misrepresentation of wheelchair users for so long.
Also people will CONSTANTLY try and lean on my handles IT'S NOT A SHOPPING CART 🗣👏
I can in fact feel it when you are touching my wheelchair. I can also feel it when you grab my shoulders or head after I told you the exact reason I need the chair is NERVE PAIN????? STOP GRABBING MY SHOULDERS!??!?!?
I am a person 💀
Just starts zooming with their shopping bag if they put it on your wheelchair.
if someone puts their bags on your wheelchair, leave. that's your bag now.
It's equivalent to just putting your belongings on top of another person. Which is incredibly inappropriate.
Omg that’s hilarious 😂
But a very good idea! 😊
Yessss 😂😂😂😂
1k likes lemma fix that!
@@interstellarpieceofmeatyeah or like hanging something on their clothes like 🤦🤦
😂that guy executed this so well
Absolutely
Did it like he has experience😭
That last jump too
Omg hi!! I know you!
It's her boyfriend, so he has probably seen most of these pretty often
THANK YOU FOR THE “NO TOUCHING”!!! I don’t use a wheelchair but I have seizures that make me fall to the ground involuntarily, and people think they can try and catch me by grabbing me by my shoulders, waist, and even neck and it only makes it much harder.
This hasn’t really happened to me, but imagine if I’m doing parkour and someone tries spotting me from a big drop and then gets hurt from my landing
@@nabranestwistypuzzler7019 Kinda like that, yeah!!
Im sorry that people touch you. it's very sad to see that people push you out the way I have surgery on my leg, so one part looks like it's dented, and I relate to the staring it's no fun
My best friend used a power chair. She also taught kindergarten, and every year the first time she would stand up from her chair her class would yell 'Miss Jones! You're healed!!' Every single year. She was always incredibly entertained by that.
Awww
That's funny 😂
😂😂😂
That’s pretty amusing to me😂
That's awesome
I know a girl who uses a wheelchair, I've known her since middle school, and she's an ambulatory wheelchair user. Sometimes when she stands up, people look at her like she's faking the need for a wheelchair. But according to her, the worst thing is when people see her walking and make fun of her for 'walking weird'. We actually ended becoming friends because we're both disabled and she heard someone say that about something I did because of my disability, and we just ended up ranting about ableists for hours haha.
Its so fucked up how people treat disabled people, and especially people who use wheelchairs. I hope all the wheelchair users out there are having a great day!! Fuck ableists!!!
Id be a lil surprised seeing a wheel chair but i dont gape. I do politely ask if they need help, they say no and i go on abt my day.
If i saw someone stand up i might stare a lil longer and then remember oh right some people can still walk and then again shrug and go abt my day.
For me tho its most lilely my adhd or autism thatd make me stare wayyyy longer wanting to see if i can figure out wheelchair functions compared to ones ive seen online and then also just in aw of how cool any particular chair might look. (Some are rlly cool! XD) if im caught on tht id just be embarassed and stutter through the fact i think their wheelchairs cool.
Or for her wondering for a minute abt her shoe ...stilt... prosthetic? Tho if it eas that id prolly catch myself after a sec and hope they didnt see me and walk off embarassed and anxious
And lastly i just tend to stare at anything i find cool, so if they had any cool hair or shirt or something id be starry eyed looking. But for those im most likely to come up and say tht i find said hair or shirt or etc rlly cool xD or just walk away thinking "wow tht guys cool!" (Oh and maybe their dog. Tho i wouldnt come up to bother the dog id prolly stare from far away cooing in my head abt how absolutely CUTE they are. But not wanting to get closer worried abt messing with them or them thinking i want to distract the dog rather then just asking what breed is it or so)
Ahahaha just a small note of me and why i might stare or something.
The people who GRAB wheelchairs and push or move or climb over or jump them is ASTOUNDUNG unless ur in a spot where thats expected (like ya knw how u climb over people in stadiums or bus/airplane sometimes) thats just unacceptable (lemongrab style). And even then wheelchair users usually have their own space for tht thing if their in the chair so still no reason for it.
Just SMH man. Dont jump over people pr grab them without permission. Omg
Wait why did you stop being friends??
@@phb2479 nah we're still friends
@alphabetiris4094 but you said "ended becoming friends"?
@@phb2479 oh, nah, I meant '*ended up* becoming friends', like we became friends
I had a life changing surgery. It was a bilateral Achilles tendon lengthening surgery. Because of the fact I was born with lesser muscles in my body. Also, I was born with multi-cystic-dysplastic kidney disease. Anyways I had always walked in my toes. Never used my heel. I couldn’t even put it on the ground. It prevented me from doing many things. I was bullied for just walking incorrectly. They decided I needed to have an operation. So after I was put in a wheelchair. I just started middle school. This was the most relatable video ever.❤
You'd be surprised by the amount of people who will push/grab strangers to move them
Its disappointing that people even need to be told this 🙁
I luv ur pfpp luv
That’s exactly what I was going to say, and it breaks my heart that people have to hear this in order to do it. Respect others!
Like seriously 😩
All of these are so unfathomably disrespectful 😭
How is kneeling disrespectful? Some people may have neck and back issues that make it easier for them to kneel down than look down.
@@seganaleqa you can come across as very derogatory, I think, and if you truly feel like they can’t hear, you just raise your voice if you’re not in a loud environment. You don’t have to be on someone’s exact level for them to be able to hear you
@@clairescritters4962 And what if someone has severe neck or back pain where they can’t even remotely look down at the person? Because it’s also considered disrespectful not to make eye contact or at least look in a person’s direction when talking to them. My friend is someone that has to kneel if she’s going to have a conversation with someone that’s sitting or is considerably shorter than her. Her neck is 100% stiff after a serious car accident. Just because she’s not in a chair, doesn’t mean she doesn’t have disabilities of her own.
@@seganaleqathen the person with the back and neck issues can communicate with the person they’re talking to so that they can find a respectful compromise.
I know, right??
Thank you so much for posting this I went through 6 months of my life as a part time wheelchair user because of a condition I have I went through the last 3 months of school being bullied purely because of my wheelchair and I got a lot of discomfort when I was at Disney world and there where lots of people who didn't know what to do with me so I was treated wrongly
Number 10. Do NOT shout “TIMMEH” when you see a wheelchair user, it’s just cruel
Great points! My 6 year old is in a wheelchair and I can’t tell you how many times he’s been pushed out of the way by other students who aren’t trying to be mean, but they just get excited sometimes. I spend 3 days a week at the school with my son so I get to talk to the kids a lot about it, but I wish more parents would teach this.
I've seen people do this! There was a kid that uses a wheelchair when I went to high school, and someone literally just pushed him away, I was so baffled I didn't get the chance to speak, they up and left. To lighten the mood, a funny one: I practice at a play center for disabled people (there's mostly kids there), and I didn't know how to roll the wheelchair (that kid has cerebral palsy and can't roll himself), it just felt so hard for some reason lmao, and I accidentally bumped his wheel into the door, thankfully lightly, and we laughed about it 😂. I love that kid haha.
One thing I learned in the miltary is, if they are telling you not to do it at the end of week safety brief. SOMEONE HAS ALREADY DONE IT. This video has safety brief vibes 🤦🏾♀️ we have to do better as a species.
I can't believe most of this stuff even needs to be clarified... I mean, I had a friend who used a wheelchair, but I never knew it was this bad god damn
I know right, who the hell is out there doing parkour with a stranger, it's like trying to jump over a kid, wtfffff
This video and the comments have given me so many ideas for what TO do next time I see someone in a wheelchair...😂
@@billybunter3753same! It gave me the idea to treat them with respect and kindness, just like I would to anyone else. ❤
@@billybunter3753
Exactly! Treating them like how you would normally, like a person. Being treated with niceness is always a good thing, I'm glad it's taught you well! :]
Why is nobody talking about how pretty she is?!💕
Thankyou for making this video! As a wheelchair user I understand and have experienced most of these plus a thousand more I bet, people can be so rude and disrespectful, no idea what damage they can cause if are wheelchair tops over and we fall out ect
As an ambulatory wheelchair user this is the most accurate depiction of what we face daily!!! ❤❤❤
So you can only stand for short periods?
@@KingBananvryes 😊 I can’t stand for long and some days are worse than others so I can’t stand at all. I get a lot of looks and comments if I’m out in my wheelchair and I stand up to do something!
@@georginafg3626 ok thanks for letting me lnow
I went to school with a girl who has cerebral palsy. She was unable to walk. Our gym teacher let me and a few other girls fast walk so she could keep up and be in a group. She was always really nice to everyone. Shes thriving and engaged!
❤ that’s so kind!
i do like when people get on my level, when im standing i like to get on the level of others to show respect (specially children) and also it helps me understand better what they're saying
THIS IS SO TRUE! Like can people actually not crouch down cause it just makes it awkward for everyone
I remember being 7 and seeing my first ever disabled person. I was confused and scared but they smiled so i smiled back. My mother was getting her eyes checked and i sat down, later someone came and sat next to me, i hadn't been told what it meant but in the end it was all good. they explained it and ended up braiding my hair after it fell out. i hope that guy is ok
Maybe don't describe disabled people like that.. I'm not trying to be rude but you make us sound like we're rare animals or something
I disagree with the owners comment on people actually looking at someone who's looking at disabled people out of curiosity and then wondering how their life is, because I'm sure this person has stared at "non-disabled" people before no matter the reason. It is probably a pet peeve, but no reason to try and control how someone stares, because unless they're being a pervert and whistling at her or something morally wrong, I don't see how for example what you did curiously staring, was any wrong. Ignore others who say stuff like this🍕, because listening to them won't make your life any easier, stare with innocence like you did as a child, and you're good. ❤😊
@@KalaborX indeed
@@Solarisss_ fair enough
@@KalaborXbut why stare with curiosity like it's a special treasure or smt weird out of world? It's not a nice experience to be stared at for a while. I get that you mean it with the more freeing from limits way "do what you want", just not for long enough to make the other person think the person staring will kidnap them 😂 Staring is nice (when it's distinctive) sometimes when you like what you see or just didn't happen to see someone like whtv u saw.
The only strange encounter I had with a wheelchair user was at a pharmacy. I was just about to turn the corner of an aisle as he was coming toward me. I didn't see him & jumped back so as not to fall over him & his chair. He said, "I'm sorry if I scared you." I replied, "You didn't scare me, I just didn't see you." I'm 6' tall & when I'm walking, I look straight ahead. A lot of times I don't see kids either. We laughed at what just happened, talked for a few minutes, & then said our goodbyes.
This was so wholesome😭
Lol when I was a kid I used to be confused as to how people tripped on things, because I wasn't tall enough yet to look straight ahead and not see the floor. It was weird realizing later on that I did the same thing when I got a little bit taller. I'm 5'4" now, for context.
wholesome interaction 10/10
Chill guy
Can confirm this story is true bc I'm 5'2 and my brother is 6'2. He's tripped on me at least three times bc he didn't see me.
Either that or he was just being an ass, lmfao
I’m blind and several of these apply to me as well. Also, I love wheelies so much. I have some great wheelie friends. Good thing about being blind though, I can’t see them staring at me so I can’t really give a shit
"Don't crouch down to eye level to speak to us....we're not children."
Sorry, not sorry. I will continue to crouch down and speak at eye level regardless if you're a child, short person, or wheelchair user. This will be done for my own comfort, not yours. I want to hear you accurately and make sure I'm giving you my full attention, especially when it's important.
Since I lose focus easily, this method saves us time because I don't process what people are saying. If I'm just nodding and not asking questions or looking at you, chances are I'm merely giving the polite motions to placate you and waiting to move on (shorter wait span than an argument about me not caring about the topic you're interested in).
All the rest, spot on. Just remember that even though it looks like I'm staring, I'm trying to solve my problem without causing you more problems while I contemplate if the item I'm looking for is in your vacinity.
I was a helper in 9th grade summer school for kindergarteners and about 3 kids were in a wheelchair, the kids treated them with so much respect! It was so wholesome 😊
I know you had good intentions writing this comment but to me it sounds a bit weird to call it wholesome that children treat each other with respect?
@@a.little.blurry reading too deep
Daniel Tiger be raising better children than some people's physically present parents 25 years ago, apparently?
Clearly not, alas. Look at the video we just watched @@a.little.blurry
I have a family member who uses a wheelchair because of a hip issue. People can be so rude sometimes to wheelchair users. Thank you for spreading info like this!
When bro saw her stand up he looked like that Spider-Man meme
i remember when my grandpa got his leg amputated, he was in a wheelchair. we went to Walmart often, but we didn't know how to get the wheelchair in and out of the car. so we relied on those electric baskets. people took them even if they weren't disabled. it was sad because he loved shopping. he died in 2018.
I’m a wheelchair user and I’m realizing how lucky I’ve been with people I’ve encountered. I really haven’t dealt with anything on this list, other than potentially a bit of staring. People have been respectful to me and I’m thankful for that.
yeah I can't even imagine anyone doing this who raised these people???
@@SokkenEterThe same people that raise litterers and people that cut in line. Like… how do you raise a child like that and go “Mm. Seems fine.”
#10 Don't assume we need your help without asking (people will "help" and treat us like infants)
Seriously, I’m in wheelchair and people open doors for me constantly and one time I finally was able to open it myself and someone was a few metres away and said in a baby voice “Your such a clever girl!” While bending down to my level and I just felt so disgusted
People are just trying to be nice they don’t mean to hurt you
@@Matt_09yeah. That’s why this person is telling people to not do that. They were not blaming the people who do.
@@saintoncorps8449 Are you suggesting people shouldn’t open doors for wheelchair users? (serious question from a disabled, non-wheelchair user)
@@divergentdreameras another non-disabled(that has online disabled friends) a general guide is not helping them until they ask. Or if they r in a position where you'd help a non-disabled person(like if someone fell down and is struggling to get up idd help a non-disabled person with that too) just try to treat them like you would treat a normal person, do u normally hold doors open for people? Also do it for disabled people. If not, don't. Do you normally invite friends or family for activities? Invite the disabled ones too. If they say they cannot go, don't stop asking them to come to these events, unless they ask you to stop asking. Hope this helps:)
I’ve been a wheelchair user all of my life (not ambulatory), and I’ve literally never had any of these things happen to me. Except maybe stares. Which I don’t really notice anymore.
As a person that always said "if its not mine its not my responsibility" i will do this everytime i see a person in a wheelchair
Conclusion: treat us how you treat anyone else
As someone who has a mum that uses a wheelchair, I’m so glade we haven’t had many issues. She can walk but not for long. So she needs it.
Wheelchair doesn’t mean paralysed. Wish more people understood that.
Yes... Same with my aunt. She has muscular dystrophy and has the physical ability to stand, but cannot for long, and especially in new, different environments where she doesn't have her surroundings memorized. I'm not saying it's the only one, but muscular dystrophy is way too un-talked about, it's a lifelong disability and has no cure, which is very sad! Especially when you're diagnosed as a young teenager and it's already severe to the point you can't even drive at 18.
It's good that someone talks up about this like I do this to random people aswell as wheelchair users and just go up to them and say I hope you have a good day because everyone deserves to hear it
People have no idea of basic respect. My Brother used a wheelchair. I try to make eye contact if they seem too be open to a smile. Don't ignore the person in a wheelchair.
Some people are saying that there's "no way this actually happened to her", and clearly y'all must have perfect lives lmao. There are absolutely people like that out there. Those are the kind of people that park their shopping carts in the middle of the isle and don't move when they see you coming. Those are the type of people who shove past you or push you aside like you're not even there. Those are the people that grab things out of your shopping cart.
Right??? Like I've seen people do awful and weird shit to able bodied people, hell I've experienced it. And even some of my disabled friends will discuss shit they have to put up with. These people clearly have just not been around enough disabled people or simply haven't experienced rude human beings ever.
the ppl saying that probably have done it
Ambulatory user here, the hardest thing for me is that I choose not to get a handicapped placard because I feel others need it more and it's often a crap shoot if I can get handicapped parking anyway.. it sometimes gets annoying when I need to go shopping and I can't get parking closer to the doors and have to walk from several stalls away. It's even more annoying when they cut my boyfriend/driver off and steal the spot, only to see them walking out from their cars perfectly fine. I can't say that I've acted like that when I was well, so I know it's not karma, but the things I've come to realize when I became impaired! I was the people greeter at Walmart who went against policy to ensure my customers had access to the E-carts, it wasn't pleasant, but I felt the need to emphasize to kids and young adults who didn't really need it to consider those that do.
It’s because she’s uploading it for clicks so no one really believes her
@@Roach9373 Shes uploading it to spread awareness. Not everything on the internet is done for popularity
My sister uses a wheelchair and I can’t tell you how many people stop to stare at her when we are out in public. 😅❤
Do something about it
Stare right back, stare like their staring at you or stare even harder at them. Make them feel how it feels.
FR.. as someone who's used a walker, crutches and a wheelchair, I've been stared at my entire life-
Same im in wheelchair
@ganforever5568 no FR I cracked a bone in my left leg, and I was in a wheelchair for a while, and at the hospital I literally was stared at by the many kids there 💀
Listen i can’t take this seriously after i saw the face u made during number 6 💀
Number 6 in general is hilarious 2 me 😭
THANK YOU!! so many people ask why I’m sometimes in a wheelchair if I can walk!! Like - most people just use it to get from place to place- it’s not that rare
Thank you for making this! As an ambulatory wheelchair user I can relate to SO many of these! Never been patted on the head.. But people grabbing my handles is one of the most common issues. I made it abundantly clear how damn rude that was and how I felt about it. The gawking when I stand, or psycho Karen's going "You don't need that chair!" is rare, but has happened.. It's so frustrating how ignorant and rude some folks can be.
"DON'T TOUCH US!" - I stand behind this 100000%, randomly being grabbed is unnerving and just.. ugh!
Exactly like I do need my wheelchair dumb ass why else would I have it!! 0:00
For shits and giggles, obviously XD That's why we're all in wheelchairs, didn't you get the memo? :O It's not our spine, or legs, or brain or anything, nope! @@jessecarlos5665
Same, when I was hospitalized and my leg is weak (Because of tremor and medicine injections), I can only stand up for a bit, sometime when I go around the hospital, I stood up/get off my wheelchair to do some stuffs, like going in the toilet (The toilet for disabled people are in use), when I was using the sink on the hall (The sink's high and I was short at the moment), a person came to me, yelled at me, called me rude words, and took away my wheelchair, after around 30 sec? He was still in the hallway, looking at me, I fell down and my IV got de-attached from my hand, luckily that person got kicked out of the hospital.
I am a wheelchair user to
That is disappointing that she had to say don’t jump over us 💀💀💀💀💀
Yeah like wth ? Whoever did this had wild thoughts he listened to
@@j3hope673 Fr 💀
Never occurred to me that an idiot would jump over a wheelchair user.
@@Kitty76037they let the intrusive thoughts win.
I really struggle with picking things up from the ground due to my own physical problems… but never have I EVER considered hanging anything of mine on someone else’s chair what the fuck!?
I have a wheelchair dad aunt and cousin and I get mad when people stare like they are not human..
For the four weeks I was in a wheelchair (anesthesia accident left my right ankle paralyzed, unable to walk for those first four weeks and I later "graduated", as my doctor called it, to a cane for about 2-3 months), I was treated so weirdly. I often had people asking to ride on the back of it and people pushing me out of the way. It was very bizarre.
Since then, I've learned to treat all wheelchair users with respect. It's weird when I see others pull this sh!t too. It's so easy to just.. let that person exist??
Fr😔
There was a girl in my lego club in high school who was in a wheelchair. Well, one time one of the other kids parents showed up for...something? But this mom needed to get around her I guess, so she literally, like, grips the top of her head like she's a fucking, I don't even know. Like she's a table top? And then slides her wheelchair forward BY THE TOP OF HER HEAD. While saying some bullshit like "Sorry, just need to get around you real quick." Like Bitch?! You are touching her head! She didn't even just be disrespectful by grabbing her wheelchair and moving her that way, she just grabbed the top of her head to push her forward. It was one of those moments where everyone's eyes just widen but you don't know what to say because it's just so crazy.
Jeez! I hope that girl and/or her family got to yell at that asshole mom or something to get justice. That’s beyond disrespectful, i hope the girl is mentally okay after having to deal with such an absolute nitwit like that 🤦♂️🤦♂️
That bitch! That mom NEEDS to see this video to learn some respect! I hope she's okay after that tramatic part of her life!
Omg. Call cps
@@melodystarlight7933 the poster isn’t in this place anymore to my knowledge, also the mom wasn’t the mom of the girl, so cps cant do anything if its some random person being rude to someone they dont know. Cps is for domestic child abuse. 👍
@@melodystarlight7933cps is horrible,they will do nothing.
But one thing you can do is ask.. "Do you need any help moving?" If they look like they ACTUALLY need help,
I once helped a old wheelchair woman as a female when their husband couldn't go into the bathroom, i felt bad and thought they needed help, and they did! I felt good doing that:D
i haven’t ever thought of, seen, or heard of these things in my nearly 19 years of living and i’m so sorry that this needs to be posted and shared, people need to have more respect.
Number 8 and shouting "it’s a miracle! The lord is with us right here right now!“ 😂
Thank you for your great insight and educating! ❤️
It's disgusting that people act like this.
When they use the baby voice with you.... I usually have friends help me with bathroom doors. The few times ive had other girls in there help, explain just need help with heavy door and they asked if i need help washing my hands....all while speaking to me like Im a kid. 😅
I can't believe people would pat anyone on the head. Treat people with respect. If a wheelchair user is blocking the way, ask them to move.
I was in a wheelchair for less than 6 months and I remember people oh-so-comfortably setting their hands on the handles, some actually choosing to move me, and most who wanted to ask questions looked to my mother who was usually walking beside me during that time, like I couldn't communicate.
That's fucked up...
This… This is like the most BASIC human decency.
Are people really this bad?
“You can walk like, 5 steps outside of your wheelchair, so clearly you don’t need it for the rest of the 800+ steps of this trip to the store.”
Thank you for spraying awareness of what we should not do
Not a wheelchair user but ive had a girl walk up to me, pat me on the head, and then steal a marshmellow before leaving and ive had a man walk up behim me, grab my shoulders , and then physically move me out of an aisle before.
Like, seriously what do you say in those situations?!
Are you short, because I have it happen cause I'm short
@@key14ful 5'3 unfortunately :C
@@key14fulyeah im short and bc of that people do just randomly pat my head
for #3... people have, in fact, grabbed me by the shoulders and shoved me out of the way. it's a genre of old man where I live. like to call it the "world revolves around me" old men.
i have a problem with just staring at random people and i put in so much effort to specifically NOT stare at disabled people
somebody stepped over me at a museum while i was in line for an interactive portion. his 3 kids followed. i had to wait longer because they ended up getting to the thing before i did... because they stepped over me. great stuff
The museum staff should have kicked them out or at least have forced them to go back to the back of the line! Did they not see what happened?
@@mayrahemmerechts5867 nah, nobody did, and there weren't staff around. i didn't wanna make a fuss, so i just continued on, but i couldn't help but laugh. it was a touch ridiculous!
I actually have an ambulatory wheelchair user at my school. He also has a service dog but won’t tell me or any other kids about his disability and that’s ok! It’s his private information. But one day, some kids were bullying him because he can sometimes walk and get up from his wheelchair to move to his specialized seat. Thank you so much for normalizing this!❤❤
I keep it a secret too! 0:00
@@jessecarlos5665you have done the first double emoticon i've EVER seen in my life and what i mean by that is you did this 0:0
About 10 years ago when I started a new retail job, a big part of our onboarding training was centered around serving people with various kinds of disabilities-- I was SO impressed. While I don't remember the exact training, I DO recall it discussed never assuming that people with disabilities or mobility aids needed help-- how to politely ask if necessary, and of course how to remain respectful and assure every person their individual agency. My mom works in equity, so pretty much all stuff I knew... but I was so happy that this huge corporation was making sure EVERY employee had that education. ❤
The fact that people still need to hear this...
The last one was funny the guy went yeet the way he jumped over her😂😂
I went to ren fair this year in a wheelchair (which was difficult as is cause the ground was all gravel and dirt) and many of the booth owners audibly sighed and rolled their eyes when they saw me entering their booth, and there were already booths I couldn't get into cause there was only stairs as an entrance, or the Isles were too close together so then when I could actually get in a booth that I was excited about and the owner was visibly upset about my existence? It was really frustrating. But there were some super understanding and accommodating people, who were helpful but not in a patronizing way, and they made it worth it
Hard relate!
The NM Ren Faire is super accessible, and the board has educated vendors (and chosen not to include vendors who didn't improve).
The Raleigh, NC SCA gathering is also really accessible.
Unfortunately, shoppers at the Raleigh Costco have the worst depth perception of shoppers I have ever encountered. One man rolled his shopping cart into my service dog and proceeded to justify his behavior because he "thought he could fit"😒
My kid demonstrated they actually pay attention at my workshops, and taught an impromptu consent lesson that left the adult speechless and beet red.
I was so proud.
Most wheelchair users or disabled people only became one later in life, they used to walk around normally like everyone else! Even if they were born this way we must remember that they are humans just like everyone else and just want to live and exist. I'm so sorry for your bad experience.
Speaking as someone with Cerebral Palsy who's also an ambulatory wheelchair user, thank you 300 times over for highlighting these issues. I once yelled at a guy for forcefully moving me out of the way in my chair at a Wal-Mart. Thankfully, the clerk who came upon the situation took my side and the guy was asked to leave the store.
@Ezio-ic5vc If that's your opinion, then that's your opinion, no judgement from me. However, in regards to what happened at Wal-Mart that day, I was in the middle of getting something off the low part of the shelf when the guy forcefully moved me out of nowhere.
@Ezio-ic5vc"excuse me, could you please move out of the way?" or whatever you would say to someone who doesn't need a wheelchair
Valid points on both sides. Yes, some folks are entitled and do overly occupy space when it's not necessary. Even as a handicapped person myself, I find that frustrating. In regards to the incident I mentioned, I would've much preferred that the guy politely asked me to move, as lezaandstuff mentioned, as opposed to being rudely and forcefully pulled away from the shelf, causing a big bag of bagels to go flying all the way across the isle.
Her standing up really caught me off gaurd😭
I'm a wheelchair user to! I hate when people step in front of me😤😡
Horrid that respect and common sense aren't innate to some. Hopefully this reaches its target audience and willing ears.
Yes! My mom (she has passed now) had a wheelchair and she used it, we were doing a tour for the Niagara Falls and my mom got off of the wheelchair everytime she got on the bus, so my mom was behind a pregnant lady and the woman was asking the bus driver if she could have the wheelchair, something like “hey can I use the wheelchair? I’m pregnant and I think I deserve it more then *her*”
So the bus driver said “oh ma’am, that’s a personal wheelchair, it’s not a public one” and the woman was like “😶” and then my mom was like *BoMbAsTiC sIdEeYe* I guess the lady didn’t notice my mom was behind her lmao!
Btw the reason my mom used the wheelchair was because she has breast cancer in her bones, so sometimes it’s hard for her to walk.
Wtf 😭 the audacity to even SAY that??? People are so dense sometimes… I genuinely hope that her child that she raises ends up okay and not so ignorant…
@@itsjackiehere me too
I use a wheelchair and this absolutely happens. Have had people leap frog over me, move my chair and pat my head. 😂
Well. One time I got ice cream so I guess the head pat was worth it. But yes this happens. Had a woman climb over me. Let’s say she won’t do that no more. I sent her crashing to the floor. Oops 😂
This is absolutely WILD that this has to be said
It blows my mind that people actually do this...I pray people will learn how to respect people how they want to be respected. ❤
As somebody who was in a wheelchair due to something that doesnt make it impossible to get up i hate it when people gape at you when ypu get up. I have tendonitis in my left knee and it got so bad at one point that i ended up using crutches at school, i ended up in valley (i behavioral facility mainly for suicide prevention) and they took my crutches away for safety purposes. I also hate how people would take and sit in the wheelchair that was provided for me when i had gotten up because it was a 'good day' as well as they would grab the wheelchair handles and push me around when i told then no and said i was fine on my own.
My mom is currently ambulatory and has been for about 3 years - her doctor only recently found what was keeping her in her chair: turned out she such bad arthritis in her hip that she needs a hip replacement.
Its so sad how peoplw need to talk about this stuff
I can’t believe people even have to say not to do this! This is basic common sense 🤦♀️
Also, don't lean on the back of my chair! I literally had a stranger rest their hand on my chair. It's a power chair so it won't flip but it's still not good for it. My family does this too and it's annoying as hell. Very true about the ambulatory thing too. My condition mainly involves fatigue so I can walk with no visible issue, but only for about 5 minutes.
edit: typo
"Would you grab a non wheelchair person by the shoulders and move them away"
yes, yes i woud
The fact that people actually do these things is unbelievable 😮