This is What Happens When You Settle!
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- čas přidán 25. 05. 2020
- In this episode of #HowMarriedAreYou, what we're really diving into is a discussion on settling. We chime in on the scenario's of two women hopeful for love in a relationship, and even talk about our own struggles of what settling might look like in marriage.
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Aye home girl snapped on the song lol that was dope
Facts put a big smile on my face
Loved that the caller rapped her intro. That was nice!
Loved it too! ❤️
You can speak truth with love and kindness. I think you guys hold back so much truth for fear of not being loving enough. People write to you or call in for advice/watch/listen to you because we want to hear what you have to say, not a watered down version of the truth. I watch/listen to all of your platforms so I do appreciate your voice. I just would appreciate hearing what is really on your mind.
I agree 💯!!
Serena Reyes I agree
AGREE‼️ dont served in questions if you don’t want the truth 🤷🏾♀️
Waiting with expectation is a whole different ball game when God broke it down for me.
I had been praying for something for months and was starting to get frustrated. But one day as I was looking out the window for the nth time for a package I ordered from the store, I had a moment of God. Where God said its just like this. As in there's no reason to keep looking out the window every other hour to see if my package arrived knowing full well that I have trust in the postal system and the store that it's on its way. So I stopped looking out the window.
Funny thing is that the package, in this corona times, came a month later. Not in front of my doorstep like I expected but in my p.o box.
God basically said it's the same with what I had been praying for. And it may not arrive when I want nor how I expected it to, but it's on its way.
Yvonne Yukon what a great example! Amen, thanks for sharing!
The bible says judge righteous judgements, I commend Patt. We are to be as iron sharpening iron so we sharpen the countenance of our friends. Let's not withhold the truth for we may save them and hide a multitude of sins ❤ I too struggle with this in my life but I pray that we will become lovers of the truth may we may uphold it 🙏🏽🔥
friendly side note: Sex before marriage (fornication) is in scripture. Check out 1st Corinthians 6, one of many.
much love!
Thank you 😊 I was about to leave the same comment bc it is important to know that YES it is addressed and is clearly defined as sin.
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
Yeahhh she killed that!! I loved seeing Glen's face light up when she created her own version of his rap.
I don't usually comment, but I gotta say something lol. I love you guys and this podcast!
I appreciate so much that you all chose to tell your fellow believer a hard truth instead of a pleasant lie, which is not judgment it's simply accountability and honesty. Call a spade a spade. You can't write to a Christian podcast, tell them you're actively living in sin and expect them not to give you a biblical answer. Glad you guys did the righteous thing.
Amen
I wanted to hear Pat's view more extensively. It could have been helpful to not only the person asking for advice but others watching.
Pat came thru with the REAL!! And now I want to go to his church.
To the first caller: BOUNDARIES! I'm sorry you got rejected by this guy. So many Christian relationships are undefined where the woman is waiting for the guy to make a move while both are enjoying the benefits of a relationship without the commitment or responsibility. So, he conveniently told you he wasn't feeling it AFTER you guys messed around/had sex? He played you. Church unfortunately doesn't hold men accountable but it's the women who are shamed for being thirsty. The woman is told to be submissive and wait for the guy to lead her while the man knows he can literally play the field until he is ready to settle down. There is no harm in calling him out - What's going on here? Do you like me? - he already knows what he wants, don't let him waste your time.
Heal from your past hurts and don't let these two guys play on your feeling of inadequacy. Within a Christian context where it seems men will get away with murder before women are given a break for being normal, guard your heart from the lies (or inaction) of these men. Know your worth and the right guy will too. He'll be willing and patient to help you work through your insecurities with you instead of doubting yourself ❤
Well said 💚
LOVE THIS!!!❤❤
Perfect 👌🏾
Wow, powerful response!
Glen and Yvette, the way you both tackled that last conversation and called in Pat for counsel was admirable.
I needed to hear this as a single woman and appreciate your advice on the topic of settling.
awwwww I loveeee that the first caller rapped! that was so cute!
Listen the pettiness at the end with saying '..and that's just how married we are." ..had me falling off my chair..😆 🤣 😂
When y’all said “GENESIS!” together?! Awwww MAN LOL!
🗣🗣OH OH OHHHHHH! GO DINA! GO DINA! GO DINA!!! 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Rhymes were tight!
Wowowow y’all dragged me right along side the last homegirl. I appreciate that y’all didn’t sugar coat the advice though because it all needed to be said. I think it’s really important to remember that we can’t even lead without first being led by Him AND following through with our actions. (And it’s really not our place to judge others) I’ve been there before where I judged a guy because he wasn’t living according to the Word when I was right alongside him being sinful 🥴 this episode was my favorite even though I think I need a neck brace now 😂 I pray that the girl who wrote in felt convicted, yet encouraged! Thanks again 💜
I remember me and my brother and sister. They were playing Uncle and Auntie to my Babies (dolls and stuffies). They were so serious, lol. Now we're 32, 29 and 28. ❤️
Yvette: Oh, I see what you trying to do, give the people some hope.
Glen: Well yeah, I wouldn't want to be single out here either.
Me: 😭😭😭😭
Also Me: I feel y'all!
And yes, I am already typing.
Lol Damn, y'all good. 😂
On a more serious note, I am a happy single woman. However I am "actively" waiting on my King.
Thank you for this podcast.
I never miss an episode. 🔥
I love your family!
Yes to being happily single while actively waiting for a King ❤️
@@HowMarriedAreYouPodcast ❤❤
@@Mrg524 🥰❤
What is this dating forever? It shouldn't take 3 years to know if you want to be with this person. Check the big 4: spirituality, character, integrity and chemistry. Experience those things over all the seasons and holidays. Most people can't be fake that long. Good luck to lady NY. Don't give up on love or what God has for you.
A relationship must be Godly from the Genesis (pun intended). Be ye not unequally yoked. But, how do you know who you are equally yoked with, if you are not already operating from God in your singleness? She was talking about leading him spiritually, but it sounds like she needs to get herself right spiritually. It is awesome to be single, if you are whole. It is also rewarding and enriching to develop a Godly relationship with someone who is already whole. However, two broken people form a demonic soul tie, which is a horrible, feeble way to live! Listen to your spirit, break free from the soul tie, and GROW.
Grow to love God, yourself, and others. Grow to discern between the Godly and the demonic. It will eventually feel wonderful! You will feel healthier in your spirit, your mind, and even your body.
So it goes: A person must be whole and Godly, in order to connect with another whole and Godly person, and develop a Godly relationship. And, if a person is whole and Godly in their singleness, they will not wait miserably for a relationship or force one to happen (which results in soul ties). Rather, they will live vibrantly, thrivingly, patiently, and live out God’s will, knowing that God may or may not call them to marriage, and being at peace with with that. I know that it is easier said than done, but I challenge you to become well and Godly in your singleness. You will feel more alive, make better choices, and feel God emanating from you. And will praise God for it! In love...
Love, Love, Love that! #facts!
From Pastor Todd telling me to rip up my list to Glen telling me to write out my list! What to dooooo? I'm confused! lololol #loveyall
😂😂😂😂
U jux spoke my mind
I saw Pastor Todd's Rip Up Your List sermon. Honestly, his word (to me) is for young, mostly baby Christians. The word says to write the vision and make it plain. There's nothing wrong with a list. The issue becomes when you list is full or superficial things that will change over time while ignoring character traits.
Relationship #2- While Yvette is reading, Glen's expressions are priceless....
Lol go girl with the rap you did that ! I can relate thanks for sharing your story. ❤ The. Ending "that's just how married we are was funny". Can't wait till Thursday!
I don’t think they necessarily have to break up but a season of distancing themselves in order to gain closer relationship with God. Your relationship with God should always come first so that it sets a path for your relationship. If you find it hard to respect Gods wishes you’re probably gonna find it hard to respect his. Sis we all fall but it’s how we get back up. She deserves a husband who she can trust seeks God and then follows in the steps God has pointed out, and the bible is how God speaks to us. And they both deserve people who are gonna respect each other’s relationship with God enough to not want to be a stumbling block. It’s tough out here but #protectyalife
I love you guys. You know I do. Long time follower but, I am 32. I've always wanted to be married with several kids. It's been my dream my whole life. I have the list. I've prayed without ceasing, hoped, prepared ect. For some reason, God still wants me to wait.
It is PAINFUL. I feel like a mother without her kids and a wife without her husband. Its heartbreaking, truly.
But I've kept myself and am following God, I do not want to step outside his will.
But IT HURTS Me, when I hear people giving instructions about what to do when they are already married (and married much younger) or younger people (25, 26, 27) telling me what to do and how to feel. There is a MASSIVE divide between a female longing to be married at 25 and wanting to be married at 32. HUGE.
The experiences are completely different.
So it is very painful and a little insulting hearing it from people who haven't experienced it, not to say they can't give true advice but they they can't give advice based on experience.
Obviously this doesn't relate to the latter part of this segment, after all, she asked, but just in general. I hear this a lot.
yes, but is what they said wrong? sometimes we just have to check our hearts and make sure that these desires are not idols.
Bryana’s Confessions I don’t think she’s saying they did anything wrong. I think she’s saying Glenn and Yvette don’t know the struggle of being single in their 30s so it would have difficult to receive encouragement from someone that can’t relate. It’s easy for Glenn and Yvette to tell people to stay encouraged but they’re married and have children a life that a lot of singles desire. It’s hard to stay encouraged being single in your 30s or 40s when you’re trying to honor God by surrendering your desires to Him but it feels like God’s forgotten about you. No shade towards Glenn and Yvette because I know they’re coming from a good place but they admitted it sucks to be single in this day and age.
Serena Reyes I get that that’s what she was saying. I just don’t see what that has to do with what the Bible says. Maybe I lack the grace and experience. I’ve been single my entire life. Never kissed or dated a guy. (I’m 25). I do desire marriage and kids but I ultimately want what God desires for me. What they (Glenn and Yvette) said was not wrong. And I’m sure that someone who is single and desires to be married would say the SAME thing. The issue is with how you’re receiving it and I say that as lovingly as possible.
I understand how you may feel but sometimes hearing advice from someone who hasn't walked the same path gives you insight to things you may not know or thought of. Case in point we see life from a eye level view while the Father sees it from all sides and beginning to end. He didn't have to go through everything we did in order to give us the word He used others to help guide us on the path. I believe that is what Yvette and Glen do, they share their christian perspective and provide mirrors to help our blind spots.
And I knew the struggle too. I got married at 33 and now 35. You won't like what I have to say but babygirl you don't understand the weight of marriage. Your single season helps you draw into further intimacy with the Father. And its not that us married folk don't understand, it's actually the opposite. There are things we wish we could have changed and taken advantage of prior to marriage. Those who desire marriage don't understand the weight of marriage and the role a wife or husband plays. Right now is the perfect time for you to focus on pleasing the Lord and enjoying a cup of coffee, tea, grabbing your Bible and indulging in the goodness of the Lord without having to attend to children or a husband. When married your time is cut and the busyness of life takes over and moves Yeshua to the bottom of the list along with soul care. Right now no one is fighting for your time and you can invest in Him. Enjoy this season and understand that if marriage is truly a deep desire reflect on whether that desire takes the place of the Father? Is He enough for you? And if not then honestly you're not ready for marriage. Feeling down is okay because I know that same pain but my marriage came when I accepted the fact that it may never happen and that Christ would be enough. And the only way to know He is enough is to go deeper with the Lord.
@@Luvisbeautiful2 firstly, NO ONE understands the weight of marriage TILL they are married and I am certain you didnt either.
It's not possible to do that. As for understanding the roles and the weight of fatherhood, please don't assume you know what I know (this sounds aggressive unfortunately, that's not at all how I mean it so please forgive me. Tone is hard to convey through text). I have spent years learning about the role of a man and a father, the role of a woman and Gods blueprint for marriage but experience only comes when you can put what you have learnt into reality.
You've said you got married at 33 so I WELCOME your experience and your advice, MAINLY because you not only understand marriage more than I but you also know what it's like be (I'm assuming) be married later than you thought you would.
That kind of experience and knowledge is welcome but I'm just saying that it is incredibly frustrating when people who have not had this experience tries to tell you how you should feel and what you should do when they were never in the same position and can never understand how you feel.
God understands. He UNDERSTANDS everything we feel, afterall, He gave us emotions, He created us, He knows our heart, He loves us most, of course he understands. To compare God to us makes little sense tbh.
Just speaking solely about those who haven't walked in our shoes. I'm not going to 'give advice' to married folk (because I have no idea) and I ask for the same level of understanding and respect.
DISCLAIMER: This is not directed to Yvette and Glen. People have actually ASKED them, so they have every right to answer.
This is more directed at those to whom the question was NEVER asked.
2nd caller is a hypocrite plain and simple. She thinks that they're unequally yoked because of his ignorance. But she knows better and has absolutely no conviction for her sin. They BOTH need to start from scratch in learning and applying the word to their lives individually as well as a unit. I think it's a blessing she wrote in so that she can hear her doublemindedness out loud.
Hmmmmmm Genesis - I burst out laughing. I pray God will help them make the right decisions. It’s hard out here in these streets but we be knowing when we be tripping and telling the HS that ain’t it!!!
When they both said GENESIS 🤣🤣🤣
Okay... I've been that woman... Living in sin, with a person appointed as an Apostle mind you... And the Lord slapped me so hard on my bum, it was painful. I think in all honesty.... Separate completely from this person. I know it's hard, but God definitely has a standard for His Daughter's and this is not it love. Really. God wants to spend eternity with you, don't allow any man to take that away from you.
Patience isn't only about waiting but your attitude while you are waiting. Random sidenote: I am loving the colors y'all are wearing today 🔥🔥🔥🔥
But I hate when someone decides to break off a relationship with you and you ask them why and they're like nothing. Lies!! Because if I did nothing then you wouldn't be in this position.
Both of y’all nodding at 10:00 was too funny lol
I really appreciate the transparency of this podcast in my waiting season. I recently stumbled on HMAY and I just love the way that you guys talk things out. My two cents; people dont talk things through anymore. It's easier to quit. This podcast is such a blessing and very enlightening to me. You guys are amazing!
Such a gooood episode. Yvette!!! Single in this day and age is bomb 😜 ... after you detox 😅. What's helped on my end is learning to put in the work to make peace with the season, curating my life with the right content and company and taking advantage of all the free time and resources I have to do creative things I love that fill my cup and truly make me happy. I love what Glenn said about systems and also what you both have mentioned about having " A list ", this has been super helpful as well.
I do have to say the word "judgemental" is overused by people (and I think y'all used it against yourselves) in a way that doesn't make sense. The fact is, a lot of people use grace to validate what they know is foolishness but still want to act like it's the biblical thing to do. It's that kind of behaviour that results in the lukewarm relationships (or worse) people have with God and He's done tooooooo much for us to think that's ok. Correction is a loving, gracious and biblical thing to do and doesn't come from a place of superiority but those being corrected ASSUME that it does, often because of their insecurity regarding their situation/their decisions. Correction is not the same as judgement but those people being corrected get defensive and call it "judgement" as a means of pushback to shut people up because they simply don't want to be corrected. What they actually want is to continue in, and be affirmed about, their bad choices. Even when people say "Only God can judge me" they don't even reeeeeeally want that! Lol! They bargain with God/ask for signs to affirm their choices too. You can tell cos when they're given the 'opposite' sign, they ignore it, call it the devil or get angry with God about it. Y'all are Christians and want to continue to be biblical in what you do...THIS is why people follow you. This is why God continues to grow your platform to that it can reach people. Don't shy away from that. Also I 100% agree with Pat.
Omg yessssss times a million
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Thank you! Some people love to label christians with being "judgemental". But we all make judgements good and bad in our daily lives. People of the world take are prideful and bold in their choices, we as Christians should take pride and speak boldly of our beliefs instead of cowering and being meek because we are afraid of being labeled judgmental.
Keep being vulnerable guys! ❤️
You guys are needed in this time. 😇😇
I think people settle because they only see present options. If you meet someone who's at least 85% of your list, its hard to turn away when you haven't even met someone close enough to even catch your interest. Its HARD OUT HERE (maybe we should stop saying that but its the truth). I'll be 30yrs old in a few days and I often wonder if I will ever meet a man worth settling for.
I completely agree with this👏🏾 I use to look at people and be like "how can you settle?" Until the last person I was talking to. She was almost everything I wanted and the only reason I broke it off is because God showed me blatant red flags in my face. Sometimes I would think did I do the right thing? Because dating out here is trash🗣️ and nobody comes close to the standards I have. I'll be 30 soon also and at this point I'm chilling and asking God to help my faith to believe him that he has a woman for me that I don't have to settle for.
1. I'ma go'on head and become a patron. Ha. Thank y'all for being our trailblazers. We vlog and want to start a podcast soon. So we got that 5 for y'all and for us. Ha
2. It just hit me that I need to pray for y'all. Not in like a "y'all need prayer but....
3. I love how you guys can smile and laugh even in the midst of everything you're dealing with. That's awesome which is what led me to 2. Just wanting to use the power of prayer. Like man while I'm sitting here witnessing their transparency.....very rarely have I prayed for you guys.
I'm wishing (really hoping and praying) for the best for you guys. You'll be stronger after you get through it!
Nah y'all are ssssoooo funny "I wouldn't want to be single either" 🤣🤣🤣...that whole exchange was too funny.
Omg I wrote in awhile back... requesting encouragement for us singles! Bc it is hard af.
How Married Are You?! Thank you!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Thanks for sharing . Right on time. This information is super helpful. I surely made a list years ago, so I don't settle lol . Excited to watch more content . I always feel like I'm in the conversation with you guys :D And the Bible does talk about not having sex before marriage , but its called fornication in the Bible.
I'm very confused by people who profess the Lord with their mouth, but lead their lives in the exact opposite way He asked us to. What do people define as loving the Lord? They are claiming to be apple trees with oranges all over them.
You are worried about him not reading the Bible? But you're not worried about living with him?
The Henrys went gentle on you. But an honest friend would have explained all the ways you're confused and confusing him and others.
This episode was dope!! I'll be joining the book club. Please encourage the singles, we need all we can get.
Do an affirmation album. I listen to one that she calls a Audio Vision Board. I love it
Baby girl went Off on her version of the intro!!! 🔥 That was so cute!
Can we have Pat's opinion more on some of these issue's just the way he spoke with ease and love yet bold and biblically accurate is admirable
Soo when are ya’ll gonna drop this Christian album with Glen rapping and Yvette singing? I’ll buy it!🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
I keep watching the very end over and over to crack up....aaaand that’sjusthowmarriedweare!!! 🤣🤣🤣
"we are about to lose 5 dollars" Yall had me on the floor, I laughed so hard!
Other than kids, she's giving him everything she would be as his wife. What reason is there for him to rush to marry her? Even in their 'actions' it's possible for him to end up with a family without the commitment. The only place she's being led is to bed. Not trying to be Pastor up in the comments, but looking in Hebrews 4: 12&13 by not reading the Bible he's avoiding coming to terms with his current state.
12. For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. 13. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable.
Edit: I just need to clarify that both parties are at fault. As a minister in training for example, how can you say to those you're leading about the spec of dust in their eyes when in your own life there's a plank in yours?
Glen you are right. She should do what she knows as a minister in training. Go to the manual, the Bible, and do what it teaches us. It’s really hard to talk about this predicament without sounding judgemental but irrriiissss what irrrrriiiissss
God knows I love y'all so much! Such a great episode.
I absolutely love this couple💗
Come with the scriptures and encouragement!!! 🙏🏾💖
I love you guys! You should do a record together!🙏🏽😘
agree!
Love y’all man watching right before work. Great role models for a 19 year old young man. Thank you🙏🏽
This episode had me dying😭. Thank you for dropping gems! I love you guys 💓
This episode gave me so much insight and I laugh so much when I listen to y'all ❤
Yvette: But he said James! 🤣
I believe in you, Yvette! Make the pdf!
Great rhymes & flow! I can't speak too freely because I've watched people I love go through some of what was described during these calls. I've gotten pretty close myself, but God stepped in & we are growing through a waiting season. Sometimes, I've felt quite jealous watching friends, & relatives, etc. who are believers & others who aren't, get into relationships, marrying, & having children, etc. All while professing serious doubts about their partners. It really saddens me. Especially because I haven't been able to force myself to do the same. I just can't do it that way. Thankfully, my preferred partner & I are maturing & I am grateful God asked us to wait because it brought up things in our relationship that we have to repair. We don't work if we don't work. I have held my tongue with people I love because they didn't ask & it's not my place to judge. I would rather see our maturity through & do this the right/best way than force it & hurt one another again, or worse, hurt our children. I like actually demonstrating care, consideration & accountability, things that were missing before. I love being mature enough to navigate difficult subjects & grow in affection which wasn't in my background. I also know nothing is ever promised, but rushing just doesn't work for us.
You're conflicted & convicted. I appreciate this episode. I do want to add that you're coming from a place of love, not judgment. You clearly care about their outcome even if you don't agree. And, unless someone is aware of generation insight, habits, influences & how that plays out in our dating life, it will not be obvious. If he's a lukewarm Christian, that happens, I've been there. But, I've also never been called to pastorship or anything where I'm speaking into the life of other people in such a way. I was only able to appreciate leading & serving at church AFTER God checked me & opened my heart. Maybe this is her opportunity to really affirm if that's the life or calling for her. I'm reading an entrepreneur's book that says if you can see your life without X in 5, 10, or even 15 years, then it's not urgent. If you feel deeply that you're called & have to follow through with your mission (whatever that is), then that covers it.
This is good! I love the processing of both issues! Yeah Bookclub!!!!
Let me go ahead and up my Patreon subscription cause I know y’all just lost $5 😂😂😭 nah but it was good advice.
Y'all are a beautiful couple with so much wisdom!
ROFL!!!! the ending is hilarious! Love y'all!
Yessssss!!! I thought it was just me! Yvette has a straight up bed room voice! Glen’s voice is smooth too. I love the laugh.
I am a CZcams addict and I still maintain, this channel has the best intro! I usually skip CZcams channel intros, but this one I even dance along. I absolutely love this channel. I love you guys!
This episode was great, hilarious and that ending LOL
Circling back to old episodes. The PDF Is done now though!!!!😂😂😂 God’s timing!!!
There is somewhere in the Bible that says something to the situation with religion. It basically says if your spouse is not religious do not fault them, do not judge them. I wish I remembered the exact scripture.
Yes, please encourage us single folk!!!😩👏🏾😂
I struggle with this idea that truth telling is judging. But that's a deep hole to travel down in a CZcams comment.
Be truthful, be loving
Also there is this conflation between biblical judging and Tupac judging (only God can judge me)
There is also a conflation between damnation and assessment....both also called judgement.
Having a strong opinion on what someone shows you it's not judgement.
I love you guys but I think the second question really was a test for you guys! Please don’t be ashamed of the truth. God promises that when we honor him he will honor us, and I know he’s called y’all to help people into the truth of things! Amazing first half though very insightful, shakey on the second half. Grace and peace to you both, praying for your marriage and ministry. 😊💕
Thank you PAT!!!!!
Listening from *Toronto, Ontario, Canada.* I have subscribed to your channel & really enjoy watching your videos that sometimes leave me howling in laughter 😂 Especially the videos with Uzi! That little boy is surely something else! Lord! When he slapped his brother with the croc, I just lost it! I sent it to a lot of people in my WhatsApp contact list. It was too hilarious to not share! Please do not hesitate to speak truth to any matter that is presented to you. I understand that the hesitation is from your desire to not hurt anyone, but if you speak it in manner *you* would like, without the intent to cause harm, it will be received. That’s what people are coming to you for. Your truthful perspective! The truth Truth sets one free! God bless!🇨🇦
Just wanted to say that I'm Still Rocking with Y'all!
Love
Going to be interesting to see how y'all go over the list thing in the book study. It seems like yall and Mike Todd might have differing perspectives on this.. w/ the back to back "rip-the-lists" sermons.
I personally think we should have a list but let it favor more of intangible qualities and characteristics that we deem to be important for us. Also a list of the healthy character, and qualities we will strive to bring to the relationship..
Also like the negotiable (preferences) non-negotiable concept..
you are doing a great job , you guys are doinging great stay on top of he will appreciate later.
On the 2nd e-mail you shared, it sounds like the man is not reading the bible because he doesn't want to be convicted. And by her being a minister in training, she should be convicted about the whole scenario of their relationship and there is no way she can even think about teaching him if she's not living according to the word. Ijs
It's all love
I loved the rap, it made me smile
Love the bow. I could never do something that big but would like a smaller version shown. xoxo
Lady, you carry it off, totally.
Practically Perfect in Every way. Haha
Deena’s bootleg story time rap was fire
Please please please do the encouragement episode!
Vocals though 🥳🕊
But they ARE equally yoked because their relationship with God is on the same level. They are babies in Christ. They are surface Christian.
Yes, I had the same thought. They ARE equally yoked.
At 32 my requirements are simple. Regarding the bedroom: at least one full year of abstinence with a focus towards marriage. Intentional dating is important in this culture/society we live in.
OMG her "bootleg rap song" was soo cute
Hey Glen & Yvette.. Question, where/when was the announcement and opportunity posted to sign up to get the book for the book club? I know it's all said and done but I done want to miss the next opportunity. (I checked Patreon and didn't see it.)
Sorry it's long ya 😅
I feel like I had to comment about the story of the woman living with her boyfriend. My heart was breaking. There was so much to digest and I felt the Spirit was speaking. First thank you Yvette and Glen for speaking truth to this woman!
Listen people don't like to get to deep but we need to understand that the things pertaining to the Lord are real and to be taken lightly. To this woman, this is not judgment but from a place of experience and revelation. There are soul ties that must be dealt with if you haven't been set free. Your ex-husband who was gay - unless you broke that soul tie you are still connected to him (Ephesians 5:31). The doors he opened by engaging in fornication with men is something that cursed both of you (1 Corinthians 6:16) and gave demons a right of entry. You also binded yourself to this man if you said certain things like "we will be together forever or eternity" those words have to be broken, renounce the soul ties of sexual connection and words said that are still in the atmosphere.
Second, you are held accountable for knowing the Lord before your boyfriend as you have stated and even mentioned you're in training (Luke 12:48b) and while a man is meant to lead your role in this relationship also shows you are a hearer and not a doer of the word so while he is lacking in leadership you would be lacking in obedience to the Father. It's hard for this man to see what a godly relationship should look like if you are bringing confusion to this relationship by not walking in righteousness. He has a role but so do you. Living together is a big no no. This is not judgment its just stating truth. It's hard to set boundaries when you are both attracted to each other (trust me I would know). It's just impossible unless you both were engaged and getting married within a short time as to not fall into temptation.
Third, I think you both need therapy. You both need someone to spiritually guide you in truth. For your boyfriend, he needs a godly man who is well seasoned and has served the Lord and is active in ministry. You cannot teach or lead this man it would be unbiblically as that is not the order of which God has created you for (meaning while your boyfriend can learn from you ultimately being the spiritual head you desire him to be can't be taught from you because eventually that weight that only the Lord can carry will be too great for you). You should also seek counseling from a godly seasoned woman. Speciaifically because there are some things that didn't make sense like, the life you live with your boyfriend in sin with no conviction or your position in your church and whether you're disclosing what is occurring in your home.
Whether you both should continue your relationship I wouldn't know but I belive you need healing from your past marriage and you need to put the Father first. Repenting for the sins you've committed to Him and choosing to pivot in another direction away from your current sin will bring clarity and wisdom (1John 1:9). I will pray for you as my heart does feel pain for the situation you're in.
May the Lord help bring revelation and clarity in this season for you and your boyfriend❤ Jeremiah 17:7
P.s. I hope you know that I took the time to write this comment because I truly care and not because I'm judging you.
Be blessed and encouraged!
I love y'alls color combo this episode! The response to the second letter was really interesting for me, because I'm in the same boat as her - my boyfriend and I have lived together for 3 years. While it's been great and we're on the path towards marriage, I totally understand where y'all are coming from. It would be awesome if you could do an extended episode on your thoughts on cohabitation, maybe even have a couple who's done this before dial in?. I'm just curious about your thoughts on the topic in general, as it sounds like you're both not really a fan of it in general lolol. When I told my parents I was living with my boyfriend, it went as horribly as you could imagine. But now, here we are and my parents have 100% accepted it. How do you think you'd respond if your kids told you they were moving in with their significant other? What are your general reservations about the idea of it and why? Just something I've always been curious to hear from you both!
Do you think not living with him would have created a void that he would have wanted to fill and ask you to marry him sooner?
Did living together make him comfortable.and not in a hurry to propose?
I agree with Yvette being single in these days is a great place to be spiritually but the dating pool is trash 🗑!! 🤣🤣🤣 believe me I know! 🤦🏾♀️
What is fornication mean according to biblical principles? Because if the Bible doesn’t say you can’t sleep with someone before or outside marriage, then what’s wrong with living with the person then? Isn’t sex for marriage? Isn’t that the context in which sex is healthy?
Yvette where is the list pdf?
WE BOUT TO LOSE 5 DOLLARS! 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Have yall watched relationship goals with micheal todd its fire
@@HowMarriedAreYouPodcast When you watch it, can you do a commentary on here?
Get the beam out of your own eye before you try to get the speck out of mine. She can't judge him. She's no more yoked than he
Can I just say this episode has just prompted me to send a voice note of "am so single that..... Now that am in Kenya , Yvette am adding on the ones I sent on HMAY instagram DM 😁🙂🇰🇪❤
@@HowMarriedAreYouPodcast wambui. wm 🙂
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Dina’s bootleg story time 🙌🏽🙌🏽😄
Hey y'all!!! I loved how the babygirl did her thing on the mic. The other girl is in a mess. I think she needs to have a conversation with the guy about building their foundations upon what on the solid rock. Or whatever they both will decide it to be. They may need help.