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I received a lot of concerned comments in my latest video about using pain and pleasure as a way to prevent overeating. Many of you misunderstood my video and assumed I have an eating disorder. I never had an eating disorder but I did have disordered eating which I have healed from (spoiler for the glow up diaries. sorry) There is a difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating.
• Eating disorder: mental illness
• Disordered eating: bad eating habits
I was trying to show you a way to fix a bad eating habit - overeating. I want to be very clear of the ultimate message that I will continue to spread on my platforms: Yes you should eat healthy. But don’t see it as “I’ll eat totally clean for one month, I won’t eat eat any sweets or pizza and when I have my dream body I will eat whatever I want again. See it as a From now, I’ll live healthy and happy. I try to eat clean and workout as much as possible, but I’ll be allowed to eat things like pizza and cake, too because I want a healthy life, not a healthy a month. The key to sustainability is balance, good habits and self love. Self love and self care isn't only about saying kind things to yourself..it's also addressing your problematic thoughts and behaviors, holding yourself accountable for what you do and say. (I learned this the hard way and you will see that in the glow up diaries so I'm very passionate about this message.)
I do think I should’ve shown a different clip rather than showing chicken and beans on the plate. I put a disclaimer at the bottom saying the plate of food is not an example of what to eat. I’m just trying to show that you can use pain and pleasure to not eat the entire bag of cookies. Enjoy 1 cookie and be done with it. I’m sorry if anyone with an eating disorder found the video triggering..I will be much more mindful in the future. (Also I was just trying to paint a general picture in the first 20 seconds of the video of someone who ate a lot of junk food and realized they can’t fit into their pants anymore so they try to start exercising but end up eating more junk food at night. And I did this to answer the question of why someone keeps resorting back to junk food even though they have another goal in mind.)
You really didn't have to explain, but thanks for doing it anyway. I think, what you did was great. I will definitely try it. ☺️Godbless
💛 stay safe.
im glad you acknowledged this. im sorry if i sounded too harsh. i just love your content. 💜
This was good clarification, this videos also very thoughtful and really helped me with my uni/life balance x
I really Needed this video thank you so much I'm Struggling Right now
She’s not encouraging thin culture she’s discouraging unhealthy eating
Gabrielle Ajobena exactly!
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Well said
Exactly, and there's a huge difference between both of them👏
Gabrielle Ajobena exactly the body just comes as a bonus :)
“consistency doesn’t mean perfection. consistency is winning majority of the time”
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yup because there’s always that time where we make mistakes and feel really bad about it. that’s where it gets difficult to jump back on track.
Don't fall for the What-The-Hell effect, one losing battle shouldn't lose the whole war
I needed this, hunny ❤ thank you
Doll House same hun💖
"Humans will often do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure."
I've just understood why we don't want to study even if high marks would make us so happy.
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well i do study but high marks do not make me happy but that does not stop me from being happy because being happy is just a some seconds feeling like sex then it goes away.
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Bahahahah
Procrastination is one of my biggest problem that trigger my depression.. Sometimes at the middle of the night, I just can't sleep thinking about all the things I've failed because of procrastination and hating myself for doing so.. As I watch this video it gives me courage to slowly change myself..
I will be back next month and I hope I'm way better than now.
Same🤧 Btw hope you will overcome procastination!♥️
Same and now I watching this coz I cannot sleep due to my overthink about how I'm scared I'll fail my upcoming exam which is tomorrow because I'm not yet finish revising the whole book yet
I think there are a lot of people like me because when sometimes it seems that everyone around me is so hardworking and focused but i am also running into troubles because of procrastination.
same what i do is
i Forgive myself cause i will feel relieve,i feel relax and my anxiety calm down, BUT sometimes if i keep forgive myself it can be bad,cause it will make me feel its okay to procastinate when its not, cause my due to work might be close and you get anxious again,
"Human more to avoid pain than gain pleasure"
i continue to sleep but i promis myself when i wake up i start to work on it again
"its okay to go slow,everyone have their own pace,but never stop"
i do this everytime, but sometimes i push myself to work but not too much cause i have bad mental illnes
actually its all about discipline in yourself but never forget to take care of your health and body,Find a comfortable way to upgrade yourself don't follow anyone cause sometimes its not always work on everyone
FIGHTING!
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i just recommend for you guys who has same problem with me i hope it might help
"Humans will often do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure." Wow, that one got me..
Same here. I had to write that one down in my journal.
Its Freud
She clearly hasn't heard of cbt...
Because you can live without constant happiness, but it’s really hard to survive with constant suffering.
This has stuck into my mind
" The brain doesn't know the difference between imagination and reality." This explains so much!!
TRIPTA RAMANI ikrrr because when i wake up, my dreams feel like memories not like something i thought of
definitely! before i have math class for example, i dread it so much and i start imagining how terrible it is and all day i'm thinking about how terrible that period will be, when in reality, i get there and its not even that bad....
That’s what I feel like with body dimorphia ( can’t spell it) like recently I’ve been feeling like my foreheads huge while it’s not 😂
This isn't true! I study neuropsychology and imagination and reality are really close. But still different. The explanation is kinda complicated but I can explain it if you're interested
@@May-xs3pw í am
1. Feel a certain way and feel it strongly
2. Link it to something else
3. Focus on the end. How would the pain be if I didnt do the task
4. Consistency
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Thanks. Ur the legend
consistency is the thing i do not have...
@@elmaaldueso9286 Try and build momentum. Tell yourself, for example, to work out for three days. The more momentum you have, the further you want to go. Consistency will follow as long as you keep your momentum going. I believe in you!! :)))
"This month's choices are next month's results". Exactly... life is about living in the moment whilst remembering that everything you do today will impact your future.
she puts so much effort into her videos that in the end it always feels like a movie is over. all my respect to you
So true
RIGHT HAHA
I was your 7k like
True!
I know right?! Whats the outro track? I love it. Sad and happy at the same time.
"It gets easier. Every day it gets easier, but you gotta do it every day, that's the hard part. But it does get easier"
Bojack Horseman, a classic.
thanks! No honestly thank you! I had a busy day today even though I didn't really do anything. I've been going through my routine for about 1 1/2 months and haven't made any exceptions when it comes to sport, but today I wanted to tell myself, "I'll leave it today" but not in a good way just didn't want to do it and squeeze me. that would have broken my routine so thank you for this comment. even if the value this comment has for me is difficult to understand it has just helped me incredibly!
I love that show. That quote gets me through it. PC and Diane are my faves
When I heard that on BoJack I literally had to pause it to cry. I was at such a low point and I been struggling to turn it around. Hearing those words made something click- I could be everything I ever wanted if I didn’t let myself get in my way. If I want something so badly for myself why would I let the physical and mental discomfort and difficulty I feel in the moment stop me? It’s never going to get easier if you quit before you’ve truly begun. It will get easier if you at least try your hardest every day.
I repeat that quote to myself over and over any time I feel myself wanted to choose what is easy rather than what is right
Thanks for the motivation ✌️
I really like this.
"Everything that has value in life comes from consistency; success, wealth, relationships, health and all other aspirations. But consistency doesn't mean perfection. Consistency is winning majority of the time, so for the time you fall, learn to get back on track and get used to it because there will be time when you make mistakes and that's okay. The secret is to learn to forgive yourself and try again."
Thank you, Alivia.
Although I 100 percent agree with what you said, I wish I could 100 percent believe in that. Last year I made a huge mistake and faced its consequences for a long time. Everyone told me to forgive myself and move on (this part was extremely hard for me but I think I the end I did manage to do it, probably because I was merely 14 at the time )
I became happy again but then at age 16 (this year) I made that exact same mistake again, and now I'm feeling miserable again,I wish I could change that. At this point I'm not sure if I'll ever change, it's like I have no control over my life. But life must continue and I must cling to hope (but I'm not sure if I'll be able to forgive myself now,and that's the worst part)
I hope this year adds more joy to our life.
Edit: turns out I didn't repeat my mistake gshhsheshbsdb ahhhhh
I'm so proud of myself!!!
“A lot of us ask ourselves what will be the pain if I take action but you need to ask yourself what will be the pain if I don’t do it”
Get this woman a tedtalk
Yaaaaaaaaa.. She is so inspiring🥰
"This month's choices, are next month's results!" I'm writing this down in my journal.
Me too.
Me too.
Me too
me too
Added to my fav quotes
2021 barely started but I’ve had huge mental breakdowns everyday. I’m noticing that I let myself get to a certain point where I use a “I don’t care what happens to me” mentality. I’m realizing where it’s getting me in my mental health and physical health and I want to improve on that. I remembered seeing this video when it first came out so I decided to rewatch and actually try it this time! Wish me luck
you can do it! i believe in you :)))
you arent the only one dealing already so much in 2021.
I'm in same state too
but focus on where you want to end up, what u focus becomes reality
@@mariagu2602 thank you so much! I’ll make sure to do that
Hey 😊😊 just wanted to ask if it's working ☺️☺️
@yasmine nino just wanted to know if it's working ☺️☺️☺️☺️
The universe wanted to tell me something from my youtube recommendation...
Army!!!
Same..u got it..I'm guided for 2 days..for healthy lifestyle.. Get on track..
@@bluesapphire7458 same 👁👄👁 umm now even yt wants me to change my life
Same😫
@@lovekatelynn um your username is my life😾💜
“This month’s choices, are next months results” *me starting to work out on the 31st*. - I’vE OuTsMaRtEt ThE SmARt
genius.
BrilliAnT
Modern problems require modern solutions
Congrats! U just fooled urself
February: *Am I a joke to you?*
“Once you’ve hit rock bottom, the only way to go is to rise”
This gurl literally made a whole Netflix series by her own.....
Edit: damn!! Didn't expect to get 106 likes!! Thanks ;))
F o r r e a l🖐🏻✨
*teacher* : take your notes
*me* : already sleepy
*alivia* : posts a life changing vid
*me* : aggressively writing the points.
honestly 🥱😂❤️
🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
Invalid User it’s funny cause this is kind of what the video is about. You associate school with pain and Alivia with pleasure :)
@@kittylilly1410 man thank you .. I didn't even realise this 💕
Ok Alivia...We’ll call Netflix and y’all gonna make a movie together. YOU’re so talented and inspiring wow
No, she needs a show!
ultimate dream 😭❤️
Alivia D'Andrea God! I’m so happy that you responded to me! Wow, it might be stupid, but i like your videos so much! You’re a role model 👏🏽
@@aliviadandrea we have to make it come true, ur such an inspiration
I'd watch the heck out of it
I wish more youtubers would back up their theories with scientific proven facts/ journals. This is such a good vlog
I liked how she said "body you are most confident in" rather than mentioning a specific body type
This did change my life, for the last three months I’ve changed my habits and lifestyle. Just in a short amount of time,
I’ve lost 43 pounds, I have clear skin, six pack, and even a JAWLINE. I hope this comment inspires people!
~ Madison 💜
oh my god that is sooo great for you!! this comment did in fact inspire me. now i really am sure that i will start changing my lifestyle
@@anik8910 Go for it! We can all do it together :) What do we have to lose??
Ooo what did you do to get all that escapially the clear skin and jawline :))
akasha duke Well I controlled what I ate. Fruits and vegetables are really good for skin, so it made it clear. I’m not sure how I got a jawline- it just happens.
Madison Banks did you exercise?
I spilled water on myself while watching this, and instead of getting angry like I usually would, I just laughed and then cleaned the spilled water.
It was such a small thing, but I strongly believe that was my first step to becoming a better version of myself.
Edit: Thank you so much for all the likes and comments! It means a lot to me.
aw i really like that! 💕
I feel like that’s so wholesome I-
Smusi Mari I’m sure that had nothing to do with this vague video
Able Jacobson i’m sure ur comment has nothing to do with this vid
Kelsey Nguyen ... of course it does.
No one born ugly we just live in the judgmental society
Kim namjoon
Believe yourself you can do it 💜
ARMY .....♡
@@ob2k2 💜💜
@@foreveryoung9157 :)♥
𝐴𝑟𝑚𝑦 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Army 💜
In case anyone is wondering: these principals are from the book Dopamine National and Atomic Habits.
Her: Think about your crush!
Me without a crush: *I have summoned anime boys*
OOH SAMEEE
lmaoo
@@defenestratemeplease Shoto what are you doing here?
@Babie Becca Omg I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT. THIS IS SOO TRUE I THOUGHT OF THE SAME 😭🤣🤣🤣😅😅🥰🥰❤🔥🔥🔥😀
Bruh, I feel attacked-
Sometimes I feel people watched a different video than me.. she’s showing her journey in these videos. Its not a tutorial how to [whatever] but what she found to help her becoming a better version of herself. She’s so open about her flaws, problems, health etc. and tried to look into and explain it to us. That’s what I find inspiring about her videos.
YES YES YES
Shania Different PERSPECTIVES !! I said the same thing looking at the comments. I liked the videos & honestly watched the WHOLE thing.
YOU STUPID
Yessss so true😄😄
Exactly
this actually makes a lot of sense, a few years ago i was incredibly upset and crying my eyes out, and a few minutes after crying i started cleaning my room because it was a disaster. well, now every time i get upset, i immediately go to clean my room to make me feel better. i have NEVER enjoyed cleaning. thank you so much!
I’m so glad to have stumbled upon your channel! Literally the most transparent youtuber there is. I’ve been on a rollercoaster from fad diets to bingeing. Its exhausting not only physically but emotionally and mentally as well. Your glow up series inspired me to start working out.
*Alivia eats a bag of chips*
Alivia: "This is disappointing"
*Me also eating a bag of chips*
Me: "This is disappointing..."
*Me continuing to eat the bag of chips*
@Spla Dunctious lol
Kira Parker that is sooo me rn 😂😂
Yes me too
💀💀
felt
Me: *sad*
CZcams: *recommends memes*
Me: *mad*
CZcams: *recommends calm Lofi music*
Me: *insecure about myself*
CZcams: *recommends this video*
I just wanna thank CZcams I-
edit : I'm probably at my lowest point in my life so far. Procrastination has become a habit, and it's ruining me tbh. I've never felt so unmotivated and disappointed in myself with the horrible consequences that I gained to the extent where I've had thoughts of unaliving myself. Seeing my comment two years ago in this video felt so unreal, I would watch this often because Alivia motivated me. Watching this video again made me remember the times where I was still very productive and looked pretty confident with my future, but here we are somehow still alive in my current state. I just had a breakdown a few minutes ago due to some personal problems, I didn't know why but I felt the need to open yt and it recommended me this again. Yes, it's creepy, but I'm still thankful anyways. Big thanks to Alivia and to the algorithm 2 years ago for making me feel like I was making a big change in my life for stepping up, I was 13. Where it started was like an eye of a tornado, the calm before the storm. I hope this video would shine me a little hope that I could still be who I was before, but with an upgrade hopefully, I really really *really* hope so.
Same sis
lapiz. j Don’t when it inevitably turns you into a Nazi. If your sad mad, or insecure, don’t go on CZcams. Go take a run or talk with your friends.
We basically have the same recommendations lmaoo
no u dont want to thank youtube. you want to thank alivia.
@Jean Claude
Amen 🤧💖
this is the most inspirational thing I have ever watched. Thank you alivia, each video i watch gets me more motivated, teaches me something new, and helps me on my path. thank you
“you can’t solely depend on motivation” wowww
The fact that you always post, when i need you the most. I'll get through this, we will get through this.
This is a promise to myself, i will not try to lose weight i will try to love myself like i used to before.
Mizel honestly self love is the best way to heal. When you love yourself, all the things you wanna do/get come naturally. When I stopped unhealthily trying to lose kilos and hating my body, I became healthy and my weight followed naturally. Same for having inspiration (drawing, writing, studying). You've got this!
@@Aya-ej2eu 🖤
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Well done I’m also trying to love the way I look
We can do this 💜
"Consistency doesn't mean perfection. Consistency is winning majority of the time." gotta take note of this.
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@Elfacosmosa Thank you
I am loving your life changing videos and glow up diaries so much. I found them so inspiring! ✨
Girl I’ve watched and watched numerous motivation and health and workout videos but nothing seemed to work and help motivate me and get me started. But GIRLLL YOU DID IT. This is amazing, thank you so much.
-the whole bit about having a breakdown and going for a run-
me yesterday, during a breakdown: *tWo shOTs of VOdKa*
Gudduggudddgiddguudd
That’s the excessive pouring
I have a breakdown and eat 15 packets of crisps or 3 chocolate bars🥴
Ellie Parra i literally did that today except it was not even an hour after i woke up this morning lmao
Oh my I felt I literally finished a whole bottle of Bacardi within 2 weeks by myself bc I was going through some things 😌 at least my grandma never found out what happened to her liquor she ended up giving the rest of her liquor away so someone’s gonna be sippin on diluted sweet tea 🥱🙂
I link pain to being healthy- *oh that explains a lot*
Think about your crush
Me without any crush: ;-;
Bts?
@@graciekerr3137 I really like bts but I don't consider them my crushes,I feel like I respect them to much :') someday I'm gonna have a crush again,someday
Soft_muffin yes I agree .. you know you can’t be with bts anyway u know ❤️😔
@@jenniescookie1339 yes ,you're right
@@graciekerr3137 :') They're just Brothers to me And my Inspirations Plus My Heroes,
Im Just Waiting till I Became 18-21 years old then I'll date someone
This video contains some real gems. I love how vulnerable and real you get.
just wanted to say thanks, alivia. you’ve really changed my life and motivated me. we are so similar and it’s so nice to have someone who had gone through the same thing.
"There are no ugly people in this world, only lazy ones."
Meeeee😂
My lazy ass: well.. 🦦
This hits hard...
We are just living in a judgemental society :)
I’m only lazy after working
For anyone that needs it:
You didn't come this far, to only come this far
Chloe kohanski's song! True :)
Rosa Louise I needed it. Thank u
@@jazzles8897 no problem :)
True thank you so much for that ♥️♥️
thank u
this was recommended to me , and i can't be even more thankful for this 😭💘
I struggle with my sleeping habit a lot, and I feel like the issue is very similar to disordered eating. I'm also in a vicious circle which I need to get out of, I also have bad habits I need to unlearn and also seem to struggle with self love and convidence. Your glow up series is really inspiring and I'm looking forward to watch the second season. Especially that one quote from Hippokrates stuck with me, a part of me loves snoozing the alarm and staying in bed all day, and I need to overcome that to really heal and ~wanting~ to change. Keep up the good work ✨
I’m so proud of myself actually, there’s no one around me who eat right or workout and no one ever motived me to change into a healthy lifestyle, yet I always motivate myself and don’t wait on any other people for anything. When do my workouts my dad says why do you do that to yourself? The other family members and friends say you don’t even need any of that and girl come on eat this( junk food) we’ll eventually all die and blah blah... No motivation at all but still I’m keeping up with it all
I have exactly the same thing! You should do it for you anyways :-)
Never fall into the loser mindset trap. So much respect ✊ I’ve caught myself blaming my lack of motivation on the fact that those around me vegetate constantly and they anchor me down. No. It’s all internal.
I’m so proud of you.
you are doing so good! i'm proud of you
Oh my gosh, same here :) !!! Live the live you want, Not how everyone wants it! Live happily and smile!
Hey!! How are you doing:)
“...and then I just bursted into tears. I didn’t even plan on that...” - the summary of my whole existence
I don't know you, but You got this! Have a nice day Mery!
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Jesus loves u! It doesn’t matter if u are a Christian or not, He loves u and is here for you. You are cared for. You are not alone 💘💘💘
Same bestie 🥲
Every question I have about weight loss and every tip I need she has a video for it. Thank you so much!
I actually already know about the pain and pleasure principle even before I watched this video, been applying that into my life for quite some time now. But what really moved me in this video is the "consistency doesn't mean perfection, but winning majority of the time." Thank you for that! :))
there is a massive food waste problem, we shouldn’t be encouraging people to waste food but just simply eat smaller portion sizes, I use smaller plates for the illusion of more food, but am still full at the end, just not overeating. I think strategically leaving food on your plate leans more to a restrictive mindset, making it more likely that you’ll not stick to it
You're right, being healthy is one thing but that gives us no right to be selfish or reckless. Just don't start with a big portion ;)
No One One of the reasons I find myself stuck in loosing weight is feeling that I must eat everything on my plate because if I don’t itll end up wasted so I agree don’t waste food and only serve a good portion for yourself
Kathleen May or there’s just me- who orders 6 plates of food and overeats my mum calls me a vacuum and gives me the leftovers I-
It’s not wasting food, it’s actually saving food. Because you can put it in the fridge and have it the next day. So instead of making another snack/lunch, you already have one! And you’re not wasting food by making a new meal.
It would be wasting food more to eat all of it if you’re full but eat it because “I don’t wanna waste it” (but that is literally wasting it)
agreed
Someone once said "I feel truly achieving balance, means being comfortable with your inbalances" and idk who needs to hear this but this helped me so much. You can't do everything right all the time! Try again it will be better.
omg, thank you.
once*
this is so true and yet so hard to metabolise. thank you very much for the reminder!!
wishing you all the love and happiness back x
thank you 💗
So true thank you!!
Thank you for making this video! This is so relatable and so motivational for the phase I'm at. I am so glad the CZcams algorithm led me to your channel.
Your positivity is infectious I really appreciate everything that you did and are doing 🤍
She is literally the most realistic youtuber who even shows her faults and mistakes in a positive way through her videos....she tells us that no one is perfect.....we have to make ourselves better and stronger by ourselves as no one will push us.....thanks a lot for your motivation.....love from india
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"This month's choices are next month's results"
Woah. Damn that was powerful. I really really needed that. Thank you so so much. This whole video was so incredibly helpful.
associating a specific emotion/feeling with an action is called classical conditioning! i learned this in high school psychology but i definitely didnt realise it could be implemented this way. love your videos
Thank you Alivia, you're helping me so much. The way you explain things is so easy to understand, making my goals achievable. You're really a good person for sharing your journey with us so we can learn from your experiences. Love from Brazil
My brother has always been not fat/fit. I’ve noticed that instead of “taking little bites to make it seem like you’re eating a lot” he would just shove 5 chips in his mouth and be done with it. I started doing this, and I realized it works!!!! For me, I crave the TASTE. Taking little bites, you can’t even taste the food. If you shove it all in ONE TIME you get an OVERLOAD OF FLAVOR!!! Put the bag back and RUN AWAY LOL
Same! I love sweets, so what I do is have a little of sweet drinks, chocolate or anything else, in one gulp, instead of having a lot of the opposite. That way, I get the taste that I love, but not much sugar at all. 😄
Lol I did that when I was trying to lose weight. I just wanted to taste the food. I would eat like a small Hershey's chocolate bar or like 3 Lay's Chips and put it away.
It's gonna be hard to shove 5 Oreos in my mouth but bet
It actually works differently for me! If I eat a lot at once, the flavor is gone so quick that I miss it and just go for more. I don’t take tiny bites either though, instead I (usually) make sure to eat a meal or have a meal prepared for myself, then afterwards I don’t try and curb hunger with a craving! Sometimes the craving was just because I was hungry and lacked nutrients, and afterwards I don’t even want it.
That's what I do when i eat junkfood though I do not really buy junkfood it is only when someone offer me some.🙃
There's a lot of negative comments here saying she's perpetuating thinspo culture and what she's doing isn't healthy. Personally, I disagree with that sentiment. There was such a movement towards awareness of weight loss-oriented eating disorders in the early 2000's that I think that we've swung too far in the other direction with the body positivity and view any radical efforts to control one's weight and eating habits as inherently unhealthy. 1 in 3 Americans are overweight or obese and I come from a family of overweight or obese people, where overeating is completely normalized. I can't just "let my body eat how it wants to" because my body inherently wants to overdo it, so I've taken radical action in learning to control my eating and exercise habits, and the moment I did I was called unhealthy. Yes it was hard, and yes it was stressful, and yes my family didn't always support it, but you know what? I would rather have that stress and be going to the gym everyday, eating my vegetables, and eating the right amount of calories for my needs than just letting go of the hard work and discipline to eat loads of junk food everyday because I FEEL BETTER PHYSICALLY. Maybe what she's doing right now isn't sustainable, but she's just started this journey and learning to find balance and what strategies work for her personally are part of the process and I don't think she should be shamed for that.
THANK YOU. You understand
@@aliviadandrea Always girlie
@@aliviadandrea Sweetheart - Piggybacking off this comment in the hopes you will see: Catastrophizing, Black and white thinking and Rumination are all cognitive distortions which can lead to some pretty negative feelings about ones self, ones worth and ones life (Hun, pleeeease look these up). These are all reallllllly maladaptive coping mechanisms to apply to any area of your life (hello all other anxiety and depression sufferers - Im sure you recognize the thought processes in play here) and even worse when directly linked to food like this (Those struggling with Eating Disorders may also recognize these thought patterns with their relationships to their bodies and food in a way that triggers and reinforces beliefs that can take a lifetime to change - I'm so sorry if anyone watched this before seeing a warning comment
@Juliette Ray Juliette, no. As a healthcare professional working in this space - its alarming to see comments from young people and kids as young as 11 (11!!!!) saying how much they learnt from a video like this, when the habits, thought patterns and harmful beliefs in this video are what i work with people everyday to change and break out of. Kids and young adults watching this may not have the critical thinking skills to understand the depth of these theories and beliefs and take whats said as gospel - leading to a life of the cognitive distortions i mentioned in my original comment having an impact on so many more areas of their life than just body/weight loss issues in this video. I appreciate constructive criticism but please dont tell people to "just shut up" when what they are saying may help someone as it adds nothing constructive to the conversation. If you really dont like what i said you may want to consider why you had such a strong reaction to it so you may challenge your own beliefs and grow. All the best, B.
Bianca Oh I think you proved your own point. This video is meant to teach how to use what the brain is used to, aka pain and pleasure responses, and turn it towards your own gain. That isn’t to say it can’t be harmful, for example I know that when I’m in a depressive episode I’ll think things like “Why do I eat so much, I’m worthless, everything I do is doomed to fail, I’m fucking everything up.” But this video does the opposite, forces failure into a normal behavior and movable obstacle, and the only failure is stopping progress. This is a method I’ve been taught in therapy as well as discussed with my mother who is a licensed mental health professional with her own practice. It isn’t bad to use this, but like everything it can be misused. It’s best to consult a doctor always, and Alivia never discouraged that. She never claimed that she was a doctor. I understand your worry for children, but the job to take care of children lies solely on the shoulders of parents, not creators and entertainers. You can’t expect disclaimers from everyone. Personally, I think that this method is very useful for people that aren’t ready to change their mind’s function and instead can only change their mindset. If your brain function cannot be altered to work for you, then you can use the way it functions and change what feels good. That’s what this video is about.
Alivia: think about ur crush
Me: thinking about junkook , RM , jin , jimin , jhope , V,suga 😅at the same. Time .. and not only getting some pleasure but a ton of happiness 😊
lmfao 😂😂
Same 😭💜💜 ARMYYYY
Same
Literally army is everywhere 💜💜💜
😂😂
You are inspiring!!
What I lived in regards with the editing part is that there a few moments silence between two scenes. That is something very rare that we see in YT videos. Nice work!
Your name in Spanish means “relief” and that and hope is what you gave me in this video. Thanks
Maria Jose Avila same in Portuguese
I unlinked pain from school tasks by thinking "I get to ... today" instead of "I have to ... today".
For example: "I get to write an essay for history class today" instead of "I have to write an essay for history class today".
I should try that. “I get to” sounds much more positive than “I have to”
@@pheo212 I hope it works as well for you as it does for me!
Wow man just thinking that for a second makes school better
@@aidenoliver1681 awesome 🥳🥳
Omg true. Thanks
I love seeing content like this, very relatable and you present it in such a way that makes it feel achievable.
I personally think one of the best ways to deal with procrastination, especially with school projects, is that you should look at the overall picture of what needs to get done first, break them down into smaller tasks and create internal deadlines that are 2-3 weeks before your actual deadlines.
And then you can set and forget your deadlines on your phone/calendar.
This way, you can trick your brain into thinking that a project should be completed by a specific date (but it’s actually 2-3 weeks early). And even if you aren’t able to finish or if you’ve made a mistake, you will always have the relief 1 day later that you still have another 2-3 weeks to correct any errors.
Often times, people procrastinate on projects because they don’t know WHAT they’re supposed to do for the project. How can you start when you don’t even know WHERE to start. In this case, I would suggest reaching out to a teacher or a mentor for a better understanding.
The voiceover and editing skill of this girl are amazing
Idk. Visualising how eating candy will ruin your life seems too excessive and gives too much power to the piece of candy.
Ceduria ikr
Exactly 😪
Unfortunately it does has this power. And it might be the only thing between you and your achievements
ALAS!!! Powerful candy 🍭🍡
It's scientifically proven that sugar addiction isn't that different than drug addiction, especially because it's difficult developing a healthy mindset after being so used to sugar overconsumption :0 a piece of candy definitely has a lot of power in this case! It's just the way one looks at it (especially when one has associated sugar with relief, joy, and satisfaction for so long). Boy I wrote a lot LOL 🌻
okay this video got me way more motivation on trying to success in something i might come back here again because losing hope but i will get it somehow back
This actually did drastically change my life, thank you so much. Also I loved every second of this video, it is amazing emotionally and visually 💕
I swear to God, you're the most inspirational youtuber I ever watched, just to let you know, thank you for changing the way I look at myself and the way I look into the life. I love you Alivia
Also watch pursuit of wonder!
• Bubbly • true
yes!
I really need this right now
Btw thanks for all the likes, really nice to know there’s someone out there, we WILL get through this 💖✨
I says this just now I feel so bad
Same
alivia, you've had such a positive influence on my life and I'm so grateful for all of the videos you post, I always come back to the same ones bc they make me feel hopeful again 💕❤
Was having a shitty day and stopped in the middle of this video to workout. Coming back now that I’m done. Thank you for the advice. I don’t know if it’ll stick but I’m slowly starting to like working out. It makes me feel good after and it’s a good energy release. I love my daily walks :)
This month’s choices are next month’s results-that’s going up on my wall
I usually watch videos of already skinny “perfect” girls who are not very inspiring, but you Alivia are different you inspire me to get up and be healthier and not doubt myself. You make me feel good about myself, and I just what to thank you for being so inspiring and please keep doing what your doing, your a gorgeous girl ❤️
Being skinny doesn’t mean healthy u m
I’m very aware of that but I feel a lot of people on CZcams to claim their “unhealthy” aren’t actually and all I’m trying to say is she is inspiring
@@sabrina-0 lmao the person's @ is "calm your tits" and the way they talk is PERFECT FOR THEIR @ hahaha
I’m skinny but under weight so I’m trying to gain to be healthy
I'm having a hard time for being skinny. Trust me it's as challenging as it would be for an obese person. Everyone has different problems dude
This is exactly how I started running too! Not thinking about how far or how long or how fast- just listening to music and getting rid of pent up feelings and I LOVED it.
I definitely figured this out earlier in my life with piano and driving, but driving is still stressful to me, especially I rarely go out with this virus 🤣. I didn’t realize what it was, though. Then, when New Year’s 2021 wasn’t all that good, I just decided to “cook my feelings out.” I ended up doing it again yesterday morning when I didn’t feel that great either. l understand this now and hope that I connect cooking with this, because I barely like to cook. It’s been like this for nearly my whole life, and I’m 20. I’m always afraid of mistakes and criticism from my family. Watching this and your other video on motivation/failure were definitely great reminders regarding the motivation, reasoning/why, etc. Very glad your videos exist because they’re calming yet informative, real/genuine, uplifting, motivational :). Let’s hope it’s a wonderful, better, and happier 2021
I came back here after 3 months... 💫✨
It's weired for me to say but the sentence "this month choices are next month's result" really helped me grow...I have never been consistent evverrrr like eeeverrr in my life but this time I decided to try and stick to atleast one ONE thing...and today I've completed 3 months of doing regular workouts. Believe me I feel stronger and its sooo good for my brain. 🌻🌻
Now on the days when I don't workout I feel something missing...I have never thought such a lazy person like meee would ever say this...it feels magical. 😭💫💫🙏
i'm proud of you queen x
@@Alex-vh7if 💜
it’s the same for after doing 2 sets of summer challenge from Chloe Ting!!
@@patricetanyuppp
proud of you sis please get back in track!!❤❤
I've been so non productive during this quarantine and feeling guilty about it. Thanks to this video I'm motivated to actually do something
Hi army!
@@bhagyasuchith6418 hi 💜
Same
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Yeah same and your profile picture is cuteness overload 🥺💜💜
Dude I luv your videos
The msg, filming style, the cuts, them being so personal🤘💓
What a fantastic video!!! Every teen especially but every person alive should see this video!!! Amazing work the video production the audio and just importantly the self improvement and simplified explanation of the neuroscience that IS our monkey brains, AND how to rewire then. Fantastic work!!!!
I have problems with procrastination that really gives me depression crisis, i'm trying to change and do what I have to do. I've tryed so many times but never worked out
In 3 months I'll be back here.
Can’t wait to hear about your progress ✌🏾
Go Julia!! We’re here for you!! Keep us up to date:)
I'm in the exact same boat, let's get through this together! 💜
Starting with small goals might help.
can’t wait to hear abt it
I started teaching myself how to dance about 2 years ago. Why? Because I was so self conscious about how I looked and dancing tuned the whole world out and it made me feel so good. I started dancing for hour and hours everyday for years. I'm now in show choir and one of their best performers even with no professional experience. If you become passionate with a hobbie, make it your escape from reality. Instead of making a poor decision, do that something you love. You won't regret it, trust me.
how did you learn how to dance?
@@kasey_068 CZcams videos :)
wowww you inspire me ✨✨✨💖💖
This is me with dance, writing, and guitar playing too
what youtube vids did u start with? can u link some for me?
You’re amazing this video helped me in so many ways.
Haha the visualize part was funny! Your videos are so aesthetic and nice!
Alivia, stay safe:
1) Regardless of your current mental and physical state, I strongly suggest you to talk to a therapist, because I think you are dragging around a bunch of issues that will come out to haunt you in a few years.
2) If you accurately studied psychology, you know that you can't really rely on connections to pleasure and pain if you're looking for mental stability, because in 80% of the cases you won't be able to control them in your every day life. If you give them THAT kind of power, the moment something happens that wasn't the way you planned, you will be trapped.
I defended you in the comment section of your last video, because I respect you and your flexibility routines have actually helped me a lot, but now I'm definitely worried.
Thank you for this. Something seemed off. Can you recommend an alternative?
@@naomiz5099 For the pleasure-pain dynamic? Sadly, there's no universal solution to this kind of problem, if you too are struggling with binge eating.
It's a really difficult habit to get rid of , because is in fact an addiction, but the substance you are addicted to is literally fundamental in order to stay alive and healthy.
Some people got through it thanks to intermitted fasting (following the directions of a nutritionist of course), others just found balance by reducing stress and adopting an healthy but flexible lifestyle, that allowed them to keep eating what they want, but in a controlled schedule.
The thing that I really want to point out, though, is that you can't expect to find a standardized and ultimate solution. Something will work and help you, let's say, for years. Then something will change (your metabolism, your work schedule, your body/health) and you have to keep a flexible mind to adapt to life.
What Alivia says is not wrong, but she's too young to know that is not right either.
@@No-ps2zf I'm not addicted to food, lucky for me. But I do find struggle with pain-reward. What works for me is focusing on being present and going out of my way to do stuff i don't want to but I was wondering if there was a better strategy as I can get tired of it on days where i work long hours, etc
Edit: I also know it's unfair to expect to do well at all times and just being aware of your behavior is enough sometimes. Thanks for your help :)
Thisss, stay safe please
Thanks for another insight
Alivia: "This could all have been avoided if you'd just have gotten started"
Me: Agreeing while I have a paper due in 2 days that was given out 2 weeks ago.
sooo, did it go well or?
@@ailicjensengaup5750 Let's hope so
oh, thanks for reminding me
Yeah I’m in quarantine but i have three assessments to do
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this is the first alivia's video i watched n now she rlly become one of my biggest motivation and inspiration i feel a little touched rn ...srsly.
First of all th editing n all that jazz Is of such great quality and also the substance of the video is very genuine and we'll thought and super helpful ,tysm😭😭
2 months ago I started working out and I really lost 11kgs!!
Never been more proud
What type of work out did you do?
@@angelnunnart I actually did chloe ting's 2 week shred along with a strict diet
I actually didnt lose 11 kgs just by the 2 week shred, before that video I had already lost 4 kgs because of the diet
@@ishita2027 wait really omg that's what I'm doing as well lol
@ishita could you please share your diet with me? 🥺
@@varshanatraj8126 OK before I tell you the diet, the thing is that it's very strict
Like literally it doesn't have any high nutritional value so please don't do this more than 1 and a half week. SO-
Morning: I had 1 apple and a half glass of milk
Afternoon: 2 boiled potatoes
No snacks in the evening
Dinner: 1 glass of milk with jaggery
And whenever I felt hungry I would eat fruits like grapes, watermelon etc etc
And I drank 8 to 10 glasses of water
And I walked 4000 steps daily
Please don't push yourself while doing this
Few months ago I had no idea about how and what you eat to lose weight and cause of this diet I almost developed an eating disorder(trust me its not fun)
And if you are under 17 *DON'T* do this
I will just say it.
Alivia, you are a goddess.
You aren't afraid of talking about feelings,
You speak the truth,
You are wise,
and most of all,
You are helping so many people start their life one a new leaf, leading to a better, healthier mindset that includes daily life and food. We need more people like you in this world.
Thank you!!!!!!!
this was so sweet
What an incredible video! From the message, to the value in the video to the sheer brilliance of video editing, b roll usage and audio use/placement. Huge effort has gone into this. an Absolute master peice. I can only dream of being half this good one day. Simply wow!
these are honestly so high quality and well done and i can truly say your videos are helping me improve my life as a person
You are soo lucky that you can go out to gym for workout n stuff , I'm a girl in india and I can't do that because people stare too much and my parents doesn't allow me to because I attract too much attention Plus where I live people are not that nice anywhere near , soo I can't go to gym. I can do most exercises at home but gym environment is different and I like that.
I wish i was never born here.
I hate it
Sometimes i think like this too😐
@someoneyoudontknow I'm used to of it , it doesn't bother me. It bother my parents, and they are controlling.
this is a similar situation to me. I don't live in India, i enjoy running but i feel super self conscious. recently, there have been murders/grabbings of women near my area. when my parents heard, i had to stop going out for a run. so now i try to either wake up early (i wake at 5am to try avoid my family whilst working out bc i feel embarrassed) to do a short workout. depends on what i feel like. and to compensate me not running, I'm going to try ask my parents for a skipping rope and jump rope 1000 times a day. it looks entertaining, you can do it in your/back garden AND listen to music without people staring at you. on top of this, i'm trying to eat healthier! it sounds like a mouthful, but when i put my head to it, it's started to become of a habit of me waking at 5am and cooking healthy breakfasts. i started a week ago and it looks and feels like i haven't lost any weight, but I've actually lost 1kg, 1 inch off my waist and stomach area.
sorry for the long comment
Hey, you can do exercises at home. I watch Chloe Ting videos and accepted her challenge. After quarantine I have good abs :) You should try it too... It's not about abs, but good daily workout routine.
Girl, start doing Pamela Reif’s workouts, she has a CZcams channel where she posts all the videos!!! Trust me, it’s amazing!
“Think about your crush” *asexual aromantic sigh* if only..
FJFJFJFHRJEJFF I LOVE THIS
Damn, I felt that
*small town lesbian sigh*
cringe stfu
@@sora-vn5tk Ah yes the top tier cringe material: being unable to be romantically and sexually attracted to anyone in a world which hypersexualizes everything and prioritizes being in relationships, taking pity on anyone who isn't currently dating. How could anyone recover from that cringe level?
i feel like crying, thankyou 😭❤️
Loved this. Loved how real she was in the video clips!