Are You Destined to Spend Your Life Alone?
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- čas přidán 11. 02. 2019
- After a life-long search for a life-long partnership, after many failed attempts and failed relationships, we may come to a point at which we ask ourselves, 'Will I ever find a life partner, or will I spend the rest of my life alone?'
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My whole life, no friends, no love, parents focused on older siblings. I like being alone, but every once in a while I get that heartache of knowing I'm always gonna be alone. If you can relate, we are the uncanny flower.
Maybe that's even better the beautiful flowers are cut off and sold but we stay where we are and are not cut off and sold so we can enjoy our lifes to the maxium even we are lonely .. I hope you can understand what I mean
You might want to stop your obsession with anime and computers. Join a sports club or something. Doesn't matter if you are fat and ugly, only fear stops you from meeting people. I will say this: You will probably never find love. But friends are quite easy to get.
My problem not only about relationships socially I'm also a big loser I finally recovered from depression recently but I'm still lost I dont know how I'm going to survive rest of my life am I going to change
@Положительный настрой I hope things will go well with us bro as he said we don't know the the future
@Положительный настрой 👍😊
I hate when people say, "You'll find somebody." They don't know that. Lots of people spend their whole lives without ever finding somebody.
Find your true self, that’s all that matters.
They're just being polite. Would you rather they say, "You'll never find somebody"?
@@k-guy1236 I'd rather they not speculate about it at all. It serves no purpose.
I definitely agree.
@@k-guy1236 I'll say you will NEVER find someone. Ever. It's time to give up. :D
I’m 44, I’ve exhausted all my options and come to the realization that I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. When my mom passes eventually I’ll truly be alone in this world.
hi your situation is exactly like mine
I'm in the exact same boat as you. It's like this comment was written straight from my own thoughts. It's nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. Thanks for sharing your thoughts
@@writoblisscontentcreator3355 and mine
I say this same thing daily!
Same situation here
Born alone, and we die alone. What happens in between is just waiting .
.. Le Man's 1970....... Steve McQueen.
as long as nothing catches your interest then yeah
Literally I dint understand when people say "die alone".
We were all born alone 🤔🤔🤔🤔
Your born once, you die once, everything else is just an illusory game.
I wasnt born alone, thats virtually impossible. My mom was there, the doctor was there, a nurse was there, my dad was there.
If people weren’t so scared of being alone they probably wouldn’t end up with the wrong person.
Wow , never thought of it like this . But makes total sense .
@@chubbeenubbee69 this is why if you are in an unhappy relationship and you’ve tried absolutely everything to make it work then the best thing for the both of you is to seperate as the longer you stay together the less chance you both have of finding someone suitable.
@@Cooliemasteroz Thank you. ThAnkfully we have both been separated for years now but when I read this I brought me back to that time . And I was unhappy.
You deserve a medal sir, everyone needs to have exactly that implanted deep into their mind at as early of an age as possible.
@@rickymagnole1372 thank you and yes I agree that this and possibly other similar advice should be taught early imagine how much more happiness there would be in the world and how much more people would succeed in life as well as achieve great things because they’re not suffering emotional torment.
I'm okay with being alone forever. Less chaos. As long as I have a dog, I'm good.
Agree totally.
Eternal life in heaven is a free gift from God. No human being deserves it due to his/her good works. We have all sinned and fall short in glory of God(eg.Jesus says if any man looks at woman with lust he has committed adulterly with her in his heart..No man is that pure😅). So how did God give us this free gift🤔? He sent his only begotten son to be betrayed,humiliated ,beaten and die as fine/payment for our sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Since he is a just God and has to punish sin. All you have to do is humbly repent of all your sins(read the 10 commandments) honestly turn away from them. Believe in/trust that Jesus did that for you. Confess with your mouth that he is your lord and saviour..You will be saved from hell🔥. The holyspirit(his omnipresent spirit) will in dwell within you and convert your cold heart of stone into that of flesh that can truly love God and be a slave of righteousness and not of sin. This might be the last time you read the true gospel of salvation..look around 🔥🔥 the end is nigh. Please don't reject God's gift. Your soul is on the line.Jesus loves you❤
Every dog is a good dog!
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cat for me
I’m FINALLY accepting that I will spend my life alone. I’m tired of letting myself down believing that I will have the love I desire and I’m treated wrong. I really refuse being the only one putting in work to make a partner happy and I get the bare minimum. I know I’ll NEVER let ME down!
It's sad, but you are realizing that not everyone is destined for marriage.
Thank you for saying this.
@@hamilton9651you can still feel that you should be alone even if you've been married.
@@jeffharris8166yep I’m just getting out of a marriage and I believe I’m destined to be alone
Be less critical of men.
I've been alone so long I can't imagine being with anyone.
are you still alone bro ? : (
YES!!! 😳😳
Same with me
What's bad about being alone is that when you die, your corpse will never be found unless someone noticed it and had to clean them up, there's a lot of case of lonely deaths in Japan
Same. I think I’m going to start a CZcams to at least have virtual friends.
The only thing worse than feeling alone by yourself is feeling alone in a relationship
Been there.
Actually that's the most healthy state. Accepting your aloneness even when someone else is around. There's no contradiction.
I enjoy my solitude. I can hear the peace and tranquility when I'm alone. I'm at peace when I'm alone.
You nailed it
Mannnnn!!!!!! Absolutely
I'm okay with being alone for the rest of my life, but I'm also open for the right partner.
Me too...
Exactly. Everything is good! ( unless of course it does turn out to be the wrong partner!! 😳)
No the hope you refer to in this context is when your not content with being alone and hope for a partner. Here we are saying we are happy with either. Very clear and simple.
Exactly. You got it
in other words, no compromise and no fakeness.
He is so right. I been alone and depressed all my life. but two years ago I accepted my fate and I am at peace and embraced my 33 years of loneliness
I’m autistic and dating is a hassle. It’s so much easier to be alone. I seem to have a bigger problem with myself when I’m with other people (or around people) because they have a problem with me. Relationships require me to change too much because my lifestyle is unconventional. I’ve accepted a long time ago that I will not be able to be in a healthy relationship. I hear the words “I’m meant to be alone” in my head after almost every human interaction. And I’m actually okay with it. When I say that I deserve to be alone I am not saying that I’m not worthy of being loved, I just owe myself what I enjoy the most, being by myself. I deserve to have that.
Let me guess, people assume that just because you're autistic you enjoy being alone?
If so, same
I'm in the same boat. Because I've spent all of my life alone unless I absolutely need to speak to people I just don't. Being alone isn't a bad thing when you enjoy all the activities you do while alone.
@@rojaefraser4071 exactly
@@rojaefraser4071 being alone can be freeing but also quite terrifying at the same time. The more you spend time inside your own head the more the bad thoughts seem to want to pop out. As for me I'm fine if I'm alone. I don't need anyone to complete me anyway.
@Aexton Rebel it's never too late to find someone. Shrek didn't have a girlfriend til he was 30.
In today's society, atleast in Western society finding a partner is usually based on money, status, power, charm, competition etc... For spiritually minded people it is very difficult, in my humble opinion.
I live in the east, and it is exactly the same here
I also think the same
😊🙏♥️🌏🌻
I totally agree with you! Non-love items on your checklist clearly spells out the transactional nature of western culture relationships. Fuck it--I'd rather live my life alone.
@@youchris67 More peaceful. You don't have to worry about plaising others!
Being alone can be rough, but being with someone you're not compatible with is a lot worse...
yeah, actually true
Too True☑️
Not after a lifetime of loneliness. I'd rather have a few failed experiences than never at all.
So true, especially if your partner is abusive emotionally or physically. You can't take rejection personally. Just try to be the best friend you can be and you'll find people who will befriend and love you. Friends are fine, you don't have to have a romantic partner.
Exactly!! 🙌🏾💯💯💯
Better to be happy alone than unhappy with the wrong person. Voice of experience!
When I was a teenager, a man said to me " How can you find someone, when you don't need anybody?".
It was true, and he could sense that I wasn't a '1/2', but complete by myself.
Relating with people exhausts me, and saps my strength.
But, sometimes I do need a good hug.
People who spend most of their lives alone, and not lonely, tend to have very wise old souls. We stand alone because we don't need the support of others. The Universe always sends us what we need. If you don't have a lot of people around you, it's because you don't need them. We are all much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. There is a peace and strength in being alone. It's not a bad thing.
That’s the way I’ve been my whole life! Alone, but not lonely! I’m ok with interacting with nobody.
Beautiful sentiment! I can relate and agree :)
@@sweaters_and_harmony9525 thank you!
i can relate and agree as well. i’m in a very lonely relationship for 14 years now.
Beautifully said :)
There is a difference in being alone and being lonely. Do not confuse the two.
Indeed, as loneliness can occur when surrounded by many.
Alone is to be at piece
Wise words...and very true.
Solitude can be very therapeutic, if you enjoy yourself!
Yeah, but when you choose to be alone, you can end up being and feeling lonely. It’s not like everyone who isolate and choose to be alone knows how to socialize. Keep that in mind.
lonely is being alone and wishing you weren't
I feel like my vibration lowers when I'm in a relationship.. a doorway to problems.
Omg Yes me too..
I liked what you said but only for me it's exactly opposite..my vibration level drops when I'm alone and thrives when I'm in a relationship..I was trying to find a way to put it into words and you just did..Thank you❤️ I just can't help but equate being single with failure..maybe it's not but it's how I feel. I've been in relationships since I was 17 and I'm 23 now, and feeling extremely self conscious being (TEMPORARILY) single. Honestly id like to not feel this way about it but I can't not..when you're with someone there's fun, companionship, sex, and others respect you more but single it's like you're a weirdo or whatever and the going to bed alone,waking up alone..no thank you, I'll take relationship anytime
@@anneannabu5130 You seem needy. Hopefully you deep dived after this post and found a way to like yourself.
@@anneannabu5130 it sounds like you're describing codependence?
@@nobodynowhere21 yea I guess so..but isn't that being human? We are social creatures, not to be alone but to have SOMEONE
I honestly love being alone. I married myself. It sounds silly but at the end of the day I know myself better than anybody else. Love yourself.
"The loneliest people are the kindest,
the saddest people smile the brightest,
and the most damaged people are the wisest.
All because they don't wish to see others suffer like they do"
~ anonymous ~
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This made me cry it is SO accurate. Thank u 4 putting into words what I have always felt but never knew how 2 express!
@@robyndismon394
Robyn,
It's exactly how I felt when I first read it.
I appreciate your message.
I borrowed it years ago please feel free to borrow and share as well.
I wrote it up really pretty and printed it on nice paper. Then laminated it and cut I think 50 copies. I passed it around to people in my walks in life.
It kind of helps to know that we are more observant than we give ourselves credit for.
I hope you have a happy and humble life above ground.
Much respect from katrinka🌺🌴
A-fucking-men
Brought tears to my eyes
That’s truly honest ! Well put
Im a loner too, i know il spend the rest of my life alone. So i took a long serious look at what i want. I love plants and animals and nutrition. So i started down this trail, and I've learned so much about farming, which i could not have done with a partner. My diet improved and i can eat the way i want. I have 7 dogs who i love, we are a family. My yard is a huge jungle of fruit trees and vegetables. I wake up at 4 every morning and i gleefully jump out of bed. Im a happy camper.
Pls dont be sad, from today , you are not along bec , u have me has a daughter ok
Beautiful 🙏🏼💕🙏🏼
Such an inspiration. What a beautiful life u have. So glad 2 hear that u value and appreciate the beauty you've achieved.
Gratitude IS key!
Sounds like you have a wonderful life!
I’m happy for you Susan 💙
I feel exactly like you man, nothing but heartache, frustration, and rejection. At 37 it’s hard not to feel like maybe it’s just not meant to be for me. It takes a lot of courage to put a video out to the world talking about feeling that way, good for you.
Iam also 32 years old and i fear that
For this issue
update I’m 40 and still single
@@fhowlandlmao I feel this and I’m only 22.
Here's my story (if you want to read). I've fully accepted now, I'm probably going to end up to be alone forever. First, I found it tough accepting it!!
I live alone, don't have many friends around, faced rejection multiple times, seeing people my age & relatives getting engaged/ married, having kids, settling down happy together, etc...
Yes, I felt sorry for myself, depressed, anxiety, miserable, ugly and jealously, which I feel is awful and didn't do me any favours.
Anyway, I took up surfing, found other fun sports what I enjoy and passionate about. Now, I'm focusing on myself and goals, without any distraction. It feels awesome, and I've never felt so confident!
Don't have any commitments, no responsibility, no distraction, do what I like and don't care what people think of me anymore.
I couldn't be any happier right now, and loving life!
So that's my story.
If you're still reading this, and in my situation before, I really hope you find/ do what you love and passionate about. Most importantly, your own HAPPINESS
Life is too short!! Best wishes to you all out there 🙏🤙
Thanks for writing .
Truth hurts. Being one's own grown up is tough, but it's worth it. I see so many toxic, painful relationships around me. Theirs an empowerment in being single.
Aint wanne live lonely forever
I cant handle it cause of my anxiety
Ya same , the real deal over fake or convenience
@@Moesie Yes you can. That's where the strength and healing from anxiety and sanity is. It IS. Love and comfort and nurture yourself and self soothe. You can do this. There is great power to be had from being alone and loving yourself. If you look you will see that you are REFUSING to love yourself. Watch Teal Swann videos on connecting to yourself.
Absolutely 💯 I say I'm single but not available.
Agreed. I'd rather be alone than in one of the toxic, forced relationships I've witnessed. Some people think they absolutely HAVE to be with someone at all times and thus will hook up with anyone.
My biggest personal enlightenment came with the realization that I don't need a partner or relationship in my life to be happy.
Yep same with me.
Thats the biggest lie,And im happy that yourself saw that blessings
I agree with you 100%. Hands down.
Happiness starts with what you love doing. What makes you thrive whether nature etc. It has nothing to do with another human being.
Exactly,once I got pass"Romanticizing" the ideal of relationships,it actually took me back to my real self,I'm a loner by nature,I'm a private person by nature,and,no,I don't have all the mental energy it takes to carry toxic,draining relationships,I was literally mentally and physically exhausted from trying,I've never been into having a big circle of friends (quality over quantity),and,never was a "Keeping up with the Joneses" type,so,I'm good,and,like he stated, "I've never been happier",I've actually said this to ppl,and meant it
It's important to point out that just because you have accepted being alone, it doesn't mean that you must stop seeking a partner. I think acceptance of being alone will stop us from being desperate in our seeking, which can lead to rejection or being taken advantage of.
I think you are right
I’ve always thought this
People that spend their lives alone are usually happier as they get older. They have lived long enough to see that humans are basically not wired to get along on a long term basis
I'd rather spend the rest of my life alone than spend the rest of my life with someone that treats me badly
Amen
Yes I completely agree with you
True
...but what about with someone who treats you GOOD..why is it it's always," I'd rather stay single than be in a bad relationship"..what about a good relationship??
@Mistake Maker This is true, I agree..just doing things or buying things is like trying to buy love and attention, but what I'm meaning is, I keep reading these single people's comments that keep saying " I can do me", " I love doing what I want", I ME MINE..and it's pretty obvious that these types who are claiming to prefer being single and living alone are generally selfish and self absorbed..and I'm not trying to put them down but all I'm saying is IF..IF they'd TRY thinking of someone else's happiness and wanting the satisfaction of doing for someone they could love, they'd discover the joy that can only come from sharing a life with someone opposed to waking up alone and going to bed alone..that's not living, it's existing, don't you think?
It seems parents who are emotionally unavailable to their children, cause them to struggle finding a lifelong partner.
Bingo
My mom told me she didn't want to get married (probably didn't want to have kids either) and probably was depressed her whole marriage. I feel like i never got something I needed as a child, to be able to comunicate with people. I find it easier to be alone by my self.
They do this purposly too, because many of them have a or several cluster b dissorers. Some of them are sadists too. They have children just to torture them, which means they shouldn'teven be allowed to take care of their own children in thefirst place. Yet they're allowed to because society lets them. We have to change laws and get new laws in place. The most unfit people to become parents are the one's who's procreating the most in this society. But you and every other human has their own responsibility to put these evil people where they belong and not accept their evil behaviour and let them get away with it. You use excuses like I'm proud of being an outcast, I'm too evolved to care. Take some active action to change these circumstances instead.
@@entertaintment4301 Parents with personality disorders often had traumatic childhoods themselves. Furthermore, these parents are usually unaware of their own PDs and don't understand how their behaviours may affect their children. Emotional wellbeing, family dynamics, relationship communication skills and effective problem solving with regards to families are not taught in school, as far as I know. I'm 51 and I've been recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I have struggled with depression since childhood. I have also struggled to maintain friendships, relationships and employment. I've never been married and I haven't had a romantic relationship in years. I used to feel very sad about that, but now l feel fine...at peace. I never felt safe in relationships, I never really felt good enough, I always felt that I would be abandoned....so I'd finish the relationship before I could get hurt. Both my parents were depressed and emotionally unavailable. I don't believe it was their intention to harm me, but due to their lack of self awareness, low emotional intelligence and poor parenting skills, they just couldn't help themselves. Good,loving, supportive, and consistent parenting has to be learned.
Amen..... And that's a fact.
These type of parents are usually covert narcissists .
if you lived your whole life alone,you are a LEGEND
Cheers to us
Thank you for making me feel cool just before I go to sleep alone again for the 345'000 night
If you’ve lived your whole life never experienced love or been cared for Then you are Truly a Legend .
Thanks I guess lol
Its hard to let go of the need to be held and cuddled though. Especially with quarantine. Humane touch is a basic need and im a really affectionate person
I so miss the touch of a woman been so long for me! Life alone is not living!
Yea it’s definitely a tough part for me too but I think having animals can really help a little.
There are cuddle parties for exactly this need.
Also long hugs and/or massages or comforting touch with close friends might satisfy this need for some.
And there's also cuddling with animals, who give unconditional love..
I actually hate being touched because of how much I like it. It's like having a switch on your body that someone can flip to make you want them.
Every once in a while this woman at work touches me and it drives me crazy, but I don't want to be an asshole and tell her to stop, so I just try to keep my distance. She's so fiery and mean, she would be terrible for me, but I can't stop thinking about her, and every time she touches me it drives me crazy.
Same. Intimacy and touch are my love language and I always believed I would have someone to share it with. But at 58 it seems I'm destined to walk this journey alone.
It's better to be alone than in Loveless marriage.
It's peaceful to be alone .
Testify
@@Ravencross06 when ur happy with urself for ur life and u don't need someone else to justify your actions.
Your life . Ur existing.
Ur happy .. inner peace comes from within.
I spend many times by myself . I'm not depressed. I'm not insane. I just like lone time . There's nothing wrong with me. And I don't need someone in my life .
@@Ravencross06 and I'm in a marriage where I love my husband deeply but he does not love me ..
@@jodifloria6647 I've been feeling that way also..After 41 yrs..My husband has been this way 4 the last few yrs..He works w/ alotof women..I can c the change so much..Plus I've been very sick 2 go w/all the rest of it..
My friends in miserable marriages don’t understand my happiness being alone. They don’t believe me when I say it.
are they really miserable? :(
I believe it I been married 3 times and they all sucked. I'm happier alone. 👍
Absolutely!
@@chuckhines459 I agree. I'm a pretty happy person and my partners were always reading into whatever I did to match some script in their heads that was right out of their childhood trauma. My first was a rageaholic, but at least I knew what stories he was creating because he was yelling them at me. (Why he wanted to create that hell I don't know because I thought the world of him.) The other two were passive aggressive and wouldn't speak their truth. At some point in each relationship, I knew when things were going off the rails but they withdrew and wouldn't communicate. It was at the end of each when I learned about their internal dialog. As hard as it was living with a rageaholic, that was far better than puzzling over changes in behavior that were passed off as nothing because the person lacked the wherewithal to assert their needs. Didn't help to have told them the process I had to go through to learn to communicate my needs and ask for help. Modelling respectful communication didn't help either. If a person is afraid of conflict, afraid the other won't love them if they have needs that "might" conflict with their partner's, even respectful communication feels too threatening. It took me a long while to realise that there aren't a lot of responsible grownups out there -- that is, people willing to accept responsibility for their own feelings and act on that.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS just be yourself. it is important to agree some limits/boundaries early on in the relationship - because each person that comes in our lives will reflect part of ourselves that we like or dislike, see this whole process/game of life and relationships we build is for us to know ourselves, what we are able to allow and what not in parts, and I believe what this video is about is to stop beating ourselves up and just acknowledge and accept your situation without judgment, it is ok even if every romantic relationship went wrong in the past, so what, imagine for a moment that through these experiences you learnt about who you are and what you want from life, what are you willing to allow or not, write down the things that are important to you so you don't forget them especially when you are in the process of forming a new relationship. Remember the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. Honor that, and treat yourself kindly, regardless of what has happened in the past. We have to learn to live alone for sometimes so that fog will disperse and never come back haunting you. You can still do all the activities you would do as if you were with a partner, without the fights, negativity and judgment as a bonus. ;) Cook the food you like, watch the movie you want, build new friendships, go out alone or with friends, take yourself in holidays as you would do with a partner, talk to strangers, smile. When you get to that point and you feel the joy of living without depending on anyone you are then ready for a new relationship. Stop pondering on the past, live, covid is around the corner. :)))
Life's short. Better to be alone than be with someone who makes you miserable. I'm alone been alone for more than 20 years its not so bad.
That's life, it's not the same for everyone.
Wow I hope I could do that
Thank you, this is exactly what I needed to hear, after 33 year years of being alone I'm starting to think there has to be a reason for this - this feels very much like something I need to stop inwardly fighting and plain and simply come to accept for my higher state of being
The deepest most horrible loneliness can be experienced within a relationship.
To come to terms with yourself and not be relient on external love means one can be alone, which is different from being lonely.
yes, my ex was a narcissist and i was lonely as hell even when in the same room as her...
Now that is wisdom. Another can add a little to one's happiness, but for the most part happiness can only come from within, as every spiritual teacher has said.
So true. I was never as lonely as when I was in a bad marriage. There are definitely worse things than being single/ alone.
@@yeahtbh.161 I relate this 💯
Excatly💯
"If you aren't happy with what you have, how could you be happy with more?"
--Chinese fortune cookie
No. The WORST is this:
"Keep your goals away from trolls...."
--Chinese fortune cookie
@Marshall W Not stupid. You have to think about it. Self Love is what this fortune cookie conveyed.
What utter garbage
@@stevenfranks3131 - nah, that is good and sensible advice.
Some people are missing the point. It's not just the something more in life; it's when life, through circumstances that are not in your control, hands you something less. Happiness starts and ends with the self. Here's what research shows: If you're a miserable person and you win the lottery, you'll be pretty happy for possibly a couple of years, but after that, you'll be miserable. If you're a happy person who has some disaster befall you, you'll likely be unhappy for a couple of years, but happiness will likely be yours.
I am a pretty joyful person and experienced the latter. I became disabled at the prime of my life, watched in horror when people abandoned me as a result of my disability (people I thought would be friends for life), and I had a pretty rough couple of years. Then, joy, which had become infrequent, returned. My partner at the time - someone who was mostly morose - was emotionally stricken by our change in status, by the social rejection, and also, I think, by my ability to adjust to the change in my circumstances and worse, to be able to be joyful. (It must be hard to watch a partner whose illness "ruined" your life adjust and experience joy when your life is now joyless because you lack the ability to adapt to the situation and find joy.) "Partner at the time" pretty much tells you what disability tends to do to a marriage - people run... that's their adaptation. Yeah, that was hard too because despite being morose, I thought my partner was the love of my life. Joy returned. I have no doubt the ex is still morose unless the realisation that happiness is an inside job has sunk in. (Which is not to say that some people do not have intractable depression. However, many people have attitudes about life, expectations about life, that leave them constantly disappointed or blue without also possessing that something more -- other attitudes -- that allows them to let joy enter their lives.)
This man is so honest, how cool that another human can reveal his own pains and truth with us which ironically makes us feel less alone. I’ve been rejected and abandoned but I’ve recovered and have come to learn people don’t reject or abandon people they love, they reject or abandon people they were using.
"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." Carl Jung - You feel less alone now, because you know there is someone out there, understanding you ;-) I feel the same.
Being alone is far way better than being stuck w/ fake friends & toxic people for d rest of ur life.
I've been so unhappy with myself over the years and always thought I needed someone. Nope, I needed myself back. The old me.
Such a beautiful comment. ❤️
I would like to steal these words, a very good point
That’s exactly what’s wrong with me.. I need my old life back... my old self & I’ll be good.
I feel like Teresa & Linda too...it started a while back, am in a fairly loveless long relationship but can’t face going thru’ the dating thing ever again if we did split, keep feeling I’m not where I belong & people shallow. I’m too old to move abroad to live to make a new life and I really worry for the future and how to go about being fully independent as I can’t really work a regular daily 9-5. The other option is euthanasia but I feel like I could be useful somewhere still 😕...I do wonder how many others out there are stuck like this. Small wonder there’s so much homelessness & suicide in the world and labelling them all ‘depressed’ or mentally ill is a cop out and not what’s really happening.
Yes, yes, yes, yes!!! You go, Girl!!!!
I am 66 and realize that I should have always been alone. I was one of those that felt a person was not complete unless they had someone in their life. That is not true. What I found was that the ones I wanted to be with did not want to be with me and the ones that wanted to be with me I did not care for. I enjoy my life now. I can do whatever I want whenever I want. I don't have any kids because I never wanted any. I am alone now because I want to be. I am my best company. I am my best friend. I have really gotten to know myself. Something I never did in the past. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I am alone and that's the way I want it. Don't be afraid to be alone. Only insecure people need someone to hang onto and depend on.
Are u not afraid of still being alone when 80?
Yes I totally second this! A friend of my Mum’s is 83 never married and is such a happy fulfilled lady. She enjoys her group activities with the U3A and travels a lot, she is one of the most joyous souls I have ever met. She said she just knew that she never wanted a life partner just loads of friends and tons of great experiences. Being in a partnership isn’t for everyone! 👍😊
“Only insecure people need someone to hang onto and depend on.” I’m insecure so I hang onto JESUS.
@Sunflower Seeds He tells us: “If ye believe in me even though ye were dead yet shall ye live.” Some security there.
You are "preaching to the choir"!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hugs through Jesus!
As someone without a single friend or family or a relationship, I can say with years of such experience that being alone and being lonely is utter hell.
While I agree with the video that we can live happily without a romantic relationship, that’s a premise based on the idea you have family and friends to fulfill your emotionally needs - you always need SOMEONE in your life. Humans are not meant to live in social isolation, we’re a social species. In such a scenario where you have no one, you absolutely should be pursuing possible relationships/friendships.
The people who can truly survive as a hermit and be genuinely happy without a single connection to another person are usually mildly autistic (also referred to as Aspergers). These people’s brain chemistry are different in a way that makes them not always need human contact of any kind - a lot of people who are full on introverts are autistic but haven’t been diagnosed, particularly females.
For those who aren’t autistic, it’s essential to have meaningful human interactions and relationships. So many Psychology studies have been done about the effects of isolation on the human psyche and it reinforces why complete isolation has commonly been used as a (very effective) torture method throughout history.
It’s usually easier to make friends than find a romantic partner so you should start there, if you’re having an extremely difficult time with it I highly recommend seeing a psychologist about it so they can coach you through this and give you individualised advice on how to achieve your relationship goals, whether they be platonic or romantic.
@@Sanakudou The isolation has resulted in me becoming even more disconnected from people. Can't remember the last time I actually had physical contact with someone, could be years. Now it is at the point where I can't connect anymore. Sometimes I feel my sanity begin to slip. Sometimes it borders on ok. But as for an actual relationship, romantic or otherwise, no longer possible.
Society ostracizes depressed people, calling them toxic and negative. This just creates a snowball effect and pretty soon one finds oneself self completely alone.
And yes, with a family/friend support structure in place of course it is easy. But not everyone is blessed to be liked by others, let alone be loved. Besides if one has such a support structure then one isn't alone anyway.
I find that these happy-clappy people telling everyone to 'just' be happy is much like rich people saying money doesn't matter. Tell that to a starving man.
@@davidamrama Take initiative David. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, getting around people will remind you that "society" isn't that judgemental. That's YOUR snowball effect, that's your catastrophising mental script. It's how people with Depression RATIONALISE prolonging suffering. As someone with Depression, learning to distinguish between self-sabotage and a more objective reality saved me. Yes, there are "normies" who have been there. They just keep that chapter to themselves. Fear of vulnerability. It's not you "against the world".
Depression can become addictive, and like any addiction, withdrawal symptoms such as cynicism and self-pity are a part of the process of weaning off of the crutch of self-imposed isolation and justification. We all go through periods of pain. It's whether you let that define you which determines your journey in this life.
Your comment indicates frustration, which shows you may still want a shot at being heard, seen and appreciated. Wherever you are, keep going. People need your story to have a transformative ending. Do it for the rest of us who cling to the torch flame of hope in the depths of darkness. Be the bearer to pass it on.
@@Sanakudou I have Asperger’s , and yes I do find solace in my alone time. I’ve jumped from relationship to relationship and they only serve to damage my spirit. However, I also have siblings and parents who I am extremely close to. I can’t imagine being alone forever without any company
I agree...I would choose the drama with a lover over having no lover
Throughout my journey I have found that letting go is one of the hardest things we are forced to do. I've already came to terms with the fact that I might spend the rest of my life without a partner to share myself with. However that doesn't take away the fact that despite enjoying my solitude, there are moments or even movie scenes that trigger my sadness and longing for a meaningful relationship. It's a one day at a time situation a guess. Life without hope can be monotonous but it's better than rising in hope and them falling to the ground. That's too painful and no one should have to endure such suffering. I rather enjoy my plain colorless loneliness instead of feeling that I'm not good enough one more time.❤❤❤
Multiple Life partners; Trees, birds, animals, lakes, ocean... no rejection no fighting.
That is so beautiful. Perfect
This comment, brought tears to my eyes; knowing I’m not the only one who feels this way.
Yall i so relate to these comments! My relationships are with every living thing around me and all the lonely elders at my dad's care facility, & my departed mom & kin & friends. I had no solitude for 5 years. Now i revel in it, reborn like a person raised from the dead! People, love EVERYTHING!
I've seen a lot of friends that have been in long term relationships and I'm sooooo glad I'm single. I do what I want, when I want, how I want, etc. I have lots of interests and I enjoy my own company. I get tinges of loneliness but nobody has a perfect life.
Same with me.
Same here
A good nap, a walk with you dog and ting goes away. Or? Just remember what it was like with the nutty other
Same here.
For most of my life I thought I was an exception. Just a misfit bound to live and die alone. Watching your content and reading the comment section gave me some mixed feelings. I don't know whether to be happy that I am not the only one, or sad that there are so many people like me. Thank you for the video.
There is no happiness in being alone. It's a myth.
In my opinion, what often hides behind the desire for a relationship is the fear of being a failure without a relationship.
And romantic love is almost the holy grail of modern life.
Yes, I do believe that if you fail to ever get into a relationship, whether it be 1 day or 100 years, then there is indeed something wrong with you. If you do get into a relationship, you have a sense of you were successful in some regard and it is okay that you can't get into a relationship longer. Time is the problem here. If you're in your 20s or early 30s and you finally figure out the problem, then that is great. But once you get past that point, it's really best to prepare yourself for being single for the rest of your life. You're no longer going to find someone in that age range who is in the same boat as you, and if you do, it won't work out because they'll wonder why you haven't found a relationship yet and think there is something wrong.
@@Dan-di9jd puny
No matter what I do I'm always alone... I try to make friends, relationships, etc... It's like I'm forced to be alone!!!!
Me too it always happened there come a situation were a ppl leave my life sometimes bcz I decided that when I find out that they don't deserve to be in my life or they leave my life coz circumstances and again I'm alone despite the fact of being a kind and a sympathetic...ppl always ask me how come that a such beautiful woman is lonely well I don't have an answer unfortunately I'm aware of my value perhaps I'm I'm destined to be alone all my life.
God will bless u just be strong
This is my hunch to. Some of us are just destined to be outcasts. There will be instances that are like beyond coincidences and you just know that there is some force or something that makes it near to impossible to feel connected to anyone.
Sonia angel you are very beautiful I’m sure you get a lot of attention. You will have plenty of opportunities to meet someone I’m sure.
You speaking straight out my soul
I’m actually happier on my own..
Same here.
I have been alone for 7yrs after losing my girlfriend to anorexia and I have in the last year been on a dating site and have had lots of interest but the thought of starting over again at the age of 50 fills me with dread as I don't want to be Hurt again.ive realized that I'm happier on my own and I have decided to stop looking for a partner.im happy with being single and it would take a VERY special lady to change my mind.
In India it is said God reserves the best for himself and he doesn’t want to share those loved ones with anyone 😊 So be happy being blessed
Repeated rejection really sucks the ego out of you. I am trying to be at peace with living alone, but remain hopeful that I might find some companionship some day…but I get less and less likely to ask because rejection really stings.
Spiritually awakened people have a hard time to find a partner in this physical plane of existence...
Amen to that 😊🙏
True
Yep 😢
Being motivated by different values has a lot to do with it, especially since the mainstream culture only perpetuates itself, and makes no provisions for those who walk a different road. It's almost as if each of us is required to blaze the trail afresh, without the luxury of guidance from those who've walked our path before us. It's hard to meet people we can truly relate to, unless we chance upon them through online or IRL groups/experiences.
Amen
IT'S BETTER TO LIVE "ALONE"
THAN TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE
WHO MAKES YOU FEEL - "ALL ALONE!"
MG✝️OW
I couldn’t agree more
Its better to live alone than wish you were!
I know the feeling of relationships where i feel alone.
The loneliest place I ever was, was a bad marriage.
My whole life changed in 2006 when I followed Louise Hay's suggestion to look into my eyes in the mirror and say "I love you and will take care of you". When we accept and love that wounded child inside of us, we become less needy of receiving it from others. We can't truly love anyone until we do accept ourselves unconditionally. We are enough to live an abundant life with the peace that passes all understanding. Hugs
Being alone doesn't mean being lonely. I have been alone for quite sometime. Yes it gets lonely but you get used to it. I have accepted it and I'm happy❤
I came to that path at 45. I am now 68 years of age and things are fine. I would have loved to have had someone in my life forever but I realized not in this lifetime... but my joy will be in the next
would you honestly say that it was worth it or no ? asking for myself
@@eddieraydz3182 yes I do believe it was worth being alone....all the lessons I have learned.has helped me to be strong for the now
In solitude is wisdom...
It's never late to.find love
deborah barry, wow, I am the same age and my enlightenment came at about the same age as you. When one knows the facts, it is more power to the people who are single and at peace wit the world and themselves.
Its hard to accept being alone when you don't have friends or family either.
I'm in the same boat x
Me too
I was raised in a narcissistic family and I was the scapegoat. It has been a tough life for me. I only figured out within the last 10 years the consequences of this family dynamic. The mistakes I made in relationships as a result of this upbringing and they are numerous. I learned to accept that there are consequences with my own past mistakes with others and being alone is more than likely best for me and best for others. I love people but I have a hard time because of my upbringing. I am okay with an occasional meaningless brief conversation. I prefer others do not know my past I notice others like me without really knowing much about me, but once they get to really know me they end up not wanting anything to do with me. Most, do not understand the narcissist family dynamic because fortunately, have never experienced it. I would never wish it on anyone. I chose the no contact with my immediate family and every year that goes by I am discovering who I am, not what they told me I was and found it was the best choice I ever made.
@@marshamarshamarsha4567 I understand Marsha. I faced my past and finally cried and mourned for the pain that I endured from being the scapegoat of a narcissist family 6 years ago. It was the hardest thing I had ever had to do. I slammed shut the door to the past and somehow they were able to inflict horrendous and unimaginable pain unto me for the last time ever. I refuse to accept toxic people into my life ever again. I haven't spoken to any of my immediate "biological family" in years and have never been more at.peace. I am hoping that you continue to heal and.to nurture yourself. Your life has great value. You are not alone. Blessings to you.🙏❤️🙏
@marshamarsh
Yes I am.
16 years so far completely alone, no friends, no texts, no calls, no online friends, no Facebook or instagram, just me myself and I 365 days a year every year.
Can’t wait for it to end
You're just a slave to your confirmation bias. The only thing keeping you alone is your unwillingness to pursue meaningful relationships.
@@henriktamminen7438 false. I live in an area without many options.
I try everyday to make friends and meet a girl hopefully.
No one wants anything to do with me
I’ve never had a person ever come to my house, no one has ever called or messaged me and invited me to anything. I’m on every dating site known to man and I’ve never once gotten a single like
The only girls to ever give me any sort of attention are all overweight
I try my hardest but I cannot control other people, I can’t make people like me or want anything to do with me.
Everything in this world I want to obtain I can with hard work besides friendship and companionship, I simply cannot figure that aspect of life out
@@henriktamminen7438 besides I live in upstate NY, there aren’t meaningful relationships in this area.
Just drugs, poverty, and just the worst human beings known to man.
I haven’t even talked to a girl that wasn’t a customer or had 6 kids in over 16 years
Damn everything you've said in this video truly touched me. I'm 28 years old and life is just passing me by. This video came at such a perfect time. I'm getting so much happier being alone now
How are you doing now
But you're hottt!!
We don't need a relationship to be happy. Everything has to start with us.
totally right,i have to change that asap,somehow :(
Absolute bullshit. Statements like that are coping mechanisms. If you need to tell yourself that, it means you are not wanted and will indeed be forever alone.
@@Adama.1 what you say to "another", you truly do say to yourself. So be Kind when you speak.
Copium, but seriously you need to step out from comfort zone
@@Adama.1 jerk. :/
That's the thing that makes me the most uncomfortable when people say, oh you'll meet someone one day. I dont believe I ever will. It is a false hope.
Acceptance is the key 🔑 Fall in love with yourself 🥰 Speak kindness into your soul ❤️
@RUSSIAN ROBOT So I'm destined to be alone forever because I was some kinda ass at incarnate. Great!
@@hjtres7261 your destiny is your design. Dig deep and go for it!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@@glockgrandma2517 ABSOLUTELY. What you've said is so psychologically sound, it's wonderful & I will be using it.
I think the “you’ll meet someone someday” is the worst thing people can say, they’re telling you to be passive and ‘hope’ it’ll happen, you have to actively go out and chase it, find opportunities to meet people because for a lot of people if they remain passive they’ll never encounter the opportunity. My brother didn’t have a single girlfriend, not even a one off date, until he was 30 and finally got brave enough to use tinder without being embarrassed what others might think of him (there was a sigma using it makes you ‘pathetic and desperate’ especially when it first became a thing).
He went on some awful dates but persevered, eventually he found himself the one who’s now his wife and she’s honestly perfect for him, none of my family thought he’d ever meet someone yet he beat all my siblings and me to the alter, quite the surprise! His wife also had thought she’d be alone forever and tinder was her last ditch effort before totally giving up since she was 30 and feared she’d run out of time/was too old for anyone to want her. Their jobs are SO different they’d have never met under normal circumstances if they’d sat around and ‘hoped’ for someone to waltz into their life conveniently.
You have to pursue it actively if you know you won’t be happy with a life on your own or missing out on having a family of your own. You need to be patient, you’ll likely have a lot of failures at first but persevere, it’s a lot better than sitting on your butt to wait and hope the universe gives you what you want just because you really want it, it’s the worst approach to finding a life partner, despite being the most common ‘advice’ people give you.
Worst feeling is not beeing alone, but the moment, that you realize that it will stay this way forever
Having superficial conversations and relationships is worse than a root canal. Being alone is like paradise in comparison. I know from experience. If that limits me to a "puddle", so be it.
Being alone is a introvert’s dream. Sometimes, I feel guilty for bringing this point up, in a loud world
💯🙏👍👌
not really
Damn, you're so wrong about that
@@carloslacerda8888 I’m right
@@MegaPsycho84 what you described is an example of mysanthrope feeling, which could be related to a lot of issues (including serious health problems) or just a mere trace of someone's personality, and not how an introvert is characterized per se. Though, if you value education, maybe you'd be interested in some renowned psychologists pov. In this case, I'd be glad to recommend some books
ALL human relationships are temporary. ALL will end at death
As others have pointed out, its better to be alone than to be in a bad relationship.
Yes! Yes! Yes! And I am joyful and I am content and I am happy! And if I don't want to do the dishes today I don't have to! :-D
It is stupid to view human relationships through the prism of the "one til the end", when "community" is the whole point of human existence, and money of course now that money can buy everything lol
@SuperNova RIP
@SuperNovaKeep in mind, the goal of the evil which is pushing hard to divide and Conquer using DIS-ease. They use social conditioning to push social distancing for a reason.
"The serpent dances upon the foundation of fools, do not be the fool."
@@skdkskdk Depending on your location , finances and proper contacts one can indeed buy "love".
I love this man. He makes my soul happy. He’s soft spoken. He’s patient with his words and videos. Thank you universe for sending him to me. ❤
I don't believe in romantic love and true friendships. in fact, the very thought of those two things (especially romantic love) makes my stomach turn. I know I'm destined to be alone forever, and honestly, I'm PERFECTLY fine with that.
I'm kind of there with you. I experienced what felt to me like true love.....but eventually it fell apart and now she is with someone else. Its hard because I see that most the failure was my doing. I no longer believe in romantic love and feel how humans are wired is more a conditional love. We all want something out of it and want the best deal for ourselves. The arena of romantic love is ruthless and at 58 I think I'm done. It's hard because I love touch, intimacy, sex, and pleasuring my partner. The absence of this leaves an empty feeling inside.
"The best company is that of our own." [OSCAR WILDE]
In the end we're born alone and we die alone. It takes a life time to know yourself, not to mention another person. 'Love' is often an illusion.
I can ashure you that you're not born alone
Can't agree with that.
Well you are probably born out of you mom who was physically there, but i guess that you do have to discover everything yourself.
@@kayleedewit771 im a twin, so technically i was born together. Life-hack.
@@Axelvad 😂very cool life hack. Sad i didn't think aboit that when i was born
"Beware the average man, even his love will be average" - Charles Bukowski.
Homogeny makes life easier for the hoi-polloi. People who are more unique are less likely to meet someone.
Simple statistics play a part in it. We tend to be the observers in this world, trying to make sense of it.
exactly what my videos are about. Avoid the average! Those dime a dozen caucasians, who can be like gods in Asia. The good guys are the super hunks. Its all external. The same rule may apply to women. What you see is what you get. Not a popular thought, but that is why much of society is sad.
So true.
“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”
― Arthur Schopenhauer
Freedom is an illusion
I believed I'm a strong person cause I survived instances in my life when I am looking for someone to help me but nobody came, and I'm still here standing and moving forward.
I love to be alone with nature and my dog. We are never alone we are all interconnected 🙏🏽
There's a difference between being alone and being lonely. I choose to be alone.
Keep telling yourself that honey. Deep down inside I know you wish you had someone.
When your dog passes away do you just get another? Does that make us selfish users
@@crystalclear5098 I would have to mourn my dog for a long time. My dogs personality is so unique it would be hard to replace him. Peace ☮️
@@FranksLair so true. My Roxy passed away a year ago, she was 16. I really hear you 💙
Relationships are overrated, and so Is Valentine's day
Agreed
know that i think about it....that's actually right
Valentine’s Day is not just overrated. It shouldn’t exist
I was born a loner. Got married to women I never really loved, just because I thought it was the right thing people did. Spent 25 years in a loveless marriage. Now alone for 8 years and travel the world with my dog. I love it!! No one to answer to, no one to nag me, no one to stop me from enjoying life. Love it!!
That's great! Travelling is a Great Choice of Living. What kind of breed is your dog? If you, of course, don't mind me asking.
It's amazing how much soul-searching you can do and how much inner-peace you can find when you don't have a significant other in your life. Your time is totally yours to do with as you please and to be as introspective as you want. There's a certain contentment and joy that comes with that when you accept what is instead of lament over what isn't.
True, but it’s a grass is greener perspective. People in relationships look at singles and wish they had all that time in the world to themselves. Some singles wish they had someone to share their life with, even if they created the perfect life for themselves
I can honestly say that I've never found happiness in a relationship. Now that I'm single, I can make my life the way I want it. Without compromise.
Do you feel you chose the wrong partners?
Yes now you are absolutly free to build your entire life however you want to do it, with autonomy and your own decisions. :)
Hire hookers. Send them home
I used to feel this way but now, the longer I stay single, the less hapiness my uncompromised life gives me.
@@forzaferrari9912 get a pet then. Animals are better than people anyways
I told my cat the other day, "be glad you aren't human"....
I just imagined the cat replying in a deep voice "and be glad you're not a cat" :)
@RUSSIAN ROBOT thanks for the reminder, I forgot about, THAT ....
@@Mortequal ha!!! or, "come on, don't you remember how hard it was to be a cat ?"
I am 35 and will be alone forever . I have already been alone for several years . My parents have controlled every aspect of my life for way too long . I now have no other choice but accept that I will be alone forever because of them .
Wow story of my life, i just got out of my mothers grip and i know I wont be finding anyone, this video gives me peace 🙏🏽
23 here, can relate to everything you said.
I don't want to be alone because I'm afraid if I'm single and older I could fall into addictions but also I don't want to be in a relationship where at any time my partner could betray me or stop loving me and leave. Man life sure is tough as hell
This life is way tougher than I imagined it would be. I seem to have come into it very naive and have had to learn the hard way. At this point I can't say I enjoy the human experience. It's too sad, lonely and uncomfortable.
I've been on several relationships, but over time I ended up getting tired of the drama and the excessive amount of time and energy I had to put in the relationship. So, about my mid 40s, I decided to be alone and couldn't be happier. I never feel alone and have the time to pursue my hobbies and interests. Most of my same-age friends who are still single, report the same experience.
Smile and be happy always rem God will bless u and give u the right one ok
But you just said you have friends. So you're not alone at all. Try having zero friends or family, now THAT'S alone!
@Cindy Lou I know how you feel. 30 years old and also worried about what my later years are gona look like...
Solitude is bliss
@@Purple9721. yes i agree no family no more friends but due to a conscious decision due to a personality disorder sometimes it s hard but i enjoy my life most of the time..
I was so afraid of being alone, I hung on to an abusive relationship way too long. I am alone now and wish that I had ended that relationship sooner.
You and me both,sister! Wasted 6 precious years of my life.I could have gotten out sooner but the bugger kept leading me on saying, "You could be my last" ugh!
This is gold. New subscriber. I am tired of rejection. I am trying to recover from my first love and biggest heartbreak. she’s moved on and I’m trying to heal my heart. Done with attempting to be partnered. Being unpartnered is just as valid. you don’t need romantic relationships to survive. Love this video.
Same but I'm struggling with all that. Lost the love of my life and its been hard to pick up the pieces.
It may be helpful to remember that all relationships are temporary. My lovely partner died of cancer at 29, and I learned that the meaning of our experiences together need not be diminished just because it ends. Everything ends eventually. 💜
I've been alone now for 20 years, although I'm attractive I never met the right one, I'm very sensitive, but its pretty good now, I love being alone most of time, i paint everyday and nobody is there to annoy me or distract, i really enjoy most of the time, i don't feel alone though, i meet people everyday and I have plenty of money to do what I want, would just like someone to travel with! I never felt more alone then when I was in a bad relationship!
I hear you. Similar situation for me too, and enjoying learning about myself. 😊
Traveling alone is the best
Good relationship for 35 years and she past away. Been alone for 2 years and my art work including my outlook on what I paint has improved greatly. I'm also attractive and self supportive. It would be pleasurable to have someone around to have person to person conversation, share meals and chores, go to music events. Except, I don't really want to worry about another being the rest of my life. I got my art, another hobby, a competition sport and many friends. It is hard for me to say if I would or not if the right person came along. But I'm definitely fine on my own the rest of my life it that is how it ends up. People are not alike. To be with a partner, you must give time to what they like. I don't have all that much time left and a whole lot of shit I like to be doing. Have not turned a tv on in over a year. Been there done that. nope! Relax and read.
Same here
@@jewels3895 worst
It’s so nice not having to live up to others expectations.
Amen
As a pleaser this is hard because no matter what you do it will never be enough. Especially in a society that is based on competition for everything. I've always chose to not play the game....for better or worse.
There are worse things than being alone...being with the wrong person is absolute hell...dont be too needy of relationship...the wrong type of person can smell your 'neediness' & can plan to use you & your resources for however long it takes you to cop what's going on! Beware!!...be happy in your own precious company.. learn self love !!❣
I can hear the upset and feel tears in his voice. Being alone is better than being in a bad relationship. A good friend is the best relationship.
It’s actually somewhat relieving if I knew I was to be alone for the rest of my life. It takes a lot of pressure off of me.
i can see that since most people are filled with expectations
Choice is the problem. The possibility of being with someone makes you want to try. And when you try, you eventually find disappointment.
Same
Yeah same, sometimes I feel like God destined me to become a nun or something. But I still feel that sense of questioning and uncertainty like I don’t know where my life is supposed to go, what I’m supposed to be doing, or who I’m supposed to be with. I wish that I had a conviction of some kind but I don’t.
The best part about it you're the boss nobody watching and interfering with what you do can't beat it 👍👍👍
I’m tired of fixing situation-ships. I’m at an age where I need peaceful moments and serenity. No more drama, chaos, inequity and explosive wars I didn’t create. It’s exhausting to be so pleasing.
I am just ending a pretty good nine year relationship. The caring role women often take can just make men take you more and more for granted. Add the odd drama which is just the childish traumas coming out on the closest scapegoat and it's time to know to get out.
Just been there and am now newly single and regaining peace of mind. It had a lot of good but I was disappearing.
I am one of the people who will likely be alone forever. Last time I dated was 10 years ago. No family, no parents, no siblings, no friends, and i'm nearly 40. But strangely, i'm at peace with it. I may not have the most interesting or cool personality, but i am thankful that I am content being alone, and it allows me to dedicate my life to spiritual pursuits.
How to accept and still stay open? Every possibility of a relationship will bring back all those feelings of wanting to be in a relationship, wanting to have a family.
Company is needed to escape the insanity, solitude is needed to escape the insane.
I'm ok with being alone. It's impossible having relationships with egos and that's pretty much all there is out there.
@SuperNova Me experience as well, this society breeds mental illness...
@@hardambition3051 Indeed it really actually does..
date a buddhist
@@ireallylovegod Plenty of Buddhists in P.E.I.
@@ENIGMAXII2112 About 1500 if Canada is 1% Buddhist like the census says , good luck.
I had never realized that I was acknowledging difficult things, but not really accepting them. The acknowledgement never really gave me much in the way of peace. You've given me a lot to think about, something to strive for and I appreciate it greatly. Thank you.
Loved this, and all your videos! The irony here is that once one accepts being alone, letting go of the resistance to the possibility, you may become lined up for the perfect partner. 🙏🏻💕🌻
Thank you wise hippie dude
that is one of my favorite comments Alan, well said.
❤
Funny but true Alan 😆
Alan goeman .....rafiki
Actually that description is really accurate. ROFL
When I had a partner, I could not wait to be alone. 16 years now, and I love it! 😊❤️👍🇳🇴
It’s alright isn’t it? Just another transition through this amazing life.
Better to be alone then to be with someone that makes you feel lonely.
I think I isolate out of fear and extreme PTSD from being abused so much in life. I have no problem making connections, however I agree that I find most of those connections to be pretty superficial. I have healed much on my own, and I enjoy my own company. I’ve detached from the idea of needing a partner to validate or save me. Some of us are meant to be renunciants to some degree, instead of seeking wholeness through another I choose to find it in the Divine within myself. I resonate with much of what you say. I have come to terms with it all, life is school, I believe in reincarnation, life is lessons and I’m sure in many lives I’ve done the cookie cutter thing. Somewhere deep down I think it ends up the same way every lifetime, I am coming to learn as a soul it is about my journey, it’s about growing and learning, accepting change and letting go, ❤ edited: to add, being present. All there is is the Eternal NOW🌌. This moment forever. Deep! Sending love to you friend. Walking this path is for the truly strong. It’s a test of total trust and surrender the Universe. If love finds me I’m confident it’ll find me a better reflection than I was before. I want healed loved not hurt and broken love.