How to GET OVER SOMEONE and MOVE ON with Your Life
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- čas přidán 20. 06. 2018
- Are you still hanging on to someone who turned you down or broke up with you, unable to move forward in your life? I'm going to share with you how I let go and get over someone.
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After a relationship of 7 months I grieved for 7 years Finally I found the way back home....to me.
I am so happy for you. It’s amazing that you came back after such a long journey.
Wow....very proud of you
Bless your heart
My gosh 7 years for 7 months. I feel for you ❤️
@@oliviaromao I'm 56 now .This happend during my twentys. Later on I met my husband and had 4 children. I love them very, very much. So all turned out well 👍
I have been in a relationship with someone who wasn't as invested as I was, and found that to be more lonely than being alone. 💖💖💖
Well said, Laura. I’ve found there’s nothing more lonely than abandoning yourself for someone else.
Exactly, amazing at first but then just pain and hope.
“Rejection is protection” comes to mind..
After 30 years this person left me and now after finding myself , it took two years, I feel it was my fault for holding on to them for too long. Don't make my mistake!
thank you, i feel like i really needed to hear this
me to ..
Thank you. There were two points I gravitated to" (1) release the hope that there will be a relationship and (2) raise the bar, invest in people who make an investment with me.
In order to avoid getting into dysfunctional relationships, one must change the consciousness that attracts such relationships or you will continue with this cycle!
Well said 👏🏼
@Wendy Wilkinson learn about attachment styles
@Wendy Wilkinson pay attention to your triggers and sit with the feeling and let it reveal to you the true source of your pain and or suffering and once conscious the behavior tend to no longer trigger you because it has been resolved.
TRUTH!! “Change the consciousness”! I had to go deep and ask why. Now I know! NO MORE IN MY LIFE TIME!
You get it! Thank you!
Unrequited love and rejection is what I experienced my whole life. I am in the process of healing my wounds and my attachment trauma and I feel so ashamed and stupid for grieving over someone, I actually never had a relationship with. I was always the one who was not able to move on while they had no problem to do so.
@@industrialist2002 much love right back to you 🌈
@@Jemma29 Thank you for your words! 😊 Yes, absolutely.
I can relate,you're not alone
Dani- don’t feel stupid or ashamed about it. Shame can be very damaging to yourself.
@@D07770 Um, I guess I.I. removed the message. but I wanted to write what KJ wrote. "Rejection" is very difficult for me as well. Is it rejection, when she's enamored with someone else?
I helped her through a very difficult time and brought her back to life through my unbending interest, passion and unstoppable energy. We had already been together as a couple for a few years but as I saw that having children was becoming more and more important for her (I couldn't imagine this with her) I more or less pushed her into the next relationship. He turned out to be very bad for her and left her just when she needed him. She was suffocating and so I played spare-tire for her and pulled her back. We weren't intim anymore, but we were always together in movies, restaurants,concerts, playing music together, exhibitions etc. enjoying our company, laughing, crying and discussing everything. I did have a small hope that she'd come out of her depression and "see" me being there for her. Yes after a year she came out of her depression bit by bit and it began to look good, but I'm much older, now, and not really lover-material for her. I encouraged her to find a fellow her age and try being physical, again after the operations but also after the good reports from the onkologist. She did and found someone, right away. It wasn't me., though. Now I have to let her go a second time. At least I've got the satisfaction in knowing I saved her life which is a lot better than burying her, from which she was miraculously saved.
Dani, I'd bet dollars to doughnuts that there is someone or several someones in your circle of acquaintances and friends who are just waiting for YOU to notice THEM. Let that sink in a bit. They are interested in you. The more you concentrate on your painful experience of having been rejected again and again, the less you can possibly notice the wonderfulness of those around you? I'd strongly recommend actively seeing the wonderfulness of those around you - at least one/day - and stop reminding yourself of your former pain. How does this sound? I'm 67. I think I know what I'm talking about and hope it helps.
While we're at it, you write in your first sentence, "Unrequited love and rejection is what I experienced my whole life." If this is truly the case, I'd seek professional help and revisit that very first rejection, for this is that on which you're probably basing your pain. It must be revisited, explored and the conflict resolved. I wish you well, much luck and peace and happiness.
It's been a whole year since you wrote this, Dani. Have things changed? Love.
People can be right for each other at different points in their lives. This is also why relationships can fall apart.
There are no soulmates. There is no ‘one’. It’s a myth.
Modern world problems
@@adrianm8212 LOL
Soul mates are the ones who reveal your ego ..
Adrian M: your not wrong
What also really helps with getting over infatuation is to consciously recollect all that person's faults and flaws. Do that for like 10-20 minutes every day and after a couple of weeks/months, it'll start changing the way you view that person. You're basically doing the opposite of what made you fall in love with them.
I don't need to reject back. This seems silly. With one woman I realized that I had made a mistake but with all the other people in my life (I'm 67), it just didn't work out or we grew apart or I got on the person's nerves and and and. The time we had together was good. There's no reason to dissuade myself and convince myself of something that's simply not the case.
Well all i can say is those girls are confused and blinded. You are an exquisite gem, so much knowledge, you are radiant, brilliant to your core. What you give people is unmatched in the world. Good thing you didn't settle for them or wait & wait. i applaud you!
I completely agree. They must have been completely blind! He is amazing
@@silencio1234 He's not only wise and intelligent, he is also very beautiful inside and out .
Oh come on, you can't force yourself to love someone.
I often think, "What would it be like to be that person's friend," when internetting. With Nada I'm very happy that he does these videos (and he's gotten closer and closer), but I'm also glad to be able to turn him off. It would be very uncomfortable for me not to have a "pause" button with him in real life, I think.
It's also important to know how he (or anyone) listens, don't you think? Not only to his own inner voice, but to me, to the refrigerator-repair-person and even to the TV-program. Is he (the person) kind? considerate? loving? How is one supposed to know this without meeting him (the person)?
I think that usually people do what's best for themselves. I trust that the "girls" were neither confused nor blind(ed) but doing what they perceived as best for them. Love.
@@howardcohen6817 True. He has helped reinforce something someone else told me but I wasn't listening at the time cos I was in so much pain 24 /7.. "If someone isn't as excited about you as you are about them then don't bother with them."
If you do not forgive instantly, you are simply putting off what will have to be done later. Perhaps all you can utter is, "I release you/this situation to Universal Law." This is enough to make a strong start, for it will allow you to turn your mind away from preoccupation with the person.
Coming to terms with being alone for a long time until I learn to love myself again. 🙏🏾
I don't think that love can be found in a prison-cell. Do what you need to do, but also let the world help you with its generosity and beauty. Love.
After 15 years together my relationship ended. After that we tried to get back together again but it always ends the same way. I see now that the appreciation was never the same for one another. Always coming back to use me and throwing me away after she found another. We have to value are self because we can become blinded by attachment. If we don't let go we end up going down with someone that will never appreciate your true value.
Being used as a crutch is not necessarily a bad thing - for a crutch. But when the leg is healed...
My view is that these failed attachments that lead to heartache often happen for a reason to flush out, reveal, and confront self issues or toxic beliefs or unhealthy needs. This should all make us stronger and expanded; but sometimes we struggled to learn so we experience extended grief or even multiple people in which we always end up grieving. This was my life. Was. It took me a long time into my life to realize and challenge and then change the underlying reasons I always ended up in broken relationships as a broken person. My hope for others is to be unafraid to dive deep after a breakup or after noticing a pattern that never brings happiness. Don't waste your time like I did. But sometimes we need to be kicked in the teeth to pay attention. I am alone, but I am so happy. I have good friends. It is only now that I found that I didn't need anyone; rather seek to share my happiness.
You are like a big brother giving his younger brother sound advice. You are very down to earth brother.
Perhaps I like it because of that. I always wanted a older brother.
I just can’t stop watching and rewinding this video. It was sent from the universe to me! I’m going through a situation of grieving unrealized/unfulfilled potential of a relationship with someone I really like but they are not consistently reciprocating their interest toward me. In fact, it feels like a diminishing returns on any attempt I try to invest in reaching out to connect with them. I keep listening to this video because it’s a source of healing for this woundedness I feel inside right now but I’m committed to never contacting them again so this video helps me to do that as I try to move on and take one day at a time. Thank you so much for this! I’m so grateful your channel miraculously popped up in my feed.
Many videos on narccissistic relationships have helped me survive 😘 it gets easier with time! Like any addition!
I have had so many horrible partners.i am grateful because I have learnt from those ones that didn't work out.i like to be respected the same Respect I give them .
There’s so much pressure, both from society and from ourselves to be in a relationship, it’s hard not to get caught up in attachment. I find myself getting frustrated by how unconscious most people are to this. Your video really resonates where I am in my journey right now and has brought me peace during a dark time within myself. Thank you 🙏🏼
I've been binge watching this channel and these vids, particularly this one, have been a huge and helpful blessing. They are just what I needed to hear at the right time. Thank you, Nada.🙏
To be alone and still feel happy, empowered and content with life -- that's a head space I'd love to be in! Not that I totally reject the idea of being in a relationship, but to me, that's just the icing on the cake, and not the actual cake itself.
Really being alone in the right way beats any kind of relationship in my experience. There's not even the potential for conflict, but there is plenty of love.
Thanks man, most of the time Hope in a relationship or crush is the CRAPPY baggage on your shoulder when you're hanging on a steep Cliff, so in order to save your own life, cut that crappy Bag and you'll find helping yourself to a new better life. I promise you that there's always better life waiting.
I feel the same way. Truth. Reminder to stay true to Self. Be open. Embrace our own inner happiness. Thank you
I totally agree from my own experience that you have to be free in your mind from any former relationship, only then you can embrace a new one with all your mind and energy. The best way is to be alone for a while to find out what you really want and need in your life. You can only be happy in a new relationship when you and your new partner are authentic. When both enjoy pursuing the relationship by investing time and energy into it without suffering, then it’s the best relationship, full of mutual interest, appreciation and flow of energy. My own experience shows that while you are going through this process you could never even think of any other potential fish in the ocean because you just feel and know that there is no one better suitable.
There is a redhead I will always love, but that attachment was screwing up my life for a long time. At some point I realized that half the population is male and half the population is female. Someone else that drives me just as wild as she did will come along at some point, and the only thing I can do is focus on moving forward and working towards my goals.
You're a good man, Charlie Brown.
@@howardcohen6817 Thanks for the reply, that means a lot right now.
@@rockguitarist931 Sure thing, Dich. I'm not sure if you understand the "literary" reference but if I can be of help, let me know, here.
For some reason I cannot let go. I must be dragged away kicking and screaming. I grieved for one man for 10 years. Thank you for talking about this. I am alone. I never look at men and certainly never initiate any relationships. But I do long for a mate.
You will find one Rebecca!
I can relate to you so much, there was a girl which i could not get over for 3 years until she got married to someone else. After that just unreal sense of relief hit me. Never looked back.
I longed for him for several months. Now he comes to my thoughts and goes without me feeling intense emotions. I hope that means I have released him.
It just boggles my mind how anyone could turn you down, oh magnificent, beautiful one!
Stumbling upon this channel has been such a gift. I’ve been through a particularly difficult year as many others have too and am using the time in isolation to slowly mend and heal. I’m struggling to remember my value which is so unlike me. But your guidance is helping. One day at a time. Thank you so much.
What insight this man holds ! I just find his voice soothing and insight is on point ! You are so right!
Actually It took me years to get over someone who I was only in a relationship with for a couple months. What I discovered is it was an attachment I developed because I was trying to fill a void. I thought I needed that person to give me love and validate my worth since I didn't received that in childhood. It all starts with childhood in most cases maybe not all. But for me it was childhood traumas that went unhealed and carried on into my adult years. Then I attracted people who would bring those unhealed wounds in me back up. We can't ignore how we feel. Sometimes we have to go back and see if we holding on onto to any type of unwanted feelings and if so they need to be healed and addressed.
Bingo. You really got this one, Soul T.
@@howardcohen6817 thank you
I'm the same as you ,i get over it very quickly to the point where people think i'm heartless but i'm probably one of the most loving people that they'll ever meet, i just feel freer and more content on my own ,i love myself and my own company, and i know myself .Great video thank you for your wisdom .
My codependency has destroyed my life! It took a lot of emotional pain, and finally.... self forgiveness, through prayer and self inquiry, to embrace my sacred space & solitude. Thank you for your words!
They are the healing balance we all need! Shanti, Shanti, Shantii.
I’ve been grieving for over 3yrs for my ex girlfriend, I’ve tried everything, this video has really helped, thanks
I hope you feel better
You're very wise. I was in a relationship with someone in which I was more invested than they were. I've always been a fiercely independent person and am always giving to others, so much so that I'm not sure I know how to recieve. Anyway, I learned what I needed to know from the situation and left. That was over a year ago, but energetically have still felt connected.
Your videos are timeless as well as priceless! Thank you kindly!🌹
You're such an angel, thank you. I needed to hear this.
I don’t wish heartbreak on anyone not even my worst enemy. It’s truly a terrible thing to experience. Grieving a friendship and relationship and a perceived future is truly truly heart wrenching. Praying for everyone.
He moved on long before the marriage was over. He didn't say anything, just didn't honor me or the relationship. He was disinterested. I felt like I didn't matter. He spent more time with other people, and didn't invite me into his social circle of friends. Much was missing for me..Now, I'm glad I don't have to deal with arrogance, selfishness, deception, and cheating on a daily basis. No one needs to tolerate a one-sided, unsatisfying relationship. I deserve much better. TY for affirming that letting go was the right thing to do.
I find you so so so amazing ... I have LOVED all your pod costs it's always soeaking to my heart. I just love your messages theres always such peace and honesty when you talk ... thanku dear soul
Thank you so much. I value, and appreciate your videos so far. The universe sent you right when I needed you. Thank you! 🕊️
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this uplifting, inspirational video. I’ve been going through It these last couple of months & I’ve watched many videos.. but this video is definitely Top tier. A video I’m so thankful I came across. ❤️
I'm so grateful for finding you in the ever vast space of CZcams. 😊 You have such a gentle, calm energy (with a hint of warrior) and I so appreciate that. Thank you for sharing your truth and being a gentle guide. Bless...🤲🏽🦋🤲🏽
Wow, you got a lot of experience. Same here it's just hard to accept the truth. Thanx for these videos man, at least there s someone understanding out there
Thank you so much! Just what I need to hear. I will listen again and again until I let go.
Thank you so very much for sharing your love and light. I needed to hear all of this❤️
You are so amazing. Not just your powerful words, but the way you express them, share them. Your energy is remarkable and compelling. 💜 There are no coincidences and my listening to this particular talk with you is so perfect. So needing to be heard by me. Thank you for your insights from your experiences and perceptions. They are beautiful. ❤️
Your words about moving on are pretty good about my reality the way I feel about myself and others!!!! Confidence and authenticity is what I want!!!
It’s amazing how you see this!!!
Happy is the man who sees others with the reflection he sees!!!!
Bro! You are beautiful!!!
Thank you for this encouraging message. Been going through something very similar. Had been with someone for a number of years and found myself on the receiving end of this ! Found out and realize on my part having tendencies of co-dependency that has led to my situation! Also have been feeling a profound sense of loneliness due to that and needed to hear this! I’m not afraid of being alone, just feeling the grief that I need to feel. Thank you once again for this!
Letting go in such manner is a sense of goodness that I see in your being, which is a wonderful example for us, all 🦋 ..
100% pure wisdom. Thank you for brightening my day! I’d like to equate this same advice to friendships as well. Many flaky friends should be removed because their interest is not reciprocal.
I’ve been dealing with my first true bout of heart ache these last few weeks, and you’ve found a way to articulate exactly what I’ve been searching to tell myself. It still hurts, but I now realize how my situation just wasn’t going to work - no matter how much I would’ve liked it to. I understand why I need to let it go.
You have genuinely helped my healing process. Thank you.
It is the first o maximum second time that I put a public comment on internet, but I felt I needed to do it. I'm right now getting through the end of the relationship with the only person that I have been really in love with. I feel like not only my hearth but also my live are completely broken. It is being the most extreme pain that I have felt in my life cause it feels like all my old unprocessed pains of my past are now with me and I am facing them all. It is some how hopeful to me to find this video, I thank the universe that there is people like you that ended up helping other people without even know it. Thank you, have a great day.
Very beautifully said and touching. Thank you for this gentle push towards truth of moving forward… with a weird sensation of leaving something essential behind ..
It is the final truth, simple. I lost years in the worst pain. Don't invest romantic energy (your soul and your life energy and your blood) in someone who doesn't see or is unwilling to invest back. It is simple logic. Better to be alone forever than experience that. All my life I had some weird logic and it kept me holding on to hope. But this is the simple truth. And once you can say that and see this for yourself. Not just in theory but in practice, then you will be easily able to overcome anything within just a few days. Yes it's OK to be sad for a while because a time was still a time. But at the end of the day there is nothing to be wrecked over. The other person just simply wasn't as bothered (ever or anymore). Embrace it and just let go. Save that energy for you.
And have the integrity not to put someone else through it either....
This channel is a huge blessing. Thank you for all the wisdom. You make me feel so at peace and grounded. Five months into the breakup , and after watching endless videos on how to cope , this is the most grounding one. Thank you. Namaste🙏😭🥺❤️
this has come to me in a time of need and has been so affirming. thank you
Wonderful video! Thank you for putting it simply and easy to understand what I have struggled with for many years.
Btw I just discovered your channel and I'm so glad. You're talking about all the things I'm working towards. I'm working on getting healthy boundaries and being solo before going into another relationship situation. If ever.
About 20 years ago I signed the lease for the apartment with my children and the landlord asked me, "what if you meet another woman?" I was horrified then decided that that was a good joke and laughed.
Big shout out to you and this video....awesome content and it really helped me thanks man👍
Just found your channel less than an hour ago and I want to say THANK YOU for this video. I've been going back and forth trying to get over someone for more than 6 months now, and it seems I just can't make the last step. Your video has made me cry but I'm feeling so much better now. I'll definitely subscribe!
So, how has the year been going for you, Xenia? I'm glad that Nada helped you feel better. Love.
Hi Nada,what an amazing insight...hats off...needed this badly... thanks tons.
I am so glad I learned this lesson and moved on. Deserving someone just as invested as I am!!! No problem with being single until then.
^^ yop
Light-switch reality? Not for me.
You're right. That hope can sabotage many years of one's life, In my case, the person fed upon that hope and repeatedly torchering me with disappointment, either intentional or unintentional is irrelevant, the relationship was doomed and ill fated, could never be, and would probably mean my demise if it did anyway. Yet still, 6 years and another relationship later, I'm still having trouble moving on.
Yes exactly, you don't want somebody who doesn't want you fully, back, and doesn't make the effort.
Thank you. You’re so humble and kind, I love listening to your videos.
So many things in this video I needed to hear. Thank you
Me too.
I needed to hear this. Thank you!.
It is so valuable to listen to you.🙏
It really helps me, a lot and I would like to say Thank you, for that!
Thank you this is really an affirming blessing of perspective🙏🏾
It's like you were talking directly to me. Thank you for this.
I appreciate your efforts, Nada. One needn't get rid of the memories of the good and healthy things which were already experienced and enjoyed or even the feelings of having anticipated further experiences, together. These have their validity. Only the holding on to the possibility of a much different reality to that which is must be let go. It makes it much easier to let go if you don't have to cut out your heart, your memories and your years. Love.
you said something about having to get away from someone to find something out about yourself. that hit home.
I love myself enough now to not beg anyone to stay, to let people go who don’t want me. Everything i need I have and if someone doesn’t want me i don’t want them or need anything from them
Thank you so much for saying these words, it's just what I need.
The universe sent me this. Its been a while since you have just appeared on my screen. I understood the messages clearly, yours and the universe. Yes i was holding on. Yes i can let go. Thank you 🌸
Thank you so much💖. I really needed to hear that😢
Thank you for this video.....I've really liked a lot of what you say here. But for people who have had a lot of trauma in their lives....this advice is a little on the overly rational side. But what this points to for me is that when we are stuck in trauma....we can't let go of the hope that the wrong person is the right person. It's really wildy crazy how I have found this works. Letting go of hope can actually be very dangerous for some. But what I like is how this points to my own lack of individuation...my perception that the "other" is a part of me. That their rejection .....is me rejecting myself. My last experience really showed me how unwilling I am to really admit what I want in a relationship....because...and this is so unconscious.....that I don't deserve to have the kind of relationship that I envision. I'm actually pretty good at being alone....too good in fact. I haven't even wanted to get into the relationships that I've found myself in. Ultimately your message is so powerful. To discover our treasure that are inside. That we always deserve something better than a person who doesn't want to be with us!! But the person I found I delusionally thought was my treasure. So amazing really. But now I can see pretty clearly how inappropriate the situation was. But it was the ride of a lifetime. And only life could show me the way through the deepest darkness and depths. But your video stimulated this thinking...and wow I really thank you!
Thank you so much... really needed to hear this rn!
Dude speaking to My soul right now needed this thank u 🌌🕉🤘🤙
The subject of this video has been a hard pill for me to swallow no matter how much I've attempted to heal myself from it. But its so comforting to hear this. And to hear an elaborate perception on the truth of the matter.
I needed to hear this.
I get compliments and get asked out but I can tell the chemistry or effort or enthusiasm isn't there. So I do not settle. It's lonely sometimes. But I'm learning my worth more and more as time goes on. Thank you for this with all of my sincerity. It was so nice to find comfort in an issue I have been struggling with. 🖤
Sending love and good vibes to everyone that reads this. 💫
I get, I get, I get so I don't feel... I'm not trying to be mean. Maybe I'm just jealous that I don't get complimented or asked out -- that I'm aware of. I'm sort of busy being interested in the person to whom I'm relating. I guess I just don't notice.
🕉️ The Universe spoke to me through you just now. I really needed that. Thank You!
Thank you for these wise mature advices! Beautiful soul you are, thank you, needed to hear that:)
I feel like once you have a possibility in thought that it’s not totally meant to be even if things are going great it’s best to let go. The longer you lie to yourself the more it will hurt. The sooner you let go the easier it will be. That also goes for trying to make a relationship work again over and over.
In any relationship, try not to have an air of expectation. This will create an aura of being needy and it's not very attractive. Your inner dialogue should be "I am the answer to your prayers and you are very lucky to know me". There is nothing arrogant in this. People will always chase something that seems unattainable. If you want the "one", you have to be the "one" you are dreaming about. Be the best version of yourself and others will desire you. I think Paris Hilton once said "the idea is, people should think that your life is better than theirs".
I don't agree, Rodel. People should think that I'm wonderful for them and I should be interested in them - not in me. THAT I can do at home.
What if you ended the relationship in hopes of doing things on your own, of your own interest, or no longer felts anything for the past partner yet tried to stay friends but upon hearing about their new partner feelings of uneasiness or maybe jealously have come over you in that moment?
Although the past partner feels you can come to them and ask anything, you feel like you don’t think your mental health is going to improve while still having them in your life or even being in contact
Update: Have progressed to accepting that I won’t be on that same level with them. Knowing that I should focus on myself and where I’m going while respecting they have a life as well
Thank you. I really needed to hear this :)
Thank you for sharing awaken insight.!
Good for all those who have found ways to move on! Amazing! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Thank you so much for this!!
Just for the record I think your gorgeous love your gentle soul and your inspiring wisdom ❤️🙏😇🌈💜😍
Best advice thank you so much, nada.
The worst thing is knowing when you know your trapped in a a mental place that was once inhabited by two people. It felt like shared transcendence. Then the other person leaves and has been gone for a while. Then you're left alone there. You don't have anyone to share that feeling anymore.
It kind of feels like people should have a set amount of mandatory break-ups as soon as possible. My first relationship was well into adulthood. Had it worked, it would have been steady. But it didn't and the fallout has lasted a long time, despite all my efforts.
needed this, thank you
this was well said and I so needed to hear this
Thank you I really needed to hear this
This was really so helpful... Trying to get out from a very difficult heart break...
Lovely words and very sound advice! Moral of the story is.. it’s better to be on your own in peace and happiness than with someone who doesn’t appreciate you or see your true worth 💕 thank you for this making this video 🙏
Well your interpretation sounds pretty good. I enjoy finding worth together with someone, even my own worth.
Blessed is he who listens to him ~
Wow!!!,, I cannot say more..but thank you for this video..
I'm so greatful for you and your channel. You have such a calming effect which is greatly appreciated 😌. Thank you beautiful soul 💗 ☮☯️😊🆓️2️⃣🅱️♾🕉
this video is a Godsend to me at this moment. Thank you...
I'm sorry that your relationships haven't worked out. You seem like the kind that should have a lifelong spouse. I hope you find her soon. xo