Reacting to Wedding Fails With My Wife
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What did you think of these weddings? Fails? Fine? Or downright awful?
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My courtney, a nick impression is that nick is the arranged marriage guy from courtney's parents ambush wedding. She married her boyfriend four days after the ambush wedding that she said no to.
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You 2 are probably a rare okay straight couple. (All jokes but you two seem really good for eachother)
@@MercyForTheInnocentthat is just straight up misinformation
It's disturbing how pervasive the misconception of "Lolita" is. That book is a horror story told from the perspective of the monster. He's an emotionally stunted child abuser who destroys his victim's life while romanticising the abuse, and is writing the story from jail after being convicted for murdering a different child abuser out of jealousy. But somehow "Lolita" ended up being synonymous with "adolescent temptress" instead of "child abuse victim", and people quote the damned thing like it's a romance.
I know its not exactly the same thing but i feel like thats what happened with killing stalking. A straight dude whos also a murderer takes advantage of a gay guy whos in love with him and uses him as a mother figure and sex toy. Its a psychological horror. There is a fuck ton of abuse. But its been taken as a bl story. There is no love in it but teens cosplay and ship the characters. Feels icky
@@allstarsrgoneoh my god, please. I cannot tell you how much it bothers me that people portray killing stalking as a BL story. He is a straight, psychotic, but sexually abusive serial killer. He only has sex with that (also mentally twisted) boy because he reminds him of his mother who sexually abused him as a child! like what are these people thinking.. I can't even put into words how extremely unfortunate it is that it became popular among teenagers, because it's really a scarring experience to read.
That`s because people (especially in religious circles) seriously say "she was tempting him" when a young teenage girl is abused. They actually think it`s that instead of a victim being abused.
I remember finding a post of JK Rowling saying that this book brought her to tears from how beautiful it is on the trans side of reddit
When my husband and I got married, we had his niece as the flower girl, and she tripped over her dress, spilling the petals everywhere. She got up and loudly said, "Oh bother!" In front of everyone. She was very into winnie the pooh at the time, it was very funny and cute. Just want to add, she was fine, just a little bump on her knee, she was dancing the day away just a short time later
That's adorable
glad it wasen't too bad and everything was okay
That's a sweet story!
I love Winnie The Pooh! This is adorable!
That's the cutest thing ever!
My sister had a dungeons and dragons themed wedding. We wore medieval clothing and her dress and veil were black. I’ve never played dnd but that’s how she and her husband met!
My biggest regret for my wedding is not doing a themed wedding like I wanted to. I caved into my mom's cries for "traditionalism" and did things "the "appropriate way. " The ceremony and reception were nice, they were beautiful even, but they did not reflect my partner and I.
My husband's parents wedding was d&d themed too!
That wedding sounds kick ass
the family i used to babysit for, their eldest daughter had a Rocky Horror Picture Show themed wedding, it was brilliant!
I have mixed feelings about my wedding. It was very nice and everything, but I was a very closeted trans man so remembering it is very dysphoric. The first person I came out to was my husband after nearly 10 years of marriage; he wasn't surprised and we're very happily still together.
So, the wholesome wedding story is after being married for 12 or 13 years we were going through our big bedroom closet and cleaning it out. My husband pulled out from the very back my wedding dress and asked, "Are we keeping this?" I asked if he would be upset if I didn't want to keep it and he said no, it was fine. Then he shoved it into the trash bag.
I was so relieved; my husband is the best!
My husband is also a trans man, and was in the closet when we met (but transitioned before we married.) I'm glad that your husband stood by you during your transition, and that you're still happy. May you enjoy many more happy years together!
(Feel free to ignore this completely, just expressing the idea my sometimes silly brain came up with) If you feel like you would like that, maybe you could have a renewal of vows, so you get wedding pictures and memories that match the real you :)
After all, it's only a piece of fabric. The best memory of your wedding day is the person that didn't hesitate to put that same piece of fabric in the trash because he loves you exactly the way you are 😊
I think it's really sweet ☺️
Oh my God you guys should do a re-wedding! But now a wedding as husband and husband. Lovers that stayed together strong even after you've both bloomed into beautiful butterflies! ❤ I think that'd be adorable and you could make another great memory to replace one that causes dysphoria. Maybe try something new from the past wedding as well.
Have to agree to doing it again but as yourself this time!!!
Wholesome wedding moment for Shaaba: when my spouse and I got married our dog was the ring bearer. We tied the rings to his collar and a good friend of ours walked him down the aisle. It was almost perfect-- near the end of the ceremony we briefly lost him to a nearby squirrel but our photographer got some fun pics out of it!
😂 of course a squirrel
@@lord_xylozdoomsday959The classic
My sister and her husband had his dog Abbey as the ring bearer too! It was so cute. Abbey was his first ever dog, and he had her from when she was a puppy. She was really important to him, so it was so nice to include her.
We had our smaller dog be the ring bear(er), and she got so excited she ran up to us soo fast that no-one really saw her until she was up there with us haha
Wholesome wedding story time! My aunt married the love of her life in 2016 as soon as it was legal for her to do so. They were on a tight budget at the time as they had just bought their first house, so the entire family came together to host a wedding for them. My family ordered a cake (with rainbow roses, of course!), my grandmother provided drinks, the in-laws brought appetizers... The newlyweds made their vows in the living room of their new house, and then we all went outside and had a bonfire. It was so lowkey but so full of love!
I just wanted to say that I think it's so sweet that everyone did a little part of the preparation so that they could be married as soon as possible !
(I hope this sentence is correct, English isn't my first language)
💛
This is my kind of wedding! How lovely.
Thats awesome! Kinda bridged the gap between the social ceremonies done in the past with the legal ones now
That sounds like an absolute DREAM wedding!
Aww that's sweet. How long have they been together?
The thing with the wife hating her husband's gaming isn't usually just that he doesn't approve of his hobby. It usually has more to do with him not holding up his end of the household/family duties and not making any time for her hobbies. That being said, this is a horrible cake and that couple is probably not long for this world.
And that's where communication is important!
I think you're right. As a girl who games (like video games are my special interest) and is also in a het-relationship, its annoying/frustrating to see this type of behavior "normalized". I think couples should communicate and work together to take care of the household, but also not squander each other's interests and hobbies. Enjoying video games shouldn't be demonized, if someone's partner isn't doing their fair share of taking care of household duties that's the real issue that should be worked through.
@@merilynnshark6144 Communication is overrated, according to The Straights™
@@Anima19925 Well said.
Ok but why get narried to someone like that, and if you think they arent pulling their weight in tge realationship have, then talk to them about it rather than being passive aggressive and blaming their hobbies.
I have been watching Jamie for so long, he has been my trans mentor since I was like 13 and now I’m 20. Thank you for all you do.
same
@@martagibons4266He’s not influencing anyone.
He's a good mentor!
@@martagibons4266 Trans people are born trans. its is impossible to "influence" a cis-straight kid to be lgbt.
@@martagibons4266 Again, trans people are born trans. It is impossible to "indoctrinate" a cis kid into being a trans kid.
The Lolita thing is crazy to me, I would say they must have known about the book, it's a very very famous book, it was adapted to film twice (once by Kubrick, but it's a very bad adaptation, Nabokov hated it) and Nabokov is one of the greatest writer of the XXth century but since you both don"t know it, I'm not so sure anymore...
And I need to add a little more context about the book, it's not a love story at all, it's the story of a pedophile who marries a woman to gain access to her 11 years old daughter and then kidnaps the child, rape her, and travels with her until she escapes. Since she is a child she's clearly manipulated by him. Nabokov write the story as it is, even if it's from the pedo point of view, her suffering is always there, present through the book. But the narrator never acknowledges it, you have to think about what you are reading, always remember WHO is telling the story you're reading. If you're a decent person you understand from the beginning that the narrator is a sick pervert, the opening is quite clear about it, the guy is disgusting.
This book is beautiful and awful at the same time, but what's really crazy about that is that when it was published, a lot of middle age men read it and assumed that it was her fault, since we see her through the pedo eyes, and they were all so misogynistic they couldn't see what was really happening there. Sadly, that is why we use the term Lolita to describe pretty and girly young girls until today.
Nabokow himself was always very clear about the subject of this book, in every interview about it he always said : the book is about a sick pervert man who takes advantage of a child. It's a story about perversion, sickness and domination, and a reminder that the narrator of a story is only telling you what he wants, what he thinks, not always what is really happening, like in real life, a point of view is always just that, a point of view.
I am always so flabbergasted when people actually use the term "lolita", meaning seductive, teenage, girl. It's so incredibly disgusting. 🤮
@@meaj4556 Unfortunately it says a lot about how the world sees women, even to this day : through the lens of male desire, and the fear of the power this desire gives to women, so much so that they could not see the child in this story, only the man's desire. Its a perfect illustration of the power struggle between these two genders, the constant fear that a lot of men have of losing the power they have over women because of their own lust and lack of control over it. Even in a story as awful as this one, even when the narrator begins his tale explaining that he is attracted exclusively by little girls (from 9 to 12yo if I remember correctly), even if she cries in her bed and try to escape, some men will still conclude that it was the child fault, that she is manipulating him because, well, she's a "woman" and therefore everything she does is meant to attract men. The lollypop imagery is very revealing, when we see a child enjoying a candy, they see a women licking something, and they think about their penises. And this way, it's always our fault, their violence, their need to control us, it's always our fault, because everything we do is for them, so we should be held responsible for their own actions, we provoked it, even at 11 years old, so the violence is justified. It's sick and unfair and the fight to be considered as normal human beings is not over for us.
Nabokov is such an excellent writer honestly, but I think it makes a lot of people overlook the core of the work - Lolita is about a sick, twisted, vile pedo and the only reason there's a sympathetic cast over it is because it's from _his_ point of view.
@@fevre_dream8542 I disagree. It's a way to make the reader think about what they are really reading, but most people understand he is sick and she is a victim. I remember how shocked and disgusted by him I was (the narrator) the first time I opened the book... And, well, it gets worse through the story. And his disgust for Lolita post puberty ads even more to our own disgust of the guy. I honestly can't understand how anyone could not feel the same. It would never happen with a story with a muderer p.o.v. nobody would say "it's the victim's fault, they provoked it"
@@fevre_dream8542 And I'm quite positive that even the same story with a little boy instead of Lolita would have been read way differently by all the same people who thought Lolita was seducing him.
Daily reminder that normal people deserve all the happiness, but so do cis people
Mom am I famous now
Lol
As a cis person, this comment made me laugh
Debatable
Lmao this is like the opposite of what transphobes say, this made me laugh
good one
At my younger sister’s wedding, they had a bouncy castle set up in a small room to the side to keep the kids entertained. We did a bunch of photos outside, and no one was on the bouncy castle when we got back, so there’s a bunch of photos of the wedding party in full gowns and suits bouncing and crashing into each other.
That sounds amazing, sad we didn't think of it.
We had a costume wedding, guests were told they could come in costume or not, but to please dress comfortable and warm. We had an outside wedding in Maine October 31. Our cake had a cartoon style cemetery and ghosts and we had child centered games. We have helped other couples plan fun themed weddings since, most of which include a children's corner with age appropriate games.
OMG that sounds so fun!
We did children's activities at our wedding reception, worked like a charm.
My friends Mary and Dave met through local science fiction and fantacy fandom and got married in 2009. One of my favorite parts of the ceremony was the reading of a quote from Dr Seuss, which I thought was sweet and wholesome: "We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutal weirdness and call it love." By the way, they're still together and very much in love 15 years later.
About knowing the context of quotes...there is a german medievel-folkband that has a song called "Hochzeitstanz" (weddingdance). Fans used it on their actual weddings as a dance. The song is about a serial-killer that hunts down ladys, gets arrestet and waits to be reunited with his victims. The band said in several videos that fans shouldnt use the song as their weddingdance because its not an romantic song at all.
Is it the one by Saltatio Mortis?
I dunno, that would be a perfect song for the serial killer themed wedding! /sarcasm
Reminds me of that one stalker sond from the Police. "Every breath you take, every (forgot the lyrics) I'll be watching you!" 😅
@@SammyLammy1Dmove you make
Yes ^^@@grenadedevourer
no one will probably read this but a few days ago i had my final talk with the gender clinic! the person i talked to said that i meet every criteria for a gender dysphoria diagnosis! 🥳
That’s awesome. Hope the next steps happen soon for you 🏳️⚧️
@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz Getting a diagnosis is one of the first steps to getting treatment, they are most likely celebrating the start of their journey rather than the gender dysphoria itself.
@@Funny_guy_16 Don't bother, that account is a "don't call me cis" and "I don't buy into your bullshit" troll
I wish you luck in your future appointments! :D Hope you achieve everything you want in your transition!
Good luck on your journey.
The last wedding I went to was my second cousin's. It was held on a beautiful farm in the mountains, in a paddock with a river running by it.
The bride was late, as per tradition. Her sweetheart, a farm-raised young man from our hometown, was fidgeting at the altar with his groomsmen, and breaking out in a beaming smile every few minutes when he remembered who he was waiting for.
And then, coming up on half an hour late, the lady arrived. Elvis Presley started playing out of someone's speakers- "I can't help falling in love with you". The bride began to walk up the aisle, on her father's arm.
The groom turned around. He saw her in the dress for the first time... and that 6 foot tall man in a stetson and cowboy boots immediately burst into tears of joy. Completely unselfconscious tears, running right down his face. Smiling ear to ear. The whole family had known he was the one for years, but that was the moment I knew this was going to be forever.
All the way through the ceremony, he couldn't take his eyes off her. Afterwards, the photographer had to keep telling him to look at the camera.
And all the while, she was smiling right back at him.
There are potential sources of tension in any union. My cousin and her beau are from different religious backgrounds: half the guests were sober vegetarians, the other half (my family) spent most of the night drunk and face-down in chicken wings. The couple have different personalities: the groom is laid back and easy-going; the bride is extremely efficient and organised. They were raised differently: the bride's from a semi-country beach-y/surfer culture; the groom is country all the way through.
All that stuff doesn't have to mean a thing. As long as their love for each other is that openly communicated, they'll find a way to get past anything that life throws at them.
That's so sweet 😭❤️
30:27 Alternate take, Nick changed his name to Brian. Due to the name change, they had to push back the date a few days to sort out some paperwork. And rather than paying to reprint all the cards, they just wrote on the existing ones.
maybe bc he is one of the serial killers
alternate alternate take, these signs were used at two separate weddings, and Courtney of Courtney and Brian stole the sign from Courtney and Nick's wedding to save herself some money
Alternate alternate alternate take, maybe for some really weird reason the year was in the middle and it was actually a four year gap between the weddings. And that way Courtney won't have to remember a new anniversary date
Alternate take: the day is 4 days later. Maybe the second couple asked to use the first one's sign.
Alternate alternate alternative alternative take: the wedding invitation was always supposed to say Brian but the sign was messed up and received too close to the wedding to get a corrected one so they improvised
Here you go, Shaaba. At a cousin's wedding, the table decor at the reception was "some of the couple's favorite things", with a different category for each table. So a table with books, one with movies, music, board games, etc. It was a fun way for people from each family to learn a bit about the new family member, and sparked some conversation as well.
That`s a great idea, have to remember that.
Lolita wasn't just "underage;" she was twelve years old.
And his step daughter at that!
Yes! I looked it up because the way Jamie was wording it made it seem like she was 17 or something, still very wrong but not to the level a 12yo is
And it really didn't stop at "develops feelings for" either
@adidi7789 to be fair to him he didn't read the book to find this out, he read a synopsis.
And he was trying to keep it pg for youtube. CZcams censors words describing gross/controversial concepts evenwhen they really shouldn't. @maxinesenior596
So, I know my hubby would never read this, but even if he does, it's been 2 years, it'll be fine. Just like you, we had to postpone our wedding 2 times due to Covid, and we really were tight on budget, so all the decoration was DIY. The theme was rainbow flag, and my husband sewed tablecloths from different fabrics to resemble rainbow flags.... He spent so much time and effort, no matter what he did they were hideous. He was so disappointed in his own work that he was about to rip them off or burn them in the fireplace, I had to act like I really liked how they looked and told him they were beautiful. Honestly, esthetically they weren't, but to me, that I know how much time he spent on them, they're beatiful.
i went to a wedding where the tables were numbered after doctors from doctor who, made my nerdy self very excited ahahaha
My partner and I have Dr Who rings bc we figured if the series had been ongoing for over 50 years at the time, then so could we😊! God Jamie looks like Tennet.
Cute wedding story:
My cousin just got married in October, one of the couple's hobbies is swing dancing. For their first dance they had a choreographed swing performance which ended in a dramatic and classic dip-and-kiss move. The parents on both sides also had swing dancing lessons for weeks beforehand so they could do swing for the father-bride and mother-groom dances. They also had their pro dancer friends do a group lesson for anyone who wanted to participate during the dinner. I didn't do the lesson but we always did some swing in school gym class, so I did what I could remember to La Vie En Rose with my aunt (grooms mom). I'm a trans man and she's very supportive so it was kindof a special moment for me to dance as a man for the first time. It was also my first time getting properly drunk and my cousins (both guys) and my uncle were excited for me to let loose and have flex my newfound confidence as a man for the first time, and even though they were also drunk they made sure I stayed safe💙🩵
For the wedding/funeral I'm imagining the pallbearers walking both the bride and the corpse down the aisle.
She'll be riding the casket :D
thank you for the rage about the Handmaid's Tale-themed wedding and birthday stuff.
I get so angry when I see foto shootings themed that way that are meant to be wholesome instead of dystopian.
what's wrong with handmaid's tale????
@@SpookyAnimates7what is wrong with you
@@SpookyAnimates7 Never seen the show or read the book, but isn’t it about women being forced to give birth to babies that are immediately taken away to be raised by the infertile rich elites? Like why would someone want to cosplay a grapist dystopia about subjugating women at your WEDDING?!
@@SpookyAnimates7 literally some women in the Handmaid's tale universe only exist for baby making, and not of their own volition
@@SpookyAnimates7It contains ALOT of r@pe scenes, genit@l mutilation, physical @buse, mental @buse, emotional @buse, and sl@very of women. Along with taking away children from their parents to be given to the rich and religious families. I hope the clarification will shed some light as to why it would not be a good theme for a birthday much less for a wedding. Sorry for the censoring for YT.
Roly said this about serial killer tattoos and I think it is a very true thing. It's one thing to glorify and enjoy fake bad guys and monsters from fictional books. But to glorify serial killers? Bad taste. There are people who lost their loved ones. Not a theme.
I'll also leave some happy wedding stuff for Shaaba, because I got married in October!
We had our ceremony at the Renaissance Faire. It was absolutely amazing, they paraded us up from the entrance to the chapel, shouting "HUZZAH! THERE'S A WEDDING!" the whole way. I got to walk with my husband at the front of the parade, and while I am usually very shy about things like this, everyone was so supportive and the parted crowds (who were all just random Faire attendees!) were cheering for us and giving us their blessings as we walked and it was absolutely delightful.
The weather was a little chilly, and had been rainy but was nice the whole time we were out in it - it started raining JUST as I started down the aisle, and then stopped again as soon as our ceremony was over, when we headed over to the reception area.
After our reception, we got to sit in the prime seating area for the Joust, and while our champion ultimately did not win, it was still an amazingly fun experience. After the Joust, we got a personal blessing from the Queen (of the Faire) and it was genuinely one of the happiest days of my life.
Our wedding favors? Little glass jars that my husband hand-made. Etched glass (with his art designs) filled with confetti and little battery-operated tea lights. And about half of them had sets of dice, because several of our guests were (like us) fans of Dungeons and Dragons.
We didn't ask our guests to pay us for anything, because we were already asking almost all of them to fly across the country to be there with us.
That sounds like an absolutely amazing wedding! Congratulations and Huzzah!😊
Happy Wedding Story:
I (nonbinary he/him) was the best man at my sibling's (agender) wedding just a couple years ago. They're now happily married to their wife/partner (also nonbinary). We also have a group chat called the Three Muskequeers. It was a very classic style wedding, except they both wore Converse rather than fancy dress shoes, and my sibling and I both forgot pieces of our suits (I forgot the suspenders, I don't remember what my sibling forgot but it obviously wasn't too important) which is very on-brand for our family as we all (probably) have undiagnosed adhd😅
🎵who said I can't wear my converse🎵
We called it a wedding miracle when one of our groomsmen forgot his suit pants and had only khaki cargo shorts to wear, but another guest had a spare pair in the right(ish) size
@shaaba Wholesome moment: my sister remarried after a rough divorce, and had a brother + sister dance in lieu of a father + daughter dance (dad having died some years before) the oldest started the dance and each of the brothers cut in. As a surprise, our dad's brother (who performed the wedding) cut in last and finished the dance with her. It was lovely
That is so sweet!
I was very close to my Nan and she passed away just before I got married. On the morning of my my wedding my mom and Aunties gifted me her gold heart locket (she wore it all the time). It only has sentimental value but meant she was there in spirit on my wedding day and I could carry her with me. She had passed on but the love she shared was there in abundance, I still miss her.
One of my biggest pet peeves is throwing a big chunk of cake or the whole cake at the bride or groom. Red flag! 🚩
Yes especially if they’re still people in the church of cake
@@julian4286 I hate autocorrect
@@julian4286 fixed it
It is a red velvet flag!
I detest this tradition. I find nothing fun in doing something at the expense of my loved one!
My BEST GUESS for the Courtney + Brian/Nick thing is that they were actually two separate couples, and they just each had one part named Courtney. So Courtney and Brian were planning to be married on the 15th already, attended (other) Courtney and Nick's wedding on the 11th and just took the decor for *their* wedding too.
At least. That's my hope.
That would make sense!
That was my guess too. Either Courtney and Brian were guests at Courtney and Nick's wedding, and afterwards they were eyeing the sign like, "So you guys don't need that anymore, right?" 👀 OR Courtney and Brian are very creative dumpster divers.
Thanks for having me spuds! 🥰
Lovely to see you two together as always❤
I can’t be the only one who thinks that the serial killer centerpieces at 20:00 ish is disrespectful to the victims. Image you had a family member or someone close to you die by one of these people and you see that wedding post or even participating in the ceremony.
Also I agree, the skulls and flowers are very beautiful.
I don't know if it counts as wholesome but it's a silly story. When my husband and I got married, he was so nervous about the performance aspect and overwhelmed by hearing my vows that he completely forgot the line. You know: *THE Line*. The officiant asked "do you take this person..." And he just responded " yes." With an awkward head nod. Everyone else thought he was intentionally being a troll but I could tell it was nerves. I love that dork so much.
This isn't like super happy but the happiest and most wholesome straight couple I know is my brother and sister in law. At their wedding there was a bad accident (slipped and fell while dancing) that ended up with the bride in the hospital. Despite spending a good chunk of their wedding night in the hospital when I spoke to them the next day, they were super upbeat and planning for their newly stay at home honeymoon and what they could do because SIL wouldn't be able to walk for a long while. Legit they were just so happy to be together and be married that despite everything they were both smiles.
It would be awkward if Aunt Karen sat up to object to the marriage.
That risk would certainly be the biggest concern for me at a wedding-funeral🤣🤣
When my cousin and her wife got married (I think they technically went to a registry the week before but that was just parents + siblings) they staged it as a three day festival style thing on some farm in north Derbyshire, everything in a big tent with the centrepiece being changed each day (where they stood, big bouncy castle thing, sumo costume mat) and the seats were haybales. Married by their mate who got a license for them, speech went: "If anyone has any objections to these two dirty, dirty lesbians being wed... piss off, you clearly aren't welcome here."
Best wedding I've ever been to, and they've just had their second child 😊
Re Courtney/Nick/Brian - another option is that Courtney and Brian were getting ready for their wedding and found someone giving away wedding decorations from (another) Courtney and Nick's wedding that was supposed to happen on almost the same day. And they thought that it would be a fun joke for their guests to take them and do this.
As clergy, I get to officiate at several weddings a year, and have many wholesome stories. Let me take the wedding/funeral story from here and give it a couple of more wholesome twists from weddings I've had in the past couple of years:
1) The day before the wedding, the uncle of one of the brides was admitted to palliative care. The brides asked if I could acknowledge this at the start of the ceremony, and work in a short prayer for the uncle.
2) The bride's father was dying, and the couple had planned to get married at his bedside with their family all around. Unfortunately father died, and what was going to be their wedding day was his funeral instead. The next week, they decided that they wanted to get married anyways - after all, they had the license, and the bride's adult daughter was still going to be in town for a couple more days. And so with 48 hours lead time, they got married under a small gazebo in a local park, with just the bride, groom, 2 witnesses (bride's daughter + a close friend) and the 2 children the couple were in the process of adopting. And me to make it legal 🙂
I have a wholesome wedding story to help heal the damage from this video! Well, actually two.
I did get married during Corona, but it was a TINY affair at the Standesamt (like a courthouse wedding, but in Switzerland). We weren't even allowed to invite his whole immediate family (4 guests total allowed, a photographer, and our 2 witnesses), not to mention that it would've been IMPOSSIBLE for anyone in my family to be there, as borders were still closed. Well, my chosen family decided that they were going to make sure they were there with me in spirit, since they couldn't be there in person, so they contacted my husband without me knowing, sent him money, and he and his mom used that money to pay for my bouquet. He tells me this AS we're walking in the door, and I'm just crying the whole time, feeling the love from a quarter of the way around the world.
Something a little funnier that happened was that we were required to have a translator, as I didn't speak German at the time, but as we got to the "I do" part (or just simply "Ja", in German), I recognize what I'm supposed to do before the translator has a chance to do her thing, and say "Ja". I was really excited to be getting married, ok? The officiant laughed and said that officially, she can't accept my agreement until the translator told me in English what I was actually agreeing to (which I think is a very good rule, all things considered) and we all had a good chuckle as I agreed for a second time and in two languages that I wanted to marry this man.
It's nearly 3.5 years later, and it was still the best decision I've ever made. ♥️
I love how Shaaba always looks like if a strawberry cupcake was a person
My cousin got married in September of 22. Her husband is Romanian and they just had a beautiful combination of their cultures. The ceremony was in both English and Romanian for his family and hers. The reception had some traditional Romanian songs and we all learned some dances and danced together. It was honestly really beautiful.
At our wedding service, the choir was made up entirely of friends and family (including some of the bridal party). One of my bridesmaids and her husband were both in the choir, so they brought their young daughter up to sit with them, but she liked the music so much that she decided to leave the choir stalls and dance (twirling in circles) in front of the altar. It's one of my favourite memories from our wedding ceremony!
For Shaaba's sanitary. Me and my wife had a low key wedding it cost £250 in total. My parents put on a bbq, we went to registry office. Dresses were hand made by my mum bridesmaid from a store in the sales. All matching pretty dresses. Guy were told find a suit any colour is find just be there. My wife was so stressed she cut open the button hole on her suit before she released pins were being passed round. the wedding day my wonderful wife took me home at 6pm tucked me up in bed an snuggled me to sleep as I was exauhted. 3 months later our first child joined the family. They had been at the wedding kicking me all day. 🎉me an my wife have two wonderful biological kids and have been happily married now for nearly 18years
My wedding took place on my grandma's balcony, followed by tacos, cake, and homemade mead. We were slightly worried about the weather because it was rainy and windy all day, but it stopped and the was sunshine for just long enough for the ceremony, then it was rainy and windy again. There were about 20-30 people there. My mother-in-law gave several of us COVID. My dad heckled us during our vows. I wish I'd done it differently, but it was really good.
Happy wedding moment to heal poor Shaaba's mind:
We had my 8-years-old niece and my best friend's sister (34yo) singing "I see the Light" from Tangled. They trained for 3 days to give us a perfect performance and I am so proud and honoured 🥰
Low budget wedding story here: my dad’s side of the family was always very poor, and my cousin finally managed to get enough money to marry and have a party after - and of course everyone in the family offered to help him pay for it, so he could save up to buy a house. It was a wonderful party with just the close family members in a farm where part of the family lives - so no spending with venue. He had lost his mother a few years ago and there were lots of things to remember her, including letters she wrote. Yesterday their first child was born.
Husband and I got married in a tiny chapel in the countryside where I grew up, with only our closest families.
We had "wedding crashers" in the form of two grey cat siblings from the nearest farmhouse, and we both love cats. My favourite picture from the wedding is husband and I standing outside the chapel doors waiting to go in once the music starts, and in the middle of the doorway there's a cat heading inside to join the ceremony. 😸
A wholesome story of my parent's broke wedding: They did everything as affordably as they could. They planned just to forgo a reception due to cost. My grandparents on both sides wouldn't hear of it. So the reception was in one of their backyards, and my grandmas got together and made sandwiches for everyone like you'd get at a church function. It was just a backyard party, but it meant so much to both of them that their parents worked together for this reception. There is some evidence that weddings with smaller budget last longer, and I like to think my parents are an example of that.
A line in the Police song "don't stand so close to me" goes "like that book by Nabakov" referring to Lolitta
About potluck weddings ( and wholesome story as a palate cleanser):
My theater teacher had a very relaxed, second wedding. Her and her soon-to be husband showed up at the ceremony wearing a dress she made herself that made her look half like a hippie, half greek godess, and a red suit with purple leopard shoes for him.
They were joking through their whole vows and overall having fun. For the reception, every neighbor of theirs brought out a table so the whole street had this massive long table and everyone brought something to eat and drink. Then we put on an excerpt of a comedy we prepared in their garden, someone else did a puppet show and the groom and his musician friends provided music.
Good times, no stress, just merryment.
Y'all wondering about her and Auj. Yes it is in fact Jeremy and Audrey! They're a minimally famous couple here in the states and yes, she is known for being very self absorbed so it was most likely about making it HER day. Her husband is the "famous" one so I understand her not wanting it to be all about him and his family. And I am absolutely sure he's called her all of these. I've heard some of them! This video was fun.
It’s not quite a wedding fail, but…. My “best man” had an idea for me stag do. She suggested we invite people I hadn’t seen in a very long time. No one came! I had no stag do.
(The wedding (civil partnership in 2006) was wonderful).
Wholesome wedding moment for Shaaba: the hour before our wedding ceremony was very stressful because we had to decide whether to move the ceremony onto the covered patio or wait for the weather to clear. I was hidden away, and my wife is not good at making decisions. She didnt want to see me in my dress before the ceremony, so i had her put on her sleep mask so i could hug and comfort her in the stress
At my brother’s wedding last March, they set aside a seat for the wedding photographer to sit and eat with the main wedding party and she was blown away at the gesture because it’d never happened before. It wasn’t really a traditional wedding or anything big, just a backyard thing with maybe 50-ish guests, but the photographer was just so touched that they not only had a seat assigned for her, but it was literally right up by the bride and groom so she could chat and enjoy the night with them and the rest of the guests. She was an amazing photographer with such an amazing spirit and personality, and it just gave me the warm fuzzies to see her get excited to be another guest. I don’t go to many weddings (and just got married in the courthouse myself) so I don’t know if wedding photographers usually get to be a part of the reception as well, but it seemed to be something special for her at least!
I hope that’s a wholesome enough wedding story :) it was just a memorable for me, getting to see her joy, especially after chatting and hanging out with her all day.
a rare time when the straights are okay was my ballet teacher's wedding a few years ago, i dont even remember their vows but i remember them being so sweet and thoughtful that i would rewatch the video of it and burst into happy tears because it was so lovely.
I’ve had this idea in my head for a while, instead of wedding rings we have wedding swords. Also non-traditional colors (so like black dress, or a deep crimson suit).
Lolita isn't fucked up because of its content. The author when writing it knew it was fucked up and did it as a case study, though I can't really remember what about. The fucked up part is EVERY single person who did a live action of the movie thought it was a love story. IT IS NOT one by the way.
I agree a wedding + funeral mashup would overstimulate me bc i wouldn't know what to feel either
When my daughter and son in law got married they didn’t want all the mess and drama that goes along with it so we arranged it to be at my house and we called all the important people they wanted and told them that hey we are having a barbecue and will be sharing some very important news and wanted thank all to come to the house for the barbecue at 330. All the food was taken care of and there was no expectation of the people coming having to spend any money. When everyone got to my house I asked them all to line up in certain positions and brought out the person chosen to perform the marriage and then I told them all to have a seat for the wedding of my daughter and son in law. Shocked so many people but we were told they were so grateful that it wasn’t something they had to prepare and spend money on and be stressed over or worried about drama. Then we had the barbecue.
I knew a couple who did something similar, long before I knew them, but they told me the story. They wanted their special people there, but they didn't want anyone to feel pressured to dress up or buy a gift, so they invited people over for a cookout. When all had arrived, the officiant dinged a fork on a glass to get everyone's attention, then launched into, "Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today..." Everyone started looking around in surprise, but they just went with it.
My partner & I got married at a park. We had a small gathering of 20 people [us included]. We asked them to pay for parking [$5/car] since that had to be paid for on the day. Most were traveling in groups anyway & we volunteered to pay if needed; only 1 car took us up on the offer. Everything else we paid out of pocket, so we kept things simple. We let nature be our decor. Having looked at the prices for some wedding venues, I can understand the urge to ask your guests to contribute more than what we did. That's part of why we wanted to go with a more budget friendly option - to avoid asking that of our guests. Plus, I feel like places upcharge as soon as they hear 'wedding'.
I did go to a wedding that gave out hand sanitizer as favours, but it was 2021, and we were still legally required to wear masks during the ceremony. Also the theme was LOTR, which was the opposite of a wedding fail.
Why didn't they do infamous horror characters? That's what I would do chucky Freddy jason...etc instead of glorifying real serial killers..yikes.
I (40 m) and my Husband (42 m) had a Hawaiian themed wedding back in July 2010. My family's favorite vacation spot is Hawaii, my parents and sisters have been there countless times I myself have been there 7 times in my life. So my partner and I thought it would be a perfect theme as we both don't enjoying dressing formal and we wanted it to be more of a party vibe.
His family however is very catholic and were all questioning weather they would come to a gay wedding in Canada or not. Long story short they put aside their religion to be with and support their son. I was so happy to have his family come even if it meant doubling our budget.
As soon as my in-laws agreed to come I found out that my mother-n-law likes to take over in planning big events. We were in constant communication and even ended up hiring a wedding planner. ( good thing they also chipped in for the wedding at that point.) Had our ceremony in a plant conservatory (who surprisingly enough had a under the sea theme going.) Perfect! Our reception at a hotel that had a massive inside atrium in the center of it so guests on his side and mine would have a place to crash if they drank to much. I had friends who personally did our photography and DJ, the tables were set with a blue center stripe of cloth over top of the white ones and had bird of paradise flower center pieces.
Another part of the wedding was going to be gifted by my sister and brother-n-law. My slightly older sister ( I have two I'm the youngest of 3 kids) is part of the Polynesian Dance club( she actually owns and runs it now.) she hired the group for the wedding and put on a dance for everyone there. What I didn't know was planned was she by herself did the Hawaiian wedding dance for us. I was in tears and had to give her the biggest hug afterwords.
The wedding went off without a hitch everyone had a great time. we had the Mai Tai drink as our wedding drink and it sold the most out of anything else. To this day from both sides of the family we get told that our wedding was the best they had ever been to. Everyone had an absolute blast! sorry if this has on a little long hope you enjoyed our wholesome wedding story.
I'll share some things from our wedding. We are a couple of non-drinking gamers, who have some people who can have problems with drinking too much. Our solution? We toasted each other with our favorite caffeinated beverage at the time, it was a midday celebration, where kids were celebrated and welcomed, and adults got 2 drink tickets on us. Beyond that, they had to pay. Oddly enough, no drama ;) We also had a friend who repaired video game machines like you would find at an arcade, and, as a wedding gift to us, he set up several in the ball room, so people could play free of charge. I still have some *great* pictures of the littles doing their best at Dance Dance Revolution. Our centerpieces were all games and dice, so people (whom we did not assign seating to, wanting everyone to feel as comfy as possible) could get to know their table mates over a silly game or two. As to the food? We know littles can be picky, so we picked what the hotel called "Stadium food" (Sausages and such, with a Quinoa salad and some other options for our vegetarian guests)
13:42 Alternative version of ‘Four Weddings And A Funeral’.
I performed a handfasting for my sister and her wife in a park near our grandparents house so that they could attend and be the two witnesses on the marriage license. They're big wedding is later this year but this small ceremony was for our grandparents specifically and was an amazing celebration of my sibling in law joining the family
My baba (grandmother) got remarried when I was pretty young (7 to 9 about). She had been divorced, which was extremely rare in our family, and had lived a good majority of her life alone. Obviously as a child I didn't understand what a big step it was for her to remarry, but looking back I'm glad that my childhood ignorance could help. I knew my baba only as Baba. Much like like Mama and Papa I assumed those to be their names. I got separated from my family and was asking for my Baba, only for people to ask what her name was. I didn't know, and I was very upset. Later my mother found me, and I learned that my baba's name was... Rada (joy). She was always very sweet to me and asked me if it was okay she was getting married (on her wedding day so a little as a joke), I told her along the lines "Your name is Joy, so you should have as much joy as you like." She cried and I was confused as a child, but now I know lol
Each wedding is special!, sometimes for better or for worse lol
As a kid I lived close to a church, and there was a tradition to throw candy after a wedding to the kids that randomly show up from the neighbourhood XD
So of course, I went there for a while every saturday or so to get some candy.
One week, I was way to early and arrived when the wedding was about to start, so I sat down on the church's outer wall (it wasn't high) to wait. But the father of the bride saw me and enthusiastically called me to come inside. I told him I wasn't part of the wedding itself, but he didn't cared! XD
So... I just sat there and was part of a wedding of total strangers lol
Also, years later, I was addressed by the leader of our gospel choir. (Outside of the songs, we weren't religious per se, just a choir) I was the youngest member of the choir at the time, yet he came to me and told me that a couple wanted someone to sing at their wedding. (or rather, the SIL wanted to surprise the couple, something along the lines - it's been some decades XD)
Originally, the bride would've wanted "My heart will go on", but the priest forbid non-religious songs, so I was supposed to sing Ave Maria. However, it was so on short notice, that there was no chance studying the song in time (I tried). So in the end, we (the girl on the organ and I) sneakily decided to ignore the priest and when the wedding day came, in the church, I sang "My heart will go on" and "I will ever love you". The priest couldn't do anything about it without destroying the wedding, so he had no choice XD HA!
My mom told me later that when she was asked to sing at weddings, this was a common theme, and she always ignored the priests XD
The serial killer one is so disrespectful to the victims and their families
Aww I love when you guys film videos together ❤ So chaotic amd wholesome 😂
Congratulations on 12 years you two, I hope that my partner and I can last that long. I'm so very happy for you guys 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
i can't get over how adorable you guys are together 💗 you can just feel the love through the screen!!
In February last year I went to a wedding where they had a whole lot of second hand books wrapped in brown paper with a dhort description. Guests were invited to take them in a sor of lucky dip. The cake eas also book themed
Shaaba! My uncle and I are super close (I don't have a relationship with my father so 🤷🏻♀️) and when they decided to get married, his wife wanted to make sure I felt like part of their family and asked me to be a bridesmaid. It was an incredibly beautiful day!
I've been to probably about fifty weddings in my life. I come from a big family with a lot of cousins, and my aunt owned a wedding decor company that I worked for as a teenager. My favorite wedding, out of all the ones I've been to, was also undeniably the cheapest. It was held in a friend's backyard in late spring. They didn't serve a meal, but they had pretzels and a small business owner with homemade fruit popsicles--so you could have strawberry or watermelon or mango. The bride wore a white sundress with bright pink flipflops, and the groom wore khaki shorts. Instead of a cake, they cut a watermelon into tiers. The whole event had an amazing energy, it was really about the couple and how happy they were, rather than making it about the event. It felt like a new beginning rather than a culmination of their relationship. That's the kind of wedding I want to have.
My cousin just got married last month, he and his wife met in a dance troupe and did an incredible clogging routine the night of their wedding!! They choreographed it just for them, and practiced it just to perform in front of all their families and friends to declare their love for each other, and I thought it was wonderful, definitely my favorite part of their wedding ❤
Both of you trying to defining a certain word had me rasping for breath 😂
Okay but what if she was complaining about her voice benig raspy and he just goes "Sexy Raspy" that's so cute!! 😭
if I was invited to a serial killer wedding I would decline and then immediately go no contact with that person.
We got married in a friend's backyard. We had maybe twenty people. We aren't religious so our best friend got ordained just for us and family members each brought a small part of the set up (dad rented chairs, mom bought wedding cupcakes with a mini cake on top to cut, sister brought burgers to grill, etc) we didn't have a registry because everyone pitched in on the ceremony. It was a beautiful day and ten years later we're still in love. There's nothing wrong with a big pricey wedding, but you should be more excited about the marriage, not just the one day ceremony❤
Okay, wholesome wedding story: I proposed to my wife by singing "The Book of Love" to her, and on our wedding day we walked to an acoustic cello version of the same song and it was one of the most beautiful moments of my life
My neice was 3 at our wedding and our flower girl. She had tried practicing with grandma (my mother) and was very confused by the role. So we had them both do it. My mother walked down with her helping her throw the flowers. About halfway down she ran back and started picking them all up and putting the back in the basket 😅 to many giggles from the family. There were still a few left by the time it was my turn but was a hilarious way to start things. She's 16 now... i will have to remind her of this 😂
when me and my husband got married. we decided to open our wedding giftst at the end of the night infront of our guests. ( we only had maybey 20 people) we hadn't told people what to get us for gifts. so when I opened one of our gifts i got so excited and held it high for every one to see my new toaster. the grin on my face was amazing. that was my favorite gift. a friend gave us a new sword.
I was a bridesmaid in one of my childhood friend's wedding. For the rehearsal dinner, the bride and groom asked us to come in pajamas just so it would be more chill and comfy. The bride was wearing an oversized and well-loved TMNT onesie, and when she came down the aisle for rehearsal in her onesie, I looked over and saw the groom had the biggest grin and was ugly crying from just seeing his person walking down the aisle toward him.
I knew Lolita because of Beetlejuice in "Creepy Old Guy". Congrats on the anniversary and sending love from Texas💛💖
When my guy and I got married, we were a small group (20-ish people) of our closest relatives and dear friends, on a cozy touristy boat sailing down the Spree river (Berlin). There was an improvised DJ who tried his best to play some Latin American music (Latina bride, and it ended a hilarious anecdote that wasn't really his fault but we decided that nope, go back to pop please) and even though we couldn't afford an actual wedding cake, we ended up having the most delicious chocolate mousse cake I've ever tasted. Well, maybe it tasted delicious because we were happy.
15:02 the last marriage I went to, the photographer had a heart attack just before the ceremony (like 30 minutes before)
Overall that wedding was a catastrophic event but hey! Can't control everything 😅
WHOLESOME WEDDING STORY
My old dance instructor was doing a vow renewal and she had some of us favorite students of hers be her backup dancers to “their song” (I’ve forgotten what it was, but it was her and her husband’s song) and I loved being a part of it
I love how, even after 12 years, you're both still so excited to be together. I hope that lasts your entire lives.❤
Edit: how bout an ADHD dreamland themed wedding? Lots of cute and cool potential, there. Maybe a milestone anniversary?
Wholesome wedding story, my BFF wanted my children (8M, 7M, and 4M) and me to be in her wedding, but she lived out of state and asked me to ask them for me. I called to tell her they agreed, and she asked if I told them she was marrying a woman; I said yes. She asked what they thought, and I said they are much more worried about if they were going to wear something ugly. For months I coached them; whatever the bride wants, she gets; it's her day. When they were about to walk down the aisle with my BFF's 3yr nephew, someone forgot to give the boys the lavender to throw for the bride. The eldest looked around, shrugged, and grabbed his brothers hands, and another boy grabbed the nephews hands. They walked down the aisle holding hands, and everyone said it was the sweetest thing. Including my bff.
Wholesome wedding moments: My moms best friends wedding was absolutely beautiful, but one of the sweetest moments was her husband did a father/son dance with his step father.
Also at my aunts wedding, there was unfortunately a tragedy that occurred during the wedding. My grandfather was watching on live stream when he passed, which was quite sad but those who were with him said he passed as soon as she began walking down the aisle and told her he wanted to walk her down the aisle so he had to go. This meant a lot to her and she had a lovely wedding, having the entire family with her when he passed she said was an exceptionally special moment she’ll always be greatful for.
To finish it with a happy one, at my moms wedding (i was one) apparently i was meant to walk down the aisle but got so excited to see my dad and my grandma i ran down the aisle so the only pictures of it are a tiny blur of a baby and my dad bending down to pick me up.
The Spuds/ Preaches thing actually could be a really cute wedding theme. Neutral pastel tones of peach, yellow and beige (like the outsides of peaches, potatoes and the inner pale yellow yellow of both)
And a menu that incorporated peach desserts, fancy potatoes in the mains or as snacks (spiralled fried potatoes on sticks at the cocktail hour?) And little motifs of a peach and spud on any custom stationary/ favours.
Silly thought, but hopefully wholesome enough to cheer you up
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Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are!
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@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jz did you make it like, a goal of yours to go in and annoy a bunch of people who were perfectly content without you?
@@TheWerewolfOfNorway-mf5jznot really, I couldn't care too much less about this than I already do.
I just wonder what might drive people to act like you. Wasting one's own time to (even just slightly) worsen the day of others doesn't seem too beneficial to either party.
edit: removed double @ tag, yt was being weird
7:35 the little sigh together was so cute 😭
I don't remember much about their wedding, but when my grandma and papaw got married, I was 5 and the flower girl (lol), their whole theme was green. Her dress was green and my papaw's tie was green, when he passed I was given his tie and still have it and have considered the possibility of wearing it for my own wedding, but that's FAR in the future. The reason it all was green is its my grandma's favorite color. To the point we call "lime green" grandma green. My papaw loved my grandma so much he got everything in green because he knew she would love it. His '69 Mustang convertible he painted green for her, their bedroom got painted green as well as their living room, though not in Bright green. I'd bet $1,000 that 80% of her clothes are green because of how he'd just surprise her with random little presents. I aspire to be that type of husband in the future 💚💚
Open casket *during* the wedding feels weird? Like, shorter ceremonies one before the other?
You two are adorable together and make me happy to see. Just wanted to say that.
Hi Jamie and Shaaba!! I love y’all so much. You have seriously helped me in so many ways. Y’all are amazing 🧡🩷
Wedding photographers, on three or four separate weddings, took more pictures of my parents than the couple getting married because my parents are just that cute together