How to Free Yourself from the Past | A Monk's Perspective
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- How to Free Yourself from the Past | A Monk's Perspective
In our life, we will experience many hardships. Some hardships may impact us negatively and get us stuck. In this video, I wanted to share an approach to looking at one's life in a way does not keep you stuck. This looks at our issues from the lens of wisdom. Simply take only the good parts or the parts that are beneficial and let go of the rest. For anyone who is going through a difficult time, I hope this is helpful. #monks #buddhism #mentalhealth
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0:00 Intro
1:20 Personal story
5:03 There are 2 options
5:57 Juicer analogy
7:34 Lessons from being a refugee
11:14 Lessons from break up
13:07 Takeaway
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Nick is such a beautiful soul. What a brilliant and honest account of his life situation. I thank you nick from the bottom of my heart. You are helping so many of us out here. Its an absolute pleasure to listen to nicks very gentle and kind voice. Many many thanks. Love, peace and kindness to all in this world..... ❤
Thank you so much Maria 😊
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@bertherfisher2408
I hear you x
What I'm hearing from this is - difficult situations open our hearts to others. We as humans share these painful emotions, and having gone through them ourselves allows us to see it in others, to relate, and to comfort one another better.
Yes definitely 😀😀
From that time Jesus began to preach, and to say, Repent: for the kingdom of heaven is at hand. Matthew 4:17 God loves and blesses you!✝✝✝ Turn away from these evil things and turn and seek Jesus Christ for hope, love, and peace! God loved us so much that he sent his one and only son Jesus Christ to die on the cross for our sins so that one day we can see God in heaven and go to heaven! Ask Jesus Christ for forgiveness for your sins and He will forgive you because He is a merciful God! Repent before it's too late!!!✝✝✝ SYMBOL OF LOVE✝✝✝
That typewriter sound at the start is too soothing. Everytime, it just feels good.
Wonderful! I’m glad to hear that. It is quite soothing 😀
Nick, you are an inspiration. I've seen/listened to a few of your videos but sharing your life story got my attention. You've had so much experience in this life: refugee, student, dancer, therapist, your break-up, monk....I admire how you put your heart into whatever you do. And the immigrant skills you talk about ie observation, work ethic etc., are characteristics we should all appreciate and hold in high esteem. My grandparents came from China and they had similar obstacles.... I can see now how their hard work and resilience have impacted many generations. Thank you Nick for sharing and your insight. I'm a grandma and appreciate your wisdom.
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Good morning Nick every time I listen to you I get very emotional I love your soul thank you so much I wish we can have more of you to teach us how to live a better life 😊
Aww thank you so much for your kind words 😊😊
Having grown up in a very volatile and toxic family I feel like there's a lot of versions of me that are fractured along my childhood. Those parts of me that never developed properly whether due to parental damage or neglect, those parts still affect me. I don't have much of an identity and I've been working in therapy to get more in touch with myself. Even though I'm safe and no contact with all my abusers the past still weighs me down
Yes those types of toxic environments can linger on for sure. I’m glad you’re taking the time to work through it. Sending you my blessings my friend 😀
I can relate myself with your story. Many times and many ways I feel lost and I know its because of my childhood. I'm 45 today, but still without my real myself. I grow up with alcoholic dad and mum who always drag him out of all troubles. Never ever had a chance to hear a word like I love you ir I proud of you from both parents...
Good luck to you. For many years I didn’t know who I was or how to live. Slowly and over time, things become clear. Be patient and good to yourself. Are it slow, one day at a time.
I feel very much the same but I’ve made massive progress lately. I think about the past a lot, mainly at night in bed. But in some ways, that was another life. Like a dream. You sound like you’re really working on it and are in the right place. ☺️ I’m glad you’re looking around and studying material like this. Good on you!
I feel like you wrote my life. I'm sorry you had to endure a painful childhood, too. I'm still working on my identity and every 5 years it changes and new things come up. I wish you only the best and you find the you that you're meant to be and peace.
Saibaidee Nick! I’m also from Laos. Came here in 1980 as refugee at 6. I can relate to your story. So glad I’ve found your Channel!
Oh wow! Saibaidee 😊😊 glad you’re here. Welcome to the channel.
The big thing that helped my free myself from the past is forgiving others that hurt/disappointed me. Sometimes people forget that forgiveness mainly helps the victim…it frees the soul of the emotional burden that unforgiving tends to leave behind.
Yes that’s very true. Forgiveness Is very powerful 😀
As a child I was never loved by my mum, she made it known in many small ways. It wasn’t until I was a mum myself I asked my Dad why? He just said to me I didn’t think you knew and that has stayed with me for years, you have made me realise the fault was not mine I was just a child, but it made me love each of my sons with my whole heart. Much love and light always ❤️🙏🏻
Healing wishes to everyone who reads this. ❤️❤️❤️
thank you!
Thank you, so much. I have been having trouble accepting the past. The choices I made. The harm from outside me. I dwell on it, at times. Now i am practicing acceptance. I can not change it to make a different outcome. But, i can use the good parts to move forward.
I like your analogy. Get the seeds, pulp, rind in hand and let them go.
Now, we can fully enjoy the smoothie😊
thank you and yes definitely :)
What I say to myself to get myself going is "life moves on with or without "
And I am 70
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Very Blessed
That’s great Marcia. Thank you for sharing 😀
Studying the Dharma and meditation have changed my life. I finally feel content and joyful. 😊
Awww that’s wonderful. I’m so glad to hear that. Keep it up 😀😀
Cleaning is so underrated. I always assumed I had "better" things to do. Mostly, I didn't. Thank you, Nick. Your videos are always a bright spot in my day!
Hello Nick, thank You for this video. Agree. Embrace the good things for healing. I have been working with my emotional wounds for a while. A Lot of personal and emotional job but happy to find the way to forgive myself, others, and continue with path.
I really needed to hear this today. I've been struggling with something for 7 days; feeling no motivation. However, I just realized that my local sangha has begun to allow in-person meetings again. Together with this video and that news, I'm realizing that I need to come back to the path.
This video felt like a hug that I really needed. Thank you so much.
Wow that’s so beautiful. Yes please connect back with the Sangha. It’ll be helpful 😀
Congratulations on reconnecting with YOURSELF. Smile!
Thank you. So helpful. I was in a violent relationship. I had to leave my children and unstable wife behind. I never returned and started all over again. It took ten years to feel good again. Happiness is inside and yes I matter. I visited the local Bhuddist Monastery and left all my troubles mentally there. They stay next to the Bhudda image and have never to leave it. So I walk free. This video is wonderful and thank you. Time and slowly walk free. I was a, battered husband, no one ever understood, I had to do it for myself and leave it all behind emotionally.
I’m glad you are in a better space and safe my friend 😀
I understand your hardship as a refugee from SE Asia. I too came over around 5 years old and grew up as a dirt poor refugee, but looks like I overcame the poverty due to education. The Vietnam war was no joke, and thankful for being in the US. Best country ever and people should NOT take living in the US for granted. So much freedom for all. We are blessed already . . .Hardships build character.
You are AMAZING to ME!!! Thank God for YOU!!!💖💫🙏🏽
Aww thank you so much my friend 😊
I can truly relate to what you are saying. My mom passed away two years ago and that was the moment that brought me to my knees. All the thinkings and fantasies in my head were broken and I was brought back to a full reality. Although this pain will forever be felt every time when I think of my mom, I know she is now pain free and free of suffering. I am happy at this point in my life, of where I’m and who I’ve become. Looking back when she was bound to bed by sickness is no help, so I let part of myself died with my mom. And let the broken pieces of me to regroup and create a new version of myself. Thank you for your sharing always.
Thank you so much tiffanie and my condolences to you and your family. Losing a parent is such a big loss. Sending you my blessings 😀
"Don't get stuck, continue on". That's exactly what I needed to hear, and be reminded of, right now. Thank you
This video is helping so many beyond understanding. Thank you Nick. I too was a child immigrant and only now as an adult, am learning the trauma that I suffered as a child had affected my entire life as an adult. Your words resonate more deeply than one can imagine . My world crumbled very recently this year when both my mother and mother in law died . Their deaths were ofcourse confrontational but it was the childhood trauma of an immigrant child left at boarding school that resurfaced which actually broke me. I am now on a conscious middle path and you are helping me. Thank you Nick.❤
You’re welcome! Thank you so much 😊
You didn't know how to do a lot of things as a child, but look at you now- You are shining! 😉🙏
Thank you for this presentation. One way we get stuck in the past is when we are in the habit of feeling sorry for ourselves. Here are excerpts from Steps to Knowledge that take a deeper look at self-pity as a false sense of oneself. "How can you pity yourself when Knowledge is with you? Pity must only reassert an old idea of yourself, which is bereft of truth, bereft of hope and bereft of any meaningful foundation. Do not pity yourself today for you are not pitiful. If this day is sad or confused, it is only because you have lost contact with Knowledge (the deeper mind within you) which you may practice today to regain... Be aware of the many forms of self-pity that you entertain... the many subtle forms of manipulation of others as you attempt to make them like or accept you according to a view of yourself that you are attempting to claim. When you are with Knowledge, you do not need to proclaim yourself; you do not need to control others to like or accept you, for Knowledge is with you... No being who is pitiful can enter into silence, for silence is the experience of profound relationship, and stillness is the acceptance of profound love. Who can be pitiful under such circumstances?"(Marshall Vian Summers, Steps to Knowledge)
Thank you so much my friend 😀
Thank you, Janice.
Thank you, Janice!
True, it’s so easy to give into our emotions and have a pity party.
Then under the sorrow sneaks out some anger. It’s a great challenge to forgive, to see the brokenness in others, to climb out of ourselves and not make everything all about “me”. We have a loving Creator to guide us and He had given us wonderful teachers. Indeed we are Loved. We are blessed!
Very timely, I needed this right now. Thank you so much, Nick 🙏
Wonderful. I’m glad it’s helpful 😀
Great advice isn't it Lesley? He always seems to hit the mark with me as well! ❤️🙂🙏
@@foxmacnamara8809 It certainly is. Always so helpful. ❤️🙂🙏
I have been thru a lot of trauma. From all this I have learn to laugh at myself and life at the foolishness of my thoughts and my pride. Life is so good and calm now as I learn gratitude and contentment.
I can’t believe this. After a year in hell after a breakup I’m finally starting to inch toward accepting and kind of wanting to let go. But I always tell people who push me in that direction to tell me HOW. How? I have no idea and please stop pushing me if you can’t tell me how.
And so finally I just started to meditate after months of self-destruction. And I think that has maybe helped almost without me noticing. Meditation didn’t tell me I must let go. Meditation had compassion for me. It understood that only I can let go, no one can do it for me, or tell me to.
I’m also trying to read anything that explaines how to let go. And nobody can really put it into words. I didn’t expect to hear anything different on this video either. But I did. I did!
Nick what you’re saying-take the good stuff and run-is revolutionary. And it’s such a simple thought. And the only way to motivate someone like me to let go. You are the first to ever introduce that idea to me. I always thought there was no trade-off; I let go of my identity, my love, my life, my future and I do it for nothing but loneliness and despair in return? I am nothing without those things, where did everyone expect me to go? All they were offering was pain. Time to internalize feelings of worthlessness. Endless time to ruminate, endless thoughts of which not one of them was nice or kind.
And then you Nick tell me to take the good stuff and run ❤️ And to integrate that good stuff in me instead of the bad stuff. That the spotlight is on me now, not on him, anymore. That the world needs me, because I build myself using the good stuff.
I just love that so much. Thank you.
Ps. That you survived your early years in life is testimony to your spirit. I’m glad you made it 🙂
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing so honestly. I can definitely empathize with your sentiment of “how”. That was definitely the question I was after for many years prior to monkhood.
Please keep up your great work my friend! I’m rooting for you 😊😊
I broke in tears when you said about the break up incident...it´s a long story but all I have to say is thank you so so so so much, you have no idea how much I needed this video. Been thinking about becoming a monk for two years (because a break up and all that comes with it), and now, after a breakthrough experience this past weekend (about that girl), you appear in my CZcams feed...I´m so glad you are alive 🖤☯🕉👁
Thank you so much my friend. I’m glad the words were comforting and helpful to you. I can definitely relate to the experience. Sending you my blessings my friend 😊
Thanks for this. I was married for 40 years to the same woman and we had 9 children all grown. A year and a half ago she decided she didn't want to be married anymore and filed for divorce. I was devastated and am still trying to get over it. I too was devastated. I still love her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. The buddhist perspective that I have learned from your channel has helped. Keep up the good work.
My heart goes out to you mark. Sorry to hear about your situation. Sending you my blessings and please hang in there ☺️
The feminist philosophy around the world is spreading in every mind. They become egocentric and egoistic. This is the awful result. May you find peace in your heart and a lovely partner!
@@skyjuke2006 Nothing like making a judgment on something while having zero evidence for your statement.
"We did what we did with the wisdom and perspective at that point"
One of the many things that I learned from that painful experience was not to disregard my wisdom and intuition. It was "on point" then but I didn't heed it. Lesson learned. Regardless how we feel and we may desire, wisdom must prevail.
"A wise man can see danger coming from afar off and hide himself. A fool will go forward and is punished"- Proverb 27:12.
Don”t stop doing your videos, please. Thank you!
Thank you so much Nata :)
take what you need, leave the rest...today is the first day of the rest of your life...any adversity is a learning opportunity. i nominate Nick for a Nobel Prize.👍
haha! thank you so much Tom. That made me smile :)
I'm literally editing a video right now about trying to start a mediation habit and I had a mental break down where I cried and struggled to let go of my past and to forgive myself the way I do to other people. Nick thank you for shining the light at the end of a very dark tunnel in my life. I hope to one day get to the other side and hold the light for someone else.
You will get there Jon. Keep going and be very kind to yourself. Also good luck with your editing. You’re going to do great 😀
Me too !
Progress update? I'm struggling with wanting to forgive and love myself, but not being able to. I have imprisoned myself and I feel my spirit crying out for release and freedom. This isn't how or who I want to be...
@@Sykeward77 I heard someone say that holding onto your past and judging yourself for who you used to be is you literally comparing yourself to a person who no longer exist and “comparison is the thief of joy.” I’m going to make a video on my channel soon about forgiving yourself.
What a beautiful being of light you are 🙏
sadhu sadhu! thank you so much Beate :)
Thank you Ven Nick. I have a purpose. My suffering gain me experience and allow me empathy and courage.
Wonderful!! 😊😊
Our stories mirror each other, both immigrating at a young age and the painful breakup later in life. It took me many years of clinging to the past before I finally said, "No more". Hitting the bottom gives us the only option of "up". I can honestly say that these painful past events made me stronger, more resilient and grateful for the opportunities to learn about myself and humanity, in general. Thank you for this video. 💙🌟
Thank you so much Warren. I’m glad you were able to grow past it 😀
1. Take what is helpful and what you learn the good part.
2. Strong work ethic, Observe, Gratitude, Empathy, Internal Happiness and Joy, Self motivation, Direction in life.
Focus on yourself and what you can control, Be in the Now. ♡♡♡
Thank you so much grace 😀😀
Gratitude to you ❤
Every word you are saying You Mean it!
All you saying Millions needed to hear! Many people today really lost! Freedom for people who don’t know what they want , bring much loneliness
Aww thank you so much my friend 😊
Georgia needs your wisdom, your clarity, your all-inclusiveness and Gorgia needs to give up its's overt racism, learning tolerance & compassion for all sentient beings. Let the Peachy Keen State learn KINDNESS !!
We will do our best where ever we go.
Ven. Nick, I just discovered your videos for the first time. Even though I've practicing dharma for decades, your talks are so helpful and enlightening. Thank you so much for sharing. Wishing you all the best from Memphis.🙏
Thank you so much. I’m glad it resonates with you 😊
As always Venerable Nick, you speak volumes regarding life. Thank you for taking the time to teach us. Sadoh
Aww thank you so much my friend 😀
I just want to hug that very young 5 year old that went through war, fear, and coming to a new country, what a brave part of you , such a survivor ❤
Thank you so much 😊
True spirituality is never easy.
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Hi Nick, thank you for this video. All my pains and regrets are the result of wanting things, especially chicks! I am getting rid of my physical possessions, but find it difficult to get rid of my past. The less junk I have the happier I become. What I own ends up owning me. I took down the TV aerial and it was like a weight was lifted from my shoulders. No more TV, no more useless news. I am going to research more Buddhist philosophy. I will unclutter my mind and only remember the good things that resulted from my life experiences.
Wonderful my friend. Keep unpacking your life. You’re on the right path 😀
I’m glad I found you on you tube. I grew up the family scapegoat and suffer narcissistic abuse. I have found your reasoning and life lessons are helping me process and go forward feeling grounded. I read a lot about narcissistic people and how they need a victim. You are teaching me to instead live a mindful life of my own grateful for the good things. Thank you so much, I think you must be helping many people!!
I’m glad it’s helpful my friend 😀😀😀
The ending thought on this video was incredibly powerful: "we need you." So validating to hear this. A lot of abuse survivors hear over and over that we're worthless, so coming out on the other side and hearing that you're needed...? Wow. Thank you for this reminder, brother.
You are such an amazing role model and inspiration to me. I can relate coming to North America from Israel at the age of 12. It’s amazing how the worst things that happen in anyone’s life end up to be the best ones. Thank you for sharing your stories ❤🙏🏼
The part where you said “ We need you” really touched my heart.
Thank you Beth! And it’s true. We need you 😀
I don’t ever remember anyone saying “I need you” to me….and I’m 85 years old so excuse me if I shed a tear…..
Thank you for your personal share, Nick! I can relate to everything you said. I also stayed in the Philippines refugee camp in the early 1980s and came to the San Diego as an immigrant. I was 7 at the time. I struggled with having two identities all my life (being an Asian American) ... and questioning who am I? What is my true nature? What is my true identity? I learned a lot from your journey. I've listened to most of your videos in the past year and you've been a GREAT MENTOR to me. Thank you and I wish you safe travels and peace and love around you.
Oh wow. What a small world. Yes that struggle of having two identities can be challenging.
Thank you ! Welcome back to the US.
Thank you Tiza! 😃 glad to be back
dam you and I are so alike in what has happened in our lives. I too am a refugee, from Cambodia, my family escaped the civil war in my country. I was fortunate I guess, my mind doesn't allow to remember anything until I came to this country in 82'. After high school, the love of my life left me and I've never been able to recover. I was on a path of self destruction from the age of 20 ish until now, im 43. Abusing drugs and gambling I was an emotional mess. Just taking it one day at a time now. Thank you for sharing.
I've had a couple of years working on myself after an awfully painful breakup. Thank you for all the wisdom and energy in your videos, I send you all my gratitude and love from here. This video appeared on my feed at a very needed moment. A big hug.
Sadhu sadhu thank you so much Abril 😀
Listening to your past history makes me think about conflict between Russian and Ukrainian. So many people have to endure this hardship.
Yes it feels very similar.
Listening to you regarding this topic, you remind me of the insight that I received: "It was a painful lesson that had to be learned."
You are such a beautiful being. Your life story touched me deeply, you are inspirational. Love and gratitude to you.
Aww thank you so much 😊
Thank you so much, you are an inspiration. I can relate with this, because I'm struggling with a breakup that also has destroyed me (my partner abandoned me this month because of a clinical depression), and I find so much comfort in your videos, but this one really made my day, specially with your last sentence.
Again, thank you 💓🙏
Sending you my blessings Liz 😊
You are certainly a great success, Venerable Nick. Keep growing and learning. You have so much to offer (and do! ). Blessings.
Sadhu sadhu thank you so much Yvonne!
9:08 Body language, emotions, and character are universal; words are not. This observation you made is profound, it is deep.
Gosh that poor liitle 5year old. I really felt the desilation you went through. Looks like from day 1 you were meant for great things.❤
Thank you so much my friend 😊
I am sharing you with my friends and family. Thank you for your insight 😊 I love hearing you 🙏
Thank you so much 😊
As always you brighten my day and week, and your words of wisdom resonate with me deeply. Thank you.
Aww thank you so much Marcy. I’m glad it resonates with you 😀
Regarding the war and military situation. I'm so sorry you and your family and country were put through that, I hope everyone finds peace from that.
Deep gratitude for your kindness Dhamma talk sadhu sadhu sadhu
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Thank you so much 😊
I can say the same about the relationship that I had. I learned perseverance, why a spiritual foundation is so vital, to be my own best friend- regardless who walks out on me not to walkout on myself.
Yes! That’s so great to hear😀
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Wonderful words of wisdom, as always! You are so good at presenting visuals to turn negative life situations into positive ones. I will be using the juicing tool from now on🙏
Yeaaaa! I’m so glad to hear that it was helpful and useful. Thank you so much 😊
Beautiful, steadying and useful Nick. I think I have dealt with the past but it easily bleeds into now as an emotional response to this shows. Will think on your words (I like the summary words btw). Blessings on your day.
You don’t know who you are but you have hope that’s what really gets you through ‘your future’
What a blessing you are to the world. Love Linda
Aww thank you so much Linda 😀😀
Nick, thank you for your humble and sincere sharing of your own life experiences. This video really resonated with me. I like your analogy of the blender and the idea of focusing on the positive aspects of our experience while learning from the negative. I have found that adversity is painful but it is also a great teacher of wisdom. I sometimes work with silver, and the metal must be tempered and softened with fire before it can be formed into a thing of beauty. So it is with all of us. The beauty is there, waiting to come forth. Many blessings and peace to you as you journey in the United States.
Thank you so much and I love your analogy as well. That’s great! 😀
I just adore your videos, your openness, the way you express yourself, the clarity and of course the messages you share. I can relate to so much especially getting stuck. Listening to you gives me a boost - a new ray of hope and reminds me that I'm human! I always write notes whilst listening as I want to take points with me on my journey. Thank you!
Wonderful Marianne! I’m glad it resonates with you 😀😀 thank you so much.
THIS PROVIDES REAL WORLD ADVICE COMPARED TO ALL THE THERAPISTS OUT THERE. Thanks NICK.
I’m glad it’s helpful 😊
Sadhu sadhu sadhu 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🇦🇺
Thank you so much 😊
Thanks Nick this has been inspirational 🙏. I have been able to manage my past, though once in a while it tries to come back I am able to kick it back where it belongs. I like the mildness in you. I often find it difficult for young ones growing now because of their sense of entitlement but hey I often share these videos because they explain these issues better. Thank You very much 🤩
Awww thank you so much my friend 😀😀
Thank you, for sharing some of your life's experiences. There is so much help in your words (and kindness). Very inspiring and motivating!
I am 52 years old and recently (the last 2-3 years) have been going through, a series of losses (divorce, mother, father, uncle, aunts, friends and pets). I find myself focusing on the negative people who are left (or their actions), instead of the good people(and their actions) and/or the future possibilities (and of course, the here and now).
In a way, the universe has blessed me. By clearing my perspective, I can see the impact of people (good and bad) in my life. It is kind of weird and at times a little overwhelming. Some things are hard to let go of, and your juicing analogy is brilliant! Occasionally, it feels like I am starting over again, with nothing. But that is not true. There are the lessons learned, knowledge gained and the good memories (along with new ones to come). Your advice gives me a good direction to heal my past (and let the toxic aspects/people go).
Thank you again!
I hope I wasn't too wordy (or over sharing), be safe and take care! Much love!
Not at all my friend. Thank you so much for sharing with us. Sorry for your loss and sending you our blessings 😀
Hi from the Philippines 💁♀️been watching your videos from a year now. It motivates me a lot. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdoms 👏⚘️
Wow thank you so much my friend 😊
Thank you so very much for your wisdoms,
Thank you,
You're welcome Eleanor!
Your teachings are always so helpful and relevant. Thank you always 🙏🙏🙏
Sadhu sadhu thank you so much 😊
Thank you
Have you been able to free yourself from the past? If so, how?
This is the most useful information thank you nick it is greatly appreciated, for me I ignore the past by remembering it so I don't want it to happen to me again and I constantly focus in my head that it's over and the timeline is now I control the way my life goes. Anyways that's how I've done it for years but the way you showed it was beautiful
Forgiving myself and forgiving others has been the only way I have freed myself from the past.
@@MachaBREATH wonderful my friend.
@@ngonigriffith1491 wonderful. Forgiveness is very powerful!
You helped me today Ven. Nick.
1) Do I want to be right, or do I want to be happy?
2) Justified resentment and anger is like me drinking poison hoping the other one dies.
3) A gratitude practice has actual scientific studies showing neural/bio-chemical benefits. It's real.
We are blessed to have someone like you to bless is with your experience and knowledge
You saved me tonight. Love, Nancy
I’m glad it’s helpful 😊
Great video! Thank you for sharing, I can't imagine how scary that must have been as a young child. I'm so glad you made it to the U.S.A. 😊 It took awhile, but yes, I feel free from the past. You really have to think and believe that it's over, you can't change it, you have to move forward. For me, it was grieving. After losing both of my parents ( in a 16 year gap) I really took to heart that you can't stay heartbroken and sad forever. You are still on this earth and have a life to live. They wouldn't want you to fall apart as they have moved on and it's ok. Memories make me smile and are happy. Walk on everyone. ❤️
Sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have been able to cultivate peace around it and thank you for sharing. I think it will help others :)
I suppose, Meditation with Mantra is the best remedy to come out of past because Buddha also emphasised to move on in life for self-realization. One must remember that whatever happens in life is for betterment and good because the Creator is unbiased and knows our needs and deeds.
Wonderful my friend 😀
@@nickkeomahavong01 If I am not mistaken then setbacks of past show us a new path in life. In fact, setbacks are God-gifted events to take us for something positive to happen in life. As in your case also, you left US job to be a monk because you faced a serious setback in personal relationship. If I am not mistaken, then that particular negative happening became a blessing in disguise and you attained monkhood, which again is the best thing to happen in one's life. I am not so lucky to be a monk to indulge in infinite meditation. Thanks & regards.
Thank you so much Venerable Nick. May you have the chance to visit the Philippines soon ❤️
Thank you so much. I hope so too. That would be great 😊
I am currently going through hearing for a crime I did not commit based upon lies told by corrupt officers. Each lie that has been proven has simply been brushed aside by the judge. Evidence that proves my innocence has been destroyed and apparently no one knows how, it was ruled an 'unfortunate accident'. The other side even came out to say ' it does not matter' if I do not get a fair trial. The judge allowed it. With the system failing me I turned to the local monasteries who I had been donating to for years for spiritual guidance, it fell on death ears, so much for this 'symbiotic relationship' with lay people. They were happy to take me stuff and then sent me away when I asked for help.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation my friend. Sending you my blessings and that your situation gets resolved.
Are you going to go back to Thailand eventually? How are you liking Atlanta? Are you planning to teach in any other states?
yes ill be teaching in Alabama and Azusa California then heading back in August :)
I'm posting these words of John O'Donohue which have helped me with the exhaustion that often comes with suffering.
Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.
Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.
Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.
Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.
Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.
Be excessively gentle with yourself.
JOHN O'DONOHUE
Excerpt from the blessing, 'For One Who is Exhausted,' from John's books:
Benedictus (Europe) / To Bless the Space Between Us (US)
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God bless Nick always. He has a very beautiful soothing voice, a very humble human being and someone who is helping many many people. Sending you up unconditional love and divine blessings 🙏🏽🤍
Thank you so much my friend 😊
Thank you Venerable. Sadhu 🙏🙏🙏
It’s my pleasure! Thank you 😊
You radiate love and positivity. 🌸
Thank you so much Susan 😀😀
sending love from Philippines 🇵🇭
thank you so much!
I got to this point by the following: a great therapist, personal research on a variety of topics regarding mental well-being, prayer, meditation, reflection, reading, and solitude.
If you integrate these into your life, regardless of your faith, they will definitely benefit you.
a long term relationship ending destroyed many years of my life in myself.....thank you for the advice
Glad it was helpful Raven :)
Thank you, relatable good to know my beloved counry Philippines have become part of your journey.
Yes I Would love to visit the Philippines one day :-)
You are a gentle soul. I enjoy your postings, thank you for sharing yourself.❤❤❤
Love the juicer analogy!! I'm definitely going to juice my life after I learn from my experiences. Thank you for sharing your insights. ❤😊
You’re welcome. I’m glad it resonates with you 😊
Thank you Nick... I always listen to you, your teachings are so simple, profound, and meaningful. Thank you so much for sharing.
Thanks Nick!you're such a wonderful souk dat keeps me reminded whenever i am in my darkest part of my life. Thanks browe!
My pleasure! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊😊
Hello venerable Nick, through your story, I can empathize with you. It seems like you had a difficult childhood, and you've gone through many troubles and traumas in your early days, and the break-up later, too (I did see the video that you share in which you say something like it took you to the point where you cry when you are driving)🥺. Those things are things that can break anyone out there, but you overcomed them. It really inspires me that you are now living healthy and happy as a monk, it is such a good thing that you live well. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for overcoming your difficulty, for living well and happy, it inspires me very much.
Just looking at your face and listening your voice makes me cry so much.... just can't stop crying...thank you 🙏🙏
Thank you my friend 😌🙏
Monk Nick,
I can relate to your story about coming to America. I am also from Laos. Spent 2 years in the refugee camps in Thialand, we were moved.
twice in Thialand. Seen some traumatic events. No wonder that i went into the psychology field, mostly to heal myself and now I try my best to help others.
Thank for your videos. I value them, really good reminders to be appreciative and a kind human being.
Phung ( Vietnamese name but actually not Vietnamese, thats another story 😊)