Navigating Change | The One Mistake People Make

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  • čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
  • When it comes to make life changes and going through life transitions, what is the number one mistake people make? In my opinion, it's that they don't give themselves enough time to adjust and recalibrate. In this video, I share 7 tools that will help you to navigate the changes in your life. I hope these tips are helpful. Enjoy! #monks #buddhism #mentalhealth
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    0:00 Intro
    2:02 Rearrange your physical space
    4:18 Give yourself time to recalibrate
    6:47 Break up categories
    9:06 Be patient & kind with yourself
    11:42 Rest when needed
    14:05 Ask for support
    17:10 Reframe your situation
    21:28 Why am I sharing this?
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Komentáře • 434

  • @nickkeomahavong01
    @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +42

    Which tool was most helpful for you?
    Timestamp
    0:00 Intro
    2:02 Rearrange your physical space
    4:18 Give yourself time to recalibrate
    6:47 Break up categories
    9:06 Be patient & kind with yourself
    11:42 Rest when needed
    14:05 Ask for support
    17:10 Reframe your situation
    21:28 Why am I sharing this?

    • @KCeci
      @KCeci Před 9 měsíci +9

      “Be patient and gentle with yourself.” Your sharing on how you don’t adapt as fast as your brother monk struck a chord in me. Throughout my transitions it always been very bumpy & emotional taxing for at least 6 months before I settle in. I think I am also a slow adaptor & over time I am able to observe this trait and know myself better.
      Will like to share another point which may be helpful and I think you have actually kind of explain it in the video - 💡 that is to define your own realistic expectations + honour & celebrate it when you meet them💡. Without this, it is going to be really easy to be affected by others’ comments or (maybe unrealistic) expectations of you.
      Sending love & support to all who are going through transitions, be it in any form. ❤

    • @jennifernace1666
      @jennifernace1666 Před 9 měsíci +3

      Taking the clean-out and restructuring of the spiritual and emotional spaces like the physical space. I can see the need for time and patience to go through the process with physical spaces, so viewing the internal spaces through the same lens helps to give me perspective and patience for my inner “reset”

    • @margeorgeous
      @margeorgeous Před 9 měsíci +5

      "Give Yourself Time to Recalibrate" is very helpful as sometimes I get too hard on myself. Giving one's self time to adapt is a good mindset. Also, to be gentle and kind.

    • @sandyduarte6197
      @sandyduarte6197 Před 8 měsíci +3

      Thank you dear Nick for one of the most helpful incredible clips on change. I so needed this. I can’t express enough how wonderful 🙏🏻🌸

    • @sarrahlee4118
      @sarrahlee4118 Před 8 měsíci

      ...be gentle with myself, is mine ❤... thank you 🥙☕

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +40

    "Let the inside and outside world catch up"- exactly.

  • @trilliand
    @trilliand Před 9 měsíci +55

    I just lost my dad. Even though I am an adult, this is a major life transition for me and my family. Now I understand why I am constantly cleaning and clearing out my stuff. And I learned that I have to be patient to let my inner life catch up. Thank you, Venerable Nick.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +10

      My condolences to you and your family my friend. Yes please give yourself the time and be gentle and kind with yourself on this path 😊❤️

    • @00pisani49
      @00pisani49 Před 9 měsíci +2

      ❤😢im so sad for you. Big hug , keep going...

    • @JoyousMetta
      @JoyousMetta Před 9 měsíci +3

      😢My heart goes out to you and your family. May you be well and may you have strength ❤❤❤

    • @alysononoahu8702
      @alysononoahu8702 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Yes, it's a huge change especially if you had a relationship

    • @tamaradinka
      @tamaradinka Před 8 měsíci +1

  • @deliabotha7187
    @deliabotha7187 Před 9 měsíci +9

    When my husband got sick and passed on, I had this urge to throw away "unnecessary" stuff in my house. It made me feel as if I throw away my negative feelings, fears etc

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +2

      My condolences to you.
      I’m glad you were able to get rid of some physical things. It’s quite symbolic.

  • @riyana9960
    @riyana9960 Před 9 měsíci +28

    Your videos are custom made for my life experiences as they help me navigate the dark clouds that I routinely encounter. I have moved to a new state, I love it here but my mind has been very unstable . I tried asking for help, but to my dismay I didn’t get any. Your video provided me with a clear understanding of what I need to do and be . I thank you immensely 🙏🏼

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +3

      Wonderful! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊😊 I can relate the the move. It definitely takes time to adjust.

  • @BATgirl57
    @BATgirl57 Před 9 měsíci +17

    Honestly, I need all these tools just to make the day to day living transitions manageable! My personal favorites when I feel stuck are to clean/organize/downsize my material surroundings, I am a committed list maker and nap taker. All such good advice for managing even a normal life! Thank you and bless you, kind soul🙏❤️

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much 😊

    • @void9837
      @void9837 Před 5 měsíci

      Proverbs 18:1 says: “Whoever isolates himself pursues his own selfish desires; he rejects all practical wisdom. The presence of God is daily prayers in your every day life. Psalm 91. Contribute to society and the economy. Matthew 20 and be a good steward. Luke 16:1-9. Avoid occults and denominations Isaiah 44:5-7

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +5

    "Dwell on the good in your life."
    "Man proves his greatness by finding reasons to be thankful in his life."

  • @Nedmar
    @Nedmar Před 9 měsíci +5

    Rest when needed... oh my oh my. Asking for support, well... that doesn't always work. There are cases when one has to rely completely on oneself, even in the most catastrophic scenarios, and being weak and desperate is just not an option, strenght has to be created literally from nothing while the most violent blows just keep coming. It is achievable, but it transforms the individual for the rest of life. Just believe me.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Yes I can see that. There are so many variables regarding asking for help.

    • @NuLiForm
      @NuLiForm Před 9 měsíci +1

      yes. same here. But..i recently learned being angry with myself for failures was not helping anything..i was beginning to pay an even higher price..so..his videos reminding us to be gentler with self really matters..it is true. Anger & depression can & will kill us....& after surviving the struggles....i don't want to go out that way.

    • @Nedmar
      @Nedmar Před 9 měsíci +1

      Yep, but first one has to actually survive them. It is downright scary when they keep coming for months on end, or even for years non-stop. There's just no time to take a longer breath.

    • @NuLiForm
      @NuLiForm Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@Nedmar i hear that...have a deadbeat absentee landlord...& the plumbing in this house is a nightmare..neighbor upstairs flushes her toilet & all my drains gurgle, even the washing machine! ...sometimes..it physically backwashes into mine..ew..she just had a week off & was home for the duration, with her OCD crazy paper use & obsessive flushing she blocked my sink up....can't afford a plumber so..i'm trying to fix 4 leaks & unblock a sink on my own..to make it even more fun it just so happens this year is a rainy one & my RA is flaming out of control..fun times fun times..can't ask anyone for help cos ppl don't talk to each other around here unless it's to gripe about something silly, so, no thank you, don't need that petty drama ..i'm on my own... been 2 weeks now working on it & when it is all fixed(?)...probably the fridge will go or something else like that..previously it was the air conditioners, had to take em apart & clean em..they were full of stinky black mold. Never saw anything like it before, but what a smell..ugh..lol. It IS Never Ending. Brother Nicks videos keep bringing my mind back to a saner place. it is what it is, isn't it...

    • @Nedmar
      @Nedmar Před 9 měsíci +2

      I see. Well, as for myself, I kept caring for my terminally ill mother who suffered one of the worst cancers one could imagine, more than a year 24/7 care carried out by myself, all alone. I was alone at her bed when she was released of her suffering, I was alone when she was buried, I was alone when I sold the flat and moved 2000 Km. away to my second homelad for good in search of a new life, and all this precisely when the war in Ukraine erupted and the world went nuts. One could barely imagine more uncertainty and chaos than that. And life was not easier before all this. Covid and all that stuff, you know. But hey, in the end one gets fully used to be a lone wolf, help is no longer needed from anyone at all, the basic need for another human being just vanishes. I wish you luck in solving those troubles of you.

  • @geertjevandermeer4411
    @geertjevandermeer4411 Před 9 měsíci +12

    Thank you again Nick. Cleaning up my 'house' is being gentle to myself and taking the time because learning to live is not a quick fix. Making mistakes is always a new chance to learn (at 70 years of age).

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Yes definitely! Cleaning is such a wonderful practice 😊

  • @gretchenbond784
    @gretchenbond784 Před 9 měsíci +16

    Thank you for this.
    Lots of changes in my life. Relationship, finances, home burned down ( no one was hurt, thankfully). Every one of these pieces of wisdom is helpful. Taking time was the most helpful , but they are all essential for me at this time. 🙏🏻

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +4

      Wow that’s a lot of changes. Please hang in there my friend and sending you my blessings all the way from Thailand 😊

  • @myrahochreutener2040
    @myrahochreutener2040 Před 6 měsíci +1

    And i just lost my mother ❤. Thankful and sad and happy to go on with my own life. Thank you deeply for all your wonderful encouraging thoughts. It always helps me and makes me feel lively. Love. From Switzerland

  • @tamaradinka
    @tamaradinka Před 9 měsíci +20

    Dear Nick, thank you for sharing these tools. I am also going through a change, changing a job from one city to my old city, and I thought in moments that I was crazy when I was tired or not capable of doing everything I usually could do! But our body sends us signals and we should listen to it. And everything will fall into the whole soon:)) Take care

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +3

      You’re welcome! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊

    • @MARYANNE269
      @MARYANNE269 Před 8 měsíci +1

      I wish you well in your new job, I too am changing next month. Time, 1 day at a time I say, we don't know it all yet, we need to learn the new. Trust the we are capable of a lot more than we give credit for.. and it's OK to make mistakes... lol Where I was it just gave the others a laugh for a bit then you move on .. ie once I left a barrow at a house I deliverd to 😅 got ribbed for a bit, but I learnt to ALways check me barrow was on the van befor I drove off.

  • @djackson5912
    @djackson5912 Před 9 měsíci +17

    The "Why Am I Sharing This" portion was helpful hearing that even you relate to us in these areas, too, and a confirmation to keep going! Thank you and blessings to you!

  • @theresarainey8914
    @theresarainey8914 Před 9 měsíci +10

    I feel like I am constantly transitioning. And I always do really well for a spell and then crash. All of this was helpful. The asking for help part made me emotional so perhaps that's an area I need to think on.
    You're voice and words are always very calming and help me focus. Thank you. ❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Aww thank you so much my friend. And yes make sure to reach out for help from those around you if possible 😊

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +3

    For tip #1: Since I live alone and my living environment is similar to traditional Japanese living space- open and spacious, I apply this tip to my social space.

  • @silkamacnair8324
    @silkamacnair8324 Před 2 měsíci

    Timely video. I moved from the US to Panama 4 years ago and I still struggle. Give yourself time. Whatever length is necessary. Namaste

  • @tristanjacobson
    @tristanjacobson Před 9 měsíci +18

    I’m going through so many big transitions right now and this is the perfect timing for this video!🙌🏼

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Oh I’m glad it’s helpful. Just remember to be patient, kind and gentle with yourself 😊

    • @tristanjacobson
      @tristanjacobson Před 9 měsíci

      @@nickkeomahavong01 I definitely will be🙌🏼thank you!

    • @karenharker1790
      @karenharker1790 Před 9 měsíci

      Sending you all my blessings x

  • @oeaoo
    @oeaoo Před 9 měsíci +2

    What bothers me is that tips are like lifehacks, what I need is finding a holistic feeling of best me so any tips are apparent to me because I know by heart what to do and what not to do. World is full of advices but we can't just blindly swallow that. There must be highest purpose and it is probably even non verbal. Love fits that criterion.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci

      😊😊👍

    • @oeaoo
      @oeaoo Před 9 měsíci

      @@nickkeomahavong01 funny to hear that you are not fully adopter to Thailand. I'm from Ukraine and when I was there it took me around 1-2 weeks to feel home in Thailand, don't know why (yeah, I know... fruits... :)
      We have war in our country and I can't travel because men can't go abroad as of now. But I want to come back to Thailand again and feel this nice country and people.

  • @carolynmcglinchey6700
    @carolynmcglinchey6700 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I need to listen and listen again to your video. The immediate take-away, because I am prone to compare myself to others and to believe that I need to advance at the same rate or otherwise something is wrong, can be challenged thanks to your insight that there are so many variables impacting an individual's pace at which they go through life transitions.
    And it's helpful to apply this wisdom to others' lives as well. Thank you!

  • @daniellemarieclarke2965
    @daniellemarieclarke2965 Před 9 měsíci +2

    My quality of life and peace of mind is beautiful thanks to your teachings and your books, The Building Blocks of Meditation, The Building Blocks of Meditation Journal, and The Buddhist Cleanse, The One Day Spiritual Detox. I’m up to “showering my mind,” 25 minutes each morning after rolling out of bed and completing The Five Tibetan Rites. I look forward to meditating every day, I wake up so happy. I’m so grateful for you and the truth and wisdom you share!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Wow that’s so beautiful to hear. Thank you for sharing that my friend :-) please keep up with your meditation practice. You’re doing great.

  • @mattgraves3709
    @mattgraves3709 Před 9 měsíci +4

    For anyone who needs help and feels like a burden, many times you becoming vulnerable enough to ask someone will make the other person love you more for trusting them with your problem. And nothing ensures spiritual fitness more than helping others...so for anyone on both ends, there is a beauty in asking for support.
    Outstanding video Nick thank you.
    For myself I always forget about the rest part...and you nailed it, I rest even a few hours after doing a bunch of chores I will feel im being lazy, thank you for reminding me of balance.

  • @janicescott-pair97
    @janicescott-pair97 Před 7 měsíci

    I can admit that I am hard on myself and not very patient. We want change in certain areas of our lives but rush the transition period. 😊

  • @sierratiffany1238
    @sierratiffany1238 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Every challenge is also an opportunity. 🙏 Stay gentle, be humble.

  • @SundayBoy72
    @SundayBoy72 Před 9 měsíci +4

    Precious teacher.
    Do take good care of your spiritual path while you are giving such great kindness to teach me.
    You are constantly in my mind and in transference of merit.
    May you be healthy, bright and know that you are appreciated and love. ❤️

  • @jimscherer8072
    @jimscherer8072 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Transition creates want which creates suffering. Train yourself not to want or desire. Focus on right thought and right speech. This will create a good foundation. Thank you Nick 🙏.

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Resting- for me, this is one of the many benefits that I have found come with being single and no family: I can do it with no interuption.

  • @hei444
    @hei444 Před 7 měsíci

    Yes! My father started an intense decluttering after my mum's death which I couldn't really understand at the time. Now, as he has died himself, I experience the same need and it does help. I didn't want to in the beginning, but I was simply forced to sort out his appartment and so it kicked off for me.

  • @joankennedy1148
    @joankennedy1148 Před 6 měsíci

    Nick I had written a lengthy comment on this teaching and lost it. This lesson is a master class. Every word resonates and is applicable. It guides and hold fast in my learning. Thank you.

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +1

    "You are going a through a transition and it is not easy"- true.
    Habits already formed will resist you.

  • @grietlaenen8169
    @grietlaenen8169 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Many thanks for this video. I had a psychksis after mental abuse. I jumped of 3 stores building of my employer. I temporarily lost my son, had 3 surgeries on a scattered leg, broken arm and foot, lost my job, house, independance for 2 years, a lot a lot of money, even all my books and cloths. Stayed with my dad for 2 years, he's on the spectrummNow back on my feet, new appartment, town, job, just won a court session against my ex trying to take my son to another city. Used the summer to rearrange my appartment, buy a the necssary stuff, new cloths, cook healthy meals. I have ptcsd, but happy to move forward and love my son. Did my first yoga exercices this morning with my handicaps after more then 2 years. Set boundaries to my a critical mother last weekend. Tomorrow first day in new school, but instead of preparing the courses i am lying in the couch because i need rest. It a slow but wonderful journey. Lots of love to all of us in transition. We have got this ❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci

      Wow thank you for sharing your experience. That is definitely a big adjustment and transition. Keep up the good work and gently navigate this path. Please keep us updated on your progress, my friend :-) you’re doing great.

  • @JacquelineCastro-mn6jz
    @JacquelineCastro-mn6jz Před 9 měsíci +3

    Thank you Nick! I am a mother of 4 transitioning into nursing school full time from being a stay at home mom! I am nervous but these will be my reminders to go back to! Thank you ❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Oh wow that is a very big transition but also very exciting. Good luck with school and please keep us updated 😊

  • @wphmusic
    @wphmusic Před 9 měsíci +10

    Thank you for including your own current experience as part of this. I'm definitely one to try to shortcut my own needs during transitions. I, too, tend to adapt slower during transitions. Giving ourselves the time and space needed, is so important.
    As always, thank you. 💙🌟

  • @wingrider1004
    @wingrider1004 Před 9 měsíci

    1. Yes, a simple, clean environment is essential to a peaceful mind.
    2. We are too impatient today - we need to pause and collect ourselves. We are not good at this in society.
    3. How do you eat an elephant - one bite at a time.
    4. Self-love is needed, yes.
    5. Tough one - so many of us have terrible sleep and resting routines. These habits do not come naturally - a real lack of "learning how" in this area.
    6. Community, support, a circle of caring friends - much needed, and yet, so rare to see these days.
    7. Being able to see the situation from several points and to be able to reset your viewpoint is crucial.
    Venerable Nic - thank you for sharing. It is good that you share that much of this is going to be an individual challenge for all of us. And for being honest in sharing your own challenges. We are all on a journey. It is good to share our experiences.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci

      Thank you so much for your beautiful sharing. And yes I agree, our shared experiences will help one another. Keep up the great work my friend 😊

  • @robinbaker3346
    @robinbaker3346 Před 9 měsíci +3

    Venerable Nick, Thank you so much for sharing these tools to assist us when we experience change. They are so valuable. Change happens routinely and it’s important to remember that we can take things in our own timing and to seek support when needed and to find the silver lining in change. We tweak things and recalibrate to move through the various stages of change. Thank you for sharing your recent experience with change in moving from your time spent in America for the past months and returning to Thailand to a new routine. Your wisdom and kindness is always appreciated! ❤ Sending you blessings always. 🙏

  • @Brandy_j5
    @Brandy_j5 Před 6 měsíci

    I appreciate you for posting this video. I am currently in a life transition, moving out of the country. However, due to external factors, I'm not able to hit the ground running. However I have used this opportunity to delve more into my faith and pray and meditate often. I am beginning to understand the importance of being calm and grounded during this time of transition.

  • @sharonchambers5360
    @sharonchambers5360 Před 9 měsíci +3

    Thank you so much 🙏🏾 ♥️ 👏🏿 🤗 this is so true 💯 as I'm about to relocate and start the process of finding myself and inner peace in my soul, I'm finding it so hard clearing out all the clutter in this home as I thought this would be my forever home but things have changed and one has to move on or we will be forever stuck and hamster wheeling but I love when you spoke about the whole scenario been scary and when you spoke about the rose 🌹 adapting to it's new environment for it's growth to continue that was absolutely amazing and this made me feel a lot calming and positive, keep doing what you do we'll keep watching and supporting you sending greetings, love and happiness to you and your family and all the subscribers have a wonderful and peaceful day 🙏🏾

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Aww I’m glad the 🌹 analogy was helpful and please take the time to be very compassionate and kind to yourself during this move. Sending you my blessings 😊

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +3

    "seeing your situation accurately"- yes.
    When I do this, with no cravings to skew the scene, I have to acknowledge that life for me is great- few worldly cares, few worldly possessions, and I am free.
    Less is more, small is beautiful, simple is best.

  • @annaewilliams1523
    @annaewilliams1523 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Venerable Nick, I am Tenzo, and moving towards monastic training, but, when I started at the Zen Center of Denver, I was tapped because I simply enjoyed, have always liked kitchens, many good memories from childhood. As I've brought my Zen practice from the Zafu to the kitchen, I find myself in my daily life, at home, becoming very similar to when I am doing my practice for my Sangha in my daily life. It feels as if one current is mixing into the other, without any difference, becoming one strong current that is carrying me on my way gratefully.

  • @TracyGoldy
    @TracyGoldy Před 5 měsíci

    Hi Nick! I just found you on Saturday as I was clearing out my cluttered kitchen and have watched / listened to several videos in the last couple days. I felt compelled to reach out as I feel that you are touching me very deeply from far away! You are far from excluding yourself from society as you are guiding countless others on their own Journeys. You are a wonderful gift in this world and ! thank you from the bottom of my heart for being there for myself and everyone else you have reached! Bless you, my new friend😊

  • @filmmaker5457
    @filmmaker5457 Před 9 měsíci

    Sadhu, Venerable Nick. Change is an impermanence. Just like the clouds in the sky it comes and goes. Nothing is here to stay.

  • @jennifermiranda6023
    @jennifermiranda6023 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Thank you Venerable Nick, your videos are always so helpful. I lost my mum in March this year to cancer, I've been feeling lost and thrown ever since. Trying to adjust to the transition it has been emotionally exhausting, but little steps like cleaning and routine help. I hope you feel more grounded soon. Thanks again for your helpful videos ❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci

      Aww I’m sorry about your loss. My condolences to you and your family. Sending you my blessings from Thailand 😊

  • @kory2697
    @kory2697 Před 9 měsíci +3

    Perfect timing.❤ Thank you brother, Nick. Menopause is no joke!

  • @leannemoreno4390
    @leannemoreno4390 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Thank you. I needed this. I'm starting a new chapter in my life after my boyfriend of 5 years ended the relationship. I'm still working on healing from this change in my life.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci

      I’m sorry about your situation my friend. Yes please give yourself time and be very gentle and kind with yourself 😊

  • @WakingDreamCurrents
    @WakingDreamCurrents Před 9 měsíci +1

    Thank you! Simple habits are the most important and the easiest to forget when in crisis.

  • @A_bou
    @A_bou Před 8 měsíci +2

    Thank you for these tips. Love the tip of giving grace and space to myself as I am in the process of transitioning. Keep these videos up!

  • @Jencredible731
    @Jencredible731 Před 9 měsíci +1

    We do not give ourselves enough GRACE

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +1

    "the situation will give you time to cultivate clarity"- yes.
    As Jiddu Krishnamurti would say, "Can we be clear?"

  • @karenharker1790
    @karenharker1790 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Just go with the flow

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +1

    "Get our roots established"- well said.

  • @pamelapeterson2987
    @pamelapeterson2987 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I feel like this video was uniquely tailored just to my current situation. I've already re-arranged my physical space. I feel the most helpful of these other tools is to be kind to myself and to take time to rest.

  • @luispina317
    @luispina317 Před 6 měsíci

    Nick, I appreciate you posting these videos. This year I focused on being the best person I can be for myself and my son. Your videos always provide great advice. Thank you

  • @nickochioneantony9288
    @nickochioneantony9288 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Thankyou Ven. Nick, this is very timely with my current situation. I'll resign from my low-end corporate work at the end of next month. I just really want a time off to slow down; reading books and meditate again, it really helped me to find what I'm really interested in from the inside (if that make sense). Honestly, changing direction is always scary, and sometimes having Asian parent really don't make the situation any easier... But whatever things that will turn out, I guess I'll happily change my life direction instead of being in my current situation.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +2

      Wow that’s a big shift my friend. I can definitely relate to the Asian parents thing. Haha. But take your time and be kind to yourself 😊

  • @imarrywhales
    @imarrywhales Před 9 měsíci

    I started being Buddhist a couple years ago. I'm a big fan of the philosophy. I have no regrets. This makes sense.

  • @alysononoahu8702
    @alysononoahu8702 Před 9 měsíci +1

    ❤❤My masters thesis in social work was about HEALTHY TRANSITIONS❤❤

  • @sheilabrooks9088
    @sheilabrooks9088 Před 6 měsíci

    I have listened to many of your videos and found them helpful. This one came to my attention today. I am struggling as my partner had a bad fall and is now paralysed from the neck down. It happened mid July, he is still in hospital in a critical care unit here in the UK. I am blessed that the NHS covers the cost through this stage, but I don't know what will happen when he leaves hospital as he will always need a high level of care. I felt I had adjusted and learned to cope but I have been very tearful again lately. Many of your points resonated with me - I had instinctively cleared my space immediately after it happened. I didn't know why it felt important to me but I feel validated that you recommend it as a strategy. It's also helpful that you said about categorising and that the different areas need to catch up with each other. Sometimes I'm thinking how to nourish my body and soul, sometimes I'm worrying about all the paperwork I need to deal with that is involved in running a home. All alongside the time and emotional energy taken for hospital visits, and the deep deep pain of seeing him so injured and the sadness for myself now living alone and all our plans gone. We're both 68 so we are blessed to have had full lives, but that doesn't mean it's ok to have it snatched away. So this morning I listened to half your video and did some journaling and found that I do feel proud of myself in many ways. I wondered if it was ok to use the word proud, and when I resumed listening you used that word, and I felt so grateful for that. And it's ok that I still cry because the situation is tough and I need to be very gentle on myself, give myself time. I've been reaching out to people and grateful for the love, support and care I have received. This afternoon I am in bed listening to the second half of your video and thinking I should rest, but the clearing and tidying I did at the beginning has fallen by the wayside and I don't like living in a muddle. I've unburdened this to you dear Nick. I'm going to get out of bed and take a walk now. Then I will phone a friend, and then I will clean my kitchen.

  • @arjunsinhparmar908
    @arjunsinhparmar908 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Sadhu Venerable Nickk. Your video's changed my life. ❤ Thank You so much 🙏 (From India)

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Aww thank you. I’m glad the videos are helping my friend. Greetings to you from Thailand 😊

  • @joankennedy1148
    @joankennedy1148 Před 6 měsíci

    Take care of yourself.

  • @quasa0
    @quasa0 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Hey Nick! You are wonderful. I'm very happy that I found you. I've been into Buddhism for a year now. Just went bold for the first time in my life today. Love from Amsterdam! 🧘🏼‍♀️✨ I wish to meet you one day!

  • @dianapaloma3102
    @dianapaloma3102 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Thank you beautiful soul Nick. 🙏❤️

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +1

    It will give us the opportunity to see the relationship for what it's worth-as it truly is.

  • @margeorgeous
    @margeorgeous Před 9 měsíci +2

    Your talks on video has been a great help providing so much assurance, Ven. Nick. They are all inspiring in adapting to life in general. Thank you. 🙏

  • @carolgeorge6409
    @carolgeorge6409 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you for taking time to do the Time Stamps. So helpful🫶🏻

  • @nakiguliagnes4103
    @nakiguliagnes4103 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Thanks for your sharing. Very inspiring!

  • @monicadivari9991
    @monicadivari9991 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I am so grateful to you Nick. My son is going through the stressful high school to college process.
    Your words this morning inspired me to help him going through this fase of his life even more.
    He is my “rose”. What a beautiful image you gave us to understand everything takes time. ❤🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Aww that’s such an important time for him. Yes once he has these tools, he can take the pressure off himself as he goes through this transition. Please send my regards to him and please keep us updated on his/your progress 😊

    • @monicadivari9991
      @monicadivari9991 Před 9 měsíci

      @@nickkeomahavong01 I will and thank you for all you do to us every single day. You have no idea.🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci

      @@monicadivari9991 thank you 🙏🙏

  • @haliec496
    @haliec496 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you for this video. Today i allowed myself to do nothing for the morning apart from rest, feed myself and my dogs, tidy my space and just chill out. I feel lighter in my body & mind. This afternoon i provide my acts of service, i can even feel myself looking at this from a different perspective.

  • @delmaguay2554
    @delmaguay2554 Před 8 měsíci +1

    So happy I found you, thank you for all your insight. Be well

  • @paularmstrong4928
    @paularmstrong4928 Před 8 měsíci +1

    A
    Big Thank-you

  • @GuGuSheep
    @GuGuSheep Před 5 měsíci +1

    Greetings from Prague ✌

  • @dMi_mi
    @dMi_mi Před 9 měsíci +2

    Thank You. 😌
    Proud of You taking this huge step traveling all da way to Thailand and continuing sharing the knowledge with us.🌱
    Wish You a Happy and Peacefully exciting Journey. 💖

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much my friend and it’s my honor to be able to share 😊

  • @anitacarter8060
    @anitacarter8060 Před 9 měsíci +2

    This was really
    thought provoking and
    helpful…🥰

  • @MsCalcat
    @MsCalcat Před 9 měsíci +3

    Nick, I am so grateful to you and your wisdom. Thank you.

  • @dijanasimurina1019
    @dijanasimurina1019 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Nick, you inspire and motivate me. I am so grateful for your wisdom. Thank you ❤

  • @melissaqualls5774
    @melissaqualls5774 Před 9 měsíci

    Asking for support. I believe a lot of us have issues doing this. Thanks so much for sharing !

  • @TrainerLiz1
    @TrainerLiz1 Před 8 měsíci

    Reframe.and sharing your own story..yes....really helpful. I am closing one chapter and opening another, new friendships and yet it's very scary. A lot of my fears and insecurities are coming up. All of the tips were super helpful.❤🙏

  • @TheYazmanian
    @TheYazmanian Před 8 měsíci

    Venerable Ajarn Nick, you are a source of comfort for so many us. Thank you🙏

  • @aimajeffresswood8702
    @aimajeffresswood8702 Před 6 měsíci

    BLESSEDNESS 💚💯🌹

  • @bambucol1632
    @bambucol1632 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you Venerable Nick

  • @gailyardley7427
    @gailyardley7427 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Thank you Nick. Your thoughtfulness and compassion and honesty are all deeply appreciated. I feel you are a much loved and needed companion on this road of change. Gail

  • @thiabrabson2533
    @thiabrabson2533 Před 9 měsíci

    🧡❤️🧡❤️🧡❤🧡taking self care of my physical & mental health 🧡❣️

  • @kennethadams8835
    @kennethadams8835 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Very helpful teaching, thank you for sharing this wisdom

  • @flameofthewest6196
    @flameofthewest6196 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you Nick. The last 4 years have been a mess.... 2 of my closest friends passed, I lost my dog, my job, and now my health is compromised (I've always been fit, taken way bettter care of myself than most) and the hits just keep coming. I've haf serious challenges before, but there's always been more than enough good to make things easier. Not sure what the lesson is that I need to learn from all this sadness, but I have to keep moving forward, one step at a time.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 8 měsíci +1

      My condolences to you my friend. Yes take it one day at a time and continue to be kind to yourself 😊

  • @Amaspiritartist3
    @Amaspiritartist3 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you. I needed this today.

  • @Jess-ji5ss
    @Jess-ji5ss Před 9 měsíci

    Asking for support is always the most difficult I get caught in that I am not worthy of this. Sometimes love for yourself can be such a challenge. ❤

  • @pennieswingle5882
    @pennieswingle5882 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thank you for your teachings:)

  • @haliec496
    @haliec496 Před 8 měsíci

    3 years ago after a traumatic life basically, i decided to focus on myself at 47. It is only now that i feel more balanced. I understand what you say about allowing the time to unfold at its own pace. I believe that i have laid the foundations & my roots are now penatrating through the soil. Thank you

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 8 měsíci

      Wonderful my friend. I’m glad to hear that you are back on your feet 😊

  • @lincolnb55
    @lincolnb55 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Thank you for spreading good wisdoms..

  • @ofrititkis7858
    @ofrititkis7858 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Dear Venerable Nick, i find this and many other of your videos as a great support for me. Sending you my deep gratitude and Metta. 🙏🙏🙏🙏 May you to find every support you need💐

  • @MARYANNE269
    @MARYANNE269 Před 8 měsíci

    Hi, Im glad I continued to this post, Im starting a new job soon. I like my old job but I have an opportunity to work in a special need school. But this month Ive been changing my mindset, shifting my focus though continuing my role, but gradually talki g to tbe peoples who i won't see anymore customers and colleagues.. I will be sad but just briefly.. Ready to make new freindships and help others in a different way.. but I like your info of clearing at home.. making way for change.. I need to sort my wardrobe too as No actual uniform anymore 😊 xx

  • @Michele.3142
    @Michele.3142 Před 9 měsíci

    Always timely Ven. Nick. I just had to leave a county I grew up in, a job I’d been at for 35 years to a city I never lived in 400 miles from home. Now, again, I need to move to a totally new and unknown county due to affordability. I have been through turmoil since 2016 when my father passed, three years after my mom. Then I had a serious health issue. Then we got evicted due to owners of the rental duplex we had lived in for 20 years got sold. Thus all the moving ensued . I know others have suffered much worse and I send metta to you.
    Breaking up categories is really helpful. Also being gentle and kind as well as resting. Thank you Ven. Nick for these truly helpful videos! 😌🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci +1

      Hello Michele! My condolences to your and your family. Wow that’s a lot of major changes. I can only imagine. Please take it step by step and be very gentle and kind to yourself. Sending you my blessings. Please keep us updated on your progress 😊

  • @madsdegnbol7657
    @madsdegnbol7657 Před 9 měsíci +1

    The first tool is for me the best. I do apreciate your lessons have Been following you the last 5 years with joy and interest thanks. Namo Buddhaya 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 9 měsíci

      Wow thank you so much and thank you for your support for the last 5 years 😊

  • @nancyreilly1873
    @nancyreilly1873 Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you. such a wonderful being that radiates wisdom and humor. Namaste

  • @jimscherer8072
    @jimscherer8072 Před 9 měsíci

    The most important take away for me is to be kinder and gentler to yourself. Your burndens will eventually disappear.

  • @linahernandez2081
    @linahernandez2081 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you Ven Nick. I loved it and I am right there, going through everything that you said. On the other hand it has been my experience that when I continue to ask to see the Path, the answers start to come and there you were, suddenly popped on my screen. Reassuring. 🙏💐🙏
    Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu.

  • @rudihoffmann1056
    @rudihoffmann1056 Před 9 měsíci

    Blessings to you too.🙏🏻

  • @marettawilson9588
    @marettawilson9588 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @christiangianferri7620
    @christiangianferri7620 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thanks for sharing, four your time and know knowledge.

  • @jeffreyjackson5229
    @jeffreyjackson5229 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Well done. You reinforced somethings for me and enlightened me with others. As always, thank you and blessings.🙏

  • @ninaantonish3952
    @ninaantonish3952 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Greetings from New Jersey!🍂🌞
    Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and experience with us! My only child, (Nick also) bought a house, I've been a single mom since he was 4, now 20 years later, I'll be alone. I'm a yoga teacher still learning so much, thank you for your teachings! Do you practice yoga ?
    Be well,
    Nina❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  Před 8 měsíci

      You are so welcome. Thank you so much 😊 I’m glad it’s helpful.

  • @00pisani49
    @00pisani49 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I cant thank you enough for these thoughtful steps. When one is in the throws of massive change its impossible to think of this. You have really helped me. Thank you so much❤

  • @cynthiacunha447
    @cynthiacunha447 Před 9 měsíci

    Thank you!!! Wonderful insights and advices!!!