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How Fantasy Leads To Sexual Arousal Dysfunction | Dr. Trish Leigh
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- čas přidán 23. 06. 2024
- While many men understand the damages of pornography, several of them aren't aware of the damages of fantasy.
Even if you've left the screen behind, if you are fantasizing about porn scenes for imaginary acts involving your partner, it can cause the same dysfunction in your brain that porn does.
This is because when you conjure up a fantasy, it releases a similar dopamine drip to pornography. You are essentially still taking the neural pathway of unhealthy thinking that got you addicted to porn in the first place.
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CHAPTERS:
00:14 What Is Fantasy?
00:38 The Difference Between Fantasy And Reality
01:52 The Problem With Fantasy
02:36 Why People Go To Fantasy
03:23 Why Are You Escaping To Fantasy
03:38 Is It Okay To Fantasize About Your Partner?
04:52 What You're Doing When You Go To Fantasy
05:34 How To Have The Best Sex
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Many fantasies overtake reality & become very addictive & unhealthy & lead not to a relationship but to isolation.
This is also true for women, who use porn and fantasy. They also escape to where real sex is a chore or a job.
Speaking as the "partner", I would rather my husband fantasize about me than those younger, skinny women he was watching. But I do understand what you're saying and I thank you. This has been a struggle for me.
Thats a double edged sword
Have you tried becoming the woman that he fantasizes about? If you do, he'll never fantasize about another woman. He will fantasize about you.
@billducas So, true. She can't be younger, but she can take care of herself and lose weight. It's difficult for me I know. My wife has gained 120 lbs since we got married and we have sex about once a month cause I'm just not physically attracted to her. I'm not seeking it out but if the situation presented itself, I would definitely cheat. Just saying, that's probably why many men turn to porn once they're in their 30s and 40s cause their wives stop taking care of themselves...but we can't say that today because of all the feminist crap.
@@billducas nah coolidge effect
Thankyou for addressing this topic. It's not often mentioned, as most of the discourse is about porn.
Sadly more and more men are single so there is no girlfriend or wife to help. More men are realizing that most women are sharing a particular guy.PMO becomes even greater challenge to overcome. How you know cure works when you don’t even get a chance?.
Men are more single nowadays due to porn! It makes them incapable of getting a healthy relationship
@@DrTrishLeigh I think you confusing cause and effect. I guy can be shot down too many times to be bothered. If you keep seeing the same type of get all the action you go elsewhere or do something else. Porn is one of those options or you can pay a worker. I don’t think we need to blame just men for what’s happening. Yes men will need tremendous discipline to overcome porn but you can’t ignore the fact that women helped cause what is going on. Hoe_math channel explains some of this.
The video appeared right on point , thank you
I'm so glad🙏🙏
Such clear thinking. You are awesome Dr. Trish.
Life saving and life changing info and knowledge
I'm glad you found it helpful!
Thank you doc!! Outstanding knowledge!! ❤🤙
I listen to this video 2 times. I hope I will hear about lusting as well!
Nice explanation and very useful video
Thank you for the feedback my friend!
Hyper sexuality came from my trauma of past losing the girls I loved to deviants seeing their sweet innocent ripped away while I was sweet and innocent with them and for them too
Crystal clear.... An interesting question that I had too.
What about people who don't have a partner?
You'll be surprised by what a healthy mind and body can attract! Until then, you can live a happy life without one!
🚨🙏💪thank you doctor Leigh
How you amaze me! May God bless you!
How does a guy not fantasize about sex
It's possible!
Thanks for this video, that’s what is happening to me I guess.
This really hurts because I am already physically damaged.
A urologist insulted me in Hershey Pennsylvania and said she would not give me an operation.
I was thinking about finding a second opinion at Johns Hopkins.
It still works but can't function because of scar tissue.
So fantasy is all I have, thank you. 😢
And the fantasy is with my partner and no one else. So it is what it is I guess. Been hit by the DodgeBall just wishing the reset button would be there.
Because of circumcision? I'm so sorry
@@BillysWife1 No, severe scarring.
Do you mean calcified plaque or scar tissue? Sounds like peyronies. There are alternatives to surgery depending on the stage and damage.
@@MarcusHill-if7ep Actual physical scarring. Former IV user.
This is what Islam says, "Lower your gaze & Protect your private parts."
dr Trish thank you for all this knowlege you're giving and I'm not masturbating almost two month also thanks to you.
God bless you!
What helped you stop masturbating and how did you go about it to avoid going back?
I love to hear it! Keep rocking it out 💪
Dr Trish Leigh,
I find it interesting that You have this whole different Perspective about this Issue #Fan
Thanks my mum❤
Tomorrow she will make videos on how thinking of food or seeing videos of food will decrease the hunger and appetite.
Without thinking imagining fantasizing, no sexual feelings can awaken. Even not thinking of sex at all can cause decrease in desire for sex.
I think the key difference is she's talking about fantasy as non-reality or that which is divorced from reality. Thinking about the lunch you packed is likely different to daydreaming about inhaling a box of donuts.
Just wait til she posts a video about how porn gets objectified and it demands rights. Porn isn't the problem. It's women today.
Justification for sexual thoughts that put you onto a slippery slope.^^ Turn it into something healthy the same way you can have a healthy relationship with food. We're all human beings wired to have s*x and eat. If we spent all day doing that and nothing else in this modern world then society would crumble. There would be no productivity in the economy. Everyone would be home scr^wing each other and eating themselves into oblivion. What she is saying is to turn it into something healthy with your partner. It's not black and white.
@@Bluzian74and why is that
Not at all!
Thanks!
Thank you my friend❤️🩹
this is what I'm talking about and now that I have learned about the law of attraction I can only imagine all of this combined with porn and it just makes me want to give up totally on my soon to be x husband he wanted so many women and I am just destroyed. He is always giving me mixed signals and i feel like he will always be attracting these types of scenerios
Now we have arant against FANTASY: how can you even determine if your honest perception of reality isn’t fantasy already ? This is ABSURD !!
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The times where your sex life is not the highest level of stimulation, it would seem more akin to bring your sex life towards that as a solution. You having a desire for acts doesnt just go away if you put the focus on your partner. A helpful point in the next/other videos would be the how on doing so.
And fantasy does not objectify your partner. A desire for them to act or for them to want a certain thing you want your partner to do, not acts that they need to do or only valued for doing.
Fantasy can absolutely objectify your partner!
@@DrTrishLeigh I think the difference between applied objectification, which is what I'm talking about, and defined objectification, which is more akin to what I think your speaking about.
Someone may describe a act/fantasy that feels like the recipient is objectified, but that's not the intention or desire from the person having the fantasy, intentionally or unintentionally.
How do i know im ready to be with someone, i always think that im not ready yet because i didn't completely heal or still slipping.
It takes time and depends on the person! Listen to your gut and always focusing on communicating and connecting with your partner
@@DrTrishLeigh Thanks alot ♥️
Hi, Dr Trish, I love your videos.
I have a question, why am I scared to every thing when I used to consume Porn, specially to dark places.
I even feel weak and fragil.
You may need extra help rewiring and hardwiring your brain! Consider getting your brain assessed! drtrishleigh.com/qeeg-brain-map/
I know you are most likely referring to porn-imagery induced sexual fantasy here, but i do have a question about sexual fantasies.
I began reading the book “relationship ocd” by Sheva Rajaee because i have fears around being cheated on or getting a divorce. I know that my concerns negatively affect my relationship, so I wanted to educate myself on ways to establish trust and security in my relationship. A part of the book was VERY triggering to me. It talks about sexual fantasy and how many people experience it, and those fantasies tend to involve people they know of both personally and not (friends, coworkers, celebs, etc). In your opinion, what would be considered a harmless fantasy (if any) - is it something unavoidable?
@Dr. Trish Leigh why are there so many scientists who say there I nothing wrong with porn, does it frustrate you that alot of scientists have embraced it
What are talking about? There is literally no scientist who says there is nothing wrong with porn.. It is well researched by this point..
Who says that
@@steejayk He's right. I've read many an article, even in Psychology Today that not only supports it but condones it in some cases. They claim it "helps" some relationships. I call BS, of course. But that crapola is still out there.
Do they tell so ?
Well it is not even that many a dummy would believe them, it's because they are paid to support (s*x) slavery.
Choose your belief.
She is a fraud with no degree
I am pretty confident that I have completely desexualized my brain since quitting pmo
What helped you quit porn? And how did you go about it?
@@sipcarter I just followed the advice given by Dr. Trish in her CZcams videos
@@MediaHydra thanks a lot my brother today mark day 4 of not watching porn I hope I can make to a month
@@sipcarter My advice, don't count days. just decided to quit forever. If you do feel the urge to relapse, just watch on of Dr. Trish's encouraging videos instead.
Sex is overrated and thats why these channels are thriving 🎉
Totally. If only women could entice men, cooperate, and arouse men into sex, then perhaps porn wouldn't have such an appeal. Why have sex if you don't have to? Who in their right mind would ever want to bring life form into this despicable world we live in?
Sex can be great! It's porn that's overrated
@@DrTrishLeigh but porn doesn't shame you or reject you. Porn never doesn't require wining, dining, courting, begging. Porn doesn't get pregnant , doesn't require "Roe v. Wade" and it won't EVER give you an venereal disease. Nor will porn ever ask for alimony, child support, or falsely accuse you of rape 43 years later. Helllo!!!?!?!?!?! What's good about sex? If only women could make sex fun, appealing and worthwhile! Like, omg, what a concept!!
I was no pmo for several months then I started looking at nude photos. Does this undo all I was working for?
No. Keep going my friend, you got this 😁
It's definitely going to start leading to unhealthy patterns again my friend!
@@DrTrishLeigh I slipped and MO but no P. I am so upset and ashamed. I was so good for so long. Do I restart my time line!
Is this also applicable to women as the entire sex toy industry, female audio/visual pron and erotic novel business is designed for female fantasy? I see that females do not suffer from erectile dysfunction as men but I was curious to know if women have any issues from excessive fantasizing. Thanks
Women can also suffer from porn addiction in the same ways!
I see reality and fantasy
Fantasy needs to go!
One question,
If I schedule and control masturbation, let’s say one day of the week, (Saturday) and the rest of the days I’m not at all even fantasizing about sex. The rest of the days I am focused on work. Is this a healthy way of masturbating to fantasies as long as it is strictly controlled by me? I feel I can control and condition my brain to even through these “dopamine rush” to understand that I can still want to have a sexual partner. What do you think?
Well, I’m screwed…
I am recovering from addiction to masturbation and porn but I don't have a partner nor do I want one.
My problem is that I am too aroused when I am trying to sleep and it keeps me awake.
Some times I go back to work without getting any sleep because I was tossing and turning during my sleep time. I don't want to masturbate because it makes me sad and weak afterwards, what should I do?
I want to practice NoFab but my hormones are raging all the time
Try doing an activity that produces a healthy level of dopamine before bed! Try working out, going on a walk, partaking in an activity you're passionate about, etc.
My 2 cents…men are visual creatures and are hardwired to fantasize. Nothing can stop that, this is taking the brain rewiring too far. Fantasies can absolutely be a healthy part one’s sex life without compromising the reality.
she just said healthy fantasy is good.
@@fadrian98what is healthy fantasy who gives you your definitions?
Fantasizing is what makes porn addiction so hard to leave behind. However, it can absolutely be left behind. If you need help, I'm here! Try getting your brain assessed here: drtrishleigh.com/qeeg-brain-map/
Doctor, what if don't have a partner, is it healthy if always to hold back sexual desires?
You'll be surprised by what a healthy mind and body can attract! Until then, you don't need to have sex or masturbate. You can live a happy life without either of those things!
@@DrTrishLeigh thank you very much doctor for answered my question, I prayed to God about this problem and you answered it, I felt in doubt because someone told me that I should masturbate for my mental health, because he said suppressing sexual desire would make my mentally damaged, and he said that watching porn is not dangerous even its good for me,, he claims to be a neurologist,, I met him online,,
@@DrTrishLeigh thank you very much doctor for answered my question, I prayed to God about this problem and you answered it, I felt in doubt because someone told me that I should masturbate for my mental health, because he said suppressing sexual desire would make me mentally damaged, and he said that watching porn is not dangerous even good for me,, he claims to be a neurologist,, I met him online,, :D i also watch youtube from one doctor said that watch porn is ok if not make adiction :/ so all of this information make me think maybe its good for me, but i know after that i will regret, then repeat again,, the problem is many people think its not a problem, so i cant 100% do the best
@@DrTrishLeigh
thank you very much doctor, I regret what I have done to myself, watching porn and masturbating. Because of the information I got from the internet, someone told me that holding back sexual desire would damage my mental health, that masturbation was good for me and watching porn is a good thing for me to do for my mental health, so as not to suppress sexual desire,, i have social anxiety and he said its bcause i supress my sexual desire
I like your low cut blouse, by the way.
lol
drtrishleigh.com my friend! Check out my programs!
I think I’m a lost cause. Porn is the only thing that gets me off.
So how is that I supposed to please my men needs?
Focus on your partner!
For she is going through menopause .
And their is a couple other things too.
Can you make video on semen retention and its advantages
I which i had a helicopter so i could understand this better...
So what about phone sex where the partner is engaged in the conversation
Not recommended!
Dr. Trish first of all I thank you for your information that I provide for us so tell me this when my wife does not want to have sex with me.
Fellas, if you don't want to deal with this, stay single. Or be with a partner who doesn't have an issue with this.
My recommendation would be to quit porn and build a healthy relationship!
What if you have never had a partner
What if any partner you had would lead to adultery, or fornication or impuritie. I have been celibate all my life
63 yrs of it
I have always believed that the only vehicle to sex is through marriage
But then what about the motivations to get married
It should not be just to have sex
And if your partner was married and the two of you married you then again would committing adultery. If you stay single there are no easy answers
I think when a person is in that position. One can be more susceptible to porn whether you are gay or straight. All you can do is try to be a monk
Porn obviously is not the answer
But the sad thing is there really are no answers
And I'm not really hearing any solutions here!!!
A healthy mind and body will attract more than you know!
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I gave up on women in 2002. No regrets so far.
Damn I was born in 02
The hand knows all the moves.😮
Regain your interest because you need one in your life
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I can understand how the reality will fail to live up to the fantasy.
But how do you stop wanting what you want?
If you want a slim, sexy woman - and you're wife is 40lbs overweight - how do you get attracted to that reality?
Funny asf bro same situation hoe domt never do nothing and just lays on the bed then complains about weight and follows me around like a helicopter
Imagine your significant other goes and loses weight just eating fruit but then you bitch and complain about not being able to lose weight when your significant other has done it right in front of you and offers to help but she becomes so entitled that nothing ever gets done just a bunch of bs
And then I find myself on stupid videos like this telling me I gotta fantasize about my 300 pound gf like Jesus christ sounds like I'd be better off just finding a different one if it weren't for a kid we had now she thinks she owns the place and follows me around like a helicopter
Imagine all you have to do for a couple weeks is eat fruit and you will literally lose 20 plus pounds and get healthy af but the gal just keeps making excuses lmao 🤣
@@codyhopkins734 YOLO is always the go to excuse. 🤣
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point understood but isn't this fatansy applicable to all aspects of life? e.g. I fantasize about being financially free so I work harder or save more or try to invest, same could go for sex, like I always have fantasy for flexible woman and my wife is quite flexible, but I fantasize about the potential positions she could do if she takes some class or put some effort into yoga, and that is actually satisfying for both of us when she actually does it and we both enjoy. so it's kinda double edged sword isn't it? not all fatansy is bad
It's great to think about and be serious about your goals! Sexual fantasy however doesn't serve you! But I hear what you're saying. Having good and healthy thoughts and aspirations will never be a bad thing!
Please make your viewers aware of a movie from 2014, titled Men, Women and children. This movie by Adam Sandler addresses the quiet pandemic of porn induced erectile dysfunction through the lens of a high school porn addict. Porn addiction, especially from an early age, highjacks the reward responses of the addicts brain, training it to recognize pornography as its sexual outlet. All too often people become conditioned to this dopamine and serotonin reward driven behavior that causes real life intimacy to feel and become unnatural to them. This movie presents a rare and honest glimpse into this modern wave of desensitization
Semen retention fellas
what a BS!
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Sorry Dr Trish, I'm a regular viewer and I respect your work, but you're taking this a little bit too far wouldn't you say.
There you go justifying your sexual thoughts to fantasize that lead you down a slippery slope. However, there is no black and white. Turn it into a healthy fantasy habit toward your partner that creates an upward spiral of loving each other more and more.
Uhhhh... no she's actually dead on.
@@matthewstrauts5427 No, not really
@@fadrian98 Thanks for the advice.
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Dr prause
Are you having a TIA?
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@@DrTrishLeigh dr praise demonstrate that you are not qualified
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