Men raised by single mother's today are typically lost and lack many masculine attributes. Consequently they are inept and chronic failures in life. Not all but many.
The five characteristics you mentioned (pathological lying, status driven, manipulative, exploitative, erratic emotional outbursts, etc) sound a lot like sociopath traits. It's similar to psychopathy but psychopaths are born and sociopaths are nurtured because of traumatic experiences during their formative years ( abuse, neglect, abandonment). They tend to have high levels of neuroticism coupled with lack of impulse control.
My mom is an emotional immature woman as well, and it can get exhausting when you feel like you are more mature than your parents but what I will say is that I have not met one adult that was emotionally immature who was not abused in some way.
There is no plan, these men only want to add more notches under their belts and nothing more. Same with these women who enjoy life as a pass around queen that sleeps around and some of them use their children as a means of feeding their entitlement . It’s a disgusting culture
Thank you Arneal for this informative video. I was dating an older man who had been raised by a single mother; your video helped me to understand his behavior perfectly! This man exhibited every trait which you spoke about! It's amazing how life's outcomes can be dictated so early in life, unless one makes a conscious effort to bring about change......
@@TayTheGodFather find an older guy in your work or community that you respect and want to be like and ask them to mentor you or just be someone to seek advice from.
My mom would talk down to me then wonder why I lacked confidence. It's truly amazing to think about how she couldn't see what was right in front of her smh lol.
Great Video.. a bit Heart breaking.. This also relates to men with Fathers in the home, but that father was a horrible role model.. also in my experience, men with Single moms tend to look for women to take on that motherly role, so they do tend to cling to certain women and stay in those relationships for a long time
Sadly this speaks to me, I agree it definitely damages a child yo have one parent. I mean the alternative was worse as my father was a narcissist and wife beater and abuser but in the end after years of working on myself i discovered it left my psyche incomplete. For years I used to turn to drugs to fill the void, I sought people to fill that role i felt i lacked subconsciously, I spent a long time in self hatred, guilt, and cognitive dissonance. It's felt like an uphill battle to try and work on myself because I never developed or saw a male role model for many behaviors which are key in life.
You hit the nail on the head. My ex mom was a teen mom and eventually a single mom. She was a problem. “Jesus lover!” Judged me when she had no room to judge. I never even had a pregnancy scare and put myself through college. So, she never cared what was best for her son. She pulled him out of school in third grade for violent behavior but never taught him at home school and let him do whatever he wanted all day.
My mother got pregnant with a man that already had kids with another woman abd ge doesnt live with us he didnt even want kids he once told her i wasnt his son i think its both thier fault for being irresponsible and my mom sometimes treat me like its my fault im here withiut a father present i lack many sociao skills and i dont know how to be a man im scared but im holding on ps.sorry for the spelling im sideways.
Imagine a father who’s hardworking educated with a career who gives great advice who is a direct influence in your life everyday from ages 5-18 now imagine a young man (me) who grew up with a single mother who had too become successful on her own this is a metaphor but not everyone can become a full cup on there own your supposed too be a full cup at 18 from the teachings of your parents but as a man raised by a single mother I was a empty cup shit no cup everyone can’t have the wisdom of a 80 year old man who makes 80,000 a year at 13 too prevent there lack of all internal processes because they had no fathers
The sense of entitlement is off the scale too. Ultimately born from the state raising them while the mother yells “I dun need no maaah, I’ze a stong in’epen’ent womaaah”…..
I can see your perspective however, there are no victims here other than the abandoned children. The two so called adults in my view are much more to blame. Unless the woman was raped in the creating of the children. She is just as responsible for the outcome as the man she picked to sleep with.
No. We can tell when a man is no good. Red flags are present before getting knocked up. We need to hold each other accountable. You do not bring another human being into the world with a low value man. Stay on birth control, plan it, wait til after marriage.
@@MeganWall1019 Well said, very good words from a high value woman I might add. Pay attention single men women with her intellect and perspective is unfortunately insanely rare.
@@arnealwilliams3359 gotta keep that birth control pill between ya knees baby! Lol & thank you! I learned actually from my ex who’s mom was a teen mom turned single mom and he dated a single mom with two kids from two different men. I learned from my damn ex boyfriend haha 😂
I wish the reality of many black men's failures would not be so apparent as it has become in our culture. I would rather that more black men seek greater meaning from their lives through the adoption of responsibility. Rather than the Mindless pursuit of self-gratification.
Why dont "men" stop leaving their children. They claim to leave the mother but really they leave the child. Mom can be single all day. I love being single. But my child is fatherless. What do we say to the ones that leave their kids. Majority of Black women have everything on their backs , alone. She cant rest in her femininity. Black men or boys should I say, are no good today
I agree with 99% except the pattern of "non-commitment." I'm a 35 y/o male, raised by a single mother, who's been in pursuit of a lifelong commitment. I never had a problem with the idea of a lifelong partner, in fact that is all I have desired throughout my short time here on earth. I have found myself however always investing in a female partner who couldn't commit.
@Sunscribes God created a man first and the woman is your helpmeet not your “Partner”…you still have a feminine mindset and possibly a feminine demeanor and women can sense it and want nothing to do with you
@@dennismccoy291 I love men who are in touch with their feminine side. Most young men are chasing women who are out of their league. They should be getting an education and getting ahead in the business world proving they can be providers. Quit chasing and work on yourself.
Is it true that a man raised by single mother has a greater chance of going to prison one up in prison no matter the race of the man who has financial background that being raised by single mother gives him a far greater chance of winding up in prison just as far as the stats go
Living life on the edge, full of adrenaline, being decisive on your actions and not caring by breaking the law (not in your feelings) it's as if the boy is trying to feel like a man and it does work hence why a lot of folks end up in prison, it's like a drug, the boy means no harm there's just not enough masculine energy at home, he finds it more outside.
It would be nice though if you could point some ways to reverse all these bad traits we inherited, instead of only pointing out the bad conditioning and habits we received, and thus portraying us (the many) as constant failures.The problems we already know them.
Holy fuck i fit almost all of these. Lost my father at the age of ten. I think i could make descisions. Leveled her trailer solo and learned it by myself and did a good job might i add. HOWEVER my lack of impulse control and always living in my head is a living hell. Its weird. Because i think i know all the wrong things im doing but i just cant stop. Or at least i lack the self discipline to stop. I hate it and trying to over come this is a battle ive fought and lost over and over for the last ten years. Motivated heavily by pleasure. I forsee where my life is headed and its not good.
I grew up with argumentative parents and my dad worked a lot and also was emotionally detached most the time. I tend to attract men who had an absent father and would fight with their mothers who raised them. I'm just wondering if my upbringing makes me attract these men. It's been like over 10 men.
Forgive me if I'm using a film example, but in the anime film Wolf Children where it involves a widow raising two children, shouldn't have resulted in failure by default because one of the kids was of the opposite sex?
His father left him, and he then he left his son. Then his son left his son and his son left his son then his son left his daughter and the daughter is a single mother and that baby father left his kid and his kid grew up and left his kid. We as Black women have no head today. It's gone. Nobody knows the laws of the bible. Everything is superficial and naive. Disheartening to me
This message for u all- this is the only one side of guys who raised by their moms and granny's. Other is so different. Don't judge book by their cover.
This is interesting. I know men who are this way with a single parent and with both parents. I think it mostly depends on how you are raised and the environment.
Do you think these qualities are of boys raised by single women across the board (culturally, economically and ethnically)? In your opinion what can change this?
Any advice for the mom to help him not be this way? Of is it just inevitable as there is no male around? I can't be a man and I dont want to be masculine that will cause other issues. For now I'm just putting them into sports and activities where there are males.
No wonder I'm like this (Even though i along with my whole family are "white"), my mother also gaslights me, my younger sister was the one who had a spine until our morher kicked her out.
You are right! My ex is very manipulative and he loves things! He loves status and he makes me feel like if I marry him I have to be like his trophy wife. I ended my relationship with him at the beginning of the year and the funny thing is he cried and said “even when we are done you should not go into relationship with anyone right away.” And then he was the one entering in another relationship right away. 😂😂😂 he lies and he does not have awareness.
So who picks the fathers ?? The narrative can’t always be the Dad left the mom . It’s Hard to learn how to be a man on the streets . Only the learn that most people are for self and the good person act is a mask . But I’ll never give up. 💯
lets just say regardless of past there are always avenues for someone to succeed. just because someone came from a shitty upbringing or parenting doesn't mean there's something inherently wrong with them. To be honest we can argue there are flaws of having both parents as much as having no parents or one it really depends tbh. There a reason for everything. also, you only consider it a problem because society in America didn't make there system for men who were raised by single mothers so they seem like outliers or problems because we just havent created avenues for that sort of nature.
Wow, how could you excuse yourself from the effects of being raised by a single mother, yet condemn those who were. You did not include special circumstances for them being successful, just yourself. I guess I am a masculine woman, per your definition. Sometimes we have to be masculine because somebody has to be strong and raise the children. What do you suggest for single mothers, to prevent them from being put down and called masculine?
It's not a put down to be masculine. It's merely a biological reality for most modern women. Any woman suppressing her dominant feminine nature over a prolong period of time will suffer emotionally. And to add insult to injury being a single mother is very difficult, that's a given. but to become defensive achieves nothing. Because no crime has been committed and no judgment has been rendered. There isn't anything you can do but live in the reality you have created.
Some single mom reared dudes mature duh that's common sense if you was listening he said he from a single mom household but he had his father and male mentor to teach him. A single mom can teach a boy how to be responsible and manners but she cannot teach the nuances of what makes a man a man. A boy raised without any true masculine energy is going to be imbalanced in his polarities (emotional energy) which is associated with male and female
He made it clear that while he had a single mother he came up in a different time period. During the time he came up the expectations and social norms and mores were different than today. He also said that he had a relationship with his father and had other mentors who were men. A lot of these guys coming up in those single mother homes today act just like their mothers. They’re very loud mouthed, arrogant, destructive, 2 dimensional thinkers, have an attitude of entitlement, lazy, and the list goes on. They were literally set up for failure.
@@darrianmcneil3481 By that logic, shouldn't fathers struggle raising daughters since they are of opposite sexes with "different energies"? Why is it that I keep seeing guys say that men are better parents as if they could raise both boys and girls but women can't raise boys? Also, what if women really have to raise youngsters on their own due to the father being away, dead, etc.? I find it important for both men and women to share each other's strengths in case if one partner is out if commission.
The problem is the father is not in the home to provide the necessary discipline for the male child to become a real man. And the percentage of those fathers present in the home is very low.
No single mother for me, no college educated woman either. If I'm to be the leader of the pack I need a fresh and open mind to teach. I understand now why older men prefer younger women.
Sometimes younger women grow up and change on you. Get someone with the same morals and outlook on life as you. Because we all grow older physically but the mental and emotional stays the same or character. Remember divorce is initiated mostly by those women that you married without knowing who they really are. But I do agree with single mothers, that's a no no especially for a guy who doesn't have children.
@Tired of being an EMPATHY. HELP ME! Ugh na, men naturally go for younger women. get one of similar in age..fam she used up and got too much baggage. perfect age to catch a woman is 18-28 before is sick and after a waste of time.
I agree but how can single women raise better men. No matter what there will always be single women for various reasons. Any help or suggestions for single women ?? So we can have a great next generation who can be men of honor.
Integrity is huge, a young man must see this theme throughout is formative years. This question of integrity will speak to a young man in many ways. first those who are closes to him must model integrity, this suggest that one's actions, attitude and affections must be an alignment with one's words. We cannot say one thing and live another. Lastly identity must be formed from an emotionally stable man it doesn't have to be his father if he isn't in the child's life however it must be a man of good reputation. He needs structure at home and duties that must be accomplished this builds self-esteem and discipline into his life. He will learn that his actions must benefit the whole not just validate his ego.
I agree it's hard for me to feel any masculine energy from the men that were raised by a single mother. This is why I chose celibacy for my freedom and spirituality ❤️ also they would tell me I hit the wall not knowing I've had one pregnancy in my late twenties lol
I'm conflicted of this whole issue of men raised solely by women. Many like to blame the mothers, say that it is their fault for choosing the wrong partner and saying that women lack masculinity. First off, what if circumstances changed the man from benevolent to less so? What if he is away (like busy at work), sick/injured, dead, or anything that keeps him from raising the youngsters? What if the mother needs to raise the kids on her own? And whose to say that a mother can't know how to discipline or relay masculinity? A woman can be into "guy things" like sports, action films, etc. And she can certainly have masculine traits like stoicism, emotional maturity, etc. Same with a guy also displaying "feminine traits" like nurturing and liking romance films. Why can't both sexes share each other's strengths? If I, a guy myself, were to have a life partner, I'd want her to be capable of independence so she can pull her weight as well as others in case if I'm out of commission.
fam all you need is not subsidize this lifestyle. let the natural world-course correct this. those who make good decisions are flourish and the ones making bad decisions get weeded out. like the black community got over 70% single mothers. we got to shrink our population before we can flourish. I know personally, life is a perfect lesson and discipliner when it comes to the misguided.
I dont feel i am a problem im a staight forward kind of man a realist if you will i am 30 years old i work to jobs and i most definitely dont shoot the shit...but i have gone through the system....i can say i do look for direction hell i yearn for it....ive had my own father tell me fuck me i was nothing when looking for answers as to whats going and whats the deal and how to survive...buuuut...... Truthfully im at a lost n sometimes it seems things aren't getting any better.......but one thing is for sure im no liar im no cheat i keep it 10000 100% of the time once i started to understand the nature of society
"their lack of responsibility is legendary".... Dang
The five characteristics you mentioned (pathological lying, status driven, manipulative, exploitative, erratic emotional outbursts, etc) sound a lot like sociopath traits. It's similar to psychopathy but psychopaths are born and sociopaths are nurtured because of traumatic experiences during their formative years ( abuse, neglect, abandonment). They tend to have high levels of neuroticism coupled with lack of impulse control.
So men acting like women is sociopathy?
Being raised some single moms will make you despise women
My mother is a emotional wreck wine like a 2-year-old child every 10 minutes
My mom is an emotional immature woman as well, and it can get exhausting when you feel like you are more mature than your parents but what I will say is that I have not met one adult that was emotionally immature who was not abused in some way.
I’ll have to be the parent my father never was, despite the hard work and food on the table, I yearned for that fatherly figure.
Thks sir.
This hurt me to hear it but it’s necessary to help me better myself
Same here
Sadly this is the trend to have kids with guys that honestly don’t need or want kids. What’s the life plan? Why do this.
No plan no life no future.
There is no plan, these men only want to add more notches under their belts and nothing more. Same with these women who enjoy life as a pass around queen that sleeps around and some of them use their children as a means of feeding their entitlement . It’s a disgusting culture
Thank you Arneal for this informative video. I was dating an older man who had been raised by a single mother; your video helped me to understand his behavior perfectly! This man exhibited every trait which you spoke about! It's amazing how life's outcomes can be dictated so early in life, unless one makes a conscious effort to bring about change......
lynneedavis unless your conscious to bring about change
1. TOO damn emotions, dont know how to outsource information
2. Cant plan anything, no goals little to no ambition
Sad to say that's the reality of a large number of black men. Black Man's Burden is to learn how to think and act and be a man.
This describes me and I’m 18 and need help. Any advice ?
@@TayTheGodFather find an older guy in your work or community that you respect and want to be like and ask them to mentor you or just be someone to seek advice from.
My mom would talk down to me then wonder why I lacked confidence. It's truly amazing to think about how she couldn't see what was right in front of her smh lol.
Feel you man
Amen, my brother .
Great Video.. a bit Heart breaking.. This also relates to men with Fathers in the home, but that father was a horrible role model.. also in my experience, men with Single moms tend to look for women to take on that motherly role, so they do tend to cling to certain women and stay in those relationships for a long time
And still not commit to them
@@Nokss87 🤷🏾♂️
@@augustusbrown5320we know clown
Sadly this speaks to me, I agree it definitely damages a child yo have one parent. I mean the alternative was worse as my father was a narcissist and wife beater and abuser but in the end after years of working on myself i discovered it left my psyche incomplete. For years I used to turn to drugs to fill the void, I sought people to fill that role i felt i lacked subconsciously, I spent a long time in self hatred, guilt, and cognitive dissonance. It's felt like an uphill battle to try and work on myself because I never developed or saw a male role model for many behaviors which are key in life.
You hit the nail on the head. My ex mom was a teen mom and eventually a single mom. She was a problem. “Jesus lover!” Judged me when she had no room to judge. I never even had a pregnancy scare and put myself through college. So, she never cared what was best for her son. She pulled him out of school in third grade for violent behavior but never taught him at home school and let him do whatever he wanted all day.
🙏🏾
My mother got pregnant with a man that already had kids with another woman abd ge doesnt live with us he didnt even want kids he once told her i wasnt his son i think its both thier fault for being irresponsible and my mom sometimes treat me like its my fault im here withiut a father present i lack many sociao skills and i dont know how to be a man im scared but im holding on ps.sorry for the spelling im sideways.
Same here, but I'm in my 40s
Imagine a father who’s hardworking educated with a career who gives great advice who is a direct influence in your life everyday from ages 5-18 now imagine a young man (me) who grew up with a single mother who had too become successful on her own this is a metaphor but not everyone can become a full cup on there own your supposed too be a full cup at 18 from the teachings of your parents but as a man raised by a single mother I was a empty cup shit no cup everyone can’t have the wisdom of a 80 year old man who makes 80,000 a year at 13 too prevent there lack of all internal processes because they had no fathers
thanks for being a voice for men like me
Is it weird that I’m raised by a single mom but i don’t fit none of these categories?
No you're not weird.
You are blessed. Not everyone raised by single parents turns out bad.
The sense of entitlement is off the scale too. Ultimately born from the state raising them while the mother yells “I dun need no maaah, I’ze a stong in’epen’ent womaaah”…..
A follow up video with solutions will be appreciated
Good to see you here again! ☺️
I always enjoy listening to bro Williams
The problem is men creating children and leaving women to raise them alone. THATS THE ONLY PROBLEM SIR!!!!
I can see your perspective however, there are no victims here other than the abandoned children. The two so called adults in my view are much more to blame. Unless the woman was raped in the creating of the children. She is just as responsible for the outcome as the man she picked to sleep with.
No. We can tell when a man is no good. Red flags are present before getting knocked up. We need to hold each other accountable. You do not bring another human being into the world with a low value man. Stay on birth control, plan it, wait til after marriage.
@@MeganWall1019 Well said, very good words from a high value woman I might add. Pay attention single men women with her intellect and perspective is unfortunately insanely rare.
@@arnealwilliams3359 gotta keep that birth control pill between ya knees baby! Lol & thank you! I learned actually from my ex who’s mom was a teen mom turned single mom and he dated a single mom with two kids from two different men. I learned from my damn ex boyfriend haha 😂
@@MeganWall1019 I know a ton of divorced single mothers. Care to explain that? I mean you're an expert aren't you?
You are so on point.
I wish the reality of many black men's failures would not be so apparent as it has become in our culture. I would rather that more black men seek greater meaning from their lives through the adoption of responsibility. Rather than the Mindless pursuit of self-gratification.
Why dont "men" stop leaving their children. They claim to leave the mother but really they leave the child. Mom can be single all day. I love being single. But my child is fatherless. What do we say to the ones that leave their kids. Majority of Black women have everything on their backs , alone. She cant rest in her femininity. Black men or boys should I say, are no good today
@Said Eli Cueva Sava what?
@Said Eli Cueva Sava the child didnt chose to be here. It's about the child now bs is out the window. Fuck yaself and the next. The end. Period
I know right? Why do they leave the child or children ?
I agree with 99% except the pattern of "non-commitment." I'm a 35 y/o male, raised by a single mother, who's been in pursuit of a lifelong commitment. I never had a problem with the idea of a lifelong partner, in fact that is all I have desired throughout my short time here on earth. I have found myself however always investing in a female partner who couldn't commit.
sorry that happend to you. I find myself being the one that actually want to look for a woman to settle down but they want nothing to do with me.
@Sunscribes God created a man first and the woman is your helpmeet not your “Partner”…you still have a feminine mindset and possibly a feminine demeanor and women can sense it and want nothing to do with you
@@dennismccoy291 I love men who are in touch with their feminine side. Most young men are chasing women who are out of their league. They should be getting an education and getting ahead in the business world proving they can be providers. Quit chasing and work on yourself.
@@dennismccoy291 Your wife IS your partner! The Bible was written by MEN! The Bible conveniently left out the books written by women!
Thanks for this message
Man you were spot on as if you knew me man l. Thanks for sharing this and it woke somethings up in me that I knew was there but didn’t want to believe
Is it true that a man raised by single mother has a greater chance of going to prison one up in prison no matter the race of the man who has financial background that being raised by single mother gives him a far greater chance of winding up in prison just as far as the stats go
As far as I am aware yes
Living life on the edge, full of adrenaline, being decisive on your actions and not caring by breaking the law (not in your feelings) it's as if the boy is trying to feel like a man and it does work hence why a lot of folks end up in prison, it's like a drug, the boy means no harm there's just not enough masculine energy at home, he finds it more outside.
Wow...... so on point. I’m speechless
I don’t know about that. I’ve met men and women who came from perfect childhoods and they still became train wrecks as adults.
This is eye opening and so accurate
Appreciate your comment.
@@arnealwilliams3359 Yeah you broke it down so accurately jesus christ
@@SolutionOrientedMan thanks
Thanks for basically describing me to a tea. I hate existing cuz or everything you said.
It would be nice though if you could point some ways to reverse all these bad traits we inherited, instead of only pointing out the bad conditioning and habits we received, and thus portraying us (the many) as constant failures.The problems we already know them.
The solutions are simple but not easy. The individual will and ego is the two headed beast that must be conquered.
The only mistake I made was thinking I ever needed her.
Holy fuck i fit almost all of these. Lost my father at the age of ten. I think i could make descisions. Leveled her trailer solo and learned it by myself and did a good job might i add. HOWEVER my lack of impulse control and always living in my head is a living hell. Its weird. Because i think i know all the wrong things im doing but i just cant stop. Or at least i lack the self discipline to stop. I hate it and trying to over come this is a battle ive fought and lost over and over for the last ten years. Motivated heavily by pleasure. I forsee where my life is headed and its not good.
I grew up with argumentative parents and my dad worked a lot and also was emotionally detached most the time. I tend to attract men who had an absent father and would fight with their mothers who raised them. I'm just wondering if my upbringing makes me attract these men. It's been like over 10 men.
You may have a point.
I’ve had a similar experience and, at least for me, it’s definitely the cause. And it takes a tough fight to break the habit.
Go to a Liscensed Professional Counselor and do the work!
Great video all points are extremely valid 1000% truth.
Thank you my brother.
Good video Arneal! I’ve been telling some of the same things to sistas for a while now......
Good my brother. Keep it up
Well said brother! Preach…🙏🏾
Dang...singing my life. So basically I act like my momma😮😮The real question is how do unlearn 22 plus years of female debachuery and manipulation?
Forgive me if I'm using a film example, but in the anime film Wolf Children where it involves a widow raising two children, shouldn't have resulted in failure by default because one of the kids was of the opposite sex?
Please make a video for these types of men on how to recover from these things and how to be better men
Thank you , this is valuable content. What are the solutions thou?
Boundaries
His father left him, and he then he left his son. Then his son left his son and his son left his son then his son left his daughter and the daughter is a single mother and that baby father left his kid and his kid grew up and left his kid. We as Black women have no head today. It's gone. Nobody knows the laws of the bible. Everything is superficial and naive. Disheartening to me
Hi can I share this video to give importance and educate our viewers about of this social issues. Credit is still for.the creator. Thanks
Where is the data or study that supports these assumptions?
This message for u all- this is the only one side of guys who raised by their moms and granny's. Other is so different. Don't judge book by their cover.
This is interesting. I know men who are this way with a single parent and with both parents. I think it mostly depends on how you are raised and the environment.
It's all connected.
Do you think these qualities are of boys raised by single women across the board (culturally, economically and ethnically)? In your opinion what can change this?
Men being men. That will change a lot.
Do you believe males raised by single women should go into the service to teach them how to be men?
Any advice for the mom to help him not be this way? Of is it just inevitable as there is no male around? I can't be a man and I dont want to be masculine that will cause other issues. For now I'm just putting them into sports and activities where there are males.
Sounds like a good single mother 🙏
So true!
The problem with experts is they they are experts.
Yes
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No wonder I'm like this (Even though i along with my whole family are "white"), my mother also gaslights me, my younger sister was the one who had a spine until our morher kicked her out.
You are right! My ex is very manipulative and he loves things! He loves status and he makes me feel like if I marry him I have to be like his trophy wife. I ended my relationship with him at the beginning of the year and the funny thing is he cried and said “even when we are done you should not go into relationship with anyone right away.” And then he was the one entering in another relationship right away. 😂😂😂 he lies and he does not have awareness.
I'm glad your value system helped you avoid a possible terrible outcome. I applaud your courage and self-awareness. God bless
So who picks the fathers ?? The narrative can’t always be the Dad left the mom . It’s Hard to learn how to be a man on the streets . Only the learn that most people are for self and the good person act is a mask . But I’ll never give up. 💯
Truth……
How can one avoid this happening to their son? I currently have a 3 year old.
Good advice
lets just say regardless of past there are always avenues for someone to succeed. just because someone came from a shitty upbringing or parenting doesn't mean there's something inherently wrong with them. To be honest we can argue there are flaws of having both parents as much as having no parents or one it really depends tbh. There a reason for everything. also, you only consider it a problem because society in America didn't make there system for men who were raised by single mothers so they seem like outliers or problems because we just havent created avenues for that sort of nature.
Omg so true
True 💯💯
Wow, how could you excuse yourself from the effects of being raised by a single mother, yet condemn those who were. You did not include special circumstances for them being successful, just yourself. I guess I am a masculine woman, per your definition. Sometimes we have to be masculine because somebody has to be strong and raise the children. What do you suggest for single mothers, to prevent them from being put down and called masculine?
It's not a put down to be masculine. It's merely a biological reality for most modern women. Any woman suppressing her dominant feminine nature over a prolong period of time will suffer emotionally. And to add insult to injury being a single mother is very difficult, that's a given. but to become defensive achieves nothing. Because no crime has been committed and no judgment has been rendered. There isn't anything you can do but live in the reality you have created.
@@arnealwilliams3359 Thank you for replying.
Some single mom reared dudes mature duh that's common sense if you was listening he said he from a single mom household but he had his father and male mentor to teach him. A single mom can teach a boy how to be responsible and manners but she cannot teach the nuances of what makes a man a man. A boy raised without any true masculine energy is going to be imbalanced in his polarities (emotional energy) which is associated with male and female
He made it clear that while he had a single mother he came up in a different time period. During the time he came up the expectations and social norms and mores were different than today. He also said that he had a relationship with his father and had other mentors who were men.
A lot of these guys coming up in those single mother homes today act just like their mothers. They’re very loud mouthed, arrogant, destructive, 2 dimensional thinkers, have an attitude of entitlement, lazy, and the list goes on. They were literally set up for failure.
@@darrianmcneil3481 By that logic, shouldn't fathers struggle raising daughters since they are of opposite sexes with "different energies"? Why is it that I keep seeing guys say that men are better parents as if they could raise both boys and girls but women can't raise boys?
Also, what if women really have to raise youngsters on their own due to the father being away, dead, etc.? I find it important for both men and women to share each other's strengths in case if one partner is out if commission.
The problem is the father is not in the home to provide the necessary discipline for the male child to become a real man. And the percentage of those fathers present in the home is very low.
So basically u just described a woman!
No single mother for me, no college educated woman either. If I'm to be the leader of the pack I need a fresh and open mind to teach. I understand now why older men prefer younger women.
Sometimes younger women grow up and change on you. Get someone with the same morals and outlook on life as you. Because we all grow older physically but the mental and emotional stays the same or character. Remember divorce is initiated mostly by those women that you married without knowing who they really are. But I do agree with single mothers, that's a no no especially for a guy who doesn't have children.
sounds a lot like predatory behavior.
@Tired of being an EMPATHY. HELP ME! Ugh na, men naturally go for younger women. get one of similar in age..fam she used up and got too much baggage. perfect age to catch a woman is 18-28 before is sick and after a waste of time.
Lmao at you simps calling what happens between 2 adults grooming... this the way relationships been happening for the last 200000 years
🤣🤣🤣 … basically no one with an opinion because he can’t handle an equal because he thinks it challenges his “manhood”
I agree but how can single women raise better men. No matter what there will always be single women for various reasons.
Any help or suggestions for single women ?? So we can have a great next generation who can be men of honor.
Integrity is huge, a young man must see this theme throughout is formative years. This question of integrity will speak to a young man in many ways. first those who are closes to him must model integrity, this suggest that one's actions, attitude and affections must be an alignment with one's words. We cannot say one thing and live another. Lastly identity must be formed from an emotionally stable man it doesn't have to be his father if he isn't in the child's life however it must be a man of good reputation. He needs structure at home and duties that must be accomplished this builds self-esteem and discipline into his life. He will learn that his actions must benefit the whole not just validate his ego.
So being raised by a single mother and copying her behavior can lead men yo sociopathy? It makes sense to me.
Wouldn't say pathological. I would say an identity crisis. Males are born men are built.
There are married single mothers as well.
I agree it's hard for me to feel any masculine energy from the men that were raised by a single mother. This is why I chose celibacy for my freedom and spirituality ❤️ also they would tell me I hit the wall not knowing I've had one pregnancy in my late twenties lol
Unless you were married when you got pregnant it is not a laughing matter!!!
I'm conflicted of this whole issue of men raised solely by women. Many like to blame the mothers, say that it is their fault for choosing the wrong partner and saying that women lack masculinity. First off, what if circumstances changed the man from benevolent to less so? What if he is away (like busy at work), sick/injured, dead, or anything that keeps him from raising the youngsters? What if the mother needs to raise the kids on her own?
And whose to say that a mother can't know how to discipline or relay masculinity? A woman can be into "guy things" like sports, action films, etc. And she can certainly have masculine traits like stoicism, emotional maturity, etc. Same with a guy also displaying "feminine traits" like nurturing and liking romance films. Why can't both sexes share each other's strengths?
If I, a guy myself, were to have a life partner, I'd want her to be capable of independence so she can pull her weight as well as others in case if I'm out of commission.
fam all you need is not subsidize this lifestyle. let the natural world-course correct this. those who make good decisions are flourish and the ones making bad decisions get weeded out. like the black community got over 70% single mothers. we got to shrink our population before we can flourish. I know personally, life is a perfect lesson and discipliner when it comes to the misguided.
half true half absolutely bs I don't know my dad Damn sure you're not mine
Thks Greg for your honesty, I'm speaking in general. Not everything is as you may have experienced. Merry Xmas, sir. God bless
Instead of explaining us why not tell us how to be ????? Like we are a problem its not our fault that our father's were not there.....smh
Correct we are the problem. Until we accept that reality there will be know change in our lives and relationships.
I dont feel i am a problem im a staight forward kind of man a realist if you will i am 30 years old i work to jobs and i most definitely dont shoot the shit...but i have gone through the system....i can say i do look for direction hell i yearn for it....ive had my own father tell me fuck me i was nothing when looking for answers as to whats going and whats the deal and how to survive...buuuut...... Truthfully im at a lost n sometimes it seems things aren't getting any better.......but one thing is for sure im no liar im no cheat i keep it 10000 100% of the time once i started to understand the nature of society
BS