'Speaking Peace' - Marshall Rosenberg - Nonviolent Communication (NVC) | plus a tribute
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- Marshall Rosenberg describes NVC as, “an integration of a spirituality, with concrete tools for manifesting this spirituality in our daily lives, in our relationships, and in our political activities.”
Marshall Rosenberg and NVC are inspirational.
The special afterward, which includes an impassioned clip from Dr. Dan Siegel, plus a tribute by Marshall to his family of origin, expands on ideas presented in Speaking Peace. Be sure to watch the video all the way through as it crescendos to a moving close!
Through this project, I hope to provide a perspective about Marshall's work, and to invite additional study. It is my gift to fellow NVC learners, and the entire world of those who are curious about - or actively participating in - improving their inward understanding of themselves, and their outward communication with others.
The original recording is published by SoundsTrue.com, and is about 2-1/2 hours in length. I thank them for making Marshall's work available!
www.soundstrue.com/store/spea...
If you want to know more about Nonviolent Communication, there are many great videos available publicly. There is also The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC.org), and Puddledancer Press (nonviolentcommunication.com), among other easily accessed resources.
This abridged version of "Speaking Peace" was conceived, edited, and visualized by Richard Tashma.
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SEGMENTS:
00:00 Introduction and a bit of context.
02:17 "I kept wondering... what makes some human beings enjoy contributing to the well-being of others, and what makes some human beings want to do violence to others?
04:08 "From all of these sources, I put together a process that was based on my desire of how I would like human beings to behave..."
04:36 "We want people to change... because they see better ways of meeting their needs at less cost. So, let's look at how that change can occur..." Begin by considering how we 'educate' ourselves.
06:45 "We have been taught to educate ourselves with moralistic judgments [which we commonly experience as depression, guilt, and shame]... Look behind these judgments [to see]... what need of yours wasn't met by the behavior?"
09:55 "It's important for us to be conscious that we never do anything except for good reason... Everything we do is in the service of [meeting] needs... [That] heightens our ability to learn from our limitations, without losing self-respect.""
12:51 "And in this way, we can make good use of our depression, guilt, and shame; those feelings we can use as an alarm clock to wake us up to the fact that, at this moment, we're... up in our head, playing violent games with ourselves."
14:59 "Whenever our objective is to get somebody to stop doing something, we lose power... If we can sincerely show an empathic connection with what needs [a person] is trying to meet... then they're much more open to hearing other options."
17:48 "Once people don't have to defend themselves against our single-mindedness of purpose to 'change' them... it is much easier for them to be open to other possibilities."
20:28 "Now, let's take a look at... how Nonviolent Communication can help us transform 'gangs' that behave in ways that we don't like..." such as institutions which indoctrinate people to conform and place value in 'extrinsic rewards'."
24:22 The individuals within the 'gangs' (such as educational institutions) are not the enemies or monsters; it's the 'gangs' themselves - the systems - that need to change.
26:06 The importance and value of expressing and receiving 'gratitude'. There's nothing more wonderful than exercising our power in the service of life; that is our greatest joy.
27:50 "We want to really stop and give gratitude to whatever people are doing that is really supporting what we are working toward..." and why compliments or praise are still moralistic judgments, rather than expressions of gratitude.
31:21 "In Nonviolent Communication, we want to increase power, but power 'with' people, not 'over' them." So, we express and receive gratitude by expressing and celebrating how our life has been enriched by what the other person did; the 'intent' is all-important.
34:14 An example of gratitude; and the detriment of judging that we need to be 'deserving' before we can receive gratitude.
37:21 "It's our light, not our darkness, that scares us the most." Be courageous and, "stay connected to the beauty of what we are."; Song:"See Me Beautiful"
Credits to Sounds True.
41:10 Special closing and tribute.
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(The images of Marshall Rosenberg are mostly from videos that are publicly available at the time of this editing.)
been searching for this gem of individual and his blessed teachings for almost a year now finally the algorithm picked this amazing upload on my search results. thanks so much for all the work, doing good in a world gone crazy✌️.
This was so insightful. I almost cried at the end. I'm so grateful that he was able to share is gift of insight and observation with us while he was still alive🥺🙏🏾
@Elle... Am glad that you got to appreciate the very end. I've been moved many times when I listen to Marshall talk about the story of his grandmother and that unexpected guest. And I love the line, "Never walk when you can dance."
I'm grateful that this brings benefit for you. Be well. Cheers!
Marshall was ( still is ) a gift to the planet 🙏💙 thank you so much for taking the time to create this and sharing
@Trish... Thank you for this comment. Marshall's contributions to us are certainly evergreen. Creating this vid was a labor of love. Be well. Cheers!
Marshall is such a beautiful soul.
Let go of what has passed.
Let go of what may come.
Let go of what is happening now.
Don’t try to figure anything out.
Don’t try to make anything happen.
Relax, right now, and rest.
I can't possibly thank you enough for such a precious gift
@Loubaina... You're most welcome. I'm grateful that it brings benefit for you. Creating this was a labor of love and respect for Marshall. Be well.
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.” Rumi
@30:23
Such profoundly humanistic ideas...it changed my perspective and the way I will interact with the the world.
4:39 change not out of guilt
7:12 think that because I made a mistake or did something I wish I hadn’t, there’s something wrong with me.
8:32 what need of yours was not met by the behavior?
11:11 being conscious
30:20 “no compliments. They are violent, dehumanizing”
Great.
Thanks, Richard for your care and share!
@Louise Wildee - Thank you, Louise, for your acknowledgement. As is true for so many of us who have learned from him, Marshall made a timeless and lasting contribution.
This video is truly a labor of love. And it's a tribute as much to Marshall's grandmother (referenced by the story and the song in the final segment), as it is to Marshall. I only wish that Marshall was still in this life, so I could share it directly with him. R.I.P.
So useful content. I have a great gratitude for people, who set this video up and made me feel joyful and happy 🌹🌷🍀
Great.:-) :-)
R.I.P. He was a great and kind man
Doesn’t help ;)
@@sipsonic, you made me chuckle :-)
Touché! Thanks for the humor.
"I can never remember a time I benefited from someone telling me what I was" . Marshall Rosenberg
@@roberttwine5330 Lol. True, but all the same...
We just started working on your method in our small community. We hold meetings practicing your techniques once a week. It's a great help for us to make our life better.
Thanks a lot
How is it going?
@@alforliniteaching5670 Hi, it is very good.
@@kA-dc6zq how goes the work?
Marshall is a legend!
Thank you so valuable
Rick Rubin sent me here.
10:48
32:38
Same, i just casually finish to read they book yesterday, today I Heard the Rick Rubin interview and he just talk about him 🤯
wow I got his book but had no clue he knew about nonviolent communication. trippy.
Hi! I wonder where this quote is taken from - that Marshall defines NVC as “an integration of a spirituality, with concrete tools for manifesting this spirituality in our daily lives, in our relationships, and in our political activities.” I like it, and I would like to make references to it - and I would feel more confident doing it if I knew where this quote is taken from) Could you tell me?
@Daria Voronina - Hello. This quote is transcribed from the original "Speaking Peace" audio recording at 5m33s. (And the same sentence is in this video at 4m20s.) I hope that is helpful to you.
There is a Dan Siegel piece at the end
@Virgilio Chavez - Thank you for acknowledging the clip from Dr. Siegel at the Wisdom 2.0 conference. He has been inspiring for me, and this clip seemed genuine, thought-provoking, and important. Kind regards.
Our mind is the software that is stored on the hardware (or “wet-ware”) of our brains. Our mind is the information stored on our brain, and the elctrical signals that are fires in our brains, in the same Way that computersoftware is just electrical signals firing on the computers, neurolnetwork (i cant remember/ dont know what its called for computers).
Será una bendición contar con los videos en español por favor 👐
Good morning 💖. (1.25x speed is super.)
Are these just samples? Sounds like big portions were left out