A Talk with Charles Spencer About Childhood Sexual Abuse
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- In this episode of the Therapy Works podcast, I’m speaking with Charles Spencer, who shares his traumatic experiences at a boarding school where he faced physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. Charles discusses the profound impact these experiences had on his life, the complex process of healing, and the importance of speaking out to help others.
Key Points Discussed:
Enduring Abuse: Charles recounts the harrowing abuse he endured during his time at a particularly abusive boarding school, including sexual abuse, and the lasting impact on his psyche.
The Healing Journey: The conversation delves into Charles's extensive journey through therapy, including EMDR, and the role of writing his book as a form of therapy.
Impact of Trauma: Charles reflects on how the trauma influenced his views on trust, relationships, and self-worth, emphasizing the importance of working through past pain for personal growth.
Advocacy for Change: Highlighting the importance of advocating for the protection of children and raising awareness about the long-term effects of abuse, Charles discusses his hope that his story will inspire others to seek help and speak out.
This episode is a testament to the strength and resilience of the human spirit, offering hope and solidarity to others who have experienced similar traumas. Charles Spencer's candidness provides valuable insights into the complexities of healing from childhood abuse and underscores the power of vulnerability and truth in overcoming the shadows of the past.
Thank you so much to Riverstone Living Kensington for hosting this important conversation:
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Charles may you continue to heal, and may God bless your strength!!
I hope he didn’t send his own son to such a place !
@@ruthmackenzie1105I would think not
I’m lost for words……. But it has also encouraged and confirmed to me to continue to write my story of Childhood sexual abuse which I have titled The Bastard 🙏🏼
@@ruthmackenzie1105 He didn't
Diana would be so proud of her brother, exposing his own suffering to help others.
I am so sorry you were not protected as a child. Sharing this is brave and will help many others
This man did not just survive sexual abuse but sadism! As well as deep abandonment. He must a be such a remarkable strong man to be here today and achieving so very much. I really hope he heals and continues sharing his story and his recovery
Was Diana at boarding school at that age?
I have so much respect for his bravery x
@@paulasheerin9781 I think he said she went away when he was 7, so she would have been 10 or 11.
@@angelacribb8606 no, when their mother was around, they were not abandoned. Johnny Spencer was a cruel man and took the children from their mother through court battles, and then threw them into the care of the british state. The kids in turn chose to hate their stepmother regardless of their fathers appalling behaviour.
@@maxsheerin8219He said himself that it was their mother that abandoned them and ran away to Scotland with her lover at the time. Even Diana said so. Their father was given full custody by the courts, and therefore were not taken by the state, mostly because Frances' mother testified against her daughter. But it was Frances' choice to leave.
Their father was a sweet man according to Charles, but couldn't verbalise his depression. These are all statements said in this podcast.
This poor man has been through so much. These school leaders are so so sick.
Family systems that won't allow the topic to be addressed are also sick and abused children reproduce the dysfunction in their lives.
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As I write this, I am listening to the interview and feeling how right out of a Dickens novel Charles's situation was and it took place in the 20th century !! My heart is breaking for him and all the other victims who didn't have a voice then. I thank Charles for writing his book and hope justice can be done for the many victims.
My heart breaks for his children and former wives. I hope they can heal too.
@@What_I_Think_Happenedyour way off, and you have no idea
You'd think Dickens books would have cancelled boys' schools, and he didn't even cover sexual abuse, bc of Victorians. Indigenous children in Canada suffered horribly in Residential Schools, to the point of death, many deaths. And this was going on up until the 70s. Mostly at the hands of the churches, but the Canadian government and by extension the English monarchy cannot be excused. It's a nightmare that reaches down through the generations of Indigenous people, and on top of it, they have to suffer racism from Canadians. I have said before, if you wonder why the English treated Indigenous people that way (forcibly removing children as well), just have a look at how they treated their own in schools.
Nunca los vi cómo dioses, los vi víctima de un sistema corrupto,inmoral y asqueroso.
Tanto! Pareciera los padres ,cuidadores... ,fueron aliados con los demonios,en ayudar a un imperio con esclavos blancos .
Dirigentes de milliones de los otros. Morenos.
Privilegio mal entendido.
Un horror , recién ahora lo "dejan" hablar , Ojalá sepan valorar la gran mayoría , el coraje en todo lo expuesto por Charles.
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Private Schools are full of abuser's. Eton being the most well known.
Charles you have been so brave to bring your sexual abuse out into the public as a survivor of child sexual abuse fully understand how much strength it takes hopefully by speaking out it has taken a weight off your shoulders and helps your soul to Heal
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Absolutely brilliant interview! Thank goodness that someone has the courage to crack open the secret world of the British private school system. This book is going to be a major contribution to the healing of many damaged people. All evil has to be revealed and the light of God poured onto it as a healing balm.
You are so very right. It affects many generations below. He is a lovely man and this bravery will help people without social power to speak out and be heard. Yes it's light against the darkness...
Can reopen wounds. Sealed by coping in my opinion. Have to get on with the reality of the ways of the world which does not stop moving .
And also the children’s homes, the behind closed doors in schools doctors and churches, and even it’s much bigger than this , it’s time
@@carlywright5127sealed creates blockages, and blockages create illness
@@carlywright5127 Yes that is true. As we see from Earl Spencer’s interview he has had to work for years to overcome the terrible trauma he suffered. I have had to face similar memories and have spent half my life healing. I can attest that, though initially extremely painful and difficult to face, with the right intervention, we don’t have to simply cope, but we can thrive. Nevertheless I understand that some people just cannot deal with it and that is okay too. There will come a time when God will wipe away all tears. ♥️
Families are so vulnerable, from high class, to middle class and low class, this happened everywhere.
Such a brave thing to do. Utmost respect to Charles.
My mother told me when I was a young mother ,never take your eyes off your children …..and I never did ………..feel so so sad for Charles Spencer …..as a mother and grandmother ,may God Bless him
I have met him in person years ago.
He seemed very grounded and sincere. He tries very hard to keep the legacy of Althorp and his sister, Diana.
Proud of Charles for being vulnerable and strong to share his story. He will help others as he helps himself for sure♥️♥️
He should help his children and ex-wives. They suffered due to his brokenness.
@@What_I_Think_Happenedno need for negative comments
His ex-wives have their own brokenness. And HE cannot be responsible for their healing. Very unkind statement
@@crazyquestionsagain Actually he has been extremely unkind about his ex-wives. Please educate yourself prior to making comments.
@@sylviabriggs4087 The truth is neither negative nor positive.
You see people every day, talk with them, enjoy happy times with them. But you never know what is in the dark recesses of their minds or lives.
There are no words to make any of what someone went through better but when we learn of their dark times we must be compassionate and kind and thank them for their bravery in sharing with you their story.
Who ever would have thought that a child brought up with such priveledge as Charles was could have endured such an unprivileged life.
I hope his soul finds peace 🙏
You have to know the price of "privileged", instead envy them= being blind and ignorant
L ll ok
And so brave of you Julia to do this interview when you are so vulnerable and having to deal with your own recent trauma
Did she have an accident?
What better way to deal with a trauma than to listen to others
@WendyPhillips-jd71f. What trauma did Julia suffer? I noticed the eye patch and stroke like symptoms. I’m so sorry. Did she do a vid on this?
@@laraoneal7284yes!
@@laraoneal7284 She has Bell's Palsy.
So sorry that you and many others suffered these horrors. My husband went to a private school where paedophilia was commonplace. Sickening and heartbreaking that generations suffered these terrible traumas and they were permitted to take place. Thank you for talking about this. 🙏
We call them Public Schools. They are fee paying , expensive Schools for the very wealthy and Elite. Eton, being the most famous Public School in England.
I've written these words elsewhere on CZcams but they merit a repeat. Earl Spencer has courage. And I wish him and his family all the best.
What a brave and gentle man. Well done! I can see a lot of that vulnerability that Diana had in him as well as that endearing gentleness. Remarkable individual who had to deal with so many awful awful experiences. Thank you
Lovely man and thank you for speaking out. The shame is all on the perpetrators and never the survivors
The sadness in his face. Her empathy comes through. My grandfather sexually abused me and the Me Two movement brought back those memories. Bravo to you for your bravery in writing this book.
All my empathy to you !!
I am so sorry..I send you all the love and prayers..❤
I'm so sorry 😞
So many adults are scarred by parents, childhood, etc. I admire Charles for openly sharing his story
The burning anger in his speech at Diana’s funeral makes more sense after listening to this marvellously brave and compassionate podcast.
The best speech/eulogy I’ve ever heard was the truth he spoke at his sisters funeral. It really brought all the rooks home to roost. Thank you. I’m so sad for the little boy that was made to suffer that depraved behaviour, the psychopaths that dealt this out were also charging phenomenal amounts of cash for the privilege of educating and caring for their children. You couldn’t make this up.
I’m so glad Charles highlighted the biggest obstacle in the child’s mind to keep quiet is because the children are so hoodwinked and manipulated by the abuser to keep this secret, they are powerless from day one… Being showered with attention and pleasureable acts, which initially the child has no idea are wrong or criminal - fills them with shame and regret later as at the time, they may have enjoyed the pleasure and sought out the abuser out for more of the same. The child then feels responsibility for what happened.
This can happen successfully in regular homes and under the mothers nose. All abusers should be exposed ,held accountable and prosecuted!
The more one hears about the old british system of the upper class the more barbaric it is. I too was abused in a British private school and no one would believe me or take my part. Private schools have a different list of must haves for staffing, they will take staff that others wont and for a cheaper price and ‘ask no questions’. So my abuser left, unprosecuted, and simply went to
another private school, presumably to carry on their weirdo practices.. charles is very brave and clearly trying to cleanse himself of the uninvited abuse and the mental scarring which is life long…wickedness was tolerated and allowed, shameful.
Dear Charles, you are very brave for speaking about this openly. In particular, that this occurred within an aristocratic educational facility. This I am sure will open the can of worms. I am going to listen to this again.
You and Diana are obviously the ones in the family that have the courage to dare to speak out.
I wish you peace and happiness
And Harry...,
or he is not part of the family?
Sorry 😢
@@mascarenhas9624he's Charles Nephew.
How very brave of Charles Spencer to write about his traumatic experiences, and profoundly healing for anyone else who's suffered at the hands of such psychopathic adult predators. The so-called 'privileged classes' seem to intentionally put their children through these traumas. I feel blessed I come from the peasant classes.
Don't you know this is so pervasive through all sectors of society sadly . The main thing children need to be listened to, and kept safe at all times free from harm. There is a bunch of sick people, from former generations and culture it seems.
ALL abuse extends across ALL "classes", economic levels of society.
Only the TRUTH sets you free 🆓
Occasionally the lady interrupted charles which was most irritating.
@@IreneRattray
I don't understand why she need to do that.
This is why they have editor. First: la voice is the Mr Spencer and not 🎉anybody.😢
What an exceptional man Charles Spencer is. So full of admiration. Thank you for the interview.
Victims are not flawed, just deeply injured and traumatized. Healing is possible. You raised your children differently. As a child therapist having heard stories such as this from the many children, I am so glad you sought therapy, and spoke about this to help so many others not just those you went to school with. Such bravery. You have no idea how many you have helped. Yes there are many dark people out there who look perfectly normal as they commit the worst evil.
Thank you Charles & Julia for a profound & deeply resonating podcast. The longer I am a human being (just about the same age as Charles) I have come to the belief that trauma, abuse, violence etc...is not about any societal cultural group you are perceived to be a part of....it is about the 'powerful' controlling the 'powerless'. And this is a great example. The perceived aristocracy experiencing terrible trauma. We should make no assumptions about people's lived experiences...it is not for us to judge but to more fully understand.
It absolutely makes no difference what someone’s station in life is - when people suffer we must give them comfort and compassion ❤
@@overcomerbtbojesus absolutely.
you say this while homelessness exists. they're homeless because of systemic, economic, discriminatory societal daily practice. you've got a ways to go before you can claim to understand anything.
@@keetahbrough you have no idea of my lived experience sadly...
oppressors will oppress, that's what they do, in varied circumstances, they do it
SA happened to me when I was a child. I buried it. Gone. It comes back, and back. I'm 60 now I get mad at myself, not this again.
But now you are a different, stronger being, and I wish you peace. ❤
I hope you are able to find the support you need,I think it is a hrd thing to deal with all by oneself.
I hope you can give yourself compassion when any unpleasant memories come up. Hugs
It never leaves you does it
What school who was it name and shame please
I’ve just read his book. Beautifully written. Heartbreaking to read. It made me so angry to think so many poor children regardless of how privileged were so appalling abused. Charles - you are a very brave and courageous man. X
It strikes me how lonely it is that he self harmed in similar ways to Diana & he was able to keep it quietly suppressed while watching the world's reaction to her own revelations. He comes across as a gentle man who has dug deep to find some peace. Thankfully we are more aware of the potential for abuse of children by those in power. When I was a kid, & the teachers were mentally abusive, our parents always took the teacher's side. Anyone in positions of authority were infallible in the eyes of the adults & it left children isolated & gaslighting themselves. These things stay with you. Fair play to Charles & the many like him that find the courage to tell their story & hold the abusers accountable!
We can not thank Charles enough for this and we wish him all the best on his healing journey through betrayal and grief.
Great to see two strong lovely people sharing their vulnerable side. Julia is to be commended for appearing when she is at a low point physically. Strong character. Charles is also to be commended for sharing his most painful memories, helping others by sharing. More power to them both 💪
Complete and total respect for this man. What a life he has had so far. Best to him.
As a survivor of sexual abuse when i was from 9rs old to 12yrs old. by someone in our street. I remember holding my doll in my arms that i got for xmas and crying while being abused. . The thing about abusers is they make the child think its thier fault. I never told my mum or dad. I kept it to myself for over 20yrs. I aplaud you charles for speaking out about your abuse. Your very brave and i greatly admire your courage. In my case i felt it must be my fault. I felt ashamed. I had no boyfriends in my teenage years for fear of intimacy. It damages you mentally and physically and emotionally. But i couldnt tell anyone. I still have nightmares to this day. I eventually told my husband. I felt i had handed it over to someone else . All the worries and doubts seemed light on my shoulders afterwards. But its with me everyday. Thank you Charles for telling your story and the abuse you went through. I suffer from PTSD, depressions, anxiety attacks. When i look at that photograph of me at 9yrs old i want to hug that child as i lost my childhood and all the happy times i had before the abuse.
So sorry to hear your story. 😢 🙏🙏🙏 For your healing ❤️
This abuse happened to him from his School Master's.
My father came from the working/servant classes of northern England and never spoke about his family, country or culture having emigrated to Australasia at the end of his WWII service. This is a stunning interview that has shed so much light on the silence of my enigmatic father, who died 40 years ago. The take-away for me came at time-stamp 42:06: Charles sharing that one of his friends "emigrated because he couldn't bear to live in a country that allowed that level of abuse to occur to him". What a gift the 9th Earl Spencer has to be a truth-teller and spell-breaker!!
Charles is such a gentle soul.
The Earl of Spencer is so so brave and his friends too. This story needed to be told. I'm so sorry you had to go through this. This is why I would never send a child to a boarding school. Especially at such a young age. I wish you peace and compassion
Very quiet very calm when talking about the abuse that stole years and also emotions from him but says he has found peace. Everybody deserves peace hope yous find it
This is absolutely heart breaking. I have utmost sympathy and compassion for Charles and all the boys who had been abused and whose parents didn’t give them the love that they so much needed and deserved. I don’t know how they could have managed to navigate through life carrying this severe trauma. The worst is that often we think that the rich and privileged have nothing to complain about. But they have every right and they are just as human as the rest of us. Money and privilege doesn’t automatically protect one from trauma and hurt. I wish Charles and his school friends every healing and peace and joy. My heart goes out to them.
Charles , you spoke to many people, not that I personally had a difficult time at boarding school in England ,home was 6000 miles away. We had mostly kind and thoughtful teachers & matron.
For me getting away from volatile family episodes was a blessed relief, I can only be grateful for that opportunity. The English country side was a joy, pets horses , friends changed my outlook .Holidays in Perthshire with my grandmother & uncle was glorious on a beautiful estate.
I am so sad to listen to your account, it’s harrowing to put it mildly, but I am sure you have given many people the courage to go and seek qualified counseling.
God Bless you and your family.
Happy to hear you're childhood was a good one and you were obviously blessed. 🙏🙏🙏
I feel soo soo sorry for Charles and the other children. It breaks my heart. 💔😢🌹
Thank you Charles for opening up about this, your bravery helps so many others. You are a truly awesome man. ❤❤❤
I knew I loved you since I knew you from Diana’s funeral. Thank you for sharing your wonderful loving gentle heart. I do believe you and Diana share that trait. Thank you
Ty Charles for doing this. I’m a childhood trauma survivor and been dealing with my recovery process for over 25 years. It affects every aspect of our lives. I believe we suffer the ramifications for life. I went no contact from my family of origin 30 years ago. I hope u continue to share this and heal through God and prayer.
I hope one day you'll find peace x
Charles what a wonderful man you are. Hearing your story is shocking and heartbreaking and I’m so sorry that such a little 8 year old boy had to endure this horrific experience. Surrounding you in healing light and peace.
My uncle James W.W.Neeb, Q.C. in Canada changed law amending the limitation date in 1994-1995 in the Court of Appeal for victims to seek compensation against their predators. He then went on to write a book on how to litigate such a case, which opened the door to huge litigation across Canada. What you are sharing is so Important for others, and perhaps healing for yourself. Kudos.
Well done, Charles Spencer ❤
You HAVE put things right, sir, and I have nothing but the greatest admiration for your great, great courage. I think you have destroyed the power of the hate that these evil acts came from. You have overcome. May Almighty God bless you, and all those you hold dear, forever. I am greatly moved by your courage.
What a gentle soul he is and to top it all off Diana’s brother
Mr Spencer is amazingingly brave and so very humble.
Both the agony and calmness is palpable…..so powerful…❤
What a lovely man is Earl Spencer. Just a pure blood sweetheart. The release of this book is timely, with the world wide push for legalisation of paedophilia. Though it was a painful write, also cathartic, it fits neatly into the cogs of opposition to this horrendous agenda. Thank you so much Charles. And thank you Julia for your gentle interview.
Who's pushing for pedophilia?!
What a wonderful man. He is helping so many people. Truly admirable - thank you from behalf of all humanity!
This was inspirational and very healing. Charles shows great inner strength and humility and reminds me of Diana in many ways
It’s not more disturbing because he’s wealthy. It’s disturbing no matter what child it happens to under any circumstance. If we know anything if we’ve learned anything we should know that money does not matter. If the adults are unwell the children will always suffer. If you have a low income in a loving family you are rich
Pretty disturbing that his parents paid for the privilege.
I agree 100%. Money cannot buy you love which is the most important need to survive particularly in childhood.
Nobody said it was more disturbing because he's wealthy. Poor people always assume that a privileged upbringing is a happy one, which as you say, is not necessarily the case.
@@jennywren8937 the interviewer made a comment referring to it being more disturbing. And “poor people” don’t ‘always’ anything.
This is so terrible what those adults did to those children at that so called school. And no doubt others. Keep talking, and get it so all systems are in place, to never have these predators near children.
This interview has me heartbroken and angry. I’m crying for what Charles went through and for all those sweet innocent boys that endured Madewell. How can
Humanity be so disgusting and cruel? Hope all those teachers have got their karma.
Sadistic adults gravitate to careers where they have authority over the vulnerable. Parents beware. Always question.
Beautifully-done interview…and what an incredibly-courageous man you are, Charles.
There is no doubt that what you have done will impact so many.
This is a story of hurt and horror to relief and redemption. ❤️
Charles Spencer… you have really gone up in my estimation. It’s a very difficult thing you have done. An excellent interview. Think you have done an amazing thing here in helping others.
Charles I am so sorry, i apologise for all the beasts in that appalling place and hope they got karma.
What a courageous ,beautiful man you have become, and the gift to express yourself.
You have I’m sure touched the lives with your bravery, honesty, and exposed them to realise you were all innocent and totally blameless.you have my total respect and love and pray Gods blessings on you and your family Carol N.I.
EMDR and tai chi I’ve experienced does work well for trauma recovery. Charles Spencer has courage and empathy.
Love his manner. My first impression of the Earl, is one of integrity, playing down his status in spite of his birth. Thanku for sharing. A very sensitive balance of first person and third person
How brave. Thank you Charles
Thank you for speaking out. It is so important to bring all this to the light. Too many are destroyed.
Children are so vulnerable.
They should be protected, not abused.
I’m glad to hear he found the Hoffman Process (a seven day retreat looking at childhood) helpful. I did Hoffman and found it immensely helpful and profoundly eased the grief, hurt and anger I was carrying.
Perhaps this is the reason the Earl never attended his daughter's wedding in Cape Town. His son in laws sister, who was matron of honour, was accused of being in a sexual relationship with students at the school where she worked. It was all over the news here in South Africa. Maybe it was just too painful to see his daughter tie the knot into a family like that.
Thank you, dear Charles, for speaking truth. I know in my heart that Diana has been with you throughout the remembering and writing process and is very proud of you. We all are.
Yes.❤
Omg Charles always put a brave and stoic dignified face through the decades of seeing him in the media. For him to bare it all and see such raw emotions makes me cry. It doesn’t matter if you lived a privileged life or not. Abuse is abuse and it tears you apart and lose sight of the future. This revelation is probably frowned upon by the monarch as an uncle to the future king but i’m sure Prince William and Prince Harry are proud of him.
God this is appalling + horrific - so pleased u have managed to rise above + beyond most of this
What a truly touching interview, thank you for your vulnerability, my heart breaks for what Charles went through, and anyone who suffered through childhood trauma knows how hard it is to speak about it, let alone writing a book and putting it out there at the level of publicity that Charles would generate. 🙏
I cried listening to your story Charles. I suffered as a child as well and this brought back memories.
You are so amazing. Wishing you much love and light. ❤
So admire him for revealing his story and not only his story but many others. It will help many I'm sure. There's a saying that says your as sick as your secrets.
Bless you Charles. You are doing good for humanity and knpw you are loved.
Very personal and deeply moving. Courageous effort and delivery. A beacon of light. Thank you for sharing your difficult life experiences. Abandonment and abuse knows no boundaries. Wishing you peace.
Respect for being the man you are.. I have no words.. Kindness your way.. Lochness Scottish Highlands..
Very profound interview. May you experience continued healing as well as all children who have been assaulted in this way.
Just Can’t Get Over The Fact That Upper Class Children Didn’t Attend ‘The Best’ Schools.
I Got Physically Sick Hearing How You Children Were Abused.
Charles Book & Story Will Help Others. God Bless❗️
This kind of abuse was rampant throughout upper class British society even to the royal family.
It is not that they didn't attend the best schools .They did .!!!!!! How silly of you to imagine that they do not have paedophileB- - - - - - -'s in high class expensive schools
The abuse caused boys to cut off their emotions which was to prepare them to rule. This truly explains the mess our elites have gotten the world into. The patriarchal dominance system is based on this abuse and needs to be dismantled for the benefit of Men, Women and Children.
I think it was an upper class. school
@@user-cy4vw1qj9mit was a public School. Americans call them Private. They are Schools for the wealthy and Elite. Like Eton. The most well known of the English Public Schools.
You seem a very nice man. A lovely man to listen to. Thank you for releasing your sorrow and God Bless you. I am from Dublin!
Charles is indeed very well regulated. What an incredible achievement. His understanding of the sadism of his perpetrators is beyond illuminating
This book is on another level in terms of memoirs. Thank you Julia for being willing to address these issues. This interview gave me immense hope and clarity. I needed that. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. A truly heartbreaking and terrifying account. I feel you are speaking out to help others. Thank you. I wish you peace in your future, you are a wonderful man.
Dear…Dear…Charles I have always respected you so much…I now wish I could give you a huge hug…your courage is amazing…stepping out will surely save so many defenseless young souls…
I must say I met you in Charleston,South Carolina many years ago…I admired you then and now you will always have a special place in my heart 💜 Bless you…
Dear Julia , Dear Charles
It is a groundbreaking, gentle, informative and on the highest level touching podcast. You can feel how close you are to him and his family. For Charles to open up on that level will help and alert a lot of people. You both show resilience and care for all this children who went through this and you inform parents to look out for these dark sides. I explains abuse in a clear way and I thank you for this ! I hope a lot of people will see/ hear that. A caring and thank you again - a hug to you both ♥️
wow .what a moving and insightful intervew.my partner is a "boarding school casualty ".damaged so much in him.
julia i remember meeting you when my brother Richard Meredith was chairperson of CHILD BEREAVEMENT UK.he is now a grandad .baby from one of his daughters who lost their mum. x
Thankyou so much for this moving interview. I am so sorry for what Earl Spencer and his fellow pupils went through, at the hands of these vicious tutors. Those that inflicted this terrible evil, will get their karma. It takes alot of bravery to share the survivors stories but in doing so, it can help others.
These sorts of things still go on. Paris Hilton talked about her terrible time at "emotional correction" schools. My time at school in the Eighties was not easy either.
This evil must be stamped out. It still goes on in schools and other institutions. The perpetrators must be brought to justice.
I will get the book soon.
I wish the Earl Spencer and fellow former pupils healing from the traumas that they suffered. Thankyou again for sharing your story. ❤
God bless Charles Spencer! I have never forgotten his extremely passionate and moving eulogy for his sister Princess Diana. He is very brave and by sharing his experience is helping many others.
That was heroic.
Its incredibly powerful for someone in his position to use his 'platform' for good like that.
To reject the shame and be a truther.
I know the uk private school system, they all had at least one. A privileged background may protect you in some ways and exposure you in others, its a mindf***.
The uk is run by an oligarchy of men who were sent away at age 7 or 8 and it shows.
This gives me hope.
I recall my little brother crying as he was being dragged back to boarding school..
@@Jessica-pj4umI would try and talk to him about it, if he is still alive. Help to get it off his chest, if he chooses. They always seem to be seeking answers to what has happened to them. Especially when so much is silenced, intentionally or not.
They are Public Schools. They are expensive Schools to go to so only the wealthy Elites can afford to go there. Eton,. being the most famous Public School in England.
Wonderful and strong man. I admire him.
I went to school from 8 to 16. My housemaster is now in jail for child sex offenses. I welcome Spencer raising awareness but uncomfortable with the attention being on the sexual offences. The real crime is just being sent away to be "looked after" by strange men. This is the darkness that the light should be shone on.
Hear hear, this English prurience about anything sexual is depressingly predictable and misses the point entirely. Not that the sexual perversions weren't awful and corrupting - they were, and have left their traces through my whole life, and so were the beatings and other privations, and there is nothing in Spencer's story that wasn't horribly familiar to me and thousands of others who went through the same things - but imo the crucial underlying trauma is definitely the abandonment by our parents, followed by our complete powerlessness as children subject to the whims of seriously psychotic adults. Spencer is a hero, really, and is doing a great job - but there is quite a lot of stuff he has not worked through yet, including the sexual aspects but also his tendency to label and judge people as 'evil'. That is a sign of the areas he is not yet ready to face and this kind of interviewer will not bring them out or resolve them, unfortunately.
@@gramail2009 One of the giveaways is when he says his sister didn't have it so bad. And this wasnt challenged. Not sure she would have agreed. The other one is his repeated "that was 50 years ago, things have changed now". Doesnt matter how much they are "changed" (and id challenge that), the fundamental harm is done by the abandonment. And any school that boards kids at 7 does not have any childs welfare at heart.
Girls Schools for the elite were treated very good. They would then go in to a Finishing School in Switzerland to learn how to be a good and proper Wife and Hostess for when they got married to someone who would also be Upper Class and Elite. It was not about these Girls having a Career. It was about being a good faithful Wife. Times have moved on thank goodness. Women have their own careers now.
Crying. So sorry. I should write a book, too. I want to help others, and get free of my rage. Thank you. 💜
I am seeing Charles in a whole new light. I respect him so much for coming forth with this secret. I’m so sorry you had to endure this. I hope your writing a book and speaking about this is cathartic and healing for you. Absolutely fantastic interview. I am so impressed with this man and his resilience and ability to look inward and his sincere desire to help others who suffered as he did.
Sensitive snd intelligent interview, heartbreaking stories nothing but admiration for the bravery of writing this book. Hope it helps many you all deserve to be heard.
Heartbreaking to think of generations of young boys who suffered alone. Boys are such tender-hearted little humans and to think of such suffering is too painful to contemplate- but we must. Charles, bless you and may your bravery and honesty continue to heal you and other tender souls.
Julia your kindness knows no bounds - it brings tears to my eyes to hear your compassion and empathy for Charles and all of us who have suffered such as children.
Oh my heart. Wishing continued healing to Charles.
Thank you for your courage Charles. You are an amazing man. Sending you healing love. Julia, your compassion is amazing, also sending you healing love.
Bless you Charles for sharing your terrible childhood experiences with others. I hope you heal and thank you for your courage.
Thank you for sharing these most painful memories; it's only by talking honestly to someone like the wonderful Julia, that we can begin to process the profound trauma we have experienced in life. I wish you well.
thank you for being so brave, your honesty will help people dealing with all forms of trauma, I wish you continued healing
Charles, thank you so much for sharing your story. Julia, thank you for facilitating this conversation, and everything that you do.
Thank you for such an extraordinary interview. Charles has through sharing his own trauma, has also given a voice to all the boys who suffered under those monsters. What's astounding are the tragic parallels between the systemic First Nations residential school abuse cases in Canada and the upper class boarding school abuse Charles and his school mates endured. It goes to show you as he pointed out, no child is safe, even the very privileged.
perps will always go for easy prey; imagine trying that on a grown man, risk of punch on the nose, so go for smaller, weaker, no-one-will-believe individuals