Asking Women About Body Count (Does Body Count Matter? Should Men Care?)
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*Ladies, if you were dating a guy and he took you on a romantic trip to the Maldives, would that make you feel special? Ok, now imagine how you would feel if you discovered you were the 50th girl he took to the Maldives - how would you feel then? This is why body count matters.*
Great comment 😂
@@CourtneyRyan 😏
Agreed lol
Best comment goes to this guy!
The question to women is, can you date a guy who has slept with your sister and your bestfriend??? can you date a boy who has slept with half of the girls in your class??
Im sure they will say NO! so yea.. body count does matter
The woman that said, "Why would you want to know? It's only going to make you upset." That proves that body count matters. If it didn't, it wouldn't make you upset.
Honestly, guys and girls shouldn’t ask each other-I think we can all low key tell without asking. You see a woman and you can definitely guess nowadays. Girls won’t admit it (and I’m sure plenty don’t consciously realize it) but they only go for guys with high body counts. Which means they can tell too.
Negative feelings are innately wrong in this decade apparently 😂
Thats why we cant listen to this channel. It will hurt a lot of men out here and honestly its hurting the women too. Lies may FEEL better in the moment, but will leave you depressed for good reason later.
@@lucascoxe1481 the point of the interviewing girls part of her channel is just letting them tell on themselves.
@@altonsafe Yeah. All they say is "get over it". But when it comes to them to get over something, it's "you should accept me with my flaws".
Modern VVomen are not clowns, they are the entire circus!!!
For a hook up : No
Dating : no
Relationship : yes
Marriage : 100% yes
I co sign on that.
Yep lol
Facts!
I've had 6 gfs since I was 16, 2 relationships with sex since 27, as a male, and I have 0 regrets. I don't need to stack body counts, its demeaning, damages outlook on intimacy and relationships and life. I have omitted porn almost 90% since college, and now early 30s, single, I hope to find a good woman, not just sex. I wish to have family, kids, love. But I would NEVER do this with a woman who had 5+ guys before me at the age of sub 30. I get relationships end, and they imply, sex, but in my case, if she´d have 5+, that means she either leapt thru 20s, or had sex as a teen, which is kinda disgusting to me. She could be a great person, but body count DOES MATTER to every good man. It doesn't matter to players, guys who only want sex. I'm a regular family oriented guy.
Kid: Daddy, do you love mommy?
Me: Yes, but 20 other guys loved her before me.
Kid: O
If they have STD or HIV people have right to know even it’s just a hook up but people love to lie or don’t tell when you have right to know.
This generation is a hot mess. My husband and I had the "body count" convo very very early on. It absolutely matters.
2 here, 33, want a real, decent woman. But she could be a saint, if she has a high body count given moral circumstances, she's not somebody I would see as a mother of my children. Its just life facts.
did you tell him the unreducted truth?
@@pastordonkoh7692 lol 100% because it's his business.
@@ancientslav4863 Too bad its all you're gonna get.
High quality women and quality men both care and should care about it!
Don’t let these extremist feminists gaslight u into thinking differently
The fact that so many people think you shouldn’t “judge someone on their past” is just ridiculous.
*Women don’t care about a man’s past much, it’s the future SHE can have, the future HE will give her. Men know a woman’s history predicts her future quite accurately. No man wants the financial risk or potential loss of his children an uncommitted woman represents. A high female sexual partner background means she does not attach deep commitment. Life is going to happen, the ups & downs. Women don’t withstand the lows of life very well.*
Agree, it's also a lie, we all judge people by their past... if you've killed someone, if you've been to jail, or whatever else i wouldn't feel comfortable in your company and so is for everyone...
You should 100% judge someone on their past. That's why anyone with an IQ over 2 isn't just turning serial killers loose from prison after a few years.
I will add that people find it ok to have a look at your CV, verify your work experience, call previous employers for references, demand clear criminal record so that you can work for them. But when you are choosing the partner for your life, someone you want to have family with and basically split your material possessions 50/50 after marriage, suddenly, that is a problem to ask about one's past.
@@Fujtajblus Also if men and women are in their 30 and women spend those 10 years doing job, getting promotions and being high earner she wont look for men who spend his 10 years working on minimal wage job with no perspective
The exclusivity of a woman's intimacy is what makes a man feel loved.
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Wise beyond your years.
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Can’t agree more
not loved...respected...and not only you...the rest of your family too...if a woman wants to have a husband and kids she should respect them even before they arrive...im not marrying to a bitch and i am not allowing my children to be sons of a bitch
These questions kill me. "Should body count matter? No". Later - "How high of a body count is too high?" They all give answers.
My thought(s) exactly. Total hypocrites.
All of them are morons, it's the same reason why men should never take women's advice on how to get a date with them.
What they mean is "/my/ body count shouldn't matter", not that it doesn't matter at all.
My number, pre-marriage at 23, was zero. My wife's number also was zero. I get that not everyone is going to have that experience in life, but I am so thankful that I did, and it makes everything that I experience with her that much more special. I cannot fathom racking up a count in the 20's. It's basic econ, all other things being equal, the greater a quantity of a thing, the less it is worth. A person's count in some way has to be reflective of the value they place on intimacy.
Exactly! Women with high body counts or even dudes won't ever experience something new and unique with their significant other. They've already done that with other partners. Sex in a car, on the beach, in a stairwell, on an airplane, done this position and that position and put in that hole and that one and all the other sexual things you could have explored with the love of your life, but you or her have already done that with all your other partners and now sex is just a chore instead of a form of intimacy.
love reading this
You are one of likely very few and good for you, honestly. My friends brother married his one and only girlfriend and they were together for 5 years (they got together in high school) before they married.
How do you meet woman like that 😢, second year of college I need an advice here
"Why am I fighting for something that no one else is fighting for? If everyone else has had it, I don't want it" She gets it.
Amazing point
No one wants the town bicycle.
Yet she says we shouldn't care about body count. weird
Yet for most women it's the complete opposite. Ask a reasonably attractive woman if she wants to be with a guy who's a virgin or has had 1/2 partners...or would she rather get with the guy whose slept with dozens of women? Most will pick the guy whose been with dozens of women. In her mind the guy whose been with dozens of women is the more "desirable" guy.
She perfectly described what a guy wants.. but said that body count doesn't matter at beginning makes no sense if u ask me.
Ashley: Body count doesnt matter
Also Ashley: My friends have ridiculous numbers and I think its harmful for them
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I know!!! The thing is, everyone is so afraid to offend nowadays! But the truth, oftentimes, is offensive…
*Female logic.*
She needs a much higher quality of candidates.
Bad company corrupts good character
Thank you!
Just that fact that they felt an urgent need to say something like "Oh no, not like I slept with so many people" after telling about their friends with high BC, speaks for itself.
At gut-level they perfectly know how it matters.
I'm 50, and to hear young girls now saying 30 partners (!!!) might be too high suggests we've been on a downward slide. In my day, having as many as 20 partners (by your mid-20s, say) meant you were queen of the hos. It was and is an outcome far more attainable by women than men, but few people respected guys for having that many. It was "guys will be guys if you let them," yeah, but not respect-worthy.
Also something to note, when they say 30 their realistic number is closer between 60-120
Right? I'm sitting here in my early 40s watching this with an expression of a deer in the headlights. Dunno if I'm supposed to feel underserved or lucky. Geez!
but you are low quality guys so you shouldn't comment
Dude... no kidding. Maybe I'm weird but if a girl told me "10" I'd be grossed out. These videos are fascinating but mostly make me really happy I'm married.
There are more and more adult men without any partners and girls with triple digits in very early 20s.. some 1% guys are having a buffet lol😂
Body count as simple as a handshake is CRAZY 😭😭😂
As a man, everyone you meet you shake their hands and say hello. Don't think you can jump into bed with someone as quick, easily and casually 🤣🤣🤣
Handshakes don't give you herpes or genital warts.
Yeah after listening her in the other videos, that Monique woman has issues.
@@homerj806 I didn’t want to be mean but holy shit. She really is unlikable and delusional based on the income video as well.
@@Lilbinger. Actually, you would be surprised; it seems that Natasha Nice has no more delay or a problem with sex than a handshake. 😁
As a guy who was invisible to women in his 20s, the very idea of even being ABLE to rack up a huge body count by the time you’re 25 or so is just… foreign to me.
It all depends on your situation and your desire to go out and date. I don't want a relationship so no stress there, I've lived around a big downtown area for many years on and off, and have been living alone for 3+ years now.
To age 25 was fairly modest, ~20 at that point. Age 25-28(now).....🤣🤭
Safe sex is the best sex 👍
Wow, 20 is modest. I would have thought 2 or 3 was modest.
@@bman6198 20 is modest? Jesus christ.
Same here. But for women that's the norm for them. Men become much more attractive to women when they're like 25-30.
@@bman6198 My god.. what does that say about me at the age of 27 and still a virgin?
I used to think that body count didn't matter. But now, in a long term happy marriage (8 years) and with three kids, I start questioning what kind of values am I trying to teach my kids. Because I hope that I can guide my kids to be better people than I and my wife are. Body count for man and woman is extremally important.
What people today don't like to admit is that your body count will come out at some time. I have heard 2 stories of a woman saying she had a very low body count and then 10-15 years later at a party, old friends accidently talk about her past. Now she is a liar, and she can not be trusted. In both stories they got a divorce, and when though a lot of pain.
The truth is that men want women with very low body counts.
Exactly women are gate keepers to sex and men are for relationships.. its like saying yeah i been broken up 25 times equivalent to a womans body count of 25 men..
Jesus, some dude out there decided to divorce their wife because, in her past, she fucked some more dudes than he has expected?
Of course there is a quality to a women's sex act after not having any chastity. It is not better and very likely diseased.
I is a statistical fact that men trying to have sex with prostitutes usually cannot achieve an erection, it is not a pleasant experience.
Higher BC also means higher risk of STD's, unwanted pregnancies & other problems. Even when practicing safe sex because accidents happen......It's just common sense, there's a good reason why for hundreds/thousands of years. People taught the idea of waiting until you find the right person/marriage, before sex. In the 20th century that idea started to get tossed out the window. Now sometime in the 21st century, people will realize why it wasn't a good idea to sleep with everyone & why it was best to wait until marriage.
@@michaelbrinks8089 Exactly !!!! I had often said this to myself when going though some heartbreak that involved a girl "This is probably why Traditionally you weren't supposed to do it like this." Old school was not to rush it. For example, my father had to make the journey back to Mexico (1950's), talk to his father and grandfather, then all three of them would go talk to my mom's grandfather and her father to ask for her hand in marriage. This took a lot of planning and time. My mom's family then had to vet my father and his family. After all that he could then officially talk to her, and that consisted of him being able to go to her window, that was barred, and her mom and dad, and the rest of the family outside watching. They've been married for about 65 years now. Crazy when I actually write it down like this. The answers are so clear and simple. I will raise my kids to be traditional.
The girls saying “guys shouldn’t even ask” are clearly ashamed of what it is, if you’re not you’d have no problem answering that question
Just remember ladies, you’re the gatekeeper of sexual opportunity….but men are the gatekeeper of marriage opportunity. As long as men set the standard for who they want to marry, your opinion on your body count doesn’t matter. Either be the woman your dream-guy wants you to be, or do whatever you want and live with what’s left.
Amen to that
Truth
Exactly 💯
Beautifully summarised.
Preach!!!! And let's be real if a woman wants to sleep around that's her choice but she needs to understand that if she does she's no longer in a position to be demanding of men cause she's already set the bar so low for herself countless times.
Courtney: *"Should men care about a woman's body count?"*
Woman: *"NO! Because they're allowed to have 100 bodies and we're NOT? Not that I do, but I'm just saying."*
This is the funniest moment that proves just how serious a woman's body count matters to both men AND women. So she defends women sleeping around frivolously, only to turn around and say that she doesn't do that same thing? You can't make this stuff up.
Some of the girls opinions shifted a bit as we discussed it more! It was neat for me to see the progression as I asked more questions.
u know that there are men with higher body counts than women right?thats bcs of the patriarchy lmao
@@CourtneyRyan opinions or excuses?
@@CourtneyRyan it's literally just them posthoc rationalizing their prejudice with their current situation. NOTHING MORE.
You've been watching "Two and Half Men" haven't you lol A fake character that also happens to be that top 1%er who is rich, young, decent looking and doesn't have to work with a nice Beach House.
I have no intention of asking "What is your body count?" to a potential partner. I will ABSOLUTELY ask "Do you think body count matters?" however, because her answer to that contains all the information I need to know about her. If she says it doesn't matter she doesn't value sexual intimacy highly enough (for my taste) and is probably not the girl for me.
Lol smart. Great idea. If they say yes, then you can follow up with the first question.
great comment underratted
This is freakin GENIUS!!!, i’m doing this from now on!
Cool.. if she says that, she means the higher, the better!!
Now that's clever.
I love how they say body count doesn't matter but quickly follow up with, "But I don't have a high number..." Says everything.
It's only because of sexist, judgemental, insecure assholes who would have a fit over any number higher than 0.
Body count absolutely matters. It's a statistical fact that the higher the count, the higher the likelihood of infidelity. It also affects pair bonding. So yes, it matters.
Exactly.
Are you are religious leader of Taliban?
@@andersnielsen6044 , No it is actual studies the US government agencies have done, Roughly 86% of women who had 1-2 partners prior to marriage are happy in their current marriage, and 38% of women with 6-10 partners prior to marriage are happy in their current marriage, it also has been shown the higher a woman's body count, that it suppresses chemicals in her body that helps her bond to anyone particular partner.
Would make sense. My ex cheated on me and she was the same type of girl who claimed it didn't matter
@@EssPhour And you trust these studies with a pure agenda? Haha, are you a member of Taliban or something like that?
*Body count is NOT the same as asking how many times you've had sex.* A high body count is a sign of commitment issues, stability issues, and possibly self-respect. You can have sex with the same guy for a decade and only him and that wouldn't be a red flag because it shows commitment and stability, but having sex with different guys over a decade and never settling down is a red flag.
A man's worst fear is his girl getting pregnant and not knowing if it's his kid or not. This is why men who are serious about you look at your body count as a sign of commitment and stability. If you're increasing your body count by 20 ever year, that's a very understandable red flag.
20 every decade would also be too many
@@animalgarden825 20 every lifetime is too many. If a woman wants to be a wife, she needs to be in the single digits.
@@jth_printed_designs So she better settle or find a simp that'll be forced to wait until marriage before having sex.
Thats unrelated to bodycount unless u get pregnant. Once again bodycount matte4s because men are terrified of being compared or that she loves D so much she might cheat on you. Data shows that men.and women care equally much about it though.
Bro if it is above 10 at 25 we gotta ask real questions.
Ask the same question to women if judging a man by his income is morally ok or not, and they will say it's ok
Great point.
They will flat out lie and say "if he isn't unemployed it doesn't matter".
random guy on the internet speaking for all women
@@debaronAZK There is a video about this from this creator and all the women except for one was fine with it. That one woman was just paying lip service for the first minute or so and then went along with it.
So what other BS excuses are you going to come up with? That you are different and the exception? The exception to the rule doesn't matter the rule does.
I’m happy this conversation is held by women. I cared about bodycount for a long time. And honestly I’ve been shamed for it. Aspecially being called insecure. But when I hear a bodycount of a girl I’m dating, I never think about “damn, I have to step up my game to compete with all these guys” but I think “ this is not attractive”. But a lot of people sleep around to get validation. That’s insecurity
As a guy with a highish body count (15-20) I can tell you that for me it was 100% for validation. I felt alone and depressed in college and spent a ton of time on dating apps and would sleep with anyone who said yes. No standards, just cause it would make me feel better the next day. Stems completely from a need for validation
@@awsambdaman At least you have enough self reflection to realize why you acted the way you did, you're not trying to downplay your past as if it never happened.
There are a lot of statistics showing that for women - data doesn't show the same thing so much for men - body count is correlated with health issues, commitment issues and mental issues. Sure, doesn't mean it applies for every single case, but in general it holds up
Yep, something like 80% chance of a happy marriage if the woman has one partner compared to 25% if she had five or more. When around half of marriages end in divorce men should not be shamed for having standards for who's finger to put a ring on
Ironic that only women with high body counts mind the question… lmao
It applies to men too
@@moosevision8113 The stat is that women with a body count of 5 or less have a 80% chance of maintaining a healthy and strong marriage and are more able to pair bond with there significant other. Where as women with a body count of 5 and more have a 20% chance of having a healthy marriage and are more prone to divorce and are less likely to pair bond.
@@christianp5486 Sure it does. Just not in the same way it applies to women.
My wife and I were both virgins. We celebrate 36 years married this year. Discovery learning was a lot of fun together.
im envious of you brother, live a good life
getting married with first love is the real winner actually. you are a winner dude.
This is the ideal. Finding a male virgin would truly be a miracle. I am very happy for you and your wife.
@@Pheonix1111 Based on all the latest videos, tons of male virgins out there...
Nice one guy. Good to hear it.
Great video. This used to be something that only comes up in certain dating situations when the connection si strong enough or when there is a bit of insecurity. People don't like to talk about this and can get insecure, but they also don't always know what to think about it. Also very good job with bringing in so many aspects of the question. The conclusion was great, that what really matters in the end is morals, values, connection and it can tell something about those. Great to have the view of certain women who do want an experienced man or someone who is really great at keeping the sexual tension alive.
What’s weird is when your girlfriend tells you she broke off her engagement to a guy who cheated on her, then she proceeds to cheat on you.
Thats how you know the problem was never the ex.. lol if the relationship was perfect why would he cheat? 😂 womens logic blows my mind sometimes
What is weird is that guys believe everything their girlfriends say about their EXs... how dumb do you have to be to not understand that you are getting your info from a source that wants to look good and doesn't want to take responsibility. Also women lie more than men especially about social happenings.
Caring about a women’s bodycount is not insecurity, that’s called having self respect
Facts
No. It is a pure misogyne and patriarchal look on women and a desperate gasp after control and power. Perhaps the Talibans are the ones for you?
#facts
Spot on.
It's not just self-respect, it's also healthcare. I require a full medical workup including blood testing if I'm going to date you. And frankly, I'd still be hesitant about it due to the fact that some STDs can remain in a state of dormancy for decades before signs of infection are exhibited. Notice how not a single one of these women (including Courtney) mentioned the very real health-related dangers of being wanton.
My sister has been with so many guys now that she is unable to truly love a guy. Guy she is with now does everything for her, cooks her food, doesn’t care she has a kid, takes her to his beach house on weekends… and she still leaves her options open (even though she is 32). Emotionally damaged and she can’t properly bond with a guy anymore. So yes, body count matters, and it affects women far more than men.
And that’s what really grinds my gears with these women today. They’re two faced af with no accountability and the studies prove it. Studies correlated the higher the body count the more likely divorce, infidelity, and unhappiness.
Instead of just owning up to it so men can avoid them they shame and degrade them so they grow guilty minds where they feel bad for not liking them.
Pretty much the same for one of my sisters, who knows what man she with right now and honestly neither me nor the rest of the family gives a shit anymore about her stupidities.
Women with a high body counter = High risk of being unable to pair bound which makes them something sane men should stay away from.
@@1856outlander Ma'am, calm down 😅😅😅
It's just flat out DISGUSTING. From a deep primal level, the thought of dozens of dix going balls deep in a chick absolutely repulses men with self respect. It's so gross.
Tell him to find the red pill
I believe it does matter. As a man who has a low count due to only pursuing relationships, I'd be wary of a potential partner whose number is significantly high. To me, that might be a sign of incompatibility in how we view sex and relationships in general. Obviously people could change and there could be a variety of factors at play, but that's just as a rule of thumb for me. I've always been relationship-minded and want a woman who shares those values.
you're on the same boat tbh.
I agree with the women saying she doesnt want to fight for something everyone's already had. I'm down with that vibe.
In the grand scheme of things, body count preference is relative to the individual and that is their choice. The magic number is to not exceed the number of fingers with both hands 😁
Don’t ask women “if men should care about womens body count”
Ask the women if they care about the girlfriend’s body count of their future son!
I know you can tell I’m mentally ducked up just from my comment😂, who say this about them right, it’s good thou, that I’m self aware.
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Very interesting approach, I’ll keep this in mind if i get into a debate with my frmale friends
Sex is like shaking hands… really? Good lord we are doomed.
I dont know anyone getting pregnant from shaking hands
Courtney’s GOTTA get some better people to bring on camera. I don’t care whether they’re “fRiEnDs”
@@AlexanderSkinnerVids No thats the perfect kind of people to have because you see how some women think
@@innocentrage1 or getting an STD?
Never needed an abortion after shaking hands.
Hmmm....I think what matters more than body count is the context behind it. Mine was high early on. Why? Because I was immature, selfish, and not always honest. I also wasn't very selective. As I got into my 30's those things have started to change. In the last 14 years, I've been with four partners. Today, I value people more. So, context is everything.
“Same standard for body count for him and her.” Your terms are acceptable.
Unfortunately if you go to a girl and say you're a virgin as a dude, you're judged as below human and severely unattractive
The way I see it you cant have a high body count and high standards at the same time. Imagine, having a woman demand that you make a $100K to be in a relationship with her, only to find out the last 50 dudes she slept with were broke or made substantially less.
@@Walking.L You can actually do that if you put a new engine in it first. Likewise, a person with a high body count is capable of learning and changing the tendencies that lead them to that point.
The idea of whether a man “should” care is irrelevant, the simple fact is that the overwhelming majority of men DO care. Can’t get mad when a man rejects you for not meeting his standards, while you reject men for not meeting yours. Normal, healthy, consenting adults want what they want, we “shouldn’t” be shamed for it, but that’s rarely the case. Oftentimes reality doesn’t conform to our expectations, better to learn to accept these things.
Men determine marriage opportunity. They set the standard. It is what it is.
@@no_regerts5176 If a woman wants to get married, she needs to be marriageable, that standard is determined by what the prospective husband wants, not what the woman thinks he should want, just like it’s a woman’s right to determine who she’ll sleep with and whose proposal she’ll accept.
@@danielrobinson7824 true that man. The thing is, women ignore this type of stuff for the sake of being sanctimonious, but the thing is you got to have respect for yourself when it comes to these sorts of things. You got to have values in certain things to align with the man you want, you attract what you ARE. If you’re being irresponsible and “free” doing whatever with hopes of no consequences then clearly that’s gonna hit u in the face. We got to have a moral ground.
Indeed! This new trend of females attempting to dictate what men are allowed to want or to not want is ludicrous.
Well that should go both ways. Non virgin men have no business wanting virgins.
Like many people already kinda pointed out. The bod count question is more of a moral/values alignment question than a "i just wanna know" type thing. I personally wouldn't date or sleep with anyone who has theirs above 5-7ish. And before people come at me about being a hypocrite or whatever, mine is less than 3
Once a girl has done it for nothing as they say" lost her virginity" she is a loser and goes from one man to the next,
@@elasticharmony that is a bit extreme don't you think?
@@Hephaestios01 No, it is even biology, 80 percent of all marriages that have no divorce are virgin women. I also speak from my own knowledge, the term is "fallen" , or "Charity". You dont know female mentality, having no respect they really dont care, many just do it with anyone who tries. So, no total losers and there is no redemption that is another false religion ,I would even say they are no good to even bang..
@@elasticharmony got my answer, thanks.
Hey, just wanna say..you are doing a great job by bringing this topic to reality. Subscribed! :) Please continue to do so
Had a coworker approach me, we started talking and this came up. I knew she had a colorful past. She said, "well what does the past have to do with the present? I like to leave the past in the past." I responded, "it depends. How much of that past could potentially wreck our future?" She said, "that's perceptive. I've never had anyone phrase it to me like that!" Nothing wrong with a past but she just had a ton of baggage stemming from a high count so that was scary for me. I liked her but I had to back out!
Woman care about a mans future, a man cares about a womans past
@@ryanshaw7113 Well we care about a past because we feel that it indicates a potential pattern of destructive tendencies that could as Torrence L. put it wreck a future. But people can change and get better. Guess it depends on who you are willing to gamble on, whether you are optimistic about some people.
Never in a million years would I engage in this topic at work especially a female. You’re asking for a sexual harassment claim to hr. If you say you don’t respect women with high body counts and she don’t like it, you’re toast might as well start looking for another job
@@brianwaller7383 "don't shit where you eat unless you're a pig"
@@brianwaller7383 Everythings good, no one lost their job! Nothing you mentioned even came close to happening! Even if she was that type, everyone knew that she had a crush on me and approached me. It wasn't a secret! Several couples who met there ended up getting married. Most are still married! My boss and his wife met there & is still together. This goes all the way up to Corporate as well. It was encouraged, celebrated & not frowned upon. We just needed to not let it get in the way of work. As 1 of 8 Sr. Directors part of my responsibilities is HR!
"There's nothing wrong with women that have a lot of bodies. I salute you queen"
"NOT THAT I WOULD EVER DO THAT IM NOT THAT TYPE OF GIRL"
Uh huh:.. haha
A queen doesn't have a high body count.
Body count should matter for both genders. I don't understand how it should not matter since if someone has been over 50 relationships than you need to consider why these relationship's didn't work out.
🤣 😂 🤣
She said, with her breasts out on the internet.
You don't need 30 minutes to be told yes. If in dating, men and obtaining committed relationships from them is what you want, yes. It matters.
I love how they say it doesn’t matter and quickly follow that with “I’m not saying that I have a high number”. Even though no one is asking them personally if they have a high body count.😂
Exactly. They KNOW it matters, and furthermore saying they don't think it should matter would lead one to believe she's been jumping from 🍆 to 🥖
Cuz they know deep down THAT IT DOES MATTER
Exactly
a woman saying "body count does not matter" means "I want non responsibility for my actions, no accountability for me projecting all my past trauma onto my future partners, and me not being able to pair bond with my male counterpart, because I'm already thinking about the next guy."
Pay attention... body count affects mostly your mind, not your body.
At the end of the day - no matter how painful - transparency and communication is the best way to go about it. If the man isn't comfortable with your body count then it's best for both parties to just be honest and move forward from there. If it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out.
As a man, I can say it would hurt a lot more to fall in love with someone only to found out 6+ months down the road that she lied about their body count. Bottom line is it's deceitful and it makes us feel like we got fooled which is a problem. Add to that the potential of body count mattering to that person, it's just a recipe for disaster. Why risk letting resentment fester in your partner in the long run? Just be honest from the jump
Agreed!
But no men will though?
@@cool28990 Transparency applies equally both ways. Takes two communicate
True! Just be honest from the get go. Know what you want and your expectations and requirements for your desired partner.
A women can have a high body count but she has to accept the idea of putting aside any thoughts of being seen as wife material because unfortunately she will always be comparing the poor bastard she hooks up with to the 50 other Chad's that she let run a train on her.
Body count might be the best indicator of the probability for relationship longevity success. Couples that get married that have had no other sexual partners have a much better chance of lasting when compared to those who have had multiple sexual partners. Anyone who is interested in committing to someone else, should know the body count of the person they plan to commit to - at least a ballpark idea. A high body count can indicate a strong appetite for variation and a low ability to commit. It is an important question to ask and an important answer to be honest about. Above all a relationship needs to be built on trust and honesty. Just be honest and open about your past.
I think the body count is a guide to help judge if a person might stay loyal to you. I think the person with high body contact is less likely to settle and willing to bond with you and more likely to just see their time with you as just sex until the feelings die then they just move on immediately.
It 100% matters to men with options, as they view women with high BC as useful for sex only and not long-term relationships. High BC for men is viewed positively for women, regardless of what they say, because they view that man as capable of achieving sexual success...usually due to him achieving other areas of success (money, status...). Any woman giving away her most prized possession early in life is delusional if she thinks it doesn't matter to men.
Women don't want a cheater either. Purity doesn't matter as much to them but if they're a whore they're more likely to want a fuckboy and they would probably end up cheating on each other and eventually have an open relationship.
When men get over a count of 50, or 100, their pair bonding abilities drop linearly, yet not even close to a 45° angle, yet when women get over a count of 2, their pair bonding abilities exponentially decline. This is why it matters to men. Women will compare&judge 24/7 and it gets worse with each lay. Men can separate that. Some can pass 100 bodies and have no issues dedicating&bonding. Men&women are different folks
But if women accept that a high body count for them is bad, why would they view a high body count for men as good seeing that this creates an externality producing high body count women which is bad for them? Why would they want to be with a man who destroys women's dating prospects?
@@Moshm4n I think most people, both men and women, view people of both genders with high bodycounts as somewhat "damaged".
@@Moshm4n *Hypergamy* *_is why._*
The double standard on this issue exists solely because men care about body count and women don't.
Saying that men should not care about body count is to assume that men and women should be the same, which is a biological impossibility.
Virgin women aren't gonna want a guy who's been with 50 girls. I'm waiting for marriage and will only accept a virgin. If I'm saving myself and have control, then he should too.
@@daniellehotsky1776 It depends what stage you are in life. It has less todo with maturity. If you are looking for something real and you are still in your early twenties it matters but if you are a jaded 30 yearold who has already been through lots of life it doesn't.
@@daniellehotsky1776 It depends what relationship you're looking for. If you're into polyamory or serial monogamy, it doesn't matter much. However, if you're looking for lifelong monogamy, then body count is absolutely an important indicator.
I get the biological preference than men have towards low body count. When I was younger it mattered to me, but now that I'm older and experienced its not really a factor. A low body count isn't a direct indicator if she's a decent human being. It has more to do with a biological insecurity.
Also, few people that about why women would prefer a "lower" body count. No its not nearly as important to her, but she doesn't want to share her resources with other women. I assure you. Women want a guy who's desirable and experienced enough to please her, but not a guy who's either not good enough to lock down, poses an STD risk, and/or unable to commit to her to provide his resources.
So yes, women care about body count. They just don't desire total virgins and basically don't want a body count that is as high as your age.
A woman should worry about a man's body count on the basis of whether he got any previous partners pregnant. Say a man named Louis meets a woman named Tamiko, and both of them are around 30 years of age. After about 5 dates, Tamiko asks Louis if he has slept with women before, and his answer is "at least 10". Her main concern should then be how many of those 10+ women became pregnant after they slept with him, because this would translate to him having issues with being a parent if any of those women did give birth to a child.
Personally, im at 4. And i regret 2 of them. If i could take those times back and undo it i would. For me its about comfort. Id be uncomfortable with someone more experienced. I dont want to be told what that person likes b.c it means someone else did that 1st. I wont feel special. I wont feel like im achieving something. It will feel like im just repeating what someone else did.
Aside from pair bonding which is a real psychological concern, it's interesting how some people just blow it off as an issue. Back in the day it was a concern If a woman was active outside of any relationship, it was generally known from the grapevine. Your friends would call you nuts to get involved with her.
It still rings true that if you are hooking up frequently ...you pass on any condition from the previous partner to the next one and so on. If you ask the question about body count you won't get an honest answer so why get involved? Everyone gets judged by their past so complaining about that isn't reality. Your resume is your past and you get judged by that
Also today where they allow this the atomic bomb is also allowed where as back then no one would really do it
Gotta love how these girls’ brains work. So they’re all pretty much on the same boat of “not judging someone based on their past” but if you think about that for literally 3 seconds, you immediately see all the issues with that. If you knew that a guy beat up all the women he was with, would you look the other way and still go out with him? What if this guy cheated on every one of his 25 girlfriends?? You’re gonna sit there and tell me you’re going to “keep an open mind” and look past that?? What information about a man are you using to determine someone’s value?? Their potential?? Even that is based on actions taken IN THE PAST. They’re just a bucket of meaningless words these girls. Not trying to be mean here, but I can’t stand the BS
My thoughts EXACTLY!!
Just got cheated on
Women are just spoiled brats. They have no clue about real life because we coddle them and it’ll always be this way
I'm not supporting promiscous lifestyle and i believe it impacts the person which is living it, but how is sex comparable to things like beating or cheating?
@@c.c6909 well I’m not making a direct comparison between those things, but my point is that almost of all them said that “their past doesn’t matter”. That’s absurd. Most of them aren’t even 25 yet right? You think a normal 25 year old has 20 heartbreaks? Assuming your body count is 20? You really think those are all meaningful relationships that just ended? If I hear of someone that is 25 and has that many bodies down, you can at least assume that there’s a high likelihood that you might get used for sex and not have anything meaningful in the end.
“Men who care about body count are immature and insecure”
- Insecure and immature women
*women who have a high body count
@@jayrod1980 I’m a virgin and I say that. But also. Don’t f complain when your virgin wife kill you or cheat on your ass.
The question that you asked at around 12:15 in the video is a great question since it puts out into their perspective how these qualities can be equivalent in what we consider in a partner
There's such an enormous amount of pressure on men to be good at sex that I definitely 100% understand guys being insecure about not having a high body count.
Yeah maybe your just a normal guy but the woman has already been with tri athletes hopped up on steroids and viagra. Now your supposed to live up to that?
I personally think that the higher the body count, the more difficult it’ll be to connect with the person long term. Cause that said person with a high body count knows they got options and that little thing will always be in the back of their head. We have a number of statistics showing that people with higher body counts are more likely to get a divorce.
That's so true buddy☝️
It’s factually true you lose the ability to pair bond as strongly
Does the statistics apply to women only or both men and women?
@@avapilsen I would say it's obvious it's both.
@@avapilsen I purposely used gender neutral words so anyone wouldn’t ask that question
Having a ton of sex with a ton of people is an important trait to who you are as a person. It's also a huge tell tale sign if a woman is capable of being monogmous and honest. And if you're trying to get sex out of her on the first couple dates and she's so easy with everyone else but not on you then you know that they're more after your wallet and wants your stability. Which means you'll just be a tool to them.
Exactly. It exposes people !
High body count is bad for either partner! Just think of the STDs
These girls are so forgiving! I am amazed. I am 30 years old. My body count is 2. Two! I am not shaming other but I am shocked by acceptance of 30?!
I can't imagine even 5.
If they're accepting of 30 it's because their own number is higher.
As a guy it doesn't really matter that much. In guys heads sex and committed relationships are separate.
Body count matters because it correlates with a few things:
1) being bad at picking long term partners.
2) disease risk
3) cheating (they know they can get someone better in at least one way... And when bored, one better thing is enough to ignore everything else) risk.
Not necessarily. If you're going for a long term partner, sexual compatibility matters. How are you going to find out if you're compatible or not? Fill out a survey?
@@nimz8521 If you need 100 partners to find one you're sexually compatible with for a long-term relationship... you are HORRIBLE at communicating expectations beforehand, or at choosing folks you think can meet your expectations.
Communications skills are crucial to long term relationships.
@@nimz8521 I have been around the block a few times. For me, the number one way to discover if you are sexually compatible without having sex is french kissing. A girl who does not want to means absolutely she is not attracted physically to me. A girl who is willing but there is no chemistry in the dancing of the tongues means there won't be in bed. But, If she is willing and there is that chemistry it absolutely correlates to sexual compatibility. So far, it has been foolproof and unfortunately I married a girl who said she can't french kiss till marriage as a christian. Boy was I stupid. She didn't french kiss afterwards and there was no sexual desire by her at all, even though I gave her orgasms each time.
Thats clearly 3 things
@@Dudelee1 they are quite associated because "accuse others of that which you are guilty" is nothing new. A cheater can infect their partner and then go "hey you must have given me that disease! You must have cheated! " quite easily to cover up their own infidelity .
But you are right, split into 3 items.
Your past is the blueprint for your future, so your past matters a lot, same thing applies to body count, if it's ridiculously high it's a major prediction you'd be unsatisfied in future relationships
Edit: don't listen to women who says you shouldn't care about their body count, it's a recipe for disaster
@lati long We are not saying that it doesn't.
It's not about if men SHOULD care about body count. For those of us with any amount of self-respect looking for a serious relationship, we DO.
To the girls that say " why would you want to know?! it'll just make you upset". Tell me you're for the streets without telling me you're for the streets.
you shouldn't care unless you're a virgin.
Not a single one of these girls wants you to ask them about their body count which is pretty damn indicative of Chad getting the no strings attached plow nights and you have to pick up the scraps once these mid 20s women start hitting the end of their primes. Lord...
One of the best comments on the matter, so true
This is easy. YES. It does matter. Sad that this is even a question.
Very interesting video and insight. I don't judge how anyone wants to live their life but for me personally, I wouldn't have sex until engagement or marriage (not religious but I come from a fairly conservative culture). Most guys would leave right when I say that, but that actually helps weed people out who are not compatible with me.
Public comment. I am happy and proud of you moral and respect matters. ❤
We live in a broken world. A high body count just speaks of a broken person. The more partners you have the more broken you become. It tells me our society/ culture has got it terrible wrong. Even the expression “body count” is a repulsive term for what was intended to be the ultimate expression of love between two people, male and female.
It absolutely matters! It shows how they value their body and how easily they give it up. It’s a good indication of character.
no, it doesnt
@@iulianmititel3552 lol keep telling yourself that
@@iulianmititel3552 L
I don't know about character. It does give you some insight into a woman's level of self-esteem, however. Low self-esteem women are great for short-term relationships and quick sex, but a disaster for long-term relationships or marriage (for those who still want to participate). So it depends on what you are looking for.
@@iulianmititel3552 Simp
It absolutely matters, someone's past is a great indicator of their current character. I've never met a man that didn't care about their long term partners body count.
Well, I'm a man and I don't care. So, congratz, met your first one today.
@@Nr4747 You're not a man.
@@oemj7147 I guess not parroting the majority opinion in an echo chamber isn't "manly" enough for you ?
@@Nr4747 It's not an opinion. It's a fact that men are wired to reject promiscuity in the opposite secs.
@@oemj7147 Never heard of such a fact, either in biology class nor later. It's fine that you're a virgin that is exclusively dating virgins, but that is still only your opinion/dating preference.
i honestly dont get the mentality of the girl that said "men are allowed to have 10o body count.." because WHO is allowing them to have body counts that high that dont matter? Women? Women are the one's allowing it.... so.. blame yourself if a bodycount that high doesnt matter to you and you find out the hardway why its that high.
This video just shows how a healthy psycho-spiritual perspective of sex has been deteriorated even in the minds of supposed decent girls in today's society. Body count definitely matters. Sex is sacred.
It 110% matters, having a high body count shows commitment issues and a number of other issues. This goes for BOTH men and women! If somebody downplays the loving act of sex for what it really is and simplifies it down to being like a handshake, then they've got some serious issues to sort out and I wouldn't want to date anybody who thinks of sex in that way. Where is the simple love anymore?
With maturity we should learn that life is not a porno, and that there are consequences for actions, too high a body count indicates a lack of principles, or concern for personal safety. It is not someone who holds relationships sacred, with whom one should start a family with.
Yeah… no. Men’s satisfaction goes up after 9 bodies- literally the exact opposite of a woman, who becomes statistically undateable and loses her pair bonding mechanism after that many
@@nickharris9218 men who sleep around are only seen as desirable by women who sleep around. No woman who saved herself would look at a man with a high body count and think “he’s a catch!”
@@nickharris9218 And what makes u thinks that a woman with no/low body count would want to marry a man like that? You have no business demanding something that u yourself are not.
The difference is, a woman with a high body count chooses to, because it's 80-90% women who end relationships.
This is really simple.
A woman with a high body count is for entertainment only but not for taking seriously as a long-term relationship partner.
Party with the party girls, but traditional women with traditional values are wife material.
Its only the party girls with a high body count that are upset that they have to pay consequences for their own decisions.
Why would a traditional wife want a party boy like you? If you don't like party girls why are you having sex with them? I would be concerned if I was dating you, clearly you feel contempt for women who sleep with you...
My ex wife once told me that "the way a person folds their towel says a lot about them." My response was "but how many guys you sleep with doesn't?". These are clearly women with body counts they know are problematic to finding a high value spouse.
Body count matters insofar as every man gets compared to previous lovers. More to the point, current lover gets compared to the best memories a woman has of previous lovers. She edits out the memories she doesn't like, like the reasons she broke up with him, and only compares current lover to the qualities she appreciated about past lovers. If Bob (former lover) stood her up routinely, emotionally abused her, and cheated on her BUT really knew what he was doing in that one position, David (current lover) gets compared to Bob based on that one position Bob used to make her feel good. No matter how well David treats her elsewhere in the relationship, she's always going to be resentful of David because he doesn't make her feel the way Bob did in those special moments. The more lovers a woman has, the more of these taken-out-of-context memories a woman has. Current lover as a total package gets compared to the highlights of all previous relationships. A woman reaches the point at which no mortal man can compete with the highlights of all her former relationships. So body count does matter because each body in the count adds up to a set of expectations later lovers cannot hope to meet.
Exactly and women think that they can be like men but they can't. They're more sensitive and emotional than men they build these emotional connections a lot more easily and are broken a lot more easily then men.
This is spot on, ive seen this in my own parents marriage.
If you're thinking about your past lovers in your mind and longing for them, you're already cheating.
Here I am thinking a high body is like 5-7 people and after watching this video and hearing 25-50 plus is a high body count. Holy cow!! Body count matters for both sides because it tells me how much self control you have and how much you respect the other sex. It really baffles me how both sides can't control keeping their pants on in any sort of dating scene. Here I am looking for someone who wants to go apple picking or the local christmas parade and most of the world is out there just trying to screw each other.
A high female body count positively correlates to divorce. Past behavior is a predictor of future outcomes, more so for women in this metric.
You don’t think men having hundreds of women is an issue?
@@DarkerPhoenix1 a high body count is bad period. But it's worse for women that it is men when correlated with relationship outcomes.
@@dukeonwheels Based on what study?
@@dukeonwheels What do you think is more damaging? A guy having unprotected sex with 100 women in a year or a woman having unprotected sex with 100 men in a year?
@@DarkerPhoenix1 woman cause she can get pregnant, catch an std herself, also potentially pass an std to the baby. Versus a man can just catch an std.
I believe this varies by person to person, some people in general are open about that number, others aren't however, this doesn't mean that everyone should agree or disagree with one sided, for me personally yes it does matter, like I can open about mine as a male and say that I am 0 does that make me feel insecure or condifident well neither, although some people might disagree with me and say the opposite of body count and a person's feeling & thats their opinion & this is mine but there is also the facts too. I believe in the equality principle in dating, so this means she also has to reveal, just like I did and we have to match the same level of energy & vibe, given the statictical data of an individual in a relationship, while body count may or may not mean experience in game, for some people, I feel like I am more knowledgeable than experienced, when it comes to sexual health.
I appreciate this video; the woman are very rational. So many of videos like this are to one side or the other (pro-promiscuity or prudishness) whilst these woman acknowledge the nuance.
Full disclosure: I am a 28 year old straight male and have only been with 1 woman, my current girlfriend. I made it to oral/third-base with two more prior to her.
This shows how women think with their feelings rather than with logic and unconsciously contradict themselves within a relatively short conversation.
cognitive dissonance
Men are idealists and women are rational praglatists and it drives men fucking crazy. Sorry but it's often true. My experience has been seeing men think incredibly irrationally and emotionally with women. "I need him to have money" for example is a cold bloodedly rationalist and logical view. What makes you guys so butthurt is you adhere to an irrational code of honour.
Uuuu a hot and spicy sexist take
What is logical about caring about someones past when we are in the present? What is logical about using someones past to define them and judge them when it is a known fact that people change, beliefs change, and opinions change?
@@Blub2cool
What's the simple reality is that people don't change. Especially from stuffs that gives u heavy doses of dopamine, like hook-up culture. There's a reason why there are far more addi-cts to everything, than the number of rec0vered people.
Moreover, Men Care about the sta-tus of their partner. Their partner's stat-us would affect their sta-tus. And Men are competitive, and territorial. When 50 dudes h-ad h-er, she won't feel spe-cial to a m-an.
When women's standards increase, the more of a c0nquest they become.
And When she has lesser part-ner c0unt, it shows that she is a discipl-ined w0man, who val-ues her b0dy. Sh-e is a much safer inve-stment of time.
For me, body count is less about sexual experience and much more about capacity/desire to engage in relationships. Let's face it, once body count rises past zero, there's almost no correlation between body count and sexual experience. What a "high" body count does represent is either the person is never in a committed long-term relationship or is cheating while in such relationships. The latter is a deal-breaker for me and the former is a major red flag: at a minimum, the person has not developed the skills necessary to maintain a relationship.
Well said 🎯
Or, you know, they might just enjoy/have enjoyed to be single and mingle, at least for a while ? Not everyone who does/did that automatically is or was unable to form meaningful relationships.
@@Nr4747 Where did I write unable? We generally don't teach people the skills and attitudes necessary to sustain long term relationships, so they need to be learned through practice -- and such skills are pretty much necessary to have a chance at success. A history of limited long-term relationships is a red flag if that is important to me. Past performance cannot guarantee future performance, but it is typically the only signal available to one.
Props to Ashley ... The only one that made any sense!!! The others like don't judge on their past ... WTF??? So if a man is a serial killer/rapist/murderer/beater in his past ... he's still date-able marriage material ... NUTS !!! .... Guys ... Never listen to women for dating advice
Women care about a man's future... men cares about a woman's past.
“Does body count matter?”
First girl: “UMmm I think it matters to some people, and if it matters to you then that’s fine…”
Ma’am she’s directly asking YOU the question. Crazy how some people will talk in circles.
And I have to laugh at their attempts at psychological analysis.
Yes&no questions are hard for women, because they are emotional creatures, while we are rational beings. They express Thoughts with "I feel" where men say I think, in my experience, or what I've learned. Big difference.
Notice Courtney asks a do you think question, and the one girl replies ummmmm I feel.... Can't blame them. They're wired different. Many women can think critically and express candidly yet many protect themselves by appealing to what makes them come off as a good girl, even if they don't believe in what they say
Straw man fallacy.
"If men can do it, so can I." Just be the bigger person.
But is she a man though?
They don’t realize how easy it is for women. I can’t just get 10 women to sleep with me just for existing
@@wesleygriffin7857 yup they are too used to having 100s DMs in their inbox from thirsty dudes on instagram.
@@wesleygriffin7857 I agree totally. I've commented that a man with high body count really has to work at it as well as has to be pretty good looking I'm guessing. And I'm not saying that's great either but compared to an average woman that could easily rack up a large body count if she has a similar sexual drive to most average men. So in my assumption an average women out there has a higher body count then the average man imo. And that leads to if your talking about a woman with a really high body count or presumption of one, since they lie just like men do, your best bet is to say have a nice day.
@@wesleygriffin7857 I would have loved for Courtney to ask their thoughts on the statement "Men sleep with who they can. Women sleep with who they want"
To the ladies who say that body count shouldn’t matter to men, would you want a man who has had a dozen bankruptcies and a dozen divorces under his belt? If not, then why not? Why should his past matter?
If a man doesn’t care about your body count, he’s either one of the very few to whom it doesn’t matter, or he doesn’t view you as a long-term partner. Men don’t care if you’ve been ran through if we’re intending to use you for fun, but we absolutely care if we’re wanting to wife you up.
I think that it depends on your experience with the opposite sex. For me personally, not just in my own relationships, but also in the lives of those around me, I've seen a lot more women cheating than men. Women are at a disadvantage with me because of that, because I already see them as, to be honest, kind of untrustworthy. Definitely not as faithful or constant as men. So yes, a woman's body count matters to me, because even though everybody's different, in my experience women tend to be pretty cavalier and inconsiderate when it comes to sex, and I'm not into that. People can change, and it's good to give people the benefit of the doubt to some degree, but it definitely sends my antennae up.
I remember being asked what my body count was. My response was the least expected kind of answer:
"I have never killed anyone."
😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Douché
Then just before she responds, interject: "...but I've got time". Then go grab a snack for a couple minutes.
@@Christinascupcakes I hope you realize that "body count" can also mean how many people someone had killed.
Body count matters to me because it makes me doubt whether or not the woman genuinely loves and is attracted to her husband, not just settling for him.
Because the guys she really wants don’t want her 💯
*Most women are “settling” when getting married, 99% of them will NEVER EVER admit that. A small minority of women getting engaged accept marriage proposals from men who are not from among their ideal preferences. Women LOVE to shop, and LOVE to get things important to them which tick off as many checklist desires as possible. This fundamental female trait has been eroded by the recent barrage of imagery and associated emotion which have lengthened the “must have” list to nearly impossible. Big earners who are handsome, well endowed, loyal, faithful, understanding, willing to meet nearly every wife request, desire & preference are extremely rare, because of female subjectivity for each requirement.*
@@michaelwielingen7696 Or their just not the right person you bring home to your parents.
The girl that says sex is just a handshake... yeah, no signs of intimacy issues there.
I will never be gaslit into accepting somebody that slept with that many people before they met me. The stats are there, and it doesn't bode well for a long-lasting relationship.
You should ask Stella if my past as an amphetamine addict shouldn't matter to her.
Best prediction of future behavior is past behavior. And the Maldives comment was also spot on. As well as the master key saying.
Exactly
You still using?
@@renardbennett75 4 years clean
@@angmori172 Well, for starters, congratulations! Getting and staying clean is not easy at all… That aside you yourself are a prime example of why the past shouldn’t be the most important metric by which you judge someone. You’re ability to get clean is an example of how, despite past failures, people can change and evolve. I would be less concerned with the particulars of what occurred in a woman’s past, and more concerned about what she learned from it, and what her present mindset is as a result.
@@renardbennett75 I made that point elsewhere on not judging someone by their past. It's circumstantial and look at actions, not words. I'm an alcoholic and have been sober for a while and have faced my demons and learned proper coping mechanisms. I've been tried and tested in sobriety and I prevailed; I won't go back. And yet I still have that held against me about 50% of the time. However I'll add the caveat that in many cases, when it comes to any form of addiction, women hold it against men not because of them specifically, but because they've already had bad experiences with it in the past and it's not a risk they want to take again. I understand that and don't blame them one bit. I've told women I really click with who said they were unsure or hesitant, "If you're questioning it because you're worried I'll relapse one day, move on. Because constantly questioning or being worried all the time will cause an issue and undue stress eventually. So just avoid people like us altogether". So really there's no one right answer to whether or not to hold someone's past against them; there are too may factors.
Yes it does matter to us men....a lot. A woman with "too much" experience on this field is not desirable (at least for high value men with options), cause her past indicates that either her choices were poor (falling for chads and players who seek for casual sex) or that she failed to properly commit to a long term relationship with a good man.
fellas.. if she says she 'lost count' or 'wasnt keeping track' then just quietly send her back to the streets and go on about your life
High body count implies someone who giveS their love AWAY VERY, very EASILY.
To me, that's a Very, very Big Red Flag.
Is this standard only applied to women?
For anyone planning on being in a relationship at some point, body count has to matter regardless of whether you're a man or woman. For the people who aren't bothered they should do as they please. And yes asking someone their number isn't great but once in a relationship you shouldn't have to lie because the best relationships are all about honesty and trust. Also without doubt the best sex is with 1 person over time based on discovery not 1 night stands with lots of people.
Relationship sex is often better than one night stands. However, relationship sex gets dull for both parties after a few years - even with experimenting. Women actually get bored far quicker than men do. It's just biology.
Unfortunately not a lot of people are ever going to get this for life. Our society is just a bunch of sex in the city, kids out of wedlock, and depression.
Monique is a true 304 through and through, comparing sex to a handshake like it's "just an activity". What a scalawag 🙅🏽♂️
You can tell her I said that. Quote me
Here's your upvote for using "scalawag".
I don't know you, but I like the cut of your jib.
@@bros4654 upvote for “cut of your jib”
I suspect most of these girls have shivered a few timbers. I was expecting that in their twenties they might be talking about a body count between 2-5, not every guy at Kent State.
let me put it that way: You should never buy a rental car after it is phased out by the rental company. Blown out gasket might be the least of your issues.
I’ll tell you why the body count matters….. because it directly relates to how much you value your body which in turn relates to how much you value the bond of the person you will want to marry. These high body count women don’t look at sex as part of a bond that will hold a relationship together. Sex to these girls with high body counts are only in it for the action and not the value. And I am not talking about getting the value of money and gifts and surface crap that rich guys or guys they can manipulate will give them. I am talking about the value of having a deep connection and fulfillment of being emotionally bonded. It is all in the mindset. A girl that is picky with who they have sex with and covets sex with another man jealously will stay more true than one that just gives it up because they just want to have fun or they think it gives them some kind of feminine power (which is a false belief). If they just casually have sex with whoever, then they will never be faithful because they are unable to bond exclusively to one good man.
And they don’t even realize that this is the make-or-break issue for the “Good Guys” because it is a big indicator on whether or not a girl can be a faithful wife. I would be very very suspect of any girl that is unwilling to give a body count. It does make a difference and we know that you will not stay with us because of it. It is not an “if” you cheat or leave, it is a “when.”
If these girls have not protected themselves from just being passed around and feel that sex is just something to be done instead of something that bonds, then they are not wife material. And honestly, there will be nothing I can say that will convince these girls that having sex with someone with that they spent time building feelings. . . .and I mean true feelings . . . and bonding with them emotionally will be better and more fulfilling than they could have ever imagined. They will spout how it shouldn’t matter and how it is men who are the problem for finding a good relationship when in reality it is them…. their type…. their mentality. . . . their whimsical attitude towards sex. . . .that is the problem and makes them unwifeable. And good men can smell it a mile away.
After 5 or ten in their body count…. I would say that they are never going to be wifeable material.