Loving Someone with PMDD: The Impact of PMDD on Partners -- Aaron Kinghorn IAPMD Roundtable
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- Loving Someone with PMDD: The Impact of PMDD on Partners -- Aaron Kinghorn, DDS, IAPMD PMDD Partners Video Support Group Leader
Learn More about the Roundtable: IAPMD.org/pcc
Support Group Options: IAPMD.org/peer-support
The research into how PMDD affects partners cannot be undervalued nor ignored. I’m a PMDD sufferer and so is my partner, without whom I’d live a very different life. Please continue this important research. Partners suffer too and are expected to ride the reoccurring tsunami. Thank you for dedicating your resources to this area. Stay strong.
The husband thinks I’m justifying my behaviour by asking him to educate himself
@@Noname-hs5lx That's a tough one. You have a battle ahead of you there. Tell him from me, it's a matter of life or death and he has the power to bring you life if he chooses.
This is so helpful thank you but it also makes me so emotional to know that I am not alone and not crazy. My partner and I who are now parents had your typical fairytale love story until after having our first child my 2 day PMS symptoms randomly escalated to 10 days of intense rage and emotions that were uncontrollable a few times even where I got physical. I would come down from this “demon”‘that’s what it feels like and would be extremely apologetic and embarrassed when finally diagnosed I was relieved to put a name to what I was experience my partner however has been struggling in the empathy department. How can I blame him if the roles were reversed would I stay? I feel so bad for both him and myself. He’s a great person very dedicated to me and out daughter (our family) and he doesn’t deserve the episodes
Thank you!!! It's hell!!!!
Good one
I love this Video. I have been begging my husband to watch your videos. I’ve sent to him. I’ve only recently in the last year found out what PMDD is and it has taken my life over the last 5 years since my third child was born. It happened the two other times but the fathers left me and I wasn’t married. I didn’t realise.
Now I’m about to ... be abandoned I guess. Covid is making it hard for me to get the help I’m screaming for - I want the ovaries out or what not . Please help me. I’m 43 Australian.
Hi Sylvia! I'm sorry you're struggling so much. We understand how frustrating life with PMDD can be. You are not alone. We are here to talk. Please connect with our trained peer support providers at iapmd.org/peer-support or by emailing support@iapmd.org.
You could also look at the provider directory map here, with doctors recommended by other #PMDDPeeps. If there is no one listed near you yet, don’t worry! It does not mean they don't exist, just that they have not been recommended yet. There is a guide on the page to finding a doctor near you: IAPMD.org/provider-directory.
Sophie - IAPMD.
I have been supporting my girlfriend for 5 years now. But recently her PMDD has become abusive towards me and to some degree our daughter. It is badly affecting my mental and physical health. And I am worried about my daughter. It is also heavily affecting my social interactions as friends are turning their back on us. We tried many things but nothing helps. I don't know what to do other than prepare for breaking up.
Is she searching for solutions? Is she working on supplements, diets, exercise, therapy etc?
@roblew1 sorry to hear that. I know my pmdd got a lot better once I understood what it was and looked into supplements and so on. But it sounds like breaking up was probably the best option for you
Good luck moving forwards
It can be overcome and managed, but both parties need to know everything about psychology and how to apply it and be decided about what principles in every area of life down to where you place the tooth brush that you're going to agree upon to make the relatioship work. I have given both mine and my husbands testimony in two recent comments in this thread if you're interested in reading. I'm sorry and I'm also not sorry that you've had to go through this. You're possibly grieving loss, if nothing else a feeling of lost time if the relationship is over, But on the other hand, you will have learned a thing or two that you can carry into the future regardless of the direction you take.
I have been blocked from making any more comments on this post.
Hello everyone! I short update here. We are still together. I have gotten used to this miserable situation of being told how ugly and useless I am once a month. The reason I put up with this is my daughter, who is five. I don't care about anything else than her well-being. I will separate from my partner as soon as she is old enough for me to raise her all on my own. Until then I just go numb and wait.
I would want my son to be happy, I would want that for him, but I wouldn't want him raising his children in a toxic environment. I raised my son on my own with PMDD and he at 18, is now a very self aware and emotionally strong individual who advises me on my emotional health because of how much he learned in our relationship. We have a great relationship and he tells me 'mum, I thank you for raising me the way you did.'
I will say however, that I think my story is unique for many reasons. I had to 'micromanage' my life to ensure that what I understood about brain development and childhood development was applied to him. I also had to find courage in faith against fear and controlled myself against the extreme feelings that could have lead me to hurt, in order to be the parent he needed and to protect him from myself. I say all of this to bring you hope or perspective if that's what you're looking for, but everyone has different amounts of knowledge and a complexity of circumstances that weigh in on decision making. PMDD will test every ounce of strength both parties have and push to a greater understanding of truth. It is the most painful experience of my life. My husband says that I am the most difficult relationship he has had, but the most rewarding. The fact that you are here, shows me that you are searching for answers. That itself is enough to show that you are a good person and I wish you all the best. I have been blocked from making any more comments on this post.
I broke up from a 10 year girlfriend. Verbal & physical abuse were becoming the norm so i left..
I desperately want help with pmdd..nobody listens nor believes me... what can I do?
Get a full hysterectomy
Can you make an appointment with a psychiatrist? Are you doing ok? 🥺
Find a gynecologist that you don't have to explain it to.
I've had bipolar and adhd diagnosis for years. The past 3, add pmdd in. I can't get help with fmla or anything. About to lose my job because of absences. I physically can't get out of bed. It's the beginning of rage.
What is the name of his PMDD partner support group?
Hi there - You can find Aaron's video group here: iapmd.org/video-support-groups and the facebook group here: facebook.com/groups/143070706107978 We hope that helps! Laura - IAPMD
Can hardly understand this guy for his accent
Ha, yea. I think that's y it's subtitled. I thought the same thing 😅
LR:DR nothing. It's a nothing burger video. Don't waste your time you'll learn NOTHING
It's not the most helpful in practical terms.