I gotta be honest my aunt's husband spent some time in the military. I do respect him however I do not respect the fact that he doesn't and hadn't worked for about 4 years now. They had adopted a family member's child and my aunt also has cancer and still he doesn't do anything but drink and smoke weed. How in any scenario would this be okay as a man? And correct me if I am wrong. Is it a captain/private relationship thing that prevents an individual from working under someone else? In my opinion he doesn't want to work for anyone because he thinks he's better(in a sense) or that the level of comradery in the military is not a common thing and perhaps that sort of idea makes working for someone else difficult.
@@anthonyyadayada7222 If he has ptsd it is better to look for help and recover first, bcs there are allot of things that could trigger him, mental health is dangerous. But idk about your uncle, maybe talk with him sometime.
@@Painfullbob but wouldn't they have got that taking care of because she said it was 4 yrs and if he's not working he could at least help around the house but she said he just sits and smoke and drink all day so it seems he doesn't really even care for it in my opinion I don't think he got ptsd
@@cablegirl5242 depression is BAD. Some people forget combing their hair for months when they’re depressed. Better to look for signs before jumping to conclusions.
No thank you !! When i was younger and much hotter i worked 2 and 3 jobs to take care of musicians that i would date. I learned my value late in life. And i have been dating a very generous man who i could not survive without. But today he called me and told me he got fired on the spot and the company wouldn't even let him drive the truck home. He is currently on a plane. I asked him multiple times what was the reason for being fired and he said he didnt know. I call bullshit. You know why you got fired. He is not telling me something major and if he turns out to be a dirt bag then i reaally give up on men 💯
In the military they have u go through crazy training to teach u to survive in many different crazy environments like swamps n deserts while eating bagged food with small canteens of water for 4yrs. The guy probably wants to get use to sleeping in an actual bed w actual food n clean water. He just needs time to get use to a normal life again. That guy deserves better
She has to decide whether she want to support him through his PTSD which is gonna be a long long hard exhausting unpredictable journey or just leave and take care of herself and let him take care of himself and seek support through military service
I wouldn't let a guy pay everything for me, and most girls think the same way. If you're in a committed long-term relationship and both partners agreed on you staying at home with the kids, that's a different story. But while still dating? Nuh-uh.
It's okay to take your man out. However, if a man can allow his woman to take care of him, not have a job, not pay for their dates, how in the world do you expect him to take care of you and your family in the future? And if you don't see a future with him then why date him? I've learned to not ignore the red flags in the beginning. Those red flags turn out to be a huge problem and completely ruined our marriage. As much as I beat myself up that I should of walked long ago, for wasting all them years... I like to look at it as a lesson learned. Now I know what I do and what I don't want in a man. I know to run with certain red flags. I'll do better next time.
No one knows what he went through. If she's really interested in him try talking to him. We have way too many people here that don't give our veterans the respect they deserve.
people would be like "that's what a man should be doing in a relationship" or "if you love her and if she is going through something you should support her" if the roles reversed but in this case it's completely the same! If she doesn't like it that she is paying everything and that the guy isn't working she just had to talk to him about it and motivate him, support him, and take care of him. He just got off after a long military service which is prob not easy. Thank you for your service for the guy 👍🏼
I totally agree with u, in the military they have u go through crazy training to teach u to survive in many different crazy environments like swamps n deserts while eating bagged food with small canteens of water for 4yrs. The guy probably wants to get use to sleeping in an actual bed w actual food n clean water. He just needs time to live a normal life again
The ignorance from Steve's answer 🙄. This is a guy that went 4 years in the military 🪖 I.e. not your average McDonald's employee!! If anything he could be suffering from PTSD and struggling to adjust to normal life. Having said that he probably should have sought help so he can assimilate back into normalcy before dating anyone. She could have at least advised him to get help for any lingering issues from his deployment.
4 years is a long time to be away from home and risking his life. I think he deserves a bit of slack.... But apparently thats unreasonable with certain women.
Could it be that he just doesn't know what to do now that he's out? Military life is extremely different from civilian life so maybe the guys just lost and doesn't know direction to take in terms of work. 🤷🏻♀️I think once you get out you're probably going to struggle for a bit to get used to the "normal" lifestyle after serving time in the military. But everyone's situation is different. She needs to sit down and talk to him and find out where he's at mentally. Don't just write the guy off, he probably just needs some more time to figure it out. Best wishes 🙏
@@blueskin7377 plz don’t try and patronize me with that whole “sweety” bullshit. I simply meant he was out there fighting for our country and probably has some PTSD issues and maybe she can give him a little bit of time to try and work thru that. My apologies if I didn’t word it to you liking.
@@blueskin7377 Apparently you’ve taken exception to my comment when about 8 others in the comments said pretty much the same thing. 🤣 I’m pretty sure you knew damn well when I said “our freedom” it was in the context of our country - yours, mine and everyone else who fucking lives here. Is somehow that statement incorrect? We all live here; therefore making it our country and our freedom. Plz stop trying to change the context into something racial when it clearly was not. With that being said, I’m going to bid you adieu. You have a good night tho 🙂
@@saraj368 🤣😂🤣 your funny really because there was nothing racial about my comment. I wasn't even thinking that 🤦. All I'm saying that you're confusing fighting for our freedom with fighting for oil. Let me clarify I'm super proud of our soldiers, but ain't nobody fighting for our freedom, and these are facts. You have a wonder day as well Mam.
You sound very intelligent and you’re gorgeous. You do not need to take care of him. It will only get worse. You will start to resent him and you deserve better. Please Bless him and move forward!🙏❤️There’s lots of good guys out there who will work and be happy to pay your way! If you want to really help him give him some phone numbers of the local Veterans help line. If you stay you will enable him to remain unwell.
Well how can she reverse being a woman? The biblical mandate that's on a man is not the same for a woman. The bible say, by the sweat of his (man) brow, he shall eat. Meaning, he was ordained to be the PROVIDER. The Veterans hospital is there should be needs medical or psychological help however there was no mention of him being sick so I'm not sure why most men are jumping to that conclusion instead of the obvious, the man is using her. No man that truly love their woman would be comfortable watching her paying for his meal and expenses all the time. Trust me on this. I have 5 brothers and they all agree with me.
@@michelelynch3113 see that's what the point is when it comes to women you guys reach out to political high end power or bible but will never equally contribute to the level where there is majorly men work. Let say construction labour or electrical pole men repair. Why don't you stand in the war and say why the number of men died in war is 99 out 100 why are not women dying 99 out of 100 so talking of Bible or and holy scripture won't change the harsh reality of reversing the situation and not gender what I meant. Don't bring God when you need to acknowledge truth and stand for what is right.
@@michelelynch3113 I have 4 sisters believe me they work and earn and they don't want a high paid or earning high guy.. No need to agree this but acknowledge the sacrifice and help a guy to be stable what I ask. But most of the situation says women Marrying successful men are in more then otherwise so......
@@amitsen6466 I can guarantee you your sister wouldn't want to date any man that won't work and has no drive to work. Ask your father would he be ok handing his daughters off to a man like that. Please don't speak for your sisters. Women like security and there is no security in dealing with a man like she described. My dad would look at me crazy if I came to him with a man like this. He's not just unsuccessful, he has no drive or ambitious to become successful. This doesn't make a good partner or husband.
She corrected 100% if she leave him When someone goes in to relationships he should be responsible for I'm self and partner and future children If you are unable to sustain you self financially how would you be able to sustain a family. The wrong decision would be staying with him, bigg lost of time with no future or family
I agree. However he did just finish 4 years and he is probably having PTSD so I think that she should try to help him through his mental health and have him see a therapist to get him out of this depressive funk so he can have motivation to do better but only as his friend she should not be sleeping with him at this time that would only confuse him
Nah I would give the guy the benefit of the doubt he's probably traumatized. Coming home from the military its hard to just go back to a normal life give him time
Don't go any further with him and pay for everything as you are not happy about the situation as it is. Be on your own and he will realise how much you mean to him.🙏🏽😘😓😓
Yet women with no money want a hardworking rich man 🤦🏻 she sounds like she is the problem he’s a veteran let him get acclimated to the world if he was in service for years
@@rondas7772 “being in the military is the real world, it’s not difficult”. And I said that’s bullshit and you know it. People sacrifice their lives for you everyday. And here on the outside people are getting pissed because Starbucks didn’t use fuckin oat milk or whatever. It is not the same
Steve Harvey is telling you the TRUTH. Who wants a man not working. Unless he's your husband and got sick,but took good care of you, when he was working.
If he is good to you,give him a chance it may be a temporary issue. The best thing to do is talk to him and make sure everything is ok. My dad was in the military for 28 years and when he retired it was really hard for him to adjust to being out of the military.
Based on his experience in the military, perhaps healing is the first thing necessary in his life with a professional who will equip him with tools to navigate that. A man who is self sufficient, independent and who knows how to take care of himself-he knows how to cook, do his laundry, grocery shop, pay his bills on time, etc. is so attractive. Today I heard the phrase “He needs a nurse with a purse” and that stayed with me. 🤷🏻♀️
So much goes on in the military. If you don't understand that culture and the difficulty they have integrating back into society, while trying to figure things out, then you are not the one. His mind has been trained a certain way. His experiences is beyond what you are able to comprehend. It's not what you think. He's "stuck," and could probably benefit from some counseling to help him find his way back. Could also be some mental health issues. My stepfather watched his best friend die during war. Change your mindset. Work with him, don't throw him away. He might be the blessing you've been waiting for.
equality there isn’t one thing equal in that relationship she pays for everything every little thing he does not do anything except stay at home they should ph 50/50 not her going 100
When I retired from the military, I wasn't motivated to work. It takes time to transition back to civilian life. I would like to see Steve Harvey go thru the things we did. I doubt of he could make it.
@@faithandgrace1638 there's not a lot of ground to speak off of because she's not really telling the full story and also this video was cut short because this is a CZcams short
My fiancé was in the army for 8 years and had the same problem. They are usually struggling mentally. It’s a huge shift especially after deployment. I stuck with him and now he has his own business and we have a beautiful baby girl.
Lol men were created to provide 🤣 and woman is a helper just the truth. But some women are independent and successful, but guess what ??? Most of women like these have no respect or care or real love to offer to a man. They think they are enough for their own.
When I retired from the military I didn't work for 5 years because of all the trauma and PTSD from TOXIC work environments. You are forced against your will to work with/for narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths. You cannot just quit your job, you are stuck with them for YEARS.
She’s more worldly than he is. He knows if she’s truly in love with him, or in love with him for what he can do. Lazy is lazy and I ain’t defending that cuz as a man, we can depend on nobody. He’s probably putting her through a shit test, and that’s what we don’t do.
These two comments are utterly insane 😂 Lazy is lazy? The guy served 4 years and she's only being seeing him for 3 months. You try serving 4 years and then instantly have your financials on track right away nevermind the mental toll it took on you. I can't imagine what he seen or what he feels mentally. But yeah, he's playing games and she deserves better eh? Absolute short sighted fools the two of you.
@@JoeJoe-sv5rk yes Lazy is lazy. I probably should’ve said unmotivated but as i said she’s more worldly than he his if she truly cared for him she would try her best to make sure he’s mentally ready to do worldly shit with her but she doesn’t she only cares for what she cares for. And i don’t agree with the first person who replied on my comment. That’s why i didn’t respond to it.
My husband did 10 yrs in the military and the transition to civilian world was hard for him. He has PTSD and he could not get into the mindset of not being in the military. He didn't work for 2 yrs but he went to school in that time. He got his PTSD under control and now is a contractor for the military. It's a partnership and I made the money while he transitioned. Years of marriage vs dating for 3 months might be the difference in seeing things through his eyes but give the guy some slack.
This dude probably has ptsd and instead of helping him she embarrassed him on national TV. He needs to leave her and focus on himself, the they wonder why guys with money treat them like trash, it's because they know if they didn't have money they'd get treated like trash
He is using her for her money but you think he needs to leave her? No doubt he is a Black man because this kind of situation with Black men both young and old is absolutely ramped in our communities. 💯
I paid everything for my husband the first years we were dating, my roommates told me to dump him , that I should date older men with a carrier and money … but I was in love with him and he was extremely young and beautiful… someone I can grow old with. now he is a civil engineer and I had the luxury to take 4 years off to get pregnant and take care of my kids and my physical recovery ( hips displacement) and postpartum depression … I don’t regret anything, even though my baby is still a baby ..now I am ready to go back to the workforce to help build my kids future, together and to buy a bigger house.
He is going through something. She is ready to run and his sacrifice allows her to live her comfortable life. Fellas, always notice when they are around and when they leave. It will change how you value them.
Another great point of a woman not giving a shit about a guy unless he's providing. No stories of how she tried and failed to get through to him, just "he's not working or motivated so I should leave right?".
Its time people stop asking only how they can be served but also how they can be of service. He might be struggling. Being a soldier iant easy, even in peace time its a very different way of life.
Maybe ask him how his mental health is. He might have PTSD a lot of us veterans do.
I gotta be honest my aunt's husband spent some time in the military. I do respect him however I do not respect the fact that he doesn't and hadn't worked for about 4 years now. They had adopted a family member's child and my aunt also has cancer and still he doesn't do anything but drink and smoke weed. How in any scenario would this be okay as a man? And correct me if I am wrong. Is it a captain/private relationship thing that prevents an individual from working under someone else? In my opinion he doesn't want to work for anyone because he thinks he's better(in a sense) or that the level of comradery in the military is not a common thing and perhaps that sort of idea makes working for someone else difficult.
@@anthonyyadayada7222 If he has ptsd it is better to look for help and recover first, bcs there are allot of things that could trigger him, mental health is dangerous.
But idk about your uncle, maybe talk with him sometime.
@@Painfullbob but wouldn't they have got that taking care of because she said it was 4 yrs and if he's not working he could at least help around the house but she said he just sits and smoke and drink all day so it seems he doesn't really even care for it in my opinion I don't think he got ptsd
Exactly thats could be part of it to. Its hard being in military and seeing all kinds of s...
@@cablegirl5242 depression is BAD. Some people forget combing their hair for months when they’re depressed. Better to look for signs before jumping to conclusions.
He’s probably severely traumatized
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He doesn't get sent to battle after 4 years. And I definitely know this, he simply don't want to work
@@idk-vv5zu wtf are you saying💀
@@tillman7784 he's not "traumatized"
And?
She said he was serving in the military like he was serving jail time
Wasn’t it tho? Where was he based?
Yessss
It does feel like jail 😂
💯
Lol that’s what I thought
You are pretty and intelligent. Leave n run it won’t get better!
3 months ain’t even that long to be paying the bill for everything.
It actually is. Most jobs can tell in that time if an employee is right for them.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 facts I never pay I offer but I never touch my wallet. No thank you
Girl take care of him and build him back up trust me it will be worth it. Don’t kick him when he’s down 🤦🏽
"He's a 10 but he doesn't want to go to work."
No thank you !! When i was younger and much hotter i worked 2 and 3 jobs to take care of musicians that i would date. I learned my value late in life. And i have been dating a very generous man who i could not survive without. But today he called me and told me he got fired on the spot and the company wouldn't even let him drive the truck home. He is currently on a plane. I asked him multiple times what was the reason for being fired and he said he didnt know. I call bullshit. You know why you got fired. He is not telling me something major and if he turns out to be a dirt bag then i reaally give up on men 💯
@@monicabroussard840what happened? Did he get fired for no reason
Maybe you should ask why he's not working maybe there's some trauma he felt in the military that's blocking him from working somehow
Maybe it's not her job to fix him
@@anithan4306 its not but as someone's girlfriend/boyfriend you should still offer support and steer him to seek help -_-
In the military they have u go through crazy training to teach u to survive in many different crazy environments like swamps n deserts while eating bagged food with small canteens of water for 4yrs. The guy probably wants to get use to sleeping in an actual bed w actual food n clean water. He just needs time to get use to a normal life again. That guy deserves better
Let him do it with his Mama then .
She has to decide whether she want to support him through his PTSD which is gonna be a long long hard exhausting unpredictable journey or just leave and take care of herself and let him take care of himself and seek support through military service
The best advise I hear thru all this comments… I agreed with you… she doesn’t need to babysitting him… 🤔
No women aren't building to handle or do that ... it easier for them to move on they see it as a weakness in men ...
If gender were reversed, completely different story.
Fax
I wouldn't let a guy pay everything for me, and most girls think the same way.
If you're in a committed long-term relationship and both partners agreed on you staying at home with the kids, that's a different story. But while still dating? Nuh-uh.
Yes thats a Big Fact
Yup
It's okay to take your man out. However, if a man can allow his woman to take care of him, not have a job, not pay for their dates, how in the world do you expect him to take care of you and your family in the future? And if you don't see a future with him then why date him?
I've learned to not ignore the red flags in the beginning. Those red flags turn out to be a huge problem and completely ruined our marriage. As much as I beat myself up that I should of walked long ago, for wasting all them years... I like to look at it as a lesson learned. Now I know what I do and what I don't want in a man. I know to run with certain red flags. I'll do better next time.
He needs to go back in the military. Maybe it's all he knows.
Ahahahhaha yeah let him the gun be his girlfriend, coz it seems that's what he all know.
Its all they trained to. Its all they know
True
@@bossk2690 not true, I know plenty folks who got out and do just fine
No it's not dummy
Feels like alotta things are bein left unsaid here
That’s why I wouldn’t fight for this country smh after all that time he still don’t get benefits
No one knows what he went through. If she's really interested in him try talking to him. We have way too many people here that don't give our veterans the respect they deserve.
people would be like "that's what a man should be doing in a relationship" or "if you love her and if she is going through something you should support her" if the roles reversed but in this case it's completely the same! If she doesn't like it that she is paying everything and that the guy isn't working she just had to talk to him about it and motivate him, support him, and take care of him. He just got off after a long military service which is prob not easy. Thank you for your service for the guy 👍🏼
I totally agree with u, in the military they have u go through crazy training to teach u to survive in many different crazy environments like swamps n deserts while eating bagged food with small canteens of water for 4yrs. The guy probably wants to get use to sleeping in an actual bed w actual food n clean water. He just needs time to live a normal life again
The ignorance from Steve's answer 🙄. This is a guy that went 4 years in the military 🪖 I.e. not your average McDonald's employee!! If anything he could be suffering from PTSD and struggling to adjust to normal life. Having said that he probably should have sought help so he can assimilate back into normalcy before dating anyone. She could have at least advised him to get help for any lingering issues from his deployment.
4 years is a long time to be away from home and risking his life. I think he deserves a bit of slack.... But apparently thats unreasonable with certain women.
Ummmmm. What makes you think he has wartime experience. 4 yrs isn't enough time to learn how to fight in the theater ...
She’s paying his way for 3 months! WTH?
I might be willing to give him a bit more time to get back to life out here.
Could it be that he just doesn't know what to do now that he's out? Military life is extremely different from civilian life so maybe the guys just lost and doesn't know direction to take in terms of work. 🤷🏻♀️I think once you get out you're probably going to struggle for a bit to get used to the "normal" lifestyle after serving time in the military. But everyone's situation is different. She needs to sit down and talk to him and find out where he's at mentally. Don't just write the guy off, he probably just needs some more time to figure it out. Best wishes 🙏
Steve’s reaction to this situation is just wrong
I’ve watched so many videos of him and I can assure you, most of his reactions are just WRONG !
@@mohahoseini6587 I agree!
My dude was just fighting for our freedom out there for years. Give him some more time. He’s probably trying to work thru stuff internally.
Sara sweety NOBODY has fought for our freedom in like 77 years. I don't what you're talking about.
@@blueskin7377 plz don’t try and patronize me with that whole “sweety” bullshit. I simply meant he was out there fighting for our country and probably has some PTSD issues and maybe she can give him a little bit of time to try and work thru that. My apologies if I didn’t word it to you liking.
@@saraj368 apology accepted, and NOBODY has fought for our freedom. Name where ?
@@blueskin7377 Apparently you’ve taken exception to my comment when about 8 others in the comments said pretty much the same thing. 🤣 I’m pretty sure you knew damn well when I said “our freedom” it was in the context of our country - yours, mine and everyone else who fucking lives here. Is somehow that statement incorrect? We all live here; therefore making it our country and our freedom. Plz stop trying to change the context into something racial when it clearly was not. With that being said, I’m going to bid you adieu. You have a good night tho 🙂
@@saraj368 🤣😂🤣 your funny really because there was nothing racial about my comment. I wasn't even thinking that 🤦. All I'm saying that you're confusing fighting for our freedom with fighting for oil. Let me clarify I'm super proud of our soldiers, but ain't nobody fighting for our freedom, and these are facts. You have a wonder day as well Mam.
You sound very intelligent and you’re gorgeous. You do not need to take care of him. It will only get worse. You will start to resent him and you deserve better. Please Bless him and move forward!🙏❤️There’s lots of good guys out there who will work and be happy to pay your way! If you want to really help him give him some phone numbers of the local Veterans help line. If you stay you will enable him to remain unwell.
woww she is a beauty.....her eyes though 😭❤️❤️
Why don't you reverse the situation and ask urself what would u do..?
Well how can she reverse being a woman? The biblical mandate that's on a man is not the same for a woman. The bible say, by the sweat of his (man) brow, he shall eat. Meaning, he was ordained to be the PROVIDER. The Veterans hospital is there should be needs medical or psychological help however there was no mention of him being sick so I'm not sure why most men are jumping to that conclusion instead of the obvious, the man is using her. No man that truly love their woman would be comfortable watching her paying for his meal and expenses all the time. Trust me on this. I have 5 brothers and they all agree with me.
@@michelelynch3113 see that's what the point is when it comes to women you guys reach out to political high end power or bible but will never equally contribute to the level where there is majorly men work. Let say construction labour or electrical pole men repair. Why don't you stand in the war and say why the number of men died in war is 99 out 100 why are not women dying 99 out of 100 so talking of Bible or and holy scripture won't change the harsh reality of reversing the situation and not gender what I meant. Don't bring God when you need to acknowledge truth and stand for what is right.
@@michelelynch3113 I have 4 sisters believe me they work and earn and they don't want a high paid or earning high guy.. No need to agree this but acknowledge the sacrifice and help a guy to be stable what I ask. But most of the situation says women Marrying successful men are in more then otherwise so......
@@amitsen6466 they deleted their comment because they couldn't handle the heat
@@amitsen6466 I can guarantee you your sister wouldn't want to date any man that won't work and has no drive to work. Ask your father would he be ok handing his daughters off to a man like that. Please don't speak for your sisters. Women like security and there is no security in dealing with a man like she described. My dad would look at me crazy if I came to him with a man like this. He's not just unsuccessful, he has no drive or ambitious to become successful. This doesn't make a good partner or husband.
Comments down here give better advice than Steve...yup..he needs professional help
Girl, that's what we say...he's a really good guy.
To be with someone who is going through hell mentally and emotionally is Hard. Really hard. Not everyone can do it.🙂he deserves better. ❤️
She corrected 100% if she leave him
When someone goes in to relationships he should be responsible for I'm self and partner and future children
If you are unable to sustain you self financially how would you be able to sustain a family.
The wrong decision would be staying with him, bigg lost of time with no future or family
The man guarded a fucking country.
There's a reason why marriage rates are going down and more and more men are Redpill.
True. So much of us stay out of guilt etc. It's too early on aswell, he needs to heal
I agree. However he did just finish 4 years and he is probably having PTSD so I think that she should try to help him through his mental health and have him see a therapist to get him out of this depressive funk so he can have motivation to do better but only as his friend she should not be sleeping with him at this time that would only confuse him
why she look like sid from ice age💀💀
Ohhh shit she do!!!!
I have been laughing at this comment for 5 mins now. 😂😂😂
HELP LMFAO
I was looking for this comment.😂😂
I knew she looked familiar 😂
Nah I would give the guy the benefit of the doubt he's probably traumatized. Coming home from the military its hard to just go back to a normal life give him time
Don't go any further with him and pay for everything as you are not happy about the situation as it is. Be on your own and he will realise how much you mean to him.🙏🏽😘😓😓
Yet women with no money want a hardworking rich man 🤦🏻 she sounds like she is the problem he’s a veteran let him get acclimated to the world if he was in service for years
Being in the military is the real world, it's not difficult... Stop
The problem is they just met. He needs to be with family and lose her forreal
@@rondas7772 it’s not difficult? That’s bullshit and you know it
@@nalley6815 what!?! Who are you talking to and what are you talking about 😅
@@rondas7772 “being in the military is the real world, it’s not difficult”. And I said that’s bullshit and you know it. People sacrifice their lives for you everyday. And here on the outside people are getting pissed because Starbucks didn’t use fuckin oat milk or whatever. It is not the same
Steve Harvey is telling you the TRUTH. Who wants a man not working. Unless he's your husband and got sick,but took good care of you, when he was working.
If you're fine with a woman not working you should be fine with a man not working.
If the roles were reversed though
Sounds like you could have a sit down talk with him - you're assuming he's not motivated. I'd have a heart to heart.
Drop Roll & Run 🏃🏽♀️
Well she said it weird "he just out the military for doing 4 yrs" I think he's a convict and she lying bc those prison birds wont work . PERIOD
You know, I sort of wondered about the wording myself🤔
Bro he’s literally done 4 years of work none
Stop…. Let him rest :/
They have only been together for 3 months. It's not her responsibility to pay his bills so he can rest? 🤣
If he is good to you,give him a chance it may be a temporary issue. The best thing to do is talk to him and make sure everything is ok. My dad was in the military for 28 years and when he retired it was really hard for him to adjust to being out of the military.
Based on his experience in the military, perhaps healing is the first thing necessary in his life with a professional who will equip him with tools to navigate that.
A man who is self sufficient, independent and who knows how to take care of himself-he knows how to cook, do his laundry, grocery shop, pay his bills on time, etc. is so attractive.
Today I heard the phrase “He needs a nurse with a purse” and that stayed with me. 🤷🏻♀️
How can you already taking care of someone u only know 3months 🤔
Perhaps she s lonely and the guy is love bombing her to get what he wants from her…
He was motivated so it would help to find out why he’s not motivated now. See what the root is.
So much goes on in the military. If you don't understand that culture and the difficulty they have integrating back into society, while trying to figure things out, then you are not the one. His mind has been trained a certain way. His experiences is beyond what you are able to comprehend. It's not what you think. He's "stuck," and could probably benefit from some counseling to help him find his way back. Could also be some mental health issues. My stepfather watched his best friend die during war. Change your mindset. Work with him, don't throw him away. He might be the blessing you've been waiting for.
I know exactly what this man feels like.
So women wants equality? But almost every video they talk about how the man should provide for them. What is that al about
equality there isn’t one thing equal in that relationship she pays for everything every little thing he does not do anything except stay at home they should ph 50/50 not her going 100
You’re joking right? Equality in pay doesn’t mean all gender roles should be reversed. Gtfoh with that pick me foolishness
He's not working, and doesn't want to work. Who the would want to date a man like that?
They must have all missed the part where he was in the military
True!
When I retired from the military, I wasn't motivated to work. It takes time to transition back to civilian life. I would like to see Steve Harvey go thru the things we did. I doubt of he could make it.
Love Steve Harvey
It's only been 3 months since they dated and he just got out but she makes it sound like 3 years.
Since she’s been dating him
@@memory-keeper thanks, forgot to add that!
When he is popping, youll regret leaving him beause he was brokw
How much time should be reasonable if not motivated to work? Meaning he can work but choosing not to.
That's not guaranteed thay he will be successful. Also if he is going to be, all power to him.
@@faithandgrace1638 there's not a lot of ground to speak off of because she's not really telling the full story and also this video was cut short because this is a CZcams short
This girl is the real deal, where is SHE AT!?😍
Don't leave him yet like that.
But not one question about how he treats her. 🙄😒
He’s a really good guy though. Well let that goodness pay them bills babygirl. Keep sweet.
All I have to say is “Tudda lef tudda lef…”
My fiancé was in the army for 8 years and had the same problem. They are usually struggling mentally. It’s a huge shift especially after deployment. I stuck with him and now he has his own business and we have a beautiful baby girl.
Is he blk? Yes I asked for a reason
she's asking steve what to do nd when he said dont be w him , she's convincing everyone that he's a good guy..
I'm confused
He should have retired, then he can sit back and relax 😳
As Judge Judy said "Beauty fades but dumb is forever."
She said military but meant prison. He just got it FOR DOING 4 YEARS. It's all in how she said it.
Mmmm she understands how man felt and still feel to this day…. And she’s only been at it for three months..mmm
Lol men were created to provide 🤣 and woman is a helper just the truth. But some women are independent and successful, but guess what ??? Most of women like these have no respect or care or real love to offer to a man. They think they are enough for their own.
Does ‘coming back from the military’ mean ‘out of prison’?
No but it's like it with gun and a high chance of getting killed
Love the outfit
Most military men get a job right away that guy must have issues. Thank him for serving and send him on his way.
Wow! Imagine if the genders were reversed. And dude just got out from serving our country--- give him a break
Kaz what ya doing here? 💀💀💀💀
Man Steve looks so much better with a full beard
When I retired from the military I didn't work for 5 years because of all the trauma and PTSD from TOXIC work environments. You are forced against your will to work with/for narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths. You cannot just quit your job, you are stuck with them for YEARS.
See here’s the issue with women these days, they all think they’re 10s. Stop thinking You’re all perfect. Stop thinking you can’t improve
She’s more worldly than he is. He knows if she’s truly in love with him, or in love with him for what he can do. Lazy is lazy and I ain’t defending that cuz as a man, we can depend on nobody. He’s probably putting her through a shit test, and that’s what we don’t do.
Yeah she should leave him asap. You should never play "mental gymnastics" with your partner. He's just dragging her down.
These two comments are utterly insane 😂 Lazy is lazy? The guy served 4 years and she's only being seeing him for 3 months. You try serving 4 years and then instantly have your financials on track right away nevermind the mental toll it took on you. I can't imagine what he seen or what he feels mentally. But yeah, he's playing games and she deserves better eh? Absolute short sighted fools the two of you.
@@JoeJoe-sv5rk yes Lazy is lazy. I probably should’ve said unmotivated but as i said she’s more worldly than he his if she truly cared for him she would try her best to make sure he’s mentally ready to do worldly shit with her but she doesn’t she only cares for what she cares for. And i don’t agree with the first person who replied on my comment. That’s why i didn’t respond to it.
My husband did 10 yrs in the military and the transition to civilian world was hard for him. He has PTSD and he could not get into the mindset of not being in the military. He didn't work for 2 yrs but he went to school in that time. He got his PTSD under control and now is a contractor for the military. It's a partnership and I made the money while he transitioned. Years of marriage vs dating for 3 months might be the difference in seeing things through his eyes but give the guy some slack.
Was he on active war duty ?
I hope that veteran gets 100% permanent and total, that way he can tell her about the free health care for life that she lost out on.
This dude probably has ptsd and instead of helping him she embarrassed him on national TV. He needs to leave her and focus on himself, the they wonder why guys with money treat them like trash, it's because they know if they didn't have money they'd get treated like trash
He is using her for her money but you think he needs to leave her? No doubt he is a Black man because this kind of situation with Black men both young and old is absolutely ramped in our communities. 💯
Yeah, he should leave her. She deserves better
Damn, every time? That's just crazy!
What goes around comes back around
UNLESS HE IS DISABLED THAT PREVENTS HIM FROM WORKING, HE HAS NO EXCUSE
So basically she experiencing what every man experiences when they’re in a relationship.
The fact that your eyes are cocked back like a pistol probably brings back war memories for him
The table has turned
Love this guy
I paid everything for my husband the first years we were dating, my roommates told me to dump him , that I should date older men with a carrier and money … but I was in love with him and he was extremely young and beautiful… someone I can grow old with. now he is a civil engineer and I had the luxury to take 4 years off to get pregnant and take care of my kids and my physical recovery ( hips displacement) and postpartum depression … I don’t regret anything, even though my baby is still a baby ..now I am ready to go back to the workforce to help build my kids future, together and to buy a bigger house.
Ma’am you know to make him history!
Men must provide and protect.
Either keep giving up the loot or give him the boot.
He gets a check for the rest of his life. He’s good
I was thinking the same thing that he might be struggling with PTSD. Give him a little time.
Dude hit a jackpot! He is living a dream.
He is going through something. She is ready to run and his sacrifice allows her to live her comfortable life. Fellas, always notice when they are around and when they leave. It will change how you value them.
Faith in humanity: lost
This the treatment u get as a soldier
Dear kings, make sure you always have your own money..
That gender will always disgrace you when you don't have your own money.
Kings?
Funny how it would’ve been a complete different story if the guy was “taking care” of her and paying when they go out.
3 months like damn let him get use to having is freedom cause the military is like jail
My son was in military and it really changes them. She can help him or just leave him 😞
That man was in jail look at how she phrased it lmao
"but he's 6 feet tho!"
Another great point of a woman not giving a shit about a guy unless he's providing. No stories of how she tried and failed to get through to him, just "he's not working or motivated so I should leave right?".
A man is only worth something if he can provide
Its time people stop asking only how they can be served but also how they can be of service. He might be struggling. Being a soldier iant easy, even in peace time its a very different way of life.
I ADMIRE HIS REALNESS