I did NOT recommend that book to you
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- Do you have friends with different reading preferences?
I dream of the day when readers learn to respect each other's boundaries and not feel threatened when someone else's boundaries are different.
Zero-spice readers always complain that they get shamed for NOT wanting spice and the spicy readers always complain that they get shamed FOR wanting it. And both are right.
SOMEONE out there will be upset no matter what you read. It is still not fair to make blanket statements complaining about "zero-spice readers" or "smut readers" as seems to happen every time there's a dust-up on the issue.
Most people are reasonable, most people are pretty chill, and most people are cool with letting you do you. (Yes, I struggle to remember this sometimes, but I still believe it's true.)
📖Road to Fire by Maria Luis is a FANTASTIC book, despite not being what I usually read. It is not Fantasy, but it does have secret societies, political intrigue, British history tidbits, gut-wrenching emotion, and Saxon and Isla have some of the best character development I've seen in a long time. It does have spice, so heads up if that's not your preference.
It turns out I mispronounced Isla. My bad. 🥲 My advisors have informed me it is pronounced EYE-la.
i do that all the time too haha!
In Irish ísla is pronounced the way you said it! :)
@@lanyreads8725 yah,
My daughter is named Aislynn and her father's family will only pronounce it: EYESlan. I'm like whatever I'm calling her Jessica anyway.
My name is Ila which is the same thing different spelling, there are endless mispronounciations
Ah, yes. The good old "just because I loved a book does NOT mean I think you will". Classic.
Dang ,the 1000 coment
You now have 1k😂
SAME
The Silmarillion should not be anyone's favorite book.... But it's so good
Noooo because i talk to my friends about dark romance books with mafia and they ask "Hey so where do you get it?" And im like "ABSOLUTELY NOT"
steam review
"this game fucking sucks"
241.3 hrs on record
Here's the code: it doesn't matter how much I fan girl, unless I explicitly say 'try this' it is not a recommendation.
Same. I like spice in my books and my food. If I say a couple is great, there are at least three scenes...
Exactly this is something people around me gotta understand
Amen
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It goes for books. For music. For movies. Not unless I say you should watch it
I'm that friend who has "certain boundaries" that gets uncomfortable easy with those things and this made my day! This is the first time I've seen someone touch this subject and I'm so glad that you didn't go "you're too innocent for this book" or "I need to preserve your innocence". Thank you for this!
So true! I read super dark books. Graphically writing murder and torture is one of my favourite things to read. But sex just makes me uncomfortable. It's not about innocence
@@aynDRAWS Right! I really don't understand the reasoning there. It's really more about preference. I bet a lot of people would be uncomfortable with your kind of books but we don't go around calling them innocent
I feel so seen 💖
this. @@aynDRAWS it's like watching a movie with your parents and then a sex scene comes on... (what it feels like) lol
@@aynDRAWSidk, for me it depends on how it is written. Sometimes the steamiest of scenes are enjoyable, sometimes even a kissing scene makes me ick. It's totally on the writer for me.
"You said you loved it and you never shut up about it!"
"Key words there; _I_ said _I_ loved it."
“I’ve read hornier” 😂😂😂
I've written hornier. Available on Amazon x
Oooh what book?
@@ThePinkCraftyUnicorn you want some good ones any of Willow Winters books are Amazing!
So me 😂
@Theopup21 📚I love her books! 📚
"I am begging you with tears in my eyes..." is decidedly a part of my lexicon moving forward 💀
Mine too 😂
"decidedly a part of my lexicon moving forward" is decidedly a part of my lexicon moving forward.
THE WAY I READ THIS COMMENT AS SHE SAID IT IN THE VIDEO
Was once used by a military officer, trying to convince people who would be easily killed by his forces if they fought, to just not fight.
@@ronniemarshall7684lexicon-ception
This is a PSA: if ever you recommend a book to someone mention the romance/other things and violence level. THERE ARE MANY WHO WISH TO RETAIN WHAT LITTLE INNOCENCE WE STILL HAVE. 😅😭
I do a book exchange, and yes! There need to be these little details included because there are fluffy pieces and well dark not fluffy pieces out there.
I refrain from reading romance books, because they tend to use that along with gratuitous, descriptive, near-constant sex as a crutch.
@@avaricewildman4083And S.A. as character building or hooks for enemies to lovers. Now maybe I'm just over emotional, but I ain't ever looked fondly upon people that did that to me. Romance novels be crazy.
@charlescannon2469 Facts. My sister recommended this book series called ACOTAR, but didn't tell me it was romance. I made it through 1 and a half books before quitting. They had this chick choosing between 2 abusers. Toxic af!!
The “I AM BEGGING YOU WITH TEARS IN MY EYES DO NOT READ THAT BOOK” is a masterclass in voice acting
“Did I borrow a horny book from you?”
“I’ve read hornier.”
And here we see the level of dabbling into the dark arts there lmao
"Did I just buy a horny book?" is correct quote
Me and my best friend to anyone who asks what were reading
me and my best friend
Friend: so I started playing this game XYZ
Me: Ohhh I’ve heard of that, Did you get to the ummm…
Friend: 👀
Me: 👀
Friend: so I’m assuming we both-
Me: hell yes 😈
^_^ ....
When I was 19 and my best friend was 12, they grabbed a manga off my floor after I finished reading it. I told them not to read it, but they said they'd be fine. 5 minutes later, they threw it to the ground, saying they felt dirty and underaged
Ah yes, that communication issues between book besties... Honestly I can't read horny books too 😭
Ikr it’s so hard to find books without it though!!
@@natfaz52122try Mistborn, or any other book by Brandon Sanderson. It literally had the best writing every, a little bit of romance, but nothing much
@@natfaz52122Every time I see a popular book recommendation online it’s guaranteed to be horny 😭 It sucks trying to find good fantasy books that are mature but not saucy
Same 😭
I am basically 'little miss looks innocent but is basically reading porn' that is how and who I am
They need to come with spice ratings, like the little jalapeños out of five on the hot sauce bottles
Like how movies and games got E, R, and other variations of rating? Maybe each book has 3 categories ranked from 0 to 5(/10?), Lewd, Horror, and something that like a misc rating, general discomforting topics basically, most books would have a 1 or 2 regardless of how friendly they want to be but you'd at least know if it's actually problematic/discomforting when it starts getting high numbers.
That actually sounds fantastic, why doesn't it exist already? :D
You have just created the best idea ever
As a person who stumbled into Icebreakers, I can confirm I now google every book to check for the vertical conga.
Maybe you mean horizontal.
Horizontal is like the horizon, left to right.
Vertical is up and down, like a tree or building reaching the sky.
Unless you DID mean vertical, in which case, I am sorry for assuming otherwise
I really feel you. Like I've read horny books but Icebreaker is ANOTHER level. Guess I should have read the trigger warning. It's just that I thought they were talking 'bout suicide or something in this book and I'm not someone who reacts sensitively to these themes. Did the trigger warning say what was going there😂? I dunno. But I also accidently 'recommended' a book to a friend once (not as intense as Icebreaker though thank god) I tried to stop her so hard but she still read it and even though I warned her the atmosphere between us was a bit weird after she had read it. Sry for my terrible english, not a native speaker
@@juditheisa I feel you, just because I like a book doesn't mean I recommend it 😭 And your English is great! I'm also not a native speaker.
I'm in 7th grade, and a crazy bastard girl who I shared a class with showed me that book without warning. It was vile, I felt genuinely and fully uncomfortable, strangely enough she is heavily Christian.
This somehow reminds me of when you go on an absolute rant about one of the greatest plots your eyes have ever been blessed with and then the person you're ranting to asks for the title so they can read it
And then you have to violently sidestep their questions to avoid admitting it was actually a fanfic 😭😭😭
YES THIS
This is exactly why I don't talk about fanfics offline.
So True 😂 it is like you get a quick heart attack when they ask😅
So what if it’s fanfiction? If it’s good it’s good!
@@stardewofpyrrhia4381 we all may believe that same thing, but it does not hide the shame
SO TRUE!
“I’ve read hornier”
Like people think I’m innocent as shit and they don’t know the crap I’ve been reading. I can read straight smut and have a straight face and no one knows but then I read something super fluffy and cute and my mum and friends asks me what I’m reading cause I’m usually never this giggly…and that is saying something.
I think it's a defect, something about fluff excites me more than lemon/smuts
Same for me, but BL 😅
omg same 😭
Same the fluff is too much for my heart
Nah but fr nothing gets me blushing and giggling and squealing like a god damn tea kettle than fluff does. Like why is it so fluffy 🖐️😭😭
Very similar situation to a lot of anime nerds like when normies asking "hey i don't get why you love anime so much why dont you recommend some for me" And we're searching through our years of anime watched libraries to find that 1 anime that is safe/normal enough for starters😂😂
It is not that bad nowadays but 10 years ago that was a way more difficult question
Neon genesis Evangelion and Akira. If that doesn’t scare them off I don’t know what will.
Or if you *want* them to like it, just start with the entire Ghibli oeuvre.
Or you literally just recommend the most entry level anime ever (Death Note) & continue with your day.
@@skabor1In my opinion, it's gotten worse. Now it's all trash isekai, borderline hentai, or torture. (Some are all 3). It's not like I haven't read manga that are new reader friendly. It's just that I have read so much off putting manga that I can't really list recommendations off.
I recommend Redo of Healer and Made in Abyss
Your respect for your friends’ boundaries is beautiful.
I love how you said "I understand that you have certain boundaries and I respect that and wouldnt want you to feel uncomfortable" instead of"you couldn't handle it" or "you're too innocent" I often feel talked down to by people who are more adventurous in all avenues of their lives. The way you put it makes me feel like choosing not to do something is a completely valid adult choice that people who do that thing shouldnt judge me for.
My go to is: “I don’t think it would be your cup of tea” and will expound very briefly on that if asked or if they still seem interested 😅 it’s absolutely your choice as an adult what your participate in, and you shouldn’t be looked down on for not having “adventurous” tastes.
What is more adventurous than a relentless search?
yeah, i hate when people are condescending like that. it doesn't have anything to do with being innocent. Sometimes people just have different preferences
It's because it is completely valid hun! Keep to your boundaries about what you are comfortable to read. We all different, and that's okay :)
100% valid!! It totally made me conscientious about how I word things and was really well phrased, especially as someone with ptsd who values content warnings/being aware before I read of potentially triggering content. How we phrase things matters even if we didn't intend to cause harm.
" IM BEGGING U WITH *TEARS* IN MY EYE, DO. * NOT.* READ. THAT. *BOOK* " 😂
Hey here to just remind you that you commented on this video
While I was in a book shop with My friend she showed me a book she read and said it was steamy, I immediately picked up and said “What page?”
My friends are totally there only for such paras. Like the other day I was reading a book in the library, and my friend was just like see this(idk what I forgot), and I told her to read these paras, and she was in total shock and started to giggle like hell😂
This is part of why I love fanfic so much, it warns you if there’s gonna be spicy scenes right at the top
ao3 for the win
also tagging in general but ao3 makes the tags really visible
I wish FF net had more room and tags for stuff like that lol
If I ever get published, I'll have tags in that damn book just you wait
they will probably include "the author regrets nothing" and "the author regrets everything"
I am proud of my fanfiction I am literally an MCU writer with no pay fight me XD
That's why I love fanfiction too, but sometimes you can never find what your looking for that isn't all horny 😢
I spent over an hour fan-girling over LK Hamilton's works with a friend, in front of her wife the other day. We had to explain afterwards why we did not recomend she went anywhere near the Anita Blake series (she doesn't like horror adjacent things) and then explain all the extra spicy triggers she might encounter in her other works...
I don’t understand why people hear someone ELSE likes a book and go “Oh must be for me!” like no! Everyone has different limits and likes!
Reminds me of when people ask about a game being fun. Like well yes, *I* find it fun, but I have no idea if you will! I’ve seen people legit ask things like “Should I buy this game?” like how would I know?! Anyway sorry for the mini-rant, have a nice day!
@@DeathnoteBBit's called FOMO, my darling. People don't like missing out on a good thing and if you're excited by something it makes others excited about it.
Humans are like puppies, we enjoy participating in other people's happiness 🤷🏻♀️
I love LKH. But I know she's definitely too much for 80% to 90% of the population 😅
@@Bear_the_shepherd Nah… as an autistic person people just get mad at me for my happiness. Can’t relate
As someone who currently does not read a lot of books and is not (or was not) familiar with the concept "only recommended for you, if I literally say recommended for you", I can explain: I make bad assumptions x)
I had a friend who'd drop off books to me to make sure they were safe for her to read. And she wanted a brief overview of them to decide if she wanted to read them. Mind you she already bought the book and the ones she didn't want she'd either give to me to pass on or would give it to another of our friends so we always had a rotation of books that we liked. Thank goodness I'm a fast reader though 😅
"oh hey im gonna start reading that book about an old western cowboy gang named glanton"
Me: may god have mercy on you're innocence
Marie Antoinette, Serial Killer is a book my friend tried reading she loves romance and books based in vaguely European places she hates murder mysteries and she borrowed it from me because I finished it she didn't see the full title and was awfully upset with me😅 she heard me ranting about the clothes the setting the she should so date this guy type thing yet some how missed the main part of the murders yet my fault
Ah reminds tof stepping into the two libraries i used to visit. I still can't believe those books got a rating for small children.
Well hold on, now I need elaboration
@@DeathnoteBB okay, checkout the gone series by Michael grant and then imagine them next to books for preschoolers. Cause that's the kind of stuff I am talking about.
@@reinaemiya Idk what that is but Google says it’s YA dystopian. So yeah that is hilarious next to a Preschooler’s books.
Acotar was in my middle school library lmao
@@DeathnoteBB I did read all six books of the series and my summary is the seven deadly sins with Austrian painter influence and a lot of body horror to spice things up. It's an interesting series I can recommend for a mature audience.
I had a very conservative Christian friend who enjoyed reading. I looked at her bookshelf and noticed that she had Wicked on the shelf. If youve seen the play but haven't read the book you don't know the debauchery of the book Wicked, but it basically starts off with a puppet or gy. I tried explaing to her that that book is not whe she thinks it is. She just told me I was wrong and it was written by the same person as Wizard of Oz 😂 all right... if you insist
Did she never bother looking at the authors?
@@DeathnoteBBI'm guessing to not 😂 I tried to explain that and she just ignored me.
@@singingsiren82 Huh. Some people are weird I guess. They’d rather believe what they want. Well, or she definitely knew, but liked the book and couldn’t admit it to anyone.
@DeathnoteBB she hadn't read it yet 😅
@@singingsiren82 She'll be in for a surprise. Some people need to learn the hard way. Well, good luck to her!
I actually love when my friends do recognize this about me and know which books I would or wouldn’t like
Been here LOL! My sister is a bookie and I am definitely not, but one our collective favorite pass times is her relaying to me the plot of the newest book she's read, so she can watch as my face contorts through the various stages of grief 😂
At least twice she has told me about this extremely sweet-sounding love story that I was actually interested in, just for her to VEHEMENTLY BEG me not to read it. Turns out those books had TONS of spicy scenes that she just conveniently left out of her retelling because she didn't think they added anything to the plot, and also because I am not quite, fond, of those scenes 😂😂
That's a true friend though
Best feeling in the world is being a dude who's read horny books, but is also ace and kinda ignore the horny part of the books. The shock on some people's faces makes it all worth it
lol I don't let that stop me, I still enjoy the horny parts. I just don't have a desire to reenact them
THIS is EXACTLY why I don’t talk about what I read with people in my life who don’t already deeply know me. Like I DO NOT want to explain that to people I also work with 😂
THIS. I have my limits, but I have friends whose limits are most likely even cleaner than mine, so I try to be very careful by adding content warnings.
Why is this book not in my local library? We do, however, have ebooks of some of her other titles. 😅
“Sounds like a recommendation to me!”
Well it wasn’t, so… Good luck!
Yeah. I don’t really read books, but a great one I’ve had for a few years is The Art of Racing in the Rain. It was really upsetting near the end, and there were some more, let’s say ‘uncomfortable’ scenes in it. They were toned done more since they were from the view of the dog (the whole book is), but still. Great book though.
This is SO true like I have no limitations to what i read so whenever my best freind recomends me stuff most times i end up liking it but i can nver recommend stuff to HER because she has SO MANY 'limitations' which is fine but there are tings i want to show her but i know she wont like it 😭
This is me and my brother with books and shows 😂😂 now we say idk if you would like it, and we know that is an "at your own risk" book/show
“Ive read hornier…” 😂 literally dead ass relatable
This is why: We rant and we rave, but WE NEVER REVEAL!! 😂😂🤣🤣
My sea shanty loving ass read the "we rant and we rave" and auto completed it with "like true British sailors" cause it's so damn close to the actual lyrics of "we'll rant and we'll roar" XD
Me when my friend asked me to repeat the name so she could remeber it........ I was PANICKING
lol I do this all the time, I’m that type that will explain the whole plot of a book to someone but leave out any parts I know would make them uncomfortable(like come on, like any of that ‘other stuff’ is important to the plot and if it is I can pretend it happened under a different context) but I freak out if they actually want to read the book themselves. At this point I just say I forgot the title lol
I watched a show recently with so much nudity I was unsettled by it but I liked the show but when I recommend it to a friend I made sure they knew so they wouldn’t get uncomfy
I made the mistake of recommending a show (it had been awhile since I had seen it, and forgot about how sexual some of the humor was) to an acquaintance...I hope she never watched it, but the possibility that she did still haunts me lol
She was a very religious girl and would probably have been mildly horrified or think of me very differently
I love there willingness to tell each other the truth but also stay respectful.
As a person who has read books by recommendation this has happened by me asking my friends what kind of books they read they recommended the smuttiest piece of trash I've ever read
Im sorry... but desperation towards the end had me rolling. It was just too funny. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
"Fangirling over EEslaa"
I thought no one would notice!!!! That’s not how you pronounce Isla 😭
RIGHT
I WAS SEARCHING FOR THIS COMMENT
@@thatoneguy1407That is literally how you pronounce the word isla in all the languages that have it.
@@_extrathicc I know three Islas and they all pronounce their name as EYE-la, not EEsla
I just got confused until the expression of realization... It looks like mine when my siblings explain something to me that is beyond my understanding of ✨simplicity✨
Having a friend that would pick up a book because you loved it is amazing. Alot of ppl don't not put in the time.
Me finding that ebook online and reading it after this short asf:
Rena Rouge pfp goes fireeee
@@chips7386 YOOOOO YOU GET IT MAN LESSSS GOOOO
@@RadFoxDude 🔥🦊🦊
I guess I'm way too old for "is it a lemon" to work anymore 😢
Me too. "Is it at least citrusy?"
Yup, lemon scented is just cute now a days 😅
"If it isn't lemon, is it at least lime?" Yep, I'm old too. Lol
as a person that is not 'old' (yet) what...does that mean? haha
@@Munenushi It used to be common on the scattered fanfic sites to label the levels of ✨spice✨ in the story in the tradition of meme codewords. PG-13 was citrus/ (or rarely orange), mature was lime and explicit was lemon. Kids ratings didn't warrant a specific warning tag.
At first I thought she was talking abt the fact that the book was really sad and I was like “I feel you” except I’m an agent of chaos and WILL NOT hesitate to recommend Passerine to my friends
That made me recall all the times I saw people recommending ORV (Omniscient Reader Viewpoint) knowing those who take the recommendation will all enjoy and suffer something unique.
Man I remember reading fanfiction and my friend wanted to read what I had been gushing about, before telling her the name I told her it was a lemon and she let off immediately.
none-native speaker here: What does "it was a lemon" mean? If it's not something nsfw x)
@@ExtraTerrestrialDust Haha even native english speakers don't really know what it means if they don't read it. Lemon is just a one word description to tell someone there is sexual content in the story. Just like fluff means the story tends to be romantic and cozy.
Top tier friend, right there! to warn beforehand when they know it wouldn’t really be for their taste that they messed up their communication and clarified. This is how you communicate to the people you care about around you.
As a Brit, trust me - we are not that shy about sex (we got that from the french). So the moment she said "tons of little tidbits for British history nerds", I knew where this was going.
Not the SOA pfp.... anything but that. At least have a well written anime as your pfp
"I've read hornier" 💀😂
that got me 😂
My friend has basically almost never read fantasy books, she genrrally keeps to the classics, the other day she went to a bookshop and texted me for advice on fantasy... Then she said the words "the girl here suggested throne of glass". My response: " Listen, if it has the name Sarah J Maas on the cover, do not go near it"😂
I think as far as horny books go they are well balanced. The naughty doesnt outweigh the actual plot most of the time. Though the series always get spicier the further in you get.
So true 😂😂
What did she say?
@@LightningFox7 she just went "ok, got it" 😂
I have to look up that name now so I know why. 🧐
"did I just buy a horny book?"
Literally me
“I’ve read hornier” KILLED MEEEE
Next, you need to read the Percy Jackson series by Rick Riordan. Start with the lighting thief.
My bestie loves a little smut in her books while I am perfectly happy with cuddles and LITTLE kisses, with the exception of a big one or two during important parts of the story. We still have a few we both enjoy but usually when she's telling me about one she's reading, and I wanna try it, she'll warn me lol. The most I tolerated with The Cruel Prince, cause come on. Faeries!
That's about where i was with Cruel Prince as well. There was enough interesting plot to not make me feel gross and otchy as I read
"Isla" is pronounced eye-la, like island! :)
I mean depends on the language, in Spanish Isla (EE-sla) is the world for "island" so context clues in the world setting can help with which it is
Came looking for this 😂😂😂
@@clarehidalgo true that. and besides, why care how the writer pronounces it. readers can just follow their own variation if it sounds more pleasing to them that way. in six of crows for example, i pronounce the "a" in kaz as the "a" in shark, instead of the "a" of cat like the writer. it just sounds more exotic to me, and also more intimidating which i want from a character like him. besides, kaz with the cat "a" sounds like a horrible mispronunciation of the word "cheese" in my tongue. so i cant even take the "canon" pronunciation seriously without cringing
name? = "EYE-slaa" where I live
and I will never change! lol
I've had similar conversations with my gf regarding books, Mangas and movies but I can't seem to learn my lesson, instead I'm learning to be more open minded and it's great, she has great taste
Unless we are talking about the horror movies she likes, I don't have the stomach for that much gore and trying being open minded only caused me to faint due to low blood sugar and pressure... Fun times
The disappointment in her voice, “we really need to work on our communication.” 😂
Two seconds in and already knowing where it’s headed is making me think I read too many…books 😭😭
I've read spicier...😅
My brother has read 50 Shades
Aloud
In the middle of a Wal-Mart
My family has no such boundaries
I only found out recently that me and my friend have the EXACT SAME taste for books, and it’s amazing! We can gossip and share with no boundaries!
I love books
My friend always first tells me how fantastic book is and then: "but it's totally Not For You."
Me gushing about a book to a friend and then remembering the friend has small children and the book I was reading has horrible child abuse/ murder which really messes with friend’s head and backtracking >.>
It went from heartbreaking tragedy in my mind to ohhh... at the speed of light.
I started reading a book, unaware that it had any shreks scenes and my jaw literally dropped 😭 I almost exclusively read YA and didn’t realize that it was a NA book
This is how I am with fantasy podcasts, I once gushed to a conservative Christian friend about Welcome to Night Vale (this was back when the podcast had only about 50 or so total episodes, its up to 300 now) completely forgetting that one of the Weather songs was a slam poetry about self love and sexual themes, or the one with a man singing about he's Jesus. I was horrified and never talked about it again, despite it remaining to be one of my favorite podcasts of all time. I would not recommend it to anyone who doesn't want their faith to be challenged by themes of the Weather
Don't forget the smiling god
I dont think her faith being challenged is the problem she had with that 😂
@@tripleg2513 I never asked, but I was embarrassed by the idea, so I just never brought it up after initially being so excited to talk about it. Now I'd probably warn ppl about the themes of the weather, the smiling god, the alternative timelines, and the queer representation jic it's not their cup of tea
@@VibinWitch Honestly, as a very "liberal" (I don't like using this word because everyone has a different opinion on what it means exactly buuuuut... for lack of a better word) Christian myself, the only problem in that summary that I'd personally have is someone claiming they're Jesus. That, to me, is disrespectful to my faith. Nobody gets to claim that they're God. But apart from that, that does not seem too bad. I'm queer myself, into fantasy since I can remember and neither kinky nor otherwise sexual topics bother me.
@@cassandramuller7337 i believe the song is called Jerusalem, and the guy is singing from the point of view of someone who is clinically delusional. When I was loosely Christian (I say loosely bc it was my parent's religion, they tried several different churches and branches and none of them stuck with me. I consider myself to be a theological agnostic now) the song offended me. Now it's actually funny to hear some guy singing about he's the Messiah
But that is definitely gonna piss off some Christians, my only regret is I didn't talk about it with my friend to see how that affected her
That "why not" had me dying 😂
lol the way her mouth barely moves when she asks, “why not?” Is just hilarious to me
‘I won’t look at you the same after you’ve read the s3x scene please stop-‘
But does anyone else absolutely love a book so much that you don’t want to share it with your friends?
Gatekeeping girlboss
Sometimes for the sake of the friendship it's better not to. I love my friends but there's only one I trust to actually pay attention and not take their first impression of a character and run with it or worse.
If I shared my books with them I'd have to hear their awful takes that miss every bit of nuance or just outright make up stuff in place of how the character actually is.
@@feistsorcerer2251if this is the case you have no choose but to gatekeeper. The amount of frustration this would bring
Yess,I have the same with songs
@feistsorcerer2 that's fair 😂
the demon that crawled out of my throat when I realized what was happening, scared me 🤣🤣🤣
This is why I ALWAYS add "this might not necessarily be your thing" to any piece of media I talk about to friends.
I know there's a lot worse but damn this is funny
I read horny books, my friend is asexual. I cant recommend books to her. And if she asks what I’m reading I have to give her a sanitized summary and then tell her she shouldn’t read it.
Has she explicitly said she doesn't want to read anything with sexual content? Being asexual doesn't necessarily mean someone doesn't like sexual content, porn, or even having sex. It just means they don't experience sexual attraction to people. A lot of asexual people still have a libido, and even enjoy those things, they just don't experience the same drive to want to do it with SPECIFIC PEOPLE, which is what attraction is.
Now maybe she IS sex-repulsed, and that's valid, and if she HAS outright told you she doesn't want to interact with any media with sex in it, then so be it. But if she just said "I'm asexual" and you said, "oh, I had better make sure not to expose you to anything with even a hint of horny in it," that may be an overreaction. It might be unnecessarily limiting if you just assume she is without actually talking about it with her.
Source: I am an aro/ace person, but still enjoy "horny books." (And pictures. and videos.)
Ngl this made me chuckle. I'm ace as well and am a massive consumer of gay romance.
I think in my head it makes sense for me because I'm a cisgendered woman and I don't feel involved in any of the scenes and I do like to see the emotional connections between characters. So there's definitely a wide variety in enjoyment for everyone regardless of their background.
But major kudos for respecting your friends boundaries!
As an asexual I appreciate you for this
@@Sinovianromance and horny are not the same thing. Sometimes people use "romance" as a euphemism for horny, but there's a difference. There's also a difference between ace and aromantic, but that's besides the point.
There's a wide variety of stories with romantic elements ranging from "boy gets the girl in the end" to "figuring out how feelings work" to small interactions reminding the protagonist why they love their SO to rom-com hijinks to verging into horny territory.
@@LibertyMonk You're not wrong saying there's a difference between romance and horny. However, most adult romantic fiction is going to include the "horny" scene or at least heavily allude to it. Maybe straight fiction is different, but within the gay romance umbrella that I've personally consumed very few don't include a heated scene. And my sample size is not small.
Also there's the fact that asexuals can still have sexual fantasies. They just don't typically inject themselves into the scenario as they don't have any desire to personally be involved with it fantasy or not. So asexuals can still enjoy a horny scene, they just experience it differently than perhaps others would. Not to say that this is the experience for every individual, so for the friend mentioned in the original comment, not sharing is probably the right choice for that individual.
I’ve come across this, and will now be adding it to my tbr, thank you :D
Ich muss sagen, ich bin sehr glücklich von diesem Wechsel zu hören. Hab die alten story videos sehr vermisst.
That sounds like a recommendation to me. Lol. Along with fair warning.
Yeah I would be the friend😂
the emotion put into: "I am begging you with tears in my eyes, DO NOT read that book!" is amazing lmao
Reminds me of my bestie saying she'll watch a series I recommended but it was actually a BL series with not so innocent stuff... I was like "NOOOOOOO DO NOT WATCH THAT EVEN THO ITS A MASTERPIECE" and she watched it without listening to me and loved it ❤😂
Btw it’s pronounced Iyla not Isla. It’s Scottish
So like Lee La? Or Ee La? Or Ai La, like island?
I haven't read the book, but I'm really curious. When I heard she said "is la", in my head I thought it would be "ai la, like island"
@@cher1z4rdyeah it's the same as island just, without the 'nd'. The 'a' is dull and the 's' is silent like
EYE-lə or "eye-la"
@@cher1z4rd yeah ai la like island in Spanish
It's pronounced eye-lar for english. It's is-lar when in Spanish. I have never heard someone pronounce it eez-lar before tho made me shudder
@@myneighbourisla yeah
Thanks for the book recommendation
Omg I have had this exact conversation so many times-
Like I’ve stopped saying the names of books I’m reading unless I’m recommending them. Because a lot of my friends/family also underestimate how gruesome and/or horny some of the things I read are. So I just say “this novel I was reading” or something like it lol
I thought the book was about the horrors of the World Wars and her friend was shielding her from the potential horror.
My bf in college: hey babe that book I gave you, there's this scene I need to tell you to skip.
Me: you mean the scene where she has to have ritual "intimacy" with a demon to get magic? You're too late.".😂
I love how that one fact would be a good sign for some people that they wouldn't like the book, and for others, it's as good as a recommendation 😅
Sounds like Sword of truth.😂
@@chrism4220
I think I read that book when I was young your talking about how he got his pain tolerance. My dad used to tell to skip any inappropriate parts whenever he found me reading any of his novels.
Ok, but now I need to know the name.... Please?
What's the name. Now I'm curious.
It's not "boundaries", it's decency.
Potato, tomato.
@@spudthepug Tell me you didn't understand anything without telling me
Idk. That phrasing implies that people who like horny books are indecent, which sounds really judgy.
As soon as she said "i didn't recommend that book" with panic, i knew what "type" of book it was
Dang don’t want the miscommunication trope to happen irl
I have a naïve and relatively innocent christian friend who has access to my google tv account
One day I bought A Clockwork Orange, and she commented on seeing "a new movie" in my google play library
I panicked and said "DON'T YOU DARE WATCH THAT!!! 😭" and had to explain why I told her no, it was really hard to defend why I would buy a movie like that
the "ive read hornier."😭😭😭 i cant💀
"Look I just don't think you're ready for Carne De Sade and no I don't to explain why"
I’m sorry…ISLA IS NOT PRONOUNCED HOW ITS SPELT 😭
Like depends on the story context as that is in fact how the name is pronounced in Spanish
@@clarehidalgo oh yeah I didn’t consider that
I feel this. I have had to ask my friends how... explicit their recommendations are