Hell isn't a place with fire anyways. Apparently that was made up by the catholic church, but I do love that line in the song because it just hits home.
@@JamieeSupernova Well... The entire concept of hell and the devil is completely made up and far more recent then people realise. It was a tactic to control even more what people would do. The entire idea of the looming eternal condemnation makes people easily manipulated. If those that preach about it actually believed in it you wouldn't see them commiting the crimes that will make them go to hell for eternity...
Same and I'm only 18 bruh. This shit exhausting. Literally if good jobs actually hired I feel we'd ALL be doing way better mentally and physically etc.
My god please do the rest of this song this hit me so hard. Turning 32 and I’m in nursing school with two kids. I had so many set backs in life. So many times I thought why should I bother anymore let everyone down. My family thought I’d be the most successful one out of everyone because I was always a straight A student. Sometimes we need to understand that life and mental health can truly play a big part in when your journey takes off.
Your perseverance and consistency of character will pull you through, the only thing missing is time. The first 20 years of my life was one set back after the other. I’m turning 42 this week and finally feeling like I’m getting ahead. You keep being a boss mama, you just need to recognize that time is part of the formula.
@@wreck_ignition7847thank you so much for being part of the population who lifts others up and encourages them! I’m proud of you for persevering as well ❤
I’m still in college but this “10 years later” version brings me more comfort than the original. I’m so scared of not knowing what to do after I graduate that sometimes it feels like I have no future at all. But listening to this version, hearing people still figuring things out in their 30s, it reminds me that I still have my life ahead of me. Things will not be perfect and there will be struggles and challenges but I still have a future. Thank you for this cover.
I'm 48 and life just keeps happening regardless of my plans. So I feel you and the best advice I can give is just roll with it. I was pleasantly surprised by where I ended up
And Sometimes you don’t realize what you want to do until you’ve had some real life experience too. I’m 39 currently applying for dental hygiene school after being a dental assistant for 16 years. My oldest is taking some college classes now and my youngest gets is in 2nd grade. We all get there eventually even if it isn’t the same road someone else travels by.
I never got this thing about caring if others are happier. Well, I care about the people that are my friends, them being happy makes me happy. But the rest is just scenery, right?
The day i turned 25 suddenly hit me. I was fine before but then suddenly exsistencial crisis on max for whole day. At night i had a talk with my (16 years older) husband about what i was feeling and how he went through similar at some point. He helped me see accomplishments i didnt and i geniinly am now happy with where i am❤it seems we all go through this!
"Did everybody succeed now." "Are they happier than me now." THIS is the problem. Right here. Those two questions should never be asked, yet we all seem to want to ask them. I understand why this song resonates with so many of us, but we have to put things in perspective. If you're watching this on a smartphone with a roof over your head, access to electricity, and a bit of food in the fridge... Then you're doing VERY well.
Constantly settling for what society provides is the way to ensure a divided class system because those at the top don't ask, they take, and they take our taxes.
@@meinbherpieg4723 I don't see how your comment is in any way related to what I said. I never said, or implied anything about settling for what "society provides". Understanding that you're in a more fortunate position than you think you are doesn't mean you're settling. Which is what my point is. If you're conflating those two things, then you're an idiot.
I get what you're trying to say, but we don't aspire for just the bare minimum in life. How much you have doesn't matter as much as how satisfied and happy you feel about yourself. A roof over your head, food in your fridge, a smartphone to watch with, all these things are great, but they are all material. They don't take into consideration the pressures of society, the struggles of trying to find a place in this big world that is already overcapacity, the stresses of balancing work and finances while also trying to find some energy for self-care and a social life (if we even have one to begin with). To disregard these individual factors is a big misunderstanding of what makes the human psyche so complicated.
@@myheartisomg17 You're missing the point entirely. It's not solely about possessing material things. It's about being in a position to get them. That's a very important distinction. Nothing about what I said dismisses the factors you've mentioned. My main point is people are too spoiled and too worried about other people's achievements to appreciate who they are and what they've become. Meanwhile we have millions of people starving, sick, homeless, uneducated, and otherwise completely helpess. But oh look, Johnny/Becky is sharing pictures of their supposed perfect life on Instagram. So woe is me.
that 10 years later song touched be hard. im 36.. and i felt every line. thinking what everyone else in my class achieved by now and i still havnt gotten far myself... struggeling to life my life kinda... and achieve things others get easily done... thanks for that beautiful short.
Then you should be screaming from the rooftops for every young woman to put college off until "after" they have raised their preferably homeschooled children. More than 10 YEARS are left to become a miserable feminist after that.
Thank you so much for sharing! I restarted university last year at 38 and feel a bit alone with that :D (and here, I have to study for 5 years until I finally can fulfill my dream of becoming a teacher)
@nriamond8010 I'm 36 and I feel like I'm restarting life. My chronic illnesses caught up to me right after I graduated with my masters. So I've never gotten to actually work in my intended career. Now all of my credentials are out of date and I'm starting an art career instead of taking those credential exams again.
30 years old millenial here, your song hit me in the guts pretty hard. Started tearing up out of nowhere. Telling everyone everything's fine, can't find the strength to talk to anyone about how empty i feel. Thank you for this song.
Hey Guillaume. Guillaume…you must be French? Hey I’m so sorry. Your comment stood out to me. I’m praying for you tonight. God sees you and he has a plan for you. Jeremiah 29:11. Keep swimming brother!
@@sarahgowens7652 Thank you, yes I'm french, i suppose my name gave it away I'm not a spiritual person, but i understand the strength and meaning of these words and how they can give you hope. Thank you for this
@@guillaume3972 Salut, juste pour te dire que tu n'es pas seul, je sais que socialement la santé mentale des hommes est assez tabou et que par conséquent ça peut être difficile de trouver de l'aide... Bon courage. Je bataille moi même avec une dépression depuis des années mais la thérapie aide vraiment. Si tu veux en parler n'hésite pas à me répondre.
I’m 35 and was sobbing like two days ago, thinking of how alone and left behind I feel. This song and the comments are both super comforting. Have a therapy session scheduled for Monday. Sending love and positive vibes to everyone who’s going through a rough time.
36 and feeling the same. I feel like I've sobbed my whole life away in just these past few years. I'm starting therapy in 5 days. I wish us both (us all) the best in life. We'll get there eventually.
35 and same here. Feeling like I’m behind everyone else and not having the life I thought I would by this age is hard. Every day I mourn the life I wish I’d had. Gotta try to do the best with my last few years in thirties to change it. Hope we three all find our happy
Turning 34 this year and finding some comfort here that we are not experience this alone. I also have been mourning the life I wish I had since my engagement with my first love ended a couple years back. And seeing friends reach the next milestones in their life while I’m still sad and alone. It’s tough, but may us get through it all together 😌
I'm turning 30 and feel similar. But I found something that helped is. I quit a few years ago my job after I found it not satisfying to just work 7 to 5 for living and collecting money just for myself. So I went into a crisis region to help rebuild after a disaster and if you can't help practical, just being there for the people and listen to them make a huge difference. It gave my life new meaning. Sure it wasn't easy. On the beginning stress hit my stomach and took at least a half year to get some friends on the new place. But I think it was worth it. And found a new family of the local people. But be warned helping isn't always thankfully, but god sees it and if he's your friend too in him he will repay it, latest in heaven. Just ask the locals how you can help they'll know what's missing. More and more it's even scientific approved that helping others helps yourself mentally as well.
Every version of this song hits hard. I have heard three versions orignal one , then a senior version and then this one and they all have there own stories which many might relate to. I just love them all.
I'm 30 years out of college and a whole life time behind I don't see where I got left behind don't know when I went blind My small apartment smells bad just got another cat I keep on falling how many cats can I name Collins
I'll be 40 in summer and I'm so much looking forward to it. My own life didn't really start until my mid thirties. Now I found my own balance and strength and the love of my life, all within the last four years. Don't give up, brothers and sisters. Concentrate on all the things you have already learned and experienced. Getting older can feel so good. Independent and calm. ♡
So true, I’m seeing that 20s is trying to gain traction, 30s building on whatever traction you may have hopefully gained, and 40s plus working on a legacy that will hopefully sustain you the rest of the way 🤞
Hang in there! Life doesn’t get easier, but you get stronger and it gets better. I’ll be 59 in a couple weeks; I’m having the best time of my life! I didn’t enjoy my 20s and 30s _nearly_ as much.
So true, I had to get rid of all the toxic people first to start my life properly. For some people it takes longer to get there, as we don't all start at the same point, but if you keep trying and working you will eventually get to where you want to be.
Dropping out of college was the best decision I ever made. It felt horrible at the time, but now I feel like I dodged a bullet, getting to start my life earlier and with less debt and no downsides. If I could do it all over again, I would have started working my first year out of high school.
@@LukeEhrat you're wise beyond your years, young man! Now stay away from relationships with women until you're well established in life, and whatever you do, don't get anyone pregnant! Always bring and use your own protection and dispose of it yourself. Never ever trust, "I'm on the pill." And whatever you do, don't get married, especially if she's a modern western woman (e.g., feminist, liberal, masculine, ho). You only get one chance to get this right, so avoid as many setbacks as possible.
Question for you since I dont know your history or anything like that. Did you jump into college or did you have a plan? I'm not insinuating you're a shitbag for dropping out just honestly curious since you felt the way you did.
This moved me to tears. I connect so deeply to this. I’m 32 and have been struggling to keep my head high and stay strong through illness and financial stress. I needed this today. Thank you.
Sending you love fellow 32-year-old! I took a different path. Got married at 22 and had children young. Same tears, but for different reasons. Life gives us so many challenges. Last year has been so freakin’ hard. I wish you the best! ❤
I'm 41 now, and I finally feel like I'm figuring my life out now. Took a lot of struggling to get here, but I am definitely happy...there's still time, trust me, it'll all be worth it 😊😊😊
32 is really just the beginning of when you start to feel like your feet are really under you. It's when you hit your 40s that you really come into your own for most of us. Give yourself grace and patience. You are right where you need to be. Your 30s are much better than your 20s. Enjoy them and don't worry about how other appear to be doing.
I'm almost 34, and this song hits home hard. I have a Bachelors degree and made deans list every semester before graduating in 2012. 12 years later, me & my dog are living with my dad. We'll be homeless in 3 weeks since he's moving out of state. I lost my job due to the company getting buried financially with sky-high property taxes and increased rent. I feel like I've worked so hard throughout my life, and here I am, single and alone at 33, no career, no relationship, no family, nothing to show for all the pain & struggle. Thank you for this song. It gave me some much needed comfort .
@Jaelineswan7340 What a great opportunity to do something new, like check out the Peace Corp or Teach For America, and live in a new state! You will be helping others, which always makes a person feel good! Good luck!❤😊🎉
Stay strong kiddo - when it feels like you're being pushed off the edge of a cliff it's the perfect time to believe you can fly. And you can - metaphorically. Cover every inch of you in self-esteem and fight tooth & nail to come out on top. I know this world can be unfair and maybe it feels cruel to feed the system by doing whatever it takes to survive but believe me - there's room for you in this world. ❤
Im old and widowed your struggle is understandable At you age you feel life is at its critical This day and age a relationship seems not so hospitable But im sure if you look there will be a person in your current life you overlooked There are men out there looking for you Maybe look in a different place thats new Im alone but saying prayers for you😢
Looking back on my life I wish I went to a shelter and started over instead of chosing 2 bad relationships which caused so much severe trauma. If I had to do it over again, I wouldn't. I would go to a shelter and accept their help and guidance to turn my life around. I was too proud back then and I regret it immensely.
It took me 6 years in college and uni, 2 in work placements that ultimately lead no where. Another 2 years till i managed to get into the career i had studied and dreamed off. It took them 2 years to destoy that dream and kill my passion. Now im back where i was...12 years ago and for what? Im 31 years old. This song hit me that im not alone, thank you ❤
I'll be 39 in a few months, and I found myself only 3 years ago. Things get better, friends. Not as fast as we all wanted or envisioned, but they do get better with every struggle and every challenge and every risk. Sending love to all
good to hear but it can still be rough sometimes. I'm a late bloomer/has to restart because my dream career just wasn't possible anymore. gonna go back to school with my siblings who are 10-14 years younger than me 💀🙃
I needed this. I’m approaching 30 quickly and I feel so lost and feel like a failure since I haven’t achieved all the greatness I feel like I was supposed to hit before 30
I am going to be 40 next month, and I also discovered my calling a couple of years ago. I am back in school to pursue my dream and will finally go after the life I have always wanted. Its not too late.
why is this so relatable? I'm also 32 and don't feel like I've gotten anywhere I want to be other than living on my own with my fiance/hubby. I struggle to pay rent and for everything else. yet I want a kid one day and to live comfortably with my hubby. I'm just so scared ill never get financially stable enough to live my dream of homeschooling my kid I have eventually . I hate the school system so I dont want to do it unless I know I can homeschool my child. but I know ill have my hubby and my child one day and everything will work out but I really thought id already be there by now. considering my parents had already owned two houses and had 3 kids by the time they were my age. it just feels like today money wise everything is so different maybe thats why we all feel so behind.
I'm 48 and just now getting on my feet where I feel like I've accomplished something and I still have plenty of goals to achieve. Don't give up folks, just because it's not happening for you right now doesn't mean it won't in the future. Take baby steps to get to that goal. Don't overwhelmed yourself about what you think you should have and focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes people need to take a step back and shift their perspective and take a look at the bigger picture and look back at what you have accomplished in the past. Stop beating yourself up and get out there and do what you need to do to achieve that first step in a long list of goals.
My name’s actually Colin and I’m 32. This is such a cute and sad song all at the same time. We’re all trying to figure life out and making it up as we go. The best thing we can do is not compare ourselves to others but find joy in the things we can control.
I like this reel cause it hits multiple levels. Like the first song irritates me a little, but the second one I relate to. I really like contrast. If you happened to listen to this when you were in first year of college, listening in 10 years would be very interesting
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
If you can relate to a 32 year old woman with Pink Hair who apparently has accomplished NOTHING in her life despite attending college, then YOU ARE DOING LIFE WRONG. Time for a change.
I'm sixty now and just learning that life is grand today with or without accomplishments on a schedule. I've beat depression, cancer, and hope springs eternal that love makes all the difference in life. Drop the schedule and embrace now!
This gave me so much comfort. You seem like a very nice person! I’d love to “drop my schedule” but unfortunately I’m 29 and I have to survive somehow. 🥲
I'm genuinely tearing up -- I promise it does get better. I'm 41 and it took each decade past being 2 days in college to recognize that *everyone's* 20s and 30s are devastatingly hard.
42.8 here.... now health problems have been added to all the rest 🤣🤣🤣 though i have a loving partner, can't complain there. all the best to everyone who reads this 💕💕💕 you've got this!! one day at a time 💕💕💕
It will never get better. This world is a pointless sesspool. Full of plague walking around on two legs. What's the point to breathing in this shit hole? There isn't one. You are born. You suffer. You die. You are forgotten. If you are remembered you aren't remembered for the life you live but for the life people imagine you lived. Living is pointless and means nothing. So the fact that we are stuck here is bullshit.
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
I love this! Her singing voice is amazing and touching! I'm 35. At 32 I started therapy so now I finally can proudly say that I don't feel like that... some of the days... But hey - now there's days when I can honestly say "I'm happy and fullfield" that's something I couldn't even dream of for the entierty of my life!
Ya Colin was the nice guy she ignored because he liked dfferent things. Imagine wanting a partner because they like all the same things you do, that's not how love works lol
Im 39 this year. Happier than ive ever been and more settled than i thought i would be. I didnt succeed, in my 20's or early 30's i had lessons to learn and things needed to fall apart, to fall right where they needed to be ❤❤
Turning 41 in a few months. My life gets better every year, but at 30 I would never have believed it. No joke, the most accurate statement I still reflect on was from the sex and the city movie, something about your 20s are for mistakes, your 30s paying for those mistakes, 40s for picking up the tab. My heart breaks for the unique challenges of younger folks, but if anyone ever asked me I would tell them the best thing I've learned this far is to stop competing, delete social media, dump the ___ you only see potential in, get a therapist and travel. I'm stoked as hell for 41...42...
Yes! I’ve got an additional verse in my head that starts “ i’m this far out of college, things finally fell in line, I wish I could tell my former self things are gonna be just fine”
It hurts me knowing how many people relate to this too. As if we are all somehow doomed to fail. Then i read the few comments who preach hope and finding themselves at last, and i realize... There is no specific age that life is supposed to click. Not your 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's, etc. Your life is uniquely yours, and your story might not look like others, but it's still your story.
It's like an entire generation did as they were told, and everything we were told we'd get isn't there. No affordable living, terrible wages, and the largest percentage of depression. But no one's angry. We're all just too tired.
My mom only got worse, and she passed last month beforeshe could do any of her dreams, and now I just cant help but think of the point of all of this, when everything can be taken, all my hard work just gone before I can put it to use. I like to believe me and my siblings are her achievement in life and I can try to make her proud, but I am 19 and I dont have a job or a car and I cant get hired. She saved up so much money to get a camper so she would have a place to live, and she passed before she could even go inside of it.. I put all my work into becoming an artist these last 8 years, but now ai art is coming out, and 2d is not really valued as much anymore
If it makes you less sad I went to uni, found my wife there, finished my degree and got a fairly good job (bit later than intended due to COVID), bought a house, got married, had a kid and I've not turned 30 yet. Sometimes things do go "as they are supposed to". But I'm also privileged to live in a country where I was helped through all of it.
The lyrics, the cadence, the pretext about "Collin", the sweetness in her voice, the use of her syllables, just Wow. I'm impressed. She has a very promising future as a song writer.
The wall has arrived, she's realized that a family should have been a priority and she squandered her prime years riding the c.c. Now its time to think about moving in with other modern women for survival.
Yesterday was my 32 birthday and damn do I feel this. Like a punch to the gut. I’m glad in a weird way I’m not the only one that feels this way. Millennials have been so divided over the years on so many things, but when you sit down we are all just trying to do our fucking best in this crazy beautiful fucked up chaotic world. For those feeling like me don’t ever stop fighting forward. Find the beauty and grasp it tight. I wish us all luck as we move forward.
Much love. Us millenials have been hit the hardest. Made to believe we can do anything, hell a lot tried. But it's true, we're just trying to make the best of our situation. Got tears in my eyes. I'm 36.
I'm 32 also, a mother of 3, a wife for 5 years, but in the relationship for 17 years, and somehow I still feel like I should be a kid. I'm not emotionally or financially ready for this world. I need the time to slow down or a restart. I really don't think life should be this freaking hard. But all we can do is keep moving forward. Happy belated birthday and I hope one day it will get easier for all of us and we can stop fighting to live and just live.
@@mistibransford6954 One thing, from a 55yr old male...who has kids half your age......KEEP going.....NEVER blame yourself....ALL of us - EVERYONE, is getting pumped over - Nothing is personal - NEVER EVER Blame yourself - Positive Mental Attitude - PMA. x
Look don't take this the wrong way you are where you are because of your choices just like everybody else apparently on this thread I'm 34 I'm a millennial then make better choices I get there are things that are out of our control but I know a lot of millennials that are in your position aren't focusing on what they can control they focus on everything that doesn't matter between our generation and gen z everybody wants to be an activist instead of just taking care of the responsibilities
This cover couldn't have come at the most perfect time. Is there like a full version? heck even and hour long one? could be a good background for one of those self deprecating nights.
damn.. its so true.. even though i am a teenager i'm still wondering why i'm still behind.. and not getting used to this h3ll and not feeling any fire in my life it hits precisely in the heart and questions our life...
I'm 36 and this are the exact same thoughts every day. I can't stop bawling now 💔 luckily I have therapy tomorrow 😂 Wait, 1.3K likes ?!?!!!! Thank you guys!!! Feels good that we are in the same sinking boat, but still rowing to the shore 😎👍🏼✨
@@RocketMomma-ig5ttnot true, my friend. There are those who can laugh at this world's nonsense because, even when life hurts, we don't place our hope in the things of this life. ❤ Jesus loves you, my friend.
Old millennial here, I'm 40 and finally have a good job, steady income, decent home, and loving relationship. Some of us pull it together later than others. Never compare yourself to others. You only see what they want you to see on social media. We are all struggling in our own ways, even the people who look like they have it all figured out.
Another old millennial. Took my kid and ran from an abusive relationship. Went back to school. Completely starting over and I’ll be 40 in October. Terrified, but I have no other choice. Kiddo starts school in fall.
You have this. Little younger than you guys, little older than OP but I can tell you this your not starting over your just doing it your way. There's only one end to our story and there's nothing after that!
How cool if each generation did one verse of this song, so we can all understand each others' struggles a little more. I'm Gen Z and currently in college so the first one hit, everything feels so uncertain and the world is so big and always changing, I always feel lost in the shuffle.. It feels like I could do so many different things, there are so many options available that choosing one feels impossible :( Also, getting locked out of the dorm. lol
I’m 20 years out of college, and my life feels halfway over and I’ve only just barely gotten anything started. There’s so much to do and so little time. I’ve found myself and my place and I’ve begun carving my spot in the world but I’m wondering if I’ll finish before I run out of the time I’m given. I just need more time.
Gen x here: I've never had a problem, and nothing bad ever happened. I got challanges galore, which sometimes turns to growth opportunities , and as much as it may suck, I embrace it and move on. This is why I know for sure: it's all good.
"...there are some many options available..." That is the good problem to have. Pick anyone to do. It literally doesn't matter which. And when you do it you might discover you like it and boom, it's all good. Or you may discover it sucks... and thats fine two because it just helped you narrow down your options and fine tune your search. You got this. Options are good.
Holy Cow when you manifest something so spot on from the tender loving kindness of the universe. Thank you. I'm with you sis. Take care of your beautiful self every day and everything else will fall into place.
I’m 38 and thought I had my life figured out. Made my permanent life decisions. But then I got a devastating illness that leaves me often bedridden and house bound. Even if you get it figured out at 24 like I did you have no clue what life’s going to throw at you. Be grateful if you’re healthy and can still make choices. We all have our own battles. No human fights alone
Same boat here, but I got sick at 18 right after getting married… divorced now, and way better than I was, but it still is a battle every day and some weeks and months I’m back to where I started. It’s tough.
You all are so compassionate! I thought I was gonna get so my hate. I’m so sorry you all are ill as well. I hope you all can at least cope with the hand you’ve been dealt and find someone who will love you just as you are ❤❤❤❤
Oh dear love, this is all too relatable. I’m 30 now and am only starting to get grasp on my life. My 20s were absolutely hellish mentally and emotionally, and I probably am behind from most of my peers, but that doesn’t matter. I learned to stop comparing myself, and am just living each day peacefully, slowly getting to a point where I can sustain myself and be content with my life. I hope everyone else who’s struggling will be able to do so too. Wishing the best for everyone ♥️
I'm almost 40 and as a Xillennial, there's a lot I feel so behind on. I feel like I should have more stability and security, but seriously, my 30's were better than my 20's, and I'm WAY more excited about my 40's than I ever was about any decade. None of us really have it together. None of us really know anything. But at 39, I'm feeling cute in my own skin and I'm always open to learning more.
36, and somehow still single, dream job has fallen apart and has turned into a nightmare … I feel this song in my soul. Sending love to everyone here! We’ve got this! 💪 I don’t think anyone has it all together. Everyone’s doing great. Hang in there. Be proud of yourself. ❤
I started college at 16 & now I’m 27 & nowhere near how I imagined my life would be. Maybe it’s all the same for us, things won’t always go the way we expect them to be.
Being 28 I have some unsolicited advice (featuring bonuses from my mother) Fuck everyone else. Much easier said than done, but it took until my 26th birthday for the switch to flip in my head. At this stage, no one else’s opinion matters. They can give advice, sure, but it’s not worth tailoring everything you do to pleasing other people. It’s not easy at all. And also, don’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone is going at their own pace, and too many people are spending too much time looking at everyone else and wondering why they aren’t where that other person is. It is a waste of precious time and energy
I have more unsolicited advice as a wee old 27 yr old. You always hear the kind of advice that says “make every day count” “life is short” “you only live once” and those kinds of things. The thing is, that advice was made by older people and it puts a lot of pressure on you to always be thinking ahead and pushing on. And yes, that’s good. But it’s also bad. It’s too much pressure. Our society puts too much pressure on younger people. So you have to balance that and take time to fuck around and find out. Take time to lounge all day and do nothing. Take time to do that hobby that people judge you for. Life isn’t short at all as long as you give yourself the time to live it. For old people, yeah, their life be short. Cause they fuckin old. Us? Nah, we have time. They just want us to believe we don’t.
Thats because we all pretend we have our life together. You can only see the outside. Everyone struggles and you are not behind. Go your path and dont forget to take breaks to enjoy the view❤
Too real. I made the decision to move back in with my parents so I could actually save money (rent was eating my savings) and because my mental health was suffering (I needed practical assistance), and it’s been wonderful having their support, it was a good decision, but I sometimes feel so dumb for not having a house and a family of my own and a higher salary. I have younger friends in the same field making way more than me and it makes me feel like I’m so behind.
I too am moving back in with my mom once my lease is up for the same exact reasons you listed. It's nice to know I'm not alone but dealing with the shame associated with it can be so tough.
Lol, I'm 35, was kicked out of an abusive home at 16. Had my first child at 20, got a trade, now run my own business bringing in 6 figures a year. My wife is a stay at home mum looking after our 3 boys, been with her for 16 years, we have a semi traditional relationship, she has helped build me up so I can provide for our family. Dropping out of college to get a trade was the best thing I've ever done. 99% of my friends have office based jobs and are struggling to pay bills. My suggestion to you would be to utilize your time living at your parents the best way by ditching your current career and getting a trade then going self employed and taking in your own jobs.
@@Pablosplace that's horrible advice...trades are not for everyone you don't know their situation either. Being self-employed is incredibly hard and not stable, being your own boss only sounds good but most people are nowhere close to knowing how to run a business correctly. Plus you just rubbed your successful life in their face not cool. We can't all do the same thing or no one would be doing the jobs we need, you keep doing you but don't make it seem like the only way to be.
@@nerdycurls6253 I've been self employed for 8 years and am absolutely killing it, same as everyone I subby in on my jobs. It's fantastic advice, you just don't have the drive to do it. What do you do for a living?
“Wonder where Colin ended up” “Got so used to hell, don’t even feel the fire” Those lines hit hard. Edit: omg the likes 😭 Edit: and I’m top comment? Tysm!
I was probably Colin for a lot of girls. I'm good looking, good personality, hard working, and truly kind. A ton of girls rejected me for some reason. I blame Disney Frozen. All women got paranoid after that movie. If Colin is like me and did well, he will not want any of his exes to see how well he did. People think it will feel good when the person rejected us will regret not choosing us, but it actually a terrible feeling. This actually happened to me. The girl who ghosted me and I think she chose another guy and then try to get with me again after her break up and after she found out the type of guy I was, but it was too late. I got married to someone else. She saw me and my wife at the store. My wife and I were very nice to each other. I can feel how bad the girl who ghosted felt. It was one of the worst feelings. I rather a girl hate me and think I'm a loser, so they can move on than get stuck on me.
44+ years into this life...often feel more than 10 years behind, but sometimes I see that the struggle is part of the joy. Starting to measure differently.
@HonestlyHolistic It is the same person, she says "wonder where Colin ended up" if it was a different person then why would she mention a random person😂
47, and I thought I would have more wins then L's too. I feel for every step forward I am able to take I am pushed back five. It feels neverending. I'm crying while listening on repeat now but know I have to x out soon because I don't want my little one walking in on the tears. I needed this video, even for just the five minutes I am able to take for myself. Thank you.
I'm 40 this year. Can't buy a house, separated with two kids (and still living together). I have a good new job but I'm still constantly broke. This world sucks right now. I'm rooting for you, Steph!!!
@@Palafertiil Perspective is everything.The fact that you have a roof over your head and are able to provide for your children tells me that you're doing pretty well. Millions of people would love to be in your position. Don't forget that.
💝 I'm sorry you're struggling. Remember that it's okay to take a moment every now and then to recognize and feel your feelings... feeling what you feelnis not a denial of the good in your life. Acknowledging that things aren't the way you wanted or expected isn't wrong or bad. It's totally natural. Healthy even. Also... remember that it's okay to let your kid see you having feelings and even struggling... it's important they can see you working through those things and moving forward despite your difficulties.. if you hide it always, they'll maybe come to think there's something wrong with them for not understanding what to do with their own big feelings... maybe don't give them all the whys and wherefores of your big feels, but it's okay to let them see that sometimes life is hard... that way they'll know that they can come to you when they're struggling because you're a safe place to collapse and reorient themselves. Sending you a comforting hug from a total stranger on the internet. You'll get through this. 💝💖💝
I feel you. A few years older than you and feel like I've had more L's than W's, but I think it's perspective as there are always people worse off than me even when I am struggling. Saving grace came as a new career after turning 50 in a field I never dreamed I wanted to work in. Finally have a career instead of just a job, but now dealing with hubs severe health issues, but it's okay as it can't always be a bed of roses. Somehow we'll make it through like we always do and I know you'll do it too.
@@ladymoonmyst4872 At your age, you should have better wisdom to pass on. We're SUPPOSED to have more L's than W's. Who told you it should be the other way around? Life is supposed to be full of challenges to overcome, and those challenges increase with everything you bring into your life. (Job, Kids, Husband, House, etc.) It's how we learn, grow, and get better. Difference is, we have SO many tools to help us face those challenges, and we're acting helpless. Comparing your life to other people like this woman is doing in the song is a recipe for disaster. Showing empathy is fine, but please don't feed into the "woe is me" narrative that pollutes these comments. Saying "you'll get through it" can be encouraging, sure, but that downplays the degree of difficulty they'll experience in their life. The truth is, they're gonna have to deal with shit like this for the rest of their lives, and it'll probably get worse.
Wow, I love the lyrics of this song. Almost into my 30's and I feel similar. But on a positive note, I fell in love with your voice. Keep going whatever it is you're doing, I got your back! ❤️
This isn't some feels good fantasy were in a global economic recession seeing a decline in quality of life. The working class is losing ground day by day. It's great to feel the good vibes and all but your an adult and you should face the facts in front of you
We often feel we are behind and not where we are supposed to be in life. We don't have the right job making the right amount of money and benefits so we have no way to buy the house of our dreams, heck, we can barely pay rent, even with sharing expenses with annoying and unreliable roommates. We haven't found the love of our life, either, to share our journey with, except that maybe we did but just didn't realize that this someone was THE someone. It can be very frustrating and depressing when you feel that not only are you not where you want to be...but that you never will be. It's hard to be a human in 2024. All you can do is just keep trying every day to put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward.
I feel horrible for the children who bought the lies about college, now stuck in debt,high cost of living with no marketable skills or experience. The only thing that saved me was I dropped out of school.Started working two jobs, renting my bedroom from my parents, and saved every penny possible. Own my own home now free and clear. They sell you a dream with a price tag, library cards are free. You can still go to college parties, especially when all your friends are there🎉
"Did everybody succeed now, are they happier than me now?" I suddenly started tearing up I feel this all the time despite reminding myself my success will eventually come... I know it will now I am back in college and am now working on it. Still I can't deny these feelings. But we'll get through it :D
As a lost 32 year old barely knowing if I'm gonna make the rent or not this was really hitting home. Thank you for making me and others feel less alone ❤
Please do full cover I want to keep listening
Me tooooooo!!!!!
Sammmmmmeee!!!! I love that song!! 🎧
Agreed!
Same
Yes!
"Got so used to h3ll, I don't even feel the fire." I felt that line so much... 😔
Me too
God has all of us just believe
Hell isn't a place with fire anyways. Apparently that was made up by the catholic church, but I do love that line in the song because it just hits home.
@@JamieeSupernova Well... The entire concept of hell and the devil is completely made up and far more recent then people realise.
It was a tactic to control even more what people would do. The entire idea of the looming eternal condemnation makes people easily manipulated.
If those that preach about it actually believed in it you wouldn't see them commiting the crimes that will make them go to hell for eternity...
Same and I'm only 18 bruh. This shit exhausting. Literally if good jobs actually hired I feel we'd ALL be doing way better mentally and physically etc.
That high note was actually so smooth my lord..
Helps it ain't live and has been tuned to shit
My god please do the rest of this song this hit me so hard. Turning 32 and I’m in nursing school with two kids. I had so many set backs in life. So many times I thought why should I bother anymore let everyone down. My family thought I’d be the most successful one out of everyone because I was always a straight A student. Sometimes we need to understand that life and mental health can truly play a big part in when your journey takes off.
Your perseverance and consistency of character will pull you through, the only thing missing is time. The first 20 years of my life was one set back after the other. I’m turning 42 this week and finally feeling like I’m getting ahead. You keep being a boss mama, you just need to recognize that time is part of the formula.
@@wreck_ignition7847thank you so much for being part of the population who lifts others up and encourages them! I’m proud of you for persevering as well ❤
@@aubreybushe5313 I’m proud of you too! It feels weird being thanked for baseline decency. I really hope people learn to love each other again.
I’m still in college but this “10 years later” version brings me more comfort than the original. I’m so scared of not knowing what to do after I graduate that sometimes it feels like I have no future at all. But listening to this version, hearing people still figuring things out in their 30s, it reminds me that I still have my life ahead of me. Things will not be perfect and there will be struggles and challenges but I still have a future. Thank you for this cover.
❤❤
Indeed. We all continue forward, even if it makes no sense, even if we have no idea which way it is, we continue forward
Wishing you loads of luck!!!❤
I'm 48 and life just keeps happening regardless of my plans. So I feel you and the best advice I can give is just roll with it. I was pleasantly surprised by where I ended up
And Sometimes you don’t realize what you want to do until you’ve had some real life experience too. I’m 39 currently applying for dental hygiene school after being a dental assistant for 16 years. My oldest is taking some college classes now and my youngest gets is in 2nd grade. We all get there eventually even if it isn’t the same road someone else travels by.
“Did everyone succeed and are they happier than me” is so real!!! I’m 25 and I thought I’d be so much farther than I am now.
I'm freshly 43 and that feeling hasn't gone away. 🤗🤗
I never got this thing about caring if others are happier. Well, I care about the people that are my friends, them being happy makes me happy. But the rest is just scenery, right?
My friend, I'm 43 and I'm still behind.
I'm 27 and I used to think this way as well. But then you realize everyone is on their own path at different speeds and that's ok.
The day i turned 25 suddenly hit me. I was fine before but then suddenly exsistencial crisis on max for whole day. At night i had a talk with my (16 years older) husband about what i was feeling and how he went through similar at some point. He helped me see accomplishments i didnt and i geniinly am now happy with where i am❤it seems we all go through this!
"Did everybody succeed now."
"Are they happier than me now."
THIS is the problem. Right here. Those two questions should never be asked, yet we all seem to want to ask them. I understand why this song resonates with so many of us, but we have to put things in perspective. If you're watching this on a smartphone with a roof over your head, access to electricity, and a bit of food in the fridge... Then you're doing VERY well.
Constantly settling for what society provides is the way to ensure a divided class system because those at the top don't ask, they take, and they take our taxes.
@@meinbherpieg4723 I don't see how your comment is in any way related to what I said. I never said, or implied anything about settling for what "society provides". Understanding that you're in a more fortunate position than you think you are doesn't mean you're settling. Which is what my point is. If you're conflating those two things, then you're an idiot.
Low bar,
I get what you're trying to say, but we don't aspire for just the bare minimum in life. How much you have doesn't matter as much as how satisfied and happy you feel about yourself.
A roof over your head, food in your fridge, a smartphone to watch with, all these things are great, but they are all material. They don't take into consideration the pressures of society, the struggles of trying to find a place in this big world that is already overcapacity, the stresses of balancing work and finances while also trying to find some energy for self-care and a social life (if we even have one to begin with).
To disregard these individual factors is a big misunderstanding of what makes the human psyche so complicated.
@@myheartisomg17 You're missing the point entirely. It's not solely about possessing material things. It's about being in a position to get them. That's a very important distinction.
Nothing about what I said dismisses the factors you've mentioned. My main point is people are too spoiled and too worried about other people's achievements to appreciate who they are and what they've become.
Meanwhile we have millions of people starving, sick, homeless, uneducated, and otherwise completely helpess. But oh look, Johnny/Becky is sharing pictures of their supposed perfect life on Instagram. So woe is me.
that 10 years later song touched be hard. im 36.. and i felt every line. thinking what everyone else in my class achieved by now and i still havnt gotten far myself... struggeling to life my life kinda... and achieve things others get easily done... thanks for that beautiful short.
Then you should be screaming from the rooftops for every young woman to put college off until "after" they have raised their preferably homeschooled children. More than 10 YEARS are left to become a miserable feminist after that.
i'm 34... and your words is exactly how i feel as well...
I was 30 and my hubby was 32 when we got married. I went back to college at 38 and started my career at 40. You’re not alone and have plenty of time.
That's inspirational 🙏🏼 thanks for sharing ☺️
Thank you so much for sharing! I restarted university last year at 38 and feel a bit alone with that :D (and here, I have to study for 5 years until I finally can fulfill my dream of becoming a teacher)
Thank you
@nriamond8010 I'm 36 and I feel like I'm restarting life. My chronic illnesses caught up to me right after I graduated with my masters. So I've never gotten to actually work in my intended career. Now all of my credentials are out of date and I'm starting an art career instead of taking those credential exams again.
She’s definitely not alone but no one has all the time in the world.
30 years old millenial here, your song hit me in the guts pretty hard. Started tearing up out of nowhere. Telling everyone everything's fine, can't find the strength to talk to anyone about how empty i feel.
Thank you for this song.
Hey Guillaume. Guillaume…you must be French? Hey I’m so sorry. Your comment stood out to me. I’m praying for you tonight. God sees you and he has a plan for you. Jeremiah 29:11. Keep swimming brother!
@@sarahgowens7652 Thank you, yes I'm french, i suppose my name gave it away
I'm not a spiritual person, but i understand the strength and meaning of these words and how they can give you hope. Thank you for this
As a fellow millennial I can say, most of us didn't make it.
Are you a millenial if you where born in the 90es? I always thought i would be a 90es child because I was born 94
@@guillaume3972 Salut, juste pour te dire que tu n'es pas seul, je sais que socialement la santé mentale des hommes est assez tabou et que par conséquent ça peut être difficile de trouver de l'aide... Bon courage. Je bataille moi même avec une dépression depuis des années mais la thérapie aide vraiment. Si tu veux en parler n'hésite pas à me répondre.
Dam she is so good at this
This song gives me a warm hug every time I listen to it. It's sad but also comforting that we're all going throught this ❤
I’m 35 and was sobbing like two days ago, thinking of how alone and left behind I feel. This song and the comments are both super comforting. Have a therapy session scheduled for Monday. Sending love and positive vibes to everyone who’s going through a rough time.
36 and feeling the same. I feel like I've sobbed my whole life away in just these past few years. I'm starting therapy in 5 days. I wish us both (us all) the best in life. We'll get there eventually.
35 and same here. Feeling like I’m behind everyone else and not having the life I thought I would by this age is hard. Every day I mourn the life I wish I’d had. Gotta try to do the best with my last few years in thirties to change it. Hope we three all find our happy
Turning 34 this year and finding some comfort here that we are not experience this alone. I also have been mourning the life I wish I had since my engagement with my first love ended a couple years back. And seeing friends reach the next milestones in their life while I’m still sad and alone. It’s tough, but may us get through it all together 😌
wish u all the best❤
I'm turning 30 and feel similar. But I found something that helped is. I quit a few years ago my job after I found it not satisfying to just work 7 to 5 for living and collecting money just for myself. So I went into a crisis region to help rebuild after a disaster and if you can't help practical, just being there for the people and listen to them make a huge difference. It gave my life new meaning. Sure it wasn't easy. On the beginning stress hit my stomach and took at least a half year to get some friends on the new place. But I think it was worth it. And found a new family of the local people. But be warned helping isn't always thankfully, but god sees it and if he's your friend too in him he will repay it, latest in heaven. Just ask the locals how you can help they'll know what's missing. More and more it's even scientific approved that helping others helps yourself mentally as well.
Every version of this song hits hard. I have heard three versions orignal one , then a senior version and then this one and they all have there own stories which many might relate to. I just love them all.
Listen to the one made by Colin's POV.
What are they called
@@-Crystal.X.- I only remember a really gross one from Colin's POV. Was there a non-gross one?
@@mjlim6610 I'm not sure, the only one I heard from Colin's POV was a stalker version.
How could I find these?
I would play your full cover on repeat like crazy
Please make this into a full song. I'm begging you 😭
I'm 30 years out of college and a whole life time behind
I don't see where I got left behind
don't know when I went blind
My small apartment smells bad
just got another cat
I keep on falling
how many cats can I name Collins
Turning 32 in a couple months and feeling this. Please release a full cover!
lol. That’s me and about 2 weeks.
@@sophiamingnonette1847 Happy Birthday!
I’m even worse, I’m 37 and often think where did life go wrong 😹🙈
Same! 🫂
Same!! Happy 32! 🎉
I'll be 40 in summer and I'm so much looking forward to it. My own life didn't really start until my mid thirties. Now I found my own balance and strength and the love of my life, all within the last four years.
Don't give up, brothers and sisters. Concentrate on all the things you have already learned and experienced. Getting older can feel so good. Independent and calm. ♡
So true, I’m seeing that 20s is trying to gain traction, 30s building on whatever traction you may have hopefully gained, and 40s plus working on a legacy that will hopefully sustain you the rest of the way 🤞
God I needed to read this ❤
Hang in there! Life doesn’t get easier, but you get stronger and it gets better.
I’ll be 59 in a couple weeks; I’m having the best time of my life! I didn’t enjoy my 20s and 30s _nearly_ as much.
🙏🏾
So true, I had to get rid of all the toxic people first to start my life properly. For some people it takes longer to get there, as we don't all start at the same point, but if you keep trying and working you will eventually get to where you want to be.
Dropping out of college was the best decision I ever made. It felt horrible at the time, but now I feel like I dodged a bullet, getting to start my life earlier and with less debt and no downsides. If I could do it all over again, I would have started working my first year out of high school.
AMEN!
Good for you bro I’m 13 and already doing concrete and construction
@@LukeEhrat you're wise beyond your years, young man! Now stay away from relationships with women until you're well established in life, and whatever you do, don't get anyone pregnant! Always bring and use your own protection and dispose of it yourself. Never ever trust, "I'm on the pill." And whatever you do, don't get married, especially if she's a modern western woman (e.g., feminist, liberal, masculine, ho). You only get one chance to get this right, so avoid as many setbacks as possible.
Question for you since I dont know your history or anything like that. Did you jump into college or did you have a plan? I'm not insinuating you're a shitbag for dropping out just honestly curious since you felt the way you did.
To everyone feeling like they are no where close to where they hoped to be, we'll get through all this
This moved me to tears. I connect so deeply to this. I’m 32 and have been struggling to keep my head high and stay strong through illness and financial stress. I needed this today. Thank you.
Sending you love fellow 32-year-old! I took a different path. Got married at 22 and had children young. Same tears, but for different reasons. Life gives us so many challenges. Last year has been so freakin’ hard. I wish you the best! ❤
you will be fine brother keep at it
Stay strong you will get through
I'm 41 now, and I finally feel like I'm figuring my life out now. Took a lot of struggling to get here, but I am definitely happy...there's still time, trust me, it'll all be worth it 😊😊😊
32 is really just the beginning of when you start to feel like your feet are really under you. It's when you hit your 40s that you really come into your own for most of us.
Give yourself grace and patience. You are right where you need to be.
Your 30s are much better than your 20s. Enjoy them and don't worry about how other appear to be doing.
I'm almost 34, and this song hits home hard. I have a Bachelors degree and made deans list every semester before graduating in 2012.
12 years later, me & my dog are living with my dad. We'll be homeless in 3 weeks since he's moving out of state. I lost my job due to the company getting buried financially with sky-high property taxes and increased rent.
I feel like I've worked so hard throughout my life, and here I am, single and alone at 33, no career, no relationship, no family, nothing to show for all the pain & struggle.
Thank you for this song. It gave me some much needed comfort .
@Jaelineswan7340 What a great opportunity to do something new, like check out the Peace Corp or Teach For America, and live in a new state! You will be helping others, which always makes a person feel good! Good luck!❤😊🎉
Stay strong kiddo - when it feels like you're being pushed off the edge of a cliff it's the perfect time to believe you can fly. And you can - metaphorically. Cover every inch of you in self-esteem and fight tooth & nail to come out on top.
I know this world can be unfair and maybe it feels cruel to feed the system by doing whatever it takes to survive but believe me - there's room for you in this world. ❤
Im old and widowed your struggle is understandable
At you age you feel life is at its critical
This day and age a relationship seems not so hospitable
But im sure if you look
there will be a person in your current life you overlooked
There are men out there looking for you
Maybe look in a different place thats new
Im alone but saying prayers for you😢
Looking back on my life I wish I went to a shelter and started over instead of chosing 2 bad relationships which caused so much severe trauma. If I had to do it over again, I wouldn't. I would go to a shelter and accept their help and guidance to turn my life around. I was too proud back then and I regret it immensely.
When there is life, there is hope
*LOVE* how you wrapped the melody up ❤
pls do a full version this made me feel so much better knowing everyone feels like this at some point
I'm so grateful to know that there are many people feeling this way
This. Thank you. I don't feel as alone
Me too 🥺
Yeah life is just shit like that. 🤷♀️
You are not alone I’m 31 this hit me really hard :/
Im in my mid 50s - still feel the same. Hope you do better than me.
This was way more emotional than I expected. 😥
It took me 6 years in college and uni, 2 in work placements that ultimately lead no where. Another 2 years till i managed to get into the career i had studied and dreamed off. It took them 2 years to destoy that dream and kill my passion. Now im back where i was...12 years ago and for what? Im 31 years old. This song hit me that im not alone, thank you ❤
can anyone take a moment to praise the voices, the lyrics she sang ... its amaizing and and true
I'll be 39 in a few months, and I found myself only 3 years ago.
Things get better, friends. Not as fast as we all wanted or envisioned, but they do get better with every struggle and every challenge and every risk.
Sending love to all
good to hear but it can still be rough sometimes. I'm a late bloomer/has to restart because my dream career just wasn't possible anymore. gonna go back to school with my siblings who are 10-14 years younger than me 💀🙃
I wish you luck !😊
I needed this. I’m approaching 30 quickly and I feel so lost and feel like a failure since I haven’t achieved all the greatness I feel like I was supposed to hit before 30
I am going to be 40 next month, and I also discovered my calling a couple of years ago. I am back in school to pursue my dream and will finally go after the life I have always wanted. Its not too late.
@@mansibhagwate5hearing from people like you gives me so much hope and positivity for the future 🥹🩵
This should be on spotify
Exactly, so i can put it in all my playlists and listen to it on repeat 🥹
that what they think about themselves, avoiding real progress in live.
why is this so relatable? I'm also 32 and don't feel like I've gotten anywhere I want to be other than living on my own with my fiance/hubby. I struggle to pay rent and for everything else. yet I want a kid one day and to live comfortably with my hubby. I'm just so scared ill never get financially stable enough to live my dream of homeschooling my kid I have eventually . I hate the school system so I dont want to do it unless I know I can homeschool my child. but I know ill have my hubby and my child one day and everything will work out but I really thought id already be there by now. considering my parents had already owned two houses and had 3 kids by the time they were my age. it just feels like today money wise everything is so different maybe thats why we all feel so behind.
I'm 48 and just now getting on my feet where I feel like I've accomplished something and I still have plenty of goals to achieve. Don't give up folks, just because it's not happening for you right now doesn't mean it won't in the future. Take baby steps to get to that goal. Don't overwhelmed yourself about what you think you should have and focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes people need to take a step back and shift their perspective and take a look at the bigger picture and look back at what you have accomplished in the past. Stop beating yourself up and get out there and do what you need to do to achieve that first step in a long list of goals.
My name’s actually Colin and I’m 32. This is such a cute and sad song all at the same time. We’re all trying to figure life out and making it up as we go. The best thing we can do is not compare ourselves to others but find joy in the things we can control.
Hugs
You go Colin!
You got it, Colin! Comparison kills our joy and makes contentment difficult. Gratitude for the things I can control leads to a happier life.
The algorithm must be summoning all 32 year old Colins
My sister's boyfriend's name is Colin. He's like 35 though.
Out of nowhere CZcams shows this reel. It's beautiful. And it hits me in a very relatable way.
I like this reel cause it hits multiple levels. Like the first song irritates me a little, but the second one I relate to. I really like contrast. If you happened to listen to this when you were in first year of college, listening in 10 years would be very interesting
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
This!
Yea the algorithm do throw us some "feels good" at times or some "feels sad"
If you can relate to a 32 year old woman with Pink Hair who apparently has accomplished NOTHING in her life despite attending college, then YOU ARE DOING LIFE WRONG.
Time for a change.
Holy shit your lyricism is really good, and the vocals🔥
That last sentence hit me hard... 😢
I'm sixty now and just learning that life is grand today with or without accomplishments on a schedule. I've beat depression, cancer, and hope springs eternal that love makes all the difference in life. Drop the schedule and embrace now!
Check out aubrey de grey
He's an alcoholic. @@snorttroll4379
This gave me so much comfort. You seem like a very nice person! I’d love to “drop my schedule” but unfortunately I’m 29 and I have to survive somehow. 🥲
Love you man
❤❤❤🎉🙌🏾⚡️👍🏽
Damn this hit hard. Dammit, freaking tearing up. Thanks for the wicked song dude. I hope to hear the full cover.
What do you want to get better at? The rest of us that are poor own community, so we can learn from each other.
Exactly what I came into the comments section to say 😭
@@kylegrant6365you sound like you could be my friend
Wherever you are and whenever this may reach you, I wish you happiness
Agreed
Love the high tones. Definitely a W here
This is very sad, touching, and relatable.
Full release please 🤞
Omg i need the full cover 😢😢 This is very relateable
You're like 7 no it isn't💀 and you can't even spell💀
So relatable 😢😢😢
I'm genuinely tearing up -- I promise it does get better. I'm 41 and it took each decade past being 2 days in college to recognize that *everyone's* 20s and 30s are devastatingly hard.
I’m 39. Please tell me this is the end of it 😅
I'm 43...when is it going to end? Will it ever be easier or is this just how my life is going to be?
42.8 here.... now health problems have been added to all the rest 🤣🤣🤣 though i have a loving partner, can't complain there.
all the best to everyone who reads this 💕💕💕 you've got this!! one day at a time 💕💕💕
It will never get better. This world is a pointless sesspool. Full of plague walking around on two legs. What's the point to breathing in this shit hole? There isn't one. You are born. You suffer. You die. You are forgotten. If you are remembered you aren't remembered for the life you live but for the life people imagine you lived. Living is pointless and means nothing. So the fact that we are stuck here is bullshit.
Just turned 40....didn't even get my 1st "real" job, one with benefits and good pay, until I was 30 or 31.
This is INCREDIBLE
Your control is absolutely amazing 🥹❤️❤️❤️
Please put a full version of this on spotify I wanna listen to it on repeat and cry
Mee too
I admit I'll almost cried
Did everyone else succeed
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
“All the things I thought I’d have by now are still so out of sight” 🥺 that line is so real
That's where entitlement comes in
@@FionnCr huh?
how did you arrive at this conclusion.
Yeah..yeah:/
I feel ya ❤ 31 and going to start college this fall because I believed I couldn't do it 13 years ago.
I love this! Her singing voice is amazing and touching!
I'm 35. At 32 I started therapy so now I finally can proudly say that I don't feel like that... some of the days... But hey - now there's days when I can honestly say "I'm happy and fullfield" that's something I couldn't even dream of for the entierty of my life!
This made me cry because I feel you on a spiritual level
“Wonder where Colin ended up” really gets me because there’s always the thought of the “what ifs” in life.
Freeturtle132 I have a boyfriend named Colin
@Britishempirewillneverdie who shat in your coffee😂
it gets me because I do want them happier than me
@@booknerdjebbi5037bro woke up british i assume and that explains it tbh
Ya Colin was the nice guy she ignored because he liked dfferent things. Imagine wanting a partner because they like all the same things you do, that's not how love works lol
OMG THIS VERSE WAS JUST-
amazingggg we need a full version pls
This sounds so satisfying
I want to listen to this on repeat ngl
"are they happier than me now" is such a devastating question to ask oneself.
The self-comparison is what truly k*lls you inside
Im 39 this year. Happier than ive ever been and more settled than i thought i would be. I didnt succeed, in my 20's or early 30's i had lessons to learn and things needed to fall apart, to fall right where they needed to be ❤❤
I'm 33 and much happier and more confident than in my 20s. I think it goes like that for many people.
❤❤❤ thank you
Turning 41 in a few months. My life gets better every year, but at 30 I would never have believed it. No joke, the most accurate statement I still reflect on was from the sex and the city movie, something about your 20s are for mistakes, your 30s paying for those mistakes, 40s for picking up the tab. My heart breaks for the unique challenges of younger folks, but if anyone ever asked me I would tell them the best thing I've learned this far is to stop competing, delete social media, dump the ___ you only see potential in, get a therapist and travel. I'm stoked as hell for 41...42...
Yes! I’ve got an additional verse in my head that starts “ i’m this far out of college, things finally fell in line, I wish I could tell my former self things are gonna be just fine”
@@manateepottery this I love
your voice gives me chills
Please do a verse every 10 years! This will be amazing!!
It hurts me knowing how many people relate to this too. As if we are all somehow doomed to fail.
Then i read the few comments who preach hope and finding themselves at last, and i realize... There is no specific age that life is supposed to click. Not your 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's, 60's, etc. Your life is uniquely yours, and your story might not look like others, but it's still your story.
It's like an entire generation did as they were told, and everything we were told we'd get isn't there.
No affordable living, terrible wages, and the largest percentage of depression. But no one's angry. We're all just too tired.
My mom only got worse, and she passed last month beforeshe could do any of her dreams, and now I just cant help but think of the point of all of this, when everything can be taken, all my hard work just gone before I can put it to use. I like to believe me and my siblings are her achievement in life and I can try to make her proud, but I am 19 and I dont have a job or a car and I cant get hired.
She saved up so much money to get a camper so she would have a place to live, and she passed before she could even go inside of it..
I put all my work into becoming an artist these last 8 years, but now ai art is coming out, and 2d is not really valued as much anymore
If it makes you less sad I went to uni, found my wife there, finished my degree and got a fairly good job (bit later than intended due to COVID), bought a house, got married, had a kid and I've not turned 30 yet.
Sometimes things do go "as they are supposed to". But I'm also privileged to live in a country where I was helped through all of it.
This should be the top comment fr
The lyrics, the cadence, the pretext about "Collin", the sweetness in her voice, the use of her syllables, just Wow. I'm impressed. She has a very promising future as a song writer.
Who is she?
Ye she does
The wall has arrived, she's realized that a family should have been a priority and she squandered her prime years riding the c.c. Now its time to think about moving in with other modern women for survival.
Which one??
@@Dade13305 I found her: Aimee
So melodic! I love the story. You speak of so many of us!
This hits hard. 33 here, everything you said feels so freaking accurate
Yesterday was my 32 birthday and damn do I feel this. Like a punch to the gut. I’m glad in a weird way I’m not the only one that feels this way. Millennials have been so divided over the years on so many things, but when you sit down we are all just trying to do our fucking best in this crazy beautiful fucked up chaotic world. For those feeling like me don’t ever stop fighting forward. Find the beauty and grasp it tight. I wish us all luck as we move forward.
This made me cry ❤ I’m 32 as well and couldn’t relate more to this!! Happy birthday to you 🙂
Much love. Us millenials have been hit the hardest. Made to believe we can do anything, hell a lot tried. But it's true, we're just trying to make the best of our situation. Got tears in my eyes.
I'm 36.
I'm 32 also, a mother of 3, a wife for 5 years, but in the relationship for 17 years, and somehow I still feel like I should be a kid. I'm not emotionally or financially ready for this world. I need the time to slow down or a restart. I really don't think life should be this freaking hard. But all we can do is keep moving forward.
Happy belated birthday and I hope one day it will get easier for all of us and we can stop fighting to live and just live.
@@mistibransford6954 One thing, from a 55yr old male...who has kids half your age......KEEP going.....NEVER blame yourself....ALL of us - EVERYONE, is getting pumped over - Nothing is personal - NEVER EVER Blame yourself - Positive Mental Attitude - PMA. x
Look don't take this the wrong way you are where you are because of your choices just like everybody else apparently on this thread I'm 34 I'm a millennial then make better choices I get there are things that are out of our control but I know a lot of millennials that are in your position aren't focusing on what they can control they focus on everything that doesn't matter between our generation and gen z everybody wants to be an activist instead of just taking care of the responsibilities
This cover couldn't have come at the most perfect time. Is there like a full version? heck even and hour long one? could be a good background for one of those self deprecating nights.
Nobody gonna talk about her amazing voice???
damn.. its so true.. even though i am a teenager i'm still wondering why i'm still behind.. and not getting used to this h3ll and not feeling any fire in my life it hits precisely in the heart and questions our life...
I'm 36 and this are the exact same thoughts every day. I can't stop bawling now 💔 luckily I have therapy tomorrow 😂
Wait, 1.3K likes ?!?!!!! Thank you guys!!! Feels good that we are in the same sinking boat, but still rowing to the shore 😎👍🏼✨
💐💅 Treat yourself, sis
It must be nice to afford therapy 🥲 I can barely afford rent 😰😭😭😭😭
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 yes! Work it out in therapy.
Don't worry. No one is happy. LOL
@@RocketMomma-ig5ttnot true, my friend. There are those who can laugh at this world's nonsense because, even when life hurts, we don't place our hope in the things of this life. ❤ Jesus loves you, my friend.
Old millennial here, I'm 40 and finally have a good job, steady income, decent home, and loving relationship. Some of us pull it together later than others. Never compare yourself to others. You only see what they want you to see on social media. We are all struggling in our own ways, even the people who look like they have it all figured out.
Another old millennial. Took my kid and ran from an abusive relationship. Went back to school. Completely starting over and I’ll be 40 in October. Terrified, but I have no other choice. Kiddo starts school in fall.
You have this. Little younger than you guys, little older than OP but I can tell you this your not starting over your just doing it your way. There's only one end to our story and there's nothing after that!
Dude... That hit different... Love your voice too oh my gosh!!
Feel this song. Id listen to a full song of this every day
How cool if each generation did one verse of this song, so we can all understand each others' struggles a little more. I'm Gen Z and currently in college so the first one hit, everything feels so uncertain and the world is so big and always changing, I always feel lost in the shuffle.. It feels like I could do so many different things, there are so many options available that choosing one feels impossible :(
Also, getting locked out of the dorm. lol
I’m 20 years out of college, and my life feels halfway over and I’ve only just barely gotten anything started. There’s so much to do and so little time. I’ve found myself and my place and I’ve begun carving my spot in the world but I’m wondering if I’ll finish before I run out of the time I’m given. I just need more time.
Gen x here: I've never had a problem, and nothing bad ever happened. I got challanges galore, which sometimes turns to growth opportunities , and as much as it may suck, I embrace it and move on. This is why I know for sure: it's all good.
"...there are some many options available..."
That is the good problem to have. Pick anyone to do. It literally doesn't matter which. And when you do it you might discover you like it and boom, it's all good. Or you may discover it sucks... and thats fine two because it just helped you narrow down your options and fine tune your search. You got this. Options are good.
"I'm 80 years old and I fought the Nazis in a World War and then got home and got a job and built the modern country like nothing happened."
@@swickens930 airborne Sir.
"Did everybody succeed now? Are they happier than me now?" Hits different 😩
Holy Cow when you manifest something so spot on from the tender loving kindness of the universe. Thank you. I'm with you sis. Take care of your beautiful self every day and everything else will fall into place.
This is excellent songwriting and storytelling - bravi!
I’m 38 and thought I had my life figured out. Made my permanent life decisions. But then I got a devastating illness that leaves me often bedridden and house bound. Even if you get it figured out at 24 like I did you have no clue what life’s going to throw at you. Be grateful if you’re healthy and can still make choices. We all have our own battles. No human fights alone
Im so sorry, i hope you manage to get better 😢
Wish the best for you and your future. I hope you are able to eventually recover.
Same boat here, but I got sick at 18 right after getting married… divorced now, and way better than I was, but it still is a battle every day and some weeks and months I’m back to where I started. It’s tough.
We have a similar situation.
You all are so compassionate! I thought I was gonna get so my hate. I’m so sorry you all are ill as well. I hope you all can at least cope with the hand you’ve been dealt and find someone who will love you just as you are ❤❤❤❤
Oh my GOD
You are preaching to the CHOIR. You have no idea how heartwarming it is to hear other people in their early 30s in this same place! Ahhh ❤
Jesus Christ it's still so freaking relatable
Both voices are astonishingly beautiful and moving, go for it all the way, never doubt or give up!
Oh dear love, this is all too relatable. I’m 30 now and am only starting to get grasp on my life. My 20s were absolutely hellish mentally and emotionally, and I probably am behind from most of my peers, but that doesn’t matter. I learned to stop comparing myself, and am just living each day peacefully, slowly getting to a point where I can sustain myself and be content with my life. I hope everyone else who’s struggling will be able to do so too. Wishing the best for everyone ♥️
I'm almost 40 and as a Xillennial, there's a lot I feel so behind on. I feel like I should have more stability and security, but seriously, my 30's were better than my 20's, and I'm WAY more excited about my 40's than I ever was about any decade. None of us really have it together. None of us really know anything. But at 39, I'm feeling cute in my own skin and I'm always open to learning more.
Why would you feel like you’re behind if I may ask? Sometimes, we’re competing against our own shadow
Idk man. I have no college beyond some career specific certs and I made 77k last year. College is a scam.
@@jenerin905genuinely love this for you 😊
I was not emotionally prepared for this hit in the guts 😢 ❤ this verse
Seriously....you're amazing!
Well thanks for making me cry! I just turned 44 and I feel way behind my peers.
36, and somehow still single, dream job has fallen apart and has turned into a nightmare …
I feel this song in my soul.
Sending love to everyone here! We’ve got this! 💪 I don’t think anyone has it all together.
Everyone’s doing great. Hang in there. Be proud of yourself. ❤
I started college at 16 & now I’m 27 & nowhere near how I imagined my life would be. Maybe it’s all the same for us, things won’t always go the way we expect them to be.
And that’s okay
Such a pretty tone in those high notes...please do a full version ❤
This hits me deep in my soul. Been along time sense a song hits me bless you
😭 i might be 19 but your version hit me cuz i cant keep up with what i hoped to do with my life & i feel so behind compared to everyone else
I wonder if we all feel this way. I'm with you right now and I haven't even graduated highschool.
Being 28 I have some unsolicited advice (featuring bonuses from my mother)
Fuck everyone else. Much easier said than done, but it took until my 26th birthday for the switch to flip in my head. At this stage, no one else’s opinion matters. They can give advice, sure, but it’s not worth tailoring everything you do to pleasing other people. It’s not easy at all.
And also, don’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone is going at their own pace, and too many people are spending too much time looking at everyone else and wondering why they aren’t where that other person is. It is a waste of precious time and energy
Omg I'm 19 too and I feel so behind. Like when I was younger I thought I'd have more going for me at 19 then I do now.
I have more unsolicited advice as a wee old 27 yr old. You always hear the kind of advice that says “make every day count” “life is short” “you only live once” and those kinds of things. The thing is, that advice was made by older people and it puts a lot of pressure on you to always be thinking ahead and pushing on. And yes, that’s good. But it’s also bad. It’s too much pressure. Our society puts too much pressure on younger people. So you have to balance that and take time to fuck around and find out. Take time to lounge all day and do nothing. Take time to do that hobby that people judge you for. Life isn’t short at all as long as you give yourself the time to live it. For old people, yeah, their life be short. Cause they fuckin old. Us? Nah, we have time. They just want us to believe we don’t.
Thats because we all pretend we have our life together. You can only see the outside. Everyone struggles and you are not behind.
Go your path and dont forget to take breaks to enjoy the view❤
Too real. I made the decision to move back in with my parents so I could actually save money (rent was eating my savings) and because my mental health was suffering (I needed practical assistance), and it’s been wonderful having their support, it was a good decision, but I sometimes feel so dumb for not having a house and a family of my own and a higher salary. I have younger friends in the same field making way more than me and it makes me feel like I’m so behind.
I too am moving back in with my mom once my lease is up for the same exact reasons you listed. It's nice to know I'm not alone but dealing with the shame associated with it can be so tough.
Never feel ashamed of making smart decisions, especially when those smart decisions help you be happier :)
Lol, I'm 35, was kicked out of an abusive home at 16. Had my first child at 20, got a trade, now run my own business bringing in 6 figures a year.
My wife is a stay at home mum looking after our 3 boys, been with her for 16 years, we have a semi traditional relationship, she has helped build me up so I can provide for our family.
Dropping out of college to get a trade was the best thing I've ever done. 99% of my friends have office based jobs and are struggling to pay bills.
My suggestion to you would be to utilize your time living at your parents the best way by ditching your current career and getting a trade then going self employed and taking in your own jobs.
@@Pablosplace that's horrible advice...trades are not for everyone you don't know their situation either. Being self-employed is incredibly hard and not stable, being your own boss only sounds good but most people are nowhere close to knowing how to run a business correctly. Plus you just rubbed your successful life in their face not cool.
We can't all do the same thing or no one would be doing the jobs we need, you keep doing you but don't make it seem like the only way to be.
@@nerdycurls6253 I've been self employed for 8 years and am absolutely killing it, same as everyone I subby in on my jobs.
It's fantastic advice, you just don't have the drive to do it.
What do you do for a living?
Please please please. Do a full cover. I will surely download this.
I need this on Spotify. Hit way too hard
“Wonder where Colin ended up”
“Got so used to hell, don’t even feel the fire”
Those lines hit hard.
Edit: omg the likes 😭
Edit: and I’m top comment? Tysm!
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In prison maybe
I was probably Colin for a lot of girls. I'm good looking, good personality, hard working, and truly kind. A ton of girls rejected me for some reason. I blame Disney Frozen. All women got paranoid after that movie. If Colin is like me and did well, he will not want any of his exes to see how well he did. People think it will feel good when the person rejected us will regret not choosing us, but it actually a terrible feeling. This actually happened to me. The girl who ghosted me and I think she chose another guy and then try to get with me again after her break up and after she found out the type of guy I was, but it was too late. I got married to someone else. She saw me and my wife at the store. My wife and I were very nice to each other. I can feel how bad the girl who ghosted felt. It was one of the worst feelings. I rather a girl hate me and think I'm a loser, so they can move on than get stuck on me.
@@alexlilano1931you need to sit down babes🫶
please release a full version, I love your lyrics so much
Right I NEED this!!!
44+ years into this life...often feel more than 10 years behind, but sometimes I see that the struggle is part of the joy. Starting to measure differently.
PLEASE COLLAB WITH HER AND RELEASE THIS VERSION!!! AS SOMEONE STUCK INBETWEEN THE TWO VIBES I NEED IT!!! ❤
At first I actually thought it was the same person but younger vs older :’D
@@erikoinenuori oh it's not??? lol nvm they don't even look the same
@HonestlyHolistic It is the same person, she says "wonder where Colin ended up" if it was a different person then why would she mention a random person😂
@@FressNowdo your eyes work OK?
47, and I thought I would have more wins then L's too. I feel for every step forward I am able to take I am pushed back five. It feels neverending. I'm crying while listening on repeat now but know I have to x out soon because I don't want my little one walking in on the tears. I needed this video, even for just the five minutes I am able to take for myself. Thank you.
I'm 40 this year. Can't buy a house, separated with two kids (and still living together). I have a good new job but I'm still constantly broke. This world sucks right now. I'm rooting for you, Steph!!!
@@Palafertiil Perspective is everything.The fact that you have a roof over your head and are able to provide for your children tells me that you're doing pretty well. Millions of people would love to be in your position. Don't forget that.
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I'm sorry you're struggling.
Remember that it's okay to take a moment every now and then to recognize and feel your feelings... feeling what you feelnis not a denial of the good in your life. Acknowledging that things aren't the way you wanted or expected isn't wrong or bad. It's totally natural. Healthy even.
Also... remember that it's okay to let your kid see you having feelings and even struggling... it's important they can see you working through those things and moving forward despite your difficulties.. if you hide it always, they'll maybe come to think there's something wrong with them for not understanding what to do with their own big feelings... maybe don't give them all the whys and wherefores of your big feels, but it's okay to let them see that sometimes life is hard... that way they'll know that they can come to you when they're struggling because you're a safe place to collapse and reorient themselves.
Sending you a comforting hug from a total stranger on the internet.
You'll get through this. 💝💖💝
I feel you. A few years older than you and feel like I've had more L's than W's, but I think it's perspective as there are always people worse off than me even when I am struggling. Saving grace came as a new career after turning 50 in a field I never dreamed I wanted to work in. Finally have a career instead of just a job, but now dealing with hubs severe health issues, but it's okay as it can't always be a bed of roses. Somehow we'll make it through like we always do and I know you'll do it too.
@@ladymoonmyst4872 At your age, you should have better wisdom to pass on. We're SUPPOSED to have more L's than W's. Who told you it should be the other way around? Life is supposed to be full of challenges to overcome, and those challenges increase with everything you bring into your life. (Job, Kids, Husband, House, etc.) It's how we learn, grow, and get better. Difference is, we have SO many tools to help us face those challenges, and we're acting helpless.
Comparing your life to other people like this woman is doing in the song is a recipe for disaster. Showing empathy is fine, but please don't feed into the "woe is me" narrative that pollutes these comments. Saying "you'll get through it" can be encouraging, sure, but that downplays the degree of difficulty they'll experience in their life.
The truth is, they're gonna have to deal with shit like this for the rest of their lives, and it'll probably get worse.
She’s awesome!! Wishing you the best life!
Wow, I love the lyrics of this song. Almost into my 30's and I feel similar. But on a positive note, I fell in love with your voice. Keep going whatever it is you're doing, I got your back! ❤️
We always think we're behind. We all do this life thing at our own pace. You're right where you're supposed to be. Great tune
Perfect words! :)
This isn't some feels good fantasy were in a global economic recession seeing a decline in quality of life. The working class is losing ground day by day. It's great to feel the good vibes and all but your an adult and you should face the facts in front of you
I needed to hear that. 😢
We often feel we are behind and not where we are supposed to be in life. We don't have the right job making the right amount of money and benefits so we have no way to buy the house of our dreams, heck, we can barely pay rent, even with sharing expenses with annoying and unreliable roommates.
We haven't found the love of our life, either, to share our journey with, except that maybe we did but just didn't realize that this someone was THE someone.
It can be very frustrating and depressing when you feel that not only are you not where you want to be...but that you never will be.
It's hard to be a human in 2024. All you can do is just keep trying every day to put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward.
I feel horrible for the children who bought the lies about college, now stuck in debt,high cost of living with no marketable skills or experience. The only thing that saved me was I dropped out of school.Started working two jobs, renting my bedroom from my parents, and saved every penny possible. Own my own home now free and clear. They sell you a dream with a price tag, library cards are free. You can still go to college parties, especially when all your friends are there🎉
"Did everybody succeed now, are they happier than me now?"
I suddenly started tearing up I feel this all the time despite reminding myself my success will eventually come... I know it will now I am back in college and am now working on it. Still I can't deny these feelings. But we'll get through it :D
Would love a full collab with the original artist, perfect pairing and would give her more exposure ❤️😍❤️
This is stunning🥺
As a lost 32 year old barely knowing if I'm gonna make the rent or not this was really hitting home. Thank you for making me and others feel less alone ❤
I desperately need a third person to do the next verse-- "20 years out of college..."
Yes 🇦🇺 😊
She did one 😊 - czcams.com/video/5vtO2qxGgSA/video.htmlsi=o48Sz5gVn5n6a_Od
Gen x for the win...
I can try lol😊
but 🤞🏻 positive