Psych2Go Education channel gets some love. Do you find yourself getting angry easily? It may be angry at someone or events. Hopefully this video will bring some insight to you! Comment below to see if you share the same experience with others.
I'm like a hypocrite. Around my friends I'm this sweet and loving person but when I'm with my family it's always like hell breaking loose. I want to be the person everyone knows, especially around my parents. I get angry over the simplest things, which is a real problem for me
Same here, maybe I am comfortable with expressing myself with my family the way I am because they give me enough freedom but it also makes me angry at myself that I act like a jerk around my family because I let loose all of the pent up emotions that I actually want to convey to the one’s who are actually the reason behind my anger but end up reflecting on my parents who are not guilt of anything. I try to control my anger but can’t help but let loose and then regret it later and end up feeling depressed. I just wanted to share my perspective to let you know you’re not the only one who’s clueless about the problem you’re facing as I am as well
It can happen from a lifetime of having to swallow your anger with them. It didn't click for me until this past month that the reason I'm quick to anger with my mother is because I've never been allowed to voice any issues and have them taken into consideration for change. My mother was extremely mean to me this past month because she has been in a bad mood over something I had nothing to do with, and I just took it and waited until she was away to break down since I knew confronting her about it wouldn't change anything. How could anything I do fix a problem I in no way created? I knew any attempt would be met with gaslighting and even more cruelty, and I don't want to hurt anymore than I already do. Now that she's in a better mood, I find myself getting frustrated extremely quickly because she got to release all of those negative feelings onto me, while now I have those feelings and can't give them back. I hope this helps. Much love and many prayers sent everyone's way 🙏 ❤️
“Anger is a fear of getting hurt.” Sooo true, I find myself being defensive internally because am fighting not to be hurt, because I have been hurt many times before, so it’s like “no more” and am subconsciously on to protecting myself and it comes off as anger
Depends, the statement itself is not rly the definition of anger. In my case, my anger takes the form of need to physically break a person. Thing is im not big on physically assaulting others, so its all a mindgame, one that ends up in self harm in a very berserk state. You could say whats containing my anger is the sense of self preservation which ofc goes with fear of consequences.
Whenever I get angry, I cry and I hate it because no one tries to comfort me and so I just deal with it alone and in the end, I'm the only one who says sorry even though I wasn't the only one wrong. And they say I was disrespecting them cus they're older than me.
They do this often to me to the extent that i perfected how to have mental breakdown without anyone knowing about it. I even do it even in front of other people.
My short temper stems from things not going my way. Like if I can't get a shoe on, or spill something, or drop my keys, or even make a typo on my phone, etc, I have the urge to lose my shit. I have actually lost my cool before over things not going my way because I want things to be done in smooth sailing, but that often doesn't happen. I often scream, slam doors or even throw stuff in rage. My rage also pushes me to have huge meltdowns over the slightest trigger. It's hard to control my emotions when pissed.
@@thelivesofmany7013 I get very angry at people as well. If people cross me, I would get the urge to harm someone, but I don't act upon it because I can and will get arrested.
My classmates took advantage of my kindness and used my good nature against me from childhood to adolescence. Although I treated them kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me. As the weeks went by students started coming to me for favors, and I felt compelled to comply. Eventually, it got to the point where I started to resent them and walk on eggshells around them.
Growing up, I was always told to control my emotions and "react properly". Forced to be mature even as a child. No matter how I try to control my emotions now, I still go back to those childlike tantrums or be a person that even I will be afraid of. I feel confuse inside whether it's pain, anger or resentment. I was not able to let go of those feelings back then. People see me as a calm person most of the time because I tend to keep it all inside, that is why when I get mad, they all have the same "wtf" reaction on their faces and I can't justify what I say and what I do because during those anger moments, I am finally being honest to myself (too honest). I laugh, cry and get mad easily. It is hard living like a bomb, ready to explode in one snap anytime. I do feel guilty for the people who met me when I was emotionally unstable that I couldn't control my anger. I said and did things that I truly regret. I should've expressed that anger towards people who actually deserves it.
Right For sure never lash out at anyone who hasn't done anything to you Just break objects instead And try to check the people who DO fc with you on the spot
I relate to this so much like fr 💯. I lashed out at some homies who literally were getting on that family level. I feel guilty for lashing out at them but a part of me realizes I lashed out at them because I felt safe enough to do so. If that makes sense? Like with family they see you at your good and the ugliness in you and I feel like the same goes for the people who didn't deserve it.
I kinda get ya. Ever since I was a kid I was also told by my mom to react calmly and not show too much emotion. According to my mom, if I let out I was sad or angry or bothered by something I was just gonna be a bother to everybody and just make everything worse, so I had to bottle everything in and not react almost. I feel like that's affected me today cause the smallest things can get me either so depressed I just wanna lock myself in my room alone for a while or so unbelievably angry that I wanna just tell at the top of my lungs and kick or punch something. I was never able to handle these emotions well growing up cause if I told my mom I wasn't feeling well I was either just trying to be the center of attention, a nuisance or just making a big deal out of nothing. Having to deal with these issues is hard and I don't feel like I can trust my family with them. I feel like going to a medical professional and talking about these things with someone I can trust outside my family might be best.
Thank you so much for making a video about this, because I struggle with being ashamed of myself when I get angry. I don't let my anger take over, and turn me into a monster. But, when I feel angry, I still feel like it's wrong, because of what I've been taught by people around me. People say that anger is a sin, one of the seven deadly sins, and as a Christian, that really bothers me. I am trying to get it through my head that anger only becomes sinful when you let it control you, and you end up hurting others, as well as yourself. But, feeling angry shouldn't be considered a sin. It's an emotion. It's how you feel... and quite frankly, I'm so sick to death of being told my feelings are wrong. So... I'm really glad this video was made.
I learned this today from Ephesians 4:26 in the bible it says “Be angry, yet do not sin.” Do not let the sun set upon your anger. So what Paul said here is that you can get angry and thats okay, but don't let it control you because then Satan can take advantage of how you feel and then it can lead you to sin. BUT anger itself is not a sin. It is a human emotion that we all have. We just have to control it so it doesn't control us and make us do bad stuff. Some Tips for controlling anger I can recommend you: If you want pray to Jesus the living son of God about it. If you believe and receive him in your life he has promised that He Will Never Leave You Nor Forsake You. Exercise can also help you to control your anger by letting your emotions out by doing something creative, training at the gym or play a sport you like! I'm really sorry to hear that people told you that anger is a sin just because we feel it.... But I hope that Ephesians 4:26 explains the truth about this topic and it helps you out with your relationship with Jesus. (Hate on the other side is a different thing and if you feel hate for someone or something then that's not good, because you let the emotion of anger to evolve into what the devil wants us to do and that's to hate. Just wanted to make that clear. 😅)
I have anger issues for a long periods of time, unfortunately I still have a difficult family members who would violate my personal boundaries by going into my room & that involves of touching, taking things away that does not belong to them. And plus this is the difficult situation that I had to face like pretty much every single day. As well even during my childhood.
Yeah, my Freind deals with this too & got upset with me and yelled choosing a pink slide for our project. It honestly makes me feel bad bc of things I've experienced in my life. I'm so sorry that these things happened to you, nobody should ever go through that
@@puffmello2674 Thank you and I do really appreciate that from you a lot. And it's really does mean a lot. I'm am sending a lot of hugs to you too my friend! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
That's also one of the reasons I gets angry I fricking hate when people touch my stuff and they'll be like "i don't know" when you ask them why something is missing or broken what f**king makes me more angry when I'm asking questions why my stuff is broken or missing and they ignore me
You’re not alone and after that i always blame myself bc i cant control what i say when i get angry i know many people hate me but i hate myself too bc my mouth so toxic when i get mad but what i say it’s not true , I didn’t mean it
I get angry easily, I know I shouldn't but I find it easier to make people listen to me that way. No one listens if you be nice and polite so in my mind the only way that people will take you seriously is if you yell. I often feel really bad for the more sensitive people who end up getting scared of me and if I try to go comfort them they dont seem comfortable with me being there so I leave. I am to young to be doing this and I cant figure out how to stop
It's them dude.... not you Take it from me Most people don't respect THEMSELVES So obviously they won't care about respecting anything else My advice is lower your expectations from others a LOT And avoid them as much as possible Once I did those two things my life got way smoother
i think what separates me from everyone else is i’m angry but i don’t explode on people all the time. i just let it sit in my chest/stomach while overthinking about things that make me more mad or even sad. i’ve been doing this for so long & now i can’t even work without reaching a limit & wanting hurt someone or just lash out n break down. it’s gotten worse. & the one thing i hate the most is tht it’s like i’m scared to react out of anger whenever people do cross a boundary & i just let them annoy me or walk over me. it makes me feel less of a man.
Vanessas visual language is so on point and engaging to watch. Love her art style. Kinda would say anger is the instinctive fight response. And yeah a phobia is the fear/hatred of something. Very much go hand in hand
I'm an introvert and I've social anxiety too aswell. Whenever someone asks me any question twice i easily get mad like "Are you deaf, don't you understand what i just said" my family is not the support one's who would listen to me and understand. My sibling Says I'm so aggresive that i can't even manage to control my anger towards others. I'm literally so done with my life ugh. i always feel so irritated don't know why.... specially when someone asks me personal, judgmental, silly questions which causes me angriness and headache.
Ok so there was this motherfucker at the arcade i was 6 at that moment when i had my money on me so i started to play the arcade game but the stupid little brat STOLE MY FRICKING MONEY FROM ME! i was SO MAD that i beat up that kid so hard he bleed out and died and from that moment i didin't know what i did to him but i thought he was sleeping for some reason but as i grow things start to get better and yeah.
I got angry and mad at the girl i love because i found it hard to trust her from previous relationships. She ended up backing off because i scared her and i honestly hate myself for it and i noticed her attitude towards me had changed. I want to tell her im sorry and how much i miss her but i feel it won't change her and it'll only make me more upset. Please whatever you do, don't act in anger or you'll ruin the one thing you care about most. We are still friends but it's just not the same and i miss her every fucking day. I wish i knew what to do....
Sorry to hear about that mate ❤️ chin up I’m sure you’ll find that perfect girl in the future that will love you as much as you love them. I hope this shorty message helps
What you need is transparency in a relationship, be 100% real about your issues and complaints. Putting up with something is fine, but you dont have to hide it until u burst. I hate this, can we change it? No? At least now you both are aware of it. And if u didnt mean something u said or did, absolutely never hesitate to explain xD. Not knowing what to do in a relationship is so bizzare to me, u rly need to be open about things if ur serious. My exes unreasonably high pitched voice at times made me wanna choke her so i told her and ofc when we were both conscious of it no way i was gonna actually do anything xD. Being open about my anger issues makes the problem less relevant, because joking about it is kinda relaxing.
That's weird, but for me, anger kept me alive whenever I was close to ending it all. Hate outwards burned brighter than hate inwards tbh. I'm actually thinking that exact moment I'll stop being angry and hateful, I'll just kms right away. And I've proven this theory to myself many times actually.
well, for me, i have years of repressed anger, but well, it already gone bad way, it's my fault honestly..... i think we need videos on how to manage our anger....
Idk how old you are man But I can promise you this: Women will never be the way you want them to be on the INSIDE They just too different My advice is focus on making money, staying healthy, and just have simple fun with them (No marriage, no gfs, no relationships) It's honestly the best you can make of it
Aced it. My anger is an alarm that goes off when someone crosses my boundaries. I cannot repress my anger, it will seep through so easily. But then when i release it, it seems like i dont communicate it right or the other person is gaslighting me? I talk in terms on “i” or “me” or “i feel” but still. Idk honestly… help?
I always argue with my mom 😥 She didn't trust me, my attitude and decision. 😭 She said that she knows me since I was a child, that I'll grow up as a bad woman.
Whether she knows it or not she is actually condemning you to a life that she has no control over you having. That is toxic, and it benefits her from having you stressed out like this.
I cry and rage over the smallest things and today, my grandma cleaned my room and I was happy until I realized, everything was out of place and I felt uncomfortable I couldn’t find anything and I locked myself up in the bathroom and begun saying that I was useless disrespectful etc. this has happened before with way worse things and nothing changes no matter how hard I try to not get mad. My parents say I overreact and that I’m useless, nothing good you know. Obviously I mistreat myself and don’t feel confident ever or anything. I can relate to all these comments and I love my family but sometimes they aren’t the best. They expect a ton of me but they don’t try anything themselves so.. yeah
I find myself in the middle of an extremely difficult negotiation. I just want to yell how the other parties are soooo wrong even though I know that will shoot back with a worsened situation. That's why I landed here ... in search of something, anything to calm me. Alone the soothing pace and voice tone is kind of a little relief. Have you anything about anger management? Greetings from Mexico.
If its sth i cant just str8 up explain on the spot, i hold it all in. When im alone i usually punch my palm like im killing something and i try to catch them properly so i dont damage my hand since im rly berserk at that moment xD. If im rly in need of intense brakes, i bite my forearm like a feral dog. Last one is very sub optimal, very fucked up after u calm down. Self punching is kind of satisfying though. But idk, my anger mostly consists of the desire to BREAK someone, literally smash them open, thats why i have these violent solutions. Probably should look into meditation tho. And maybe some sort of mental shift into a more confident approach to things. Things dont always go your way, even when you know better, idiots somehow end up on top for reasons. Expect all irrational conclusions and you will manage to keep your cool.
felt , me 3 .... seeking help because no matter what i say or do , people do not hear me because they think im "overreacting" and then , its all my fault for feeling the emotions i feel........ its just wonderful@@jennydasuperstar1126
A calm voice and heartwarming advice from the person running this channel who seems to understand what I've been feeling lately is absolutely beautiful. I've been so angry lately I couldn't even think about my own actions. Bless you, Psych2Go Education! 🥺🙏
I get enticed by people who are rude to me. It’s like a drug. You know you shouldn’t do it, but you continue on anyway. It’s like a scab you keep picking at. It’s like a magnet that you can’t take off something. Anger… I follow these rude people because of my anger. And my craving for attention. I continue to say this and every time I say it, it feels like I should have not.
I'm the opposite of repressed anger, I express my anger "too much" in ways that I don't like and not always can control. When it comes to anger, I react instead of respond. This happens to me with people I care about a lot and are very close to me. My friends don't know me as an angry person, but my family and my boyfriend sure do and have to be patient with me. I was not an angry person in my childhood. I don't know why I changed into this and don't know what to do, I just want to understand where this pattern comes from.
I have bad anger issues, I just cant take it anymore but I’m trying my best to get out of this. I’m practicing to calm down and relax, taking a deep breath before letting another word that I might regret later, I just always put that in mind so that I can remember. Its just better on that way when you just think of happy things and smile and just dont think too much of the situation that makes you feel angry, trust me, if you do that, it makes your brain think differently that you are not really angry. You could also just sing a song and play it off it will make you feel a lot better. I do this and I’m finding a way to control my anger issues so it will not get any worse. Dont let your emotions control you!
I recently ruined the best relationship I will probably ever have bc I didn’t know how to deal with my anger and emotions properly. To anyone seeing this, please don’t let that happen to you, don’t lose that person. It’s not worth it, ever. Please read this and if you’re having a hard time with your own anger. Know that it’s okay to be angry, you have that right, just talk about it, please. I’ve got appointments set with psychiatrists and therapists now but that won’t mend the shit I did out of sheer rage and anger. I can only prevent it from happening again at this point. Maybe I can help prevent anyone else from going that way if they just see this. Im genuinely crying while writing this and Idek remember the last time I did that. This person meant so much to me so please, please don’t make my mistakes. I don’t know how else to say it.
When as a kid my parents would beat me like actually very brutally but at some point they stopped and my mother had cooled down for a very long time School was also a problem friends took advantage of how easy going i was and Teachers bullied Now that I am 16 i get Angry on my mom when she had nothing I feel like i am going to burst and like i have to shout and get irritated I am a jerk and i know it yet i can't stop these emotions which lose control and i can't... I end up crying begging for forgiveness
My family always asks me why I’m only easily angry at home and I always tell them that it’s because they know that triggers me and don’t change while I always try to adapt…….they still don’t understand and I still get mental breakdowns🙂🥲
in my case, i just… randomly get angry. it’s not always because of something i just randomly get triggered and randomly feel a burst of anger. idek how to deal with it but it almost destroyed my friendships and it’s destroying my relationship with my family
I frequently have arguments/disagreements with my dad, and he turns it into a “you’re so entitled,” or “you’re being rude,” or, “look how nice you have it here, feel free to move out.” I try my best to stay calm and explain my viewpoint, but he always escalates it and makes it seem like I’m just a terrible person and starts raising his voice. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells and can’t tell him what I really think without it turning into a lecture. I get so angry and have to leave the room, and end up having a private meltdown. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been in my room, crying about arguments.
@@corgireal1614 I’m sorry you’re dealing with that too! I have a job and I pay my bills, but it’s just so expensive around here, that I don’t think I could live on my own paycheck. I hope you can get your situation sorted though!
ANGER IS A GREAT MOTIVATOR YOU HAVE TO GET ANGRY. YOU HAVE TO GET MAD. YOU'VE GOT TO GET UP OFF YOUR SEATS, GO TO THE WINDOW AND YELL *"I'M AS MAD AS HELL AND I'M NOT GONNA TAKE THIS ANYMORE"*
Thank you for this video! I definitely suffer from bad anger issues. I easily get angry or frustrated when I’m overwhelmed, I hear certain peoples voices, or told to do simple things like babysitting my little sister because my brain translates it into anger. I’m a middle child and everyday feel like my feelings are invisible to my family. It doesn’t help that I’m a teenager either so nobody really “understands” how we feel. It’s gonna be ok though💗
I kinda relate to this in every way, its something like I have a desire to hurt someone, sometimes I take it out on other people or myself or on objects
*_I start screetching and crying in tyrannical rage and pain of what they have done. I then proceed to break things that are easiest to break within 10 feet of me. I never forget to make them regret what they have done._*
I'm highly logical person and all my life I've suppressed my feelings simply because they didn't make any sense to me...... Or because I felt weakness in my feelings which I didn't like. But as an adult I realize how important the emotional health is. Don't ignore your emotions people and don't allow anyone to invalidate your feelings.
I've complety lost myself by getting angry, I hate myself so much but no matter how freaking hard I try I can't control it, I act before think and my family is the biggest reason why I've dealt with this. Now I just feel like the "bad guy", very unstable and uneasy with my own self.
Venting: I asked my roommate if his fling/this girl was living with us (there are 4 people on the lease). He said "No," and then a few days later and they were both still here. So I asked the girl and made sure he was in earshot, but she said "oh hahaha no girl," something else. I made sure to say to tell me because I was scared when I woke up and heard footsteps outside my door that I do not recognize. It has been even more days, so I am angry and I think I'll be asking for the girl/fling to leave because I have had it. I can hear them a lot which would've been fine if they had been honest, but they still have not told me. They could have said, "we'll discuss it," or "we're not sure," etc etc. So I believe I should put my foot down and make her leave for a day. I don't mind her coming back, but I am upset that I expressed my anxiety and still do not feel respected. I have come to hate how I react as after many days, I started feeling passive-aggressive and thought maybe they would get the hint, but they have not and I just feel shitty. Thanks for letting me vent. I hate myself and I hate it here. Have a good day.
i seriously have problems so i need people to tell me what i’m struggling with. and to not tell me i’m just being inpatient. i’m the type of person who will get very angry at the SMALLEST things. if you say something in the wrong tone, distract me, talk over me, talk to me when i’m doing my own shit, i’ll start yelling at you for as long as i can. i’ve been struggling with this since 4th grade. i was 9. i’m now 12. it’s genuinely impacted my life so much and i want it to stop. it’s not just that though, i also have seasonal depression, social anxiety, severe paranoia, and i get very overwhelmed VERY quickly. there can be too much sound and i’ll want to scream, there can be too much happening and i can go into a panic attack, there can just be people asking me a simple question and i’ll go into panic mode for some reason. i really need help. and i don’t know what to do. does anyone know what this could be..?
I can definitely understand that I saw that getting mad was me not being mature and that you should not get angry . this video was very helpful thank you
I don’t know why, but I keep getting angry for no reason and when I do get angry, I feel like stomping and destroying one of my stuffed animals. Then I start stomping on one and even put it in the trash, but then I instantly regret it and quickly get it out of the trash and give it a good wash. I just wish I had the courage to tell my parents all this so I can get some help..
I just wanna let it go, My anger comes from grief from my mama dying, Fake friends, Weird family and feeling lost in my life. I just wanna be free and find something to cure it.
I'm working my therapist right now to work on my emotions because I'm not great at recognize emotions or feeling them in general. 😭😭😭 She insists we should work on boundaries as well. Thank you for sharing this type of content. I really love these type of videos, it helps me understand others and myself much better. ❤❤❤
My friends, they like grabbing my stuff and making me run. They know i despise running. They know how my stuff are so so valuable to me. Yet they kept teasing me. I said i didnt like it but they continued doing it. I kept warning them but they didnt stop. Theyve reached my limit yk. I was angry from the start, but i never expressed it bc i thought if i said or expressed i was angry in some way, i would be exaggerating. I felt angry at myself for not letting them know how i actually felt. Well this time, they took my phone and my book. Two very valuable things, objects. And this time i had it so i yelled but i immediately felt guilty for yelling at them. Ik this is a little thing and something that does not deserve my overreaction but still. They knew that this habit of theirs bothered me.
So here's my thing This morning I got way too stressed because I had a lot to do before heading to work, that includes making breakfast, washing the dishes, clean my cats' sandboxes, and go to the grocery store to fix a situation with a product I bought But the younger cat was being way too annoying. When I was eating breakfast, he tried to get on top of the table through my chair, so I tried to get him loose and get down, but he insisted and held onto my hand scratching it. The second time he did it he held onto my pants and he hurt my leg. Then he headed into a corner in the house, somewhere he can't be because he's gonna leave hairs so I took him out of there. Next, when I was washing the dishes, he got on top of the kitchen, so I took him down of there, and as soon as he got on the floor, my older cat started attacking him and I tried to calm them down. My problem is that when the younger cat sneaked in the corner, the first thing I tried was slamming the furniture to scare him and get him to get out by himself. When he got up in the kitchen, I tried to splash him with water droplets from my hand, but as that didn't work, I just took him and yeeted him out of the kitchen, and when the older cat attacked him, I straight slammed the table to scare them while I was searching the water spray to calm them down, and I even screamed "WHERE TF IS THE WATER SPRAY" When things calmed down, without thinking I said "Great, now I'm like my father" and at that moment I realized what I said and that I'm inheriting his anger management issues I don't want to be like that, like him, I don't want to sort things out with violence and/or fear, what should I do?
Yesss even pets can be annoying as fuck, dogs are worse but when they are young, shitting and pissing all over the place because they're still in training but still it's like they do it on purpose. I have this dog, about 6 weeks old, comes in my room, shit or piss and just walks right back out... like who in the hell do you think you are you little SHIT?! It's like he sees only my room as a giant blue and white pad, those blue and white pads that they piss and shit on. Now aside from the rooms he would pretty much do his business anywhere else in the house, only my room and anywhere else in the house. Another annoying thing about young dogs is that as you're walking, they're like following you but they're Infront of you and literally all up close, like are you asking to get your damn feet/paws stepped on dumb ass? Fucking move!
And I actually thought about hurting your cat, like chopping it into pieces, sorry 😅 I never had a cat but that does sound annoying. The fact that animals just don't know that they're rude, nasty and disrespectful. Like seriously bruh... You're just going to walk up to my plate, sniffing it all up of course and then attempt to take some food like it's fucking yours? 🤨
Yeah, after I yell at my dogs or other people for the most banal thing in the world, the first thing that comes to my mind is those times when my mother hitted and yelled at me for having a B on school or being too loud, and it hurts as hell because I renember when I was a little kid and tell myself: "when I grow up, I'm not going to be like my mother, and I'm gonna raise my kids with love". I know I'm one year late, but please get therapy, I'm going to therapy and it has helped a lot with my anger issues. Also sorry for my bad english.
I’ve held in my anger for years and years, sometimes if you gotta scream to the top of your lungs in your room by yourself or with friends that won’t negatively joke about it. But one thing that comes with emotional maturity is when you understand the reason you’re mad, you can begin to talk yourself out of it or de-escalate the situation inside your own brain. Like instead of thinking “this person just cut me off I’d rip their head off 😂” just be like “that pissed me off but they may have not even meant to do it” Youno type shit that’s just an example. Hope I helped someone 💪🏻 and y’all get in the gym and get healthy, if your body is healthy and works right your brain gets all the good stuff it needs like clean oxygen and blood 🤙🏻🤙🏻
Anger and frustration takes on many forms for me... it could be because I'm internalizing something else that has nothing to do with the person I'm talking to, or I could just be feeling hurt in some way and I don't always have enough tolerance or patience for certain behaviors.... Sometimes it's hard to reel in my snippy attitude when I've already had a stressful day. but it's not as bad as it used to be when I was younger. I just can't help but wonder why so many people have very little respect for certain things, and then when I get told that I need to care less or expect less from others, that puts me in a position that makes me feel conflicted. Treat others the way you want to be treated; it's a fairly simple concept in my eyes.
The big difference between anger and fear in my experience has been that anger makes it difficult to lie and that you can't really lie *about* what makes you angry, but when you are scared you can lie and its very easy to do so.
At work and when I was still in college and with people outside of my parents' house, I tend to be chill and I don't get irritated easily even when bad situations happen at work, I manage to absorb my anger and be patient. At home is where my problems start. I have childhood trauma caused by neglect both physically and emotionally from both parents and especially from my mother. My mother always start yelling even when I talk to her calmy and always shows on her face how annoyed she is of me talking to her, even for the silliest thing like asking where is the key to the basement, she would ignores me completely the first time asking then when I ask again she shakes her head and sighs and uses a bad voice tone yelling "I don't know go look for yourself uffff", so this makes my blood boils and I start yelling myself because of the mean way she treats me.
Hence why it is wise to be slow to anger and quick to listen. It is also incredibly important to settle disputes and reason with people you have upset as soon as humanly possible
i get angry real fast, its probably because I don't get along with my mother at such a young age of 13 over the past 2 months the feelings i felt the most were anger and anxiety but whatever who's gonna give a f### anyways
Alot of mothers do that They take out their negative on their kids Just TRY an stay cool till you old enough to get away from her Because tbh mothers rarely change
I don't really understand my emotions anymore. Social media has probably done something to me. Especially twitter and smash bros ultimate online since that's where I get mostly angry. Even in my daily lives, people make me mad and I have no one to talk to about. I dont trust therapists either.
Same. Anger issue is not the only one i loses friends. Just showing the slightest negative trait just any negative saying of mine they begin to feel distant and uncomfortable
I’m commenting to rant since I’m not the one to tell my emotions in the real world. Lately I’ve been so angry at my family, my mom was getting on me about cleaning my room which I did but apparently it wasn’t good enough for her. And mind you I’m a private person and everything in my room goes a certain way and if it’s not like that I lose my shit. Anyways I came home from school the other day,walked into my room and it was spotless. My mom had took it upon herself to clean it. And most people probably think I’m crazy for getting mad at her cleaning my room. Buts it’s not even that I just feel violated. My room is my safe space no one can hurt me in there. So that started my anger. She also took it upon herself to move everything from where it was and was taking my things and putting them in her room. At this point I was losing my shit hysterically crying because I didn’t know where anything was and there was stuff missing. Out of rage I completely put everything back where it was and start slamming doors and all of the above. I’m still pissed about it and haven’t talked to her since. I also tend to me angry at her because she doesn’t know when to stop talking. I’m very insecure of my body and that never stops her from saying very insulting/rude things. But I guess I don’t really think about it anymore since it’s been happening for a while. I feel like what ever I do I get angry. And earlier today I got furious with my dad over the littlest thing and I don’t know why. It’s like I’m a different person completely around my family.
Sometimes I get angry at comments because they sound very mean to people I don’t like that so I said The worst of things to them they were shocked they roast me back then I will rose stem back it will be very bad because it gets me very badly mad if somebody see this comment and you are Angry just gonna be even worse about your family edit: this was made like five months ago if you see this comment I don’t want to hear crazy shit bye
If somebody say something stupid in here I’m going to say something mean back edit: before I go I don’t wanna hear crazy shit too now say something in the comments if you want to say something and you’re welcome 😁
Last year broke me. It was problem after problem after problem! I would fix something and something else would go wrong not 2 days later. I've always had a problem with my anger but I did have it wrangled for a good while. But man last year just made me snap. Even typing this out I can feel my head getting hot. I feel like it may have spawned from my parents divorce. But IDK honestly. I never sought out help for it as I thought I had control over it. I'm hoping this year will be better. Because I don't know how much longer and I can take it before I fully expload. My coworkers have never seen me so annoyed before. And I never realized until recently how small things start to set me off like dropping my keys when trying to lock my door. Or having my clothes get caught on something. Would therapy help or should I seek advice somewhere else?
My friends don’t really want to listen to me or even associate with me despite me being in their group, that is why when I became a walking fire of anger when I reached 8th grade. There were many annoying people sure but one stood out and made me wanna just lash out, and in the end I did… and at the back of my head, I never regretted that. Because he really did deserve it, it had just gotten even worse as he and another annoying person were sitting behind me. They had many fights and since I became more responsible, I wanted to tell the teachers, but letting out my true feelings felt more personal. And in the end I just forced myself to calm down, the teachers know that I was frustrated so when I told them I wanna go outside the classroom to calm down, they would. It just goes to show how anger can sometimes feel more personal and more like wanting to express how you want people to feel, but the result will be you being told to shut up and be silent…
i gained anger issues to people who say “keep crying” when i hear this anger starts to absolutely boil and i start either slam my device or absolutely go in fits of rage it just tells me to cry as if im FORCED to cry and pressure overtakes me and anger pops up anything im forced to do causes me to boil up in anger and that certain line is basically telling me “cry more”
I'm so impatient and 80 percent of the time I want things to go my way of which I know that isn't right. Then the worst part of me that causes uncontrollable anger in me is trusting someone and the person betrays me. I keep thinking about it like forever and if I don't hurt you with my words or set boundaries obviously the wrong ways by trying to protect myself I lose my peace. And each time I react that way it hurts me back later on. Like regret doing that even while I'm still in that state of anger.
thank you so much for the video it is exactly how I feel when I get angry sometimes I throw things around because i don't know how else to express my anger
Everytime I hear a small noise, or hear somebody arguing, or hear a loud noise I just get so angry and on-edge! Please everyone! I’m tryna get help for this issue! Prey for me.
when I get mad the only thing that helps in the moment is breaking something or punching something and it has made people upset with me. small things set me off and I’ve never taken it out on everyone physically only objects but everyone looks at me like I am insane. I try so so so hard to remain calm these days but man it’s hard
Im getting mad over classmates talking too much or breath too loud, i bear it because im dealing with it since i was a kid, but people notice i get mad i have a lot of veins poppin out on my head of madness. Family even more, i was once so mad at my bro and my mom cuz they was touching my stuff i couldn!t breath from how angry i was.
When someone yells at me I black out, yell and break everything around us. Mostly my own stuff...I know it's childish but, I have been physically assaulted a lot and I guess it's some sort of defense mechanism to intimidate them before they get me
I thought about my angry reactions that I have usually and realised that it usually stems from my fear of being hurt. I was shocked that I didn't see it before - I just thought I was too sensitive
I never go to any psychology test and I don't want to self diagnose but i've seen so many symptoms online even online test that i have this bad anger issues (it's getting worst during pandemic) I usually stayed in my bedroom eat or drink whatever left in my bedroom i refuse to get out because i'm afraid if i'm not locked myself up i'll hurt my family (and seeing their face makes me angry because they're the reason why) I had this issues because i've seen my family hurt my mom mentally and i saw my mom nearly died because she has to work hard to support MY BIG ASS family from both sides, whenever her siblings hurt her she always said "i wont help them" but when her siblings come to my home she will acted nice again and forget everything, i once spoke my feeling towards her siblings about how rude and how toxic they're but my mom got mad at me, not being able to work, not being able to do anything it leads me to have short temper I want to leave this hellish house but i can't because if i left, nobody will take care of my mom and my grandma (yes i only live with mom and nana)
Anger is my strongest emotion when I let it all out I swing fist at everyone and I hurt the people I care about when I use it I even hurt one of my friends cause I was so mad I hit them in the chest and they were sad and held it in and I am always being mad fun of in class for being short
Psych2Go Education channel gets some love. Do you find yourself getting angry easily? It may be angry at someone or events. Hopefully this video will bring some insight to you! Comment below to see if you share the same experience with others.
The video was really insightful to me thx for talking abt this :)
Yeet
So glad it’s getting love
Now I fell better
I just scream at people and I’m just 9
the sad thing is when you get mad at people, they always think you’re overreacting. this always makes me more mad
Especially when they hurt you and start playing the victim and recruiting others to hate you.
@@user-lj6jp8qp7z this.
Or when they blame it on something about you and act like it's what defines you
@@ZanesCoolUsername this just shows how bad of a person they are. i usually cut all contact after that.
Who you are you telling that’s shit blows meeeee
I'm like a hypocrite. Around my friends I'm this sweet and loving person but when I'm with my family it's always like hell breaking loose. I want to be the person everyone knows, especially around my parents. I get angry over the simplest things, which is a real problem for me
Same here, maybe I am comfortable with expressing myself with my family the way I am because they give me enough freedom but it also makes me angry at myself that I act like a jerk around my family because I let loose all of the pent up emotions that I actually want to convey to the one’s who are actually the reason behind my anger but end up reflecting on my parents who are not guilt of anything. I try to control my anger but can’t help but let loose and then regret it later and end up feeling depressed. I just wanted to share my perspective to let you know you’re not the only one who’s clueless about the problem you’re facing as I am as well
same here. The more comfortable i am with people the angrier i get
I’m the exact same way, I’m really sorry to hear that but just remember you’re not alone and you can do it💗
that's exactly my dad and me
It can happen from a lifetime of having to swallow your anger with them. It didn't click for me until this past month that the reason I'm quick to anger with my mother is because I've never been allowed to voice any issues and have them taken into consideration for change. My mother was extremely mean to me this past month because she has been in a bad mood over something I had nothing to do with, and I just took it and waited until she was away to break down since I knew confronting her about it wouldn't change anything. How could anything I do fix a problem I in no way created? I knew any attempt would be met with gaslighting and even more cruelty, and I don't want to hurt anymore than I already do. Now that she's in a better mood, I find myself getting frustrated extremely quickly because she got to release all of those negative feelings onto me, while now I have those feelings and can't give them back. I hope this helps. Much love and many prayers sent everyone's way 🙏 ❤️
“Anger is a fear of getting hurt.” Sooo true, I find myself being defensive internally because am fighting not to be hurt, because I have been hurt many times before, so it’s like “no more” and am subconsciously on to protecting myself and it comes off as anger
Depends, the statement itself is not rly the definition of anger. In my case, my anger takes the form of need to physically break a person. Thing is im not big on physically assaulting others, so its all a mindgame, one that ends up in self harm in a very berserk state. You could say whats containing my anger is the sense of self preservation which ofc goes with fear of consequences.
Anger is a fear of getting hurt, it's true
This is so true now I'm going to say to my teacher
4 me not
damn this hit
Your childhood links to how you treat your adulthood.
So true
Very true
So so so true
Goddam traumatic childhood. 🍺
Yah ! This happens with me now
Whenever I get angry, I cry and I hate it because no one tries to comfort me and so I just deal with it alone and in the end, I'm the only one who says sorry even though I wasn't the only one wrong. And they say I was disrespecting them cus they're older than me.
I really felt this 😃
How do you deal with it? ( I have the EXACT same problem.)
I'm literally angry rn 😤
If you already act alone why do you involve yourself with people problems? Its ok, people die alone in their own thoughts anyways.
They do this often to me to the extent that i perfected how to have mental breakdown without anyone knowing about it. I even do it even in front of other people.
My short temper stems from things not going my way. Like if I can't get a shoe on, or spill something, or drop my keys, or even make a typo on my phone, etc, I have the urge to lose my shit. I have actually lost my cool before over things not going my way because I want things to be done in smooth sailing, but that often doesn't happen. I often scream, slam doors or even throw stuff in rage. My rage also pushes me to have huge meltdowns over the slightest trigger. It's hard to control my emotions when pissed.
Same but i get angry at people not things. But its that easy too
@@thelivesofmany7013 I get very angry at people as well. If people cross me, I would get the urge to harm someone, but I don't act upon it because I can and will get arrested.
Exactly I have been going through the same thing too
Damn I hear you
It's just how this stupid world is
It's DESIGNED to fc with you
Same, I get angry at everything don’t matter if it’s a living being or an object…
My classmates took advantage of my kindness and used my good nature against me from childhood to adolescence. Although I treated them kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me. As the weeks went by students started coming to me for favors, and I felt compelled to comply. Eventually, it got to the point where I started to resent them and walk on eggshells around them.
Focus on YOU not your "friends"
Trust me they ain't your friends, and they'll only hold you back if you TRY to stay friends with them
Should have just fucking swung at them
Same but my sister does it to me i find myself so angry at her for 'using' me
That happened to me in 3rd grade, I gave someone something of mine and everyone else wanted something from me
@@Petrichoredits1 Sometimes being generous gets to the point where people start expecting it as a default.
Growing up, I was always told to control my emotions and "react properly". Forced to be mature even as a child. No matter how I try to control my emotions now, I still go back to those childlike tantrums or be a person that even I will be afraid of. I feel confuse inside whether it's pain, anger or resentment. I was not able to let go of those feelings back then. People see me as a calm person most of the time because I tend to keep it all inside, that is why when I get mad, they all have the same "wtf" reaction on their faces and I can't justify what I say and what I do because during those anger moments, I am finally being honest to myself (too honest). I laugh, cry and get mad easily. It is hard living like a bomb, ready to explode in one snap anytime. I do feel guilty for the people who met me when I was emotionally unstable that I couldn't control my anger. I said and did things that I truly regret. I should've expressed that anger towards people who actually deserves it.
Right
For sure never lash out at anyone who hasn't done anything to you
Just break objects instead
And try to check the people who DO fc with you on the spot
I relate to this so much like fr 💯. I lashed out at some homies who literally were getting on that family level. I feel guilty for lashing out at them but a part of me realizes I lashed out at them because I felt safe enough to do so. If that makes sense? Like with family they see you at your good and the ugliness in you and I feel like the same goes for the people who didn't deserve it.
I kinda get ya. Ever since I was a kid I was also told by my mom to react calmly and not show too much emotion. According to my mom, if I let out I was sad or angry or bothered by something I was just gonna be a bother to everybody and just make everything worse, so I had to bottle everything in and not react almost. I feel like that's affected me today cause the smallest things can get me either so depressed I just wanna lock myself in my room alone for a while or so unbelievably angry that I wanna just tell at the top of my lungs and kick or punch something. I was never able to handle these emotions well growing up cause if I told my mom I wasn't feeling well I was either just trying to be the center of attention, a nuisance or just making a big deal out of nothing. Having to deal with these issues is hard and I don't feel like I can trust my family with them. I feel like going to a medical professional and talking about these things with someone I can trust outside my family might be best.
Thank you so much for making a video about this, because I struggle with being ashamed of myself when I get angry. I don't let my anger take over, and turn me into a monster. But, when I feel angry, I still feel like it's wrong, because of what I've been taught by people around me. People say that anger is a sin, one of the seven deadly sins, and as a Christian, that really bothers me. I am trying to get it through my head that anger only becomes sinful when you let it control you, and you end up hurting others, as well as yourself. But, feeling angry shouldn't be considered a sin. It's an emotion. It's how you feel... and quite frankly, I'm so sick to death of being told my feelings are wrong. So... I'm really glad this video was made.
I learned this today from Ephesians 4:26 in the bible it says “Be angry, yet do not sin.” Do not let the sun set upon your anger. So what Paul said here is that you can get angry and thats okay, but don't let it control you because then Satan can take advantage of how you feel and then it can lead you to sin. BUT anger itself is not a sin. It is a human emotion that we all have. We just have to control it so it doesn't control us and make us do bad stuff. Some Tips for controlling anger I can recommend you: If you want pray to Jesus the living son of God about it. If you believe and receive him in your life he has promised that He Will Never Leave You Nor Forsake You. Exercise can also help you to control your anger by letting your emotions out by doing something creative, training at the gym or play a sport you like! I'm really sorry to hear that people told you that anger is a sin just because we feel it.... But I hope that Ephesians 4:26 explains the truth about this topic and it helps you out with your relationship with Jesus.
(Hate on the other side is a different thing and if you feel hate for someone or something then that's not good, because you let the emotion of anger to evolve into what the devil wants us to do and that's to hate. Just wanted to make that clear. 😅)
Well if that guy hurts you u gotta hurt him so anger helps me a bit bc i become stronger when im angry
Like imagine someone STABBED you, the anger helps u to defend yourself bc he wants to kill you, anger makes you stronger am i right?
I have anger issues for a long periods of time, unfortunately I still have a difficult family members who would violate my personal boundaries by going into my room & that involves of touching, taking things away that does not belong to them. And plus this is the difficult situation that I had to face like pretty much every single day. As well even during my childhood.
Yeah, my Freind deals with this too & got upset with me and yelled choosing a pink slide for our project. It honestly makes me feel bad bc of things I've experienced in my life. I'm so sorry that these things happened to you, nobody should ever go through that
@@puffmello2674 Thank you and I do really appreciate that from you a lot. And it's really does mean a lot. I'm am sending a lot of hugs to you too my friend! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
just choose not to be upset simple as that at least that's what my mom says
That's also one of the reasons I gets angry I fricking hate when people touch my stuff and they'll be like "i don't know" when you ask them why something is missing or broken what f**king makes me more angry when I'm asking questions why my stuff is broken or missing and they ignore me
@@cradica it's not that simple for other people like me
Why does anger make me feel guilty and then depressed?
Same here
It's ok to be angry as fc
Just make sure you don't hurt anyone or anything who doesn't deserve it
Same here
You’re not alone and after that i always blame myself bc i cant control what i say when i get angry i know many people hate me but i hate myself too bc my mouth so toxic when i get mad but what i say it’s not true , I didn’t mean it
Because after you cool down
You kinda realize what you did was dumb
Unless it's not
as somebody who feels repressed anger often, this really helps
I get angry easily, I know I shouldn't but I find it easier to make people listen to me that way. No one listens if you be nice and polite so in my mind the only way that people will take you seriously is if you yell. I often feel really bad for the more sensitive people who end up getting scared of me and if I try to go comfort them they dont seem comfortable with me being there so I leave.
I am to young to be doing this and I cant figure out how to stop
It's 50/50 you wouldn't be acting like that if others took you seriously
It's them dude.... not you
Take it from me
Most people don't respect THEMSELVES
So obviously they won't care about respecting anything else
My advice is lower your expectations from others a LOT
And avoid them as much as possible
Once I did those two things my life got way smoother
i feel the same as you
I get the same way
@@GORILLA_PIMP im heading the same direction. Once you stop caring. Life seems smoother. When you care too much full of emotions. It always bursts.
i think what separates me from everyone else is i’m angry but i don’t explode on people all the time. i just let it sit in my chest/stomach while overthinking about things that make me more mad or even sad. i’ve been doing this for so long & now i can’t even work without reaching a limit & wanting hurt someone or just lash out n break down. it’s gotten worse. & the one thing i hate the most is tht it’s like i’m scared to react out of anger whenever people do cross a boundary & i just let them annoy me or walk over me. it makes me feel less of a man.
Vanessas visual language is so on point and engaging to watch. Love her art style. Kinda would say anger is the instinctive fight response. And yeah a phobia is the fear/hatred of something. Very much go hand in hand
I'm an introvert and I've social anxiety too aswell. Whenever someone asks me any question twice i easily get mad like "Are you deaf, don't you understand what i just said" my family is not the support one's who would listen to me and understand. My sibling Says I'm so aggresive that i can't even manage to control my anger towards others. I'm literally so done with my life ugh.
i always feel so irritated don't know why.... specially when someone asks me personal, judgmental, silly questions which causes me angriness and headache.
Whew. Same thing here. Seems like every little thing annoys me and it won’t stop.
I relate to the thing about people askin me a question twice way too much i get so angry when i have to repeat myself
Maybe just don't have social anxiety then .... Skill issue
I repress hurt to "unpack" later but sometimes it slips out in stressful situations as anger or feeling overwhelmed
Ok so there was this motherfucker at the arcade i was 6 at that moment when i had my money on me so i started to play the arcade game but the stupid little brat STOLE MY FRICKING MONEY FROM ME! i was SO MAD that i beat up that kid so hard he bleed out and died and from that moment i didin't know what i did to him but i thought he was sleeping for some reason but as i grow things start to get better and yeah.
@@xx_royrumblerust_xx3891 O_O I'm terrified of six year old you. Glad you grew over time
I got angry and mad at the girl i love because i found it hard to trust her from previous relationships. She ended up backing off because i scared her and i honestly hate myself for it and i noticed her attitude towards me had changed. I want to tell her im sorry and how much i miss her but i feel it won't change her and it'll only make me more upset. Please whatever you do, don't act in anger or you'll ruin the one thing you care about most. We are still friends but it's just not the same and i miss her every fucking day. I wish i knew what to do....
Sorry to hear about that mate ❤️ chin up I’m sure you’ll find that perfect girl in the future that will love you as much as you love them. I hope this shorty message helps
What you need is transparency in a relationship, be 100% real about your issues and complaints. Putting up with something is fine, but you dont have to hide it until u burst. I hate this, can we change it? No? At least now you both are aware of it. And if u didnt mean something u said or did, absolutely never hesitate to explain xD. Not knowing what to do in a relationship is so bizzare to me, u rly need to be open about things if ur serious. My exes unreasonably high pitched voice at times made me wanna choke her so i told her and ofc when we were both conscious of it no way i was gonna actually do anything xD. Being open about my anger issues makes the problem less relevant, because joking about it is kinda relaxing.
That's weird, but for me, anger kept me alive whenever I was close to ending it all. Hate outwards burned brighter than hate inwards tbh. I'm actually thinking that exact moment I'll stop being angry and hateful, I'll just kms right away. And I've proven this theory to myself many times actually.
well, for me, i have years of repressed anger, but well, it already gone bad way, it's my fault honestly.....
i think we need videos on how to manage our anger....
Idk how old you are man
But I can promise you this:
Women will never be the way you want them to be on the INSIDE
They just too different
My advice is focus on making money, staying healthy, and just have simple fun with them
(No marriage, no gfs, no relationships)
It's honestly the best you can make of it
0:55 the way the main character embraced that little ball of anger made me burst into tears out of no where
yes I'm skrood up . . .
Aced it. My anger is an alarm that goes off when someone crosses my boundaries. I cannot repress my anger, it will seep through so easily. But then when i release it, it seems like i dont communicate it right or the other person is gaslighting me? I talk in terms on “i” or “me” or “i feel” but still. Idk honestly… help?
you are not alone , its like everyone is fucking with us . non stop .
Anger seems to be linked to sadness for me.
Anger is linked to hurt, fear and frustration
I always argue with my mom 😥 She didn't trust me, my attitude and decision. 😭 She said that she knows me since I was a child, that I'll grow up as a bad woman.
Whether she knows it or not she is actually condemning you to a life that she has no control over you having. That is toxic, and it benefits her from having you stressed out like this.
I cry and rage over the smallest things and today, my grandma cleaned my room and I was happy until I realized, everything was out of place and I felt uncomfortable I couldn’t find anything and I locked myself up in the bathroom and begun saying that I was useless disrespectful etc. this has happened before with way worse things and nothing changes no matter how hard I try to not get mad. My parents say I overreact and that I’m useless, nothing good you know. Obviously I mistreat myself and don’t feel confident ever or anything. I can relate to all these comments and I love my family but sometimes they aren’t the best. They expect a ton of me but they don’t try anything themselves so.. yeah
I find myself in the middle of an extremely difficult negotiation. I just want to yell how the other parties are soooo wrong even though I know that will shoot back with a worsened situation. That's why I landed here ... in search of something, anything to calm me. Alone the soothing pace and voice tone is kind of a little relief. Have you anything about anger management? Greetings from Mexico.
If its sth i cant just str8 up explain on the spot, i hold it all in. When im alone i usually punch my palm like im killing something and i try to catch them properly so i dont damage my hand since im rly berserk at that moment xD. If im rly in need of intense brakes, i bite my forearm like a feral dog. Last one is very sub optimal, very fucked up after u calm down. Self punching is kind of satisfying though. But idk, my anger mostly consists of the desire to BREAK someone, literally smash them open, thats why i have these violent solutions. Probably should look into meditation tho. And maybe some sort of mental shift into a more confident approach to things. Things dont always go your way, even when you know better, idiots somehow end up on top for reasons. Expect all irrational conclusions and you will manage to keep your cool.
Because they too caught up in their egos and pride to make the "smart" play
They too stupid to win
I guess I suddenly have anger issues now :’)
me too
felt , me 3 .... seeking help because no matter what i say or do , people do not hear me because they think im "overreacting" and then , its all my fault for feeling the emotions i feel........ its just wonderful@@jennydasuperstar1126
Same 🙏
Present 😅
A calm voice and heartwarming advice from the person running this channel who seems to understand what I've been feeling lately is absolutely beautiful. I've been so angry lately I couldn't even think about my own actions. Bless you, Psych2Go Education! 🥺🙏
I get enticed by people who are rude to me. It’s like a drug. You know you shouldn’t do it, but you continue on anyway. It’s like a scab you keep picking at. It’s like a magnet that you can’t take off something.
Anger… I follow these rude people because of my anger. And my craving for attention.
I continue to say this and every time I say it, it feels like I should have not.
I'm the opposite of repressed anger, I express my anger "too much" in ways that I don't like and not always can control. When it comes to anger, I react instead of respond. This happens to me with people I care about a lot and are very close to me. My friends don't know me as an angry person, but my family and my boyfriend sure do and have to be patient with me. I was not an angry person in my childhood. I don't know why I changed into this and don't know what to do, I just want to understand where this pattern comes from.
I'm in this situation, and I don't know what to do
Me right now.
I have bad anger issues, I just cant take it anymore but I’m trying my best to get out of this. I’m practicing to calm down and relax, taking a deep breath before letting another word that I might regret later, I just always put that in mind so that I can remember. Its just better on that way when you just think of happy things and smile and just dont think too much of the situation that makes you feel angry, trust me, if you do that, it makes your brain think differently that you are not really angry. You could also just sing a song and play it off it will make you feel a lot better. I do this and I’m finding a way to control my anger issues so it will not get any worse. Dont let your emotions control you!
I recently ruined the best relationship I will probably ever have bc I didn’t know how to deal with my anger and emotions properly. To anyone seeing this, please don’t let that happen to you, don’t lose that person. It’s not worth it, ever. Please read this and if you’re having a hard time with your own anger. Know that it’s okay to be angry, you have that right, just talk about it, please. I’ve got appointments set with psychiatrists and therapists now but that won’t mend the shit I did out of sheer rage and anger. I can only prevent it from happening again at this point. Maybe I can help prevent anyone else from going that way if they just see this. Im genuinely crying while writing this and Idek remember the last time I did that. This person meant so much to me so please, please don’t make my mistakes. I don’t know how else to say it.
When as a kid my parents would beat me like actually very brutally but at some point they stopped and my mother had cooled down for a very long time
School was also a problem friends took advantage of how easy going i was and Teachers bullied
Now that I am 16 i get Angry on my mom when she had nothing
I feel like i am going to burst and like i have to shout and get irritated
I am a jerk and i know it yet i can't stop these emotions which lose control and i can't... I end up crying begging for forgiveness
I am the same man I've hit many people in rage and I just end up Feeling guilt later on.
My family always asks me why I’m only easily angry at home and I always tell them that it’s because they know that triggers me and don’t change while I always try to adapt…….they still don’t understand and I still get mental breakdowns🙂🥲
"Anger is one letter short for Danger" -My favorite Computer teacher
2:16, when I ask for anything
😂😂😂😂 Brings back memories
True af
I get the belt buckle
My father and mother has been beating me since 2009 😎
(I was born in 2006)
@@ej-arsonator beating 😨 a 3yr old child ...
in my case, i just… randomly get angry. it’s not always because of something i just randomly get triggered and randomly feel a burst of anger. idek how to deal with it but it almost destroyed my friendships and it’s destroying my relationship with my family
I frequently have arguments/disagreements with my dad, and he turns it into a “you’re so entitled,” or “you’re being rude,” or, “look how nice you have it here, feel free to move out.”
I try my best to stay calm and explain my viewpoint, but he always escalates it and makes it seem like I’m just a terrible person and starts raising his voice. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells and can’t tell him what I really think without it turning into a lecture.
I get so angry and have to leave the room, and end up having a private meltdown. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been in my room, crying about arguments.
I'm in the exact same situation and at this point I'm just hoping to snag a job and move out as soon as possible :/
@@corgireal1614 I’m sorry you’re dealing with that too! I have a job and I pay my bills, but it’s just so expensive around here, that I don’t think I could live on my own paycheck. I hope you can get your situation sorted though!
personally i wouldn’t have that ibr
i've ruined my life and tore my family apart with my anger. my anger has become my suffering.
This video doesn’t even scratch the surface of true rage and anger . I’ve done and said things that are so horrific , it’s cost me everything .
This days I've been getting agitated quite easily and earlier I suddenly burst and idk wat to do anymore
ANGER IS A GREAT MOTIVATOR
YOU HAVE TO GET ANGRY. YOU HAVE TO GET MAD. YOU'VE GOT TO GET UP OFF YOUR SEATS, GO TO THE WINDOW AND YELL *"I'M AS MAD AS HELL AND I'M NOT GONNA TAKE THIS ANYMORE"*
None of these ideas are new to me, but put together and delivered so personably, they are a good aid in being mindful of my feelings.
Thank you for this video! I definitely suffer from bad anger issues. I easily get angry or frustrated when I’m overwhelmed, I hear certain peoples voices, or told to do simple things like babysitting my little sister because my brain translates it into anger. I’m a middle child and everyday feel like my feelings are invisible to my family. It doesn’t help that I’m a teenager either so nobody really “understands” how we feel. It’s gonna be ok though💗
Your voice is actually so calming, I calmed down like right after vid tysm
My god, I just watched the beginning of the video and you got everything right
I kinda relate to this in every way, its something like I have a desire to hurt someone, sometimes I take it out on other people or myself or on objects
That's why I never get furious. I just beat the heck out of everybody who bothers me.
*_I start screetching and crying in tyrannical rage and pain of what they have done. I then proceed to break things that are easiest to break within 10 feet of me. I never forget to make them regret what they have done._*
@@DANGERINTHEFALLS amen brother.
The shoe throwing tho!!! LMFAOOOOOO 😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
IKRRR 😭😭😂😂
I'm highly logical person and all my life I've suppressed my feelings simply because they didn't make any sense to me...... Or because I felt weakness in my feelings which I didn't like. But as an adult I realize how important the emotional health is. Don't ignore your emotions people and don't allow anyone to invalidate your feelings.
Anger is the reaction of the fear getting hurt
I've complety lost myself by getting angry, I hate myself so much but no matter how freaking hard I try I can't control it, I act before think and my family is the biggest reason why I've dealt with this. Now I just feel like the "bad guy", very unstable and uneasy with my own self.
I can totally relate with this video.
Give me your anger
I lost my anger and i need it
@@astrobeans1807 Me when I'm actually happy:
I can feel you relate to this video Medea lol
Omg is that Medea from your throne in you profile picture?
Venting:
I asked my roommate if his fling/this girl was living with us (there are 4 people on the lease). He said "No," and then a few days later and they were both still here. So I asked the girl and made sure he was in earshot, but she said "oh hahaha no girl," something else. I made sure to say to tell me because I was scared when I woke up and heard footsteps outside my door that I do not recognize.
It has been even more days, so I am angry and I think I'll be asking for the girl/fling to leave because I have had it. I can hear them a lot which would've been fine if they had been honest, but they still have not told me. They could have said, "we'll discuss it," or "we're not sure," etc etc. So I believe I should put my foot down and make her leave for a day. I don't mind her coming back, but I am upset that I expressed my anxiety and still do not feel respected.
I have come to hate how I react as after many days, I started feeling passive-aggressive and thought maybe they would get the hint, but they have not and I just feel shitty.
Thanks for letting me vent. I hate myself and I hate it here.
Have a good day.
i seriously have problems so i need people to tell me what i’m struggling with. and to not tell me i’m just being inpatient.
i’m the type of person who will get very angry at the SMALLEST things. if you say something in the wrong tone, distract me, talk over me, talk to me when i’m doing my own shit, i’ll start yelling at you for as long as i can. i’ve been struggling with this since 4th grade. i was 9. i’m now 12. it’s genuinely impacted my life so much and i want it to stop. it’s not just that though, i also have seasonal depression, social anxiety, severe paranoia, and i get very overwhelmed VERY quickly. there can be too much sound and i’ll want to scream, there can be too much happening and i can go into a panic attack, there can just be people asking me a simple question and i’ll go into panic mode for some reason. i really need help. and i don’t know what to do. does anyone know what this could be..?
I can definitely understand that I saw that getting mad was me not being mature and that you should not get angry . this video was very helpful thank you
I don’t know why, but I keep getting angry for no reason and when I do get angry, I feel like stomping and destroying one of my stuffed animals. Then I start stomping on one and even put it in the trash, but then I instantly regret it and quickly get it out of the trash and give it a good wash. I just wish I had the courage to tell my parents all this so I can get some help..
@I CAN'T STOP MEEEEE AAAAA yep I have severe anxiety
I just wanna let it go, My anger comes from grief from my mama dying, Fake friends, Weird family and feeling lost in my life. I just wanna be free and find something to cure it.
I'm working my therapist right now to work on my emotions because I'm not great at recognize emotions or feeling them in general. 😭😭😭 She insists we should work on boundaries as well. Thank you for sharing this type of content. I really love these type of videos, it helps me understand others and myself much better. ❤❤❤
I get angry so quickly, I don't why
Sometimes I agrue with my co-workers very intensively 😓
I get angry too 😭 I know how you feel 😔
My friends, they like grabbing my stuff and making me run. They know i despise running. They know how my stuff are so so valuable to me. Yet they kept teasing me. I said i didnt like it but they continued doing it. I kept warning them but they didnt stop. Theyve reached my limit yk. I was angry from the start, but i never expressed it bc i thought if i said or expressed i was angry in some way, i would be exaggerating. I felt angry at myself for not letting them know how i actually felt. Well this time, they took my phone and my book. Two very valuable things, objects. And this time i had it so i yelled but i immediately felt guilty for yelling at them. Ik this is a little thing and something that does not deserve my overreaction but still. They knew that this habit of theirs bothered me.
I hope they’ve stopped doing that
So here's my thing
This morning I got way too stressed because I had a lot to do before heading to work, that includes making breakfast, washing the dishes, clean my cats' sandboxes, and go to the grocery store to fix a situation with a product I bought
But the younger cat was being way too annoying. When I was eating breakfast, he tried to get on top of the table through my chair, so I tried to get him loose and get down, but he insisted and held onto my hand scratching it. The second time he did it he held onto my pants and he hurt my leg. Then he headed into a corner in the house, somewhere he can't be because he's gonna leave hairs so I took him out of there.
Next, when I was washing the dishes, he got on top of the kitchen, so I took him down of there, and as soon as he got on the floor, my older cat started attacking him and I tried to calm them down.
My problem is that when the younger cat sneaked in the corner, the first thing I tried was slamming the furniture to scare him and get him to get out by himself. When he got up in the kitchen, I tried to splash him with water droplets from my hand, but as that didn't work, I just took him and yeeted him out of the kitchen, and when the older cat attacked him, I straight slammed the table to scare them while I was searching the water spray to calm them down, and I even screamed "WHERE TF IS THE WATER SPRAY"
When things calmed down, without thinking I said "Great, now I'm like my father" and at that moment I realized what I said and that I'm inheriting his anger management issues
I don't want to be like that, like him, I don't want to sort things out with violence and/or fear, what should I do?
Yesss even pets can be annoying as fuck, dogs are worse but when they are young, shitting and pissing all over the place because they're still in training but still it's like they do it on purpose. I have this dog, about 6 weeks old, comes in my room, shit or piss and just walks right back out... like who in the hell do you think you are you little SHIT?! It's like he sees only my room as a giant blue and white pad, those blue and white pads that they piss and shit on. Now aside from the rooms he would pretty much do his business anywhere else in the house, only my room and anywhere else in the house. Another annoying thing about young dogs is that as you're walking, they're like following you but they're Infront of you and literally all up close, like are you asking to get your damn feet/paws stepped on dumb ass? Fucking move!
And I actually thought about hurting your cat, like chopping it into pieces, sorry 😅 I never had a cat but that does sound annoying. The fact that animals just don't know that they're rude, nasty and disrespectful. Like seriously bruh... You're just going to walk up to my plate, sniffing it all up of course and then attempt to take some food like it's fucking yours? 🤨
Yeah, after I yell at my dogs or other people for the most banal thing in the world, the first thing that comes to my mind is those times when my mother hitted and yelled at me for having a B on school or being too loud, and it hurts as hell because I renember when I was a little kid and tell myself: "when I grow up, I'm not going to be like my mother, and I'm gonna raise my kids with love".
I know I'm one year late, but please get therapy, I'm going to therapy and it has helped a lot with my anger issues.
Also sorry for my bad english.
Its the little things that build up my anger and all in all i just try to not care and take the blame and try to calm down
I’ve held in my anger for years and years, sometimes if you gotta scream to the top of your lungs in your room by yourself or with friends that won’t negatively joke about it. But one thing that comes with emotional maturity is when you understand the reason you’re mad, you can begin to talk yourself out of it or de-escalate the situation inside your own brain. Like instead of thinking “this person just cut me off I’d rip their head off 😂” just be like “that pissed me off but they may have not even meant to do it” Youno type shit that’s just an example. Hope I helped someone 💪🏻 and y’all get in the gym and get healthy, if your body is healthy and works right your brain gets all the good stuff it needs like clean oxygen and blood 🤙🏻🤙🏻
Anger and frustration takes on many forms for me... it could be because I'm internalizing something else that has nothing to do with the person I'm talking to, or I could just be feeling hurt in some way and I don't always have enough tolerance or patience for certain behaviors.... Sometimes it's hard to reel in my snippy attitude when I've already had a stressful day. but it's not as bad as it used to be when I was younger. I just can't help but wonder why so many people have very little respect for certain things, and then when I get told that I need to care less or expect less from others, that puts me in a position that makes me feel conflicted. Treat others the way you want to be treated; it's a fairly simple concept in my eyes.
The big difference between anger and fear in my experience has been that anger makes it difficult to lie and that you can't really lie *about* what makes you angry, but when you are scared you can lie and its very easy to do so.
At work and when I was still in college and with people outside of my parents' house, I tend to be chill and I don't get irritated easily even when bad situations happen at work, I manage to absorb my anger and be patient. At home is where my problems start. I have childhood trauma caused by neglect both physically and emotionally from both parents and especially from my mother. My mother always start yelling even when I talk to her calmy and always shows on her face how annoyed she is of me talking to her, even for the silliest thing like asking where is the key to the basement, she would ignores me completely the first time asking then when I ask again she shakes her head and sighs and uses a bad voice tone yelling "I don't know go look for yourself uffff", so this makes my blood boils and I start yelling myself because of the mean way she treats me.
HOLY CRAP 104 LIKES AND 0 DISLIKES!?!? THAT'S THE BEST I'VE EVER SEEN!!
Yes it still
I feel like someone purposely disliked after they read this comment
@@hiii1149 right 😆😆
@@aritradhabal cuz this is not the original channel. They just re-uploaded or stole it from the original
@@WARLOCGaming Yes this is from psych2go original channel probably idk
Hence why it is wise to be slow to anger and quick to listen. It is also incredibly important to settle disputes and reason with people you have upset as soon as humanly possible
i get angry real fast, its probably because I don't get along with my mother at such a young age of 13
over the past 2 months the feelings i felt the most were anger and anxiety but whatever who's gonna give a f### anyways
Alot of mothers do that
They take out their negative on their kids
Just TRY an stay cool till you old enough to get away from her
Because tbh mothers rarely change
Same 😔
I’m 13 too and I also get angry really fast, hope u get through ur problems with ur mom ❤️
I don't really understand my emotions anymore. Social media has probably done something to me. Especially twitter and smash bros ultimate online since that's where I get mostly angry.
Even in my daily lives, people make me mad and I have no one to talk to about. I dont trust therapists either.
video only made me more angry
Am I the only one who gets mad and loses friends
I feel you mate
: )
@@yuinasatoru6527 thx 😊
Same. Anger issue is not the only one i loses friends. Just showing the slightest negative trait just any negative saying of mine they begin to feel distant and uncomfortable
Yes, but it’s not only anger for me. I’m also bitter and I hate it
2:17
Literally my mom
I’m commenting to rant since I’m not the one to tell my emotions in the real world. Lately I’ve been so angry at my family, my mom was getting on me about cleaning my room which I did but apparently it wasn’t good enough for her. And mind you I’m a private person and everything in my room goes a certain way and if it’s not like that I lose my shit. Anyways I came home from school the other day,walked into my room and it was spotless. My mom had took it upon herself to clean it. And most people probably think I’m crazy for getting mad at her cleaning my room. Buts it’s not even that I just feel violated. My room is my safe space no one can hurt me in there. So that started my anger. She also took it upon herself to move everything from where it was and was taking my things and putting them in her room. At this point I was losing my shit hysterically crying because I didn’t know where anything was and there was stuff missing. Out of rage I completely put everything back where it was and start slamming doors and all of the above. I’m still pissed about it and haven’t talked to her since. I also tend to me angry at her because she doesn’t know when to stop talking. I’m very insecure of my body and that never stops her from saying very insulting/rude things. But I guess I don’t really think about it anymore since it’s been happening for a while. I feel like what ever I do I get angry. And earlier today I got furious with my dad over the littlest thing and I don’t know why. It’s like I’m a different person completely around my family.
Remember:
Anger is one word short for Danger...
I was told since childhood to “put the monster back in its cage”. So that’s how I’ve always dealt with it.
I've started getting almost uncontrollably angry at everyone who annoys me even a little now. Its getting harder to keep inside
Im sorry, but out-of-context, 2:16 is hilarious and probably my 2nd fav animation from yall 😂
Sometimes I get angry at comments because they sound very mean to people I don’t like that so I said The worst of things to them they were shocked they roast me back then I will rose stem back it will be very bad because it gets me very badly mad if somebody see this comment and you are Angry just gonna be even worse about your family edit: this was made like five months ago if you see this comment I don’t want to hear crazy shit bye
If somebody say something stupid in here I’m going to say something mean back edit: before I go I don’t wanna hear crazy shit too now say something in the comments if you want to say something and you’re welcome 😁
I cant say spmething bad if were exactly the same. Btw did u find a way to calm down cause i cant find any that works for me
Brilliant video! Yes, anger is linked to fear. But we can learn to deal with it in a much healthier way ♥️
Last year broke me. It was problem after problem after problem! I would fix something and something else would go wrong not 2 days later. I've always had a problem with my anger but I did have it wrangled for a good while. But man last year just made me snap. Even typing this out I can feel my head getting hot. I feel like it may have spawned from my parents divorce. But IDK honestly. I never sought out help for it as I thought I had control over it. I'm hoping this year will be better. Because I don't know how much longer and I can take it before I fully expload. My coworkers have never seen me so annoyed before. And I never realized until recently how small things start to set me off like dropping my keys when trying to lock my door. Or having my clothes get caught on something. Would therapy help or should I seek advice somewhere else?
This is relatable
"Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate..... leads to suffering" -Grandmaster Yoda
Is that a saying?
My friends don’t really want to listen to me or even associate with me despite me being in their group, that is why when I became a walking fire of anger when I reached 8th grade. There were many annoying people sure but one stood out and made me wanna just lash out, and in the end I did… and at the back of my head, I never regretted that. Because he really did deserve it, it had just gotten even worse as he and another annoying person were sitting behind me. They had many fights and since I became more responsible, I wanted to tell the teachers, but letting out my true feelings felt more personal. And in the end I just forced myself to calm down, the teachers know that I was frustrated so when I told them I wanna go outside the classroom to calm down, they would. It just goes to show how anger can sometimes feel more personal and more like wanting to express how you want people to feel, but the result will be you being told to shut up and be silent…
my anger is in response to my enemies who have caused nothing but evilness and lies!!😡😡
i gained anger issues to people who say “keep crying” when i hear this anger starts to absolutely boil and i start either slam my device or absolutely go in fits of rage it just tells me to cry as if im FORCED to cry and pressure overtakes me and anger pops up anything im forced to do causes me to boil up in anger and that certain line is basically telling me “cry more”
I need a voicemail video from you , ur voice is the only thing to calm me down all day
Well, there’s people who get angry frequently, especially with sociopaths.
I'm so impatient and 80 percent of the time I want things to go my way of which I know that isn't right. Then the worst part of me that causes uncontrollable anger in me is trusting someone and the person betrays me. I keep thinking about it like forever and if I don't hurt you with my words or set boundaries obviously the wrong ways by trying to protect myself I lose my peace. And each time I react that way it hurts me back later on. Like regret doing that even while I'm still in that state of anger.
thank you so much for the video it is exactly how I feel when I get angry sometimes I throw things around because i don't know how else to express my anger
2:15 an international language I'm sorry but can't stop laughing about it 😂
Everytime I hear a small noise, or hear somebody arguing, or hear a loud noise I just get so angry and on-edge! Please everyone! I’m tryna get help for this issue! Prey for me.
when I get mad the only thing that helps in the moment is breaking something or punching something and it has made people upset with me. small things set me off and I’ve never taken it out on everyone physically only objects but everyone looks at me like I am insane. I try so so so hard to remain calm these days but man it’s hard
Im getting mad over classmates talking too much or breath too loud, i bear it because im dealing with it since i was a kid, but people notice i get mad i have a lot of veins poppin out on my head of madness. Family even more, i was once so mad at my bro and my mom cuz they was touching my stuff i couldn!t breath from how angry i was.
Because I never get what I am wanting. and when I get angry I cry.
im angry about so many things so often now i can barely even remember what its like to not be this angry all the time
When someone yells at me I black out, yell and break everything around us. Mostly my own stuff...I know it's childish but, I have been physically assaulted a lot and I guess it's some sort of defense mechanism to intimidate them before they get me
I thought about my angry reactions that I have usually and realised that it usually stems from my fear of being hurt. I was shocked that I didn't see it before - I just thought I was too sensitive
I never go to any psychology test and I don't want to self diagnose but i've seen so many symptoms online even online test that i have this bad anger issues (it's getting worst during pandemic)
I usually stayed in my bedroom eat or drink whatever left in my bedroom i refuse to get out because i'm afraid if i'm not locked myself up i'll hurt my family (and seeing their face makes me angry because they're the reason why)
I had this issues because i've seen my family hurt my mom mentally and i saw my mom nearly died because she has to work hard to support MY BIG ASS family from both sides, whenever her siblings hurt her she always said "i wont help them" but when her siblings come to my home she will acted nice again and forget everything, i once spoke my feeling towards her siblings about how rude and how toxic they're but my mom got mad at me, not being able to work, not being able to do anything it leads me to have short temper
I want to leave this hellish house but i can't because if i left, nobody will take care of my mom and my grandma (yes i only live with mom and nana)
Anger is my strongest emotion when I let it all out I swing fist at everyone and I hurt the people I care about when I use it I even hurt one of my friends cause I was so mad I hit them in the chest and they were sad and held it in and I am always being mad fun of in class for being short