A simple Practice to deal with Anger | Buddhism In English
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i get angry so often and i realized that but i am trying my best not my body take control of me my mind should take IN charge of the body. namo budhayaaa
If u get angry practice love and kind meditation then u can reduce ur anger gradually
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You are not getting angry… anger appears and dissapears
I hope you are doing better, I know its hard I'm really trying too.
Thank you
Anger rooted in my childhood trauma has caused me to sabotage the most valuable relationships I’ve ever had. It caused me to lash out and project my anger onto the person I loved most in this world…and then it fed on my guilt and turned inward. I’m working hard. I’m going to deal with this. I never want to hurt anyone, ever again
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Practice the pause, apply brakes, reflect the possible outcomes of my decisions, my anger...is it even necessary to react....Practice the pause....watch hot breath blowing out from your NOSTRILS.
Remember, since we are not the sole inhabitants of this densely populated world, there are bound to be external disturbances of various kinds, such as noise and interruptions by visitors. We cannot always live in “splendid isolation,” “from noise of men and dogs untroubled,” or in “ivory towers” high above the crowd. Right mediation is not escapism; it is not meant to provide hiding-places for temporary oblivion.
Realistic meditation has the purpose of training the mind to face, to understand and to conquer this very world in which we live.
And this world inevitably includes numerous obstacles to the life of meditation.
I love you for saying this. It’s exactly what I am experiencing. Self acceptance and living through it is kind of hard
I feel your pain, brother! I'm in that very situation right now, where my anger has become public to my neighbourhood. Exactly on your vibe, too! Childhood trauma. It really f*cks us over in adulthood, doesn't it?!!
😢😢 this anger destroying my life😭😭😭 I am kind hearted but if I be angry I forget every things...
Don’t worry your not alone
Same 😢
Me too 😢❤
Just do better, I am same but I am trying my best.
I believe you can find your way back to that inner kindness that you are. Anger is the viel we need to lift and see through love and light. I deal with the same issues and am starting my journey to be more forgiving and loving and not lash out in anger any longer. Not even think in anger. We are all one so we should treat each other that way! And that Includes ourselves. Best of luck to everyone dealing with this as well
Sending a lot of love to anyone who struggles with angry issues, such a hard path. Keep going ❤
Hi
I’m almost in tears. I found this by accident and had no idea how badly this is what I’ve been looking for to help me regain my footing in this world.
Nicely arituclated. I am deeply angered in relationship although I have no ulterior objective towards my partner. Wish your video can help me to come out of anger
Ways to deal with anger, though it is a difficult task:
1) Acknowledge ‘your thoughts’, that they are generated due to anger. “What am I thinking now? In which state is my current thought is at?”
2) Focus on breathing - Breathing will be short and fast when you are angry. Focus in slowing down your breath. Take 2-3 long deep breaths and let it out. This helps to calm your mind and body.
3) Reflect on your thought pattern and ask “why did I get angry?”. Anger prevails in your mind. Anger is something YOU have created. You have two choices - react with negative behaviour or to respond with positive behaviour.
Your experience is going to depend based on the choice you make. You have the power and privilege to respond with positivity. Hence, believe in patience.
Believe in calm, kindness and patience - this will help to manage anger. Sometimes it is ok to experience anger in your mind but It is not okay to let the anger to flow out of from our bodily action and in form of words. These conscious practices will help you to manage your emotions.
Namo Budhaya 🙏🏼🤍
tried any times doing what you mentioned but there is limit of patience too.
Be Master of your Mind .consentate on ,,,,,,.it is free and empty from all other thoughts, I WILL that nothing should enter my MIND........🙏🙏🙏
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(Responding with positivity) I am glad you have felt anger has worked for you when you needed it
My patience also being challenged, but what can I do. I cannot make a revenge because the person who hurt me is out of my sight.@@PankajGupta-lf3sn
Whenever I am very depressed from inside of my heart , feel very stressed I just burst out..I cannot control my anger I always try to control my anger but when the situation is out of my control I can't control my anger.. Trying to control my mind by listening to your video. Thank you so much
Use the resources around you to make progress. Personally, found it challenging to identify the triggers causing me to get angry - that's where mood tracking apps like MoodScriber helped. Then joining a health club/gym helped put myself in a healthy community. I think a combination of Community + Meditation + Self Discipline + Apps can be great way to make progress.
This made sense. I like simple truths/instructions- not long philosophical Ted talks ( no offense). Recently I’ve noticed that when I’m angry about something, my thoughts don’t end there - suddenly I realize I’m remembering situations from my past that have made me angry- most often, the unresolved situations…. I catch myself, and I wonder “now how did I get here where I’m angry about something that’s passed?”
I know that my angry thoughts lead to memories of other angry thoughts and I know that is not healthy.
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practice, practice, practice
day after day
failure after failure
thank you dearest monk
namo buddhaya
I was vigorously waiting for it ..... I lightened the candle in front of buddha ....And I'm listening this learnings ..... this is so soothing 😌
Namobuddhaya ♥️
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I always get angry on things that are not fair happening at my work place.. I always can't control my anger.. Sometimes I shout at people and scold them... But I am actually a kind person by nature but situations make me feel angry at times.. I feel amazed listening to ur speech and looking at your calm face... I wish I could be like you one day.. Thank you very much sir.. Namo buddhaya👃
Same here
Practice the pause, apply brakes, reflect the possible outcomes of my decisions, my anger...is it even necessary to react....Practice the pause....watch hot breath blowing out from your NOSTRILS.
Remember, since we are not the sole inhabitants of this densely populated world, there are bound to be external disturbances of various kinds, such as noise and interruptions by visitors. We cannot always live in “splendid isolation,” “from noise of men and dogs untroubled,” or in “ivory towers” high above the crowd. Right mediation is not escapism; it is not meant to provide hiding-places for temporary oblivion.
Realistic meditation has the purpose of training the mind to face, to understand and to conquer this very world in which we live.
And this world inevitably includes numerous obstacles to the life of meditation.
I always learned one thing from your video's it doesn't matter whatever, whenever, wherever happen any annoying things just let it out be kindness to others in my professional life I met so many patients they couldn't even giving ear to my words they behave so much arrogant sometimes they scold me for non of the reason but i always remember one thing be kindness to others because we don't know how long we're gonna live in this world until it's happened spread love with others ❤
Anger is perhaps the most misunderstood emotion. It’s usually called “negative” in so-called spiritual circles, and is often equated with rage and hate. But in reality, anger - just like any of our basic emotions - isn’t negative in itself. Rather, it’s there for a very important reason: to help us live a better life. More specifically, it’s there to help us remove what’s obstructing our way to joy and freedom. And it does so by drawing our attention to what our needs are, what’s preventing us from meeting them, and what corrective actions we can take in order to meet them.
Anger can be negative if it's energy touches other people and they do not know why it's being projected onto them. Conflict zone.
Anger can destroy a life time of good deeds in one moment. Just like a knife is not negative until it is used to harm someone. Anger not only harms others, it harms ourselves. Sometimes irreparably.
Many a time it is, anger that helps us to handle troublesome people
Anger and its negativity is not a different thing, Anger is just a name of a negative emotion, so itself is a negative emotion because it is an emotion that always tries to hurt others or yourself.
If the anger doesn't try to hurt others or yourself you can call it a non-negative emotion.
The emotion that drives you to a better life is called hope and determination. Don't misunderstand between determination and anger.🙏🏼
But i do think anger is often very justified. Its a natural reaction. How to deal with it, that's how this good man helps...🌱🌿💚
I'm Ethiopian a follower of the Christian faith I always watch your video because you are a calm person i understand that you are living soul My God bless you 🙏
Thank you.
As Someone who Gets anger emotion all the time for the simplest things in life, This lesson was very valuable to me. As of watching this video, The way you were talking was very calming and helped me get over my anger and be a more calm and gentle person.
You never know what anger can do sometimes. It's best to avoid it.
So today you've helped me see more about anger and why we should avoid it
Thank you again...
🙏Namo Buddhaya ❣️Thank you for your precious very touchy lesson sir! 🌻🌻🌻🌻
I am having so much of anger issues. I want to control my anger. After listening u sir I will work on my anger. Thank u sir. Namo budhay🙏
I am the same, otherwise so nice, sympathetic with high values of justice, but when angry, I am horrible :( good luck to us ♥
@@malennax1 good luck to both of us..🙏😊😊😊😊. Let se how far we are going.....
@@snehapritamsarangi2619 Thank you, I've already failed a few times after hearing it..♥really good luck to you too
Me too..😢 I got angry to my elders.. now no one talks to me...
same. Good luck to us.
Really Thank you so much Swamiwahanse sir for this your great massage/ kind suggestions...🙏🏻
We will definitely try to controls on our anger...😊
Not only just control but also we will definitely fully destroy it...😊👍🏻
With the help of your kind suggestion/Great information...🙏🏻
Namo Buddhay...🙏🏻 Theruwan Saranai 😊🙏🏻✨
To anyone feeling put off, because anger is very impulsive, especially when arising from trauma, this is still possible. The noticing step is very important and to notice your anger with loving kindness or self compassion. Noticing is the gateway which will allow you to step back and make the change so that you are less reactive. Good luck! :)
One of the most amazing things a human being can experience in their soul journey on this weird planet is to learn to examine one's thoughts and emotions objectively; it takes a lot of practice and is very strange at first, but it is totally worth it!
Thank you dear Bhante for another valuable lesson. Hope to hear more from you. Namo Budahaya 🙏🙏🙏❤️
I feel so soothing after watching ur videos..pls shaer one video daily..Sir...
🙏 Enlightenment of Mind made easy. 🙏Thank You Guruji ☺️
Your smile amd calmness on face while explaining has already started working on my anger issues.
Thank you
Noma Buddha🙏🏻. Your word change my mentality.. I always try to follow your all words.... And now I can control my anger.🙏🏻❤️
Respected Teacher,
Before I watching this motivational video I do not know how to control my anger to others.. Before I am getting angry usually I thought that I will not repeat this situation again.. But that time I forget all the things which I planned before... Now I could understand what steps I needs to do in this situation ...Now I realized that anger is not going to help me... Thank you so much this great video
What I love most about your teachings and now Buddhism is that the change and direction of my life depends entirely on my thoughts and actions. For the first time I have found a way to live that doesn't make me unhappy. Thank you.
Namo Buddhaya 🙏☸️🕉️❤️. Anger has always been my strongest vice in life. Lord Buddha and his teaching are the only thing that has worked for myself. It has given me the tools needed to look within and transform my greed, hatred, & delusion into loving kindness.
You are so right. I have had some anger lately but I knew it was wrong. I knew it will not help the situation. So I went for a walk. This allowed me the time to breathe and think how can I make it better. Soon I calmed down and could come to helpful ways to make things better for myself. Sending you my love. 😘❤❤❤❤❤❤
Jai shree gurudev aapkaa nalayak sevak guruji.
A beautiful human being speaking the truth.............
I’ve been in a rage all day because I couldn’t enrol on my masters degree (technical issues). Watching this calm, wise and loving person has been a delicious balm to my angry soul, I can retract my mind and realise the anger is making ME ill and restless. Namaste 🙏 to everyone ❤❤❤❤
namaste
One thing I read one day ! Being Angry is like drinking Poison and waiting for the other person to die !!!
Namo buddhaya...Theruwa saranai...
May i know this noble person's name ??
He is changing me from the core of my mind , he is something , his speech, his voice is something .... which I can't explain...... really grateful for him ...... Pranam to you respected sir ..... Best wishes the team from India .....
I am curious as well
I agree patience is very important sir.
Mahindasiri thero
Thank you very much
@@shaniwarnakulasooriya6977 Thank you so much ..
I try my best but i can't, my anger is always the cause for my sadness..
Practice the pause, apply brakes, reflect the possible outcomes of my decisions, my anger...is it even necessary to react....Practice the pause....watch hot breath blowing out from your NOSTRILS.
Remember, since we are not the sole inhabitants of this densely populated world, there are bound to be external disturbances of various kinds, such as noise and interruptions by visitors. We cannot always live in “splendid isolation,” “from noise of men and dogs untroubled,” or in “ivory towers” high above the crowd. Right mediation is not escapism; it is not meant to provide hiding-places for temporary oblivion.
Realistic meditation has the purpose of training the mind to face, to understand and to conquer this very world in which we live.
And this world inevitably includes numerous obstacles to the life of meditation.
बुद्धम् शरणम् गछामी ,धर्मम् शरणम् गछामी -
ॐ शान्ति !🙏🌺🌺
Pleasant evening Reverend Namo Bhuddhay 🙏
I really wanted this one...in my entire life I had lots of problems with people just because I couldn't control the way I react...I'm regreting a lot bcoz of that...atleast from now on I'm gonna take charge of my anger and control the way I react to things
I respond both negatively and positively depending
on the circumstance. Sometimes you need and
must respond with negativity to protect and defend
yourself as your life depends on it. Otherwise, you
could potentially get seriously hurt or even die. You
need to get angry to change when you see unjust
and unfairness!! But of course, I don't condone violence
when doing this. Bottom like, you need to get angry
to be safe and bring positivity sometimes!!
I am a person who have a lot of anger issues and I have been trying to control it but it has been impossible but now I know what to do and how to control it. Namo budhay ❤
Thank you so much for your teachings! Namo Buddhaya. 🙏☺️✨✨✨
I don't love myself when i m. In anger it s too violent it s too destructive .
Your words to deal with this emotion are so right and helpful for me .
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🪷🧡
He is absolutely soothing🙏🙏🙏🙏
Such a great technique for self realisation. I heard people saying don't get angry but no 1 said how to control it .
I am grateful for this technique .
Let it go... If you hold it in too much, it will destroy you. Anger is a heavy emotion and it will burden you forever if you don't manage it. Get that weight off of you and start new🤗😘! Grudges are like anchors to the soul, so let them sink.
Namo Buddhaya it is so enlightening to listen to you .
I was really waiting for this.
Thank you for these wise words. I will try to put them into practice more frequently than I do at present. I totally agree that expressing my anger is harmful both to me and to the person who has made me feel angry. I will try to become more patient. This is my way forward. Thank you.
Namo buddhayaaa💫💫💫🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you sir for your valuable teaching
Recently the book Voyagers of hell enlightened me and made me look at life in a positive way. Though the book is a fantasy it's impact was much deeper.
Namo Buddhaya... 🙏🙏🙏
🌿🙏OM NAMO BUDDHAYA 🙏🌿🙏OM NAMO NARAYANA 🙏🌿
Please give a video about "how to build again broken friendship." I need it so much...
Namo buddhaya ☸️🙏
Would really love to see guided meditation from this channel.
Thank you, Sifu! A very wise tutorial! 😀 Namo Amitofu! ☸️.
Many people need to hear this.
Im really glad to see your new video again.Pleased upload more and more of your video.May the supreme Budha guide your channel.
Your classes is very benefit for me ....thank you so much ❤❤😊😊😊😊
Thank you so much and I going to try this out and to become aware of my emotions and react in respectful way
Thank you and God bless you too
Love hearing you ..lovely advice...🙏🙏🙏💥❤️❤️
Namo buddhay 🙏🙏🙏🌹💐🌹💐🌹 vandami bhanteji 🙏🙏🙏🌹💐🌹💐🌹🙏🇮🇳🙏🇱🇰🙏🌹
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏
Wonderful video. Namo Buddhaya🙏
thank you very much for the GUIDE .watching from Taiwan
Actually works if you practice it religiously. Thank you so much 😊
Superb explanation. Namo Buddhaya
I sometimes can't control my anger. but what you said make sense. I will try tofollow what you say. I definitely want to bring positivity in my life. Namo budhaya
❤❤❤ need of this generation
Very educative for all and sundry to tackle anger that enters our minds destroying our inner peace and goodness we collected through years.
Very grateful for this teaching - “nothing has been solved with anger “ - although it can be a motivator “breathe and let kindness prevail “ 🙏 big gratitude Namaste 🙏🌏✌️
As a girl i have a lot of anger even that makes me to do worst decision to the people i love😭😭but i dont wanna do that to my people🙂
Men are just as guilty. Signed; Guilty
Your words of wisdom changes everything in my life, thank you so much, but this need long practice and listening and watching your videos make a big impact in all of our lives. Namo buddhaya. Wishing everyone having a happy and kind heart❤ and have meaningful life.
Namo Buddhaya..🙏🙏🙏💐💐💐
This is a great video with various ideas that we can apply them in our daily lives!! Thank you so much for this great work!!
Well said ATMA. Thanks for nice guidance to remove - reduce anger.... I definitely Try my Level best
I love listening to you, you speak so well, I enjoy listening to you
Namo Budhaaya...,🙏...The way of presentation is very good 👍.. Simple and valuable talk🙏
Very kindly and clearly put. I wish I had seen this year's ago.
Thank you peaceful monk
Wishes from INDIA
❤ I like your teaching. Thanks for your wonderful video.
Namo Buddhaya definitely anger should be controlled and flow out. Tank you advises given how to control it.
Like most of us, if left unchecked, I am a person prone to getting locked into my head, spinning narratives, stories; recycling memories and orchestrating 'what-if' scenarios that, I'd often then eventually believe to be 'true' and carry into the world with me.
For some reason I believed that being so analytical of the everything in my mind was a good thing, that it kept me prepared but, and this is a big 'but' I rarely analyzed where the thoughts were coming from themselves.
Like anger, I learned to see when the narrative was arising, when I was escalating in delusions but instead of being swept away and eventually reacting, Ive been learning to see how it is separate and not identify with it. Asking myself, "why am I really feeling like this?" the thoughts can be watched from a detached place and let to fizzle out, almost amusingly.
Eventually, from watching my thoughts, i realized they are in fact not 'me' but then was left with the deeper and more enjoyable question" then what is the entity watching my thoughts?" 😅
I don't have a full answer for that at the moment but that's where I am now 😂
Thank you and Maha Sadhu to Venerable Bhante 🙏🏻will try to bear in mind your good teaching🙏🏻Sukhi Hontu Bhante 🙏🏻❤️
Thank you 🙏🏻👍. My body pain makes me very short with people around me.
I wish I saw this wisdom long long ago. I'm having short temper. However, I will keep this in mind for the future 🙏
You sound very chill and I’m down with that.
Namo Buddhaya 🙏
Change my thoughts after watched your spiritual video.
Thank you brother beautiful teaching words for us 🖐️❤️🙏
Thank you
Namo Buddhaya
I can't control my anger as a student.unlike things happends again and agin.but i should control my anger.Thank tou for this video .I will practise deep breath .Namo Buddaya🙏
I really appreciate it, Thank you
Thank you. There are many common triggers for anger, such as losing our patience, feelings as if our opinion or efforts aren't appreciated and Injustice/ Insults. Other causes of anger include memories of traumatic enraging events. I believe in the theory of karma and strongly believe that one's actions have a direct bearing on one's destiny sooner or later. We find ourselves completely undone by someone else's behaviour. Most of the things that we get upset about aren't our issues.
Yes I too believe that karma, will get at the wrong doers. But meanwhile we suffer that's the irony
Namo budhhaya 🙏🏻
Really Great
Great tips thank you 🙏
I have hurt someone today because of my anger. I am feeling terrible. I hope i follow these and reduce my anger
Thank you thero in the past I was a hot tempered.but now I am okey.i always not cilng it . Thank you very much for your kindness and meaningful advices namobuddhaya