r/AmITheA**hole Idiot Customer Orders Garlic-Free Garlic Bread
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 29. 04. 2021
- r/AmITheA**hole OP works as a waiter, and he comes across a rather unusual customer. This pregnant lady has a craving for garlic bread; however, she says that the smell of garlic makes her nauseous, so she wants garlic-free garlic bread. OP asks... "Do you mean regular bread?" The lady screams at OP and insists that she wants garlic bread, but without the garlic. But, lady, garlic bread is just regular bread with garlic butter! After much arguing, OP just decides to bring out normal bread with garlic butter on the side, and the woman happily gobbles up all of it. What?
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I could really go for a peanut butter and jelly sandwich right now, just without the peanut butter or jelly.
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Please not both it sounds disgusting (german here)
ill make u a sandwich
I could go for a grilled cheese without the cheese
Im a blueberry jelly with a peanut butter, lol
I love how many abusers attack their victims, but then the minute the victim has something they want theyâre like âyou should just forgiiiiive me and move oooooonâ
âYouâre such an asshole for holding onto the pastâ
Yes, it is a glitch that my father hasnât been able to patch.
Remind me with some moments growing up
The biggest bully I had at high school who tormented me for 4 years to the point of getting me beat up, jumping out at me in street and covering me in flour, eggs, milk etc, and the cause of me getting a beat up by a group of other guys and having my shoulder arm and wrist broken, they ended up a few years later coming out as trans and saying the reason for their behaviour was they were in denial so lashing out at thet world, I told them it didn't mean what they did was somehow right and I will always remember it but I would move on, they got agressive with me and said I HAD to forgive them, and ended up talking about somehow that not forgiving them meant I was transphobic they even afterwards tried to say to their friends on social media I was closed minded and twisting things, the thing is they didn't realise I am LGBT myself i'm just not out as I only tell people in situations where its relevant.
@@gentarofourze
Just saying, Rslash has covered a story exactly like this before... although I donât necessarily doubt that multiple of shitty people like this exist.
As a trans person myself itâs always frustrating to see others going out of their way to give the community a bad name :/
Although in the Reddit story the person did mishandle it because they chose to misgender the person and be unnecessarily hurtful. Even if they donât want to accept their apology, when they are standing there apologizing thereâs no need to misgender them on top of that
@@thetableoflegend9814 I have wrote it on comments before but don't use reddit so it wouldn't be me, and I don't misgender myself so likely just a coincidence, I think more about how at school they tried to be as macho as possible, were involved in every after school sport as possible, football, rugby, hockey and liked to be agressive, so it does make sense they were hiding what they are and lashing out, and me being the nerdy guy was a easy target, im actually mildly autistic but wasn't diagnosed until a few years ago, almost 15 years after I left school though the signs were always there. I never fully recovered from their bullying, I went from at Primary/elementary school being full of life, going up to strangers and being really confident to for a few years after I remember people saying hi to me and i would blank them which made people think I was a "freak" as I was afraid of speaking to people. Then when I was 20/21 age I had a traumatic event that gave me PTSD so destroyed my already fragile social skills. If they had never bullied me in the first place the snowball/butterfly effect would be that I had more confidence at a younger age so even if the even that gave me PTSD still occured I would of recovered from it rather than reach a place that is near impossible to get out of hence why I never forgave them, just accepted it.
I think the OP in the last story was indirectly saying that the stepmother wonât allow her to heat up her own food. I can completely believe that the same woman that makes a 17-year-old go to bed at 7 PM wonât let her heat up her own food
OP clarified in the comments that the stepmom wouldn't let her reheat her food or cook her own food, so you're right
Considering that 7 PM for me translates as "shower time" and bed time is more like 10 PM (except I do stay up way late haha it is literally 2:20 AM as i type this comment), and has been like this since I was like... idk, probably 13 if not younger, yeah. OP's stepmother is definitely a controlling bitch. I do wonder how the 9 yr old sister will turn out... there's a lot of possibilities, ranging from spoiled brat to a sheltered runaway.
Yeah r/slash is making way too many assumptions? Even in the post she says she's not allowed to leave her room. That already sounds dodgy.
The whole 7PM bedtime thing makes absolutely no sense. I at least had a bedtime of 9pm up until high school (10pm or even later during the summer). That alone makes the lady sound super controlling, and the no-hot-food rule makes her sound utterly psychotic.
@@fieratheproud bruh I shower from 9 to 10:30 and then go to bed anywhere from 11 to 1
Last story- in comments OP has explained that she can't eat reheated food, so the microwave is a no-go. She's also said her stepmom won't let her touch the kitchen because of "dangerous hot pans" or something to that effect. So... yeah I can't blame her too much.
Not to mention that most food that is served cold is designed to be served cold, like you can't reheat a salad ffs
Then there's also the fact that at seventeen, a kid has the right to decide not to visit a parent. And considering that she's fully treated like a toddler by someone who isn't related to her in any way and has no right to treat her as such, I don't blame her for saying no, she's not gonna visit. I can't help thinking the mom just said she's being selfish and whatever because the father is gonna be blaming the mother.
@@byronmansfield874 My thought exactly
"Daaaaaaad. DAAAAAAAAAD. My sister doesn't want me anywhere near her after I trashed her memories of *her* dad. Daaaaaaaaad. Fix it. Fiiiiiiiix it!"
"no."
Rslash... Sometimes you have to read the comments... Those parents tried everything short of physical discipline, including therapy, which Allie refused. They (correctly) recognized that forcing a child into a therapy session can cause more problems than it helps. Just like Reddit, you are rather quick to completely blame parents for every bad behavior of their children. Teenagers have the ability to make their own choices, and Allie was an ADULT when she destroyed the scrapbook. (And she also never tried to apologize directly to Johanna, but instead relied on her dad to just fix it)
he apparently did and still gave the dad 3/5
I fear for his life, tbh.
He's a parent now. One day he'll look back at all the things he says now and cringe.
I completely agree! Thank you Jessica for saying something and I hope RSlash reads you comment. Allie seems to have maybe some undiagnosed emotional problems? Parents arenât around their children all the time and there are major factors/other influencers that can effect them. Yes, parents are responsible for their children but itâs weird to say that if a now adult person is bad simply bc their parents didnât try hard enough. Mid 20 age is a long time for any amount of nonsense to go down. Hopefully eventually Allie will take this opportunity of truth to try and be a better person.
@@Girlwithafoxhat4 I agree. Once someone hits their mid 20s and their brain fully develops ,its up to them to start taking their behaviour as their responsibility. Everything that was done to someone as a kid affects them but itâs up to the individual to behave appropriately, and understand that actions have consequences.Also, I noticed that there was no apology ever given.
While I agree that sometimes a kid grows up to be a jerk regardless of what their parents do (or grows up to be a good person despite their parents being total wastes of carbon), it doesn't sound like they did much to protect Johanna from Allie. To make one kid just take abuse all the time because the other kid has issues is wrong.
The sister story. NTA. Allie dug her hole. The parents tried to discipline her. Yeah it failed but at least they tried. She had every right to not invite Allie.
I think you confused who the OP is, the sister getting married is 100% NTA, but the parents obviously didn't do much to stop the harassment, so they actually kinda are assholes.
Rslash clearly is still new to parenting I mean hell I am still pregnant with my 1st but I know raising them won't be easy and there will be times if I have more than 1 that they will fight. Not everyone knows how to handle out of control kids nor does everyone always have access to help. At the end of the day we don't know the full history of their family so I'd give op more like 1.5 assholes for not trying a bit harder but 3 is too harsh.
Yeah, they tried to discipline. Just because they didnt succeed doesnt mean they get blame. OP is NTA.
@@cynister7384 in the edit OP explained how he tried to enforce discipline and failed. He tried grounding and taking stuff away. I'm just curious what you would do differently that would have been so much better at punishing the daughter.
@@cynister7384 so grounding Allie, taking away her stuff isn't "trying to stop the harassment"?
I mean, if the woman is controlling enough to not let people out of their room after 7 and not let them eat hot food so they can't burn themselves, not letting they use a stove or microwave should be a given.
In the comments OP says just that. They not allowed to use the kitchen
Apparently Rslash can't get his head out his butt to read that. And he never understands other people's issues. Cuz y'know being a dilhole is more meaningful to him.
As someone with a little sister who my parents tried to discipline, it's not as simple as 'well maybe ur just a terrible parent'. Kids are a*sholes, pubescent teens moreso. The parents tried their best, if a bad person wants to continue being bad, they will be. Doesn't matter what you do.
In the story with the two sisters... I feel like you were a little harsh on the dad. Coming from a family where that kind of crap happened pretty often, it's not always the parent's fault. The number of times that my step-brother got into trouble for ruthlessly bullying my little sister is... I can't even put it into words. Constant trouble for years upon years. But he kept doing it. Shitstains will be shitstains. There's no helping that sometimes
Unfortunately that is true. I agree, especially after reading some the points people here brought up that overall I think the dad in that story is not the butthole. It sounds like they tried everything with Allie but just couldnât force her to get along and be nice to Johanna, and now Allie wonders why Johanna wonât just forgive or let go years of abuse? OP did right by saying âhey, if you treated her with more respect and were nicer, youâd have a better relationship with her and would be invitedâ thatâs just the harsh truth. Who wants to be around someone who mistreated for YEARS! Johanna tried to be understanding and patient but well, she reached a limit. Allie needed to hear that her behavior and how she treated Johanna caused the current problem and hopefully, though I donât know how likely...will reflect on how she couldâve been better, just doubtful of that though since she expects Johanna to just let it all go.
It's ALWAYS the parents' fault, because they have _allowed_ the abuse to go on.
@@wmdkitty What if the op did try to discipline allie and she just ignored it. People's kids can ignore things and punishments that try to shoot down their reckless behavior
@@wmdkitty they punished Allie. What else could they have done?
@@wmdkitty What are they supposed to do? Lock the bad child in a cage? Sometimes, kids just don't give a shit what you do and continue to be little shits for the sake of being little shits.
Karen: "How could you treat a pregnant woman so badlllyyy- *sobbing* "
The addition of that sobbing just boils my blood and made me laugh.
It made me laugh more cause of what I think is a mocking tone
Want to bet that nutcase was either faking the "sobs"... or was baffled that she didn't get garlic bread in spite of the logic of her "order" being pointed out after being followed to the letter?
Can't blame the OP for her actions there. That lady was an idiot, pregnancy hormones out of whack or not. NTA
The sad thing is these two idiots are reproducing, that poor child
Yeah i get pregnant women have it rough but these kind of women abuse the privilege
...does it make me a butthole for thinking that just because someone is pregnant doesn't give them free reign to be awful to other people?
Reminds me of another AITA story where OP's sister-in-law was pregnant and insisted she was always hungry, but seemed to be using it as an excuse to steal everyone else's food. It's like, congrats Becky, you're expecting! But it doesn't give you free reign to be a bitch.
Trying to be a good parent IS what makes a good parent. Good parents try, bad parents don't. You try, you fail, you try again. That's good parenting. Not trying is what makes you a bad parent.
Thanks this made me feel better
Well said
@@bryn1063 When you ignore your responsibilities and avoid your children or discriminate between kids with favouritism. Basically there are a lot of ways parents can be bad, because well, parenting is definitely difficult. And there are abusive parents as well. But I'm really lucky and grateful to my parents who care for me so much and are lovely. And I can tell you for a fact that, even with the best parents you can have, a child can still turn out bad, and it would be on the kid.
@@bryn1063 the comments on the post from the OP said that they did everything shy if physical punishment and even put her through therapy to no avail.
@@thesun5275 Dude, this was 9 months ago. I've obviously changed my opinion since then. I was wrong.
For the last story if you bothered to read the comments. OPs comment was literally under the top one. She can't eat reheated food because of her ARFID AND the stepmom won't even allow OP to use the kitchen.
Probably because the step mom is worried the daughter will stab her for being a shit parent.
Yeah like she is way to controlling like when I was the ops age I was aloud to bake from scratch by myself
Allie sounds like she had some problems with her dad's new life so she took her anger out on her stepsister.
Does not excuse her behavior. Tearing up your sisterâs belongings that remind her of her father is just psychotic
OP did say in his story he and his wife were attempting therapy, but Allie kept refusing
Those kinds of kids are the hardest to discipline because they immediately turn any anger about getting punished straight back on their victim for 'getting them into trouble'
âIt is that hard to make garlic bread without the garlic?â Uh, well yeah.
* presents bread with butter *
Removing the ingredient that makes it garlic bread does it make it difficult.
The way I make garlic bread is to slice a baguette, crush some garlic cloves into salted butter, butter both sides of each slice, reassemble the baguette and wrap it in foil and then bake in the oven for about 15-20 mins. It *is* possible to leave out the garlic doing it this way and still get the slightly butter-fried, butter-soaked, yummy goodness... but in a busy restaurant, probably with pre-packed, portion-controlled ingredients and under time pressure, perhaps not so much...
There is a chemical substitute that smells and tastes kinda like garlic, but in most cases, it's the smell and taste that causes nausea in pregnant women, so it would be moot to use it..
The more disturbing part is that they are making more like them.
If you loose someone close to you and all you have left to remember them by is pictures or some of their clothes and someone else destroys that stuff they 100% are a 5 / 5 but hole
I guess it's Rslash's parent's fault every time he makes a big miss on these stories according to his own logic. Shame on them.
Ikr...sad.
The one where the girl doesnât want to visit her dad in Germany. I heard this one on another channel. Her step mother wonât let her use the microwave. I think the step mother is a nut job. And her father is just as bad for allowing her to treat both girls like she does.
Yeah, the Step mom is already a helicopter mom. She doesnt let the sister out of the house then who knows maybe she also doesnt want them to touch the kitchen as well.
I had a feeling that's what was going on
Also ,if they are living in Germany ,than it is child abuse not to give warm meals to your kid.
i also "love" the fact rslash skipped over the fact that she has a eating disorder
Also, I feel like people don't understand just how much ARFID can impact your ability to eat + in some cases make + prepare food. Some people with ARFID are so scared of food being contaminated/making them sick/giving them a reaction microwaving may not be possible (heck, my nana doesn't have ARFID but won't microwave most cooked food incase she gets food poisoning).
It's also really dangerous. I've heard people say it presents like anorexia, but the mental process is different. Especially with significant weight loss or malnutrition being part of the criteria, you can get really ill from it bc you just don't eat many foods due to either fear, sensory issues, or a lack of interest in food/eating.
âthatâs like asking for a cheeseburger without cheese and then getting mad itâs a hamburger.â
...the amount of times I ACTUALLY dealt with this working at Mcdonaldâs in high school. jfc
My favorite such order (a friend worked fast food, I never have) was potato-free cheesy fries. As a customer, I witnessed that order myself _twice_ (college-adjacent fast food places be super weird). The eventual result of such orders, started by the manager, was a fry thing with a barely-melted square of cheese in it, plus some salt and whatever other toppings it came with.
2nd place goes to the regular hamburger with a 2nd patty, two slices of cheese, double this that and the other thing, with the expectation that that'd be the same price as a normal, unmodified hamburger, not the double cheeseburger's almost doubled price.
RIGHT
dude when i was younger i had no clue it was a hamburger (we are talking like 7) and i'm so embarrassed about it and finding out a cheeseburger with no cheese is a hamburger is the source of all my social anxiety
Sameee...
Oh jeez, I start my first day of work at McDonalds today, wish me luck
Ironically I worked at McDonald's and I had a woman who insisted she wanted a cheese burger with no cheese so I put in the cheaper hamburger. She yelled I listened. I out in the cheeseburger with no cheese. It auto changed it to a hamburger. She screamed and was then told to leave by my manager for abusing the staff. It was a day hahaha
Gotta disagree with R/Slash on the sister post, because I know from experience that siblings can find plenty of ways to shit on and piss off their other siblings and hide it from parents. Just because the behavior wonât be tolerated doesnât mean it stops forever, because kids can be smart and hide the truth better than one may expect. That one sister was consistently disrespectful of her other sibling, so her lack of future contact is karma coming into play.
Agreed, sometimes people are just aholes for no reason, and Op wasn't an ahole for telling Annie she got what she deserved, especially since Annie only wanted to make up with Johanna so she'd be invited to the wedding, be a bridesmaid, etc. She wasn't sorry, so she doesn't deserve sympathy, especially when Annie literally destroyed things from johanna's father that had sentimental value, all because SHE was having a tough time and failing in her studies
I was coming here to comment exactly that. They're honestly good parents when they respect the fact that Johanna doesn't want Allie in the wedding. You can only do so much as a parent, kids still have their own personalities.
True, also in the update the dad said that they tried to discipline Alley. If they REALLY tried, what else should they do?
If it's all true what the dad said, i'm on his side. Alley had it coming for her.
Plus I think the post said that weâre mid twenties so they are already grown up and can make their own decisions without the parents being involved, damn rslash for once got a âamithebuttholeâ wrong đ©
Allie is just a bad person,wife and dad and other sister are not aholes
Lately rslash is saying wrong things
It sounds like OP tried to parent and discipline Allie, but it didn't work. Sure, it's a failure on the parents because maybe they didn't try more, but there's a good chance that Allie was a lost cause to begin with. Some children can't be disciplined.
Yeah thats what I was thinking to! She also could've been doing it behind their backs. The parents can't watch her 24/7. I assume they probably work and stuff, so the girls probably had alone time either at school or at home or after school or whenever. Most likely they catch Allie in the aftermath but because she already did the crime then the punishment matter less
@@GracefullPhantom exactly. No matter how many times I have punished my kids for their bd behaviors they still sometimes continue these behaviors. Doesn't mean I've failed if anything I did didn't work. Sometimes kids are just jerks no matter what. Luckily now that they're all graduated or about to graduate high school they've mellowed out alot lol
@@ThaDarknyss same. You cant force kids to be nice to each other. You can regulate and discipline inside the confines of your home but the sad reality is that outside of the house, theyâre on their own. Rslash had a bad take on this.
@@yosiyyahu.bar.stephen even in your own home your discipline and expectations won't necessarily be heeded. It's a crap shoot most times. And not gonna lie I've been finding myself yelling at rslash through my phone about where his common sense is a lot as of late. Still love his videos don't get me wrong, but I would say at least 10 videos a month I find myself wondering if he's actually reading the same thing the rest of us are.
Yeah the step sisters story rubbed me the wrong way. I have 3 kids, a set of twin girls and a son. I raise and treat all my kids the same way. They know about consequences, punishments and treating people the same way you'd wanna be treated. I've explained to my older twin she's gonna end up a lonely cat lady if she keeps acting and treating people this way. Yet I'm hoping she isn't gonna end up being a sociopath, but it seems that way sometimes, regardless of what I do. We even have them in counseling. Some children/people can't be helped no matter what you do.
I think itâs safe to say that they ARE good parents. They did everything they thought they could for the sisters. They didnât fail teaching the sister the lesson, the sister failed learning the lesson. And now they are fully supporting the victimized child, I would say thatâs being a good parent. Some people donât learn no matter what a parent does, clearly Allie is one of those people.
There are plenty of cases out there where the parents have tried their hardest to discipline and raise a good child, but sometimes, a kid can grow up into a completely shitty adult. Other things in life influence an individual, not just their parents. I feel sorry for the parents of Allie and Johanna more than anything.
The plant shame wall: yes itâs petty, you know whatâs also petty? Petty theft.
Do a petty crime, get a petty punishment.
play stupid games, win stupid prizes
Also, if its effective publicly name and shame all the idiots!
You missed a great opportunity to throw in a plant pun.
@@nicolelawrence7722 whoops a daisy, my bad!
@@countywhereverfan9960 good one lol I'll figure out a pun next thyme
Garlic doesnât sound like a proper word anymore after the first story.
I worked at an Italian restaurant. Trust me. You'll have a 30ish % chance to get that back MAX.
Fun fact: This is called semantic satiation. It's believed to be caused by the neural pathways involved in the language comprehension of those specific words, which overfire with repetition, causing reactive inhibition in those pathways. In short, repeating a word or phrase causes your brain to become less and less reactive to reproducing its meaning during language comprehension.
@@lexandrosphynx1049 Wow, đ thanks LS, I always wondered đ€ what my brain was doing to these words.
Garlic garlic garlic garlic
Hey now
In the last story, it sounds like if hot food is too dangerous for kids then i doubt she lets the kids touch the microwave or even cut apple slices for herself.
Okay, about the sisters. I don't think rSlash has a lot of experience with problem children. I have first hand experience in dealing with a problem child so I feel I can speak with some authority here.
My eldest sister's eldest son was a trouble maker practically from the day he was born. From the time he learned how to talk he would argue about everything. If he was told that he wasn't allowed to do something, he would take that as a challenge to try and prove his parents/guardian wrong. I was his primary babysitter when he was growing up, so I know full well his behavioral problems.
Things got even worse when his half siblings were born (he was born out of wedlock, then my sister married his stepdad and they had three more kids). He once tried to hang his eldest sister off of the slide in their back yard. He tied one end of a jump rope around her neck, the other to the top of the slide, then pushed her down the slide. Thank God my brother in law was there and was able to cut her loose.
They tried EVERYTHING to get him to behave. Time outs, grounding him, taking away his toys/video games/whatever, spankings, even therapy. Nothing seemed to work. As a teenager he was expelled from every school in town. He had to go live with his grandma (my mom) and finish high school in a completely different town in order to graduate. Years later he's STILL a trouble maker. His mom has custody of his son because of all the trouble he's been in.
He's not necessarily a bad person, but he seems to lack impulse control. When a thought pops into his head he seems to just act on it. As a result he's currently estranged from his entire immediate family. He blames everyone but himself for his problems, and even though my sister and brother in law have shown him nothing but love and patience, he's decided to disown them.
I doubt that they could have done anything any differently to keep him from going down the path he chose. They gave him chance after chance, and every time he managed to screw it up. So calling the parents in that story bad parents is unfair. They tried their best to curb their daughter's terrible behavior. But some people just insist on burning every bridge after crossing it. So the parents NTA. The sister getting married, NTA. The sister who bullied and tormented her sibling their entire lives and NOW wants to have a relationship? She is the asshole in every sense of the word, and deserves what she gets.
Hey now, way back when i was a baby my oldest brother was an absolute jerk to my parents, would scream at them push them against walls, he was insane. That wasn't their fault he was bad back then. I dont think its always the parents fault for how their kids turn out
I mean allie always got punishment and always try to fix the problem seems like op is trying its best. Yes its not always the parents fault.
My parents are having this exact same problem with my younger brother, they have taken him to neurologists, psychologists and more specialists since he was 10 because he was a mess in school. They never found anything wrong in his brain and the psychologist told my parents that he is only a lazy child. He has failed, just this semester, 12 subjects in 4 months, they don't know what to do anymore, my father is seriously considering dropping him out of highschool and kick him out from home (He is 17 now, almost 18 in october)
@Matthias Hernandez I can not in good conscience agree with physical discipline...It might work for some, but When I was little, it had a different effect.. Instead of thinking "I don't like that, so I'm not going to do that again" It made me think "That hurts really badly, I must never get caught again"
now that I'm older and have more common sense, It still left some lingering mental scars.. I constantly have a fear of disappointment, of making mistakes, to the point where I feel I have to lie even when I know I don't have to...
My fiancé has a slightly older brother (by 2 years) that was the same as Allie but more violent and cruel. He has always been that way and he's been disciplined/sent to therapy and getting him tested for mental health/sent to boot camp and juvi. None of them helped. I know that my fiancé parents tried their best with him but he's just a naturally bad person. It also doesn't help that he got hooked on hard drugs which turned him into a psychotic monster. My fiancé still lives in fear and anxiety for the day his brother gets out of jail since he was his main target. Sometimes you can't help some people I guess
@@putuananda1220 I thought I was the only one who thought that.
NTA for demanding hot food. Wouldn't be surprised if they didn't have a microwave at all. Makes you wonder what kind of trauma the stepmom went through to completely cut out hot or even warm food. Probably something she saw on facebook, isn't it
Yeah Iâm wondering if maybe her parents were abusive and maybe her mom guilt tripped them saying they didnât like her cooking if they didnât eat it right away while it was still scolding hot or something. It appears to me as if she also has an eating disorder.
When I used to worked at McDonald's I LITERALLY had a customer ask me for a cheeseburger with no cheese and I said.... "so a hamburger?" and he legit got so mad at me and he was all "nO, dID yOU nOt hEAr WHat i SaID?! I WANT a CHEESEBURGER wiTH NO CHEESE!" I feel so frustrated and angry just thinking about it...
My heart is literally breaking for Johanna in that sister story. Allie is a horrible human being
Johanna: can I come to your birthday party sissy.
Allie: NO
Johanna: well itâs okay.
YEARS LATER~
Allie: Iâm so sorry for destroying your memories of your father, so can I come to your wedding and be a family again.
Johanna: no
Allie:*shock pikachu face*
she never said she was sorry..
@@catrielmarignaclionti4518 Exactly that pissed me off the most, she is just said let bygones be bygones. No apology, no guilt, no remorse nothing. ALLIE IS A FREAKING 5/5 BUTTHOLE.
Ok so, the post about the two daughters; the father did leave a comment saying he and his wife did try to punish Allie by keeping the two separated, not forcing the two to be together, explaining that just bc Allie didnât like Johanna, she didnât have a right to treat her like she did. Apparently he even asked if Allie wanted to go to therapy.
So they tried, but it seemed that they didnât quite do what was needed to fully stop Allie.
I'm sorry but you're wrong at the last one.
I was talking with my fiancee about that and another video covered it. Apparently when OP is at her dad's place, her Stepmom won't even let her in the kitchen. So simply making her own food or heating it up in the microwave wasn't an option from the sounds of it.
More to the point, OP is 17. If she doesn't want to see her dad because the stepmom is a looney tune (borderline abusive if you ask me) then she shouldn't have to
@@adamdarling6766 ??? I believe you commented on the wrong message? Iâm talking about the post about the two daughters in which the OPâs bio daughter, Allie, kept bullying his step-daughter, Johanna.
The OP is the father who is 58m.
@@isushimoon799 Yeah I meant to make that as a regular comment lol
@@adamdarling6766 ah I see, I was hella confused lol
On that last story, the stepmom seems like the kind of parent that would completely encase their child in bubblewrap if she could.
I saw the last one when it was posted and OP answered some questions:
Her food disorder prevents her from eating reheated food, so even if she could use the microwave, it wouldn't help. I think it was something about how it changes the textures of the food and how the enzymes change from being reheated. (Think about how you would reheat garlic bread in the oven rather than the microwave, and then imagine that over exaggerated for every type of food.)
Also, the sister isn't allowed near the stove because she might hurt herself, therefore OP isn't allowed near the stove. So she can't cook her own food at different times either. iirc no one is allowed in the kitchen at all except for the step mom, so they only have access to food that she provides.
It really sucks for OP because she can't do anything unless the step mom's rules change. The only thing she has control over is if she doesn't go and since it's 2+ weeks (OP clarified that it was often over 2 weeks and sometimes over a month) that's a long time to go without proper food. She's 17 and can take care of herself if she is allowed to, but when she's not allowed to take care of herself, the people taking care of her should allow her to eat the food she needs. All she would need would be to be allowed in the kitchen a few times a day or to eat a few minutes earlier than her sister, but the step mom isn't allowing that. And her mom won't let her stay home, but she could take care of herself even if she was left alone for a few weeks. She would be perfectly fine if people actually just let her take care of herself and make her own decisions.
That last story is a strange one. It looks like OP is saying in the comments theyâre not allowed to use the kitchen though. The stepmom sounds extremely controlling, I donât blame OP for not wanting to go.
It mentions in the post (rSlash doesnât say it) that the eating disorder OP has is ARFID. This could mean that she literally cannot eat reheated food, so I checked in the comments. She cannot eat reheated food so I hope rSlash addresses that somehow in the future. Important to triple check when such sensitive matters are involved.
@@anaeya8309 yeah, I have ARFID and Iâm a bit sensitive about reheated food too.
Iâve gotten a lot better, so I can eat a lot more, but reheated food always grosses me out a lot.
Not eating any hot food at all is actually reaally bad...
I mean for a generally healthy person it's fine, it's not preferable but it won't do much damage.
But OP has an eating disorder ARFID, which is pretty much like anorexia just minus the fear of getting fat and body insecurities.
It has symptoms like limited food consumption, general lack of interest in food and eating, avoidance based on the sensory characteristics of food(temperature could be one of the sensory characteristics), concern about aversive consequences of eating and so on.
And such disorder, much like anorexia, leads to significant weight loss and nutritional deficiency.
SO MY POINT IS. Not only cold food may be a triger for her disorder as one of the sensory characteristics, which would make her want to avoit eating.
But also, out body needs to use more energy and resources to break down the cold food, which in OP's case could potentially be harmful for her health dependinh on how progressed her disorder is.
If she lacks nutrients and loses a lot of weigh already, the cold food is basically taking away those extra bits of resourses of her bosy that are necesary for her health...
And on top of that, even if her disorder isn't is severe state now, this could actually provoke worsening of her condition...
There is a cultural thing in parts of Germany that the kitchen is the mom's private space alone. Kinda like a man cave. I remember it being explained to me as a kid when we visited some distant relatives that we had offended the lady of the house by looking into the kitchen. It is behind a closed door, not open like a lot of kitchens in the US. I don't know the whole story and I don't get the history of it. All I know is that was what I was told. For us, the kitchen is a central part of the house for gathering and cooking together in the USA.
@@anaeya8309like with a stove, @@anaeya8309RFID, but is normally cooked food fine?) I also donât know too much about culture in Germany, but the stepmom seems a little off either way
Apparently for the last story, OP isn't allowed to use the microwave incase they "God forbid burn themselves on a hot pan". And what does the dad eat? Does he also eat cold food?
That's my question. Does everyone just eat cold food all the time, or do the parents eat the hot food, then serve the kids cold food later?
"You can't go into McDonald's, order a cheeseburger with no cheese and then get mad when they give you a hamburger"
As someone that's worked management there; they do exactly that all the time
There have been times at McDonalds and other places during promos where it makes sense to make a stupid order, like when a McDouble is cheaper than a double hamburger. So you order it without cheese to get basically a double hamburger. I agree with the crowd that to complain about what one explicitly ordered despite cautions and attempts at clarification is a special kind of stupid.
Allie and Johana story, it's clear that the parents were doing their best, just because they couldn't stop the behavior doesn't mean they didn't try, plus it's not like they deliberately *tried* to fail
Also in the stepmom story OP said that the stepmom was a helicopter parent, she was most definitely stopping OP from eating properly
The sister story got an update
Info: For everyone asking and making assumptions about my parenting, Allie was never allowed to slide with anything she did to her sister. She was grounded, she had things taken from her, we replaced the things we would that she broke and we made sure Johanna was supported and validated throughout the years. We never told Johanna to get over anything, we never told her she had to forgive Allie. When we offered Allie therapy, she was 14. We weren't going to force our daughter to go to therapy where chances were, she could just tell her therapist she didn't want to be there and be uncooperative, and most likely have the therapist stop seeing her as we can't and weren't gonna force a kid to be somewhere she didn't want to be, just for her to lash out at her sister even worse. When Allie destroyed those things she was banned from coming back until she apologized and made things right by Johanna. Johanna said herself she didn't want the apology and my wife and I did our best to surround her with love while she was grieving the loss of those things she cared for. Johanna moved out so the punishment was moot. We are aware Allie sucks, we did everything we could within reason. I didn't raise Allie to be this way,we didn't encourage this nor did we allow her to believe the behavior was acceptable.
Edit: This thread is an absolute pit of people who don't seem to understand some kids just aren't receptive. I'm kind of done seeking internet help here, you all seem wonderful and I'll be sure that on the next go around I toss my kid to a psych ward and pit all blame on the Healthcare system for not fixing them. Jesus christ, never become parents.
Wanna point out, that edit is from the post itself
yeah... r/amithea**hole has a lot of problems
@@GiordanDiodato CZcams too apparently.. theres an essay of a comment chain of a guy trying to argue that the parents are scumbags for fostering a toxic environment by failing at the discipline...
Hey a lot of these comments is this video are defending you most disagree with what Rslash said donât let some of these people get you down. Most of the comments I read about your story on this video are supporting you not tearing you down donât just give up. You are not a bad parent you tried your best and sometimes things donât turn out how you hoped you are NTA in this situation remember that.
âWe are aware that Allie sucksâ
@@DemonVermin I think the dumbest one is that they judge you for having a relationship with someone else who's more than 6 years older/younger. Ok, I get that if the younger person is still a minor, but what about two consenting adults?
The story with the daughters is so NTA. Rslash, I get that you're a new parent, but OP literally put in the post what he did to discipline the daughter. He and his wife did their best, but Allie was just a bad person and they couldn't change that
agreed. no amount of discipline can change some people. r/slash will figure that out when his kids get to their teenage years
Sometimes, he's just wrong
I was about to comment that as well i mean at least they did a great job with the other daughter she doesn't even blame the parents by the communication she has with them. Its just a bad apple that has no way of changing, it happens sometimes. We can't blame the parents, at least not always.
Agreed. I even thought, âyeah, parents want to see their feuding kids reunite, but a parent cannot force them to.â
Still partially the parents fault. Not as much as Rslash says, but definitely a little
This is just too funny. When my dad was still able to eat burgers and stuff like that. He would always order his burgers by saying: "I want a cheeseburger without the cheese." The waiters and staff members at places usually laughed when he said that. That's just his sense of humor. But the fact that you said that just made me chuckle.
The last person told you they have an eating disorder and you ask âwhat is stopping you from microwaving itâ. An eating disorder means anything surrounding food is difficult, if their parents know that and still inflict weird pointless rules on the food, that makes it even harder, and their inability or refusal to understand could be incredibly harmful. Also, âyouâre 17, what stops you from-â that stepmom probably???? Even if the stepmom isnât super controlling, that still doesnât mean that OP has every option and opportunity to do things. OP shouldnât have to in the first place, if they donât want to, they shouldnât be forced to go. Mental health is most important.
Also your take âif kids turn out shit, itâs the parents faultâ no???????? There are SO many other factors that can play a role. Personality, mental illness, trauma, environment. It all plays such a huge role in a persons behavior, no matter how hard the parents try, they donât have full control over their child or what their child goes trough. No matter how hard some parents try.
When he said "What's stopping you from cooking your own food?" I'm like, did you miss the part where she said had AFRID?
The air of confidence and authority when he says âYour stepmom sounds like a tool and ill get to her in a minuteâ made me chuckle.
Ehat
Not every parent can try to be a good parent and succeed. If they tried to punish Allie to no avail, it's not the parent's fault for it. Nature vs nurture really comes into play with that story. I have a sister who's just like Allie, sometimes kids are gonna be absolute pieces of shit despite a parent trying their hardest to raise them right.
true, kids are predisposed against step family.
One has to go above and beyond to foster a cohesive melding of house holds.
Yeah but in the story it looks more like op said it once to his daughter and gave up. Children aren't toys, they're hard work, and you need time consideration and elbow grease to raise them. In this story I don't see op putting any time disapplenting allie, just letting her do what she wanted. You gotta act on behavior as soon as it starts not just tell them. That's how you get a-holes in life. OP raised them both and as soon as it started didn't put any hard work into stopping it. Making the relationship terrible and insufferable to be around each other. But I do agree sometimes you children just act out and you can't stop it, but that's what therapy is for. I'm also pretty sure something is mentally wrong with ally though. Either that or op is leaving out things or making up things.
@@bryn1063 I highly doubt they "gave up". Are you a step parent? Do you even have kids? I'm guessing no because of your wonderful spelling here. You're assumptions here are as asinine as your statements. Being a step parent isn't a cakewalk and there are a lot more eggshells you have to walk on.
@@sigma6840 Yeah and you have to try. When you go into a restuarant and the food taste bad, do you go into that restaurant and cook it yourself? Unless you gordon Ramsay which I can tell you aren't. No, also I could just speak another language. But you love to assume seems like! Like I said in my comments children are hard to take care of and they need hard work to discipline but I'm guessing you read over that to complain.
@@bryn1063 Now I KNOW you're not a parent. Equating raising kids to cooking. LOL FFS.
I really want an update on that last story. I know from stories my friends and partner have told me, that yeah sometimes your stepparent will *not* let you use the oven/stove/microwave alone even if youâre 17 or even 18. Itâs a strange form of helicopter parenting and controlling behavior. So if their food is served/gets cold then thatâs what they have to eat, they canât make food for themselves. Itâs all so weird
I'd disagree with you on the sister story. I'm not a parent but grew up with a sister who took all her anger and insecurities out on me. When we were both little (say, I was 6, she was 3) and I was always asked by my parents to "let things go" because "she doesn't know what she's doing" something I'm still mad at my parents for and being an introverted child who loved harmony and wanted everyone to be happy I did. Allies and Johannas Parents don't seem to have done that as the update suggests. I can completely empathise with Johanna and I think that OP did the correct thing by telling Allie that she deserved being locked out of Johannas life after what she did.
Yes, some children are the product of how their parents raised them but others are just born the way they are. My parents did some mistakes when me and my sister were growing up but they aren't to blame for how she turned out, they did discipline her and she was grounded, had things taken away from her and had to pay for the damages she did, that didn't change how she was. And I am still at a point where I want to have nothing to do with her because of what she has done and still does
About the sister post- I heard the story from other Reddit channels and basically, there were edits or more comments (or something) about how the parents did try a lot of things: they did punish Allie for what she was doing to Johana, they did therapy for both girls, they did about what any parent could from what I understand. But Allie still bullied Johanna.
EDIT: I am going to try and find the video for others and to make sure of myself lol
2 Edit: I couldn't find the video but found the post and added the edits in the comments. I did forget they didn't put her into therapy but offered it to her
It sounds like Allie has anger issues/mental health problems, never learned to cope with difficult feelings in a healthy way, or was upset in a deeper way... Like thinking Johanna took something from her, maybe her parents attention or love?
Yeah sometimes rSlash is really full of himself...
I was about to say. What were the parents to do past even what the edit mentioned in the video edit? What disciplinary actions should they have taken Rslash? Thrown her in a home when she started rebelling through their parenting? Drugged her up to make her docile and âniceâ? Slowly ramp up psychical discipline as she became more defiant? He likes to split hairs over semantics and people not being blue book authors in their posts. Makes me wonder who exactly hurt him growing up for some of these really strong feelings.
Some kids or adults are receptive to therapy. Allie doesnt even show remorse for what she did. She just expects her sister to be okay like before. I think Johanna honestly wanted a relationship was letting bygones be bygones until Allie destroyed her scrapbook of her father. At that point Johanna just gave up and was cutting her out for good.
Here are the edits:
"AITA for telling her she deserves this?
Info: For everyone asking and making assumptions about my parenting, Allie was never allowed to slide with anything she did to her sister. She was grounded, she had things taken from her, we replaced the things we would that she broke and we made sure Johanna was supported and validated throughout the years. We never told Johanna to get over anything, we never told her she had to forgive Allie. When we offered Allie therapy, she was 14. We weren't going to force our daughter to go to therapy where chances were, she could just tell her therapist she didn't want to be there and be uncooperative, and most likely have the therapist stop seeing her as we can't and weren't gonna force a kid to be somewhere she didn't want to be, just for her to lash out at her sister even worse. When Allie destroyed those things she was banned from coming back until she apologized and made things right by Johanna. Johanna said herself she didn't want the apology and my wife and I did our best to surround her with love while she was grieving the loss of those things she cared for. Johanna moved out so the punishment was moot. We are aware Allie sucks, we did everything we could within reason. I didn't raise Allie to be this way,we didn't encourage this nor did we allow her to believe the behavior was acceptable.
Edit: This thread is an absolute pit of people who don't seem to understand some kids just aren't receptive. I'm kind of done seeking internet help here, you all seem wonderful and I'll be sure that on the next go around I toss my kid to a psych ward and pit all blame on the Healthcare system for not fixing them. Jesus christ, never become parents."
For the garlic bread woman.... they were the ones being difficult, pregnant or not both weren't good customers. I had cravings too but i never acted like that and truth be told, even if i had a phase like that, i would be mad at my husband if he would've defended my bad attitude.
I feel like the real harsh reality is recognizing that external factorâs of your kids life affect their behavior JUST as much as parental guidance.
My sister and I are half sisters. We were both raised with my parents, but she has split custody with her mom.
No matter HOW much my parents tried to get my sister to be more outgoing and not let her anxiety hold her back, her bio mom constantly allowed her anxiety to be the only needed answer for her to NOT do something. And because itâs easier to be attracted to easy paths and easy excuses, my sister went for it.
Now, she doesnât talk to my family except on rare occasions and only really visits her abusive step mom and has the WORST victim conplex Iâve ever seen.
She and I have both been in therapy from very early stages of our lives and it never changed her behavior. But she managed to deal a WHOLE BUTT LOAD of emotional trauma to me over the years and my parents NEVER force me to accept her back into my life because they recognize that while they did their best, she just had outside influences that they couldnât control and ultimately led her down the path she chose.
Being a parent is only black and white if the relationship is ALL a child knows. Once they go out and start finding friends and alternative family, there is only so much you can do to try to set them on the right path before you just have to accept that they preferred someone elseâs advice and influence over your own.
My parents love my sister, but they both have a bit of resentment for her because of how much they tried to foster a caring environment for her, just for her to run off and post on Facebook about her abusive family all the time.
Customer: is it so hard to make garlic, free, garlic bread?
Waiter /waitress: itâs literally impossible
Uh, rSlash if the family never cooks a hot meal what makes you think that they have a microwave in the house?
Yeah, he sounded kinda dumb there.
Yeah ikr not everyone has a microwave smh (I don't have one because poor lol)
The stepmom cooks, she just doesn't serve the food hot.
My sister works in a bar/restaurant and sometimes there are people ordering alcohol free Cuba libre....
"So.. like just coca cola with lime?"
"No! Cuba libre but alcohol free"
"Cuba libre without rum is only coca cola..."
"But I don't want cola, I want Cuba libre!"
If the customer is really rude and annoying they simply end up giving him a glass of coca cola for the price of cuba libre... and everyone is happy...
I honestly don't understand it.
yeah, there was once a woman who ordered a alcohol free gin tonic on the table besides me...
I like ordering a "virgin cuba libre" for the hell of it when I want a coke, but not understanding that a Cuba libre without alcohol is just coke is dumb, unless they're wanting to be able to taste rum and coke without having alcohol content.
Then it's a different kind of dumb wherein they're expecting a bar/club/whatever to readily stock some form of alcohol-free rum-substitute for their picky ass.
XD That reminds me of an episode of The Big Bang Theory! One of the main characters orders exactly that.
This is obviously someone who DOESN'T know that a rum and Coke is a cocktail called a Cuba Libre. When I worked in my dad's restaurant half a lifetime
ago, I managed to find an old cocktail recipe book. I would have shown it to a customer if this situation ever arose.
It's a little bit like the Mr. Bean scene where he sees "steak tartare" on the menu and only processes the "steak" part... Just a bit of ignorance from someone.
To be fair to the lady in the first story, pregnancy brain, and sympathy pregnancy symptoms are BRUTAL. I forgot the name of powerade. I got mad at my husband when he couldn't think of a thing I was thinking of that I couldn't explain đ€Šđ»ââïž
Baby brain doesn't just go away, either. It sticks around until the kid is almost a year old. >.>
the last story: if she is an helicopter mom, then it's probably that they donât have a microwave. My grandma was like that and when my mom bought a microwave for our house when she (grandma) visited...she damaged it saying it was for our own good and it can give us cancer đ§đ»ââïžđ§đ»ââïžđ§đ»ââïž
"Garlic bread without the garlic" is like wanting sushi without the fish đ
Rslash, I have to heavily, HEAVILY disagree with the story with the sisters. At least for the parents.
They did everything that you have said in the past about what parents should do to discipline kids and fix mistakes they made. (Like replacing things that were broken.) Some people cannot learn. If grounding and taking away things from a kid doesn't teach them, then really nothing will. You have to get their attention and break that wall. They're not going to listen to anything you say to them unless you have that attention.
This was just the first incident in Allie's life where she wanted something with her sister and was completely denied. Sometimes that wall doesn't come down until later in life. And by then it's too late. I speak from experience on that.
Really, I would have given them 1/5 (maybe 2/5) with Allie in the 4/5. As soon as Allie ripped up the scrapbook, that's when they should have gone into full protection mode on Johanna and gotten actively involved. As in, Allie is not welcomed back unless Johanna thinks it's okay. Of course offer to act as a mediator or take them both to family therapy (and definitely therapy for Allie at that point).
At the point when Allie destroyed the scrapbook and everything from Johanna's father she was in College, she was an adult. They couldn't do anything a parent could do to discipline her. :/
At that point, it's not the parent's fault... it's Allie's. Things might have been different if Allie, as an adult, didn't do that... but... yes, she pissed her bed, now she needs to sleep in it.
I remember my own Grandmother... she wanted to make nice with my cousin... however, Grandmother couldn't stop describing the POS of a son she had (abused everyone around him, including, kids, wife, and his _own_ mother) in any way but as the perfect man... while calling my Aunt a whore and a gold digger... Like, she couldn't understand why her granddaughter wanted _nothing_ to do with her... and the items she left for my cousin, they were donated to charity and/or just given away.
Personally, I agree that they may be the Ahole for not addressing the problem sooner, but I feel like they're not the ahole just for telling her
Exactly. OP said that they were teenagers when he and the mom got married. As someone who is only recently out of the teen years, teens will NOT listen if they don't want to and tormenting Johanna was basically Allie's way of getting out her anger that she wasn't the sole priority of her dad anymore. OP was NTA
I absolutely agree with you. From what we get from the story, we know that both daughters were young teens when the families 'merged', which is a horrible time to get sth in their head anyway (we all were there and know how shitty teen behavior is most of the time).
What else could he have done, other than grounding, taking stuff away and replacing what the devildaughter has destroyed? Lock her up? Cut her hands off? I'd bet being a step parent is already challenging enough, but how do you discipline a teen, that you didn't raise, appropriately without overstepping boundaries with the teen AND THEIR PARENT?
I really like rSlash and his comments are not only hilarious and mostly exactly what I thought, but some judgements are waaay out of line.
If anyone ever destroyed the few shirts or pics I have of my dad (he passed right before Christmas in 2014) Iâd be going to jail for murder, idc if it was my sister or not, that shit is uncalled for & way past crossing the line.
No, Allie's father isn't the butthole. People need to work through their problems and suffer the consequences of their decisions. Could he have stepped in? Probably, but there would have been even more trouble if he had. Trust me, got a large, extended family and the stories I heard about the fights mom had with her siblings and the resentment she had towards her mom and dad for intervening and taking her siblings and step-siblings sides is enough for several Lifetime made for TV movie specials.
Right? I was like uhh no heâs not. đ€·đ»ââïžđ
Plus OPs kids are adults so like he can't really do much about that lmao
@@bread9173 yeah- like OP said he'd ground the kids and stuff and take their stuff away, they have children and are old enough to be married so that makes no sense-
@@bread9173 Right! Thatâs what I was thinking. Usually I agree with Rslash but not this timeđ
Being a good parent is easier said than done. Even the best parents can't do the best with every child.
"I want garlic bread without the garlic" = "I want a sprinkled donut, hold the sprinkles"
okay but all the cute plant puns and how they seep into everyday life for Op's family including the "make like a bee and buzz off " comment. Is just EXTREMLY cute to me.
yeah , I mean placing a banner calling someone Infertile , potheead. sucker , Prick on your house is pretty fucked up. she could've just wrote the names or had put a sign saying these people stole flowers , and the pics but no she had to go an extra mile to be a douchebag and give them names even a minor guy .
Theyâre all amazing puns
"Garlic free garlic bread"
*slamming head through wall intensfies*
I think they meant bread with butter on it but they probably couldn't articulate that
Nice 1-2g profile pic
_Yes_
@@crackhex2649 It's actually 1-1 underground
@@nogoat damn đł tryna softlock
Ordering garlic bread without garlic is like ordering mac and cheese without cheese, it's half of the dish lmao
0:57 I think squidward said it best "just when I thought they couldn't get any stupider"
Honestly, I think it's fine to shame thieves considering they have video evidence they could privately take to the cops instead. Pick your poison but when you do something wrong don't be surprised if there are consequences.
Facts
Yeah, if they wanted to be removed from the wall of shame, they could have asked to repay the damage and be removed. But just demand to be removed? Why should anyone listen to that?
Agreed. As the saying goes, play stupid games, win stupid prizes. That said, OP needs to be careful regarding their local laws because I know for a fact that, here in the UK, cops WILL threaten you if you do this.
Yeah the kid broke three crimes, Destruction of property(destroying the flowers), Stealing ( Stealing the flowers), Trespassing ( walking onto the garden without the owners knowledge to steal said flowers) but idk im no cop if i got something wrong please correct me
Seriously
I read the comments on the last story, and OP does clarify that her stepmom wonât let her heat up her own food
I wasn't surprised in the least. After all, she has a 7 pm bedtime in a room that is empty, but for a bed. Stepmom is batshit crazy and shouldn't be around children and deal with her OCD.
If my kid got caught stealing from someoneâs garden, they would be pulling weeds and cutting the lawn for the rest of the summer. After he apologized face to face. And the sign stays!!!
I could never work in a restaurant because if that customer asked me if I was treating them like an idiot, I'd tell them they ARE an idiot.
The step sisters story: Slash clearly doesn't have kids. Turns out they have fee will...and its kind of illegal to punish them beyond a certain point. All the parenting in the world can't save a rotten apple. Rslash gets 1 out of 5 buttholes for his response.
He just had a daughter of his own. Let's see how he views this issue in 15 years or so.
Actually he gets 4 out of 5 for his response and giving a 3 out of 5
Wrong. If the parents had done their job properly, there wouldn't be a rotten apple to begin with.
@@wmdkitty the dad and the other mom obviously divorced so its not like you know if that could have done it and not the parenting from after that
@@wmdkitty Some people are born fucked
rslash the stepmom in the last story refuses to let people heat food at all because it could harm her baby and op can't eat reheated food due to arfid
As someone who works at McDonaldâs, we often get people who will ask us for a cheeseburger without the cheese and when we explain that its just a hamburger but theyâd always be angry and disagree
I was in an Italian restaurant, really good authentic food, way better than Olive Garden. A woman walked in and asked what could she have without tomato, garlic or cheese? The owner came over to us, we were regulars and were snickering at the request. He laughed and said he fixed her up. He said "like Wendy's, you can have it your way.
"How could you treat a pregnant woman so badly- hee he heh?"
*RSLASH IS AN ACTING LORD*
Your pfp was my reaction
that pfp is amazing
What else exactly were the two parents of Allie supposed to have done beyond what they did? Some people are just rotten apples.
Impose actual consequences for her actions, including legal consequences for assault and battery.
@@wmdkitty that seems a little extreme for a minor.
@@wmdkitty You don't even know if assault and battery charges apply here. The worst I heard was destruction of property and no loving parent would want to give their child a criminal record for such a thing. That would also have opened up the family to scrutiny from social services and anyone that has dealt with them knows that they should only ever be an extreme, last resort.
@@wmdkitty yEaH lEt's SUe tHe kId
@@albertinstan5090 but they werenât kids?
Ok, but "little birch" is hilarious
Sometimes I Think That rSlash Is Genuinely Convinced That Parents Have 100% Control Over How Their Children Act. News Flash, They Don't. They Literally Tried Everything To Discipline Allie, But She Was Just A Rotten Egg. Like, Jeez, What Else Could They Possibly Have Done?
I run a ramen restaurant and you'll be surprised how many people order ramen without the noodles.
So... they just want soup? miso soup is great though
Bruh
Mine would be the other way around đ no soup in my noodles pls
So, just broth?
Hahahaha just told my dad about that, and now I am being hunted by Several gods because my dad made a racist joke. Damn dad always thinking he is a god, oh wait.
I dont think its fair to blame Allie's parents entirely. It sounds like from the update they did their best, but kids are autonomous people who make their own choices. OP is right that she made her own bed, because at the end of the day she chose to be cruel and the fact that she just expected her step sister to still be there for her just shows how entitled she was as a person. This is a hard lesson at the cost of Johanna's childhood but its for the best for both of them in the end that they have boundaries.
As someone with a little sister who is absolute hell to be around. Parents can do their best. They can do more than their best. But if a kid wants to be a horrible person, nothing will stop them.
The last story: OPâs bio mom is pissed she wonât have the 2 weeks to herself lol
Customer: Wants garlic bread without the garlic.
Chef: *Screams in confusion*
For the sister story, 8 have to clearly disagree with rslash. I have seen both terrible parents with great kids and great parents with terrible kids, you can't get everyone under control just with awesome parenting. That is why I have to say that neither the bride, nor the parents are buttholes. The other child clearly dug her own grave over the years, there is no arguing that.
"I want an apple that doesn't contain a apple, thank you."
First post reminds me of my days at the movie theater. I once had a woman ask me if the chicken and waffles came with chicken and got mad at me when I hesitated.
10:47 I give the parents a lower score remembering that the âkidsâ are in their twenties and are legally adults
rSlash: "just microwave your food"
Gordon Ramsay: *from afar* "YOU FOKEN DONKEY!"
YOU DON'T GRILL THE SALAD AND YOU DON'T PUT RAW ONIONS IN A CARAMELISED ONION SOUP!
I WOULDNT FEED THIS SHET TO MY FACKEN BOOL DOG
*Drinks a margarita* IT'S DRY
@@SporkSlayer *eats a salty peanut* ITS BLAND
Just please stop eating and drinking me for the love of my dad
My brother used to go through a Burger King drive through, and order an "ice water, hold the water". He was employed there and his coworkers knew it was him lol.
*Waitress runs out of the restaurant*
"You have to Pay For the Bread!... YOU HAVE TO PAY FOR THE BREAD!!"
*In the rain on their knees*
"YOU... HAVE... TO PAY... FOR.. THE BREAD!!!"
If the brother is lying that pup didnât pooped, he could let her eat something potentially dangerous and not tell OP.
let the parents pay the vet bills that Op has for nothing if they think it was just a stupid mistake.
ThatÂŽs the real problem. The lying.
The dog was fine all along but the brother simply proved to OP, that he canÂŽt be trusted.
And the brother is an A**hole for not picking up the "droppings".
Rslash, I think you need to reread that story with the sisters. OP and his wife was punishing Allie for her behavior. He mentioned that she had been grounded enough times to create a pattern about blaming Johanna for it. And most of what OP mentioned wasn't really punishment worthy. Stuff like not wanting to hang out with Johanna. If two siblings don't want to hang out, the last thing you should do as a parent is to force it. It will make everything worse by magnitudes. As a person with siblings and step siblings I speak from experience here.
As a parent, when you child misbehaves you have two options: try to reason with the kid and explain why their behavior is wrong or punish the child. If you have tried both and neither works you are kind of out of options.
I don't know how hard OP went for the first option. It's not guaranteed to work though. Some kids take after the other parent, and there might be a reason you divorced that parent. My mom and step dad had a lot of issues with my step sisters fighting. In our case it was two biological sisters fighting, but they were both impossible to reason with. A trait they took from their mom.
When it comes to the second option, since Allie just blamed Johanna for her punishments, punishment didn't work either.
There is a reason Allie waited until the last day to destroy Johanna's stuff. It was her attempt to avoid the punishment she knew she would have gotten.
You can say the parents should have gone for option one harder, and you might be right. But to me this story reads like they have made it very clear that while Allie was allowed to not hang out with Johanna, it was clear to her that she wasn't allowed to tease her or destroy her stuff. She did it anyway. And in the end OP sided with Johanna and told Allie to deal with the consequences of her actions. The fact that Johanna still has contact with OP and his wife indicates that she doesn't see anything wrong with how they treated the situation between her and Allie.
3/5 "buttholes" is way too harsh. Especially since you went on to give Allie 3.5 buttholes. I can see 1/5, but no more, and that is only based on the speculation that they didn't reason with her enough.
100% agree with this
I'd probably give 0.5/5 maybe.
Said the same thing, totally agree
It kind of seems to me that the same kids who whine about how harsh some parents are also the same ones that whine that parents are hard enough. Like come on, pick a thought train and stick with it.
agreed with this analysis. I dont think I've ever had legit anger from an rslash opinion until this story, but this comment puts it into nicer, more thought out phrasing than what I'm wanting to write.
For the story with the helicopter step mom... they had NOTHING in their bedrooms except a bed. If the mother won't let her eat hot food, chances are she probably wouldn't let her near the stove either because it's "Dangerous" and I wouldn't be surprised if they didn't own a Microwave either because it's "Dangerous"
I feel so bad for the kid in the last story. I know exactly how it is to grow up with a super paranoid parent like that, my mom was just like that. I was barely allowed to leave the house even for school. Like if it snowed AT ALL (and I live in a place where it snows a ton in winter) my mom would refuse to let me go to school because "we could all get in a car crash and die!" My parents are divorced and after barely leaving the house for the first 16 years of my life I just couldn't take it anymore so I moved in with my dad (he wasn't around much when I was a kid so little did I know he had plenty of his own issues, my parents are fucked up). Anyways, I would walk a mile to and from school every day. When my mom found out I was walking to school she said "But what if you fall in a puddle and drown!?" Those were her exact words and she was 100% serious đ she's somewhat better nowadays but still ridiculously paranoid about some things. I just remind her I'm an adult so she gets no say in my life and she has to let it go or we can't have a relationship. I spent a few years at different times going no contact with each of my parents so they know I'm serious. I have an older and a younger brother and the older one has been no contact with my mom for 15 years and the younger has been no contact with my dad for 5 years. I'm the only one who has a relationship with both. But yeah, It completely sucks growing up with a paranoid parent. Rslash got it 100% right with what's going to happen to that girl when she's a teen. I became a wild child and got pregnant 2 weeks after I graduated high school. Yet I have serious anxiety, especially social anxiety, I'm an extremely awkward person with awful people skills. Half the time I feel lucky just to be a functional human being to be honest. I really hope someone intervenes and that that kid is able to go to therapy eventually and work through the issues she's gonna have, I really hope she'll be at least somewhat ok someday.
âTrying and failing to be a good parent just isnât the same as being a good parentâ
So are all first time parents assholes then, since they usually try and fail
Rslash really shows he is not a parent
This is a completely wrong and stupid opinion from R/. There is no perfect guide on how to be a parent. Trying and hoping is all parents can really do.
People the comments are missing the naunce of the OPs responses, the issues that people have with him is that at 14 was the first time he suggested therapy, she didn't want so they didn't take her. The reason they didn't take her is cause OPs wife experience with therapy when she was young was she refused to participate. Thing is thats anecdotal, and there are therapists that deal exactly with these types of issues, basically the OP gave up based on nothing.
@@molybdomancer195 At least not yet. I am not parent either, but from what I've observed, I think it's flat out impossible to do no mistakes in parenting. It's just too much of a task for human being. Everyone is carrying some emotional scars from childhood and everyone will end up giving some scars to their children as well. It's not pretty, but it's life.
@@molybdomancer195 he just had a girl, so let's see how it goes for him lol
Bro, in the story with the kids fighting, the parents did everything they could.
Thats a bit more than just trying and failing. There was literally nothing they could've done better short of physically disciplining her. Or maybe something like boarding school or military school or something.
What would you have done better to make her behave?
Iâm not sure if the story stated it, but immediate intervention, psychological evaluation and admission to a hospital.
@@grayhowl8487 if you force therapy or anything of the sort it can cause more issues. The daughter refused therapy.
You're right R/Slash. Clearly all those parents who ended up raising serial killers and other such criminals should have just stopped trying to be good parents, and actually been good parents. It's definitely their fault that their children acted the way they did, even in the cases where they made efforts to curtail this behavior.
For the dude with the plant thieves, heres a good name: Root a beggar
"Garlic free garlic bread."
*Flashbacks to the cheeseless quesadilla incident.
Story is in the comment chain here.
Waterless soup
The wha?!
Who wants to eat a cheesless quesadilla!?!?????
*"Chicken noodle soup, no broth, please."*
@@davidcampos5718 IDK ask the customer my former coworkers served it to.
@@mando9364 we need more context here
When Rslash is wrong, he's REALLY wrong.
Fr
yep
For the sister story, I kind of disagree. I remember my mom usually says to me during conversations that it's the parent's job to teach and to discipline, but ultimately there's only so much you can do in certain situations, especially after your kids are adults. You can punish them for every crime, and teach them right from wrong, but in the end it's the kid's choices, not always the parenting. Allie is the one who was the butthole, and probably ignored consequences. She's now paying them back in the form of karma and payback of how she treated her sister.
I work at a McDonald's and let me tell you, people do that. Cheeseburger no cheese, or a hamburger with cheese.
do you ever hear a word so many times it doesn't seem right? that's how garlic feels rn lmao