The Story of a Child Marriage Survivor
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- čas přidán 15. 09. 2021
- At 8, she was engaged. At 13, she was forced to marry. Today, she's fighting to end child marriage in the U.S. This is Naila's story.
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You know our foster care system is broken when an abused child runs away and goes back to an abusive home.
Its always been broken
The woman admitted she was westernized. What about women who aren't and are happy to marry young
@@Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. those women are still forced to it at young age and kept in the dark... they don't know any better
It's sad there is many women who grew up like this and think it's normal... and that's just how life is...
But it's not... it's literally child slavery
This is not just an American problem. This is a world problem.
More power to you. ❤️
I appreciate that you and you supposed but something is missing B woman is not good because one man army is never left her partner never left her wife this is the reason
I have a doubt plz dont get Offended do girls have to sleep with Their spouse in the nikah ceremony i have this doubt coz also the word nikah means intercourse , do they have too ?
@@manishgirase6130 no they dont. its just a marriage ceremony
@@manishgirase6130 nikah does not mean intercourse its the arabic word marriage
Shut up
In every single picture of her as a child you can see the pain and fear behind her eyes it’s really heartbreaking
Tbh I've seen it in every single bride on marriage day
I honestly can’t see pain and feet in peoples eyes unless they tell me up front and tone of voice.
What are you supporting - women empowerment? Or do you mean women who are old, unmarried, licentious, and difficult to deal with. Is this empowerment? Is empowerment being told that your body as a woman is gross because it can produce a baby because it needs a man to make that baby? Is empowerment resenting marriage and pushing it higher so women can be raped and intimate with multiple men to the point that they lose their bonding parity which women are born with? You're just a parrot for western values and colonialism - demonizing marital practices and responsible men as misogynistic and backwards
@@Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. Bro why are u supporting child marraige
@@cymbolize2541 Child marriage happens in virtually every society historically and to present. Just because someone marries a child, it doesn't mean they are a rapist. See all of human history and the modest respectable and loved women with loving families and huge extended families. In the West, it is a problem because individualism encourages men and women to think for themselves hence promiscuity but to extend western-centric problems to the whole world is inappropriate. Other societies care about having stable healthy families and women and men already develop sexual urges young so we can't they be permitted a life-long partner to channel those feelings rather than only fans, dating apps where men are cheating, lgbtq politics, and etc. So don't make this universalizing argument when you are being tone deaf to other cultures and people
Child marriage is one of the most sickening things that still occur regularily in this world
Disgusting indeed.
I agree
no child marriage is not a problem if it was u wouldnt find so many girls that are dating wanting to get married before they turn 18. Its forced marriage that is the problem
@@nuskyahmad6375 Even a child can date.. but that doesn't mean that they should get married as they wish.. what matters is their life.. a child at that age won't have maturity to choose a lifepartner wit whom she or he is going to share their everything..
@@nivethas1308 maybe they wont but that doesnt make dating the right choice either. The only right decision here is being patient and improving yourself until you get to an age where u are mentally and physically healthy
This is so disgusting... How can a family do this to their own daughter...
they just care about money
some families get disappointed after the mother gives birth to a girl is because they think of dowry and child marriage .. disgusting indeed 💀
They all are uneducated jahil people
@mamtahansda 😂😂😂Welcome to Islam!!
That’s not about Islam. In Islam, no one says chid marriage. For you ye kind info, this happened in America. Why didn’t the government do anything!? Don’t be a nerd. Aren’t you aware of the fact that child marriages are common everywhere. That’s at places where people are uneducated. Otherwise every country has marriage age of about 18 years by government but people don’t follow. This has nothing to do with Islam so shut spitting nonsense
The Indian central government raised the age of women from 18 to 21 to get marry , totally appreciating the new law...A new chapter for women empowerment✨ I hope it's the same for every women in this world ... To all my girls out there, grow peacefully , be fearless and realise your power❤️
@Shubham Kanojia apni desh ki bandi dikhi nhi troll krna chalu.. kyu bhaisahab kyu jalti hai aapki itni zyada
@Shubham Kanojia anpad kahi 12-13 saal ki ladki se shadi to nahi kar liye jo mar rhy ho...... juban itni to tabhi gandi hoti h jab khandan hi Ganda ho ...... gawar sala
@Shubham Kanojia talk english so we all can understand your intellectual input ? Share your wisdom to all of us, let us hear how cultured you are ?
@Shubham Kanojia Aur tumhare jaise Indian ladko ka kya karein....jinko apni gandi nazar aur jubaan se sirf apne Desh ki hi nhi poori duniya ki aurton ki izzat girane me maza aata h????
@Shubham Kanojia it's because of men like you indian men are looked down upon
This is what happens when a world cares more about the way men feel than whether or not women are seen as human beings.
what? if u really think blaming men is the solution to this disturbing problem then I see you as a part of the problem
@@sponcc7778 It may not be a solution, I agree, but you can't bury your head and act like this was a woman's idea. I don't know if it's a cultural thing or not, but men are normally the perpretrators(not that this is normal)
@@ebonyautumn3738 agreed
And they say about how man’s feeling are always hidden like what???
@@ebonyautumn3738 as a person who comes from a country where this practice used to exist I think I know a bit more than you do abt this issue
The people who decide to marry off their children as a child (a disgusting act) consist of both a male and a female that is a father and a mother
8 times out of 10 the father faces no opposition from the mother in order to stop this practice from taking place
So how on earth is this a “male” only problem? In that case everything in this planet should be blamed soulely on men I don’t understand your bigoted thought process in such a vile situation in all honesty
Instead of spreading awareness and trying to help victims people like you are trying to blame it all on men
Shows what kind of person you are if that’s what YOU feel
It's crazy how these types of issues are not given the coverage and attention they need in mainstream media and politics. My heart breaks for every victim of these cursed traditions/acts.
They only tell you what they want to tell you, people rely on the media for real news and think they tell them everything they need to know but no it’s whatever narrative they want to tell you.
Because they're now busy in hijab issues.
BUT THE PROBLEM IS MUSLIM PERSONAL LAW, CONSIDERS A GIRL OF 15 YEARS--- A MAJOR...
IN INDIA FOR HINDUS', THE GIRL'S MARRIAGEABLE AGE IS --- 18....
THE GOVT WAS TRYING TO RAISE IT TO 21, ....BUT THE PUBLIC ITSELF OBJECTED, STATING REASON THAT THE GIRLS MEANWHILE WILL FIND ASSOCIATION WITH BOYS
@@akankshasharma2207 it's not muslim.personal law, it's the stupid culture, if you are going to speak about Islam, AT LEAST LEARN ABOUT IT!, FORCED MARRIAGE IS FORBIDDEN IN ISLAM!
@@purplelove3666 I AM A LAWYER... WHO HAS STUDIED " MUSLIM LAW"... DON'T TEACH ME..
GUARDIANS ENTER INTO NIKAH FOR A MINOR GIRL, WHICH SHE CAN REPUDIATE AFTER 15 IF SHE HAS NOT CONSUMMATED .... READ CONDITIONS FOR VALID MUSLIM MARRIAGE
The fact that this happened in America and not just some rural Indian/Pakistan village is chilling. If this is how it is in a first world country. Imagine our state.
The legal age for marriage in India for girls was 18...and now being increased to 21 yrs... Even the Muslim girls ... Who otherwise had to follow the shariat law are now protects under this law..
@@ranjeetamukherjee mam you need to educate your self even in pakistan legal age for getting married is 18
@@ranjeetamukherjee it's has nothing to do with Muslim and Shariah law..I am Muslim from south india(tamilnadu) child marriage is very rare here..
@@sarahmaric4125 are you ignorant ... South India doesn't end with tamilnadu there are other states also from where many instances of child marriages especially from in Hyderabad... Under age girls married to older men... Especially from middle eastern countries.... And I only mentioned shariat law coz their laws are different from our constitutional law.. Don't communalise my statement.. the marriable age law comes under uniform civil code and many muslim leader had opposed it saying it is against the shariat law...
@@hassanaqeel9485 i only spoke about India.. dint even mention pakistan...and I'm not interested in what's cooking in my neighbour's kitchen.... good for you that your country is progressive
This is not just American problem, this is an issue women face across world ,some time I feel you need to be a bad women to deal with this evil world, people think innocence and simplicity as dumb and weakness ...more power to her stay strong ❤️
this even happens to boys in russia and europe also sadly
@@9elementsofff806 Yeah they get married to little girls THEIR age or younger lmao
@@temarithebadass9276 Don't put "lmao" in a serious problem.
It's not easy to survive for any gender in this evil world
You need power to survive or you would die and let me tell you power is directly proportional to money.
@@tianaantonie10 The serious problem here is that hes sorry for the boys not girls.
Not only child marriage, but almost everything, happening with women in my country Pakistan, is completely inhuman n cruel. I was forced to get married by my parents. I was physically, mentlly and emotionally abused and raped many times, even during pregnancy. My ex married 4 times. I fled from Pakistan with my 7 years old daughter thankfully. But the traumatic 9 years in Pakistan still give me night mares in USA that I have become a ptsd patient. God bless the women in Pakistan.
I hope you are doing better
I hope you and your daughter are living your days peacefully and your thoughts/trauma become gentler with time and therapy. I am so sorry for what you've been through, and I admire that you were able to take charge and get you and your daughter to safety.
i am so sory and i am so glad you and your child are safe now. You were brave to leave everything behind.
I'm sending virtual hugs for you. 🥰
My goodness gracious 💔
Crazy that you can be married at 14 with "parental consent" only 5 years ago... And some states still have no minimum age limit to this day. So proud she got through it and helped make a change.
My cousin from Afganistan was married at twelve years old, and she'd never even met the man she married before.
@@adelynnhirst8145 and isn't it interesting that in Afghanistan men cannot get married before 16 (or was it 18) but for women are not worth setting the limit that high
@@idontwannabemeanymore men in power. Because daughters were property of fathers. The younger the more fertile. "Girls mature faster" is also one way to try make okay to have sexual relationship with teenage girls (maturity is more individual thing than gender based) and making it ok to marry them.
It's all about power.
@@duckeh1952 Yup, the old "if it can bleed, it can breed" mentality.
India the legal age has been raised to 21 and it's surprising the legal age in America is a lot younger.
I don't think it practice in today's time I don't about tribal area but even in village it's not a thing anymore , culture Nd social is diff from west
absolutely doesn't matter, India's legal age was 18, how many people in the rurals followed that? every yr a huge amount of girls are married of here. according to unicef 1 in 4 women in India get married of before 18 and 1 in 3 childbrides from across the world are Indian, cam you believe that? and this is about pak and USA, don't bring India to that
@@prerna4041 well, in India, there are still many child marriages going on which go unreported, obviously 🙃. Moreover, it shouldn’t even be surprising considering that India is a third-world country.
@@srijeetasikder2678 no not surprising, but we need to stop this
no use of that...nobody follows it
This LITERALLY happened to my best friends half sister. Her “father” her mother married and adopted after she was born, sent for her to get married at 14. Raped and abused for years and is now free remarried and doing better than ever, and speaking out to protect girls from the same fate!
So so glad she is doing better ♥
My mom was married to my dad when she was 13 and my dad was like 30 and that marriage happened infront of everyone in the neighborhood and people and the fact no one did anything to stop it makes me sick Even those days child marriage was a serious criminal offence and even dowry happened in that wedding and How these crimes are happening and no one is doing anything to stop it is just so messed up. My mom never wanted to marry my dad she wanted to study and do a job but because she was married off she couldn't anything of that and now she lives through mine and my sister's dream. I wish one day she can happily live her own life without the thought that she do need anyone in her life and i hope one day she feel that she is enough for herself. That day would be the happiest day in my life.
boi wtf
Great to see you standing up for your mother, man. Most people act like their pedo fathers are saints.
Im 13, I can't even imagine having to get married. That is sick.
At what age she have you? Just curious.
@@kidwaarif9580 I don't think i am doing anything for her i wish i could actually do something but she won't let me do. I can never act like my dad is a saint cause he ain't and never was. He didn't even let my mom study and achieve her dream
My mom got married at the age of 14, it was not against her will, she was a kid, she just accepted it because she did not know how to live her life in another way that time. She had to face so many troubles, she was always so strong. My dad made her life hard, no one was there to help her, she was so lonely, not knowing the language of the country she had to move to. It was a hard journey for her and still is. After having four kids and after more than 30 years of 'marriage' she is ready to finally get divorced. It's so sad. She is the strongest woman I know, despite all of that she never lost the kid in her heart 🤍
blessings to your mother, proud of her for being so strong and hope she finds so much happiness in the future
It was against her will because she was a child and coerced into it
@@carolinpurayidom4570 You know the woman personally and know it was against her will? Not being able to legally enter into a contract does not mean one cannot have a will to do so. Its rude to act like you know what other people want or do not want. Sounds like the dude she married treated her like crap, but thats a whole different issue.
@@functionatthejunction its still against her will, because she teenager and not adult to choose. you are trying to make it like her only problem is how he treated her. child marriage is wrong in general.
I hope she succeeds in making society better; power to her!
People who force child marriage must be sent to prison. They are evil people😈. How dare they force a child to become a wife at such an age. Lady I salute you 👏.
very true and I actually know some people who have been. Due to money(company saving), and much more these things happen but still not a valid reason without the consent of the person themselves.
Please dont use the purple emoji if you’re being serious. It looks like youre joking. 🤬☹️😕 these would probably be better.
@@dalaedriajames8684 Alr but its red on my screen, so maybe on his screen it was something else?
@@ghauswood9594 maybe, i never thought of that. On my screen it looks like a joking emoji
How does angry emoji look like a joke? I never make jokes about serious things. If you didn't like what I said please could you give me suggestions. Not swearing. Thank you.
We need more story's of the other person in the marriage.. like WHO is the monster that forced her to marry him.
Its always "woman this" "girls that" but never "men did this" "boys did that". Instead of just making it seem like "well, its just a thing that happens to girls.." but by WHO. that's what we should talk about more.
Exactly!
Well said 👏👏👏
When feminists see a criminal committing a crime, their first thought isn't that that person is a criminal, it's that that's a man.
@@Waldemarvonanhalt Well, when it’s the kind of crime that primarily affects members of a certain gender, while being primarily perpetrated by members of another gender, then obviously people are going to point that out
American po po said if they had to arrest all that do this, most boys and men would be in jail around the world. It's a cultural norm to let boys assault and harass girls. Why do you think "boys will be boys" is an actual saying? It's been used in legal cases. "Twenty mins (how long he assaulted a girl as a football player) of his bad behavior shouldn't ruin his promising young life." Girl hung herself after that. No point in telling or looking for justice when there isn't any. I was my attackers 22nd victim at 9 and he had two little girls at home which is how he got me, I was at a playdate at their house. They let him out the next day. Telling means absolutely nothing and MEN created a statute of limitations because they figured out how long it takes most victims to come forward, so even if you have video, po po will tell you, can't touch them, time limit is up. I kid you not. JUST dealt with that in 2017 and that's on po po body cam. "you can show me a video of the assault and we can't touch them, but if you keep seeking justice you will be in trouble." SO many tried shouting from the rooftops in metoo and that didn't matter either. Women keep giving birth to that which enslaves them. Is it no wonder 75 percent of in vitro is now only female baby requests and women who find out they're having a boy is now aborting them, which is probably now why they're challenging roe vs wade they found out baby boys are on the chopping block because women are tired of growing the very weapon that harms them in their wombs. I can tell you oodles of WHO are the monsters doing this. We turn them in and guess what, they are set free and rewarded for being such sickos. There are entire pedo parks all over. Why aren't they all in jail. One man just recently, daycare worker, assaulted two toddlers at work - he got seven years. That's it. This is recent. So, in seven years, he'll be back out to harm more toddlers. Men make the laws and these are the laws they made because MOST MEN are this evil. It's a statistical global fact.
Look at video games, they make games just to harm girls and say nada about the violence in them. It's the pillars of society doing this. Who purchases most of the trafficked boys and girls - men. Who has strip clubs galore - men. Who watches porn galore - men. Who watches violence and craves it - men. If men actually cared about the daughters of the world there would be NONE OF THIS. You know how many Dads, brothers, uncles and cousins have done this and peeps say, "oh not my Dad." YUP. Yours. There's a whole underworld, "decent, upstanding men" visit when they think no one is looking and MOST have cover families to and live in nice neighborhoods. How many travel to third world countries and abuse there on vaca and teach their sons to abuse. One man I knew looking at colleges in CA, took his son to TJ to "teach" him at 17 how to tip strippers and buy them, use them and then hide what they do from polite society. These poor girls in TJ are enslaved by men there to be used by men all over the world for cheap.
They had to break up a middle class ring in a condo complex in GA a few years back. White collar men drugging and passing around their own teenage daughters to assault and since it was in the same complex, not hard to hide going from door to door to assault and all looks normal when they went to work in the morning. It is not in some alley far away. These peeps live right next to you and say "hi neighbor."
What a hero. We must stand with her. It wasn't until in the 90s that marital rape became illegal in the US.
We have to disabuse ourselves of the notion that we are so advanced.
The same thing goes for Germany where I'm from. It's really scary to think about that and I'm glad it was changed by now. There are many politicians right now who are still active today in high leadership positions who voted against the law to make marital rape equally a crime in the 90's. Also gay marriage was legalized only a few years ago, being gay could be considered a crime until 1994 (even though persecution didn't always happen anymore) and charges for said "crime" were only removed from the victims records in like 2017. We think we're so evolved and advanced but look at how disgracefully some groups of people were treated only a short while ago or are still being treated today.
Wtf! Another reason I’m on strike from the entitled species known as man
Terrible terrible parents
for real
It is not terrible parents.. they are just dutiful servants to their religious customs of marrying off their daughter young to their well earning/powerful Cousins in Islamic societies!!
@@rj14053 yeah totally not what happens in india to hindus
@@rj14053 oh yeah it doesn’t happen in hindus right? Indians should stay away from Pakistan or islam related content because all they spew is hate
@@nafischowdhury3116??? What are you on about?
My mom was 16 and my dad was 20 when they got married. It was arranged by my mom's dad . They already knew each other and my mom liked my dad but they weren't dating or anything. Now they're married for 25 years and for them it was an amazing experience. But it's NOT for all. Especially when the age gap is way too much and it's totally NONCONSENSUAL. My parents were both underage when they married that's why I bought it up.(in my country males has to be 21 to marry)
Even women have to be 21 to marry now
@@Raman_Kumar_09 not in my country. It's 21 for male but 18 for female
@@kirin-6202 bro in india ..now for women its raised to 21
@@eileneanna440 I'm not even Indian- here it's the same as before ◉‿◉
@@kirin-6202 which country?
This woman came to my college and gave a presentation. I was so lucky to have met her. Opened my eyes on how precedent this issue is. So many states allow child marriage. But deny those children the ability to file divorce until they are 18.
You do not have to be 18 years old to file for a divorce.
My aunt got married when she was 12, and whenever she talked about it she would seem really sad about it I feel so sorry for her
Am i the only one who used to think that child marriage can't be a case in America 👀 i don't know why women's are taken for granted we are not objects. It gives me goosebumps whenever i think about rape cases and other harrasment which girls are facing no matter it's a 6 month old baby or 16 or 60. Sometimes i Just feel so bad and unsafe of being a girl. But ya just want to say to all the girls out there stay strong and fight for your rights whenever it's needed. We are together 💪
Lol during my internship in U.S I came to know one of my friend married at the age of 13 to a woman of 29 after both of his parents had divorced and left him alone.
Stay strong all my girlee ,fight for your right...
I really love how they use religion to make it look bad .However in actual reality its Asian culture that created this "chikd marriage" concept. Not just india ,not just Pakistan but majority Asian countries did/do this.
Jewish/islamic religion would never allow stuff like this.women have more rights than we know but EVERY culture and place made women believe we have no rights at all and hid this from us .
I'm sorry if this happened to anyone
@@HBEE-vm6bs Islam don’t allow that? Search the internet first. Some of them even married to a 8 years old child.
im a girl and i dont feel any scared and unsafe with that
Naila is such an inspiration we girls need...She fought, she fell, she faced but never ever gave up her problem...and finallyyyy She got victory! May you always stay blessed & encouraged Naila! 🙌🏻
My dad's mom was married at 11 yrs old and my dad's father was about 17 or older which is sick and I want this child marriage to stop. My sister is going through forced marriage and im breaking inside I care for her so much and she's my only sister who cares about me and understands me the most.
I'm so sorry what's happening to you, best wishes to you. Also, can I get an update on their situation?
Omg, who's arranging this forced marriage of your sister? Is there anything you can do in your area like calling the police or finding ways to help your sister out of it? Honestly though, worst comes to worst, get out of there. If this can't be stopped then try and get your sister as FAR AWAY AS POSSIBLE. What are the laws in your area concerning non-consensual relations/marriages? If there are any, use them to your advantage as much as possible. Sorry if I seem insensitive, please let me know if i sound rude, i just wanted to help out in any way I can. Too many lives nowadays are getting destroyed by child marriage, and I hate having to just sit by and let it happen.
Where are you from you and your sister gotta be strong and look for people like this woman that can help you . If not you could be next . This is not right I know it’s scary but you got your sister please find someone you guys can trust and help you …sending my prays for you and your sister
Do you have a aunt or someone you can trust? Talk to them, make a anonymous call to the police, search if there's any woman spokesperson who works at a organization made to protect woman, any activist so they can advise you on what to do and mediate a real talk to your family
Call the police. Please
Part of me wants to know if she is in contact with her parents at all now. SMH. Lady, thank you. This is something we as people in America need to know about.
if i were her i would just take them to court....they cannot be parents.....they must be some sort of demented evil lurking around in the murky waters of society, sadly this happened in the US....i would apply for them to be deported right back to their dump of a country where cousin marriage is rampant
Such a beautiful girl can't believe she had to go through that much love and respect for what she did and how she fights for her freedom ❤
What are you supporting - women empowerment? Or do you mean women who are old, unmarried, licentious, and difficult to deal with. Is this empowerment? Is empowerment being told that your body as a woman is gross because it can produce a baby because it needs a man to make that baby? Is empowerment resenting marriage and pushing it higher so women can be raped and intimate with multiple men to the point that they lose their bonding parity which women are born with? You're just a parrot for western values and colonialism - demonizing marital practices and responsible men as misogynistic and backwards
@@Abdul_Moiz_bin_Muhammad_Y. Made 0 points
@@kinzanoor6995 Many were made but not for occidental feminists
Nah u made none
All u did was let your anger out on a random stranger bcs ure an incel who cant even handle the word empowerment in the same sentence as girl. Pls you think that divorce is worse than child marriage so im not even gonna take u seriously
Certainly this new law in India lifting the age of marriage from 18 to 21 is for the good of women and we should all be supporting this decision for all women sake. 🙏
Its for the good
People who think child marriages are okay are f-d up in the head-
I'm not 100% a fan of the law since 18 year olds can technically pay taxes and are treated like adults but would be second class citizens. Then again, some could lie about being 18 easily compared to lying about being 21
@@ZastropollyonZ I feel like its a good idea. Yes, when 18 you're an adult, but that doesn't mean your brain has stopped developing. Up until 20 your brain is developing. It's a good thing, that way men and women can think about if they truly want to get married with the other. We should apply this rule to every country.
@@ZastropollyonZ Well in matter of marriage I'm sure you need paper work. So idk how you lie there.
Let me burst the bubble for you and tell you where the real problem lies. And see if you have some lawyer friend. Muslim personal laws in India allow for marriage below 18. Though Muslims can marry under other marriage laws too which allows for marriage at 18 or above. Muslim personal laws are an exception to child marriage; because ofc Islam what can we expect. And that is where, uniform civil code debate comes in. [Just do basic googling, also age of marriage is not yet raised to 21 for girls (& imo, it will never be raised because it is just illogical)....there are other ways to empower women]
Just yesterday I came accross a video about child marriage and most of the westerns/Americans were saying how "backward india is" and mocking India and saying india isn't as developed as america and now I saw this today. Completely opened my eyes
Ofc, Westerns/Americans target the subcontinent the most in such things, without getting to know their own countries
This video is literally a video about people from india/pakistan still forcing child marriages even in America.
@@ques3234 din't you see the video she said there are laws in some states that allow child marriages why do you think those laws exist in the first place 🤦🏿♀️
@@vaishnavinaik373 not gonna be that type of person but in America, if a 42 year old attempted to marry a 12 year old, the adult would be harassed and have his information leaked online. The average American doesn't care about stuff but if a child is abused, then they'll get angry
@@ZastropollyonZ That maybe now but back then it may not be the case
I'm so happy she was able to make change, heartbreaking she and so many girls alike have gone through this
I mean she's truly an inspiration.... so proud of her
I cant believe some states in USA have no age limit for marriage 😱😱
So, child marriages happen there, in THE SUPPOSED TO BE MOST ADVANCED COUNTRY in the world!!!
U know , that's why they are developed countries,coz they have developed the trick to hide their countries's shortcomings 😂😂
Advance in terms of technology they are all spoiled people And their rape cases are at absolute high level
I don’t know who told you america is the most advanced country in the world but that is an absolute lie.
@@aero4089 ikr
That the price of freedom
At any age forcing someone to marry a guy is NOT okay. But whenever I hear stuff like this about little kids my blood just boils. How these parents keep allowing this sh*t?
Even forcing a guy to marry a girl is not alright either.
@@riseoverhere3054 no duh
@@titandarknight2698 In India if an unmarried guy impregnates an unmarried woman after consensual sex then the unmarried guy will be forced to marry the unmarried woman by the unmarried woman’s family through gunpoint or kidnapping.
@@riseoverhere3054 Well that sounds like his fault.....he can't get a woman pregnant and leave her?! It'll be a shame to her and her family as well as a financial problem. His sperm, his child, his responsibility.
@@riseoverhere3054 Are you telling me men can go around getting women pregnant without consequences? 😂
What a poweful woman! I'm glad she was able to escape her horrifying situation and I admire her for working so hard to create change.
My mother was 13 years old when she got married and she gave birth to me at the age of 15 years.
Im 28 and first experience of intercourse was really painful for me..I can imagin the pain of labour and god knows how little girls can do it..
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Oh my god😶
Same, but my mom gave birth to me in 14
My mom was 34😱
Thankfully, India is progressing because of real modern women in my nation, focused on technical development to self-growth. A woman has to be independent before she takes this step. My aunts and sisters got married after 25, mostly after 30s, even my parents. It's all depends on mentality of a person which allows him to choose the path, accordingly karma works.
Hey I lived for 8-9 years in rural India, in my village, where 2-3/20 people are educated. Situation is worse here. They mary their daughters at 15-16 years. When you guys say India, you mostly mean urban India. Rural India is still infested with the old Practices.
What does india has to do with this video? A pakistani woman in America? This whole comment section is filled with indians lol
@@sarthakkk8628 15-16 in marriage is better than an old 30 year old. Who later decides to have a child at 40 and cannot have a second one because she thought it was a mistake and too much annoyance. And a single child with no siblings to protect might get picked on and bullied in school. I know I went extreme. But ratio shouldn't be too far away. Alot of women who get education think their ''career'' is more important than family they think something bad happens if they get married like some of their freedom will be gone. I don't understand that. Why we have so called ''smart'' people accepting to work under a boss and obeying all their orders but a husband seems like a hell to them.
Education again. Why do people think ''any'' formal education is like an achievement. You need wisdom before intelligence. A mother who takes care of her 1-4+ children, home and husband is by far better than a ''educated'' woman who comes and talks buncha crap or let's say she is a programmer who has done no work.
It's just a flex life. If you're a mother raising 1-4+ very well smart wise children you should be ashamed because you have no education. And they are proud becuase they studied philosophy. It's just a flex and not much work done for society. Again a mother does more for the future of her society raising good smart children than a 1 woman with 1 job doing nothing except for obeying their boss. Sadly some of these ''modern woman'' are TAKING their society backwards and doing way more damage than a homeless person not attributing to society.
It's cringe and low iq. 2 types of people I usually see to be very intelligent are literally indians and chinese people. Like usually it's these 2 and that's a result of reproduction. But problem is when you have no wisdom and are selfish that ''intelligence'' is going nowhere. Having so many smart people could probably solve lots of issues in your own society but many of them stay in America or europe and live their lives there working under a boss when they could do so much for their own nation. But ofc biggest problem is government.
I hope you get my message. These ''modern women'' are really unpleasant to be around.
In order to solve something like world hunger and starvation is not to tell everyone to get a job and stop being lazy. It's impossible, some have illnesses some don't have limbs, etc, The answer is for everyone to help eachother and donate and be generous.
@@zarmadyl5038 as I earlier said in one of my comments to this video... Why would you guys accwpt it? When islam glorifies Marriage with cousins and pre-adult Marriage.
@@zarmadyl5038 your comment was really unpleasant to be around. 🤔😂
I literally know women who have a degree in philosophy, they run a house and 3 kids. They work in a think tank.
Actually while I'm thinking.... In my circle of friends any family with three or four kids has got two earning parents... Some working part time both or just one of them.
You're not too wise yourself aren't you? With all your bad prejudice and bad presumptions.
Oh and regarding your analogy of boss and husband -
The thing I actually like about my boss is I don't have to sleep with her. If I'm not in the mood.
This is so brutal! i hope shes okay,
his saves the whole world around us that suffer with this
What a sad story, beautiful that she’s trying to help fix the problem
So the Indian laws protect child brides better than US laws, despite the social evil being more widespread in rural India.
Just love and power to you. You are a real hero. May every country and their provinces get many many Naila's like you.
Child marriage is not an American problem, it's a global problem. We need to raise our voice.
К сожалению , это не только американская проблема, такое происходит и в России во многих северокавказских республиках , где женщину не считают человеком.
Сил Вам, смотрела и переживала вместе с Вами.
I know a person who made his daughter marry at age of 16. I have many friends (girls) who are 16 and I can't even imagine what that person's daughter has to go through when other girls her age are living their lives. I'm thinking how can parents ruin their child's life like this?
Narcissism and control.
That's what it's about.
They see their daughters as property and not humans with dreams and their own life to decide
Pedophilia is common in top tier ranks so it will be hard to get any such law passed easily. Also, child marriage is a problem worldwide. Some religions and traditions even allow it. It is upsetting.
That’s true. Pedophilia is actually prevalent in rich and powerful circles
I feel so sorry for her and all the kids who got ripped off their childhood, their happiness and their innocense.
My grandma was 16 when she got married to a 31 year old so it's nice to see someone actually talking about how toxic it can be
TF- 😭
Does your grandma feel it was toxic or are you stating your opinion of it?
And here in India we have to be atleast 21 for both male and female
that law came now.. what was the situation before that? it was like 9,11 yrs
@@diyas2094 since 1978, it was 18 and 21 for female and male respectively
But their is no denying that child marriages still happen in india. I am just appreciating my country for making these law fairly early.
@@apurvapatil8086 well i also admire my country.. just that im concerned about the women who was married against their will in the past
But still we have one of the highest rates of child marriage. No law is useful if it isn't put into action
@@zia2328 yes..
Great achievement Nalia . We are proud of you. Of how far you have come.💖💖
Thank you
@@nailaamin5064 great to hear from you🥰
*Naila
Thank you 😊
i'm not a person who cries easily but when I'm hearing this kind of speech about girls, I just can"t. That"s why I'm a feminist. Women has the right to decide for themselves and stop to be controlled just like dolls. As she said, ''we need to stay strong''.
I don't get why they called it an Islamic tradition when in reality its a culture problem. you realistically shouldn't get married off and forced against your will (even in Islam since Muslims should be given the right to choose their own bride/groom) but these people who follow inhumane traditions and justify it by religion are disgusting. they'll try anything to get away with this stuff in these countries and politicians being religious themselves in countries like Pakistan have kind of come from these traditionalist families who support child marriage and stuff so they really would be going against what they firmly believe in. people really need to be taught to not follow these traditions since it leads to horrible stuff like Amin's case. I hope for some kind of change to this problem and hope people stop using religion to justify their actions since they can get away with it by doing so (like in Pakistan), and that's the harsh reality.
I agree with u its not because of islam. İn islam its forbidden to forve your daughter to marry someone they dont want. İts the stupid cultures.
Yup it's a culture thing and people confused it with religion. In my country, arrange marriages happened before 1960's. After that when girls are focused on higher education, families just let their daughters choose her own husband. We're Muslims but our culture has changed 60 years ago. At least in my country.
@@significant_other yea im muslim too. İn my country it also changed.
@@significant_other i wish you a happy ramadan. May ramadan bring you closer to allah.
@@iliketea3444 Ameen 🤲 Sane to you ☺️
I think it's misleading to say that this was a "traditional Islamic marriage".... it's forbidden in Islam and it's a shame that some cultures use Islam as an excuse to force young girls to be married off against their will. People need to understand that culture and religion are separate.
So, In Quran, Your prophet didnt actually marry a 6 years old girl when he was 53 years old and didnt have sex with her when she was 9? Stop lying! Your culture is created by your religion, ditch the crap and your culture will eventually change with it! If it was not for the religion, that keeps the outdated traditionalism without reason alive, your countries would a long time ago change and these things would not happen!
Yeah if the girl don't want to get married no one can force her, and if she not satisfied with her husband after marriage just a few days then she can just return the husband gift and off with the wedding
@@skadi6750 this claim has been refuted what... 87,539,319 times?
@@skadi6750 Where are you getting this nonsense from? your comment is completely false and inaccurate. I doubt you've even read the Quran or even asked someone who is Muslim. I really have no idea where you got this comment from. If you choose to believe that, that is on you.
@@rubikaria4390 why does she have to return a 'gift' in case of divorce? That 'gift' is more of a deposit then, isn't it?
What a strong strong strong woman 👍👍👍
@Shubham Kanojia she was 15 you incel
@@blackpanther3676 8 to be accurate
@Shubham Kanojia she was a child??? Wtf is wrong with you
@Shubham Kanojia Because she was a kid. It's alright, we all forget things sometimes. She was 8, just to remind you.
@Wheels ho cry somewhere else...kevin...
Such an admirable woman!!
Give this lady some sort of award. She is a powerful advocate for change! What a fighter. Her sadness and pain runs deep and yet she's fighting for systemic change so that what happened to her, never happens to a young girl in the US again. Amazing.
A nikah (the Islamic solemnisation of husband and wife in marriage) is invalid, or can say null and void, if the GIRL'S consent was not taken. The girl must willingly consent to marry the man.
The parents who push or threatened their daughter into marriage are committing grave crime and sin.
Exactly. It's disgusting how people twist religious teachings for them to fit to their own advantages.
@2000s kid correct, it is a cultural thing and not an Islamic thing.🙂
Absolutely! The girl's consent by her own will, matters the most in Islamic marriages. Cultural practices shouldn't be mixed with Islam.
@@tanzinara4927 Yeah ikr. The marriage itself is haram if the girl doesn't say yes.
Yes ...but the family forcing her might count as something.... Islam never agreed on marriage with a woman's consent ...but the pressure and culture and customs might have forced her to say yes
My aunty married when she was 11 or 12 years old she was in 5th class and that time she have to prepare food for 14 family members and my uncle don't respect her .. 🥺
that's so sad
What a fantastic woman! This must be so difficult for her, but she's doing to it to save not only this generation, but for all the generations in the future. That's a hero right there
100% agreed!
In the UK the age of marriage with parental consent is 16, thats still a child who could be forced into marriage. Thank you for raising awareness and changing lives
Or a young adult who could be making a choice and get their parent's permission. My mom married at 16 and she and my dad had a great marriage that lasted until the day they died.
I can’t imagine what you’ve been through but you’re doing the right thing by being a voice and helping young girls
I thought this happed only in asia. More power to you lady.
Thank you Naila. You've been so brave and empathetic. Thank you for doing this. Your scars do not define you. I wish I could hug you right now. Thank you .
It’s an atrocity this is still being practiced EVERYWHERE. Just across the street an Indian family had their son married to a beautiful young Indian girl. The guy’s father bosses her around to do tasks around the house. It is DISGUSTING, stay strong girls.
Have you reported the situation to the authorities tho?
@nothing nothing they could be half Indian
@nothing nothing Not all Indians that are in the States come from the upper class, most are from the middle class. And this still happens in all class systems.
@nothing nothing uh who gave you that piece of information? Also educated high class doesn't mean they don't have a backward mentality. I've seen many educated people here in India itself who are horrible like that..
@nothing nothing I know an Indian that's being forced into a marriage and I'm from England. They are middle class, but the dad earns a lot of money and the mum doesn't need to work.
I can't understand parents when they say they want better , happy life for child and do this to children for happiness . Sexually abused and forced without a will where do they see the beautiful life here . We can degrade family status and standards through clothes and lifestyles or being modernized but they don't with works like this I can't even with this type of mentality . Honestly I pray to god new generation is more understanding then older and understands this problem . And education should not be just limited in ur certificate it should make u able to choose what is wrong and what is right .
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Her marriage actually took place in Pakistan . Pakistani law is equally responsible.
Obviously. And this is what we are pushing here to make marriage age to be at least 21 its 18 now that too approved after alot of struggle.
@@dr.maryamabid9371i hope I'm not being rude, does Pakistan have a legal age of marriage and is it 18?
@@user-og3hr4tc5o its 18.. but here girls usually get married in their 20s or 30s. Child marriages are rare, only seen in villages and small towns
@@user-og3hr4tc5o yes its 18 legally. in cities girls get married in 20s and even 30s now. I myself am 29 and focusing on my career. But another dark side to this society is that even educated families seek for a younger daughter in law like around 21 22 years old even if their son is 30. This mindset is so strong that girls like us who don't marry till 20s are considered headstrong n rebellious by society unfortunately!
Kudos to you Naila! You’re so inspiring! An empowered woman! We all need that!
Thank you for this Naila and I’m so sorry you had to go through all that
This is amazing, more power to you naila💗
This is horrible :( as a muslim, I can't believe people put their culture over our religious teachings, which strictly prohibit forcing anything- ESPECIALLY marriage on the male and female smh I feel so bad for this poor lady. I hope she gets justice
culture? 😂😂 child marriage is part of Islam, but the beating and forcing isnt though
Strictly forbiden? Do you know how old was aisha when she married?
@@tororo76 yeah, strictly forbidden. And yes, I know how old Aisha was when she got married! Would absolutely love to discuss this with you as I can see you have lots of questions
@@tororo76 so before we begin let’s clear up a few things: 1. This took place before the year 660. 2. Aisha surpassed puberty. 3. The prophet had no children with her.
Back then, young people went straight from children to adults after puberty. They were remarkably mature mentally, which you unfortunately cannot see in younger generations due to constant babying and excessive use of technology. I should know best- after all, I am fourteen. The reason why the prophet married Aisha peace be upon her was because she herself had made that decision with her father, who wanted someone to support his daughter after he died. Keep in mind that the prophet married a few widows strictly to provide for them. They all lived in separate houses, but with the contract of marriage, he could interact with them comfortably without worrying about lowering his gaze or limiting conversations for the sake of respect.
@@tororo76 so, dear stranger on the internet, here’s my advice to you: try doing your research before settling for an accusing point of view. It’s very easy to go by what the western media tells us all to do, especially in making certain ethnicities look bad. I mean, look at Biden- he refused the call to ceasefire and the call to stop murdering children using claims of ‘it won’t stop the warrrr euuuu” when really, the land of Palestine is rich in oil and minerals (which is why the olive trees were so plentiful before Israeli terrorist forces burnt them all 🙄)
You are a hero and an inspiration to all women. Bless you and thank you for all of the work you do to advocate for those with no voice. ❤️🙏
Thanks for sharing your story, for fighting for yourself and also for others. You're amazing
This was heartbreaking. This is a universal problem, and I hope we can stick together to fight. You're so strong Naila.
Unfortunately, this is more anti islam brainwashing. Here are the google results:
Can you get married at 14 in West Virginia?
(a) The age of consent for marriage for both the male and the female is eighteen years of age. A person under the age of eighteen lacks the capacity to contract a marriage without the consent required by this section.
My maternal grand,other was 8 when she got married and had her first child at 13. When I heard the story for the first time, I felt sick to the stomach. My heart goes out to Naila and many many such girls who have been through child marriage. Let children remain so. Let’s not rob their innocence prematurely. These traditions need to be outed permanently.
Bless this woman's heart. I'm so sorry you went through what you did. Your intentions are pure and you using your past to save many other babies from this abomination act is very empowering. Keep up the awesome work love. We appreciate all you have done and all that you continue to do ❤️ Stay blessed.
Thank you for sharing this video! I wish all the best for Naila and hope that next bill gets passed.
She's such a badass and reminds me of a phoenix, rising from the ashes.
I’m a Scorpio
Good job 👍 every girl is proud of you 💞more power to you
she looks so sad in those pictures. im glad she escaped that mess.
What a lady.. what an incredible person! Thank God for You, Naila!
I will never understand, and never WISH to understand what goes through these people’s minds where they look at a young innocent CHILD and think “I want to marry them”
this is actually haram in islam. it’s so sad about how many people don’t know that it’s forbidden in islam
yes very sad...
What are the actual laws in Islam regarding marriage?
@@goldcherries basically you can’t touch or date each other before marriage and you can’t marry your siblings or your first cousins
@@goldcherries are you actually curious or just making fun? anyways here’s an answer.
if one person ( girl or boy) dosent wanna get married but the parents still make them that is haram (forbidden)
if they both agree and have no problems it’s okay
love marriages are DEFINITELY okay . i actually believe they are the best “kind” of marriage
@@khayra601 are u being sarcastic orrr?
I love this woman. Thank you for fighting for us!
I appreciate her power and spirit so much...all respect to her. I cant express my love for her in words. Keep it up!
Thank u for sharing these stories!!
Really thank you for doing this... you are strong
In Islam, If you marry someone off without the consent, that is invalid like both the girl and the boy are not married and it would be considered adultery. THEY ARE NOT MARRIED, NOT A COUPLE!
Exactly, ppl are just cruel and cowards
@Christina Sloan becuase they get a husband instead of getting a boyfriend. the culture is different
@Christina Sloan Because over there tradition and religion have been mixed up and used to justify these kinds of actions. In fact, many of these people who engage in these acts are most of the times illiterate.
Adultery (Zina) in Sharia law is punishable by violent means so you may want to retract this statement. This is called r--pe, or "ightisab," not "adultery."
@@MaryAX Oh right you do make sense but I feel like it would be both because adultery means physical relations between unmarried people
What a beautiful soul. Stay strong girl. You are amazing in every way possible ❤️
You are amazing! A true blessing to females around the world. Thank you!
Why do people feel SO ENTITLED over girls' lives???!!!!! May such people rot in hell
Thx for sharing. This was an eye opener
Thanks for watching our story!
God bless this women and what she is doing to change the world. It's sadly not talked about enough....we still known as second class till these types of things go away and are banned.
Good for her!!! This is so tragic that what she's doing is even necessary, but it's incredible and wonderful that she is.
So Proud of you Naila🙌 loads of love from India 🇮🇳💖
My grandparent’s mothers were children when they were married. We all suffered because of the family trauma that was caused of child marriage. I can not imagine how hard that was for my grand-grandmother and her mother as well. Because she couldnt get the motherly love and couldnt give to my mother. My mother than married a narccisist and she and I suffered. Now I have horrible relationships with men. Do not underestimate the wrong doings happening in your family. Every one gets hurt.
Thank you for fighting for many innocent child future out there. May God bless you!
My grandma and my mom's aunt got married at 14 and 10 years respectively. And my mom still makes 'jokes' about it and used to tell me and my sister that we should be more responsible since other people got married at our age. Its pretty disgusting.
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She said This is an American problem. But I think that's not the case, child marriage is a world wide problem.
Parents have no right to force their children in Islam so why did they do it? Horrible
Because they are illiterate, REAL muslim parents will never force their child, and also gives equal rights to girls
@@youtubeuser9168 what rights?
@@whatthehell7975 right to education, right to make self decisions, right to marry by her own choice, right to take divorce and many moree
@@youtubeuser9168 the bare minimum lol
people pick and chose what part of religion they want to follow my parents are strict on in islam you have to obey your parents and never question them even if they are wrong meanwhile nowhere in islam does it say that. and I am 23 but they act like Im an incapable 5 year old
thank you Naila for your courage! You are a warrior!
It's extremely hearthbreaking! I hope this video is recommended to more people so they get informed about this disaster!