Too Many Interests & Not Enough Follow Through? Try This
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- čas přidán 18. 05. 2024
- Struggling with "too many things" on your mind and not sure how to juggle all your interests? Especially for those with ADHD, managing multiple interests can be a challenge. In this video, we dive into a step-by-step guide on how to handle having too many interests, and how to design your life to focus on what truly matters. Learn how to recognize the problem, understand your patterns, and build a fortress around your focus. Don't let the feeling of "too many things" overwhelm you, let's find balance together.
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Introduction
01:13 why ADHD brains have too many interests
03:35 Why ADHD'er seek an ADHD coach to help with too many interests
04:12 why we constantly have too many interests
07:38 What to do about too many interests - Jak na to + styl
I keep restarting this video because I CANT FOCUS on listening the entire time, UHG!!!
Lol I thought it was just me 🤣 I'm having a very ADHD day today!
@adhd_lifetips great idea, thanks
Try reading & watching with subtitles on, or changing the playback speed to 1.25 or 1.5. It creates a bit more stimulation and can help make focusing a little bit easier
What helps me is adding subtitles, so I focus on the text
Plus, it doesn’t really start until 8:30. There are so many people who make videos for those of us with ADHD and they don’t seem to get that they should start with what the title promises or we will get lost waiting for them to get around to it.
This month alone I went from wanting to open a home cafe to becoming a life coach to trading the cat for the cat show.
Ps. I don’t even have a cat.
😂
Now that's is funny. I have had similar thoughts. I now have 100 carved wooden whales made from palm tree husks because of one of these tangents ! 😂
I can so relate. I was watching dog training videos much to the amusement of my dog owning friend. I do not have a dog nor any intention of owning one 😂
72 yo male with super divergent ADHD. I LOVE MY ADHD. I feel like I hit the jackpot with all of the fun life experiences and skills that I've developed because of ever-changing interests.
Traveled all over the world, started and sold two companies, taught myself to engineer, program, create graphics, have an advanced private pilot license, play guitar, banjo, dobro, piano, motorcycled through the Alps, loved many women (but found a keeper). The list goes on...
If I could start life over again, I'd pick ADHD in a heartbeat. I can't imagine how boring normal life must be.
My only complaint is that I can never just relax. I've got to be working on something.
Nothing like ADHD. You are an achiever. The society wants us to be average that's why they are labelling creativity as a disease
you're not ADHD...you have NO idea!
Not to pop anyone‘a bubble but frantic busyness that is enjoyable, is a form of relaxation.
This is exactly the life I want to live!
Omg, thank you so much for sharing that! I think we all need to hear an encouraging perspective like this. 🥰
I call myself a multipassionaire😂
😊😅😮😮epic!!!
That's a good one. Ima coin that
100% Me
Alas, CZcams is the perfect drug for multipotentials. Amazing how many courses and job and hobby and life skills I can get just by changing channels
I have 20 small business....ideas ....if I can only push through just one of them till the finish line .....id be golden
Same!
Same as well 😕
Co-sign. A big part of my problem is knowing that I could do well at any one I choose which adds to the confusion.
I started a fair few, got bored and closed them 😅😂
Same here.
I very rarely drop anything - I keep ALL the interests! And so I never feel like an expert in anything, because I haven't spent enough time on it. I think it's some sort of career FOMO. Plus I'm interested in so many things, and choosing just one feels wrong and boring and not an expression of me. Because I'm all of those things 🙄
I totally get this. 😃
Are you also a gemini
same
Even the things that I feel like I want to do end up feeling like "shoulds."
saaaaame. SOS
Maybe you are a PDA profile?
Some of us have more choices than others .
I truly, truly thought I wasn't holding onto others' expectations, but I was. Took an extensive burnout & shutdown period _(which put me in an in-patient therapy program)_ to realize this & grieve those things. 😮💨
The true work is in allowing that grief to happen & in radically accepting your reality. Otherwise, you'll end up in the same burnout cycle like I did.
100% agree with this.
Thank you 🦉
It's annoying to me how algorithms know what interests me but I was glad I saw this channel. I'm a 67 year old man who has struggled with almost all the characteristics of ADHD. I have self depracted since I was very young. Wondering what exactly was wrong with me. Why can't I do the basic tasks? Feeling of fear, anxiety, depression. Forgetting things. Losing things. Unable to focus and retain information. Unless it was something I loved. Sports, music, movie lines. Sounds familiar right? But my current spouse is a mental health professional and she has told me for a long time I was classic ADHD. My fight or flight mechanism refused to cave. Long story short. I was diagnosed and began a medication regimen. So glad I did because it has completely changed my life.
Sounds any solution requires medication so without that it will be an uphill battle.
What was the medication 😮💨
I am halfway through the video trying to listen to you explain the problem I already know I have and you STILL haven't begun offering your big solution!
Plus, the sound is not in sync with the video and her hand gestures are overly active - it's an ironically distracting presentation, and yes, way too slow to get to the point.
Around 7:40 she moves into an exercise to help.
Yeah 😂 you would think that someone ficused pn add brains would realize they wobt have the patience to warch all the way if the solution isnt at the start
@@josephmello4517thank you very much
Actually….it behooves us all to practice patience and listen.. every word she spoke supported the whole.. listen again.. don’t watch it.. just listen… the tools are not all in the “ fixing “ the tools are also in the understanding of how we get there.. just relax.. sit back and listen ..
For me, having stopped comparing myself to others a long time ago, it's not about feeling behind but an ominous sense of not growing and progressing towards something meaningful. 😐
This!! i feel it.
Right, and as one progresses towards the other end of life that feeling grows stronger. Sort of a clock ticking.
Ya same. The main message of this video doesn’t resonate with me. My struggle isn’t to tune out the external expectations, as a creative multipotentialite (non adhd), I’m an independant weirdo and fine with that. It’s that I have too many genuine ideas and interests and can’t get any of them out into the world.
I was diagnosed at 50 with ADHD. Hobbies included electronics, photography, pistol and rifle(national level), play jazz(self taught), glider pilot (solo),ultralight pilot (when my wife lets me). Currently it's fencing working towards veteran national level. Learning now ai and robotics. I was a lab tech at a leading UK university, lots of skills I picked up. Downside, not good at socialising, always think I'm inferior. Though now I'm on medication, I'm still have this attitude of being inferior....
Self compassion is your friend. You have so much great and interesting stuff to talk about with other people. You are so not boring! Go for it -socially!
What feels natural to me is to keep bee bopping around back and forth to whatever I’m able to focus on in the moment because anything else is not just torture but nearly impossible and extremely exhausting. The things I push through come at a great cost to my effectiveness in other aspects of my life.
I don't have any 'should dos' and NEVER do anything that isn't authentic. I only do ''Hell Yes'' activities but yet still feel overwhelmed by all the cool things that resonate with my values. I have left many good jobs, relationships, places I live, friends, etc... because they didn't align with who i am. FREEDOM and authenticity are the most essential things in life yet most people actually fear both,
Yes this has been my issue most of my life. Why CZcams is where I spend so much time, so many interests!
When I get slightly bored, and it's going to happen even with something I'm very interested in, I lose focus and just can't concentrate anymore. No matter what method I try, I continue to drift off and think about something else. It truly sucks as I have SO many interests and can't complete any of them. Books take forever to get through. 😄
All this exercise did was reinforce the fact that I can't complete things I want to do. And that made me feel AWERSOME!
Ahhh yes, this is me I just turned 39 and recently feel very unaccomplished. I keep saying I need help, but I do.
Same! I just turned 39 too. The mental games are exhausting !
Caren: "So I'm gonna cut to the chase right now and start off with the real reason I think all of us deal with this problem: (We think that) who we are (right now) is not good enough."
Me: 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
The imposter syndrome is ridiculously hard to overcome. I felt this!
I have so many of these ADHD videos saved for when I think I have more ability to focus, since it does seem vary. Then I forget I have them. Then I save another one. Rinse, repeat.
We would all love to have our passion become our career. But it's just not that simple.
What if I am really sure that I want to do certain things but then feel like I don't deserve it because of all the necessary things I haven't done? Days are so short. I feel like there are so many things I need to do every day that take a lot of time, or add up to a lot of time. And I often cut corners on the daily necessities out of rebellion or tiredness. I'm bad at exercising and practicing my music and stuff.
I used to think I was good at making decisions but I am actually not that great at it. I feel like I don't have the right info, which is understanding how to fit it all in and have enough time to focus.
Creativity and voracious curiosity are kinda wrecking me right now. I spend my life managing these things. Doesn’t allow room or energy for much else. But I love life and it’s fun being in my head at least. 😊
Not me engaging actively with your videos because I heard you state that youtube's score influences your motivation and self worth. Honestly, you are a life saver for me. Your way of thinking, speaking and just the cadence of your voice helps me throughout the day. I listen to you whenever I have to do something that feels impossible to me. So thank you! I hope you will feel intrinsically motivated again soon!
Damnit, it is me. I have ideas and loose focus or generate more ideas within the steps before any recognizable outcome…
Glad to have found this video!
@10:30... Your words about having my own scorecard... definitely made my whole body and mind release and relax... WOW.. years of own mental torture, and You have made me cry in the best possible way ... THANK YOU!!!
My life is a history of unfinished projects!
It's crazy how perfectly timed your videos are to my life! I was thinking about this topic a lot in the last few weeks and had this exact realisation.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge!
I have seen and abandoned so many "self help" videos. You nailed it, my love. Stunning presentation, BS-free Zone. Thank you.
Thank God I am not the only one like this!
I can't tell you how many websites I own right now lol.... and hardly any of them have been updated in months. I'm trying to slim the number down and start focusing on just my favorite projects. I'm even trying to figure out if I can possibly combine some projects into something bigger on just one website. That would be the ultimate fix for me.
I decided my hobby was organizing projects - now I just need to find somewhere to sell all the projects I bought everything for and never started (aka organized). 😂
I think I'll be listening to this video several times! Even someone interested in it's hard to focus.
I've spent years thinking I just never finished anything because I was lazy. It wasn't until lately that I started thinking I might have ADHD! I'm 50-years-old and you just explained my entire adult life in one video!
Around minute 4 I started loosing focus ..........OMG
I honestly have no idea what she has said for the last 10 minutes because I have been distracted by the comments and the videos listed down the side lol. Now I have to rewind and listen to it all again.
Caren should have known that was going to happen with her viewers. You’re the victim of a cruel joke. 😂😂😂 That’s funny and you know it.🤣
I think a lot of women who struggle with lack of follow through and too many ideas would be helped by cycle syncing. I have an ADHD diagnosis, and have still found that my biggest explosion of ideas happens in the follicular phase, which is exactly when it's supposed during your menstrual cycle.
Yes! So many women have no idea that our cycle has that kind of impact. I just learned about it a few years ago.
I believe that those of us with ADHD live and think at a different frequency. Sometimes a blessing and sometimes a curse. However, our dancing brains take us on journeys to places beyond thought, which may confuse others who are slow and steady.
Perhaps this haiku encapsulates this :
Genius is a
Frequency that snaps and pops
Ideas in waiting
Landed like a ufo. I came to this understanding on my own recently and talked with my therapist about it a few weeks ago. I live the validation.
I am so glad I have found your channel. You clarified a lot of things for me and now I feel like can manage my life somewhat. Love from Ukraine ❤
In my experience I do what I want as opposed to wat other expect of me, I am just built that way. I do sometimes make things harder o myself than they need to be.
Omg this
I definitely suffer from this but mainly because I genuinely have an interest in many things that give me energy! I also have a pretty clear vision of what I want my life to look like, I just don't know what the exact path to get there is! I've never felt 100% sure about a singular way forward and I really wish I would.
I also feel the procrastination effect in this process of finding new interests. Lots of research but not enough DOING!!
Ahhh.... sooooo meee!!! Yes! God help me!
yeah. and also as a result all the hard drives on your computer are stuffed and sometimes you can't even watch a movie without rearranging free space. 🤣
Oh thank goodness I’m not the only one 😂
#truth!
@@nikkireigns 🤩
I'm sure this applies to people but I don't find that I pursue things based on social pressure other than the required things you mentioned. I more have sort of a dopamine tank that causes me to start things I find interesting then after a while it hits that part of a skill where it gets harder and I want to switch again to refill the dopamine. I have found that if I switch then come back eventually to the thing I started on before I can sort of eventually get good at some things. It is an incredible slog though and takes me several times longer than most people mostly because I have to relearn things I've forgotten or I'm not constantly working on. In my mind though these are all things that I really want to learn and get really good at. I have managed over time to break things down into broad categories I wanted to learn like music, art, coding then break that down more into specifics versus just randomly looking around and letting things snag my interest. That has helped a bit but it's still hard to stick with things for very long stretches.
Yeah I felt the same way watching the video. I feel like I more relate to what you're saying then what she said about doing stuff based on pressure from others. I just do stuff because I find it interesting and my brain won't let me stop LOL
I took the test to become a licensed mortgage agent and passed it with no problem because I thought I wanted to be one. Then I was interested to become a licensed health insurance agent and passed that too. I still hold a real estate license and keep paying the renewal because maybe one day I will become one. I passed the real estate license in 2005. Now, I want to become a tax expert, learn to code, even enroll in nursing school, make YT videos, become a long-haul truck driver, electrician, etc. My mind will not settle to one thing once once I learn it, instead of sticking to one and becoming an expert. I'm 50 and empty nester, and my children don't need me, so it's also depressing. I thought making more money will make me happy but it's not. One day I'm high with the many ideas I want to achieve and the next day I'm defeated. I'm not sure what I have and how do I achieve part of the goals.
This is arguably, my favorite video of 2024 and the most useful one. It's starting to make more sense why it's so hard for me to focus and concentrate on something that I don't like versus why it's so easy to concentrate on things I do like or I'm interested in. And you're right, you always have a choice. Excellent content 🙏
I think this saved me.. Ive been really struggling with unfulfilling work environment and low pay that suicide and just leaving this place had come to mind
You have good things inside of you to bring to the world. And I hope you can ask for better things that you deserve at work whether it is a pay raise, promotion, new position. Work can be tough and unfulfilling, but you have value to bring to your workplace . If they don’t recognize it, try to find a place that does. If it feels too overwhelming, make one tiny change and start there. Wishing you positive changes in your future.
i feel like you just gave me external permission to finally do life my way - thank you, it was the missing little piece. ❤
Lol how’s that going?
Maybe I got this from one of your videos! :) I have been trying to understand why I'm all over the place. I haven't been diagnosed ADHD, but I sure see it. This is very helpful
I had a ballet teacher that told me I was a "late bloomer" ... i was a young aldult at this point... i was like, omg, she's right! And now, 20 years later I feel like that statement has followed me/haunted me and I continue to validate it by my actions, or shoukd I say lack of actions!! Fear of failure, making the wrong decision, any decision, even while in the process, 2nd guessing, allowing distraction, procrastination... I digress. RESULT: NO PROGRESS!! 🤨😤😩
Loved this. Thank you Caren.
What about those of us who have chaos on things that are authentic, where I can't finish finite projects like building a banjo, or building my drone, or other things I like to start? I have a hundred half finished interests, most of which just need to be completed once and that's done forever hah
If they really are authentic, then all you need is to *remember why you wanted to do them in the first place*. Then just keep going!
I find that doing little bits at a time is the way to finish things. Whenever you have a spare hour or two, tinker with whatever you feel like working on. As soon as you stress about not finishing something, that's what robs you of motivation to do it. But if you just keep doing little bits of work on them, eventually every project that you truly want to do gets finished, and every project that you just started on a whim can fall by the wayside without you caring too much.
As a side benefit, everything that you finish gives you motivation to keep working on things in general, so maybe try not to start too many new things until you get a few things completed. Best of luck!
This is not helpful at all. The 20 business ideas I have are all authentically aligned with me, and my indecision on which one to follow through on has nothing to do with all the social norms etc you mentioned. The indecision comes from not knowing which one is best for me and not a waste of time, which one will actually succeed, which one is actually manageable for my adhd, etc etc. My lack of follow through is the fear of making the wrong decision, and has nothing to do with societal expectations and scorecards 🤷🏻♀️
@esteebukay9096 That’s so great you have 20 business ideas that are all aligned with your authentic self. Go through your list of ideas & see if one idea really excites you, makes you smile, gives you energy.
If they are all good ideas, pick any one of them & just make a start. The idea that will succeed is the one that you focus on, put the time into & master 💖
I completely agree with you. It is ADHD related BUT there's the more to it that you point out. Thank you. The ten great ideas I checked into I found wouldn't be right for me. Most grab an idea rush in throw money at it but don't really figure out if it will be sustainable for them. I say keep search the right one will resonate with you on all levels.
I downloaded this information about 3 weeks ago.. watching now is a beautiful affirmation.. I’m in week two of accepting my dopamine needs.. figuring out flow in a way that supports that part of me instead of fighting it .. a peace is building!!
Back by 8th grade, 1971, in response to the regular comments on how I think differently than others shared, I came up with "people seem to settle in on either being divergent thinkers or convergent thinkers. Many artists simply have the emotional belly to ride it out in the middle. I have the emotional belly-ballast to slide like a trombone from one to the other & have been developing some skills at it. And most people Can too, just have been conditioned to not do it."
I feel targeted :) I do appreciate the process you suggest. Expectations can be subtle drivers in my life. I think there is still a component of struggle that is just me - meaning not others pressures on me. I get lured into an interest and pursue it until it gets hard or I feel like I am failing and don't know why. This is where the typical brain will push through and grit it out. My brain says, well, there is that OTHER thing I was thinking about...
Friends, family, coach, etc. An outside influence that can help with that last mile especially one that shares same interest and knows what's involved. e.g. cooking, drawing, etc.
@@brodriguez11000 Like a workout partner? Good idea. Not sure I would want to subject someone to my craziness 😂
Omg Magill, I could spend my whole life watching your videos. You're so inspiring and sometimes it feels like you are talking straight to me, like you knew me better than I do. Thank you so much for sharing.
I’m so glad that everything she talked about is some thing I’ve already done either on paper or in my mind. Thank you for this video because you’ve confirmed my process for making decisions on what to do!
Thank you. It resonated when you said about aligning with natural tendencies. I've been hopelessly struggling for years to find purpose, direction and to avoid distractions and procrastination. I know what I really want to achieve (many things) but usually get wrapped up in something else or by obligation that takes me away. I have ADHD and Autism so they seem to fight against each other, I strive for routine, perfection (used to) and don't like unplanned change but on the other hand find myself never finishing something. I've procrastinated heavily with CZcams and social media for years so I cut those out only to then gravitate to something different to replace it, that just ends up being another vice (like, out of the frying pan, into the fire). If only I could be routined and the self discipline to work on the things I really want to achieve when I need to and then spend a different time doing the other 'dopamine hitting' but enjoyable distractions then I'd be sorted but I always end up drifting into doing those other things at the wrong times, usually sabotaging my efforts on the goals I really want. In the end, I have achieved basically nothing for many years ☹️
I think the self beliefs are embedded through commercials from very early childhood. We see things that make other kids extremely happy that we don't have or are told no we can't get that. And it's on a massive scale. All kid focused ads show us our happiness is external. And honestly, parents cannot outpace this barrage of images when both work and kids are basically raising each other in school and continuing the comparisons of who has what and what things you need to be happy. The cruelty is that things ultimately (typically) don't lead to happiness.
This video has been so helpful thankyouuu!!
What I have heard rings true to the myriad of broken connections in my flow. Love it. Just need to focus on it!
I have adhd, and have always had a passion for many hobbies. But the main reason why I dont think the follow through is high is the lack of dopamine. I notice when I play video games, at some point the dopamine stops hitting, and I'll get bored. I then have to switch to a new game. This can take weeks or months for me. I think its the same with starting creative projects. I've learned when the feeling is happening, and how to hack my brain for it. I just try to go slowly with things. I've been working on making my own video game which takes a lot of different skills. I make sure I work on it even for 10 min a day. If I keep momentum in a task I want to complete. I notice Im far more likely to see it through! Idk if any of this makes sense. Just rambling my thoughts!
2nd video that I didn’t even search for - so good! I look at a lot of things I started out of intrinsic motivation that somehow transformed to become extrinsic. Worrying about expectations, judgement, disappointing others, perfection caused them to get into the weeds and halt. Started a siding job on my house over 10 years ago and it’s still not finished. And my brain is obsessed over tearing it down to do it again!
I’m so glad I found your channel today. To be understood like this is so validating. Thank you. (I will now spend the rest of the day watching every pertinent video on your channel, LOL)
I'd like to distinguish another thing that happens 25% down the road that gets in the way of completing things (especially creative things and endeavors like brainstorming). 25% down the road of an idea I’ll see an entirely new possibility, a new creative idea available now by being 25% down the road of the 1st idea with the new combination of ideas I’ve gathered along the way-and that’s only and uniquely available at that point. So now I’ll have 2 bright shiny ideas instead of just one. And the 2nd one is a bit brighter and shinier at that moment (shining with possibilities). So I'll drop the first one and pick up the second one. I am turned on by possibility (probably getting a shot of dopamine whenever a new possibility arises) and I’ll diverge from that 1st path (that’s cycled 25% down the path of potentiality) and reach for the possibility instead and mainline that dopamine-following that new path to possibility. I have a humongous landscape of possibilities.
Thank you for this video ❤
This was very helpful. Thank you.
This is my life, excited focus for 3 seconds then depressed about a lack of motivation
This video really hit home. Thank you
Good video! Please understand some of the social programming is very deep and profound! As a stoic I can assure you there are always choices, yes even in jail you have choices. Be happy be free, some say, keep it simple, keep it real, keep it free, be satisfied in yourself. Mark Mann M2. You can't control what social pressures are imposed on you, you can however control how you respond to those pressures.
Excellent video. Great job!
Great video, this really helps, thank you.
Thank you so much. Finally a video on this topic that really makes sense.
GAHHHH! You just described my whole life! Thank you so much for this, super helpful, I'll be doing a lot of journaling from this video!! I feel better already 😊
Bringing it back to the idea of the one scorecard that truly matters was mindblowingly meta!
Absolutely my life!!
Thank you for introducing the term mulitpotentialite, that is exactly what I am. Love that term.
Thank you 🙏🏾 ❤
I’m a stay at home mom with late diagnosed ADHD, and the only executive function I’ve been able to work really well around is big picture thinking. I have always journaled, and getting it in front of me instead of in my brain works well. I however am not vaguely feeling as if I’m falling behind, because I can big picture, I am agonizingly aware of where I’m falling short. I do agree with your point about the multiple, conflicting (especially for women) lists of what we are getting shoulded to death with.
Listening at work but I'm going replay later tonight because this is GOOD❤❤❤❤❤ whew this really helps me with my thinking
Yes ma’am, exactly that!
I’ve got an over anxious brain which has a lot of similar effects on life as adhd. I’m learning to accept that my interests are on a rotation. With that is the understanding that succeeding at 5 things is much harder than succeeding at 1. But once I make it, that’s gonna be a hell of an accomplishment.
Thank you. Listened to it double speed but this is helpful. 🙏❤️
I literally just had this conversation yesterday with a client but I used a little bit different language. The "Shoulds"come from a space of the expectations all the way that stem from childhood and the voices of the parents reaching to the child feeling obligated to please also perpetuating thoughts of not being good enough.
OMG! I keep saying I don't have ADHD, but I'm currently practicing/learning 5 musical instruments, have 8TB of unfinished music, am taking a course in meditation & orchestration, was studying to become an electrician, spanish, German, & created my own language, & script.... HELP ME! 😲 I want to do EVERYTHING... Thanks for this video!
A fantastic video that resonated and reinforced ideas that I think many of us know to be truth but through societal pressure, environment, and upbringing stubbornly refuse to believe.
Having a list of personal values that resonate and energise you is one thing. But sticking to them, giving yourself permission to stick to them, is another.
We live in a world that is constantly trying to brain wash us into believing our values align with the latest self serving agendas of corporations, government and political ideologies. They want us entangled in their values, beliefs and ideologies as it drives their own growth while diminishing our own.
The realisation of this is one thing. To break away from this propagandistic driven thinking , when all the people around you are thoroughly ensnared, is tough, espeshially for an ADHD sufferer that craves ever morsel of Dopamine that society and societal approval serves up.
It should be the mission of every person to reject any value that’s forced on them, stick to their values and live the life they want, not what the world wants.
This is SOOO me - I craft and this is what I deal with
Thank you so much i feel seen and this content has explained so much what im going through ❤
You don't have to "spend years in therapy" to address these issues. Therapy can actually address the core beliefs ("I am not good enough") that stand in the way of moving forward. Prioritizing your top interests "over time" does nothing for challenging core beliefs. Not everyone believes there is no destination other than death or that peace is experienced by just doing what makes you happy.
I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, I love you, why did you take so long for me to find you? Oh, my God!!!!!! Keep preaching keep going don’t stop don’t ever stop please ADD forever!!!!!!
Great Video, Caren! I can really relate, thank you so much for sharing!!!
You are so welcome!
exactly!
I watch this to help myself to understand my adult daughter. Thank you. It is a very needed topic.🐞
Wanna do all the things don't do any of the things thank u so much yes gr4at reminder follow ur intuition based on heart have choice and peace life is for living we can only eliminate own chaos so true always say it but we get caught up thank u
Here’s the problem with your guidance here that I see: regardless of what choice I make within obligations, the correct choice for me isn’t necessarily going to be practical. If the thing that’s true to me, in alignment with who I am, but it’s obsolete on the grand scale of human need/want, then what? Make a different choice that’s hopefully “in alignment”, what then when that’s obsolete too? There’s plenty I want to do, plenty I had plans to do, and they just keep getting erased from underneath me. So I press forward with something new.
For a long time I have measured myself based upon who I think other people think I am. Such as to say, I put them into a mental model, then I put myself into the perception of that mental model. I lose out both ways - not knowing them, and not knowing myself. All the while casting heaps of judgement everywhere. I recognize that learning who I am is not instant noodles. It takes work and practice - better yet, remembering that I chose to do that a day or week later.
It seems that the crux of the ideas in this video is built upon a firm ground of self-worth. Without knowing yourself, and building an entire worldview based on the perceived perceptions of others, how can I build upon that? How can one eliminate the fear of exposing who they are to themselves?
Thank you for your videos
I stumbled across your video and WOW, you nailed me!!! I never knew multi potentially was a term. All I know us my obituary is going to be quite long!!!
Great video. I do actually procrastinate on “Joyful” projects because I feel no urgent value since I’m only doing it for me. I know that’s a bit sad, but gotten so used to pleasing/winning the prestigious position and thriving on winning the next and the next, that own projects seems a bit lonely. I almost treat my own projects as a hobby and assignments as important. Sometimes this results in not finishing anything but just going out to play golf all day. I did accomplish many goals, but it’s a never ending cycle. I’m always looking for tips, tricks, inspiration and therapeutic solutions such as videos like this, hoping to apply a method that resonates and works. I do hold some sort of crutch towards what’s still being promoted in our society value wise, and are pleased to hear about people who break free, manipulating powers that are revealed, justice and scientific proof of spiritual concepts etc. This probably motivates me more and inspires me to look at my hobbies as potential higher values than my prestigious deadlines etc.
Great video thanks very much