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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 16. 11. 2020
- r/AmITheA**hole OP practices Brazilia Jiu-Jitsu at a local gym. A new guy joins the gym, the the guy is absolutely covered with tattoos from a certain organization that I can't even say the name of on CZcams. Let's just say it starts with the letter "N." OP refuses to train with the guy, and other people in the gym say that OP is being a butthole by being disruptive. Is OP the butthole in this situation?
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Sometimes, being the bigger person is not letting yourself be walked on again.
Some people says that someone must be being bigger person but in reality "be bigger and more comfortable doormat"
Yup. I had to walk away from my family for that reason.
I'm like 1 foot long at best fam, I'm just trying to survive you big foot humans :v
@@iamaloafofbread8926 i am a snek so u know how many humans tried to kill me just because i warned then!
when I'm the bigger person, I'm like a snorlax
The office story is straight up horrible. They are clearly bullying OP here, especially when they would not drop the thing when OP already said multiple times NO. Nobody told them to stop the bet but they did only to guilt trip OP afterwards, what a bunch of toxic jerks
He/she does need mental help tho
I stopped listening to that story at least three times to just sit and think about the sheer fucking stupidity of those people. I was almost an anorexic and the part about âyou cant take a jokeâ just- how the absolute fucking fuck can someone be so inconsiderate to others? Anyways i 100% agree with you. No means no.
thats a lawsuit waiting to happen
and a 2 out of 5 assholes judgement is a fucking joke. they get 10 out of 5 assholes! they could have made OP relapse HARD!
@@punkskunx Ikr? How did they even accuse OP of being an oversensitive sjw millenial when it was an issue that OP go through themselves
"Be the bigger person" is code for don't stand up for yourself.
Be the bigger person, bigger than who? The pregnant homophobe? Yea, that aint happening
I don't get what "bigger person" means how how would being bigger mean your more forgiving and less confrontational
How is letting a homophobe live with you and your wife being the bigger person? Cutting them out of your life and moving, which OP did, was being the bigger person. They literally have their own life and family now. They are better off.
Being the bigger person is only applicable when not letting it go will do more harm to you. In this case letting that sister stay would do way more harm than good.
That what assholes say to manipulate people.
the coworker flirting with the husband story, I believe there was an update stating that she sat him down and explained the signs, and knowing how outgoing, yet naive, he is, she showed him the signs and I think it had a happy ending
If you have a link, I'd love to read it. I've looked and can't find it anywhere.
@@Ezghiel go to the userâs page
@@shivinho I just went and it looks like the account has been suspended/deleted
Thank you i went to reddit to find and the profile is gone
He should have respected her comfort levels. If your partner does something after you tell them it makes you extremely uncomfortable, you're an asshole.
Ironic how your sister treated you horribly then was shocked when you donât want to be around her đ
Welcome to the logic of my mum, she does this everytime
Surprised pikachu face
Just proves how stupid the sister is, bet that she'll be still ungrateful and take for granted all the help
and the family actually wanted her to support her. UHHHHH-
It is shocking common bro
As the resident gayâą, the line "get over it and move on/let go" is the exact thing a narcissist would say, and the thing my *abusive* father's family told me to do when _they_ kicked him out. Do not take your family back, op. They're disgusting.
Yes, while I hear that part I was thinking the response to that is "I said no, she will not move with me, get over it, move on and let it go".
@vergorance i like the way you think!
It might be dangerous to do that, if she, a homophobe feels so entitled to barge into private property (that they shouldnât have known about) and demand a rent free place to stay food AND BABY STUFF
Who knows what violence or violent people she knows and can send over..
@vergorance You'd be surprised at what adrenaline can do.
@vergorance if the sister acts homophobic then report her for trespassing XD
I work as a nanny and even most "normal" families have contracts saying you can't discuss personal info about the family, share pictures of the kids etc. The mom was so out of line and could possible end up with her daughter never being able to work as a nanny again.
I'm a nanny and wasn't asked to sign an NDA, but even so, sharing personal information about the family you work for, especially the children, to unrelated people over the internet is extremely unprofessional.
Yeah, I'm currently studying childcare and when I talk about children, I don't even use their names. Just call them a little girl or boy or something. I do sometimes use names when I have to for assignments but that's confidential and kept between my class, trainer and whoever marks the assignment
The first OP,- when they were confronted as picking Lâs family over theirs- should have retorted with, âYes, Iâm picking L over you just like you picked sister over me. I owe you nothing, bye.â
Wow, these stories are terrible today. The secon OP was a recovering anorexic and yes, they blew up(for good reason) and people both told them it was a joke, donât take it seriously and blamed them for things being canceled. Itâs not a joke to OP and itâs not OPâs fault that they canceled due to lots of complaints about the program. This is a perfect example of the victim of their circumstances and experiences being blamed, being told not to take harsh or unwanted language seriously and ultimately being blamed for being a victim. I feel terrible for OP and hope they know they are in the right.
No wonder homophobes are said to have a lower IQ
@@mostar1219 definitely they can. Or they can just be so entitled and think they are the center of the universe.
They've got the wrong definition of "family": family isn't who you're blood-related to, it's wo cares for you and who you care for. Lover is family; blood relatives are not
@@franl155 the more of these stories I hear, the more the lyrics "blood is thicker than water, but love is even stronger" makes sense
Why do I feel like âbeing the bigger personâ mostly translate to âlook, youâre causing problems TO US by not doing what youâre told so weâll put it in a way that makes it seem like youâre winning at being a human being while really we just want you to stop making a fussâ?
YESSS
Sometimes it's ok to make a fuss.
Sometimes making other people feel uncomfortable is something that needs to be done.
Stepping up for yourself is the best example of being a bigger person there could ever be.
My mom used to say that to me when my brother provoked me (so it was my fault for responding), but there was never any "bigger man" talk when I provoked my brother - it was straight up my fault for provoking him.
âBeing the bigger personâ is what the older sister was already doing... she was letting go of the past, getting on with her life and even invited the parent to her wedding despite them siding with her sister when that sister started attacking her for who she loves...
Thatâs being the bigger person, demanding she take in a person who have abused her and that she pay that persons bills thatâs a humiliation, saying âfuck offâ would be perfectly warranted.
@@derpionderpson1424 um if u notice the guys said he had a wife soo I think he is a guy and he said he was gay so if he was female he would have said lesbian so just sayin... But I competely agree with what u said
As a jew who does Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, I completely respect the decision of the person who refused to roll with a N***. They did the right thing and I would give them -1/5 aholes.
As someone who deeply hates n # zis, i agree with you.
Back at my high school, someone graffitied that symbol in the hallway. The teachers immediately started investigating who was responsible.
Also should mention this was in Eastern Europe. This kind of behavior is NOT tolerated.
As it should be
That is where the party started and everyone hates the symbol and party and it isnât even tolerated in America actually.But is worse in Europe im guessing
@@rainbow_demon6612 You do know that the nazi party didn't start in Eastern Europe right? It started in Germany, Western Europe lmao
I was thinking if it was in America it would be oh okay, edgelord. But that being in EE is a whole different level
@peacefulworld123 I doubt that people would paint this version of the symbol on walls at school lol :P
"I don't like genocide".
"Stop bring politics into our gym gosh!"
Yeah and anyone for whatever reason can decide not to buddy up for a person that makes them feel uncomfortable.
It's just common sense.
I know youâre being sarcastic, but those are genuine interactions
That op was a asshole
@@hinglemcringleberry2782 How in the WORLD was the OP the asshole???
A Dutch expression about nazis translates to: "when a nazi breaths he lies."
Sister: *Treats OP horribly*
Mom and Dad: *Defends her completely*
OP: *Doesn't want to be around her and refuses to help them*
Also Sister, and Mom & Dad: *Surprised Pikachu Faces*
Periodt
What gets me is they never even apologized. How is she supposed to "move on" if they don't even apologize?
@@abc68130 Yeah, I know! Because they assumed that they were "faaaaaaamily", they thought it is very normal for OP to immediately help even when they are horrible to him.
I am also mad at the parents, instead of defending OP, and scolding the sister, they instead defend the sister and tells OP to "suck it up"? Absolutely disgusting. I would immediately leave the house. I don't care if I didn't have a place to live, it's better than staying in that toxic place I call home.
@@dracko158 Sounds-like my home/family life, "family sux".
+ The family members saying OP needed to.
Did ya see them offer their houses?
I feel so bad for the OP with those horrible bullying coworkers. When someone says no they mean no! And not all people who are heavy are just because of bad eating!
Man I hate that sort of mentality.
I hope OP is okay.
Hi!
Wanna fight some Karens?
No, i am not joking: I know a way way how to
make CZcams (and with that the internet - and with that the world)
healthier and nicer. Which kinda includes not
being very nice to Karens.
You could call it a Good Cause Project; one that
includes kicking some Karens Lower Back...
And even though i will often joke about 'funding' Research
for an 'Anti-Karen-Spray-Bottle', i will never actuallyask for money,
as this Project to help CZcams out does not include
money at all.
Whenever Iâve had someone try to guilt me into helping them when I say ânoâ, I ask them this question: âWhat would you do if I were not here to help you; lived in another place, or were deceasedâ. I insist on them telling me what theyâd do, not just brush me off. Once they come up with something, I tell them that they now have a solution and thatâs good since I wonât be helping.
That's a good response when someone is being manipulative and pressuring you in to thinking you're the single option they have.
Feels like half of all AITA posts are people trying to overcome gaslighting. Thanks for taking part in helping people fight that shit, rSlash.
Is why Iâm disgusted with the amitheangel subreddit - yes, I get it, people lie and stuff, and it can be nice to laugh at obviously fake stories - but how many of these people are put-upon bastards that have been beaten down by life or their parents and donât know how to set boundaries? How many of them genuinely need this validation?
Yes. I posted on there once about my dad and both responses were âdonât give in to him. Maybe best to cut him offâ lol
Example: remember that dood that asked âAITA for despising my mentally handicapped sisterâ whose parents just expected them to be a full time caregiver, didnât give them any time to themselves, and grounded them for not having their phone on in a theater?
I have no proof it is fake or real. But if it is, then AITA is responsible for telling someone their life has meaning, they can make choices for themselves, and cutting them off from an utterly shit home life.
Itâs not like AITA is the âto be fair you need a high iq to understand Rick and mortyâ of subreddits. Itâs a subreddit. But the possibility exists that it can remind you that youâre not crazy and you did the right thing. Or, if you were the asshole, it can remind you that you were crazy and you DID do the wrong thing. Either or.
Itâs definitely exploited, thereâs definitely fakes, but it can have value.
I was just recently talking about this with my gf, because we were talking about how a lot of post are assholes wanting validation, but also people that really need validation because they have been gaslighted so badly they have a moral compass where no matter what they do, they do wrong and I feel for them. I don't question if they are true or fake, because sometimes I think are they for real? How can they think that is a bad thing to do? And seems so illogical to me, but then I remember how it is to be victim of gaslight, and how important it is to get out of the fog and how illogical are the leaps towards justifying your abusers.
The other half are narcissists that don't understand why murdering someone to stop a minor inconvenience for them is bad.
"I thought I could trust you" She said, after risking her daughters job and reputation, breaking a contract and lying about it multiple times when asked about it.
Thats just the reaction of someone who is angry about being caught.
That is the reaction of someone whose affair was caught lmao.
@@CaTastrophy427 lmao
Not to mention after lying twice
Yep, when they get caught doing something wrong, they lash out and accuse the accuser.
"I thought i could trust you as my daughter" "how about trusting you as my mother?"
In the first story, you just know the sister was planning to live there permanently. That's a good enough reason to say no. But funny how the sister thought the OP was a bad person for being gay, but not so bad that she wouldn't live with her for free.
I don't remember where I heard this from. It was from another reddit story but it stuck with me. Was about this bartender throwing out "those people" from a bar. If you let one in, they bring more, and then that place gets known as being a "those people" hangouts. The gym is opening itself up to being one of "those people" friendly gyms >.>
There are 2 types of am I the A-hole
1: I burned down a school, am I the A-hole?
2: I saved children from a burning building, am I the A-hole?
There are a lot of "I'm a woman who stood up for myself/said no to someone, AITA?" Because women are socialized to be accommodating and it's really common to feel like doing that is a bad thing.
Sometimes yes but their are nuances
@@Zorae42 And that's sad. Whether you're a man or a woman you should be allowed to stand up for yourself. But I get it. My wife often feels like she can't say no to her family even though she gets worn out doing things for them.
Ikr
Just goes to show you how much narcissism (1st example) and gaslighting (2nd example) there is in this modern society.
Story 2: Refusing to leave OP alone after dropping that many hints has nothing to do with political correctness.
Of course it doesn't, "political correctness" is just right wing fighting words for when shit people get to feel consequences for their shitty behaviour.
Do you even know what the word means? people need educated
â@Andrew Pearson "the avoidance of forms of expression or action that are perceived to exclude, marginalize, or insult groups of people who are socially disadvantaged or discriminated against" How does that relate to not dropping it when told to drop it? If they had just left OP alone, they'd still have their precious diet bet.
â@@andrewpearson3516uhm...do you? đ
That bodybuilder who stood up for OP deserves all the good things in life
I can't stand people who bully others until they break - it's harassment and it's disgusting to see grown adults acting like they're in high-school
OP - "They were good parents growing up"
Also the same OP - "They treated my sister as a golden child and emotionally abused me so i cut them all out of my life"
...i am a wee bit confused
" emotionally abused "
Yeah, it's is canceling each other but that's actually normal.
Actually abused kids/teenagers/adults from Abusive Household(Doesn't matter how abusive was) before realising they was abused, they think the Abusers are good.
It's a very normal reaction. I can talk to someone about how my mum abused me + then turn around + say "but she was a good mum" or "she did her best". It's p conditioned in you when you grow up in an emotionally abusive household, bc the entire time you're manipulated and gaslit, and even years after you leave it's hard to see through it all
Glad Iâm not the only one who noticed!
And this supposedly only started after OP left? ...????? What?
God that diet story is painful. The contest idea is great for morale only of not pushed. Not only did they push. They also harassed, they then tried to play victim.
This! The bet could have been great with the participants like going jogging together after work or exchanging healthy recipes, but not the toxic crap they did to OP.
Yeah
To a recovered anorexic being told that carbs are bad can be incredibly triggering. Ofcourse they didn't know, but they should've backed off when OP refused the diet the first time, you never know what someone has gone trough.
i hate that they made about losing the most weight and i hate that they tried pressuring them into it. theyre also bf for people to starve. if they want to do that comp so bad it shouldnât be a comp. as you said, it should be about morale. they should help support each other and keep each other on track on their weight loss journey and it should only be for people wanting to do it. /g
And then there was the gaslighting of OP.
First story, I'd tell my parents "ill pay for her abortion since she obviously can't afford a child, but other than that, no."
Then have the neighbors call an ambulance to take her to burn unit.
I literally thought " _holy ship_ " reading that.
But yeah, don't have kids you can't afford. Contraception is a lot cheaper and more convenient than an unplanned kid.
If you don't want to terminate? Adopt the kid out.
â@@red0421 no one: crusaders, but pirates:
Thats violent I LIKE IT
This comment did NOT age well in the United States.
I donât know if the lady who stood up for herself about the weight loss will see this but I had to comment. I was yelling at my speakers for you. I was overweight most of my life and when I had my son my ass I gained over 100 pounds. It was awful but I ended up getting weight loss surgery and my body got so stressed out that I couldnât really eat for a year. I was so disappointed not with myself but with my bodyâs way of handling the situation. It doesnât matter if you are over weight or under weight. Iâm so proud of you for believing in yourself. Looking at a scale can make you obsessive and itâs hard not to look. Sorry for the word vomit but thank you for sharing!! đ
The recovering anorexic story hurt my heart to hear. People are fricking cruel
Co-workers: *Harasses the hell out of OP*
OP: Can you stop it?
Co-workers: Just join our Weight loss bet!
OP: I'm a recovering anorexic! STOP!
Co-workers: wE wErE JuSt jOkInG, sHeEsH
"Schrodingerâs douchebag" - The type of person who makes douchebag statements and then decides whether they were âjust jokingâ or dead serious, based on whether other people in the group approve or not.
@@LurkerPlus I was wondering what the word for that was for a while cause I forgot thx for reminding me
âWhy not? It will be fun!â is pretty much a guarantee that you will not have any fun. I despise it when someone says that to me. I am the one who decides if Iâm having fun, not you.
I don't really see why Op had to join, they were not demanding participation from the fitter coworkers.
"Be a shopkeeper they said, meet a Karen they said, it will be fun they said."
"You will love this is that", be it food, a movie, music it anything. That is always annoying to hear
@@velvety2006 exactly. It seems like they were just picking OP cuz they seem like an easy target. They are bullying OP. I hate this kind of mentality that everyone need to join for "solidarity" bs. It reminds me of my toxic classmates in middle school.
Yeah, OP should look for a new job and then quit.
Fun fact which I'm sure thousands, if not hundreds, have already said
The joker canonically hates nazis
I mean, dodging everything else, the Nazi regime was authoritarians, and the Joker is the biggest anarchist. They're basically not compatible on a logic level. On a meta level, it's a way to say F-you to white supremacists, when even a total psycho misanthrope hates them. For a real world comparison, if you've ever heard of the hate group masquerading as a church known as the 'westboro baptist church', they are such vocal and vitriolic bigots that _even the KKK has denounced them._
@@kauske jesus, how bad do you have to be to have the fucking KKK denounce you?
@@lonewolf9578 Westboro regularly goes and disrespects the funerals of soldiers because they disapprove of the government not banning homosexuality. Westbro is so open and blatant about their hate that even other hate groups won't touch them.
Keep in mind most hate groups do not want to be known as a hate group, they want to be seen as legitimate so they can push their agenda. Denouncing unrelated organizations that make themselves an easy target is just a way to get brownie points.
But remember swastikas are also Buddhists symbols op never interacted with the person op doesn't know if they're a Nazi op is a butthole
@@goku-sangreen4510 The Buddhist symbol and the symbol of the national socialist party are fundementally different, because the bad one is turned at an acute angle. Besides, he also had symbols of the SS on him as well.
First of all, those âfamily membersâ that were messaging saying to help that sister can take her ass in!
Family is defined as people that treat you as family...
Exactly
"Family is all about blood relation. I deserve to treat you like garbage and you still must treat me like a queen because I give you birth"
- some people somewhere on earth after abusing someone who then posting it on reddit.
Yep. My family is those I choose to treat like such, and amazingly enough, none of them are blood related to me.
Blood defines kin, love defines family.
"Family donât end in blood. But it doesnât start there either. Family cares about you, not what you can do for them. Familyâs there, through the good, bad, all of it. They got your back, even when it hurts. Thatâs family."
I'm so frickin sick of people saying "we're family" or "you need to be the bigger person". Oh heck no I dont! You made your bed, you lie in it!
"Will you let me kill you?" "No." "But we're _faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamily_ "
First story: throw the whole family away and be with you wife's family.
Ikr
She's supposed to be able to trust her daughter but she can't trust her mother? Wtf is this logic?
Last story: Iâll play devilâs advocate and say that you could earn a quarter of a point for not finding out if he didnât roll that way anymore. If he did, gives you all the more reason to âtrainâ harderđ
That one with the instagram hacking is like: "which is worse? Snooping on someone's instagram (which is still bad but in this case it's different) or potentially endangering a family and maybe getting a lawsuit?"
For real, not only did the mom violate her NDA, but she also did so by giving out their names, general home location, and the name of their childâs private school. That information being spread could put the parents and their child in serious danger. Itâs not like she just violated it by mentioning the parents names, she gave out sensitive information that could put the family at risk. Considering they wanted OP and family to sign NDAs, they probably have a reason for keeping that information as private as possible.
@@songbird-wj4yj yeah. Worse, she KNEW about the contract, and SIGNED IT.
Not hacking if you are given the password by the account holder
First story: nope, nope, nope. Not the butthole. Hi we're toxic awful people who have never admitted we're toxic awful people and then we're going to ask A LOT from you. We've never actually acknowledged how horrible anyone was to you and we're still not going to but again, we need you to help. Plenty of hardworking single moms out there can make it, little sister. I believe in you and slam the door.
Wait what did you know OP? Or not Iâm confused
Right! My mom was 17 with a baby and was kicked out of her house. If she could do it any woman can. If you give a damn about your baby, you make it happen.
@@lifeinmotion1875 oh ,no. I was just speaking as if i were in that person's shoes.
When your coach starts defending that sort of person, it's time to find a new coach.
those coworkers in the office story deserve way more than 2/5
As a bulimic, still recovering, I really felt that second story. I knew instantly what was going on and it hurt me to my core. Seriously. It's none of the others' business and yet they keep pestering.
> Being homophobic and discriminatory against daughter/sister all her life
> Playing the "family" card when its time to leech off her.
Classic.
Being homophobic is sadly a thing that cant be changed i am a honophobic and ive tried changing but I simply cant thats just the way I am so tho all the gay/bi/whatever people im so sorry that we exist in thia universe some of us want to change but simply cant (I am not humiliating gay ppl just that I cant suffer Boeing near one or hering about them on tv)sry guys have a nice day
Sister probably also would want op to be her nanny after the kid was born because she needs her 'me' time
@@Mihnnnea I'm not sure about being homophobic can't be changed. I might be feel uncomfortable around gays or bi but as long as I being civil I think there's no problem.
@@ReigoVassal I fell kinda the same as u but I feel hate against em and idk y
@@nahadoth2087 I dont think I need it like im not doing anything to em i just feel hate against em
One thing to remember regarding the last story:
"Don't talk about politics," is an inherently political statement.
Is there an update on the story about Tabitha? I wonder how OP is doing and if her husband finally came to his senses (I do hope he didn't cheat on her).
The heck. This 'Be the bigger person' only comes in life when they know they are 100% in wrong but need you for the comfort. Man I hate this concept. Good luck OP you are not in the wrong.
Imo even if they recognized they were in the wrong i still wouldn't help them this "be the bigger person" bs is stupid in this situation because op is already the bigger person because op doesnt treat people badly because of their sexuality
@@thanos8077 Ya I agree ..
Being the bigger person is a dumbass concept because it allows for people to act without any consequences for those actions. Be the bigger person is synonymous with, âShut up and let them keep doing what theyâre doing.â
@@thanos8077 not exactly sexuality but there interest in it
Yeah um, the coworker isn't acting like a jealous girlfriend, she is a jealous girlfriend.
Lol yeah
if i told my husband "your relationship with this coworker is violating my boundaries" and he said "no, it's fine" i wouldn't have a husband. it's pretty clear that they're already cheating, right?
Even if he isn't cheating (I believe he is) he is violating reasonable boundaries set by the person he is supposed to love. It is a violation of trust and loyalty even before you add in marriage. If the shoe was on the other foot... Well I think he'd be singing a different tune. Time to pack up and GTFO
@@Niakoda i don't know i think he might be one of those people that don't know how to say no i know a lot of people that can't say no even if they don't want to do whatever
@@rashedeido2851 like I said I believe he is with the information given but even if I am wrong in my assessment he is still wrong in his actions against reasonable boundaries requested by his wife
I side with OP on the last one. As soon as it is part of your worldview that some people or groups of people should be "eliminated", you lose your right on your own opinion.
The man who knocked up that girl is the one who should be the one supporting her, not her sister. Funny logic
most of these stories are just âAITA for doing the right thing?â
Very true đ
Well I guess it's because R/Slash chooses them like that. If you read the subreddit you will see entitled people asking if they are the b*ttholes because other people are not doing what they want (and obviously being wrong).
These stories are not interesting, we all now they are the buttholes.
Gas lighting is like subtle brainwashing.
In the end, even if you're a saint, you'll believe you're a devil because that's what they want you to think so you'll feel guilty and bend over backwards to "make up for" being "so awful".
They wear you down till you can't say with certainty if you're sane or not anymore.
"AITA for being a decent being?" "AITA for wanting to not be treated like trash?"
True
They basically asked for the details of anorexia when they refused to back off
"I thought I could trust you as my daughter!" What OP should say: "I thought you could trust YOU as my mother!"
First story:
I don't see them Offering their house, now huh?
About the last story: In Germany, that guy could very easily get arrested for having those symbols on him. They are literally illegal here. Not to mention the fact that to reputable tattoo artist in Germany would make tattoos like that.
Wait... Nazi symbols are illegal in Germany? I'm not surprised but am definitely pleased! Which we could do that here in America. We have too many racist bastards for comfort right now...
Sad part is the nazi's stole the swastikas because it was use way before they became a thing
@@juniper1625 that is true! I believe they were originally buddhist symbols of peace, right? I'm pretty sure that the original ones are turned the other way though which does distinguish them for people in the know.
Fun fact: in the original legend of zelda game, the overworld is in the shape of that exact same peace symbol
Another fun fact: germany is one of the biggest censors for games, especially games like wolfenstein (for obvious reasons), they're really trying hard to move on
@@HollyAnneThePaganChaosWitch it was part of an effort called "denazification" and was only made possible because of military occupation after the war. it wasn't easy and it wasn't pleasant.
"Let go and move on" is the classic line of the narcissist. They think you can just erase all of their horrible actions with a single line, like time-travelling magic spell.
The best answer - when needed - is "yes, I have. Without you."
Bold of them to assume she hasn't let it go and moved on. Just because you have let it go and moved on doesn't mean you have to let them back in
@@335chr but that's what the code stands for, "just let me back in because the past doesn't matter"
"Yes, _you_ should 'move on' - move on back out of my house!"
And slam the door on their toxic selves.
I went to school with someone I now believe was a narcissist. She would do awful, _awful_ things to people and still hasn't changed years later, I think she's even gotten worse.
She has never apologised for any of the disgusting things she's done, and likely never will and even if she did? No one would believe her because none of us are sure she's even capable of apologising honestly, let alone meaning it.
Parents, you need to let go and move on
Me, I have let go moved on I let go of y'all and and I moved on with my life y'all just ain't in it
"NO. DROP IT!" .....
I get an ad where something falls over with a loud bang. đđđđđ
The irony of the mum talking about a breach of trust
Mama mama milkyyyy
rSlash "I cant say that word on CZcams!"
also rSlash: *Puts a swastika tattoo directly in the middle of the thumbnail.*
14:00 Intelligence, Decency and Nazism are mutually exclusive. You can be intelligent and decent, but then you won't be a Nazi. You can be intelligent and a Nazi, but then you won't be decent. And finally you can also be decent and a Nazi but then you sure as hell won't be intelligent.
Opposing Nazism has nothing to do with politics. Advocating for Mass Genocide and murderous Totalitarianism is not a political opinion - it's a vile ideology aimed at dehumanizing us to our very core. It must never be tolerated by anyone!
A shitty political opinion is still a political opinion, people who wear shitty political opinions (literally) on their sleeves are guilty of interjecting them into any place they go without the need to open their mouths. "Don't bring politics into this" is just the cry of someone who watch to dodge around an issue, every time.
So, you hate Marxism for those exact reasons right?
@@WatcherPrime itâs a fundamentally flawed ideology - and in that very much like the same
Capitalism it intends to overcome. However I fail to see where its sole reason for existing is to murder people.
But swastikas a a Buddhist symbol
Here in Germany, this symbol is actually illegal.
Once in sixth grade, we were talking about WW2 with the teacher and this symbol came up. I was kinda curious, since I had often heard about this symbol, but I didn't actually knew how it looked and it seems like I wasn't the only one.
So one of the boys got up and drew the symbol on the board, just to show us how it looked.
I remember my teacher getting really uncomfortable and telling the boy to please clean the board immediately.
So... yeah. NTA
I think the husband with the clingy co-worker is actually just stupid. I had a similar encounter, but I actually listened to my wife.
@LaBelle424242 - Not so sure, I mean if they would have an affair, would the other woman really call at 2 in the morning? I would thing they would be more discreet...
@@tf8327 if that woman trying to make them divorce? sure. It's very popular tactics actually
@LaBelle424242 someone is bitter
I donât think heâs cheating cause guys are actually dense enough to avoid detecting all those signs but he does need to realize he needs to lay off
@LaBelle424242 well youâre a misandrist so I donât think you do. Bye bye Redditer.
"I'm supposed to be able to trust you" says person who broke their trust.
I told the person who not only broke my trust, but stomped on it until it shattered, that I wasn't going to trust them. The response? "Well you're just going to have to get over it and trust me." It doesn't work that way. I stopped relying on her because she proved that she was unreliable.
I'm actually shocked by the last story. I'm from Germany and I've heard from many people that this topic is handled more seriously here, but I still didn't expect this. It's also illegal here to use that symbol or just supporting that organization in general. I have absolutely no understanding for the coach or the other guys. He should've immediately been kicked out. In Germany he would've definitely had the cops called on him.
OP had every right and a good reason to ask for a different partner
That last story, I wouldn't want to train with that guy either! It really sucks that it's making a resurgence and people are defending it because 'oh it's freedom of speech' No! That's Terrorism!
It's a symbol of Terrorism! It's the symbol of losers! It's a symbol of intimidation and a PROMISE of violence!
It's a symbol of genocide! And it should be TREATED as such.
They can wear it sure, but that doesn't save them from the CONSEQUENCES of wearing it. And that's what's so disgusting nowadays.
If that coach had said that to me at MY gym. I'd have marched over and demanded a refund for the month because of them allowing people to walk around wearing symbols of genocide openly.
I'd go full Karen on them especially since Gyms cost money and that SHOULDN'T be tolerated.
I stumbled across the Nanny NDA story last week and spent nearly two hours explaining WHY the mother is violating the NDA. I thought I was arguing with a bot at one point because I swear I couldn't make it any easier to understand and she was still like "But the nanny spoke to her mom, that's a violation!"
âNanny spoke to her mom? Thatâs a violation â? What?
I think Iâm even more confused! Could you run it by me again
NDAâs need to be a 100% banned. They often abused to protect from bad press, etc. If your sure of your product or service, then you would be open to accept and help iron out any major issues that can come up.
@@tannerwilson4843 i have a feeling you don't understand how NDAs work....
They're used for many other things besides just bad companies trying to shut up their employees. Im willing to bet you wont even be able to justify the claim of your phrase "they're often abused to protect from bad press" when statistically speaking their premise is quite ingrained more into our society than you might think and you are likely just seeing a lot of media online about them and assuming those extreme cases are representative of the vast majority.
TLDR; your claims have no backing and NDAs are not inherently evil and are just a part of society
@@tannerwilson4843 In the case of this story, I think itâs a pretty good idea to have an NDA because you can endanger children by revealing some of that information.
"we was just joking" I have heard that crap OH SO MUCH from my family......people use to pick on me and use THAT as a exuse.....and get away with it....I'm started to think I could suivive a stabbing and take the guy to court and he would just say "I was only joking" and the juge would reprmand me for not having a sence of humor....great now I'm triggerd for the day.....
"It was just a joke". Cousin to "It's just a prank, bro".
@@WolfyFancyLads yeah and both are stupid
My mom's second husband (I was already an adult so he was not dad or father to me) wasn't well liked by our side of the family. But we put up with him because we love my mom. Until one Thanksgiving when they were leaving and my sister lived with them. On the way out the door, he started calling my sister stupid. I said something to him and he was like "I'm only joking" I shot back with "You're and a-hole. Only joking" With no hint of humor in my voice. I just kept repeating that over and over. Him saying he was only joking and me saying "You're an asshole. Only joking" Back at him.
Don't let the hurt control you. I know it's hard. I've been in your shoes. If you're old enough to cut them off, do it. I found it to be a good decision.
thank you all for the advice and spport but don't worry I am going to talk with my family they mess about but they can be senable when they what to be I may have worded this wrong and painted my family in a darker light then I ment too if so I am sorry its how my brain works....moutan out of a mole hill
In story 1: why dont the 'good religious family members' siding with the parents and pregnant sister take her in? They know just how manipulative they are and they're trying to keep from getting asked by joining in on the dogpile.
"The group of people are like Voldemort-evil" Stop being so mean to Voldemort. Compared to them, he runs a 5 stars hotel!
I mean, he did try to genocide an entire group of people.
I wouldâve thrown in âremember that one time you treated me like family by not having the common decency as my parents to show up to my homosexual wedding?â
For the first story, if the family says that OP has to take in the sister in cause "fAmiLY", surely they can take in the sister because she's family, right?
@LaBelle424242 Exactly this!
I hate the word family now I've been adopted twice in my life and from that all ik of family is that they will abuse you and use their blood as something to think you have no control but in my eyes you can choose your family and friends if "family" ever hurts you you dont have to stay with them
THAT Symbol might as Well spell out: I condone mass slaughter. There's a reason that symbol is forbidden in my country.
"Hell would have to freeze over" hellheim:hold my liquid nitrogen
I feel bad for the anorexic one with the diet bet. I know how it feels. I'm still recovering and people near me do these diet things as well. I'm one of the people that does still want to lose weight even though i'm already underweight. Luckily my family and friends are supportive, when they do the typical losing weight for summer thing, they sometimes do bets as well. I join in and they tell me in order to win, i'll need to gain more than they lost. It helps a lot. I went from 30 to 45 (kilo's)
People that try to force you to diet when you're like that are not good people.
people saying "it's mental illness" also suck. It can be mental illness but that's just so rude. mentally ill people are also, just people.
Congrats to gaining weight
Glad youâre doing better
Im glad you're doing so much better! and yes, wtf is wrong with those office workers? Who tf hounds someone who says "NO" and then says "its just a joke bro" when they state that they're an recovering anorexic. Complete A-holes
your family and friends sound super wonderful and i'm really glad you have them supporting you
Saying OP is "mentally ill" as a bad thing and saying they were "sensitive" for having an EATING DISORDER is probably THE WORST way they could have handled that. It's like trying to trigger someone with PTSD then calling them crazy when they get angry.
All of these need updates, especially the one where OP's husband clearly can't see something wrong with the behavior until a divorce hearing
Thatâs because the only woman he notices is his wife
I like how you can tell Rslash's verdict of a story by listening to the tone of voice when he reads over the op's main antagonists.
14:56 I keep hearing him say HeeHoo and I canât stop thinking of a âHeeHooâ tho it probably says âhe whoâsâ but I only heard that after replaying that word 20 times over
To the gay woman, don't give in to the people that hurt you. It's not your problem. Tell your sister, " If you were gay like me , you wouldn't be pregnant!!!"
That was an extremely rude suggestion.
@@Friendly_Gamer_Mom Perhaps, but they made that poor womans' life horrible. She's a human being and deserves to be treated as such. I'm not our Heavenly Father, so it's not my place to judge a woman for being gay. Her sister was horrible to her. Where is the man that impregnated the sister? He needs to step up, not the previously rejected sister.
@@Friendly_Gamer_Mom itâs funny doh
@@Friendly_Gamer_Mom karma. She shouldn't have treated the sister like that in the first place. Don't expect courtesy after literally using slurs at them
@@Friendly_Gamer_Mom It's also merited, because that pregnant sister and those parents are pieces of shit.
"He whose name must not be spoken" sounds like the nickname for MoldyVort, who fights against Harold Carpenter, Donald Ottery and Macbeth Maquaitance. (Kudos if you get the last one's joke)
So I get no Kudos...
I didn't get it but I still lol đ
Bruh
Dude. That last one is friggin genius!!
aquatiance is epic bro
Story #1: NTA. OP doesn't owe her sister or her parents anything. After the years of homophobia and favoritism, they're lucky OP even spoke to them. Its always "let go of the past" with these types of people, but only when it's convenient for them to pretend like they weren't the ones in the wrong.
finally someone who understands that being related doesn't make you family
You can't choose the family you're born to. But at the same time, a family are those who truly love and accept you for who you are regardless. Something that neither your parents or your pregnant sister are.
I would tell the sister: "If you were gay, you wouldn't have the kid problem."
hi as a missionarry of denounce egypt i would like to teach you my religion
@@martingamer7239 tell me more
Truly. The sister needs a place to stay, since she is pregnant. Where is the father in this situation?
@@bellamccants2294 we hate egypt
@@bellamccants2294 and we have pagodas
When they say "let it go and move on." it would be epic to just smile and say "I just did." Then walk away, head held high, big smile on your face. *đ€ drop
As someone who struggles with eating disorder, that was truely awful people to work with, where they wont let up when they could really just respect her decision. I hope she didnt slip back into it, and I hope shes okay
I sorted comments by ânewâ so I could talk with someone about that post. Iâm also recovered from an eating disorder, and it was HARD. That kind of pressure that OP was under would break me. The fact that OP needed to expose a secret to get them to stop harassing them is disgusting. They shouldnât have bugged them in the first place, thereâs NO excuse.
@@CatBehaviourPhD yeah! It would be SO easy to relapse back into it as well which is life threatening!
âDoNt BrInG poLiTiCsâ duuuuude thatâs not politics
It's human decency
Itâs not being associated in any way with a evil group that is currently rotting in whatever afterlife punishment you believe in
@@willcraft1007 I like to think their afterlife is being on that 50-lane highway in China that merges down to four, and every time they finally get through the congestion they merge back onto the 50 lanes again in an infinite loop.
Reminds me of living in California. People would wear Guevara shirts and communist symbols, and I would not associate with those people. I got some flack for that.
its like seriously? The people our society literally consider the worst people in all of human history and you don't want to hang around with someone who is pro them? I think the owners an imbecile; something like that's the kind of thing that can poison your business from ever getting new clients ever again!
This sub:
50%: wants empathy
10%:actually wants to know
40%:make fun of my enemy please
You forgot the 20% is a total asshole and doesn't realize it.
@@wta1518 oops my apologizes
I wanted to watch all your (r/AmITheA**hole) that I havenât liked nor seen
But I figured that I listen to your podcasts as well and when i do that i donât watch the CZcams vid, so now i ended up rewatching everything đ
On the nanny story, imagine being upset at not being trusted after said lack of trust was proven to be warranted.
OP in the first story did let go and moved on; she left those toxic people in the past and refused to let them into her life. They can rot because they chose their paths, they can walk them now.
Good for her but how they found her is beyond her. Did she made any updates on the sistuation
My wife has to tell me when someone is trying to flirt with me, even her, guys can be surprisingly dense. Especially when they're like me who never flirt.
Yeah, but if your wife is straight up telling you "She's doing this too much, it's driving me insane, she's trying to shag you and you shouldn't give her your phone number", I imagine you'd not be as dense as the dude in the story.
I suppose I can see being just a dense person paired up with being taken (thus not looking for hints from anyone) leading to that dumb situation, but OPs husband should have listened to OP from the beginning.
It has nothing to do with density. Plenty of women are like that too. The super flirty people like to project and think everyone should be like them. But in reality everyone has their own level of comfort, whether it be subtle flirting or just plain transparency.
In a perfect world, people would let you know their intentions. Ladies, if you're into a guy, tell him. Don't just let him figure it out. We usually won't. "Hey Kevin, I want to hook up with you once, maybe twice, then pretend it never happened." "Alright, sounds good to me, Karen." You can save a lot of time and stress just laying it out there, especially in a world where, if men try to do the same, we're demonized. Men are in a stalemate. It's your move.
I don't think the husband was the asshole in that story. if she had had a reasonable conversation about it then that would be one thing but she didn't. The "Ă broke down" line gives me the feeling that everything that followed was either shouted or sobbed. If that's the case then he might think she is being irrational. Trying to make someone see truth has never been accomplished by going 0-100 instantly and then threatening the other person with an ultimatum.
If your mom signed the NDA than SHE would be liable for damages made based on information obtained outlined in the document. If i were OP, I would refuse to discuss work with her anymore
That first story was rough! It's horrible to see the victim be blamed for the abuse the abusers did and then told to get over it without apology, or taking responsibility. Leave that trash bag on the curb, you don't owe her or your parents anything! They abused you constantly and now they need something from you ? Nope, tell them to pound sand. Stay strong op!
"third oral surgery to remove rotting teeth""
so she's already had 2. Damn.
Yeah, puking constantly does that. You lose nutrients from vomiting, puke is acidic so damages your teeth... She's literally melting her teeth away doing it. Plus, her heart is probably damaging too as a result of it.
@@WolfyFancyLads Lungs and GI tract too
Hell my wife has a severe form of GERD that causes the same level of damage, even on three separate sets of medication now to control her acid production and liver/gallbladder's bile production and she has had to have teeth removed. Her esophagus is amazingly undamaged, but her teeth have suffered.
For those unaware GERD: Gastroesophageal reflux disease.
Think heartburn but worse.
Iâm also a recovering anorexic and Iâm currently on the home stretch of discharging from the partial hospitalization clinic for the second time this year. I get super triggered when people eat cake and pizza around me let alone talk about diets which makes me want to get back into restriction and purging habits. It can be extremely hard for people to tell others about their EDs including myself, so that person was totally in the right for blowing up the way she did because I wouldâve done the same.
The OPs coworkers were aweful. If someone says no to something like joining a diet club, that's totally their choice.
Tbh commenting on someone else's food is so uncalled for.. I have bulimia but I sure as hell don't look like how people expect, so I even had to hear ip (for other stuff, but still!) staff talking about their diets, how the food was unhealthy, weight loss, etc and it's just disgusting how normalised talking about weight loss is, especially how OPs coworkers think it's fine to hound them about it
@@ratkid4560 im so confused, are u talking abt any weight loss whatsoever? Because thatâs completely normal, its not fair to get mad at someone for smth they donât kno theyâre doing when weight loss isnât necessarily a bad thing
@@curse4384 they were staff sitting with two eating disordered patients in a fucking psych ward whilst we were trying to eat. It was disgusting, and completely wrong of them. There's a time and place to gossip about how the food that is on my plate is so unhealthy and you can't possibly eat it on your diet, and if wasn't then.
@@curse4384 talking about weightloss in front of patients with an ed, especially when they're trying to eat is never ok.
As someone who is about to start the eating recovery process (I cycle between anorexia and binge eating, also obsessing over certain types of foods and only eating them for a while), that office is frigging disgusting.
About the second story. When I was in a boarding school in a foreign country, I was depressed and badly bulimic to the extent that I became anaemic. Then I was caught self harming in the boarding house. I was suspended for a week and they referred me to a dietitian. I knew my problem was psychological, not just an eating disorder, but no on listens. I started having breakdowns and showing bipolar tendency in my final year. Every time I tried to tell a teacher about it they just say 'stop self diagnosing depression. you are not justified to say that' or 'you are just hormonal. take some contraceptives 'without attempting to refer me to any doctors. I became this neurotic and unstable character with caffeine, nicotine and alcohol addiction by the age of 18. Till this year, My boyfriendIschoolcouldn't. I'll never get my deserved closure.
I legitimately hope that you're doing much much better now and that the teachers at the school and the school itself will get what's coming to them. The fact that they refused to help you and kept claiming it was just hormonal is just sick. I hope you can receive some proper help for you mental health problems. I wish you the best. :)
I'd give the harassing coworkers 4 out of 5. Anorexia can cause lasting damage if not death. It wouldn't be acceptable to harass a recovering alcoholic to drink or to bully someone to go off mood stabilizing drugs, etc. Then they have the gall to flip it on op like they are the problem on top of not showing any remorse whatsoever for making op reveal deeply personal information!
Exactly. Any normal person making a joke would have said: OMG, Iâm so sorry! I had no idea! when the co-worker explained about their anorexia, but these huge jerks went on the attack even more. Thatâs not joking; thatâs bullying.
Title: am I the a hole for refusing to be friends with a nazi
Me sipping tea: ahhhhhh this is new-
Well with how over used the word is these days, and mind you I haven't watched the vid yet, it's lost all meaning. Hell, I got called a nazi for no reason other than I disagreed with jon Ossoff's policies
What do think of op in that story
@@jr-gg6gn I donât think heâs TA. He just didnât want to talk with someone with âthose beliefsâ
@@twentysomethingstitcher121 he wasn't supposed to talk though. He was supposed to train for like an hour and that was it. Plus those tattoos could have a different meaning (though it's not very likely). But OP jumped to conclusions and kicked up a stink.
@@Hynotama ok you do raise a point cause before the Naziâs the swoshtica had a completely different meaning I think it was a religious symbol of some sorts meaning peace and Hope. I do believe that maybe OP overreacted but we donât know about that guys beliefs. He either dodged a bullet or overreacted.
As a former Early Childhood Development (ECD) student the NDA contract is basically a standard protocol for anyone in child care. Breaking it or otherwise breaching it is definitely a fire able offense and worse it can also get you blacklisted so it basically ruins your career and you basically have to start over in a new profession because no one will hire you. Opâs mom has basically ruined her career, it may be possible to salvage it but itâll be extremely difficult to the point that it would be easier to get a different job. If Op is lucky any potential lawsuit that could come from this will be aimed directly at the mother and Op will just be quietly asked to resign. The ECD career field is brutally unforgiving, making even one fire able offense, and youâre branded for life with no hope of forgiveness.
As a recovering anorexic myself, I think a "diet bet" is... horrific. And when people keep pushing you it feels horrible. OP is *NOT* the asshole there, she's literally recovering from a physical and mental illness that affects you FOREVER.