DR. GABOR MATE: THE 7 IMPACTS OF TRAUMA
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From his years of experience as a physician and addiction recovery expert, Dr. Gabor Maté has identified 7 major impacts that trauma has on a person. In this video, Gabor explains what the 7 impacts of trauma are. In the full series Healing Trauma & Addiction, he goes more in-depth about the impacts of trauma and how to heal from them.
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Favourite point is: you think you’re reacting to the present moment but you’re actually reacting to the past.
This, to me, is the hardest to come to terms with. Sometimes I find myself not taking a chance informed by past experiences, only realizing it after the moment is over. It becomes a vicious cycle.
I’m 70. My addictions. Misuse of food and money. Losing my home as a single parent and the shame of failing my children. I write poetry instead of journaling to help me heal. I am healing. Here is one of my poems.
“My face is a roadmap.
My face is a roadmap of paralyzed fear
It lost the contour of shine
Where sadness appears.
My face is a roadmap
To my story afraid to unfold
My face is a roadmap
Of all the tears buried beneath the road.
My face is a roadmap
Where once there was light
Molesting father,
narcissistic mother and brother
Darkened it
to ashen abysmal night.
For years my hidden molestation is what I thought shredded my soul
that didn’t compare to the narcissistic abuse my mother and my religion bestowed.
Trampling my heart, lungs, and vocal cords.
My face is a roadmap
Of religious demise
Respect honor your parents at all cost
Are the lies.
I didn’t fight back,
l didn’t utter a word.
I didn’t even know what was a healthy loving world.
My face is a roadmap
Aging lines of frequent attacks
From a shell of a mother
Reminding me
You’re selfish
Self centered
Regardless of the mountain of love showered to
Her impenetrable heart sac.
My face is a roadmap
Wiped out by the tidal wave of trauma
Voice smothered to the depths of all that
Surreal drama.
Good days I’m grateful to be alive,
Rough days I struggle to stay to survive.
My face is a roadmap
69 years
Stained with tears.
It took years layered with abusive narcissistic tasks
To turn my roadmap
Into a pretend happy face mask.
My face is a roadmap
It conceals
Reveals
A generation of trust built on sand
A broken trust in me
Constantly needs
A helping hand
Today, I author this piece to drive out my fears
I want to claim happiness
What’s left of my years.
My face is a roadmap
Also shows joy
It came with a price
I’d pay again and again
To have my precious girl and boy.
There is a truth to a portion of my heart undefeated
That truth my two children saved
With love over their years
They repeated.
My face is a roadmap
Blake stares
To a far away place
Where all children are gently loved
Always kept safe. “
Kimi swanson Minor
Wow So touching. I feel ur pain. May God comfort you.
Thank you for sharing your poem. I am familiar with some of those roads....
Amen to the portions of heart
undefeated.
🙏🏻💚
Watch dr Carter and dr Ramani videos, it may be helpful. Nice poem.
The future of the past is todays memory. And Tomorrows past is the future of all your yesterdays longtime forgotten. Until they circumvent your mind making you remember today……
I'm 58 and still trying to sort out huge family trauma and so much death and loss over the years. It still bubbles up. Being around people is difficult, but I'm pushing myself to socialize more. Thank you for these impacts. It will help me know what to focus on in the future.
May God bless this human being for every "drop" of knowledge he shares with us.
Mate has shared some useful information, no doubt, but he is only human, and it seems to me his advocacy of things like ayahuasca as a treatment for trauma are highly problematic.
@@dmt02459 Why would you think like that?
Аминь.
On the road to healing ❤️🩹
I KNOW all of these to be true. 😔 I watched someone I deeply loved struggle with addiction as an attempt to cope with all 6 of these deeply engrained effects of his trauma in his life. He ultimately lost the battle 💔 but at least he’s now in peace.
🙏🏻✨💕
@@createone100Your comment came right on time. Not sure why but I’m feeling a little ill and heavy today. Your acknowledgment means a lot! 🙏🏽✨💞
@@VanessaAbq God Bless you, and God Bless all of us who are helping those we hold most dear who are suffering from trauma. 💞
@@createone100 Thank you 🙏🏽 and amen! 💞
My brother lost his battle to addiction too, he was 29. You are not alone. We have some amazing guardian angels
You nailed it my friend
I'm almost 51 and I can't seem to climb out of this deep hole I fell in
Hang in there! I’m the same way.
1 separation from self
2 Disconnection from others
3 Altered worldview- to hostile as opposed to good
4 lifelong pain- pain that stays with you and results in constant escapism
5 cognitive development - trauma inhibits brain development
6 personal shame
7 difficulty being present
Thank you for writing them down ✍
Thank you. The chapters in the book of my life.
I know I have had guardian angels carrying me. My "childhood" bears no resemblance to that which most people experienced. No. I don't want to go through life from the stance of "victim", but I was a little tiny person! Paltry bits only of nurturing, care, attention, security. Abusive older siblings, I was handy scape goat.
I was on my own.
Always.
By 13 I had stopped living with either "parent", as in 1k miles away, not across town. I was legally emancipated @ 14 cuz I needed treatment for a bleeding ulcer.
This is the Truth. I am grateful for resiliance and innate positivity. Gifts to be sure. The good people who provided what my parents could not give: a safe environment and good role modeling until I was 18. These lyrics
"This is a lonely lonely life, sorrow is everywhere" (Paul Simon) are true, but "Resiliant" (by Apalachia Rising) is what keeps me going. 🚣♀️🙏🕊
my hero
@@yukio_saito yes thanks to this person for the list
That's me in a nutshell.
Wow. This is the most eloquent and powerful description of trauma I have never encountered. Everyone should watch this to understand what trauma is and how it affects everything: your view of world, your ability to connect to it, your sense of time, and above all, your sense of self
May we all live in a world that is trauma informed🙏🏽Thank you for sharing this.
How true. I always thought I was weirder than everyone else... But no, I've just been traumatized. Almost all the points sit on me + other issues. Finding books and videos about gabor opened my eyes to what has been weighing on me all my life. Now the only thing is...how to get out of it?
THE ENTIRE WORLD SHOULD BE LISTENING TO THIS MAN, THIS DR.
WHY, HE HAS NO FIXES...
I'm a retired psychiatrist and addiction medicine specialist, as well as recovering alcoholic/addict, and a great fan of Gabor, also of Hungarian descent. However, these 7 steps are very flawed and just seat of the pants speculations. Also, he never mentions the most powerful recovery tool, that has healed my own childhood trauma defenses: Group therapy, in my case, 12-step groups. We cannot make this journey alone. Finally, he avoids (?) the spiritual dimension, which is central in my recovery journey. Love and peace for one and all! Just don't try to do it alone.
Greatest Mind that heals and helps to navigate own self. Thank you, Dr. Mate! Respect and honour to listen to you.
Thank you for helping us that need it.
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It's true. I felt that disconnect out of body feeling. I started counting tiles in washroom and felt I don't see it, feel it asking myself why am I awake but asleep like in a blurr fog or not present. That was in 3rd grade. Uptill now the same. I am alive but aa if not fully awake ever. I can't hold a job. I have triggers all the time. I need attention but all I get is rejectiin. Yes, I married a narcissist who was beating me and I was running away but never escaping. I don't feel swlf worth. I need many things to fill the gap of my mother hating me never ever asking about me or being kind. I had never felt I was deserving of love happiness or money. Little to mention I tried to fill the role for other people to like me, having 30 odd jobs. Never was I longer on a job over a year.
Despite how it feels, please know that you do deserve love, happiness and money. It’s “normal” to feel how you feel given what you’ve been through. Hang in there. It can get better. I’m glad you came across this video and hope you have additional resources to rely on as well!
sorry for everything you are going through,i have been there to finally encounter Jesus..He was there all the time and turn everything for the better..i opened my heart and let Him in..may God touch your heatt and listen to your prayers in Jesus name.Amen🙏❤️
This man is a genius..
I’m new to his work and I have learned so much 😢
Without Gabor I would never have realized that it was the trauma my then pregnant mother experienced during Allied bombing raids in the Berlin of WWII. I've long contemplated why sudden loud noises startle and shake me to this day. Her then isolation in another country without close loved ones nearby, may have added to this challenging situation and had its traumatic effect on her babe (me). So how does one remedy such injuries 7+ decades later? It ain't easy, and it may never come to pass.
I have lifelong pain inside but also my body hurts most of the time. Sometimes I feel I have had enough of this. But listening to Gabor and searching to find what has been going on I slowly begin to feel beter and have hope for the future. I have no need and no wish to see or talk to my parents and brother again. In fact I would prefer that they just dissapear.
Sie sind Stark,Alles Gute,Täter sind Schwach!!!💌💌💌💌💌💌
The best explanation of trauma. 💙
All completely correct, thank you Gabor. X
I got the first 3, learned about total depravity, reading the Bible every year. I think forgiveness is a major key to conquering PTSD. My world view is definitely changed, but I don’t need the world to be a good place like I used to, I know it never was good. Look what it did to Jesus. Heaven is the good place we long for. Follow Christ, obey his commands, believe him! Let the world be wicked, and realize that you truly CAN’T trust most people. And realize that God already has a plan in place to deal with ALL of this mess, including your pain. He’s going to wipe every tear from your eyes and I can’t wait to see such perfect love!!!
I have learned so much from this man
We shall be well
So true and well put across. Hope it helps those parenting and significant adults to children, and those who have suffered.... sensitive and with no way to be out of such effects. Thankyou. Bless you.
He should write a book for pregnant moms…
What an amazing human being u are. Truly inspirational. I wish I can one have a theropy session with u.
Thank you blessed Gabor Mate Trauma survivor similar to yourself ! Thank you.
Confront-Deal-Heal & Move On ‼️
Spot on. Thanks for putting it in words for me.
I just came across your channel.
Very detailed information. Thank you so much. I understand what I've been dealing with now.
This is so eye opening!
Thanks DR Mate for sharing your wisdom.
Thank you for helping me.
Such a powerful healing light for humanity..🙏🙏🙏💠🌸💕🌺🥺
Another excellent video .✔️ 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
He is amazing ❤
These are profound knowledge 💐💐💐
I agree
Thank you It makes a lot sense what your saying, and you've helped me to understand things a little bit
The world is a very bad bad bad place lots of hurt and pain.
The hardest thing in life is to live.
3. Altered worldview
Bravo 👏👏👏.
I can relate, so informative and very helpful. Thank you 💯💜
I would love to watch the full series of these
There are countless long videos of Gabor Mate being interviewed. They are all good. Just start with one that calls you. ❤
Brilliant x
It’s a road of Awarness development making the unconscious conscious. I would probably say for the first 40 years I was 3% conscious. Now after a hell of a lot of work I am up to 30% conscious.
The body hold our secrets. I left my body to survive. Getting back in is my journey.
I'm recognizing me in different points...i'm very lucky 'cos even in bad sufference most of my life i've never need sustances or need to disappear...instead my love did it! Before the addiction then death from addiction...i've never understand his self destructive desire...he was a so special man and i have to live with my sorrow missing him all the time...
Endless Thanks for your sharng your wisdom!
You are a blessing to Humanity!
You deservena Nobel Prize Sir.
No, he is not original. His work is based on the late Carl Rogers.
I want to heal. I hope y’all are healing too.
Two other trauma experts to explore are Bruce Perry and Daniel Siegel. Like Dr Mate, they are amazing. As a former trauma therapist Dr. Mate, Dr Bruce Perry, & Dr
Siegel were my go to for training. 😉
I read Dr. Bruce Perry's book What Happened To You and loved it all the way until I got to the end. He and his friend Oprah say that the trauma "didn't happen TO YOU, it happened FOR YOU." and that is bullshit. Go tell that to people who were abused and not protected from harm. Tell that to children who grew up unwanted by their parents. What a disgusting thing to tell people. I am trauma informed. I believe in healing, but that is a harmful ideology. Like gaslighting victims to tell them it happened FOR THEM.
And to think everyone has trauma !... for this reason alone we all have the responsibility to be introspective rather than putting all the emphasis on the outside. Seems very few are.
Stuck. Everything in me tells me to leave. No place to go. Stuck.
There is hope!
Wow so true
I wish I didn’t know they are all true
I think until letting pain go rather than deal with it.😊
Exquisite 💚🌲
Attachments are pivotal to our well being - I love ur work @drGaborMate - I would love to hear your wisdom re: complex ptsd please
Wisdom? We all have it! GM is not a trained psychotherapist.
Dr Mate, I have to let you know that you you have helped my soul. I needed to understand in order to let go. I’m about to be 54. I am one of seven suffered severe trauma at 4 years old became an amputee no one would comfort me in the hospital all the adults too concerned who was to blame. I just needed a hug. ❤❤❤I am so grateful I saw this pop up for me on CZcams.. I was ready finally to hear this….you just lite the way the path to save me. I am forever grateful to finally set myself free from dabbling in the past, a lost soul in the dark. ❤❤❤ 🫂
ALL of the above.
Gut feeling and conscience are gifts from Jesus we should listen too. And turn to him and let him lead you. Forgiveness is important
story of my life
Makes total sense
The story of my life
I might have finally found someone who is actually teaching describing my 50yrs of being 😮
I’m not mad just interested
Every human being has experienced trauma. They just don't harm, destroy, or murder other people who don't even know them. Sociopaths do that. No excuses or exception to the rule 💯 👌 of law. No one else is responsible for your actions, only you.
Wow. All.
Lifelong pain for sure.
I don't have addiction, but I was abandoned prior to (she didn't acknowledge i existed) and just after birth. I wish I could find if this doctor talks about how to self-heal from being abandoned at birth.
How can I get rid of disability that caused by emotional trauma?
So how do I work to correct these and heal?
I must truly be disconnected with myself because I can honestly say I have NEVER had a gut feeling about anything.
Maybe u did without knowing...
How do rid yourself of trauma?
So what to do with them if there just here now wondering around lost unless or is it people who groupe up in bubble the issue ? Perception can be tricky 🤔
How do i subscribe
I got no traumas with me Alhamdulilah.
You know what works great on this? Eft Techniques, the clinical ones
What's the healing ? How one can get healing? How's happening healing from trauma?
Good therapist or self-healing
There are couple CZcams channels of clinical psychologist that are helpful. One is by Patrick Teehan. Also a book called Coming Home. I’m a trauma survivor so I hope the resources that are helping my self-healing helps you
@@tamraya23 if you're comfortable about speaking your own trauma could you talk about yours. I would like to know what trauma you have ? And thank you for your comment. I appreciate
@@artemiomusica5465 I grew up in a chaotic household with two parents, who grew up in dysfunctional families, constantly arguing and screaming at each other. They were physically and emotionally abusive to me and my siblings.
@@tamraya23 I understood. If you wish we can be friends.
@@artemiomusica5465 support groups would be better (online or in-person). If you can’t get yourself to go to an in-person one then consider online thru CZcams posts on for example the channel I mentioned or joining online support groups held by therapists. I wish you the best of luck in your healing journey 💜
It would be nice to attend the course but can’t afford it. Thanks
Hello, what would you like to attend to watch? Nearly everything we do is free. Perhaps we can help?
grief and rage constantly rape my soul
Ik the feeling...find a good therapist.
love trauma. There isnt a single thing in my life that isnt traumatised
You ❤️ trauma? 😂
Like during the past 3 years PUN when most sleeple were so scared for something invented and then trusted blindly the liars over those telling them the truth
Okay so when can I die and stop feeling awful
If’s not to explain the trauma hidden behind the violence of the self drama 🎭 in the war it’s overwhelming unacceptable for the defense of real of the country in not human souls the describing of self violence destroyed the others 😟🙏🏻.
First!
❤
So now what? I have been to a multitude of therapist over my lifetime with not much help. Everything cost money and exceedingly hard to find decent therapy.
Decent therapy only available thru the Word of God!
buy his book, & start helping your self heal❤❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🥰🥰
Hi. I know its hard, I have been through it and still dealing with it. Havent had therapy. Tried finding answers în so many ways and tried improving and forgiving. I know my parents didnt get what they needed from their parents and ended up treating us in certain ways. I think we have to work on it all the time, try finding the patience of being kinder with everyone around us. Just because this world is full of suffering, and we can try helping in any way we can. We forgive because we understand that certain people cant change because they are too engrained în their ways. Maybe inside they wish they could, maybe they dont..it doesnt matter. We have to try not acting like them. And if we do sometimes, try again. I wish I could take back the times I answered în anger or maybe I didnt do enough for others. I tried, and I keep trying to improve because I know I fall short of certain stuff. And I wish nobody would suffer, so that helps forgiving. Getting to Know God helps with everything, understanding Him and why we have this reality will help you change. I know He tells the truth and He wants us to go back to Him. This life is about us trying to get back to Him. Focus on that and you will see how you will finally understand why things happen the way they do and that will help you. I hope I made some sense. Wishing you all the best.
@@miyaiun4723 After many years of efforts and giving up and over the last two years, I just kept telling myself I am not giving up. I’m staying the course and I think finally I can see the end of the tunnel or some really great things that have happened. I’m off the Lyrica six months which is for the CRPS, which is a chronic pain condition, and I have reoccurring virus that I haven’t had in months as well so I’ve also been practicing heartbreak coherence and forgiveness and mirror work so I have some really good days, but I still have bad days. I agree with you totally it’s a lifelong thing, but at some point not only are we to find our way back to God but to become the person we came here to be. In other words to be the change you wanna see in the world. I’m finally beginning to really believe and feel that I can be happy and grow after a lifetime of struggling but I didn’t have all the things available to me like we do now and isn’t that a gift and something to be grateful for by the way gratitude is a huge key to all of this. There’s always something I can be grateful for. For your feedback, I send you love and wish you joy and peace.
Why’d to be right in the other sight is your right! What’s about the underlying you had not seen through your honor😟. It’s the manner or your drama drawings !
Thence the Out of your is the performance to be needed praise🤥😟, it’s not true for the other players was trusted you🙏🏻! What’s ever happened I accepted that to make it better.
👁
👍
Made me feel sick.. 😅
I can't sleep
I knew the root of my coming lede's suffering was TRAUMA the moment in which I was by my parents conceived. Surely, I have not been alone in this knowledge for 74 years. Now, when, finally, I am about to die from a life without a moment ever lived, at least I can give thanks at last for this wonderful man's finally opening the world's eyes to the source of all of its suffering. Dr. Mate is the only and true Messiah, far greater than any Christ who ever lived.
❤
He is not a hero, not an angel and definitely NOT the Messiah. So sorry for your suffering which also causes disconnection to YESHUA and Yahweh (God).
Sarella so sorry you’ve had that much pain in your life. But when strangers respond to you here no love ❤️ is real
Maybe you haven’t experienced much love but believe me lifes brought me to my knees many times - and these hells have been my blessings in hind sight
Love is real bc God is love. We are all of his creation just not Christ Jesus who came to teach us the way
Why did he come ? Bc the world had become so disconnected, lost in sin, so far from our creator father - that he came down in his Son to save us - show us the path back home.
You’re life is just a smaller play of why Christ came down to earth - if he did it for the world - he can do it for you my friend.
Your trauma just disconnected you from the love from all that truly is…. You can heal and its never too late - o/w I wouldnt be wasting my time
Just surrender to the Lord in prayer. Lay it all out - asked to be saved - what do you have to lose?
My friend just passed - LEE AKMAN 5-28-2023 NYC RIP - she was 100 yrs young. That means you have another 26 years - thats a whole lotta time to get back on track and live the life God meant you too
And its not about doing anything so forget that too old nonsense bullshit - it’s simply about BEING
Whether you’re a President or street sweeper - what matters is BEING connected to God, to source, living every moment in His presence
And thats all prayer is about - coming into his presence. In fact you’re in my morning prayers. Will be praying for your renewal in spirit - your trauma disconnected you from your spirit thats all - and with simple prayer and work you can get reconnected to source, God, Christ very easily. Baby steps of faith each day thats all.
A quick way I found to touch God when I was very low was to help those in worse position than me. Give to receive.
Believe me brother I do not waste my time. It is all possible and I hate to see anyone in unnecessary pain for any longer than they have to be.
I as lost too - for decades - its only 2 years now that I’ve been saved. I was like you in a state of hopelessness for many years…..but sometimes thats what it takes.
Thats why many drug addicts find Jesus… nothing brings. You down to nothing like a good drug habit, lol. But if it gets one to Christ well then damn thats a pretty good drug habit. 😅
You’re in my prayers. Just ask and yea shall receive. Just get started and NEVER GIVE UP - you will get there. Never too late. God bless 🙏🏼❤️
@sarella4 Even your last days can become beautiful! And no, I’m not gonna say you just need to give your life to Christ, yada, yada, yada. Once upon a time I was that person and would have said that but thankfully that period of my life is over.
Although that period of time in my life was a very authentic one for me, something still always felt “off.” It still irks me that people don’t understand you just can’t “pray” yourself out of depression, or that you must have sin in your life and need to repent, or whatever other things they may believe. Don’t get me wrong, I believe most people that believe those things have good intentions but they are also, to put it frankly, stuck in the rut of old, traditional beliefs that in the end, just can’t help everyone!
Anyway, that’s a different discussion for another day but my point is that once I started opening my mind, it turned out that the very things I had been taught to be bad” in Christianity were the very things that actually ended up helping me through the HARDEST days of my life and now I’m better than ever.
Obviously, I learned that there’s only “one way” but that there is A way (apart from religion) that can lead you to profound peace, joy, love, & gratitude. I know this because it’s my current experience and I hope from this point on, you will discover the things that lead you down the path where you find this to be your experience, too.
Best wishes!
Traume przechodzimy w praktyce niemalże codziennie.
O czym głośno się nie mówi.
Eu am avut o copilarie foarte fericita lacul meu zapada mea pamantul meu padurea si campiile izvorul meu caii si cainii mei
Cand am crescut am inceput sa fiu atacata pervers si de personaje pe care nici macar nu le cunosc
Libera exprimare! Si varietatea alegerii
Nu poti sa mi cenzurezi alegerile numai ca nu ti plac tie
I wish I didn't identify with every one of those
The frantic music at the end of this clip gave me trauma.
So, basically our dear Gabor is describing Complex PTSD symptoms: flashbacks, emotional self-numbing, toxic shame, reliving nightmares, chronic anxiety, hypervigilance, loss of basic trust, poor attachment behavior, and depression. I just got off the phone with my only living first cousin, who is a classic untreated alanon, and was evicted from her marital home several months ago in huge blow-up with her common-law husband, who she had been essentially enslaved to for 24 yrs., giving him about $80K for their common abode and nearly killing herself to get him to myriad treatments for small cell lung cancer, only to find out he had been smoking all along and his family hid this from her and were unsupportive of her efforts. Her toxic shame spewed in all directions and she was always angry, much like Donald Trump and his MAGAT followers. We have created a national minority of these poor souls by birthing children who we could not care for or protect from abuse. I am, also, one of these and my 12-step groups are filled with such dear souls. Please do not bring another unwanted/unplanned child into this dying world already past all its tipping points for full-on climate collapse.
Yes Gabor has mentioned the problems of our world "leaders" being broken people too Trump is strong and intelligent doesn't drink or smoke but I don't know that makes him an overly compassionate person or more so he had an America first attitude many think cruel but Canada can't even care for its own citizens and pretends it can help others? That's just a lie. Unfortunately about the children some women are in domestic abuse situations and being coerced by their spouse and family to breed and have the horror of knowing their childs life is or will b null and void as is their own. Shocking how many think having children will save a marriage or one abused kid needs a sibling for company etc. Certainly the justice system doesn't care much for victims either.
Love and peace for one and all, right? You should take heed of your other post, "Dr."
@@elisem1912 Well, I'm not you, so I must be doing something right.
If No understand what to explain by the parents it’s addictive of no self respect please 😟🙏🏻.
Ummm...what about those same descriptors for people in our OWN country! Hello! Wake up.
My love of voodoo dolls 🤔 “ that’s you that is”
Thankyou heard you Australian ABC Radio... trauma and misery from a capitalist exploitive money centric system we are not meant for the sausage factory (damn the colonizers)I live in my pumpkin shell work for three months take nine months off I'm not a spend thrift sunshine & birdsong bread & butter are enough for me.. slowly but surely we are doom are we not..?