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cooper ilysm but really? you too? 😭 temu is such a scam, it’s literally just a shein rebrand
Cooper, nooooo why 😶
temu more like tepoo
How can you break up if you aren’t even dating 💀
EXACTLY!?!? BUT ALSO THEY WERE ENGAGED AND IN LOVE!!! AND IF IT HURTS THIS BAD TO BREAK UP THEN YOU DEFINITELY WERE TOGETHER✋😭🤚 they are the most intentionally confusing people online
@@FilmCooperOMG COOPER KNOWS I AM ALIVE DUDE I AM CRYING OUT OF HAPPINESS RIGHT NOW
You can
@@Greutter1999 hoow tho like just how if you never dating you can't breake up there is a word for not dating and only having a sexual relationship but they didn't use it they said they never dated but were engaged and they broke up from nothing like wtf
@@itsnoneofyourbusiness0 it just means they aren't in the situationship anymore or they changed dynamics. Life is confusing, relationships are hard. Let people live and be confused and figure shit out. That's what we're here to do.
she's forever stuck trying to be the "cool girl who doesn't care" all while it hurts her. doesn't matter if a guy doesn't think you're the "chill" girl. it's about setting healthy boundaries and not setting yourself up to get used and hurt.
They sniff out the relaxed girl and keep pushing it until there's a reaction. It's like an ego boost to get a reaction out of the most stoic personalities. It's horrible.
@@genevievefuchs4574are there really people that bad
@@sateayamkremesI wish i could say no
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@@sateayamkremes Yeah the connections that narcissistic personalities make are for the sole purpose of gaining something and when they are not getting anything out of it anymore, they jump ship or throw a tantrum.
not the temu ad 💀
My thoughts too
Ooh ohh temu
@@Ajarofbimayonnaise-ys5ruooh oooh temuuu
NOO WUY TEMUU DEOSNT HE KNOW
@@Harperthe3d ooh ohh temu
He just wanted all the benefits of a relationship without being in one, I have followed her for a long time and you can tell she genuinely cared for him
Was in a situationship last year and it utterly broke my heart when it ended. We were both too afraid to admit feelings for each other and it ended with us separating completely
I feel a bit bad for her, because it seems like she convinced herself that she can't be upset, sad or angry at this guy, so she just tries so hard to convince everyone else that her situation is fine and that she is happy in it. She just records herself going "I'M HAPPY WE ARE HAPPY CAN'T YOU SEE HOW HAPPY WE ARE"
She's trying to be easy breezy
exactly. she’s trying to seem like the “chill, cool girl” which doesn’t exist :( it’s so sad. she’s gaslighting herself while simultaneously hurting, therefore she contradicts herself
What about the guy that just sits back and takes all her shit? I feel bad for dude, she’s nuts.
@@Town_Country96they are both pretty bad dude. i think the person who would be the first to say "we need some time apart so we can figure out what we actually want" would be the most sane in this scenario. but it doesn't seem like either of them will do that because both of them are prioritizing a rotting relationship over their healthy, young independent selves.
@@hyenaferrell8784 yea I agree with you. They are gonna look back on this in a few years a wonder why they dragged it out so long.
This "relationship" was always at the back of my mind, they tried so hard to explain things but all it sounded like was he wanted all the benefits of a relationship but without the responsibility of being in one.
You hit right on the nose you can tell she cares about him. But he just wants sex.
in one tiktok (idk if it’s still up) they were vaguely describing what they like about their relationship & salah was saying all this sentimental & goofy stuff and he said “i like that she gives me head whenever i want” 😐
@@savannahjane901gross.
@@savannahjane901bruh
Why really sucks is me now realizing this is exactly what my best friend did to me they would treat me like we were dating like a lotttt but then go off dating people and it did kinda hurt but we are not friends anymore and there true colors are really showing
"hey girl im uncomfortable with the way you process your emotions publicly but keep doing your thang😘😘"
--cooper, 2023
I usually say the “friendzone” doesn’t really exist (because as a concept it’s just pure entitlement), but actually… I think this is it, I think we found the real one.
It’s the „friendzone-datezone“ for me 😂
petition for cooper to have is own subreddit for random sh*t
edit: cmon cooper, almost 100 people signed 🤨
edit 2 🤪: WE GOT THE SUBREDDIT ITS R/WEIRDOTHINGS
signed.
Signed
Signed this seems needed for society
That's just r/196
signed.
he fell into the temu capitalism trap
Right kind of disappointing to see
I mean he is American
It’s both capitalist and socialist. Though nothing is free here. He has bills like everyone else
Lemme fix that
"He fell into the needing to pay the bills since CZcams doesnt give him enough so other companies have to support creators with deals they have a hard time refusing"
God damn yall are chronically online in replies. Thinking every creator in the world knows everything about every single company when you find it out.. my god.
It’s extremely upsetting
update on these people: salah has had 3 women come forward with their stories of how salah sa’d them.
Theres 2 more people now
As they say in the business,
BIG Yikes
how did you find that information btw?
She hasn't posted since either ☠️
Cooper, as it would turn out; The girl in the “situationship” SA’D a ton of other TikTok girls. You should cover that.
Receipts? Give us the tea
Was looking for this
i was lioterally second guessing if this was her because no one in the comments was talking about it. thank you.
Oh no Cooper has fallen to Temu
really hoping he doesnt put food in those containers :/
my exact thoughts 😕
I really hope this is the one and only time. It shouldn't have even been once :/
My exact thoughts it makes me really sad
@@nixxie119 ???
Please don't do brand deals with Temu, they're an awful company to support and it's disappointing to see.
can you explain why? i constantly see ads pushing their productsand an curious if there is any reason why they are particularly bad? i don’t support fast fashion shein etc bc of exploitation so is this the same thing?
@annabellez8397 fast fashion stuff abd stuff from China
@@annabellez8397They use illegal labor, such as abusive work environments, and use fake marketing and low quality products.
Thank you I was looking for this comment!I was kinda disappointed to see him supporting them
@@annabellez8397Temu is owned by the same parent company as Shien
Cooper I don't think you're going to see this but I am BEGGING you to revisit the Salah issue because apparently she's been accused of SA by *multiple* users (who all came out and told their stories before the original poster who started the whole thing even revealed who it was) and it's getting intense
just posted the same comment
Boost
Is there anywhere else we can learn more information?
Boost
Boossttt
She explains her situation like we are best friends. I’m so concerned about how much she shares on the internet. Like these types of delusional thoughts are usually shared over FaceTime with my friends ,and not for thousands to see.
I'm at the "homes with feelings" part and I think I figured it out. It's not as complicated as people are making it sound.
They're friends with benefits. That's it.
They're friends with benefits, one of them (probably her, based on her reactions) wants to make it serious and permanent, and the other person doesn't. The engagement stressed out the unwilling partner, while the willing partner got stressed about the other being stressed.
I think your right, it makes sense.
Your exactly right her having to actually admit it being fwb is too much and like a reality check so she gives it other names to mask what they are going through
Their a couple saying their just friends with benefits. Saying their just friends about are exclusive, but they don't call it that.
You’re right, but it still is toxic nonetheless. Whatever relationship they have going on isn’t healthy and is disorganized in a sense where they’re both confused and somewhat hurt in result, which isn’t okay in of itself at all
@@adrianasolari492 Agreed. She wants more, he doesn't. He doesn't want the dating label, so she has to make up other names to mask it, like Magenta said. "No, no, honey, we're not dating, we're uh... homies with feelings".
But then once she brings out the "engaged" label, he freaks out and realizes what's going on and wants nothing to do with it. But she's still madly in love and in total denial... That's why she looks so happy during the trip. She's still in love with him. It's really heartbreaking.
It's so harmful. She wants more, he's uninterested in anything other than s*x. He's just... using her, and she doesn't want to see it. I hope she gains some sense and finds someone that's good for her.
THEY BROKE UP?
how did they break up if they ARENT dating? WHATTTT
edit: yall, how did I start such an entertaining argument..?
You can break up with out dating. You don't have to label everything.
@Greutter1999 I don't think you get it, they aren't dating but they're in love, and they don't believe in marriage but they cut off their engagement, and they're best friends who are going through a tough break up but they are going to get back together in a year. if you have a better way to understand it then I'm cool with hearing you out BUT let's not hate on people trying to figure out what's going on ok? thanks 💕
@@Greutter1999then why are they using labels to describe their situation?
@@FEKana cause they're confused and that's fine. Life is weird, relationships are hard. Whatever just let people live.
@@Greutter1999no.
This girl supposedly has allegations against her of sexual assault.
They really took the “Friends that claim to not be dating but are dating” trope to seriously
Cooper, please don't continue to endorse Temu. I will continue to watch your videos/shorts, because you're absolutely hilarious, but really not jazzed that you took this one.
and the other weird sponsors recently
I mean he does have to pay bills at the end of the day, I totally get that they aren't ethical but you don't have to endorse them!
same…
@@zephyr4812but sponsoring them is endorsing them...
@@zephyr4812 I don't know how you can truly say that paying the bills in an unethical way is acceptable
There are allegations that temu is able to sell things for so cheap because they’re selling your personal data. I recommend looking into them heavily
the prices are low because temu are connected to the warehouses directly so the prices aren't marked up. they do sell ur data tho.
Everything sells your damn data at this point lmao
everything sells your data, that's not why they are so cheap. It's because they use sweatshops and essentially slave labor like shein
Literally everyone sells it, temu is no worse
The issue is mostly about unethical labour factories like shein. At least I personally see a bigger issue with that. Both are issues with so many of these cheap sketchy sites/apps
apparently she now has allegedly SA'D multiple women ???? Cooper you need to make a video talking about this omg
I understand a “friends with benefits” relationship but being engaged and not dating and shit is just crazy
This gives actual man-woman friendships an incredibly bad name. Heck, this gives ANY kind of friendship a bad name. This is NOT a friendship. If I, a straight woman, did what they did as “friends” to my straight female friend, she’d be creeped out and I’d be super uncomfortable! Friends don’t do this. On the same note, this gives a bad name to actual real and committed relationships as well. They think their relationship is superior to everyone else’s and it’s disgusting
Yeah with actual man-woman friendships the man dates who he wants and the woman dates who she wants but the man and woman are very much platonic friends
Untrue, me and my friend are similar, we are just friends though, he makes constant nsfw jokes towards me, you all are too close minded
I feel for Salah. I was manipulated by a guy I developed feelings for and it was a total situationship, one of those where you tell yourself “yeah we’re not officially together but we have a sort of unspoken understanding”. Essentially I knew we weren’t in an actual relationship but thought he had genuine affectionate feelings for me like I did for him. We slept together a lot and he constantly brought up how he didn’t want a relationship, and I would say “yeah I know, me too, that’s fine”. Then one day he tells me he just got in an actual official relationship with someone in his shared house and I didn’t hear from him since. That really hurt me. I genuinely thought we were actually friends. Took a long time to realise he was using me for sex and putting up with my ‘friendship’ just for the sex.
Take some responsibility…
@@jordyb57you’ve obviously never been in this relationship. These types of guys will gaslight, lie, even say “I love you” to get a little meow meow. I went through the same thing, and he stopped “talking to me” because his childhood crush moved back in high school. That was years ago and I learned a lot about what to look out for, but unless you go through it, you don’t know what to look out for.
oh my God girl did we "date" the same fucking guy
I have the EXACT same story, I support you with my whole being
I’m confused, if he explicitly told you he did not want a relationship with you, why did you think he had feelings for you? Did he lie/ manipulate you and tell you he had feelings for you, or did you just assume he had feelings for you because you slept together? Because if he made it clear he did not want a relationship with you, and made it clear he didn’t have romantic feelings for you, then it’s not really his fault that you agreed to sleep with him and told him that you didn’t want a relationship either. Friends (and even friends with benefits) don’t have feelings for each other, so if you agreed to be just friends with him then you shouldn’t have assumed he had feelings for you.
He probably stopped talking to you after he got into a relationship because it would be pretty inappropriate for someone in a relationship to still be close with someone who used to be their friend with benefits. However I do agree that if he was actually friends with you, then it’s shitty of him to ghost you suddenly instead of letting you know that he wasn’t able to be your friend anymore.
it's like a defense mechanism against being hurt by a relationship--if you don't agree to date, you can't break up, and that means you won't get hurt if the relationship ends! if only it were so simple
5 months later and this already needs another update, because man it's gotten spicier.
as a queer polyamorous person with a best friend who is basically my queerplatonic life partner, i tried to be understanding of their dynamic…but it’s like they haven’t even attempted to explain, they just said a bunch of surface level contradictory mumbo jumbo and expected people to not be confused or irritated by the unexplained concept
edit: i replied to a couple people with several sources and explanations about queerplatonic relationships but i can’t see those replies anymore, so idk if it’s a glitch on my end but if you can’t find those replies just lmk and i’ll type it out again :)
Like… separately, I understand some of it. Engaged, but don’t believe in marriage? Sure, you want the label of fiancé but don’t like marriage. But they’re not dating..? So, why want the label of something relatively serious such as fiancé? Sleep together (a lot), that’s fine, but you’re not dating anyone else? And you’re going to have a ceremony? But you’re still not together? BUT YOU’RE GOING TO LIVE TOGETHER “FOREVER”? Fiancés who live together who are not together romantically but sleep together and are not seeing anyone else and… just don’t use labels at this point. Or, if you don’t want people to get confused at it all, don’t post about it because it’s really confusing
It almost feels like they’re being intentionally confusing about it. Like the confusing aspect of their relationship seems like their MAIN thing
exactly like it makes queerplatonic ppl look bad (im queerplatonic, this is funny as fuck to me)
@@ParkadeParadesorry if this is a dumb question but how exactly is a queerplatonic relationship different from having a close friend?
hi, could you please explain what a QPR is and how it's different from a friendship? i've seen this term being used on tumblr for art requests but couldn't find any good explanations when i looked it up
how do you break up out of a situationship…? y’all were never official 😭
thats what i was wondering 😭 back to the friendzone?
I was wondering this as well do you just become enemies or strangers 😭😭
Yet they were engaged and committed to each other💀
@@mamorumobushi2217 but not a relationship way! its just a situationship😀
You can..they just mean the situationship is done
Just wait until you find out the new drama about them now😭😭
wait, what happened? 🤨🤨
What happened?
Tell uuusss
@@penguinesque3869 they have SA allegations
It’s the fact they could of just said friends with benefits
This woman is both aware and in denial of her self inflicted pain.
😭😩
Perfectly said
it's not self inflicted when he's manipulating her.
as someone who is currently in a situationship almost exactly like this, she can be 100% aware of whats happening and that she needs to leave but she keeps getting drawn back in and/or gaslit. its been so clear this entire time that she loves him sooo much and he doesn't want a relationship and is stringing her along. she can be just holding on to him desperately and accepting whatever crap she's getting because at least its something. its a crappy situation and its so hard to get out of even if you are completely aware.
I hope you get out soon. ❤ it took me years, I feel better now. Good luck
get out please! you will find someone who is all about you. don't let someone waste your time. I lost too many years doing that and still lost them anyways.
Leaving is a choice . No one is being forced to stay . You don’t need a reason to leave . And if you are aware of the gaslighting you are self aware enough to leave .
might be her stringing him along and manipulating him who knows
@@violetk8025exactly
Anyone else here after the allegations against the girl
Yes!! Was looking to see if someone else mentioned it
😅 yep
Bro literally the BEST background CZcamsr. His voice is so nice to listen too, and yet his rambles are enough to get me pumped
You are right this is toxic. And it’s infuriating to watch the girl cause everything she says is contradictory. But you have it backwards. The guy does NOT have feelings for her. And he is sending mixed messages constantly, which is why she gets more and more manic in these videos, while also the entire time trying to fit her mega feelings for this guy into the definitions he has predetermined as “best” and “healthy” for both of them. I guarantee you this lady has been gaslit to hell and back and feels absolutely crazy all the time, and then is also made to feel like out of the two she is the crazy one and needs help, and the dude is pretending like he isn’t the one who is making her feel that way. It’s emotional abuse. If you have a friend, and their relationship looks like this, especially when one is constantly explaining how great the other person is, while the other person seems almost indifferent to their being together… that friend is in a highly emotionally manipulative relationship. And it is almost damn near impossible to help you’re friend see that. So my prayers go to the girl and her mental health, and the guy should just straight walk off a cliff.
I was in a relationship like this and it was nothing but abuse and gaslighting if I tried to define our relationship at all. If I disagreed it was because I wasn't as "enlightened" as him. He was also 10 years older than me. Luckily I saw the light (when he threatened to unalive me if I left).
This is absolutely it; 100%
@@madmagdelenafr I could immediately tell he’s the one who didn’t want a label and just doesn’t want to commit to her and she’s just trying to roll with it bc she loves him.
All I can think of is this hilwrious weirdo who wrote an entire essay in the comments about how we're just being bigots by not accepting that these two are just aromantic. They were fighting for their lives to basically justify how words mean whatever we want them to mean and that this wasn't a situtionship, but a friendship with different parameters and Cooper is so bigoted and blah blah blah. This outcome seems inevitable.
@@madmagdelenaliterally been through the same situation… it’s wild he was also 10 years older than me. I didn’t see it the gaslighting and manipulation for awhile but I’m glad I’m not in that situation anymore. This comment section is really taking me back😵💫
doing a temu sponsorship at this point in time while being like a social conscious youtuber is truly embarrassing 😭 i’ve watched you for so long cooper but wtf was that
He's about to release a necklace and now I'm concerned about how the manufacturing of those necklaces. 😬
I mean youtubers do gotta make a living. Never assume that a youtuber, especially midsize youtubers, have free reign over the sponsorships they accept. Usually they just have to take the ones offered to them
@@cjboyo I'm not a hater, I just find it hard to believe that Cooper did his research. I'm sure he doesn't have a lot of sponsors, yet another reason why capitalism is broken. 💔
@@JeniJustJenifunny how temu (which you don't support) is made in a communist country so if capitalism is so broken I'm sure turning the country commie is a good way to join them in making sweatshop necklaces. I'm sure you'd like that 🙄
@@JeniJustJeni he gotta get the bag in one way or another 😭
there’s more nuance to this conversation than i can fully get into myself but in most cases i swear ‘situationships’ gotta count as some form of emotional abuse. have you ever spoken to someone who’s in a ‘situationship’ with a ‘friend’ who has zero real interest in them as a person? it’s like talking to someone who’s been brainwashed and held captive under a rock for years. FREE YOURSELF PLEASEEEE
nah we need an apology for that temu add, ukulele and all my guy😂
It is such a relief to watch Cooper get so riled up about things that don't involve him, because I do the exact same thing and I'm "petty" and "dramatic," but Coopers gets hundreds of thousands of subscribers
EDIT: NOT HATE! I love Cooper and have watched every single one of his videos. I was just making a joke lmao
is this a hate comment.
@@joshandcolbyobsessor It's very confusing whether they are actually happy or are just being spiteful
@@candle_wax3807 i think its both
It's because he's a male that is attractive and quirky enough about his pettiness to get away with it and makes it look lighthearted. I personally think he either tries to hard or is manic, but at least it's entertaining 75 percent of the time.
@@joshandcolbyobsessorno it was a joke, sorry for the confusion
He’s literally putting a necklace on her and she’s like “I’m going through the worse breakup of my life” GIRL BYE 💀👊
Crazy that salah is now under sexual assault accusations
You GOTTA do a follow up video on the new SA allegations 😭🤲
Edit: I liked my own comment
......he didn't just accept a sponsorship from Temu..... like get the bag ig??? But they're famously bad Cooper
They’re bad but I wouldn’t say famously given I only found out like a day or two ago that they run like shein
@@Sunnyomori649one thing is knowing a company is bad just on your own but another thing is not properly researching the company you share with your followers who may or may not know how they work.
@@yairahyasminyeah I don't understand the argument that CZcamsrs don't know, if you're doing a sponsorship with a company you have to do research on them as it's basically you endorsing them as an influencer, and especially as a commentary channel, makes no sense
@@yairahyasmin Literally this, idk how people can't understand that being individually ignorant of where you're buying from is one thing but accepting a sponsorship to advertise an unethical brand is entirely different. If you have a large platform you have a large duty of care to do thorough research on the brands you work with. Cooper seems like the kind of person who would make a video about those Shein brand trip influencers but he's doing a very similar thing.
Eeeeewwww I just went on their website and they are so obviously cheap and scammy wtf
Please make a Colleen ballinger apology for that sponsorship 💀💀
sighs…
grabs ukulele
BEST COMMENT OML
"Hi." ("Toxic Sponsorship") (Cooper's Version)(10 minute Version)(recorded live at long pond studio)
Cooper I know you prolly can’t say anything because of the sponsorship rules but give the people what they want 🤨🤨
@@jimbob1372Idk readswithcindy did a temu sponsorship, comments called her out and she immediately responded to those, I feel like he could say something
I feel sorry for her. Basically this guy has manipulated her into thinking what she thinks, and he gets all the benefits of a relationship without committing to it. Meanwhile she's committed "without actually saying it." It's sad.
Anyone else revisiting this after the new allegations against them? No means no, Salah.
"We're homies with feelies" is now my new favorite breakup line.
Lmao 💀
I feel like she fully believes that if she plays along with the "just friends" narrative and acts like a "cool girl" that one day he'll suddenly reciprocate her desire to be an official couple, which is super sad imo
Yep. That’s why she “tried” aka waited for the next year and a half hoping he’d realize she was the one for him all along.
im so glad people like you exist because i’m too lazy to do the research but i want to know every little thing lol. im excited someone else is as emotionally invested as me🤧
Coming back now after knowing what we do now...Cooper and our first instinct of not liking her and him was very accurate
dude whyyyyy is everyone letting temu sponsor them is this real life
is this just a fantasy
Caught in a landslide, no escape from reality
Temu is questionable, probably should not have partnered with them.
right?! honestly i’m very disappointed with him
How so? Curious...
I was thinking this too, always thought they were sketchy
@@Fiemus9 there is much evidence to suggest temu uses unethical labor practices. Questionable safety regulations, forced labor, etc
im praying he doesn’t know ☹️
i’d guarantee every time they “got engaged” it was at burning man type event and once the dr$gs wore off they’d get the ick about the reality of it.
I am convinced, that these fast pace tik tocks can only be enjoyed by like 15y olds. Because this hurts my 23yo brain. Gives me a headache and tension in my throat
Ugh I feel so much for Salah. I got sucked into one of these - I went on a date with a guy and was like IMMEDIATELY head over heels. I just thought he was the coolest, hottest guy on earth and he figured out what I ~liked~ really quickly so of course there was that. He’d talk about moving in together, names of our future babies, how fast he was falling for me. I was on cloud 9, thinking that I’d met my match finally! He cooked for me, cuddled me, slept over at my house, walked my dog, actually listen to me, all the boyfriend things. I talked to him about how I was ready to take the next step - be exclusive with him. He gave me some lines about “wanting to see where it goes” without the “pressure of a label.” Then he went radio silent. FOR A MONTH. I was heartbroken but chose to get back out there and try again - I wanted a husband and a family, and I wasn’t getting any younger. After that month, he showed back up, telling me he wanted to try again but with different boundaries. I agreed - the boundaries being that I could go on dates while he tried to make up his mind, and if he lost me, he lost me. Unfortunately for him, I met someone I liked almost as much, but who pursued me heavily - actual dates, planned in advance, and like all the gentlemanly things like pulling my chair out and stuff. Situationship guy wanted to ~come over~ but I told him I couldn’t because I had a date, and he got so upset - saying that he didn’t want to compete and that he wasn’t comfy with me “actively looking to give my heart away”
I remember bursting into tears reading that text because I felt like I was the one who had to compete for his time, and I had offered my heart to him and he’d said no!!
There’s a part of me that deeply wishes the first guy and I had worked out but I deserve someone who wants a family with me, and he didn’t…not really.
Sorry to vomit all that, I guess I was triggered 🥲😅😅
It sounds like a love bomber. They themselves are deeply insecure and hence "bomb" (overload) you with their "love". Signs of love bombing are intense flattery, early confessions of feelings, lots of gifts or/and attention and premature talks about a future together. The Goal is not to actually connect with the other person, but to overwhelm them, "sweep" them off their feet and in doing so, to gain emotional control over them. As soon as a love bomber has their partner "won over", they change their behaviour. They become hot and cold or all together distant. They either turn abusive/controlling or just leave, leaving you confused and chasing after them.
Love bombing can be intentional or unintentional. Either way; big red flag, Be glad it's over.
@sarahtaavetti yeah my ex was like that, was so sweet and loving for the first few months and then was distant and mean for the most part for a while after that. I'm trying really hard not to be like that too, since I'm dramatic and just generally overly affectionate ans I don't want those to become harmful behaviors
I need an ending! Are you still with the second guy?
Aw... I felt that. ❤ I hope you’re happy now.
oh bestie, i feel this. i just got out of one of those situations where the situationship guy tried to give me an ultimatum to choose either him or the new guy, and i picked the new guy, best choice i ever made.
he wanted you to stick around and wait for him, for him to possibly be ready for you in case he didn’t find anyone else, he wanted to have someone in his back pocket and couldn’t handle seeing you with someone else making you feel the way he could.
Kind of dissapointed cooper out of all people is supporting temu 😪 get that bag though ig
what’s wrong with temu? /gen
Yeah it’s sad
@@axxejoyI've been told they have like horrible conditions for the workers in the factories that make their super cheap stuff and possibly even child labour? Someone else might be able to tell you more
@@axxejoya lot of things I suggest you to look it up! But I will gives you the gist, takes your information, (such as credit card number, address etc) very un ethical basically shein, Very bad In general also I’m pretty sure they don’t pay their workers well at all
@@axxejoy essentially slave labour including child slave labour. on top of that temu hides any complaints and their arent company mysteriously disappears the people that spoke up. real sketchy and horrific shit.
At first I was like “oh, they’re just friends with benefits but with extra steps” but then when they mentioned marriage I was like “okay wtf-?”
You gotta do another video on this, saw some new drama about them online
This poor couple is so far past the delusion station that they can't even see the train anymore. Better to call it a situationship than ever risk getting your feelings hurt and feeling emotions. It's almost saddening to see
Why did my mind immediately go to the manipulation station
@@homo315 ALL ABOARD!
Ngl tho that is where the train allegory came from, "toxic gossip train" is a line I can't get out of my head
@@charlievanbeek3053 ikr I really dislike her and her apology was awful but the chorus went hard
@@homo315 she's a vile abusive horrific woman who cannot say sorry to save her life BUT that song does live in my head rent free
@@charlievanbeek3053it's been stuck in my head since it came out 😂
not the temu sponsor 😭 they’re getting to everyone right now. if anyone is considering actually giving them your money please do some more research and reconsider. do not give this snotball of a company any of your money
Best thing ever... "Hey girl, I'm uncomfortable with the way you process your emotions publicly". Lmao.
Some of the best advice on men I ever received was the following: pay attention to his words and his actions. Let the lesser of the two be what you base his feelings off.
If he’s saying he’s crazy about you but doesn’t ask you on a date, trust that he’s not into you enough to take you out even though he’s saying he is.
If he’s treating you like a gf bit saying he doesn’t want a gf, believe his words.
Petition for cooper to finally give a full story on what happened to his eye
what? something happened to his eye?
where do i sign?
From what I remember, he got the bruise when he was boxing
please cooper
@@sam-ly4gnthere’s a bump on his left eye, you can tell when he turns to the side when he watches the videos
Not attacking you or anything, but i would look up temu’s practices if i were you, not the best company to work with
The way he said "coconut" scratched the itch in my brain.
[TRIGGER WARNING] not to mention that it was revealed that she SA'd multiple other influencers. I haven't done my digging, but i heard about it.
as a aromantic and polyamorus person this would make complete sense if they just used different words and didn’t do it for views
can u explain please i am losing braincells
You should search the term "queerplatonic".
@@urrockstargf111 Being with someone, loving someone, having a sexual relationship with them, does not have to be romantic. being ‘in love’ for me is not romantic. i just love, its not rly different from friendship love but yet at the same time it is in a way. that part is hard to explain, sorry. either way. being with someone exclusively without calling it a relationship is technically meh. it is a relationship yeah. but i also understand if one does not want to use the term as it means something so specific in todays society, and it might feel more comfortable not calling it ‘being together’. I say if it wasnt for clout they would call it a relationship and keep their own private beliefs and rules of what that meant to themselves- unless theyd explain why they didn’t wanna call it a relationship.
the poly part gets a bit too personal to explain here as im scared ppl will come after me for some reason, but promising each other monogamy while at the same time being open for other things at other times is definitely possible with the right communication ❤️
I’m sorry, but I think that a lot of queerplatonic discourse comes from this assumption that romantic love is fundamentally different from platonic love and it really just… isn’t. The sexual/sensual intimacy element really is the primary divider there, at least from my perspective as a allosexual who thought I was on the aro/ace spectrum for awhile.
@@cjboyo methinks people can love their friends without wanting to be their lover.
It feels almost the same as like a middle school couple who says their not dating but its a huge issue when they hug someone else.
exactly what i was thinking
Yaaaaay! Relationship and engagement baiting for views! They’re being purposefully vague. The confusion keeps ppl coming back.
HOW HAS COOPER NOT COVERED THE SA ALLEGATIONS AGAINST SALAH AND THEO YET???
am i the only one who just doesnt understand why situationships exist? 💀they make literally no sense
i feel like the only people in situationships are the ones who have no communication 💀 like nobody who’s in a situationship is like “oh this is great love this wanna do this forever” LMFAO
@@tangerine1884 yeah fr XD
yea situationships suck. been there done that
I like situationships
Yeaaa they suck. Ive been in one before, we liked eachother bur we were allowed to date other people. Then we decided to be official and he asked a diff girl out 💀
cooper i love your content and i get that you have bills to pay but please please consider what brands you want to pitch to your audience
this this this…like..temu? really?
Yes i would like to add to this, please please please do not push fast fashion/manufacturing which is essentially shein and just as bad please! ! Cooper you are smarter than this and i thought you did a video on this too!!! Nothing is worth selling your soul to these brands!
agreed! I had the same thought❤
absolutely
The sponsors he's been taking lately have been REALLY bad. All scams or bullshit. Temu, that psychic lady, the bullshit fake Mac cleaning scamware... it's really disappointing.
Here we are 5 months later and 4 woman came out about SA allegations 👀
Thank you for doing the work. I have been getting random clips of these guys on my fyp and its to hard to follow lol
The thing is; she’s so totally in love with him. But he does not want to settle down. She’s just heartbroken and he’s an absolute a**hole in my opinion.
That's how I see it too!
Yea it’s such a bummer ooooofffff
I was on the verge of a panic attack but seeing you talk about this "situationship" actually calmed me down a bit.
I'm sorry, I'm glad that Cooper helped.
Hope ur doing better, panic attacks suck. 💖
ME TOO
Rewatch 19:05 if you ever feel a panic attack coming on again.
yo same! hope your day is going a bit smoother now.
Dude they are the ones who have the S.A. accusations popping up against them lately! Im not sure if the accusations were just against her or if they were some against him to. As i haven't read everything about it.
I’ve been watching this guy for like 5 hours…I can’t stop
not temu...please don't accept another sponsorship from them
As someone with abandonment and attachment issues, I think she’s delusional. I think she misses him and she’s taking the chance to pretend like they’re together as an unhealthy way to cope. I think she wants him and wants to be closer but he doesn’t want to date people, but she wants him in whatever ways she can. She’s desperate. She might have bpd (I have bpd and I used to do stuff like this)
I agree! 💯
Yeah she does have a lot of mental health issues I used to watch her TikToks a lot an she did go through a lot an there was a lot of abandonment and trauma She went through so I wouldn’t be surprised an I low key feel bad for her cuz it kinda seems like the dude is kinda racking advantage of her because I’m pretty sure she was homeless before meeting him but I’m not 100% sure about the last part
I’m non binary, but I’m Aro Ace…
This is more confusing than finding the will to not yell at a pick me girl.
I saw this in my recommended but forgot to save it and I’ve been looking for this video for months!!! So glad I found it
Hi Cooper! I love your videos and you never fail to make me laugh
Agreed. I’m surprised he’s doing an ad for them when he should be making a video on them
thanks for saying this! 100% agree - i think Temu might even be worse than Shein which is really saying something. we might not be paying the price for these incredibly cheap items but someone is along with our planet.
No hate to you, but an obscene amount of big companies are unethical. The notion that you not buying from a fast fashion industry somehow makes a difference to unethical practices is an idea created by capitalism. This idea just shifts the blame onto the consumer so that these unethical brands aren't held accountable. It's like using paper straws ect. We're made to believe that our decisions somehow have an impact, when in reality big oil companies and billionaires ect. are the ones destroying our planet. The majority of the population making a better decision would genuinely make zero impact.
They're not "poorly paid", they're enslaved
Agreed, kinda wasn’t expecting him to accept the sponsorship, guess he didn’t do his research. I understand that he needs to get that bag but I am not really happy with the fact that creators are supporting Temu while bashing on shein which is literally the same.
Cooper, Temu is just the new Shein, please don’t take any more sponsorships from them
Have you seen her recent multiple SA allegations ? pretty messed up
Now Salah is being accused of SA
AINT NO GODDAMN WAY HE GOT A SPONSOR FROM TEMU-
The way my mouth fell open when the sponsorship began 😭
@@bobbuilder3656dude same i was watching it on my tv and immediately paused it and came to mobile to see the comments 💀💀
Oh god Cooper got Temu'd. This is truly the end of days
TEMU'D LMAOO
I know this is a bit of topic but I just want to say how much I appreciate how much work you put into these videos it always cheers me up, and I absoulutley love your hair it looks amazing, please keep making videos you are truely amazing bro :3
The Gustav harpsichord bits are killing me 😂
What I'm getting from this "couple" is Theo probably has serious commitment issues, whilst Sa on the other hand, actually wants to be with him. But probably realizing that she has a higher chance of finding the cure for cancer, than being in an actual relationship with him. She decides to "settle" for what she thinks is ideal. Just from the way she's speaking about her being "heartbroken", or they've broken up, and he can "marry" her but not date her alone tells you her true feelings.
But then again you can't (I'm still going to anyways) blame either party cause they're both young and still coming to terms with what they want/except from a partner.
While I agree on her side. I just assume he's aromantic, I mean he literally said he's not interested in women or men and doesn't believe in relationships, sounds like someone that is aware of their lack of romantic attraction but not the actual orientation and name for it
@@reedsylvier5250 that's so true I didn't even take that into account.
It’s the opposite she says herself she has commitment issues idk why everyone automatically assumes he’s the one
hey cooper i really love your content and respect your opinions/ decisions, but please don't promote Temu as they are a really exploitative and shady company:(
I did not expect to find what I just found when I looked her up on TikTok after this 😅
They’re doing this for attention and it’s more annoying that people are giving them the attention over just ignoring them
“what’s up weirdos.” is what i look forward to every day
Ur so real for this
man me too
and the four fingers❤❤😂
I was so excited until you mentioned Temu being the sponsor. Temu is literally the next Shein
literally i clicked off the second i saw those damn orange bags
My smile fell off my face so quick.
i don’t think cooper knows… he needs to tho
@@katrinek-lg2wz it’s extremely hard to believe that he doesn’t know considering that his content is focused on trending media.
Temu + Shien + Fast fashion have been at the forefront of a lot of media lately.
@@StrawberryFeildsforNever that’s true. i just hope he realizes and stops. he’s a good guy, just these websites and shopping apps are absolutely horrible and he NEEDS to stop making money off of them.
You are literally the only CZcamsr that i dont skip the ads lol. Btw lots of love