How To Break The Psychic Connection With A Narcissist
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- čas přidán 18. 04. 2017
- Do you have the feeling that someone, perhaps a narcissist is crawling under your skin or even controlling your thoughts? You might be experiencing a psychic connection...
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I truly believe the hardest bond to break with a narcissist is the psychic tie.
When the narcissist still lives on inside of them - the abusive voice in their head, the reoccurring nightmares … and the feeling like the narcissist is coursing through their veins like shards of ice, or a foul black ink.
In my experience with this, and from helping thousands of people for many years recover as well, I know how REAL this psychic phenomenon is … and how hard it is to get free from it.
That is until we know HOW to.
That is what today’s episode is all about - HOW we get free for the psychic entrapments once and for all, and I can’t wait to share it with you:
I wish people who didn't understand what we went through watched this. It's not a normal relationship it's the most draining tiring and traumatic experience one can go through.
Amen!!
I thought I was going crazy!
I question if it’s even safe to even show them this , you’ll be prompting them how to conduct if you do , and they’ll think you’re crazy , they can’t feel anything other than superficial , remember they mimic ppl they mimic souls
If no-one believes you get them to watch Sam vaknin he's the world expert on this trust me his videos are the most accurate it's mind blowing
@Myles Blaze it’s not gonna work if ur parents are these people and u get abused everyday
My take away.....wounds leak energy and attracts predators in the same way a cut on the leg attracts sharks in the ocean. Rather than never taking a swim in the ocean again, heal the cut so that the sharks are no longer interested. This shifted something really big for me! Thank you, thank you!
Asha Brewer That's a great analogy. I will write that down to remind me how important it is to heal the wounds, as it is so important for our safety.
truthmerchant1 I actually always find that more discouraging that we heal our wounds out of pressure of survival. That's not a teaching from love. I don't know what to make of this but I'm sick and tired of rushing and rushing from trying and trying to heal just in order to survive. That's fucked up.
Asha Brewer Nice analogy!
Love
Asha Brewer good analogy
It’s spiritual warfare. Period
Yes need help
No such thing.
It truly is
💯 people who are spiritually blind don't understand this though. Soul ties can be broken through prayer and fasting 🙏
Totally agree
yep. I think the best way to break it is to remember what they've done to you, write it down and read & reread it. Next I prayed and prayed to God to loose me from it, because I sure didn't understand how to get free of this
oomybeauty Yeah same, i prayed to get cut the soul ties and the jezabel spirit. Then i found the quanta healing and that was an extra healing tool.
oomybeauty thanks for this! Prayer does work and yes constant prayer breaks spiritual chains, known as yokes. There is a demon or several behind this
oomybeauty This is exactly what I did.. I remember the 3 nastiest things he said about my children at the point of discard.. best friends for 10 years before the relationship.. Gob smacked but reminded me to meet my needs first.. Every one of my relationships have been with narcissists.. finally through research I am free from the cycle 💖
oomybeauty What I did was made voice recording of how I felt, why I was leaving and the things he did to me! So when he’s telling me what had happened and why I left (his version) I would listen to my recordings... the tone in my voice, how hurt I was, and the actual truth of the situations!
That is excellent suggestion!
YES!!! I think a demon is behind all this
Yes! I feel this giant negative energy on my back like an attachment. And I can hear him thinking of me. It's truly annoying
I can’t believe that even with no contact with them whatsoever, they can still draw narcissistic supply from you by just you thinking of them? How the hell is that even possible?!
Move slowly you can get out of this. I'm still going through the same thing. Thinking of shutting down my facebook account and create a new one and start a new life. I've been out and about victimized by narcissists. This is an era of narcissism. We need to survive.
Demonic...wicked mental and energy vampires. Anyone who mistreats u is satanic. Funk dat! What u need to do is spiritual warfare against all and any one of them. Take up your power and authority in the Blood of Jesus Christ the saviour. Renounce, rebuke, reject them... break, cut n severe every evil soul tie and evil contract n covenant u had between them with the power of God thru Jesus' Blood see them for who they are a toxic and relentless unrepentant enemies of your destiny, life and soul. Remove trauma bonds and be delivered from your own demons 2... its you or them that must live, flourish and survive so u must choose you n war for it. That's it! #DownwithBlackGooForever
No contact forever, remove every picture n item of them from everywhere and shut they shit down to the pit of hell. Banish and vanquish them out of the precious kindgom of your life in Jesus name. Its their demonic network n familiar spirits monitoring you low level satanists. These dung heaps are demon possessed only around to service satan as a destructive anti progress, anti humanitarian and parasitic force. Pests! Burn them with the power, might and light of the Lord! 🔥🔥🔥 God sees all knows every intention n inclination of their hearts and mind. Set the upstanding Angels of the Most High Creator after them. No one can withstand the glory of the Lord.
Cord cutting meditations, until you cut them n feel free, it works...be well.
Ashley T I feel like I wrote that 😳🤦🏾♀️
Nora Peace or them trying to play victim in your dreams 😫
If you work or live with a narcissist just evaluate how good it feels when they leave for a week or two, either for work or vacation. Feel the energy in your home or your work space how positive it becomes. When they return back from their trip the first thing they will do is evaluate the situation to see what they need to do to regain control again by using their master manipulation tactics. If you are a co dependent and kiss their feet when they return they know they have you in their web but if you are an independent thinker they have to try and weave an intricate web to get you to fall under their spell. Just look deep within yourself and see why you attracted the narcissist and you will find your weakness that they are able to see easy, once you find your weakness you will start to heal. Much love to all the empaths in the world!!!
I God, I wish I could block any energy from every narcissist. I will seal every wound. Amen.
@Annelies Bakker, why not refrase that to "God, plese block harmful energy from narcissists. I heal and seal every wound. Amen" instead of putting it into the future with "I wish" and "I will"? That is much more powerful.
@@kikki2012 amen!! We have authority over them.Rebuke them birds out of our lives
there is a deeply spiritual element to all this called demonic bindings. You MUST have "Deliverance " from this or you will never be truly free. I found deliverance through the great grace and power of Jesus of Nazareth
Amen!!!!! How did you get deliverance? I am living holy. I could use help. A prayer tp get this guy off of me. Im so tired.
the hardest part is getting your very soul and essence back,,they say time heals all wounds but for some you just learn to live with it and move on,,,for some they can be trapped forever or even commit suicide because the damage is very real,,,in my situation it felt like i was mind raped but i had no idea that these people existed until i found channels like these,,,,there is hope and help out there.Stay strong and live life
I attempted suicide because of the excruciating pain I felt from psychic attacks. I survived like I was then given strength to live and learn about so many people suffering in silence like I was. I still love and give because it reminds me I'm not one of them. Thank you for this comment it helped me in expressing my deepest pain.
I think the most important thing is to realize that once you stop talking to them for a couple of weeks, your life gets better and you slowly start building that light they sucked out of you once !! You don't want to go back to how you felt so hurt before. That weird connection goes away once you start realizing you are feeling so much better without them !! But honestly block all possible contact for at least a month and REALIZE you are able to live without them. These kind of people are light suckers. Good people give light to the others and these people will want to suck ALL OF YOUR LIGHT ALL AT ONCE. That's why you feel so empty inside every time you try to talk to them. Once you start building your own light again without them being in your life,you realize how precious your light is !!! Once you get your light back, you won't want to give that light to someone that does not deserve it. Also be aware that human brain eventually FORGETS. I don't even remember his face anymore after no contact for 2 months lol. I do get psychic attacks here and there,tho that's why I am here.
dd final how does the psychic connection start to begin with?
I don't know it is really weird.
dd final when did the psychic connection start?
We used to work together. Since we saw each other for the first time, I started daydreaming about him a lot. I never had so many daydreams for someone else before. He would look at my body when I passed by. That's what made me think that the reason why I daydream too much is because he is fantasying about me a lot. After I stopped talking to him, daydreams never seemed to end. I barely stopped daydreaming recently after a month of no contact. He thinks about me a lot I can tell. I can feel it sometimes very strongly. But I don't want him in my life because he is too young. He is only 19. I am 23. I am a very beautiful woman i have a lot of men around me.I know he wants my body but he is too shy to say it. I can feel that he fantasizes about me a lot. Because I feel horny all of a sudden for no apparent reason just the thought of him comes to my mind and i get horny. It is not that I want to have sex with him,i feel like i can hear his desires in my head. It never happened before with someone else. So to answer your question, since the first time i saw him. It makes me think that he is some type of a past life connection that's why this connection is so strong. But in this life I am happier without him. He brought me so much sadness because of his young and reckless language. He is a Gemini. I am a Scorpio. It would never work out anyway. Also it is more than just being horny. I get this dark cloud running thru my body. That dark cloud was not there before i met him. I can tell if he is feeling sad or horny or angry. Let me give you an example: Last week I was driving to Anaheim, and my thoughts about him became so overwhelming I felt like I had to exit the freeway!!!!! And guess what??? I saw him driving his new car that i have never seen before. I "knew" that was him even tho i did not know what his new car looked like. Then I saw his face and hair. Yes it was him. How do you explain that lol!!!???
Here There Everywhere so is the connection you had thought related? Can you confirm that it was?
Oh wow. You know I thought I was nuts. I feel so validated. Thank you.
My pleasure Jessica xoxox
I still feel like I'm crazy. I'm like what the hell is going on? I want to move on and date again.
Believe me I even want to kill myself because the narcissist messed me up internally, I felt like something is inside me that I need to get rid of but don't know how and for one year I don't know how did the narcissist successfully manipulated me to serve him and make him my world or my God.
No coincidence. They know exactly when the disconnection happens.
After 5 years apart I finally disconnected completely and started dating.
2 weeks later he was back in my city and being Hoovered full on.
Yes this I found to be VERY true , at the moment I made up my mind to disconnect from two individuals that only ever took but never gave out any kind of loving energy , they both got in contact within weeks of each other after not hearing from them in a long time ;D so yea they KNOW alright and it is a real challenge to stand ground but you do it until they lose interest in trying to knock you down so to speak
nerdrecipes mom
This happened to me to with several people. Felt so powerless after years that started to put out hateful energy to "push them away" but that only destroyed me. I never believed in any of this mumbo jumbo. Its gotten o where as soon as i spend even a millisecond thinking about something else they come back into my mind.
Before he would come back into my life I could feel it in my body, He would come into my dreams, and call my name, a lot of these psychos work voodoo too, beware!!
I also felt him and saw him in my dreams when he came to contact me again. 😣 I cannot believe what happened.
Exactly
I did too..but he swears he dont do it. Its happenimg right now. I feel dizzy and a hurt in me like a yearning
How do we stop it
Yes my ex narc from 20 years ago would come to me in dreams until this past week when i contacted him telling with unbridled truth everything i never got to say and told him if you continue to send any energy to me it will not make it to me and hit you back ten fold,so go ahead and be a sadist to yourself then cut him off not replying to him whatsoever. Also invision cutting his tentacles seeing him shrink and blow away.
The psychic connection you describe is so eerie.
Only God can save us ☺
"Create our own inner landscape as one where narcissists can't exist." This video answers my question I had this week about narcissists reading my mind and I was really obsessing about it. It also applies to any parasitic entity (even those disembodied) that can take up residence in us energetically. I have noticed that even after I get reiki or other healing modalities, it might work for a while, but slowly the old patterns come back. I think this has to do with the fact that while the energy healing does clear things up in the moment, the belief systems/software programs in me that have generated those toxic energies were never cleared and released. So over time, those energies/parasitic entities/narcissists come back because the root wasn't pulled out. I get it now...
You had me crying because almost all my relationships were this way. I'm learning to give love back to my younger self and all the times I was being fooled and manipulated by psychic attacks. I had no one at all to tell me different and another way. I guess they call this reparenting
I parented myself because of narcissistic parents. Then I married in to a narcissistic family. Now I'm redefining and reparenting myself. I pray you find peace always around manipulators. You can heal and never be fooled by anyone else. I also fear being tricked in to their narcissisties. I can only trust myself now, no one else just so I can preserve the love I have left in me for me.
I had to go back and analyzing my relationship with everyone. We are conditioned to these toxic/negative narcissist birds!
manipulating narcsts fool othrs
After 15 years since I thought I had severed every tie from my former NPD partner, she suddenly turns up renting an apartment next to my favourite coffee shop.
I am tired of avoiding my Life . . . so very tired.
Thank you, Ms Evans.
My deepest hurt is that she did not love me as I loved her.
Still, I can no longer cast pearls before swine.
I hate saying that, because I love everyone and don't want to denigrate anyone.
I nail my pain to the Holy Cross of JESUS.
Éamonn Síoċáin AMEN
Put ridiculous amounts of super bonder inside the key hole of her apartment door. This requires that the whole door knob must be changed. Keep doing this until she moves out.
it truly hurts to know and feel that... but you know it. Don't run from it, heal it and give the love to yourself
You still have soul ties with this person.
Ur right...am done giving pearls to swine
Very worthwhile video. No one ever talks about this! Blocking only takes energy. Best thing also to do is suck it up, take it, distill it and use it for creativity or for good Transmute it... become an Alchemist! Take it! Feed off their energy! That is what us Supernovas do!
Alchemise that shit
I was ghosted after years of abuse. I'm only one month of no contact since he ghosted. The nightmares, anxiety and powerlessness feeling you speak of are very difficult right now 😢
Thank you beautiful Melanie. Yes, their energy feels exactly how you described it-heat and heavy feeling in the upper back and shoulders, huge muscle tension, anxiety, which I knew was not mine. Feeling like thoughts are going uncontrollably. I first thought it was a soul connection but now I know it is a psychic attachment.
Maya Krasikova the exact feeling in my body. It’s like a grabbing in my neck. I’m not afraid of it anymore. He can’t have my energy if I protect
Myself.
This sob got me so bad, i had no clue until i went no contact out of instinct. He is just rotten, then started typing in his behavior and finding out about narcissists and now realizing everyone in my life has been one and i am completely disabled, never bale to work or function because thye have been feeding off of me but never feeding me back. Claiming love. More like control. A sick feeding off of giving. My parent gets off on giivng to people cause then thye give her attention, thank you, thank you and we feel we owe her. I mentioned this to her but she refuses. I love her, i have no one else, im lonely. I guess these are my weaknesses. I just had rotator cuff surgery that i regret, these lsychic vampires sucking off my Holy energy. How dare they?! No one has the right, i never gave my energy willingly. I never met anyone worthy. Saying that makes me feel like the narcissist. I cant even afford to eat or pay for my basic needs because of my co depenedance and now im so sick, my adrenals are shot, my thyroid is shot etc.
I get those feelings when doing the healing moduals and sharp pains in my head.
Melanie this is fantastic. I've never heard anybody talk of the psychic enmeshment. This has been the most confusing thing for me and yes like you say you can feel when they are thinking of you and very powerfully if they are re-idealizing you. I have had these experiences. Thank you for addressing this aspect of narcissistic abuse. Great video.
You are so welcome Winnie, I'm happy this video resonates for you hun xoxox
So true
What i cant stand is he is admitted negative person, to have such a purposefully dark person hold me in their mind, thinking about me, through their experiences and projecting THEIR gross, perverted ideas about me into their memory. So untrue.
This is exactly what I’ve been experiencing for the last 3 years. Strong energy when he thinks of me. Thought I was completely delusional. Thanks so much! Answers at last!
@@angelakey95 Cool
My Narc physically stalked me for over a year after I broke up with him. The day that he showed up my home (throwing rocks at my window and forced his way in), I told a friend that my anxiety had been through the roof with no apparent reason. I knew.
My higher power has me on the right path. Every single time I watch a video to work on myself, improve my recovery, it's AFTER I felt the same information INSIDE OF ME -that is also said in the videos.
Perhaps this can help someone too.
I think of who the REAL me is, or who I truly am, I don't want to hurt anyone, just to heal. Then I think of how this narcissist doesn't know that part of me. Just the codependent. I let go of the codependent persona that he wants to return to come back to him. I detach from that person-she isn't me anymore. I just be the ME I am. It takes practice. So far I can hold the thought for only so long. But I hope that that helps.
I've been searching for this kind of explanation for months. I always feel when they think about me, and sometimes I get immersed in the obsessive thinking/fear pattern, 2 years ago I almost lost contact with myself, it was one of the worse things that happened to me.
Thank you so much Melanie, your channel is helping me a LOT.
I'm ready to heal myself fully and stop attracting and getting fooled by this creatures once for all!
My pleasure Karime. I"m so glad this has helped. Love and blessings xoxox
You break free from narcs by in to ways by stopping the fear or anger guilt rejection all fears
It's the fear they feed off definitely inside us they do it unconsciously it's real
This is so true...the narc feels your energy vib ration and if you have disconnected..its scary...
Very true, they feel it and they then pull you back in...they never want to let you go.
I somehow feel or sense there is some type of “attachment” It feels dirty, thick and sloppy mud like goo. Almost like an overlay of “something”.
Wow! I never thought i’d find another person who understood this feeling. At a certain point I had to force myself into intimacy with my ex because of this feeling.
A SICK SADISTIC SHIT SHOW!!
SCK SADISTIC SHIT SHOW
Yes we'll said I felt that too... Some of us can actually feel that energy and tell the difference and what is what
@@dianezielinski462 but what is sadist? Are they secretly sadists? I keep hearing this word lately regarding narcissists. Can you explain?
Been there. It nearly killed me. Thanks for these reminders! 🦋🦋
Same here.
Scary right. I thought I won't survive.
@@caseyanneaustria6625 plz help me idk how to get rid of it
This is such an important video. The psychic connection is the hardest to let go of and in my experience it does not change when the narcissists have passed on. They don't magically discard their narcissism and certainly not in your own head. I had to spiritually disconnect and go no contact in order to regain my own psychic freedom and connect with my own creativity and inner self-confidence. Thank you Melanie for articulating this dilemma and suggesting solutions.
I use to get Awful Stomach aches just before he contacted me.. Worst case of Butterflys, lol..
lashawn ward I had the same thing happen!!
Yep
Me too! Weirdest thing I ever experienced in my life! I almost threw up! And as soon as he was goe-The sickness was gone! I took a very hot shower afterwards. Ugh
Wait!!!!! Me too! I didn't need a ring tone cause I knew when he was to about msg me. I felt crazy when I noticed this. The Last 2 msgs I didn't feel him, I knew I was healed. I feel nothing now ( maybe because he aint thinking about me too lol)
Now I want to make sure I never repeat these actions again!
That stomach drop feeling then a burning sensation just by seeing a text from the narcissist, everything inside of us are screaming to stay away. I know that now more than 2 years ago, I'm constantly learning about this. It's crucial to protect our energy from invasion. It's also, like they have a sixth sense and feel you healing, mine just texted when he felt me shift. This is amazing and I feel empowered rather than less than him. This is a fight for your soul.
Many do it unconsciously
It's just who they are. They react so easily. It's in the DNA.
I think about her when I look at what I lost. Time.
Time is also money. My retirement gone at 63 is a scary place. I dont have children. It's just me. Alone in a room. Thanks to Mel I have hope.
Just bought crypto and started investing again. Tiny amounts but I have started
Sorry to hear of your difficulty, but it sounds like you're doing a really good job also well dine for breaking free!
An old post but hope you are now recovered x
I prayed for release from soul ties, and I feel the freedom of the break in soul ties
I use spiritual warfare. Binding 2 narcs from doing any evil to me, anyone, and any animals in the name of Jesus Christ. Its a real soul ties that can be broken. These are demons.
23 Psalm Hi, I am trying to learn about demons. I know they are very real. Do you recommend any resources? I am under attack or worse (possessed) due to my weakened emotional/mental state from being raised by 2 narc parents. Thanks for any help you can give.
Judy B. - Get on your knees and recite the Lords Prayer and 23rd Psalm, you tell that jezebel spirit she is not welcome in your soul and body (say it over and over), tell God everything you have sinned, ask for forgiveness. Everyday...throughout the day repeat the Lords Prayer and the 23rd Psalm. Say it out loud. Say out loud also...I rebuke you satan and all evildoers in the name of Jesus Christ who died on the cross for my sins. Your home- take olive oil and put crosses over the windows and doors and buy crosses...place them over the doorways. These evil shitbag demons will not like what your doing. The bastards will burn in hell. Fuck 'em. These narcs run on a pattern...ridiculously similar if not parallel. Go no contact for your sanity. To watch on youtube Lloyd Chin (pastor), Kim Wilson TV, Sam Vaknin, HG Tudor, Sasha Slone. May God be with you and place a hedge of protection around you. Make your light shine.
23 Psalm Thank you much! I will do what you say. Spiritual warfare is tough difficult stuff. I'll be working with a priest soon. Please pray for me. I've prayed for you. I am NC with my narc parents and brother.
23 Psalm
Yep, absolutely. There is a spiritual realm, Melanie just explains this in a technological way. But, it is very real. Frankincense oil is the most strongest demon repellent.
Yes correct. I had to use a lot of faith and prayers to break free from the jezebel spirit. I have some jezebel videos on my channel. Learn to abandon reject neglect and dismiss this spirit and step into your authority.
Wow I definitely have been violated and it woke me up in the middle of a deep sleep. That's when I realized it wasn't natural and started educating myself on the narcissist.
Wow! This is Exactly what I experience A LOT of the time. Since a lot of the abuse was sexual, it usually hits me when I feel desire for my husband, it makes me fear that desire, makes making love an onligation, or if a small mishap happens during, like rolled the wrong way and got a kink in my neck or something, it makes me feel that it's my fault and I'm undeserving of this experience of intimacy. Sometimes it's when I feel unable to make love. I can almost hear my ex telling me I'm missing out, I won't deserve it next time I want it. When I voice it out loud, my husband listens, knowing that it helps me to let it out, he sometimes reassures me, sometimes I don't need the reassurance. And it feels like HE, the narc, is there, does not want me to be happy, to feel desired, to feel content or satisfied with my life. It's so strange. I didn't know it was a psychic connection. I always described it as an imprint of his presence, or an invisible brain implant, but I thought it was due to the trauma, not an actual psychic connection. And yet I experience telepathy with people like my husband or my mother. Just the other day, I was sick, she was coming over to check up on me, in my dream she said she was leaving later than she thought. I woke up right after, 15 minutes later she arrived and said the exact same thing. I dreamt it at the precise moment she left the house to come to mine. So I know that these connections exist and they can be a good thing, when it's with someone you care about. I never thought it would be that with the narc, but it just makes so much sense. In a couple of weeks I will be starting EFT to help find some of those childhood rooted thought patterns and weed out some of the trauma. I'm sure it'll help with this as well.
DarthShadie you said it well.
I feel captive in my own body, my own head.
I have never heard of this until this year. I have been so oblivious and naive. I have had the worst nightmares of my life in the last four years. He was cheating, lying, deceiving, yelling, accusing me of all the things he was doing. I felt nuts. I put myself in counseling sessions and churches. I couldn't figure it out. He has verbally tried to destroy me. I am letting him go. I am evolving, not dissolving. I am going to thrive, and smile again, too. Because there's nothing left to do or say.
I have noticed that whenever I think about negative memories of what he did to me. I start receiving text messages from unknown phone numbers and I block them but who ever is sending these texts messages doesn't
seems to want to stop. I truly believe that my soon to be ex-husband is the one who still wants to harass me I'm this manner.
This is all spiritual..and demons can work through the phone. I wouldnt have believed if it didnt happen to me. Agapekind ministry witchcraft prayer parts 1 2 and 3 stopped it, found on youtube. You must give your life to christ. There is another one called demonic networks working against you that is effective also.
When you're going through hell, face it head on and keep going... Thank you
Oh my God. Yes I can sense him! I start dreaming of him.it happens most when I'm happy.
The controll is mind blowing and painful
It can feel this way Sandra. But you can break this connection. Hang in there. The answers are coming. Love and blessings xoxox
You have described the feelings perfectly. My husband is a covert narcissist. When he is out of time, I bless my home to get rid of the negative energy. I feel at peace as long as he's not home.
Dreams?...I would say nightmares🚽
Lyn Good Freud got the word trauma from the German word for dream (traum) 🧛🏼♂️
Me too
I've had to break no contact twice. Six weeks apart. It's insane how physically weak I got till I sent him a text yesterday. I was ignored and I felt so much relief after I sent the text and even more relief that he didn't reply. I'm not blocked. He won't give me closure. My body ached so bad. My mind, I couldn't piece together what I wanted to say. But after I texted him, it all went away. I wasn't sad that he didn't reply. I thought it was all in my head but then I found this video.
Been there in the past. Makes you more vulnerable to hoovering
Melanie I feel like you are speaking directly to me. Everything you say is exactly my experience... Thank you.
Everytime i walk down the street and a narc is near we share and exchange psychic energy... it's so annoying and draining.. :/
We have wounds in our soul...
And the darkness shall seek out the light and destroy it. ...Not all encounters with Narcs are soul contracts or karmic as they have their own radar to seek out those filled with light and joy which they don't have with the hopes of destroying it, as a narcissist doesn't understand this lifetime and their own path.
My narc used to tell me that he would talk to me in his head and have full conversations with me...since no contact I can feel him summoning me..it is the first time that I have gone no contact.
I can even sense when he is nearby
Years ago I formed a very strong bond with a male friend. In so many ways he became like my best friend and we would dine together on a weekly basic and even shop together and have long conversations. He was a foodie like me. I decided to end our friendship because it literally turned toxic after 5 years so went no contact. I missed spending time. I had the worst time detaching myself but finally was successful. Now... there's another person who is on my mind constantly. Really wanting to be happy for this person and realize he was there to teach me some valuable life lessons but that I was not meant to be a closer friend. Your video is helpful. Being pushed away before I could call him an intimate friend still makes me disappointed feeling under valued. Needing tips to get him out of my head, have tried imagining him happy with his family and saying that enough for him. He is an overt Narc and very successful, good looking and capable of bringing me to extreme highs and lows. Will listen to what you recommend. In general its a tough road of acceptance that lies before me. .
How's it going now?
I had the worst weekend, all in my feelings about the narc. Then I realized his birthday is this week and of course I was the one who always tried to make it very special. So my body was literally responding to what I wanted to do. I'm not even sending a text this year, that's huge for me because I normally do much more. We had a convo about 1 of our kids earlier in the week and I literally felt like I had hives after. I didn't realize how my body has finally built up a defense to his nastiness. I'm grateful though. No contact (as much as you can) is a challenge but necessary to your entire well being and sanity. Best wishes to all!
Lady Coni Hookfin well said
I thank god for people like you Melanie. I firstly, I didn't not think one human being could treat another like this and secondly I was dumb enough to not think woman could do this. It took work like yours to wake me up. Now that I'm out the psychic trauma has been relentless, I really thought I was mad thank you so much for your help, you are an angel sent to help us wounded souls, Namaste
I'm shocked and relieved to have found this video, I was convinced that I had a connection with my ex, every time I was up she was down and vice Versa. And when we split up it would be at the point when I was just pulling myself back together that she would make contact and reel me back in!! But I seriously thought I was going mad. Thank you for your videos, they really have pulled me out of a very dark place
I have also stopped running away from it.
There people are everywhere so I have to change my reaction to to it.
I sit with the feeling and understand that it is a trigger and then I'm able to just be me.
I have noticed that people that are safe come to me.
Great stuff.
Thank you for sharing this. I need the encouragement.
Found this very useful. I have just discovered I am an empath and I'm trying to work on it. My husbands brothers wife is a narc and a few "friends" have been narcs too
I have experienced what Melanie said at 5:30 and I'm so glad that she addressed the reason- after months or over a year after starting healing, the narc feels an energy disconnect and makes contact. It always freaks me out and I felt like maybe I attracted him somehow- something still wounded in me that attracted him again. But I didn't think of this.
Did u bring it I need help
I realized that when I’d think of him I’d talk to him resentfully as if we were in contact- but now I think that’s basically telepathy - so I’m going to try not addressing him in my head anymore , I’ll talk to myself or to god.
I had JUST pulled this video up to play, paused it, and for some reason, got up to go look out window...narc was pulling down street and into driveway, after texting a few hrs ago telling me he was not going to show up today. This happens FREQUENTLY. His vehicle is not loud, and I would not be able to hear it before it even shows up on the road the house is on! Scary how "connected" we are. I look forward to the day when I am NOT in any way, shape, or form connected to this evil person! I despise it.
So glad you've brought this up - I've been struggling with this for 17years I'm now 60 and feel like I've missed what should have been the best years of my life.
I urgently need this next step --releasing/canceling the tie from its origin root, and knowing what the reason for the tie was in the first place! I love your insight. Thank you, as I am working very hard to get out of this.
I'm so grateful that I found this. Thank you! I thought I was going crazy. I know when he's thinking about me, I know when he's going to call, I was 2500 miles away and I physically felt him as he injected drugs into his system. I've NEVER touch needles, and he never did anything like that when we were together, so this wasn't a common practice. I just felt it and I knew. WTF?!
I'm so glad I found you on here not many mentors discus the abuse on this level this is where in at right now thankyou
You are so welcome Chia hun! Love and blessings xoxox
So this!!!
We practiced psychic connection when we were together... (weirdly he would joke he was a vampire too).
Its scary I cant cut off from him, its a proper take over it hurts at times. I can feel exactly when.
Ive been bedbound (again) with fibromyalgia etc since he left and took my heart and sanity with him, and its almost like he torments me every night too. I hate the takeovers its also like electric in my body.
I have too many wounds its impossible to heal. (He made it quite clear Im to broken to be fixed :'( .. ) Ive gone through way, way, way to much in my life begining to end to believe I could fully heal, and all the hard inner work I did in the past (and with him) never really helped , just helped me cling on for dear life. Im sooo drained in all ways..
And I cant afford the system at the moment.
So completely true, I know when he is doing bad and when he is thinking about me. I feel like I did when I was with him at those times, instead of physically being with him I am just sensing what he is thinking and it causes me high levels of stress as if he was there. It is cool to learn others experience the same thing... I think it is because we are highly sensitive and usually have tuned psychic gifts that are acting like curses- when it comes to picking up on the narcissist . 😝
thank you for talking about this! My nex and I are psychically connected. He can wake me up from my sleep with his thoughts. He can fantasize about me and I feel it in my body. I hear his thoughts at times and feel his feelings. His fearful thoughts make me shiver. His loving thoughts used to heat me up to the point I was sweating. I feel like I've lost myself to some degree. But he always seem to be astounded by our connection when I gave him proof of it. I recently realized that's been his primary form of hoovering me...cause I used to make contact with him when I would feel him. I've gotten better at ignoring him tho.
My pleasure Nicole. Have you connected with my free resources? it will explain some more to you and offer you a way to break the psychic connection www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse xoxox
NICOLE HJELTE Wow.... I've experienced this as well. But then again I'll rationalize it. I'll come up any excuse to say why this could be happening, by... not believing this could actually be happening. Like saying it's just insomnia, I need to eat healthier, no caffeine, or I need to get back on a good bed schedule etc. Tried all of these and some more & still was awakened out of my sleep a lot of nights with dreams & thoughts of him smh. This stuff has to be real. I don't think it's just coincidences anymore.
You need to pray to break the soul tie.....
NICOLE HJELTE Jesus this phenomenon is real I too have experienced some of these symptoms myself but seeing that I’m a guy I would rather die before I admit anything like this out loud but it’s true.
I went no contact last night. Actual real no contact, I blocked him on everything. I feel so lost and I think about him constantly. Please pray that I am able to continue the no contact because I feel he is not good for me.
Hi dear Donna. Sweetheart the withdrawal when we go No Contact can be incredibly challenging I know. Please see my resource here for more indepth explanation about this.
blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-answer-to-narcissistic-abuse-that-no-is-talking-about-peptide-addiction/ Love to you xoxox
Thank you for this video. I'm about 7 months out of a 3 yr long realtionship with one of these kinds of people. While I feel over them as a person, there's the "psychic" kind of link you allude to. I've described it as "It feels like I have a film on my skin... but it's not on my skin". A lingering of their pessimistic, depressive energy that found itself into me. Long story short, your advice is what I've needed more than other types. I'm battling to get myself back.
Love and peace. Fear and gratitude cannot co-exist.
I am so pleased this information helps Lux xoxox
Okay, this is really scary and explains so much. I've been with my N off and on for 12 years. His favorite thing to do is the silent treatment for days, weeks, months and even an entire year once. Every time he is gone the N is in my dreams! The dream is either about him or he is just present within the dream. I could never figure out why I couldn't stop dreaming about him until now....WOW!!!
Alysa I’ve never had such lucid dreams - ever ...it’s like watching two people have an interaction in real life - I can feel my arms around her etc ...hope you’re getting free! Thanks for your post!
Thank you. It is a struggle every day
Alysa exactly ♥️
I thought I’d only dreamt about him twice but, come to think of it, over a year of nightmares where I wake up, literally physically fighting some black entity (him?)which is in my bedroom attacking me. My daughter would wake me having heard me shouting. Then, an enormous bull snorting in the dark through the glass of the front door but a glorious, brightly coloured, tall man standing calmly in my hallway and the bull could not ever hope to get in. Painful neck and shoulders. All the such similar stories.
I went for dinner with him ( 2 years on!) and saw the black eyes thing as he was lying to me. Stood for what I know to be true. Held his gaze and he fled outside. Definitely a human soul in there for which I feel great compassion but ,something else as well which would like to bring us down and pull our joy into a black hole. Nearly finished me . Still here though.
This is so very accurate to everything I am experiencing. You have such a talent in your ability to describe it and unravel it all. Amazing
Thankyou
I had the most Beau dream about him. He stopped his work. Came out to the town square and kissed me publicly in the sweetest way. I was so happy. I was hugging him and imagining we would need a garage for both our SUVs. What a silly girl! 😢
that explains why I used to see my sociopathic ex and also guy who has hurt me the most who I think is a narcissist in dreams a while ago, now since I met a new guy who is kind and gently and a real man the dreams of both my ex and the other guy that has hurt me most don't happen very often anymore
I've been wounded since birth from my father. He's crippled me in so many ways. I honestly don't think that I'll ever recover. Maybe, just maybe, many years after his passing, will I be able to see the world with new eyes. While that man is on this planet, I will have no peace. He's made sure of that. It wasn't until someone else finally said that he was a narcissist that we started looking into it. As a young man, I daydreamed about putting a gun to my head and blowing my brains out right in front of him. That was the only way that I imagined I could "win" and escape at the same time. When I was 17 years old, I did just that. I got blitzed drunk and waited for him to come home. All I remember was waking up in a jail cell. They told me that I had shot my father, and that's what I was charged with. He had pulled the gun away right as I pulled the trigger. I spent time in prison and years on probation.
Also journaling is helping to up level the childhood trauma. I realised that I've carried this childhood wounding since I was very very small. It has had an amazingly negative influence on my life. Mainly in the form of low self esteem, low confidence, lack of self belief unworthiness, guilt, shame, never feeling good enough or worthy of love or the good things in life. It's only recently, in the last 18 months- 2 years that I have had my eyes opened to what is the reality of my upbringing and the negativity that it brought to my existence. The sadness of it all is that I am none of the things that I was made to believe that I was. I am a hugely talented and capable individual. I am an artist, by profession, and I believe that I began to paint and create in order to deal with early childhood trauma. I started to paint and draw at a very young age (4) and have done so ever since for my whole life, up until today. I'm 52. I now believe that my art was always my therapy and, to a point, it saved me. My mother still denigrates my work, has rarely made an appearance at any of the 100's of Private Viewings that I have invited her too. She used to make a point of not turning up or of turning up to humiliate me or make suggestive remarks as if I am not worthy to have my work on the walls. I no longer invite her. I would like to cut my family off, because it's such a damaging dynamic. Recently my mother announced that she is dying and that when she dies my sister and her very wealthy partner are to come to the house and put all of the house contents into a skip. This would include a selection of artworks that i have gifted to my parents since I started my artistic career, professionally at aged 24 when I hired my first studio. Also they have some very early pieces, made at the age of sixteen. They have a large part of my artistic development and heritage. Despite my mother denigrating my work, she knows that they have a substantial amount of my artistic heritage, in reality. Now she knows that this is important and significant to me and I sense that she is to use this in order to further manipulate me throughout her final months of her life. I wish that I could let this go, but I can't see how. My elder sister was/is the golden child, in the malfunctioning family dynamic, my father was/is the the enabler and my younger brother was/is the flying monkey. I was the scapegoat. I was the scapegoat because I was the middle or mediator child. I was/am very sensitive and intuitive. A natural empath and animal lover. I was also very placid and 'different' because of my artistic nature. I was also very trusting and naive and would easily accept what a person might tell me, without question. I'm naturally very honest and open with people. I will readily say what's on my mind. My core belief is truth, and so lying goes against my nature. I believed what I was told because I could not conceive of lies. I was used to accepting blame and this acceptance led me into staying so long in Narc/emotionally abusive partnerships. I was used to carrying the blame from early childhood. So much so that I sought relationships and situations where I would be targeted as a scapegoat or dumping ground. The role of scapegoat had been given to me from year dot, and it became comfortable for me. Until I started to research NPD I had had no idea why I was so internally wounded. Thank you Melanie for your informative, helpful and life saving videos. Without them, I think that I would have stayed on the hamster wheel of torture for much longer or forever ! I am in healing, after the grieving stage, and I am still suffering effects of PTSD. It's the hardest work sometimes to up level and stay focused on healing. I will do it, and I hope that I will be able to use my experience to help others. I did not realise that I am a light worker and that all my experiences that have been with people and situations who have attempted to 'block' or 'steal' my light giving energy, are the same things that have brought me to my own conscious healing. You must feel blessed to be helping so many individuals who have been through such horror and have felt so desperate. Thank you again. I will continue to watch and learn from your videos.
Wow. This post is from 2017 and I just found it in 2021. Not an accident. 2017 was the year I should have let him go for the last and final time. But... Yes, he knows all my triggers and for 2 years I have been 'STUCK' in the belief that he would 'see the light' and return to our one true love. Thank you for this post. The pain at the base of my neck started about 3 days ago. I was trying to remember how I hurt my neck. I did a clearing ritual this morning. I surrounded myself with a white dome. My power is returning and I already feel free from his constant pull. As I watched this video he texted me. "Thinking of you. Hope you have a good morning'. I shut off my phone. Twin Flame or not.. This is the 3rd time in 37 years I have been shattered by his actions. I have always gone back because he knew/knows my childhood traumas. Even though he is going to be with a woman he thinks is important to him, he still thinks I will always be a part of him and nothing can break the bond.... Another hook. Another way to keep me engaged. I'm not walking around the hole in the path. I am finding a new path. It's done. It's over... And so it is. Thank you, thank you, thank you. !!!
Wow thank u sooo much for this!!!! I thought i was going crazy!!! Like i could feel him!!!!! Id see his name everyehere!!! Holy shit!!!! I thought at the time it meant he was my soul mate😂😂😂 my twin flame🙄. Im so thankful after numerous narcs I finally get it!!! I knew something was wrong but i didnt know what!!! Knowledge has really been power for me!!!
Well after victimized by narcs I feel like staying single forever is the best to avoid the situation I've been in. Moving on is hard as hell.
I was involved in the twin flame thing too. It makes the whole spiritual tie so much worse. I just want to stop ruminating. I know what he is… I know that I’d never want to be with him and know Id spiral out of control if I was. But the damn soul tie and the shit I invited I. Thinking it was our higher selves… you know all the lingo. It’s terrifying after the fact, and I thought it would all stop when I was awoken by Jesus and literally saved my life and everything I hold dear. But I’m having a helluva time breaking the tie. :/
It's taking me years to figure out that I had to tell my mother she is never allowed back in my life. She keeps a un seen tie on me that I now identify . How evil to do something so wrong to your own child. 48 years old and iv had 35 jobs on record not to mention the ones off the record I can't function around people I get into fights . Every where I go if someone taps into me I'm on the defensive and need to go home. Thank you for your videos they are literally saving my life.
Victoria I am so pleased I could help Dear Lady. I wish you healing and release from the pain xoxox
Ice running through the veins.... that’s what I felt so many times when we were together - could not comprehend it .... devastating
I thought I was going crazy!! Thankyou, I am in therapy but intermittently I get sick and feel his presence , could not have understood it without you. The dreams come and words in my head. So hard but I'm battling my childhood wounds finally head on to get free in al aspects of my emotional life.
For some reason I seem to smell him all the time it’s so weird I’ve washed my sheets and I still seem to smell him 🤮
This is really interesting considering that the number one way my ex narc would reel me in and keep me there was to constantly instill in my brain that we were connected on this deep soul/spiritual level. That he could sense when something was wrong and that we could literally feel each other's pain, anxiety, happiness, etc. For months after I broke up with him he was still able to emotionally lure me back in with this whole "our souls are connected" crap. Even now, with no contact, I still feel that eery pull towards him. It feels like he has permanently imbedded himself into my psyche and I don't know how to break free from that. I hear what you're saying and I understand it, I just don't know how to go about actually doing it.
Hi Melissa, you break all the hooks to the narcissist inside of you. One way to break those hooks is to heal the trapped trauma inside of you using Quanta Freedom Healing. I would love you to join me in the free webinar so you can experience for yourself what this feels like www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar xoxox
Melanie Tonia Evans Thank you very much! I will definitely check that out. I find your videos to be very healing and inspirational. 💞
It's my pleasure Melissa, love and blessings to you xoxox
I can relate ,you are on your way to regaining your peace. I am in the process of understanding what happened.Thankyou for sharing.
Alishus Alexander I know that process and I know it well. I'm an over thinker to begin with and I used to obsessively go back and read old texts, trying to read between the lines, pick up on something I missed, etc. It took me a long time but I finally deleted his contact and all messages, pics, songs, (anything he'd ever sent me) went along with it. I still find myself going back in my mind, trying to piece together what the hell happened but the thing is......we will never know what happened, because unlike us, the narc doesn't think rationally, ever, and you can't make sense of something or someone that's irrational. It's such a long, complicated process (one I'm still trying to navigate) but just be kind and patient with yourself. I wish you nothing but the very best and my heart goes out to you. Xoxo
He discarded me a week ago and I'm actually starting to feel relief but I had a dream yesterday that something evil was trying to choke me and I couldn't wake up, so scary
You described the exact same upper back pain I've been trying to heal. Eye opening great insight. Thank you.
My pleasure AJ C xoxox
just happened to me yesterday. made a police report to make me physically safe. then I made some healing meditation found out that sociopath sexually abuse me when I was a little girl. the sickest part was that its my ex older sister. i just remembered as an adult a female masculine/lesbian female was offering to take care of me when I was sick, she was rubbing my chest. when I had trouble calming down for 48 hours even after going to make police report. I just watched and asked for the truth where is this fear coming from. so when I was little girl I was screaming inside my head and confused but my body was stone cold and clothes open. my ex sister was rubbing my stomache but she was also doing something else. i disassociated feeling what happens underneath . i realise this is jezebel lesbian demoralised demon entity. so i had to clean out the inner trauma. everything made sense. after i just had the truth with all that flashback I was able to calm down.
This really really scares me, this video couldn't be anymore exact and you have just validated what I believed. Thank You so so much for this, it's helped in abundance. x
THANK YOU, BIG time! The only thing is that sometimes if a person suffers from serious illness, one will not have the necessary energy to go through these horrid traumas connecting us to the narcissist. It then literally becomes a matter of surviving the attack, and then having to get well enough to deal with the actual traumas at a later stage in life, if/ when one has the health to do so. Sad, but true. Take care! Keep on sharing! You are doing a woderful job, Melanie. Love and light.
I love this woman. Her soothing voice just makes me feel so much better. Great advice, as always
I love this. I have my friend watching your stuff. We are going to watch "Gaslight" the movie tonight with Ingrid Bergman. 💜
MichelePearl so have to watch this that is on my watch list! I heard the word on the Good Wife, when Diane said it it jumped of the tv and I had to research it
Good evening, Melanie Tonia. What I hear you speaking of, in other words, is generational curses. Break the psychic attacks/bonds by breaking the soul-tie. These demons attach themselves to feelings of anger, fear or pain.
Know Thy Self. Heal Thy Self.
Leviticus 19:31
"Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them: I am YAHWEH your Eloheim."
Leviticus 20:5
"Then I will set my face against that man, and against his family, and will cut him off, and all that go a whoring after him, to commit whoredom with Molech, from among their people."
Leviticus 20:6
"And the soul that turneth after such as have familiar spirits, and after wizards, to go a whoring after them, I will even set my face against that soul, and will cut him off from among his people."
Yahshua Ha Maschiach is The Messiah. YAHUAH is The Creator.
This battle is real. The battle is spiritual. Each person has a body. Each body contains a soul. The soul is a spiritual camera. Each soul is judged.........by The Creator YAHUAH.
THE ETERNAL NOW. THE HOLY SMACKDOWN.
Peace Out.......& Peace Within. :)
Maxine Yolanda Leviticus is like the most archaic & barbaric chapter IN the Bible tho-
Can't believe everything you read.... sorry fr not trying to start an argument or anything just stating my objective opinion God bless
Maxine Yolanda That being said; the quotes you DID quote ARE actually pretty parallel as applied to Narcissists, it's just I personally don't care for the content of Leviticus on the whole in particular is all.
AJ von Corsa No offense taken. This is Life. You go with what YOU know and believe. Your Life. Your Choice.
I will make this journey with what I know. I know that Yahshua Ha Maschiach is The Messiah and YAHUAH is the Creator.
Each person has a body. Each body contains a soul. The soul is a spiritual camera. That is the TRUTH that no lie can defeat or deny.
Each soul is judged by Abba Father YAH. Each. Soul.
That is the TRUTH. The TRUTH can only be accepted or denied.
If you choose to deny the TRUTH, that is your choice. If you choose to argue with the TRUTH, then your argument is with the TRUTH - not me - and that is an argument that you cannot win.
You be you. I'll be me.
Peace Out.......& Peace Within.
Do you think people should reconsider actions that make other people feel invalidated or disrespected? Regardless of if they have good intentions behind their actions, if the outcome is that they actually appear very rude and dismissive of others, should that person reconsider how they're behaving?
It isn't about one or other particular religion, it's what the Great Consciousness sees within our hearts. x
The past two and a half years I’ve been experiencing the psychic connection from a narcissist. Including psychic thoughts he speaks into my mind and psychic attacks. Dream interference. He is looking at everything with my eyes everything that I look at. And he listens with my right ear to every conversation. And then he interferes with my sleep dreams and puts in things I looked at and words he heard from conversations.
I’ve tried everything I could think of to block him. No contact the past two and a half years. But today this video popped up in my CZcams! Thank you for addressing this issue!!
Yes, when I can't sleep despite being sleepy and tired and when my heart seems to beat faster than usual I know the narc is close by either in dreams or other forms of contact.
This one needs two thumbs up from me on the thumb sign above. Hitting WAY close to home, what you've saying here. Ouch!
Pete Walker's Book ...Healing From Complex PTSD; From Surviving to Thriving... is another fabulous tool for recovering from narcissistic abuse.
Ninja of Eris thanks
Thank you, I'll take a look!
I've read so much material and watched so many videos, but when you said "parasite" the bell rang and I got it. Thank you!
Melanie, nobody could explain things better than you do!!! It' so hard even to recognize what is happenig! And it's even harder to find someone to believe you (who doesn't think you are getting crazy!). And the hardest part, of course, is how to heal! And here all the 'experts' just STOP. Because they don't have answers and they start to blame you for no results and put more guilt on you ... which is disgusting! I've prayed for a solution and then I've found your video. It was 14 days ago and I can't stop listen to you since. And the most wonderful part of all - I feel so much better! Even normal 😊. I will never be able to thank you enough 🙏
Thank you for your hard healing work, dear Melanie.🏆
It's my pleasure Kay! xoxox
omg ..I love u... I have watched so many narc videos. U get what I am feeling exactly perfectly. thanks!!
My pleasure Deborah, and I so hope this helps. xoxoxo
Mealine, lots of love. I'm sorry you had to go through what you went through. No human being should go through anything like that. Thanks for sharing and empowering us. Much love.
After 13 years, this beast sent one of his flying monkeys to my house.
I believe he did it to get my attention again. So now I'm listening to you. I did have a nightmare and he was in it. I panicked for a minute. I'm ok, still no contact. That vampire is done feeding off of me.