How Childhood Trauma Makes Us Susceptible To Narcissists
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- čas přidán 8. 09. 2024
- Over the years, so many people have asked me this:
‘Did my childhood have anything to do with me being narcissistically abused as an adult?’
You may have made the link between a painful childhood and sustaining narcissistic abuse as an adult. Maybe abuse is all you have ever known.
Or maybe there was something more subtle going on that made you susceptible to narcissists - without you even understand what that could possibly be.
In today’s VERY IMPORTANT Thriver TV episode, I want to help you understand vital physiological truths about how your ability to deal with stresses was formed as a child; how this may have been compromised, and what that has to do with sustaining trauma as an adult.
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I spent a lifetime blaming myself for everything that went wrong in my life. Mother used to hit me in the face till I cried, then she would say " you want to cry, I'll give you something to cry about", then she would hit me in the face till I would stop crying. Setting me up for a fall with dad or the sibblings..a scapegoat is born...What a bitch!!
So thankful for gorgeous people like you Melanie..💞
I have a similar story! Still working on healing. How did you go about this?
@@peaceluvhemp3321 I had to leave everyone behind me..I have my dad, he spent 4 yrs in therapy after mom died..we connected about 2 yrs ago when I had nothing from the X narc. I didn't even have a pair of socks, no food & almost on the street. He helped get me back on my feet, we talked for the first time ever..all of her dirty secrets were finally aired. Not even my siblings can touch me .
I have truth, honor & my dad on my side now.
I learned to go greyrock, self partner & love myself for the first time ever..heal that little girl I so hated all my life & finally become whole..I know what a father's love is now. I did it for me..❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am sorry to hear you have a similiar story..healing is possible & thriving is a given..❤️we never had a chance
@@debbiehowes I am so happy to hear you came out on the other side of the tunnel. It is not an easy journey but I believe the biggest challenges are what shape us into loving, compassionate people. Bless your dad for helping you! It is so nice to hear about a happy ending.
@@peaceluvhemp3321 yes, I believe that we possess the qualities they admire & want. I do have my happy ending & I wish the same to you. Peace, happiness & freedom is my wish for you..
"'" you want to cry, I'll give you something to cry about", then she would hit me in the face till I would stop crying. .a scapegoat is born...What a bitch!! "So so familiar conduct by my Narcissistic mother.
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When I left my 30-yr marriage, I had no idea I had been married to a narcissist. It was a counselor at the abused women’s center where I went for support who told me what I was describing was narcissistic abuse. I argued with her because he was a covert narcissist and I had no idea at the time that narcissists came in all kinds of disguises. Then I realized my mother had been a narcissist. My counselor told me I did not recognize the abuse in my marriage for a long time because it was “normal” behaviour in my childhood. I now know so much more than I did then, including just how much I have been affected by trauma and PTSD.
I developed a clear understanding of what had happened to me but It was not until I discovered Melanie’s work that I started to heal. I especially like the spiritual connection she makes to past lives and soul contracts we make with the narcissists in our lives. As a child, I had a recurring dream in which I was an adult woman being persecuted as a witch. At the end of the dream, I was always cornered in a cellar and I knew I was going to die. I have long since realized that this was a memory of a past life and I believe I was hung in that life. What I did not understand until recently was the connection to this life. Last year I was in the shower and I had an instant download of information where all the puzzle pieces came together. It was revealed to me that so many people in this life, my family, my ex-husband and his family and others were my persecutors in that life. It has been so helpful to me to understand why I have suffered so much in this life and what I need to do in this life so I never have to experience this again. Thank you Melanie for the work that you do! 💗
Wow! Thank you for sharing that!
Amazing story wow although you had much trauma to finally realize how everything is connected and that we are all strengthening our souls sometimes suffering shows us how to appreciate the wonderful things life has in store for us when we are fully open and ready to receive them I pray for all of us to have blessings and love fill our hearts and lives
Bobbi Rose 💞🌸💞🌸💞
Bobbie Rose, I was married to a covert- narrisst also! We were married for 31 years! God spoke to me after my ex husband raped me and held me in my car for 16 hours without pain meds! I am permanently disabled from his abuse. I walked out after 31 years with the clothes on my back.Then I got a lawyer thur legalsheild and ex got away with committing perjury on 3 accounts.and using a tax asserors amount uh not and not the true amount of the home. He deleted all money from our joint account and savings. He told our daughter who works at a bank that I was stealing all his money from him. She then opened him a secret account. For that one reason I haven't taken him back to court! He had son threaten to cut my brakes on my car if I didnt come sign paperwork at his house! Son also deleted photos of my ex husband and his girlfriend- off my phone. Ex was going over a 24 year olds house and smoking pot with her and selling her my pain meds! I cought him in the act and kids found out! Then to pay me back he held me in my car for 16 hours without my pain meds. Karma is coming for him!!!
My mother was a Narcissist. I was never hugged, thought about, focused on. I was her slave for 25 years. She could never be happy for me and taught my brothers and sisters to act the same to me. I was the youngest. My Dad, finally figured out what was going on much later in life. I will always remember.
My mother was and is a narc. She turned 2 of my siblings against me and my other sibling is no longer with us because she abandoned us teaching him to abandon himself. He suffered trauma so when we say survivors that is truly what we are xx
@@kerripotkonen4300 Thanks- they do learn to turn against there own. And create hell on earth.
The similarities are there.
We are born with an awareness of being whole and then we are taught to focus on the outside world and this is the start of separation ,confusion and emotional pain. We look constantly for love and validation and a nice pat on the head from the boss. We have to get back to the beginning and get our wholeness back to the core being of our bodies. It,s the only way to feel straight again. The life within is a holy place and does not depend on outside circumstances. Thanks Mel for your videos they are so helpful. 😀
Well said
My worst day in my life was meeting the narcissist and falling immediately for him The best day in my life was finding this lovely lady and her very powerful Quantum Freedom Healing
My nervous system goes haywire when people act inappropriately to me, I think it's from having a crazy mother screaming in my face on almost a daily basis.
Same for me. I get very triggered by people who scream & rage. Because I had to endure so much of that as a kid. Nowadays I have about zero tolerance for people who cannot regulate their own anger.
I agree that being raised by a narcissistic parent definitely has a negative impact on a child's life. I was raised by a malignant covert narcissistic mother, so I can attest to that. I had major self-esteem and self-confidence issues as a teen, and into my 20s and 30s because of that upbringing. I would go through many of your right-brain instinctual functions that you mention too.
However, even as a 2-year old I realized that there was something terribly wrong with my mother. I grew up thinking that she was mentally unstable, delusional, and very cruel...I had no idea what a narcissist even was at that time. When I got bigger...and stronger...and my enabling dad could no longer be used as my mother's strong arm, I did push back as the beatings for talking back were no longer feasible. I spent my teens fighting my mother, and contradicting every cruel thing I saw her do, whether it was to me, or to others. I became the narcissist's worst nightmare. Can you guess who the scapegoat in the family was? She cut me from the will years later...her last attempt to get that "dig" in :-). However, even as a 9-year old I remember her telling all of us that she wanted to do just that...she didn't want to giver her own kids anything...she wanted to keep it all for herself. Today my thinking is that she can keep it. She only wants to use that as a tool for more abuse anyway.
After I moved out I didn't call much...I still came home for Christmas every year, but even that was a miserable experience watching her ruin that holiday by abusing my siblings and grand kids in her subtle and targeted ways. She knew full well by then that her methods had no more affect on me, but that didn't stop her from trying...she is an expert at gaslighting and triangulation, but she also lost all of her own friends because of that. By 2004 I just stopped visiting and calling altogether and went no contact...even before I learned that this is what I was supposed to do to save my sanity. I never announced anything either...I just stopped calling as it took so much effort to do so. What was an amazing learning experience was listening to what she said to others about that...how I am a selfish bastard who doesn't want to talk to her anymore, when in fact I never said any such thing to anyone. In fact, the last thing I ever said to her was, "call me any time"...but I knew that was a safe bet too because in all my years after I moved out of that nuthouse she has NEVER called LOL. I'm still waiting; hence, the ball is definitely in her court :-). No contact was probably the best thing I could have done though, and it gave me the time I needed to teach myself how to overcome her abuse without any of that typical narcissistic interference...I only wish someone had steered me toward some sort of therapy during that time as that probably would have hastened recovery.
Long story short (LOL)...I can spot a narcissist immediately now, and I would never let such an a--hole ever get the better of me today. My boss in a new job I started in 2015 was either a narcissist or a sociopath...or both...and exhibited many of those traits and tried hard to screw me over often (i.e. taking credit for my work, keeping me in the dark on certain projects and then trying to blame me when the project failed, prevented me from any professional development etc.). I played my cards differently this time and in short he was eventually stripped of all his responsibility to manage my skills, and I was assigned to a completely different department and ended up reporting to a director who wanted me to excel (I owe that director and our VP a lot). My current duties and responsibilities are awesome, and I'm now enjoying my job. My old boss has to keep his head down now too as his behavior is definitely not tolerated here :-) .
I might have been a good target by narcissists when I was in my teens, or early 20s, but I also knew exactly what I did not like in people by then, so it probably would not have worked. If I even recognized a smidgen of my mother's behavior in anyone else that would have been enough for me to walk away (I walked away from many potential relationships because of that too, but who's to say that wasn't for the better). These people can certainly try and gaslight and triangulate all they want too...I don't care. If anyone ever wants to listen to hearsay and gossip about me, and then believe it and act on it...then I most certainly don't want to associate with them either :-). Peace and serenity is good, and cannot be achieved unless you go 'no contact' from a narc.
Pacal Votan - thanks for the story, glad to hear you got out of that hell and developed such strong resistence. My story is sort of similar. The main difference is that my mother never stopped sending me occasional cards and letters, declaring her undying love for me (!) and adding some drama that she's old and might be dying soon (right, so everything should be written off?). Utterly disgusting. Of course, any time I ever tried to talk with her in the past about the constant shouting, belittling, sabotaging, evil looks, plus her financial frauds against me, she pretends she doesn't understand what I'm talking about. You got away lightly without phone-calls or 'love' letters!
@@MR-tr2fz It's always good to know that I'm not alone with this...thanks. I never received love letters...she never stated anything like that verbally either. Your story of her doing that to you is almost creepy too...wow. However, before I went "no contact" I did on occasion receive letters from my mother, but they were usually just her rambling, and then there would also be (of course) verbal digs and belittling in those as well. Thankfully, there were not that many letters...and never any phone calls :-)...she had other family members to attack when I wasn't around :-). She also never learned how to drive so she was never able to just go and visit people...thankfully. Her one and only attempt at driving lessons (when she was 16) is a hilarious story, and in her day could have easily been a script in any Charlie Chaplin, Laurel & Hardy, or Harold Lloyd movie, or an episode of I Love Lucy LOL.
My thinking too is that my mother always believed herself to be much smarter than everyone else, and God's choice to be in charge of everything. What I mean by this is that I always got the impression that her calling anyone was beneath her dignity, and she felt that people would have to grovel to her. At least that is how she treated her own kids, unless she could try and control them through their spouse of course. She also absolutely resented anyone who was more intelligent, more knowledgeable, richer, more capable, happier, and more skillful than her...a typical narc who is always jealous of others who can do things she could never do :-). No surprise that my younger brother is exactly like her too.
@@pacalvotan3380 since you say that she had other family members to attack, it makes sense that she didn't bother going out of her way to attack you. I bet she would have hypocritically gone after you if she got left alone.
Mine was (still is) left completely alone. She 'killed off' her 2nd husband, couldn't go back to her hometown as she had defrauded her only brother, and all her 3 children moved abroad.
Sorry to hear your younger brother got the narc gene. Both my sisters got it too. The destruction those people create is unbelievable.
@@MR-tr2fz The more I read about your experience the more similarities I notice. My mother (we suspect) killed off my dad too. He died in his sleep (heart failure), but she really didn't show any signs of remorse, and in fact was criticizing him a week later when we (the wife and I) visited her to at least try to help out. We all thought that was a bit odd, and listening to her talk about my dad we all got the impression that she was glad to see him go; hence, our suspicion of his death. He could very easily have died naturally too though, but what we don't know is whether or not she just sat their and watched without lifting a finger to help (which most certainly would not surprise me).
My younger brother defrauded me too...and all for retribution (I have noticed that he will hold a grudge for life even if someone has just disagreed with him). And I totally agree with you...the destruction these people create is unbelievable. I'm surprised that my younger brother gets away with it so often because I'm sure I wasn't his only target.
To be honest too though, I don't know if she's even still alive. My older brother passed away in February and my younger brother and mother (if she's still on earth) said nothing. I found out from friends who by chance caught a conversation on Facebook that was talking about it. So I pissed the entire family right off by posting an obituary for my older brother, and then advertised it on Facebook too LOL.
@@pacalvotan3380 many similarities indeed. I don't think your mother would have directly killed your father, at least I hope not. My mother 'killed off' my step father indirectly, by constantly chipping him away, by behaving cruelly even during his severe final illness (and I would bet that her longterm constant abuse caused his illness).
You're doing the right thing to stay away from that lot, wishing you well.
God bless this woman and her kind heart such insiprational video
The boundary beastess!👑
Love your talk and cat!!
Love the kitty "healing assistant"!
Thank you, Melanie for, explaining about the right brain and, how at birth it is effected and, if a mother doesn't give touch, love and affection. I was brought to tears when, you explained how this makes us susceptible to narcissist abuse. Which, it has happened to me throughout my life. I have been doing a lot of research on this topic because, I am looking for, answers on why I have anxiety, depression, insomnia, panic attacks. I will look for, therapist who specializes in Narcissist Abuse. God Bless You, for helping educate Narcissist Victims.
Yes, been trying to figure out if PTSD is related to bi polar problems...
Omg what?!? Why am I only hearing this right brain connection and holding connection now?! 😳😓
The cat is awesome🐈🙂
I see so many views on simple minded left brain solutions for narc abuse. It's addiction but this video needs to be seen by victims of c- ptsd. Thank you for showing us the truth of truly healing.
This video was right on time. Great break down. Absolutely amazing.
I remember sooo many moments of my childhood each time I listen to you. I need to listen to this video each time I need to reconnect to my memories of what I must change. I thoroughly enjoyed your meditation technique for finding my inner child during the 16-day program. ❤️❤️❤️
This this video is helping me construct new pathways between myself(s). I have been on my own for two years now since leaving a bad man boy, not particularly by choice to stay alone, but I appear to be healthy enough to not get back into what I left, however I have been left with "her", my right brain pain body....still in pain, still alone in her bedroom after the beatings or molestations over 14 years. What I am going through now is being a witness to that pain, that little girl's pain, the reality of the pain that that little child endured alone. It appears I am healing enough to feel it as an empathetic witness, mother to her pain. It is my adult loving presence that can be there with her as I go through the memories and feelings and realities that are hitting me now as an adult. I am learning to really recognize, for her, her pain, her reality, her loneliness, her terror as a child. I didn't know I had not done this for myself. I had always been able to regurgitate the events of what happened but it was more like a lawyer to a judge (this happened, that happened). I think this is a right and left brain reconstruction in a healthy way. Maybe I'm not explaining it well but I know...........it's me, I am the one who has to be there for her now. It's me meeting me. It's self learning to love self. It's Eve meeting Eve. I am 63. Better late than never. She deserves it. I deserve it. We deserve it. Everyone does. Life is a gift.
Dr. You are my therapy as well as my cats ! Lol !!🦁🏵️🌹🌻🌺🥀🌸
Thank you SO much Melanie. I’m all signed up for your workshop.
The simple words of ‘ Thank you ‘ will never be adequate. I think you have a heart of gold! 💕💕
Melanie you are an angel. I tuned in to your visualisation exercise through your free healing course and had an immediate realisation of an unresolved traumatic event that I felt vividly in my body...a familiar feeling because I feel it often in certain work situations which have been repeating for over 20 years. I was also the victim of narc abuse thru a 15 year marriage and grew up in a dysfunctional parental environment. I am now reading Healing Developmental Trauma by Dr Heller and have signed up to your Gold package NARP programme and am so looking forward to getting started and healing my body and mind. I don't want to spend the second half of my life reliving the same awful experiences with people. Much love to you.
Yes.....hello Kitty !!!!! Also hello to the lovely doctor !!!!! Another great video full of wisdom and knowledge !!! Thanks Dr. !!!
When I looked at this quickly, I thought you were wearing a hoodie. Then I saw it was Tiggy sitting behind you. He looks like he feels very safe in his body!😸
Melanie, my mom tried so hard but she was not supported by my dad. He was a child and left her in a horrible financial mess when he died. He was a selfish man who thought he was entitled to everything. He physically abused my sister.
YOU....are SO AWESOME!!....please...keep speaking...I HANG ON EVERY WORD YOU SAY!!!!!!Amazing...to have everything finally make sense...LOVE YOU GIRL!!!!
I'm going to deeper and deeper into your videos - so much stuff coming up, completely mindblowing. Thank you for your amazing thinking and work.
Great video, Mel. Thank you xx
Nothing but great stuff. I’m starting to feel like I’m finally moving in the right direction. Thanks Mel!!! Yes I’m already in the NARP program, and after a lifetime of near complete dissociation, it is taking a while to settle into it, but I can “feel” well enough at this point to know to keep at it.
My mother was a complete narc, scoring 50/50 on the list, as well as a raging prescription drug addict (it didn’t dawn on me until years after she passed that she was hooked on meds) and very sexually abusive (again it didn’t dawn on me until years after she passed that it was actual sexual abuse, talk about asleep at the wheel), and true to narc form, she had me convinced that I was the one abusing her. I was an absolute train wreck by the time I was in high school. It’s been an exhausting 50 plus years so far. I’m ready for some rest.
Thanks again Mel for your service. I don’t see too many videos on the effects of narc dads, but I do appreciate this perspective.
I feel like this video's explanation, also possibly, explains the making of the narcissist through childhood trauma as well as generational childhood trauma.....
I just love the light blue flowers !!!
Same
your message is so coherent and clear Mel, it always rings the truth bells. thankyou so much xo
While I do like your presentation very much, and you go places others don't or won't, I think it is important to not make statements of what does and doesn't work. I find watching CZcams videos to be very helpful and powerful, because I watch them on my terms, according to my needs, and I and all others are capable of finding ways to heal. Of course, we are never really only using one form of therapy, so never know exactly what combination or compound of therapy effects is happening. I am actually a bit phobic of others trying to say that what they have "does work", including if my favourite therapist offered it, which she would never. She may suggest something, occasionally, and the emphasis is on suggestion. But she trusts that I know I will work things out on my terms, with her assistance, which therapy includes NOT leading, but only guiding if necessary. Leave the patient to be responsible for their own feelings and discoveries. They will find it, with support.
Kim Bezaire support is only offered
Brilliant - so much detail. So true! Thanks
I feel my daughter feels unimportant as I am incapable of being there as I stayed in the abuse for so long
lol typical cat, needs to get RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE ACTION hahaha
Melanie you're so right that the feelings created have nothing to do with logic. Now that I think about it, it's quite a lot like when we fall head-over-heels in love. It's instinctual. The parent icon, especially the mother icon, looks like it's very deeply instinctual too.
It's amazing how when I get introduced to people - especially to women, and they tell me they have children, but they look like a really kind person... I get a sort of an automatic thought. Something like, but how can she be a mother? She doesn't look like a mother. It seems that in my deepest core, a 'mother' is an evil creature, so a kind person surely can't be a mother?
I have come a long way, and I know what's what, I'm fully functional, strong, have boundaries, etc etc, but yes, the position of 'mother' in me is forever tainted.
My life is transformed thanks to this gift she is transmitting. There is hope & peace within. And what's more I'm even enjoying the healing journey. Big love!
Thanks for the compliment and I love her comments as well!!!! 🦁🌻🌺🥀🌸
Emotionally my parents were not available, so now my daughter is screwed up and now I want to heal as she is angry which makes me feel selfish
Thank you Mel, for this very good and informative video!
This video is magnificent! Thank you so much for time & this video.
💖 Wow! Melanie, thank you so very much. I have been following your videos for a while now and this one, even though I have been told this, has really sunk in for the understanding of the whole picture from birth until now. In therapy but ran into some feelings of overwhelm during the inner child work to love those little angels and soldiers so I went into avoidance because I felt extremely depressed even though when I went in successfully there was a positive outcome. Very confusing for me. Now I see that I must return to the inside and do the work. 💞💕
Thank you.
Everyone is operating out of their imprints.. including parents - they are all do the best that they can unless they are evil and most aren't evil..
Thank you so much for sharing that powerful word Melanie. Blessings to you.
Thanx so much for gong so deep in explain what happening as a Child
You are such a blessing! God put you in my path! I have the same cat..ahhhh🙏💖😍
What an nstructive, illustrative innovative and so so intensive. Episode by the so knowledgeable Mel . So much important knowledge that the more you read it the more comprehension you get. Mel’s transcendence much beyond and above all the conventional psychological text books is remarkable. Yes,the trauma and It’s product, the self belief are the main culprits of our problems. The body, the right brain should be taken much more seriously.
This was such a helpful explanation for me, especially the description of the left and right brain function. Thank you so much.
Koset, I'm so pleased that this was valuable to you sweetheart. Love and blessings xoxox
My parents weren’t terribly busy, they were just terrible 🥴😁., and that’s no exaggeration. Thank you for your videos Melanie 😘
My most recent sad story is I'm trying hard to fix myself and although I just validated on what I've been considering I can't tell my fiance that he is right about me being controlling because he will only use it against me and I've seen it happen before he will only get further away from fixing himself because of his ego and yes that is only my opinion but it is based on my experience and I obviously can judge clearly myself so I give myself a master's degree at the very least of not being self-deceived or deceptive
Hey there kitty boy you are the luckiest cat !!!!!!!!
Looking beautiful again today Melanie ... love your cat xx
Thank you. And, unfortunately, I am a big left brain thinker. And, naturally, I am loyal to the family where the narcissism flourishes.
Thank you Melanie
My childhood programming was - men don’t really want one woman, I can only trust my mom (who was super emotionally immature) and the world is not safe AND I had to take care of myself. Of course I married a narcissist.
You have great awareness TBD and I hope you are healing this programming? xoxox
I'm feeling so guilty about affecting my little girl...
Same
@@wendybesse90 Wendy I just watched this next one I'm linking and it will flip the script and really give you hope instead of guilt... God plopped this one on my lap right after I commented about feeling guilty... hope it helps you!
czcams.com/video/_gyxSIEU0Xk/video.html
It's Melanie's video on protecting our children from narcissists damage
I agree! I grew up with a highly abusive mother mentally, physically, etc. I really do try my best but sometimes it is so hard to know how to properly parent with no real direction. Melanie has mentioned sooo many things in this episode that I've never even heard of before!
@@jenniferm6042 I'm sorry...I wish I could have been there to snuggle you up like I do my little girl and tell you how lovable and sweet and special you are! (Snuggles you up now anyway) 💗
Thank you for your wisdom. Much love
Wonderful video. Your cat seems to love you so much
Hi Tiggy
The cat in the background really seems to be making headway with this session.
wow... yes, I can relate. thank you
The worst is when you go to a therapist for help with childhood wounds from narcissistic parents, and your therapist turns out to be a narcissistic abuser.
awoke 8 months ago ..after 40 years!!...so we must leave the narsicist...no way a covert narsicist can b healed
MIS DEVELOPED. Yep, I know about that. I think it occurs because issues are not dealt with at the time they occur or dealt with improperly. Dealing with issues is a logical process, yet the result of improper approaches, lead to EMOTIONAL imbalance. PROPER LEFT BRAIN from the beginning would result in emotional stablility ( RIGHT BRAIN), but once the RIGHT BRAIN is Traumatized, LEFT BRAIN is inadequate to deal with. Interesting process, if I hear it correctly. Add to that trauma from physical and sexual abuse. Long road for some people to deal with.
And the guilt of letting go. What a trap guilt is.
I signed up for the workshop. 😊
Childhood trauma is what creates narcissists
i am that I am And people pleasers😔
I love your cat!
I love your kitty so much 💚
Based on this excellent video you will appreciate my book DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help once the golden child - I became the scapegoat.. and overt narcissist father & a covert narcissist mother...
So now I am a wreck nervous and do I hide out from people and just go within by myself
I have had many self fulfilling profecies
Hi just found you here!! and l got thinking what if its someone how has
moved in next to you that is showing signs they are a Narcissists, but you did not know it till it was a bit too late and you have told them a few things about your self... Thankyou
V attract narcs ists when v r born in narc families that make us have low self esteem. v also marry narc and, v become aware about it late in life
Wowzer, my mom... later in my life, in tears confessed to me she did NOT want me when she was carrying me ( being the 5th, & ultimately last child.) Which module do you suggest or just source healing bonus?
I did not receive good treatment in childhood due to immature parents.they made me slave due to their childish behaviour ,in such relations v have low selfworth
This just made my day. Thank you for helping me understand more😍😍😍😍😍
Bless you Shaniece hun. I'm so pleased this resonates for you! Love and blessings xoxox
@@MelanieToniaEvans 😊it defenetly does help..I'm so glad I found this
You are the best😊😊😊💪💪💪👍👍👍
My parents told me I was unlovable, unwanted, weird, ugly. Even better, mother was also a religious nutter. He was just a sadist. Evil dad. What would God say about their abuse?
What is your cat's name? Great videos. Just purchased your book. May purchase NARP
Hi it's Tiggy! Love and blessings xoxox
Melanie, it there a well-intentioned narcissist?
Love it.I am there.I want to love.......
Hello there, I'm sorry I have to ask about this again as I know you have already copied the answer for me in a previous comment that you had given on that topic on Facebook. But in relation to the theme of this video, I'm currently stuck with this topic again and I can't seem to find your original answer.
Is there any way to bring back the divine male energy for myself into my life? I can only be so much of a mother to my inner child but the fatherly, healthy masculine energy is what's desperately needed. Could you maybe tell me again your take on this? I'm not sure how to help myself in that respect.
Thank you again and blessings!
Hi Gill426,
I have a program that can help you with this, it works very well with NARP too. It's called the Transforming Family or Origin Wounds (TFOOW) course. This course has two modules, one for male energy and one for female energy. Here is the page to visit to read up about this and purchase the course: www.melanietoniaevans.com/services/transforming-family-of-origin-wounds-course.htm I think that this would address the issue perfectly. Love and blessings xoxox
@@MelanieToniaEvans Hello, thanks for your reply. I know you mean well but I currently don't have this amount of money. I'll try again and check under every video you did so far, maybe I'll find the answer you had copied back then.
Maybe I can come back to this additional programme later, when I'm there.
Narcissism is childhood injury.! Childhood narcissistic injury when something was too traumatic and there was that break/split. Most ppl watching this and often those presenting are the narcs who were split again in a relationship. Wake up ppl.! It's coined as bad as narcissism but it's YOUR injury.
Let me all you: are women narcissistic as well? What is the ratio man/ woman?
Hi Yahel,
Yes, there are female narcissists. Here is a resource that can help: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-malignant-female-understanding-female-narcissism/ Love and blessings xoxox
Brilliant :-)*
Is childhood PTSD related to BiPolar disorder?
Hun, this is not my area of expertise and so I cannot advise you on this. To find out more you can google BiPolar disorder and research this topic yourself. Love and blessings, xoxox
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Jeramia is the law
Left brain tactics are the wrong town. NARP uses the right brain ...
MIND/BODY work. Sounds more like RIGHT-MIND/BODY work. LOL