Are You Pretty Enough for Him? (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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“You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them, and five minutes later they're dull as a brick. But then there's other people, and you meet them and you think 'not bad, they're okay', and then you get to know them, and their face sort of becomes them, like their personality's written all over it, and they just they turn into something so beautiful...”
― Amy Pond, Doctor Who series
🤣🤣🤣 That’s a great Amy Pond quote, but daaaaamn, that vase though! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Amanda Joyeux Amy pond was the best! 👏👏👏
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Amanda Joyeux sometimes you hit the jackpot and get both someone so beautiful and an amazing personality!
Oh yes🔥
you can skip to 3:35 if you don't feel like listening to rambling
Thanks!
Sydney Johnson thank you
Sydney Johnson I love people like you
thank you that was tedious
Hahaha Right!?
I had a friend who's objectively unattractive aunt always told herself when she walked into a room"I am beautiful, I am loved and I know something that nobody else here knows" and she WAS all those things.
This is a fantastic share...going to try it!
wow I love this I'm going to steal this ❤
Thank you 🙏🏻 That is the most beautiful perspective! This should be the mantra that all of us carry with us in life!
“SHE” was correct - she is knew something that so many of us here didn’t. 🥰
Your friend is an aunt?
@@Tangentbordsblues 'who's' shows possession. But yes, she is an aunt , even a great aunt. ( we are senior citizens), She does the same as her aunt and I'll be damned if people leave the room thinking she is beautiful and mysterious.
“The key to success is playing the hand you were dealt like it was the hand you wanted”
- anonymous
Love it! Just make the most of what you have.
Thats powerful!!
Words of wisdom
Very cool
This guy is a perfect mixture of Daniel Radcliffe and Adam Levine
+Kaylee Giles yessss...i thought it was just the accent making me think of daniel but he looks like him too..and adam..wow
+Kaylee Giles yes!!! Adam!
+NikkEr Mart are you too depressed to have one?
+Ben Dover haha. he has mixture signature
+NikkEr Mart hahahaha.whatever, thanks for spending your time to reply anywhere.I know who I am. who cares about what you think? 😉 God bless,have a good life there.
The actual video starts at 3:30
Thanks.
:D
thanks mate loooool
Blinky Inky thanksssss
thanks XD ありがとう
Skip to 7:19. Everything else before that doesn’t matter. You’re welcome
Thank you haha I was looking for a comment like this 😁
Bless you
We love you
Thank you 🙏🏿🤣
I love you
When a guy is respectuful, charming, a complete gentleman, looks become the least important thing
He can actually be good looking and be all of those things .In fact I can't even think of a guy as " attractive " if it's only skin deep.
Hahaa😂
@Gabriela Guzman Oh BULLSHIT!! You know a man's looks do matter! Would you say the same if the man you were describing was a 5'4 bald Indian janitor? Probably not... You are a good example to never watch what a woman says but instead watch what a woman does.
They can become cute 😆
@@RussX5Z My husband was in a near fatal accident which put dents in his forehead and lowered one of his eyes. He is better looking to me 30 yrs later because I see character in his face, I see an amazing father, I see a man who has sacrificed so much for his family. I see a man that I love. So to you Russx5z, I say bullshit. Looks are not as important to women. Men won't even give someone the time of day unless there is that initial attraction. Women will.
People don't hesitate to let you know if you're unattractive. Even if they don't vocalize it you can usually tell in body language or attitude. Sometimes I get tired of being told I have a big heart when most men don't look past the physical to see the big heart
It's hard being very attractive too. Men look at me like a sex object, like some sex goddess to conquer instead of a human being. I've had guys literally cut me off in the middle of a sentence to stay it's hard listening to me because they're distracted by my looks. It sucks because it's much harder to get guys to see you have a big heart or a good personality. So be grateful that people can look pass your physical and see the real you. Being attractive is not as great as people think it is. You just are constantly harassed and you get free stuff but other than that, it blows sometimes.
I'm sure it's hard both ways but the alienation that comes with being unattractive is painful. People tell you to be positive and think positive but it's hard when people treat you like you're sub human. If you walk into a room and everyone turns their head because they don't want to make eye contact it's not the best feeling in the world
Johnnie Shreve #1) You are pretty. Whoever said you weren't was either blind or stupid...or both. #2) Neither of them are easy. Being super attractive and being super unattractive can both create negative consequences :( Ugh.
***** But then again. Attractive is subjective!!!!! It's all bull shit.
MrsTruthTeller
Am I the only one who's going to say this? Ok, Ms, if you're so attractive, where's your pic?
Insecurity ruins my life
Joe Bird You certainly are an awesome person !
I would like you to smile and be happy !
Insecurity mau ruin you life but you have to look forward ! You are beautiful.
That is so sweet! That just made my day. I was feeling depressed and now my daddy is a little brighter, I appreciate that so much!
relatable
Girl you're honestly not alone x
I struggle with insecurity too. It’s depilating and I want to be over it! It always just creeps
Back in...
I’m 52, in smart, strong, fit, pretty , funny, hard working, I’m kind, generous! I am ENOUGH!💕
I ♥️ME!
You're right. You come frist!!!
Gratitude, that's beautiful!👑
And I love that you said that !
@harry callton She's free of ego maniacs like you. and i bet much happier. Obviously.
@harry callton Really you judged women as men haters just hecause they didnt agree with your woman hating. Hmmm.
I agree with this woman. She and I are a similar age and I am a widow. We have been around awhile, in my case was happily married for 19 years. I have no hatred of men and if I find the the right connection with a man I will be with one. But its not what drives me because I am happy with myself and my life as it is. Being with someone is not a need for me. I am just fine with myself. It might be more fun if I met a great guy though.
You set out to tear her down for what reason? You have to realize that women dont dislike all men because they dont care much for your attitude. That is just not liking you specifically and you dont represent all men.
I feel we become insecure when the person we thought would make us feel loved and beautiful is the person who destroys us.. then we start feeling ugly and insecure..
Not to be mean but if the guy you like doesn't like you for you, he isn't the right one.
That’s not mean that’s facts
Ramyaaa id have to agree
Thank you, that made my day! I was going to watch that video but i was going through the comments and I saw yours... I realised I didn't need it and I left, thanks a lot
so if a guy says he likes me for who I am and says that I'm beautiful just the way I am, does that also include the physical aspect? or is he only talking about my personality? because to me it sounds like it
Agreed!
"He's not after a feature, he's after a package!"
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Every time I feel insecure, im gonna remember that 😊
Is he though?
I really loved that honestly. I don't care what other men think of me only my man and getting that reassurance from a male perspective was exactly what I desperately needed to hear!
It’s hard to tell on a dating app 😅
If he doesn't find you beautiful, let me tell you.., he is not worth it... Everyone is beautiful in their own way.. "skinny", "fat", Black, White, EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL..
Lol. So you find all guys attractive? Really? I am pretty sure you would not gi out with every guy out there, even if they all had great character. You too choose guys based on looks also. So don't deem guys as bad just because they do the same thing you do: choosing what they are attracted to
even from a girl's perspective thats hilarious. People have opinions whether or not we like it and no one finds everyone attractive. At the end of they day, if a woman sees a guy (stranger) who she finds unattractive she isnt gonna think "oh lemme go see what his personality is like" or anything like that.
Exactly Stella ! Everyone is beautiful IN THEIR OWN WAY! To all you replying your disagreement in a rude way-No one said they like everyone they meets beauty...preference and judgements are two different things. To call someone ugly is a judgement....but saying everyone is beautiful in their own way is a fact. To say you find someone more beautiful or less beautiful to you is a preference. So Stella is not in the wrong...She's just spreading some love and truth🤘
Oh, are obese people beautiful? What a stupid way to undervalue personal preferences and be a hypocrite. I hate people like you, that try so hard to be the "good person", that all rationality is thrown away.
@@Childfriendship Alright, smartass. EVERYONE IS UGLY IN THEIR OWN WAY.
One more useless statement that's apparently "a fact" for all you brain dead fact regurgitators.
I feel like my heart is under appreciated.. I'm kind, and compassionate, and at times I can be too trusting, or too nice, and I feel like a lot of people take advantage of that.. like someone I'm close to will hurt me, and keep coming back because he knows I'll forgive him.. I get too attached to people.. I focus more on other people than I do on myself a lot of the time. My mom always says my biggest talent is being kind, because there's not a lot of people like that anymore, but I really feel like some people use it as an excuse to get away with hurting me. I know having a good heart isn't a bad thing, I just really wish more people would appreciate it, and treat it right, instead of treating me like a toy.
Hey there it can seem like looks are important but they're not please never change your kindness please work on being kinder and I know you will find the one.
Same here girl.
Maybe you're an empath, we tent to drawns the negative / low vibrational energy to our life. Self Love is all we need. I found myself being too nice, and hard to say no, we like to please others. But inside we're drained because someone misused our kindness. It's time to embrace that you have such a beautiful Empath soul.. and learn how to put & love yourself first 💗💗💗
I have this problem too. It has taken many years, but I've developed strong boundaries. I just don't let people use and abuse me anymore. I don't keep fake friends. I don't hang around others who give me a bad feeling or never support me. I'm alone a lot, but thats ok. I prefer my own company over a room full of fake friends. And the friends I do have are true blue. 💖
You’re like me.
I've always felt super insecure about my nose. Never really thought I was ugly but I had doubts regarding my physical appearance. But then I think, maybe its just my insecurity speaking. Yes, I do have a big nose. It's not invisible but it doesn't define my beauty. I think accepting and embracing your flaws really help. People have always complemented me. Guys have still been attracted to me but I never believed it. I've always focused on those who called me ugly and never thought twice about the compliments I've received. Just remember guys, your flaws alone don't define your beauty.
You look absolutely gorgeous in your prof pic, and I'm not just saying that. But of course you are beautiful for more than just your pretty face...your personality, kindness, etc. I can tell from your comments that your are a beautiful person!
Ash org Thank you. The personality comments mean the world to me :)
***** You're perfectly right! Plus, beauty isn't based on your physical appearance alone, its based on your kindness, confidence, etc. I knew this one guy who didn't have the most perfect face but I always thought he was more attractive than any other guy. Couldn't put my finger on it until I realized his internal beauty overshadowed his physical beauty. I have to remember if I find beauty beyond physical appearances, I can see beauty in myself too. BTW, girl work those toned legs. So jealous!
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First of all, I think you are lovely , Awesome zebra! Also, I was just thinking of this guy at work who I think is adorable. He is so not objectively good looking , but he is just so smart, nice, and funny that I find him super attractive . So that really proves Matthew's point , I guess!
I'm "weird for a black girl". My family and other African Americans say I act "white" or I'm "not black". I like hipster punk bands and kitty stockings and sushi rolls, and I'm not afraid to dance off-beat in public! Just because I act a certain way does not mean I do not appreciate the race I was born into, i think my strange interests make me all the more badass as a black girl. Long live the Ebony weirdos
Lexi Thompson
Lexi Thompson that's like my bf. Just be who you are I hate when other black people make you feel like you're not black enough
Fellow Ebony weirdo! Where have you been all my life. I'm the quirkiest black girl you'll ever meet so as a result, other blacks don't really associate with me cos I'm not "black enough". Even though I'm dark skinned...
Lexi Thompson p
Lexi Thompson I'm not black, but it's like what does that even mean? You're not "black enough?" So everyone has to fit into a box of lame stereotypes that we are trying to escape? Like am I not "woman enough" if I have small breasts? Clearly someone who thinks you are not "enough" of anything is not someone you want to associate with. Seems more like their problem! Not yours! Love yourself
As a woman with an inverted triangle body shape, I spent much of my teen years feeling insecure about not being an hourglass. But body shape is not something easily changed, and what I've learned from this video is that it's not about what I am not, but rather, it's about what I can make of myself with what I have. Thank you for these wise words.
Can’t we all just date you?
lol .. I know
Not Necessarahly ? What? Why would he call her a bitch?
We can share, I'll take Tuesdays
I wouldn't want to date him
So cute👍
im very insecure because i had cancer when i was younger. I lost all of my hair and got all bloated from steroids and still have very thin hair today from blasts of radiation.... but if i had to pick one thing that i appreciate about my looks and personality, is that i love my freckles on my cheeks and nose, and i like how i am determined to always see things to their end ^u^
I really admire that your a survivor as its a lot of work to overcome cancer.
Hun, I'm sure you are beautiful in and out!
Rebecca, you are such a sweet heart..
Rebecca Grace i admire your beautiful soul
I bet you're really beautiful
what if your personality is shit and you aren't like those bubbly funny girls? i got screwed both ways
Lol I love you
Christina R I want to be your friend. Let's be friends.
Definitely! It's nice to know there is someone who feels the way I do.
Lol you are me
I’m quirky, easily excited with a childlike sense of wonder. I seek to appreciate something in every interaction I have with others. I have my mother’s beautiful eyes, curves for days, and a my grandmother’s Cupid’s bow lips.
“There is a big difference between objective beauty and perceived beauty.”
Matthew H
If the guy is even talking to you, then you're pretty enough.
Haha ugh that's depressing but probably real
@@ariadnewolf8667 why is that depressing
Him : “um excuse me can you move over?”
Me: *he wants me so bad*
@@EJ-bn3tc 😂
???? Pretty enough for a booty call or pretty enough to be a wife and mother to his children?!!
...I need to stop being really jealous of wives and mothers he he...
I like that I don't wear clothes just because other girls find it trendy. I like how I wear clothes that remind me of my rolemodels and makes ME feel good, even if no one in my locale dresses like me.
wow i'm the same way, so glad you shared this, sometimes people give me looks but i wish to keep my joy not to be "in line of fashion" it does take to be brave ,....so rock on sister ;o)
i know my oppinion matters very little to you (since i´m a girl,far away and a total stranger haha) but i generaly tend to love this quality ...dressing up in a matter that is yours and you identify with, even if it isn´t ¨cool¨or in trend or whatever...it´s inspirational, to me.
How would you describe your style?
Girlllllll me too!!! I don't follow trends.
All the girls in my school try to look like Kylie Jenner, meanwhile I try to look like Morticia from The Addams Family. XD
I just visited an art gallery yesterday and told my friend that if I feel insecure about my body I always find it helps to go there because the portrayal of female nakedness is way more real than in media today. It just creates this vibe of normalcy and how back then that was the beauty ideal.
Great now i have to upgrade my whole package
Mood 😂
Haha made me ugly laugh😂
I feel like the fact that you made this comment means you have a great package XD
I study this guys public speaking skills. It's amazing. His dating advise isn't too bad either.
What have you found? 😊
his insight into the female mind must be insane, considering how many people talk to him about their problems
9 years later, and I'm not in love with the fact that he got defensive over the b-word... just because he doesn't have an attachment to it doesn't mean that it isn't absolutely connected to the overall oppression of women... but at least he never uses it anymore in his new content
I’m mesmerised on how intelligent this guy is, honestly. I wish I knew more people with this kind of mentality to have conversations with!
One thing about myself that I think gets underappreciated, is my willingness to talk to anyone. I love having those serious conversations with friends and family, and giving advice. Talking with others about how they feel makes me feel like I am doing something meaningful for them. This has helped me form lots of really good relationships with my people.
As a man , I don’t want my woman talking to everyone or anyone . I’ve had to explain this to my wife of 7 years now. Week one of us dating, she is so kind and compassionate but with that comes wondering eyes ( not sexually ), but men perceive this as an invitation to flirt even IF the intention are good and that jeopardizes and risks our relationship. The man at the gas’s station maybe could use some help, but one would need to think if it’s worth any issue . Men think “ I have a shot” and makes her relationship and man seem weak. Don’t be willing to talk to anyone . Be a bit guarded and mysterious. You will never stop being compassionate, simply put a layer between being open to everyone and being open to those that truly are worth your efforts. As a psychologist trust me , many people are not willing to be better with solid advice , let alone a strangers help.
3:33 is where the info about attraction starts
Thank you SO much
julie bane thanks xx
Nice,thanks julie bane 😁
Saved my life u! Thank u lmao
Thank You
My heart isn't appreciated enough. I'm such a generous person, and people use that to take advantage of me. But I appreciate how considerate and compassionate I am. And you, Matthew, are a tall glass of water ;-)
Sarah Missanthrope Same. You gotta protect yourself from those people. Know how much to give and when it's time to pull out. I'm till learning this.
Me too.
Well i think my best feature is the fact I can always make myself laugh, I think im hilarious. 🤣😂.
Keira B that made me laugh!! So cute 😃
Your hair is nice too
Regular Dude oh thank you!! 🙂
You would be a fun friend to have too I bet 😊
Idk you but I bet you are hilarious 🤣
Everyone of us has its unique beauty and everyone has its own meaning of being beautiful. Be your own kind of beautiful not what somebody says to you.It’s not only physical appearances that matters but the real beauty within.
LoveMe,com No. It is the physical beauty of women. Everything else comes way behind. The end
@@arisgreek8697 true
I am officially in love with my chocolate brown skin color tone, I like and am in love with it 😍
well said me too
Go you! That's the most beautiful skin color in my opinion!!!
Selma O. Hamour so you should be. your skin tone is beautiful! You go sister!
I could listen to him for hours. His voice is so calm and I love his accent 😂
Now can teach us how to become charismatic and overcome the trauma caused by the many times we were bullied while growing up for being unattractive!!
Because that’s the real struggle!
It's easy.. wait til you are 40. The Maleficent in you awakes and all that insecurity vanishes overnight.
Stacey Smith I think a huge part is forgiveness and understanding. If you were bullied as a child/teen by others the same age as you, they may not have really thought you were unattractive, but may have actually felt threatened by you OR one may have made a comment and the others were just being followers and bullying you to avoid being bullied themselves. The thing with bullying as a youth, is that because of the maturity level, the real reason for bullying is often because those who bully are insecure of themselves. Why else would anyone make such an effort to point out another’s “flaws” and consistently draw attention to someone else’s appearance in a negative way? Because they’re hoping to take the attention off of the very thing they’re insecure about, all while putting it out there that “don’t mess with me” and wanting to be feared, so that nobody would be brave enough to point out that the bully themselves is not perfect.
Try to think of those people as being insecure and suffering inside at that time, and unfortunately because they were young, they didn’t understand that deflecting their insecurities in this way, on to another, would have such long lasting, and painful consequences. If not you, it would have been someone else. You are beautiful! And even more so because you are strong! ❤️❤️
@@tweetiepie551 Is it? Omg can't wait!
True. I guess it would be up to us to believe that there really wasn't anything wrong with us in the first place. No one chooses to be bullied (myself included).
@@meme6083 Sorry but it's totally untrue. And it's a 45 years old who tells you that. I was bullied for my red hair, for years. What did it for me was to improve my self-esteem. I went to see therapists (psychologists, hypnotherapist etc...), I grew myself by doing stuff I liked and was good at, learned new stuff to be proud of myself. You could be 70 and still despise yourself if you never worked to feel better about you.
Loved this video. So real and honest. I had a total “aha” moment when you said it’s a “waste of life” to worry about the things we can’t change. Bless you x
Put glasses to this guy: Hi Harry Potter!
Especially the way he talks! Oh my gosh I thought I was the only one who thought so!
I haven't realised that ...OMG hahaha
I Just see this vid for this ressemble i was lost in CZcams as usually the way better is you you off the sound of this vid but you let the vid on and you put harry potter's sound try it ;) (sorry i'm not English i don't know if what i said is understandable)
When i first saw him, i thought exactly like that 😂
+Maxime Max His voice is really similar to Daniel Radcliffe's LOL
i'm 17 years old asian girl living in Europe. I have small eyes (two days ago during a lesson when I was looking down on my textbook my teacher asked me if I'm sleeping) But I still really like my eyes! They have a dark and pretty brown color. What I used to hate about them but now quite like is that one eye is bigger than another! I'm gonna love myself and not care what other people say!
+Huska Kt good for you! and what a ignorant thing for that so called educator to say to you.
This description sounds just like me. Age, Asian in Europe, one eye bigger than another 😂
***** You are Mongolian, aren't you? Bi bas mongol huun shuu
+Huska Kt You go girl! I wish the rest of Asia, especially places such as South Korea, felt the same!
+jennifer kang I know right? I think asian women really should embrace our natural beauty rather than trying to fit into more western standards. Especially as you mentioned Koreans, their women are so georgous! Btw I am so touched by the support I got 😘
I’m not pretty and I have a boring personality.
And I’m obviously negative...
And you have a sense of humor 😊👍
Same 😂😂
+theOne5555555555 you awesome man
Lol!!!
See of you stepped into other shoes and saw how they looked at you, youd be in shock. Theres always someone that is enchanted by you...trust me.
That word "personality" is the most nauseating word when you're ugly and get told about personality 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
1000000000000000%
True.
Or that ur a good person 🙄🙄🙄
@@freeyourdreama7822 Friend zoned there and then. Life is not fair.
Let's be honest: looks matter! Both make and female. Make the most of what you have. Take care of your skin and your body! People who look good, feel good and it shows.
True. Appearances will never last forever, we all get old someday or even may get into accidents etc tat changes how we look 4ever. But what will last is a kind heart and positive attitude towards life. Thats beautiful.
Zahra Liang preach
You know what's funny about this video? As much as I don't know his inner beauty, his outside is really beautiful.
I try 😂
The actual content of the video starts at 3:29. or 7:19 for a quick recap. You're welcome.
LOL I thought this said are you PETTY enough? I was like nah, teach me how to be more petty!
I'm not really considered a "typical" pretty girl for today's society. But I'm very friendly and easy going. But my problem is that when I get around a guy I like I don't act like myself because I'm so nervous. I forget to smile and I barely talk. It's so irritating!
I had the same problem! Nice to know that I'm not alone in this :-) Just have fun with your male friends and get used to men. Also, the problem might not be in you - the guys might seem friendly and easy-going but they might actually be insecure and overly critical somewhere deep inside. Trust me, you will be comfortable around the guy that's right for you.
That 's what one of my friends said. "the right guy will help you feel comfortable around him". I try to keep that in mind. Good luck to us both!
sleepingsunrise
Actually, I've already met several guys who I felt comfortable around, and the last one even makes me feel self-confident and my brain doesn't stop working around him :-) It's way too soon to tell if he's "the right one", but he's definitely an exciting person and we get on well, which in itself is great :-) thanks, and yeah - good luck to us both!
sleepingsunrise MEEE TOOO!!! Here's what I did to fix it: I put him in the friendzone. Terrible, I know, but it helped me relax and be myself. Right about the time I gave up on him even liking me, he asked me out. IT WORKED!!! I got nervous again, but after a while, I realized I didn't need to be, because nothing had changed.
I plan on traveling a bit and seeing if my luck changes with men from other countries. I hope it goes well. But congrats to you! If I ever start to feel nervous around a guy I like I'll try that technique :-)
I love how protective and caring I am and how I can see the strength of those two feelings in my eyes. And I love how I can be protective without being possessive.
Nothing else matters about a person except the person themselves. Came across a few of your videos today, I can't deny that I enjoy watching the way you present your messages, how direct and concise you are in your delivery as well. I'm sure that videos like these have helped a great number of people in different ways and on many levels. Thank you for taking the time to do this sweetheart 😊
im literally so obsessed with your videos im about to "binge" watch all of them i strive to be as happy and wise as you are
I've always been self conscious about my chubby cheeks, since my childhood since I was teased ALOT for them. I will embrace them! I will be proud^.^
you go girl!
+Imani Mitchell Cheeks are cute! You just need a guy/girl who'll want to pinch your cheeks all the time ^_^
I get sad when guys say " I love short girls, not tall girls" lol
Rax Orx um.. K thanks
Rax Orx I know lol, I just didn't know how to respond.
Rax Orx well I'm kind of in the middle, almost short. You?
As I'm 5ft9/10, I know how horrible that is. However, I've heard other tall girls have a go at guys for preferring short girls, but these same girls then say how they could never date someone shorter than them which literally makes no sense.
Manatee()5 am short 😁 ✌
He'd be the best wing man
I'm not too sure he needs a wingman....
@@francieodendahl9351 wingman is for someone else that is what they meant.
I’m in a non-confident situation until I saw through this video right now , I guess I should think about my self value and the beauty that I was borned with. Thank you for upload these videos that can make my days more better✨😃
I appreciate my thick natural hair and my goofy personality. I'm very shy and don't know what guys think when they see me. I was told one time I give off this vibe that cannot be explained but they sat it was a good one.
you have such a beautiful smile I'd say you give off a good vibe just by your smile
+MyNycgirl thank you I appreciate the nice comment
First thing I noticed...you have an incredible smile. Beautiful hair and smile. That's some great features to have!
+Awesome zebra Aw thank you that's very sweet of you to say ☺
Thank you I appreciate the nice comment
I have several friends that I found completely a-attractive. I didn't find them particularly attractive, but I didn't find them ugly, either. Over time, getting to know them as people, spending time with them, I came to find them some of the most beautiful and handsome people I know.
Just watched this. My special beauty feature is my radiant smile and optimism. I always look for something positive in a situation or a person.
Thank you Matthew, you've handled that subject perfectly well. It feels it comes form someone who has really been taking a genuine interest in women. You take care, Lili
but society dont appreciate me, even how hard i try to be friend with them. They always say im too skinny like a stick. thats why i often want to be alone. but i felt pretty after i watch your video. thanx
Sandara Park sometimes we only hear the negative and focus on that, Plus anyone who says you're too skinny is jealous trust me.
Sandara Park People keep telling me I'm too skinny and at first it bothered me but now I don't give a fuck Lol! I feel fantastic the way I am, and I'm healthy! That's all that matters! Don't feel bad about it! :)
Valeria thank you. i'll remember that.
Dayane Oliveira thank you but trust me, when you see me in person, i dont look healthy
afox78 thank you, i am the skinniest, ugliest person among my family member. thats why they tease me that what if i'm adopted.😲 thats why i think theyre not jealous i think its true. 😢
When younger I went through a phase of approaching guys that I perceived to be way hotter than me because I was like- what the hell I'll give it a shot. Anyway, I ended up dating a couple of them that I liked and at the time I was so insecure about my looks that I couldn't believe they would date me. I'm not bad looking but they were definitely like super model attractive.
As it turns out- they were some of the most boring and un-fun people I ever dated. Not that attractive people are necessarily boring, but I think it taught me the lesson that being physically attractive is only one part (and a seriously minor part at that) of the whole package. They quickly became really unattractive to me.
Currently dating my long term boyfriend who is not as physically attractive as the other guys, but I've never been so attracted to someone in my life. Xxx
As a guy, I look for the values a girl has over looks and most of my friends do the same. If you are a nice girl that contributes to a relationship, a lot of guys will chase you.
I wish there were more guys like you all.
Once the chase is over, men don't even care what a woman does and starts to believe she does 'nothing'. No wonder women are on sexual rampages these days. Men are not fair.
Shut up men only love it when you treat them like trash
stop lies dude
i really think this is the best video you ever made; whenever im at my lowest during my dating journey i turn to this video for solace and hope
i have been told by several people that when i laugh i sound like a hyena, this has caused me to try to suppress laughing around guys and i know that there are guys that i think he's so cute but he couldn't possibly be in to someone like me
jordan stocker GURL EMBRACE YOUR BEAUTIFUL LAUGH
someone out there will find it contagious and it will make them happy. i cackle like a witch sometimes people find it creepy sometimes people find it hilarious. moretime hilarious lol
You know how to make yourself stop feeling insecure about that? turn it on it's head and turn it into a compliment. I know that's meant to be regarded as a bad thing but seriously...have you ever seen footage of a hyena? it's "laugh" to me sounds so happy- like it's found something hilarious and is having the time of it's life! why wouldn't you want to sound like that?! plus a laugh of that magnitude is infectious and can often lead other people to joining in. It's the best kind of laugh to have! It's obvious and happy and just awesome to hear! so you go ahead and laugh your heart out at whatever you want to because no one should make you feel like you can't laugh because that's like being told you can't have fun or that you can't express having fun and no one (friends, family, partners, etc.) should ever tell you that.
Bones Zebrina I snort when I laugh. I embrace it, embrace your laugh. If you do that, the right guy won't mind.
Marianna P I have yet to actually meet anyone who is put off by someone who snorts when they laugh! You should embrace it, it's adorable (I mean I don't know how the media ever portrayed it as a bad thing? because I've honestly never met anyone who didn't like it or at least find it funny! it's cute!) and you're right the right guy won't care either (heck maybe he'll snort when he laughs too!)
People consider me beautiful yet, I always like the ''ugly guy'' and people always wonder why. But even though I don't like the hot guy, I like the dorky or nerdy guy...
Half of this comment made sense, the other half was so poorly worded.
Fueler aww hope it works out, try talking to her though. Sometimes people are put off by letters.
same
Joe Bird that's very interesting I'm attracted to different looking types of guys. Not the typical.
Yup ditto
Unerappreciated aspect- How I choose to put a positive spin on most things.
I am insecure about nearly everything it made me anti social.. i know the harmful effects its causing but don't know how I can fight it..It all started happening after I was rejected and dumped by my only childhood love which I was crazy about for 8 years of my life.. but I was not good enough for him just because I was not that beautiful and an average looking girl.. since then my confidence is shattered .. but I will try to find it back thanks for the video it really gave me some hope..
Remember that everyone has a story. Don't use that story as a reason to not be involved with people and life. I was beautiful and yet couldn't get over someone for 8 yrs who just didn't feel the same way. Now married for 32 years to a man who saw my heart. I see you wrote this a year ago. I truely hope you have stopped using this story to stay alone.
I never appreciate my strength! I have severe trauma, have been verbally, physically, and sexually abused countless times and abandoned by the ones I love so many times but I'm still here and still fighting. I'm proud of myself. I do have insecurity, but I choose to love my disproportionately large boobs and narrow hips and braces and stomach that isn't quite toned yet but will be as I keep working and taking care of my mental health and drinking water and concentrating on whether I am full or not so I don't accidentally binge on healthy food. I'm 17 years old and I'm strong. If he doesn't like me that way, honestly that's fine. He doesn't owe me anything. But thank you for making this video! I keep telling myself he's too attractive for me but 99% of the feelings for him developed because I saw his beautiful heart. And yeah he's fucking hot but I don't get nervous around guys that are just hot. I treat those guys as an equal. But him! He is hot and has a beautiful heart and I fuck up all the time. But he just doesn't care and it's an amazing quality. Whether he likes me or not, I really hope to get a friendship out of this because people like that don't come around often. But non matter what, I am worthy of love.
Well said. Remember :YOU ARE WORTH IT! :)
Morgan Parker made me smile! sometimes I feel so fucking thankful for things in this world and this comment is such a gift. you rock. I am worth it. usually when I like guys it gives me anxiety and stomach problems and fear and stress and shit like that but honestly I don't spend every second thinking of him. its not a burden to have feelings for him. I embrace that shit! you are worth it too!
N. Fer. Ⓥ I feel you. You are so much stonger than you realize! I have a trauma from my childhood and been in bad relationships after that. Gone through verbally and physically abusement. Narsicism leaves deep scars and wrecks your self-esteem. Trauma effects your life completely. This said, I broke up with my boyfriend this year cause he was also abusive to me. I found the strenght to break the habit and I'm so proud of me! I was strong enough because I believed that I am meaningful, worthy and deserve to be treated with respect and caring. Remember that you are always worth of love and compassion. The road to deal with the trauma is quite long but the process makes you truly strong and conscious about the important things in life. Remember: you are good enough.
Look for Jesus and everything is gonna be fine, be strong!
N. Fer. Ⓥ People will tell you to get over it, but they never tell you how. One of the best things I ever did for myself was join Celebrate Recovery. It's free, it's worldwide, and it opened up a whole new world for me. My anxiety, insecurity, hurt, fear and resentments are all gone. I couldn't give it a higher recommendation. ♡
What if I'm more self concious about my personality than my looks?
it's all about rocking what u have. knowing who you are and how to rock it.
+Viva Glam wow, I thought I was the only one...
+Adagio Dazzle ahahaha I say soo many random things I can't even give an example :) But it is part of who you are and if people don't accept that then they are just superficial! I mean you can also make a joke out of it ...
+Adagio Dazzle I hope you are under 14 at least or else that's just uncomfortable.
Viva Glam sameeeeeee!!!!!
I love that I’m always very motivated and always try with this energy to encourage and motivate other people. That’s a compliment many friends (boys and girls) told me and it just makes me really happy! :)
Thank you so much...for that much needed booster. I may not be beautiful...objectively or the perceived one...though at my age I really do not mind much if I am or not! There are times in a person's life, like myself personally that I really need and want to feel beautiful ...so I need to feel good about myself. I can't give what I do not have!
And, in my own small circle...in my own small way I may contribute to the whole aura of something good within my circle of friends, influencing them somehow that there is still so much goodness and beauty in a lot of people...in a word, I can be a disperser of goodness and beauty within the small circle I move in, in my own small way.
And this is still about my insecurities and low self-confidence...
Once again, thank you so much for being an inspiration to a lot of people, men or women...and myself in particular! God Bless you always!
I'm ugly and fat but bitch, I rock that shit like it's going out of fashion 😏🙄😉
Millie Warner YAS SLAYY
Rachel Rodriguez Thank you 😊
***** Thank you 😊
That's amazing 😚😚😚😚😚
Millie Warner You're not even ugly but I love the attitude!
I wish that pale and fat was still in fashion. I could be a model
Maggie S I wish I had your pale skin
Girl you’re a freakin model no matter what’s “in fashion” 😉 own it gorgeous
But cant you loose some weight and get some tan? its not tha complicated
I don't recall being fat ever being in fashion
@@bobbobby475 Look up old paintings (baroc And renesans i Think)
I'm am going through a process of distancing myself from someone who is just playing with me.Thanks God I fell upon your website and its helping me cope and become self confident and knows what I really want. Thank Mr Matthew.
I’ve got beautiful long eyelashes and big eyes. I also love how outgoing I am when I meet new people, everyone admires my confidence. Thank you matthew for this video
Wow I'm reading this after 2 years, today in 2021. I was feeling sad and vulnerable again. I got dumped my someone I loved and now I started questioning myself and how I look. And reading my own comment on this video that I wrote 2 yrs ago makes me feel sad that I have not changed even though my situations have changed for good. Well dear Oorja from past. I thank you for the present. And I won't disappoint you. I love you and I will take care of you in future.
this is totally amazing. I've always been insecure, I'm currently looking for love and this is so refreshing. thank you. I'll take this on board :)
Hey Matthew.Thank you so much for this video. This is the first time i have come across such a great explanation about objective beauty and perceived beauty. I think we get so caught up in the objective beauty because we are so exposed to it that we forget that it's not realistic to try to keep up with that in real life. They're two different things. You did an amazing job of explaining it.
How in the world could someone not like you!!! You are amazing and so kind and intelligent. I appreciate your advice
My biggest attribute is my heart and my husband loves it. I watched this video because sometimes I still feel insure and I wish I would have seen this when I was younger. Thank you for a great video Mathew Hussey!
your heart just pumps blood nothing else
My Mum always told me, 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' so if they think u have beauty - DON'T QUESTION IT.
I can't stand when men tell me I have a beautiful personality, and what a great person I am ... yet follow up with but you would be drop dead flawless if you lost a few pounds. I have gained weight because I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and after they performed surgery to remove my thyroid I gained weight. I work out 5 days a week and eat well but it doesn't come off . my Dr says people with hypothyroidism struggle severely with weight gain and trying to shed pounds. personally I am OK with it I have come to embrace my size 14 and learned to live with this incurable disease because I eat right I just can't control the weight I pack on . what can I do so that this isn't an issue .
Go on Bbw sites. There are amazing guys on Bbw dating sites. I found them to be of a higher calibre than usual men to be honest.
Yikes! I have hypothyroidism too, but I didn't get my gland removed, neither do I plan to. I read a book called "Why Do I Still Have Thyroid Symptoms When My Lab Tests are Normal?" and it opened my eyes to a lot of things. Thankfully, I did research on hypothyroidism before the book as well so reading it only solidified the info I found.
It turns out you don't have to get your thyroid gland removed, in fact it's discouraged in a lot of cases. I'm afraid you went to the wrong doctor/person when getting that procedure done because there IS a way to permanently fix hypothyroidism: it involves blood tests that determine where the problem originally started and developing a mainly eating-based plan that will simultaneously diminish the symptoms while healing itself to being a complete reversal. Most people don't even know they have hypothyroidism, let alone how to properly fix it.
PANCAKES PANCAKES racist.
Kristina Arce you're inspiration to me right now. God has blessed your spouse to be. Your mindset should go for all girls/boys. I hope you have a good day or anyone else that's reading this. God bless. :)
❤👑
I have watched this video many many times and it's like a new thing every time. I see errors and ways I can make changes in my life. Thanks so much for the way you put your videos together.
They are always rich and invigorating
Love this video. My looks are very plain and I'm the quiet one. Compassionate, care, compliment, empathy, kindness....and a touch of saucy flirting and coy looks. I'm reserved and only touch and allow ppl I like to touch me..it's a gift. I'm confident in my own skin now after years of insecurity. Shine from within and ppl now notice and appreciate me.
This is a nice message. I've never heard it described like this before
you are so articulate and so bang on as well. i try and explain this idea to people all the time when they make self-deprecating comments about their looks (as a model, you tend to hear this a lot from people, both girls and guys) and i find it so heartbreaking. I am as insecure as the next person about my looks, even though i get paid for them (in the modelling business one minute you're hot, the next you're not so you learn to not rely on your looks too much), but I know real beauty is an attitude and it comes from confidence in yourself. And that confidence need not stem from your looks alone (although it can, but if that's the only place from which you draw your self esteem from well that isn't confidence, that's vanity and arrogance). It should be drawn from the deep well of who you are as a person. Cos to be truly beautiful you have to be a good person with a good heart.
Matthew, you have BEAUTIFUL English, I enjoy it tremendously, as well as I enjoy your way of addressing really important issues for women. Thank you for being so honest and committed ❤
Hey, I just found you today. Not sure you will see this or not, but your words, thoughts and what you bring out to the people is what I think about all the time. It's amazing how similar our views are and I'm so glad that you are a figure that could spread the word a lot furthur than I can, but try to do. I'm sure a lot of other people have the same views as us, but I just want to thank you for helping people out and bringing out the best in them.
I saw this guy and he was beautiful ....... but when i finally spoke to him with in 5 minutes i was like 'hell no " ........ i am now crushing on not as 'hot ' guy but omg his personality and charm 😱😱😱😱 so its true whats on the inside that counts xxxxx
CZcams recommended this video. Good stuff! Preach it Matthew! I was insecure about things I couldn't really change like my skin, hair, voice, height lol dumb stuff really. I was bullied for all that, but my personality is so bomb and they were just missing out. I'm hilarious 😂 and extremely caring. The WHOLE package lol So there's that 👸🏽 But really, I love my heart. I can be so generous, empathetic, friendly and all that good stuff but I think it gets overlooked. 🙃
Something that gets me through life's hardships is my sense of humour, I make myself laugh, some other people too. Thanks for this video
The part about myself I feel under-appreciated is that I try no matter what.. I try my best at everything and give everything of what I got
My sense of pride!
Explination: how I carry my self.
Why is it that all the Matthews (Matt) that I know or know of are all dam good looking!!
yeah mathews r hot
Yeah ! Matthew Hussey, Matthew Hitt, Matthew Daddario, Matthew Lewis, Matthew Grey Gubbler, Matthew Goode, Matthew Paetz, Matthew Morrison... Matthews are damn hot
+hinde64 it's a strange but wonderful thing😊.
+hinde64 And Matt Smith lmao
Matt Dallas? ;)
What an interesting, positive and growth-oriented outlook! Good job in expressing it to all of us. I'm enjoying that you stand for something interesting and are just going for it, in putting it out in the world.
That's exactly the idea i had yesterday Mathew what counts is our attitude and our self confidence that gives people that perception that we're wonderful
This is the most inspiring thing I've ever watched. This was the time that i needed most to hear this kind of a thing. You helped me to see the bright side 😊😊
There are so many insecure people in the comments, its crazy.
"I'm sick of men. I'm sick of dealing with these no good scum."
Well guess what everyone, negativity is not attractive. And the more negative you are about yourself, the more people will be repulsed by you. Same goes for men.
For certain guys, their perspective is also, "I'M SICK OF WOMEN, I'm sick of dealing with b*tches."
Its so funny how both sides hate each other and have the same negativity.
Noone wants to be attracted to someone out of pity. Work on yourself and do something about it. Same goes for the guy.
Complaining doesn't get anything done. Stop hating and stop bringing out bad thoughts cause that doesn't lead to progress.
Hmph. Wow. Well said and I agree.
I love to create beauty for others to enjoy: like my beautiful garden, a tasty meal, a fun adventure & even a happy healthy me through my interests and personality. I think that's the best kind of beauty I can offer others.
I am having new ideas to enjoy my classes, so around me that creativity makes me feel the beuty in my environment.
An answer to the last question: I know how to appreciate and find beauty in ordinary things. They include small flowers between the rocks, the changing color of the skies with the changing shape of the clouds, or just the way things are there. I think this is one of my biggest strength and I'm so blessed to have this nature. Thanks for the video!