I don't feel pretty.

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Komentáƙe • 843

  • @amy_lee
    @amy_lee  Pƙed 5 lety +3346

    People like people who like themselves a lot.

    • @yankyLOVE22
      @yankyLOVE22 Pƙed 5 lety +31

      my mantra from now on :)

    • @holdtrue2021
      @holdtrue2021 Pƙed 5 lety +17

      Just found your channel & so glad❀I did, good vibes✌

    • @Annettely
      @Annettely Pƙed 5 lety +5

      :(

    • @cindylouwhoo
      @cindylouwhoo Pƙed 5 lety +4

      Amy! You should just go by saying: come join the fami-LEE! I think that would be super awesome! :D

    • @ninaschatton3340
      @ninaschatton3340 Pƙed 5 lety +25

      But defintely not as in narcissist

  • @katrinastacie
    @katrinastacie Pƙed 5 lety +5062

    “Someone else’s beauty is not the absence of your own.”

    • @Seonnie
      @Seonnie Pƙed 5 lety +2

      đŸ‘đŸœđŸ‘đŸœđŸ‘đŸœ

    • @robingreen3391
      @robingreen3391 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      Katrina Stacie read this at the right time

    • @tuliplee3924
      @tuliplee3924 Pƙed 4 lety +57

      @@sawrunner0 I use to think about that quote and believe it myself.. but the world is so shallow. Everyone is literally trying to look the same, so it actually seems that someone's else's beauty that isn't in your standard is the absence of your beauty.. because of how the world actually thinks.

    • @artsbybware4790
      @artsbybware4790 Pƙed 4 lety

      @@tuliplee3924 Exactly

    • @yudit.loves.raccoons4079
      @yudit.loves.raccoons4079 Pƙed 4 lety +6

      The dumbest shit anyone ever said. Yes it is

  • @bebobabooo268
    @bebobabooo268 Pƙed 4 lety +2127

    Even if no one notices your beauty, remember
    *Your dog will always think you're the most beautiful human ever*

  • @BriarEden0312
    @BriarEden0312 Pƙed 3 lety +173

    Nothing can kill my confidence quicker than a video or a picture of myself

  • @ssistersxoxo7469
    @ssistersxoxo7469 Pƙed 5 lety +1604

    Some times I look in the mirror and stares for so long and at my self thinking :
    -why do I not have a boyfriend
    -why do I look like this
    -why am I not pretty enough

    • @liane6154
      @liane6154 Pƙed 4 lety +52

      relate to this always

    • @bluewave4163
      @bluewave4163 Pƙed 4 lety +34

      Me too girl😔

    • @weshare5598
      @weshare5598 Pƙed 4 lety +61

      i literally think about these 3 things everyday

    • @ambriahughes2855
      @ambriahughes2855 Pƙed 4 lety +18

      I think of this all the time

    • @mumuwa9097
      @mumuwa9097 Pƙed 4 lety +18

      When I thought I'm the only person that thinks of these thing

  • @catherinemegs
    @catherinemegs Pƙed 5 lety +2488

    So I heard this great quote that I often remind myself.
    “You’re absolutely gorgeous and that’s the LEAST interesting thing about you.”
    Friendly reminder that beauty stems from the inside💕 LOVE THE CONTENT GORL💕

    • @whehwr
      @whehwr Pƙed 5 lety +21

      Megan De Leon hi, I just want to say thank you for putting this out there!

    • @MissSunshine221
      @MissSunshine221 Pƙed 5 lety +4

      Isn’t that from all the boys I’ve loved before

    • @Brianna-nc3og
      @Brianna-nc3og Pƙed 5 lety +1

      I love this

    • @juliab.75
      @juliab.75 Pƙed 4 lety

      Megan De Leon ur gorg!! 💕😘

    • @nanaa428
      @nanaa428 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      Hi, you’re right, that might be the least interesting thing about you, but you really are so pretty!!!!

  • @MissSunshine221
    @MissSunshine221 Pƙed 5 lety +2290

    I get noticed by guys and I still feel extremely ugly and I’m super insecure. I hate to admit this but I do seek validation from guys unfortunately, and whenever I get it i feel even worse because it doesn’t mean shit. A guy thinking you’re pretty doesn’t mean anything, if someone tells me they like me, that I’m funny or have a cool personality, that honestly makes me so happy. It’s the best compliment you can get.

    • @pureangelsweet
      @pureangelsweet Pƙed 4 lety +10

      same

    • @katyk6912
      @katyk6912 Pƙed 4 lety +78

      Exactly same, I don’t feel ugly tho, it’s like I feel not pretty enough and I’m afraid to go on dates bcz I’m afraid guys will think I’m ugly, no one ever told me I’m ugly before so idk why I’m acting like this.

    • @minoh1198
      @minoh1198 Pƙed 4 lety +25

      Alyssa but if u are ugly and you never got told u are pretty u would at least want to know how it feels when somebody tells u that u are pretty

    • @dariyabadra9804
      @dariyabadra9804 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Mino H facts..... 😞😞😞😞

    • @lizethmunguia5802
      @lizethmunguia5802 Pƙed 4 lety +40

      I'm the other way around, I get told a lot I'm funny or have a cool personality but never get told I'm pretty or anything similar, my friends get a lot of guys to notice them but I don't and honestly it makes me feel bad.

  • @PriyankTV
    @PriyankTV Pƙed 5 lety +2861

    You have a pretty vibe

  • @anni613
    @anni613 Pƙed 5 lety +1398

    I try to not view beauty solely based off of people's looks. And I started viewing and evaluating beauty based off of who they are as a person and how they treat other people. By doing this, I feel like my entire world has become more beautiful, and everyone looks prettier in my eyes :) Also... I LOVE THIS AMY.

    • @crystalkim5356
      @crystalkim5356 Pƙed 5 lety +20

      this is wonderful! you are wonderful!

    • @averixu4836
      @averixu4836 Pƙed 5 lety +5

      Honestly this is it right here!!! I 100% agree with you and do the same

    • @anibananii8818
      @anibananii8818 Pƙed 5 lety +2

      same i started to do the same !!

    • @arooshatariq5573
      @arooshatariq5573 Pƙed 4 lety

      Same

    • @nafficitrus1738
      @nafficitrus1738 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      I do that too. I can easily see someone else's beauty beyond their physical attributes but.. I can never do that to myself.

  • @janicewong4385
    @janicewong4385 Pƙed 5 lety +1012

    i had a really bad breakdown last night because i felt “not pretty” at all and all i felt was hopelessness....this video couldn’t have come at a better time. thank you so much for this, you’ve truly given me a whole new perspective!

    • @Bren-I-oop
      @Bren-I-oop Pƙed 5 lety +5

      i feel like i might have had a similar experience but, honestly every time i feel like I’m about to have serious negative emotions about not being pretty i immediately get reminded of this video czcams.com/video/TJAqwSmbKJc/video.html.
      And then I laugh. It’s still good to take care of and confront that emotion so as to not let it build up and hide behind humor, though.

    • @michellekellison3384
      @michellekellison3384 Pƙed 5 lety +5

      I hope you feel happy now

    • @idekanymore1624
      @idekanymore1624 Pƙed 3 lety

      I had a breakdown last night too!

    • @newgenerationanpanman7870
      @newgenerationanpanman7870 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      I am having a breakdown this night actually.

    • @pariscortez4190
      @pariscortez4190 Pƙed rokem

      Had a breakdown this morning :(

  • @delilah1313
    @delilah1313 Pƙed 4 lety +520

    I’m more insecure about who I am on the inside than the outside.. :(

    • @ayayay9587
      @ayayay9587 Pƙed 4 lety +192

      Me too. I always feel like I'm not interesting, not smart enough and have zero personality

    • @seemabasif7998
      @seemabasif7998 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      relateable

    • @seemabasif7998
      @seemabasif7998 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      @nava you look pretty in your display picture đŸ˜»

    • @m0ldm0ld
      @m0ldm0ld Pƙed 4 lety +19

      Same. I'm actually an asshole ngl

    • @delilah1313
      @delilah1313 Pƙed 4 lety +5

      Sebastian Rivera because I don’t feel pretty đŸ„Ž

  • @somyanandwani3420
    @somyanandwani3420 Pƙed 4 lety +90

    I feel like the feeling that I am ugly has gotten into my subconscious and its taking a toll on how I feel during situations.

    • @Sariine436
      @Sariine436 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Lisinin to positive Affirmations

    • @somyanandwani3420
      @somyanandwani3420 Pƙed 4 lety

      @@Sariine436 Sure, will try doing so...thanks for suggesting. :)

  • @nso1180
    @nso1180 Pƙed 5 lety +425

    this is a quote I came up with:
    “I don’t need to hear that I’m beautiful, I need to hear that I’m worthy even if I’m not.”
    A lot of people say things like “everyone is beautiful,” but that statement implies that beauty is important and everyone HAS to have it or else. But the truth is, it’s okay to be ugly. It doesn’t matter if you’re pretty or ugly, if you’ve got something deeper to offer then I like you and that’s that!! To hell with your appearance!!
    Make people feel something real and it won’t matter what you look like. I’ve never felt connected to someone just because of how they looked.

    • @mcfreeze2266
      @mcfreeze2266 Pƙed 4 lety +6

      can u do me a motivational speech with that topic? I really love ur words

    • @MultiU4U
      @MultiU4U Pƙed 4 lety +18

      No offense but who the fuck wants to hear that they’re ugly? I’m not okay with being ugly :/ I’m tired of it

    • @myrtila
      @myrtila Pƙed 4 lety +32

      “Ugly” doesn’t actually exist. We call people ugly because they don’t meet up society’s beauty standards. We created “ugly humans”. Everyone is beautiful in a different way.

    • @nso1180
      @nso1180 Pƙed 4 lety

      it's aliki I actually really like this perspective!! thanks for your input đŸ€

  • @heatherbixler100
    @heatherbixler100 Pƙed 4 lety +229

    Mirror mirror on the wall..
    It does not matter if I'm short or tall
    If I have skinny legs or if my hips are wide
    It only matters who I am inside
    Blue eyes brown eyes black or green
    What makes me beautiful cannot be seen
    When you see me don't judge my parts
    The most beautiful thing about me is my heart!! 💙💙
    *One day you will look back and see, I am perfect just as me.

  • @dreamerxoxo1804
    @dreamerxoxo1804 Pƙed 5 lety +209

    i clicked on this video and first thing i thought was "damn shes gorgeous" and then u started talking and damn. beautiful inside out. stan a legend. iconic. queen.

  • @hayastan111
    @hayastan111 Pƙed 4 lety +70

    For every girl who feels this way, read this.
    Beauty standards were invented by one person. It was not invented by the whole world. If you have flaws, please love them. It's what makes you unique and original. It's what makes you beautiful. Imagine a world where everyone had no flaws. They all looked the same. And they all happened to fit the impossible beauty standards. It would be pretty boring, right? Embrace your flaws because it's what makes you, you.

    • @veetee4826
      @veetee4826 Pƙed 3 lety +6

      the term 'flaw' is created by the mind. flaw did not exist before there were 'ideals' set by society. So, you're statement here is off. Flaws exist only if you allow yourself to believe this framework that someone, as you have mentioned, set as an influence to dominate our minds in this world. did we even know what 'flaw' was as a 3 yr old?

  • @MrToriFaust
    @MrToriFaust Pƙed 5 lety +459

    Can we legit get an AM with Amy podcast? Honestly, I am here for EVERYTHING that you have to say. The things that you talk about are so relevant and they're the words that a lot of people need to hear. You break it down to be concise and easy to swallow and you keep things real af during every moment. You are the type of friend that we all need in life and I hope that you keep doing what you do because it's fabulous.

  • @xBobaFetish
    @xBobaFetish Pƙed 5 lety +264

    Character is a true test of attractiveness of a person. Looks fade, intelligence can be obtained, but keeping your values and principles in mind and applying is another level of both influence and attraction.
    And there's people who don't get that. Those are people who you don't have to pay mind to.

    • @harrystylesmiddlefinger
      @harrystylesmiddlefinger Pƙed 4 lety +8

      No it's not. Trust me. I'm not trying to be pessimistic but being good-looking can get you everywhere in life. But being the opposite doesn't. It makes things harder. This is the society we're living in. Stop being so cliche. I know where you're coming from, but you won't understand... Cuz ugh I'm ap ugly

    • @xBobaFetish
      @xBobaFetish Pƙed 4 lety +13

      @@harrystylesmiddlefinger Look, I'm not denying that pretty privilege isn't a thing. I agree that looks does give people an upper hand when navigating society, their careers, and even relationships. But. Looks don't keep your professional network together. Looks don't sustain relationships in itself. If your attractiveness is paired with weak character, you will find yourself in a network of shallow and unfulfilling people. I'm completely aware that attractiveness can give people an upper hand in society - I'm not stupid. From experience in itself, being attractive can also have a downside in areas where respect is touted toward different skills that might be required from you. But if you want to seek a fulfilling life and go to bed HAPPY with yourself and your conscience, then you need to work on your character and self-worth. "Stop being so cliche". Just because there are cliches in life doesn't mean that they lack truth. JFC. And yes, this is coming from someone with some life experience. I can write a novel on this, but this is youtube.

    • @xBobaFetish
      @xBobaFetish Pƙed 4 lety +5

      @@harrystylesmiddlefinger Not to mention, a lot of people lack values and principles in their life. Especially with people who have the "looks" to get them whatever they want in life. Many of them go into a downward spiral because they lack guiding principles in life. If you choose to not believe me, go ahead and ask those people.

    • @xBobaFetish
      @xBobaFetish Pƙed 4 lety +3

      @NCT stands for Neo Crackhead TechnologyYour character is something that you can work on and control moreso than whoever finds you attractive. It takes work. Everyone has that responsibility to be better.

    • @xBobaFetish
      @xBobaFetish Pƙed 4 lety +5

      @@harrystylesmiddlefinger I also mentioned that when you work on your character, you possess an ability to gain a different level of influence than people who just stand there and look pretty all day. You create a sense of relatability, charisma, and emotional connections with people you come in contact with. This is a fact. Not all influential people bust their ass to the top strictly through their looks. 🙄

  • @kirabacher
    @kirabacher Pƙed 5 lety +34

    i remember i was watching a video once and the girl said "being beautiful isn't an accomplishment" and that really stuck with me because it's honestly so true

  • @sophiel.2465
    @sophiel.2465 Pƙed 5 lety +230

    I highly recommend the Korean Drama "My ID is Gangnam Beauty", it addresses a lot of aspects Amy talks about

  • @DonnaZed
    @DonnaZed Pƙed 5 lety +217

    During my childhood and beginning of teen years I’ve always been treated as the ugly one, I was bullied into believing it and it’s been two years since I started taking care of myself and aiming to be the best version of myself ( I’m 20 now). Yes, pretty people do have it easier but now I’m actually on the other side ( I’m a model now , I can see that people treat me better in some ways and it makes me slightly uncomfortable when I see other people being treated as less worthy than me etc. ) I just wanna spread positivity and not be seen as just pretty... it’s sad that our society puts beauty on the top, we always judge from appearances even if we do not want to. I truly believe confidence is prettier than just being conventionally pretty. Anyway, great video Amy thank you for your words đŸ–€

    • @uwimanasimon987
      @uwimanasimon987 Pƙed 5 lety +3

      I relate to this so much. It's weird, my experiences were so similar to yours.

    • @DonnaZed
      @DonnaZed Pƙed 5 lety +1

      Uwimana Simon sending you good vibes đŸ–€

    • @ririg794
      @ririg794 Pƙed 5 lety +6

      i'm so happy for you

    • @DonnaZed
      @DonnaZed Pƙed 4 lety +1

      Sebastian Rivera that’s okay it’s your opinion :) I’m not trying to please everyone but if you feel handsome and beautiful in your own skin I applaud you, because I do and I’m proud of where I am today. Just so you know, a lot of my ex bullies reached out to me in recent years to telle me it was out of fear that they bullied me, because I’m half asian, so I’m proud now of my heritage ! Have a great day you beautiful human đŸ„°

    • @amanekaneshiro9816
      @amanekaneshiro9816 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      No matter how pretty you are it will be gone one day with age. So i can't care less .people need to realise not only is life temporary, suffering stems from believing in a life that's is delusional and not your real essence, wasting precious time and worry about how you look, you have no time to realise why you are here on earth and where would you be after life. You fail to accumulate good deeds and end up in the cycle of life and death and more suffering each time as you fail to realise how to be a better person but waste all your time arguing , comparing, partying, chatting crap on your CZcams channel like this person here, let me tell you I don't really care what you got to offer apart for good deeds and most people never considered afterlife and take it as of it is a joke. But it will definitely happen. Buddhists believe people look " pretty " if they did alot of good deeds in the last life. Check out the teaching yourself, perhaps you will be amazed how it is really not a blind religion as such but a science. And it is really sad how we feel not good enough when we look in the mirror, but Buddha offers a way out of this is kind of suffering. His teaching had taught me how not to feel I need to take revenge (everyone she hurts my feelings) on a very toxic mother , and no longer engage in arguments for example, even though it really is hard to do....I tried many methods and researched different faiths, and decided this is for me as I can see progress in myself as a person seeking enlightenment,wisdom and compassion.

  • @itselliekim
    @itselliekim Pƙed 5 lety +55

    I was cyberbullied when I was young. Two girls messaged me saying I was fat and looked like a boy. They said that they would cut off my hair to make me look like a boy even more and would cut me into little pieces with a knife. Since then, I felt ugly and I hated pictures and social media. This summer, I decided to change that. I want to OWN social media, not the other way around. That's why I started a youtube channel~ Thanks amy for touching on this topic!

    • @omyoussef7411
      @omyoussef7411 Pƙed 5 lety +3

      Not Limited To I find you gorgeous. Beauty is a subjective concept. How did you start getting confidence on your mind and in your looks even after cyber bullying. Good luck for your channel.

    • @AA-fb5fr
      @AA-fb5fr Pƙed 4 lety +5

      you'r beautiful

    • @celeste2329
      @celeste2329 Pƙed 2 lety

      those are such evil things to say. I hope you are in a better place mentally and feeling good about yourself now. you’re gorgeous I’m sure. ❀

  • @CarolCao
    @CarolCao Pƙed 5 lety +401

    How do you know what to say?? Like everything that comes out sound so perfect

    • @holdtrue2021
      @holdtrue2021 Pƙed 5 lety +22

      Carol, ❀when you trust your instincts you project confidence 🙌

  • @caywaii8844
    @caywaii8844 Pƙed 5 lety +212

    why is amy a mind reader...I seriously needed this right now wowww perfect timing

  • @rabiaabdkhank7829
    @rabiaabdkhank7829 Pƙed 5 lety +214

    "I have so much more to offer then my outer appeareance."
    This hit me hard bc finally I found someone who thinks like me. Like I am soooo confident about the things I can offer.I am good in talking about politics,philosophy,history,classic literature,music,dramas,series like soooo many things.And these alone are enough to make me confident even tho I look decent. I hope that I never lose this confidence that isn't based on my looks

    • @Emma-rb9sk
      @Emma-rb9sk Pƙed 5 lety +9

      Exactly thats my kind of view too. Its not all about how I look and I feel like everyone is complaning about how they look and stuff - I actually dont really care. I dont need a boyfriend or people who tell me that I'm pretty......My personality is wayyyy more interesting than my appeareance and people who actually really want to get to know me shouldn't be judging me on my look (:

    • @Emma-rb9sk
      @Emma-rb9sk Pƙed 5 lety +1

      Oh hab gerade gemerkt dass du deutsch sprichst haha 🙋

    • @rabiaabdkhank7829
      @rabiaabdkhank7829 Pƙed 5 lety

      @@Emma-rb9sk jaa ich bin eine deutschtĂŒrkin😂😊

    • @rabiaabdkhank7829
      @rabiaabdkhank7829 Pƙed 5 lety

      @@Emma-rb9sk jaa ich bin eine deutschtĂŒrkin😂😊

    • @Emma-rb9sk
      @Emma-rb9sk Pƙed 5 lety

      @@rabiaabdkhank7829 Cool haha schön Mal jemanden zu treffen der Deutsch spricht 😂🙌

  • @sheentheexplorer3859
    @sheentheexplorer3859 Pƙed 4 lety +50

    This has been bothering me for the longest time. I’m not confident with how I look, I don’t take time to apply stuff on my face because I’m thinking that everything’s going to be the same. I’m so insecure with those beautiful people and I kept on comparing myself to them.

  • @akirashipp1067
    @akirashipp1067 Pƙed 5 lety +44

    I remember when I went to study aboard and made new friends on a island and I was feeling fat and didn’t want to take off my shirt bc my costume was basically a bikini top. But when I finally had the courage to do it all my friends hyped me up so much! I loved the way they made me feel, it was such a nice gesture. They always reminded me that I was beautiful even though I felt so ugly, they starting to make me feel better about myself. I am now back at my home school and I catch myself feeling ugly now and then, but watching this video just reminds me how they treated me. So whenever I’m feeling bad about myself I can remember how great my friends were on the island.

  • @eggyjo
    @eggyjo Pƙed 5 lety +246

    wow this video is coming at such a great time in my life right now. I painfully relate so hard to the original email & you had so many insightful things to say!💖

  • @jirehtv1322
    @jirehtv1322 Pƙed 5 lety +31

    I have SO MANY thoughts about this. This topic is such a HUGE part of my story. I grew up being the "not pretty friend/sister". It literally almost killed me. I went into a deep depression over it at a very young age. I'll try to consolidate my thoughts.
    1. I 100% agree with both points about why you could be feeling that way. Especially the second. I had extremely unhealthy, controlling friendships. They wanted me to dress, look and behave a certain way and whether I did or not, they took it as an opportunity to humiliate me. When I did meet there standards in someway they were confused and mean. (I.e. Checking in my scalp to see if my hair was mine because it looked longer.) One of the healthiest and life saving things I did for myself was find new friends. It was scary. These people were my crew. My squad. If one was missing, they asked the other three where she was. I was making the conscious choice to be alone in high school before I remain apart of that click.
    2. Once I got new friends who celebrated my differences instead of trying to get me to conform, I started acting like it. I went out of my way to dress and behave exactly and unapologetically me. It boosted my confidence so much and I actually got MORE affirmation from others when I did that. My BEST advice is to wear what you love. Make your external appearance reflect you authentically even if its scary. For the love of God, do not try to wear the costume ither people seem to be confident in and assume it will work for you.
    3. Even after all of that, (finding a healthy affirming community that tells me I'm beautiful ALL THE TIME. My church has a very encouragement focused culture and we take time to celebrate each other constantly.) I've still found that I don't feel pretty all the time. When people tell me I'm beautiful I can't receive the compliment. Why? Because I don't agree. You could get all the verbal affirmation of beauty in the world, if you don't believe it too, all of those compliments will bounce right off of you. The cliche is true. You HAVE to believe it. And you HAVE to live your life like you believe that. Give other people compliments. Those who refresh others will also be refreshed.
    **steps off soap box**

  • @adyfern
    @adyfern Pƙed 3 lety +8

    12:33 “All of your insecurities can be made to empower you.” really glad i found your channel last year cuz you help me the most at times i feel the “i cant explain what i feel rn” feeling, love you amy and thenks for your content

  • @A2n1nova
    @A2n1nova Pƙed 5 lety +16

    I believe that "pretty" people are less attractive when they have a horrible attitude. I think physical traits are not the most important because I think that the way someone holds themselves says more about a person. Confidence is definitely a trait that makes a person attractive. Also I have NEVER seen an ugly person.(I have always thought this and I don't think it would change if I saw all of you tomorrow. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. work on the inside and then if after you want work on the outside go ahead(no need though) )Honestly, the only way someone looks less "pretty" or attractive is if they are extremely rude and just have this negative attitude. Thanks for this video I am definitely subscribing! Thanks for such a positive message. :)

  • @Silverfrost128
    @Silverfrost128 Pƙed 5 lety +22

    i really appreciate this series. I'm glad you enjoy making them, we enjoy watching them!

  • @euniceseong4421
    @euniceseong4421 Pƙed 5 lety +22

    Ever since I was in highschool and was struggling with my monolids, you were THE UCLA STUDENT CZcamsR WHO MADE ME FEEL LIKE I can be beautiful too, with my smol litto eyes, and seeing you having similar eyes as me and being SO BEAUTIFUL in my eyes gave me so much hope and I realized that it really isn‘t the world‘s standard of beauty that draws others to you. Does that make sense? It wasn‘t just your monolid makeup skills that made me love you, but also your sense of style, your wit, your mind and your constant energy to love yourself. Funny how you and Jenn Im were my go to unnies for my insecure self at age 16, and you two still continue to mentor me on the internet. Love you so much Amy and I owe so much to you❀

  • @buttertoast6097
    @buttertoast6097 Pƙed 5 lety +41

    Love this series and I wish more people would watch this and watch you ilysm ❀

  • @anikaduncan1439
    @anikaduncan1439 Pƙed 5 lety +16

    i’ve had body dysmorphia since high school. thank you for reminding me of the truth :) today i shall go out a confident lady ;) okay semi confident this is a work in progress

  • @paulinaszot6980
    @paulinaszot6980 Pƙed 5 lety +9

    Thank you so much Amy for this series. It honestly changed the way I look at life.

  • @KIMMYisKOQL
    @KIMMYisKOQL Pƙed 5 lety +24

    Thank you for bringing me back down to earth

  • @rachel-ur5bx
    @rachel-ur5bx Pƙed 5 lety +24

    this is my fourth year watching your videos, amy. i remember i would watch videos abt college when i was a freshman, and one night one of your UCLA vids popped up. i remember watching the videos you made in your dorm, being so proud of you when you graduated, you getting komey, moving into your first apartment, and i remember when you started the am with amy. you are my favorite youtuber. thank you for your eloquence and wisdom. you are inspiring. (and also, i am an intj, too!)

  • @destinyJoeliva
    @destinyJoeliva Pƙed 5 lety +37

    "Proactive or Reactive?" This has helped me!! I didnt even realise that a lot of my down days have everything to do with the confidence in my mind. I'm going to push through it and ACT like i deserve what i desire, because I do xx :) thanks amy!

  • @nooraellikaroliina9888
    @nooraellikaroliina9888 Pƙed 5 lety +9

    Thank you Amy! ♡ I seriously got so inspired by this! I've felt ugly all my life, but amazingly, just hearing these words really made me feel like now, for the first time, I'm going to start changing the ways I view myself. It's like by remembering these points I can finally get over my worst insecurities and concentrate on my best qualities that matter more in my life and make me who I am, while still feeling content with how I look as well. Just, thank you. I'm so happy I'm subscribed to your channel ♡

  • @vilinaengheepi9737
    @vilinaengheepi9737 Pƙed 5 lety

    Thank you for everything Amy . Its been a rough year and every monday watching these videos somehow pulls me through the week always ! You would not know how much difference it makes to hear a different perspective . Really grateful for you and your wise thoughts đŸ™đŸ»â€ïž

  • @Jeanisjean
    @Jeanisjean Pƙed 5 lety +29

    seems like each time you upload the am with amy, it’s during a time where i really need to hear what you have to say! so thankful for these videos 💜

  • @hayley5367
    @hayley5367 Pƙed 5 lety +4

    I really liked this video! because even though i struggle with this personally and made me rethink how i should perceive myself and how to stop projecting these emotions onto my friends, i find that this advice can apply to insecurities in general, not only physically but mentally and emotionally. thank you for this amy, this made my day 💖

  • @dnwalkingoneggshells
    @dnwalkingoneggshells Pƙed 5 lety +78

    amy is so friggin cool that i aspire to that so much more than the most beautiful person on youtube or otherwise. even though she is really attractive...

  • @NinjaBunni13
    @NinjaBunni13 Pƙed 5 lety +13

    I am so, so glad I clicked on this video. Recently I have felt the lowest I ever have in terms of looks and personality, but this video came at the perfect time. I love what you said about using insecurity as inspiration to improve, and what you said about projecting is so true. I’ve been doing that so much lately, but every time I’m tempted to, I’ll remember this video.
    I wish I could express how much your words mean!
    This is the most helpful advice I’ve heard on this topic. Thank you!

  • @srizualemgr
    @srizualemgr Pƙed 5 lety +7

    I grew up feeling that way and now I am 26 and still feel the same way. This video is such an eye opener for me because I really need to change my self projection. Thank you very much ❀

  • @Lia-ps3ym
    @Lia-ps3ym Pƙed 5 lety +10

    I'm so happy I watched this video, you really did just help me out with all the self-hate I've been dealing with lately. One thing I couldn't stop doing was comparing myself with other conventionally pretty girls, but I'm truly tired of being constantly sad about my looks, because it's true that looks are the least thing I should be worrying about. I have noticed that confident people are more attractive, like how you said that people like people who like themselves a lot! I hope I can get there soon and be happy with myself regardless of how I physically look. Thank you so much!! :D

  • @Violet-bc4tg
    @Violet-bc4tg Pƙed 5 lety +2

    Love this. How you present yourself has a huge impact too (and back to the thought/mind being powerful), but know so many people who do not fit the conventional attractiveness quota, but who are irresistable or enticing/ are actually attractive because of how they dress, act, think etc

  • @chickenbats22
    @chickenbats22 Pƙed 5 lety +7

    this is such an important topic im glad u discussed it this week! in college i was the “unpretty one” in my friend group not being hit on, feeling ugly and unwanted whenever my friends and i went out. then whenever i went out after college in other cities i was hit on pretty regularly. so like u said prettiness is not measured by other people it’s how u feel and it’s really not that important lol. just gotta be confident in urself both inside and out and that’s gorgeous by itself!

  • @leapaulino
    @leapaulino Pƙed 5 lety +6

    This is my version of weekly podcasts 😌 This series helps me so much!

  • @pekythongkham7299
    @pekythongkham7299 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    "people love people who love themselves."
    this is such an inspirational video, sooo many people would benefit from listening to your words and realizing that they are worth much more than their looks. love the vibes in this video, and can definitely relate to this topic. thanks for sharing. ❀

  • @chibap84
    @chibap84 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    I love listening to you, Amy. You just hit us with the truth and at the same time you manage to stay relatable. Never change :)

  • @TanyaKupryukhina
    @TanyaKupryukhina Pƙed 5 lety

    You got me healed all the time. Amd i ALWAYS watch your videos not exactly whem they come out, but whenever i feel like i will understand the vibe. Thank you for your talkings. It's like you're a good friend who's always there to make me feel better.

  • @katiekiyokogammon
    @katiekiyokogammon Pƙed 5 lety +9

    I needed this so much right now. I related a lot to the email that girl sent. Whenever I went out to bars or clubs with my friends they always seemed to get hit on while I didn't. It felt like the only times guys hit on me was when my "prettier" friends turned them down so the guys would go to the "next best thing." That's how I thought about it, anyway. Your video helped me realize that I was probably just projecting. It still is hard for me to acknowledge that it's all in my head, but I'll try to be better at not projecting and to not think so harshly of myself.

  • @nadw.6084
    @nadw.6084 Pƙed 5 lety +4

    Chelsea, your experience is something I deeply relate to. You are not alone!!! Thank you so much Amy for your wise words and support đŸ™†đŸ»đŸ™†đŸ»đŸ™†đŸ»

  • @allison8250
    @allison8250 Pƙed 5 lety +2

    I needed this reminder. Thank you so much for sharing this video with everyone. It's a beautiful, positive message you are sending out!

  • @nabilaimani4764
    @nabilaimani4764 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    I love this! thankyou for bringing this topic up! this really helps me getting through horrible things inside my head, it really helps me to think that there is much more than what meets the eye and giving me much more motivation to improve myself! so thankyou, thankyou, thankyou!đŸŒč

  • @amyadrien
    @amyadrien Pƙed 5 lety

    This series is honestly some of the most important, impactful content on the web right now. THANK YOU FOR DOING THIS. Watching the AM with Amy always brings value to my life and improves how I think about so many things. You're amazing and I really admire how well spoken and wise you are!

  • @jvsietruong
    @jvsietruong Pƙed 5 lety +3

    Amy, you’re so eloquent and beautiful. Thank you for this. đŸ™đŸ»
    I feel like I had a Copernican revolution in mentality shift within myself when you affirmed “people like people who like themselves”. It completely validates the people who care about what others think of them- at least for me. Because, everyone always tries to plant a particular seed in my head: “stop caring about what other people think”
    And I always wondered “how? How do I let go?” Now I see: that I don’t need to. That I can be proud to be someone who cares what other people think of me, so now I can be confident in who I am because I want people to like me, I want people to understand how much exactly I have to offer, but in order to do so, I must love myself as well because people like people who like themselves.
    Thank you for continuing your journey of own self love and enlightenment so you can share to the rest of the world. ❀

  • @SweetyShanice996
    @SweetyShanice996 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    I really love this message and resonate with it very well. This has been my mindset for the last 7 years because I too struggle with a part of my physical appearance and started to project those insecurities onto others. I realized that I’ve never seen myself as ugly or unattractive, but I’ve been questioning as to whether certain people think I am, and that is what destroyed my self-esteem. I know INTERNALLY that I’m not, and if I am, it shouldn’t matter or be the reason to what should be the most important. I have a good heart, am kind and can offer good to this world. Sending love to all those who feel this way and resonate to what she’s speaking ❀

  • @elvirageorgiu4491
    @elvirageorgiu4491 Pƙed 4 lety +2

    you literally spoke the truth!!! but you are so beautiful! and thank youuu for the adviceđŸ„ș💗

  • @hikaru5034
    @hikaru5034 Pƙed 5 lety

    I just love the AM with Amy videos. Thank you very much for continuing this series. I feel like when i need help, you always show up on my feed and my thoughts are getting organized while watching your videos. Of course i need to work on things by myself but you help me a lot. Also, it's very meaningful to get real thoughts or new perspectives from different people in general! Thank you ♡

  • @alinalanda7192
    @alinalanda7192 Pƙed 5 lety +31

    Thank you for talking about this! Not enough people do... and yet, it’s on many people’s minds(!) especially younger girls watching here who are coming of age. Critical stuff here!

  • @seashells4756
    @seashells4756 Pƙed 5 lety

    love that you talked about this topic! i just started creating content, & i noticed i started to become hyperaware of my looks in comparison to others-and becoming disappointed because of that. there is so much more to a person than their looks!!

  • @odalisalina991
    @odalisalina991 Pƙed 5 lety

    Omg you’re mentality and advise is soooo helpful, you’re definitely helping the world ! You’re changing our lives in a huge way. Thank you, Amy! Thank you so much. ♄

  • @hola.gabriela
    @hola.gabriela Pƙed 5 lety +5

    i like how you also mentioned your insecurity about not being “not smart enough” and i want to suggest that you expand on that more in another video â˜ș

  • @kimandmae101
    @kimandmae101 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    You’re a beautiful being in every aspect 💖

  • @vj1se9ok1c
    @vj1se9ok1c Pƙed 5 lety +3

    hi! I stumbled across this video just now, and after I watched it, I can say that this helped me so much to think positively about myself especially because I struggle with a eating disorder so I have a lot of problems with my appearance. Thanks to this video hope for development of my own self from the inside has grown a lot! Thank you so much for making this ... I have to check out your channel more! ps please keep making videos with messages like this one they really are helpful

  • @alinaburza6834
    @alinaburza6834 Pƙed 5 lety

    Thank you! This video is a great way to start my day. There is so much I have yet to learn about myself, about the way I feel inside and outside and the changes I should make for my health and this video portraits most of them❀

  • @christinaphan1
    @christinaphan1 Pƙed 5 lety +3

    omg amy.. had a rough day yesterday and needed to hear this. sipping on coffee tuesday morning rn and this is amazing.

  • @jessicach4ng
    @jessicach4ng Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Thank you so much Amy. I’ve been struggling with my inner demons and now I have a different perspective on how to manage them. ❀

  • @OliviaL96
    @OliviaL96 Pƙed 5 lety

    Amy, thanks for doing videos covering topics like this! This is something I’ve already really struggled with and it’s really helpful to have you talk about it!

  • @ArianaCarter
    @ArianaCarter Pƙed 5 lety

    I pretty much already tweeted this but this video could not have come at a more perfect time, thank you so much for your words, I love this series and I am so happy to have it

  • @arielleabelon7847
    @arielleabelon7847 Pƙed 5 lety +11

    Loved this! I vibe with this so much. I feel like as I’ve gotten older I haven’t changed in appearance so much as I’ve evolved confidence wise. I think that confidence and passion translates into “attractiveness.” If you love yourself in a non-egotistical way, people can be naturally drawn towards you.
    I did this photo comparison where I took a picture of myself in a previous year. Next to the picture I wrote down things I wanted to accomplish or overcome. I took another picture the following year after completing many of my personal goals. It’s crazy how confidence can change your appearance! I looked happier, I was standing up straight, I dressed myself better, etc. if you’re not sure where to start in building up yourself, I’d try out this exercise 😉 you’ll be amazed at what time can do.

  • @cookiemonster1234
    @cookiemonster1234 Pƙed 3 lety

    this actually made me feel better and made me understand that beauty inside is a lot more important :) so thankyou you beautiful soul.

  • @youdontneedmynameyoustilld8035

    this video helped me alot. im going through a very insecure point in my life (highschool) and i am constantly finding myself comparing my own appearance to that of people on social media and around me. from now on I'll try my best to work out my relationship with myself ❀

  • @agathefio5720
    @agathefio5720 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    I feel so blessed to know your CZcams channel because you're edited things that correspond to my soul : all personnal developpement video like this fashion, good eating habits. I ABSOLUTLY LOVE EVERYTHING when I watched your videos, like the background which make good vibes. I absolutly love you way of talking cause i'm french and due to you slowing way of talking I UNTERSTAND EVERYTHING. I love all really you're my pleasure of the day. YOURS VIDEOS make me believe much more in my way of thinking in life. Thank's dude ;)

  • @edenlorenhunt
    @edenlorenhunt Pƙed 2 lety

    This was so helpful thank you for sharing some wisdom. I got emotional watching this because I started thinking about my own life and how I negatively talk myself down. Like you just made me so hopeful to start looking at myself in a new light.

  • @simplycaspar
    @simplycaspar Pƙed 5 lety

    I JUST found your channel and I love it. Subscribed 😊 Younger me definitely needed this. 💕
    And honestly, conventionally attractive people who are mean, actually start to look ugly to me. Then someone I didn't take a second glance at, could totally wow me with how interesting and amazing they are. That's when I start to notice all the things that make them beautiful.

  • @anya7944
    @anya7944 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    I don’t think I can really put into words how this video helped me like some of the stuff you said really hit me so thank you

  • @gracechoi7288
    @gracechoi7288 Pƙed 5 lety

    amy!! i'm fairly new to your channel, and i cant believe i just found out about AM with amy! its such a great idea combining getting ready for the day + talking to us about these topics. im going to binge watch the other AMs and will continue to support youuuu

  • @kookieshook8142
    @kookieshook8142 Pƙed 4 lety

    I watched so many videos out there but this is the only one that helped me mentally :) thank you so much

  • @joslynollila9613
    @joslynollila9613 Pƙed 4 lety

    Thank you I really needed to hear this being a teenage girl going through puberty and my body changing I have had a hard time feeling good in my skin which has lead me to feel about every other aspect of me, who I truly am on the inside and caused me to be bitter and sad and wonder why I have no friends but what I really need to change is how I feel on the inside and realize my value and worth, thank you❀

  • @teeac2355
    @teeac2355 Pƙed 5 lety

    I love you for what you said in this video. I was just feeling so down right now. Yesturday i was about to cry because i felt so ugly. Listening to what you said made me feel sooooo much more better. So thank you so much Amy. You've got a new subscriber!

  • @Jesszicar
    @Jesszicar Pƙed 5 lety

    You’re so beautiful inside! (out too, but honestly your personality is just so glowing!) I feel bad for not having watched your videos in a couple months :-( exams suck! But I’m happy to be catching up. You’re doing really well!

  • @carmenkeung7667
    @carmenkeung7667 Pƙed 5 lety

    Thank you for taking your time uploading this video thank you for being here helping me feel less insecure today thank you for everything

  • @charmainegee
    @charmainegee Pƙed 5 lety +1

    So important to address this, thanks for all of your endless wisdom Amy 💛

  • @mvlogs6208
    @mvlogs6208 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    Thank you so much for this video Amy. I've always seen myself as the ugly friend, and sometimes still do but, as a person, I know that I have a lot more to offer than others. This video helped me remind myself of that, as I'm having a hard time right now regarding this topic. Thank you so much again for your wise words.

  • @lyna7038
    @lyna7038 Pƙed 4 lety +11

    I am 15 years old 😊 and I was called ugly for so long , and I am thankful for it cause I learned a new thing and it is so precious it become a really important thing in my life ❀
    Well , to me beauty is something that everybody has , humans are made in a very beautiful way , you should never call yourself ugly , instead you should say that your look is socially unexpected or unappreciated because beauty standers are what makes you pretty or ugly in people's eyes , humans from a really young age are taught that a pretty woman has this and that, and an ugly woman is a woman that has this and that 💜so they grow up thinking that this is being beautiful this is being ugly, you don't chose to be ugly or pretty you are born that way like what the heck ? Humans made those rules ,why the frick do we have to work with these rules ?
    All humans are born beautiful, some of em are considered pretty because they re born looking a certain way and other peaple are not born with those certain features that humans like them made !
    So you are not ugly at all , no body is ugly if somebody calls you ugly they re soul is ugly they re pathetic and blind !!
    There is another thing , taste and attraction â€đŸ˜Š
    You might love blue eyes more than brown eyes but this doesn't mean that brown eyes are ugly it is just a personal preference! You might be attracted to brown guys more than white guys and it is fine it is a personal preference it is taste !💜
    So please don't ever call yourself ugly , you are soooooo beautiful please know this we re all beautiful all humans are beautiful and you know what makes you prettier your confidence your personality and your kindness ❀❀
    Hope I helped , and sorry if I made typos * I type really fast so I make a lot of mistakes *

  • @anniehannie85
    @anniehannie85 Pƙed 5 lety +3

    this was put together so beautifully

  • @taylorjean9363
    @taylorjean9363 Pƙed 3 lety

    I think you are one of the most beautiful people i have ever seen, i mean in every single way you radiate beauty

  • @mozartstreet
    @mozartstreet Pƙed 5 lety

    this topic speaks so much to me.. i always feel like the ugly friend, everyone is skinnier, prettier, has better skin. i just accepted it and am kinda ignoring it which helps me to move on but its not me living my best life.. thanks for your encouraging words amy! you're so pretty đŸ˜»đŸ’–đŸ’–

  • @muchelleb
    @muchelleb Pƙed 5 lety +15

    I think I'm in love

  • @arlynerojas6831
    @arlynerojas6831 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    I love this and agree ! Looks are the least important thing about a person . I definitely agree, a person who is confident in themselves and their abilities and has amazing characteristics such as being funny, kind, etc, wow now that’s attractive! ❀

  • @catk8245
    @catk8245 Pƙed 5 lety

    Seriously loved that, it was perfect bc I had a rough day at school. You're such an inspiration and mentor to so many out there including me thank you!

  • @kamanmusic
    @kamanmusic Pƙed 5 lety +12

    I was always a confident person and then I landed into a job that knocked me down in 3 months, I became so unhappy and unconfident... it was scary to me how a job would change me as I always enjoyed doing my job. I moved on 3 months ago and I am in my current job for 2 months. I still have a lot of self-doubts...not sure if it’s still related to the last job or just the stage of my life and experience. However, I am making progress to get my confidence back. I resonate so much when you say surround yourself with people who value you. My colleagues are those people and my friends as well, I feel good. So I think I am back to the right track!

    • @kat.5927
      @kat.5927 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      Do you mind me asking what job you were doing?

  • @celiad2648
    @celiad2648 Pƙed 5 lety

    I'm very happy that you talk about this subject, it's meaning a lot for me !

  • @kskapell
    @kskapell Pƙed 2 lety

    WOW Amy, its exactly what i needed to hear thank you so much, specifically about the people im around, ive been working a lot on myself and of cours a lot of things are internal and projections but I havent change much my circle. Thank you

  • @angiej7597
    @angiej7597 Pƙed 5 lety

    Amy! Thanks for making this video! I’m a monolided Korean girl born in Argentina. I deal with negative commentaries about my appearance(some of them where “friends” and members of my family). Most of the time
    I thought of undergoing plastic surgery, but i realized that changing my appearance wasn’t going to change the way I feel about my self. I was insecure and now I’m still insecure but trying to love the way I am. Thank you again Amy ! â™„ïžđŸ™†đŸ»â€â™€ïž

  • @dametriamorris782
    @dametriamorris782 Pƙed 5 lety +2

    My goodness you should have a podcast!!! (If you don’t already) I would be completely down for that!!! I always ❀❀❀ your messages/advice!