5 Women on Overcoming Self-Hate and Learning to Love Their Bodies | Iris
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- Five women get real about body image issues.
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I am ugly.
I'm too fat.
I'm not good enough.
I'm not pretty enough.
Closed off, like wallowing in my self-pity.
I was in a mind frame of just kinda letting myself go.
I remember calling myself a lot of hurtful things.
I felt like I didn't matter.
Oh, I'm getting emotional, sorry. (laughs)
When my best friend was getting married,
she asked me to be her maid of honor.
Just a few weeks before her wedding,
I was pounds, and I hated the way I looked in a dress.
I wasn't confident enough to do it.
And that was probably one of the most selfish things
that I've ever done.
So I met this guy on a dating app,
and we made plans to go out.
And then when the day was getting closer, I canceled.
I said to him that my allergies were acting up,
but I meant I don't feel confident enough
to meet somebody new.
Living in California, I live like half a mile away
from the ocean, and friends would always invite me
to go to the beach.
And so I'd always would make an excuse,
because I didn't feel comfortable in my own skin
to wear a bathing suit at the beach.
I wore my brother's bathing suit,
which were long shorts, to hide my thighs.
At my heaviest, there were times were I couldn't fit
in the seats of a rollercoaster.
I would just say to my friends,
oh, I'm busy that weekend, I can't go,
knowing full well I would have loved to have gone
if I didn't think that the embarrassment
would destroy me in that moment.
Everybody feels insecure, and if we share those things
with each other, we realize that we're not alone,
and it's not about size,
it's about feeling good in your own skin.
I like that I have a unique shape,
'cause people are always like,
oh, but you're short and curvy.
And I used to fight it, but now I'm like,
okay, I like my curves, like, it's different.
So I started at pounds and ended at .
And I realized it's not about the number on a scale,
but it's me being committed to a healthy lifestyle.
So I was a size , but now I'm a size .
But I don't focus on those, but now, with my body,
I feel like I'm growing into being
a better version of myself.
I think what I love about my body
is its capability to transform,
because I've probably lost about pounds already.
I'm still very much in the middle of my weight loss journey,
and I feel like I'm currently setting the groundwork
to getting where I wanna go.
[Karen] When I think back to my younger self,
I would definitely tell her--
[Meg] Not to make excuses.
[Sharron] Wear whatever the heck you want.
[Gabby] To be proud of who you are.
[Esther] You are beautiful.
The next time I'm asked to be someone's maid of honor,
I will say yes.
The next time I'm asked to go to the beach,
I will say yes.
The next time that I'm asked to go on an adventure,
I'm gonna say hell yeah.
[Gabby] The next time I'm asked on a date, I will say yes.
The next time I'm asked to surf,
I'll show up in a beautiful bikini and not feel embarrassed.
[Sharron] Girl, you got this.
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5 Women on Overcoming Self-Hate and Learning to Love Their Bodies | Iris
So moral of the story is they were all unhappy, they lost weight and then they got happy.
That's not happiness.
Jackson Hayes you got it
It's not body issues, it's low self esteem. You're simply picking the most obvious outward example of what's wrong with you. Grown up mature people realize that everyone's body is different and not going to look like the models in magazines or in movies. Pick your influences and push away false ideals. Runways and movies are fantasy worlds and NOT real. Not picking on women but come on lets do some hard thinking and realize what's really important in life, love and family. What other people think of you are their issues, not yours. Accept who you are as the best possible version at this moment.
Kinda true
You shouldn’t pick women with similar body types
I understand that women have body issues and are shamed of it. But, men have body issues as well. I haven’t seen a single damn video of men complaining how hard it was to lose weight. These women are beautiful inside and out but they had to and i mean had to get their own video about how hard it was for them to lose weight. I think men and women have it equally difficult to lose weight and are shamed for it but its just that men dont think about it as much as women. So lighten up about weight. These are our life choices and however we choose to make them. Choices have consequences and if you dont like it. Change it.
@Kissa Deff you argument is not valid, because if you use all those cosmetics, then you really don't like how you look do you? Theyre just covering up your insecurities. Men don't have that problem, maybe because we aren't wimps like you, arguing on CZcams comments that you disagree with.
Aidan Kleinhenz you're arguing on a yt comment right now. Most of the time, men would be shamed for wearing makeup, so they have no choice but to walk around as they are. Men are sometimes easier at hiding their feelings because of pride and how society wants them to be, but we, women and men have it equally bad. But no, we should not wear makeup or feel bad, but learn to love ourselves as we are and if possible, fix what we don't like. And no, not through plastic surgery, but through our mind and our heart. Where we truly see the ugly from what others have told us or we have compared ourselves to.
Darkshadow I’m a girl and I totally agree with you
@@aidankleinhenz739
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Kissa Deff Kissa Deff Kissa Deff I would say that women don’t have it worse when it comes to weight gain and weight loss, even though they may gain and keep weight from pregnancy, the obesity and overweight demographic is 73% male and 26% female (rounded results) with those stats you can’t say women are more apt to weight gain, especially when women are more likely to join weight loss programs like weight watchers then men. I would also like to add that the reason you don’t see aisles of men’s cosmetics is that, you do, dove men care, shave cream, and other such men’s hygiene products, and you wouldn’t recognize them due to the non flashy presentation of them, and when you see the aisles of cosmetics most of it is only a select few of major company’s that have near monopoly’s on their industries, so next time you see aisles of makeup take into consideration that it’s going to be 5 aisles out of ten of L’Oréal Paris
Ok... Nice this is cool... But why no other body types!? It's not only plus size that feel insecure...
Emiko E preach it Sister
Right I'm skinny and hate it
@@MsBettyRubbleok honestly I hate being thin.idk what people think. I always got bullied for being thin.so it was not an humble brag at all.
@@MsBettyRubble and yes your right it is accepted to be skinny.but my whole life I've been mocked and told to get weight on my bones and nobody loves bones.im not even underweight.it gets really tiring.so we all have problems.but apparently shaming skinny people is ok now
@Andy Berscheid what is lard? And don't be freaken mean!
I decided years ago to no longer refer to myself as “fat” and accept myself as I am, and to be comfortable with myself. As a result I contracted diabetes resulting in chronic kidney failure, stroke, partial vision loss & a lifetime of needing medication. This is the absolute truth, but don’t listen to me or others who know the outcome, by all means go ahead and embrace your “plus sized beauty.”.. Peace.
That's experience talking.
Sadly people never learn from others mistakes
Aint JoMamma 8
Aint JoMamma. What you want?
Aint JoMamma. T?
@@robinluich5576 rff&deff to be refrigerated to see him
3:01 this part made me so happy
Being just healthy, I repeat you have to remember to be healthy nothing matters...except salvation of your soul.....
“I am ugly”
hEY sAmE
Yea I know this is serious but I couldn’t help it
Yall are not alone feeling this. 😢😢
This situation is so true, they clearly expressed my own thoughts 😢
Diet and exercise would help
They’re gorgeous women, no one deserves to be put down for the way they are. No matter your size or curves, your height or weight, all women (and men, all people) are beautiful in every single way. Being comfortable in your own skin is what’s most important, not the number on the scale, it shouldn’t define you. Be yourself ladies and gents, and everyone in between.
Hfeyyj
And thats why america is #1 in population obesity
And what's between ladies and gents?
Yeah ,but I feel like the scale might define me if weighed 600lbs
I don't believe in the in between... Believe reality. Agree with everything else. Men are men... Women are women. Both are equal yet excel in their own way. I believe God made women beautiful... Better than gold. There is no greater treasure than a wise woman... No better friend. We should all love and appreciate each other for who we are
I have the opposite problem. Gaining weight is impossible 😅
Fire Nation Files -yes my sister does too! She is like these women. She hates her size which is very skinny even after two kids. Ppl will say girl u better put some weight on them bones. So we all get ridiculed for something. None of us is perfect!
I wish i was you, do u have a fast metabolism?
THANK YOU! SOMEONE WHO SEE'S MY PAIN🤣
Fire Nation Files omg sameeee it sucks because everyone else is like “oMg I WiSH I HaD THaT prObLEm sToP CoMPlaIninG” smh
Fire Nation Files exactly and it make me so insecure to be so tiny
I don't trip off that I love my self,when lose weight it will happen.
I feel sad that a lot of women feel extremely insecure. I am a young female, and I know I’m gorgeous, smart, courageous, witty, and awesome! And for anyone, male or female, who sees this comment, I hope you recognize how stunning you are. 💖🌸👌🏾
Bless your pure beautiful heart
I guess you also have an inflated ego.
@@menelikm9779 thank u
Says the person who couldn't upload their own profile pic of themselves
I have a friend who always taught me that it was very rude for someone to describe themself as beautiful, intelligent, and kind. That those were judgments reserved for others to make of you. I just want to get your thoughts on this. Thank you.
Im a 15 year old and im going through the say thing now😪
Who ever thinks they are ugly or fat or have low self esteem then don't think of your self as fat, ugly, weird, or not good enough. You are awesome. You are amazing. You are you! Don't feel bad when someone calls you ugly. if people think you look ugly then it doesn't matter it only matters if you are pretty on the inside not the outside! So just ignore those mean people that are bullies you should love yourself and be you!
You guys are really actually really pretty!!!!!! I'm really telling the truth 💞💞💞
I’ve honestly given up on these comment sections🙄... anybody else?
Favorite part 0:01
@@alinasdreams7066 really started the video to a great start
@Michael Ferraro she probably would
@@jocelyn1339 MAGA you inept brainwashed human. Go back to school and learn some:
-grammar
-manners
-ways to make friends
@Doge Paradox ikr
@@jocelyn1339 Talk about my self instead of a screen? What? If you are referring to my profile picture not being me its for privacy reasons and look at your own.
I’m extremely confident and completely secure in everything I do and I love when others embrace their confidence and security. “Wonder twin powers connected “🎉🎊💯🎊🔥
"we don't say fat. we say THICK!" - bretman rock
i read a few of the comments and i understand the people who talk about being thin, or being a man, or other types of insecurities etc - but i think the MAIN point of this is to just love yourself. be kind to yourself. she said "we all get insecure" and it's true. so we all definitely deserve a boost of self love!
Not only women go through this
You guys are so beautiful don’t call Yourself ugly You’re here for a reason love the body that you have
It’s so nice and validating to hear other women go through the same thing and learning what helps them learn to love themselves!
By
We are fearfully and wonderfully made in his image
They're all so beautiful
Kira Raechel 2 fhnyccbc
They're all so ugly what the heck are you talking about if you think they're beautiful you're ugly and then they're ugly how about that
@@billy3130 what💀
Thats an opinion,very little of the male population actually think that they are pretty but it is also important to have fitness goals and children should be taught to maintain a HEALTHY weight not saying they should be supermodels but they should be taught to eat healthy and be active
@@nathanvetter3598 okay well I think they're beautiful and you can be overweight and still be beautiful and healthy soooo
Skinny women and large men also feel insecure about their bodies. So why can't we also focus on body shaming fat or skinny men or skinny women?
This is really touching because most people aren't comfortable in their own skin. And it makes people really insecure. You all sharing your stories really help people become comfortable in their own skin.
Yea but it's only making them comfortable b Cuz they know other ppl have it worse
They begin to see those ppl as lower than them
I respect all women that have a problem with fatness, but just remember it is not too late to work out at the gym :)
Mark Zurgowhich I just choked.
Right! Haha
@@Bethneigh03 are u suffering ligma?
Mark Zurgowhich if choking on water from laughing is ligma, then yes, I do suffer from ligmanosis.
@@Bethneigh03 nah bro u messed up the joke. It was supposed to be like are you suffering ligma? And u would say what s ligma, and i would say LIGMA BALLS
Most ppl feel this way
They're not special
If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything
They know that... Their just sharing their stories to let all people know it's okay and their beautiful.
I don't feel this way.I know everybody else is so worried about their own appearance they don't care about mine.
Y cd
?4wwssafesgsfeeufrh@@wendyholsman6084
I hate this commercial because it literally pops up all the time and I can’t get rid of it
So we are just supposed to accept fat cows as beautiful
Exactly. That's the problem with these fucktards. Obesity is not beautiful considering all of the health problems it causes. Thus obesity and condoning it is absolutely unacceptable
Idk why women wanna do everything but take care of themselves? Either be what you are or change it.
Yea they just need to go to the gym
To all the haters out there, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything
Agreed.
To the fatties out there, if you can't accept being fat, stop eating.
@@normieslayer1169 it's not about the quantity of food, it's about WHAT you are eating. Your opinion is invalid.
@Wendy Holsman there telling the truth. Why do you grow up and see most people in here are actually telling them the truth
Omg you women are freaking beautiful don't let anybody bring you down
It’s not just plus sizes that feel insecure, I’m uncomfortable being so tiny, and slim.
Everyone in the comments seem to think that this is propaganda for beauty at any size, but it's not. They bring up that everyone is beautiful, sure, but they also emphasized that Healthy Lifestyles are beautiful, and that's the only message being pushed by the end.
Weight does not change who you are. But if you truly love your self than workout
You can't say "I am beautiful just the way I am," and than just talk about how you are proud about changing yourself by losing weight, that just seems a bit strange.
Only watched the first 8 seconds, but I don't need to watch more because I completely agree
I'm a big girl. I wear a 14/16. I'm 48. I have been 115 lbs to 230 lbs. No matter the weight I'm still the same person. I Love who I Am. Some people Try to Shame me. But Honestly the haters DON'T MATTER. This is my only Life and I'm going to live it my way. I way always the only redhead in class as a kid. I actually felt unique. I never wanted to be like everyone else. That's boring to me. What kind of world would it be if we all looked and acted and liked all the same things? Pretty boring. But I do Wish people would be kinder.
Austin Klein Well actually, you might wanna consider losing the weight. There are lots of medical benefits if you do, but not just that. You would feel better. If you are truly at your current size, you might wanna head those "insults", and try some weight loss
@@seanmathias232 Thank you for the concern. But I Am healthly. As my doctor says all the test look good. I feel Great. I do everything I want. Why do people say you'll feel better? My only concern is cancer. And that does not matter the size. My Mom died from cancer and was 80 lbs when she died. She was 120 when she found out she had cancer. The doctors told her to gain weight. She do get to 130 but couldn't gain more. But Again I Love who I am. And Honestly I'm. 195 now. I have No shame on telling my size or my age.(48). People have the problem not me. If people spent more worrying about important things like homelessness and finding cures for diseases instead of worrying about shaming people the world would be a better place.
And the smokers are gone and the bigger people are gone who's next to be shamed? Is it So important for people to put down others? And why is that?
Austin Klein It's ok to criticize unhealthy life styles. If someone's life is being harmed, then shame it and help them. Sad to see your mum died of cancer, and that you are at risk, but still, it's not good to be content with obesity, it's generally unhealthy. Not just that, but it sets a bad example for adolescents/young adults looking for role models and see this thinking "This is a good way to live". It's not. This video teaches people to be content with an unhealthy lifestyle. Having a little chub on the stomach is ok. But people start to notice the amount of fat on you, consider losing the weight.
@@seanmathias232 I'm sorry I feel don't feel it's ever ok to Shame people. I think people just want to fit in and be societies fake idea of beauty. These woman make me sad. They shouldn't be embarrassed to wear a swimsuit. People kill themselves to be thin. All because they want to fit in or be excepted. That's crazy to me. I go to Disneyland my Favorite place. My kids ages 25 and 16 can't keep up with me. And my oldest girlfriend said I was crazy she was tired and needed to rest. Do I run a mile? I Do walk all over the park. No I never use the scooters. Why? They take to long. My point is I'm bigger but I still move I don't use scooters and I don't seat around on my butt. Do I eat Carbs. Yes quite often. Do I eat cookies yes my favorite. But I do move and teaching my boys to dance. So judging someone by their outer doesn't always match up. Or mean laziness.These woman need better self confidence. Not doing something because of your weight is NOT living. Would I bongy drop out a cliff NOT at any weight. Would I go to the beach. Hell Yes. I did grow up in California. I'm not trying to promote being over weight. I'm just saying be Proud of who you are. Should a person with face deformity or scare be a shamed( or shamed) for the way they look? Absolutely Not. Or someone with a handicap? Absolutely Not. Or someone's sexually preference? Again Absolutely Not. So why try to tear down someone else for the was they look?
We are not guaranteed tomorrow so life for today.
And if people don't agree with your or societies standards let them be and let them enjoy the only Life they have.
I do agree 300+ is to big. But without know the person I don't judge. People let themselves go that far from a reason. What everyone is different. But Shaming will NOT help these people. It could make it WORSE.You never know who your shaming and what's in their head. Think about the next time you or someone shamed someone.
Again I'm a VERY Happy person. Had some issue when Mom died It didn't cause my weight gain. I have ALWAYS gone up and down. And again I Love me. Maybe I'll go back to 140 But NOT any smaller. But right now. I'm GOOD with 190/195.
You seem like a Nice young man. Please just think before you shame someone.
I always thought I was fat because I'm 10 and I weigh 93 lbs. But my doctor said it is because I'm tall. I guess he is right because I'm 5'1.
Men feel the same way
Just wait til diabetes
It’s nice these woman grew to be happy with themselves but the thing about body positivity is it’s always about weight. Weight is the one thing YOU CAN change through diet and excercise. What about woman who were acid attack victims who have real deformities or are victims of colorist that cannot be altered through diet.
Yes love yourself! Yes lose weight! don't feel insecure about going to the gym and being the one fat person there because everybody was "that one guy/girl" before but please don't feel satisfied with where your at feel motivated to make more progress because you've already begun to lose weight. And please don't feel satisfied with where your at. ALWAYS strive to be better, to improve yourself and to take care of yourself. You should never hate yourself. You'll never want to make progress on something you hate.
@deal with it If you don't like the comment don't read it bro. Or do, I don't give a shit.
It's so sad seeing women feel ugly in their bodies because of these fucked up beauty standards
You're beautiful just the way you are, don't let edited photos make you feel less worthy!
It's crazy what girls call ugly sometimes because when the guys see them they are like "I wanna eat her up, she's gorgeous" if she can't shop at Torrid she's not my gurl 😁
You have an odd taste in women😶
That's sweet😊
Pretty looks is opinionated. The truth is, if you're overweight and you don't like it, don't go around saying that your fine the way you are. It's unhealthy and its shortening your life. If you don't mind that, then simply dont complain.
Why only fat women, not fat men, not skinny women, not skinny men... I'm a skinny girl and I have so much problems with my body, I do sadly wish i was skinnier and prettier, I do wish my nose was smaller and that more boys liked me but I don't skip out on things and cry about it cause that changes nothing.
Stop putting fat women on a pity pedestal as if they are the only ones with body problems.
Good message😊
Good they almost down to a normal human being size, now is there anything that could be done about their faces.
It does not matter i love my body
I must be buying the wrong size in jeans the lady in blue is a size 14 ? When I was 180 I wore a size 14 she looks bigger than a 14 . I weigh 159 now and wear a size 11/12 some 10 depending on what brand I buy. I always had problems picking out the right size for body, I hate blue jeans on me that's why I wear mostly leggings anymore..
The like to dislike ratio told the whole story.
I'm so glad that I come from Jamaica Women there don't have these issues and men.like myself love women no.matter what they look.like
“Hate Speech.” Is not a thing. Playing the victim is no way to deal with your problems.
You can accept yourself but for the love of fucking god dont let it stop you from improving yourself. The point is it's the first step of improving, not the hardest and final.
Thank you! ❤
Be of Godly character. We all get old fat and fall apart. Be pleasant to be with. Maybe these women live in superficial areas of the country. Move to an area where people care about who you are, not what you are.
Please name those places. They may not be well known to a lot of ppl. The US is big after all.
@Andy Berscheid oml stop saying bad word/rude things!!
I want to go to the beach but I just can't
We should all go to the gym as a group
I'm so fat lmfao. People always thinks it's easy to love yourself and your body. Like no 😭 I need a lottttt of work done on me.
And most women who say there fat and ugly just want people to call them beautiful.
Failed to represent us girls who suffered with bulimia
My name is iris.
Everyone feels this way
The problem is not with your body, it's that YOU ARE weak. I've seen huge women walk in a room with massive sex appeal bc they were strong and confident!
This relates to me soooooooooooo much
Hmmm... who cares 🤔
Some guys, like me, prefer thick girls. "Fat bottom Girls you make the rockin world go round"!!!
eat less move more. it's not complicated.
David Clark I just choked. 😂
They may not be eating a lot, you never know what goes on behind closed doors. Don't say stuff when you don't know what it's like. Okay, maybe someone does eat a lot, and I don't think that means eat less, just that you should eat healthier. There are some people out there who are stick skinny, but they may eat the whole 9 yards of junk food. It's not about the quantity of what you eat, it's what you're eating that makes the difference.
Yes, that's the big reason why people are so fat. Because it is the food itself thus it's also because of portion size too
Little words, big brain
@@MadisonScheid2003 - well figure it out and do it. Stop with the excuses.
I'm a guy and this touched me so much I smiled at the end I loved and needed this
the majority of women are after the handsome tall guy who of course shames women bodies if they are not up to his level but women don't want to admit that. when we, average men love we don't care how a woman looks but again women are after the wrong guys who disrespect them and require them to be perfect. if you want a guy who does not care about your looks then go for the average one instead of chasing narcissistic guys, very simple
Be clean and pure and holy. No porn..no birth control or self stimulation and God considers you beautiful. And any good man who was looking for a good wife would also consider you very beautiful. God will bless you for you are a rare and precious treasure. ....going on 48 years.!
well porn is ok
U ALL IS SO BEAUTIFULLLLLL
If you love your self why don't you change your self for the better
Jesus had five more Stars to name and he created you five women he made it complete so he had five reasons to create Beauty and he made it in you five each of y'all are unique each of y'all are a work of art and each of you are one of a kind in each of you is not a duplicate but what you are is a masterpiece. God bless everyone of y'all.
What happened to long walks in the night? Talking till dawn. Being a little crazy in love so you lose your appetite.
They turned my little CA town into a village and we would walk forever.
Gradual lifestyle changes.
Those women are gorgeous. Good men make yourself available
Not to everyone.
Okay... Where are the other body types? All I see is plus size
Why the f there's always blacks on every commercial. Makes me sick! What about other ethnicity?
Exactly Ritchie Fabulous. I mean, they could at least use other ethnicities
@@naturalbornlosers5079 If you're so "sick" then why don't you realize that it's NOT ENTIRELY about African Americans
Confidence is more appealing then anything else.
I just hide mine and hate myself
How come their are no dudes i thought about commiting suicide because of my weight
Rifleman is the best cowboy show EVER!
After hearing those first comments the first thing to come to mind......lose weight!!!!!!
What is this world raising, a whole lot of insecure women. If your fat, do something about it. Stop eating so much and work out. I get tired of women complaining about every little thing. Then I hear, it's a medical condition for some, but most are just fat. Yet they always wanna say how powerful they are, when it's all B.S.
Grow up adult women.
Women of all sizes are beautiful
This has Feminism stuck all over it.
@deal with it Which type? The world's smallest? A Stradivarius?
You shod love y ou r self no matter wot
The second woman is beautiful
The beginning is true
Plus sized women aren't the only ones who are self conscious, skinny girls and guys and plus sized men are too, why exclude them
yaaaas! Love body positivity! Love their confidence!
Put down the fork and turn off the tv case closed.
Finding one who isn't envolved is the problem, single 54 Male, how to find single female who isn't envolved, NOW TOP THAT
These woman r beautiful, I don't see what the problem is.
LADY'S please listen to a older man....YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL.....DONT listen to what some think is norm... y'all ALL are fine women
Those women are gorgeous