The "Happy Life" Scientist: How To FINALLY Beat Stress, Worry & Uncertainty! Dacher Keltner | E219
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
- Dacher Keltner is an American professor at the University of California, Berkeley and founder of the Greater Good Science Center. His research focuses on the science of emotions, such as compassion, love, power, and awe.
Topics:
0:00 Intro
02:47 Your professional background
05:10 Findings about keeping younger
06:59 The feeling of awe
22:10 Why did you write this book?
29:35 The link between gratitude
38:51 Monogamy
48:02 Do we become worse people as we get richer?
01:02:45 Why has life expectancy declined?
01:15:28 Compassion
01:19:51 The power of touch
01:33:04 The last guest’s question
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That's an insane number...expected most people would see the video due to being subscribed.
Done. Thanks for sharing.
The AWE-some thing about THiS Episode is you might have influenced / inspired / encouraged MILLIONS of people to Connect with Nature who previously did not do so on a regular basis so Cheers Thanks and Much Appreciation for this Steven & Dacher 🌲🤗🌳🌊👣🌊🏞️🌄🌅💚💙🙏🙏👍👍
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There is no "proof karma is real".. From what I understand, karma in essence is - what you do on to the world, is done on to you. So how does this work when you see innocent children dying of cancer, and compare that to the many figures through history who have caused extreme pain and suffering, and lived a full, decent quality of life ?
At 70 years old I am working at local nursing homes for over 22 years and I agree 100 percent. Our residents need touch, real conversation and to feel someone really cares about how they feel. They then live longer and healthier. And when they do pass away they do so peacefully and with dignity. ♥️
I wld love to do that good for you !
22yrs I take my Hat of to u ,brilliant!
thats beautiful 🙌 I felt a sense of awe as I was reading your comment. you are a beautiful person for all that you give ❤ 🙏
God bless you, kind soul 🤍🙏🏻
There needs to be a wellness place with a running track, Olympic pool, health foods, veggie smoothies, and things to do… whatever that is…. The entire business model of assisted living needs to change instead of getting everyone to memory care as fast as possible for the most amount of profit.
I have to share this- I came to the gym to shower because I had a migraine. The cleaning woman was here and I said good morning but she just kind of grunted and hurried to close the other bathroom doors because she hadnt cleaned them yet. I felt bad like oh shes mad at me for messing up her cleaning time. Decided to go into the yoga room to lay down and wait for her to finish. While listening to this talk I thought you know she's probably just stressed for time or maybe she has a headache so I'm just going to send her love. Then after about 20 minutes she came into the room and asked "are you okay?? I have some advil in my car." We began talking about how we both care about people and she said she felt God compelling her to ask if I were okay. I told her I loved her and she said she loved me too and we hugged and just shared a beautiful beautiful moment. God is good. Life is precious. Always follow those intuitions regardless of what the human mind might be telling you what not to do, listen to your heart! It will never lead you astray.💗💗💗💗💗💗
You are at Bannatynes then if you are worried about cleaning and closing times 😅
@kameronicole I've enjoyed reading your post. What a beautiful experience indeed!
Aww this is beautiful ❤
We are all connected. Thank you for sharing this.
Ok you're both a little dependent
t 86, living alone, limited mobility and often in pain, I “count my blessings” all day long, grateful for that first cup of coffee, my comfortable home, stimulation of the internet, loving family, enjoyment of cooking, food and good digestion, enjoyment of hobbies, blue skies, fragrance of flowers, comedy, empathy and friendship wherever I find it, no fear of death, grateful for a fulfilling life, and now to see my gratitude described as Awe. Thank you for this positive, enriching podcast.
God bless
That sounds very very challenging being in pain all day long makes it difficult to exercise, do whatever you can…… I did share yoga, I have one and 2 pound weights that I use for to enhance aerobic activity to get my heart rate up and uplift my mood, if you haven’t try to maybe you could try to… I often take Tylenol first.
I got choked up watching this. After my beloved dog died, I went to the Humane Society, just to look, of course. But I found a big, strong pit bull, black and white and beautiful, and decided I wanted to take him for a walk. It was a cold, foggy day in Colorado. The dog, "Hulk" was extremely difficult to walk. He pulled really hard and zigzagged and was nearly out of control. However, during the walk we came upon some horses in the foggy distance. It was a beautiful scene. "Hulk" stood up on a green, metal fence and stared out at the horses and he suddenly looked so calm and content. I realize, from Mr. Keltner's words, that he and I were experiencing awe together! Of course, I can't know this for sure, but it's reasonable to infer. Regardless, in that moment, I felt a strong bond with him, and I knew I was taking him home with me. That was years ago, and he's beside me right now. It's interesting to consider whether a dog can experience awe. It seems very likely to me. Perhaps a brain scan could reveal this?
Thank you for sharing. This story warmed my heart ❤
Awww❤❤yes! I adopted another dog 🐶.. after my dog passed 😢❤
Dogs or other animals are the embodiment of "Awe". They give us a present of joy and fun and strange things every day. Even we decided after the death of our last furry fellow not to adopt a "new" one, I have so much joy watching dogs belonging to other people and I am lucky enough to share these situations with my awey husband.
Thank you for sharing this !
Yes dogs cats etc have their imagination and spirit value which is amazing in links to how this adds value to our humanity .. this is big in Islam (since my parents are) but again it’s a thought adopted by many cultures and other religions..
thank you again
We share so much with other beings in the animal kingdom, even if they don't express it like us. Oxytocin is released in mammals creating bonding and feelings of love, so why not awe too?
"If you practice kindness, it quiets down the threat regions of the brain..."
Dacher Keltner 💕
What to do, what to do, lol, since retirement feels like I am without any "worthwhile" purpose.
Dacher's grammar is not so good. Quietens down. Not quiets down. Or maybe it's yours Steven?
True ❤
@janetcorbin2642 find purpose now! ❤
Very true you less in fear of the world brillant prof ❤
Isn't it so interesting how he mentioned the feeling of awe being a healing modality! Especially as you observe children and their ability to look at the world in such an awe inspired way, many indigenous cultures and spiritual scriptures say "to be like a child" and it excites me that we're sparking these conversations again and in ways bringing holistic healing to the forefront 💛💛
Same after near death happenings 👍
Well put!
*My Dad once said, "Don't desire high amounts of wealth, but desire high amounts of skill*
I agree with you, I had a friend in the office who lived well but never had an investment, unfortunately his job ended so he went from living well to surviving
@@danahamilton1185 The market is profiting ifyou are using really a
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Unbalanced relationships do not tend to last. Balanced committed relationships with good communication, appreciation, and trustworthiness, empathy can survive anything when the values align. I have found life living alone without a partner is okay. I got moments of loneliness even when I married and it is the same now. Everyone does need touch and affection though so I got myself a cat name Blinks. We cuddle and snuggle and give affection to each other. He is frustrating and annoying at times, but he gives me a sense of purpose, playfulness, attachment, affection. He came to the doorway and sat looking at me as he tried to shake off the sleepiness and I just felt this overwhelming love for this little furry being. And he looked so happy and content as I talked to him telling him how much I loved him. I had just this tremendous awe moment that I could feel so much love and appreciation for my pet.
I completely agree! contact with pets is amazing and healing.
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Thank you for this. It's 6a.m. and it's an awesome day. It's so true about the damaging affects of loneliness and the remedial parts that being nice, empathy, compassion and touch play. Our American/Canadian populations do better with communities that strive to connect with older people. This often means taking time to recognize ways to help vulnerable lonely people while treating others who are often not open in sharing their need to be listened to and acknowledged. It also means allowing pets and the part they play in having touch and connection. My mother died last year and I know a pet in her senior apartment would have given her so much comfort. The practical aspects make this harder in caring for pets . Management could help make this possible, I believe. It's an alternative to those without family and friends close by. It's not just elderly people. Many gains are made through having a pet to love, touch and have the pet feel the same. It's a small but powerful way to alleviate loneliness and improved wellbeing. I have witnessed this.
Just seeing this cast gives me the gift of awe and wonder to my reality
Your words about your little friend deeply touched me. Thank you for sharing.
I’m glad you said music as most of your examples were visual. As a blind person I feel awe on so many other ways. Bird song, crickets, waves, streams, the feel of my guide dogs fur, the taste of a ripe peach or other delicious foods. So many tiny things, as long as we notice them, can give us joy or “awe” as that intense feeling of being connected.
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Thanks for helping me see beyond the visual world. It was much needed.
😊 I find scent captivating more than any other sensory experience
How are you typing with no mistakes Bro? (since you're blind)
Your comment is deeply touching, stay well and inspire the world!
the AWE of Julie Andrews singing the SOUND of MUSIC and Black Gospel singers GIVE ME THE CHILLS!!
So enjoyed this conversation. I listened to it the day after my Dad suddenly passed away. I cried so many times, looking up at the sky. The comments on touch and connection and compassion really hit home with me. I really aim to make my life more ‘happy’ in his memory and thanks to this podcast. Thank you Steven
Beautiful review. I can relate.... tears flowed! 💞
Condolences on your Dad's passing. I lost mine when I was 4 -- 60 years ago. I have only recently done grieving work losing him! Let the tears flow ... it's healing to release the sadness and pain.
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poor you, I wish you all the best through the coping process ❤
@@georginabastien49 love to you too, must have been so hard, losing your Dad at such a young age. Compassion here ❤
I had a spiritual awakening experience and it brought me the most intense awe I have ever felt when I realised and felt the source of the universe come to me. From that moment on all the pain and suffering of my life disappeared and I was forever changed. Unconditional love, Happiness and joy all come from within. Spirituality is what is missing from society today. If we connect with our spiritual selves and remove ego, everyone’s mental health issues would disappear
Bullshit
Read Me Mathew Chapter 5 it will give you the real joy of true happiness!! Best wishes!!
Kundalini?
I agree.
Who are these spiritual awakenings intended for? me, you or the dark other?
As soon as I was born I was put into a home as my mother had tuberculosis and couldn't look after me. I was there for 18 mths, sitting in a cot hardly ever being cuddled. No one telling me they loved me. No affection no touch. I think if that young child and I empathise. I know it was me actually but if I feel that child within me , I can give her the love and affection she needed. It's healing. Now I give as much love and affection to so many. It gives me the warm and fuzzies
This guy exudes kindness and wisdom. Thanks a lot.
Is the medical profession encouraged to be indifferent & unkind?
But not for someone who's politics he disagrees with!!
Your guest’s smile is so incredibly genuine. I can just feel his joy of life. I feel the awe every day and love to surround myself with people of same mindset. Thank you
No, it is just science --- no one has mentioned this before (this topi)-- but I have been yelling and screaming to people alot ,even fighting with them --- because I despise them for being arrogant, selfish and not being nice......I am a very and a really nice person - I will even take an airplane to travel and I will visit you in prison. THAT IS ME AND I RESPECT people and i respect their privacy -BUT NOWADAYS NO ONE IN THE TREVEL AND LEISURE HOSPITALITY INDUSTRY IS NICE AND POLITE ANYMORE
sometimes some people are very nice-- I kiss the ground where they walk--- and treat them as god.
The government, however, does not. It exudes shock and awe.
In an older resident with dementia just something as simple as remembering their name and smiling as you walk past them works miracles. It validates their existence and connects them with the present.
I used to smile to strangers until I started to feel weird about it since no one did that back to me :i
I have a neighbour and she speaks to almost nobody but when she sees my cat she talks to it so sweet like a very lovely normal granny would talk to a cute child, what is it?
I agree, I work in the office of a nursing home. Every morning I pass the open door of a young man with severe physical disabilities, I always take the time to smile and wish him good morning. In the period I have worked here I have started to see him smile back at me, one morning he said "morning" back to me, it was really lovely, I felt awe that I was able brighten his day and connect as a person. Amazing 😊😊
@@Flyerviitorul92crazy how plp give love to a animals but they don't judge !
@@hikari_lun8885 I will continue to smile to all even if I never get one back. Hate to say it but they're the unfortunate ones & we have to rise above it all as we never know as saying goes "don't know what has happened in their life or what going through. I go about my life that way with a smile as I feel how blessed I am. I am just going to be myself & what's more I was blessed to have best parents & Brother in the world. My Brother & I were told how much we were loved, how much we were wanted & that we made their life & that has stayed with me all my life & will always. I appreciate my life. I believe to have inner peace & that simple things in life best. Love being myself & accept we are all different. Nothing will bring me down as I had all I wanted in life & that was to be married for love & to have the 4 kids I dreamt about from when I was a little girl, so nothing will ever take that away from me ever. I rake all my loved ones who have passed with me, material things are nothing. My family is everything. Happiness is contagious & sharing a smile is a beautiful instant connection with others. I agree with what you write 100% as always to smile, hug & give time of day to someone is invaluable - II know as have appreciated when others have done this for me, know how much it can lift your spirits & make your day ❤ I love it if I have been able to make someone's else's day 🙂
As a student teacher (1980s), I was told not to pat students on the back: that it was opening myself to charges of inappropriate behaviour. It was not advice that I followed. I'm now retired, and fortunately, I was never challenged for behaving inappropriately. Now, meeting former students is always a great treat. I'm often greeted with spontaneous, affectionate hugs. What a blessing!
Wish I had such a teacher. Probably it's easier as a female teacher.
My husband and I have been together for 20 years. Last year, I moved down the hill from his cabin into a little cottage that we built for me. It is a wonderful way to be married. I can cook if I feel like it(or have a bowl of cereal), be creative when I want, watch chic flicks any time, wake up at 4 a.m if I want to, have a house full of pets, and live how I please-and so can he. We get the benefits of marriage( health insurance, etc) without being stuck together when we want to be alone.
Perfect marriage! Love this.
I can’t believe you’re not yet 30 dude . Impressed with you , your show and the sterling quality of your eclectic mix of guests doesent even come close . Long live “Diary Of A CEO “.
& no mention of love & companionship...just the benefits of health insurance.
I love how you expressed your grief, losing your brother and I too have compassion for the underdog❤
This is quite selfish way to live... Do not blame your husband if he will find someone new :/
Recently I have been doing a lot of early morning walks and I am in constant awe! Something magical about the early morning. The peace, the quiet its beautiful 🌞. Really helps get me ready for the day refreshes you and clears your mind. So I do agree awe really works ❤🌌.
I don't know how people are unaware of it.. that is awesome to know you are not one of them and you see the beauty. I don't know how not to! The miraculous is all around!❤
I’ve been doing the same. Also just putting my feet in the earth and grounding in the early hours of the morning has helped me tremendously
@@joi6833 - Wise woman! Grounding or Earthing - Getting those bare palms & feet on the ground- or putting palms on tree trunk is literally miraculous to change your state of mind & how you feel physically.
First light sun is apparently good for you. Learn this on this same podcast - the guy who can predict when you will die episode.
How tf I'm going to go for a walk if I need to get up to work at 7 and get back late only have 2 hours for myself
Yes!! Love him, I’ve been married to my husband for 21 years and not a day goes by where we don’t thank to each other at least five times a day for everything from cooking the dinner to doing the dishes to making a cup of coffee etc. Appreciation is the key to a happy relationship.
Since Covid many nursing home residents feel so separated from not only their loved ones but from us their caretakers. When they had to eat in their room in bed instead of community dining in the main dining room the amount of depression increased by over 50 percent or more just from that alone.
thank you for this comment ❤
The imposed isolation of the elderly from their loved ones was despicable and so much more devastating than the illness. So many were left to die alone and uncared for.
This evening i fell back into deep grief and vulnerability missing my mother who passed away in 2018. I have no idea why it happened this evening. I feel very child like at the moment. I just clicked into this video and its just astounding to hear your story of grieving your brother and how he was your moral compass and how lost you felt. Since my mum died, i have 2 brothers and my dad still around me, but tonight i feel like im the only female on earth. Tonight without my mum who was my anchor and female sounding board, i feel so alone right now and i don't know why its hitting so hard all of a sudden 4 years on. Grief is a roller coaster. Im grateful for this video tonight. Thank you
Hope today is a better day x
Thank you for sharing this.
Same. Lost my mum over 2 years ago. I still cry and miss her very much. She was my rock and biggest supporter in life.
Thank you. X
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I started writing every night before going to bed things I'm grateful for that day and after year of doing that, I can say it helps a lot. You start looking for something good in almost everything that happens.
Morning time is good too. Starts your day with positivity. Just to repeat a few to yourself before you rise.
@@theyellowhouse3569 I agree. My first reaction for everything now is to thank God. For people and animals I love, sun rays when they enter my room, when I go to my forest, for good book, flowers, nice yoga class... And it's true when they say that the more grateful you are, you will get more things to be grateful for! 🙏🏼
It gets old as you grow.
tht is so real. i am noting sumting similar!
Doing it in the morning is 👍 good, too.
Living in a state of curiosity enhances life which keeps us in a state of awe. There’s always something to be in awe about if we open our minds to it. Life takes on a whole new meaning. Awe equals appreciation and gratitude. I often look with amazement how something is made, how a product is put together and the what it took to do so; in all areas of life from producing a film, how actors produce incredible performances in bare settings with nothing but a green screen, to writing a book & how people overcome obstacles, etc. It’s so nice to see someone like him with a kinder soul share from such a mindset. We need more of this!
Yes I agree nice gentle kind vibes 😊
I’m 43 young years and I have to say, I’m so grateful for your podcast, i’m going through something i couldn’t explain in life and all of your different topics have helped some how in finding on what i’ve been searching for and have helped me heal in a way that has open mind beautifully, you’ve made a difference here ,just know that you are god sent and a beautiful being DOAC.🙏🏻💝🌻✨
You're a wonderful host. Your choice of guests is amazing. You're asking beautiful questions and are a great talk partner.
Yes! He lets his guests speak freely and never interrupts them. I’ve had to stop listening to certain podcasts because the interviewers regularly talk over their guests, it makes for a frustrating listening experience and feels like an ego issue.
Turn 70 this year and 'oh my' how I needed this conversation! Thank you.
I worked at UCB and remember when Dacher started the Greater Good Science Center at Berkeley! Love his work. Steven, Keanu Reeves has atypical rich-person behavior. He stays very compassionate and connected to the less fortunate. I hope you have Mr. Reeves on your show at some point!
Nature is always awe-inspiring; the tiny bird that builds a beautifully woven nest within the crevice of an old wall. It was so amazing, I had to photograph it and have it in a clip frame ( with other nature photos) above my desk. I also remember when I was a nanny, and the 4-year-old picked up an oak leaf on the ground, admiring its Autumnal colours and taking it home, "To give to mummy". Children naturally are awed by the smallest things, that's why I enjoyed working with them.
Allot of what he talks about “community” and watching each other’s kids has always been a part of my life. I’m Hispanic so all that had been a part of my life.
I'm hugging and kissing my dog all the time. Dogs are the most amazing creatures ever! Nice episode. Thank you 😊
It fascinates me that just talking about awe creates the feeling of awe. I've been feeling awe the entire way through watching this, and I felt even more awe reading through the comments afterwards. There's so much power in this, and yet it's such a simple concept that I've truly not given much thought to before. Anyway, an absolutely fantastic watch and I feel like Professor Keltner is just awe personified. Thank you Steven, as always, for such a thought-provoking conversation ❤
Just heard the bit about orphans deprived of touch, my mother was a touch-deprived orpan, and I clearly remember having to learn how to accept touch, particularly non-sexual from others. The emotional struggle was radical...."why are they touching me? What do they from me?...."
I am in my 60's now and love human touch, but those struggles are still very clear in my mind.
my mother spent the first year of her life in an orphanage in Natchez Ms in 1938.. she wasn't an affectionate woman.. I have spent $$ on therapy.. I am an energy worker now... I will touch ANYONE to give them love if they will let me.
Your comment broke my heart. Teary eyes here 😭😭😭 Hugs, blessings and my all love
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I went through that when I was younger, my parents were not demonstrative. I would have been seriously worse off, more damaged, had I not become the secondary caregiver to my siblings growing up. I learned from them from giving hugs and affectionate back rubs and hand holding the value of human touch and it's affect on me. It felt good to console, comfort, show compassion, through holding and hugging and it made them calmer, they felt happier and safer. Still it took a lot for me to be demonstrative outside of my circle of younger siblings. I have regressed a lot into the isolation and social awkwardness since becoming disabled.
I hear you.
Dacher was such an amazing guest! I loved how he thanked you several times and just how attentive he was to the every thing you said. What a great guy, his kindness and warmth stood out to me!
His answer on obesity really stood out to me because it is such an important issue that needs to be addressed. Policies regarding our food need to change.
This is so beautiful and so true. The other day I was filling my car with petrol (gas) I live in Australia and this warmth came over me and I have been through so much trauma and I was coming out of the darkness. This warmth reminded me that life is worth living and nature was part of that experience. It was an unusually beautiful day with warmth and slight breeze. I had the best day and my divorce came through on that very day. I was in "awe" all that day. Awe is something we can tap into when we are relaxed and open but for me personally it has happened throughout my life and I remember all of them. Awe has kept me alive and optimistic.
What a profound conversation, I especially enjoyed that Dacher thanked Steve after every question. The down side to this conversation is that I stopped driving to grab a Greg’s sausage roll, as I thought life is too short, and I’m so insignificant, that sticking to my diet was silly 🤣
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Extra weight, you can take it with you!
I get this!😑
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I am happier and clearer after feeling the love that you two shared in this wonderful talk. As you talked, i sewed.
I am old. The questions never go away, and nor should they. I like you, Steven.
An old wise man once told that war starts with the emotional state of the people and how they treat one another. Awe is ageless. Thank you. I pray we try to remember it. It heals. We need healing.
Studying anatomy and physiology is a great way to practice feeling awe. The more you learn about the body the more in awe you are ! It’s absolutely freaking amazing and awesome 😎 ❤❤❤
Have to agree… I love the study of A&P.❤
I can understand how Dacher Keltner felt when he lost his brother to colon cancer .I too lost my husband to blood cancer ...the despair ..the depression..going thro life searching for the man to come back ...finally sadness..then acceptance..It takes its toll. Thankyou for this episode. Shall.start prac tising awe even in the midst of city life .Truly a noble person....sharing his knowledge to help others to ease their pain.
Just look at how calm and reconciled with himself and reality the guest is. Just be better, people. I try every single day. Random acts of kindness and gratitude. Not just words... Sharing effort and means with others. It means The World to me, to pay for someone's groceries when they don't expect it.
Agents liking my stuff. Too frequently, boys and girls. Be subtle. Random time intervals.
Even when he’s not smiling, he’s smiling. Just checked myself and I’m smiling too. ❤
I think I’m having an awe moment.
Could you please have someone on your podcast to speak about bullying at work?How to deal with it etc.. thank you for your work and your wonderful guests ❤️
Could we please include a gender angle here as well? In the developing economies some people still find it a challenge to accept woman bosses, even if they are more qualified and experienced.
@@maiaallman4635 👍
Learn a martial art.Kung Fu...
Unless you have the power to fire the bullies, the only alternatives are to leave your job or find a way to put up with it. Companies that foster toxic environments are not likely to address complaints of bullying or harassment. It’s more likely they’ll find a way to get rid of you first rather than getting to the bottom of the real issue. And definitely don’t bother going to HR.
@rachelmaechel why do I have to leave the job which I love as I am not the one who is a bully? I want to know how to deal with it and not let them win by me leaving.
I’ve watched numerous Near Death Experience videos. During the “life review” , they’re shown how just one act of kindness can reverberate exponentially. It’s a trip. Another excellent episode!
I wish I had grown up with a male figure like Dacher to look up to in life and learn from. I feel like the severity of my anxiety wouldn't be half of what it is today. What an incredible dude.
Thank you for talking about compassion - this world need more ppl with compassion ! And it is like ppl are afraid touching each other .... My family was called the family of hugs and people talked about this amazing love at my home. Now I have lost them all - last my older sibling - my brother ten years ago while I was going through a dirvorce after 30 years of marriage - I feel like an orphan ... nothing comes instead of my family 😔 I miss them more every year ... Haven't found much compassion ever - not looking for empathy ... Show ppl compassion ....
Thanks for another amazing podcast 🥇🏆
Gudrun, sending you a BIG, BIG, Hug!
@@caperuza333 Awww how thoughtful of you - so much needed over here ! Sending BIG hugs back to you !!! xx
I highly recommend offering hugs to others when you can see them suffering even if you don't know them well. A couple of years ago a young woman I had never met before drove into my car (some damage to both cars, thankfully none to either us) and as we exchanged insurance details I asked if she wanted a hug and she took me up on it and it was a moment of acknowledging our shared pain in the difficulties of life and comforting one another. Today I offered a hug to a colleague who has family friends in Israel .. She didn't take me up on it and that was ok too. I encourage you to let that feature of your family live on,even though your family is no longer here. Sending you big hugs.
Dacher is an amazing man. He takes time to respond to sincere people seeking mentoring in the field, he runs the greater good science Center (and they have free happiness courses available to the public on EdX for those who want more!) as well as all the work he does as an academic and writer at UC Berkeley. I can’t wait to dive into this interview! Two of my favourites, talking together. 😍
I didn't know about the public courses on EdX 😱 thank you for sharing it!
Thanks for this added info
Thank you for the EdX information. Many free courses in many subjects are also available on ZOOM that are 40 minutes to 90 minutes long. I've registered for several.
This is one reason why being a performer of music is so rewarding. You give people in the audience awe, they applaud or shout or cry. They have been transported.
Your brother is continuing to teach you from the spirit realm. Awe is the door to the spiritual.
even he talked always in smiling gesture. BE KIND is such a strong message. thank you!
I agree about this so much : the richer you are, the less compassion you may have. Of course not everybody is like that, I've met rich people who were just so so human but i could feel and see sometimes this disconnection between them and the rest of the population
When you don't experience any hardship and stress from things happening around you, outside of your control, then you literally can't imagine the impact these type of things have on others. Which makes you way less empathic, as you can't empathize.
Recently I've experienced a lot of stress surrounding not exactly having my own place to live, having to go from place to place. And now the impact of the earthquake in Turkey and Syria is so much more clear to me. Not that my situation is anywhere as bad, not even remotely, but I suddenly just get a tiny inkling of the stress and trauma involved. And it hits way closer to home.
Loved this! I remember moving from the bright lights of the city of Leeds to North Yorkshire on a summers day. Sat on a small stone wall that night I looked up and saw a galaxy of stars. They were always there, I just never saw them before. I was in awe... Mind blowing.
Beautiful ❤
Listening to this man can simply create an awe moment for me. I just want to say thank you.
Thank you 1,000 times!
But aw is pretty powerful, too! As in as baby, kitty, puppy, tiny flowers, shells etc. for starters. 80 now and still using Knowledge from you to keep me having aw and awe moments every day. Still painting cards to give away and share joy with others every day even though I'm now home bound. Thank you!!!!
This was great. It made me think about “ what am I really grateful for”? I am grateful for my family. The love and connection we have is priceless. I make sure I hug and kiss my children and my husband everyday.
This is probably my favourite interview so far since subscribing. Thank you. This guy is so chill... i think im in awe of him! Haha and in awe of his voice his story and how he moved on from his brothers passing.
I fill my night with CZcams and allow it to choose what fills my mind. At 5am I awoke to this discussion.
What a great way to start the week. Thank you 😊
What a wise man. Thank you for such an amazing guest. This man should be speaking out to EVERYONE. This is what the world needs to hear more of.
Peace, Love, & Light Always
In regards to the conversation about monogamy, you talk about how divorce rates and levels of happiness in long-term relationships aren’t good, but I think that fails to take into account how many people marry out of something other than love in the first place. Maybe those are symptoms of a culture that Prioritizes success and wealth where people will choose a life partner based on economic stability over actual romantic attraction.
Thank you. Please continue to educate the masses. Shine your light.
I took Dacher's online Science of Happiness course. The breadth of knowledge and practicum was so amazing!
I so love you, Dacher. I watch this over & over. Blessings & much, much happiness, joy & AWE! From Brontë in Cleveland ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🇺🇸
I was first introduced to Dacher Keltnar through Tom Shadyac's documentary "I AM". Which I recommend to everyone I know to watch!
Dacher, I love your ability to share smiles. It is impossible not to smile when watching and listening to you!
Enjoy this conversation sooooo much, don’t want it to stop!!! It’s so right on so many levels!!!
My youngest son at the age of 3 years stood looking at a fence one early morning - the cold had formed icicles on the fence and the morning sun reflected through this ice panorama. He said: „ I have just seen a small piece of God and it went straight to my heart“❤
How beautiful ❤
I travel a lot and awe is literally a constant in my everyday because the experiences are so new, different, magical and inspiring. so amazing to hear that it has such deep powers! I do feel like my nomadic lifestyle is keeping me young (at heart), people rarely guess my actual age 😄
This guy just gives off a beautiful kind energy! Love this episode so so much, thank you both!
Felt that instantly!
Another great episode. Hearing about the feelings towards your brother’s passing resonated with me so much. The beginning of my downward spiral in life started with the passing of my Mother in my early 20’s. I could not comprehend for the life of me why a woman who spent her life inviting people into her home every night for a meal among so many other nice traits would suddenly pass without any warning.
I obviously still question it but 7 years down the road, but thanks to podcasts like this one and Mind Pump, over the last 18 months I’ve learnt to prioritise my physical health and nutrition which has in turn helped my mental health tenfold.
Thank you Steven for all that you do to get these conversations and knowledge out to us.
Ur mom sounds amazing. She's gone because she achieved her purpose/mission on earth and was called back to God. No one lives forever some leave the party early. Good luck
Psalm 65:8 - They who dwell in the ends of the earth stand in awe of Your signs;You make the dawn and the sunset shout for joy.
How awesome to come upon Dacher here!!! A wonderful way to start the day with such a vibrant soul, someone I really appreciate... Thank you both for this heart-warming conversation. What a blessing! Namaste! 🙏💖🤗
I had feelings of awe when I took a piss a few years ago. I was tripping on psilocybin mushrooms at the time but it really stuck with me that feeling of perceiving something you've done since birth in a different way.
I am watching this for the 3rd time now. I just find the presentation by Dacher Keltner to be amazingly positive power and clear. He is quite personable and charming while also interesting, knowledgeable, and intelligent. I see that he also has amazing social skills. Just an amazing interview. Thank you again Stephen. I hope I spelled your' name correctly Stephen. Have a wonderfully blessed day full of awe, compassion, and gratitude.
Sister Barbara
Thank you so much Dacher Sir for the advise and I am practicing it now... My mind is feeling very light now. Thank you CEO for inviting such amazing people on your podcasts... May God Bless You 🤗
I'm only half an hour in but have already been inspired to share this with two of my oldest and dearest pals.
Keep up the wonderful work Stephen 🙏🏻
Thank you! I absolutely loved this episode. Dacher Keltner is such a pure, kind, wise and inspirational soul.
My mom was like that in her nature, she lived that way always. She used to say, you don't enjoy things the way I do. I love life, I love nature. I love everything... in constant awe.
"How many times do people look up to the sky that live in London" - definitely not enough. A very simple pleasure being in a place with little light pollution where you really get to experience the beauty of the night sky. Thank you for a great conversation and thought provoking as ever!
Podcasts by curious people such as Steven change the lives of so many, particularly when you introduce us to people such as this learned guest, who I never encountered before.
Perhaps the feeling of “Awe” , is similar to the feeling of “Love”.
Love is truly something that is awesome.
This video in and of itself is unique in it’s “AWE” for me because there are so many moments, and parts of it , that directly tapped into my emotions of love, care, good and bad, memories, pain, grief, transecdence etc. What an amazing experience to even be able to experience such a powerful conversation between two people. The world truly needs this right now more than ever. We can do a lot worse as human beings than to be grateful for the power of awe an how it promotes health and longevity of life. Thank you. ❤🙏🏽😊
I wish I could just watch this podcast and somehow all of those things got better in my life. ✌🏻❤
Have to love that science is still figuring out what yoga has been teaching for 15,000 years
On touch, I remember we had a pond in our old house and I knew there was a small frog in there, so I would sit by the pond and talk in a soft voice, and the frog came to the surface of the water, clinging to the sides, and I would stroke the top of its' head. The amazing thing is that it stayed there, allowing me to stroke its' head for as long as it was able to cling to the sides before slipping beneath the surface again.
As an oil painting artist we experience awe by looking at our subjects especially outdoors ❤
I've just texted my husband to say "thank" for taking his time to wash my car. He then called back just to talk to me. Thank you for reminding me!
Also I believe that society should accept all kind of relationships. It just gives people freedom to live the way that suits them. I have found my half 15 years ago and I can't be happier now with our two amazing kids. But this might not be the case for other people. So just don't judge, accept people for who they are.
My other thought: probably we need more middle class people, that have enough ability to act in public interest but also are not disconnected from daily life of poorer. Maybe I 'm wrong?
I absolutely LOVE what you said about relationships. Accept people for who they are - this is my message too and I try my best to be this in the world
I'm curious about the "more middle class people" is that the same as "working class"? Thanks
@@djimiwreybigsby5263 when I refer to middle class in this context I mean people who work, have enough money not just to pay the bills but also to buy a book or go to the concert, and have enough education to be articulate and able to speak in public interest. They might be middle level managers or carpenters, doesn't matter. What really matters is that they are not detached from reality and have some money
So what are your views of people having work relationships outside of the home? (I'm thinking of people holding public office)...
@@FA-kt3is thank you 🙏
Yes practising kindness and compassion is important. But the irony is, it is never enough for certain people, especially for people who are close to us. They always expect us to continue helping. Once we put a stop because of our limitation they will give us a cold shoulder.
And that's why I'm thinking to live away from relatives. Visiting them when I have time.
I can attest to awe. When I got divorced and was living on my own, I used to take long walks. And I'd always stop, appreciate, and be awed at anything ubiquitous like stray cats napping by the grass, or a sudden rainbow on a puddle, or just the vastness of the night sky however little stars it may have. It gives me this serene, grounding feeling that I am not alone in this world and should never feel alone. It helped me clear my head and the best side effect is that I lost a lot of pounds just doing this. This also sparked a deeper understanding of self-love and a lot of introspection on my overall well-being thus beginning my journey to personal growth. I was 35. I am now 44 and so much happier and healthier than I have ever been.
I’m 37 years old and I always show compassion and love for others. Recently that put me in trouble because my boyfriend took advantage of me and hit me badly. He beat me all night. I thought he will change with the positive energy I was sharing but he started giving me his toxic energy. Now I’m trying to heal. He is out of my life now. Don’t know how I will show compassion to others next.
You probably wouln't. From now on you will always see he bad in people as a way to defend you're self. I'm no going lie and say that everything will be okay because i can't personaly see it, i'm saying this from my own experince trama like that will always stay with you and the only real way to heal is unknown to me
I love this chat especially about truth & love . I’m not sure where I heard this but pre- pandemic i Learnt if I gave a hug I would hold the person kinda 30 seconds longer than the norm, with my kids and grandkids I have vocalised so they know what I’m doing and why , I always say Thank you ❤even if I’ve looked after grandkids for about 4 hrs and this time is often challenging and hard work …. But on them leaving I usually say the same ( I never told the parent that they were hard work still I would go to each child individually and thank them for coming to see me & to never forget that nanny loves them … I hope I’m doing right with this approach any bickering that has happened I deal with it myself I don’t tell tales to their parents and they always treat me with kindness and respect. One study that you spoke about the human touch and how important it is and yes I agree 💯 what I thought of was a story I was told about a orphanage & each night the nurse would walk around the cribs checking that baby was ok but with the baby nearest the door the nurse would always hold and feed the one baby it was no surprise to me to find out that the baby who was held and fed every night survived but the rest died . This was a awe inspiring moment for me xxx
You are an awesome nanny! Keep doing this. You are totally changing their lives and impacting their subconscious/conscious mind. All the appreciation x.
I had heard a similar "long hug" claim that over 10 seconds of an authentic hug releases oxytocin (the bonding hormone). I taught my children this from birth, and my son, at about 4 years old, Profoundly announced:
"Every man needs a hug a day."
- William Henry Anderson.
Namaste
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What a wonderful way to be. We had a wonderful friend who loved to bring it on in a hug. She's with the angels now and was only 57. She helped me feel Christlike spirit....I have had lsd, dmt and powerful mushroom trips and mdma. I think Dmt was the most amazing experience. We should all try psychedelics as sacred not party products.
Thank you for your story
I'm glad you said we can find awe anywhere. I feel that's so important. You don't have to go to an amazing place in nature
I take walks every day. I go through my neighborhood which is full of these huge amazing old trees. Just standing in the street being still I watch the wind in the trees making them dance and the sound of the wind in my ears. My favorite time of day is dusk and the beautiful sky full of reds and pinks and golds. My favorite time of year is winter because the light and the colors of the quiet of the season. This gives me awe. It gives me peace and it grounds me. I love nature and there is plenty of nature in your neighborhood. Awe to me is just being still and looking around and taking in the simple things that we wouldn’t notice if your rushing and going all the time.
Few years ago, out of curiosity, I followed the online Mooc course « the science of happiness » and discovered this wonderful man. I was so impressed that I developed workshops in the business I worked for , l was lucky and got carte blanche from my boss to do this even though nothing had ever been done like that. As it was successful, I then trained up other facilitators to spread this. Thank you so much !
I always feel awe when I look up at the night sky and see all the stars, planets & Milky Way🌌 & realize how small we little humans are in the vastness of the universe...✨️ The Grand Canyon, Yosemite and Yellowstone all inspire AWE as well at the Grandness of Nature!
I hope he has maximum impact on the students in Berkeley, CA. That state needs grounding and presence desperately!
May his loving presence reach far & wide in the world! 🌎 🙏 ✨️
each state needs grounding and presence and kindness and fairness and compassion
Thank you for this amazing conversation! This was profound on so many levels, and it's changed my life. I was so pulled into the many topics covered. I especially enjoyed the part about looking up at the stars, and noticing nature. That feeling of being small in such a vast universe, and yet connected to humanity. The importance of being kind to others, and showing compassion. i'm buying this book today, and I'm grateful that you wrote it. Kind regards to you both.
The reason for rich, successful, powerful people being immune to others' suffering is that your emotions might easily plummet into depression and negativity when you encounter human suffering. This not only spoils the joy that you're receiving from having a very comfortable life, but causes a risk of weakening and not being able to carry on with what makes wealth. It's the privileged classes that have come up with all of the cold, impersonal ideas that take us into the machine age and influence us towards robotic behaviour, leaving what we love behind and acting unnaturally.
Blessings and love. 63 years young. Thanks for a wonderful podcast. Greg Gutierrez
Filling ones cup to overflow through emotions, touch, acceptance, love, affirmations, positivity, or compassion helps give energy to bring something to life!
Thank you for explaining empathy (you feel what they feel) vs. compassion (an action (motivation) to pulling them up)
As a kid I was always in a state of awe and people thought I was stupid
I’m in awe every single day! When I go to my garden and see the butterflies, the interesting types & colors of the birds, the insects and what they do, the plants and how they grow & blossom and so much more! You have to make an effort to be in awe in life. If you are grateful for every blessing that has come your way and every bad thing that you dealt with but overcame then you are happy. The problem I see these days is people think they are the most important in the world. They need to come down from their pedestals. As for monogamy I feel sorry for the young folks. We as parents have spoiled them materially and verbally. My friends and relatives & myself have been married for more than 37 years and we see that our kids have no intentions for monogamy( only if it suits them), they would rather “live their life” what ever that means. I see a lot of old bachelors & bachelorettes in the future. In my marriage of forty years I constantly have thanked my husband for providing us, loving us, being a great dad and husband. Young people or even some older folks can’t bring themselves to show gratitude to their partner because they see it as weakness. So so messed up! Maybe they should practice some humbleness .🤔🙂❤️
I’m an end of life doula and holding space for people at their deaths is my awe. Thank you, Dacher, for sharing your experience.