How to refuse to give her money and still keep her interested
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- čas přidán 15. 06. 2024
- If you want to learn how to refuse to give her money and still keep her interested, this is the perfect video for you. Jessica OS takes you through 5 key way to navigate these murky waters. Women tend to ask for money a lot and this can cause a lot of financial stress in the lives of the people they date .
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Sometimes saying “no” is ideal and appropriate , if she walks , let the wind carry her even far away . Amen and Amen
Word!
AMEN
Hahahaha. Nice one. Comment of the month!
Amen
Right on
My people come here, we have one of them on our side...🤗🤗🤗...let's protect her
hihihihihi
Yes sir😂
Lol. I really respect her Bro. She's dishing out some really bitter truth pills to her gender. Let's get her a bodyguard. 😀😀😀
I love her already!
Lil
"No real man needs a gold digger"
Thanks Jessica ❤️ from Nigeria 🇳🇬
that's right bro...
I always say this : if she ain’t holding you down she’s slowing you down ✌🏾
REAL SHIT💯💯
You can't keep a Nigerian ladies without giving her money constantly
@idowu
You missed the whole point
@@idowutolulope5339 then don't be with them at all
A woman who is dating a man is not entitled to his money…. Period! Dating is a way of getting to know and understand one another. There is absolutely no financial’s obligation attached to it.
Equally, a man dating a woman is not entitled to sex and kisses .... . Preach that one as well.
You earn my respect
Wisdom ❤️✊🏾
@@edwinagreen3887 Because only the man enjoys the sex? Or are you in essence also saying that sex and money are traded for eachother?
I agree sister. She has not understood the marriage contract. Always talking about dating as if she is a teenager. Stupid.
From a woman's perspective. You nailed it Jess! It would surprise you that many guys are out there impressing girls who don't really like them.
YES. I've been there
Am a victim.
I always tell them that i can't be financially responsible before we go far & those that are not interested in money thank me for my honesty.
Its very true man.. Some women are just in for the benefit. It's sad 😥
@@angellatonny6379 Why, how many have u dated so far? I wish I cld see into ur dating profile. lol
This woman is confirming everything I have been saying for many years!
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah true. 😅
All those who disliked your post are definitely those women who date for money. They will never like I Jess, but honestly, you are one in a million. God will protect you for us to be an eye opener not only for us men, but also for those blood sucking money draining women. I appreciate u Jess.
Value yourself enough to walk away from any situation that goes against your own values and boundaries.
best comment...self respect self esteem is best priority
This is a challenge we all faced, especially when being 'nice' guys. I've learnt my lesson after paying ladies' rent, and realised that they later did not like me for who I am and got intimate with guys who did not give them a cent. So, lesson learnt
Cheer up man.
Experience is the best teacher bro,,,,,
Damn that's crazy. I would never. Glad you woke up.
ooouch!!
You will find the right person, trust me..
I love this woman. A precious gem. One of God's reason to smile and feel proud.
For me avoiding women has helped me a lot. Free life no stress, it's not easy but avoid them as much as u can
I completely agree; the moment you start the relationship with spending money on her, that’s all it turns into
True brother never reveal u got money to a woman never 🤣
Yepyep
And you are not getting sex?. Or wifey duties?.
@@berryb5474 Regardless, wowing a woman with money is never a good idea.
I'm in that caragory...Dominican woman need men to pay all there bills...
1. It's too demeaning to always demand from people
2. You lose respect.
3. They will not take you serious
4. It prevents you from growing
5. They begin to question why you are with them..
Always be financially independent
Some people are not smart enough to realise that
Some people are not smart enough to realise that
I wish many ladies know this,many ladies are still on the street Bec of their behavior,
@@afogbonjaiyewisdom1436 well spoke
Many ladies and men forget this, that dating is act of knowing each other rather take it to be marriage that is why all this act is unveiling, like depending if u don't give money I wil not cook or buy something for the house or myself please ladies let take note of this.
There are some ladies act like man in a relationship Command here and there which man want to marry man you see them break up, that is the reason why so many girls still on the streets today and fail to understand this
This is what I'm dealing with now... Very frustrating.
You nailed it my Mentor.
If men can start practicing all what you said in this video, there will be less conflicts in a relationship or marriage.
I cant agree less, I did a self assessment and I have tried 3 out of the tips mentioned before & guess what? She left. Sometimes as a man, you have to withdraw some favours even if you're capable of doing it and see what comes out of it. Great tips @Jessica
Big facts. 🎯
I remember that nursery rhyme; and away she flew 😂
.. nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year do to covid so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help GOD
Yep.
What a blessing when they leave! Your bank account and wallet will live longer.
If a woman asks you for some money to get her hair done that's a red flag right there!
Lol it means she telling you I don’t like you
i just ended a relationship based on constant demand for money. I'm done !
😅
Same
My girl saw this and warned me that if I watched it, she's already no longer interested.
😂😂😂😂
She is a Golddigger
Let her go
has she left now??😂😂😂😂
I guess she left already seeing as you are here rn
What is this thing about money,momo,buy me this and that in relationships? People need to know that to be financially independent makes you more attractive to your partner in any relationship. Good job,Jess!
That's true madam
I like independent woman.Who can take care of herself.I feel more comfortable ....
Uve said it madam without favour or fear now some slay queens out there are mad at your comment I knooo
💯
For some, it's their hustle. Five men giving $500, is their rent/mortgage.
Not only on women but also to relatives i tell you these can work, thanks Jess
“Listen my guy, it’s your money”, haha... good stuff Jess. Kudos🔥
Haha ladies its your body dont have sex or wifey duties before marriage. 😃😀
@@berryb5474
We talking money, you here talking Nahsense
@@chisommoses5409
How am i talking nonsence?..
Sex is a good feeling and money is also a better feeling.
Only, when you are married , you are entiled to those things from the women.
Marriage is like a contract.
Would you work without signing a contract?.
@@berryb5474 women love sex they will do it for free men choose if they want to give money
@@berryb5474 why do you women think that men need sex more than women? The sex toys are scarce to find these days. Which gender is buying sex toy, male or female? You people should grow up as if women don't enjoy sex
My girlfriend has been constantly requesting for money back to back🤦🏾♂️. She’s making the relationship tiring to me.
Get out of it .
Break up with her
Tell her or quit the relationship,if this continues it will get worst while in marriage, let her get work or skills otherwise it will be hard for you to grow and become somebody in future.
Help her get a small business or your doomed
Never regretted listening to your videos. Thumbs up Jessica, you're doing a great job.
Absolutely True
@@daveondiekaaron2204 .
bsj nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year do to covid so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help GOD
Seriously!!! I just LOVE her!!!
Just woke up to this video and felt good watching it to the end. You got every point nailed down especially those ladies out their who have in mind to be "liability"
8:mmmbgtwe🎉😮😮🎉😅😮🎉🎉❤
I was seeing a girl for nearly a year and I used to pay every time we went out but asked her to help on holidays etc. She didn’t like that. We separated and she went back to her American ex who pays for absolutely everything. She was most likely waiting for him or talking to him the whole time we were together. Or even worse… receiving money from him the whole time! Be careful guys 🤝
I can listen to u talk all year... freaking smooth!!!
I personally do not see anything wrong with supporting each other financially in a relationship , as at when and where it becomes necessary . I feel like it’s the sense of entitlement that is more of a problem ;like you owe them something simply because you’re dating them .unfortunately, ladies are often guilty of this
You are right Kaakyire
I agree with you🙂✌🏼
@@aurageospatial 😊
Jossey you have a point tho but that is your own perspective of your ideas. Honestly relationship should be 5050 relationship.
@@betiles1 I get your point also, but you and I know a 50/50 relationship in our part of the world is almost unrealistic. The man who is the head is seen as the main provider and the woman supports . That is why it is important to have a lady who brings something to the table/relationship and not just her beauty and body .
You have said it all. Tombsup Jossey
Jessica, I love you for your genuineness. You’re real and your type is rare. God bless you.
lk nice my dear but today i really need u to save me im broke this year do to covid so i beg u the best with respect to found me 5ghc for food help GOD
Your guidelines on relationships are so on point. You're doing a great work.
I love your positive vibes Jessica. Keep it up blaze the fire the ladies have over loaded us with pure money pressure. We’re dead walking with pressure big up Jessica.
Thanks soo much Miss Jessy for being there for us at all time.
Always paying close attention to your content
People, both men and women, often define themselves by their money and possessions. If we all stopped leading with our money, we might be inclined to find more meaningful, long-lasting, relationships. I once dated a guy who always complained that his past love interests always asked him for financial support; yet when I pointed out the reason why, he leads with his money, he looked at me baffled!!! It took me all of two weeks of conversation to clearly see he liked financially saving women and complaining about it simultaneously to anyone who would listen. I didn’t have the desire to feed that ego. If you are in an established relationship then helping each other financially in a time of need is very different than if we just met and you always need a financial hand-out.
APT!
Wow! Thanks for the insight! Jessica, I will be using your points in a sermon. Of course, I will cite you as the source. Thanks for the blessing! Thanks for the lesson!
Hey Jess, you're hitting right on the spot!
God bless you!
Really helps. I had really been a victim of this.... I was knocked off my budget in the name I want 2 be supportive to my woman & don't want 2 give her reasons to cheat. The one that hit me hard ended up not dating me. Your 1st statement abt not using ur financial status at d early stage is really ideal
I Love your talk shows Ms Jessica.
You have really inspired me on how, when and where to make the right decisions in life.
Thank you so much.
😘😘😘
Shoo, your vlogs knock me on my feet Jessica. You're really talking to me, you do. You're such an advisor, the most important one for that matter, you're a true genuine lady who can tap into a man's psyche and see all the weaknesses that characterize a man clouded by love. Indeed, love is blind, when a man loves, he doesn't see even the obvious of the red flags. You put it simple and straight to the point. I honestly believe you're a life saver and thank you very much beautiful sister ❤.
Much respect 🙏 from me Ernest, South Africa 🇿🇦
Your videos are simply addictive,I can’t stop watching them.
I’m learning a lot.
It’s the ability to say No. power of No is the key. Jessica I love you ❤️
This is a Golden vid. Why? Most women have no problem asking men they don’t know or are in the process of getting to know for money.
As a brotha, I intimately innerstand us men are hard wired to provide & protect women and children. It’s encoded in our DNA. Somewhere along our journey to manhood. Women figure this out & abuse it beyond all belief.
I’ve dealt with this in my life. We as men believe women are soft innocent and undeniably good. Life lessons, time & common sense teaches us differently. The major problem is 9/10 women do this men, whether they are attracted to us or not.
I had a few female friends that said they had to manually override the feeling or desire to negatively take advantage of a good man. They had to put in effort not to use select men. I was shocked hearing it from the horses mouth. I took it all in.
It’s difficult to overcome our own inner nature. Whether it makes us more attractive to the opposite sex or not. I’m thankful for this vid, and the genuine message you delivered, Goddess. Just subscribed, notifications bell on!!!
Great Jesse! Indeed brainstorming! Thanks! God bless all your endeavours!
Am absolutely perplexed by this Jess,you’re really talking to me.
Greetings and love from Uganda 🇺🇬
I LOVED HOW YOU WINKED WHEN DISHING OUT THE FIRST POINT.
we are together in this.....😍
These solutions sounds very funny but deeply helpful. My favorite is for them to give you 24hrs to think over it. Honestly, that's the best time to analyze the real need and the best excuse.
.....im leaving in amasaman and i work in some restaurant begore covid but now yhe are close and im lose and broke i just need help
And the more money she ask the more time you need to get back with her
I AM A NEW FOLLOWER AND I AM TRULY AWED BY YOUR INTELLIGENCE. THANKS FOR PUTTING OUT THESE CONTENTS. LEARNING A LOT...KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK
Great job!!! Jessica
Well, it all boils down to the starting point. The starting point determines the trajectory of the financial aspect. Yah!!
You are so right ! It's very tiring now dealing with women once they know you have money.Its like they see you as an ATM.I am rich now and when I was broke I had more luck with women.
@Justin Sharpe lol
Thanks Jessica, great tips. However the ladies here in Nigeria are just wired differently, it's either they have it their way or the highway. As a matter of fact, always asking their men for money is a constitutional right they are entitled to. You talked about selling the idea of taking a loan, that cracks me up, you tell that to a Nigerian girl and watch out for some nasty attitude, it's like you deprive them of fresh breath. A good number of these tips might surely work in Accra, but Lagos and Nigeria I really don't think so. Money is everything over here.
Great tips. It's like you were speaking to me personally. Thank you Jessica.
OMG!! I love this woman... She just spat the truth about everything I've been having a hard time with
Your 5 recommendations are spot on in term of relationships and money. At the end of the day , it is also about breaking up emotional dependency too not just the financial aspects of the relationship.
You can never make a girl get attracted to you by giving her gifts. If she doesn't like you she doesn't
bro i really need u to save me
Is true, many now adays girls think that money is the correct way to be loved.
@@hopelife8130 baba na you go save yourself
Well, blame us men who think money is the answer. The day the money runs out she will leave you for the next clueless sucker.
@@isaacs2539 but money really is the answer bro. Even if she loves you like Bob loves Whitney, she's still got to settle her bills right?
Jess.....right on the money....You got my attention, I'm listening....love your voice
Massive insights gotten from this...glad I came across it!
Thanks Jessica.
Girl, you nail it straight.
Wow wow what a smart woman 👩!I love you JESSICA OS😍Thanks for the all the advices you've been giving us and we've been listening lol👌😃
Very important advice, Jessy. Thanks!
Thank you. Things some of us know (and have been warned about from our Mother's) but are not confident or aware (or both.) enough to figure out which way is up with the women or men we deal with.
I was dating a single mother of one daughter who kept asking me for money and honestly kept doing it...Well pretty much everything ended up with her sleeping with another guy.Believe me it was the most heartbreaking experience
You lost me at dating a single mother
Single mothers are with a guy for what you can do for them and not for love. Therefore, she is available for anyone who can provide for her. Its for provision and not love.
Glad you are reformed now.
Feel sorry for you dude,,most of them are that way,,
I love that statement " teach her rather how to fish"
Thanks you sis,you said it loud and clear!
You are a blessing to any genuine society honestly 🙏 , I can't give up listening to you
Jess you incredible n guess what am putting your words down on a paper, don't wanna forget them,you the best 💯
The hardship in our society makes women place monetary consideration above everything. They don't necessarily follow their hearts, and even if they do the economic burdens constantly trigger squabbles that hinder the joy of love.
Jessica, this is wonderful..well understood especially tip 3
Hey Jessica, you are such a wonderful mentor, not really sure I I got to your channel, but trust me, I learnt something that transformed my life in dating perspective... Brave! From Nigeria
0:25 For starters: *_"Giving out money or lending money is a financial decision, it's not an emotional decision."_*
Never thought of it like that before! You know that moment when you're fighting emotionally against a decision, but you don't know how to put it across verbally ? This is it. 💡🤑
I don't get it,,,
Financial vs Emotional decision....!
Men just don’t know when to say “babe no!” or “hustle this one out by yourself.” Some feel it’s beneath them not to make cash rain on “every frivolous” demand posed by their girl even if it’s draining the hell out of his meager pocket. Men are plagued with senseless pride, that’s a fact. But I think Jess’ 5 litmus tests can help determine if she’s right for you or not .
you make a good point
🇯🇲Being so free handed doesn't win you more respect from her, but lowers it, knowing you can easily be manipulated.
Jess men give money to women at times not because they are stupid but at times to really get to know if they are gold digers or not. I agree with u on the fifth piont. Because some girls will have like latest IPhone but can't afford mere $50 to make their hair.
On point Taiwo. It's about time men realize that your substance as a man is not about your wallet and account balances and how much you splurge when dating. That's sad. But I think most men also do that because they have intentions of getting into the pants of these ladies and they know splurging makes it easier in some cases.
This has rendered most relationships of today transactional and poorly grounded from both sides. My view though.
@@impressiveiq Very correct and straight to the point
I can feel you sis, you are quite on point.
Thanks for these wonderful ideas... Jessica you're a light
Jess, you're the real deal.
You've always delivered, girl! 👏
Just listened to Sarkodie's free style and watched your video, and let me say thank you all. Sark dropped all the keys and you gave the solution. I love you it. Sharp we move.
I'm dump founded in this segment
Thumbs up Jessica,I learn
I don't regret watching your videos.
Best confirmation I have been calling for myself .
Hi Jess. I'm always impressed by your in depth perspective on life and issues. Very few women in Ghana will understand the essence of what you just shared and how it impacts on the respect and dignity accorded them by the men who are constantly having to spend on a woman that they are dating.
Ladies, its absolutely possible to work harder and even earn more than your guy. You are very capable.
So wonderful Jessica.Hope this one gets a million views.
Number 5 is so relevant not just to females but anyone borrowing from general friends to family.It is really an indication of a persons selfish nature when they don’t sacrifice to support themselves but see you as an ATM.
Unfortunately when you acquire money especially when you have worked really hard for it you have a soft spot for people who are suffering and become a sucker for a sob story.
You always second guess yourself when you refuse.
The 24 hour deferred consideration is brilliant.
Sometimes it’s not that you show off your wealth or earnings but after a while you reach a point where you figure I earn this let me enjoy this.
However some people will borrow from you and resent you if you say no;then they begin commenting on your rich “earned “ lifestyle and appearance and your inability to help them with an amount that is less than the cost of your shoes shirt or bag.
That’s why the rich often migrate to gated communities of like persons even when they came from poor neighborhoods.
I recall the reason why you sold that house in an earlier post as well as your frustration.
I think many persons would fail your litmus test and truth is they really should go.
Keep riding high biker girl.
Blessings always.
This video is for me. True talk. Well said.
Jessica, I must say the truth that you are the best relationship coach I ever seen. This is what I am presently going through right now. All her life(expenses) is on me and her mind is on someone else who doesn't even care if shel eat or not. I just noticed she's using me
This is a current situation iam in right getting over budget and too much stressed and boom out of nowhere this came ur a true life saver i tell u ❤
Just came across your page, apart from the Awesome content!!!!! The Diction and communication is so on point and I'm learning new words and how to communicate well. Thank you Jess
Awww... thanks. Glad to be of help
I really enjoy your counseling, thanks, more strength n longevity live to bless us
Great job Jessy. You killed it. On your way to be the biggest female youtuber on the continent.
I just love JESSICA'S advices they've just help me to gain self confidence , more love from Kenya 💥
Maridadi
I love the energy and Melody of her voice💓💓
This is absolutely informative, Jess. Thanks
Lol. I almost predicted correctly on your community timeline when you asked us to guess what topic you were going to treat next. Clue was probably after listening to sister sister last week. The sisters did justice to the first 2 questions which involved money. I have always had issues with ladies feeling they are entitled to your money because the both of you are in a relationship. Unfortunately that is the order of the day. Most relationships now are ostensibly surviving because money is constantly being transferred to one party, mostly to the ladies. My fellow sisters, please let us put some dignity on ourselves. Great job Jess.
❤ 😎😎
@@JessicaOS I want you! 🥰
Surprisingly all the points you made are just the same i did few years ago. i remember suggesting to my gf 8 years ago to be independent and not to rely on me. We take a stroll and chat to cover distances. i help out in other ways when i do not want to pay for her expenses. i never gave full amount she requested. today we married with a nice baby boy. so yes, i agree with Jess.
awesome!!
Yup, that was VERY helpful Jessica!
This the first time I read you, and bless your mouth and the words out of it.
She needs more subs. Great content top 10%
Jessica there's no doubt you do a great job on choosing these topics, gathering your facts and presenting them to us effortlessly. You so concise and professional. God bless you!
Thanks a lot for the awesome advice Jessica. I love the video too. Keep it up. Cheers 🍻
Jessica you're too good ... I really love your show. Keep it up
The “sit by you” in the salon suggestion is a dangerous dis tin. The women in the salon would expect the man to pay, if he doesn’t they’ll gossip, form a board of directors, appoint a chair and pollute the gf’s mind.
Love all your suggestions btw👌🏾
#roadto150k
You really have a great point there
This is so true. I experienced that with my girlfriend sometimes back. Never doing it again.
Jessica you just nail it down, I was a victim of that years ago, spending and spending on this girl who never took me serious, and all I experience is break up at the end. Your channel is a great channel on relationship. Thank you
Most naija guys are victims man 😂😂😂
Not all ladies are like that please
Jessica your are wonderful.Your videos have really inspired me greatly and i am learning from them and also they are making me wiser..Thanks sooo much for all of that.
Thank you Jessica, you are saving lives and healing wounds