How to know if a woman is not interested but just being nice.

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  • čas přidán 20. 06. 2024
  • Sometimes women are just being nice, but not interested in anything more. This video, breaks down most instances to help you decipher the girl code!
    It offers key signs to know if your woman is not interested but is just being nice
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  • @lawrence8434
    @lawrence8434 Před 3 lety +854

    Some of these things we as man already know, but because we can be in denial, we like to lie to ourselves, thinking she is gonna come around. but hearing this, just makes it easier to identify and move on as quick as possible. no time wasted. Thank you once again Jessy.

    • @bransonliimo9601
      @bransonliimo9601 Před 2 lety +34

      Swear man. Denial is real

    • @Thap3l0
      @Thap3l0 Před 2 lety +10

      Facts

    • @rodgerdunkley7181
      @rodgerdunkley7181 Před 2 lety +8

      wow thank you so much for the tips,i am guilty of chasing and thinking that i am suppose to chase to try and win her.

    • @dity.
      @dity. Před 2 lety +4

      Jesus Christ loves u acts 238 and upci church locator for a church type that on the Internet

    • @MAO_EA
      @MAO_EA Před 2 lety +2

      Fact

  • @stephenjames4937
    @stephenjames4937 Před 2 lety +149

    In my teens and twenties, I thought women were attracted to me if they were chatty, friendly, sweet-hearted and attentive. I made some big, embarrassing mistakes with this assumption, and lost track of how many times I was told, "No, Stephen, I just want us to be friends." Finally, the penny dropped, and now I assume that any woman who is friendly, chatty, sweet-hearted and attentive is the same with everyone else. Result: no embarrassing situations, no time wasted in searching for her signals that are not there.

  • @walterhough5263
    @walterhough5263 Před 2 lety +43

    That last part, always holding her phone, but takes hours or days before she'll respond.
    Thank you

    • @iamvizard
      @iamvizard Před 25 dny

      guess its time to move on…

  • @Min.Scepter
    @Min.Scepter Před 3 lety +63

    Chase what won't reject you. your dreams and vision can't reject you. If you can chase your dreams and realize it, even women would chase after you.

    • @notusgodwind4512
      @notusgodwind4512 Před 4 měsíci +2

      Yeah but at that point why even accept them? They don't seem to want you they want more of what you bring

    • @user-qi1gg1gs5b
      @user-qi1gg1gs5b Před 4 měsíci +1

      When you dreams are having a happy healthy family. You are screwed

  • @hopepray1669
    @hopepray1669 Před 3 lety +831

    Men should never fear rejection. You reject me, i move on to the next. I agree with those subtle signs that someone is not interested. But the best way to find out if a woman is interested is to shoot your shot.

    • @isaacjoshua1645
      @isaacjoshua1645 Před 3 lety +8

      You too much

    • @davante1286
      @davante1286 Před 3 lety +33

      Nah let her choose up 1st. Don't cold Approach.

    • @Anthony90026
      @Anthony90026 Před 3 lety +5

      @@davante1286 What do you mean?

    • @davante1286
      @davante1286 Před 3 lety +85

      @@Anthony90026 let her choose meaning let her show signs of interest like eye contact, smile, etc don't just walk up on them shows needy and she has the power .👍🏾

    • @Anthony90026
      @Anthony90026 Před 3 lety +2

      @@davante1286 Oh ok, I was confused at first lol thanks for clarifying

  • @raidendwayne21
    @raidendwayne21 Před 3 lety +192

    Normally i say don't take advice from woman. But this one speak tru facts no bs. All her advice is 100% facts.

    • @lowlowseesee
      @lowlowseesee Před 3 lety +11

      thats a red flag from hell if you normally dont take advice from women. we are people you know

    • @kapall3021
      @kapall3021 Před 3 lety

      @@lowlowseesee wtf? dont trust what she saying

    • @overlandacrossafrika
      @overlandacrossafrika Před 3 lety +2

      @kapa LL listen to everyone one who passes through ur ears choose to adhere or not adhere but don't force ppl not to be kind and to stop doing the right thing

    • @veemuyambo
      @veemuyambo Před 3 lety +11

      Trust me women know shit abt women... the best advice abt women u can get is from a woman...

    • @TerriTerriHotSauce
      @TerriTerriHotSauce Před 3 lety

      @@veemuyambo Nope.

  • @dawnempress5014
    @dawnempress5014 Před rokem +1048

    Every rejection is God's protection 🙏 🙌

  • @jamesbradleydevomra9523
    @jamesbradleydevomra9523 Před 2 lety +278

    The truth hurts
    But it will set you free
    Thank you for clearing things up for me 😌
    I appreciate your content lots

  • @SuperTailsTeamxxx
    @SuperTailsTeamxxx Před 3 lety +190

    I saw all the signs you mentioned but still ignored them until it blew on my face one day and flattened me....wish I was matured enough like now....you’re %100 on point.

    • @umutbulut7805
      @umutbulut7805 Před 2 lety +8

      Sorry to hear that, do you mind sharing your story bro?

    • @dominosamuz
      @dominosamuz Před 2 lety

      @@BDA302 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @mariesafaite-antoine20
    @mariesafaite-antoine20 Před 3 lety +65

    Some women like to flirt around so that they could be the center of attention all the times... that also is sign that these types cannot be taken too seriously as well. Thanks Jessica

    • @webbset
      @webbset Před rokem

      Thank you sister , had this one flirting and all but not interested happy was able to notice quick before wasting my time

  • @CommandoMaster
    @CommandoMaster Před 5 měsíci +10

    These are good tips. If she's not willing to set aside time to see u in person, then she's not into u. It's painfully obvious, but guys still get strung along by girls in "hopes" that one day they will have a chance with her. Remember - girls like the validation and attention u give her. That's good enough for her. She doesn't need to do anything intimate with u for her to win.

  • @iAMTreydiddy
    @iAMTreydiddy Před 2 lety +26

    The phone tip is probably the best way to know if someone is interested or not. I have a coworker who always has her phone within reach. Most the time when I text her she takes a while to respond or doesn't respond at all. Dead give away right there.

    • @sibo5204
      @sibo5204 Před 4 měsíci +2

      The thing is, alot of girls play this game of responding late and so on to make sure they don't get too attached

  • @paul_ochai
    @paul_ochai Před 3 lety +974

    Every genuine male have had to deal with this someway somehow, God help us

    • @kwesipositiveappiah5997
      @kwesipositiveappiah5997 Před 3 lety +46

      I like the word "genuine"

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  Před 3 lety +68

      lol! I feel for you

    • @derrickofori4859
      @derrickofori4859 Před 3 lety +29

      @@kwesipositiveappiah5997 I also like the word “genuine” May God help genuine men out there 🙌❤️

    • @jessiesexton6226
      @jessiesexton6226 Před 3 lety +41

      that is why I'm bay myself because if you don't be careful they will take advantage of you and will not show you no respect or appreciation

    • @paul_ochai
      @paul_ochai Před 3 lety +1

      @@derrickofori4859 Amen 🙏

  • @israelakowe9304
    @israelakowe9304 Před 3 lety +271

    Mehn, she speaks impeccable English 👌

    • @sbusisobrianmasuku3063
      @sbusisobrianmasuku3063 Před 3 lety +13

      That's also one of the things that stood out for me.

    • @lesliekelly9049
      @lesliekelly9049 Před 3 lety +5

      Ghana to the world 😍🔥✌🏽

    • @nashakeba
      @nashakeba Před 2 lety +6

      Rather than a compliment, I think this comment’s insulting. She’s from Ghana, and English as much as I know is an official language there.

    • @thulasmash2195
      @thulasmash2195 Před 2 lety +3

      You speak impaccable English aswell. 👌🏿

    • @chilakaikechukwu5939
      @chilakaikechukwu5939 Před 2 lety +2

      Swears😌😍💯

  • @moonshiry
    @moonshiry Před 5 měsíci +15

    One of the most balanced and eloquently put across pieces of advice out there. I think the biggest problem that we guys face out there is the messaging speed and we are left unsure if we should continue to persue or not

  • @deputydrip4520
    @deputydrip4520 Před 7 měsíci +29

    I’d like to speak on the last rule about not responding quickly. It honestly depends on the girl. For instance, I had a girl that would take hours to respond to my texts, but she would almost never be on her phone, and when I glanced at her phone I was always at the top of her list. She ended up liking me and we had a good time. But when measuring response times, you need to gauge the person’s phone habits first.

  • @osarumenerhunmwunsee
    @osarumenerhunmwunsee Před 3 lety +113

    She speaks fact. I have gone through this before until the lady showed her true color by screaming at me when I took her out and made a mistake passing the wrong place while I was taking her home. She screamed at me like crazy and ended up saying she’s done with me. When I got her back the second time it was as if she has an agenda of asking me for money which I did gave her. I was a fool getting the signal thst she doesn’t like me and still pushing myself towards her. August 1, I stopped talking to her. Thank God I have a new girlfriend now and she’s so cool.

    • @kevinmalone3210
      @kevinmalone3210 Před 3 lety +11

      Sounds as if she's emotionally unstable. You did the right thing in forgetting her.

    • @osarumenerhunmwunsee
      @osarumenerhunmwunsee Před 3 lety +4

      @@kevinmalone3210 i removed her number. In church she’s quiet and always frowning her face. The last time I text her was when she ask me to buying something online and was trying to give her my credit card foolishly, that day I decided to change my mind telling her that I can’t give you my credit card that it’s too risky. She now said I don’t trust her. Since then I stoped talking to her till now.

    • @kevinmalone3210
      @kevinmalone3210 Před 3 lety +3

      @@osarumenerhunmwunsee I suppose it doesn't hurt to talk to that person even if for the most part you cut then out of your life. It's always wise to never give anyone your credit/debit card numbers out. For a woman to say, you don't trust me in response sounds manipulative. Moving on is the best way. Life is too short.

    • @osarumenerhunmwunsee
      @osarumenerhunmwunsee Před 3 lety +6

      @@kevinmalone3210 Honestly man. What people don’t understand is that it’s not about the look, it’s about heart. If you are the most prettiest girl in the world and you have a bad behavior no one will date the person or maybe they’ll have sex with the person and run away. This girl is so pretty but she had a very bad behavior

    • @afogbonjaiyewisdom1436
      @afogbonjaiyewisdom1436 Před 3 lety +4

      @@kevinmalone3210 most ladies u see walking around are highly emotionally unstable,,,when u as a dude ask them ,why do u love me ,,they say the same thing repeatedly "Bec you make me happy and smile"*

  • @SW-et4zb
    @SW-et4zb Před 3 lety +92

    Out of all the languages that could have been spoken, Jessica chose facts.

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    • @Nicey_Young
      @Nicey_Young Před 3 lety

      So trueee!!!
      Facts👏🔥

  • @goldensmiths
    @goldensmiths Před 13 dny

    All I can say is thank you a million times over.
    That last point "if she takes days to reply to messages..." really hit hard.
    That's exactly what I've been trying to know for weeks now.

  • @davidmtonga1422
    @davidmtonga1422 Před 2 lety +8

    Any girl who likes you will create time for you coz girls have this super power of running many things at the same time. She can cook,do her chores and even wash at the same time. If she keeps telling you she's busy or making excuses,focus on yourself Bro💀
    Thank you for the video😊🙏

  • @Shawntraci
    @Shawntraci Před 3 lety +90

    I personally don't allow myself to waste time. If I feel like there is very little interest shown I will quickly remove myself from that situation. There won't be any bad talk or any type of negativity. I just move on without warning and wish them good luck, because there is absolutely no way to get time back once it is spent...

  • @esaasaggus4179
    @esaasaggus4179 Před 3 lety +168

    I tell younger guys don't deal with her all together. Only deal with women that interested in him. Don't give them any unwarranted attention put them in the friendzone if she try to come back especially when you in your purpose and successful. Only deal with women in your field of vision or shes not worth your time.

    • @lelabo765
      @lelabo765 Před 3 lety +2

      Facts

    • @GregoryFergusson
      @GregoryFergusson Před 3 lety +5

      This is the secret to success

    • @Chris87md
      @Chris87md Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you

    • @jeviosoorishas181
      @jeviosoorishas181 Před 3 lety +11

      The thing that women value most from men is their time and attention. Just like men will take free sex, women will take free time and attention...it's on you to know when you're being used and to cut things off.
      When you value your time, the same way she values her vagina...you'll reach enlightenment.

    • @edelgyn2699
      @edelgyn2699 Před 2 lety +1

      @@jeviosoorishas181 Your view of men and women is perverse and definitely doesn't apply to people who are interested in building good relationships on respect and friendship.

  • @atio5491
    @atio5491 Před 2 lety +60

    Nothing beats experience. Knowing and doing things are two different things. I know the mistakes I make but I usually remember them after they’ve been made. For example, I remember a girl chatting me up at a mall last year, she was really pretty and I was so impressed with her confidence and vibe that I got carried away and became too chatty (my most frequent mistake with anybody I’m trying to impress). It was after she left that I realized how I’ve screwed it up. I barely chat up anyone that looks like that so tips or no tips, without the experience, it’s easy to get carried away in the moment and fumble.
    We know some of these tips, it’s just harder to see/remember when you’re in the middle of it.

    • @patrickburns4821
      @patrickburns4821 Před 10 měsíci +14

      so help me understand, you feel your mistake was you held too long of a conversation? so was she trying to cut it off and you kept going or did she also bring up new subjects as well? What is "too chatty"? I mean if she was feeling you and you feeling her what was wrong with that my man? Talking is a good thing; something was wrong with her apparently!

    • @averagestudent4358
      @averagestudent4358 Před 5 měsíci

      Relatable.

  • @tempusFugit1337
    @tempusFugit1337 Před 2 lety +158

    1) When you trying to invite her out, she will never give you an exact date and time
    2) When she does make a date with you, she doesn't show up
    3) She doesn't allow you, to invade her personal space
    4) She never want to be alone with you, or will only meet you in public
    5) She keeps you away from her friends
    6) She takes hours or days to respond to your messages

    • @oliverakisa98
      @oliverakisa98 Před 2 lety +10

      How is this being nice....I don't understand

    • @vamsikotte
      @vamsikotte Před 2 lety +3

      @@oliverakisa98 well according to the video any girl being nice means the girls is not interested

    • @Schaufelor
      @Schaufelor Před rokem +1

      @@oliverakisa98 i think "being nice" in this context means that she even communicating with you instead of flat out telling you to go away.
      I still think that these videos are way too much about the situation when you already asked a girl out.

    • @Marcus-gw4bb
      @Marcus-gw4bb Před rokem +4

      #1 is happening to me right now. I recently asked her if she would like to go to the library together. She said she's okay with the idea but has to check her schedule because she's very busy.

    • @AmaryxYT
      @AmaryxYT Před rokem +1

      @@Marcus-gw4bb #2 isn't really nice if she does this on purpose lol sadly happened to me

  • @kwabenaowusu7884
    @kwabenaowusu7884 Před 3 lety +38

    I've taken your advice and saved myself from a possible heartache. Well done Jess.

  • @ysaehikonrad6431
    @ysaehikonrad6431 Před 3 lety +406

    as a man you have to face rejections and still walk up with pride

    • @nathanielmabels5984
      @nathanielmabels5984 Před 3 lety +29

      That be the vibe bro...... Life must move on...... The grind and hustle is real

    • @davante1286
      @davante1286 Před 3 lety +21

      It's cool long as it's not a constant rejection 😁

    • @howboutdat4053
      @howboutdat4053 Před 3 lety +24

      @@davante1286 That's been my experience. It's seriously screwing up my mental health 😓

    • @thebotfather9508
      @thebotfather9508 Před 3 lety +33

      @@howboutdat4053 stop approaching women. get money & flex & let them come to you.

    • @howboutdat4053
      @howboutdat4053 Před 3 lety +35

      @@thebotfather9508 Lmao I got the money and I'm very ambitious. Though flexing isn't really my thing. I don't want to deal with golddiggers.

  • @petercharlery7661
    @petercharlery7661 Před 2 lety +14

    I pride myself in knowing in a couple minuites if a woman is interested in me or not. It's a crime to waste time on women who are not interested in you.

  • @petercharlery7661
    @petercharlery7661 Před 2 lety +66

    I just don't understand why men invest so much of their time, energy and money with women who are not interested in them.

    • @blackticalmayhem8461
      @blackticalmayhem8461 Před 2 lety +3

      EGO i guess lol

    • @xxxj4s279
      @xxxj4s279 Před 2 lety +7

      maybe because they still have feelings even though they know it’s impossible

    • @petercharlery7661
      @petercharlery7661 Před 2 lety +3

      @@xxxj4s279 They need to be very much aware of feelings that end up digging holes in their pockets. One must always consider the costs.

    • @sameenergy9414
      @sameenergy9414 Před 2 lety +4

      Lust

    • @Flight411
      @Flight411 Před 2 lety +2

      Scarcity mindset. Knock it off, Kings.

  • @DarkManKpakpo
    @DarkManKpakpo Před 3 lety +97

    If Jess makes a masterclass on dating life, I dunno who wouldn't purchase that course. She doesn't miss!

    • @collinsa8909
      @collinsa8909 Před 3 lety +1

      Would you? Take dating advice from a man, women don't often know what a man's perspective is like

    • @OGwiseog
      @OGwiseog Před 3 lety

      Ummmm she acts a little masculine
      Ijs
      And Im female

    • @markoseries
      @markoseries Před rokem

      I think she has a 1 on 1 for her patreon supporters.

  • @Foevah
    @Foevah Před 3 lety +198

    When a woman isn't into you, you'll see the clear signs. Nice one Jessica. You hit the nail on the head

    • @tatakamedia5125
      @tatakamedia5125 Před 3 lety +1

      ❤️

    • @africancockney8712
      @africancockney8712 Před 3 lety +9

      When the signs are clear like telesales move to next customer..or as the old saying goes "Plenty of fish in the sea".

    • @keli667
      @keli667 Před 3 lety +4

      the was this girl that comes to sleepover at my place and we sleep on the same but when I made my move it back fired hahaha

    • @clementkyei6076
      @clementkyei6076 Před 3 lety +2

      @@keli667 hahaha women di3 they can be strange ooo

    • @supamoe2022
      @supamoe2022 Před 3 lety +2

      Why do you people talk like school teachers 👩‍🏫 JUST BE YALL SELVES

  • @Rlambjr21
    @Rlambjr21 Před 2 lety

    This was helpful. Everything that you said in the video was happening to me. Whenever I asked to meet, she either wasnt able to or she kept pushing back the day. Also, she always took forever to respond to my texts. I kinda realized it before I saw your video, but I wanted to be persistent. I watched the video yesterday and today it’s sinking in. The words “save yourself the rejection” kept coming to mind throughout the day. Now I decided to leave her alone, and I’m bummed out thinking about how I was being strung along. I have a bad stutter and I know that she was trying to be nice to me, but looking back on it I’d rather her be straight up with me instead of being nice and stringing me along. Great video!

  • @emmanuel.k.justin7974
    @emmanuel.k.justin7974 Před 2 lety +3

    When i was much younger, i would suffer mentally as to why a lady has rejected me, asking myself many questions, if am not looking nice, dressing well, or the approach wasn't smart enough. And still could wake up with much hope of the girl playing hard to get, but still get turned away. Just realised i don't need to force things around, having many female friends is ideal to curb stress, You turn me off, i move on until life's journey connects us again. Jessie you are a blessing here, we men should just know our values

  • @Odih4sure
    @Odih4sure Před 3 lety +85

    I experienced four (1. Asked for a hangout and she kept on saying, "I will let you know." 2. Shifting away when I walked closer. 3. Not responding to messages on time. 4. She hardly said words 2 times that we met and never talked about her friends) of what you said and I just learned in the most impressive way. Thank you Jessica.

    • @israelmarillier700
      @israelmarillier700 Před 2 lety +5

      Sorry about that my brother

    • @nealmike5490
      @nealmike5490 Před 2 lety +12

      Next time try showing her your bank account..if its 6 figures or more I guarantee you will get a different response..Or buy a Bentley and make sure she sees 👀 it...If those 2 things don't work she's not interested..

    • @leembreezy6690
      @leembreezy6690 Před 2 lety +5

      @@nealmike5490 🤣🤣🤣

    • @lavernmbutura9558
      @lavernmbutura9558 Před rokem +5

      @@nealmike5490 bruh🤣🤣🤣

    • @jeremiahcarraway6419
      @jeremiahcarraway6419 Před rokem +3

      Looks and height are all that matter if u don’t have either one. U are gonna have a rough road ahead

  • @dylanjones8636
    @dylanjones8636 Před 3 lety +82

    She just saved a lotta guys alotta time frfr

    • @theresachikondo3067
      @theresachikondo3067 Před 2 lety

      Fr

    • @lemonacidrounds7293
      @lemonacidrounds7293 Před 2 lety

      Not really! Love is blind, your girl keep doing that and you keep pursuing her. As the unexplained rule applies: We always run after those who don't want us and we never turn attention to those who wanna give us the World!

  • @karellt2355
    @karellt2355 Před 2 lety +5

    48...single and loving it! Thanks for this, confirming what I thought....

  • @kayscenes6542
    @kayscenes6542 Před 2 lety +9

    I'm a lady and all these tips are so correct. I love your videos Jessica. I hope the men watch and learn. it's necessary. Stop wasting your time and stop being in denial.

  • @enockmwebeyoutube
    @enockmwebeyoutube Před 3 lety +17

    I like everything about this lady, from her voice to her lighting in the background😊😊😊

  • @Sigmamasculine
    @Sigmamasculine Před 3 lety +22

    Some will say,they are putting u to a test
    So they have to drag u to see whether u are truly in for business 😊😎

  • @aquabot
    @aquabot Před 5 měsíci +106

    She's not just being nice, she's actually trying to get your attention without having to reciprocate. They adore that, getting men's attention knowing they won't do anything with them.

    • @Mattlikesshoes
      @Mattlikesshoes Před 5 měsíci +3

      💔 Been there man. Some wisdom that has been far too painful, almost a pyrrhic victory, though it makes us stronger.

    • @jaylenwilliams8271
      @jaylenwilliams8271 Před 5 měsíci +18

      I’m very uncomfortable being friends with women because of this. Simply being friends makes me feel like less of a man because of how many time I’ve been the attention giver with nothing in return.

    • @Koluvuma
      @Koluvuma Před 5 měsíci +7

      @@jaylenwilliams8271literally get that. It’s like wanna be friends at least or just want get to know u as a person but u ain’t even giving me the time and always busy when I ask to hang out. This girl, haven’t heard my name from her mouth b4, so I blocked her. Move on brothers I know it’s hard but in reality it ain’t

    • @jamesdejohnette4106
      @jamesdejohnette4106 Před 5 měsíci

      Usqubot. Bingo. Enough said.

  • @iliketabasco
    @iliketabasco Před 2 lety +52

    Thank you for showing me that what I was thinking is right.. honestly, being honest and truthful about not liking us for a relationship is more valued than "someday we will go for a drink". it's hard to understand a woman inside her head sometimes and the actions and sayings. Sometimes ,for us man, it's like giving "hope" where there is none and we stay confused because it makes us think that she is just playing hard/testing and that we need to work harder to have her heart. Most of us don't admit it but it's very hurtful inside (at least the ones that have a heart)

  • @slack.
    @slack. Před 3 lety +20

    Damn the last point hit HARD!!😭😭

  • @sarahboakye7691
    @sarahboakye7691 Před 3 lety +59

    This video is highly recommended for men who don't have time to waste .... it just saved their asses!!!
    Sometimes the guys know, but I wonder what they are still waiting for? Great job Jessica 👏❤️

  • @mayowaokunoye6522
    @mayowaokunoye6522 Před rokem +22

    You are my Coach, Jessie.I really love,appreciate and respect you for exposing women's subtle negative attitudes and reactions in a relationship. On this subject matter, you just provided an answer to a current issue in a new relationship I am.I have even get everything set: bought her goodies for her birthday which is today, etc but she's just all what you have been saying. Thanks Jessie...you are MY COACH.

  • @renostubbs8504
    @renostubbs8504 Před 2 lety +5

    The truth from a woman's perspective,this is one of the reasons I subscribe to Jessica's channel...I have no time to waste and a little knowledge goes a long way. Thanks for your time and help.

  • @nanaasubonteng6448
    @nanaasubonteng6448 Před 3 lety +182

    Another thing is that if a woman is not interested in you, she will treat you the same way she treats other guys in front of you. She will be nice to you alright but u won't feel "special". Boys br3 o.

    • @romelgonzales2754
      @romelgonzales2754 Před 3 lety +12

      Yh I've been there many times which is why I don't bother anymore I just keep myself to myself now

    • @Zico804
      @Zico804 Před 3 lety +3

      You also speak the truth.

    • @webbset
      @webbset Před rokem +1

      Some sef will flirt and all but not interested

  • @ekaobongjohn443
    @ekaobongjohn443 Před 3 lety +3

    Thanks for sharing this Jessica, I'm currently going through this and i can say you are very right, i hope some guys notice this signs and stopping wasting their time.

  • @turborocketmedia
    @turborocketmedia Před 2 lety +9

    There's just so much BS on men and women, it feels soothing to finally hear realistic advice! Thanks for the awesome content!

  • @Rixhwolf_BEO34
    @Rixhwolf_BEO34 Před 6 měsíci

    The part about response timing is so true, I’m glad a woman spoke it up 💯🙏🏾💪🏾

  • @reubenskii
    @reubenskii Před 3 lety +91

    Great tips.. If you've been in the game long enough, you tend to see this signals so early on your interaction. It doesn't even bother me as much as it did when I was younger. Even if she says NO, I acknowledge it, Take the L...and move on to the next without emotions, with time it just becomes normal and you become less n less attached to women.

    • @andfthxcvjdyi2875
      @andfthxcvjdyi2875 Před 3 lety +9

      "with time it just becomes normal and you become less n less attached to women." That's deep.

    • @kensimba7868
      @kensimba7868 Před 2 lety +4

      Hapo umenena bro

    • @yourlandladysson6395
      @yourlandladysson6395 Před 2 lety +4

      Yh ... that attachment part is the last thing I need to achieve. I know the game

  • @shaydseka
    @shaydseka Před 3 lety +34

    You have saved the gentlemen out there. This is gold!

  • @nickf527
    @nickf527 Před 2 lety

    You are ABSOLUTELY 100% right Jessica! Nicely done!

  • @emmanuelidiagi3391
    @emmanuelidiagi3391 Před 2 lety +1

    You talk gently and calmly. I love that. 🥰🥰🥰

  • @gtheqb6422
    @gtheqb6422 Před 3 lety +168

    Whenever she gives strange dudes a more cheerful, vibrant energy than she does you... red flag?.. I think so..

    • @falsealarmno
      @falsealarmno Před 3 lety +16

      Yeah, I've been there too. Complementing dudes and females while in my presence. Shiiiid.

    • @johnnydavis9494
      @johnnydavis9494 Před 3 lety +10

      Thats sounds about right

    • @pantherman8719
      @pantherman8719 Před 3 lety +2

      Wow. Guess I'll add that too. Didn't even think of that.

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  Před 3 lety +22

      Certainly. It's quite disrespectful too

    • @tapesone2
      @tapesone2 Před 3 lety

      Been there MANY times

  • @Blue_Phire
    @Blue_Phire Před 3 lety +5

    You are dropping jewels! I appreciate your candor and you sharing these landmine examples guys can sidestep to save them time and safeguard their feelings in their pursuit!

  • @alphoncegenga3301
    @alphoncegenga3301 Před 2 lety +1

    Wisdom! Thank you Jessica, we're learning 💯

  • @randomdude75777
    @randomdude75777 Před 2 lety +7

    I started watching your videos today but I feel like I've known you for so long. You're of so much help and your videos are an eye-opener to who women really are cause men don't really understand women at times. Thank you for your efforts.

  • @peterwycliff1028
    @peterwycliff1028 Před 3 lety +4

    I knew about all this a long ago, I don’t delay to move on when ever a woman start behaving like that to me, but really happy with more highlighting us u re a great lady

  • @adrianortiz5157
    @adrianortiz5157 Před 3 lety +11

    Thanks Jessica we need more women like you that walk us through all the red flags that woman's put us through

  • @gunnerstvnaija2751
    @gunnerstvnaija2751 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Nice tips jess. Things can be very confusing with some ladies though, but everything you've said is absolutely spot on❤❤❤

  • @wesleymatafeni479
    @wesleymatafeni479 Před rokem

    Whoa , thank you for this eye opening hints ..sometimes we tend to be blind to these warnings due to love ..thank you once again for shedding some light on that , my perspective has been changed

  • @sceudue50
    @sceudue50 Před 3 lety +7

    You're so right. I have one of these when I was younger, but that had a lot to do with my game around a woman I like. Over the years, and meeting up with women it all changed. But what you've said is the hard truth. Now I can smell these red flags a mile away, and put an end to it early.

  • @edwinsiala8028
    @edwinsiala8028 Před 3 lety +3

    Spot on Jessica. You are helping many brothers out here

  • @jojocastillo1709
    @jojocastillo1709 Před 2 lety +1

    Sometimes i wonder if this things mean something or maybe i´m just to insecure but you just said most of the things i wonder about.
    You´re awesome Jessica, love your videos !!!

  • @phor5736
    @phor5736 Před 2 lety

    Thank you, Jessica!! This video is absolutely what I was looking for, and I tell most of the things you said in this video I can relate to it.

  • @bighutch2202
    @bighutch2202 Před 3 lety +429

    This is exactly why I downgraded women on my priority list and life has only improved. 1. God, 2. My goals/vision/purpose, 3. My Health, 4. My family, 5. My life long friends, 6. My Community, 7. Women. Life is short and my time is valuable to myself and others. Plus the first 5 on this list always bring value to my life. Love my sisters but I can no longer be distracted by time wasters.

    • @anselmos_brain
      @anselmos_brain Před 3 lety +16

      😂😂😂😂true

    • @Omahe904
      @Omahe904 Před 3 lety +14

      Well said big man...I love that spirit

    • @Spiritpowernetwork
      @Spiritpowernetwork Před 3 lety +11

      Truth! I am adopting this!

    • @lowlowseesee
      @lowlowseesee Před 3 lety

      big hutch i love the list but i would put 1.Consent as number one. not your fake ass skydaddy hahahaah. carry on dont @ me with fairy tale arguments either. i care much more about womens safety than your allegiance to whatever god you worship. one of them is actually a real thing lol

    • @joemomma9152
      @joemomma9152 Před 3 lety +5

      @@lowlowseesee well you better hope he’s not real because if he is your screwed my friend. Wouldn’t you rather believe in something even if just for comfort, on your off chance that he is real you’d be doing yourself a disservice not believing in at least something you can’t be right if you don’t try.

  • @francismawukohadenyoh1251

    Jessi, you have made my day with this piece. Thanks alot

  • @michaelaniah4646
    @michaelaniah4646 Před 2 lety

    Thanks Jess
    I really love listening to u
    It takes her all day to reply to messages

  • @TigerNgtMare
    @TigerNgtMare Před měsícem

    Smart and clever lady.
    I see the logic in your words. I've had a similar encounter before, and your video has only confirmed what my intuition had been saying.

  • @michaeldionrichadson174
    @michaeldionrichadson174 Před 3 lety +6

    I've watched your videos a few times and thought about your messages. You have helped me understand what my mother and sisters never told me. I have been confused and have suffered when I did not have to.
    Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
    You have made a world of difference to me. I do not have all the word to express my gratitude, but you have it!!
    🤜🤛✊💛

    • @harryschlitz4067
      @harryschlitz4067 Před 2 lety

      You have a Mother and Sister and they did not clue you in on a Western Woman’s TRUE nature.?? So sorry to hear that.

  • @iloveyou281000
    @iloveyou281000 Před 3 lety +113

    This just goes to show you that some women can pretend to be interested in you, when really their just wasting your time being nice

    • @davante1286
      @davante1286 Před 3 lety +12

      They are very good actors.

    • @jsmoothking6738
      @jsmoothking6738 Před 3 lety +19

      @@davante1286 Alot of them are actors and dudes are giving them homes, cars, like fools.

    • @playlistiphone8743
      @playlistiphone8743 Před 3 lety +6

      Men don't get asked out nearly as many times as women.
      I myself try to be cool about rejecting what few women that have asked me out that i was not interested in. I wish I could just say I wasn't interested out the gate but not as easy when you are on the spot. Trust me. People can be sensitive to how you may react to the rejection.

    • @jaimesmith2266
      @jaimesmith2266 Před 3 lety +2

      Facts.

    • @webbset
      @webbset Před rokem

      Time wasters

  • @ibiboataisijustin5492
    @ibiboataisijustin5492 Před 2 lety

    Really love your vibes and personality. It's really contagious.

  • @TshineSOR696
    @TshineSOR696 Před 2 lety

    Thank so much Jess I do appreciate listening to you change a lot 🤞🏾❤️

  • @clendaba
    @clendaba Před 3 lety +12

    I broke up with my 'supposedly' girl friend not very long after watching this videos. Its like it was recorded for my cause you describe my ex's behavior the last 4 weeks. Thanks

  • @dannyboy2665
    @dannyboy2665 Před 3 lety +26

    She’s speaking so much sense and facts I’m glad Ive been able to learn a lot and wiling to learn more thank you Jessica

    • @edelgyn2699
      @edelgyn2699 Před 2 lety

      A tonne of waffle to garner views.

  • @lisjnr3720
    @lisjnr3720 Před 2 lety +1

    Went through a similar situation & in retrospect I can confirm I experienced most if not all of the points raised in this video. I now know better

  • @nashakeba
    @nashakeba Před 2 lety +6

    Hi Miss Jess, your topics are just dope! I wish you longevity with your channel. Keep up the good work and be blessed!

  • @Elikem2982
    @Elikem2982 Před 3 lety +7

    What can I say, you so on point! Life lesson, they will definitely find time if they are into you...

  • @johnappiah4902
    @johnappiah4902 Před 3 lety +47

    This is a good teaching for men with low self esteem and also for the obnoxious ones who think no woman can reject them. A man should be able to spot these and jog on! Having said that, I think women should be courageous and make their feelings known from the beginning. Be straight forward, let your pursuer of a guy know you're not interested. If you want just friendship, be clear. Don't worry about the guy's feelings, it's about yours.

    • @iloveyou281000
      @iloveyou281000 Před 3 lety +3

      But women aren't going to be straight forward, with how they feel, because their having to much fun putting men in the platonic zone.

    • @edelgyn2699
      @edelgyn2699 Před 2 lety

      You are making the assumption that a woman would be able to tell whether or not you are just being friendly or whether you are interested in social contact to ascertain whether a romantic relationship is possible. Is a woman obliged to warn every man who is friendly towards her that she is only interested in platonic friendship? A woman may wish to know more about you within the limitations of being a friend/acquaintance first, she may wish to see what you are like as a person. In addition, why should she have to make that decision within a short space of time? We all know of people who have developed a romance after having known one another as friends for some time - romance just blossoms; it's called falling in love.

    • @keithpace9870
      @keithpace9870 Před rokem

      Who needs women? too many seem to enjoy hurting others.

    • @keithpace9870
      @keithpace9870 Před rokem

      @@edelgyn2699 Who needs women? too many seem to enjoy hurting others.

  • @Iyadkay
    @Iyadkay Před 2 lety +2

    The inner-circle bit applies to guys too. In other news, you have this je ne sais quoi which always hooks me to all your videos. Keep doing your thing, Jessica. This is quality content. 💯

  • @ashubrandon9738
    @ashubrandon9738 Před 2 lety +1

    Facts jess...i live with PURPOSE the right girl will come at the right time

  • @bridgetanongba3789
    @bridgetanongba3789 Před 3 lety +39

    This is so true and straight forward💯There's no time to waste men!!
    Jess, thumbs up to you👍 there s never a dull moment with you, right here😍😍❤❤

  • @josemigel
    @josemigel Před 3 lety +3

    This is a god level of wisdom oozing from Jess ..legit content ..keep it up babe

  • @denismusulo8
    @denismusulo8 Před 2 lety

    Thanks so much for your educative lectures ,keep it up .

  • @robertnyavor
    @robertnyavor Před 9 měsíci

    Thanks so much Mad. Jessica.
    I must admit that your videos are really really helpful

  • @mobolajialbertfemi-dero9993

    I love the background for your videos, the warm gradient lighting scheme is almost boarder line therapeutic.😁

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  Před 3 lety +4

      Glad you like them! thanks for the feedback

  • @christopherduffy1703
    @christopherduffy1703 Před 3 lety +225

    The key to this whole thing fellas, flirt with a whole bunch of women. Reserve your energy for ones who give the best responses.

    • @lowlowseesee
      @lowlowseesee Před 3 lety +8

      or not flirt with a whole bunch so they can get a fucking break lol. one thing ive learned with my 40 years is that a woman will let you know if she likes you. ive also had a great life so i know its hard for guys who havent had the experiences that I have to actually chill. I wasn't always chill either hahaha

    • @christopherduffy1703
      @christopherduffy1703 Před 3 lety +12

      @@lowlowseesee "Not flirt with a whole bunch so they can get a break." Explain yourself please. That didn't make any sense to me.
      It's called playing the numbers my dude. No 1 woman should ever get that much attention. Especially if she's not reciprocating interest.

    • @christopherduffy1703
      @christopherduffy1703 Před 3 lety +10

      @@lowlowseesee Also! I don't know about you but I've found that waiting for them to approach is also bull shyt. I've gotten better results being a pursuer of women. So you can miss me with that.

    • @christopherduffy1703
      @christopherduffy1703 Před 3 lety +6

      @@lowlowseesee By the way, are you even a dude or a chic troll?

    • @letusreason3554
      @letusreason3554 Před 3 lety +3

      @@christopherduffy1703 ... flirting with a bunch of women is one way, but it may not be the best way.
      A true player, or a man that has a good dating system, will make women purse him. Some women want a man that is elite, or unique. If you are always up on her grinning and barking, then you are just another thirsty dude that is trying to get under her dress.
      And in her mind, this will not make you unique, or special.
      A quality woman wants to be with a quality man, and not just another thirsty dude.

  • @vinnievu1
    @vinnievu1 Před 6 měsíci +1

    All your points are correct, her actions are the true message.

  • @trevormohan7397
    @trevormohan7397 Před 2 lety +1

    I cannot stop listening your advice, you are awesome!

  • @mountaincenang6537
    @mountaincenang6537 Před 3 lety +5

    This is sensational . Love it all . A lady was like that in my life I kick her out from my life . She doesn't Express herself whenever I am around with her. Me why she expresses herself with her friends and other people. I realized that she like someone else not me. She just uses me as a stand by., so she was just been nice to me .

    • @maxhouse2409
      @maxhouse2409 Před 3 lety

      You were a placeholder until something better came along.

  • @livedirect2122
    @livedirect2122 Před 3 lety +56

    The best things that have worked for me is to try having some mystery about myself and to be straight to the point with my expectations. Women know from the very start if they're into you, so it all depends on how they SHOW it, not by response. Regardless, I never view them in a pedestalistic manner nor give them any undeserved attention. Keep it moving!!!

    • @ernest1576
      @ernest1576 Před rokem +2

      Have some mystery women will think your a weirdo and don't want to be alone with you for fear of being killed

    • @vince11harris
      @vince11harris Před 5 měsíci +3

      Dude you can do all that and still get rejected. You not gonna bag every single woman you think is attractive

    • @stevetheiii477
      @stevetheiii477 Před 5 měsíci +6

      @@vince11harris man wish more guys had this mindset, seems like most dudes in this comment section fear rejection, the whole wait for the signals first before u approach, man tbh i prefer to shoot my shot with a girl who catches my eye rather than wait, and personally i prefer to know that she wasn't fucking with me up front when i approach her rather than sit back and wonder how many women i've missed out by not approaching, women are all different and one woman's choosing signals can be different to another, some girls are hella subtle and u woulld have never guessed they liked u because honestly which guy is going around constantly looking if girls are sending signals? thats tedious, imma keep cold approaching coz at the end of the day most likely these women are strangers and u might never see them again so so what if i take the L as long as i'm polite abt the interaction and wish her good day afterwards who cares what she thinks of me after the interaction ends, not like i'll ever see her again. Plus taking rejections can also make for good stories later on lmao i have a few embarrassing L's that i laugh at when i think abt it

    • @vince11harris
      @vince11harris Před 5 měsíci +2

      @@stevetheiii477 I think dudes are just scary. They have unrealistic expectations and assume that if every girl doesn’t like them or says then she’s a “bitch “ or whatever. Nah man she just doesn’t like you like that and it’s cool. And I agree. I would definitely rather have the confidence to cold approach and tell her how I think about her then play the “what if” game in my mind

    • @Shaddyraddy
      @Shaddyraddy Před 5 měsíci +2

      Being mysterious and not being overly thirsty gives a man more power. Feeling her vibe to see If she’s worth It

  • @MikeT784
    @MikeT784 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much for this video. I’m literally going through this right now and I feel like you just told on her lol. I couldn’t for the life of me understand if see really liked me or if she was just being nice. 10 MONTHS LATER AND 1 CZcams VIDEO LATER !!! I finally understand. It hurts but thank you so much for this. At least now I can finally fully cut her off and not wonder about if I’m making the right decision. Thank you again. Definitely subscribed ❤️

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  Před 2 lety

      Sorry about your situation but thanks for the sub

  • @selikemperez
    @selikemperez Před rokem

    Hmm...some key pointers here. Thanks for sharing Jessica. Blessings

  • @josephgatambia5679
    @josephgatambia5679 Před 3 lety +10

    Jessica you're God's sent,am in this particular situation,I had questions and now I have answer's,thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

  • @nwabuokeichinedu1309
    @nwabuokeichinedu1309 Před 3 lety +9

    You are really a eye opener to my guys out there who are not into womanizing!

  • @Kaimas7
    @Kaimas7 Před 4 měsíci

    I liked the last 3 minutes. The inner circle thing I never thought much about, but it's very important.

  • @christopherjensen586
    @christopherjensen586 Před 2 lety

    Jess, I like your confidence whilst you give your 'lesson', what you say makes sense and it's good for us guys to know these things....almost like a guide to - How a women's mind works. Keep it up!

  • @calebseyramquashie
    @calebseyramquashie Před 3 lety +8

    Thank you so much Jess
    This is timely 💔🙌

  • @alexanderamoah
    @alexanderamoah Před 3 lety +13

    Ms Jessica, this is Facts . Thank you 🙏🏿

  • @soakedbearrd
    @soakedbearrd Před 4 měsíci

    This video brought value, thank you.

  • @emmanuelsackie160
    @emmanuelsackie160 Před 3 lety +3

    Pure insight from the women's camp; revealed by a woman. Real life scenarios on display!