I truly believe social media makes people lonely and depressed. It's time we get back to basics in life. I went thru depression and panic over 30 years ago. My mother took care of me as my husband didn't believe I had a true illness. She sat me down on the bed and said "if you could do it all over again, what would you do" I said go to nursing school. I did just that and went to school for 7 years part time. I didn't achieve my degree as I was 2 clinicals away from taking my exam and dropped out due to a divorce. Those 7 years made me strong inside. I felt good about myself. Before the depression, I was agoraphobic. NOT FUN. My home was my domain. I read Claire Weekes books and they helped. I try now to live a minimalist life. When analyzing things, I say "what's the worst that can happen". Then I know in my mind I can create a solution with asking myself that question. Being OCD perfectionist isn't fun. I am well today. I appreciate that you opened up about yourself, Dr. Cywes. You are worth a million. Look at the people you help EVERY DAY with your practice and videos. I wish I had half your talent.
I did the same with nursing school. Worked so hard to get to the point of a few clinicals left and then it all fell apart due to stress, not grades. I cried everyday for 6 mos. I’m a better person for it though.
I am with you good folk. I left my PhD just a year or less from finishing. I fell in love with life outside academia, but also suffered intense self doubt.
It takes guts to be vulnerable. It took guts to make this video. That's when true healing begins. I have the hardest time being vulnerable and opening up to others in my 12 step. The kids today have so much to deal with. My heart ❤️ goes out to them and their parents.
Thanks for that Doc. This is the first time, maybe ever, that I realized I wasn't the only person walking around that felt like he didn't have the inner strength he needed. A great deal of shame has gone along with that and I think I'm able to let some of that shame go...
Dear Dr.Cywes, I have read countless books about mindset coaching and personality development and spirituality. E.Tolle, Dispenza, J.Peterson and many others. The message I received in this video touched me more than anything I have read or heard so far. Tears ran down my face and I am completely speechless about what a remarkable person you are. In my opinion, so much real valuable message from a doctor can only be described as sensational. I can only say thank you, thank you, thank you for this wakeup call! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I think parents can spend so much time worrying that our kids know we love them, we forget to instill their sense of self-love and self-validation. This was a great topic.
You touched me deeply, and once again thank you for helping me feel I'm not alone in my struggle to stop using carbs to take away the anxiety and emptiness. Your empathy and understanding, and the vulnerable sharing of your own journey gives me courage and hope to continue mine in spite of times I just want to opt out of Life. Thank you for making a difference and being You 🙏
i can relate to this. my self talk is my mothers critical voice ... never good enough.... However resentment is the worst think we can carry around with us Dr Cywes, We need to forgive our parents. After all they did not know what harm they caused. They only knew what they were taught by their parents and what they thought was the best thing to do..
Rob Cywes, during your moments of quiet sober thought, may you fully understand that you are a gift and that gift is more than enough. Wishing you much peace and great joy throughout your journey. Thank you Dr C for your caring. Be well.
You may not know where these videos are going, but I can tell you they are going straight to the truth of matter of addiction. I relate to every word you said. I've been experiencing flooding anxiety myself lately. Over silly things like you say. I cannot help but think that our innate (and subconscious) human sense of fear is on high alert because as animals we can sense that things are not right in the world. We ARE in danger. We are distracting ourselves constantly in an attempt to evade the truth of the matter. But the anxiety and fear is always there. I am always one trivial event away from a panic attack because it is exhausting to be in denial all the time. I am beginning to think that what we are witnessing is the most basic of animal behavior. Fight or flight. Survival.
" Together we can Survive! " Thank you for bearing your soul to get others to here ! You are a special gift to this world, thanks for being "The Carb Addiction Doc " and for helping people that can’t afford the level of treatment that you provide for free. Peace❤
I have been on anti-deppressants most of my life. I changed my diet, mostly meat and now? I'm off them. My mental health is better than it's ever been and I'm 58. I was so sad sometimes. Thank you for saying this. It's okay to be vulnerable. I thought it was about my weight. Nope, my health.
Boy, have you hit close to home! I always thought I wasn't good enough because it felt like my mother was always criticizing me. I tried to commit suicide when I was about 20 and I still have those thoughts till this day (I am 64). My mother (technically) committed suicide as she stopped taking the medications that her Doctor had prescribed for her heart disease and she died within a couple of days. Thank you for such a touching video, it seems like you were speaking directly to me.
Sometimes I have so many regrets from the past.I wish I was a better son,I don't feel good enough as a Christian and it can be overwhelming sometimes.Sometimes I would have thoughts wishing for an " escape" ,no guilt,pain or doom in my future.I have to keep going forward and I turn to God.
Yes Kim..I too will be 64 in 4 days. My mother was so critical of me and my siblings. Nothing we did was right. She would beat us for "just in case" we thought about doing something wrong. This spoke to me as well. We are lucky to have someone that provides content like this.
An old friend of mine hung herself at the age of 25 because her controlling abusive mother refused to accept the fact that her daughter was lesbian. The lifelong church friends she had all trashed her and shunned her a few years before her suicide. I always accepted her but too much damage had already been done. I also have an ex girlfriend who parked her car on the tracks in front of the regular scheduled Amtrak train and killed herself. Long battle with depression and drugs pushed her over the edge. Most all of us have known people like this.
What we absorb as children, we carry around for our whole lifetime. Even those of us who had excellent childhoods, suffer with vulnerability, it's what makes us human. We are complex that's for sure! So I'm not going to be so hard on myself and perhaps care less of what other people think of me, in order to help myself and the people I love 🤗🙏
Yup, this is breakthrough material. The honesty is liberating. Not that we should need it, but you've given all your followers permission to be open and to be supportive not only of themselves, but of the others as well. Breakthrough.
Thank you for this. I have used this mindset to improve my health over the years, however, when I don't hear it regularly I resort back into old habits and thoughts. This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for getting my mindset back on track.
You truly have touched me, and I thank you a million times over. It’s incredible to see things pointed out for what they actually are when you haven’t thought of it clearly before, especially in terms of the self-care. Despite the massive amounts of thinking people do, especially when they have depression/anxiety, it just seems so bizarre and unfortunate that there’s something missing in some of our minds that is supposed to tell us, “hey, you’re good enough, why are you doing this to yourself? You’re okay. You’re worth just as much as anyone else.” Parents/guardians, you may love your children more than life itself, but please be careful. Everything starts with you.
Wow Dr. Cywes you have really touched my soul with this powerful video. You have made this message for me clear and easy to understand what I am doing and, feeling. Bless you for having the courage to open up and be venerable in order to help us. Thank you Dr. Cywes and I look forward to tomorrow.
Spot on! I feel like having a spiritual foundation/higher power is what is missing from our society today. We rely upon family, our job, and often the approval of others to provide validation for our self worth. A three-legged stool is much more stable than a two legged stool…as my uncle used to say. If we have the right balance in those areas, life is better. Our focus is outward, and not sucked inward toward despair. It’s a continuous journey! Some days better than others…we learn from our mistakes, course correct and move forward. Thank you for your honesty.
Dr. Cywes is a practitioner of what I like to call "Healthcare 3.0"...1.0 was the original version we saw 50 years ago. 2.0 is the current broken version where it's been hijacked by pharma, HMO's, profit motives and treating with pills more than changing behaviors. What I appreciate most about Rob is that his compassion is 100% real and genuine...if it weren't, he wouldn't be sharing these personal reflections with his patients. If healthcare in the United States is to evolve into something better, we need more providers like Rob who are invested in the long term health of their patients, not just throwing pills at a problem. Which is not to say drugs don't have their place as Rob so often points out...he's a big fan of certain ones when appropriate...but it shouldn't always be the default solution. The fact this channel talks so much about nutrition and mental health as foundational issues of long term health has been life-changing for me...what a beautiful day it will be if they start emphasizing those two things in med school. If more doctors spoke to patients with the intention to educate rather than lecture them, like Dr. Cywes does, I think people would be a lot more open to the idea of changing their diet rather than "just give me a pill and let me eat my donuts." You won't change everyone's mind, but you will change some and that should be enough motivation.
I have contemplated suicide several times in the past. I have always felt I was not enough. In all aspects of my life. I am definitely a carboholic. My Catholic religion has been part of the issue and part of the solution too. Thank you for being so vulnerable to us. God bless you.
Thank you for sharing! It makes such a difference when you show your vulnerability, Dr. Cywes. I look up to you, value your expertise, and felt your emotional uncertainty which makes you human and so real to me. Thank you for reminding me to self-validate. It is such an important lesson. You have touched me deeply!
Victory! You saw the anxiety attack coming-- that's way better than when you're saying, "what just happened?". And by the way, it's okay to curl up in a ball and hide away from the world every now and then. Sometimes that's all it takes. Allow the body and mind a moment away. It's not dysfunctional-- its a self care timeout, thank you. 🙏
I think the major source of despair in the world we live in today is the lack of integrity. I have very little problem with what other people think of me but anxiety arises when I don't know who I can trust and with whom I a safe. Safety is a place where people know exactly who I am and accept me, with all my flaws and won't try to take advantage of me. Safety is where I can trust that someone is not deceiving me to gain status or take advantage. There in lies the root of decay in this world.
@@robertcywes2966 Not just authoritarian, but increasingly profit-driven point-click corporate metrics-driven dues ex machina LOL but I digress. Taken care of yourself!
Very good, thanks explained a lot of things in my 68 years of life, looking forward to the next video. Given up carbs mostly (grain products)still a few vege carbs but physically feel so much better.
Dr. Cywes, what a great post, I’m sure so many people are feeling like you’re speaking of them personally. This message resonates with so many. Thank you for the awesome videos, and opening up your life to us
People want gossip they are not the type to take care of diabetes or healths issues right now they are trying hard to put Megan Markel in a mental instution. Fergie had sex with another man after a brief marriage, she is still ,jving in Andrew's home, but that's all right with the people.
Thank you. That is enlightening but Also shifted the paradigm a bit. By the way...you are looking better than I have ever seen. I don't know where to start back on the path but I think I will start by praising my son for everything he does right for the day.
This was such a powerful talk … I literally binged at work today on pizza and chocolate because I was SO acutely stressed …….. when I was done all I could think of was I just poisoned my body ! Now I sit here and am berating myself SO much ! 😩….. the guilt is horrific … sounds silly but yes , it affects me profoundly , I know I’m an addict but I stay on the wagon most of the time .. but yet I relapse … when will it ever end ? I watch every one of your videos , you are the best teacher of food addiction … but yet I still relapse at times , and it’s always an emotional event that leaves me hating myself
I am there too. I fall off of the wagon, and it is so hard to get back on. I am now 3 days, low carb. I have CPTSD, PTSD, Treatment Resistant Depression, and Chronic Anxiety. I have tried everything, sometimes more than once. I have been in therapy since the age of 18 and am almost 54. I wear a mask, but most days, I hide from the world. My anxiety is debilitating. I have tried to take my life several times. I have even inquired about MAID, I ticked ALL the boxes, except impending death in 6 months. I have suffered with severe anxiety since I was 5 years old. I had a very abusive childhood and adulthood. I struggle every day to keep going. I have been anorexic and hospitalized, suicidal and hospitalized. I have burned 3rd degree burns to my body, and felt nothing. That being said, I would never hurt anyone else. I was a professional Dancer, Model and Singer. Most thing I have the world by the tail, but I really dislike who I am. I don't think I ever have. Food, has become my drug of choice.
Thank you for sharing ❤️ it's important for folks to be reminded that we all struggle no matter how it may seem or feel at times. Suffering unfortunately is part of the human experience but my hope is that we also remind ourselves that so is love and thriving.... not easy in practice but worth the consistent emotional work. Sending positivity and kindness ❤️❤️❤️
It takes a great person to bare their soul to the world. Thank you for being a great person and for giving the world the gift of your wisdom and vulnerability. Your information and knowledge have hit a few points in my life and made me think! Thank you and may God walk with you in your life and show you the way.
This video literally showed up immediately after I had just finished a meal at Hardee's, that included fries and TWO milkshakes... and I had actually said to someone else, who had asked me how I was doing, that I was committing suicide with this meal.
Thank you Dr. Cywes.. I was touched with your true authenticity and just opening yourself up so realistically. You are so right! Our addictions, stem from the stresses that we are all bearing alone, with no way to express it. We suffer in silence. Even if you have faith in God, and paray and rely on all the amazing promises....You"re still going it alone, and it eats at you. Then we turn to food, alcohol, gambling, shopping, etc....Thank you for keeping it real.
You touched me quite deeply. While describing yourself you described me absolutely, and I mean absolutely perfectly, which I never in my life heard anyone do. Thought I was alone in it all. Thank you so very much for being so open and honest. The difference it makes is incalculable. I speak for myself but I'm sure many others feel the same way. Thanks again.
This video came at the right time with what's happening in the world but also with how I feel about myself. This was just what I needed to hear and I'm sure many others as well. Thank you so much!
Your reminder helps me and my boy. I can be a better parent to him. I can do better with carbs now, it is not comfort food, it is poison I have been choosing for myself…need to stop if I love myself, even just a little bit.
Wow, wow, wow!!! This hit home on so many levels for me!!! I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your patient, and a patient’s child. I lost an amazing brother to suicide, and it’s something that you never get over. I myself have thought about suicide many times throughout my life, starting as a young girl. I had a toxic relationship early in my life and an incredibly toxic first marriage. Such damage was done in that relationship. I am now married to a genuinely happy and kind man. Our children are happy and doing well, and we have five sweet grandchildren. Life is really, really good. Yet throughout these last eleven years with this wonderful man, I’ve thought about suicide, or more so at this point in my life, I’ve thought about death and the peace that will come with it. It’s taken me eleven years to open up to my husband about things that happened to me throughout my life. I finally did it a few months ago, in part because of a talk I had with you, Dr. Cywes. While it felt good to open up and share, I still struggle with that. I’m definitely a work in progress. Thank you for opening up about your struggles. It helps on so many levels to know that we are not alone. I battle demons and addictions daily, but some days are harder than others. Knowing that I am not alone gives me strength, and a resolve to do better. Sugar and alcohol are my enemies, and I will continue to fight against their hold over me. Thanks again, Dr. Cywes!!!
Wow!!!! Just Wow!!! Yes I wanted to commit suicide. It was twenty years ago. I really thought the entire world would be better off without me. My journey has been quite amazing. I am presently about 60 lbs overweight and I can see that I am healing. I love myself. I love my fantastic body with all its rolls and bulges. I now see that my presence in a room makes it a better place because I am there. I am not my flesh, blood and bones. I am the beautiful spirit that lives within this body suite. Because I love myself I know now that avoiding foods like carbs, processed foods and seed oils is an act of love to my body suit. I love where I am and I eager for so much more. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for sharing your inner most vulnerabilities with us. You are a very, very special man.
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. There is a perception that since you are the doctor that you have it all figured out. Thank you for showing us that we are all on this path together and we all have our moments of panic or low self concept etc.
Please don’t say “committed suicide”, most survivors of suicide loss prefer that people say their loved one “died by suicide” or of died due to mental health issues. My husband and I lost one of our 7 children to suicide 12/17/2014, and he was 18 years old. The statistics about young people and suicide, not only here in the US, but worldwide, are staggering. Thank you for having this conversation and helping to remove the stigma around mental illness and suicide. I love all of your content and videos, and continue to strive for better health with the Keto/Ketovore lifestyle.♥️🥰
I am just like you. Every day is a battle to stay positive. Every day I look for ways to pat myself on the shoulder. Anxiety and panic attacks are common place for me. Thank you for bearing your soul. Each time someone does I feel less alone. 💜🧡💛💚💙❤️
I loved your honesty with all this covid in last few years I have realized how much anxiety I have just didn't know I had .We have so many mask we wear .Your so right about kids die from suicide more then I care to know . Love your video
Thanks for this wonderful video. It’s hard to talk to people because they’re shocked about everything and anything. It’s wonderful to hear you talking about this.
Dr.C, this was truly a blessing for me today. You have touched so many lives and yes, we all struggle with this. Thank you for sharing your struggle with us and we will all heal together ❤️ 🙏🏼! May you always stay blessed and be able to be a light in this world. This video hit home for me. God bless you!
Oh man do I understand this so totally! lots of what you said is so me! I certainly have horrific self talk and always help others first--get it! I tried to go back to eating self sabatoshing, but stopped and actually threw it in the trash so I could not eat it! Fortunately I do have that piece down! Some of the learned lessons! Thank you for this !
This video really touched my heart. You opened up my eyes as to my own feelings as well as other family members in what they may be going through. Thank you!
My G*d, sooo true... We all have ups and downs. Those around us should be able to support us on our downs. When we are down, they shouldn't flaunt our drug of choice in front of us. It's hard enough to stay away from those drugs without them throwing temptation right at our faces. Maybe talk about those we try to trust and how they should be the support we actually need when we need it.
Dr Cywes is a special soul who is so much appreciated. Just think of how many people this will help❤️
I truly believe social media makes people lonely and depressed. It's time we get back to basics in life. I went thru depression and panic over 30 years ago. My mother took care of me as my husband didn't believe I had a true illness. She sat me down on the bed and said "if you could do it all over again, what would you do" I said go to nursing school. I did just that and went to school for 7 years part time. I didn't achieve my degree as I was 2 clinicals away from taking my exam and dropped out due to a divorce. Those 7 years made me strong inside. I felt good about myself. Before the depression, I was agoraphobic. NOT FUN. My home was my domain. I read Claire Weekes books and they helped. I try now to live a minimalist life. When analyzing things, I say "what's the worst that can happen". Then I know in my mind I can create a solution with asking myself that question. Being OCD perfectionist isn't fun. I am well today. I appreciate that you opened up about yourself, Dr. Cywes. You are worth a million. Look at the people you help EVERY DAY with your practice and videos. I wish I had half your talent.
I did the same with nursing school. Worked so hard to get to the point of a few clinicals left and then it all fell apart due to stress, not grades. I cried everyday for 6 mos. I’m a better person for it though.
I am with you good folk. I left my PhD just a year or less from finishing. I fell in love with life outside academia, but also suffered intense self doubt.
The longer I live, the less prone I am to comparing myself to others. I simply try to be a better version of myself.
It takes guts to be vulnerable. It took guts to make this video. That's when true healing begins. I have the hardest time being vulnerable and opening up to others in my 12 step. The kids today have so much to deal with. My heart ❤️ goes out to them and their parents.
Thanks for that Doc. This is the first time, maybe ever, that I realized I wasn't the only person walking around that felt like he didn't have the inner strength he needed. A great deal of shame has gone along with that and I think I'm able to let some of that shame go...
Dear Dr.Cywes, I have read countless books about mindset coaching and personality development and spirituality. E.Tolle, Dispenza, J.Peterson and many others. The message I received in this video touched me more than anything I have read or heard so far. Tears ran down my face and I am completely speechless about what a remarkable person you are. In my opinion, so much real valuable message from a doctor can only be described as sensational. I can only say thank you, thank you, thank you for this wakeup call! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks so much!
Hi Dr. Cywes-I am so in awe of you and your honesty to people you do not even know. I am sure this will help people.
I think parents can spend so much time worrying that our kids know we love them, we forget to instill their sense of self-love and self-validation. This was a great topic.
You touched me deeply, and once again thank you for helping me feel I'm not alone in my struggle to stop using carbs to take away the anxiety and emptiness.
Your empathy and understanding, and the vulnerable sharing of your own journey gives me courage and hope to continue mine in spite of times I just want to opt out of Life. Thank you for making a difference and being You 🙏
We are totally camouflaged. I agree. I think about suicide all the time. No one would know.
Always reach out. We are stronger together
I grew up hiding my true emotions...I could be smiling on the outside and just really crying on the inside....
I love your honesty.
Glad you are willing to talk about this. What pain people must be in.
Thank you so much for discussing this topic. I think there are so many of us that need to hear it. The struggle is real.
I cried so hard, this is me. I feel broken and dont know how to get out of it.
Somatic experience /Irene Lyon and maybe schematic Therapie.
Also the work of Byron Katie is amazing! ✨
I know it is so very hard. Start with the next thing you put in your mouth and make the best choice you can; then repeat. You can do it.
Hang in there!! My thoughts, love and prayers are with you. ♥️
Same here…you are not alone❤️
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My mom and I were crying listening to this! From Pretoria - thank you
i can relate to this. my self talk is my mothers critical voice ... never good enough.... However resentment is the worst think we can carry around with us Dr Cywes, We need to forgive our parents. After all they did not know what harm they caused. They only knew what they were taught by their parents and what they thought was the best thing to do..
Rob Cywes, during your moments of quiet sober thought, may you fully understand that you are a gift and that gift is more than enough. Wishing you much peace and great joy throughout your journey. Thank you Dr C for your caring. Be well.
You may not know where these videos are going, but I can tell you they are going straight to the truth of matter of addiction. I relate to every word you said. I've been experiencing flooding anxiety myself lately. Over silly things like you say. I cannot help but think that our innate (and subconscious) human sense of fear is on high alert because as animals we can sense that things are not right in the world. We ARE in danger. We are distracting ourselves constantly in an attempt to evade the truth of the matter. But the anxiety and fear is always there. I am always one trivial event away from a panic attack because it is exhausting to be in denial all the time. I am beginning to think that what we are witnessing is the most basic of animal behavior. Fight or flight. Survival.
" Together we can Survive! " Thank you for bearing your soul to get others to here ! You are a special gift to this world, thanks for being "The Carb Addiction Doc " and for helping people that can’t afford the level of treatment that you provide for free.
Peace❤
I have been on anti-deppressants most of my life. I changed my diet, mostly meat and now? I'm off them. My mental health is better than it's ever been and I'm 58. I was so sad sometimes. Thank you for saying this. It's okay to be vulnerable. I thought it was about my weight. Nope, my health.
Thank you for speaking on this tragic epidemic in our youth population.
Bravo! You are not only speaking to yourself Doc, you are speaking to the masses! God bless you each and every day! SO GLAD YOU ARE MY DOC!!!!
Boy, have you hit close to home! I always thought I wasn't good enough because it felt like my mother was always criticizing me. I tried to commit suicide when I was about 20 and I still have those thoughts till this day (I am 64). My mother (technically) committed suicide as she stopped taking the medications that her Doctor had prescribed for her heart disease and she died within a couple of days. Thank you for such a touching video, it seems like you were speaking directly to me.
Sometimes I have so many regrets from the past.I wish I was a better son,I don't feel good enough as a Christian and it can be overwhelming sometimes.Sometimes I would have thoughts wishing for an " escape" ,no guilt,pain or doom in my future.I have to keep going forward and I turn to God.
@@flaman1967 I understand what you are going through. I often feel the same way.
Yes Kim..I too will be 64 in 4 days. My mother was so critical of me and my siblings. Nothing we did was right. She would beat us for "just in case" we thought about doing something wrong.
This spoke to me as well. We are lucky to have someone that provides content like this.
An old friend of mine hung herself at the age of 25 because her controlling abusive mother refused to accept the fact that her daughter was lesbian. The lifelong church friends she had all trashed her and shunned her a few years before her suicide. I always accepted her but too much damage had already been done. I also have an ex girlfriend who parked her car on the tracks in front of the regular scheduled Amtrak train and killed herself. Long battle with depression and drugs pushed her over the edge. Most all of us have known people like this.
What we absorb as children, we carry around for our whole lifetime. Even those of us who had excellent childhoods, suffer with vulnerability, it's what makes us human. We are complex that's for sure! So I'm not going to be so hard on myself and perhaps care less of what other people think of me, in order to help myself and the people I love 🤗🙏
Yup, this is breakthrough material. The honesty is liberating. Not that we should need it, but you've given all your followers permission to be open and to be supportive not only of themselves, but of the others as well. Breakthrough.
Thank you for this. I have used this mindset to improve my health over the years, however, when I don't hear it regularly I resort back into old habits and thoughts. This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for getting my mindset back on track.
You truly have touched me, and I thank you a million times over. It’s incredible to see things pointed out for what they actually are when you haven’t thought of it clearly before, especially in terms of the self-care. Despite the massive amounts of thinking people do, especially when they have depression/anxiety, it just seems so bizarre and unfortunate that there’s something missing in some of our minds that is supposed to tell us, “hey, you’re good enough, why are you doing this to yourself? You’re okay. You’re worth just as much as anyone else.”
Parents/guardians, you may love your children more than life itself, but please be careful. Everything starts with you.
I wish I could like this more than once.
Wow Dr. Cywes you have really touched my soul with this powerful video. You have made this message for me clear and easy to understand what I am doing and, feeling. Bless you for having the courage to open up and be venerable in order to help us. Thank you Dr. Cywes and I look forward to tomorrow.
I am lost for words. You surely do know this thing we live with! Thank you for your honesty and being so open and vulnerable.
You hit it out of the park with this post, Dr. Rob. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. 🙏❤
Spot on! I feel like having a spiritual foundation/higher power is what is missing from our society today. We rely upon family, our job, and often the approval of others to provide validation for our self worth. A three-legged stool is much more stable than a two legged stool…as my uncle used to say. If we have the right balance in those areas, life is better. Our focus is outward, and not sucked inward toward despair. It’s a continuous journey! Some days better than others…we learn from our mistakes, course correct and move forward. Thank you for your honesty.
Dr. Cywes is a practitioner of what I like to call "Healthcare 3.0"...1.0 was the original version we saw 50 years ago. 2.0 is the current broken version where it's been hijacked by pharma, HMO's, profit motives and treating with pills more than changing behaviors. What I appreciate most about Rob is that his compassion is 100% real and genuine...if it weren't, he wouldn't be sharing these personal reflections with his patients. If healthcare in the United States is to evolve into something better, we need more providers like Rob who are invested in the long term health of their patients, not just throwing pills at a problem. Which is not to say drugs don't have their place as Rob so often points out...he's a big fan of certain ones when appropriate...but it shouldn't always be the default solution. The fact this channel talks so much about nutrition and mental health as foundational issues of long term health has been life-changing for me...what a beautiful day it will be if they start emphasizing those two things in med school. If more doctors spoke to patients with the intention to educate rather than lecture them, like Dr. Cywes does, I think people would be a lot more open to the idea of changing their diet rather than "just give me a pill and let me eat my donuts." You won't change everyone's mind, but you will change some and that should be enough motivation.
I have contemplated suicide several times in the past. I have always felt I was not enough. In all aspects of my life. I am definitely a carboholic. My Catholic religion has been part of the issue and part of the solution too. Thank you for being so vulnerable to us. God bless you.
Thank you for sharing! It makes such a difference when you show your vulnerability, Dr. Cywes. I look up to you, value your expertise, and felt your emotional uncertainty which makes you human and so real to me. Thank you for reminding me to self-validate. It is such an important lesson. You have touched me deeply!
Victory! You saw the anxiety attack coming-- that's way better than when you're saying, "what just happened?".
And by the way, it's okay to curl up in a ball and hide away from the world every now and then. Sometimes that's all it takes. Allow the body and mind a moment away. It's not dysfunctional-- its a self care timeout, thank you. 🙏
I think the major source of despair in the world we live in today is the lack of integrity. I have very little problem with what other people think of me but anxiety arises when I don't know who I can trust and with whom I a safe. Safety is a place where people know exactly who I am and accept me, with all my flaws and won't try to take advantage of me. Safety is where I can trust that someone is not deceiving me to gain status or take advantage. There in lies the root of decay in this world.
Thank you Dr Cywes, so many of us in healthcare suffer from Imposter Syndrome I've always wondered which comes first.
Both. We're in healthcare to care for others but struggle w selfcare and the system is authoritarian, lacking the compassion We're seeking
@@robertcywes2966 Not just authoritarian, but increasingly profit-driven point-click corporate metrics-driven dues ex machina LOL but I digress. Taken care of yourself!
Your courage is astounding. Honest, direct and profound. Thank-you for this video. God bless you Dr Cywes
This was so good. Thank you Dr. Cywes. Spending time in prayer with God helps me when I hit these deep lows. I don't always but when I do it helps.
Wow! This describes me in do many ways. Thank you for sharing.
Very good, thanks explained a lot of things in my 68 years of life, looking forward to the next video. Given up carbs mostly (grain products)still a few vege carbs but physically feel so much better.
Wow... This really hit home doc. Thank you so much.
Dr. Cywes, what a great post, I’m sure so many people are feeling like you’re speaking of them personally. This message resonates with so many. Thank you for the awesome videos, and opening up your life to us
OMG! How does this man not have millions of subscribers? Absolutely brilliant! Thanks so much for this insight and for all you do.
People want gossip they are not the type to take care of diabetes or healths issues right now they are trying hard to put Megan Markel in a mental instution. Fergie had sex with another man after a brief marriage, she is still ,jving in Andrew's home, but that's all right with the people.
Thank you. That is enlightening but Also shifted the paradigm a bit. By the way...you are looking better than I have ever seen. I don't know where to start back on the path but I think I will start by praising my son for everything he does right for the day.
Excellent. Listening is respecting
I can sooo relate. Bless you Dr Cywes 🙏🙏🙏
This was such a powerful talk … I literally binged at work today on pizza and chocolate because I was SO acutely stressed …….. when I was done all I could think of was I just poisoned my body ! Now I sit here and am berating myself SO much ! 😩….. the guilt is horrific … sounds silly but yes , it affects me profoundly , I know I’m an addict but I stay on the wagon most of the time .. but yet I relapse … when will it ever end ? I watch every one of your videos , you are the best teacher of food addiction … but yet I still relapse at times , and it’s always an emotional event that leaves me hating myself
Right there with you. I know the frustration.
Same
Same here.
I’m the same way especially if I’m nearing a goal and then I self-sabotage. I do this over and over again.
I am there too. I fall off of the wagon, and it is so hard to get back on. I am now 3 days, low carb.
I have CPTSD, PTSD, Treatment Resistant Depression, and Chronic Anxiety. I have tried everything, sometimes more than once. I have been in therapy since the age of 18 and am almost 54. I wear a mask, but most days, I hide from the world. My anxiety is debilitating. I have tried to take my life several times. I have even inquired about MAID, I ticked ALL the boxes, except impending death in 6 months. I have suffered with severe anxiety since I was 5 years old. I had a very abusive childhood and adulthood. I struggle every day to keep going. I have been anorexic and hospitalized, suicidal and hospitalized. I have burned 3rd degree burns to my body, and felt nothing. That being said, I would never hurt anyone else. I was a professional Dancer, Model and Singer. Most thing I have the world by the tail, but I really dislike who I am. I don't think I ever have. Food, has become my drug of choice.
Amazing! So well put. You're a true healer.
God bless you, Dr Cywes. You are awesome ❤️
this was great Dr Cywes. thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. it's a true blessing to be your patient
Thank you for sharing ❤️ it's important for folks to be reminded that we all struggle no matter how it may seem or feel at times. Suffering unfortunately is part of the human experience but my hope is that we also remind ourselves that so is love and thriving.... not easy in practice but worth the consistent emotional work. Sending positivity and kindness ❤️❤️❤️
It takes a great person to bare their soul to the world. Thank you for being a great person and for giving the world the gift of your wisdom and vulnerability. Your information and knowledge have hit a few points in my life and made me think! Thank you and may God walk with you in your life and show you the way.
I LOVE how you cut through the BS that we all wallow in on a daily basis. THANK YOU!!!
This video literally showed up immediately after I had just finished a meal at Hardee's, that included fries and TWO milkshakes... and I had actually said to someone else, who had asked me how I was doing, that I was committing suicide with this meal.
Slow suicide. Most of us are doing that in some way.
Ride or die baby
You are to be commended for your honesty. We are all in this together.
WOW, Dr. Cywes.....this is so raw and real, and I can't thank you enough for putting this out......
Thank you Dr. Cywes.. I was touched with your true authenticity and just opening yourself up so realistically. You are so right! Our addictions, stem from the stresses that we are all bearing alone, with no way to express it. We suffer in silence. Even if you have faith in God, and paray and rely on all the amazing promises....You"re still going it alone, and it eats at you. Then we turn to food, alcohol, gambling, shopping, etc....Thank you for keeping it real.
Cannot believe how much your raw honesty resonated with me, I was in tears listening to your story. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
I have tested myself so many times hoping that I was not a carb addict. Thanks to Dr Cywes, I now accept that I Am a carb addict.
Thats when the recovery work can begin
You touched me quite deeply. While describing yourself you described me absolutely, and I mean absolutely perfectly, which I never in my life heard anyone do. Thought I was alone in it all. Thank you so very much for being so open and honest. The difference it makes is incalculable. I speak for myself but I'm sure many others feel the same way. Thanks again.
Great Respect for you Sir. Your openness has an impact. Thank you!
This video came at the right time with what's happening in the world but also with how I feel about myself. This was just what I needed to hear and I'm sure many others as well. Thank you so much!
Cliff hanger …. Can’t wait for tomorrow… your a caring Doc. Need more of you in the world.
Love from sunny Florida ☀️☀️
I wish I could like this a trillion times.
Your reminder helps me and my boy. I can be a better parent to him. I can do better with carbs now, it is not comfort food, it is poison I have been choosing for myself…need to stop if I love myself, even just a little bit.
Deeply honest brave and intelligent. Thank you 🙏
Wow, wow, wow!!! This hit home on so many levels for me!!! I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your patient, and a patient’s child. I lost an amazing brother to suicide, and it’s something that you never get over.
I myself have thought about suicide many times throughout my life, starting as a young girl. I had a toxic relationship early in my life and an incredibly toxic first marriage. Such damage was done in that relationship. I am now married to a genuinely happy and kind man. Our children are happy and doing well, and we have five sweet grandchildren. Life is really, really good. Yet throughout these last eleven years with this wonderful man, I’ve thought about suicide, or more so at this point in my life, I’ve thought about death and the peace that will come with it. It’s taken me eleven years to open up to my husband about things that happened to me throughout my life. I finally did it a few months ago, in part because of a talk I had with you, Dr. Cywes. While it felt good to open up and share, I still struggle with that. I’m definitely a work in progress.
Thank you for opening up about your struggles. It helps on so many levels to know that we are not alone. I battle demons and addictions daily, but some days are harder than others. Knowing that I am not alone gives me strength, and a resolve to do better. Sugar and alcohol are my enemies, and I will continue to fight against their hold over me.
Thanks again, Dr. Cywes!!!
Stay strong. It's u v u. That's all that matters
Wow!!!! Just Wow!!! Yes I wanted to commit suicide. It was twenty years ago. I really thought the entire world would be better off without me.
My journey has been quite amazing. I am presently about 60 lbs overweight and I can see that I am healing. I love myself. I love my fantastic body with all its rolls and bulges. I now see that my presence in a room makes it a better place because I am there.
I am not my flesh, blood and bones. I am the beautiful spirit that lives within this body suite.
Because I love myself I know now that avoiding foods like carbs, processed foods and seed oils is an act of love to my body suit.
I love where I am and I eager for so much more.
Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for sharing your inner most vulnerabilities with us. You are a very, very special man.
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. There is a perception that since you are the doctor that you have it all figured out. Thank you for showing us that we are all on this path together and we all have our moments of panic or low self concept etc.
Please don’t say “committed suicide”, most survivors of suicide loss prefer that people say their loved one “died by suicide” or of died due to mental health issues. My husband and I lost one of our 7 children to suicide 12/17/2014, and he was 18 years old. The statistics about young people and suicide, not only here in the US, but worldwide, are staggering. Thank you for having this conversation and helping to remove the stigma around mental illness and suicide. I love all of your content and videos, and continue to strive for better health with the Keto/Ketovore lifestyle.♥️🥰
So sorry for your loss ...appreciate your educational correction.
It’s a reason I have a dog.
And thank you for being so authentic and open about anxiety and thinking about suicide. Makes people feel less alone.
I get similar situations, like you I’m working on it.
You have articulated this well, you’ve put it into words for me. From uk
Thank you for sharing! I needed to hear this!
I am just like you.
Every day is a battle to stay positive.
Every day I look for ways to pat myself on the shoulder.
Anxiety and panic attacks are common place for me.
Thank you for bearing your soul. Each time someone does I feel less alone. 💜🧡💛💚💙❤️
Thank you. That helps me and my family
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your stories!! I appreciate you!!
Thanks for doing this. You have helped so many of us.
Dr C, u are so wonderful. No words for my admiration at ur leadership. ❤
I appreciate your raw truthfulness. Thank you for being real and addressing such an important issue.
Incredible , a must see, well done Dr. Cywes... thank you for posting this
I loved your honesty with all this covid in last few years I have realized how much anxiety I have just didn't know I had .We have so many mask we wear .Your so right about kids die from suicide more then I care to know . Love your video
Thanks for this wonderful video. It’s hard to talk to people because they’re shocked about everything and anything. It’s wonderful to hear you talking about this.
Just saw this (Dec 17, 2023). What a timely video. I could identify with everything you are saying - it's scary.
Dr.C, this was truly a blessing for me today. You have touched so many lives and yes, we all struggle with this. Thank you for sharing your struggle with us and we will all heal together ❤️ 🙏🏼! May you always stay blessed and be able to be a light in this world. This video hit home for me. God bless you!
This is really powerful. You are a blessing Dr. Cywes.
Very inspirational 👏
I've never been good enough and I'm Carb addicted. Thank you for sharing
This is amazing stuff!!! Thank you!!
Best soul searching video so far. Can't wait for the next one
We all are so Blessed to have You Doctor Cywes in Our Lives ❤️ Thank You for Making Us THINK… Love to You and Your Sweet Family ❤️
Thank you!!! This one hit so close. I've been there as well, and still do on some days. I appreciate this series and what you are doing!!!
Oh man do I understand this so totally! lots of what you said is so me! I certainly have horrific self talk and always help others first--get it! I tried to go back to eating self sabatoshing, but stopped and actually threw it in the trash so I could not eat it! Fortunately I do have that piece down! Some of the learned lessons! Thank you for this !
Wow, so so true. Thank you, Dr Cywes for sharing your truth and knowledge! Very profound.
This video really touched my heart. You opened up my eyes as to my own feelings as well as other family members in what they may be going through. Thank you!
Literally just discovered you yesterday. This video popped up on my feed this morning. Thank you so much. Many blessings.
My G*d, sooo true...
We all have ups and downs. Those around us should be able to support us on our downs. When we are down, they shouldn't flaunt our drug of choice in front of us. It's hard enough to stay away from those drugs without them throwing temptation right at our faces. Maybe talk about those we try to trust and how they should be the support we actually need when we need it.
Thank u so much for being honest. Self validation is something I will continually work toward and work on.
You are amazing Doc! You have helped John and me so much.
Your words are really touching and resonate with me.