How to Think Clearly When You're Totally Infatuated

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  • čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
  • Infatuation has a way of creeping up on us without us even realizing it. In this Vlog, the two of us share 4 practical tips to help you think smart in the midst of infatuation.
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Komentáře • 124

  • @angelineccc
    @angelineccc Před 7 lety +115

    1. welcome outside wisdom and input
    2. make a list of personal boundaries
    3. ask someone to keep you accountable
    4. don't neglect your personal relationship with God

    • @jenwad3524
      @jenwad3524 Před 5 lety +2

      You win the comments section. 😂

  • @makeupbymarie2782
    @makeupbymarie2782 Před 7 lety +144

    great job ladies. I feel as if God placed this video in my path at a perfect time. I need some outside wisdom 😊

    • @Jazzberry101
      @Jazzberry101 Před 7 lety +2

      makeupbymarie Same here girl! This topic was perfectly timed for me as well. I love how God works that way! @JasiStyleee

    • @makeupbymarie2782
      @makeupbymarie2782 Před 7 lety +11

      Jazzberry101 yes God is so funny. He knows exactly how to touch our hearts at the perfect timing, even if it is through modern technology. 😊

    • @OffTheCreamyCrack
      @OffTheCreamyCrack Před 7 lety +7

      Exactly! God will meet us where we go most or through what we interact with most, to speak to us. I've had MUCH encouragement from other's testimonies and videos on CZcams and the internet!

  • @katherinekelly6432
    @katherinekelly6432 Před 7 lety +11

    The "Lens of Perfection" is a "Perfect Expression" We are trained by the media and culture to create fantasies surrounding love. We take this image and imprint it onto another. When we are young we are most vulnerable. The idealization is that Disney image brought into relationships. Men do this as well so that two people come into a relationship trying to force the other person to be the fantasy they hold in their mind that is called love. No wonder there are so many divorces and unhappy marriages.

  • @MultiTaylorswift1234
    @MultiTaylorswift1234 Před 7 lety +1

    Love this new video, just what I need right now. Thanks so much girls!

  • @TiffanyDawn
    @TiffanyDawn Před 7 lety +36

    Oh my goodness, this so true!! When you're infatuated, it totally feels like you're seeing clearly, even when you're not - and like anyone who says differently is trying to ruin your life. I've definitely been there too!! 😂 Yes, yes, yes - best advice is to welcome outside input! So good! "Asking someone to be your brain for you!"

  • @emmagrace5787
    @emmagrace5787 Před 7 lety +2

    This was such a good one! I've been waiting for one like this :) Thank You!

  • @ablazulu5566
    @ablazulu5566 Před 7 lety +15

    look at God, thank you ladies i really needed this

  • @vanessalovesJesus7
    @vanessalovesJesus7 Před 6 lety

    I love this! You ladies are amaazing! Thank you for tackling everyday issues us girls face.

  • @lexistuckings5649
    @lexistuckings5649 Před 7 lety

    I really needed to hear/watch this video! Thankyou so much!!

  • @nfah86
    @nfah86 Před 7 lety

    Awesome! Great, wise, practical advice. You ladies rock!! I love your openness, vulnerability and real-ness. You are a shining example. You thrill my heart! I am so thankful that younger girls and other singles have your vlogs, blogs and book to give them such wise guidelines and you always point to God and to His Word. God bless you and your ministry. xxx

  • @clarewinnie9006
    @clarewinnie9006 Před 3 lety

    Thankyou so much! I needed this so much right now - CZcams put it in my reccomendations at the exact right time. I’ve been so head over heels with a guy who clearly isn’t equally as interested. I really really needed to hear this and refocus my attention to the lord. ❤️

  • @angelicalinsangan1282
    @angelicalinsangan1282 Před 7 lety +1

    I was praying earlier to God for answers and I think he lead me here in this video of yours to get some answers. Thank you! This video is soooo helpful it made me think clearly more.

  • @elisabethcoley6430
    @elisabethcoley6430 Před 6 lety +4

    Love your scarf!!Yeah, I've been there too!!

  • @lilytesti5197
    @lilytesti5197 Před 5 lety

    That is a GREAT video! Thank you very much for this video!

  • @twebasenoi
    @twebasenoi Před 7 lety +10

    Right when you uploaded this video, I was completely infatuated with some guy. So this was like wisdom from heaven!! *angels singing* 😍

  • @emmareynolds9541
    @emmareynolds9541 Před 7 lety +16

    Thank you for making this video! Guarding your heart is so difficult, something I am personally trying to learn.

  • @MelisaAnnWingfield
    @MelisaAnnWingfield Před 7 lety +1

    I love your videos so much! God bless!❤

  • @jemimaadjei9233
    @jemimaadjei9233 Před 7 lety

    Thank you. My boundaries always go out the window. I'm gonna make my list right now.

  • @b_atriz
    @b_atriz Před 3 lety

    I just feel hugged by you, guys. Thank you for this feeling of relationship w you

  • @emilyyang9756
    @emilyyang9756 Před 7 lety

    This is a light in the dark. I absolutely love you guys

  • @henleyjoythomas7223
    @henleyjoythomas7223 Před 7 lety

    The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked. This video made me think of this verse. I think to think clearly we should keep this verse in mind.

  • @gabrielles98
    @gabrielles98 Před 7 lety +5

    thanks for sharing!

  • @Ta_Sa_
    @Ta_Sa_ Před 7 lety

    Lol you guys are always on fleek! Love your channel ❤️

  • @pianowannabe123
    @pianowannabe123 Před 7 lety +3

    Kristen, what ring are you wearing on your right hand? I'm in love! Awesome video!

  • @Antreus
    @Antreus Před 7 lety +1

    I don't know how your videos showed up but I'm glad they did.

  • @caitlynpray3325
    @caitlynpray3325 Před 7 lety

    AMAZING video!!! One of your best in my opinion. :)

  • @HannahLynnMiller
    @HannahLynnMiller Před 7 lety

    I love love love this title! we do that all the time!

  • @susetepereira8726
    @susetepereira8726 Před 7 lety +2

    Love your videos. Blessings from Portugal

  • @rochelle7991
    @rochelle7991 Před 7 lety +23

    Definitely guilty of doing this on more than one occasion!

  • @precioussanidad9232
    @precioussanidad9232 Před 4 lety

    I can really relate to this. This is so funny yet so true!

  • @Jacqueline-qd5wi
    @Jacqueline-qd5wi Před 7 lety +26

    So honest and real! Love the videos!!!

  • @julietobadimeji1582
    @julietobadimeji1582 Před 5 lety

    this video is so needed! thank you girlss

  • @tishataray
    @tishataray Před 6 lety

    Why couldn't I have found this video last year. Great vid guys on point

  • @Clauds71
    @Clauds71 Před 6 lety

    Great tips ladies, thankfully I’m allowing outside wisdom to influence me as I go through this 😁

  • @claudettecoronel3908
    @claudettecoronel3908 Před 6 lety

    This is so helpful. I am going through this right now 💔

  • @stargazerlove
    @stargazerlove Před 7 lety +4

    Absolutely loved this video. perfect timing too. God definitely led me to this video. thank you ladies!!! God bless!

    • @Jazzberry101
      @Jazzberry101 Před 7 lety +2

      Toni Michelle Peterson Yes, same here girl! This video couldn't have been more perfectly timed! @JasiStyleee

    • @stargazerlove
      @stargazerlove Před 7 lety +2

      Jazzberry101 amen!!!

  • @sabrina.2125
    @sabrina.2125 Před 7 lety +1

    I love that this mindset still exists

  • @savanagoolsby1734
    @savanagoolsby1734 Před 7 lety +10

    Will you please do a video on how you apply makeup????? I'm looking for a beautiful way, that won't be over the top, and people can see Christ's beauty in me!

  • @lexlynirvanamusic
    @lexlynirvanamusic Před 7 lety +6

    I always told myself I never wanted to go thru this and it had actually happend recently lol

  • @brittneyfrias6529
    @brittneyfrias6529 Před 7 lety

    soo helpful! thank you.

  • @wearechosenforareason6783

    Great message and I love your clothes!

  • @JessieUsry
    @JessieUsry Před 7 lety

    You guys are the best !

  • @everythingfel2656
    @everythingfel2656 Před 2 lety

    Great tips!

  • @mitziloismartinez9479
    @mitziloismartinez9479 Před 7 lety +1

    You're such a Blessing 😍

  • @ashishkoduri8087
    @ashishkoduri8087 Před 6 lety

    great tips for me......:)
    thank you guys.........

  • @relaxwithme__
    @relaxwithme__ Před 7 lety +1

    I can relate. Infatuation is such a powerful thing!! haha, the blindness is real!

  • @positivelyloved1056
    @positivelyloved1056 Před 7 lety +9

    Amen to welcoming outside wisdom and putting God first! Such good points.

  • @sydneerodriguez6814
    @sydneerodriguez6814 Před 7 lety +11

    Y'all this was super good!!!! I've struggled with this more than once so this was definitely helpful and applicable!

  • @alice-rb7rp
    @alice-rb7rp Před 5 lety +1

    I’m going through this right now and I was just scrolling through CZcams and found this and I’m starting to think I’m infatuated, a lot of my friends hate this guy but I don’t see anything wrong with him everything he does to me makes me feel special and like he’s perfect but now I’m unsure about it

  • @vanessalovesJesus7
    @vanessalovesJesus7 Před 6 lety

    Your hairstyles are so on fire!

  • @OffTheCreamyCrack
    @OffTheCreamyCrack Před 7 lety +6

    I'm happy to know you guys have gone through infatuation too! Lol, but it's so true. I also really appreciate Bethany saying how LONG it took for her to be clear of the infatuated state because it took me a while too. But thank God he's open my eyes.
    But what's an addition is that we can be even infatuated with a friend, not romantically, but always seeing them in a higher level and overlooking obvious warning signs that this is NOT someone to hang around with anymore. THAT takes longer to get over if you've been around a friend for years.

  • @vivienly5722
    @vivienly5722 Před 7 lety

    God bless you girls! And Happy Women's Day, thank you so much for movitivating me to become a better Christian girl

  • @briannelee7806
    @briannelee7806 Před 7 lety

    Awesome video!!

  • @rhinyamaya9891
    @rhinyamaya9891 Před 6 lety

    Wow thanks , it really help me

  • @maiasmith3996
    @maiasmith3996 Před 5 lety

    I'm not a huge fan of this channel but this video was pretty helpful:)

  • @ThePipinz
    @ThePipinz Před 7 lety +6

    Thank you ladies! this was definitely helpful❤

  • @Jazzberry101
    @Jazzberry101 Před 7 lety +10

    THANK YOU! This topic could not have been more perfectly timed!!! God is INCREDIBLE! I just asked Him earlier today to give me answers and a reason as to why I was no longer in connection with this guy I had the hearts for last year. I tried to keep in touch and we still go to the same college, but God has other plans and knows what is best for me. I am beyond thankful for that. Also, it's funny because when I first met this guy I remember telling myself "I will never date a guy like him" then a few months later "he could do no wrong". Thanks again for your helpful input! @JasiStyleee ♡♡♡

  • @slotheatworld
    @slotheatworld Před 2 lety

    This is actually good advice.

  • @ruthlong2215
    @ruthlong2215 Před 6 lety

    Those girls have such pretty smiles!!

  • @JohnSmith-vw9rn
    @JohnSmith-vw9rn Před 5 lety +1

    Hello girls
    I do have a little suggestion for all newly weds. When you get married dont plan a long trip to your honeymoon. I got married and left the church at 9.00 pm we drove and drove. We were so tired we couldn't even shake hands

  • @abik3524
    @abik3524 Před 4 lety

    Wow thank u!

  • @GhoststoriesIND
    @GhoststoriesIND Před 4 lety

    Thanks a lot.

  • @catherinethriveni8182
    @catherinethriveni8182 Před 7 lety

    love you girls!

  • @honroub
    @honroub Před 3 lety

    Ladies, guy here, thank you. Was in that state, and it's like wearing bllindfolds that don't EVER look like blindfolds to the one wearing them. But the outside sees them. Well, yep, a couple of years of my life too :) Now slowly getting over it.

  • @natashacarruthers8265
    @natashacarruthers8265 Před 7 lety +45

    Your videos are such a blessing to me. Thank you girls ❤☺

  • @okhiok3011
    @okhiok3011 Před 7 lety

    this applies to celebrities crushes too ahaha thank you, God bless and pray for me :D

  • @Harajukubarbie333
    @Harajukubarbie333 Před 6 lety

    Your outfits are always so cute

  • @Moon_lulu
    @Moon_lulu Před 7 lety +1

    Thank youu!! lovely womans:)))

    • @Moon_lulu
      @Moon_lulu Před 7 lety +1

      *ladies :)) God bless you both!! ❤❤❤

  • @ygoldberg1287
    @ygoldberg1287 Před 5 lety

    These girls kept their focus ,Great job .Twice SAMSON was blinded by his love .It was a dangerous place for Samson . SOLOMON spoke of the bride being sick in Love with her beloved.

  • @misselizabethbennetp2185

    ✨ Infatuation✨ The thing that I have and can't seem to get away from...

  • @rootedinjesus_
    @rootedinjesus_ Před 7 lety

    great
    video

  • @mactravis4729
    @mactravis4729 Před 4 lety +6

    Imagine being so.. whatever they are that when you enter a relationship you forget how to think...

  • @MeganHodes00
    @MeganHodes00 Před 5 lety +1

    Where was this video when I needed it 2 months ago.... T.T

  • @TheonlyHoneyBadger
    @TheonlyHoneyBadger Před 7 lety +49

    So I'm an Atheist, but I have to totally give you girls credit for not cherry picking the bible. Cheers to you it's impressive

    • @almamater489
      @almamater489 Před 6 lety +4

      TheonlyHoneyBadger They did cherry pick on make up part

    • @alicialines9785
      @alicialines9785 Před 5 lety +4

      They did cherry pick a lot of parts from the bible and ignored the others.

  • @OstomyDiaries
    @OstomyDiaries Před 7 lety +3

    I have this problem all the time. I make excuses if I want to date someone even if they may not be right for me. Thank you for your videos Kristin and Bethany!

  • @friederikemlr8583
    @friederikemlr8583 Před 6 lety +1

    that’s called a crush honey

  • @kenzieb10
    @kenzieb10 Před 6 lety

    Yes! I learned the hard way too girls. I've learned how important outside Godly wisdom is.

  • @aiciaaera767
    @aiciaaera767 Před 7 lety +3

    This video was posted exactly when my brain was totally confused! You're a big blessing! Thanks a lot!

  • @Freespirit512
    @Freespirit512 Před 6 lety +1

    love the content you share. ladies, you are amazing!

  • @leonavisser4432
    @leonavisser4432 Před 6 lety

    Why did you make the decison not to kiss untill mariage?

  • @gyz9599
    @gyz9599 Před 6 lety

    How do I delete someone else’s video?

  • @recaplord285
    @recaplord285 Před 4 lety +1

    Aaaa is there anyway to kill emotions ?
    I'm tired :/

  • @saeslifecaribbeantingz7027

    i must say I'm struggling to be a pure woman seeking righteousness. I've been watching your videos and I feel like none of them really helped because I know I'm stuck. my situation is so complexed that I have had to watch many of your videos taking little pieces in order to help me with the different challenges I face but nothing is really hitting the core for me. just the surface

  • @johngalt5633
    @johngalt5633 Před 6 lety

    can y'all do a video about interracial Christian dating?

  • @legolaslotrmcufan9002
    @legolaslotrmcufan9002 Před 7 lety +1

    you ladies have talked about respecting your dad as good practice for respecting you husband. what do you do if you don't have a dad, or your dad isn't worthy of respect/have a bad Dad. thank you so much! your videos have really helped me with my walk with God!

    • @honeylemon8687
      @honeylemon8687 Před 7 lety +3

      Legolas andLOTRfan
      In the Bible it states that you only have one father. That's God, your holy father. Look to him. There's no greater leader and example to you.

  • @steflondon88
    @steflondon88 Před 7 lety

    Sigh*, I haven't been infatuated in so long. Mind you, I am hoping to start a good relationship based on our connection in Christ first (my other relationships weren't and it was to fast). But - I hope I can at least feel some spark. with whomever it is.

  • @arbretree5463
    @arbretree5463 Před 7 lety

    I like how you always wear modest and beautiful clothes

  • @Moon_lulu
    @Moon_lulu Před 6 lety

    I make convictions :) Like what Kristen said :)
    Like no boyfriend cause im still studying (because my parents said so :)l

  • @lauren6248
    @lauren6248 Před 7 lety

    What do you do when your Christian and your friends call you a player because you dated 4 guys in 2 years.

    • @riotgrrrl8807
      @riotgrrrl8807 Před 5 lety +1

      Ask yourself if they're really your friends.

  • @emilyresch546
    @emilyresch546 Před 5 lety +5

    if you isolate all of kristens sounds during bethany's nonsensical rants you would think shes gettin ate out

  • @ewereoyeze5424
    @ewereoyeze5424 Před 7 lety +1

    thank you

  • @dkcc8799
    @dkcc8799 Před 6 lety +1

    Kinda fast when you talk i've noticed in most of the videos

  • @313Hades
    @313Hades Před 7 lety +1

    Millennials literally don't know how to use the word literally. Are you a millennial Bethany? lol.
    Just messing around.
    Great video girls.
    P.S... Dig the bandana.

  • @robotmind6167
    @robotmind6167 Před 7 lety

    Irony is so strong.

  • @valethaal78
    @valethaal78 Před 5 lety +5

    His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll that. His weed? I roll th

  • @deepdiver6885
    @deepdiver6885 Před 5 lety

    Infatuation for u...lady
    .... on right side

  • @spymaine89
    @spymaine89 Před 5 lety

    bs

  • @hannahparks6396
    @hannahparks6396 Před 6 lety

    I was so disappointed when I realised the title said "infatuated" instead of "Infuriated" I am SO unbelievably hurt and mad right now towards someone I love, and want to handle the situation properly

  • @313Hades
    @313Hades Před 7 lety

    I've always wondered... were Adam and Eve ever married?

    • @briannelee7806
      @briannelee7806 Před 7 lety +1

      Peter Silak yes, they were! They didn't have a marriage ceremony like people do today, they formed a God-given covenant and God said in Genesis that they are man and wife

    • @313Hades
      @313Hades Před 7 lety

      Bri H. Thank you.

  • @sidneywilliams8731
    @sidneywilliams8731 Před 6 lety

    Oof. Been there... This time around, Sid, let's not be stupid.