How to REBUILD TRUST in a Relationship After LIES, CHEATING & AFFAIRS

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  • HOW TO REBUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP AFTER LIES, CHEATING & AFFAIRS
    Are you wondering how to rebuild trust in a relationship after lying, how to rebuild trust in a relationship after cheating, or how to rebuild trust in a relationship after betrayal?
    The question of how to rebuild trust after cheating and lying can seem like a very complex one, and it can seem like such an impossible and daunting thing to think about.
    However, in this video, I am going to show you how to rebuild trust after infidelity or compulsive lying (specifically how to rebuild trust in a relationship for guys.)
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Komentáře • 342

  • @GeoffreySetiawan
    @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 4 lety +34

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  • @smekiloper1294
    @smekiloper1294 Před rokem +236

    To everyone here in the comment section : Don't give up.

    • @Sumo-san
      @Sumo-san Před 11 měsĂ­ci +21

      I’m trying not to, but I think she’s finally given up. I’ve realized I’ve kept these compulsive habits for so long, thinking that I was never hurting anyone, but in reality, I’ve irreparably harmed the most important person in my life. The person that accepted me when I was at my worst, and now at my best, I hurt her.

    • @peterfichtner1
      @peterfichtner1 Před 11 měsĂ­ci +8

      @@Sumo-sanbro it’s never a lost cause. My wife and I cheated on each other, I put her in jail, and through all that there is still hope for us

    • @1llm1nd
      @1llm1nd Před 11 měsĂ­ci +5

      @@Sumo-sanI’m in the same boat. It feels like she’s really given up on us and I try not to beat myself up for waking up so late but it’s difficult.

    • @jeremyschonfeld1490
      @jeremyschonfeld1490 Před 10 měsĂ­ci +4

      I'm in the same boat. I have lies so many times. I'm not giving up but she said that she is truly done and don't want me anymore

    • @tb87670
      @tb87670 Před 10 měsĂ­ci +1

      My wife cheated and I'm not giving up, but she keeps saying we will never get back together rest of our lives.

  • @anshhunn2495
    @anshhunn2495 Před 5 měsĂ­ci +38

    Im soo sorry for what have i done I cannot live without her

    • @mysticmama_3692
      @mysticmama_3692 Před 2 měsĂ­ci +6

      Tell her...sincerely. Tell her you f*cked up, that you are a human that makes bad choices and that you regret those choices. She needs to hear that you regret the pain you caused...even if she won't take you back. If you really love her like this, you will tell her all of this and more even if it is just to give her some peace of mind to help HER heal without her taking you back. As a betrayed partner...hearing my husband tell me over and over and over again that it was the worst choice of his life and seeing him work so hard on our marriage is what is helping me rebuild trust In him. My husband NEVER talked about his feelings before this...even when I begged and pleaded. So, seeing him be vulnerable and seeing him work so hard to be open and vulnerable about everything is a HUGE deal for me. Your lady needs to see that you are hurting...that she actually DID mean something to you despite you making a horrible selfish decision.

    • @Boudicaisback
      @Boudicaisback Před měsĂ­cem +1

      Then why did you cheat? Please tell me because I am so hurt i am on the verge of suicide after he cheated on me. He started getting it on with a girl at work a month after proposing to me. We have children together. Almost a decade of history. I have been 100% loyal to him. WHY would he do this to me if he supposedly loves me and he begged me not to leave him

    • @apolloyoung8653
      @apolloyoung8653 Před 23 dny

      Me either and I need her home with me and our kids to stay

    • @Boudicaisback
      @Boudicaisback Před 23 dny

      @@apolloyoung8653 are you serious?

  • @yoongis.tangerine
    @yoongis.tangerine Před 3 lety +66

    no one cheated on me, i'm just here for the wisdom

    • @couchtater4621
      @couchtater4621 Před 3 lety

      Well, to the best of your knowledge, no one ever cheated on you.

    • @gachaworld7964
      @gachaworld7964 Před 3 lety

      And I hope you never cheat on your boyfriend either

  • @elainewells7322
    @elainewells7322 Před 2 lety +77

    I am a marriage therapist, so I work with trust & communication issues all the time. Geoffrey made several excellent suggestions -- but I'd like him to clarify how he would help a couple to have an "emotional" conversation about the root problem and the win/win solutions. Is he saying that emotions must be addressed rather than ignored? That seems obvious, but it is a crucial point, especially for men, who generally want to get right to the fix and avoid all those messy emotions.

    • @sinisterblister9981
      @sinisterblister9981 Před 2 lety +11

      wow, I found it a generalization to say especially men avoid emotions. By my exoerience woman often times are not able to express their emotions and instead trying to trigger men with cues. Where men quickly can express emotions and expect woman to do so instead of triggering them, which mostly affects men's emotions in a negative way. Because it make them feel ignored.

    • @noneofyourbuizness
      @noneofyourbuizness Před rokem +3

      @@sinisterblister9981 men are often ego driven

    • @niccilumm3087
      @niccilumm3087 Před 9 měsĂ­ci

      ​@@noneofyourbuizness Humans are often ego driven.

    • @butterflyygyrlsworld5106
      @butterflyygyrlsworld5106 Před 4 měsĂ­ci

      Yes!!!

  • @peterfichtner1
    @peterfichtner1 Před 11 měsĂ­ci +7

    I love the way he connects this topic to sales and business. As a salesperson, when I learned to let go of outcomes and focus on process is also when I became most successful it’s so interesting how that applies to relationships as well.

  • @Gregory8732
    @Gregory8732 Před 2 lety +16

    One of the best relationship videos I’ve ever seen. Truly thankful for this.

  • @thelongevityproject
    @thelongevityproject Před 4 lety +51

    Such great insight into building trust in your relationship. Trust is something that I personally struggle with, so I appreciate this video very much!

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 4 lety

      Awesome Dan! Glad this one resonates. What's your main takeaway here?

  • @UTubafy
    @UTubafy Před 3 lety +20

    Thanks Geoffrey! Getting to the root cause of the lack of trust and the reason for the behaviours that lead to that lack of trust; and then agreeing upon a solution is great advice 🙏🏽

  • @muffinelite7494
    @muffinelite7494 Před 2 lety +8

    You have no idea how great this worked. THANK YOU

  • @vjaygee5878
    @vjaygee5878 Před rokem +12

    Geoffrey you were so on point about how these communications should take place that I almost started answering back to you on your video. It is SO HARD when two people are on two different wave lengths and trying to get our points across that it gets exhausting and the hope nearly gone. Thank you for your insight 🙏 and I hope I can show my spouse without it looking like criticism. I would want us both to apply these strategies. It helps having somone on the outside understand both sides. Thanks again! ~ Signed hopeful and ready for a change

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před rokem +3

      Haha, glad you liked it!
      As far as for both wanting to learn this, yes, we too want our partners to begin to engage us and build safety for ourselves.
      But just remember, this cycle always starts with just one person!

  • @ChurchWorshipandvideo
    @ChurchWorshipandvideo Před 2 lety +6

    You are the only person I've seen address the need to find the root problem and discover a fix for it to establish self trust. I love my wife but after a relapse that broke her trust, I found myself struggling with deep self-doubt. I realize from your content that this doubt and mistrust of myself will be fixed as I address the root and discover win-wins with my wife. Excellent content.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety

      Love it Morgan! I am so thankful when people can see the true meaning and spirit of the message I bring.
      Keep watching and keep rising!

  • @marielisgarcia8654
    @marielisgarcia8654 Před 3 lety +63

    I really thought that the partner who have cheated or had an affair is the one responsible of help the other partner rebuilt that trust. This video helped me understand that I also have to work on that trust. It was really helpful.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety +2

      Hi Marielis, am happy this video was helpful... Yes, trust and safety is important from both partners.🙂

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

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    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

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      From Los Angeles ❤️❤️❤️

    • @valerieheineman370
      @valerieheineman370 Před 3 lety

      9p

  • @christianlamb
    @christianlamb Před 3 lety +7

    Just this is a solid process for rebuilding trust....and you say there's much more....impressed as always Geoffrey! ❤👍👍

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

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    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      from Los Angeles ❤️❤️❤️

  • @tecnogram888
    @tecnogram888 Před rokem +1

    This is amazing content. Thank you for making it.

  • @KyoAWare
    @KyoAWare Před 3 lety +34

    I left due to a conflict of my emotions, depression and my insecurity at work. I hurt her feelings by not trusting her, not talking and she felt left in the dark for my reasons...and leaving her feeling abandoned as it were. I want to be better, and I will save this to go back to, so I can not do that again, trust her even when I’m down and especially if allowed the opportunity to be in love again. I miss her dearly. Thank you for this

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

    • @jonnavalley5471
      @jonnavalley5471 Před 2 lety

      Just wonderful, I have been researching "trying to make it work after cheating" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Qenamilla Strayer Magnet - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my brother in law got cool success with it.

    • @Tech2feed
      @Tech2feed Před rokem

      Update

  • @adambr5270
    @adambr5270 Před 4 lety +24

    Hi Geoffrey, really appreciate your effort to help men be a better husband.😊

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 4 lety +1

      Thanks for the kind words Mike! Makes my day for sure!

  • @SuperMan-ds2rw
    @SuperMan-ds2rw Před 2 lety +55

    Well this definitely helps a lot….my partner and I are really trying to ease into trust and slowly working to healing and moving forward. We almost rushed back into being “lovey dovey” with each other but instead she felt pressured which I understood so what we decided was to create space where we see each other once a week to not be overwhelmed but the rest of the days we reflect and work on communication with each other and ourselves. We both really want this to work but every now and then which I completely understand she has those days where she wants to “throw in the towel” to my response is I don’t blame her if she did it is not easy trying to repair but if we both do it together as well as work on being the best of ourselves I know we can best. Difficulty right now are those days when she feels like giving up and shutting down. I want to understand why but sometimes it is cases where it is her siblings talking bad. How do I reassure her or help her understand that I want to grow with her, that I am bettering myself, and am serious about progressing towards a new and better us? She currently believes that I am just doing this temporarily but she says she would like it if I prove her wrong so I’m doing to the best of my ability to do so just days that she wants to give up hit her hard and my question is how can I help her even more on those days without overwhelming her or her feeling like I’m just repeating/telling her what she wants to here?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety +6

      Hi Super Man,
      Watch this video below and understand what it means and what you must do when your partner is exhibiting these hot & cold behaviors.
      czcams.com/video/hwzvQEm6YAU/video.html

  • @gustavemathews8368
    @gustavemathews8368 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks for your very helpful and practical information. Much appreciated!

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety

      Love it Gustave! Thank you for your comment and support.

  • @sally1692
    @sally1692 Před 2 lety +11

    I'm here because my partner lost my trust, our daughter is only just 4months old and I discovered him being disloyal even though we talked about how lies (cheating and other forms of mental and physical hurts).
    Even though we spoke about this before our daughter was born he decided to stray, lied and I found out almost 3months after, when I first came to him I told him how I was feeling.
    He made promises that he would change then repeatedly did what he told me he wouldn't.
    He's now trying to get therapy to keep our relationship together and so we can try keep our family together for our daughter.
    This video has helped me understand and I now have a little more knowledge on this subject, thank you.
    I'm praying he will change for the better.

  • @bellachula
    @bellachula Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you for this, it was really helpful. I really needed this today.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety

      Hi Barrister,
      You are welcome! Happy this was helpful…🙂

  • @MmaDk
    @MmaDk Před rokem

    Thank you for the insightful video…

  • @generalguts9721
    @generalguts9721 Před 2 lety +2

    My relationship is over, I too am here for wisdom

  • @jordanmartinez533
    @jordanmartinez533 Před 2 lety +6

    Thank you so much for this. I needed to hear actual advice on how I myself can change after my mistakes and not become them.

  • @Ronintados
    @Ronintados Před 4 lety +8

    Thanks Geoffrey for this awesome video. All of your videos are very informative.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 4 lety +1

      Thank you for the kind words Ronald! What's your main takeaway here?

    • @Ronintados
      @Ronintados Před 4 lety +2

      @@GeoffreySetiawan your always welcome. My main takeaway here are the skills needed to rebuild trust in a relationship like finding the root cause of the issue, finding the win win solution. I also like what you said that relationship is an emotional game and not a logical game. It really touches me because I'm a programmer and most of the time I think logical even in my relationship. I didn't know that being too logical will hurt my wife and our relationship. I will keep watching your videos so I will learn how to become a better husband for my wife. Thats all I really wanted. Thank you again and God bless you always.

  • @rubylamson936
    @rubylamson936 Před rokem

    Thank you! You really help

  • @lukeshepherd9623
    @lukeshepherd9623 Před 2 lety +17

    Thank you so much for this video. Watching this at a point in my life I needed this the most so that I can be the person that my girlfriend deserves and the person I want to be. ❤️

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety +1

      Love it! Keep staying tuned. I have a very exciting content calendar ahead.

    • @antinsanwo
      @antinsanwo Před rokem +1

      Me too, I’ve hurt her a couple times and I pray to god she gives me a last chance, I said I would get help last time but I didn’t. This time I’m watching videos and reading and I booked to see a psychologist

  • @f0rk496
    @f0rk496 Před 2 lety +2

    I lied 3 times but this vid helped me and her tysm

  • @seanpippin1927
    @seanpippin1927 Před 2 lety +12

    Hey Geoffrey. Really deep video. My partner has had the toughest times regaining trust for me. I really want her trust back because I can't live without her. I've tried many times to see if I can regain it and it seems like approach to all of it was all wrong. I think I'm really going to sit down with her and myself and make a plan and try to use some of your techniques to helps us out.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety +2

      Hi Sean,
      Your situation is like so many of my clients. They have tried so many different things and none have worked to rebuild that trust they once had. This is where they finally realize that they have been approaching this all wrong.
      This is where we teach them the right skills and the right tools to start allowing your partner to heal and start regaining the trust back in the relationship.
      Have you attended my masterclass?

  • @rudyrayfield3298
    @rudyrayfield3298 Před 3 lety +2

    Very informative

  • @SawaCheroke01
    @SawaCheroke01 Před rokem

    Listening to your videos has given me a tremendous insight however I need much more in depth guidance in the situation the course is expensive but I'm saving my money soon as I get the bucks I'm signing up looking forward to it

  • @lotusmetok1771
    @lotusmetok1771 Před 3 lety +4

    I just subscribed to your channel ..you are fantastic in your guidance ..this video will certainly help a lot of people in rebuilding their trust ..your explanation is crystal clear ..great job !!

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety

      Hi Lotus, thank you for the support and kind words. Really appreciate it! 🙂

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

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    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

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  • @user-wj9sd2pz7y
    @user-wj9sd2pz7y Před 2 lety +7

    Dont ever cheat it hurts. Im still hurting.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety

      Be sure to check this video out.
      czcams.com/video/LWzTNuK9aJc/video.html

  • @d33d19
    @d33d19 Před 2 lety +1

    very helpful.

  • @TheRaNetwork
    @TheRaNetwork Před 5 měsĂ­ci

    Youre a great speaker

  • @khoakdoan
    @khoakdoan Před 3 měsĂ­ci

    Thank you so much. I will be better.

  • @phennybeverline9398
    @phennybeverline9398 Před 3 lety +8

    Thank you it was helpful

  • @mramerican8867
    @mramerican8867 Před 2 lety +6

    Thanks. I’ll take this and run with it. Forgive me for cheating 🙏🏽

  • @Mxtraveler
    @Mxtraveler Před 2 lety +1

    Very good! I am the betrayed. I am sending this to my spouse.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Mxtraveler,
      Not sure if you are getting he true spirit behind this video.

    • @oyeahjoh
      @oyeahjoh Před 2 lety

      @@GeoffreySetiawan please explain bro

  • @VeeJayASMR
    @VeeJayASMR Před 3 lety +15

    This is the best video on this topic I've watched so far.

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

  • @recheilmaeoraiz6995
    @recheilmaeoraiz6995 Před 8 měsĂ­ci

    Great!❤

  • @Vanesavicente23
    @Vanesavicente23 Před 9 měsĂ­ci +5

    Guys just don’t ever cheat please , I did that mistake and I truly regret it and I feel like a piece of shit and I think I lost my soulmate forever and am trying to fight but he doesn’t want to and I want to fight but I can’t force him and just accept my consequences

    • @kyacci
      @kyacci Před měsĂ­cem +1

      What ended up happening

    • @Vanesavicente23
      @Vanesavicente23 Před měsĂ­cem

      @@kyacciwell it’s been 9 months, We spoke December but from there never again I tired talking to him but no use am blocked everywhere I miss him but yeah am trying to move on but I feel like I barely Have I still think of him daily before bed and even after bed 🧍‍♀️

  • @EmpressHsiao
    @EmpressHsiao Před rokem

    oh dang~ what a handsome marriage consultant.

  • @marcoorodio9302
    @marcoorodio9302 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you!

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

  • @sarassmith6900
    @sarassmith6900 Před 3 lety +2

    Thank you for your help 👍

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety

      Happy this video helped you Saras, what was the most insightful part for you?

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

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      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

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  • @witnessgochera8123
    @witnessgochera8123 Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you for the great ideas

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety

      You are welcome! What was the most insightful / helpful part of the video for you?

    • @witnessgochera8123
      @witnessgochera8123 Před 3 lety +2

      @@GeoffreySetiawan the root course of the toxic to be identified first

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      @@witnessgochera8123 I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️

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    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      @@witnessgochera8123 + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles ❤️❤️❤️

  • @antonneilandales5035
    @antonneilandales5035 Před 3 lety +2

    Hi Geoffrey just like to thank you for this video... Hope it works to my girlfriend.

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

  • @LukeLovesRose
    @LukeLovesRose Před 2 lety +6

    What if you're the instigator, if you cheated a long time ago and you cant remember all of the reasons why you did what you did?? I feel so lost and confused and desperate. My wife is the best thing that's ever happened to me. I made the biggest mistakes imaginable and I just recently opened up to my wife about it. Now I have to put together the pieces of what happened when all of those pieces are buried... somewhere that I cant remember. I cant find the root.
    But Ive already made a lifelong decision to never do such toxic behavior before any of this came out. I refuse to be as reckless, petty and thoughtless with my wife's feelings. I refuse to do such awful things and take her trust for granted

  • @lorieannamistad3402
    @lorieannamistad3402 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks!
    I have one , I dont know if its cheating but I guess so ... He lied to me, he's with me while still having feelings thru his Ex .. For five months being in a relationship with me, he's still into with his ex.
    The present ...
    I just know recently the facts , the secrets that he kept for a year and a half . I felt so betrayed and confuse of the love that he offered for a year and a half that we shared ...
    And right now he's working with my trust and we are working with our relationship ...

    • @missqlalah
      @missqlalah Před 2 lety

      Hi. What happened to his ex and rhe feelings he has for her?

  • @dicerevo
    @dicerevo Před 3 lety +5

    I made this mistake last night and it’s killing me

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety +1

      Hey Dicerevo,
      Once you follow the right processes to start the rebuilding of trust and safety… You will slowly re-attract your partner.
      We have had many clients in seemingly dire situations that have turn things around.
      And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
      Client Review Videos:
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      Client Review Screenshots:
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  • @albertodeulofeu5277
    @albertodeulofeu5277 Před 3 měsĂ­ci +1

    I didn’t have the tools. Eventually, she couldn’t get past it and left. I hate myself for the hurt I caused

  • @ronniebaker3826
    @ronniebaker3826 Před rokem +1

    My wife said she only wants to talk. When we are with the therapist!

  • @couchtater4621
    @couchtater4621 Před 3 lety +1

    I watched a movie on youtube that had adultery as a sub-plot and these types of videos showed up the next time I logged into youtube. As someone with zero tolerance for cheating, I find this topic fascinating.

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety

      Hi Couch, the topic of cheating is a controversial one... Once you shift your paradigms you will begin to understand the real reasons why your partner will have a desire to cheat.

    • @couchtater4621
      @couchtater4621 Před 3 lety +1

      @@GeoffreySetiawan I really didn't care why she cheated. The minute I became suspicious I was on the case. It took me about 24 hours to get the concrete proof that I needed and I ended the relationship the next morning and kicked her out that evening. I have no problem removing toxic, dysfunctional people from my life.

    • @GoodnessOdinaka-fe8yg
      @GoodnessOdinaka-fe8yg Před rokem

      Hi

  • @heatherward5798
    @heatherward5798 Před rokem

    Do you do personal confrontations?

  • @officerfarva3666
    @officerfarva3666 Před 3 lety +5

    Omg exactly!! If people who messed up did this it’d make those that get betrayed the ability to hope and with hope the security and trust can start to grow. If it is genuine that is.

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

  • @limormorris8263
    @limormorris8263 Před 2 lety

    Hi Jeffry
    Is it possible to ask you few questions privately on the phone or by email?

  • @LckNLoaded92
    @LckNLoaded92 Před 3 lety +4

    Hey Geoffrey, im having the situation where i was attempting to cheat butbi could not go trough with it because i thought about it not being worth the risk, so i backed out and left everything out of my life and kept working on my relationship, then couple of weeks ago she found out what happened and she asked me for space im looking trough these videos and was able to understand the problem but i feel the situation might be different maybe youre able to clarify if im doing things right or not i really dont want our relationship to end

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety

      Hey Jose! Have you attended our masterclass and applied for the program to see how we can help?

  • @victoriaoshea4865
    @victoriaoshea4865 Před 8 měsĂ­ci +1

    My new Mantra:
    Farming NOT Hunting

  • @rubyrizen3115
    @rubyrizen3115 Před 27 dny

    I completely broke trust with my foster parents and I’ve never been taught how to rebuild trust. Or be a child

  • @jessesmith8431
    @jessesmith8431 Před rokem

    You touched on it a little bit, but what if the wife is the one who had an affair and we are trying to open up to them

  • @patriciacoyne1926
    @patriciacoyne1926 Před 3 měsĂ­ci

    I made a huge mistake and I wish I could take it all back. I apologize and praying he gives me a second chance. As hard it is for me to give him space I am. I pray we can make things work and work through it

    • @kyacci
      @kyacci Před měsĂ­cem

      Howd it go

  • @jimmckee-thepeoplesagentof2714
    @jimmckee-thepeoplesagentof2714 Před 9 měsĂ­ci

    Caught cyber cheating. How do I make Amends and move forward if family does not want to talk? Or do I give them space and time?

  • @jeffproulx3388
    @jeffproulx3388 Před rokem +1

    The worst part is her blaming it on my past. 3 years and I still don't want to live anymore. I have been going to church now to ask for my life back. Not sure how to find myself again and trying anything at this point.

  • @tyleraguilar2474
    @tyleraguilar2474 Před 7 měsĂ­ci +1

    I broke up with my soul maté because we couldn’t move pass the things I did early on. I love and I miss her dearly and I wish I could’ve became a good man before I made those mistake

  • @thejakelegion
    @thejakelegion Před měsĂ­cem

    Man. I lied to her and it got so deep I couldn't get out. Now she knows and my world is falling apart. God, help me to be a better man.

  • @christopherolivo3747
    @christopherolivo3747 Před 5 měsĂ­ci +1

    I still feel horrible after I was caught texting another girl. we talked about why I did it and we both decided to give each other space and work on ourselves because my girlfriend still really wants to be with me so I’ve asked her different ways I could improve the relationship and she’s been asking me how she could too. It’s been a challenge getting through this especially since this is both of ours first relationship and we’ve been together for 3 years now and I can never be more grateful for a person as special as her. I just hope I regain her trust and give her the life she deserves.

    • @mydarkside603
      @mydarkside603 Před 4 měsĂ­ci

      How's it going

    • @christopherolivo3747
      @christopherolivo3747 Před 4 měsĂ­ci

      @@mydarkside603 it’s actually been going pretty good after it happened I told her everything she asked me and we’ve been finding ways to make the relationship better. since then we’ve been working on ourselves and have been improving!

  • @tadashikiritonora4858
    @tadashikiritonora4858 Před rokem +1

    Hello! Idk if this message gonna be too late cause the vid is old but im having problems with my wife, we've been together for 7 years and she broke up with me for things I did wrong in the past wich seem she kept them and also cause I mistreated her and ignored her by not giving the attention she deserved , I've been watching all your vids to try to understand and I have at least most of it but while I'm trying to work on my self to prove my self I'm worth and can fix things up by my action while letting her heal and giving her space I still feel like it might not work and like you said before she can see through my stuff according to her but im being as unique and honest as I can be... what am I doing wrong???

  • @carischaar1195
    @carischaar1195 Před 3 lety +4

    Geoffrey ...When you depend on your partner to make you feel emotionally safe, doesn’t that give them the power to crush you ? Then I am giving him control ? I’d like your thoughts on this

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety +2

      Cari - Nope. In order for you to build safety for your partner, you need to learn how to master the frameworks and the mindsets. You master the frameworks and mindsets, you grow your self-esteem (Self efficacy and self-worth). You grow your self esteem, you no longer NEED safety yourself. You can WANT safety, but you won't NEED safety. This is the essence of what makes great leaders.

    • @carischaar1195
      @carischaar1195 Před 3 lety +1

      @@GeoffreySetiawan you should do a video on that subject :) so I can learn that

  • @kencoleman200
    @kencoleman200 Před 2 lety

    I went to my wife with the information from this video and she was like are you trying to be my counselor?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety +2

      Yup - We talk about this. Two things:
      1) It's not about the WHAT, but the HOW. We recently made a video about this.
      2) This is a classic paradox of change and why you need to be able to thrive through resistance via your internal shifts. I have many videos on this too.
      Not unique. Everyone faces the same things :)

    • @kencoleman200
      @kencoleman200 Před 2 lety

      @@GeoffreySetiawan I’ve watched those videos as well but is it really possible to gain trust when the wife still feels like it’s ok to engage in hugging the guy she had the affair with and keeping a friendship with him?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety

      @@kencoleman200 If I told you it is possible, you would not believe me anyway. You need to change your whole paradigm of how you think about this. I have lots of client interviews with people who went through this. Browse them if you have time.

  • @danomph2407
    @danomph2407 Před 2 lety +2

    This speaks to me 😭😭😭I really need help

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety

      Hi Dan O'Mph, what part of the video spoke to you the most?

  • @trapgladiator8736
    @trapgladiator8736 Před 2 lety +1

    My gf asked for space and I really thought she was done with me, so I began talking to someone else. Me and my gf finally started back talking and on the same day she went in my email and seen I was talking to someone else. What can I do ? I would have never talked to this other girl if I knew she still had feelings for me.

  • @jesussilva7526
    @jesussilva7526 Před rokem

    I want to know if you can clarify on the part you said root of the problem

  • @johnbun1658
    @johnbun1658 Před rokem +1

    I've cheated in my ldr girlfriend by texting multiple women, she found out about it, we broke up, and then eventually got back together. All of a sudden she has these doubts again and tells me that she loves me but she likes another guy and she needs time to think about my relationship with her. How do I reassure her trust and to win her back?

  • @JRPTheKid
    @JRPTheKid Před 6 měsĂ­ci

    Need help staying busy and growing as a person in a genuine way. I’m stressed out in this time of space. I’m afraid I hurt her so bad we won’t be back together

  • @hiarvingarcia
    @hiarvingarcia Před 3 lety +8

    I found out the root cause of the cheating is my ability to be a financial provider for the family. During this COVID pandemic I will find a work and work till I have sufficient cash but here's my question. Is this a justified cause for me to be happy if I can provide and just neglect the fact she cheated? My mindset is not to have a broken family but I freeze thinking about trusting her again if ran out of money. Need your advice.

  • @lordmaul5236
    @lordmaul5236 Před 4 lety +8

    Been with my wife for 7 years. We were renting out a house with my little brother and cousin. Two of my best and most trustworthy friends. My wife moved out 7 weeks and wanted a divorce. I suspected that something was going on between her and my cousin. There were many red flags. I came to find out last night that she had been having an affair with him, and they are now dating. Im at a loss for words. I don't know what to do or what to think. My family and one of my closest friends was sleeping with my wife in our home while I was at work. The betrayal, lying, and sneaking has made it very hard for me ro trust anyone now. My own family was violating my marriage and trust. That my wife can do that to me as well hurts more than I can bare. I don't know what to do..

    • @tjo1984
      @tjo1984 Před 4 lety +2

      I'm so sorry.

    • @yoongis.tangerine
      @yoongis.tangerine Před 3 lety

      im so sorry this happened to you. i hope you are doing better these days

    • @alphawavesready6639
      @alphawavesready6639 Před 3 lety

      Im so sorry to hear this, how are you hanging there today?

    • @oyeahjoh
      @oyeahjoh Před 2 lety +1

      Bro im so sorry. Never forget you are not alone !

    • @yolenda_loves_to_sing
      @yolenda_loves_to_sing Před rokem

      I am so sorry, man. Being betrayed by a spouse and a family/friend at the same time is definitely the most difficult thing anyone has to suffer from. I wish you all the best now. Please know that you can talk to us here, if you ever need someone to talk to.

  • @user-ob1bz8sn9f
    @user-ob1bz8sn9f Před 7 měsĂ­ci +1

    I need help with regaining trust with my wife

  • @oyeahjoh
    @oyeahjoh Před 2 lety

    So i am the one who got betrayed. Can i send his to my gf, because it seems shes not on any comprehension of my pain, disgust and distrust. And this is 2 week in after i discovered about the cheating

  • @reenasayed493
    @reenasayed493 Před 2 lety +2

    If your partner dont want to give u chance to rebuild trust, dnt response u.Ignore your calls, txt. Then what should i do? There's any hope?

  • @apolloyoung8653
    @apolloyoung8653 Před 23 dny

    My fault is lying about stuff I shouldn’t. Please guys try your best to tell the truth even if it might hurt because it’s only communicating

  • @stevenmowbray8573
    @stevenmowbray8573 Před 10 měsĂ­ci

    Awesome, Awesome, Awesome!!

  • @kristenfuller9168
    @kristenfuller9168 Před rokem

    I was wondering is being friends with the ex cheating too? It's is it okay to be friends with the ex while you're with another partner ? I ended up bumping into my ex in public a few days ago and he gives me dirty looks I just feel scared telling my current partner saying hey I bumped into my ex he's giving me dirty looks 😢 and making me uncomfortable. My ex's new partner followed me on social media tiktok. After my ex blocked me.

  • @melissavaldez1239
    @melissavaldez1239 Před 2 lety

    Ima women and would like to register for your class is that something I can do?

  • @u13e12
    @u13e12 Před 23 dny

    Is the Facebook group no longer available?

  • @mugf1880
    @mugf1880 Před rokem

    I was accused of cheating and I didn't, my husband has lost trust and told me so many hurtful things, I'm very mad also and trying to understand him as well.

    • @kurpal8904
      @kurpal8904 Před rokem

      If u lied and kept a secret, you cheated.

  • @ninahroy1371
    @ninahroy1371 Před 2 lety +1

    I recently cheated on my boyfriend & he found out....he was hurt bt i was also hurt, i apologised, he told me dat am 4given. Bt i feel we r both still hurting, i feel bad 4 hurting a good man who truly luvs me

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety +2

      Hi Ninah Roy,
      My only suggestions is to have an open and honest discussion about the pain and hurt you two feel. Isn't this what partners are suppose to do, work through tough issues and differences?

  • @kritapaspetchana1237
    @kritapaspetchana1237 Před 8 měsĂ­ci

    What if her best friend kiss me in front off her and I keeep denied it and she snaps ask for space.what is the right move?

  • @_Mugen_
    @_Mugen_ Před 3 lety +7

    I’m a compulsive liar and I have ruined my relationship with the love of my life and I don’t know what to do please help me

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety +1

      I would advise you to join the masterclass and learn how you can transform yourself

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

    • @invictus8036
      @invictus8036 Před 2 měsĂ­ci +1

      I made this same mistake, please help

  • @ark2736
    @ark2736 Před 2 lety

    How should I start a conversation to her and how do I calm her when she is getting angry, what should I do if she was thinking to break up and start again should I stop het

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 2 lety

      Hi Ark,
      Check out this video and be sure to come back with any questions on what you may have learned.
      czcams.com/video/Q4NtHI54TnI/video.html

  • @donnymarquis7484
    @donnymarquis7484 Před měsĂ­cem

    Does going no contact after your partner lost trust for you work?

  • @Hashi321
    @Hashi321 Před rokem +1

    I'm sorry ..I'll never do it again never in my whole life... I'll try my best to make myself worthy of my bf 🙃

  • @DevonReese2001
    @DevonReese2001 Před 3 lety +7

    I have a question how can you reconnect with your partner if you’re no longer together? And you still love that person

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety +3

      Hi Devon, the free masterclass and course gives you step by step processes to follow by changing how you communicate and interact even if you are no longer together and appeal directly to her emotions. You should sign up and see how many of our clients have been able to rebuild from the ground up.

    • @DevonReese2001
      @DevonReese2001 Před 3 lety +1

      @@GeoffreySetiawan all right thank you I will definitely sign up what is the website

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      @@DevonReese2001 I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      @@DevonReese2001 text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      @@DevonReese2001 + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

  • @sizzler1025
    @sizzler1025 Před 3 lety +13

    I allready found the root cause of why I lie so much,
    Yet even though I am doing better I am still far from where I want to be with telling the truth.
    I want to tell the truth allways and I don´t tell new lies but when an old lie comes up that I allready made I have such a hard time revealling the truth of an old lie. It litterally feels like my mouth is locked. What is the next step to change this behavior?
    Thanks for all your videos btw!

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

  • @mrsshzd
    @mrsshzd Před 2 lety

    Dosent trust me. Got back together after seperation but says dont want me

  • @zodiac909
    @zodiac909 Před rokem +2

    I've been with my girl for 6 and a half years. 3 weeks ago she accused me of cheating for the millionth time of cheating, because I could not answer her call while in a meeting. I video called her back while in the meeting, but she hung up after 10 seconds. I always fall to my knees trying to convince my innocence's to her, but I was so exhausted of the accusations this time that I just texted her "ok" after all the accusations. It's been 3 weeks, and she just blocked me on social media today, even though all I have said to her since was "merry christmas". Fun holiday season for me.

    • @Therevolution7
      @Therevolution7 Před 5 měsĂ­ci

      sounds like she has issues

    • @Joel-uv5tg
      @Joel-uv5tg Před 5 měsĂ­ci

      Either she was cheating or she has borderline personality issues

  • @daniunknown8937
    @daniunknown8937 Před 3 lety +2

    So communicating for the rong actions u did and show them u screwed up and you’ve changed is more about actions then “I’m sorry”. So by giving them my social media login stuff is that a way to try to build their trust? To prove to them that ya I screwed up it’s only happened once. And that I’m never gonna do it again. Did I possibly help the situation or make it worse?

    • @GeoffreySetiawan
      @GeoffreySetiawan  Před 3 lety

      Hi Dani,
      By acknowledging your mistake or wrong actions to your partner is the first step towards rebuilding trust and safety. Your consistent actions after will show if your are genuinely changing or not. If you’d like to learn more, you can join our free masterclass here.
      relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
      At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
      And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
      Client Review Videos:
      czcams.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
      Client Review Screenshots:
      drive.google.com/drive/folders/1Gp8UpRV9uMlFx763BfuQnEqN930FQb7b?usp=sharing

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation ❤️❤️❤️

    • @joycejoe9092
      @joycejoe9092 Před 3 lety

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles ❤️❤️❤️

  • @khoakdoan
    @khoakdoan Před 3 měsĂ­ci

    I talked to my ex behind my girlfriend's back. I don't know why i did it.

  • @kurpal8904
    @kurpal8904 Před rokem

    What is the definition of Cheating?

  • @lily-vr5iv
    @lily-vr5iv Před 3 měsĂ­ci

    Can i rebuild his trust after a year? Cz he loved me so much i was his first love but I dumped him after 5yrs of our relationship. Later i realise how stupid i was to do all this. I love him so much I can't imagine him with someone else😑

  • @10isc41
    @10isc41 Před 5 měsĂ­ci

    I cyber cheated and she forgave but she broke up with me eventually. Toward the end she was very cold and would cancel on me. She sent me a txt that it wasn’t gonna work out and that it was over. She didn’t even want to see me.