Can You REPAIR a Relationship After CHEATING? - TWR Podcast #85
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- čas přidán 28. 05. 2024
- They cheated... Should you stay and work it out or end the relationship? Let's take a look at the data on whether a relationship can ACTUALLY be repaired after cheating.
In today's episode, Pye and Dr. Glen dive deep into the stats and discuss the key factors that go into repairing a relationship and what to look for when deciding whether to stay or move on.
0:00 Intro
0:34 What Does the Data Say on Repair After Infidelity?
7:33 Who Cheats More? Men or Women?
16:12 Is "Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater" True?
22:35 Five KEY Factors to Repairing a Relationship After Cheating
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I never thought I’d do it. But I did. And I hurt the only person that’s ever genuinely cared about me. Although it was meaningless in hindsight, it wasn’t to her and that’s all that matters. So now I guess she’ll take her chances with someone new who either won’t do it, or won’t get caught. My words didn’t matter. My tears didn’t either. My apology was meaningless. And I can’t blame her.
It made me happy to see this video though, you confirmed what I thought was necessary to keep it together. And I did all of the right things. I was transparent. Honest. Truly and sincerely remorseful. But I’m only one half of the equation. She couldn’t get past it.
Work on your character. Because cheating is a deep character flaw within yourself. Expecting the victim to get over it because you regret it is another character flaw on your part. I cheated once in my twenties and never did it again because it was such a a huge loss and realized I never wanted to be a piece of trash that could victimize someone else again.
If you’re young and don’t have any commitments between each other like children, just leave! End of story
I emotionally cheated and I truly regret it. I don't know why I did it. I loved my girlfriend and I was truly committed to her. For some reason, my insecurity and my lack of confidence got the best of me. My ex texted me and I responded with white lies about my relationship. I didn't even mean it but I did it. I made a choice at the end of the day and i take accountability and responsibility of my actions. I hurt her and her family.
I love the humor and banter involved. It makes these topics so much more digestible!
The videos are very helpful, more and more people need to be educated on the topic.
😊 very nice and great effort to not editing out the hard to deal with stuff 🤭
I love dr. glens laugh 🤣
Me too, haha
I was dating a guy, 1 month in I decide to have a FWB bc I had personal baggage & didn’t want to work through it so I solved it with a bad decision, guy I’m dating finds out in month 3, gets upset & asks if it’s worth it to stay. I say yes bc I truly love being with him. I also think I used my FWB as a distraction of my feelings for the guy I’m dating bc I was really falling for him. We are now entering month 5 of dating & ever since him finding out, I’ve cut all ties, blocked FWB, changed my number & have been trying hard to win back my guy’s trust. Any advice?
good idea
Thank you! Which part are you referring to?
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Can you do a talk about betrayal, but not just about cheating. Betrayal in general. For example, a husband saying bad things about his wife to another person, or a wife going against her husband when it comes to major decision making (having children, buying a house, etc.), Or a husband coming out as gay. Stuff that's also betrayal, but not infidelity.
After 2 years of being with a women of my dreams, slowly started to put her on a pedestal. She decides to end the relationship, I let it be and one week later she says she wants to work on things but isn’t ready to commit back yet, we make great progress over a month. Just last night I confronted her as she was walking into her apartment with another man at 1am
Dunno if y’all will see this but: do these statistics include cheating that was never confessed or discovered?? A hidden affair?
This ticks ALL the boxes I am going through. I found out a month ago, my husband carried out a 1 1/2 year affair. I am devastated. How does one navigate a long term scenario? Not just a one night stand. He actually travelled to see her and paid to have her travel to our city. Cost our family over 20k and I was blamed for needing to pay bills and mortgage payments bouncing.
Men are different from you. Your husband does not love you any less. As hard as that is to understand. That’s why he’s still your husband. The human animal, has never, and will never be an innately monogamous one like geese. Men specifically, aren’t wired to be only with one woman at a time. And women themselves aren’t wired to be with just one man long term (which is why women always end up unhappy).
Now that doesn’t mean self restraint isn’t a thing. It is, and should definitely be exercised. But just know that your husband does not love you any less. If he is truly remorseful, he is so because of the way it affected you. Not because of the act itself. In his mind subconsciously, he doesn’t see it the way you do. If he is truly remorseful, and he’s embarrassed and ashamed, and says it won’t happen again, believe him this once.
@@albertodeulofeu5277 I can’t agree on ‘how he’s wired’. I’ve uncovered so much more. He was always so jealous of anyone who talked to me, even.
The affairs started 6 years ago and he had zero intention of telling me. He’s sorry he got caught and he had an amazing, FAITHFUL woman.
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He cheated and lie about it for 6 months and also lied to other person. His reason was he can get women with a way more less the effort he was putting in our relationship . We were together for 3 years engaged for 1.5 years.
Well my partner took full ownership and responsibility and apologized and asked if we can work it out !! She’s accountable but I seen what I did wrong myself including alcohol abuse where she said that wasn’t the issue it was her fault she should have gone a different path.. That’s after the fact o was in no contact and left the house for about 2 months.. I’m back it is completely hard but I gave up alcohol, and other stuff that came w it .. We do more traveling and have more things to do .. Alcohol ruined me during infidelity so I did a 360 and joined a gym. it’s difficult we have our moments we’re we argue but look for a solution now .. If anyone decides to stay it’s Hard but it takes two and it can be done and will make you stronger
In my opinion if there was cheating it will happen again,people don’t change only the environment changes then we think it people.....good way is to end the relationship without fights thanks.
People don’t change?? That is your opinion. From my experience everything change even people change. Someone might fall in love with you today and fall out of love next month or next year. The only thing that don’t change is change. It is consistently changing. And if you want to say once a cheater always a cheater. It is not true.
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The recovery of a broken relationship is much higher if a man cheats than a women cuz the female has a emotional investment.
Men can emotionally cheat too though, and typically emotional cheating hurts the woman more because we tend to value emotions more. Not always but if it's just a one off fling while drink vs. months of emotionally cheating it's pretty bad
@@snailart9214the exception doesn’t make the rule. Men cheat. Women betray. Men cheat to cheat. Women cheat to leave. Men don’t leave.