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Todd you are absolutely right!!!! First comes God then comes your spouse then comes your children. Periodt! Take it from someone who’s been married for 23 years.
Say that!!! 24yrs for me and I saw it done this way growing up Todd said it best taking care of your man does not mean you are neglecting your kids these modern day women swear they got it down to the letter and they don't
20 years God, Kid & Spouse worked for us it’s knowing how & when to pivot now that we are empty nesters the order of operation has changed to God, spouse & kid now that’s she old enough to care for her self and make good decisions … We invested the time & happy with the outcome. Most men are selfish, will have you ducking with the door open kids in the same room on your cycle, half sleep, half dead tired anything to appease them! It doesn’t work like that in our house we had a commitment to our kid 1st now that the commitment has been satisfied we have renegotiated a new contract where we are the priority.
Men wrote that Bible and not holy ones.👀 we live under patriarchy in this world. Everything will be centered around the comfort and needs of men. You haven't learned that lesson by now?👀
Todd is absolutely right..don’t build your relationship around your kids, because when they’re grown and gone you now have to figure out who you’re living with.
Talking to these three women is so pointless. They take everything literally. I feel like his point is never rec'vd. He needs to be around more educated women. And by that I just mean conversation wise. They are so surface level. It's annoying to watch his point never be rec'vd. Even by Kandi. It's just sad.
I have always said when I was raising my kids I have to eat if it’s the last piece of bread in the house. I am going to eat it so I can get strength to go out work and bring more food home for them And I put my Husband first and that is from God……….. kids will always make you want to challenge your relationship and somebody has to be the adult
GOD first, then husband, then children that’s for sure then your husband always needs your undivided attention and vice versa it’s called communication love y’all together 😊
When the man of the house puts his wife and children first, the wife will usually put him first because he honors his household in the way he shows up and leads. If the wife feels like she must put the children first it’s usually because the husband has not been clear that he has the entire family protected.
This is not true a lot of people didn't grow up in households where they saw their mother caring for their father so when you don't see this you take on the world's perspective of how a household should be ran and even when you bring up scriptures some will push off on that because a lot of modern day women don't want nobody telling them a damn thing and that is that this is why I say do what works in your household and ill do what works in mine. Also don't try to shame me because I do things different than how you decide to do things at your house because a lot of y'all good at that too thinking things will change because you feel the way I might do things is wrong and it won't
Todd ......you said it all......that was a whole word......of course mothers are going to take care of their kids..... especially when they are children......at the end of the day there is order to everything.....most people are living out of order and they wonder why their stuff is falling apart.......some people listen to respond and others listen to actually hear.....
Todd, Todd, did I say Todd. Once again, I feel for you. It might be a good idea for y’all to watch these videos again, then maybe, just maybe the ladies will get your point. That was a great point you made, in all the videos, they are Not leveling-up their husbands. Whether they agree or not is one thing. More importantly, they don’t get where you were coming from, cus during the convo…They Are Lost. They are taking what you say literally, instead of it being an example. You show such patience. Yes, bring the other husbands in. I’d like to see that convo, o/c w/patience and calmness. Until then!
I actually love that Todd gets it! He’s open to communicating and understanding. I do feel like the women aren’t as open minded and it’s more about them than the actual point he’s trying to convey.
A better question is why men feel the need to compete with children. It’s a totally different lane and love. Find a man who together with you understands kids come first when they are younger and developing as they get older it switches.
Men will never understand what it takes to be a Woman & Mother. We can only do what comes naturally. Men become very jealous when children come into play because you’re not getting the time you once had. Todd if you want some things to change you need to make some changes as well. Let’s start with that staying out until four in the morning. Set the example. Let’s not talk about order when you’re not practicing what you preach. Kandi gave us a real situation with her daughter feeling like she was going to love the other children more than her. She needed to make her daughter feel safe. Men are away from the home 🏠 the majority of the day so you think what we do is easy. Things are easily said than done.
I just feel like family as a whole comes first and there should be a balance. Like in certain situations you may put the kids first in other situations you may put your spouse first. As long as nobody’s being neglected then it’s all good
& Todd you be picking with Kandi , when she be engaged you be telling her be quiet & she’s talking to much. Then when she’s quiet, you be like she’s not engaging. Stop picking with Kandi 😅
TBH, hearing both perspectives is good. When kandi talks a lot it's usually when she is bossing up which isn't a good thing in a relationship. He's right, let a man say over and over that he's going to take care of the kids first. It's sweet to hear but after awhile, it will be a problem. We as women do expect to be put first so it's not far fetched that husband's want the same.
Todd - Kandi has never been a traditional woman. Don't expect a non-traditional, aka BOSS woman, to be traditional. I haven't seen many men hunting as of late. Most of these wives are working outside of the home, maintaining the home, and raising the kids all at the same time. No, we don't have time to make your own meal, your plate first, etc. If any man wants that, he should provide for his entire family BY HIMSELF. Allow that wife/mom to stay home full time.
@Todd * That was the "order" God gave MEN. (God first, wife and children) She came from your rib. Her instructions are her children first and then her husband) As she should put her children first over her husband! Kandi is a wonderful wife and mother even with all of her gigs - she makes quality family time and mommy/children time. I ❤ Kandi Yams and I'm so proud of that young lady on all levels. #TeamKandi4Life
From Todd’s logic, to put your man 1st doesn’t mean your neglecting your kids.. But if you choose to put your kids 1st, that means you’re neglecting your husband ? Like huh, it can’t go 1 way & not the other.
Ohhh just heard Jodie say the SAMETHING , like literally 💯 . Granted I’m single & not a mother yet, but absolutely NOTHING will come before my children. NOTHING ! & Anyone or man who wants to come before kids is getting a side eye from me. #RedFlagTerritory FOR ME !
Why do I feel like this is the only way Todd can actually communicate with his way and or express his emotions to her, due to her career lifestyle selfishness & neglect. and this is his way of shedding light and documenting his unhappiness before he files for divorce. 😭 it’s really sad to watch. Todd is NOT happy at all and kandi does not care.
I agree. It's as if Todd is reaching out and using this platform to shed light on their marriage. He seems very unhappy. Kandi seems standoffish and defensive. It's apparent her career and children are her main focus, and she can care less about his feelings. Plus, she knows she has a prenuptial agreement, so she is not worried about any divorce. It doesn't even look like she has a general respect for the man in the way she responds to him. It's like she has a whatever attitude whenever a glimmer of light is shined towards her behaviors that he is unhappy with. Not saying Todd is a saint because I'm sure he is full of imperfections as we all are. It's just Kandi is not as open about his issues as he is about vaguely sharing hers. We can read between the lines. Hopefully, they seek counseling or something to work out their issues because this is sad.
It isn't though. He can do all of this in a man cave, outside, anywhere. Kandi said that you can't leave. Well bring guys over, etc. Never talk about your problems in front of your wife's friends. They will try to fix it. By fix it, I mean sleep together to "make you happy". No. They'll start coming over when Kandi isn't home pretending to left something but has the beautiful friend to come with them in the house. Next thing, it's trouble.
AWESOME!! We are the United Front that will make sure the kids are taken care of spiritually, emotionally n physically!! So, WE must be strong and keep it strong!!
I’m frustrated FOR Todd😂😂😂 and I’m a woman!! My man gets a plate first and the kids get theirs immediately after. I was raised watching the women in my family feed the men first. It trains you on respecting order in your household. And another thing… Kandi.. give him some undivided attention 😂😘
I always like hearing the perspectives from both the man and woman. Y’all are like my older siblings and I’m not married. These conversations really captivate me
Kandi energy is off. I feel like the Tuckers should be in on going counseling if they aren't already. I want their relationship to work. I have noticed over the years Todd has made it clear he needs more personal time with his wife. He shouldn't feel like he's fighting to be valued in this relationship. Love this couple and pray they make 50yrs of marriage ❤ #BlackLove
Todd doesn’t know what he wants because he just said in the last podcast he needs his space. Todd is becoming overwhelmed being Kandi husband. He can’t dim her light 💡 it’s been on for years. Counseling is definitely needed I do agree with that. Her energy is definitely off especially when she has a husband that tells her she’s missing the point all the time like she can’t comprehend.
It's really not women just want to make it hard because y'all want to do everything so if you want to do everything you don't need a man just do everything by yourself with your kids
@@tonna2cutethe problem is many of you feel like making your man a priority is neglecting your kids and it's not my husband works hard when he gets home I want to have a hot plate ready for him by the time he gets home the kids have been home for hours snacking on everything so their stomach isn't completely empty so waiting a few minutes to eat after I serve their dad ain't going to hurt a thang ok
That’s because most of us are single mothers and grew up with a single mother and it’s hard for me personally to think of putting a man first over your kids - But I agree with husband before kids when he’s the provider
I grew up in a two-parent home and my mother took care of us first and then my father and my father put us first before he did my mother. Children need to be cared for. Mothers and fathers can take care of themselves. Now in my house, my husband gets his place first. If I took the time to feed the kids first it would take too long. My husband could be done eating by the time I settle the kids down and get them to sit still and eat 😊
Kandi. Stop slow down he’s not attacking you. Let him talk. You asked him a question let him finished. Submitting to Todd doesn’t mean that you’re not a strong woman
Todd is spot on and usually always is as it relates to these dialogues. God, man, woman and then the children. That's what I was taught. It's not that hard, at all to understand. The "whataboutisms" and "what if's" are beside the point. That is the order of God. I love this entire team. It does seem however that the concepts that Todd presents as discussion topics appear to go over the heads of the other glam squd members (no shade). Keep the discussions coming. Todd is a gem full of wisdom.
The husband comes first....always!! Because once you n your spouse is solid, the united front will always make sure the kids are good in every way!! We must stop it!! Spouses always come first....in a step parent situation, that gets a lil tricky!! Ive been married to my husband for 18 yrs, and we have 2 kids together!
Todd is saying you can physically be present but not paying attention. For example: You can talk to your mate and their mind could be somewhere else (no phone) so they are giving short responses to acknowledge BUT are not actively listening. Each couple knows their spouse and when they are present. Great talk! I have never commented this much in my life…
This is a healthy conversation. I agree with Todd but I understand Kandi. We get upset when people don’t do things the way we would do it. No love be lost but everyone is different and the way one may show love the other might. You gotta understand each other love languages.
I love this conversation. It's really about balance. Todd is right as for the order but when the kids are small, they can't do things for themselves. We as mothers/wives have to balance the family. As the kids become more independent we MUST rebalance to be sure the our man/husband knows he is our king!
The problem is because their have been so many single mothers out in the world,once women marry they have to learn to put their spouses first because you have been runing a single home.
You definitely need to add another man’s perspective to these videos. Because Todd be making a lot of sense and it seems like they simply don’t be understanding or wanting to understand his points.
All the ladies missed Todds point about the phone 😂😂😂😂 Ive actually been in a relationship where he was there but I minds well could've been alone because after a while his attention for me was totally gone and most women knows what that feels like because usually when that happens they are cheating and we can feel their attention leave and go to someone else. It's the same thing as if a dude starts off calling you everyday at a certain time or a number of times and then Boom goes missing for 2 days after getting you used to a talking pattern you're gonna feel that loss of attention and these examples have Nothing to do with a phone
Todd has a great point. This is a tough topic. Me personally, I put the kids before it all. Now, Jody when they grown…. They grown! I’ll always have their back but when they are grown my spouse will definitely be priority. I don’t know…
15:50 Topic: Who's first spouse or children ? Todd no matter if she fixes the children plate then yours or Todd's plate then the children's plates, her plate will always be last. How inconsiderate to not understand she's putting everyone before herself and that is love. wishing you guys many+ years of marriage.
#Win... What TT is saying is how he feels KB please listen to your man is pouring out his feelings just listen because y'all are power couple and I love y'all love just listen to your man
I was talking to a pastor before I got married and was told there are times a man relinquish some of those first to the children so that they can be out of the way. Once the children are taken care of it gives the wife & husband there own quality time
I think this concept was for the men that went out and worked hard and the wives were homemakers. I do agree that we have to take care of our men however, I’m going to prioritize what needs to be prioritized lol
Todd, were you being petty when Kandi asked you to ride in the Sprinter with her after the Beyoncé concert? You said you were gonna ride in another Sprinter so that you could continue a conversation you were having with some of the guys. You put a conversation over your wife. You did not put her first.
Crazy how these are the same ladies that want their men around them all the time from the last episode, yet the don’t believe in putting their men first.
Leo needs so much attention! They don't care how you feel at the moment! My daughter is a Leo! She wears her feelings on her sleeves! Todd is cry baby 😭!
Todd’s main perspective is that there is a difference between actively listening and passively listening. If you are physically there and you are passively listening, it’s as if you are not physically there.
Todd I'm with you When there are restrictions in any relationship it causes problems. To hear those ladies say we gotta do EVERYTHING TOGETHER sheesh that's enough for me to NOT wanna be around you. Seems Todd has no support but listen if this is gaslighting yall did an excellent job p.s. KANDI GOTTA LISTEN because it is a part of effective communication. Good luck Todd Kandi would get on my last nerve 😮🤔
Todd is a favorite for sure but, Kandi is the person that I love more than anyone (outside of my family) in this world. She has so much LOVE, balance, and HIGH ENERGY VIBRATIONS! 💚💚💚💜💜💜🪶
I agree with Todd on this for sure and it was frustrating that they ladies seemed to not get this one or just didn't want too lol we feel ya Todd! You aint wrong 🤣❤
In my OPINION, Todd usually has a lot of good points and starts off strong.. but he often gets lost by giving contradictory statements/responses/actions before landing his point. (i.e. generalizing all women/men but not wanting to be generalized himself, cutting people off when speaking but not wanting anyone to cut him off, etc.) But I also feel like Kandi and Jodi will either purposely miss the point he’s trying to make or they’ll take what he’s saying to the heart when he’s just trying to have open dialogue.
Wow if you feel like its husband over kids PLEASE TELL YOUR KIDS THAT AND SEE WHAT THEY SAY. Thats why theres so many wonky kids and young adults outside right now. Why would you put a man before your child? That you grew out of your womb? This is crazy
Todd is correct children grow up and change locations, build their own family, and careers.
Todd you are absolutely right!!!! First comes God then comes your spouse then comes your children. Periodt! Take it from someone who’s been married for 23 years.
Say that!!! 24yrs for me and I saw it done this way growing up Todd said it best taking care of your man does not mean you are neglecting your kids these modern day women swear they got it down to the letter and they don't
20 years God, Kid & Spouse worked for us it’s knowing how & when to pivot now that we are empty nesters the order of operation has changed to God, spouse & kid now that’s she old enough to care for her self and make good decisions … We invested the time & happy with the outcome. Most men are selfish, will have you ducking with the door open kids in the same room on your cycle, half sleep, half dead tired anything to appease them! It doesn’t work like that in our house we had a commitment to our kid 1st now that the commitment has been satisfied we have renegotiated a new contract where we are the priority.
Men wrote that Bible and not holy ones.👀 we live under patriarchy in this world. Everything will be centered around the comfort and needs of men. You haven't learned that lesson by now?👀
Todd is absolutely right..don’t build your relationship around your kids, because when they’re grown and gone you now have to figure out who you’re living with.
Talking to these three women is so pointless. They take everything literally. I feel like his point is never rec'vd. He needs to be around more educated women. And by that I just mean conversation wise. They are so surface level. It's annoying to watch his point never be rec'vd. Even by Kandi. It's just sad.
I have always said when I was raising my kids I have to eat if it’s the last piece of bread in the house. I am going to eat it so I can get strength to go out work and bring more food home for them And I put my Husband first and that is from God……….. kids will always make you want to challenge your relationship and somebody has to be the adult
GOD first, then husband, then children that’s for sure then your husband always needs your undivided attention and vice versa it’s called communication love y’all together 😊
Kids come first b/c they can't fend for themselves. They have to be nurtured.
I agree with Todd! Kandi, you, my girl, but you are not listening ...
When the man of the house puts his wife and children first, the wife will usually put him first because he honors his household in the way he shows up and leads. If the wife feels like she must put the children first it’s usually because the husband has not been clear that he has the entire family protected.
I 100% agree and can relate with this point.
Preach!!!! Very good point!!
Yes 🙌
True Facts
This is not true a lot of people didn't grow up in households where they saw their mother caring for their father so when you don't see this you take on the world's perspective of how a household should be ran and even when you bring up scriptures some will push off on that because a lot of modern day women don't want nobody telling them a damn thing and that is that this is why I say do what works in your household and ill do what works in mine. Also don't try to shame me because I do things different than how you decide to do things at your house because a lot of y'all good at that too thinking things will change because you feel the way I might do things is wrong and it won't
The ladies really don’t be listening lol….they refuse to see the bigger picture.
Right
Todd ......you said it all......that was a whole word......of course mothers are going to take care of their kids..... especially when they are children......at the end of the day there is order to everything.....most people are living out of order and they wonder why their stuff is falling apart.......some people listen to respond and others listen to actually hear.....
Todd, Todd, did I say Todd. Once again, I feel for you. It might be a good idea for y’all to watch these videos again, then maybe, just maybe the ladies will get your point. That was a great point you made, in all the videos, they are Not leveling-up their husbands. Whether they agree or not is one thing. More importantly, they don’t get where you were coming from, cus during the convo…They Are Lost. They are taking what you say literally, instead of it being an example. You show such patience. Yes, bring the other husbands in. I’d like to see that convo, o/c w/patience and calmness. Until then!
I actually love that Todd gets it! He’s open to communicating and understanding. I do feel like the women aren’t as open minded and it’s more about them than the actual point he’s trying to convey.
A better question is why men feel the need to compete with children. It’s a totally different lane and love. Find a man who together with you understands kids come first when they are younger and developing as they get older it switches.
THIS!!!!!!!!
Say that!!!!!
Men will never understand what it takes to be a Woman & Mother. We can only do what comes naturally. Men become very jealous when children come into play because you’re not getting the time you once had. Todd if you want some things to change you need to make some changes as well. Let’s start with that staying out until four in the morning. Set the example. Let’s not talk about order when you’re not practicing what you preach. Kandi gave us a real situation with her daughter feeling like she was going to love the other children more than her. She needed to make her daughter feel safe. Men are away from the home 🏠 the majority of the day so you think what we do is easy. Things are easily said than done.
As she should! Grown people know how to care for themselves..
Children don't!
Children should come first!
Thank you.
I just feel like family as a whole comes first and there should be a balance. Like in certain situations you may put the kids first in other situations you may put your spouse first. As long as nobody’s being neglected then it’s all good
Bingo 📌
God. Husband. Kids. period.
@@jacquelinemcclellan
Exactly…In that order!
Right it's all on the situation
Exactly
Todd coming with the deep questions. Got me thinking😂
Please help understand what deep question was asked?
The kids first but when they get older my husband comes first 😅
It seems that Todd is low-key feeling a way though.
These ladies really make me take a good look at myself because more times than not they are tripping
& Todd you be picking with Kandi , when she be engaged you be telling her be quiet & she’s talking to much. Then when she’s quiet, you be like she’s not engaging. Stop picking with Kandi 😅
This. Totally agree. Wish this comment could be pinned 📌 She can’t win.
TBH, hearing both perspectives is good. When kandi talks a lot it's usually when she is bossing up which isn't a good thing in a relationship. He's right, let a man say over and over that he's going to take care of the kids first. It's sweet to hear but after awhile, it will be a problem. We as women do expect to be put first so it's not far fetched that husband's want the same.
@@Rita-sc1pj I’ll NEVER have a problem with my man telling me that he puts his children 1st or our children 1st… EVER . But thats just me lol.
That’s true I’ve seen him do that too & it’s hella confusing that’s why I say they need some marriage counseling
Todd - Kandi has never been a traditional woman. Don't expect a non-traditional, aka BOSS woman, to be traditional.
I haven't seen many men hunting as of late. Most of these wives are working outside of the home, maintaining the home, and raising the kids all at the same time. No, we don't have time to make your own meal, your plate first, etc.
If any man wants that, he should provide for his entire family BY HIMSELF. Allow that wife/mom to stay home full time.
@Todd * That was the "order" God gave MEN. (God first, wife and children) She came from your rib. Her instructions are her children first and then her husband) As she should put her children first over her husband! Kandi is a wonderful wife and mother even with all of her gigs - she makes quality family time and mommy/children time.
I ❤ Kandi Yams and I'm so proud of that young lady on all levels.
#TeamKandi4Life
Kandi was right kids come first
I think he should have another guy on the podcast just to make it more diverse.
From Todd’s logic, to put your man 1st doesn’t mean your neglecting your kids.. But if you choose to put your kids 1st, that means you’re neglecting your husband ? Like huh, it can’t go 1 way & not the other.
Ohhh just heard Jodie say the SAMETHING , like literally 💯 . Granted I’m single & not a mother yet, but absolutely NOTHING will come before my children. NOTHING ! & Anyone or man who wants to come before kids is getting a side eye from me. #RedFlagTerritory FOR ME !
Cause we ALL know the blogs will take a clip of this and have y’all on the shaderoom with a red squiggly line😂😂
Hubby comes first
Why do I feel like this is the only way Todd can actually communicate with his way and or express his emotions to her, due to her career lifestyle selfishness & neglect. and this is his way of shedding light and documenting his unhappiness before he files for divorce. 😭 it’s really sad to watch. Todd is NOT happy at all and kandi does not care.
I agree. It's as if Todd is reaching out and using this platform to shed light on their marriage. He seems very unhappy.
Kandi seems standoffish and defensive. It's apparent her career and children are her main focus, and she can care less about his feelings. Plus, she knows she has a prenuptial agreement, so she is not worried about any divorce.
It doesn't even look like she has a general respect for the man in the way she responds to him. It's like she has a whatever attitude whenever a glimmer of light is shined towards her behaviors that he is unhappy with.
Not saying Todd is a saint because I'm sure he is full of imperfections as we all are. It's just Kandi is not as open about his issues as he is about vaguely sharing hers. We can read between the lines.
Hopefully, they seek counseling or something to work out their issues because this is sad.
I already peeped that. This is definitely his outlet
It isn't though. He can do all of this in a man cave, outside, anywhere. Kandi said that you can't leave. Well bring guys over, etc. Never talk about your problems in front of your wife's friends. They will try to fix it. By fix it, I mean sleep together to "make you happy". No. They'll start coming over when Kandi isn't home pretending to left something but has the beautiful friend to come with them in the house. Next thing, it's trouble.
Kids didn’t ask to be here. Both parents should put them first.
You're missing the point
@@reginamarnae5126 then what is the point?
Most dads in the household is not nurturing the children the mom is, and that takes time and energy
In my family, the men like to cook. They just enjoy it. It's about balance. There's no expectation to be 1st.
Husband is the head. The husband will make sure everybody good.
AWESOME!! We are the United Front that will make sure the kids are taken care of spiritually, emotionally n physically!! So, WE must be strong and keep it strong!!
Absolutely love Todd and Kandi!!! A healthy love has these conversations. They balance each other out.
Todd is tired of this marriage 😢
I’m frustrated FOR Todd😂😂😂 and I’m a woman!! My man gets a plate first and the kids get theirs immediately after. I was raised watching the women in my family feed the men first. It trains you on respecting order in your household. And another thing… Kandi.. give him some undivided attention 😂😘
I agree on this! Kandi is too much in her masculine energy at times with Todd.
I always like hearing the perspectives from both the man and woman. Y’all are like my older siblings and I’m not married. These conversations really captivate me
Todd you said that, DO THINGS IN ORDER AS THEY WERE CREATED AND INTENDED TO BE!!!
YEEEEEES!!
These video titles are so hilarious Todd😂 I hope y’all can figure things out in a Fair way for BOTH parties involved. Godspeed
Todd gotta be crying in the shower.. he be on here every week telling Kandi the same thing and she still done hear him
Kandi energy is off. I feel like the Tuckers should be in on going counseling if they aren't already. I want their relationship to work. I have noticed over the years Todd has made it clear he needs more personal time with his wife. He shouldn't feel like he's fighting to be valued in this relationship. Love this couple and pray they make 50yrs of marriage ❤ #BlackLove
Todd doesn’t know what he wants because he just said in the last podcast he needs his space. Todd is becoming overwhelmed being Kandi husband. He can’t dim her light 💡 it’s been on for years. Counseling is definitely needed I do agree with that. Her energy is definitely off especially when she has a husband that tells her she’s missing the point all the time like she can’t comprehend.
Amen
@@antinciafoster7979agree 💯. He's definitely trying to dim her light. I wonder if he's jealous of her?
TODD IS NOT VALUED BECAUSE HE HAS NO VALUW HE IS OIVING OF HER MONEY
Kids always first,you second 😂😆😂
This male Leo thing requires a different type of patience. 😂😂😂
Yes! I cannot with them! Uggh!! They need their egos stroke more often than most people its exhausting!!!!!
Brutha!!!
I'm married to a Leo. Rule #1 give them their attention!!!!! And they will give you the world ❤❤❤❤
lol 😂😂😂😂 like I’m exhausted for me they don’t hear what’s he saying at all
I agree Todd, put your wife first and the relationship will continue to prosper.❤❤❤
This is a good convo and hard at the same time. Especially in blended families.
It's not hard if you follow the scriptures.
It's really not women just want to make it hard because y'all want to do everything so if you want to do everything you don't need a man just do everything by yourself with your kids
@@cynthiawade3852 true, however getting to that understanding is hard so that no one feels less important (spouses and children)
I just don’t think it has to be one extreme to the other. Bringing up the blended family part is essential to this discussion.
@@tonna2cutethe problem is many of you feel like making your man a priority is neglecting your kids and it's not my husband works hard when he gets home I want to have a hot plate ready for him by the time he gets home the kids have been home for hours snacking on everything so their stomach isn't completely empty so waiting a few minutes to eat after I serve their dad ain't going to hurt a thang ok
Todd I actually feel you on this one. To be in the same room but be lonely. Ignored…. I get it.
That’s because most of us are single mothers and grew up with a single mother and it’s hard for me personally to think of putting a man first over your kids - But I agree with husband before kids when he’s the provider
I grew up in a two-parent home and my mother took care of us first and then my father and my father put us first before he did my mother. Children need to be cared for. Mothers and fathers can take care of themselves. Now in my house, my husband gets his place first. If I took the time to feed the kids first it would take too long. My husband could be done eating by the time I settle the kids down and get them to sit still and eat 😊
Thank you for speaking the truth
Kandi. Stop slow down he’s not attacking you. Let him talk. You asked him a question let him finished. Submitting to Todd doesn’t mean that you’re not a strong woman
Kandi is pissed
I thought it was me thinking that
Todd is spot on and usually always is as it relates to these dialogues. God, man, woman and then the children. That's what I was taught. It's not that hard, at all to understand. The "whataboutisms" and "what if's" are beside the point. That is the order of God. I love this entire team. It does seem however that the concepts that Todd presents as discussion topics appear to go over the heads of the other glam squd members (no shade).
Keep the discussions coming. Todd is a gem full of wisdom.
kandi listen to you man baby girl i love yall so much
Todd. Kandi told you and the world the other day that she don’t know what she’ll do without you. Jeez Louise. 😂
ALOHA Todd
Good content its good to see you doing your thing keep it coming 💯🍁🍂
The husband comes first....always!! Because once you n your spouse is solid, the united front will always make sure the kids are good in every way!! We must stop it!! Spouses always come first....in a step parent situation, that gets a lil tricky!! Ive been married to my husband for 18 yrs, and we have 2 kids together!
Babies first, once the kids can fend for themselves then husband
Todd is saying you can physically be present but not paying attention. For example: You can talk to your mate and their mind could be somewhere else (no phone) so they are giving short responses to acknowledge BUT are not actively listening. Each couple knows their spouse and when they are present. Great talk! I have never commented this much in my life…
My husband puts the children and his family before me. I come last. I’m tired of it.
This is a healthy conversation. I agree with Todd but I understand Kandi. We get upset when people don’t do things the way we would do it. No love be lost but everyone is different and the way one may show love the other might. You gotta understand each other love languages.
I love this conversation. It's really about balance. Todd is right as for the order but when the kids are small, they can't do things for themselves. We as mothers/wives have to balance the family. As the kids become more independent we MUST rebalance to be sure the our man/husband knows he is our king!
The problem is because their have been so many single mothers out in the world,once women marry they have to learn to put their spouses first because you have been runing a single home.
You definitely need to add another man’s perspective to these videos. Because Todd be making a lot of sense and it seems like they simply don’t be understanding or wanting to understand his points.
I LOVE JODIE! “I mean not perfect. It’s like a step down underneath perfect. Whatever that is!” 😂😂😂😂
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 right!!!! I loved that.
Todd, I would love to see you interview the husbands of housewives on Atlanta & other housewives shows, but not with the squad!
This was good. Great perspectives on both sides. Can’t wait for part 2 😂👍🏽
listening to this … I see why i’m not married.
All the ladies missed Todds point about the phone 😂😂😂😂 Ive actually been in a relationship where he was there but I minds well could've been alone because after a while his attention for me was totally gone and most women knows what that feels like because usually when that happens they are cheating and we can feel their attention leave and go to someone else. It's the same thing as if a dude starts off calling you everyday at a certain time or a number of times and then Boom goes missing for 2 days after getting you used to a talking pattern you're gonna feel that loss of attention and these examples have Nothing to do with a phone
My mom always made my dad’s plate first and then the children. Did the same for my kid’s father. But I am 61 yrs old, could be different now.
You mom did the wrong thing the kids come first
My grandma always made my grandpa plate first as well
@@blushbaby5278 My mom did not do the wrong thing, her and my dad always took care of us too.
Mine as well
Todd has a great point. This is a tough topic. Me personally, I put the kids before it all. Now, Jody when they grown…. They grown! I’ll always have their back but when they are grown my spouse will definitely be priority. I don’t know…
These topics and the actual discussions that I’ve seen may be an indicator of a need for couples counseling.
I’m concerned. I be watching like 🫠 I usually go up for us ladies, but these ones don’t listen too well. At all.
Absolutely
Yesss get more guys!!! We need more guys and their perspectives.
Todd is talking about topics that he is dealing with in his marriage. And he want other people's perspective
15:50 Topic: Who's first spouse or children ? Todd no matter if she fixes the children plate then yours or Todd's plate then the children's plates, her plate will always be last. How inconsiderate to not understand she's putting everyone before herself and that is love.
wishing you guys many+ years of marriage.
Lolo Todd, said he gonna work out and take some vitamins😅😅😅 too funny
Todd is always complaining about Kandi in every damn video. I don’t know how she deals with that shit.
Yes, every topic he talks about is what he is going through with his marriage
Todd, also let my girl Kandi know what she DOES get right! Needs a balance of gratitude and criticism.
Yes I understand what you say we can be in a room and still be not there
The husband should be OK of the kids having their plates first.
These convos be hard to watch lol Todd be coming strong 💪🏾
I'm loving these topics! Jodi, you and your husband need counseling- Quickly!!! LMAO!!! IJS!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
#Win... What TT is saying is how he feels KB please listen to your man is pouring out his feelings just listen because y'all are power couple and I love y'all love just listen to your man
I was talking to a pastor before I got married and was told there are times a man relinquish some of those first to the children so that they can be out of the way. Once the children are taken care of it gives the wife & husband there own quality time
Todd want things his way. that would drive me nuts
He is a jealous little troll
1:23 Jodi you make me laugh so much. haha. You're my gurl. 🤣
I think this concept was for the men that went out and worked hard and the wives were homemakers. I do agree that we have to take care of our men however, I’m going to prioritize what needs to be prioritized lol
Everybody always go before me.
Lmfaooo the expressions at 28:39 😂😂😂😂
Todd, were you being petty when Kandi asked you to ride in the Sprinter with her after the Beyoncé concert? You said you were gonna ride in another Sprinter so that you could continue a conversation you were having with some of the guys. You put a conversation over your wife. You did not put her first.
Wow😮great point
Todd's explanation makes sense if we were living off the land.
😂😂
lol 😂
Crazy how these are the same ladies that want their men around them all the time from the last episode, yet the don’t believe in putting their men first.
Great point! It almost hurt them to say they put their husband first, or that they don’t at all. Crazy.
Right
Leo needs so much attention! They don't care how you feel at the moment! My daughter is a Leo! She wears her feelings on her sleeves! Todd is cry baby 😭!
Todd’s main perspective is that there is a difference between actively listening and passively listening. If you are physically there and you are passively listening, it’s as if you are not physically there.
Love this conversations ,,Kandi so silent today want to hear u more
Todd I'm with you When there are restrictions in any relationship it causes problems. To hear those ladies say we gotta do EVERYTHING TOGETHER sheesh that's enough for me to NOT wanna be around you. Seems Todd has no support but listen if this is gaslighting yall did an excellent job p.s. KANDI GOTTA LISTEN because it is a part of effective communication. Good luck Todd Kandi would get on my last nerve 😮🤔
Todd is a favorite for sure but, Kandi is the person that I love more than anyone (outside of my family) in this world.
She has so much LOVE, balance, and HIGH ENERGY VIBRATIONS!
💚💚💚💜💜💜🪶
I love ❤️ Kandi too she has a great heart 💜
Todd gettin on my nerves with that “can you listen to what I’m saying?”
He don’t listen.
And the "time out".
If mom and dad are good then the kids are good
God first, then husband, then wife, then your children ❤❤❤❤
Wooohhhh Todd is on it! #TheRightOrder ‼️
A boyfriend or girlfriend should never ever come before your kids under any circumstances.
I totally agree Tae! With being a reciprocator 👍🏽
I agree with Todd on this for sure and it was frustrating that they ladies seemed to not get this one or just didn't want too lol we feel ya Todd! You aint wrong 🤣❤
In my OPINION, Todd usually has a lot of good points and starts off strong.. but he often gets lost by giving contradictory statements/responses/actions before landing his point. (i.e. generalizing all women/men but not wanting to be generalized himself, cutting people off when speaking but not wanting anyone to cut him off, etc.)
But I also feel like Kandi and Jodi will either purposely miss the point he’s trying to make or they’ll take what he’s saying to the heart when he’s just trying to have open dialogue.
We know y'all good! I love the glam squad convos. I don't have kids so I don't think I can chime in.
Hey Todd and the Glam Squad… and Kandi👋🏾
The dad always get the big piece of chicken. Even if you have to put it to the side for later. Dad might eat steak, while the kids eat burgers.
Wow if you feel like its husband over kids PLEASE TELL YOUR KIDS THAT AND SEE WHAT THEY SAY. Thats why theres so many wonky kids and young adults outside right now. Why would you put a man before your child? That you grew out of your womb? This is crazy
Todd is a Leo and Kandi is a Taurus very compatible.
Very incompatible actually!
IMMA TAURUS CANT STAND LEO THEYRE VERY JEALOUS HEARTED AND I PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACE