I would like to say this... here... spouses that have been betrayed may have themselves opened the doors thru addictions, porn, rejection, hidden unhealed wounds causing bitterness, anger, etc... seems everybody is jumping up and down to claim responsibility for success in marriage, but failure in a marriage is also a joint venture... imho...
Thankyou for descibing exactly what I have experienced. I can only say how shocked and dissapointed I have been when my own family rejected me when I needed them the absoulute most. Thank God for God, Amen.
*Everytime I'm hurt or my anxiety attacks, I remember David and read book of Psalms. He was a depressed man, but remained steadfast in God* . Thank you Yahuah! ♥️🙏😭
Beloved sisters in Christ, We must understand that, it is because of our faith and godliness, we as woman go through this battle. The enemy saw an open door in your spouse, to crush your faith. Even though we love our husbands, they can not become our God. My heart goes out to those who reconciliation may never happen, know it's not Gods will. May His Spirit give u strenght to endure and overcome, with Him u surely will. He loves u.
Such a powerful testimony. So many women have gone through this and recovered. You are indeed a blessing. This is what I don't understand Lisa. How could the new woman ever trust someone who betrayed the wife?
At 12:08 it reminds me of a day I was at Mass and in the homily it was about moving forward from hurt and it sent me in a tailspin. I reached out to someone later that evening and he said don't give someone else the keys to your car. Easier said then done. I haven't been able to do that well at all. But with these topics and therapy it feels more and more possible.
Beautiful and true. God's love is powerful. He can change hearts and He teaches us to love like He loves each and every one of us, we are all His creation, fearfully and wonderfully made by our loving Heavenly Father. So pleased to have come across your channel at this very time. The Lord knows. Thank You Jesus.
Thank you for this! I just had a major breakthrough in a season where my world was turned upside down by my husband. God is so good! Thank you Lysa for being His willing vessel !! 🧡
Thank you. For the last 3 years the realationship with my oldest adult child is estranged due to a choice to live transgender. Talk about shattered when everything you know in regards to relating to the person who made you a mom for the 1st time is gone. They want to be related to differently and in a way that is against my Christian core belief system. I live in chronic sadness. Your words encouraged me. Thank you. While our family loves this child and we fight to love them well and maintain relationship. This is not the way I thought mothering this adult child would look like. It's hard and devastating and is a chronic long ongoing heartbreak, that has changed our family's entire dynamic. It also has taught me a lot about how MY disobedience breaks God's heart and the seriousness of sin.
We're glad this video was helpful for you, Elizabeth. If you'd like to process some of Lysa's action steps from this video, you can use this free download in your quiet time this week: proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2020/09/18/5-healing-perspectives-you-need-for-your-hurt-or-heartbreak
Elizabeth, that sounds incredibly difficult-and something NO parent would be prepared to handle. I’m so sorry this happened. Though loved anyway, it sounds like your child has estranged themselves from the family, and I’m so sorry. I can imagine how hard it is relating to your child now. Underneath all the transformation, he/she is still the same person who made you a mother. All the happy memories, the laughs, ABC songs, stories read together and every scrape doctored is all still there. ❤️ The best way we can show Christ to others is with unconditional love, like you’re doing. As hard as this has been for you, I can imagine it’s been many times harder on your child. Choosing transgender is extremely difficult. Though your child knows you don’t approve, and that’s okay, whether admitted or not, your unconditional love for him/her is probably more important than ever-even if they pretend to not care. It’s understandable that you’re feeling lots of emotions about this that are hard to process and hurtful. God says if we ask for a new heart, He’ll give us one! I pray He gives you a new heart that will enable you to heal and to let go. God loves your child so very much. All you can do is love your child unconditionally and pray-the rest is up to God. I’m so sorry for what your family is going through. I’m sure there are online support groups for other parents going through this. I urge you to find them if you haven’t yet. You’re not alone. 🤗 I pray strength, comfort and peace for y’all. 🙏🏻❤️
Elizabeth Campbell, many who are transgender, non-binary, etc have been sexually abused in their past. I know people who never told their parents of the abuse. Whether is was a family member, neighbor, camp counselor, pastor... MANY have been violated. I would encourage you to pray for truth to me uncovered. Nothing ever EVER heals in the dark.
See, THAT'S the part that Really TICKS ME OFF, Most of all, when I Know that they WILLINGLY listened to the enemy and carried out his plans. Especially from "Believers" who KNOW Better, Know that ALL negative thoughts and their accompanying plans for action ALL come from the enemy and make the CHOICE to listen or commit an evil/negative act against me or Anyone else!!!! That's the part that made it hard because now it makes it feel more "intentional" instead of an accidental hurt or a hurtful feeling or result due to a personal choice made with good intentions, but maybe just not completely thought out properly.
So true dear one! I’m so hurt and angry from my husband’s constant affairs during our 18 yr marriage and as a Christian people in the church use free will to sin against us. But they allowed themselves to be a part of the devils plan to destroy relationships and people. I’m praying
Lisa’s testimony really hits home with my life. It is so hard after you are hurt so many times and don’t know how to forgive. Sometime I can forgive but I can’t forget. The enemy is so strong. Lisa’s words are very inspirational to me. Thank the Lord for Lisa!
Dear Penny to forgive doesn't mean that we necessarily will forget, we are humans, we don't forget things that have hurt is easily. What we should aim for is being able to remember those things or people without them hurting our hearts anymore. Forgiving is a usually a long process and God knows it's hard for us, but let's stick to Him and keep on asking Him to give us the grace and the power to forgive those who have hurt us, just as He forgives us every day our trespasses. ❤
Thank you for this, my narcissist ex husband hurt me and my family soooo much I don't ever think I can forgive, he doesn't even look for it he sooooo busy with his next woman but he getting older, I do believe that as I pass it on to God and leave it in his hsnds, do believe his behaviour stems from childhood trauma and do feel sorry for him every now and again but if he crosses my path all these years later he will still put me down so don't leave myself open, enjoyed this video gave me PEACE.
So true its something that i have learn through my life every time I get hurt it just come naturally now to love that person and forgive yet again we have to experience the love for myself before I can love others and I always remember that verse of Ephesian that its not against flesh and blood that I am fighting but against the devil himself
I will be 58 years old this June. I have had much trauma. God avenging me has always come late. I want so desperately to believe these words but I do not see it in my life such thus far. People who have harmed me have been allowed to live out their days and then just simply die. I have not seen. I have not seen vindication if we believe in hell then I'm supposed to be satisfied that their spending an eternity there I am struggling with this concept. I need an apology, I need recognition that they were wrong. I'm in a situation now where I am watching someone who has harmed me tremendously now do the same to my child and because she has no physical wounds only emotional ones our legal system turns a blind eye to it. And God allows it to continue I don't understand
I thank you Father for this beautiful advice and help from the sister ❤😢 God bless you more in all that you do and I pray against all the enemy’s work against us , against our family, against our marriage, against our children. We send back the enemy’s evil schemes to where it belongs,to the ABYSS in the mighty name of Jesus ❤❤❤
Perfect timing as a 'friend' just sent some very hurtful words resulting from a divorce 6 years ago. Wow - really? I (thought) I was healed but what she said really hit me hard and I feel like I've just been punched with a setback. Thank you for providing your kind words. Going to get the printable resource now. I have forgiven my ex but apparently I have more people to forgive or ask forgiveness from.
Lisa thank you for sharing your TRUTH, your personal story because I have felt this say hurt. This kind of ministry is so necessary because the enemy will attack the children of the LORD wherever he can, use anyone that will allow him too. "The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."
Thank you. I prayed about this, this morning. I have been praying for a heart of compassion and forgiveness. God is using this video to open my eyes and change my perspective. ....🙏
Thanks for sharing with us, Diana. If you'd like to process this video in your quiet time, you can use Lysa's free resource here: proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2020/09/18/5-healing-perspectives-you-need-for-your-hurt-or-heartbreak
Lysa I appreciate God for placing your testimony in my life as I am in a moment of heartbreak & trauma... I truly believe that God made me pick up your book & watch your teachings to guide me through this.
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Debora Gallo. Thank you for these 3 principles and encouragement. Having a hard time with forgiving the father of my children and hurting myself in the process. I need constant reminders.
We're thankful these principles were helpful, Debora. If you'd like to process what you learned in this video further, you can download Lysa's free resource here: proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2020/09/18/5-healing-perspectives-you-need-for-your-hurt-or-heartbreak
Thank you, Lysa! Very similar to my story and I am comforted by your sharing. I want to praise God for leading me through the difficult journey and I am healed now. The Bible verse that I cling on was Rom8:28.
I been hurt all of my life with different stuff through out my life .I have a hard time forgiving people all the time.I can not wait for this study to come out .Love all of your books.They have helped me alot.Thank You Lysa.
I am a 5 month, New subscriber. I found this channel while searching for help dealing with the pain of a recent Divorce. I was married for 35 yrs when my now ex-husband filed for divorce. He made me believe his decision was motivated because he was emotionally drained; due to me taking care of my Alzheimer's Mother. He Claimed he loved me & that there was nobody else. When it was all said & done he had been having multiple affairs & as our divorce papers where being finalized , he moved in with a woman he met on line. Our divorce was final at the end of February, 4 months ago. It has been a night mare! I have been on a Rollercoaster of emotions, pain, anger, bitterness......etc. I know GOD is by my side, but there are times, when I cannot hear him or feel him around me. Is this normal? I feel alone, forgotten, disposed of...
Wow wow wow ...so many insights and wisdom ...God is using your suffering for His good ...my story and your story are quite similar ...with one small difference ...your husband admits to his infidelity ...and has humbled himself before God ..mine won’t and therefore no truth or apology ..but I’m still standing for my marriage because I love God ,I love my family ...and I only answer for my actions ..no one else’s ..but I gotta tell you ...it’s HARD ...please pray for me ...I hear when you say somedays it’s easy and then some days it’s insurmountable ..but the only truth is God never changes ..I keep praying for truth and trust in my marriage ...I believe the evil one is holding me hostage with this not God ..so everyday I put on God’s armour and continue on my on my path holding God’s hand ..trusting only God and giving my husband to Him everyday ..
We're so sorry to hear about your story and are believing with you for restoration. If you'd like a free resource to help you walk through your healing journey, you can access Lysa's download here: proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2020/09/18/5-healing-perspectives-you-need-for-your-hurt-or-heartbreak
Lysa, I'm so sorry we share the same story. I'm so sorry many women share our story. I am trying to figure out where God wants me in the midst of this battle, and to trust Him daily for His protection, healing and provision. It doesn't mean I'm not scared. I am. But I want my joy back, and THAT is in Christ alone.
Thank you Lisa. I stumbled across your teachings a few months ago. It has been a great encouragement and inspiration to be able to navigate through the hurt, pain and emotional trauma. May God continue to bless your ministry in abundance. 🙏🙏
In the midst of my pain I could see that no amount of payback would erase, or do away with my pain. So revenge was out of the solution for my own healing. What I see is that there is no amount of payback, no amount of sorry's could heal but Jesus! When God told us revenge is His alone, He meant it. It was not something He gave mankind, although it may feel good in small moments to see the other suffer. He has given my heart freedom from wanting revenge but still a work in progress with healing.
Lysa, thank you. You are beautiful! I very much appreciate you, as I’ve had a long road of destruction from a military career full of abuses after coming forward to report issues of sexual misconduct. Still on the mend, and have more to accomplish! God has been faithful. Your message, and ministry means a lot to me. God bless 💜, especially the part about the Purple Heart. You are very dear to God’s heart. This I am certain of.
Thank you Lysa and Art for opening up and sharing with us this sensitive and private trial. I needed the practical advice on how to work through heartbreaks since it’s often missed in churches. May God strengthen your marriage as you continue to heal. 💖
The collection of hurt that just keeps repeating itself. At this point I do not think I am ready to forgive, definitely not ready to forget. In fact I feel like I need to keep reminding myself of all the past times things have been done behind my back and that it WILL happen again, to better prepare myself for when it does happen so that hopefully the anger and hurt won't be so bad. Sounds crazy but that is how I feel. I know that like you said revenge will just make me the bad guy and not make me feel better. I do believe that revenge would cost me more and I did need to hear that. Listening to this has made me decide revenge is not the answer and I thank you for that. I hear the versus and I understand the meaning. But I guess I am not a good enough person to act on those versus. I am not ready to let this go I just feel like I need to protect myself by not forgetting so I will be better prepared when it happens the next time.
Thank you Lisa. When I read your book It’s not supposed to be this way I put the book down happy that your marriage survived but still so dismayed that my own marriage had not survived and I was STUCK in a cycle of trying to forget and not getting that true PEACE that comes from real forgiveness. THIS video has been a healing balm on my hurting heart! ❤️ I want to read your book in the new year and continue this journey of healing!
Thank you for being the real deal....honesty about your journey....it helps me so much. I'm two years into separation and hold onto God's promise He will bring my husband back to Himself even though in the natural every kind of addiction rages in his life and his love towards me looks dead..... God can do miracles even if it's hard to imagine
Thank you so much for sharing! I've been listening to your videos to help me overcome some build ups of being mistreated. It has helped me to realize that I am not crazy and that these emotions are valid. And that I can forgive and move on with my life. ❤
Thank You for so lovingly sharing in such a god honouring, transparent way. Also for showing that vulnerability is not only needed and Okay, but it takes tremendous courage and genuine love for others to do so. This is so helpful! Blessings to you! ♥️🤗♥️
My heart is so broken and I feel so far from God. 19 year cancer filled marriage with a lot of ignoring and saying mean things to me then to find a man who said he loved the Lord but was a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Lies and the horrible things he called me a long with the need for alcohol more than me. Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde. Feeling worthless.
I am so blessed for this to have come up as a suggested video. I am going through a very painful experience that has ended my relationship and unfortunately for my safety, reconciliation is not attainable. Thank you so much for sharing about compassion. I couldnt understand why I was feeling it for my aggressor and now I understand that it's for my healing journey and for his as well. You're right about the healing journey being a roller coaster. I wanted to thank you Lysa for your bravery in sharing your personal story, but others are correct your testimony will lead others on the path of righteousness that God wants us follow and exercise in our own lives. Blessings of joy, peace, love and abundant health to you and your family always 💙🥰🤗
We want heaven...now!...and we want others to provide it. The desire in our souls is legitimate but we'll simply have to wait. If not we'll put our hope in idols and they will betray us.
Thank you sister, I just finished reading your book it's not suppose to be this way. It was a blessing to be and a help in this valley I'm in. Thank you for your story and testimony and for being a blessing
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Lysa, it is important to have distinction, means to realize when it possible to reconcile or when it is absolutely necessary to stay away or even llitraly run away from abusers. Please do not guide people wrong by saying, reconsiliation is part of forgiving. That is wrong and you should make this clear. Please do not guide people into victimhood.
I hear u about number 2 having compassion for the person. I do try, it’s so hard when I have forgiven and it just happens again and again but this time the result it’s the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I would say place boundaries but how do u do that in a marriage. I need prayer please.
My dear I can Introduce you to the same powerful Relationships Restorer and healer who helped me got back my ex back few ago, he can manifest your ex back real quick
I have successfully been able to use the tactics Lisa’s provides for forgiving the unforgivable. However, there is one topic I haven’t been able to get past in forgiveness. There was a group of men who unknown to me at the time drugged me by the help of who I thought was a dear Christian friend. There intent was to gang rape me and kill me. God intervened and saved my life. I was still raped, but I am alive. They were not caught. They did go one to do this to others. My friend who was involved in the church left quickly and moved for “other reasons”. Somehow I have been able to begin healing from the deep betrayal from whom I thought was a friend because I was so close to her I new the hurt she had endured growing up. However these men, who have continued in human trafficking, and worse continue to victimize others. I can’t see them as a child, I can and do see Satan and his demons at play in all this. However, forgiveness has been undone. I am unsure how to get there. I love the Lord. I want His will. I want Him to be glorified. I am unsure of my steps in this process even though it’s been years since that time. I stuffed it and moved on with my life. The Lord has just been recovering memories both consciously and unconsciously previously forgotten.
How to draw the line between showing compassion to the person who hurt you and finding excuses for their behaviour? For example, my husband went through abusive childhood, how can I avoid making this as an excuse for his abusive behaviour while at the same time showing compassion, forgiving him & moving on?
Lisa your testimony has been a lifeline for millions of betrayed spouses. THANK YOU 🙏🏽
Still is my lifeline.
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Mine too.
Amen!
I would like to say this... here... spouses that have been betrayed may have themselves opened the doors thru addictions, porn, rejection, hidden unhealed wounds causing bitterness, anger, etc... seems everybody is jumping up and down to claim responsibility for success in marriage, but failure in a marriage is also a joint venture... imho...
Thankyou for descibing exactly what I have experienced. I can only say how shocked and dissapointed I have been when my own family rejected me when I needed them the absoulute most. Thank God for God, Amen.
*Everytime I'm hurt or my anxiety attacks, I remember David and read book of Psalms. He was a depressed man, but remained steadfast in God* . Thank you Yahuah! ♥️🙏😭
Reading the Psalms is what stopped me from having pretty much weekly panic attacks!
I hope she finds someone that loves her. I hope the Lord looks upon her and gives a husband. A man of God. A man of prayer.
POWERFUL!!! I praise God for your awsome ministry.
Thanks for watching!
Beloved sisters in Christ, We must understand that, it is because of our faith and godliness, we as woman go through this battle. The enemy saw an open door in your spouse, to crush your faith. Even though we love our husbands, they can not become our God. My heart goes out to those who reconciliation may never happen, know it's not Gods will. May His Spirit give u strenght to endure and overcome, with Him u surely will. He loves u.
God truly led me to your ministry. My heart has been decimated, & just when I thought all hope was lost, He showed me you.
Thought something is wrong with me for not being healed already. Thank you very much 🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
Me also.
Such a powerful testimony. So many women have gone through this and recovered. You are indeed a blessing. This is what I don't understand Lisa. How could the new woman ever trust someone who betrayed the wife?
She doesn’t.
At 12:08 it reminds me of a day I was at Mass and in the homily it was about moving forward from hurt and it sent me in a tailspin. I reached out to someone later that evening and he said don't give someone else the keys to your car. Easier said then done. I haven't been able to do that well at all. But with these topics and therapy it feels more and more possible.
Lysa - Thank you for loving the Lord. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Thank you for your incredible teaching always.
We're glad this was helpful for you, Brenda!
I have listened to his at least 5 times. This messae is so powerful. Thank you! May God continiue to use your life and bless you❤
Thank you for watching, friend!
‘There is nothing more powerful than living what God’s word teaches ‘
Beautiful and true. God's love is powerful. He can change hearts and He teaches us to love like He loves each and every one of us, we are all His creation, fearfully and wonderfully made by our loving Heavenly Father.
So pleased to have come across your channel at this very time. The Lord knows. Thank You Jesus.
Thank you for this! I just had a major breakthrough in a season where my world was turned upside down by my husband. God is so good! Thank you Lysa for being His willing vessel !! 🧡
Thanks for watching!
Thank you. For the last 3 years the realationship with my oldest adult child is estranged due to a choice to live transgender. Talk about shattered when everything you know in regards to relating to the person who made you a mom for the 1st time is gone. They want to be related to differently and in a way that is against my Christian core belief system. I live in chronic sadness. Your words encouraged me. Thank you. While our family loves this child and we fight to love them well and maintain relationship. This is not the way I thought mothering this adult child would look like. It's hard and devastating and is a chronic long ongoing heartbreak, that has changed our family's entire dynamic. It also has taught me a lot about how MY disobedience breaks God's heart and the seriousness of sin.
We're glad this video was helpful for you, Elizabeth. If you'd like to process some of Lysa's action steps from this video, you can use this free download in your quiet time this week: proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2020/09/18/5-healing-perspectives-you-need-for-your-hurt-or-heartbreak
Elizabeth, that sounds incredibly difficult-and something NO parent would be prepared to handle. I’m so sorry this happened.
Though loved anyway, it sounds like your child has estranged themselves from the family, and I’m so sorry. I can imagine how hard it is relating to your child now. Underneath all the transformation, he/she is still the same person who made you a mother. All the happy memories, the laughs, ABC songs, stories read together and every scrape doctored is all still there. ❤️
The best way we can show Christ to others is with unconditional love, like you’re doing. As hard as this has been for you, I can imagine it’s been many times harder on your child. Choosing transgender is extremely difficult.
Though your child knows you don’t approve, and that’s okay, whether admitted or not, your unconditional love for him/her is probably more important than ever-even if they pretend to not care.
It’s understandable that you’re feeling lots of emotions about this that are hard to process and hurtful. God says if we ask for a new heart, He’ll give us one! I pray He gives you a new heart that will enable you to heal and to let go. God loves your child so very much. All you can do is love your child unconditionally and pray-the rest is up to God.
I’m so sorry for what your family is going through. I’m sure there are online support groups for other parents going through this. I urge you to find them if you haven’t yet. You’re not alone. 🤗
I pray strength, comfort and peace for y’all. 🙏🏻❤️
I’m sorry to hear this. Sometimes it happens because of generational curses , demons.
Elizabeth Campbell, many who are transgender, non-binary, etc have been sexually abused in their past. I know people who never told their parents of the abuse. Whether is was a family member, neighbor, camp counselor, pastor... MANY have been violated. I would encourage you to pray for truth to me uncovered. Nothing ever EVER heals in the dark.
‘Be’ not ‘me’
See, THAT'S the part that Really TICKS ME OFF, Most of all, when I Know that they WILLINGLY listened to the enemy and carried out his plans. Especially from "Believers" who KNOW Better, Know that ALL negative thoughts and their accompanying plans for action ALL come from the enemy and make the CHOICE to listen or commit an evil/negative act against me or Anyone else!!!! That's the part that made it hard because now it makes it feel more "intentional" instead of an accidental hurt or a hurtful feeling or result due to a personal choice made with good intentions, but maybe just not completely thought out properly.
So true dear one! I’m so hurt and angry from my husband’s constant affairs during our 18 yr marriage and as a Christian people in the church use free will to sin against us. But they allowed themselves to be a part of the devils plan to destroy relationships and people. I’m praying
Thank you, good to remember that the one who hurts us, he is in pain ! Shalom !
Everyday I replay it. For 5 straight years. I pray everyday🙏🏼
Thank you for doing this. It’s given me perspective during this painful time I’m going through ❤️🙏
Lisa’s testimony really hits home with my life. It is so hard after you are hurt so many times and don’t know how to forgive. Sometime I can forgive but I can’t forget. The enemy is so strong. Lisa’s words are very inspirational to me. Thank the Lord for Lisa!
Hey my friend
Dear Penny to forgive doesn't mean that we necessarily will forget, we are humans, we don't forget things that have hurt is easily. What we should aim for is being able to remember those things or people without them hurting our hearts anymore.
Forgiving is a usually a long process and God knows it's hard for us, but let's stick to Him and keep on asking Him to give us the grace and the power to forgive those who have hurt us, just as He forgives us every day our trespasses. ❤
Thank you for this, my narcissist ex husband hurt me and my family soooo much I don't ever think I can forgive, he doesn't even look for it he sooooo busy with his next woman but he getting older, I do believe that as I pass it on to God and leave it in his hsnds, do believe his behaviour stems from childhood trauma and do feel sorry for him every now and again but if he crosses my path all these years later he will still put me down so don't leave myself open, enjoyed this video gave me PEACE.
This is very helpful. We all have hurts to deal with. Thank you for your work, openness and helping us all to heal and move forward Lisa!!
I love this so much. It is spot on❤
So true its something that i have learn through my life every time I get hurt it just come naturally now to love that person and forgive yet again we have to experience the love for myself before I can love others and I always remember that verse of Ephesian that its not against flesh and blood that I am fighting but against the devil himself
I will be 58 years old this June. I have had much trauma. God avenging me has always come late. I want so desperately to believe these words but I do not see it in my life such thus far. People who have harmed me have been allowed to live out their days and then just simply die. I have not seen. I have not seen vindication if we believe in hell then I'm supposed to be satisfied that their spending an eternity there I am struggling with this concept. I need an apology, I need recognition that they were wrong. I'm in a situation now where I am watching someone who has harmed me tremendously now do the same to my child and because she has no physical wounds only emotional ones our legal system turns a blind eye to it. And God allows it to continue I don't understand
I thank you Father for this beautiful advice and help from the sister ❤😢 God bless you more in all that you do and I pray against all the enemy’s work against us , against our family, against our marriage, against our children. We send back the enemy’s evil schemes to where it belongs,to the ABYSS in the mighty name of Jesus ❤❤❤
I have been working on having more grace on myself , others who have hurt me , and also grace for people who don’t show grace to others .
We're glad this video was helpful, Rebecca!
I appreciate your down to earth, realistic sharing of life's complexity and feelings of isolation even as we are receiving help from the Lord.
Perfect timing as a 'friend' just sent some very hurtful words resulting from a divorce 6 years ago. Wow - really? I (thought) I was healed but what she said really hit me hard and I feel like I've just been punched with a setback. Thank you for providing your kind words. Going to get the printable resource now. I have forgiven my ex but apparently I have more people to forgive or ask forgiveness from.
We're glad this was helpful for you!
Hey my friend
Not a friend
Lisa thank you for sharing your TRUTH, your personal story because I have felt this say hurt. This kind of ministry is so necessary because the enemy will attack the children of the LORD wherever he can, use anyone that will allow him too.
"The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."
We're glad this video was helpful for you, friend!
This is what I need to hear, I need to heal and rethink how I talk to myself and to others. Thank you
Thank you. I prayed about this, this morning. I have been praying for a heart of compassion and forgiveness. God is using this video to open my eyes and change my perspective. ....🙏
Thanks for sharing with us, Diana. If you'd like to process this video in your quiet time, you can use Lysa's free resource here: proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2020/09/18/5-healing-perspectives-you-need-for-your-hurt-or-heartbreak
Lysa I appreciate God for placing your testimony in my life as I am in a moment of heartbreak & trauma... I truly believe that God made me pick up your book & watch your teachings to guide me through this.
Thank you so much for this encouraging and caring message. I really appreciate the work God is doing through you.
Thank you Lysa for the teaching. It it helping me get through my trauma. Lots of love
That description of the healing process with triggers, setbacks, things getting worse, etc. Thank you.
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Debora Gallo. Thank you for these 3 principles and encouragement. Having a hard time with forgiving the father of my children and hurting myself in the process. I need constant reminders.
We're thankful these principles were helpful, Debora. If you'd like to process what you learned in this video further, you can download Lysa's free resource here: proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2020/09/18/5-healing-perspectives-you-need-for-your-hurt-or-heartbreak
I'm so thankful for you!
Thank you for watching, Lisa!
I thank God for being able to hear this.
I feel blessed while listening to you.
I am Glad I connect with you.
Thank you, Lysa! Very similar to my story and I am comforted by your sharing. I want to praise God for leading me through the difficult journey and I am healed now. The Bible verse that I cling on was Rom8:28.
I been hurt all of my life with different stuff through out my life .I have a hard time forgiving people all the time.I can not wait for this study to come out .Love all of your books.They have helped me alot.Thank You Lysa.
We're glad this video was helpful, Stacey!
I am a 5 month, New subscriber. I found this channel while searching for help dealing with the pain of a recent Divorce. I was married for 35 yrs when my now ex-husband filed for divorce. He made me believe his decision was motivated because he was emotionally drained; due to me taking care of my Alzheimer's Mother. He Claimed he loved me & that there was nobody else. When it was all said & done he had been having multiple affairs & as our divorce papers where being finalized , he moved in with a woman he met on line. Our divorce was final at the end of February, 4 months ago. It has been a night mare! I have been on a Rollercoaster of emotions, pain, anger, bitterness......etc. I know GOD is by my side, but there are times, when I cannot hear him or feel him around me. Is this normal? I feel alone, forgotten, disposed of...
Great God bless
Thank you for watching!
Thank you I'm a work in progress
Wow wow wow ...so many insights and wisdom ...God is using your suffering for His good ...my story and your story are quite similar ...with one small difference ...your husband admits to his infidelity ...and has humbled himself before God ..mine won’t and therefore no truth or apology ..but I’m still standing for my marriage because I love God ,I love my family ...and I only answer for my actions ..no one else’s ..but I gotta tell you ...it’s HARD ...please pray for me ...I hear when you say somedays it’s easy and then some days it’s insurmountable ..but the only truth is God never changes ..I keep praying for truth and trust in my marriage ...I believe the evil one is holding me hostage with this not God ..so everyday I put on God’s armour and continue on my on my path holding God’s hand ..trusting only God and giving my husband to Him everyday ..
We're so sorry to hear about your story and are believing with you for restoration. If you'd like a free resource to help you walk through your healing journey, you can access Lysa's download here: proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2020/09/18/5-healing-perspectives-you-need-for-your-hurt-or-heartbreak
Lysa, I'm so sorry we share the same story. I'm so sorry many women share our story. I am trying to figure out where God wants me in the midst of this battle, and to trust Him daily for His protection, healing and provision. It doesn't mean I'm not scared. I am. But I want my joy back, and THAT is in Christ alone.
Thank you for sharing part of your story, friend. We're praying for you!
INCREDIBLE MESSAGE!!!!❤
Thank you Lisa. I stumbled across your teachings a few months ago. It has been a great encouragement and inspiration to be able to navigate through the hurt, pain and emotional trauma. May God continue to bless your ministry in abundance. 🙏🙏
In the midst of my pain I could see that no amount of payback would erase, or do away with my pain. So revenge was out of the solution for my own healing. What I see is that there is no amount of payback, no amount of sorry's could heal but Jesus! When God told us revenge is His alone, He meant it. It was not something He gave mankind, although it may feel good in small moments to see the other suffer. He has given my heart freedom from wanting revenge but still a work in progress with healing.
Lysa, thank you. You are beautiful! I very much appreciate you, as I’ve had a long road of destruction from a military career full of abuses after coming forward to report issues of sexual misconduct. Still on the mend, and have more to accomplish! God has been faithful. Your message, and ministry means a lot to me. God bless 💜, especially the part about the Purple Heart. You are very dear to God’s heart. This I am certain of.
yes, thank you Lysa for encouraging me to forgive, I know its not him, but the enemy,but I continue to seek God face all the time,
This is one of the best talks I have ever listened to
Amen! I have no human enemies. People are not demons and demon's are not people. Demon's are the true enemy
Thank you Lysa and Art for opening up and sharing with us this sensitive and private trial. I needed the practical advice on how to work through heartbreaks since it’s often missed in churches. May God strengthen your marriage as you continue to heal. 💖
The collection of hurt that just keeps repeating itself. At this point I do not think I am ready to forgive, definitely not ready to forget. In fact I feel like I need to keep reminding myself of all the past times things have been done behind my back and that it WILL happen again, to better prepare myself for when it does happen so that hopefully the anger and hurt won't be so bad. Sounds crazy but that is how I feel. I know that like you said revenge will just make me the bad guy and not make me feel better. I do believe that revenge would cost me more and I did need to hear that. Listening to this has made me decide revenge is not the answer and I thank you for that. I hear the versus and I understand the meaning. But I guess I am not a good enough person to act on those versus. I am not ready to let this go I just feel like I need to protect myself by not forgetting so I will be better prepared when it happens the next time.
Thank you Lisa. When I read your book It’s not supposed to be this way I put the book down happy that your marriage survived but still so dismayed that my own marriage had not survived and I was STUCK in a cycle of trying to forget and not getting that true PEACE that comes from real forgiveness. THIS video has been a healing balm on my hurting heart! ❤️ I want to read your book in the new year and continue this journey of healing!
Hello my friend how are you doing
Yes I’ve been there. Doing the thing to satisfy my anger or hurt but then later on I feel foolish or immature 😢💘😭
Thank you for being the real deal....honesty about your journey....it helps me so much. I'm two years into separation and hold onto God's promise He will bring my husband back to Himself even though in the natural every kind of addiction rages in his life and his love towards me looks dead..... God can do miracles even if it's hard to imagine
Thank you for your testimony and honesty. I can relate.
Thank you for watching, Robin!
Thank you for sharing your testimony 🎉
Thank you so much for sharing! I've been listening to your videos to help me overcome some build ups of being mistreated. It has helped me to realize that I am not crazy and that these emotions are valid. And that I can forgive and move on with my life. ❤
We're so glad you enjoyed this video! Praying for you!
This is freeing Lysa, thank you.
We're glad it was helpful for you, Melody.
Thank You for so lovingly sharing in such a god honouring, transparent way. Also for showing that vulnerability is not only needed and Okay, but it takes tremendous courage and genuine love for others to do so. This is so helpful! Blessings to you! ♥️🤗♥️
Really appreciate your testimony Lysa. ❤️📖 Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for watching! -P31 team
Thanks so much, such a good and powerful truth.
My heart is so broken and I feel so far from God. 19 year cancer filled marriage with a lot of ignoring and saying mean things to me then to find a man who said he loved the Lord but was a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Lies and the horrible things he called me a long with the need for alcohol more than me. Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde. Feeling worthless.
How do you keep forgiving someone when they keep repeating their hurtful behavior despite talking about it several times?
Thanks so much for sharing your gift!
I am so blessed for this to have come up as a suggested video. I am going through a very painful experience that has ended my relationship and unfortunately for my safety, reconciliation is not attainable. Thank you so much for sharing about compassion. I couldnt understand why I was feeling it for my aggressor and now I understand that it's for my healing journey and for his as well. You're right about the healing journey being a roller coaster. I wanted to thank you Lysa for your bravery in sharing your personal story, but others are correct your testimony will lead others on the path of righteousness that God wants us follow and exercise in our own lives. Blessings of joy, peace, love and abundant health to you and your family always 💙🥰🤗
Lisa, girl this is good word! God bless you sis!
Rehashing=obsessive=let it go
Lisa❤❤ thank you for your Prophet word, It is absolutely truly❤🕊🙏, thank you so much 👍
Thank you for this fantastic resource 💕
Thank you Lysa. ❤
I’m in tears. Thank you for this!
We want heaven...now!...and we want others to provide it. The desire in our souls is legitimate but we'll simply have to wait. If not we'll put our hope in idols and they will betray us.
Wow, wise words articulated beautifully!!
Sigh. Very, very true.
So beautiful!
Thank you Lisa for sharing the truth and needed to hear this!❤️❤️❤️
Thank you sister, I just finished reading your book it's not suppose to be this way. It was a blessing to be and a help in this valley I'm in. Thank you for your story and testimony and for being a blessing
Wow. Such a powerful message!
Thanks for watching!
Thank u Lisa for aharing.
Love LT!
Thank You fo
r your transparency, hurts, triggers . Been there done that. Focusing on healing and self care
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Thank you Lysa. This was a beautiful word of advice.
Your words reflect what I feel, but could not articulate.
Hurt people ...Hurt people.
Lysa, it is important to have distinction, means to realize when it possible to reconcile or when it is absolutely necessary to stay away or even llitraly run away from abusers.
Please do not guide people wrong by saying, reconsiliation is part of forgiving.
That is wrong and you should make this clear.
Please do not guide people into victimhood.
I needed to hear this today 🙏🏾❤️
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Authentic!
That sounds like something i would do 😮
Does it take a lifetime? Because it feels like it takes a lifetime. 🥺😢
I hear u about number 2 having compassion for the person. I do try, it’s so hard when I have forgiven and it just happens again and again but this time the result it’s the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I would say place boundaries but how do u do that in a marriage. I need prayer please.
Iv been going through rhis exact situation
I think he has cheated, however its been controlling, demanding, manipulative, verbal and emotional abuse
Thank you
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What you do when your significant other doesn’t think he did something wrong but still point finger at you that it’s your fault that you find out
I have successfully been able to use the tactics Lisa’s provides for forgiving the unforgivable. However, there is one topic I haven’t been able to get past in forgiveness. There was a group of men who unknown to me at the time drugged me by the help of who I thought was a dear Christian friend. There intent was to gang rape me and kill me. God intervened and saved my life. I was still raped, but I am alive. They were not caught. They did go one to do this to others. My friend who was involved in the church left quickly and moved for “other reasons”. Somehow I have been able to begin healing from the deep betrayal from whom I thought was a friend because I was so close to her I new the hurt she had endured growing up. However these men, who have continued in human trafficking, and worse continue to victimize others. I can’t see them as a child, I can and do see Satan and his demons at play in all this. However, forgiveness has been undone. I am unsure how to get there. I love the Lord. I want His will. I want Him to be glorified. I am unsure of my steps in this process even though it’s been years since that time. I stuffed it and moved on with my life. The Lord has just been recovering memories both consciously and unconsciously previously forgotten.
How to draw the line between showing compassion to the person who hurt you and finding excuses for their behaviour?
For example, my husband went through abusive childhood, how can I avoid making this as an excuse for his abusive behaviour while at the same time showing compassion, forgiving him & moving on?
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