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Hey, lovely internet fam! Charlotte Dobre here, your trusty source for all things hilarious and cringe-worthy. 🤣✨
So, you know what they say, right? What happens on vacation stays on vacation... unless you get CAUGHT! 😈🏖️ In today's video, we're diving headfirst into the chaotic world of vacation cheating mishaps, and trust me, you won't be able to hold back the laughter!
From awkward beach rendezvous to restaurant slip-ups that'll make your jaw drop faster than an all-inclusive buffet, we've got it all. These vacation cheaters didn't just get caught; they practically volunteered for a one-way ticket to Awkwardsville! 🌴🌴
Get ready to cringe, giggle, and maybe even facepalm as we take a front-row seat to some seriously entertaining vacation blunders. 🙈🤣
Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and ring the notification bell, because trust me, you won't want to miss any of these facepalm-worthy moments! Who knows, you might even learn a thing or two about how NOT to cheat on vacation. 😂💔
So grab your favorite snack, get comfy, and join me on this wild ride through the world of vacation fails! Let's make fun of these cheaters together, shall we? 😈🤣🌴 #VacationCheaters #OopsiesInLove #CharlotteDobreLaughs
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I caught my cheating ex when he simply forgot I was by his side and his side girl came to the same party, he said "Hey babe" and kissed her. He then realised, upon seeing her face, that I was just behind him and everyone of his friends just became silent. I left the party, went to cry in his best friend's car (who had just arrived) and said best friend took me on a drive to cry my eyes out and got us ice cream while I just insulted my ex and we talked.
Long story short, we bonded a lot that night, he showed me his phone texts when I accused him of knowing he was cheating but he didn't knew either, we became a couple 2 weeks later.
Last Thursday was our 9th anniversary and he proposed 3 months ago. My ex is in a relationship with a super controlling girl and can't text or talk to anyone without her monitoring, karma took his butt 😂
I'm so sorry you went through such a betrayal from your jerk of an ex, but I'm so glad that you ditched the trash, bonded with the best friend, and that you found real love in the end.
As they say, the best revenge is a happy life well lived. ^^
@@pascaleelliott63 thank you ☺️ exactly
Babe I love this for you. I’m so glad his best friend turned out to be a real man. Happy anniversary!
Yes! Toss the trash and get with the treasure! 😊
i was going to say that turning to the best friend was a bad idea, but if you dated 9 years, I guess you got past that rebound phase and made sure it was real.
She didn’t ruin a marriage, HE did. He had a whole wife and a new baby at home. Don’t feel bad he screwed up better she knows now than later. Hell I’d wanna know and thank the other woman
💯 you said it
I wonder if he had an affair with her best friend, too. Who the hell would say something like this in that situation? Your best friends husband was going to cheat on her and you insult the person who just saved her from more heartbreak in the future?
@@SweetyO666I was thinking the same thing 2, like how are you gonna say it’s the other woman’s fault when that other woman had no idea in the first place and that other woman had the decency to not only end it, but tell the wife what he’s been doing. Especially if the supposed “best friend” of the wife to is supposed be more mad at the husband in that moment rather then the other woman. The only explanation I think for this “ friend”was that she herself mostly likely slept with him too.
And even though he was patient to to wait that long and still not have sex with the gf, he probably on his wife and gf with at least one other woman…
That's you though. That's the issue with this whole thing of "tell the other person" is that y'all don't think about anyone but yourselves and how your feeling, or what you would want. Not everyone would want that, also not to mention you don't know the mental health issues anyone may be dealing with. What if she were to kill him, or he kill her, or she self deletes or he does, y'all be playing games with people lives. Should she know, sure, but that's not for anyone to decide but her and him. That's their marriage and/or relationship. I wouldn't want the other woman drunkly accosting me in a bathroom to tell me about my husband, and the drama that creates in front of everyone. Embarrassing. Y'all have got to stop applying your standards and rules to other people's lives.
12:35 "Do you feel good about yourself? You just ruined a marriage."
One thing that pisses me off when it comes to cheating situations is that they always blame the side person and not the spouse who cheated. If you should get mad at anybody, get mad at your husband. The *husband* is the one who ruined the marriage by cheating.
EXACTLY. The Miss on the Side didn't say "I do." She made NO VOWS. Husband stood up before God and his entire family and promised to be faithful, HE'S the one who broke that vow.
I think its because they think that their spouse would never cheat on them except with that 1 person. If that 1 person didn't exist he would of never cheated. That the other person relentlessly pressured their partner to the point where anyone would have gave in. I truely think that's what these people who get cheated on and blame the other person rather than their partner thinks. Truth be told if it wasn't that other person it'd be another other person.
@@YourMomfailedu Agreed 100%. Unfaithful is still unfaithful. Even if that specific woman wasn't in the picture, it would've been some other woman.
Disagree, if they know that person is in a relationship especially a marriage and they fuck around with them anyway they’re selfish TRASH and should be shamed. This girl was innocent as she had no clue so the friend should’ve stfu with what she said.
It’s even worse that she didn’t know about the wife and never would have willing been the side chick.
"Can we bring back adultery as a crime" ive never heard such a beautifull statement in my life :')
Yes please!
In reality if we do it it will hit women way harder than men.
If you look at history women get hanged - even with minimal proof cause husband wanted to get rid of them for example. But male cheaters never were punished severely...
Bad idea
@@LL-lz8cbAbsolutely great idea.
@@ghoultooth nope. You would have to punish people everytime they hurt someone emotionally. It is Not Just and Not doable both.
I've noticed a pattern.
Whenever a guy says that a girl is acting "crazy", IT'S BECAUSE HE GOT CAUGHT DOING SOMETHING WRONG!
All this "crazy girlfriend" stuff is just gaslighting and victim blaming because these guys think women OWE them something and then don't even have the balls to own up.
7:41 Yes! This! Exactly!
I know this is mostly a girls channel, which is fine.
Just remember that women cheat as much as men do. So, maybe there's at least some kind of gender equality here.
Of course, I don't support any kind of cheating, no matter who does it.
never trust someone who claims to have a "crazy" ex without specific examples and even then don't just accept it. benefit of the doubt but eyes of a hawk
The chic at the with the broom don't be embarrassed, I think you boss babe
My favorite line from this channel, “Play stupid games, win stupid prizes” and cheaters LITERALLY play that game.
Play DELULU games, win DELULU prizes
Practically everyone says that now. Lol
Mine is “HOW ARE YOU NOT EMBARRASSED!” 😂😂😂
I heard a cop use this line on one of those cop cam channels after the peep asked for the 10th time why they were being arrested. I died. 😂
That’s a saying that has been around for a long time, predating Charlotte’s channel’s existence. It’s still a good phrase though.
So this is one of those worst case scenarios, someone I grew up with is now living with AIDS because nobody had the balls to tell her that her husband was sleeping around with other women. I was a child so didn't know this was happening but because I've seen the repercussions of this I will never just "let things lie" if I know someone is cheating especially on someone I love, am friends with etc I'm going to say something.
Exactly! If you don't tell you could be allowing something love threatening happen!
True! I respect this.
Why would you gaslight your friend and betray them like that.
I've a somewhat similar story: one of my classmates in college was preyed upon by a guy in his late 20s-early 30s (she was *almost* 18) and he was also a prolific cheater as well as a predator. She found out he was cheating when she had to go to the doctor for lower abdominal pains. Turns out, he gave her a small handful of STDs and if it was just one, maybe two, of the ones he gave her, she likely would've been fine. Since she had all of them at once (I think it was 4? he gave her) her womb became scarred and now she has like a 1% chance of conceiving & it would be very high risk of her loosing it at any moment. Last I heard from her, she was doing great though. She's in her late 20s now, married and the predator guy has multiple failed relationships, one divorce that took a lot of his money, lost his work reputation/respect, and got in trouble with the law for unrelated crimes.
So yeah, that karma thing: don't shrug it off lol
From someone who was told about her husband from the other woman. I was so grateful because it validated my feelings about thinking something was going on and it wasn't just pregnancy hormones
I am so sorry that happened at such a vulnerable time in your life, and I really hope you living the happiest life without him because you definitely deserve it.
The gaslighting some people do when people are pregnant; like no it's not the hormones making me crazy, all your lying and manipulation and hiding stuff and gaslighting is making me feel crazy. Unfortunately for me it was my best friend, she knew we were together, i introduced them, he told me he was getting to know her better so they could both support me. While i was 8-9 months he was sending her love harts (the sweets) in the post and then after i gave birth, catching the train to meet her while lying to me saying he was at college and thats why he couldnt call, i found out because college emailed him asking why he was always absent on a specific day and if he kept it up the course would drop him for non attendance. Oh and her twitter was like a diary that was public and lined up with the days he was absent from college but claimed to be at college. All while i cared for our child alone. Oh and i was 17 when this all went down. He was 19.
When the women find out that they're actually with someone who is already in a relationship/married, so collect receipts and let the wife being cheated on know what their partner is doing behind their backs (as they should!), but other people gaslight the girl (who revealed the truth about the man's infidelity, mind you) by saying things like "I hope you're happy now! You just ruined a relationship/marriage!"...
Like. NO! The girl who didn't know ISN'T the one who ruined the relationship/marriage! The cheating guy is!
its because there are 2 types of homewreckers, accidental and serial. some women unfortunately love to be the other woman.
@@foxbuns It’s still rude to accuse the other woman of being a homewrecker without knowing if she knew the guy was married (and especially if you know she didn’t). That’s just insulting and blaming her for the result of the cheater’s actions.
Kinda makes you wonder who’s side that “friend” is on, and why..
@@DeeLite220that’s exactly what I was thinking, why is this “friend” protecting a cheater? I’d pull that thread if I were the wife.
Gotta love the victim blaming in that one. I think people want to be quick to blame the person who was seeing their partner because they know and love their partner, but who is the other person to them? Nobody (usually). But throw away anybody in your life who wants to tell you that it's your fault when you had no knowledge of what was happening. Those people don't love you or have your best interests at heart.
As someone who doesn't have social media, it's not because I'm a walking red flag. I just think socials are toxic and I'm visually impaired and rather spend time on something more valuable. We do exist but bad people doing bad things make people suspect me for no reason.
I would consider someone not consumed with social media a green flag.
@@roguemystique7 thank you so much for your comment, this made my heart smile 🤗
I feel that. I dont use much social media, either. The two apps i have is snapchat and whatsapp. And i only use those two apps 2 tlk 2 family members
@@alyssaboren8400 you are definitely not a red flag either. In the long run, I suspect our choices will prove to be healthy.
I'm not really on social media either, so I feel the same!
Fellow Detective Latina from L.A.: The fact that the friend tried to blame you for "ruining" a marriage (that was already on it's way to be ruined) is bullshit. You did the right thing by telling that poor new mother/wife the truth!
Fun fact about when adultery was still a crime: where I live, it was common practice for bailiffs to not get paid much and as a form of compensation, they were legally allowed to raid brothels randomly, round up all married men and give them a choice between paying the bailiff a hefty sum or getting banished for 30 years (the official punishment for adultery at the time). It was brutal.
I got you girl, story time: I lost my mom and brother young. Naturally my dad became my universe. This summer my dad was given a few weeks. I was beyond devastated. I went to stay with him and help. A week and a half later he passed. I come home and within hours my “friend” husband is at my door. He informed me that he just walked in on my husband and his wife. My world is crumbling and that’s what my “husband” decided to do. I lost my dad and marriage in a week.
Oh my God, I am so so sorry 🫂 ❤
Omg girl I’m so sorry about your family. I cannot even imagine 😢 I won’t discuss the husband because he’s trash and we discard that and never think about it again
I’m sorry for your loss
May the lord give you some peace, love and caring ❤ im so Sorry, no onde deserves this
It's gonna hurt for awhile, but it's going to make you even stronger. Stay connected with your friends and community.
Snooping is not worse than cheating. People more concerned with "privacy" than betrayal trauma THEY caused should stay single.
Edit: for the people in the replies saying I'm defending cheaters: that's the opposite of what I'm saying. Cheaters are selfish a-holes and the ones who gaslight others about "snooping" are the worst kind.
Privacy is important, but if you're cheating you don't deserve it. 😂
Narcissism at its finest
I agree…these serial cheaters always try to do the blame shift thing when caught 😑 unfortunately that betrayal trauma is hard to shake for a lot of folks, even in new relationships where their partner is entirely loyal - this was a BIG issue in my last relationship.
the only type of person that would be upset about "privacy" is the type that would cheat.
Defensivenesses and blame shifting can definitely prove guilt 🚩 Especially after already having been caught once prior. Good riddance! And then the nerve to gaslight trying to proclaim innocence😇”Technology making us all private detectives.”🕵️♀️ 😂
Around 20 years ago, I was part of a group of 6 extremely close friends. We had kids at the same school, we went out every week together, basically knew everything about eachother..... or so we thought. One day, one of my friends - we're best friends to this day - found out that her then partner, was cheating on her with one of our friends. The call went round the group and that woman ended up being frozen out to the point she left the area and he ended up out of the house. I will never understand friends who don't have your back.
People who cheat and then blame the OTHER person for invading their "privacy" deserve to be banned from dating people. Any friends who don't support the person getting cheated on deserve to be at a level of acquaintanceship BELOW the "friend" zone. If anyone disagrees, they ARE those people.
You know why that friend was mad that the mistress came forward? She's probably also had an affair with her friend 's husband and was afraid she'd be exposed too once the wife confronted the cheating husband.
I agree
Hmmm, didn’t even think of that yet 😂. Makes a lot of sense, because if it were my friend, I would get mad with her together towards him…because that’s what friends do 💪🏼💯💯💯
I thought the exact same thing
And to say she ruined a marriage? Seems like projecting to me
Good point!
If/when confronting a spouse of a cheater, be aware that they won't always be ready to hear the truth and it's easier to be mad at a stranger than facing you're married to a pos.
Send a message and a pic. Then forget it. You did your part. I would tell for absolute sure. AIDS....and a host of other dirty things no one deserves.
doesn't matter, they're still stupid. Singles aren't obligated to not have sex with others, people in relationships are and everyone knows that most of them never tell the affair that they're cheating right now. It's not fair to burden someone with the knowledge they just helped someone cheat and they have to keep it secret making them feel guilty themselfs. The stranger wasn't even the one cheating, so what are they angry at?
I don't care... Her husband is a w*ore and she deserves to know it, whatever she do with the knowledge it its her choice.
I always inform girlfriends and wifes if they partners hit on me... Realistically I had only one dumb b that tried to blame me for her boyfriend being a s*ut ...it didn't went down well in our social circle for her.
When I was married, my husband of 10 years cheated on me with his boss. All of his co-workers knew. When I found out, I was extra humiliated about the fact that all of his co-workers knew and none of them liked me enough to tell me. And this is why I got all of our non-work mutual friends in the divorce. It still hurts me so bad, and that was 14 years ago!
Update are you leaving your best life?
It's the worst! 😢
Please live your best life!
I, as a woman who spent ten years in a mentally/emotionally abusive relationship with a man that was constantly after other women and gaslit me into thinking I was possessive, jealous, and insecure, would 100% want to be told. After a lot of work and self-care I am finally getting to a place that is good, in my forties. The reason I finally was strong enough to end that relationship was that I found proof of his cheating. Please, if you ever find out you are the "other woman (or man, or whathaveyou)" , don't think you are ruining a relationship, know that you are freeing a person. You are freeing them from the lie. What they choose to do with that information is not on you, nor is their pain.
I've been married for fifteen years and I still would be grateful if a woman came to me and said that she had just found out that I existed and my husband was a rat..
Thankfully I doubt it will happen 🍀❤
Totally understand you . I've been married for 21yrs, but together for 23yrs,have three kids,and I've never been happier.. But me and my husband are together 24/7, and if he would ve cheating on me, I'd know.. but Ive had my so called friends tell me that my husband tried to hit on them, but what they didn't know, he showed me the messages they sent him! And he totally didn't respond to them, trying to hit on him.. we laughed at them together.. And now, they're not my friends anymore,and me and my husband are better then ever together.. he is my best friend..
@@minnarosenqvistmr same apart from the kids, we have dogs and sheep instead 🤣
Nothing beats trust and time together 💜 ( we were together for 8 years or so before we got married
@@littlelizzi3135 aww, I'm so happy for you!! And those dogs and sheep are still your kids.. 🥰❤️
@@minnarosenqvistmr congratulations on a successful relationship to you too lovely! 🌹 😻
The audacity to still deny cheating with evidence right in front of you is infuriating and yes throw those friends away because mine would’ve definitely took me to the address to catch him red handed and some other stuff I won’t say just in case 😂
Dude my friends would've been there before I got done telling them the story 😂 I hope she gets better friends.
Most likely, they were sleeping sleeping with him, too, but didn't want to get caught.
@@Z.O.1991 my friends would never and if they ever did they wouldn’t be friends anymore
Right??
"You just ruined a marriage!" How much do you want to bet that she’s messing with the husband too?
Story time:
My first serious relationship was absolute puppy love. There were a lot of toxic moments and fighting between an insane amount of love bombing. I thought i would do anything for that man.
A few months into the relationship i started having these wild dreams! I was watching him meet women, hooking up or having the giggity, and it all being when he was out of town or away. I told him how awful these dreams were making me feel, and his response was to get defensive and angry. He would tell me i was crazy and overreacting. I listened to him because in the end, it was just random dreams so how can i really be upset.
Months rolled by and one night i get a text message from him that literally said "i have something to tell you. Ive been unfaithful."
Nothing else, just ending right there. I tried to call him, i was breaking down but he wouldnt answer me. I text him and told him to come over or we were over.
His mum came with him. She told me i had to get over it if i wanted to be with him. I felt pressured and broken, so i gave in. As it turns out, he had slept with his best friends girlfriend when he was out of town months prior.. and he only spoke up because he BF threatened to tell me.
Fast forward a year, we are trying to make it work but things havent seemed any better.
We are sitting together and his phone buzzes with a text. He turns his phone away from me in a panic and quickly ducks out of the room.
I couldnt hold back the sinking feeling i had so i brought it up. He said "i didnt want you to freak out over a picture." A picture? I questioned him. He realised he had accidentally dobbed himself in.
He proceeded to explain that a friend sent him a picture and that was all it was.
That night when he was in the shower, i sucked it up and i checked his phone. He had a folder saved in his gallery FULL and i mean FULL of women he was friends with or i knew, all naked and some extremely R rated. Then i saw the texts between all the different girls he was chatting up.
Unfortunately that wasnt the end of our relationship because i was broken and desperate to hold onto our connection, he was my best friend.
When things did fall apart, however, i was at a party a year or so later, and one of his friends confided in me that he had been cheating on me everytime he was out of town and regularly at parties. I have PTSD from that experience, i still have flashbacks and extreme hyper vigilance. I learned to trust my 'gut instincts' and have more faith in myself. Ive learned and grown a lot.
Sadly, he passed away a few years back now.. and no matter the pain of it all, he was still one of my best friends and ill always appreciate having had the time and experience with him.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. Very traumatic. Always love yourself more than someone else. Always believe your intuition. The force is strong with you through your dreams. Be well ❤
Romantically speaking he didn't deserve that relationship with you, but I'm glad that at the very least your friendship with him wasn't bad, I wish you well and health in all future relationships.
That first guy just belongs in the bin. The woman he cheated with can go in there too. 🗑️
Edit: I stand corrected. They ALL belong in the bin. All of the cheaters. 🗑️🗑️🗑️🗑️
Lol
@@Aadyy954I think she mean all the cheaters 🤔
Honestly her continously believing him was getting on my nerves soooo bad 😭
@@CamAllen-zr4vrahhhw dont be too hard on her, some people are PARTICULARLY talented at gaslighting and bullsh1t, he might be an excellent salesman
I would never tolerate being cheated on. Once a cheater always a cheater.
I would just have too much ick. I wouldn’t even want to make eye contact with…*it*
FACTS! One and I'm done and gone. To me it's the ultimate betrayal. Plus, the possibility of contracting a disease...zero tolerance I'm in the wind. See ya, wouldn't wanna be ya 👋🏽
Agreed.
Agreed
I walked away from my relationship this year for the very same reason. AH even tried to gaslight me 😂 i literally told him, no bish you have to right to talk to me like thatm
As someone who just divorced a man whose affair partner and now fiancee is now carrying on, telling their love story like it's a Taylor Swift song, including their "special anniversary of their first date (which happened while I was in grief counselling ten minutes down in the road from my home in a park)"... and his bestie was covering for them for months? Yeah, tell me. Tell me. In a club, in a house, on a train, on a plane, send a DN, Dr Seuss can write a book. Drop the receipts. Like Charlotte said, the cheater is the one "ruining a marriage". I have no doubt someone knew about a 7-year emotional-later-physical affair. His bestie was in my wedding party and my Facebook friend, and we had our own friendship. Nothing. Hell, I wish affair girl, even selfishly, had told me what a "special bond" they had years ago. Saved me wasted time and pain.
Damn.. I'll wait for their karma though.
7 years!? He's trash.
I would 1000% want someone to tell me if my husband had been cheating on me. It would destroy me mentally for a while, but the thought of not finding out is even more sickening. I feel for these ladies!
That woman shouldn’t feel guilty about ruining a marriage, because if it wasn’t going to be her, he would go on to his next prey. So sooner or later it would be exposed 🤷🏻♀️
Technically, she didn‘t ruin it. She just pointed out his dog behaviour. The lying to his wife ruined the marriage….
He probably had others that he was seeing. I doubt he stopped at that girl, especially since she had already ghosted him.
First of all he cheated so its not her fault.
Second of all he cheated her as well
The only way the side piece has anything to do with breaking up the marriage is if they are aware that the person is already in a relationship. Otherwise, once they find out, if they break it off at that time, they're not a homewrecker.
Telling me without telling me. A girl was in a class with me and my college bf of 3 years. He introduced me as his gf. That girl looked me dead in the eyes and asked how long we’d been together. The face she made during her math said everything
As a married woman, I would want to know. No matter who told me. I know that it takes two to have an affair, but the dude was the liar in this case. If this was me, I wouldn't be mad at the girl. I would be mad at the husband. He ruined the marriage and made relationships for this girl that much harder.
It doesn't take two to have an affair - if woman search a partner she search for relationship not an affair - its NOT woman fault that man LIED
I’m sorry but if a cheater is forgiven there is no privacy until couples therapy has been attended for quite some time and the person who was cheated on feels comfortable again. But I’m petty like that
Yep, and the cheater cannot accelerate the timeline or complain that it’s taking too long! It takes how long it takes! Rebuilding trust is not an overnight process but breaking trust certainly can be.
Couples therapy? 🤣
No truer words.
A couple's therapy won't treat a cheater. A cheater is to the bin
That’s not petty AT ALL, don’t call it that. It’s truly the bare minimum.
I learned a valuable lesson. If you take a cheater back you get cheated on again. "Once a cheater, always a cheater" turned out to be true
The biggest mistake i feel i made was telling a friend who begged me to tell her if i ever knew of anything that "there were rumors". Thats all i said. She stayed with him, repeated it to him in my name (dumbass) and i got threatening calls and texts from him for yrs after. They had let me stay in their house for a couple of weeks while I was homeless so i felt bad and guilty i didnt know whom im supposed to be loyal to. But she said "i hope youd be a good friend and tell me". I was 20 and stupid and now i know to stay the hell out of everyones marriage. Cause if they decide to stay and believe their spouses lies (which is much easier to do), they both become mad at YOU.
I come from NYC. I learned at 20 if i see or hear something i dont say anything.
In answer to your question “would you want to know?” - YES. I was the married woman being cheated on (numerous times). I knew (because yep, we’re sleuths!!), but he always gaslit me, told me I was psycho etc. In the end, funnily enough I was the one who broke it to the latest mistress. She said he’d told her we were already separated (absolutely not). I thought she would leave him but nah… they got married.
I had a girlfriend who came home unexpectedly and caught the man she'd been living with for 3 years in bed with another man. This was in the mid 80's, when A.I.D.S. was a death sentence, and was most commonly known to be spread through unsafe sexual encounters between gay men. She got tested and was fine, thank Goddess.
I also had the aids experience. My then husband was working over seas in Africa. There a month home a month. So, one month he comes home and he's kinda acting weird. I think to myself - is he cheating? - but no, he wouldn't do that to me. The next time he comes home he's acting even weirder, so I ask him what's up, why the weird vibes? He says well he had had something happen at work. A guy got hurt and he came in contact with his blood, so he's been worried he might have contracted aids. So I'm like Geezes, get tested then!!! While all this is going on I'm have medical issues and I find out I have cervical cancer, so I call him when he's at work. So he breaks down - he tells me he had an affair and he thought that's what caused it (the dr said it might have been caused from multiple sex partners where you get that human papiloma virus). So he's falling apart and crying and I'm thinking I have cancer and he's not even focused on that at all, he's upset that he told me he was having an affair. So he comes home, gets tested and is negative. Meanwhile I'm scheduling hospital appointments and go in for my hysterectomy. I come home and he goes on vacation with the girls (we have 2), leaving me home alone to recuperate. We stayed married another 11 years when once again, he is caught cheating and we get a divorce. Been single for 15 years. Best years of my life pretty much
I hope you're doing so much better and that you're life is great 💕
charlotte is always so funny but so insighful at the same time 😂
She's funsightful.
@@madimoe8331 YES LOL
Gotta love when cheaters get caught, then proceed to gaslight you and make you out to be the bad guy 🙄😆
I found out my ex was cheating on me a few months ago with 2 different women. Worst heartbreak I have ever felt. I honestly don't understand why cheater's get into relationship's. If they want to sleep around stay single. Don't mentally and emotionally destroy the person you are supposed to love because you can't keep it in your pants. If you can cheat then you really don't love your partner. My ex also stole a lot of money off me when I found out about the cheating which caused even more hurt and sent me into a very deep depression. Thankfully 3 months on I'm doing better mentally and starting to financially recover.
I found out an ex cheating on me because he used MY digital camera to take photos of him and an other man doing the giggedi and forgot to eraese them.
I printed the photos out and plastered his car with them while he was at work (at his work place parking lot), packed up my stuff and left his house.
Side note, I'm a woman, I knew he was Bi, but we had an agreement of being monogamous.
Being Bi shouldn't be an excuse for cheating: your ex was just an asshole.
I would a 1,000% want to know if my husband was cheating. I would be heartbroken for sure, but it wouldn’t be her fault as long as she didn’t know.
Honestly, even if she knew, it still wouldn't be her fault. I always say to my husband that, if he ever cheats, he's dead. I don't care about the side piece. HE is married to me, HE is the one that has to respect our marriage. The hypothetical other woman saw someone she liked and made her move. He should have been the one saying "no, thanks. I'm married".
My point is, whether a man or a woman, the fault always falls on the cheater and never on the person they cheat with. Unless it's one of your "friends"... but that's a completely different story 😅
@@venuslucretiayep, it's his relationship to protect.
Agreed.
@@venuslucretia oh I agree that it’s the person in the relationships job to stay faithful, but it’s also one of the most grotesque things a person can do to another person to knowingly have sex and/or a relationship with a married person or even a person in a relationship.
@@venuslucretia so it wouldn't be her fault even if she knew?? You're insane and need help. I find it troubling that you would protect a woman who knowingly sleeps with a married man. Why do women protect home wreckers even in the wrong
Hell yeah, I would want to know! Something like this happened to me; I was married for 32 years and I found out FIVE DAYS AFTER HE DIED that he cheated the entire time! Even while he was on his deathbed he and his MARRIED mistress were communicating! I know so many people knew and NOBODY had the decency to tell me!!!
If the “other woman” came to me and told me my husband was cheating on me, we’d be best friends for life.
It’s nice to know that there are still some woman out there who follow some type of girl code. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
Yes! I would 100% want to know! I would be grateful to the woman for telling me. If she knew he was married, I’d be pissed at her, but if she didn’t know, then she is just as much a victim.
WAIT, why is no social media a red flag? I honestly think it's so stressful and fills me with anxiety, makes me feel a lot more peaceful without it.
Ikr! It makes no sense that having no social media is a red flag! Make it make sense pleaaase
@@GabrielleTollersonI think it’s because how are you supposed to find out if the man or woman you’re talking to and in a relationship with is who they say they are, now days almost everyone and their dog has a social media page whether it be Instagram or Facebook.
If they say don’t have social media its ok to be suspicious and seem it a red flag, someone at least once in their life posted on a public page. You can consider CZcams a form of social media also since you can live stream and post video or photo collages.
As someone with no social media at 25 mainly because of a bad experience with assault and not wanting to constantly be contacted by my assuulter who kept messeging me on social media (even after blocking through other accounts) I will admit, that social media has its benefits.
I think if you dont know someone is married, once you find out, it is right thing to do to contact the wife (the wife is the person getting screwed over and a lot of the time when it comes to cheaters people in your life know and keep it quiet to protect you which feels wrong.) The sooner you know the less pain and possibly illnesses you are subjected to. Yes, finding out your with a cheater sucks but it is better than spending 20 years without someone who constantly cheated leaving you question every single conversation for years after.
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Many states in the USA have adultery laws still on the books. Michigan still does but try getting them enforced. My beautiful sister found this out 7 years ago after finding out after 45 years of marriage her husband was cheating and couldn't get the adultery laws enforced. Cheating has become acceptable in our society.
It’s become a moral issue when there’s a reason why a marriage has always been legal binding contract for that very reason.
It’s not acceptable, you just can’t legally punish someone for it which makes sense. Marriage is a legal contract, hurt feelings is not a crime. If there’s disease, assault, theft, etc, from the cheating then it makes sense to prosecute.
Yea but by what you said, it also means that breaking that contract in any way, is illegal, because marriage as part of the 'contract' means you are loyal to your spouse (and children) and only them by cheating you have broken a legal contract which is punishable by law.@@kissit012
If you have a legal agreement, ie, prenup, you can enforce it. But that is more of a breach of contract.
You think it's only been acceptable recently? It always was accepted for wives to turn a blind eye because they were financially controlled or cultural influence. It's actually gotten a lot better, but there's still a lot of cultural change that needs to happen.
Im someone who doesnt have social media and my spouse doesnt either. Its such an easier route. Social media doesn't destroy relationships, it just opens the gate.
it is so frustrating to me that a lot of women’s stories of when the cheating occurred are during a time of great emotional need from the woman. it all goes back to how differently we are socialized to sex and intimacy, bc those husbands are looking for the physical intimacy their wives aren’t in the emotional state to provide while those wives are seeking the emotional comfort those husbands likely were never taught how to give. its like, you couldn’t just do this simple act of betrayal it had to be a step further because in a volatile time in the wives’ life, you selfishly put your own needs above hers 🤦🏻♀️🤬
My ex cheated on me while I was at my Grandfather's funeral 💀 He said he "had to" because I wasnt giving him enough attention. You know, cause my Grandpa died.
As a wife or GF - YES - I would want to know! The wife can't make any informed decisions without knowing. Plus, I doubt that was his 1st or last time cheating.
The only time I think a woman is responsible for ruining a marriage and a family is when she KNOWS that the man is married and has children and still gets herself involved with the man. That is what happened to me. She even knew me. Ultimately my ex husband was the most at fault - however she slept with him for over 10 months knowing the whole time he was married and had kids!
They are BOTH equally at fault!!
11:25 i love how she approached the other girl like a merchant npc giving out quest hints
“follow me into the restroom if u wanna know the truth about ur husband”
The last girl should've called the cops on him, because sending around someones nudes is a felony. She should've told the girl that was upstairs that her guy sends her nudes around... She probably wouldn't have stood by his side tbh
in australia its illegal.
Yes I would absolutely want to know if my husband was cheating. Because it happened to me and after the divorce my exfriends told me they knew but didn’t want to get involved! I was more upset at them!
WOW!! Some friends!! What garbage they all are! Glad they are ALL exes!
My husband and I have been married 20 years. Yes, I'd wanna know. Absolutely!! The only time I'd blame the woman is if she knew us or knew me as a friend. When you know a man is married and go along anyway, you're both at fault. If she didn't know and hes lying to us both, yeah, she's not responsible for anything that happens after I find out.
15 minutes!!! I love Charlotte's videos!!!! "ABSOLUTELY NOT!" "Play stupid games win stupid prizes!" We love the tea babe! keep up the good work!
I love how Charlotte is the voice of reason, roasts people who deserves it and does it all with the most funny and adorable sense of humour ever. 😂♥️
After almost 20 years of marriage, I would have absolutely asked for receipts first/ comfort my husband. I would also tell him to pause and not lie because lying about something like this would mean zero possibility of reconciliation. I would not blame the girl. If she knew or didn’t know, he is the one married to me…not her.
Lmao right at like 3:17 when she said "if you're seeing this, John you are a..." an ad started and said "Old Spice gentlemen" 😂
The first one... the friends probably didn't help the friend catch her husband because they probably helped the first time... and she took him back. Case closed.
Or they are his flying monkeys
I was cheated on and I'm a detective too. Plus all the crime shows I've watched over the years gave hella fears unlocked lol. I don't trust NO ONE. People really be out here being shady. 😂 This chick is a queen. She deserves a king, not this joker and I love her accent.
From someone who was cheated on, I would have appreciated being told... never shoot the messenger!
Twice I’ve told very close friends their husbands were cheating and twice I lost my friend. They forgave the husband and got rid of the messenger. Sorry. I say nothing now.
These episodes make me lose even more faith in humanity…but I’m here for it 😂😂😂
I don’t see how not having social media is a red flag? I choose not to have it because I got beyond tired and disgusted by all the unsolicited d!ck pics. Even when I was a teenager (under 18 teenager) I’d still get a lot. 21 now and I’m honestly happy I don’t have social media. Nothing but drama and fake people on it. Can someone explain to me why no social media is a red flag? Please
In a world/time where social media is a huge thing, not having one seems like the person has something to hide. But I agree; as someone who’s been considering deleting some of mine, the only thing that makes me stop is the people that’ll be concerned with the kind of person I am. It’s dumb, but whatever. Also it’s kind of like “everyone has social media for something” like staying in touch with certain people, or just to watch content but not post anything themselves - so to have NONE at all is considered weird
There are jobs in the world where social media isn't allowed, and others where it needs to be heavily hidden. My partner doesn't have socials because he'd rather be outside exercising and doesn't care to know what people are up to. I love that about him tbh. I don't think no socials are a red flag but for people that are obsessed with it I can see how it would be. 🤷♀️
Neither me nor my husband have socials beyond the need to view content but never post. I think it’s our age. Gen Xers. For the young I do see how one would assume EVERYONE has socials, so it may seem ‘weird’ if they didn’t. Like they’re trying to hide something.
@@lizsmith1018 ohhh okay I understand now. Thank you for explaining haha. What you said makes sense.
Yeah, I don’t have social media because of my mental health and Of that’s a red flag to someone good riddance
The first one is why you don't take back a cheater, they don't respect you after forgiving them and will feel like they can easily kept doing it
It's not worth it
ive been going through hard life stuff and just wanted to say thank you. ive been watching for 2 days almost all you lol. youd think that id be overloaded with charlotte, but girl i aint there yet.
as someone who got cheated on and was gaslit and lied to, that trauma was so severe it ruined my two relationships that came after it, because I simply couldn't trust anybody as soon as they showed even the slightest hint that they were lying about something. didn't matter how small it was, it made me so paranoid that I couldn't trust anybody if I caught them in a lie. (and obviously I shouldn't have been in a relationship when i was still dealing with this trauma, but wisdom in hindsight eh?). luckily I have a good man now, been with him for over a decade and I've healed.
The first story, the dude did have privacy. He had so much privacy that he talked to his mistress, made plans with his mistress, and was only caught because he was being obvious upon execution of said plans with his mistress.
Hi all hope everyone having fab weekend .im ill with cold and cough but watching Charlotte upload just makes me feel a little better ❤ love from Scotland
Thank you Charlotte and your team for always brightening my day with your videos! 🫶🏽
The friends in the first story were probably fatigued listening to endless theories about her husband cheating or not. In other words they just didn’t have the energy while at work themselves to pay her pictures much attention. They probably were very supportive before she took him back the first time. Friendship fatigue is real especially when friends have non stop problems!
Oh this is such a good point! I instantly was like I hope she got rid of those friends too, and didn't even think of it from their perspective. But it still is not the best thing to tell her she is over reacting when there was clear evidence she wasn't, but maybe that isn't really what they said. We are hearing her side of things, and they could have just said ok whatever, or kind of ignored her because they were tired of hearing about it when she took him back the last time. They probably just figured that there was no use in agreeing with her or trying to support her through it, if she is just going to stay with him any way. I got rid of all my friends that were like that. If they are constantly going to complain and freak out about something or someone that is terrible in their life, but do absolutely nothing to change the situation when they easily can, than I am not going to stick around to be their punching bag. She also mentioned she was supposed to be working, but was in the break room spending hours doing her investigating. So if she did that all the time and her friends were tired of constantly having to pick up her slack at work because of it, I wouldn't blame them for just trying to say whatever they thought would get her to actually go back to doing her job.
Ngl, been there.
'BRING BACK ADULTRY AS A CRIME!' YAS CHARLOTTE! I've been saying this to my friends forever 🤣😂
The problem with this is that women were the only ones who were punished!
@@sf2132 we could alter it of course for modern times
Married, would want the girl to tell me if my husband was cheating. That's our number one deal breaker with each other. Years ago I found out that I might have been the other woman (could not prove as the couple was on and off), but other women convinced me not to tell her, I really regret taking that advice.
The thing with trusting your instincts goes is that you cant always trust it. Sometimes you are just going by feelings and insecure. Get facts based on your instincts but never absolutely trust them. Let it guide you like a flashlight but you still have to see the actual terrain.
Hi Charlotte, I'm a 700-year-old vampire with iron deficiency anemia and liver chirrosis due to secondhand alcoholism, your videos bring me so much joy during these difficult times
Plasma is the way to go, bae. Also do you really need your liver if you're undead? 🤔
When my partner and I got together, I explained that I was a firm believer in monogamy, and if he were to cheat on me, I would sleep with the woman who he cheated with.
OMG THANK YOU FOR THE IDEAS HONEY!! 😉😄
Would that be a punishment for him tho? Lol
@@cori7209 if he got dibs first, maybe?
Or..... hear me out. You talk to the woman, and You make that woman your BFF. And be friends for 20 years.
Me. It's me who did that.
@@dorkydragon works for you then it works for you :)
Some of us just really enjoy petty revenge >:)
This video taught me that people that get cheated in wants revenge they do everything but leave. Now me personally if I find out I’m going to turn into Casper. And I hope people realize how they react to things and change those reactions to something less violent
Charlotte you have enough influence get these smart and creative ladies to find missing people 😂❤
7:21 there actually is a law in my state called alienation of affection.
*_Alienation of Affection Claim. In North Carolina, you may sue an individual who has caused a married person to suffer the loss of affection of their spouse, so long as the marriage was peaceful and intact at the time of the affair._*
A friend of mine actually sued his neighbor for this exact reason. He caught his wife having an affair with the neighbor. It was even talked about on CNN & they interviewed him about it lol 😂
First girl's husband must have made good money. She let him cheat for almost two years after she was told by the mistress he was cheating. Most likely, that girl got mad at him because he wouldn't leave his wife. He then probably told her he would which is why she lied the second time.
He cheated, she broke up with him. Then he convinced her to take him back, he cheated again, her friends told her that he wasn't so she decided she was overreacting, and then a year later he was caught.
If was married and my husband was cheating, absolutely I’d want to know. In fact, I would respect the woman for coming forward and telling me if she had no idea and he was leading a double life. That tells me the woman has morals.
As a wife of 15 years to a husband that has cheated on me several times... I have VERY MUCH appreciated the women who found out he was married and NOT in an "open marriage" and told me everything!! I've never blamed or disrespected these ladies. My HUSBAND is the only one who I've held responsible. Long story short (in my opinion) YES!! ALWAYS TELL THE WIFE!!
I really hope you are still not with him. Absolutely nothing is worth staying with someone who will disrespect you in that way.
I am still with him, it's very complicated and a hard situation to leave. I just try to be a good person and wife and forgive him...
@@mcquinnswifeohh it one of those marriages.
How do you mean "one of those marriages??" UhOh.... Am I about to feel stupid?? 😮
@@mcquinnswife you kinda have no choice cuz your rents made the decision.
The first woman! She needs to be a bounty hunter😂She can find out all kinds of shizz, damn girl!!! Always listen to that gut! We are ALWAYS RIGHT SOMETIMES🤣
When women get cheated on, we not only turn into detectives, we turn into MMA fighters. 😆
"BElIeVe WhAtEvEr YoU WAnT."
I'll believe the solid black and white text I made sure to print out/take pictures of 🙌🏼
So much better if the other woman is as horrified as you are at that man’s behavior. The woman that had a relationship with my husband knew about us, and was intent on taking him from us. Of course, it turned out in the long run the best thing ever, but at the time it was horrible.
8:07 I get so mad when I have to turn up the playback speed because people talk slow, and smack. You were in the right though!!! Thank you for telling the wife!!!!
Charlotte's hair and makeup is always on point. So gorgeous. 🌺🤗
Unlike that last chick. Someone needs to take her to a quality makeup counter so they can match her skin tone. It looks like she applied Cheeto dust instead of foundation!
Absolutely love your content much love from the UK ❤❤❤❤❤
if i were the wife in that double life situation, lmao i would be friends with that girl in no time because like hey, thank you for exposing the truth!
Yeah, not only do my friends know that I do not condone cheating and will dime them out if they cheat, they also know that we can take my car to go catch someone cheating and I will be the there every step of the way to support them
How, boi! I don’t even remember drinking my coffee up, because I was so invested in this. Thank you, Charlotte, for sharing these life experiences and lessons. Best advice Charlotte gave was screenshots-and know who your friends are. As a side note: We need to redefine that term, "home wrecker." It’s the dirty, rotten, 💩💩💩💩cheater who’s the home wrecker. Everything else is immaterial. And you need to dump that person who 💩💩ed all over your relationship. And if they come crawling back, then couples therapy is in order. This 💩 violated your trust, and you need to work through it. Okay, Granny here needs another cup of coffee. Can’t wait for tomorrow.
I've learned so much from the first clip! Hopefully I don't have to use that knowledge ever!!!
I love how Charlotte puts her face on these people in the pictures. 😂
My ex-husband is seriously the only person I know with no social media. The only thing immoral he has ever done is drink a beer on occasion. I have known this man since college was married to him for 7 years his wife my friend has been married for 17 years. He is legitimately the nicest, quietest man ever. He is posted by me, our son, my husband, his friend, his family, especially his wife. He legitimately believes he has everyone he wants in his life. He doesn't advertise himself.
I love that you guys all have such a great relationship! It’s rare to find exes who are still so friendly. My long term boyfriend and I have no social media either and it makes life so much easier.
My husband also does not use social media. I also trust him completely.
Then again, my parents are divorce lawyers and my favorite show is deadly women.
He'd better not cheat lol
Hun just 2 questions out of pure curiosity...
#1 if he is ALL of these fabulous things your stating...why is he an 'ex'?
#2 ...and this one ...idk ok sooo #2 you said "The only thing IMMORAL he has ever done is drink a beer on occasion" has me a teeny tiny gobsmacked. What/HOW is drinking an occasional beer IMMORAL????????????? Even back in my younger days when I was once a bible-thumper did I ever consider that immoral. Now if he became abusive in any way as an aftermath then that makes sense but not drinking a beer isn't on the Ten Commandments and nowhere in the bible am I aware of drinking beer is IMMORAL. PLEASE DONT TAKE OFFENSE TO MY WORDS... I am aware that MORRAL and IMMORAL are entirely self subjective so that {in VERY long form lol} brings me to the question of *How/Why* do you find such a thing *immoral*? Im not attacking how you feel I promise. I myself have been on the receiving end of a great deal of abuse ie physically and emotionally from age 11 and on. I was molested by my dad from 11-13 them emotionally by my mom weighing me on the scale to determine whether or not I needed lunch money...had to take care of my siblings while my mom was in the Bahamas or wherever. Ive been raped by 4 men and left for dead. Ive suffered domestic violence ETC! EACH OF THOSE POINTS 'to me' is IMMORAL *sigh* so please out of my own ignorance share w me what is immoral to you about a beer? [I promise this question comes from an honest place of curiosity]
Much love 💞
@@dawnlochner3105 She was being sarcastic about him having a beer once in a while being immoral.
Also, you say you are not trying to be offensive, but your tone throughout your entire comment, and even opening it with "Hun", comes off really condescending and kind offensive.