You don't know jack about healthy relationships- LET'S FIX THAT IN THIS STREAM (professional advice)
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1. Shared values/ethics/morals. Self policing. Compatible codes.
2. Compatible life goals
3. Mutual acceptance- but not enabling
4. Mutual fulfillment- how to be the best friends possible
Ready to date again when you are able to be curious about getting to know this person and not anxious or talking endlessly about your ex and how lonely you feel.
Excellent, you got it!
Right!
Thanks for sharing. This is also good confirmation the work I did on myself has helped me move my attachment forward to secure and need to find that pool of secure people.
Could you please enable the Transcript? I am taking notes and this would help me alot.
Great live, thank you Adam
I appreciate you looking at situations from multiple angles and asking for more information when need be before offering solutions đ
Glad it was helpful! And yes, I learned that approach through years of being a therapist - always tailor the advice to the specific situation.
This gives me so much hope ! God bless you for giving this free gold information to us. Thank you so much! Blessings đđŒ
I'm going to be honest, on the one hand I feel so much hope. On the other hand I feel hopeless. I've been watching your videos for a week and I have been processing and grieving so much since I learned I'm avoidant.
It's completely normal to have mixed feelings when discovering new insights about yourself. Remember, you're not alone in this journey. If you ever need support, don't hesitate to reach out to support@adamlanesmith.com
I agree 100% with you about not staying friends with an x
The enabling is definitely the most complicated part in my personal life as with one relationship in my family enabling has become so engrained that the relationship has become toxically co-dependent and with the other one I canât TELL whatâs enabling and whatâs mutual acceptance simply because I donât have the full picture I of what the other person is going through to be able to tell if I or others are enabling them or not
Holy. His was great. Thank you as always Adam!
Glad you found it helpful. Thanks for listening!
Good talk
Thank you!
I would argue the Amazon is a great place to meet latinas hahah
Hi Adam
Do you think secure men are very intentional with their stages of trust etc for example they say to themselves â I wonât do this until week 6 or month 3 etc â with her even if they want to rush into it ? I hope that makes sense
Adam. Let's say I cold approach a woman that I'm attracted to, and I want to see if she's going to be a suitable partner for me. How would I go about doing that without using pick up artist tactics and dark triad behavior traits? I don't resonate with them and they're hard to keep up for a genuine male like me đ how does one create that spark or enough interest and attraction so that they want to see me again?
Have you tried, oh, I dunno, talking to her like a human being? Listen to her answers and you'll find out pretty quick if she's suitable.
I recommend learning authentic communication approaches so you can talk with them normally, as you would in any human relationship.
Correct.
@@AttachmentAdam that's what I've been doing or at least working on doing. Though I did get friend zoned by some girls after that. Idk what that means on their end, but how should a guy go about flirting then without being cocky? I feel like acting cocky attracts unhealthy women usually... And flirting generally seems to be poking at someone in a degrading manner; be it push pull, or teasing or negging. My humor is usually dark and a bit crass so negging seems to have fallen in naturally for me unintentionally. Which I think also attracts unhealthy/insecure women. If I'm not teasing like that, I'm often too polite or platonic I think... Are there any flirting methods that you know of that can be ethically applied to attract a healthy woman?
Robbing little old ladies of their life savings? What? That is mega presumptuous. Wtfđ
There are actually people who do that for a living.
What if you feel all three kinds of attachments but at different times and ways
Anxious, Avoidant, and Secure? It's possible to be Disorganized style and exhibit all of those at different times. Have you checked for that?
@@AttachmentAdam no