My Sister And Her Husband Are Swingers (And I’m Their Babysitter!)
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- My Sister And Her Husband Are Swingers (And I’m Their Babysitter!)
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Locking the boy in his room to get ran through is absolutley unacceptable.😡
Atleastt they're hiding him away from the debauchery 😂😂😂
Call CPS on those sick fucks
But you seem to be ok with the parents having sex with strangers next room......smh......
They're probably trying to keep him safe from the pervs they invite into their home. But that is not the way to do it. Get the kid out of the home or go elsewhere. Please.
Yeah...
I've been swinging in a past relationship. That kinda behavior would have been totally unacceptable.
People having kids in the lifestyle doesn't take it home if they have children. They go out (clubs, events, whatever) ... But you never make your underage kids second priority or let them know about it.
Take your nephew as much as possible, poor child.
Right, he needs to call CPS asap
Absolutely. These parents are unfit and neglecting him, exposing him to an unhealthy environment, parading strangers through the house, etc. If his brother suggested that, the younger one needs to find other support as he gets older. He may really need the caller to stay in his life and help him.
Telling everyone you are swinging is just too damn weird. If the child knows his parents are swinging then that is just damn wrong. Poor kid. Their priorities are effed up.
It's actually just pathetic. Some people need attention so badly.
I cant help but wonder what their upbringing was like... everytime i hear these stories
Yes! I don't know EXACTLY where the line is, but there IS a line somewhere between telling your kids about "the birds and the bees" and telling your kids about the "birds and the birds and the bees and the bees"
This uncle is a hero because someone has to care about that kid..
She’s gonna do it regardless especially since she’s locking him in his room. You need to help him out as much as possible. I would give him a key to your house and keep the fridge stocked. Don’t worry about the sister you need to help your nephew.
Debauchery is no longer comedy when there is a child's well being at risk. Thank you for knowing when to shift the mood, Dr. John.
I don't see how the 12 year old is being put at risk
@@shelbysycamore637 wow so dense
@@shelbysycamore637 I hope you're joking.
@@COINsimp2024 no. I do not see how a 12 year old is being put at risk by their parent being a swinger. Enlighten me please? Is the 12 year old breaking bread with their mother's flings or something?
@@shelbysycamore637 His young mind trying to process what his parents are doing with other couples and he is told to not come out of his room. This is child abuse.
I agree that the sister should have just left what she's doing private - no need to let everyone know. Also, if the couple prioritzes swinging over their own child, and decides that locking him in his room is the way to do things, they definitely need to STOP and get some counselling until they can properly take care of their child.
Can't unring the bell. These people have already demonstrated that they believe their lifestyle is ok and see nothing wrong with exposing it to their impressionable minor child. They're not going to stop. Brother should continue to be a soft, stable place to fall, notify child protective services and petition the court to become legal guardian. Counseling for these parents? Pffft. Get that kid away from them.
Sin has no boundaries. It's proud and boastful.
I understand why they have communicated it with others, because if you see one courting an additional person it’s not assumed there’s cheating or foul play involved, esp if it’s a town that know most of everyone
People who want to do weird stuff shouldn’t have kids. If you already have kids, knock it off. You don’t get to do what you want. You are bound to do what’s best for the kids.
So many judgmental a**holes in the comment section. What two consenting adults do is no one else’s business. Judge lest ye be judged? Can’t stand the judgy “Christians”
I would go off on one of my sisters if they were exposing one of my nieces or nephews to this life of degeneracy. He is a lot nicer than me.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 unbelievable!!
Right. That kid is being impacted so negatively with this behavior. It's unhealthy and it will come out at some point. He's not learning healthy relationships or sexuality or boundaries with strangers with these parents. GOD help this young boy and forgive that brother if he had a part in making this happen. Sick.
Listen to Johns advice. Love and care for your nephew. He can’t help his parents lifestyle. You are helping him, not your sister
I feel like the uncle should have custody of his nephew.
I dated a girl whose parents were swingers. They would tell us they were headed to someone’s house. It was super weird
That’s hot. I would of tried being a bull if I were you
@ymarrero23 Regardless of your personal view of this lifestyle, this is something you keep private.
I'd leave immediately. The girl probably accepted that as ok thing because that's the environment she grew up in. Nothing good would come out by being around such people.
My ex-mother and father -in-law were swingers...she stopped as she got older...he just kept on going out with other women LOL
WHY can't people just keep their private business PRIVATE!! No one in your family wants to think about you in that way.
Why does the family have to judge?
@@gilmendoza8092 No judgment needed, we know perverts when we see them.
@@gilmendoza8092 Why does the family have to KNOW?
@@strnglhld because eventually they will see something or hear something and why would you want to find out from someone else then the actual source !
Family shouldn’t judge
@@agustingarcia9271 I'd judge all day long especially in relation to a child's welfare.
Hello, My friend Karen attended a swingers club once, talked into it by his idiot husband. She run out didn't participate, the husband did. She never got over it. Within a few weeks she asked her husband to leave. Luckily she had a prenuptial agreement, she has been able to change the locks on her house and keep her trust fund intact. She is re-married to an investment banker, they are happy and expecting their first child. In my marriage we have total honesty, openness, no secrets and we supporting each other. This people have to grow up.
My boy john always getting the weirdest questions
He loves it I can tell
He’s in the business of making a good show.
I think whatever someone wants to do within their marriage is up to them, but when the kids have to suffer the consequences as well, it’s no longer okay.
100%
Don’t get married if your like this. It’s disgusting
12 years old is definitely old enough to figure stuff out. Poor kid.
He doesn’t need to figure it out. He’s already watching other women do what she does on the Internet…
Their was a story on reddit recently my buddy sent me about a son who was like 23 who cut contact with his parents bc back when he was 16 they started leaving him for weekends to go to swinger parties. He told them not to reach out to him unless its an emergency and if he has kids with his gf, her parents will take priority and he wants nothing to do with them, and despises them for putting their sexual needs ahead of a relationship with him that he kept trying to have until he finally went away to college and escaped. While they can do what they want if they want to put their sexual partying ahead of their children she will wake up one day and realize they don't want them in their life.
Back in the day we would have given our right whatever to have our parents get the hell out of the house for a weekend or two when we were 16.
Today's kids are sad sacks.
@kaci719 I'm actually living the fantasy that most people toss off to after their wives go to sleep. 🤣
@@kenofken9458it's not sad to want your parent's support and attention. If they're prioritising their sex life over spending time with their kid, to the point where that guy actually cuts them off - you can see it was a problem.
I think its good advice for the caller to continue babysitting his nephew
I agree. I have a niece that I am very close to because her parents do not really pay her any mind and never really did. So I try to be that light to her life.
Yeah, a friend of mine found out that his parents were swingers (in his adulthood). He was NOT impressed. Can't say I blame him.
This is sick on so many levels. Animals in the barnyard.🤮
We found out our friends have been doing this. I told them don't even bother getting married. They get jealous of each other and can't trust each other. They ruined their relationship. Complete idiots
Seems like this uncle is this boy's only hope right now !!!!
OK prude. He's 12 not 5.
@@miketheyunggod2534 this was just a reality on a post on reddit, dude is now 23 and his parents started leaving him a lone every weekend since he was 16 to go to parties, he hates them now and cut them out of his life bc they never wanted to spend time with them, so he despises them. It had nothing to do with their lifestyle, just the fact that they spent every weekend doing this rather than doing anything with him or any vacations with him either. Im guessing something similar will happen her, and then mom will have that dumb "i dont understand" face.
@@miketheyunggod2534that makes it worse!! He knows that his mother has no self respect and no skills as a mother. Can you imagine what this poor kid is going to get at school! Jeez. He's going to get ripped. Your kids have no reason to know about your sexual proclivities.
Poor kid... even he knows it is off... this is gonna end so badly for him and his parents... Swinging relationships never last.
how do you know?
do you think every swinger comes out and sayd theyve been swinging for 30 years or so? or only the failed marriages admit they were swingers?
A professional needs to do a welfare check on the younger son, knowing the whole situation & make sure there is no abuse. That's a lot of strangers in the house & also a weird relationship with the older son.
Cps is full of sex predators...not the best plan .
This is the problem in America today. People don’t want to be judged but at the same time they can’t keep their private lives to themselves. Then they complain that they’re oppressed and act like we’re the bad guys. Not our fault they’re so insecure with themselves that they have to seek out approval for everything they do even when they already know the people they’re hoping to get it from would never. Then that makes us the bad guys somehow. It’s pitiful.
Like Will Smith's wife. She's putting her family business in public and make money off of it, but then gets upset when people criticize her 🙄
Accurate assessment, Khmer.
Good comment. Sofia media is doing some weird stuff to us
YES👏🏼👏🏼
These are the people who are on that other extreme end. They view the world in the victim schema, so they create victim scenarios for themselves. I think these are some of the sickest people on the planet. Because they play with your empathy. You have to be really ironclad and your self-esteem, morals, and your entire being to deal with these demons. They can really break your psyche if you let them. I can't stand those fools.
Poor kid at 12 , he knows what’s going on and probably has access to material he’s not supposed to be watching or experiencing. Yeah poor kid help that 12 years old boy , with all the rage and disgust you feel think of that nephew.
Perhaps we should pray for this family they find a better way and discover Jesus soon. Hebrews 13:4
As a Social Worker, I view locking a twelve year old in a room as cruel - deprivation of liberty.
The whole situation in my opinion is child abuse! Neglecting their child for their own gross selfish behavior, Certainly this will cause some form of physiological issues for him
This should be a CPS case.
When I was younger, I found out that my mom and stepdad were swingers for my mom to cope/allow his cheating. That’s just the one percent of crap they have done or told me. How dare they lock the child in the room…
That’s most swingers the women doesn’t actually like it she just lacks self esteem and accepts it
It sounds like the sister is looking for validation and wants people to know she is available.
We live in a society where debauchery can't be judged. You're "judging" or "not open-minded". This is a sick world. Poor kid. I hope he gets out and finds a good home.
Please help the 12 year old boy.
He should go for custody of his nephew since the sister doesn’t seem to want to care for him. She’s only worried about herself.
He's 12. Jesus. I was going down on girls at 12.
I agree w this.
@@miketheyunggod2534 with what 8 year old kids.
@@miketheyunggod2534 You need Jesus.
@@miketheyunggod2534 I am so sorry for you
Swinging is a dead end to nowhere. Literally. In my community a seemingly normal nice couple with 4 kids stared a swinging group. The husband had a pilots license and flew a small plane with another swinging couple who had five kids. The couples left their children at home one day to go to a neighboring town to party and swap. They left to fly home in the evening and probably the combination of alcohol and bad weather contributed to crashing within 20 seconds of takeoff. There was nothing left to even bury. 9 children left without parents and a legacy of how their parents died is so tragic.
Omigawd! That is horrible. Those poor kids.
But that doesn't have anything to do with swinging though. That's just a bad decision which could have been made by anybody. Granted it was a horrible tragedy but that had nothing to do with the fact that that couple were swingers.
Yeah that's more of a 'don't drink & fly' type deal..
@@filmmusicguy26 Yeah, I just wouldn't want that to be my legacy for my kids.
The inner gossiper in me went straight to Google trying to find this.
Dating as a single mom was hard because I had to nurture new relationships while being there for my kids. Why would you date while married and do that to children?? It's detrimental.
Its not dating its sex
Swingers don't date each other. They get in a room together and trade partners, high five each other and go home. They get turned on by watching their spouse get pleasured. Sometimes they're even bi, but not always. Eventually these relationships go up in flames, most of the time. Someone gets emotionally attached to someone else and that's all she wrote for the marriage.
To flaunt it around like that is definitely concerning, but for the son to know and hear it's going on in their home? 😩 I feel so bad for him 😞 The uncle should definitely take care of his nephew when he can and keep him busy and entertained.
Yeah I’m with John. The sister is going to be crazy and selfish no matter what. If this man and his wife are able to help guide that kid and love him and care for him they should.
This is a sign that our civilisation is collapsing.....pretty fast.
How is that not child abuse?
It is. Obviously.
When my husband and I were newlyweds, his widowed mom and her new husband announced they were doing this. My poor husband and 2 brothers were stunned and disgusted. (We all were.) He was pretty messed up by that revelation of his mommy's character, and never did respect her after that.
I’m confused why you’d even announce that to your family.
@@strnglhld They were proud of it. I think they imagined it made them youthful and daring. Some people are exhibitionists.
My sisters in law plus mother in law have all lived lives like this I was terrified of marrying into their family bc I came from a very strict conservative background! My husband didn’t even know this until his mum just blurted it out one day in front of the family while I was there! The look on his face… poor guy! Needless to say we really don’t have much interactions with them apart special occasions!
@@Nah-ah I wouldn't even have social occasion with them! I would put restraining orders on all of them and go no contact!.
Wtf is wrong with you guys ?
The welfare of the child comes first. The whole family needs to call CPS constantly. Neglect IS abuse.
I have wondered how people with kids do that. Now I know, and they should NOT be doing that nonsense until the kids are grown. Even if it's not neglect, having sex with other people(other than a lover) takes away from your partner and kids. The partner can consent. The kids have no choice.
That they do this in their home with their child there tells you everything you need to know about them.
Hopefully, he will raise his nephew.
BIG SIGH! Yeah, I babysat my niece and nephew (from previous marriages) when my sister and her 3rd husband went swinging. And, your description of her wanting to talk about the party adventures was right on. I wouldn't engage. That was my cue to say goodnight and leave.
Let's see, a 41 year old mom having a 20+ year old son. She had her son maybe during or right after college. She had to be a grown up at a time where she herself was not done growing up. I'm not surprise that she is exuding mid-life crisis behavior right now, but it is very unfortunate for the 12 year old.
Nah, 20 is plenty old enough to be an adult.
Call social services and take custody of the kid! (If that's possible)
Not warranted at all. It’s not like she abandoned her kid
@@tylerk.7947 I think this is abuse when it comes to the law.
If they are doing it with the child is home, call CPS, take your nephew as much as you can.
Good on this guy for wanting to help his family. I don't understand his sister's compulsion to share this info with family when FetLife exists.
There is something really wrong with his sister and his brother in-law that they would put their deranged sexual needs ahead of their teenaged sons mental health!
Like this isn’t normal or right!
Take that boy as often as you can, let him move in with you even!!!
Why aren't people learning from Will Smith and Jada that this will never ever work?! Will is losing his mind over this.
Also their kids. No wonder they all grow up to be so weird and abnormal.
92% failure rate in open relationships...
YES!! THIS RIGHT HERE!!
Lets not talk about him. I lost my respect for him when he punched chris rock. Chris should have pressed charges.
Props to Dr. John for being a Social Distortion fan. Subscribed.
There is no hope for normal people/women in today's society.. I feel bad for the twelve-year-old
I was just going to say potentially“CPS” situation
This is disgusting. Just divorce and break up.
@@KieferL337 no, im talking about the people that do swing. It's unrelated to the context.
@@JesusEsDios007hy should they tho, because they don't think like you? Just because you wouldn't do it just as I wouldn't doesn't mean that it is wrong, there are definitely other ways to go about it that do not involve traumatizing a 12 years old but the problem here is not the swinging it self.
Did you listen to the video? Why should this guy divorce? He’s not a swinger
"I thought she was like 25" LOL, you knew it was about their 12 year old kid
Take care of that kid. His parents are weird, and someone needs to represent normalcy for him.
This poor kid needs his Uncle to say ‘move in’ - he needs a loving, secure environment where he is not not being put at risk with his parents incredibly risky behaviour. I have friends who ended up being abused by some of their parents ‘friends’, it’s too easy to happen when they are more interested in their own pleasure than in the safety and well-being of their son.
people need to keep their sexual life private...like why the hell do other people care who and how you have sex...
He's being asked to babysit, they involved him.
@@COINsimp2024 that is exactly why I said people (his sister) need to keep her sex life private.
This involves a minor. The uncle wants to shield him from the obvious dysfunction in the home.
That’s one way to mess up your life.
I've meant people who were swingers and hell no I wouldn't go there. I noticed that they're people that need constant attention and most of them weren't very attractive. I think its mental problem. Poor kid.
He has got to take him from that. So terrible.
@11:28 I like this point of "Reclaiming the rooms energy!"
He's right, she's going to do it anyway. Best he can do unfortunately, is take him away from the situation as often as possible and be a healthy role model. Poor kid, that must be so confusing.
My sister is a swinger too! I don't know how to deal with it either, especially when she asks for dating advice!
Thank u for telling it like it is dr. John
Take that child. Open relationships and Swinging lifestyles should literally result in your children being removed from your custody. You are not mentally healthy or responsible.
These disturbed people need to SWING to Jesus!
You gave very good advice. That poor little boy/young man being locked up so they can let their freak run free.
Wild. Wooh. That is crazy.
This child may not want to go home, and I don’t blame him…
And you just know they’re somehow going to be surprised and hurt when the kid cuts contact with them and only maintains a relationship with his uncle once he grows up.
The sister likely posts that she's doing this on social media. She's one of the many that thinks people want to hear every tiny detail of her life.
Living on the west coast, it is extremely common here for people to advertise their polyamory. It was a bit of a culture shock as a monogamous married woman from the Midwest.
What?! I moved from the Midwest to the SF Bay Area decades ago, and have lived in various areas there without ever encountering the polyamory lifestyle. In this case, St. George is in eastern Utah - hardly the West coast - and highly populated with Mormons. I wonder if this couple is deluding themselves into thinking that their swinging lifestyle is simply a version of polygamy, but only in micro-snippets of time?
@@probablynot1368 That's an interesting way to look at it.
Well yeah, how are you going to root out people who might be interested in sleeping with you or your spouse if you're not constantly telling everyone that you're interested in having sex with other people?
@@razmiddle9410 More importantly, how do you turn down people that you find repulsive? It could really piss off certain men to be turned down by Sloppy Seconds Sally. What? she now pretends to have standards? That's not going to fly with certain types, they might try to get revenge. Best not to cast a wide net in situations like these.
@@jeromehenry4484 What? I'm just talking about my personal experience living on the West Coast -- the many men and women who've made it a point to inform me that they're polyamorous was clearly a way to try fishing for additional partners or encounters.
my answer would be nope! no babysitting and CPS would be called immediately.
The CPS thing, yes.
That’s crazy. I wonder why people decide to make that discussion. I won’t want my old lady to ever do that
Reminds me of Rabbit's mom dating her sons high-school classmate.😂
“Porn is free because it steals your soul”
Some things to consider. Exodus 20:14, 1 Corinthians 7:2-5, Proverbs 6:32, Hebrews 13:4. The world we live in will be for a short time. Heaven and hell both are eternal. I only have the short lifetime to decide which place we want to spend eternity in so it’s best for us to put some time into prayer for wisdom and discernment of how we’re living our lives. If we hope to be with God has a way he wants us to behave is it easy no. But we are a work in progress please speak out forgiveness from Jesus and ask for him to help you to change your lives.
🤔 I wonder if she’s doing that because her husband was cheating and it’s not cheating if they both do it?!
OR if she thinks this would be a good idea to spice up the marriage UNTIL her husband ends up cheating on her behind her back…. I almost know it’s going to happen! She thinks it s great idea 💡 UNTIL her husband decides to do it without her in the know. Then is that cheating!! Idk 🤷♀️
Is her marriage already over?! Yeah…
Offer the kid a place to stay. Give him a stable home with proper role models.
disturbing in so many ways.
I loved Swing Out Sister.
My advice...
1. Talk to the rest of the family (grandparents, his side of the family, etc.). Make sure they all know and are willing to step in and help the callers nephew.
2. Make sure your nephew has a cell phone and everyone's contact information. Make sure he can call any of you at any time. Consider giving him a prepaid credit card so that he can get an uber, cab, etc. food, etc. in emergencies. Likewise, have CPS', the police, neighbor's, etc. numbers available to him.
3. Spend as much time with him. Other family members also. Take him on vacations with your kids.
4. Have the extended family setup a fund for him. Not just for college, but expect when he turns 18 (or possibly even sooner) that he may need to leave. The marriage could easily fail, he could easily be leaving on bad terms, etc. Personally, I'd talk with both sets of grandparents and consider having them take any inheritance they were thinking of giving to their daughter/son and having it available to the kid at 18.
5. He is 12, so old enough to have a serious talk -- his parent's lifestyle, he'll need to protect himself from it, we're here for you, make plans so you can leave, etc., etc.
6. Limit your contact with your sister and her husband. Unless it involves the boy, there is no need to by talking with them. Don't cut contact as that would likely result in the kid being cut off from you.
Guaruntee the 12 year old knows..
When this 12 year old turns on his mom she will say "Why?"
So he is not locked in his room which means he can come out of his room. That means he can see what’s going on in the house . CPS should be called
wish ppl would figure these things out prior to having kids
Tell the sister she's sick and you want nothing to do with it.
I disagree with Jon here, Dave Ramsey would have never said to support Debbie Does Dallas.
This is why it's called the John Delony show. And not the Dave Ramsey show. Dave is a the money guy. John is the mental health guy.
I recall when, in my 20s, I was staying at my grandparents' house in the country. I called my parents' house in Houston, Texas. Mom answered the phone, and in the background, I heard my dad enthusiastically having sex with someone else. I asked my mom what was going on, and she said that they were "having church" at home. I'm so glad that it didn't happen when I was a kid; I would have been scarred for life. 🤦🏼♀️
oh my! must have been super awkward to see them for the first time after that.
Yes, it was! I've always wished that Mom had never answered the phone that day. (That was in the days before caller ID.)
Get custody of your nephew she's neglected her son locking him in there that's crazy. Call cps tell them you will take him . They will call mber of family before putting child in the system. So sad
Swing low, sweet Chariot...
Delonys face at 6:02
"Next, on Springer ...."
Attention is the coin of the realm in girl world.
I live in Saint George!
Every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord. Bible prophecies are continuing to be fulfilled. Life and love are miracles from God each day.
PRAISE JESUS! This is 2 Timothy Chapter 3. Perilous Times! LORD help us!
He's stuck in the middle of her and her husband!
Told the pets 🤣🐕🐈
Imma say what all the guys in the car forums say “pics to prove it”
00:30 No trip to St. George is complete without eating a burger at Larsen's.
Or frostop
@@rachelgee7894 same place, but yeah.