7 Things Narcissists Do When They Lose Control
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- čas přidán 8. 09. 2024
- 🌻 Breaking free from a narcissist is a challenging but empowering journey. Remember, you are not alone, and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong by focusing on self-care, surrounding yourself with supportive friends and family, and seeking professional help if needed. 💪
Here are some tips to help you navigate this difficult time:
1. Prioritize your emotional well-being
2. Set clear boundaries and stick to them
3. Practice self-compassion and be kind to yourself
4. Engage in activities that bring you joy and peace
5. Build a support network of trusted individuals
6. Consider professional support through coaching or therapy
You deserve to live a life filled with love, respect, and happiness. Keep moving forward, one day at a time. 💖
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Have you experienced any of these tactics after trying to break free from a narcissist?
Haha. After I told him no calling, only texting (he's nasty and rude on the phone but won't do it over text), he messaged saying, "I need to call. It's dad. He's really bad. "
He works at a hospital. No lows he won't stoop to, to break my boundaries
No reply, baby. No reply!!
😂😂
FOG: Fear, Obligation, Guilt...
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She’s 100% right. They will also try to remain close to your mother.
Truth. He's friends with my sister's and brother-in-law. He loves to post on their Facebook pages. He does the same with my grandchildren. He wants to make sure I see it. He usually writes "praying" when they are going through something. That makes me feel like puking. He is a religious narcissist, yet if everyone knew all his secrets, they would stay far away from him. He has a problem with paraphilia. He is one disgusting human. He is so delusional, he probably thinks that when I see his posts, I'm impressed and want him back. Never in a million years.🤮
Close to my mother's sister !!
Or keep tabs on you through social media. I know a narcissist guy who has been friends with his ex's on fb for 18 years!
Fear,emotionally abuse, mentally and emotionally. FEAR, MAKES U THINK YOUR CRAZY N YOUR THE PROBLEM
So glad I left her before she could discard me. I started to see through her lies and it was genuinely disappointing. Someone will literally lie to you even after they’ve been caught in the action. Proof will be in front of them and they will still lie👎🏽
I am not afraid, but certainly am concerned. God is and will continue to protect me, according to whatever His will is.
My mom (the narc) is doing all seven right now. I’m graduating law school soon and she’s been doing anything she can to get me to “invite her” or allow her to come because she knows she is not welcome. She’s had friends harass me telling me I need to find forgiveness. I’ve had to change my phone number. It’s been bad. She says all she wants to do is see me on my big day and “give me a hug”. After extreme narcissistic abuse and manipulation for my whole life but especially last year. Oh and her last discard when she said “I’m done with you. You always blame me for everything. You’ll never see me again. I will not be at your graduation”. This was 5 months ago. No contact with her since and I plan to keep it that way.
Mine yelled and threatened me. He also used a smear campaign and acted like HE was the victim.
Yes. I'm going through it now.
Yes lord lol! It's true I just let him walk away this time!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He triggered me and used my reactive abuse to walk out. I didn't take him back. Done n dusted after 25 yrs. Can't take it anymore
It makes you not want to bother. Again with no body 😮 😢
They turn to a new source without any hesitation.
She told me I lied to her and left the relationship after showed her proof that I wasn't lying to her. She came back telling me that she forgave me and don't hate me used me for her needs and then ghost me. Then came back 4 months later telling me that she miss me and my kids but kept coming at me with disrespectful comments. When I called her out on what she was doing she said everything was my fault and even tho I apologized for something my therapist and people keep telling me it wasn't a lie. She told me apologizes don't mean nothing actions does. Either tho when she reached back out to me I never called her she was the one that kept calling me.
Your support means a lot to me. The rabbit hole is really deep
I legitimately can relate to this as if it was the seven stages of grief... it was almost to the letter. Over a decade and additional years. It was just as bad as divorce... I was engaged for many years and trusted in someone more so than anyone in the past only to realize that this person I put on such a high pedestal was worse than anyone I had encountered in the micro relationships leading to what I thought to be my one and only.
Just remember, the universe has a way of revealing truths and we just need to be mindful and patient -
I always say, wait watch and listen and it served me well in the end bc once that thread starts to unravel, chaos ensues.
You're worth more than you think and you have to please consider,
You validate what you tolerate
It was a very difficult break in my being to experience but I came out better for it in the end
Don't discount yourself
Do not make them (whoever they are, male or female), make you ever feel less...
Hugs to all
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Thank you, Evangelina. You’re absolutely right on all points. I appreciate your support and encouragement.
They are quite unintelligent esp if they apologise they will follow it with a reason that suits them !
My dad for sure
Discrediting , fear and intimidation tactics, rage , etc
I have experienced all of those. The last 3 the worst. he has tried everything lie bad word and physical abuse.
Sorry to hear that. I hope you've found some peace since then 🙏❤
All 7...4 and 5 for sure were obvious. 6 took me a minute to figure out, but when members of their own family started asking me all kinds of odd questions, for me to be like, "what? No?"
My ex narc, 64 forwarded by abusive texts ( reactive abuse ) to his sisters to get their approval to move on with his new supply, a former divorce client. They said to me that maybe new supply will make him happy. What ? I tried for 25 yrs and now some rich 60 yr old will succeed lol
Just broke up with my BF in his mid-50s. Gone out for 4.5years, looking back he had all the traits you’re talking about. I didn’t know what was going on until I realized I was being manipulated all these years by his narcissistic behavior, being stuck with emotional abuse and bad luck in my own life. Though I feel sour, hopefully I made a right decision to leave the relationship so I can finally move forward to bring back my inner peace.
They can't bond. They are warm and then cold. It's so painful and disregulating.
I figured it out and saw through it all.Fear is the devil’s way to make things fall apart. So I always choose to challenge it in my way of overcoming the game. I have learn something about myself and I now understand why god put through adversity. It was get me to look within and see that all things are possible with me and whomever I am around with in my life.
"Chance encounter" at an event where there were hundreds of people in the room. Lovebombed my mother while her narc adult children stonewalled me. I've known the narc for over 40 years and her playbook is still the same.
I also exposed him in a significant way, by obtaining a restraining order, before I knew that it would be such a narcissistic injury, maybe even a mortification.
That could be an injury but you also have to do what's in your power to protect yourself. Never put his feelings before your safety 🙏❤
Yup. That is the guy my mom married to a T! It sucks because I have had to go no contact with my own mother due to his abusive behavior.
I’ve experienced all of those, plus so much worse. I almost committed myself to a mental institution, because he said that i was crazy and that i’m only seeing what i want to see, and hearing what i want to hear. it’s like,“ believe me don’t believe your eyes or any other surveillance evidence. He discarded me during one of the most difficult ,heartbreaking times of my life. The passing of my dear mother. This is such a strange disorder, I would never have believed it existed if I wasn’t living it.
Smeared and completely broken
That’s alex. Really sad too. I mean you hit the nail on the head. He was king of narcs. Good riddance and peace ☮️ I now have boundaries
The whole county I live in. Especially, those in the local government, and religious sectors.
Experienced this to the tee
All of the above...
What a wonderful channel! You are beautiful and so inspiring!
I have and am now experiencing all of these tactics
Same applies to a narcissistic employee
I was involved with a narcicist a year ago. I never knew there are people like this in the world but I now know better. I have not received a fake apology yet, but this may still be coming. I saved myself by going "no contact".
Im in the smear campaign and chance encounters stage right now..this has been very helpful thru this
Very true and nice points ❤❤😊
Smear campaign? My ex left me and his 2 year old son without a place to stay to move to his new supply after i supported him and his 2 foster children financially for 4 years. Told his new supply how i slept around. That our son was not his. Taht i used witchcraft to make him fall in love with me. That i locked his 2 foster children in a room while entertaining other men while he was away on business, i hit him lightouts with a frying pan etc. His foster being classic flying monkeys and supporting his lies. Well the new supply kicked him out, and the foster children was taken away. He phoned he making all sort of promises. But found another supplyband decided to go with her. He lied most of our marriage.
The ex narc did all of these. It felt like I was in hell w him. He was so nice at first so it’s confusing to wrap your head around. You end up w a mean cruel stranger.
I went full no contact over two years ago now.
Sadly I had to go no contact with anyone associated w him bc he would use them to get to me and that’s not fair to them either. Narcs are gross mean and scary.
Yes - mine also turned into a mean cruel stranger.
Yep, you got this right.
What about ghosting?
Yelp everyone is correct.. wish I could learned all this 7 years ago
All of the above.
I have seen her twice this week or at least her car! At places we used to go together ! No doubt with a new sucker!
Right on!
Didn’t experience them, well I used them. Not all of them obviously. I definitely use fear to my advantage.
I was married to a narcissist for almost 26 years
Unfortunately, all of those from my ex
Good vup of yeah discussion
Su!cide threat was a very common tactic being used to me from multiple of them
My ex she checked all the boxes ☑️
Going through
Some if not all those chance encounters feel orchestrated! How do you run into the same person multiple times in a big city. How do people you know in another setting show up in places you move to, having the same neighbor twice. Chance doesn't seem to fit the bill for me as the reason because it's not believable.
Yes.
He has not yet done #1-#4, or #7, but he has definitely done #5 and is full in on the smear campaign, for well over nine months now. He has completely isolated me from nearly everyone, including my own adult children. I’m just about to receive my portion of his 401k (i.e., make my escape!), and now all of a sudden he wants me to stay in the house for a year or more longer than he initially wanted. I smell a rat! I believe he is a malignant covert narcissist, definitely a covert one.
Remember the things that got you to this place. Hang on to those memories and truths. Manipulative people are good at pulling off a complete transformation, but only for long enough to get you to believe them 🙏❤
I experienced All of the 7 😅 damn i was so dumb
I have
I’m not completely sure, but I think so. Our situation is different from most, because I had no idea for 18 years what I was dealing with, and didn’t handle things the way I’ve now learned I should have. He outright divorced me, but now is completely altering the way he wants to handle issues like selling our house, etc., from what he wanted to do at the beginning of the divorce. I’m afraid that it’s a covert attempt to hang onto me and prevent me from moving away.
What about sleep deprivation then brainwash tactic.
They cheat on you
All smh 🤦🏾♀️
Big Time fear
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Control and lie
I think they did all the first 6, but not the 7th because they are 'christian'.
Oh am very happy to hear he has little sense of Golden rule then.
The narc I dealed with, is a witness but it didn't stopp him from threatening very badly, that makes it even more sad, because he "knows" intellectualy a lot about biblical stories, reflections etc. that really is mind blowing how abusive he even uses Christian religious knowledge for manipulation but cultivates none of that.
@@Kathy-hg5km key words 'knows about'. But not a personal relationship with conviction, humility, repentance.
Brandycrissrounsaville, Falsely accused me of laying with landlord when she date the state
You accuse me of going to bed with my nieces husband.
I saw you in a car with a man. I have the video.: I said let’s see it, no answer and
Everything that’s happening in our marriage is my fault. I said like what? No response!