10 Subtle Signs They’re JEALOUS Of You
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- čas přidán 5. 08. 2024
- If you suspect someone is jealous of you.. to be frank.. you're probably right. But there are a few signs that give them away. In this video, we explore 10 subtle signs they're jealous of you. If you see these, you know.
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00:00 Unexpected Jealousy
00:21 Spotting Backhanded Compliments
01:15 Understanding Jealousy and Perception
02:09 The Red Flag of Comparisons
03:35 Downplaying Your Accomplishments
04:21 Overreacting to Your Success
05:32 Competitive Behavior in Non-Competitive Areas
06:33 Copying Your Choices: Flattery or Red Flag?
07:50 The Dark Side of Jealousy
10:08 Becoming the Social Pariah
11:15 Passive Aggressive Behavior
12:24 Sarcasm: A Mask for Jealousy
13:10 Planting Seeds of Insecurity
14:02 The Covert Narcissist's Tactics
15:06 Misery Loves Company
15:23 Conclusion: Recognizing Manipulation
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It's so cringe for anyone to leave any mean or backhanded compliments in this day and age. These are immature people.
If someone is neurodiverse, they can use stories/analogies to relate to you. I'm glad you mentioned that. Hijacking a story can come from being neurodiverse. It doesn't mean they're jealous or want the spotlight. They want to connect with you. Just something to keep in mind.
@JE-pd8fp
Good point,
very well made.
Thank you
I have experienced all of this with family members. When someone acts like this I take the hint and leave them alone. I don't have family in my life anymore and I like it that way.
My “best friend” whom I have confided in about going through a harder time financially, came to visit me and kept talking about how much everything she bought cost, how much the house she’s going to buy will cost, she was throwing money away left and right buying everything she liked in the shops and suggesting all these extra activities we should do that would cost me extra money. I was hoping that once I told her about my tight budget once I wouldn’t have to keep mentioning it and feeling bad. I told her I would like to get a dog and her only response was “you know they can be very expensive”, then she told me she’s getting one (before i mentioned i love dogs more, she was always a cat person). I told her I’m considering freezing my eggs so i dont have to rush into finding the right partner, her only response way “that’s a very expensive thing you know” - no encouragement or support. When I got a promotion recently with a pay rise she asked me “do you think your landlord will increase your rest this year”. Am i going crazy or what!!!! She wants me to be her maid of honour but I desperately want to decline 😞
I’m so sorry you’re going through this! That is not a true friend. She doesn’t deserve to have you in her life. I too went through betrayal from a best friend recently and decided she is no longer going to be a bridesmaid in my upcoming wedding. She lied about me to my fiancé and told him multiple times that she doesn’t know how he’s even with me. I was so hurt and so angry when I found out!
Say NO!!!
She will abuse your generosity with your time. I would doorslam her.
Please DO decline! It's clear as day, isn't it? She only wants you in 'an exposed position', where she can publicly crack 'jokes' about her 'sweet maidenly maid, that is still in need of a husband', and throw that bouquet right in your face. While everyone is laughing at you, because they would rather embarrass YOU than a bride (even a nasty one) on her wedding day.
And while you are at declining already: Decline to give this (obviously very narcissistic) person ANY opportunity to treat you like this anymore! And stop to call her your 'best friend'. Now. Because she isn't and you aren't. You are just 'supply' to her. Period. She just feeds on you 'having less than her'. On all counts she can find. In this way SHE needs YOU. Not the other way round. Go find someone more worthy of your friendship and loyalty. Because you are worth it. ❤
Thank you all - i needed to hear this. Preparing myself mentally for a difficult conversation
0:12 Oh my goodness, yes!!! I’ve been betrayed by a few people in my lifetime, and they were almost always people I least expected. To say it’s hurtful and traumatizing is an understatement!
Right? It’s not just that it’s someone close to you. But that you also didn’t see it coming. Even though looking back, you can see that it was going on for decades. Your love for these people just disguised the abuse, until you reached your pain threshold.
You let a 22 year old kid live with you because you have a heart n wanna see him do well in life, only to be removed by him at a later date. 🤢💯🙏we went through that. Yucky. 🥶💯
Wow. The amount of jealousy I was waiving off as my own hypervigilance, trauma, or overthinking is shocking. The manipulation is stronger than the force at this point. Jedi mind tricks
Backhanded compliments. My ex husband posted on social media how he was so relieved that our daughter got her looks from me and her brains from him….
Wow
Yup that’s it right there! 🙏❤️
This confirms my suspicion.
Humanity has either crashed or I attract some really rotten people. 😬🤔.
Great video. ✌️
If you’re remotely good looking, successful or particularly talented at something (especially in a higher degree than those around you) you can feel free to expect a pattern of jealousy by people in your life. ESPECIALLY, if you’re a girl! Unfortunately just the cold truth of life. Been through it, believe me. Have one female friend in my life who’s never been jealous and she’s almost a cousin. Everyone else did all things in the video.
@SheisGraceful
I'm a dude .
Someone once told me I'm easy on the eyes .
Not a millionaire but above average.
They say nice guys finish last.
Well,I like being nice.
Besides, who would want to finish first?
There's too much to see along the way.
Peace ✌️
@@sunset9729 There’s your answer :) Nice guys over bad boys any day!
Your question was "Has humanity crashed? or am I just attracting some really rotten people?"
The answer is 'Yes'
2 Timothy 3 is happening right now! 2 Timothy 3:1-5 "3 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. 2 For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, slanderers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, 4 treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 holding to a form of godliness although they have denied its power; avoid such people as these."
My covert narcissist ex boyfriend was jealous of me! He'd always joke around and say "I hate you😁", and also "you're too perfect", "I don't deserve you", yeah you don't you cheating POS. I'm a woman and my boyfriend was jealous of my own good character! 🤦♀️
There's also under the breath remarks from strangers in public. Who being cowards "knowing they're in the wrong"move away quickly before you front them. Even though you may look 100 percent better than the culprit, have a better aura and dress to the 9s..they still can't reign in self control when it comes to jealousy and envy.
rule no 1 is just don't trust anyone, it's impossible to get surprised this way, only trust yourself
I feel this, but I find it hard not to trust other people, not from a place of naive hope; but rather from the recognition that ultimately, trust in others is required in order to effect positive change in the world; be that on an individual level, better interpersonal relationships; or on a meta level, moving others towards an inspired way of life through example.
That's a crappy way to live. It's easier to have higher social standards and only spend energy/time with people who make your life better, and simply don't engage with those who don't.
5:50 Making things into competition that don’t even matter, that makes a lot of sense! I’ve experienced that from a friend recently. She told my mom that I “don’t like health food,” but that she does. And also told my mom that I probably couldn’t even get to work on time if I worked a “normal day shift.” (I work evenings & love to sleep in, but I used to have an 8 am job, and made it there on time no problem.) Friends like this try to take digs at you just to try to make themselves look better, but in this friend’s case, it backfired and made her look worse.
Ditch them!
I share my stories with my daughter and she always calls me out. I’m a person who can relate to others and to me that is a part of a conversation.
I never try to make her feel badly about herself and I always try to compliment her on her motherhood and true talents. And I’m not making up my compliments.
I try to remember that she doesn’t like my relatable stories and end up feeling bad because I annoyed her.
Sometimes being a mom isn’t always easy.
That is what breeds the jealousy. Your (and anyone else's) ability to do successfully what they are unable to accomplish without taking themselves down.
Multiplied many times over when Christian. Because as Christians we have obtained a God-given joy that irks them to no end. Because they don't have that. And they have attempted to deceive others into believing that they do have it. Until the charade just can't keep up. Then it becomes undermining warfare.
Because the reality is there is a spiritual battle behind the scenes for the souls and faith destruction of people. They, being stuck in their own ways, having said no to God's ways, then just multiply their sins before others and God. So much easier to just repent and be saved. But they have elevated their public image above reality. Jesus said to the pharisees, you say we see, therefore your blindness remains. They have to admit their spiritual poverty before God. Their public image won't allow that, as they have to prove themselves better than...
Also, God actually means for the jealousy to be a means of provocation towards repentance and acknowledgment of need.
If only they knew...
It can be a fine line between what’s relatable and what’s too much for someone, but it sounds like you care and are trying to make it work for you both 🙏❤️
@@CommonEgo I really am. And I know it’s not all about me. I have no interest in that. I would love to, someday, have an old fashioned conversation with no criticism. But life goes on and I hope to remember to keep my pie hole shut. I once had a friend who used to say she had a good forgettery. Now I can relate to her!!!
@@CommonEgo FYI some of us neurodivergent people sometimes use our stories to get across that we understand. However, what I noticed with covert narcissists is they take over with their stories and make it all about them. That's what my mother would do before I went no contact.
When you notice _every_ one of these red flags in the workplace from your so-called “leader” 🙄
Omg, I have dealt with SO much of this with other female coworkers it’s disgusting!!
Spot on. Thank you for great observations and advice. I don’t want jealous people in my life. They despise you secretly. Not any more.
im never invited anywhere! lol most likely just too busy
When you're not invited, to your face. A couple years ago, my MIL was demanding that my husband save money so they could go to London. I was excited and went "I've never been to London," but got a "Well you've been to other countries." The invitation was clearly not open to me, wife to her son.... I've always known my MIL to be the jealous type because my husband was enmeshed with her until I left him 1.5 years ago. (I even had her wedding.) Now, we limit contact with this family.
I feel like I am wearing some special glasses now. I see narcissistic people everywhere in my life 😂. I always thought I was weird for not wanting to hang out with these oh so charming people. But every encounter with them made unsettled me until I replayed our conversation and found all the subtle insults and patronising comments. So I keep them at arms length. This video just confirmed that my gut feeling was always right.
I totally relate. It's like every other person is a jealous petty ars person. What I'm trying to learn is how to react or don't react to the b.s. people put us through for us being us. I'll never understood jealous people
@@ruckerbrady8342 me neither. I suddenly find myself in a silly competition I never anticipated. Their jealousy shall reside within them. I want no share of it.
My narcissistic friend would never compliment me or say anything kind about anything i did. But would copy everything i did. I had a Winnie the Pooh themed baby shower and she had a Winnie the Pooh themed baby shower a couple months after. She did this with multiple things. As soon as i posted about liking anything she would like it 100x more than i did. But still wouldn’t say anything to me and would just immediately start copying me. She doesn’t like any of my posts on social media or comment on anything. Just will immediately post something almost identical a few days later. Even when i cut my hair short she said she wouldn’t do it and a few days later had short hair. I don’t know what to do in this situation to get her to understand I’m not playing this game anymore! She currently went no contact with me. No idea why. I just don’t know what to do for myself to heal and move forward since it’s clear i won’t get closure. She’s done this before and we didn’t speak for an entire year until i reached out. I’m just feeing very drained from the situation.
The fact that she won’t oust the people who give her backhanded compliments in the comments, proves her integrity.
These mean spirited people THINK they are being subtle, but with anyone that is very perceptive -- no remark goes unnoticed. I stay away from these types. They come across as "shy" at first - but wait a bit, and allow that person's real character come out eventually. They are insecure deep down inside. Let them wallow in their own misery.
I ve experienced all of these with my mom...
One upping. My mother would literally try to one up. And not just with words. Like if people were oohing and ahhing over something I got, she would go buy a similar thing just to get them oohing and ahhing over the thing she bought. “Gossip” also can be in the form of fake “concern” for you to others.
My mother did all of these at one time or another which means that she is utterly consumed with envy. Great insight tho on their jealousy about our contentment in our solitude. She also was the queen of “poor you” fake “concern.” I finally saw it one day tho and I just started saying things like I’m doing just fine but ok. If you want to go around worrying about non issues, that’s your choice. 🙄🤷🏻♀️
I hear many say this sharing similar experience to be a bad sign. I never would see it as an attempt to one-up me to be honest.
Not letting me tell my story in order to be it all about themselves on the other hand does get tricky avoiding one sided conversations.
Then there is people who just don't have much to say and prefer listening more
I've had some pastors treat me like this. You don't expect your spiritual leaders to do that, but it happens.
I hope you've stopped going to that church
I used to be a Narcissist more than a decade ago. Today I don’t even care about my looks anymore.
That's why I have to single out so called friends 😮
Oh my gosh… thank you. I needed this. It explains SO much.
Glad it was helpful!
Ask a really attractive sweet caring person what are some signs of jealously in other people. Attractive people get hate almost everywhere they go, even in church. Petty jealous people are everywhere. It is very rare for someone to be jealous of someone else AND treat that person with respect and care. Jealous people are not safe to be around, they are weak and will try and steal your light.
Thank you for the video!
Wow! I can relate to 4 signs in two people in my life, and I mean 4 signs each. Great video, and I bet you do get back handed compliments, which is a sign of your success.
I think i v been thru all of these signs around my life by now..rilli nice video
Thanks Christina for your video's ❤
🎯 Excellent.
Thank you! 🙏❤️
omg yes❤❤❤❤
Exactly what I heard from my Narc Ex
I wish I saw this years ago
People please understand thst narcissists can still be neurodiverse. Neurodiversity doesn't mean someone is innocent
I had my pic in the newspaper showing me with my severely disabled students. And guess what? He ACCIDENTALLY tore the article!!!
Wow that's pretty messed up in a very ugly thing to do
Save yourself from a Nancy man.
I know many creepy people!
😒Not sure whos copying who nowadays?🤔
Ill cuddle
mother rrr
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Who cares 😅
I have question am i emotionally cheating on morgan with my ex boyfriend Stephen behind morgan by meeting up and texting and calling Stephen on phone and laughing with steohen and holding hands with stephen and watching high school musical dvds that me and Stephen love without never never having no sex
Seriously!!!? As a guy, I can only hope Morgan finds out and dumps you. Selfish and disrespectful!
yes
Oh please of course you are and you know this. So tacky. What you don't 11:18 know is how to write, capitalize ALL proper names and use punctuation. Smarten up.😑