The Gender Wars: Why Men Hate Women And Women Hate Men
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Timestamps:
A Great Example Of Men VS Women: 0:00
The Dissolution Of Gender Roles: 1:08
The Lack Of Positive Masculinity: 2:25
Total Lack Of Empathy From Both Genders: 5:47
BetterHelp: 9:32
Completely Unrealistic Expectations: 10:49
How Do We Stop The Gender War?: 17:08
More On The Masculinity Crisis: 22:36
Topics: red pill hypergamy, manosphere, red pill podcasts, modern dating, modern gender roles
To be honest, I'm little dissapointed in the way some men have reacted to this video.
Tons of comments have been left by men talking about how this was heavily skewed towards criticizing men/being pro women, and that made me confused.
So i decided to play the video back and measure:
- How much time was spent criticizing women/modern feminism
- How much time was spent criticizing men/the manosphere
- How much time was spent neutrally criticizing both at the same time
The results i got were:
Time spent criticizing women/modern feminism: 5 minutes
Time spent criticizing men/manosphere: 6 minutes, 30 seconds
The rest of the video was neutrally going back and forth.
That's only a minute and 30 seconds more of criticizing men.
I don't think that small amount of time added to the criticisms is enough to say this is "heavily biased" towards women.
I'll admit, I'm not completely unbiased. I don't think anybody is truly perfectly unbiased. I am a little more inclined to be more strict on men, because I am one.
But the fact that it's 95% men getting mad at the video, saying it's biased towards women, and only about 5% of women in the comments saying this video is biased towards men (over just a minute and 30 seconds of extra criticism) leads me to believe many men aren't willing to take the accountability that they so harshly criticize women for not having.
It seems like more women than men are holding themselves accountable after watching this.
There's issues on both sides, and i tried to present that as balanced as i could. If you remove your own bias towards your own gender, it's easier to see that.
I understand im bringing up harsh truths for both sides. But accountability is needed from both men and women for change to start happening.
Come on boys. Let's not play victim, and do what we can to bring awareness to our issues, instead of just complaining about them.
Immaturity from both sides is the culprit.
There's a good reason you have no comments and four likes after 2 days. It seems you're trying to represent both sides equally at the cost of fairness.
Speaking as though our grandmothers didn't have jobs as teenagers. Cosigning piddly bцllsнiт as if women haven't been well beyond equal well before our lives. The standards for that starkly unattractive, trifling woman should be a breathing man. I read the comments, then this comment, then watched and couldn't go past 6 minutes
@@AWeeCuntfromLiverpool dont comment if you can't watch the whole video, makes you look closed-minded and weak
I appreciate your video. We all have things we can work on.
Give this dude a hell yeah!💪
Whats the split on viewership by gender
Masculinity and Femininity aren’t toxic, but immature behavior can be.
Most of the time when ppl call out toxic Masculinity/Femininity they often mean performing gender roles to an extreme level anyway. As long as you're just trynna live your life and be a good person in general i wouldn't worry too much about those labels tbh
@437 Nobody calls out toxic femininity. When women are toxic, even when filling gender roles, they just say they're toxic, and also tend to try to blame it on a man somehow.
It's only when men do toxic things that they tie it to their gender.
That's the same with everyting that feminism creates. When Men interrupt, it's "manterrupting", when women interrupt, it's just interrupting. Some might even twist it to call it empowering. When men explain, it's called mansplaining, when women explain it's just called explaining. And of course she's right to explain her point of view and empowered for sharing her thoughts. When men objectify women, it's called the "male gaze". When women objectify men, it's empowering and encouraged. When men spread their legs, it's "manspreading", when women spread their legs or take up too much space, they just say she's taking up space, and again, often encourage it and call it empowering.
I've always said, if feminism didn't have double standards, they wouldn't have any standards at all. I firmly believe in equal rights and equality of opportunity and encourage all men and women to seek out and pursue their passions. But feminism as an ideology is twisted, mostly because bias is inherent within it, as it is within any ideological movement, and they do not allow dissent(if you question the things they say, you're a misogynist), so there is no structure in place to call out the bias. And media is too scared to call them out even when they're wrong, because they've used the "but we stand for equality" line to force media in line to support, not question.
it is, actually. it is performance, made for people to fit in little boxes and limit their behavior.
and everyone is essentially immature. stop assuming that humans actually know what they're doing, not even the best one of us know it much.
Yes
This is a sign of the times. It’s not just man v woman. It’s straight v gay, rich v poor, black v white, the individual v the community … .
If things keep going this way, Individualism will be the death of us all
@@anishboddu2727 exactly.
It’s mostly online though. I don’t see any of this weird gender or race war stuff when I go out . Way too many folks are terminally online and it’s warping their mind
@@brianmeen2158 good call. But if it’s online it could be mean it’s at the back of ppl’s mind. But that would take research to know for sure
@@brianmeen2158 It's not mostly online, but it probably also depends on where you live. If you live out in the country you probably won't see it, but try going to your nearest city and it's all over the place.
I am a woman that had a few negative experiences with men, starting from my father who was an alcoholic, to street harassment, and being SA'd by someone I trusted deeply. I had a lot of anger and hurt about this, and for the past few years, I became very bitter and angry at men. When you are hurt and you don't process what happened, wen you don't heal, that manifests as negative emotions and outlooks on life.
I think my anger did help me for a while, to feel less vulnerable. But, after a while, it started to eat at me. It would take over me.
Then one day, I found this part of CZcams with a bunch of men that make videos about women 'being owned' or 'woke feminists' being hurt, stuff that was very toxic and bitter. It was very upsetting initially but then I REALISED... these same men, full of unhealed hurt and bitterness, are the same side of the other coin as women making similar content.
I do think the dynamics are often different because of the physical power imbalance however, the bitterness and hate is the same.
we are all just hating and blaming each other, victimising ourselves, generalising a whole group of people. It is so sad the way we are more and more divided.
I think some of the discussions that pop up are important to be had, but who wants to listen when you are being mean and demeaning? We all need to heal and support each other. this is embarrassing honestly.
Why? Why should I, as a man, support you? What good is it for me to do so, and what makes you think you're worth it?
@@NameMcNamename It's called compassion and kindness. Really? you don't know that?
@@NameMcNamename Then leave women alone and stay away from them.
@@Fandar You make it sound like that isn't what I've already been doing.
@@jarellrazon3758 Compassion doesn't pay the bills.
A wake up call to reality is what we really need.
What's the reality we're supposed to wake up to?
@@Dave_of_Mordor That u gotta improve on urself to achieve high value instead of complaining about how the world has turned out
@@CluelessHadi what's "high value"?
to stop bitching about stuff and actually doing something that benefits yourself and others for the greater good @@Dave_of_Mordor
A term used by arrogant people.
I think it's sad how people view each other as enemies instead of looking for common ground to form a relationship. Why would a woman hate a guy and vice versa when it's common knowledge that we need each other
It's quite popular hate each other and love urself. I see the world living like this and most of the people realize this too late.
U can thank Americans for that
@@nunothedude Okay so the best thing you could come up with was a different flavor of discrimination
Because of the feminism propaganda. (It's all by design)
@@skythundersky1544 these issues arent prevalent in my country as an european this isnt much of an issue, but while in america for years it def was and is so enjoy the bed u created and lie in it Americans
Because there are groups of people with a vested interest in keeping people as divided as possible over as many things as possible.
Exactly
Then maybe we need aliens to give us a serum that can make us into invincible hybrid supersoldiers, so we can actually change something.
@@christopherregan1654 yeah but there is already, its called critical thinking :D
@@MuiKaHo That doesn't help against the people who will probably assassinate you if they see you as a potential threat to them.
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As long as social media exist, this shit won’t stop. If you’re an average man, just do you until your time is up. Not your job to fix shitiety
100% everyone blames everything on each other instead of how much time they spend on there phones
@@MrKingkztrue
It is your job though. It's all of jobs to not allow this crap to keep festering and getting worse. Men are the lead though. It doesn't matter how much women don't want to admit this, and it doesn't matter how many men want to shirk this and tap out, you're still ordained and built to be the lead. You'll feel better when you step into it.
@@saintejeannedarc9460 Problem is leadership doesn't happen without respect. Too many modern women don't respect men. Not enough respectful/marriageable women to go around = some men having to go MGTOW. I'm not a MGTOW myself, but I don't blame the men who are.
Non ... heureusement que les réseaux sociaux existent parce que ça a pointer le problème. Avant il était cacher. Maintenant à nous de changer et de rendre les relations plus saint.
I’m tired of being preached to, especially online- but in person from friends and family about how I just need to be better, make more money and do more and *maybe* then I can attract someone.
I’m perfectly happy where I am in life. I’m comfortable, I make enough to live off of. I have great friends and enjoyable hobbies.
The problem is this idea that you have to bend over backwards and give everything to be subservient to the other gender in the HOPE that you might be blessed to receive attention from them.
In a perfect world I would love to have the type of relationship my parents had. But I spent 10 years trying to get to the place I am now, and now that I’m here I’m not willing to sacrifice it all for someone who expects me to give them the world.
If you’re happy with where you’re at now, the last thing you need to do is flip everyone off who told you to sacrifice yourself to the gynocentric meat grinder. Even if I make a six figure salary, I’m using that to enjoy MY life, not share it to someone who wasn’t with me throughout the journey.
Tell those mofos to go back to gradeschool and re-read The Little Red Hen
I agree. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't improve yourself, just do it for yourself and your loved ones, not for the hope you'll meet someone, because that is lame.
enjoy your cats 🤣
@@bogdankovalenko5096 cats ain’t toxic or manipulative so I think he’ll do just fine.
It's amazing to see that some people are finally addressing these issues with some empathy, instead of just sole hatred to one of the gender groups
Biggest problem is entitlement. Both women and men feel entitled to a partner. The default state is singleness. If you want a life partner you are going to have to put in work. More and more people are unwilling to work hard on/for their relationships.
yeah it shouldnt be "work" Who TF do people think they are that you have to work for them. F--- outta here. We all know the expectation is men have to work for women even though the truth is it wasnt designed that way.. Il focus on working on myself. Im not here to be a utility.Take a HIKE
I cheat on women all the time and never had to put in any work to attract a partner 😂
@@jokerpilled2535 you proved his point. Getting p*ssy is easier then ever. But actually building a family is where the real work starts.
That word ‘entitlement’ lost all its meaning.
Cheating and exploiting women is why women gave up. Some women are evil too so it puts men off. Conclusion:too many loser narcs around messing things up for good ppl.
I can't be the only person whose main problem is lack of compatibility. I'm yet to meet a woman who has similar values, world views, interests and hobbies and lifestyle as me.
Remove sex and kids. Why be with a person that you have nothing in common with? What do you talk about? What do you do together? How do your lives progress together? Now I'm sure there are such women, but they seem to be very rare and I sure haven't met one.
If you can find a women with an open mind, that is willing to compromise and learn/grow with you, that's really all you need. Ideally, you want to find a mate that will balance you and help you improve/grow. You can learn a lot by trying their hobbies and interests with them, too.
I'm a woman and I too haven't yet met a man who has similar values, world views, interest and hobbies and lifestyle as me
I think the values and morals have to be first, especially if you are religious, but even if not, then anything else is just a bonus. I don't think it's necessary for your partner to have the same interests, hobbies and lifestyle to make it work, it can just be a bonus, but even in a partnership both of you need time for yourselves and your friends/family.
@@Vladi2102 values and morals aren't just for religious people
but religious and non-religious people have differences in their values and morals
@@FruityHachi Makes me wonder why do men and women have such differences nowadays, when I was younger there wasn't such a stark contrast between men and women.
The real problem I believe underlying it all of it is a lack of love. Not the artificial romantic version of the word love that people like to throw around that's based off of lust and doesn't mean anything on a deeper level. I'm talking about real love. Real, true, genuine love for other human beings, regardless of what their gender is or their abilities/ social status. That's what is lacking more and more today. And that to me is the root of all these problems.
This is first real comment l have come across.🙌🏾
There has never been love in humanity, there was peace, but only cause society structured itself that way. If people loved each other, there would be no need for laws or regulations.
Love will not solve anything you are tying to suggest males to get love for free yet they are incapable of loving or respecting women,,love is mutual respect and equality,,its time you disengage and focus on stuff that matter ,,love doesn't exist in the real world,,it's fictional.
Love will not solve anything you are tying to suggest males to get love for free yet they are incapable of loving or respecting women,,love is mutual respect and equality,,its time you disengage and focus on stuff that matter ,,love doesn't exist in the real world,,it's fictional.
Love will not solve anything you are tying to suggest males to get love for free yet they are incapable of loving or respecting women,,love is mutual respect and equality,,its time you disengage and focus on stuff that matter ,,love doesn't exist in the real world,,it's fictional.
More importantly. EVERYONE NEEDS TO DROP THEIR SMARTPHONES AND TOUCH GRASS!!!
Good luck trying to get them to do that lol
The online world is not the polar opposite of the outside world, it is just an amplified version. In fact the online represents how people really feel inside but can't express outside without losing their job or worse... Case in point: self aware racist groups/people exist anonymously online, however outside you won't find anyone willingly admitting to being racist. So simply turning off phones and closing your eyes to the problem won't solve it.
Or what ?
Already do.
He says on a electronic device
I thought we grew out of this behavior when we left elementary school.
"It is what it is."
As a man, I have accepted that I am not needed, or even really wanted. And I'm OK with that. I am one of 8.1 billion people in the world. I'm nothing particularly special, and I don't really contribute anything, so what right have I to anyone's time in that context?
More to the point, yes I'm lonely. But I have the rare privilege to be lonely in modern society. There are people out there in the 3rd world, who don't know where their next meal is coming from. Or maybe they're in warzones, where they can catch a bullet at any point in time. Or maybe they're in a totalitarian dictatorship where expressing the wrong thoughts results in their government 'dealing' with them.
And a person can be lonely even in these scenarios, so honestly? I don't think I have it all that bad.
Same here and I do NOT think it is bad to just accept our situation as men, the women are right, we are mediocre men and what we need to do is just accept that it is what it is and we are not wanted and needed and just continue with our life and find happiness somewhere else like sports, games, or arts. I say we should use our time to create something to leave behind when we are gone since we are not creating a family anyway.
I would also add getting a dog you are not lonely if you have a dog@@Tokkidance
@@TokkidanceYou don’t have to be the best in the world to get a relationship. If you get feelings for someone, or you’re friends with someone, is it because they’re “better” than the other 8 billion people? If you have good experiences with the people around you, they’ll like you because of who you are as an individual.
The problem develops when men turn to women to curb their loneliness. You must turn to each other. Seek brotherhood like we have sisterhood. Stop tearing each other down, learn to be vulnerable, and GROW.
@@lvl11717 okay. I'd consider myself a pretty vulnerable person. I have no issue expressing my feelings, have a decent group of both male and female friends, and have been defined by others as unproblematic. Maybe it's just a matter of time (I'm in hs) but I before I was given it was already following this type of advice and I am still absolutely terrible with any romantic interests. What is there for me to do atp.
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Ok, women don’t want to be asked out, and don’t want me, I feel I got a lot going for me, I’m prior navy, I hit the gym regularly and I take up small scale blacksmithing, but I’m 5ft8in and the 100s of times I’ve asked women out it’s always I have a boyfriend or no. What’s the point in trying when the answer is always going to be no
@@lukegross7845 man I feel you. It's difficult out there and it takes a mental toll on you especially if you're doing everything everyone is telling you to do. Work on yourself, hit the gym, find a hobby...etc. Getting rejected after putting in so much work for "self improvement" is disheartening but one thing I learned is that, if you're taking these steps and doing all these things to impress someone else then you'll never/rarely get that recognition, but if you're doing it truly for yourself, then others in this case women will recognize the effort. It took me a while and a lot of rejection to get to that.
@@tchallabesafe8666so what your saying is to keep on working out and doing my hobbies, ok
You asked what is the female equivalent to the manosphere. It's mainstream feminism. It's kinda hard to appear unbiased when you wouldn't answer that simple question. I mean, who are calling masculinity toxic? Or calling men obsolete? Who are dialing up the punishment for the slightest unintentional social transgression?
In this decade we are all ready to share our opinion, but none of us is ready to hear other's opinion. It would be a shame if this video doesn't reach at least 1 mln, bc it has the potential of sharing what could be a positive opinion.
Its go anti male undertones, so while i agree with the overall message, there were a lot of red flags in his wording and tone when he described the various things affecting men and women which lead me to suspect he is not being 100 truthful with either his viewers or himself. As such i cant in good conscience share his message as it will also spread that problematic metamessage.
This video is very assuming in what it says about men… I noticed it’s very biased… I play this for my mother who is a feminist because I know she’s secretly a misandrist. I definitely get the vibe that: “oh you didn’t like us women behaving narcissistically and manipulatively? That must mean you’re equally as bad since you’re a man.”
This video is very “you should feel bad for what other people did to you” ish
@@oriondye3212I use it as a way to get through to misandrists… because being equally bad is still accepting SOME RESPONSIBILITY. Yes the bar is that low for women in me.
I tried to repost this on my FB, but apparently this is hate speech. Oh, really? Wanting men and women to get on with each other is hate? Oh, the horror 😂😂😂 That site's a bloody joke!
I'm pretty sure there's agenda behind the scenes to get men and women totally at odds. These red pill sites are everywhere and doing far too well. I find it hard to believe this video would be flagged as hate speech, but I guess it really is that bad now. Socialist media holds the good stuff back. YT is a censored joke these days.
I have had comments removed for absolutely no reason whatsoever. All those Zuck sites are a joke.
Men don't hate women. Women don't hate men. There are, however, certain individuals who seek to profit by sowing discord between the sexes.
The discord was already there, don't blame them. The only reason they exist is because there was a problem to start with. While I may not agree with some of what they say a lot of what they say is real, backed by statistics.
I do I cant stand MEN
I hate the violence men inflict on my gender daily!!!
@@abor1malesviolence isn’t only inflicted by men and women aren’t the only victims of violence, needless to say neither side really wants to have a discussion, instead they just want to complain and scream about their problems and what they’re feeling while completely ignoring the other side.
@@abor1malesOne of your many privileges you enjoy as a woman is being far less likely to experience violence
A man approaching a woman to initiate contact is not what's creepy ....... what is creepy is when that man won't take "no" for an answer if she isn't interested. The approach itself is not creepy, it's how he mishandles potential rejection.
Not a lot of men are like this many can take no for an answer. And yes some women do think that guys approaching them is creepy it's on the internet though not in real life
Nope, sorry that’s not how reality works. If you aren’t a fucking super model of a dude, then you’re automatically a creep and a rapist. That’s just plain reality.
@@omotayosatuyi252 the thing is the guys who aren't afraid of coming off as creepy are the ones who do the majority of approaching or worse, going online to give PUA advice. So the worst of the worst become a loud minority of men making the rest look bad. On top of that, guys who are quick to overstep boundaries often lack self-awareness so they don't see their own behavior as problematic & genuinely see themselves as a "victim of rejection" & "evil women". They don't self-reflect which also means they never self-correct. I've also known plenty of instances where guys will go on a smear campaign against women for rejecting them as some kind of "if I can't have you, no one else will want you." That can be even more traumatizing than someone not taking no for an answer.
Even as a 30+ millennial sometimes I wish I was born 10 years earlier. The 90s would have been my teenage years when the world itself was more unified than it is now.
Nope.
Same.
gotta be white or non-American the 80s were brutal for unification.
@@k-ri2023 Non American? You saying literally every other country in the world has never had issues with diverse individuals? 😂
The World was most unified in 2016 when Pokemon GO came out.
They always blame each other for THIER own mistakes, I'm tired of seeing rage bait BS
You said it. Assertive not aggressive. Huge difference
That’s right. Balance is key to a healthy, successful, and sustainable life.
How many men is the latter? Maybe it's because I grew up in a shitty neighborhood, but most are the former
"You said it. Assertive not aggressive. Huge difference"
The problem is, what is seen as assertive or aggressive, depends on the woman. Each woman is different and has a different opinion on this. Hell, I one time got a 5 minute lecture on patriarchy simply because I approached a woman in a coffee shop and said I liked her book. I wasn't even interested in her in that way. I just was giving an honest compliment because she was reading a book that I had read and enjoyed. She rolled her eyes and called me a creep and complained about the patriarchy and tried to put me in my place. I just turned around halfway through her speech and walked out the door.
And other women it depends on the guy. If they're attracted to a guy, they have a wide range of behaviors that they're willing to put up with. But if they aren't, they can and will roll their eyes and call him a creep, regardless of how polite he is. Even if the guy they are attracted to and the guy they aren't, both came with the same exact approach, one guy might be labeled a creep while the other will be seen as assertive.
A while back I was reading a feminist site. The top story that day in the business section was a woman complaining about men hitting on her at work. Flirting at work is unprofessional she said, and she went on a long rant about how men were gross and wrong for making a move on women at work(particularly her). The top story that day in the dating section was a woman complaining that the guy at work she has a crush on just won't make the first move. OMG, what can she do to get his attention and get him to make a move? These two women both blamed men(the one calling them creeps, the other calling them not assertive enough). The truth is, those two women were their own problem. But ultimately, men see these conflicting messages about approaching nearly every day. Every woman has a different opinion on it and that opinion is changing all the time. Most men are confused about the rules, so they've just stopped. Well..the good guys have stopped. Because they honestly don't want to risk offending a woman or bothering her. You know who hasn't stopped though? Assholes and creeps. So today the ratio of assholes/creeps to good guys approaching has skyrocketed. Because the online complaining has filtered the nice guys out.
Tell that to the judge
But she still gets to decide witch one right????
Its a Scam to make men believe there is some magic combination of words that will make girls like them...they don't. Creepy or Cute depends 100% on how hot you are.
He is not kidding about the "stay off the internet" part. These gender war people not what you experience outside.
yes it is, it's everywhere
@@symptomofsoulsthank you, they act like the online world is the polar opposite of the outside world. When in fact the online represents how people really feel inside but can't show outside without losing their job or worse... Case in point: self aware racist groups/people exist anonymously online, however outside you won't find anyone willingly admitting to being racist.
@@symptomofsouls What?
@@symptomofsouls You find what you're looking for. Sounds like you got a victim mentality
@@JaysonT1 He may be one of those "terminally online" people
I subbed the MensRights subreddit and yeah it is concerning. Though most of the posts there are about the double standards of gender.
One prevalent stuff posted on that sub is women lying about men SA-ing them and getting the men to jail. Even after the truth comes out, the women aren’t punished for their lies.
Matt Araiza almost lost his NFL career because of it. Fortunately he is back
Once upon a time I visited my parents. My mom did my laundry and did hers at the same time. When separating she missed a pair of her underwear. I got home that Sunday night and my gf at the time came over to visit. I hadn't put my stuff away. She went through my laundry and found my mother's underwear. My mom is fit and doesn't wear granny panties, so it did look like a young woman's underwear. I tried to explain, but she wouldn't believe me. She called the cops and claimed I attacked her. I spent a night in jail. My mother did call her and explained, and she went to the station and admitted she made it all up in a rage, and they let me go.
Another ex gf of mine called the cops when I tried to leave her. She claimed I SA'd her. All because I tried to break up with her. Luckily they had to let me go because there was no evidence, and she just dropped it. There's a reason she dropped it, thanks to a lesbian friend's help, but that's a whole other story.
My point is, false allegations are not rare at all. Of my 7 closest friends in my friend group, 4 of those guys have a similar story. Feminism has tried to hush this down and act like it doesn't exist, and tried to claim that it's extremely rare and that we should still believe all women regardless of evidence. It's a sham. The truth is, feminists don't want to admit that women can be just as toxic as men. But the difference is, women are not as physically capable as men. So they don't use physical abuse as a method of control. Oh they'll hit their man, but they realize their strength isn't in their fists. It's in their word. So toxic men control or get revenge via physical violence. Toxic women use the weapons they have. Their words.
You know what's scary? Thanks to this metoo stuff, and pressure from feminism, many legal departments are starting to prosecute men, even when the woman backtracks or recants her statement. The idea is that some battered women backtrack because they want to protect their abuser. This is true. But many women backtrack because the allegations were BS. If I were in one of those jurisdictions, I'd have been prosecuted for both of my situations above. That shit is scary as hell.
Yeah Matt is a great Punter
Yes. I also noticed not one word said about how family/divorce courts & the judicial system is genuinely biased against men. I believe that if this system were more fair, perhaps this might change the current landscape of distrust men have towards marriage & cohabitation
@@symptomofsouls There are others who weren't so lucky.
Let's stop taking love, relationships and family for granted. Today i wish i paid more attention to my wife. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her
Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive
Sorry you went through that, mate :(
THANKS. How do I meet this counselor of yours?
Thanks a lot. I have just checked her on Google.
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After my disasterous 2023 and the fact I am in my 40s, I decided to take myself off the market
yeah dude smelly roast beef flaps ain't nothing special. especially when the roast beef already had a hefty helping of horseradish who knows how many times.
40’s here as well. I’ve given up on dating here in the US. No sense in doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. I’ll have to look overseas.
34's here. Off the market since 10 years.
Treated like dirt three times. Robbed three times.
Cheated on three times.
Thanks, but no thanks.
@@ceeIocVietnam and Philippines.
Everywhere else: same thing.
F*menists on the rise everywhere.
So you will be in the same situation sooner or later everywhere.
@@ax.f-1256well I’m sorry I don’t know why that happened to you. I genuinely believe that Good women are meeting bad men and Good men are meeting bad women. I think the people who actually deserve a relationship constantly choosing the opposite of good partner, idk why that might be happening though 🤷🏽♀️
Tbh as a guy who is a 26 yr old virgin, I have lost complete faith in women. I'm questioning if I even want a gf or want to even acknowledge their existence. I know this is such a dramatic perspective. But I don't like how women operate in America.
I notice this once I started to self improve and try to get a gf or even female friends. Girls shut me down alot of times and even bully me just because I was a nice guy. It was very wierd. For example, I lost a family member and women in my grad school couldn't even give encouragement. This is after I encouragement them through stressful times and took them home from bars. It's all about them. They don't look at a guys heart anymore. Basically I'm not chad so I'm naturally treated with contempt. I have been nothing but nice to them and Im legit disrespected and pushed. It's just overall wierd and for my own mental health I decided to focus on my career and building a great life with friends and family.
Im training to be a doctor so hopefully that can bring fulfillment but it's just doesn't feel great to be around women
Stay strong buddy. Good times are ahead, men will be favored in a few decades. Build your value now and reap the rewards later.
@@fiat_ow7876 even after watching this video you are still creating a space between men and women with this comment. Grow up your mindset.
I am sorry to hear that from you, i am a wonen from Europe and i think America is pretty extreme in these gender wars. But still dont lose hope there are still good women out there! Here we say on every pot fits a lid :)
@@Amsool Woman are ruthless. I won’t entirely blame them (single mother households and the lack of a father figure are main reasons), but a woman taking accountability for her shitty actions is impossible. Like the OP said, they demonize good men and worship rappers, drugs, and sleep around with terrible men and/or super attractive men
@@Amsool thanks for the encouragement! I still believe there's good women out there, and i just need to keep the faith up
Agree with what you’ve said expect that “gender war was created online” gender war has probs existed before the internet, & outside of social media when it came to politics
I think it's simple. Being in a healthy relationship requires putting your ego down and thinking about the other person. And I think our hyper individualized modern society has made it increasingly difficult for people to see beyond themselves. Unconditional love is non existent.
Only in pop culture my friend
This is a mature and true statement I liked this comment the most. It’s true and it’s very hard to find.
My problem with 17:08 is that we live in the age where there's plenty of women who will happily whip out their phones and humiliate any man who asks them out.
True, but you do have much better luck in certain social settings. For example in a bar or club, that might happen much more frequently than if you were to ask a girl who goes to church with you.
@@lucassmith1886 Problem is, hookups are far more likely to attract those who humiliate men for cheap clout.
Bruh last night I was working lyft. Picked up this girl ( she wanted to vape I said cool your good ) I picked her up from work. She works emt, she started telling me about it, asked me about my past school history ( I have my bachelors ). We spoke the entire 40 minute ride. She had her road test coming up I gave her some pointers on how to pass. Bro we were basically uplifting each other it felt cool. Ride coming to an end I said we can keep in contact if you like… she says okay what’s your Instagram I told her it but also told her I don’t really like social media. So she saw that I’m only following 3 people and have 70 followers. Doesn’t matter. So we exchanged that. We go back to casual convo for the remaining 5 minutes. Ride comes to an end we’re still talking she didn’t wanna get out cause the convo was good. I write her about 2 hours after saying I should’ve showed you how to park before I left, you got this tho Lmk how your road test goes. I wake up in the morning she unfollows me ☠️ misandry is in the subconscious. Some of these women can’t control that they really have an internal hate for men. Even men that aren’t even flirting w them.
And this idea that all women are only going to whip out their phone on you, is heavily pushed by the red pill/black pill bros. It's a load of crap. If statistically 75%-85% of women are wishing men would ask them out in real life more,the majority of women aren't going to do that. I saw a guy talking about asking a woman out the old fashioned way. He said it made him feel good. Yes, it was nerve wracking, and he didn't usually get a date, but still it boosted his game and his confidence and he just felt more manly. I can only cheer these guys on. I'm one of the women who wishes men would speak up more.
@@lucassmith1886 The bar's not that helpful anymore.
One thing I'd like to add is that nowadays, in a relationship, the other person is mostly being viewed as some kind of achievement, like a level in a game, after which you have to go for a higher level.
This is the silent mindset of a lot of people who cheat on their partners (and nowadays they have the courage to justify this in front of people), which ends up devastating the other person further solidifying the mindset of masses about why they don't need a man/woman in their life.
Men vs Women. I only see these issues online, and not in person. I deal with thousands of people in a day, different ages and gender. So, I don't get it. Then again, I don't live in the west nor the north.
I have positive interactions with both genders throughout the day. I only see the negativity online. This could be because I'm happily married though and I'm not in the dating pool which is ironic that the lonely people are so unlikable
The online world is not the polar opposite of the outside world, it is just an amplified version. In fact the online represents how people really feel inside but can't express outside without losing their job or worse... Case in point: self aware racist groups/people exist anonymously online, however outside you won't find anyone willingly admitting to being racist. So simply turning off phones and closing your eyes to the problem won't solve it.
Lots of crap only seems to happen online.
What countries are considered north? I'm only familiar with ppl talking about this narrative like it's mostly in the west.
The issues have spilled over in real life men are getting violent after being brainwashed and incited by Andrew Tate
Since I started doing rigorous work on myself, I have slowly become more securely attached, which has greatly decreased the pressure to expect other people to be who I wish they would be, allowing myself to go with the flow in life instead of forcing things
Thank you for the video man
My self esteem has been so irreparably damaged by dating apps that approaching women irl feels totally futile
Dating apps used to be good 10 years ago when I was in my 20s but honestly, they're a waste of time for the most part nowadays. Its not just you those apps are rigged against guys nowadays.
As someone who used to be nervous and an introvert who ended up doing quite well with women in my 20s my best advice is to abstain from p*rn (it puts the wolf in you to where you want to smile and look a girl in the eye) as much as possible. You may screw up and give in some days but try to cut it out altogether or keep it to the bare minimum. Also, start practicing talking to girls irl more. Not even hitting on them just making eye contact and having friendly conversation. Complement the checkout clerk or the girl who works at the gym desk, and talk to your female co-workers more, if you see a group of girls at a park and one has a cool t-shirt on through her a compliment. It's like lifting weights, the more you do it the better you get. Friends of friends, going to concerts or events, or signing up for a class (like BJJ or a painting or yoga class) is a great way to meet women too. If you do the same things every day and don't change or just simply work and go home you'll never meet a girl and just stay frustrated. Just take those baby steps to get more comfortable in your own skin and stay doing that for a while and you'll feel your confidence in yourself increase.
A good guidebook on getting better at dating is the book Models by Mark Manson. It's not some redpill pickup artist book but a legit good read.
Im in my late 30s now and after my last relationship ended COVID happened and I ended up getting cancer so I was off the market for a while. Now that I'm in remission I'm starting to apply these principles to myself again and am slowly feeling the mojo coming back.
If you're still on the apps seriously don't spend more than 5 minutes a day on there. There's a chance you can meet someone on there but you'll probably vibe with someone better face to face irl. I wish you luck bro
Its genuinely awful, wish someone would've stopped me
You are not a victim
@@tfkdandsvkcwhen did he claim to be? If you're that jaded just leave this video and go on a walk or something.
Rule 1: stay away from dating apps. It teaches people all the wrong behaviors.
Thank you for this video man, seriously. I remember when I first got into my first ever relationship with my boyfriend, in order to understand him and his struggles, I got very deep into the RP rabbit hole.
The rabbit hole essentially portrayed women as materialistic and shallow beings that thrived on seeing men fail, and I genuinely love my boyfriend, but I was convinced that deep down I was shallow and materialistic and that whenever I screwed up, it meant he deserved someone better.
Feelings of inadecuacy got pretty bad that I started to doubt myself and I'd ask him for reassurance a lot, I really wanted to be a good girlfriend for him because I genuinely love this guy.
I stopped going down on the rabithole because essentially he told me that I needed to focus on myself and focus on what made HIM happy and not what people on the Internet were saying about women.
I still struggle with feelings of inadecuacy and feeling I am not good enough for him because of this, but now I know that by just being a good person you make someone else happy and it's not inherent to your gender.
I really don't like these thoughts that the oppossite gender is the enemy, because both genders can learn A LOT from the other.
I didn't know women like you existed. The amount of hate that society and women seem to put on men just for having problems is so huge that its astounding when you see a women not trash a man for not being perfect.
Jesus christ you are different, there's literally less than nothing wrong with you, you are the solution. I've had multiples forms of relationships with women yet I can only count the amount of women who have had my best interest in mind on one hand. My mother abandoned me, my step mother abused me, all their mom friends watched while I was treated worse than the dogs, the girls I had who were friends through cheerleading all abandoned and I've genuinly felt as if I have had no one my entire life, no girl has ever even reached out to me let alone try to understand me at all. I implore women to act more like you, the RP is toxic outside of us just acting like we are more similar than different, are we equal or are we not.
Bro, some RP content is like that to make men more cautious of sh**y women (because divorce is all time high right now). So, if what you are saying is true and you are not trying to get internet clout then love your man wholeheartedly.
There is a small/medium small segment of self aware women who learn from the RP as far as i know, and however uncomfortable it is i know you learn a lot from them. But yeah when it gets a bit to much into you and you feel self conscious, it's because you genuinely care for your guy and this is making you feel worse about yourself. A definition of redpill rage but may d for women...ehh idk, i know little towards women's reaction to redpill (mostly unfavorable)
Let me tell you this, "Redpill was and is for men, women inside redpill suffer",
It isn't to exclude women, it's that it's about men's issues and so much more, it's the study towards relationships and that's why it's so focused on women and women tend to group think and compare themselves to other women.. So comparing yourself to other women is inherent, so will you inside the redpill.
Now...my only take is this, try not make redpill personally, but more of a study. After all redpill is only a praxeology. It is you who is responsible of what will be done with it.
this is how we men feel when we listened that "women need men like a fish needs a bicycle" by feminists since our childhood...
It’s really sad that people hate against eachother for no reason,they are just insulting their own parents!!
This was on point and well thought out. I pretty much agree with everything you shared! We all know it's a very touchy subject for both sides, so the healthy dose of spoken and on-screen disclaimers will hopefully help keep the comment section civil.
Not really, he did the same thing he accused the redpill of doing to women by cherry picking the worst/extreme parts of their streams to paint their whole movement as bad. Why is it that he has zero clips of the redpillers stating valid points about women initiating 80% of divorces, & how divorce court is biased towards men; leading to men losing their kids & money to a government & family court system that incentivizes women against men via child support, section 8, no fault divorce, alimony etc..?
He cherry picked fresh and fit & whatever podcast to only show their weaknesses but never their strengths as he conveniently left out balanced redpill channels like "its complicated", "Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews" & the late but still relevant "Kevin Samuels" etc... This was a very biased video because it is not showing ANY clips of women looking or doing bad things but he was very quick to show videos and posts of the male bad actors (thus not offering men the same courtesy). I just hope the men see through this passive aggressive manipulation because if they don't, the men will be the ones to pay the cost.
Part of the reason that so many men don't measure up, is the terrible state of the economy. It affects men more than women because men are rated more harshly than women on their financial or social status. Although the red pill thing is creating too much hostility toward women, the feminist movement has been doing the same lately. We've had a strong feminist movement for half a century, so we need a men's movement to even it out, without the red pill rage.
Check out Better Bachelor. Joker is much more level-headed than guys like Andrew Tate, Sneako, etc. And he also provides genuine statistics.
@@symptomofsouls I've watched some of his videos. I'd also recommend the Red Pill movie. Andrew Tate is cringe.
@@prschuster the thing with Andrew Tate is that he appeals to boys who grow up without a strong father figure. Tate is a hypocrite and wrong about several things, but he is often the only voice in those boys telling them that they can actually achieve anything, or that they even matter in the first place.
Imo, feminists cannot complain about Andrew Tate, they CREATED Andrew Tate
@@symptomofsouls I'll check out better bachelor and see what he's all about
@@GregXHunterzI personally don’t recommend Better Bachelor. He’s still a Red Pill / Manosphere youtuber.
To be honest if you aren't an attractive man you shouldn't approach women. You will be instantly label a creep. Especially if havr anything to loose the risk is not worth it to be label as a bad person.
I would go further : if you are an unattractive men, just kill yourself. No one will care anyway, and your suffering will end. In the end, everyone wins.
The rules should be the same regardless of whether the man is “attractive” or not. It depends on when and how you do it. If a strange man were to approach me, frankly my answer wouldn’t change based on whether they’re conventionally attractive or not
@@larad9180 but the rules are already set. It's a fact that even if you have the best intentions as an unattractive man to talk to a woman you will be label as a creep instantly.
@@bandidomex6766 Dude I see ugly guys with chicks all the time. And they're not exactly ballers either. Stop making excuses and take responsibility for your own success.
@@bandidomex6766You are either speaking facts are you being a bitch, do you believe that if you are ugly you don't deserve love?
Like you said, lack of empathy is exactly what the problem is
These gender wars are so pathetic and ridiculous. 🙄 Like seriously, can't we all just put aside our differences?! But anyways, thank you for this video.
Well you can't just 'put aside' your identity, think you're looking for an easy solution to a problem which is deeply ingrained in everyone's (both men and women) self-identity. The differences can't just be put aside, they need to be understood by engaging with each other on a human level, otherwise it just sounds like you're trying to push the burden of changing onto the other person.
@@matt69nice oh okay, I understand.
Tell more women to get on dating apps and stop acting weird
Then tell women to stop attacking men for no reason and ditch the ludicrous concept of 'muh patriarchy' inserted anywhere and everywhere.
@@matt69nice u explained it better than I could, 100% right
I basically studied this stuff for years now and I am very impressed how neutral and on point you were able to betray this with that much detail.
If he was being fair why couldn't he say the opposite to red pill was feminism? This is not a battle of the genders it's a battle between two ideologies.
One of your most interesting videos yet Cole. Keep on improving
I love this video because it is unbiased and very clear without putting anyone down, that really is hard to find with this subject. I appreciate you. Thanks for making great content.
Thanks, Cole for your content! 🙏😊👍💪🎉
Really enjoyed this video while I was eating my lunch. I'm an autistic woman, so often times I don't really understand why people have all these issues because it's just not how I view the world. It really breaks my heart to see this problem. I have a lot of friends of both genders that seem to struggle with connecting to the opposite sex. I hope more people see this video and learn to be more empathetic of people. At the end of the day we're still all human.
Yeah, we're human. But some humans are better than others. That's a fact.
I'm autistic too and I share a lot of your sentiments. Welcome to the family!
@@rjmunster9600 That’s a fair and valid opinion, but I don’t really like to view people like that. I just think everyone has a different perspective on the world, not including those who go out of their way to physically and emotionally harm others.
@@stephenkoranteng6260 Thank you! It’s nice to see more empathy in the world :)
@@bunisaurus Animals deserve empathy and kindness. People...not so much.
Hey random guy on the internet.
Thank you for being a positive force in the world. These well thought out videos are very relieving and have given me more optimism for the future. I am grateful ♡
Thanks for clearing things up.
Very well formulated! If most of the two sides watch this video with the desire to learn the truth and improve life will become so much better for everyone! My applause sir!
Great video cole, very well spoken 👍🏻
Great video on an importent topic
7:00 The problem with surveys is that we can't be sure if we're talking to the same group of people or not.
Great message Cole, Ive been consuming a lot of one sided content and I have been trying to find and research more balanced points of view for both sides, your video definitely helps!
Spot on man, our dating culture is completely f***ed. The worst part is, most people think that guys who can't get girls must all be fat, balding, out of shape guys with no social skills, no confidence, who haven't approached a girl since they were in elementary school. But that's SO far from the truth.
I'm in my 30's, I have a physique that wouldn't look out of place next to Thor, a full head of hair, an attractive face, and a strong jawline. I'm outgoing, social, and walk with confidence. But I can't get a girl interested in me to save my life.
I approached a girl today who I thought was stunning, and while we had a great conversation full of laughing and flirting, I know the next time I see her she'll want nothing to do with me, because that's just what happens anytime I approach a girl.
If you have no women in your life, but are unattractive, socially inept, don't approach, and have made no attempt to change any of that, then you have no one to blame but yourself.
But when you've put in the time and effort to successfully make yourself a very attractive, sociable man who regularly approaches girls, but STILL have no women in your life...that's something completely different.
You’re the Chad that the whole black pill goes after and says you’re hoarding all the women. I feel your pain
I think wallowing in self-pity doesn’t help
@@mlspeopleshoulddateeachoth6940 Dude that's so funny because it's true. So many times I'll talk to a couple, or there's a guy who wants to get with the girl I'm talking to, and the guy is absolutely DRIPPING with insecurity and "please get TF out of here" vibes, because he looks at me and feels insecure. But inside I'm thinking, you have nothing to worry about man, she doesn't want anything to do with me, trust me. I have yet to be wrong.
@@mlspeopleshoulddateeachoth6940Me as a 5'11 guy from a country where the average woman is 5'1 seeing westerners get limb lengthening surgeries cuz they think girls only care about height, while I have 0 dating experience and my 5'4 friend is super popular with the girls lmao.
@@kruggyyI think you don't help
One of your best videos! Keep it up bro, Stay educated!
Not really, he did the same thing he accused the redpill of doing to women by cherry picking the worst/extreme parts of their streams to paint their whole movement as bad. Why is it that he has zero clips of the redpillers stating valid points about women initiating 80% of divorces, & how divorce court is biased towards men; leading to men losing their kids & money to a government & family court system that incentivizes women against men via child support, section 8, no fault divorce, alimony etc..?
He cherry picked fresh and fit & whatever podcast to only show their weaknesses but never their strengths as he conveniently left out balanced redpill channels like "its complicated", "Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews" & the late but still relevant "Kevin Samuels" etc... This was a very biased video because it is not showing ANY clips of women looking or doing bad things but he was very quick to show videos and posts of the male bad actors (thus not offering men the same courtesy). I just hope the men see through this passive aggressive manipulation because if they don't, the men will be the ones to pay the cost.
Not really, he did the same thing he accused the redpill of doing to women by cherry picking the worst/extreme parts of their streams to paint their whole movement as bad. Why is it that he has zero clips of the redpillers stating valid points about women initiating 80% of divorces, & how divorce court is biased towards men; leading to men losing their kids & money to a government & family court system that incentivizes women against men via child support, section 8, no fault divorce, alimony etc..?
He cherry picked fresh and fit & whatever podcast to only show their weaknesses but never their strengths as he conveniently left out balanced redpill channels like "its complicated", "Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews" & the late but still relevant "Kevin Samuels" etc... This was a very biased video because it is not showing ANY clips of women looking or doing bad things but he was very quick to show videos and posts of the male bad actors (thus not offering men the same courtesy). I just hope the men see through this passive aggressive manipulation because if they don't, the men will be the ones to pay the cost.
You're saying what I've been saying. I'm sending this to everyone I know who has stake in this beef. Thank you, sir!
I subscribe to you for a good year already but this is my first comment ever on this channel. Cole, I have to say that this is AWESOME video, one of the best you have made. Thank you for your content and dont stop, it is trully helpfull.
Not really, he did the same thing he accused the redpill of doing to women by cherry picking the worst/extreme parts of their streams to paint their whole movement as bad. Why is it that he has zero clips of the redpillers stating valid points about women initiating 80% of divorces, & how divorce court is biased towards men; leading to men losing their kids & money to a government & family court system that incentivizes women against men via child support, section 8, no fault divorce, alimony etc..?
He cherry picked fresh and fit & whatever podcast to only show their weaknesses but never their strengths as he conveniently left out balanced redpill channels like "its complicated", "Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews" & the late but still relevant "Kevin Samuels" etc... This was a very biased video because it is not showing ANY clips of women looking or doing bad things but he was very quick to show videos and posts of the male bad actors (thus not offering men the same courtesy). I just hope the men see through this passive aggressive manipulation because if they don't, the men will be the ones to pay the cost.
Great video man, love the fact you come at this from the perspective of both men and women, it’s make the video much more well rounded
Not really, he did the same thing he accused the redpill of doing to women by cherry picking the worst/extreme parts of their streams to paint their whole movement as bad. Why is it that he has zero clips of the redpillers stating valid points about women initiating 80% of divorces, & how divorce court is biased towards men; leading to men losing their kids & money to a government & family court system that incentivizes women against men via child support, section 8, no fault divorce, alimony etc..?
He cherry picked fresh and fit & whatever podcast to only show their weaknesses but never their strengths as he conveniently left out balanced redpill channels like "its complicated", "Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews" & the late but still relevant "Kevin Samuels" etc... This was a very biased video because it is not showing ANY clips of women looking or doing bad things but he was very quick to show videos and posts of the male bad actors (thus not offering men the same courtesy). I just hope the men see through this passive aggressive manipulation because if they don't, the men will be the ones to pay the cost.
My standards aren't high. I'm just an ugly, middle class man lol. I think romance and love has largely turned into a pure physical attraction game. It's a game i don't even qualify to play in so I opted out, proud to be a part the 55% of men ages 18-30 that has never approached a woman
There's much more to life than romance luckily, I'll be pursuing other things from yall. But gl out there, brothers
Just work on your physique, any man can do that. There are no excuses. When your body gets strong your mind will follow. Women are still and will always be attracted to masculine men. All feminist women I know have super masculine partners. Don't buy into the BS.
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@@CoochSmooch I don’t have much advice or input to add, just wanted to say congrats on the 275 bench, that’s some swolly mammoth shit💪💪
@@joelriert3340please respect the man's decision to opt out. No means no.
@@Luke_2828Appreciate it bro 🙏
I really enjoy watching your videos! ❤ You are the calm voice in a more and more polarizing internet. I kinda needed to hear this, 'cause at times I'm so confused looking for dating advice online to the point i basically stopped dating all together. And before this i just watched a video of a dude that is proud for ignoring the opignions of women that do only fans. I feel like this world is going mad, but you reminded me that it is all online. Thx for this video.
Thank you for this articulate video ❤
Some things are indeed messed up nowadays but believing we are all doomed and everything is horrible creates a self-fulfilling prophecy in which the social climate actually gets worse
Basically blackpill
we are doomed. open your eyes. lying to yourself it the worst thing ever.
Does that make common sense?
Stop promoting better help. They are being accused of selling your private medical information to third-party companies.
Reached out to them about this and they’ve already made a statement www.betterhelp.com/betterhelp-response-to-the-recent-ftc-settlement/
@@ColeHastings thanks for the reply.
This is a great summary!
When I approached a woman in real life, she called the cops and I was told if I ever speak to her again I'd be arrested. Another woman I approached last year told her BF that I made her "uncomfortable" because I asked her if she was single. A few weeks later he threatened to beat the shit out of me.
Somebody had to expose this dilemma, great video Cole
Very good, unbiased way of putting this topic. Thanks for the insight
Not really, he did the same thing he accused the redpill of doing to women by cherry picking the worst/extreme parts of their streams to paint their whole movement as bad. Why is it that he has zero clips of the redpillers stating valid points about women initiating 80% of divorces, & how divorce court is biased towards men; leading to men losing their kids & money to a government & family court system that incentivizes women against men via child support, section 8, no fault divorce, alimony etc..?
He cherry picked fresh and fit & whatever podcast to only show their weaknesses but never their strengths as he conveniently left out balanced redpill channels like "its complicated", "Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews" & the late but still relevant "Kevin Samuels" etc... This was a very biased video because it is not showing ANY clips of women looking or doing bad things but he was very quick to show videos and posts of the male bad actors (thus not offering men the same courtesy). I just hope the men see through this passive aggressive manipulation because if they don't, the men will be the ones to pay the cost.
This video was much needed, thank you for making this video.
Thanks for watching it
Wholesome. Need more of this message online.
Beautiful analysis and message
This has happened before. The book to read is "Sex and Culture" by J D Unwin. It's old, but a large, comprehensive study of civilisations and ciltures that have collapsed throughout history. There's a recurring pattern which fits much of what'sgoing on right now.
Think you're wrong on one point, women do have (extremely) unrealistic standards for men right now. They can't (all) get men that meet their "standards" because there are more women with those standards of men (but not of themselves) then there are men.
Agreed that the internet is a big part of this, but I think this is only a smaller part of a bigger problem: unrealistic standards for everything else.
Younger generations have unrealistic living standards, partly because they have an unrealistic view of what older generations lived through.
- Was college cheaper? Yes, partly because fewer people went (the market is now over-saturated), partly because universities in the 20s and 60s and 90s didn't offer all the things universities offer, and are expected to offer today.
- Was housing cheaper? Yes, partly because it was (much) smaller and didn't meet today's construction standards. I live in a freestanding house from 1961. It's less than 1000sqft, has one bathroom, leaded paint, no A/C, outside washer/dryer (new, has old clothes-line too!), and was built outside the city (because a smaller percent of people lived in cities back then). That's what boomers grew up in!
- Were jobs more plentiful? No. There are lots of open jobs today, but most people are vying for (again, oversaturated) higher-paying comfortable jobs that require degrees and completely unwilling to get their hands dirty in high-paying manual labor uncomfortable trade jobs; a fact that is also further driving up housing costs. Nevermind that the existing trades people are getting older and nearing retirement, and there's a lot of potential to use those skills to open businesses and earn bank. Few people are willing to WORK.
- Are kids too expensive? No. People had kids before civilization, through the dark ages, during the great depression, through WWI/WWII restrictions, etc.
Our expectations are too high because we don't learn about and ***selectively ignore*** the issues older generations faced, issues that don't support our personal biases and "lived life narratives."
A good life with a good person is possible - if you check your unrealistic expectations - and there are people who do it today; they just don't make for entertaining TikToks and YT videos.
Interesting perspective. Pointing out these differences in the past does paint a bigger picture. I think Cole is basing his point on women having options and able to choose the top 10% off of dating app statistics (which I hear people in my circle are coming out of them), which like he said is 80% men 20% women, so the numbers on these platforms are heavily skewed. What do you think about that, do you think women have unrealistic expectations due to the whole dating app point? Me personally I think it's much better to meet someone off of dating apps as I just don't like the idea that you have to sit down and swipe endlessly. At least when you're out and about, there's always something to do.
@@GregXHunterz Well, using 10%, 80%, and 20%, at best the top 10% of the women would get the top 10% of men (assuming those top 10% of men met all their standards, and that's a big assumption), and the next 10% of women would leave empty handed because no one meets their standards.
Personally, I think the whole concept of reducing people to how well they meet an arbitrary list is a HORRIBLE way to approach finding a life partner. It's a frame people need to abandon.
Go to some work parties, some volunteer events, some social groups. Meet new people through people you know. It's not the instant "yes/no" gratification technology hits you with in the dopamine system, but it's worked for the past 200,000+ years, and it still works today. Eventually, you'll meet a person, an actual human being, who you may just want to spend the rest of your life with.
Side-note: A life-long relationship, a marriage, isn't about finding someone who's perfect now, it's about finding someone to grow with.
@@davagevorriose8046but what happens if the person you chose was a cheater? and i was married to her, won't i lose all my stuff due to the gynocentric laws?
@@GrimTheDestroyer You could lose half, or more, fact. You also stand a lot to gain. Married men tend to be happier, live longer, have longer health spans, end up earning more money AND become wealthier.
So, let me answer your question with a few of my own: Would you avoid driving because you might get in a wreck? Would you avoid investing because you might lose it all? Would you avoid working because you might get fired?
You don't have to avoid all risk, you can manage that risk: chose carefully, support the person you love, be open and honest with her, and help her be open and honest with you (don't rush to judgement), and yes, go ahead and create a prenup if you want.
In the end, you only have control of one side of the relationship, but you have influence over the other (and she has influence over your side). As long as you both have a goal of growing old together, the two of you can weather quite a bit (more than a single person could).
@@davagevorriose8046 this is just "99% of Gamblers Quit Before Hitting It Big" meme or Pascal's wager both are stupid. Stop being so optimistic, life is hard and bringing in a headache is just stupid. If I lose all my shit in a divorce because even tho i tried everything to make it work what's the point? Instead stop gambling, and do something that actually guarantees results: like buying gold, learn to be a good driver, work in a job that actually respects you. But with women you can not do that, they want us to be mind readers instead of actually communicating.
Awesome video. Spot on.
Not really, he did the same thing he accused the redpill of doing to women by cherry picking the worst/extreme parts of their streams to paint their whole movement as bad. Why is it that he has zero clips of the redpillers stating valid points about women initiating 80% of divorces, & how divorce court is biased towards men; leading to men losing their kids & money to a government & family court system that incentivizes women against men via child support, section 8, no fault divorce, alimony etc..?
He cherry picked fresh and fit & whatever podcast to only show their weaknesses but never their strengths as he conveniently left out balanced redpill channels like "its complicated", "Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews" & the late but still relevant "Kevin Samuels" etc... This was a very biased video because it is not showing ANY clips of women looking or doing bad things but he was very quick to show videos and posts of the male bad actors (thus not offering men the same courtesy). I just hope the men see through this passive aggressive manipulation because if they don't, the men will be the ones to pay the cost.
Thank you 💕 Cole.
Bless your soul, beautiful man.
The stay at home woman is some american concept or at least I as an Eastern European cannot relate to it. I got to know my great grandma, from her I know that in the past everyone was out working on the field, men and women, along with the kids. So, if we gonna be realistic bout the past, women were for the most part never a stay at home mom.
It is more logical for a woman to stay at home while the husband works (if they have kids)
Men have stronger bodies and can work in jobs where they need physical strength
A woman will perform poorly in such jobs where she requires to use physical strength
So in this case its better for a man to work
Its sad to me to send your own kids for someone else to raise
Also if you are eastern european then you are very familiar with the stay at home mom concept
@@ksilofo tell me you know nothing about Eastern Europe without telling me you know nothing about Eastern Europe...
In EE you have much more working women, many in tech sector, much more women CEO's. Children need to socialise with other children, helicopter moms produce spoiled or incompetent kids. A person as a species evolutionary should be able as much as possible to survive by itself, so yet again the whole american/western idea of the staying indoors woman and constantly taking care of the kids was never ever natural.
This conversation is completely different for us as black men and women in so many ways we have 2x as much to figure out whether dating inside or outside our race
There is so much general information given about men and women these days that seems to pit one against the other and creates bias. I think that along with our bad past experiences, if allowed to, destroys relationships and weakens the ability to have a good, healthy relationship. It’s important to remember that each and every one of us are individuals who deserve a fair chance.
Cole is right. We need eachother.
No we don't
@@blacklyfe5543 Like he said towards the end of the video - our lives are richer if we have both masculine and feminine influences. This is particularly true when we are growing up.
@lewisclark1122 yes yes 🫡
@@blacklyfe5543Yes, a person should strive to be independent
@@GrimTheDestroyer not for a woman
Mad respect for anyone who dares to put out a video like this. Always seems to trigger some people no matter how balanced you attempt to be. Good stuff.
It wasn't balanced though. He was biased as heck.
I rest my case
@@matta7647 But tell me how I'm wrong.
That's what I thought.
@@NebulaSonEverybody is biased.
Great video!
This is a great video. I wish you would see more content like this on the internet.
This guy is such a simp I didn't want to hear his solution.
Or maybe you are just a biased misogynist.
"Simp?" So what are you, a misogynist?
honestly we all just need to get tf off the internet and do some damn self reflection
I was lucky. For one, being born in the 80’s and two, my father was a stoic, hard working, ex military man; and my mother was an angel. I learned back then that being strong was important, but also learned that being vulnerable and honest about my emotions was equally important. At this point in our culture I feel the pendulum has swung far too into the emotive. People are so off-balance that it is honestly quite shocking.
It's because we have no discipline in society anymore. In today's world discipline is called abuse and is looked down upon.
I fw this vid heavy bro 💪🏾❤️
Better help cost too dam much before anyone looks into it it’s like a 100$ a week now how tf am I supposed to afford that it damages my mental health more knowing I can’t afford it
i dont know if this is a red-pill talking point, but lots of women also have the "porn delusion" problem with men they hook-up, and then expecting all men to be that attractive plus whatever emotional stuff they want. idk, i think that you give the message that its on men to improve on another standard that just happen to benefit women, not necesarely what benefits men.
He was biased; he did the same thing he accused the redpill of doing to women by cherry picking the worst/extreme parts of their streams to paint their whole movement as bad. Why is it that he has zero clips of the redpillers stating valid points about women initiating 80% of divorces, & how divorce court is biased towards men; leading to men losing their kids & money to a government & family court system that incentivizes women against men via child support, section 8, no fault divorce, alimony etc..?
He cherry picked fresh and fit & whatever podcast to only show their weaknesses but never their strengths as he conveniently left out balanced redpill channels like "its complicated", "Mediocre Tutorials and Reviews" & the late but still relevant "Kevin Samuels" etc... This was a very biased video because it is not showing ANY clips of women looking or doing bad things but he was very quick to show videos and posts of the male bad actors (thus not offering men the same courtesy). I just hope the men see through this passive aggressive manipulation because if they don't, the men will be the ones to pay the cost.
yeah they have BBC delusion too. not every black man hung like that
Honestly I agree. Asking a women out is not creepy. But constantly chasing them after they said no is creepy. Also when I am talking to someone I like to assume the best of their intention and try to be honest and a way to do that is surround yourself with good ppl. Don't surround yourself with toxic ppl who make you assume the worse but rather surround you with ppl who are good to you.
This is the worst thing going on I wish I could just go back to the old society 😢 Thanks so much for making this video!
I am a man who is emotional but not weak in any way, i don’t know if it’s me but i can always sense and see when a relationship is obviously fake and the love is not there. I despise relstionships because most people i meet genuinely don’t love eachother. It’s either the man or woman who is the emotional and then a stone face non emotional rock. How can someone love a man or woman that show no emotion?
you're describing anxious and avoidant attachment dynamic, and yes even most romantic movies portray this dynamic
There are many forms of toxic relationships. I understand well what you describe. It's also a natural capability of mine to easily tell when people are lying about their feelings.
In the exact situation you described, it's easier for the "emotional" party to be with the "non-emotional" as they just want a blank canvas to project themself onto, not another person to mold with. And the "non-emotional" is either vicariously living through the "emotional" as that's easier than putting themself out there, or is attracted to the emotional freedom they have as something they desperately want and respect. That or one or both of them is emotionally traumatized by something they never got over in their past.
But seeing as both parties "love" isn't coming from the other, but from what they can get from the other (or from their damage), it won't be healthy or happy for long.
I do not show emotion but I do feel emotion, most women don't understand this.
this is on point!
Thank you this needed to be said and it needs to be repeated.
In Europe, even in my Slavic traditional country, men and women were never in that strict "provider" and "nurturer" positions. We simply want a partner, someone to understand us, someone to love us, someone to be our friend, lover and partner in life, regardless of if he is successful (from my woman standpoint) or men who don't necessarily seek just someone to be a "trad wife" and depend on them so much she literally can't escape. We women should not "need" men, we should want them, not for money, not for them being good looking, not for them to be rich, providers or whatever, we want them as partners, sexual and friendship partners, someone to share life with. Is that so hard to understand? Men in Europe don't seem so insecure about women having options, as far as I can see, they still see themselves as prizes, women are not obsessed with being independent, but also not to be in relationship at any cost. We can be single if we didn't find the right person, and I mean someone TO LOVE and respect, not someone with certain paychecks, or looks or status. Someone who we can be close with. Men tend to be more sexual, true, and more often seek shallow sexual relationships, and there are those who seek more traditional wives but in general, they also want someone with whom they can live quality life. People are not that calculating! Well, maybe just those presented on internet, which are just few people chosen for the goal of making one gender looking bad. We should cooperate and live together and chose partners based on how we get along, based on respect, education even, common tastes and what we want in life, sometimes just you get to love someone for whatever reason. This is not competition, this is not a war.
Yep, it boils down to "do you know what's important to look for in a partner?". The truth that society doesn't say anymore: Honesty, caring, kindness, loving, open, available, communicates well, has integrity, works on self and overcomes insecurities and shortcomings. The lie that society spouts left and right: Looks, wealth, status, nothing else.
Slavic women are prostitutes
I think a lot of the men looking for a "trad wife" are because they are often so poorly treated by women their entire lives that the one thing they want in a woman is someone who loves and cares for them unconditionally. It's honestly kinda sad. Men want to be able to come home from being yelled at and ridiculed all day and not be yelled at and ridiculed all night, a traditional woman would not do that, a modern woman absolutely would ridicule you, treat you like crap, knowing all that you dealt with
Slavic women are tarts
@@VoiceOvaGuy that's because it's all marketing. Everything it said in media is to sell something. That's why we shouldn't believe them. Most people do search only for just that: communication, honesty, love, friendship, respect... but the other things sell or at least, get a lot of clout, because people like to fight online. Which I also think is toxic.
Good stuff 👍
I’m taking the time out to watch this video today which is special for me
This whole thing is why I never ever want to have a romantic relationship
I wish I never was in a romantic relationship I would be in a much better place financially and emotionally.
Relationships with people generally are a thankless task.
You are actually enlightened. Congratulations!