The iPad Baby Epidemic: A Generation Of Brainrot
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Timestamps:
Gen Alpha's Biggest Problem: 0:00
The New Way To Distract Kids: 0:52
Epistemic VS Ludic Play: 1:32
The Consequences Of Less Ludic Play: 3:01
Skepticism With The Study: 4:05
Seeking Therapy With BetterHelp: 5:25
Hyperreality and Hyperstition: 7:15
What This Means For iPad Babies: 10:14
What We Can Do: 12:20
How The Internet Ruins Critical Thinking: 15:24
Topics: generation alpha, gen alpha brainrot tiktok, ipad baby psychology, gen alpha is doomed
I’d like to point out that being an iPad kid is not just a generational status, but a state of mind as well. If you are an adult spending 2+ hours a day scrolling through short form videos like TikTok’s, reels, yt shorts… you are on your way to becoming an iPad kid
edit!!! I understand that due to higher neuroplasticity in children it’s not exactly the same thing, but I am hoping that y’all will still get the gist of what I meant
Great point. Thank you for mentioning this.
Agreed, but if your brain is still developing the damage can’t be undone. As an adult, it is easier to fix some potential issues.
@@acrane3496It _is_ still bad for adults though, just perhaps not as obviously.
It is nowhere as damaging as it is to minds that are developing@@landrypierce9942
Not quite as easily tho. The hijacking of the reward circuitry in the brain and the physiological changes are much weaker than in small children. At a certain level of development it’s practically impossible to become an iPad kid
I promise to raise great kids. If you read this, you should too. Let's not waste the new generation
committed to it!
Yeah, also want to raise kids who will help to oir nature, im 21 tho, and they're gonna be one of the happiest kids ever
If the day and i meet, i shall rejoice to this promise
Nah im not having kids. Id have to hone school them bc i refuse to let school indoctrinate them into the gender ideology cult and home schooling is a LOT. I’ll just watch the world burn n sip wine.
No kids for me, but I wish you the best, mate 💪
I get depressed a lot when I think of my nephews (iPad kids), but recently I've noticed something. Some kids are actually getting bored of the endless cycle of scrolling. They were asking to do stuff, like to play with the water balloons and to cook something. Brings me a bit of hope.
Yep. My niece loves to go outside to play when she hears the neighborhood kids are out playing. She loves going to the park, doing arts and crafts, and reading kids' fantasy books. She also watches modern CZcamsrs marketed to kids and plays video games, but luckily, she finds playing with other kids outside more exciting than CZcams.
@@girlofanimation Lucky you live in a neighborhood where the kids go out an play. Do you live in the United States?
@@frafraplanner9277 yeah. In southern California. It's a neighborhood with lots of families. Usually there's an adult outside supervising when the small children are outside.
@@girlofanimation What part? I never saw this when I was in the AV
Mine tells me to put the phone away. It's probably because we told her the same many times when her screen time was over, but I think that if anything, this generation might at least be familiar enough with screens to use them responsibly.
The Loneliness Epidemic is 90% toxic social media and 10% bad city design.
Especially in the USA, there's a distinct lack of 3rd places, dynamic green environments, or pedestrian friendly infrastructure. People ask themselves, "Why go outside?" Most American cities are ugly road networks connecting housing to boring jobs and fast food restaurants. So most Americans opt to stay and even work indoors, depriving themselves of sunlight, physical activity, and human contact.
yup, that's why I'm getting outta here
@@Censored-Doomer ? You cant even point where Bosnia is on the map lmao and you cant even real people to be near you judging from your channels content
@@khaddy72632u Yes We can
Imagine losing most of Your Beaches to fucking Croatia Bruh.
@@khaddy72632u wow, that's a lot coming from someone that can't even type correctly or put a decent sentence together. If I was you, I would say something idiot like this: 'judging from your name, you must be an arab, so no wonder you type like that'! aha aha aha
@@alface935 it was one country not even 3 decades ago dumb yank
Remember people, tech companies have actively fought against laws protecting kids from tech, probably due to the information presented here. They want them hooked and docile as early as possible
Good reason to abstain from algorithms in general, whether abandoning certain platforms altogether or getting extensions that block features like autoplay/recommendations.
@@vanquishrocha The mega companies are also creating AI to slowly replace the people doing all the tv shows/videography.... I imagine in just a few years like by 2030 - 90% of the internet traffic will be from just bots and machine learning.... and the rest of the humans will just have to get real farming labor jobs and go back to real life. It will shake up the whole world... and many people might not even live to pass.
Sounds like religion.
Why though?
@@blacklyfe5543 As stated by the OP the companies just want people hooked and docile, therefore they will design their algorithims to do that to their users, therefore you should not use them.
I'd just like to point out that "limiting screentime" is only half the solution here. If you take away the screen but don't replace it with anything else like a book, toy set, or a drawing book, etc., the kid will inevitably end up back on the ipad
Yeah you should first get your kid used to doing other stuff and then have the iPad as like a treat for like the one hour before they go to bed. Please also be fun be be around as parents, you see most of the kids that are chronically online don't get much interaction from their parents or they have parents that are always a pain to them. Discipline your kids when needed, but don't always be a bum.
I agree. I grew up in the early 2000s (Gen z, 24) and whenever my mom would tell me to get off the computer, I would go outside to play, watch tv or go play with my stuffed animals. But kids today need to be BORED. They need to figure out a solution to cope with their boredom and parents need to give them the "you can play with your coloring book or read a book, but screen time is over." and STICK TO THAT RULE!
I mean. That’s a given, isn’t it? Do you honestly think there are kids out there who ONLY have iPads to entertain themselves? Let’s be serious here. I think 100% of kids (obviously aside from the ones who are dirt poor) ATLEAST have a toy, a book, paper and pencil or two before having an ipad. Taking it away shouldnt “inevitably” lead them back onto the ipad. That’s an excuse. Kids find shit to do when they are given the opportunity to do so. Were you never a child without a device, like ever?
@@HawkinaBoxthank you. You worded this perfectly. I grew up same as you. Kids will find shit to do when given the opportunity. The opportunity here being without the ipad.
as an alpha we're all about that digital drip no need for that retro skibidi fuss limited screentime childhood sounds straight up ohio 💀💀💀
One of the scariest things I’ve noticed in my 13 year old is when he gets grounded and loses his technology privileges. Over the span of that week or two, he becomes a HAPPIER, more engaged kid. He doesn’t treat everything like an inconvenience or a barrier to his “iPad time.” He goes outside, he talks to the neighbor kids, he smiles. That little anecdote tells me all I need to know about how technology affects developing brains.
This is what I have noticed in my younger brother. Antisocial, hostile, and just about everything else, .... right until you take away the screen.
13 isn't really gen alpha
Why give it back then?
@@Cozy-Cooking Some of the definitions of Gen Alpha have it starting in 2010, which means the oldest of Gen Alpha could be 14. So, yes, 13 is still potentially Gen Alpha, or if not, it's at least really close.
@@peterlewis2178 Gen alpha is 2013 - present, not 2010. The source of it saying it started in 2010 was used when gen alpha didn't arrive yet. Now the 2010-2012 borns are getting more attention so they changed it. Though to some they can be considered a Zalpha, the border of gen z and gen alpha.
After seeing my little cousins having temper tantrums in public when they don’t get their iPads, I’m so thankful that I was born and raised with little to no technology until was 5 years old. And I plan to do the same with my children.
Kids threw tantrums when they didn't get toys this is no different
@@MemeLordCrusaderyes this is? They're actually fucking retarded atleast toys didn't fuck our attention spans and didn't give us dopamine issues
It should still be normal for little to no technology until 5. That's how I was raised, and I was born in 2008. The first technology I used was the Wii around 4-5 years old, and then my parents let me play Minecraft on my dad's PC when I was 5. But my access was still limited and that's how it should be; we don't need freaking 2 year olds looking up "skibidi toilet amzing digtal cicrcus roll pway ohio sigma edit" on youtube with mommy's iPad
@@ejumper_10 you're right we should leave babies in the woods because that's natural
@@MemeLordCrusader what
I'm a father and have two boys 5 and 2. I see parents all the time on their phones while I'm at the playground playing with my kids. Parents need to put down their phones too when it is time to do so, or kids will learn, and pickup off them.
A massively important time to be present with your kids
"do as I say, not as I do" never works. That's why I picked up a cigarette at 11yo. Because my parents smoked.
This one honestly reminds me of the one time my mother insisted on me leaving my phone in the car at the family gathering, then proceeding to be on her phone most of the time (as well as most of the other kids, so I couldn't play with anyone).
@@amberrichards2778"I learned by watching you."
And people laughed at the PSA.
monkey see monkey do.. kids are merely emulating their dysfunctional parents
I just hope that 15 years down the line, Generation Alpha will look back and realise where their parents went wrong and how souless and unfulfilling childhoods are becoming and raise their children much better.
let's hope they have the ability to process those emotions given the horrific handicap their parents have inflicted upon them. I have faith though
They can't even read. I'm surprised they can even think.
The same things were said about every generation. I’m surprised my generation (X) didn’t all commit suicide, and I’m surprise d Gen Z can read at all, or tie their shoes.
@@russellharrell2747This shit going on today is different.. this technology has never existed before on planet earth... I'm pretty sure it's gonna change kids dude... Just like tv and movies messed us up. Basically I feel caused narcissism to be epidemic. As everyone feels entitled and special because they believe they are the main character in a movie other people will view...
or just not have kids? society here is to blame, everything has become too expensive that the need for 2 breadwinners that parents decide not to bother with kids
It also brings about an issue which I don't see english speaking creators talking about. I live in Croatia which uses croatian as its official language. You can very easily detect an ipad kid based on their primary language. Ipad kids in Croatia consume a lot of english and serbian content. Those kids unfortunately experience being a foreigner within their own country since they barely speak their mother tongue. I have the misfortune of knowing a few cases in real life and I still remember when a kid came home from school and exclaimed to her mom about how she learnt the croatian word for baloon and how shocked she was about it. The issue is that she has an accent of an american native english speaker despite never leaving Croatia. Although we should allow our kids and encourage them to learn a new language, ignoring them to the point of this happening...its an epidemic and its very careless and dare I say cruel from parents who allow this to happen.
this is so sad and dystopian
ive seen a few english speaking creators comment on the rise of american children with british accents from watching peppa pig. pretty crazy to see in person because my nephews speech has definitely been impacted by what he watches
@@solomia5037Same thing with Bluey. American kids starting developing Australian accents.
so in 100years everyone in on this planet will speak one language?
sounds great, idk why thats a problem
It happens in the anglophere too. Brits just watching Americans or the inverse, having an accent from the other end of the Atlantic. I even knew a few that could sound very British here in Canada back in highschool just a few years ago, but not the full accent.
My best friend is a TV and movie addict (she would not deny this). I remember before she had kids, she was adamant that they would not be screen babies. Then her first child was because she said she "wouldn't play with toys." My solution was simply "then let her be bored." Boredom is so good for brain development - even if it is absolutely exasperating for the parents to deal with.
I'm currently pregnant with my first child, though I have a 14-year-old stepson whom I've raised since he was 2. It's insane how much the media directed at children has changed over those 12 years. I remember sitting down and watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse with him (I'm not ashamed to say even my adult self actually loved that show lol), but there was always that intentionality of "we're watching this, we're watching it together, and when it's over we're going to do something else." And while it's mostly just his nature and not really anything we did, we saw no tantrums from him and very little misbehaviour generally. He's a great kid and I'm very, very grateful he is like he is.
The good thing is you have a reference point of how to navigate these things from your stepson, and the increasing amount of awareness of the problem. I'm sure you'll do a great job, good luck with the baby.
There's very little I'm comfortable showing my kids these days, I watch everything I show my kids either with them or before them to make sure it's not just brain numbing gruel. Even some kids movies can't be trusted these days
I myself would say I'm a movie and tv addict, but the difference is that I'm autistic. I didn't just watch television, it was my one specific interest and I used it as a reference for what was good and bad behavior, how to speak properly, and used it as motivation to learn. I shit you not, I literally learned English (not my first language, I'm from Europe) at 9, because I wanted to read fan wikis. You give low support needs autistic children a pile of blocks and if they engage, you can make an architect out of them. Neurotypical children are very different.
It kind of makes me scared that I'll fall short at parenting once I have one because I don't know what the needs are of a "regular" child, because I simply took all that television and used it as a way to entertain myself, engage my imagination and have something to talk about with others. I don't really know how to make an intelligent kid out of someone who thinks that radically different from myself.
@@CrossoverConnoisseur I think the fact that you are aware that there are ways you would struggle to relate to a neurotypical child is really the most important part. If you know what you're missing, it's much easier to reach out for support from people who can fill the gaps you've identified. To use an analogy, it's not unheard of for two Deaf people who use sign language to have a hearing child together - so how does the hearing child learn to speak a verbal language? The same way as any other child: they listen to other people speak. It requires a conscious effort to tap hearing family and friends for help, but it happens all the time.
"Boredom is so good for brain development "
Boredom is the brain literally telling you that it's being underdeveloped. If that's how you choose to raise your kids then they _will_ rebel in their teen years, and I'm not sure if you know how easy it is to get drugs and NSFW content nowadays.
“When does a kid get to sit in a yard with a stick anymore? You know, just sit there with a fucking stick. Do today's kids even know what a stick is?” - George Carlin.
I like pretending sticks are spoopy swords.
Yes me and my cousin have stick fights
Stick fights got banned literally everywhere after parents realized they were remotely dangerous.
@@BarkingPenguin-jt3br idc I’m still chasing my brother around with a stick 😂
George Carlin quotes are becoming like Einstein quotes you can’t be sure if he really said them. 😂. But this one hit home.
TikTok-style entertainment and consumerism is the cigarette of this era.
Meth
More like cocaine or meth
Based. I despise Shorts and TikTok and I avoid them like the plague
As a smoker, I disagree. Smoking has benefits like socialization
Def crack pipe
I work in a pediatric hospital and see children with iPads all the time - but they’re sick, everyone feels bad, and we all just kind of got used to it. One time I went into a patient room and this 10 year old boy is sitting in bed completely consumed in a thick book. He politely greeted me, put the book away and we chatted for a bit. His mom thanked me for coming to check up on them. They were both so pleasant, and I think about this family every time I see rude behavior and tantrums and can’t help but feel that this generation would be entirely different if they were raised with more books.
You think? Because… up until 20 years ago ALL of human history only had books.. and boyyyy did they cause wars and do horrific things to other people. Children too.
Wish an hope that there is gonna be a age-restriction of internet for children, so they cannot get this before least they are 14-15 year age. Then before that, they learn in school and at home, safety and regulations of the internet, since it is so OVER THE TOP. Social media places is no place for children at all.
@@FurryToraChanThere should be no regulations on the internet. It’s not up to the government to decide that for us, the problem lies with the parents.
Books are pretty cool ngl, just hope I can grab a few copies of my childhood favorites and save them for my kids
Regulations meant for children and teens safety after all, beacuse there's many traps for young people. Trafficking, Kidnapping, Predators and so on...
Dont think you want that as well? So, there should be age-restriction.
I used to be a waitress and it was soooo depressing seeing family after family come in and the kids are just zombie'd out on the iPad the whole time. I could never understand why they even bothered to go out to eat and didn't just get takeout since they clearly weren't interested in having family time.
You dont go out to have family time you go out to eat something different
@@Astreon123 Which can be accomplished with getting takeout as she mentioned, so her question still holds; why bother going out if you're just going to act like you're at home?
@@Astreon123 aggressively american lol
@@pooppilot9979 I'm American and I care about family time during dining out.
@@Astreon123 Then just stay in the room all day and have different kinds of food. What's the point of going out, spending time with family, doing anything other than being fixed on screens?
I am 29 and currently pregnant with my first child. Recently, there has been an influx of videos on ipad babies and how doomed this next generation is. Thank you for making this and taking something everyone sees as so negative into something optimistic. I can't say I haven't bashed the idea of ipad kids, but this isn't all dooom and gloom as most people portray it as.
I am excited to help with the upbringing of this generation and can not wait to see what beautiful innovations they will bring to our world.
I wish you a very smooth birth process with the baby, and congratulations. Thanks for remaining optimistic as well
How about limit iPad use or not allow it at a young age?
How beautiful! Blessings
All the best for your child's future ahead. My tip is to find ways to entertain them without the use of electronic devices, it can be very damaging for their young brains. Take care of yourself too and good luck 👍
To get the full effect, just ask people who have to work around the kids in question. You'll get to see the body language of teachers who are having an inner struggle over whether to even go in to work on Monday or not.
Me watching this with my 4 year old lol
Seriously though we read an hour or 2 a day, and some days we do zero screen time, i work from home and he's always had to figure out how to entertain himself. Felt so dystopian when we were at the grocery store and my kid was trying to say hi to another kid who wouldn't even lift their eyes from a tablet
I mean... it's how the smartphone age is now... the dystopia is already real
your kid is in for a bit of a tough time but not in a bad way. it might continue to be lonely for him at times but there will be more and more kids like him in the coming years, given all this awareness being raised. you got this!
@@xXluluchanelXx thanks, really though his normal thus far hasn't been difficult really, we go on road trips and never once have given him a screen, happy reading books, coloring, playdough, pointing out stuff we see, chatting, eating snacks, listening to music, etc etc.. He doesn't know any different so he's pretty content most of the time. Same goes for playing in the yard or in the house while I work on stuff.
Youre definitely doing better than most parents lol
/sure
As a 15 year old who grew up with technology, I’m sincerely thankful that my parents didn’t give me an ipad or a similar device and say “have at it kiddo”. Though we did have devices such as computers, iPads and video game consoles, my parents always insisted that they were for family use and I had to share with my two sisters. This led to us playing many couch co-op games that made us be together at work with each other.
I remember when I got my first video game console, the WiiU, and I had no idea how to play Mario. The idea of moving something on a screen with buttons was still novel to me. But me and my sisters figured it out, we worked together, and when we finally beat the big bad guy Bowser, we were overjoyed. But we weren’t happy just because we beat a battle and had some fun gameplay. We were happy because we had to try and learn and work together to finally win, and I fear that that feeling of close teamwork will be lost in the years to come.
I have a similar story, though being an only child, most of my memories come from playing Minecraft on the computer with my dad and the family over in Iceland
I'm a bit older than you, but similar story. I wish I had siblings, or even my parents to share those things with. But my older cousins and best friend really did a lot. I dread the person I would have been without them.
You parents did a good job. My best memories with my video game addicted kid relatives are when we all sat down together and played cooperative video games. Even though I was already an adult, it truly felt like normal, old school, on the floor playing with toys, just without the mess to clean up at the end. I wish more parents took that approach towards technology.
As someone who went from windows XP to Windows 7 as a child, my siblings and I experienced the same things. Our parents didn't want consoles and only allowed us a single 15 inch laptop to share. We didn't even have a wired mouse at home until I was old enough to be trusted with an allowance. As a result, I would huddle over the laptop with my brother and sister, making our perilous way through suspicious anime and cartoon streaming sites and flash game websites and figuring things out ourselves. Hell, when we played games that required aiming, I'd be using the mousepad to aim while my brother controlled WASD and the spacebar. Limiting what your kids can do online makes them creative if you don't go to extremes.
too bad a lot of modern games forgo couch co-op infavor of online multiplayer and possibly the worst sin of gaming, matchmaking
I've seen a fair few videos of kids screaming and crying after their iPad gets taken from them. The main problem is the lack of monitoring. I'm only 20 and I had an iPad as a kid when they were still new. I wasn't allowed to download apps on my own, and internet access was limited. I mostly feel bad for iPad kids, as it isn't really their fault they got like this. Their parents will still blame the iPads on all their kids problems, like my mother blamed pretty much every problem I had on either my Asperger's, video games, my father or me "not having a soul". Parenting isn't easy, but at least have the decency to acknowledge your own faults when you fuck up.
Jesus, I have been on the receiving end of dehumanizing speech about my autism (I’m robotic, I’m retarded) but I have never been told I didn’t have a soul. 😢 I’m genuinely sorry your mom told you that, she is horrible for saying that, and you categorically do not deserve that treatment.
I mean if I was a little kid and my parents took something from me I would be angry.
@@flyingtank yeah but you probably wouldn't get as bad as the iPad kids get
@ntrg3248 probably
Your mother sounds wonderful
my favorite epistemic toy as a kid was a fashion design slate where you snapped in little plates for the top, skirt/pants and shoes and then laid scraps of fabric over them, then folded the top frame over it to create a finished image of your choices. I could play with it for HOURS day after day and never get sick of it -- will be passing it on if I ever manage to adopt.
That’s pretty sick
IT WAS! if you get bored later, look up "flip and fold toys" and "fashion plates" and you will be inspired I think!
I had one of those.
My kiddos loved it too.
i loved those so much I miss them
Oh yeah I remember those
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As a tutor who gives supplementary writing lessons to kids and teenagers, this issue has pushed me to come up with tasks and activities to my tutees that will help them in writing. There is now a shift in the type of lessons I "give" them. Rather than the usual writing lessons students can find in social media and in Google, I give them lessons that integrate human values such as empathy, cooperation, etc. and why these things are important, or why as humans we improve quicker when we work with others rather than just by ourselves, with or without a machine involved.
This is unfortunately true. I went to teach two kiddos w my 4 year old son. Two small girls. The parents gave them the ipad during lunch and said that they NEED it to eat. Me and my son looked at one another and I made a face gesture that he better not watch it. Lol. I spoke to the mother and asked how much they watch and she said as much as it takes.
I let my kiddo play w his ipad too but in moderation. There are many educational games that are amazing for learning how to write, doing puzzles, etc.
I definitely restrict what he watches even on KiD YT.
I'd actually be VERY cautious about letting your kid use CZcams Kids. Some of the stuff on there is definitely worse than regular CZcams and is only put on the kids app because of keywords like "elsa" or "spider-man" or just anything kid friendly when in reality the videos could be really inappropriate and strange. I'd just let your kid use regular youtube, but either heavily monitor what he watches or put together a playlist of videos that he likes so he could watch them.
@@ejumper_10 thanks. I monitor for sure.
Poor kids. That's heartbreaking to hear.
@@cheesy_87 yeah, I thought the same. The sad thing is is that the parents are together and have the funds while I am single and we really don't. It goes to show that that it's not what matters.
oh my god those poor kids, i would feel like such a failed parent if my kid needed an ipad to eat
Makes you wonder If we're gonna be seen as the parents who say "dont play games they make you violent" for the newer generation.
It’s just too easy to find all kinds of depravity on the internet I know because I found it when I was 10/11. I think we have to remember what it was like to be on the early parts of the internet, and video games are at least confined to the game’s source code right but the internet and social media?? You can find literally anything and everything under the sun. It’s up to parents to supervise what their kids are looking at on these iPads but common parents are too lazy to actually do that or just don’t have time for their kids which makes you wonder why they even had them to begin with. The amount of gross things I found as a kid on newgrounds and 4chan was nuts I had unrestricted access to the internet, I would expect that parents nowadays wouldn’t be so clueless and careless with internet use but from what teachers are saying it seems like they are. At worst it’s an avenue for kids to be exposed to online exploitation at best it’s just not as engaging as a video game. At least in a video game you almost always have an element of critical thinking. Like learning how to beat a boss on Dark Souls. I just don’t think it’s comparable.
It’s a double edge sword if your kid doesn’t have a phone by the age of 9/10 which is average they will be bullied ridiculed and a social outcast if you do give it to them it will rot their brain. Damned if you do damned if you don’t
Ha, you get it. Glad to see someone with perspective. You're correct, that's what will happen. This is just the new boogeyman. These parents will criticize this, while forgetting how many hours as a child they were glued to TV, or video games or listening to music. Same shit different context
@@chrism8180holy shit a person who can think for 2 minutes
@@chrism8180yep
I worked as a Nursery Teacher for 4 years, the amount of tablet use and the number of 2 year olds who fully understand how to access Kids CZcams is scary. Not to mention the kind of stuff on the platform is NOT child friendly. Some children will cry or get upset when a tablet is taken away meaning their parents are not engaging and just leave them not keeping track of the brain dead content.
Brotha I could read at 2 years old. This next generation is absolutely gonna need some help
Wish an hope that there is gonna be a age-restriction of internet for children, so they cannot get this before least they are 14-15 year age. Then before that, they learn in school and at home, safety and regulations of the internet, since it is so OVER THE TOP. Social media places is no place for children at all.
@@vexonusoftelvari638So can they if they can use an iPad
I mean, I was using a computer at that age, how do you think I would type into Google search if I didn’t know how to read?
@@krystiankowalski7335
I get your point, but the iPad uses touch and visual icons to navigate. You don't really need to read to navigate if you know what to press. CZcams Kids pretty much shoves the content they want to see right in front of them, so the amount of actual reading they have to do is very little. Plus, theres a difference between reading a word and reading a book. Sure, they could be reading the titles of videos or app names, but not an actual story that promotes brain growth.
@@vexonusoftelvari638 How about playing video games on there, or installing apps? That requires a bit of reading. I don’t know what kind of reading you suggest these 2-year-olds do that exceeds this kind of complexity.
Besides, they may well be entertaining themselves however they want on their time, everybody does that, but you’re acting like these kids don’t read books at school. What do you think they do all day? They don’t really teach you anything, they just give you the rundown of colours and numbers and letters and animals, in case you hadn’t gotten the memo at home already. The rest of the time is just spent reading, and doing leisure activities like playing or chatting. Or at least, this is how it was in my nursery about 15 years ago, I’m assuming it’s more or less the same nowadays.
Im a professional nanny and infant care specialist who has been helping parents raise babies and young children for almost 25 years now. Back in the 90s this was talked about with tv, in the early 2000s it was games, by mid 2000s it was the uncensored way children get access to the internet and now its ipads/phones. Deep breaths parents. Its fine to give your child some screen time especially when you need time to do other things or just to chill. Remember to keep track of how much screen time they are getting and balance that with face time (no electronics) to do things with your kids. But regardless these kids will turn out fine like the other generations and adapt to this technical world they live in far better than older generations
Good to hear this perspective from a seasoned nanny
I get that. Especially with the way the economy is right now, it’s hard for parents to be present 100% of the time. Limits should be spend and the time should be made to have face-to-face interaction. My only argument is that this is the worst out of all the generational threats just because of how widespread it is, and how it really does negatively impact children. There is some cause for worry if left unchecked
I was one of those addicted to computer games. I would play them up to 20 hours a day during summer in my childhood. I regret getting addicted this bad and if I could turn back I would stop myself from ever opening a computer. At the time it was my escape though...
@@vexonusoftelvari638exactly.
So the issue isn t screens. It s the economy making it unaffordable for most people to put a real human in front of their kid (be it a parent or a nanny)
The greed of a few is destroying the whole society. Billionaires aren t worried about their kids becoming ipad kids, because they cak afford humans...
I might be biased because I am a gen Z who enjoys video games(I have the taste of older people though), and I was a bit Ipad-kid-ish when I was very young. But I think the problem of modern Ipad kid is (1) the content is brainrot (2) their parents are basically neglecting them.
(1) You often need to stay focused to enjoy good games/animations (child-oriented Japanese animations are very wholesome for some reason). But modern child-oriented content are unbearable.
(2) My parents were willing to talk about and play the video games together with me and I have siblings to play with. But many other younger generation can only resort to following the crowd and trend or paralyse themselves with brainrot content.
As a gen z, I hated that growing up I didn’t have a phone or tablet easily at my disposal until I was in my early teens, seeing this makes now realize that I am happy that I got a phone when I was approaching the age of being more mature now rather than when I was five or something.
real
i got a phone at 11 due to going places without my parents. it only made calls/texts, youtube, and some games. my parents taught me enough about online safety so I didnt get traumatized by some video. the iphone 4 i had didnt even run social media. im glad I didnt get instagram until i was 13, but i wish i never got it tbh. it sucks
I think the main problem is when you start giving kids ipad's when they get upset, angry, happy etc is that instead of letting them express these feelings we are pretty much telling them to numb it with content and advertising
we are creating a generation of consumers
I was sitting in a restaurant with my friends who had a 3 yr old that was an iPad baby. They were teaching her words, they pointed to the table, and asked what do you eat with? Child points to the iPad and not the fork.
LOL she doesn't want to interact with them the kid is like just give me my ipad
@@bunnyboo6295 no, that wasn't the point. It was a Freudian slip. From a toddler. Which is so very disturbing. The child's dopaminergic reward system is so doped up from the screen, that she mistakes the ipad for sustenance. The ipad has cracked that child out from understanding what is food.
Probably why there's a rise in AFRID (an eating disorder usually seen in childhood, and is usually exacerbated by laissez-faire parenting). Parents giving in too easily and just feeding them chicken nuggets, roll ups and "here kid, here's an iPad, now shut up," is going to lead to significant detrimental development.
@@audreydoyle5268Or they just interpreted “with” differently, to mean “alongside” rather than “using”.
@@audreydoyle5268bro chill I ate a photograph when I was a kid
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I see iPad kids almost exclusively at airports, since I'm not close with anyone at the age of iPad parent or child.
The wild part is that it's always an iPad specifically. I've never seen a kid addicted to screens looking at a tablet other than an iPad. It's probably just a coincidence but I find it interesting. These iPad kids have unbreakable focus when it comes to their screens. You could pass anything in front of their eyes and they wouldn't notice it. Hell, they also wouldn't remember what stuff they were just watching anyway. I'm worried for the future, regardless of the optimism in this video.
Sorry.
It may be a country specific thing. I'm from Russia, and here iPads aren't that popular. Tablets in general aren't that popular, kids are more often seen with phones - their own or their parents'. Same thing, glued to the screens.
I mostly see kids with their parents' phones. The occasional iPad yes but mostly phones. And they make sure that the whole place knows they're watching something too.
@@OlgaFyodorova it is likely country specific. the US is super Apple-brained so iPads are popular here.
@@blueroses918 makes sense :(
Update to this thread. I'm at an airport right now in Europe, and I'm sitting one table away from a family of 4 with 2 iPad kids.
Despite being a 30 year old man with no kids, I'm saddened that traditional toy stores are dying. These poor children are going to grow up with no creativity, motor skills, social skills and are not going to develop any passion for any particular thing which could drive them to pursue a career. Lego and Hot Wheels opened an outlet for creativity, Beyblades in school broke some of my friendships, but made so much more. I may not be where society wants me to be now, but I'm still so thankful that I wasn't given a virtual pacifier in my childhood, and actually played with real toys. I truly feel for this next generation because my generation mostly inherited their adulthood, and never earned it.
Do quit yer yapping
no need to be rude@@MemeLordCrusader
@@MemeLordCrusader who hurt you?
@@pedroasif6844 My father :^(
I disagree. With so much freedom and a variety of things at such a young age, the creativity they have should actually flourish. Just look beyond the absolutely garbage content farms of TikTok and CZcams Shorts.
I tink you're right about how it'd be better if what the kids did on tablets was more cognitively stimulating. I tried getting my seven year old nephew into digitial chess, but he only plays it if you put the AI on minimum difficulty and have the tutorial mode on so the game just tells you how to win. No thought or effort put in, but get that dopamine spike after winning every game.
Odd at that age I would want the challenge or would be bored..
He's also only 7 and used to easier games. Keep coaching and encouraging him, and get him off devices when you're around.
He's 7 dude
Again, he's 7, what are you expecting??? 7 YEARS OLD, not even a two digit number! Let him be a child.
idk why people are mad at you and saying he’s too young to be interested in chess. at the end of 2nd grade (which is age 7 in the USA) my teacher hyped up the last few weeks of school we would be learning chess and we were HYPEEDDDDD and i immediately went home the first day and played like 5 games against my dad even though i kept loosing because i wanted to get better. thats not an odd thing to expect out of a 7 year old. ima assume these people only been around ipad kids and have no idea how normal kids act.
Wealthy parents who send their children to private schools don't give their children smart devices. This is especially true in Silcon Valley. These parents aren't making this decision for no reason. People learn more when doing things with their hands and it's shown when comparing students who write their notes by hand vs students who take notes on a laptop.
Wealthy people don't want their kids enslaved by all this consumerism and tech... it's meant to placate us, the lower classes, to keep us from taking them to guillotines lol. They don't deserve an award or praise for that ...just saying
why do private schools always have a lot of sexual abuse stories
The main reason why parents in Silicon Valley don’t give there kids electronic devices is because they know the effects that phones and iPads can have on people since they develop them in Silicon Valley. Since they know the psychology and algorithms behind these apps they do not want their kids to become hooked to them.
Sorry I had to edit this because autocorrect is super dumb. English is my first language I swear lol
That sounds stupid. Working with your hands implies practice. And if you don't know different people learn in different ways. Video learning is absolutely more beneficial than just writing and regurgitating. Writing notes isn't "working with your hands", and quite frankly was the stupidest thing they had us do in school. Copy notes all week for an end of week test? You better believe 75% of that info escaped my mind in the first few months, if not weeks. It's not engaging, and the only time you need the info is for the test, so your mind makes room for new things once the test is over. Hard to believe there's actually someone who believes writing notes is actually good, when that style of learning has been openly criticized in recent years.
My niece is 4 months old, and at Christmas we all watched a movie together. My sister made it very clear to us that whoever was holding my niece, make sure she is facing AWAY from the tv. So proud of her for that
The difference is that movies arent as bad as the internet
I’ve met i-Pads kids myself, their parents seem lazy. These kids are so spoiled and heartless. Cruel beings. I had access to the internet at a somewhat young age, but there were clear boundaries, and I turned out fine. Then again I didn’t get it as a baby or really little kid. It was like first grade, when I was 7.
Same. I was born in the early 90s and didn't use the internet as much as a kid in the early 2000s. It was dial-up back then, so using the internet wasn't a constant thing. I think with how reliant society has become with the internet really ridiculous. Like older Boomers and the Greatest Generation people saw the internet back in the 90s as an overblown fad, which was nonsense. But holy shit, the internet and social media has done really strange things to our society in the last 15 years ever since social media was invented. The mistake of our generation was that we thought that the internet was going to make people think for themselves more, people would be less susceptible to dogma or propaganda, and that our society would be smarter with sharper intellectual skills and critical thinking because of this new thing called the internet.
I mean, whatever happened to the saying "don't believe everything you read on the internet"? It seems like these days, people are all too gullible to believe anything on the internet. More people seem to believe disinformation than ever because of social media. Sorry for the rant, but holy shit I can't believe how weird society has become because of social media.
Why are we blaming the kids??
Blame the parents for neglecting the child and causing them to be like this 😡
@@BeefBrisketBridget I thiught I was?
@@Cool_Kid95 Just because you saw some children on IPads doesn’t mean that all children are rude and annoying.
@@Cool_Kid95 I also find it sad to see that people from Generation Alpha have to apologise for their quote on quote “Bad behaviour”
Although it’s not their fault.
The biggest problem is the level of entertainment compared to level of engagement. Scrolling tik tok maximizes entertainment while not engaging the brain. So after a while brain get used to this mix and sees it as normal. Now try to get that kid to study for an hour. No chance. Studying is exactly the opposite, low entertainment that requires high brain engagement. That is why bunch of teachers are complaining about kids. We have kids who can't go to the bathroom without a phone, or eat a dinner without YT video in the background
Essentially these kids are getting addicted to "junk entertainment". Sometimes I think how biggest human discoveries were made when people were bored, their brains actively trying to entertain themselves by focusing on the world around them (theory of gravity or a steam engine... ). I feel that bunch of young people now are afraid to be bored Afraid to be alone with their thoughts
@@BlueFan99 I can say that being afraid of getting bored and thinking your own mind is a real problem... but one that didn't originate in the Gen Alpha.
People have been afraid of boredom for almost half a century now, ever since large corporations started dictating how we should view the concept of work.
Before young people were afraid of boredom due to the hypersensory world we live in today, we were already living in fear of boredom, due to the fact that idleness had become a cardinal sin in the eyes of a "work-centric" way of life in which this hypersensory society was created to begin with...
This was already said about TV decades ago
the main issue I have with social media is that you are enjoying it because of malfunctioning of the brain
i dont think its malfunctioning at all. its exactly what our brains were designed for, but in a very exploitative way
That's like saying liking MacDonald's is a malfunction of our primal drives for nourishment. It's just bliss point food, exploiting our drive for fatty, sugary foods
That’s exactly what it is! Good point!!
Enjoying it because you're not the main character in ur life and ur life is not interesting enough, at least the way you make it - see it
Just came back from chrismas with the whole family. Every niece and nephew was glued to an ipad while the adults where oblivious to it.
My mom recently bought my 3 year old brother a tablet because she wasn't being able to work. I won’t demonize what she did because he was indeed very difficult to deal with but i'm terrified that this will have negative effects on him. We're currently at my uncle's house which is several hours away from our own, we,'ll stay until January 5th and my mom didn't bring anything but the tablet for my brother. I'm afraid that soon he'll be spending hours on his tablet. I've already caught him watching brainrot content on CZcams Kids but i feel like there's nothing i can do.
I have the same issue but with my little brother 2 years old. Im worried for him. My dad has 2 phones and as soon as hes home from the daycare, he gets my dad's old phone and he watches lots of brainrot content. Im really sad and worried for him. At least when i was a kid the most i would watch was 1 hour of cartoons a day (loud house, gumball and those shows)
Do you try to play with em
get him books. PLease
@@David-hi8og My other uncle also came here with my 11 year old cousin and his 18 month old adopted son. They do play with each other but he mostly uses his tablet over here because my mom didn't bring anything else.
@@WildArtistsl He has books back home but he never really got hooked since he hasn't learned how to read yet.
I would like to comment and say that I was raised an iPad kid. I got my first iPad around 6 or 7 and developed a pretty bad addiction to it, which I didn't even break until I turned about 14. I think that I am a pretty good example of a classic iPad kid, and from that, I have a few ideas about what the future for ipad kids will look like. First of all, my social skills are kinda bad. When i was younger, they were even worse, but as ive gone off to college, ive learned how to interact more with people. Second, people's childhood memories will be nonexistant. You make memories when you go somewhere or hang out with people, or even play a videogame with your buddies. You make no memories when you are scrolling on your phone all day. And when you scroll on your phone all day, every week, it leads to massive portions of memory blankness. I dont think that ipad kids will destroy society or be unable to function, i just think that they will have severe mental health issues, higher suicide rates, less social skills, less skills in general (art, music, sports), less confidence, more anxiety, and worse grades in school.
i think in the future, the wealth divide will get even worse too, since rich/smart parents will avoid ipads like the plague but poor parents will use them, leading to their children being less skilled
@@funnyman2097 it's not a new thing, less educated parents, with limited "cultural capital" as they say, are much less likely to have kids who do well at school.
I was a kid on the 90s. Best we had was nintendo. No one had a computer or cell phone. We got to spend one hour on it then kicked out of the house to go play outside. Ride a bike, climb a tree, build a fort. Good times.
Early 2000s looks like a whole different world compared to the 2010s when social media took over
As an adult who's currently sticking to my phone/ipad/laptop screen all days, sometimes i wonder what did I do in my free time before smartphone? I used to have hobbies like sewing, puzzle, cooking. Now I'm just addicted to a screen. It's miserable
my nieces are iPad kids... all three have their own and are under the age of 10... the youngest now 5.. I remember 3 years ago her mom saying she wasn't going to give her an iPad until she was 4 and and then ended up buying one for her 2 weeks later bc "she couldn't handle the kids" but then her and her husband aren't very interactive with their kids saying they're showing them independence.. it's hard to get the parents (millennials) to get off video games themselves to feed or help their kids with anything in the first place.. as their aunt I try playing with them like with toys or take them outside to play and talk with them and help them make food or get something to drink when I'm over.. it makes me upset the way they parent but you can't tell anyone anything these days without them getting offended.
I don’t think we’re completely doomed. My older brother was terribly behaved when he was younger, so he was an iPad kid. Once he got a phone, he was on it all the time. Yet the only time his grades were failing was during Covid. He actually really picked up after Covid and got a scholarship for college. He has tons of friends, is in great shape, and is on his way to be an engineer. I can see from younger kids how terrible they are, but we shouldn’t panic just yet.
I have a 3 year old. He gets about 3hrs a week, total, of TV time. Some older shows or watching regular movies with my wife and I. I travel back and forth from one state to another for work. So, he gets lucky to watch TV for an hour or so out of that drive as well. I've never felt compelled to throw a phone or tablet in front of him all the time. The way I see it, I'm making my life easy in the moment, but when my child is an adult, life will be much harder for him and myself if he can't function. I hope parents keep this in mind...
I have a 2 year old. He didn't use any screen until 18 months, then we let him watch 30 mins of tv twice a day. It completely backfired, he wanted the tv all day, every 5-10 mins he asked for tv.
So we went no tv for a week. Tv covers with flags and then he was allowed 30 mins before bed. Almost no tantrums or asking for tv, he knows it's before bed.
This was just TV. Can you imagine a tablet??? Just say no. You don't even need them. Smartphones, TV's, laptops, desktops. Monitor screen time and delay the beginning of tech usage as much as you can.
Even during my generation's childhood (2000's), technology was still more interactive, and I feel more open to 'innovation and imaginative' play, mostly due to limitations of video game consoles and computers at the time. I have very good memories of playing a lot of Xbox split-screen with my dad via Halo 2/Need for Speed, which now is a completely lost art in today's world of iPad kids.
It's honestly pretty damn dangerous the way that things are going right now.
It's a difficult time to raise kids. I don't really know any Gen Alpha's but judging from CZcams, the recent trend of issues with Gen Alpha seem to be mostly based in USA as I don't see people from other countries complaining about kids or schooling online.
I'm French and all I can say is that we do have a similar problem when it comes to ipad kids
Being an Indian , I don’t see anything like that with kids around here, some of them do scroll on shorts on their moms phones or something like that , there is a mild amount of cases like this we heard back here in India
I think it is more common in areas where consumerism is rampant. here in the U.S.A. a lot of us cope with economic disparity with consumerism, so we're burnt out and people don't take great care of themselves or their children in this way
I see it over here in the UK. A child was using the mothers phone and my aunt gave an iPad to my autistic cousin and this has definitely made her development skills worse but thankfully she said mama so yea. Not only in the US
It's happening here in Australia too. My best friend from high school really wanted kids, but she sits on her backside all day, scrolling tiktok while her daughters are glued to the tv and ipad. My goddaughter has ADHD now because of my friend's negligence, and instead of treating her, they punish her for wanting genuine attention.
More adults need to be able to differentiate social media from just plain old television. At least you can control which contents are viewed on TV while people are struggling with Elsagate phenomenon on internet kid contents
Remember when people were addicted to TV?
@@MemeLordCrusader i wonder how tf people were tv addicts in the first place
@@taureon_ yes... they were look it up
@@MemeLordCrusader Internet addiction has replaced TV addiction it seems.
@@taureon_ It's usually people who didn't grow up with the internet who are TV addicts. I was one, I watched a lot of cartoons. Now I'm trying to hunt for them on physical media but not a lot of Nick or Cartoon Network shows were released on physical media.
My niece was raised on the iPad but after a few hours even she gets bored of it and rather play with her parents. Her parents don't want to play with her though they would rather she watch TV with them instead. Eventually she gets bored and goes back to the iPad.
That’s sad
aw thats just awful
Negligence.
That is child neglect. She needs better guardians!
i really appreciate this outlook, so many annoying ppl online have been fear-mongering this subject abd it was rly frustrating that ppl were this quick to fully write-off gen alpha
My mum leads a childcare centre and has been working in the industry for over 20 years and is very vocal about how the behaviour of current children is some of the worst because of terrible parenting.
Her most common point is: 1. Parents have no spine and won't say no to their children 2. Rather than put up with a tantrum they stuff an iPad in their face to shut them up instead of connecting to their child and understanding their needs 3. this lack of socialisation has led to a lot of antisocial behaviour at her centre as children will steal from others, and even bite and attack to get what they want
Unfortunately, she struggles to get the parent to actually parent
Im 27, was raised like this.. single parent household who has NPD. Emotionally absent etc.
Ive been mentally unstable my entire life
BPD OCD ADHD Depression Anxiety etc
Lots of damage from absent parents in childhood
This is my first time watching your channel and I have to say, that was extremely well done! I love the end where you highlight how the negative consequences listed earlier in the video can be shaped into positives. So many people talk about gloom and doom about what's wrong in the world without offering solutions or suggestions to change it. I like that you didn't end the video on that note. I also like that you acknowledged both sides by saying that these tools can cause a lot of damage, but that they're also amazing tools for growth and learning. Great job, sir!
There is so much emerging insight in this video it’s crazy, I’m guilty of continuing to consume junk online, engage with other people in a negative way online. Yeah we’re victims, but seriously we need do better with ourselves and take accountability for our lives and the lives of the coming generations.
Agreed 👍
Great video! The screen time of both parents and children is increasing and it's having negative effects on this generation. It may be tough to accept as parents, but our generation needs to get off their phones and take away the iPads. I'm glad people are finally waking up to this tragedy that the future generation is being slowly forced into!👋
Bro. Nobody’s waking up. There hoping to be able to afford smart fridge and self driving cars
@@newagain9964 Fair point! At least we 're discussing it here and try finding a way out of it. Social media can be a huge distraction that can take away from achieving our goals. We can start by limiting our time spent on social media each day and find more productive activities to replace the time spent on. This can be anything from reading a book, taking a walk outside, playing sports, or even learning a new skill.👋
there will need to be a movement on behalf of sensible parents, a la the hippie generation, of people banding together to not only raise their kids in a less stimulating environment but to enable them to share play dates so those kids don't grow up feeling like weirdos in a world where most kids WILL be indulging in intense tech from a young age. @@JIMKATSANIDIS
Yes. Every time I see a kid on an iPad in a restaurant, it saddens and worries me. Mainly because also, parents don’t know what their child is looking at on an iPad, especially if they find CZcams. Elsagate has returned as well, and that greatly concerns me.
@newagain some people are, some people aren’t. Maybe you didn’t. Think about that?
That was one of your best videos so far! Love the message at the end.
Dude right on brother. I'm 39 and have a baby boy on his way at the end of June and have been trying not to freak out as to how I was going to handle the current conundrum of toxic social media and internet bombardment and this really helped me take a breath and know that I am going to be able to figure it out. Great video and much appreciated! 👍👍 (Liked and subscribed)
We are in the beginning of the 6th mass extinction on this planet. You have MUCH more to worry about than iPads… it’s a very dangerous and heartbreaking choice to bring children into this world…. I wouldn’t.
Huge shout out Cole, keep being great and creating good content!
I love the points you bring up at the end of the video. I've known a handful of people who slipped into nihilism at the thought of Chronic Scrollers taking over the world in 10-20 years. But they never considered the impact they could have on themselves or others if they just thought about the positive things that can be done. Having a positive outlook on these problems and actively trying to solve them will at the least raise the moral of some individuals and at the best change the world. Positivity always says hope for the best after all.
Better help is a horrible company. They will employ people who don't have a license to conduct therapy (which is a huge no-no, it means they aren't up to snuff.) And will happily sell your information and anything you say to the person you talk to. There is NO patient confidentiality! How this company is getting away with this I will never know. If you need therapy try literally anything else.
Apple Vision pro is going to be a bomb for this gen. And I already know how many parents will buy it for their kids. Honestly, we can’t blame innocent still babies and kids, the ones to blame are their parents who don’t know why they have kids.
Both of my nephews live on their tablets, they're eight and five. The youngest refuses to sit at the dinner table without his tablet and he likes the volume up loud, it irritates me so much.
Hey , Cole Hastings! I love your videos. Your most of the videos are helpfull for my life. Thanks You Man❤❤❤
you shouldnt have took that sponsor.
they make you take a one hour long questionnaire to later ask personal questions and sell your data.
Thanks for sharing this video. Never seen your channel before; but glad it popped up. I liked the way the video was structured and put together! Well done, looking forward to more
i have a friend who sits around and plays video games all day while their child just wanders around on their phone. sometimes when the kid is getting into things they shouldnt his first instinct is to find someone to pass the controller off to instead of his child. pretty hard to watch but might serve as an example of an earlier version of an "ipad kid" turn his kid into another "ipad kid." just wild. kid is like 2-3 rn and ive never seen them outside the house. i fear for the future.
As someone who just started teletherapy today, it is very accesible and allows you to understand many stuff on the lower end and under the skin
Very pleased I grew up when tech was just beginning (90s).
My parents had a neat library in their living room that started with children's books and fairy tales to far more in depth and mature content. I read through that whole little library as I grew older and it helped a ton with my love for reading. By then they trusted me enough to buy me a computer to learn even more about the world and where it's heading.
It's largely the parent's duty to guide their children. The schools can only do so much.
Bravo Bravo, a brilliant video highlighting the Epidemic. Thanks for actually trying to tell us what to do!
I’ve often wondered how many of the fights and disagreements we have in our personal life happen because we’ve watched people in movies and shows fight about that thing, so it must be a valid thing to fight about.
Look I'm Gen Z and I got my first tablet (not iPad) at 11. And that was 2012. When Gangam Style was trending and the world was about to end.
It broke a month later because it was CHEAP AF.
You have addressed something i have been fearing for a while. While I am not currently dating, I plan on raising kids of my own someday. I want to raise them right, but knowing that other kids will have phones in middle school and maybe even elementary school, if i dont give my kid a phone, then im the bad guy. I just hope my kid doesn't feel less loved when i put restrictions up
Compromise. Give them an old smart phone once they can prove half way through middle school that they will use it responsibly.
Word of the wise: if you are ever confiscating it for not completing homework or any poor behaviour, tell them when they are getting it back. Don't keep it for longer than a month. And if they seem to be struggling at school, with focus and remembering things, please take that as a warning they may have ADHD. Do not ignore it, get them treated if they do. Don't be afraid of "turning them in zombies or drg addicts". If your child has a neurodevelopmental disorder, they WILL feel like a zombie from the depression of not being understood for their struggles.
Thanks for the advice
Try giving them audiobooks! It’ll keep their attention and get them to love stories early.
I second the audiobooks. Great for kids that might be a bit too young to read, and it will get the imagination going.
@@audreydoyle5268I’ve seen what ridilin does to kids, you treat it like giving it is aspirin but it very much is not and I’ve seen people go from unfocused, but energetic and fun people to husks while on that shit. If your kid has an attention disorder therapy and study techniques should be your first choice, throwing drugs at the problem first step simply proves you’re a terrible parent who just wants the problem to go away as fast as possible, damn any other considerations.
Hell yeah dude. You earned this subscription! I needed this..
Gen Z here, even for people like me who didnt grow up with phones or tablets. I still see the effects in both myself and the people around me. Its possible to somewhat reverse these effects when taking a long break from technology, the older you get the harder it is for you to do this.
My kids have strict screen time, I give them iPad only to play educational games or use apps to learn or interactive reading. However, it is very very hard to go against the pressure of the current environment! Kids more often ask why they can’t have phone while their peers have all the devices, their friends communicate through internet and have fun in the virtual world. My kids are small but soon they will be in the age where all communication will be digital, so I don’t know what to do, because I don’t want my kids to miss out, to be weirdos and hence being bullied, I don’t want them to not be ready for the type of communication their peers have. Unless we all as society change something, individual cases will be outcasts.
Maybe you can allow an hour or two of ‘regular ipad stuff that other kids do too’ during the weekends? I had that too as a kid (gameboy advance era lol) I really respect your decision and if I have kids I want to do this same thing. I hope you will choose what you think is best and I think your kids will be thankful for it when they’re old enough to realize. I know I’m thankful that my parents gave me a notebook to draw stuff at a restaurant and they took me to the forest to have a family walk etc. They maybe will be a bit rebellious sometimes because that’s what kids do but I think you can stand behind your opinion and I think you can offer them a wider range of skills and interests if you mostly let them use the ipad for educational stuff. Keep it up and believe in your opinion I think when the time comes it’s gonna be alright 👍👍
Maybe one day you should tell them about the negative effects that social media can bring . (You can tell them slowly if you need to).
Forcing your kids to do something or to not do something is never a good option. And you cant do that forever. I recommend encouragement.
@@HAPPY-lr1ti I'm with this more than giving in. No they won't understand now, but they will later. You just gotta put up with the discomfort for their own sake, otherwise they are just getting set up to fail like their friends.
I mean... who cares if they are an outcast? In this case, it is for their betterment. Going against the status quo is how you make a leader, and doing what is best for them is our job. Some teens get tattoos and drink, but we shouldn't let our kids do that. Even if they whine. Then, when their brain is developed, they will be glad that we didn't allow them to destroy themselves. And if they aren't, they can make decisions themselves at that point, and we did the best we could for them.
I think middle school would be a good age for a phone. I don’t have a child but if I had one, I think 12-14 would be a good age.
I have three kids: 8, 5, 0 - when our oldest was about 3, we did have a tablet with curated games and set time limits. Over time, it became a battle to get the device away after 30 minutes. After trying a few things, we just took the thing away permanently. We never took it outside of the house except for long drives, so it wasn't an issue at restaurants or anything.
It boggles my mind that other parents have just given kids unlimited tablet time. I see kid after kid at restaurants eyes buried in a device - and I get it, but I also just don't get it.
Thank you for shedding light on this ❤️🔥
1 man 1 jar straight into a therapy ad, perfect. You're a clever man.
I had my son around the same few months as 4 of my friends did. My son could speak by 18 months. He has never sat on my phone, we don't own an ipad and he rarely gets screen time and if he does it's a film- long form content, instead of fast, over stimulating shows. The other 3 boys can't even sit for a quick snack at a table without a screen put infront of them and they're all 3 now and being assessed for autism because they're not talking and if they are, they're hard to understand. They don't play creatively and are never left to be bored. They don't have autism, they have what I'd call, Ipad syndrome and adult attention deficit.
As someone with toddler nieces and nephews who were given their own iPads/Kindles, I see what it does to kids. Taking their device away for even a short time produces some of the worst "withdrawal" tantrums I've ever witnessed. If I as a kid had reacted that way every time my dad kicked me off the NES so he could watch football, his belt would be fused to my ass cheeks to this very day.
The whole hyperreality idea you described was something I needed to hear thanks my dude
If I ever had kids I’d honestly rather them use a desktop computer for games and leave non interactive media consumption to TV time. My parents gave me a Windows 98 PC and only let me use it at certain times. After a rundown I was pretty much on my own with installing games, troubleshooting and maintaining the PC outside of big issues which I was then taught how to diagnose and fix.
I ended up becoming very interested in how computers and electronics worked from having to fix the occasional issue if I wanted to play my games that day.
This is NOT just an ipad thing. Its a parenting issue. My 3 kids all have tons of electronics...theyre all gifted students, good readers, oldest has straught As and my first grade twins also got awards for their grades. Its because everyone who helps raise them has boundaries around the tech AND they dont get rewarded even though theyre not doing well in school. Something my own mom did with my brother
Yeah. Maybe. Or the fact that schools pass out As and Bs like candy and refuse to hold anyone back. You hardly have to try and you can look stellar and pull all As these days. When your kids get into an Ivy League school and change the world in a small way we can believe they are something hot.
Wish an hope that there is gonna be a age-restriction of internet for children, so they cannot get this before least they are 14-15 year age. Then before that, they learn in school and at home, safety and regulations of the internet, since it is so OVER THE TOP. Social media places is no place for children at all.
Makes me think playing video games instead of browsing social media and sticking to a single game for a long time instead of uninstalling right after finishing it means I probably spend more time in epistemic than ludic play (though trying to beat the same boss with 3 different builds sometimes drives me crazy lmao)
Cole I am in this with you brother. Now lets get to work💪🏾!
Went to a restaurant the other night and we ended up being seated near a table with maybe 4-5 kids… they were a bit loud and boisterous, but my annoyance dissolved pretty quickly when I realized they were chatting, playing, and coloring with each other instead of being stuck with Shut-Up Machines. It’s hard to be optimistic sometimes, but there are plenty of reasons to hope as well.
My form of a 'ipad' during my childhood was a thick sketchbook and a number 2 pencil, this formed into a habit of carrying one til this day. I once got in trouble for bringing it to a very very formal dinner, I snuck a pen and drew on a napkin instead. Later I got my mitts on art markers and I was armed and dangerous 😂 fast-forward all this time later. I bought my first iPad after my digital art tablet died on me, haven't looked back- now I take my iPad with me out in public and draw except its all one unit and not a ton of bulky things in my bag. So it's a win win, I think if a kid wants a iPad they should earn it and be introduced to drawing and coloring apps vs anything else on it.
I don't think that's bad at all the thing is with iPad kids they just consume content that's really nothing but Brain rot .
Can't imagine younger generations had became so neglectful as a parent against their children.
It’s a double edge sword if your kid doesn’t have a phone by the age of 9/10 which is average they will be bullied ridiculed and a social outcast if you do give it to them it will rot their brain. Damned if you do damned if you don’t
One thing I’m proud of is last spring I threw the iPad out the car on the freeway when arguing with my wife. My wife was mad and so was my 2 year old but as a man I knew it was the best decision of my life. They have forgotten and actually daydream
Bless your heart on your good fight, sir
my bestfried son is 13 age and he does not know how to write or have a full conversation is like a robot!!
Damn, I even knew how to read or write when I was 13. I am now 14 years old but a 13 year old not knowing how to read or write is shocking.
The reason i like soo much the videos in this chanel is bcause cole always explain in a simple way all this deep feelings and thoughts we introvert and deep people overthink in our heads,great video bro.
I was teaching chemistry to college kids aged 18-19. They have lost all critical thinking skills and independence. One guy put his hand up for help on class and when I came over he told me to "hold on" because he had to finish something on his phone game before asking me a question 😮💨 I told him he should attempt the problem before asking for how to solve it
I was born in 2005 and i'm starting to feel like a boomer, my first experience on any electronic device was 4 or 5 years old but that was only for educational or fun games, got an xbox 360 when i was 7, used to play minecraft and COD with my brother in what now seem like the ''good ol' days''
If I had a kid there not getting any electronics till their 12
I admit, I was an iPad kid. I’m starting to see the results of all of it. I hope this next generation can get it all together soon enough..
As a millennial, it is kind of ironic hearing this coming from a Gen Z person - I remember thinking how different it must have been coming of age after the advent of social media and the proliferation of personal electronic devices. I grew up during the era of decentralized internet. Facebook was literally brand new and still restricted to the Ivy schools when I joined. My first phone was one of those old indestructible Nokia devices. I found it extremely odd when I saw parents giving their pre-teens their own smartphones, and the trend worried me then too. But you’re generally spot on.
I did my degree in behavioral neuroscience, and one of the most important concepts we talked about was the idea of the “external mind.” How do we store information outside of our minds? The first form of this was in writing - consider how much easier it is to do math problems by writing them out rather than by simply solving in your head. There is an exchange made in offloading the information and storing it on paper; you reduce mental load considerably. Furthermore, you can communicate with people without even being in their presence. It was the revolution that spawned civilization - modern humans have existed for 250,000 years, but writing is less than 10,000 years old.
With external minds, there is typically some exchange you make between storage and accessibility. If you have something written down, you sort of “know” it, but you you don’t know it in the automatic way that you would say you know a memory. The breadth of your knowledge expands at the expense of immediate access. The Information Age, however, has fundamentally altered this balance. Smartphones dramatically reduce the cost of access: everything feels like it is a few button presses away. So why bother knowing anything?
The brain is fundamentally the most adaptive organ we have, most so during our youth. Children’s brains are extremely plastic, and they will adapt to the environment. This was the thing that most worried me seeing the early proliferation of smartphones. If, as a child, you have perpetual access to that collective external mind that is the internet, your mind will grow to be dependent on that external mind. The less friction there is around that access, the more dependent it becomes - our conscious minds are basically large networks of associations, and so the more connected we are to external networks, the more ingrained that dependency becomes.
It’s interesting seeing more and more people in Gen Z becoming aware of the risks of this dependency, and I’m glad to see you talking about it here. I’ll end with a parable that one of my favorite authors shared in a college graduation speech: “Two young fish are swimming along together, and they pass by an older fish. As they pass, the older fish says, ‘How’s the water boys?’ They continue along a little more, and then one of the young fish says to the other, ‘What the hell is water?’”
I feel the same way. Like, I find it ironic to hear Gen Z people critiquing what's going on with iPad kids when their own generation was literally the first one to grow up in the internet age and was constantly exposed to it.
i think the issue that isnt talked about is the lack of community for hobbies and interests. im constantly reading about how 30+ years ago if you had a hobby or interest, it may of been a struggle to do so but you could find real life groups of people to take part in that hobby or interest. this is how conventions formed and multiple life long friendships, romances and business got started, because to talk to people about your interests, you could find a real life space for it. but now if you try to find a community its just discords and subreddits which are all dominated by unfair moderators and have next to zero real life interaction.