20 “Nice-Nasty” characteristics of fake nice people

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  • 20 “Nice-Nasty” characteristics of fake nice people
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Komentáře • 246

  • @karinealourdementalgems
    @karinealourdementalgems  Před 6 měsíci +22

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  • @DeeHoney666
    @DeeHoney666 Před 6 měsíci +376

    1. Too close, too soon.
    2. Judgemental deep within.
    3. Overpraise you. (Love bombing)
    4. Ivy treatment
    5. Make you feel as if you're their favorite. (Not in a genuine manner)
    6. Hidden agenda.
    7. Take advantage of your insecurity.
    8. Get upset when you don't side with them or disagree with them.
    9. Annoyed by your joy. (Hot and cold behavior)
    10. Make promises that they don't keep.
    11. Not the most reliable people.
    12. They don't voice their opinions strongly.
    13. They love to gossip.
    14. They would rather be liked than tell the truth.
    15. Not really your ally.
    16. They are incredibly secret about their personal lives.
    17. Control your life.
    18. Excessively hateful toward people they don't like.
    19. They like to brag about how good they are.
    20. Obsessed with attention and praise.

    • @SpiritualWarrior96
      @SpiritualWarrior96 Před 6 měsíci +18

      Wowww you just named my mom

    • @ThatGirlMoi
      @ThatGirlMoi Před 6 měsíci +4

      Thanks for this!!

    • @Datb2
      @Datb2 Před 6 měsíci +9

      My ex bestie…sucks I loved her

    • @ThatGirlMoi
      @ThatGirlMoi Před 6 měsíci +9

      @@Datb2 I had an ex bestie like this too. You’re not alone. Thankfully we can heal, learn, and move on ❤️‍🩹

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb Před 6 měsíci +9

      This list describes the majority of people I chose to trust. I know they painted a picture of me that looks like Satan. That projector screen is real.

  • @lovelystarchild
    @lovelystarchild Před 6 měsíci +267

    This is exactly why I tend to stay to myself 95% of the time. Even with the few people I do interact with, I don't tell them everything, like my dreams or insecurities. In addition, I don't trust them completely. I reached a point in my life where I do not put anything past ANYONE. People are capable of all kinds of horrible crap. I keep a healthy distance from everyone because I have been betrayed & hurt way too many times & I am tired of having to recover from people. I have strong boundaries & based on my own personal experiences, most people are NOT genuinely good people. I watch my back around EVERYONE, even around so-called friends & family. Yes, I move in silence & I do things secretly because I don't want anyone to ruin anything for me or rain on my happiness. My life is peaceful because there is no one around to cause me stress. Yes I personally am picky about who I speak to, date, befriend, & allow in my life. Nothing wrong with that at all, I have standards! Good video Karine!

    • @danavixen6274
      @danavixen6274 Před 6 měsíci +20

      WOW 😮 This lets me know I'm not the only one.

    • @lovelystarchild
      @lovelystarchild Před 6 měsíci +12

      @danavixen6274 Trust me, you are not the only one.

    • @ericamena333
      @ericamena333 Před 6 měsíci +14

      Explains my decision to keep to myself to a T!

    • @lovelystarchild
      @lovelystarchild Před 6 měsíci +6

      @@ericamena333 understandable

    • @lovelystarchild
      @lovelystarchild Před 6 měsíci +7

      @maya-1154 glad I am not the only one

  • @sarahsahara979
    @sarahsahara979 Před 6 měsíci +111

    Yes, but the problem is. There are some people that just want to be nice for no reason. Just tired of all the toxicity of the world. I have no problem finding and telling people how pretty they are.

    • @sayeedharem4673
      @sayeedharem4673 Před 6 měsíci +14

      its so childish

    • @AleTitan
      @AleTitan Před 6 měsíci +11

      ​@@sayeedharem4673it's childish to be nice to people?

    • @PetiteLapinChouette
      @PetiteLapinChouette Před 6 měsíci +10

      Right? It doesn’t cost anything to be nice to someone else!

  • @elysiyah3364
    @elysiyah3364 Před 6 měsíci +20

    I'm glad black women are talking about this. As someone who grew up watching and observing people like this, this was (and still is) one of my biggest pet peeves!

  • @jennny22233
    @jennny22233 Před 6 měsíci +224

    As a Carolina girl, yes I can say we grow up trash talking but have to be polite to avoid getting in trouble with our parents 😂 but someone who isn’t fake, will just use it to avoid confrontation but still control the conversation.

    • @karinealourdementalgems
      @karinealourdementalgems  Před 6 měsíci +50

      Southern women are quick with the trash talking lol we invented “nice nasty” 😂😂

    • @Chance754
      @Chance754 Před 6 měsíci +17

      I am original from NY when I moved to Greensboro NC it shocked me to see how people were so damn fake!!!

    • @BorntobeGreat1
      @BorntobeGreat1 Před 6 měsíci +3

      @@Chance754word! Same!

    • @jennny22233
      @jennny22233 Před 6 měsíci +4

      @@Chance754 just like it surprises us when Yankees complain about our way of life but still here. If you wanna that raw aggression and high prices, I’m sure the northerners will be glad to have you back 😘

    • @Chance754
      @Chance754 Před 6 měsíci +11

      @@jennny22233 First of all, I no longer reside in North Carolina. I moved there when I was a minor so it was not my choice. I rather have raw aggression than fake people smiling in your face one minute talking about you the next. At least NY people have the honesty and decency to be genuine with each other. No one likes a snake! When you have a great career and make good money prices don’t really matter you can live anywhere!!!

  • @JuliaShalomJordan
    @JuliaShalomJordan Před 6 měsíci +172

    My latest nice/nasty “friend” could not handle me sharing how her words and actions hurt my feelings. When I kept quiet she was fine but as soon as I began to grow in my confidence and boundaries….she was out.
    It hurt but I know deep down, she was only gonna get worse because the longer I was friends with her the more comfortable she was letting her ‘nice’ mask slip.

    • @naiya.nicole__
      @naiya.nicole__ Před 6 měsíci +12

      Yep same for me with “ friends “ and family. Mainly family . They’re not used to this version of me and with me growing as a business owner and influencer they’ve really been doubling down or attempting to.

    • @JuliaShalomJordan
      @JuliaShalomJordan Před 6 měsíci +1

      @@naiya.nicole__ I’m so sorry.🫶🏻🥴🙏🏻

    • @GoldenGraham25
      @GoldenGraham25 Před 6 měsíci +8

      Girl, you got rid of a snake! Don’t let it hurt you… better to be alone than have a people ready and willing to hurt you to make themself feel better.

    • @JuliaShalomJordan
      @JuliaShalomJordan Před 6 měsíci +4

      @@GoldenGraham25 Amen to that, sister. I appreciate you because it has been really hard on my heart. Sending you a big hug.

    • @nonya8193
      @nonya8193 Před 6 měsíci +8

      ​@naiya.nicole__ I call those types RELATIVES not FAMILY. We can't choose who we're related to but we can choose who we consider family. Not all family are relatives and not all relatives are family. 😉

  • @shylapollard5165
    @shylapollard5165 Před 6 měsíci +13

    Most women are like this. Especially in the work place. I've decided to stay to myself and not get close. They just usually Wana know beauty tips, get close to your bf or spread your business. Just don't befriend women at work and you should be fine.

    • @indigoGoddess7
      @indigoGoddess7 Před 5 měsíci +1

      A lot of women are like this, not just in the workplace. This is why I just keep to myself now.

  • @msk7458
    @msk7458 Před 6 měsíci +34

    I got rid of my nice nasty friend. Could no longer deal with her energy

  • @GoldenGraham25
    @GoldenGraham25 Před 6 měsíci +26

    I went though this on the job 2022. Once I saw through their intentions and stopped talking, they were dying for my attention lol. I told the Lord I would lean into him and worship while I worked and that began to lighten my load. Some of them lied on me, starred rumors, etc. I held my ground and leaned more into Jesus. By my birthday, December 2022, he told me it was time to leave and to not worry about my bills. I was scared because I hadn’t been applying for jobs but 2023 has been the best year of my life. ❤

  • @silverfox5725
    @silverfox5725 Před 6 měsíci +12

    One more thing about nice nasty ppl. They are also extremely jealous people. And the will be secretly jealous of you.

  • @latoyagriffin1410
    @latoyagriffin1410 Před 6 měsíci +12

    To me, a Nice - Nasty person is just a passive - aggressive narcissist! Stay away!

  • @BrightAmbition
    @BrightAmbition Před 6 měsíci +5

    I hate fake nice people. I know a lot of people that are fake. It's annoying. Be honest and real.

  • @newbunny8674
    @newbunny8674 Před 6 měsíci +11

    It’s sad that you genuinely can’t be a good person anymore. People can have the best of intentions but because of certain things people feel a certain characteristics label you wrong.

  • @osamabeenrobbin
    @osamabeenrobbin Před 6 měsíci +24

    I'm autistic and often can't pick up on social cues to know the nice nasty is playing in my face. By the time I catch on they've done so much emotional damage. They usually get close to me to work on breaking down my confidence. Watching this really helped me identify it better to steer clear. Bless you.

    • @BrightAmbition
      @BrightAmbition Před 6 měsíci +3

      I have the same problem, what is wrong with most neurotypicals?

    • @GrowwithmebySarahNicole
      @GrowwithmebySarahNicole Před 6 měsíci +3

      Im BPD/ADD. I however do believe im on the spectrum but my problem is that i feel everything especially facial expressions/body language/tone of voice. If someone always quiet around me they may not care for me much. If arms are folded once we converse they may not feel comfortable in my presence. If they hardly give eye contact they may be hiding something that they are afraid their eyes might expose….uugggh i can go on and on. It doesn’t help that i read alot of psychology materials

    • @PlusVK22
      @PlusVK22 Před 6 měsíci +6

      Being naive doesn't automatically mean someone's autistic... It means they could just be naive, without "street smarts", and innocent and don't operate in that bitter, jaded way like sadly so many people do.

  • @Selfrespecttv
    @Selfrespecttv Před 6 měsíci +15

    No second chance for these kind of people. Exactly for what you mention in the beginning, sabotaging effects.

  • @hellothere8347
    @hellothere8347 Před 6 měsíci +21

    This is my friend…… that’s why I’ve been distant with her because she portray to be this person that helps everybody but i can see right through her now.

    • @misanthr0pic
      @misanthr0pic Před 6 měsíci

      and don’t tell her you can see it ugh these people are deranged

  • @nissa4644
    @nissa4644 Před 6 měsíci +32

    Commonly called covert narcissists...

  • @1MVEntGlobal
    @1MVEntGlobal Před 6 měsíci +14

    I know two people like this. I checked them and they are not talking to me again. thats fine.

    • @lf3554
      @lf3554 Před 6 měsíci +12

      I think it's just best to move away from them. Once you say something it's a wrap smh

    • @1MVEntGlobal
      @1MVEntGlobal Před 6 měsíci +6

      @@lf3554 Yeah thats the best thing to do.

  • @PiscesPower1994
    @PiscesPower1994 Před 6 měsíci +27

    Ooo this is how my aunt is!! Everyone thinks she's all helpful and sweet, but I see her true colors!! Everyone thinks she helps with my grandma, but all she does is take her to lunch. I'm the one who helps her when she needs it, yet everyone thinks it's her. It's very frustrating y'all.

    • @lf3554
      @lf3554 Před 6 měsíci +7

      Strategic is what I call those types.

    • @bobby3210
      @bobby3210 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Lmao my mom says this about me. I help when I can but they expect me to do it every time without a single complaint and a smile on my face. It’s the disregard for others schedules and lifestyles that piss me off about my family. And my mom is like your aunt. She’s such a cool mom and nice until she reveals herself as a pick me who never grew out of that phase

  • @Kdollzie
    @Kdollzie Před 6 měsíci +25

    I’m new to the Carolinas & from up north where people are just plain nasty no sugar coating so took me a good while to see through these nice nasty people here, who try to play with you in your face with a smile on their face. So twisted.

  • @girlonfire2.076
    @girlonfire2.076 Před 6 měsíci +16

    I had a co worker like this, its hard because they pretend be niceal an are usually charming so if you say something you look like you are the issue

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Před 6 měsíci +1

      I e had this happen to me so many times when I was in school. The bullies were seen as innocent and nice, and I was seen as the problem. It was so frustrating.

  • @Lmk790
    @Lmk790 Před 6 měsíci +21

    They also like to over help u, or gift u. Do everything for u but what you actually asked them to do, what u actually need them to do.

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb Před 6 měsíci

      This is how they steal. They will start mimicking you behind your back and make everyone believe you are them and they are you. Those who are also operate in fear will believe them and help out. It becomes the right thing for humanity.

    • @misanthr0pic
      @misanthr0pic Před 6 měsíci +1

      interesting…

  • @PileofAshes53
    @PileofAshes53 Před 6 měsíci +6

    Nice=feeble minded. I am not nice. Nor do I want to pretend to be nice. People who work in customer service are fake nice. People who put out CZcams videos are fake nice. I don’t know of anyone genuinely nice who isn’t currently being exploited and used as a punching bag by everyone around. Let’s just drop the word “nice” for good and look at people as kind of unkind.

  • @user-ek4uk9yw4o
    @user-ek4uk9yw4o Před 6 měsíci +4

    Thats Why i Trying My Best To Avoid All Narcissists People,

  • @lavenderwashington5337
    @lavenderwashington5337 Před 6 měsíci +8

    My nice nasty ex friend would spend so much time complementing me. She would compliment me and my body and how much she wanted to look like me. She also waited to see my husband on the public bus to try to saboteur my relationship. My husband immediately came to me and told me she was talking about me and trying to put him off me. I knew then and there that we had to move out, and those compliments were more like positively portrayed jealousy. 😅 I'm pretty positive. Old girl wanted to be me! But had you asked me when I first met her, I'd say she was lovely person😂😂😂 as the southern belle once said though "bless her heart"

  • @indigoGoddess7
    @indigoGoddess7 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Another thing, when the person is trying to over exert themselves in your lives. I’ve had people tell me that they would do something for me. Even after I’ve told them no, they would argue with me about doing it. If they beg and plead to do something for you, but won’t allow you to do something for them - they’re trying to keep themselves superior towards you. Those aren’t good spirited people.

  • @Empress641
    @Empress641 Před 6 měsíci +17

    I don’t have the energy for nice nasty people. I was raised by East Coasters who say things with their chest

  • @SoapboxEntTV
    @SoapboxEntTV Před 6 měsíci +11

    You have no idea how much I needed this. I could cry
    Not being able to read in between the lines or ignoring your intuition about these people will EAT AT YOUR SOUL. They leech close to those who are the kindest and will point out how kind and sweet you are.
    They are usually praising you for your kindness to remind you to stay the same dummy for them.
    They cry or result to panic mode when you call out their behavior or gaslight you into thinking that you are the problem looking for something wrong with them and you already know, they pretend to be spotless”.
    This was the confirmation I needed.
    I hate weird friends
    This makes me draw away from the person and usually the only thing that can say is my communication is inconsistent but it’s really me running away from such negative and mean energy

  • @MeganMoon777
    @MeganMoon777 Před 6 měsíci +41

    I agree but before you jump into thinking this person is toxic 2 things to keep in mind 1. If this person is not part of your inner circle cut out of your life. Retract their invitation to you. Advocate for yourself because no one will. 2. If their are a close friend and you want to save the relationship you need to do a little confrontation and speak to them in a language that they’re going to understand because there might be some unspoken resentment that this person is not sharing to you and also your friend might have undiagnosed BPD as well so they need to get check out by a real doctor. Not one on TikTok

    • @chrisharris2367
      @chrisharris2367 Před 6 měsíci +5

      Ppl w personality disorders don’t see they have a problem and personality disorders according to DSM aren’t fixed
      Because it’s ingrained in who they are
      So they are unlikely to seek help and when they do it’s rarely solved
      Think npd, which is also a cluster B personality disorder; there’s no cure
      Nice nasty ppl I have a lot in my family
      Sometimes I just play along
      They love to get a ride out of you so they love a reaction

    • @bobby3210
      @bobby3210 Před 6 měsíci +3

      @@chrisharris2367this is the same way I feel about my mom. I just gave up and gave into her demands to assimilate. It’s so sad that I have to act like everything is ok when it’s not in front of her to just get her off my back. She would ask me about my problems but instead of helping or advice I would get criticisms and sometimes even mocked. Idk what compels someone to be such a bxch but whatever. It’s just so sad that she doesn’t see the damage she causes and still wonders why she’s alone…and the saddest thing is that she can never change

    • @misanthr0pic
      @misanthr0pic Před 6 měsíci

      where does this say bpd. this is just a bully, wtf. this is more narcissism.

  • @MissP483
    @MissP483 Před 6 měsíci +20

    It's Karine rocking back and forth for me 🙂. Honestly, with influencers, social media, and cancel culture, "nice nasty" seems to be praised, encouraged, and rewarded.

    • @GrowwithmebySarahNicole
      @GrowwithmebySarahNicole Před 6 měsíci +1

      I definitely think im nice nasty sometimes……but it may be with another nice nasty people though. Im never rude to a genuinely nice/excited person well sometimes too much excitement annoys me cause im very sensitive to feelings&noises and excited people activate my sensory problems

  • @CarShowBernie
    @CarShowBernie Před 6 měsíci +46

    Once I saw the title, I immediately thought about Southern women, especially if your goals/ideas/interests are different than theirs. I live in the South, but I’m definitely not from the South. They’re very judgmental down here.

    • @karinealourdementalgems
      @karinealourdementalgems  Před 6 měsíci +11

      Tell me about it lol it’s part of the southern belle culture. You have to unlearn so much once you start to know better.

    • @CarShowBernie
      @CarShowBernie Před 6 měsíci +19

      @@karinealourdementalgems I’m originally from New York so I would rather honesty over people pleasing. I just stay away from those types of women, more often than not, the gossipy ones really have no room to talk about others since their lives are usually in shambles (which is why they want to find out about everyone else but don’t share anything about themselves.)

  • @siani3726
    @siani3726 Před 6 měsíci +17

    Great video…. Slight disagreement though…. The nice nasty people I’ve come across mimic stillness and serenity….
    I tend to find people who are confident expressing themselves and appropriately complimenting themselves to be more genuine.

  • @jryan2443
    @jryan2443 Před 6 měsíci +5

    Sometimes it’s not what you say it’s what you don’t say that says everything 💯

  • @sharondavis3535
    @sharondavis3535 Před 6 měsíci +13

    Like when southerners say 'well bless your heart' lol be warned. Sometimes I don't compliment other women because some people think you want something when you're just pleased not to be the only one 'trying' to shine lol.

  • @MissMoeGodschild
    @MissMoeGodschild Před 6 měsíci +5

    Dang gurllll I'm only 10 min in and you are dropping jewels for me....because I've never thought along these lines I would just think people are so awesome because I have no alternative motives when being nice naturally, but I am learning after experience certain things with new people I've met in the past 3 years and understanding I've use the friend term very loosely. I'm learning how to set boundaries and pay attention to people's character and not allow any and everyone into my personal space going forward. ...thank you for this timely video🙏🏾💖

  • @deondria97
    @deondria97 Před 6 měsíci +9

    It’s funny, I genuinely consider myself a nice person and a lot of ppl would agree. However I do use the nice/nasty thing as a defense tactic. The descriptors you named for nice/nasty ppl is the reason I developed that character trait.

    • @aleablue
      @aleablue Před 6 měsíci +2

      More thumbs up to this

  • @catpisscigarettes
    @catpisscigarettes Před 6 měsíci +45

    Can I ask, do u edit yourself? You are very consistent & its impressive.

  • @jadajen4
    @jadajen4 Před 6 měsíci +17

    I can't get over your hair and makeup in this video- perfection
    Ive changed my life around alot based off your life lessons

  • @ashley.bankss
    @ashley.bankss Před 6 měsíci +16

    Everything you said, I have a sibling and an old friend that you were describing. It’s insane.

  • @baisinbu98
    @baisinbu98 Před 6 měsíci +54

    I like a lot of content that Karine shares. However on this one, I found myself being somewhat ambivalent on some points raised. This because the victims of Nice-Nasties can can present as some of the characteristics outlined in the video. This happens as a need to survive their ordeal and caution others against the nice-nasty which the former can use against them and tag them a gossip.
    Certain things, done with good intentions can still land one in hot waters and be classified as anything but good. The world has grown so toxic that some genuinely kind and nice people might pause at having to be themselves for fear of being labelled.
    In addition, some people have been through so much trauma that it is near impossible for them to open up but they might ask people about themselves just to make conversation. Aren’t we all told by psychology that people like to talk about themselves and we should do more active listening rather talking about ourselves? Perhaps contextualising can help to remove ambiguity that generalising might present.
    In a world where being fake is more rampant, genuine and authentic people who refuse to give up their identity to join the collective lies most have accepted, oftentimes find themselves in problems because they refuse to accept blindly following the crowd in praise of certain characters. To view them as problematic because they often get labelled as so, is unfair as it leads to group vilification.
    Life is not kind to everyone and some people’s path does not let them catch a break. It is why some people’s life are filled with so much misfortune and other people might never experience 5% of misfortune which some have. This is why despite how genuinely nice some people are, they always find themselves in a pickle for being that nice either by being victimised by the real nice-nasties who try to make them out to be horrible to protect their territory especially if they are a newbie in a new environment. When you watch a movie like Mean Girls, notice how everyone praises the nice-nasties though they know they are anything but nice. Those bullied are often those who tried to stand up to them but ended up constantly being in trouble in one case or another, all engineered of course to get them primed for isolation and then easy abuse. In a work place, it would look like not being able to ask for help and ending up constantly making mistakes where you could be helped but because you have been sidelined, this worsens. Have we forgotten how racism and discrimination isolates and makes one a targeted source for gossip and being disparaged? How can one be positive in that environment as any complaint can earn you a negativity tag or your niceness perceived as that of a nice-nasty? Of course, your motives will be doubted by the real nice-nasties who assume you are coming to get them.
    In every case, it is good to judge people on an individual basis to avoid using certain signals and labelling them what they are not. This is the reason why some people fail to get help because they do not want to be seen as a nice-nasty for calling out people on their bullshit but instead are subjugated to enduring bad characters parading as nice people to avoid the drama always swirling around, which gets one further labelled. Mean girls in school graduate to the office and community nice-nasties, who are still ‘loved’ by everyone and pick victims who are genuinely authentic human beings for this same reason - their good nature.
    Perhaps there should be a video providing tips for such people to escape being put in that position in the first place and how they can always retain their power even if there is no senior person with power to protect them at work, school or community environments. Some people have reduced their human interactions simply to get a modicum of peace. That in itself is not healthy and creating a silent epidemic of voluntary loners.

    • @Goddess_Infinity
      @Goddess_Infinity Před 6 měsíci +10

      I cried reading this . Because as I was watching this I started to question myself all over , was I the mean one , the nice nasty or the actual nice people pleaser ? You summed up my entire life . 🥺🥺😢😢😢🥺🥺
      In some strange way I feel heard . Thank you 🙏🏾

    • @RandomLinda14
      @RandomLinda14 Před 6 měsíci +13

      YES to all of this! As a young adult, we sure do live in a hierarchal society and depending on the environment, you either conform to it or be treated as an outcast. I definitely was a fake nice person in high school until I saw no point in being fake around people I didn’t like. Being honest and authentic gets you more hate than being liked so by default, life is more peaceful by being reserved and selective on who to open up to. It shouldn’t be demonized.

    • @iambrandivakingskid
      @iambrandivakingskid Před 6 měsíci +4

      The characteristics that she's listed are disingenuous. So if a "victim" resorts to using these characteristics to "escape" then they're just as disingenuous as the person they're so called "escaping." And the solution to what you're explaining is "conflict management." Your statements let me know that adults do not know how to manage conflict if they'll resort to being anything other than their authentic selves and feel they need to escape rather than address and correct the people they're facing.

    • @girlonfire2.076
      @girlonfire2.076 Před 6 měsíci +1

      You summed this up excellently

    • @GrowwithmebySarahNicole
      @GrowwithmebySarahNicole Před 6 měsíci +2

      This comment needs an award immediately! So true im probably the 1 of the most authentic people but i do always find myself in conflict. I do not follow people at all unless its to learn and I usually need second opinions to make sure their not a secret hater teaching me the wrong way! I preach to my kids to march to the beat of their own drums

  • @kh87533
    @kh87533 Před 6 měsíci +9

    What is the difference between a nice nasty person? And the person whose kindness is mistaken for weakness in which they have to set people straight?

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Před 6 měsíci +14

      A nice nasty person is a mean person who acts nice to get what they want. They are mean to people who don’t serve them, but nice to those who benefit them, so you’ll usually hear the people they’re nice to praise them and not believe the people who they mistreat when they speak up about their mistreatment. A person’s kindness that mistaken for weakness if very different. They are nice at heart, but because the people around them mistake it for weakness, they are bullied and mistreated till they can’t take it anymore and explode or call out the ambas behavior, but because they are mistaken for weak they are further mistreated in an effort by the bullies to keep the kind person down. I am a person whose kindness is almost always mistaken for weakness and I hate it. I’m still figuring out how to navigate this because I’m essentially barreling people’s wrong perception of me which is not an easy thing to change because people believe what they want to believe. What seems to be working for me is moving in confidence and working on my people pleasing habits, and keeping interactions surface level.

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb Před 6 měsíci +1

      You only have to stand up once. They are false flaggers and they will start the smear campaign. That's how they advertise to the other dead homies about you. Say it once and slam the door. Block and chuck the deuces. Them whores time has ran out.

  • @problematic_fav
    @problematic_fav Před 6 měsíci +7

    It’s a plague, I’m avoiding Christmas with my family because of the nice nasty

  • @leashines9937
    @leashines9937 Před 6 měsíci +23

    Always coming with the tea! I removed myself from social media platforms and that cleaned up my environment. I’m more at peace than I have ever been, I’m more focusing on becoming self aware, working on my insecurities to become a better version of myself. Sending lots of love to you. Happy Holidays - Lam

  • @MaddieKetchum
    @MaddieKetchum Před 6 měsíci +21

    I'm currently reading Down the Rabbit Hole by Holly Madison, and I can't help but think of Hugh Hefner with every sign Karine is describing.

  • @bellavita733
    @bellavita733 Před 6 měsíci +10

    Relevant!! I just recently ended a friendship with a fake nice girl who would just love to oversell every single scenario. I resonated with a lot of things you said because she would tell me over and over again how highly she thinks of me and how I am her only friend, or one of her only two friends she has. I never believed her and never really understood why she felt the need to repeat that so many times. Anyways whenever she'd invite me to a hangout she would oversell it and make it about how we might just find our husbands there. She was extremely male centered and everything was about catching Gosh!!. When she realised that the guys are usually more drawn to me at the places we hang out at she one day just randomly blocked me after a pool party we attended probably because I was mingling with the guy she had an eye for or something who was a stranger to us both!? I had no idea I was supposed to just go there and not have a personality. Anyway good riddance and this is a thing so thank you for this video. You'd think its only guys you need to look out for but the fake nice "friends" will throw you way off. Now I know how to spot them from a mile away

    • @GrowwithmebySarahNicole
      @GrowwithmebySarahNicole Před 6 měsíci

      It sounds like your fake nice nasty tbh…u never even believed her when she said your her only friend. It sounds like you never liked her to begin with. It’s probably good for her as well that you guys didn’t make it as friends. You honestly sound like you had your own agenda that subconsciously you may not even be unaware of

  • @myoaklee
    @myoaklee Před 6 měsíci +19

    This topic resonates a lot with me. It always seems that I celebrate alone in my female relationships.

  • @alexandriat5950
    @alexandriat5950 Před 6 měsíci +22

    She cultivated her environment. Powerful words! Some thing I have to work harder at doing.

  • @tasharrahenry3887
    @tasharrahenry3887 Před 6 měsíci +8

    A perfect example of this is Phaedra Parks

  • @crowningglory6654
    @crowningglory6654 Před 6 měsíci +7

    The make up is bomb love the undereye eyeliner

  • @EmziiMood
    @EmziiMood Před 6 měsíci +9

    Best Example of a person/character that pops up in my mind: Regina George

  • @simf2222
    @simf2222 Před 6 měsíci +8

    I'm was over here questioning if I do this, but realized that I KINDLY try to guide people to their goals from what they say to me and/or show me. Lol. Typical empath, internalizing. This sounds like, my opposite, the dark empath…dangerous

  • @chrisharris2367
    @chrisharris2367 Před 6 měsíci +9

    I think nice nasty are oftentimes a mix of cluster b: npd, npd, and histrionic

  • @godva254
    @godva254 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Tbh I liked Connie more than Shante ...Connie knew she was fine and had no reason to put other women down. She never showed that she had any interest in another women's man and she kept it professional until he asked her out when him and Shante split. She was alone and stayed to herself showed full confidence And self control especially in that party scene. Meanwhile Shante is talking about the girl,calling her out of her name,stalking her a secretly judging and had the nerve to smile in her face and call her a bitch. Not to mention she constantly judged her friends. That movie showed me a lot and I ended being more of "Connie" type...I'm completely fine with that ❤

  • @ashleyrogers1930
    @ashleyrogers1930 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Nice nasty is just passive aggressive and I can’t stand those types of people. I believe in saying what you mean and meaning what you say.

  • @kiana.12x
    @kiana.12x Před 6 měsíci +7

    Please do a video on dealing with racist passive agressive women

    • @tiahnarodriguez3809
      @tiahnarodriguez3809 Před 6 měsíci +3

      In my experience, you don’t. I’m at the point where I just ignore everyone’s bs. and do what I need to do if it’s happening at work or school because I’ve yet to be successful with defending myself in these places. At any other place, I throw it back. Someone calls me the “n-word”, I call them their race’s slur back. Someone makes fun of my hair, I throw it back, etc. These same people either back track, or wanna act like I’m the one who came at them first, I don’t play that so I tell them if they don’t want to hear about themselves don’t come for me cuz I didn’t send for them. Basically, you have to know how to read people, and be aware of when to do it. I’m curious how people handle this type stuff at work or school cuz like I said, I just can’t win in those places.

  • @misanthr0pic
    @misanthr0pic Před 6 měsíci +2

    this is literally my coworker lmao. we’re “bestfriends” but he uses way too much flattery it’s annoying and i tell him lmao. i’m very honest n blunt. he can’t n won’t ever get anything extra from me. he could be talking shit behind my back but i guess i won’t know for awhile. he’s a super people pleaser…..

  • @f.9603
    @f.9603 Před 6 měsíci +9

    I was watching a documentary but stopped to watch this. I am so excited.

  • @Nikki-ks6wi
    @Nikki-ks6wi Před 6 měsíci +3

    This sucks when you actually are a nice girl and plp think you have an agenda when you are just happy wit yourself

  • @ioanafilipescu2327
    @ioanafilipescu2327 Před 6 měsíci +7

    Yesss, very well said! We need to know more about nice-nasty people. It’s the wild wild West here outside:)))

  • @lacklandcrystal
    @lacklandcrystal Před 6 měsíci +21

    This is an interesting and well needed video presentation. I thank you for your content Karine.

  • @laurenbaynes
    @laurenbaynes Před 6 měsíci +2

    Lmfao 😂 it’s crazy like I know people like that like how do you live life like that it’s giving petty

  • @starsandbeyond5848
    @starsandbeyond5848 Před 5 měsíci +2

    I wish I knew these signs before I got married, because my mother in law is now the nastiest person ever and I can't do anything, we have the sweetest little child and she's ruining the happiest time for me, telling me I'm not a good mother and making me cry daily.

  • @lettinggrace
    @lettinggrace Před 6 měsíci +13

    Preach girl! This topic is so helpful. Yes the sabotage is real. Thank you. God bless you.❤️

  • @burgosco7024
    @burgosco7024 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Don't forget the will get your info to compete

  • @Fantasticfive2
    @Fantasticfive2 Před 6 měsíci +6

    It’s a lot of the energy going on online. Lol

  • @lapeaches8006
    @lapeaches8006 Před 6 měsíci +6

    Yeah, I like to tell people what they should do but I be right though 😫🥺

  • @melaninandaura9713
    @melaninandaura9713 Před 6 měsíci +4

    You playing 2 can play that game in the beginning makes me wanna watch it right now!!

  • @Babygirl_123
    @Babygirl_123 Před 6 měsíci +8

    I think many Taurus women are like this

  • @tcrijwanachoudhury
    @tcrijwanachoudhury Před 6 měsíci +8

    The English have refined this to an art, you have to put up with these people because theyre everywhere here :,)

  • @nocturessa
    @nocturessa Před 6 měsíci +2

    love you Karine, you look beautiful and glowing!! ❤️

  • @msrain1235
    @msrain1235 Před 5 měsíci +2

    I had a so called too soon friend once. I didn't trust her. Turns out that I was right about her. She turned out to be no good.

  • @argentblade126
    @argentblade126 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Excellent video!❤

  • @lipstickandbooks.
    @lipstickandbooks. Před 6 měsíci +10

    Loving this channel ❤and you’re so on point about this, love bombing doesn’t only happen in dating.

  • @Jhenesrandomthoughts
    @Jhenesrandomthoughts Před 6 měsíci +2

    Chile I was friends with one for yearrrsssss until shit hit the fan. This whole video im sitting back like damn that sound like ol girl I cut off 😂😂

  • @annieukekwe620
    @annieukekwe620 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Fake nice people have LOTS of friends and many many followers

  • @chrisharris2367
    @chrisharris2367 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Yeah makeup looks fab
    Love the look!!

  • @lolao.310
    @lolao.310 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Thank you so much for your points. Your hair is really beautiful. Please where did you get it from?

  • @lf3554
    @lf3554 Před 6 měsíci +2

    This is very good and one to watch over and over again. We need deets for the hair ❤

  • @reggierisk
    @reggierisk Před 6 měsíci +4

    Yep! That's SC. It is used as a tool. I think southerners have raised it to an art form. Delivering an insult so subtle that it takes a moment before they realize it., I remember when Kari Lake was running for governor of AZ and encoutered CNN reporter. That was CLASSIC NICE-NASTY. She made that reporter with her mouth open. I thought for sure that K. Lake must be from Charleston. 😅You are discussing it as purely bad, however i believe there are times it needs to be done.
    (Everyone dont need to be in your inner circle)

  • @ValeneseB
    @ValeneseB Před 6 měsíci +3

    Girl! You are gorgeous! I also really like your hair & voice!!💋❤️

  • @SweetAesthete
    @SweetAesthete Před 5 měsíci +1

    Omg karine, I'm 35 and I went so long in my career without drama, the last 2 years I had bad experiences! One person at each job, I was ready to leave the first and that person was annoying but the second was a snake! I recently heard someone say when someone calls themselves "x" they usually are (unless they have self esteem issues) but she called herself manipulative and I should have known better!

  • @Imanimaryam
    @Imanimaryam Před 6 měsíci +10

    FIRSTTT❤❤ TY FOR THIS VIDEO KARINE!

  • @kayf9612
    @kayf9612 Před 6 měsíci

    I love your voice & you’re so pretty 😍😍😍 love your videos

  • @sighanblossom5721
    @sighanblossom5721 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you

  • @hellome8899
    @hellome8899 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I agree with most parts. I genuinely love my friends. But I like being in my bubble. So I'm not going be around or speak all the time. Does not determine my friendship. My chores have nothing to do with my friends as they don't live with me.

  • @daudreebaker4015
    @daudreebaker4015 Před 6 měsíci +7

    You look beautiful and have a blessed day and a Happy Merry Christmas and New Years to you and your family and friends God-bless you all!

  • @kiana.12x
    @kiana.12x Před 6 měsíci +1

    Karibeslourde loved this video

  • @NicoleSlays
    @NicoleSlays Před 6 měsíci +11

    😍💚 Karine, girl!
    This sounds interesting.
    Keep up with the good content!
    I'm glad my schedule is slowing down some so I enjoy today with you on my screen & a nice cup of green tea in my hand. 😊
    Blessings & love ❤🙏

    • @karinealourdementalgems
      @karinealourdementalgems  Před 6 měsíci +3

      Aww sounds so relaxing! Thank you Nicole! I love seeing your comments 💚❤️

    • @NicoleSlays
      @NicoleSlays Před 6 měsíci +2

      @@karinealourdementalgems & I love seeing your content.
      You have such a beautiful spirit & you do it with grace & ease ❤💚

  • @danielgabriel370
    @danielgabriel370 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Not me side eyeing myself l😅😂😂

  • @shaneilellis9832
    @shaneilellis9832 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I've seen this movie.

  • @feverdreame529
    @feverdreame529 Před 6 měsíci +1

    My mother is to like this unfortunately and I’m still recovering from it.

  • @lunarsagittariusgoddess465
    @lunarsagittariusgoddess465 Před měsícem

    My coworkers are like this. I am very careful of people who are nice. I have watching them and studying them.

  • @porschapurnell4312
    @porschapurnell4312 Před 6 měsíci +4

    My mom who has set me up…

  • @BrightAmbition
    @BrightAmbition Před 6 měsíci +1

    What about people that are actually nice but thrown under a bus for being too nice?

  • @yahnikh.3775
    @yahnikh.3775 Před 2 měsíci

    I think people have this perception of me when I’m actually genuinely trying to be helpful. People have told me I am “confident”, I’m a bigger guy so, that just translates to me as “wow, u talk loud for a fat guy”. I don’t think that’s an insecurity talking because I’m comfortable with that perception as well as my looks. Usually, after too many shady comments towards my weight, I just don’t see any use in building relationships with people who are going to create a power dynamic based of our size differences, or make a narrative of a power dynamic at all. So, I retract, but they just keep bothering me! Then I give them what they gave me

  • @indigoGoddess7
    @indigoGoddess7 Před 5 měsíci +4

    I never thought that I’d live to see the day where people would be envious of your own strength.
    A lot of women are like this and this is why I don’t have female friends. I’ve tried so many times, I’m confident and I can give a compliment without any issues.
    Most women are insecure and my confidence rattles their insecurities.
    Too many times to count that I’ve had women do me dirty. I’m done. I’ll be civil and or ignore.

  • @MsFirestar21
    @MsFirestar21 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Makes me think of the Michel'le song "Nicety" 😅.

  • @cookiecookie1834
    @cookiecookie1834 Před 6 měsíci +2

    You have to handle them with poise and stride. The same way they are nice nasty. They seem to be in more control and you need to respond with tact not ghetto emotions.

  • @missbettyboop2509
    @missbettyboop2509 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Your hair is 💣 💣 BOMB❤❤❤