People don’t like you because of your DESPERATE ENERGY!
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- čas přidán 13. 03. 2024
- People don’t like you because of your DESPERATE ENERGY!
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People pleasing! Their hurt feelings is THEIR problem!
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*As a formal people pleaser, what released me from bondage, was learning that everyone is selfish. I really thought everyone out there was like me, putting others first but, most ppl are selfish. You are given one life, if you're lucky a long one, live for you but, keep a kind heart.*
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I feel like I don’t have a middle ground, I either come off desperate or will not speak a word to anyone.
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omg same
Not all people pleasers are good people eiather a lot of them treat people who genuinely like them like shit 😂
The irony of it. This shows how fake they are in the first place.
The transparency is astounding and amazing when you think of the amount of inner work that must've been done on your part, to arrive where you are now, from where you were. I only hope to have enough self-realization, self-actualization, and self-confidence to get to the point where I can be just as consistently real with myself with every aspect of my life. I want freedom for myself, in every sense of the word. ❤💛❤💛
When you are friends with everybody you are enemy to yourself
Beautiful things dont ask for attention
Family will do this to you,it's mostly the "fake guilt trip"don't fall for it.If you get through fily playing these games you will navigate life easily.i wish I would have known earlier in life it would have saved me a lot of time.
Who do you respect more? The people who let you walk all over them or the people who have their own mind? So why on earth do family think they can do that? We’re all adults here. I’m no longer tolerating that from anyone family included!
They will beat you down, use you, minimize you and guilt trip you... than they will shame you for "allowing it to happen." Thats like torturing a dog because its already timid for being abused since birth. Its a cheap cop out to blame the victim. Now my mom will rot in a nursing home alone, probably neglected by nurses who have her same personality. Sorry I cant help Im over here healing from you taking cheap shots at me for being a decent person
Many people become people pleasers because it was a way of survival in childhood. It is not our fault. It is difficult to undo something that is so ingrained. I am working on it daily, but I know it takes a lot to change. Recognizing it is a huge first step in recovery though! ❤
Exactly!!
Wow it's really sad that we don't realize that we were doing something wrong. And yes it's all deeply rooted childhood trauma!!!!
As a recovering people pleaser, I finally have put my foot down and learning to put myself first for once. I honestly realized I showed up for everyone but when it came to myself, I always fall flat. I will always remain kind but now I have to put the energy I've put into others for years into me and so far, I actually have become happy. I've been stepping out, signing up and doing things I've always wanted too but pushed back to be there for others. Never thought I'd get to say I am becoming happy but I can now ❤
This is the video I needed today...I was/am a people pleaser. I learn it from my mother cuz my father dont give a flying f what people think about him! Now I get why people dont like me. I love shiny stuff and people around me are not, so I was trying to downgrade myself for the people to be comfortable around me. Big mistake, huge mistake! Cuz boy did I suffer😢 Because I shronk myself, the ones who are compatible with me never saw me. Woww..
So true once you follow God you will never do anything detrimentally to yourself!!!!
Karine, this is off topic, but your eyes are absolutely mesmerizing to me❤ eyes are a window to the soul and yours are gorgeous and mysterious ✨️
I was just talking about this 2day . I really didn't think I was a people pleaser but it's weird to be around people that don't Really understand you and don't share your life with them so they don't like you #blessing
Blessings! And you have to find your tribe, everyone won’t be your people and that’s ok. ❤
@@karinealourdementalgems Appreciate that #blessing
I appreciate this video Karine. I’m learning these lessons at 36 but it’s okay, to understand you won’t be like or valued by everyone.🙏🏽
I've had people pleasing tendencies as well. In a way I think I still do have some of those ways. I pray that God takes that away from me.
Karine just wanted to tell you I played this video right before a job interview yesterday and it really put me in a good headspace. It’s a company I’ve always wanted to work for and now while I’m waiting to hear back, I have the mindset that they actually need me. I feel like you played a role in that so thank you my dear. ❤
The people that hate your boundaries benefit from you have none at all.
Looking beautiful in yellow 🟡💛
Karine I love you so much ❤❤❤. I just your video pop up in my notifications and I knew to watch immediately. You really teach a lot and I wish people between middle school and college watch so they could learn a lot because every thing you say is right on. I had to block a friend today because she was crossing boundaries, for the first time, I don’t care about people, if you leave my life the door is open, if you come in and drain my energy I push you out.
Thank you so much 🥺❤️❤️❤️ and yes, I wish I knew earlier to protect my energy. Continue to set your boundaries love ❤❤
Not being a people pleaser doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have self esteem issues. Sometimes we have varying degrees of it. I have never been one, I guess because my parents weren’t people pleasers. Never tried to be in a friend group or bothered if anyone liked me or not. Never understood making someone happy at my expense. Doesn’t mean I didn’t have any issues but I just never understood people pleasing and that’s a relief 😂
For me, I felt ashamed people pleasing in the past, but what snap me out of it. Was truly liking myself more. I could care less if people don't like me.
you must’ve read my mind because this came in time!!!certain ppl just dont get it. ppl smell desperation from a mile away and take stuff sooo personally 🤦🏾♀️🙄🙄
Thank you Karine ❤💛 You're a life saver. Childhood trauma made me forget who I was for a while 👑 Gotta fix that crown ya know?
There's something you said that really hit me and it's the trying to please people and not please Yah/God. I walked and was like yaoooo lol. Something that has to be tackled. ❤💛
I don’t have desperate energy anymore lol (:
Thanks girl!! 💛💛💛
Thank you so much for this message. I like the perspective of people pleasing being narcissistic and ego driven. I’d never thought out that before. This was so insightful and exactly the way I needed to hear this message. thank you.
Karine you look so beautiful!!!
You’re sooo spot on! Very very true✨
Thank You Karine🤍!!
Once again, this is a great video and you look super pretty!!
❤ I Appreciate You On A Unhealthy Level Lol
I needed this so bad.
You always hit the nail on the head! 🎉
💛 Not one lie told! ✊🏾
I love this thank you I started thinking people just weren't like me. Love going out and doing things
Truly needed this ❤ thank you so much. You’re my big sister 🫶🏼
Omg yes yes yes to everything you said 👏🏾
You have so much wisdom. Love you!
💛 Yess Queen Karine coming in with the gems of wisdom ✨️ looking forward to next week's video as well! I'm doing well but once and a while find myself falling into desperate energy mostly as work 🙃
Thanks for this video Godbless 🙏💯🔥🇬🇧
You looking gorgeous girly. ❤
I have so much to say but I can't find the words other than thank you😊🥰❤💛❤💛❤💛❤💛
Desperation runs rampant at my place of eappointment.. Highly annoying!!
This is an excellent video. Wow you’re Adventist so am I! God has made you amazing! We must connect! Thx for letting God use you! 🙏🏽🙌🏽👍🏽😍❤️‼️
This video is🤌🏽🤌🏽🤌🏽😎
Ikr. Massa
Hey Karine did you cut your own layers for your hair? If so can we get a tutorial or the video you found to help? Your hair and its curls are absolutely gorgeous and I want curls like that.
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You are such a breath of fresh air. God bless you. Am so blessed to have found your page❤
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I'm a people pleaser but honeybthe 1st time I get a wiff that you can't just be cordial honey that nice goes right out the window. I will treat you like you don't exist.
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Ehh I ask if I know I'm out of my league...if u ridicule me while I'm humbling myself to you I'll just figure it out eventually...now u lookin dumb because u undestimated my perseverance
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I love how your not speaking from a place of judgement but from personal experience/growth!! This is painfully relatable loll 2024 os definitely my year of truth and elevation in all aspects!
Definitely needed this! The being arrogant for feeling entitled to ppl liking you is GOLD never thought of it that way lol, i know what i need to do. I would love a video topic on how to find genuine friends!
Girl, I needed to hear this today 🥲💚
Ps You have been killing it in the wardrobe department lately 😊
Thank you love 💚💚🫶🏾
It's funny how my entire life there are people
I never even liked it. But I was so worried about if tabby likes me I ended up being with them anyways just too messes them but I really didn't like these people. I just hate that it's taking me now to learn about all those toxic traits that o have that I Sonys know were toxic or negative. And now I feel like it's too late to get out of take o been in this body for 36 years🥲😓
Better late than never ❤
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